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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Let me ask
you a question. Do you ever feel stuck in your

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old patterns of behavior? Do you find yourself turning to
ideas or thoughts that once worked for you but aren't
working anymore. If you ever find yourself stuck in a
place or in a situation that isn't healthy, that isn't
good for you, where people are not being good to you,

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then it's time to make a new plans. Stan. It
sounds hard, because well, because it is hard. But just
start by making one small change, one small commitment each day.
Change can be hard, but sitting in pain and unhappiness
is much harder. Trust me, I speak from experience. Hi,

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Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who is this?

Speaker 2 (01:10):
This is April?

Speaker 1 (01:11):
Hi, April? What can I do for you tonight?

Speaker 2 (01:14):
I was wondering if you could play me a song
of encouragement and blessing and anything else that goes along
with that.

Speaker 1 (01:26):
A song I'll pick you up song.

Speaker 2 (01:29):
Yeah, I'm doing good. I've realizing the blessings and miracles
that I've been asking for for so long, or right
in front of my face, and I've just been too
naive to see them.

Speaker 1 (01:43):
And now you're seeing them.

Speaker 2 (01:46):
Now I'm seeing them, and I'm loving it. And I'm
thankful and grateful and just happy, and I haven't been
happy for a long time.

Speaker 1 (01:56):
Isn't it amazing how when we change our perspective everything changes.

Speaker 2 (02:01):
Oh? It is. It's a miracle.

Speaker 1 (02:04):
It's just so. So what was the change in you?
What helped you to change your attitude or change your perspective?

Speaker 2 (02:12):
You know, I don't know if it was just it
wasn't one particular thing. It was just through my sister
and her faith and finally just opened my eyes to
see that I'm not alone, that I have people of
friends and family and support, and that I can do it.

Speaker 1 (02:33):
That instead of your cup being half empty, all of
a sudden you went, hey, yeah, it's actually you know,
mostly full.

Speaker 2 (02:41):
Yeah. It took me a long time to realize that.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
But what a freeing feeling when it finally when you
finally get that through your head. Yes it is, Hi, Larry,
this is de Line. What can I do for you?

Speaker 3 (03:01):
Hi, Delilah. Well, I'm kind of timid to go on
the air with this because I feel like a very
unusual person. But I'm a manic depressant and I didn't
know it till about five years ago. And I tormented
my son for twenty years. And I finally went to
a psychiatrist about five years ago who diagnosed me. And
it's been a wonderful thing because he has given me

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the right medication. My moods are all okay now. And
I see so many people out there in the world
as I go about yelling and screaming at their families,
the mother or the father, and I think it should
be brought out to the world tell people like that
to go to a psychiatrist. There's nothing shameful about that.

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I don't feel. Now. How do you feel about what
I've done?

Speaker 1 (03:49):
Well, I feel it's awesome that you got the help
that you need. It's too bad that you weren't steered
in that direction earlier. But would have been, could have been,
should have beens don't count. You can't go back and
undo what happened, but you can and move forward. You've
made amends to your son for the hurt that you've created,
and you're living a full, productive life. I think it's awesome.

Speaker 3 (04:07):
Yeah, and it did help. Without that man and the psychiatrist,
I would have never known it.

Speaker 1 (04:15):
Well, it's funny, you know, Larry. People don't think anything
about going to the doctor for diabetes or a physical
illness if they're diagnosed with MS or a physical disease,
But when we're diagnosed with a mental illness, suddenly there's
shame involved. Well, you have no more control over that
than you do have control over whether or not you
develop diabetes or.

Speaker 3 (04:34):
Is that the way you really feel?

Speaker 1 (04:35):
That is the way I truly feel that just.

Speaker 3 (04:38):
Because you have a mental illness, a mental thing wrong,
it's just like being sick.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
It is being sick. It's not a character to fact,
it's an illness, right.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
And there's medication out there for you.

Speaker 1 (04:51):
There's medication, there's support groups, there's therapy, there's resources, there's books,
there's online groups, there's all sorts of resources available. Once
you see what the problem.

Speaker 3 (05:02):
Is, there's help all over the point.

Speaker 1 (05:04):
Well, I'm glad you had the courage to get help, Larry.
Let me find a song for you. Okay, Hi, Sarah,
thank you for calling. This is Delilah.

Speaker 4 (05:21):
How are you?

Speaker 1 (05:22):
I'm good?

Speaker 4 (05:23):
How are you excited? To family be able to talk
to you.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
All right, tell me your story.

Speaker 4 (05:29):
Well, I started listening to your show when I was
about fourteen, and how I was on my mind was
boys at the time. Now I'm twenty one, and I
really would like you to play a song for me,
because I finally decided to wise up in my ears
and try to be the person that I know that
I am instead of being a little rebel like I

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think I was.

Speaker 1 (05:51):
Were you a little rebel or were you a big rebel?

Speaker 4 (05:54):
I was a medium rebel.

Speaker 1 (05:56):
A medium rebel.

Speaker 4 (05:59):
Uh graduated from high school and moved out of the
house when I was seventeen, thankful to be out, and
went to college and started hanging out with the wrong
people and the wrong crowds and did a lot of
the wrong things, made a lot of bad decisions. And
my best friend was going through the same things that
I was going through. She was in a bad situation

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and doing a lot of the bad decisions. And this
is the second time that she had done this, and
I helped her out. The first time. I got her
out of it, and then I moved away and she
kind of fell again, so I helped her back out
of it and It's just it's amazing to see how
much of a different person she is now, knowing that
she can go on without that sort of thing.

Speaker 1 (06:43):
So you're inspiring each other.

Speaker 4 (06:46):
Yes, you know, and yes we've had our differences, and
yes we've both grown and kind of pushed each other
aside and come back together. But we always know that
no matter what we could be living on the different
sides of the world, we can see each other again
and pick up right where we left off.

Speaker 1 (07:08):
William High, Welcome to the Delilah Show. I understand you
want to talk about Vanessa.

Speaker 2 (07:13):
I do.

Speaker 1 (07:14):
Who is Vanessa.

Speaker 5 (07:15):
Vanessa is my best friend. She's my heart. She's always
been there for me, and I've not always been there
for her. I've not always been there with her, but
she's never turned her back on me. You know, she's
always been there to accept me. And you know, right
now we're going through some tough times and she's got
boards coming up, about to finish general school and she's

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got to semester left, and that's her concentration right now,
and you know, respectfully, so it's not me anymore. And
I kind of I brought that on.

Speaker 1 (07:43):
Myself, but I just so let me understand this. What
you're saying to me in so many words, is that
you're in love with a woman who is a mature, responsible,
hard working woman.

Speaker 5 (07:52):
With the biggest heart in the world, who's.

Speaker 1 (07:54):
Trying to finish school. And you're getting your nose at
a joint because you're used to being babied and spoil
and getting all of her attention.

Speaker 5 (08:02):
Uh, pretty much?

Speaker 1 (08:03):
Yeah, you know what I love about this? William? Do
you want to know what I love about this? Call?
What do you love that You're man enough to admit
that and vulnerable enough to actually cop to it and say,
I love her and I don't want to be that way.

Speaker 5 (08:17):
I'm mad enough to know that I'm not mad enough
without her. She makes me the man that I am
and the man that I want to be.

Speaker 1 (08:24):
See when somebody will own their stuff and say, you
know what, I'm being a mature I'm used to being spoiled,
and I'm a baby, and it's hard to adjust to
not getting all the attention. That's a sign of maturity,
believe it or not, because the immatur person would keep
hammering away saying why don't you pay attention to me?
Why don't you love me? Why isn't it like when
we first fell in love and you sent me cards

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every day.

Speaker 5 (08:46):
She was smart enough to you know, we had a
wedding coming up, and we pushed it forward. I mean
I basically put my foot in my mouth again, and
she cut the wedding off, and you know, rightfully so
with her concerns and her issues with me.

Speaker 1 (09:00):
So you ready to grow up? William?

Speaker 5 (09:02):
I've been ready, and you know, luckily I have a
woman like her in my life to make me want
to push forward and I'm not.

Speaker 1 (09:09):
Okay, raise your right hand and repeat after me, I William,
I William, promise if you play my song Delilah.

Speaker 5 (09:16):
If my song dallalla.

Speaker 1 (09:17):
See this is kind of like, let's make a deal
that I will stop being a baby and act like
the mature man that Vanessa deserves.

Speaker 5 (09:24):
I will stop being a baby and act like the
mature man that Vanessa deserves.

Speaker 1 (09:28):
All right, I'll play a song for you, honey. I
so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much
as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more
with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah,