October 22, 2025 • 26 mins
We've all been there - that midnight scroll that ends with a cart full of regret, or falling for a "bargain" that sits unworn with tags still on. This week, Tamara Holland and Lucinda Pikkat are taking over the pod while Leigh's away, diving deep into our biggest shopping mistakes and how to actually fix them.
They're unpacking the psychology behind "consolation prize" shopping - you know, when you can't afford the designer piece you really want, so you end up buying cheaper versions that never quite hit the mark. Spoiler alert: you usually end up spending more money and feeling less satisfied! Plus, they're tackling the dangerous world of late-night shopping (we see you, 3am feeds and doom scrolling), buying fantasy pieces for lives we don't actually lead, and the trap of shopping for our "dream bodies" instead of the ones we have right now.
EVERYTHING MENTIONED:
Lucinda's Budget: Big W Print Scarf $9.00
Tam's Budget: Big W Women's Cropped Barrel Jeans - Snow White $30.00
Lucinda's Boujie: Deering The Good Day Jean $290.00
Tam's Boujie: Alias Mae Charlize $189.95
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
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Speaker 3 (00:41):
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Speaker 2 (00:44):
Oh my god, you have to do it. You live
for fashion. Hello, and welcome to Nothing to Wear, the
podcast that solves fashion problems and levels up your wardrobe.
Longtime listeners of the podcast might remember me. I'm Tamara Holland.
I'm the contributing fashion editor here at Mamma Mia, and
today I'm joined by the fabulous and so stylish listening
(01:05):
to Picket.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Hello, my friend, Hello tam it is so lovely being back.
Thank you, Tam.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
Our lovely host Lee Campbell is actually away for the
next couple of episodes, so Tam and I are taking
over the pod, and today we thought we'd discussed our
biggest shopping mistakes and how we can cure them. We've
all made them, we still make them to this day.
So we've actually come to the pod with three different
mistakes and how we can fix them.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
So how about we start with your one and kick
us off with your number one?
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Okay, let's do it. So the first one I'm going
to talk about, Lucinda, is something I actually wrote an
article about this for Mamma Mia the other week. I
was very passionate about it. It's something I'm calling buying
the Consolation Prize. What I kind of want to flesh
out the scenario for you a bit because it's a
little bit hard to describe, but I think it's something
we've all done, right. So picture this. You have an
(01:51):
item in your head. You've maybe seen it on Instagram
or you know you've seen it on an influencer you love,
or maybe it's just a designer bag or something like that.
Design a bag, a shoe, something that feels aspirational to
you and potentially out of reach financially. So rather than
buying that item like you're fixated on it on a
subconscious level, you kind of end up buying like cheaper
(02:13):
versions of it, less good quality versions of that item
to sort of echo or get the look. But you're
actually potentially better off in the long run if you
think about something like cost per wear on that item,
you might have been better off buying me original in
the first place, rather than spending money on you know,
a subpar duplicate. I have you done this?
Speaker 4 (02:33):
I do this a lot, and it is those big
ticket items that when you see at the price, you
sort of gork at it. So, for example, a trench
or jeans, I do it with denim, Like instead of
just buying the good pair of jeans, I might buy
like a pair from cotton On, which, yeah, they get
you through maybe a season, but they're not going to
have that longevity totally. And the same with trenches. I
would always love like the Camilla and mark you know,
(02:56):
eight hundred nine hundred, It could even.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Get that's such a good example.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Yeah, but I just can't bite and I end up
getting something that's you know, maybe two hundred dollars.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Yeah, yeah, cool. It just doesn't have that quality factor,
does it exactly?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
And you can't keep it for a long time. And
when I shared this, I actually did a reel about
it on Instagram as well. I said, stop buying or
don't buy the consolation prize, and so many women commented
to say that they've done this too. They're really identified
with it, and they said, ultimately they usually end up
coming back to the original item, you know, spending the
money on the jupe, and then in the end they
(03:28):
end up spending that money on the piece that was
more expensive in the first place. So you're actually out
of pocket even more money by the time you've completed
that journey and realized that you were right in the
first place.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
So would you suggest just saving up, so deciding what
it is that you want, and then just saving and
getting the actual piece.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
I think there's two scenarios here. If it's within your means,
potentially do the budget, see how much you need to save,
See if you can make a few other sacrifices potentially
in your wardrobe or elsewhere in your like lifestyle. Spend
potentially for the month or you know, if it's a
designer handbag, it might be six months that you're planning
to buy this item right or longer. But if you
can do the maths and it's within budget. With that
(04:04):
in mind, absolutely wait for the item that you want.
But if you can't and it's not within means, I
think that's just the point we have to recognize. You
don't need a duplicate. You don't necessarily and of course,
like if you find a great dupe and you love
it by all means, get it, but just know that
you're not going to have the payoff that you would
with the original.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
Yeah, and you won't feel proud wearing it. I tea
and someone asked, where is it from? Oh, this is it.
It's Camilla mark and you look proud of it. You
don't really have that same effect.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
So yeah, I get exactly what you mean. So saving
up if you can, no consolation prize.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
No consolation prize is that's it, my friend. All right,
let's jump into yours. What's your shopping mistake?
Speaker 4 (04:43):
My number one is and I'm still here. I actually
did it last night. It's late night shopping. So I
was up with my.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
One year old. I was going to call her a
newborn she's not anymore, but she was just ah.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
But I was just not well at the moment, and
I was feeding her and to stay awake.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
There I was scrolling online shopping and the irony.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
I knew we were talking about it today that I
was doing it myself. So it's this late night shopping.
It started for me when I was feeding my newborns.
And to stay awake the three am feeds, you know,
the four am, five am. I'm up scrolling and buying online.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
But that's what you do to get through it. I've
been here too, I've got a two year old. But
at the start, I remember like I bought things I
don't even have like the package arrived than the next week,
and I don't even have any memory of ordering it
because you're in this sleep deprived state.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
And you have to stay away.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Yeah, and it might be it could be just you're
at home, you're exhausted from work and you're doom scrolling
and shopping and you're just looking for that dopamine hit.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah, it's not like a healthy shopping experience.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
And like you said, you either end up with something
that's really out of your style. I remember buying something
and sending it to a friend and she goes, what
are you on? And it was like this brat girls
summer miniskirt four years ago when Brat Girls one wasn't
even a thing, so it's that. But also it's out
of budget as well, so it might be you just think,
oh whatever, you're not thinking rationally. But also what I've
(06:04):
done in the past is bought like the wrong order,
so the wrong size, or I bought multiple of something
because I'm just not thinking you put.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
In the wrong address.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Yeah, So trying to really get over that late night
shopping and I think we're all victim to it. But
what I'd say to get out of that is just
be aware of it and sleep on it. I know
it's easier said than done, but it's really not going anywhere,
And don't fall for the marketing of you know, it's
selling out fast or you know, getting quick, or even
(06:33):
the pre orders. Just wait and hold until the next morning,
because sometimes I find that, Yeah, like people will say
about the style, it's not my style.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
And I wake up in the morning fresh eyes on it.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You could even like something I've done in the past
has taken a screenshot and then return to that the
next day. So I don't forget, like I can see
the item. I'm like, I can look at it with
fresh eyes. And I can consider it in the light
of day if it's something that I actually, you know,
is fulfilling a gap in my wardrobe, or it is
something that I really have been coveting or feeling like
I need, or it was just like a desperate middle
(07:02):
of the night. Hey, that'll do.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
That's a really good tip. Term. I did that as well.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
Just screenshot everything, put it in an album called want
to Buy, and that's what I end up scrolling out.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I have it on Instagram as like it just says
shopping nice and I just returned to it sometimes and
like to look at the things and sometimes that's enough,
just looking at the item rather than having the gratification
of buying it.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Yeah, so late night shopping is my number one mistake. Okay,
I still trying to.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
I'm guilty as well. My friend, we're in it together.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
What's your number two tap?
Speaker 2 (07:30):
So this is a trap I've definitely fallen into many times.
It's buying what I call like fantasy pieces. What I
mean by that is like, and I think you and
I are in the same boat, like when you really
love fashion or you're just like a sucker for a
beautiful cut or a beautiful piece. You kind of want
to collect it just to own it, but you're not
necessarily considering like the end use of that piece. You're
(07:53):
just acquiring something. And like, we're not celebrity. I mean,
maybe you're a minor celebrity on Instagram bringing up the
rear a little bit a few thousand followers, but look,
we're not celebrities. We don't have archives and other rooms,
you know, with specific community controlled air conditioning. We're now closed.
We're not all like Sarah Jessica Parker with you know,
with an archive of clothes. But like sometimes I think
(08:15):
of it that way and I'm like, oh, I just
want to have it, but I'm not thinking about the
lifestyle that I actually lead. And I think this is
a big like I think you and I can relate
on this because we're both like city girls who've gone
like regional regional girlies. Now I live in the South Coast.
You live, you know, in the Southern Highlands, so the
lifestyle is very different to like I used to work
(08:37):
in the city and I used to need blazers and
heels and all these pieces that you know, were for
my corporate life here and I should say in Sydney
where we're recording this podcast. But you know, back home,
I live by the beach, I've got a two year old,
I've got a dog I take for walks every day.
I work from home. Like the reality is I was shopping.
I found myself in this trap of like shopping for
(08:57):
a fantasy life that I don't lead. Ye, and I
think a lot of things fall into this category. You know,
you might find yourself buying like elevated pieces, or if
you love shoes, and it doesn't mean that you can't
buy beautiful shoes and wait for an occasion to wear them,
but you might be better off using that budget that
you have for those shoes towards something more practical. I
(09:18):
feel like this is like a really boring tip, but
it's just like it's been an awakening for me personally
because I don't wear those clothes. I don't wear blazers
by the beat.
Speaker 4 (09:26):
You're still attracted to that like glitz and shiny product
that you want.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
I'm the same.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
There's these bags that I always want to Like, I'm
not wearing these bags around town.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Yeah already the.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Bags that I have I don't wear in the country.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
It's right peculiar to be said it.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Is, wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
So yeah, it's almost like you've got to remind yourself.
Hang on a minute, I don't need this. I also
think I try and trick myself. Oh maybe I'll keep
it for my daughters.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
They'll love it.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
It's like, oh, that's a good one. That's a good excuse.
I have a daughter too, I can use that.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Yeah. So no, I absolutely understand that one.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
And my second actually follows on from the Fantasy Shop.
It's the Fantasy bod. So I don't know if you've
done this, m but buying for your dream bobbed or
you know, buying this when you're really a size twelve,
or buying something for postpartum, or buying something for summer.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Like I'll wear it one day, yeah, or.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
With the intention of getting to that size for summer,
which is just so dangerous. It just feeds into that
diet culture. I think we need to stop that. I
feel like I do that. My friends are not anymore,
but my friends used to do that as well, and
it's like we just buy these things that sits here
in our closet that we just don't end up wearing.
I've done that with bikinis when I was pregnant. It's
just an absolute waste of money and it's a toxic
(10:40):
way of thinking about clothes.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Absolutely, you need to buy for the body you have
now and the lifestyle you have now, and those two
things can work together. Like I think for me it
was leaning into clothes that you know. Also, perhaps I
was buying more oversized things after I had my baby
because I was comfortable in them. I had to be
crouching down on the ground all the time picking her up.
I had to be lying down, you know, with a baby,
(11:03):
rather than like wearing rigid dinnim or wearing And I
think for me, accepting that it was okay to buy
different size to your point, and that's just just accepting
it doesn't matter what the label, what the label says
on the on the tag. I feel like it sounds
really cliche, but it was. It was like a kind
of big moment for me to realize that it doesn't
really matter. Like if I'm comfortable, I feel better in
my clothes anyway. So having the pile of maybe I'll
(11:28):
wear than one day, whether it's for an urban me,
that's a fantasy that doesn't exist anymore, whether it's for
the pre baby body that I no longer have like
that was just wasn't serving me.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
That's right.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
Yeah, So for me, it's just stop buying things. It
has to fit you right now. I like the mindset
shift of your body doesn't need to earn your clothes
like you just buy for you now. You don't need
to earn or try and fit into it in a
few months.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
It's right here, right now. What's going to fit me,
and that's what I'm going to buy.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Can you say that again? Your body doesn't need.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
Your body doesn't need to earn your clothes. I love that,
and it's so true.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
There's dresses. I remember it was twenty seventeen. I bought
this Zimmermann dress and.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
I still it's in my wardrobe, still doesn't fit me
because size, extra, extra swar because I.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Had this idea of wearing it.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
It was just it's silly, it's wasteful, and it's just
feeding into that toxic diet culture.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Absolutely. So my advice from personal experience to fix that
mistake of buying for a fantasye you is just to
ask yourself when you're shopping first and almost think of
the end use of the item. Like I said, not like, oh,
it'll look great hanging in my wardrobe, Like what do
I need it for? And then ask yourself, are you
buying it because you wear it, you need it, it
(12:40):
fills that gap in your wardrobe, or just because you
love it, Because if it's just because you love it,
you might need to let it go. That's right, Yeah,
that's a good one. Okay, moving on, I want to
talk about buying things because they're on sale, because I
feel like this is like the most common mistake that
I make, that my friends make, my mum, everyone, we've
(13:02):
all been there. So you just have to remember it's
on sale for a reason. It's marked down for a reason, right,
they want to get that stock out of their warehouse whatever.
And I think this is something we all fall victim to,
Like when you see a further thirty percent off of
the sale edit online and you're like, ooh, even more
money off that piece, But that's actually just like, if
you think about it, the retailer really needing to shift
(13:24):
the item and offering you even more of an incentive.
So you get that urgency and you get that little
pang in your tummy that's like, oh, I need it now,
and am I just buying it because it's on sale.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Yeah, I do this all the time.
Speaker 4 (13:36):
And it's a brand that maybe it is one of
those higher price brands that you don't often buy from,
so you're excited to own a piece from that brand.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
Yes, I did this recently with bear Park. They had
a sale. And the thing with.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Sales as well, it's either the really really small sizes
left or the bigger sizes, so they never have my size.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
I'm buying the wrong size either.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Yeah, I'll get the size you know, fourteen, and I'll
get it tailored and it's just never going to fit right.
Or I've done the opposite where I buy the size
six and still don't wear them because it's just again wasteful.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
You're compromising, You're compromising.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
Yeah, so I get that.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
The sales just in general, we all get caught up
in that excitement.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
You're sending it and sharing it with friends or around
the office. Just take a beat. What do you actually
need as well?
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Correct rather than just feeling your wardrobe because it's on
sale and yeah, almost like before you open up the website,
what do I actually need? Because I feel like you
get sucked in and you see all these things and
like maybe you see the Blazers. You've got, you know,
four Blazers already, you don't really need another one, yeah,
but you just but it's.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
There in front of you. This is it. So like
I think we all still want, you know, and potentially
need to shop things when they're on sales. And that's
a financial reality for a lot of people. We wait
for sales, right, but potentially instead and this is something
I know I do wait for the sale events like
Black Friday, Cyber Monday, that kind of thing, because generally
the retailers are offering like a generic discount across the
(14:59):
full range, right, thirty percent off everything, not just thirty
percent off the pieces that we want to mark down
that aren't sally right, because you have to remember, like
you know, the pieces that are on sailor like no
one bought them, so you're like not having your pick
of what you want, You're having your pick of what
the retailer wants.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
They just shifted exactly. People probably aren't necessarily thinking that
when they.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
We're not that discerning, are We were just like, oh,
big shiny red number, like I've got to get in there.
So yeah, and I'd say another thing that falls into
this category, is buying something because it's cheap on a discounted,
say designer retailer. Let me explain a little bit because
I did this not too long ago. There's a retailer
(15:40):
called Cosette that does like marked down designer handbags and accessories, shoes,
that kind of thing, And I ended up buying myself
a Gucci handbag because it was like, I can't remember
the exact numbers, but I think it was like fifteen
hundred dollars instead of two k. And I was like, oh,
I'm saving five hundred dollars, but I was saving money
(16:01):
on Like the edit of styles they have on Cosette
are the markedown styles that haven't sold in the boutiques.
I don't know how they get them, what bootleg is
going on there, I don't really need to know. But
I didn't have my pick of going into a Gucci
boutique and choosing meticulously what I'm going to spend my
fifteen hundred dollars on. So I spent fifteen hundred bucks
on a bag that I'm not even sure if I
(16:22):
really loved or wanted, just because I was getting five
and in the life of that item and my life right,
that five hundred dollars would have come out in the wash.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
Yes, yeah, that's a really great point. Yeah yeah, So.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Don't do that. Fucks all right, what have you got it?
Speaker 4 (16:38):
My last one here is buying too early for an event.
So I reckon there's two types of people where you're
either type A and you just want to sort of
tick the box.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
You bought the dress for the event, done, you don't
have to think about it again, or someone like I
do this for I get overly excited. I just want
to buy the dress.
Speaker 4 (16:55):
I'm excited for the event, but it's months away, and
by the time the event rolls around, you know, news
styles are out, it's feeling slightly dated or done, or
you see something else that might be better.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
That's a tragedy, my friend. I hate when that happened.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
The problem with this is that you can often change
your mind closer to the day with all the new
styles coming out. So and also, again what I was
saying about the marketing before, try not to get suckered
into you know, limited order or pre order now or
like sold out three times getting quick, because that's where
I've fallen short, where I try and think, oh I've
got to get it now, otherwise I'd never be able
to get it because a lot of the time, if
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something is selling, they will release it again, restop, they'll restop,
or other brands will create something similar. So try not
to get caught up in that frenzy. Hold don't buy
too early. I always say maybe three to four weeks
out from an event is when you should be looking
at buying.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
Is that your is that your thinking?
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Does?
Speaker 2 (17:47):
That's like feel so down to the wire for me really, yeah,
but I feel like I need to take that advice
because I've made this mistake and.
Speaker 4 (17:54):
Then you've got all the new arrivals, you've got something fresh.
There's nothing worse than when like a fabric's been around
for a while and you turn up to an event
and maybe a couple of people wearing it or they go, oh.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
That's sir, Like everyone's familiar with the presure.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Like the police say, movement of a couple of years ago.
So when we all had the same set, bless I
loved it. I still love it. I don't know shade
to please say, but yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:16):
Something fresh that people haven't seen before, So just try
and hold and wait.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Closer to the event.
Speaker 4 (18:22):
Yeah, so with things being on sale and you buy
it because it's on sale. I do this as well.
I fall victim when I'm shopping on Deepop or Vestia
or any of those secondhand stores. When I see something's
on sale or it's really cheap because it's secondhand, I
buy it when it's really something I don't need just
because it's secondhand, just because it's ultra cheap on deep Hop.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
Yeah, you're like keeping something in the cycle of where
it's it feels good, but you're still buying things you
don't need. Like it's the answer to that. Do you
think how do we stop well about just asking for
a friend.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
Let's say it's some practical things, but we can take
away from this again the sleep on it or keeping
things in your basket.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
Yeah so that's good, or sharing.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
It with friends as well. Do I really need this?
Speaker 2 (19:09):
You got to really trustworthy friends for that, because I
feel like people just like I'm such an enabler that
I'll just tell you to mint too. I don't care
what it is. I'm like, yeah, girl, get.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
That too, I know.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
Do you know something else I used to do when
I was doing the late night feeds and shopping, I
allow myself to buy one piece a week, so I
get excited all week for that one piece. So you're
not stopping yourself from shopping, but just choose what that
one and then.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
You have to be more focused, like a laser focused,
because you've only got one, so you really think about it.
I like that. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
And also maybe choosing the category so I find rather
than looking at clothing and blazers and trenches and whatnot,
choosing so active wear or swimwear where it is just
a lower price point so you're not breaking the bank necessarily.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
You're just choosing, Okay, I'm.
Speaker 4 (19:55):
Going to buy a sports bra and it's something that
is more affordable than your bigger ticket items and it's.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Really niche too. You're not just going address because that's
so broad. Yeah, right, Like it's impossible to narrow that down.
So you're going to give yourself lots of because I
think here's another mistake that you make. You tell yourself, oh,
I'm going to get a dress, and then you've got
all of the internet to shop from, right, and then
you just end up you can end up buying two
three dresses instead of just one because you're like, well,
(20:21):
I need this one and I need that one as well.
It's like you're not being narrow, you're actually giving yourself
so much, like and that's too much opportunity.
Speaker 4 (20:31):
And with dresses as well, avoid buying occasion dresses, like
so often I have bought that many.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
Dresses that are really one off parties.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
It's a one off and they just sit in my
wardrobe and I stare at them and they just look
pretty sitting there. It's like, choose things that are practical
that you can match and mix off and actually style
in different ways.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
But I guess for occasion dressing, then you know, like
hire it, borrow from a friend, Like, yeah, there's so
many ways that you can still have that new piece
to wear. But it doesn't mean buying brand new. Yeah,
I think we've sold it, We've solved it. I start
moving on.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
It's very expensive, how wondred.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
Let's jump into bougie and budget please, sinner, let you
start off. Okay, what's your foujie for the week?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Why bougie?
Speaker 4 (21:23):
Back to not settling for the consolation prize is denim
and finding a really good piece of denim. I recently
bought the Daring Good Day Denim.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
I loved good Day. She's doing such a good.
Speaker 4 (21:35):
Style and her new denim she's only just released two
forty so it's actually not as expensive as say, and
a Goldie Pera jeans, but they fit really well, one
hundred percent cotton. They're just a nice straight leg fit,
amazing and yeah, I'm really.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
Happy with those.
Speaker 4 (21:52):
So that'll sort of get me through spring, summer and
beyond because they're just such good quality. But I just
committed to getting a good par of Janes rather than
just settling on something that would stretch out and that
I wouldn't become.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Ye to your point, now that you've spent that money,
you're going to actually invest back into them, You're gonna
get that weird out of it, right because you've put
that yeah time.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
And look after them and take pride in them. So
the dering world, the good Day Jens.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
These are such beautiful jeans. This is why I can't
talk to you because I want to buy everyathing that
you recommend. I bought all the other end of spectrum.
I feel like I just did the thing that you
said not to do. But I'm still going to recommend
them because I stand by it. I stand by it,
so my budget this week is denim as well. But
let me explain. I bought the Big W barrel jeans
(22:38):
Big W, like I was. I think I was in
there and like back in like April, shopping for my daughter,
buying her some clothes or books or whatever, and I
saw these jeans and I was like, these are really
good barrel jeans. In my opinion, they're thirty dollars. I
bought them in blue, and that was back in April,
may I think. And I've worn them like on repeat since.
So like, just because something's budget doesn't mean it's not good.
Warn them to death. So I was really excited when
(22:59):
I saw that Big W had brought out white pear
or sort of a cream pair in a crop, which
is good for me as a petite person. I love
a crop gene because it sits above my an core
other than drowning. And still thirty dollars, still thirty dollars.
So I wrote about them from Amamea and yeah, a
bunch of women told me they bought them to and
they love them. So it's the Big W cropped barrel
(23:22):
jean and cream, and yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
It is a nice way to experiment with styles and cuts.
Of jeans. I suppose, yes, so true.
Speaker 4 (23:28):
Yeah, playing around with the barrel starting with a Big
W jean.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
That's a great It's like a gateway.
Speaker 1 (23:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Yeah. Like I've since, you know, bought other white jeans
like the ones I'm wearing today because I kind of
dipped a toe into it through a more affordable option,
and now I'm like, okay, well I'm going to spend
that money on a slightly more elevated pair because I
know now that I like the trend. I'm wearing this
piece regularly, so I'm going to like, I'm going to
take the punt. I love that quality.
Speaker 3 (23:53):
Okay, check those out. Okay.
Speaker 4 (23:55):
My budget is actually from Big W as well. Oh
and it's one of their silk scarves. So I was
in there the other day and I saw the scarves
and with the whole scarf trend and wearing it as
a belt, I thought, you know, they've got some great
color in there, and I got this red and white
one and it was beautiful.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
Nine dollars.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
This is cute.
Speaker 4 (24:14):
I actually wore it last time I was in the
Mama Mer office and I did wear it as like
a little belt and it's great just for spring. Summer,
and yeah, it allows you nine dollars if you want
to play around with that trend. It's a great size
as well, so it's not too small, so it sort
of can go around the waist.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Amazing, because that's the trouble I've been having with the
bandanas and scarves, is like I fine with bandanas, I
want to wear them as a belt, but they don't
fit around my waist. Right with a scarf, you got
a little bit more room, yes, yes, So.
Speaker 4 (24:41):
There's heaps of colors in there. I got the red
and white and there's a green and white as well.
So nine dollars, big w.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Good one, all right, my bougie. When I say I've
been writing about the thongs trend like flip flops for
a year, I have, like I have labored over this
topic and I think like somehow subconsciously it's entered my
brain that like I need a pair of elevated thongs,
and now it's all I can think about. So I
have decided on the thongs that I'm going to get. Okay,
there's a lot out there, but I am a big
(25:07):
fan of the brand Alias Mate. I've bought their footwear before.
I've worn their footbed sandals to death. So I really
trust this brand. So when I saw that they were
doing a leather thong. When I say leather thong, it
sounds like I'm saying underwear, but a leather flip flop,
I was like, that's the one. It's called the Charlie's Sandal.
It comes in lots of neutral colors, but I'm actually
(25:28):
loving the red patent leather for a little hit of red.
The Row coded it's very it's giving the Row absolutely
on a budget. So the shoes one hundred and eighty
nine to ninety five, which isn't like, you know, cheap cheap,
but I think for a leather shoe that's pretty good.
That's good and I trust the quality, so I'll be
wearing this to death.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
The Red's fun.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Thanks friend, that's all we have time for today. Thank
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Speaker 2 (00:28):
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Oh my god, you have to do it. You live
for fashion. Hello, and welcome to Nothing to Wear, the
podcast that solves fashion problems and levels up your wardrobe.
Longtime listeners of the podcast might remember me. I'm Tamara Holland.
I'm the contributing fashion editor here at Mamma Mia, and
today I'm joined by the fabulous and so stylish listening
(01:05):
to Picket.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Hello, my friend, Hello tam it is so lovely being back.
Thank you, Tam.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
Our lovely host Lee Campbell is actually away for the
next couple of episodes, so Tam and I are taking
over the pod, and today we thought we'd discussed our
biggest shopping mistakes and how we can cure them. We've
all made them, we still make them to this day.
So we've actually come to the pod with three different
mistakes and how we can fix them.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
So how about we start with your one and kick
us off with your number one?
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Okay, let's do it. So the first one I'm going
to talk about, Lucinda, is something I actually wrote an
article about this for Mamma Mia the other week. I
was very passionate about it. It's something I'm calling buying
the Consolation Prize. What I kind of want to flesh
out the scenario for you a bit because it's a
little bit hard to describe, but I think it's something
we've all done, right. So picture this. You have an
(01:51):
item in your head. You've maybe seen it on Instagram
or you know you've seen it on an influencer you love,
or maybe it's just a designer bag or something like that.
Design a bag, a shoe, something that feels aspirational to
you and potentially out of reach financially. So rather than
buying that item like you're fixated on it on a
subconscious level, you kind of end up buying like cheaper
(02:13):
versions of it, less good quality versions of that item
to sort of echo or get the look. But you're
actually potentially better off in the long run if you
think about something like cost per wear on that item,
you might have been better off buying me original in
the first place, rather than spending money on you know,
a subpar duplicate. I have you done this?
Speaker 4 (02:33):
I do this a lot, and it is those big
ticket items that when you see at the price, you
sort of gork at it. So, for example, a trench
or jeans, I do it with denim, Like instead of
just buying the good pair of jeans, I might buy
like a pair from cotton On, which, yeah, they get
you through maybe a season, but they're not going to
have that longevity totally. And the same with trenches. I
would always love like the Camilla and mark you know,
(02:56):
eight hundred nine hundred, It could even.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Get that's such a good example.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Yeah, but I just can't bite and I end up
getting something that's you know, maybe two hundred dollars.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Yeah, yeah, cool. It just doesn't have that quality factor,
does it exactly?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
And you can't keep it for a long time. And
when I shared this, I actually did a reel about
it on Instagram as well. I said, stop buying or
don't buy the consolation prize, and so many women commented
to say that they've done this too. They're really identified
with it, and they said, ultimately they usually end up
coming back to the original item, you know, spending the
money on the jupe, and then in the end they
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end up spending that money on the piece that was
more expensive in the first place. So you're actually out
of pocket even more money by the time you've completed
that journey and realized that you were right in the
first place.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
So would you suggest just saving up, so deciding what
it is that you want, and then just saving and
getting the actual piece.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
I think there's two scenarios here. If it's within your means,
potentially do the budget, see how much you need to save,
See if you can make a few other sacrifices potentially
in your wardrobe or elsewhere in your like lifestyle. Spend
potentially for the month or you know, if it's a
designer handbag, it might be six months that you're planning
to buy this item right or longer. But if you
can do the maths and it's within budget. With that
(04:04):
in mind, absolutely wait for the item that you want.
But if you can't and it's not within means, I
think that's just the point we have to recognize. You
don't need a duplicate. You don't necessarily and of course,
like if you find a great dupe and you love
it by all means, get it, but just know that
you're not going to have the payoff that you would
with the original.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
Yeah, and you won't feel proud wearing it. I tea
and someone asked, where is it from? Oh, this is it.
It's Camilla mark and you look proud of it. You
don't really have that same effect.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
So yeah, I get exactly what you mean. So saving
up if you can, no consolation prize.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
No consolation prize is that's it, my friend. All right,
let's jump into yours. What's your shopping mistake?
Speaker 4 (04:43):
My number one is and I'm still here. I actually
did it last night. It's late night shopping. So I
was up with my.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
One year old. I was going to call her a
newborn she's not anymore, but she was just ah.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
But I was just not well at the moment, and
I was feeding her and to stay awake.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
There I was scrolling online shopping and the irony.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
I knew we were talking about it today that I
was doing it myself. So it's this late night shopping.
It started for me when I was feeding my newborns.
And to stay awake the three am feeds, you know,
the four am, five am. I'm up scrolling and buying online.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
But that's what you do to get through it. I've
been here too, I've got a two year old. But
at the start, I remember like I bought things I
don't even have like the package arrived than the next week,
and I don't even have any memory of ordering it
because you're in this sleep deprived state.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
And you have to stay away.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Yeah, and it might be it could be just you're
at home, you're exhausted from work and you're doom scrolling
and shopping and you're just looking for that dopamine hit.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah, it's not like a healthy shopping experience.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
And like you said, you either end up with something
that's really out of your style. I remember buying something
and sending it to a friend and she goes, what
are you on? And it was like this brat girls
summer miniskirt four years ago when Brat Girls one wasn't
even a thing, so it's that. But also it's out
of budget as well, so it might be you just think,
oh whatever, you're not thinking rationally. But also what I've
(06:04):
done in the past is bought like the wrong order,
so the wrong size, or I bought multiple of something
because I'm just not thinking you put.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
In the wrong address.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Yeah, So trying to really get over that late night
shopping and I think we're all victim to it. But
what I'd say to get out of that is just
be aware of it and sleep on it. I know
it's easier said than done, but it's really not going anywhere,
And don't fall for the marketing of you know, it's
selling out fast or you know, getting quick, or even
(06:33):
the pre orders. Just wait and hold until the next morning,
because sometimes I find that, Yeah, like people will say
about the style, it's not my style.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
And I wake up in the morning fresh eyes on it.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You could even like something I've done in the past
has taken a screenshot and then return to that the
next day. So I don't forget, like I can see
the item. I'm like, I can look at it with
fresh eyes. And I can consider it in the light
of day if it's something that I actually, you know,
is fulfilling a gap in my wardrobe, or it is
something that I really have been coveting or feeling like
I need, or it was just like a desperate middle
(07:02):
of the night. Hey, that'll do.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
That's a really good tip. Term. I did that as well.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
Just screenshot everything, put it in an album called want
to Buy, and that's what I end up scrolling out.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I have it on Instagram as like it just says
shopping nice and I just returned to it sometimes and
like to look at the things and sometimes that's enough,
just looking at the item rather than having the gratification
of buying it.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Yeah, so late night shopping is my number one mistake. Okay,
I still trying to.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
I'm guilty as well. My friend, we're in it together.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
What's your number two tap?
Speaker 2 (07:30):
So this is a trap I've definitely fallen into many times.
It's buying what I call like fantasy pieces. What I
mean by that is like, and I think you and
I are in the same boat, like when you really
love fashion or you're just like a sucker for a
beautiful cut or a beautiful piece. You kind of want
to collect it just to own it, but you're not
necessarily considering like the end use of that piece. You're
(07:53):
just acquiring something. And like, we're not celebrity. I mean,
maybe you're a minor celebrity on Instagram bringing up the
rear a little bit a few thousand followers, but look,
we're not celebrities. We don't have archives and other rooms,
you know, with specific community controlled air conditioning. We're now closed.
We're not all like Sarah Jessica Parker with you know,
with an archive of clothes. But like sometimes I think
(08:15):
of it that way and I'm like, oh, I just
want to have it, but I'm not thinking about the
lifestyle that I actually lead. And I think this is
a big like I think you and I can relate
on this because we're both like city girls who've gone
like regional regional girlies. Now I live in the South Coast.
You live, you know, in the Southern Highlands, so the
lifestyle is very different to like I used to work
(08:37):
in the city and I used to need blazers and
heels and all these pieces that you know, were for
my corporate life here and I should say in Sydney
where we're recording this podcast. But you know, back home,
I live by the beach, I've got a two year old,
I've got a dog I take for walks every day.
I work from home. Like the reality is I was shopping.
I found myself in this trap of like shopping for
(08:57):
a fantasy life that I don't lead. Ye, and I
think a lot of things fall into this category. You know,
you might find yourself buying like elevated pieces, or if
you love shoes, and it doesn't mean that you can't
buy beautiful shoes and wait for an occasion to wear them,
but you might be better off using that budget that
you have for those shoes towards something more practical. I
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feel like this is like a really boring tip, but
it's just like it's been an awakening for me personally
because I don't wear those clothes. I don't wear blazers
by the beat.
Speaker 4 (09:26):
You're still attracted to that like glitz and shiny product
that you want.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
I'm the same.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
There's these bags that I always want to Like, I'm
not wearing these bags around town.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Yeah already the.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Bags that I have I don't wear in the country.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
It's right peculiar to be said it.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Is, wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
So yeah, it's almost like you've got to remind yourself.
Hang on a minute, I don't need this. I also
think I try and trick myself. Oh maybe I'll keep
it for my daughters.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
They'll love it.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
It's like, oh, that's a good one. That's a good excuse.
I have a daughter too, I can use that.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Yeah. So no, I absolutely understand that one.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
And my second actually follows on from the Fantasy Shop.
It's the Fantasy bod. So I don't know if you've
done this, m but buying for your dream bobbed or
you know, buying this when you're really a size twelve,
or buying something for postpartum, or buying something for summer.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Like I'll wear it one day, yeah, or.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
With the intention of getting to that size for summer,
which is just so dangerous. It just feeds into that
diet culture. I think we need to stop that. I
feel like I do that. My friends are not anymore,
but my friends used to do that as well, and
it's like we just buy these things that sits here
in our closet that we just don't end up wearing.
I've done that with bikinis when I was pregnant. It's
just an absolute waste of money and it's a toxic
(10:40):
way of thinking about clothes.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Absolutely, you need to buy for the body you have
now and the lifestyle you have now, and those two
things can work together. Like I think for me it
was leaning into clothes that you know. Also, perhaps I
was buying more oversized things after I had my baby
because I was comfortable in them. I had to be
crouching down on the ground all the time picking her up.
I had to be lying down, you know, with a baby,
(11:03):
rather than like wearing rigid dinnim or wearing And I
think for me, accepting that it was okay to buy
different size to your point, and that's just just accepting
it doesn't matter what the label, what the label says
on the on the tag. I feel like it sounds
really cliche, but it was. It was like a kind
of big moment for me to realize that it doesn't
really matter. Like if I'm comfortable, I feel better in
my clothes anyway. So having the pile of maybe I'll
(11:28):
wear than one day, whether it's for an urban me,
that's a fantasy that doesn't exist anymore, whether it's for
the pre baby body that I no longer have like
that was just wasn't serving me.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
That's right.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
Yeah, So for me, it's just stop buying things. It
has to fit you right now. I like the mindset
shift of your body doesn't need to earn your clothes
like you just buy for you now. You don't need
to earn or try and fit into it in a
few months.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
It's right here, right now. What's going to fit me,
and that's what I'm going to buy.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Can you say that again? Your body doesn't need.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
Your body doesn't need to earn your clothes. I love that,
and it's so true.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
There's dresses. I remember it was twenty seventeen. I bought
this Zimmermann dress and.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
I still it's in my wardrobe, still doesn't fit me
because size, extra, extra swar because I.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Had this idea of wearing it.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
It was just it's silly, it's wasteful, and it's just
feeding into that toxic diet culture.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Absolutely. So my advice from personal experience to fix that
mistake of buying for a fantasye you is just to
ask yourself when you're shopping first and almost think of
the end use of the item. Like I said, not like, oh,
it'll look great hanging in my wardrobe, Like what do
I need it for? And then ask yourself, are you
buying it because you wear it, you need it, it
(12:40):
fills that gap in your wardrobe, or just because you
love it, Because if it's just because you love it,
you might need to let it go. That's right, Yeah,
that's a good one. Okay, moving on, I want to
talk about buying things because they're on sale, because I
feel like this is like the most common mistake that
I make, that my friends make, my mum, everyone, we've
(13:02):
all been there. So you just have to remember it's
on sale for a reason. It's marked down for a reason, right,
they want to get that stock out of their warehouse whatever.
And I think this is something we all fall victim to,
Like when you see a further thirty percent off of
the sale edit online and you're like, ooh, even more
money off that piece, But that's actually just like, if
you think about it, the retailer really needing to shift
(13:24):
the item and offering you even more of an incentive.
So you get that urgency and you get that little
pang in your tummy that's like, oh, I need it now,
and am I just buying it because it's on sale.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Yeah, I do this all the time.
Speaker 4 (13:36):
And it's a brand that maybe it is one of
those higher price brands that you don't often buy from,
so you're excited to own a piece from that brand.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
Yes, I did this recently with bear Park. They had
a sale. And the thing with.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
Sales as well, it's either the really really small sizes
left or the bigger sizes, so they never have my size.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
I'm buying the wrong size either.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Yeah, I'll get the size you know, fourteen, and I'll
get it tailored and it's just never going to fit right.
Or I've done the opposite where I buy the size
six and still don't wear them because it's just again wasteful.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
You're compromising, You're compromising.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
Yeah, so I get that.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
The sales just in general, we all get caught up
in that excitement.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
You're sending it and sharing it with friends or around
the office. Just take a beat. What do you actually
need as well?
Speaker 4 (14:19):
Correct rather than just feeling your wardrobe because it's on
sale and yeah, almost like before you open up the website,
what do I actually need? Because I feel like you
get sucked in and you see all these things and
like maybe you see the Blazers. You've got, you know,
four Blazers already, you don't really need another one, yeah,
but you just but it's.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
There in front of you. This is it. So like
I think we all still want, you know, and potentially
need to shop things when they're on sales. And that's
a financial reality for a lot of people. We wait
for sales, right, but potentially instead and this is something
I know I do wait for the sale events like
Black Friday, Cyber Monday, that kind of thing, because generally
the retailers are offering like a generic discount across the
(14:59):
full range, right, thirty percent off everything, not just thirty
percent off the pieces that we want to mark down
that aren't sally right, because you have to remember, like
you know, the pieces that are on sailor like no
one bought them, so you're like not having your pick
of what you want, You're having your pick of what
the retailer wants.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
They just shifted exactly. People probably aren't necessarily thinking that
when they.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
We're not that discerning, are We were just like, oh,
big shiny red number, like I've got to get in there.
So yeah, and I'd say another thing that falls into
this category, is buying something because it's cheap on a discounted,
say designer retailer. Let me explain a little bit because
I did this not too long ago. There's a retailer
(15:40):
called Cosette that does like marked down designer handbags and accessories, shoes,
that kind of thing, And I ended up buying myself
a Gucci handbag because it was like, I can't remember
the exact numbers, but I think it was like fifteen
hundred dollars instead of two k. And I was like, oh,
I'm saving five hundred dollars, but I was saving money
(16:01):
on Like the edit of styles they have on Cosette
are the markedown styles that haven't sold in the boutiques.
I don't know how they get them, what bootleg is
going on there, I don't really need to know. But
I didn't have my pick of going into a Gucci
boutique and choosing meticulously what I'm going to spend my
fifteen hundred dollars on. So I spent fifteen hundred bucks
on a bag that I'm not even sure if I
(16:22):
really loved or wanted, just because I was getting five
and in the life of that item and my life right,
that five hundred dollars would have come out in the wash.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
Yes, yeah, that's a really great point. Yeah yeah, So.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Don't do that. Fucks all right, what have you got it?
Speaker 4 (16:38):
My last one here is buying too early for an event.
So I reckon there's two types of people where you're
either type A and you just want to sort of
tick the box.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
You bought the dress for the event, done, you don't
have to think about it again, or someone like I
do this for I get overly excited. I just want
to buy the dress.
Speaker 4 (16:55):
I'm excited for the event, but it's months away, and
by the time the event rolls around, you know, news
styles are out, it's feeling slightly dated or done, or
you see something else that might be better.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
That's a tragedy, my friend. I hate when that happened.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
The problem with this is that you can often change
your mind closer to the day with all the new
styles coming out. So and also, again what I was
saying about the marketing before, try not to get suckered
into you know, limited order or pre order now or
like sold out three times getting quick, because that's where
I've fallen short, where I try and think, oh I've
got to get it now, otherwise I'd never be able
to get it because a lot of the time, if
(17:30):
something is selling, they will release it again, restop, they'll restop,
or other brands will create something similar. So try not
to get caught up in that frenzy. Hold don't buy
too early. I always say maybe three to four weeks
out from an event is when you should be looking
at buying.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
Is that your is that your thinking?
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Does?
Speaker 2 (17:47):
That's like feel so down to the wire for me really, yeah,
but I feel like I need to take that advice
because I've made this mistake and.
Speaker 4 (17:54):
Then you've got all the new arrivals, you've got something fresh.
There's nothing worse than when like a fabric's been around
for a while and you turn up to an event
and maybe a couple of people wearing it or they go, oh.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
That's sir, Like everyone's familiar with the presure.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Like the police say, movement of a couple of years ago.
So when we all had the same set, bless I
loved it. I still love it. I don't know shade
to please say, but yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:16):
Something fresh that people haven't seen before, So just try
and hold and wait.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Closer to the event.
Speaker 4 (18:22):
Yeah, so with things being on sale and you buy
it because it's on sale. I do this as well.
I fall victim when I'm shopping on Deepop or Vestia
or any of those secondhand stores. When I see something's
on sale or it's really cheap because it's secondhand, I
buy it when it's really something I don't need just
because it's secondhand, just because it's ultra cheap on deep Hop.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
Yeah, you're like keeping something in the cycle of where
it's it feels good, but you're still buying things you
don't need. Like it's the answer to that. Do you
think how do we stop well about just asking for
a friend.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
Let's say it's some practical things, but we can take
away from this again the sleep on it or keeping
things in your basket.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
Yeah so that's good, or sharing.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
It with friends as well. Do I really need this?
Speaker 2 (19:09):
You got to really trustworthy friends for that, because I
feel like people just like I'm such an enabler that
I'll just tell you to mint too. I don't care
what it is. I'm like, yeah, girl, get.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
That too, I know.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
Do you know something else I used to do when
I was doing the late night feeds and shopping, I
allow myself to buy one piece a week, so I
get excited all week for that one piece. So you're
not stopping yourself from shopping, but just choose what that
one and then.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
You have to be more focused, like a laser focused,
because you've only got one, so you really think about it.
I like that. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
And also maybe choosing the category so I find rather
than looking at clothing and blazers and trenches and whatnot,
choosing so active wear or swimwear where it is just
a lower price point so you're not breaking the bank necessarily.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
You're just choosing, Okay, I'm.
Speaker 4 (19:55):
Going to buy a sports bra and it's something that
is more affordable than your bigger ticket items and it's.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Really niche too. You're not just going address because that's
so broad. Yeah, right, Like it's impossible to narrow that down.
So you're going to give yourself lots of because I
think here's another mistake that you make. You tell yourself, oh,
I'm going to get a dress, and then you've got
all of the internet to shop from, right, and then
you just end up you can end up buying two
three dresses instead of just one because you're like, well,
(20:21):
I need this one and I need that one as well.
It's like you're not being narrow, you're actually giving yourself
so much, like and that's too much opportunity.
Speaker 4 (20:31):
And with dresses as well, avoid buying occasion dresses, like
so often I have bought that many.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
Dresses that are really one off parties.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
It's a one off and they just sit in my
wardrobe and I stare at them and they just look
pretty sitting there. It's like, choose things that are practical
that you can match and mix off and actually style
in different ways.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
But I guess for occasion dressing, then you know, like
hire it, borrow from a friend, Like, yeah, there's so
many ways that you can still have that new piece
to wear. But it doesn't mean buying brand new. Yeah,
I think we've sold it, We've solved it. I start
moving on.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
It's very expensive, how wondred.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
Let's jump into bougie and budget please, sinner, let you
start off. Okay, what's your foujie for the week?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Why bougie?
Speaker 4 (21:23):
Back to not settling for the consolation prize is denim
and finding a really good piece of denim. I recently
bought the Daring Good Day Denim.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
I loved good Day. She's doing such a good.
Speaker 4 (21:35):
Style and her new denim she's only just released two
forty so it's actually not as expensive as say, and
a Goldie Pera jeans, but they fit really well, one
hundred percent cotton. They're just a nice straight leg fit,
amazing and yeah, I'm really.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
Happy with those.
Speaker 4 (21:52):
So that'll sort of get me through spring, summer and
beyond because they're just such good quality. But I just
committed to getting a good par of Janes rather than
just settling on something that would stretch out and that
I wouldn't become.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Ye to your point, now that you've spent that money,
you're going to actually invest back into them, You're gonna
get that weird out of it, right because you've put
that yeah time.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
And look after them and take pride in them. So
the dering world, the good Day Jens.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
These are such beautiful jeans. This is why I can't
talk to you because I want to buy everyathing that
you recommend. I bought all the other end of spectrum.
I feel like I just did the thing that you
said not to do. But I'm still going to recommend
them because I stand by it. I stand by it,
so my budget this week is denim as well. But
let me explain. I bought the Big W barrel jeans
(22:38):
Big W, like I was. I think I was in
there and like back in like April, shopping for my daughter,
buying her some clothes or books or whatever, and I
saw these jeans and I was like, these are really
good barrel jeans. In my opinion, they're thirty dollars. I
bought them in blue, and that was back in April,
may I think. And I've worn them like on repeat since.
So like, just because something's budget doesn't mean it's not good.
Warn them to death. So I was really excited when
(22:59):
I saw that Big W had brought out white pear
or sort of a cream pair in a crop, which
is good for me as a petite person. I love
a crop gene because it sits above my an core
other than drowning. And still thirty dollars, still thirty dollars.
So I wrote about them from Amamea and yeah, a
bunch of women told me they bought them to and
they love them. So it's the Big W cropped barrel
(23:22):
jean and cream, and yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
It is a nice way to experiment with styles and cuts.
Of jeans. I suppose, yes, so true.
Speaker 4 (23:28):
Yeah, playing around with the barrel starting with a Big
W jean.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
That's a great It's like a gateway.
Speaker 1 (23:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Yeah. Like I've since, you know, bought other white jeans
like the ones I'm wearing today because I kind of
dipped a toe into it through a more affordable option,
and now I'm like, okay, well I'm going to spend
that money on a slightly more elevated pair because I
know now that I like the trend. I'm wearing this
piece regularly, so I'm going to like, I'm going to
take the punt. I love that quality.
Speaker 3 (23:53):
Okay, check those out. Okay.
Speaker 4 (23:55):
My budget is actually from Big W as well. Oh
and it's one of their silk scarves. So I was
in there the other day and I saw the scarves
and with the whole scarf trend and wearing it as
a belt, I thought, you know, they've got some great
color in there, and I got this red and white
one and it was beautiful.
Speaker 3 (24:12):
Nine dollars.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
This is cute.
Speaker 4 (24:14):
I actually wore it last time I was in the
Mama Mer office and I did wear it as like
a little belt and it's great just for spring. Summer,
and yeah, it allows you nine dollars if you want
to play around with that trend. It's a great size
as well, so it's not too small, so it sort
of can go around the waist.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Amazing, because that's the trouble I've been having with the
bandanas and scarves, is like I fine with bandanas, I
want to wear them as a belt, but they don't
fit around my waist. Right with a scarf, you got
a little bit more room, yes, yes, So.
Speaker 4 (24:41):
There's heaps of colors in there. I got the red
and white and there's a green and white as well.
So nine dollars, big w.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Good one, all right, my bougie. When I say I've
been writing about the thongs trend like flip flops for
a year, I have, like I have labored over this
topic and I think like somehow subconsciously it's entered my
brain that like I need a pair of elevated thongs,
and now it's all I can think about. So I
have decided on the thongs that I'm going to get. Okay,
there's a lot out there, but I am a big
(25:07):
fan of the brand Alias Mate. I've bought their footwear before.
I've worn their footbed sandals to death. So I really
trust this brand. So when I saw that they were
doing a leather thong. When I say leather thong, it
sounds like I'm saying underwear, but a leather flip flop,
I was like, that's the one. It's called the Charlie's Sandal.
It comes in lots of neutral colors, but I'm actually
(25:28):
loving the red patent leather for a little hit of red.
The Row coded it's very it's giving the Row absolutely
on a budget. So the shoes one hundred and eighty
nine to ninety five, which isn't like, you know, cheap cheap,
but I think for a leather shoe that's pretty good.
That's good and I trust the quality, so I'll be
wearing this to death.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
The Red's fun.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
Thanks friend, that's all we have time for today. Thank
you for listening to Nothing to Wear. Don't forget to
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