July 28, 2025 • 34 mins
Lala & Easton share their summer flings & fails along with a few of yours! That of course leads to other tangents including Love Island, the Chinese gender calendar, social media, and Christie Brinkley.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hello, gorgeous, how are you?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I heard gorgeous, and I thought you were.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Talking about I was talking to all my stunning listeners.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
That is also true.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Have you seen some of the listeners? Have you seen
most of the listeners?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Yeah, I get follows from the good listeners, and.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Yeah, everyone's slapping. Everyone's been working on their summer bods.
One of the cringiest moments of all my time on
reality TV what when I drunkenly walked up to the
group and said, I can see that some of us
have not been working on our summer bodies. Yes, horrendous
(00:49):
wind loser. Maybe it's gotta be said, And that's why
we're approaching seven years of sobriety, one day at a time,
still fucking up, But it's fine.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Tomorrow, we'll drink tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
What did you say the other day?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Oh that blew my mind?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
What always happened?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
What always happens but never, or what's always coming but
never happens?
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Tomorrow tomorrow. Easton attempted to make a bracelet that said tomorrow,
but it was a little too big on the wrist,
so we we narrowed it down to an acronym of
TMR W.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
And now it's not enough letters.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Now it's way too small.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
So we just added some skulls.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Used a bead that was an M instead of a W.
So now I can't get that Levine song out of
my head where she's like tomorrowum is a different day.
I'm like, it doesn't even look like a W.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
O okay for me? All right, you're right, it didn't
look like a W. But I was searching.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
We had to take it that far, a little aggressive,
but I'll take it. But the bag, I thought, like,
you know, I looked through I couldn't find a W.
I was like, maybe the ms you just flip upside down?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
No, absolutely not. It was I found a double in
a matter of seconds. Just don't be a man to
do any job.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
It's because I got it to the top.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
So I could not believe how many people have been
obsessed with Love Island this season. I heard last season
was incredible, but this season, last.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Season tops this season by what I've watched.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
But why last season were they not having these giant
watch parties.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Because we didn't. America didn't have this much of.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
A say, so walk me through that? What is that?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
So?
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Also, I'm new to Love Island pretty much just started
this season because of the Happy Detours podcast that we
have Calvin and I that we've been watching.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
But Calvin Cobb was on on season two, I believe
of Love Island Island.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
He was on the COVID where it was in Vegas,
Sally and he.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Was easton what he was on the season of the
guy who I reached out to.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
What's his name?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I'm not outing him.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Well, we'll just say it and we'll bleep it, but
I want to know because I think I think his
name was.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
From what I've seen.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
It was voting at the end when it was like
the four couples or the three whatever they get to,
and this season was like you could vote, like we
voted to keep a Landry and Nick like both of
them were voted off.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Back in the day, that would have been a thing.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
They would have been gone.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
They would have been gone.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
But because they wanted America and all of this to
be so involved, they were like, if you guys want
to couple up, you guys can go back to the villa.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
But if you don't, then you have to go home.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
So it's like so basically you have to like someone
that you don't even like really.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Yeah, to keep going on.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
So people loved Nick and Landria together, so we pretty
much just voted them as a crew and they got second.
So we got them second. It wasn't even based off
of them liking each other. Even to the final round.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
What do they get?
Speaker 2 (03:57):
I think like one hundred and fifty grand or one
hundred grand, all.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Right, and with taxes they take hash yeah, so but.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I mean all you get a lot of followers and
a lot of opportunity.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
That's worth a lot, that's worth a ton.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
I think it wasn't authentic because we were forcing people
into relationships when that relationship wasn't authentic, when like we
saw real, like.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Real authentic relationships and they would give voted off, they
would give voted off or like pressed into a different
you know. So it was mostly based on like the individual.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
It was hunger games for all of us to just
like throw them on an island and just say we
will have them do this now, let's make the weather
this way, let's do this hunger gameish of like how
can we have more of a say? And that's why
these watch parties started going because because.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
You would vote start time, yes, genius.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
And then you would vote with your friends, so you
were like, well who are you going to vote for?
And then you had a conversation of why. So it
is fun, but it's like back to my point of Bravo.
Sometimes you give people too much say and this is
where it happens.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
This is what happens.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Okay, you know, like I mean, people are getting death
threats from that show.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
They never had to put a like a.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Disclosures clear of like please do not cyber bully, do not.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
They put that on.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Put that on the show because Huda is getting them. Venna,
this the pretty girl who had nothing to do other
than just to go show face is now getting called
like real things.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Like even her mom is like stay off the internet.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
And she's beautiful understanding.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah, that's the thing that people to be because we're
giving them a say.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
So now they think that no, but that's Easton. It
is normal for people to have a say. That is,
we have voices, we should always use them. But and
it's happening on the valley now too. Like anytime someone
enters this world, this vortex people, it gives them the
right to say whatever the fuck they want.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
That's why I brought Bravo into it when.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
It's productive, please sound off. I literally posted a clip
of our Q and a bonus that we did last
week and my hot take on the Valley, and I
asked people in the comments section on the Give Them
Lalla pod page, how do we feel about this season
of the Valley? Please make your comments productive. I don't
(06:28):
need to see these like hateful, venomously want you.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
To a certain person about the thing as as a whole,
Like I just don't like the way it's vibing, the
way people are getting along, not just outing somebody.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I don't love that this person always goes below the belt.
Productive love it, but it is wild out there right now.
It's it's so intense that it's really really shitty that
there's so many times where I look at my kids
and I'm like, I'm just so happy right now. I'm
(07:01):
in my bubble. I'm not really out there like that.
And then I remember, oh shit, I have to be
out there like that because I have bills to pay
and I always wanted to be an entertainment So I
have to be on Instagram. I have to you know,
be here. I have to maintain a level of relevance.
To where people are commenting and interacting. I no longer
(07:26):
have the luxury to be like I'm going to delete
my Instagram. I just want to like be a mom
and make lunches because that's where I feel peaceful. I
and then it dawns on me. We have bills to pay.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Yeah, so.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
It's just a different I don't know when it switched
to where people have so much hate in them to
just spew everywhere, and in the same breath they're saying,
so someone needs to get therapy. They're watching someone on
TV saying they need therapy, and then rage commenting.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
I'm like the one thing thinking mirror that Calvin said
that actually stuck and like he said his like his
was nowhere near this, but like he was saying, it's
nice that, like it was nice to be able to
do what he did without having the people have a say.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
That's all.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
It was like you were living in authentic moments. You
weren't living for Oh, I want the vote, so I
need to it's more calculated.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Yeah, I'm going to, you know, curate this relationship with
this person because I actually like them. No one has
a say when we get to the final people get
to say who they liked best of the relationship, who
was actually authentic sore.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Now it's like you're just voting for.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
The person you just like best, which is fine, but
it's not the couple like Huda is, Like I I
like Huda just to let everybody else know. I think
she's great. She's authentically her. She's nuts in her own
you know, in her own love.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
And that's the other thing. People are like, why is
so many people?
Speaker 3 (09:04):
It's like because hood is a crash out, and everybody
loves to watch a crash out.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
We all love to.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
See an accident, right rubber necking, and hooda is a
walking accident.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
We love to see it.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Oh relatable.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
But that's the thing. I mean, I'm a walking accident.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
You're a people who are walking accidents. And I love
people who cannot help but to be anything but themselves.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
But that's the thing, Like, it's she's just her.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
But now people are like calming death threats, this and that,
and it's like, calm down, We've given you too much.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Say let's take that.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Away, abused, Like America's got talent, there's where we need
your voices.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
You know, that's a bummer that I'm hearing that because
I really wanted the.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Bonus theme to be summer fling.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Yeah, like kind of like love islandy like summer fleeings
or like was it a fail or like very like Greece.
You know where they're all singing, Tell me more, tell
me I hear a about it all.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Let me hear about because they're all twenty three twenty four.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
They should call it voters Island.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
They should call it the Hunger Island.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
They should call it the Vote.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
The vote there it is, yeah, because like here's the thing.
You could have the best relationship with Doug, okay, and
it's real authentic.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
You like you, I love Doug, Doug and I are
you get married?
Speaker 2 (10:22):
You are planning children?
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Okay, But Ricky over here, people are like Law and
Ricky need to be together. We need to vote that together. No,
you and Ricky you're just friends. You like Ricky playing
the women. You don't need to be played. You and
Doug are doing fine.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
The vote puts you a Doug or with Ricky because
everybody wants to see you and Ricky because you're a
great one.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
So that forces you into Ricky.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Now, you and Doug, your authenticity of who you guys
are in a is separated.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
So maybe the show should be called the Arrangement.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
The arrangement we're getting somewhere, so we're getting somewhere.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
But honestly, I don't like Love Island.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
Ah, well, you're the only one know. There's a couple
of normies like me.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
I don't. I don't like secondhand embarrassment, and I don't.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Like you should never watch reality TV.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
No, No, that's why when you're like you.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Have to watch other people. I've had it for my
own self, you.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Know, I get it. When I get it for somebody else,
it's almost worse than it is for me because I
feel so bad for you.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
But when it happens to me, I'm like, I don't care,
shake it off, shake it off this. I can't watch it,
and like, oh, it's so just cringey.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Some of the conversations they have with these women. I'm
telling you, turn it off.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Cringey for I watch anybody have to have like conversations
with their unless they've been together for like years on act,
anybody just meeting like even for me, I'm like, you're
not gonna film me going out to like meet somebody. No,
I don't know how to do that with cameras are
on me. Now you want to film me doing it?
Speaker 2 (12:06):
What? I yes, could you have?
Speaker 3 (12:12):
I can't even imagine going on a date and being like, oh,
and by the way it's filmed.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
I'd be like, I can't wait to not say me
and I had to do a date. The hatfish.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
He hatfish. Mom told me the and I'm not going
to out him. Mom told me the other day, you
have to watch this episode of Watch Happens Live because
I saw a guy on there that's really cute and
I think you'd be into it. So I'm watching and
I pause it and I immediately get on Instagram and
(12:43):
he's always in a hat, and I was like, it's
not happening because there was a guy that did.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
You see him without a hat? Though this gentleman was
on wal now you haven't even seen him.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Without a hat never he had a hat on. He
had a hat on his He wears a hat on.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
His show We Need Did you look up just like
on Google like hat out.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Of hat, hats, hats, hats hats and you know Dad
was weird like that too, And then he shaved his
whole head and I was like you're a fucking star.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Dad. Dad is kind of like Joe, who's Joe Nick
and Joe. Joe says he looks terrible in hats and
he won't wear him. Dad hated wearing hats. Oh if
I was just a bit older, I could have helped
you out.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Oh you helped him. You're the one that told him
to shave his head and he did and he looked
so good.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
He What a man?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
What a man? What a man? Do you have a
summer fling or summer fail? We're all wrapped up in one.
I feel like it's a fling and fail if it
doesn't work.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Fling, Yeah, I mean a fling is always a fail.
I mean fling, isn't that.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I think a fling just means like it's supposed to be,
like this is for right now.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
Yeah. Yeah, I had a couple, but.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I mean you just know, you know, no, because I'm
not a man, I get emotionally attached.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
Oh see, like I only had like two summer flings
where it was like but we actually talked. She was
like we were just chatting and she was like, Hey,
I don't want anything, but it would be fun to
do this.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Would you be an interest.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
So I was like, yh yeah, you know we did
it and even like once it like became winter and
I respect her.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
I didn't catch feelings.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
She was great, but after like it was getting come
like cuddle season, you know, like this, Yeah, the pumpkin
spice was coming out.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
And she was like, hey, made it into the fall.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Well almost, we were going in there and that's when
she was like, hey, this is where like I kind
of needed to be away. I catch feelings because of NA.
She was like, so we're done. I was like, all right,
sounds good.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Still chatting and still.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Talk emotionally intelligent human.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
No, she had her shit together. That was the last.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Fling, So of course, why would you ever want to
commit to her. She's emotionally stable, has her shit together.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
We don't want that.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Well, let's put it this way. If she liked me,
she would have been like, let's try this out.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
But she said she catches feelings, so like you're.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Indy, he knew if she kind of liked me, should she.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Let the ball into your court and you dropped it?
You want to hear my summer fling.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Never had one.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
That's absolutely untrue. I'm going to use two of the
most recents because they kind of overlapped and fizzled both
of them very quickly. The first one he was amazing introduced,
so I guess for me, for him, it was probably
a summer fling. For me, it was like, oh, this
could like potentially go somewhere. He we had met in
(15:37):
the fall, and he somewhat I want to say, he
loved bombed me. And I met him through a friend
of mine, and I remember going to New York and
I had been talking to a basketball player who now
was living in New York, right, and he was texting
me this guy will call him Bruce, call him Marvin.
(16:01):
I like Marvin butter Marvin. Marvin was texting me like
love bombing me. I saw him the night before I
left for New York, and I was super giddy because
I was going to New York to see this other
guy we'll call him Trey. So I'm so proud of
Marvin sends me this like love letter and I'm like, wow,
this is like a little strong, but because me, I'm
used to love bombers, and I think that that's intimate
(16:22):
and cute rather than red flag, I'm like, oh my gosh,
I like him and he's like six or five, built,
incredibly well, not urpy. He has tattoos everywhere, like totally
my type. So hot. So I get back to LA
to see him after I hang with Trey, and I'm like,
I think that, like this is someone I really am into.
(16:46):
He ends up like just falling off the face of
the earth, like sends me one really cute text one night.
I text him the next day responding because I go
to bed at nine, responding never here for him again,
you guys gone. I thought he died. I called my friend.
I was like, yo, dude, like, is Marvin good? She
(17:06):
was like, yeah, he's fine. We shaw him like last weekend.
I'm like, piece of shit. While summer rolls around and
Marvin reappears and I'm thrilled about it. I'm thrilled about it.
I'm like, oh my god, Marvin's back. I'm super hyped.
We hang out, We do all of the things that
people do, and we're like going out together. So it's
(17:30):
not like we're just kicking it at someone's house. We're
seeing each.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Other and you're seen by people out and about. Correct.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
He's coming with my friends, I'm going with his There's
a night in August, Okay, And he says to me,
I would like you to start staying the night, like
when you don't have your daughter and she's with her dad, Like,
could you start staying the night. And I said to him,
(17:58):
I don't love that. I yeah, because I get attached,
so that makes me nervous. Never heard from him again,
Never heard from him again. He's gone, gone, wiped off
the face of the earth. I don't fucking know.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
He's out of La Law's world. He's out of law Lawland.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
He certainly is cut to this tray guy. He invites
me out to a bar. I have to do other things.
I'm working while I'm in New York. And I tell
him I'm going to go grab dinner with some girlfriends
and then I'll let you know where I'm at. He says,
(18:41):
I'm coming. I'm going home from this bar. Just meet
me at my house. So I go to the house.
I'm on my way there and he's we're texting on
the way there, and he says, where did you tell
your friends you were going. I said, I told my
friends I was coming to kick it with you. He
(19:01):
lost He didn't lose his mind, but he was like,
you know I don't like my business out there like that.
I call him on the phone. I'm in the uber
on the way there right. I say, here's the fucking deal, bro,
I need you to understand. You're not Lebron James. No
one gives one fuck about you. I'm not Kim Kardashian.
(19:22):
No one gives a fuck about me. If someone were
to see the two of us out, no one would
think a thing about it, and my friends certainly wouldn't
think a thing about it. So I arrive outside his
door and he was like, you're here. I'm gonna come
down and grab you and we can talk about it.
I was like, I'm not coming in. I've actually just
rebooked this uber to take me back to the city
brow So I leave. I want to see if I
(19:45):
still have this text, because if I do, I want
to read it to you. Because I was so fucking
proud of myself, I may have deleted it. Uugh Hudson,
that's not his name. I just used that word. I
basically told this fool. I said, here's the deal about
(20:06):
last night. I need to get this off my chest.
The reason I told my friends I was going with
you was number one it's not a big deal. I
told people what I was going to do. Number two,
I don't know you. Let's just say you choose to
murder me. I dumped my body in the Hudson. I'm
going to need my friends to be able to tell
(20:27):
the police. The last person I was with Bro and
then I never spoke to him again. He was like,
I would never hurt you, and I was like, well,
you hurt my heart.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
I would never hurt you, said Freddy Krueger. Fuck.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Those are my most recent summer flings.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Yeah, those are tip top notch. Did we get any
from the listeners?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Oh? I got two really funny ones from the listeners.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Sorry, I forgot about him. It was that one question.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
No, but I posted this and most people are just
asking random questions like what being like, what's what's your
worst summer fleeing. I'm like, oh, this is about for
you guys, is how's your eye? I'm like, I'm looking
for summer flings. So this one from kluts and a
(21:20):
half one oh one says I was in a relationship
for most of my end of high school slash undergraduate
college time. The year I turned twenty one, my birthday
was Memorial Day weekend. Hey.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
Same.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
So I was kicking off my first single summer in
a very long time as a twenty one year old.
I met this adorable guy, very handsome. We met each
other at a few parties through my very good friend.
I went on one date with him. We walked to
the Brooklyn Bridge, we went to a park, we went
to a delicious pizzeria. It was like a fairy tale day.
We went back to his apartment and had the longest,
(21:52):
most silent, horrible sex I've ever had in my life.
It was so quiet you could hear people walking in
the halls in the apartment building and people talking outside.
Big summer fail. Flash forward five years and he's finally
out as gay. So mystery saw.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
I was just about to say. Five years later, we
named our kid Frank and.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
Coming back from quiet intimacy pet well unless unless you're
watching like a show or like, you know.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
What, I'm doing this to see if I like it,
And in the middle of it, he's.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Like, what, I don't like it. I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
I don't like it at all, like crying, He's like,
poor guy.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
PS met my husband at the end of this summer
and We're married seven years with two beautiful baby girls.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Oh congrats.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
So her summer fail ended up being a marriage the
like brightest future of her life, she said, husband, right, Yeah,
they've been married.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
I know.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Malcaurri Connor told me his ex was crazy, kicked her
out of the house, got her pregnant as we were dating.
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Sorry for laughing, that's just like I.
Speaker 2 (23:08):
Got kidding you. So many people deserve reality TV shows.
I'm sorry, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Though, I'm like, hold on, everyone is so judgmental in
the comments section, and I'm like, bitch, if I were
to put a camera, you would make fabulous TV and
we would all be commenting on how fucked up your
situation is.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
Well, that's the other thing. It's like, yeah, throwing rocks
at your glasshouse.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
We're all living in glasshouses, talking rocks, shattering our own
damn houses. It's like, when are we gonna learn.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Just a bunch of hypocrites we are? I know It's fine.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Though, my listeners and friends, fan base, my hoace, my pod,
I have never seen any of them go into a
comment section and lift me up while dragging someone else down.
Where I have so many people who are fans of
(24:03):
other people, and they'll tear me down to build someone
else up. And my my homies have never like I've
never seen that. They're like totally normal and chill. Yeah,
And a lot of people are close with their moms.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
I like that we love our mom.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
I love when someone comes up to me and they're like,
my mom loves you.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Also, one thing that I have to say on this
podcast because I've had it the last couple of days.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Or past couple of weeks.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Okay, when you guys see this beautiful lady my sister out,
please do not be afraid because people you'll like it
was a time where we were ordering like Wetzel's pretzels
and then like another food from a different place, and
like you order and like you go back and you
take the stuff to the kids, and like every time
they're like, I just want to tell you how much
(24:51):
I love her. And it's like, tell her it's really
if you are listening to this, tell her. She likes
to hear it just as much as I like hearing
it about her, So that is I do. I was like,
both of us.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
Like it's really good.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
They were like, well, I just feel like and I'm like, no,
like she she loves it.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
She wants it, so yes, because you don't tell me
you don't like it, you love it. Well, No, it
feels great.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Of course it feels great, especially because I feel like
the past few years, my safest space is just in
my little bubble. So when I kind of go out
and I'm seen, it's very vulnerable for me. I don't
want to say I've lost my confidence, but it has
been dinged.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Here's the thing. You haven't lost it. You just have
a child under one.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Let's put it that way, Like you'll you'll figure like
you're gonna get all that.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
That what you think you've lost, You haven't lost it.
You're just a.
Speaker 3 (25:42):
Mother to a nine ten month old. Yeah, and once
you get there. You did it with Ocean, you'll do
it with her.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
You just mode. Yes.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
But I used to be able to put on armor
when I would go out into the real world or
enter Instagram or TikTok. It was like I was and
like different. I don't want to say a different person,
but it was like something that happened subconsciously where I
was like, I'm tough, this is who I portray out here, can.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
I see that's what you're gonna hit again.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
You're gonna just well, see, I don't know since having SOSA,
and it could be postpartum hormones, it could be PTSD
from you know, the last time I was on TV.
Whatever the case. The line is, so it's non existent
now like me at home and who I go out
(26:29):
into the world as feel very uh one and the same.
I feel like I have zero protector And in a way,
I feel like that's another reason why, like even like
summer fleeings, dating, the whole thing, it's like, you know what,
we're just good right now. We're good in our piece,
We're good in our safe space, and I'm gonna know.
(26:52):
I'm gonna feel it when it's right and it's not trauma,
it's not any of those things. We've talked about this
a million one times. I feel like it's all we've
been talking about for the past two years, four years.
I'm going to know when the time is right to
re enter that world.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
And exactly, And that's where I'm saying, like you feel
this way now, yeah, but subconsciously, there's just going to
be a turn and you'll it's going to happen. And
right now, you just got a nine and ten month old?
Speaker 2 (27:21):
What is she.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
Ten months?
Speaker 3 (27:24):
So that right there is where I'm like, Okay, of
course your armor's down. You're very protective of her, You're
very you know, even you are quieter around her.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Your armor is off when you're with her. Yeah, will
come back up when things start to change, when she
gets a little older. Yeah, you know. Yes. And that's
where I know you'll get it because I saw it
with Ocean.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Yeah, Ocean is a magical being.
Speaker 2 (27:49):
She I could cry right now just thinking of her.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
She's magical and I adorse so so when people ask
me what's the biggest difference between Ocean and So? Ocean
is an old soul. Now she hasn't fully tapped out.
She's gonna come back a few more times. But she's
been here before, Sosa.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Brand new me and her brand new.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
Brand new. She's like looking at everything like she's never
been here in her whole life. The way she will squeal,
I'm like, oh, you've never heard a voice before.
Speaker 3 (28:23):
Yeah, she's crazy. It's so crazy how different they are
but the same. Yeah, very different.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
And I can't wait for like So said, to hit
like one and a half too.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I know that freaks you out, but like for her
to just start waddling and stuff.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
I'm excited for that.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Yeah, I yeah, I'm do ocean is boy energy though,
I know.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
But can I tell you you'd be like, hey, I would.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Jump off these stairs with me when she's one and
a half.
Speaker 1 (28:52):
No, that's why I'm carpeting the stairs tomorrow. I am
getting them carpeted tomorrow. Because of that. I looked into this.
I was h with a friend of mine and she
goes off of like the the Chinese like gender calendar,
and I told her, I said, next May is when
(29:13):
I would like to start trying to get pregnant. She goes,
if you do conceive in May, you'll have a boy,
and she goes every single person that I have done
this with, like, wouldn't was said to be a girl during?
What is it?
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Would if you got May, wouldn't it be February? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (29:32):
I had to count on my fingers.
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Before, don't worry. I was counting on the side of.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
The couch and I was I'm like, maybe I do.
Maybe I'm okay with a boy.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
You know, I'll have kids myself. I know that, but
I for you, would love for you to have a boy.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
And then we would call it a day.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Yeah, I just would love for you to have a boy,
because I think the structure of like the family would
be really well balanced the youngest boy. Like, yes, the
sisters put him in check like Sosa and Ocean, you know, yeah,
put him in check. But like when there is danger,
that is the dude putting.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Everything else in check.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Yes, you know, And I think that's really good. Like
I love our relationship of like you're the older sister.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
I love that dynamic. But like when she gets real
for mom and you like I do step up.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
Of course she knows it, you know, But like the
being the youngest, I do, and I feel like it's
good for Like I don't know if I would like
to be the youngest sister, but when you're a brother
and you're the youngest, kind of you totally you know. Yeah,
he'll grow up a bit quicker. Yes, in my opinion, yep, yeah,
I think a boy would be very good for you.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
All Right, Well, let's see if the Chinese calendar were
and I would.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Love to be will be Yeah, another little nephew, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
That would be sweet. Back to summer flings. This will
be my last one. This was like not a podcast. It.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
I feel like I've just been alban.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Summer Tangents, Samantha two a's one two two. Wish I
was sexcapading, haven't had sex in four years? Ready to
hot back on one. I'm twenty four. I find that.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
Twenty four and she hasn't had sex and help, but
she was twenty good for you? I think that could.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Let me tell you, I just think that that sounds smart.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
No, it is.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Yeah, it's basically freaking deal.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
And I hate to maybe say it, but like, even
if she goes and has sex, she's gonna be so
disappointed if it's not somebody she's.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Actually interested in.
Speaker 3 (31:35):
You have waited so long that you have to find
somebody you actually are emotionally attached to.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
Like enough, yeah, yeah, Like if I.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
Were just like I've got it, I got it, that's
what things not men, and I don't want it.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
I think that's the other thing.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
Like as a man, like I couldn't just be like,
there's fifteen girls right here, I just gotta pick.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
One and have sex.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
I'd be like, no, let me have like some sort
of relationship with you.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
Yeah, let me get to know conversation.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
She just sounds like a very mature twenty four year old.
And some people will maybe say that's not healthy, she
needs to do this.
Speaker 2 (32:11):
I think it's too healthy and too healthy? Is too great?
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Too healthy? Too great?
Speaker 2 (32:17):
Wow? I love that when people are like that's too healthy.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
I'm like, oh, sorry, but is that even a real thing?
Because I hear about these people. They're like Steve was,
you know, so active, he ran five miles a day,
was a biker, had a heart attack and died. And
then I'm looking at this ninety seven year old and
all she does twenty packs a day and SIPs whiskey,
and I see that what is your Yeah, stress, any
(32:43):
type of stress will kill you before anything else.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
But like they're like, so what do you what do
you contribute to living this long term?
Speaker 2 (32:50):
They're like the grandma's like.
Speaker 3 (32:51):
I have a package hanger atte to day, whiskey in
the morning, bacon.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
It's like, how the fuck are you alive?
Speaker 3 (32:58):
How are you one hundred and three? I know my
arm's popping out of my socket. I have a piece
of meat. I am on the toilet for six weeks.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
Christy Brinkley attributes her fabulous look she's in her seventies
now to not eating meat since she was a child,
And I'm like, I just don't buy anything. We're all
just you can sit out.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
You got lucky, bitch, that's what you did.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
I don't think you can call Christy Brinkley a bitch.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
You got lucky, sweetheart.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
Yes, much better.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
Well that's the other thing. It's like, I know people
who like Mom. I hate to say it. Mom doesn't
eat meat. She doesn't like to. No, Mom needs meat
at least once a week.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
I'm sorry, what does this bonus even about. I don't know.
We're on a tangent of life. I hope you guys
are enjoying it, though, because I sure.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
Am Happy Monday. We're just putting all of the thoughts
we've had all weekend into the jar and detour. Yeah right,
you guys, Thank you for listening to another bonus episode
of Then Give Them Lalla podcast. Thanks for contributing to
the actual topic. Make sure you catch Esin's new podcast
(34:10):
with Calvin Cobb called Happy Detours. When does it come out? Tea?
Speaker 3 (34:14):
We got the first episode up, and we've got a couple.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
We've got two episodes up.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
Okay, mondays can you catch new episodes?
Speaker 2 (34:22):
We were going to release every Monday.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Every Monday, but make sure you hit the bonus first
and they give them Lalla pod. I love you guys.
Will catch you on Wednesday for a normal episode and
back again on Monday. B
Hello, gorgeous, how are you?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I heard gorgeous, and I thought you were.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Talking about I was talking to all my stunning listeners.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
That is also true.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Have you seen some of the listeners? Have you seen
most of the listeners?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Yeah, I get follows from the good listeners, and.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Yeah, everyone's slapping. Everyone's been working on their summer bods.
One of the cringiest moments of all my time on
reality TV what when I drunkenly walked up to the
group and said, I can see that some of us
have not been working on our summer bodies. Yes, horrendous
(00:49):
wind loser. Maybe it's gotta be said, And that's why
we're approaching seven years of sobriety, one day at a time,
still fucking up, But it's fine.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Tomorrow, we'll drink tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
What did you say the other day?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Oh that blew my mind?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
What always happened?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
What always happens but never, or what's always coming but
never happens?
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Tomorrow tomorrow. Easton attempted to make a bracelet that said tomorrow,
but it was a little too big on the wrist,
so we we narrowed it down to an acronym of
TMR W.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
And now it's not enough letters.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Now it's way too small.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
So we just added some skulls.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Used a bead that was an M instead of a W.
So now I can't get that Levine song out of
my head where she's like tomorrowum is a different day.
I'm like, it doesn't even look like a W.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
O okay for me? All right, you're right, it didn't
look like a W. But I was searching.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
We had to take it that far, a little aggressive,
but I'll take it. But the bag, I thought, like,
you know, I looked through I couldn't find a W.
I was like, maybe the ms you just flip upside down?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
No, absolutely not. It was I found a double in
a matter of seconds. Just don't be a man to
do any job.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
It's because I got it to the top.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
So I could not believe how many people have been
obsessed with Love Island this season. I heard last season
was incredible, but this season, last.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Season tops this season by what I've watched.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
But why last season were they not having these giant
watch parties.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Because we didn't. America didn't have this much of.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
A say, so walk me through that? What is that?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
So?
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Also, I'm new to Love Island pretty much just started
this season because of the Happy Detours podcast that we
have Calvin and I that we've been watching.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
But Calvin Cobb was on on season two, I believe
of Love Island Island.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
He was on the COVID where it was in Vegas,
Sally and he.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Was easton what he was on the season of the
guy who I reached out to.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
What's his name?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I'm not outing him.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Well, we'll just say it and we'll bleep it, but
I want to know because I think I think his
name was.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
From what I've seen.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
It was voting at the end when it was like
the four couples or the three whatever they get to,
and this season was like you could vote, like we
voted to keep a Landry and Nick like both of
them were voted off.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Back in the day, that would have been a thing.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
They would have been gone.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
They would have been gone.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
But because they wanted America and all of this to
be so involved, they were like, if you guys want
to couple up, you guys can go back to the villa.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
But if you don't, then you have to go home.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
So it's like so basically you have to like someone
that you don't even like really.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Yeah, to keep going on.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
So people loved Nick and Landria together, so we pretty
much just voted them as a crew and they got second.
So we got them second. It wasn't even based off
of them liking each other. Even to the final round.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
What do they get?
Speaker 2 (03:57):
I think like one hundred and fifty grand or one
hundred grand, all.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Right, and with taxes they take hash yeah, so but.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I mean all you get a lot of followers and
a lot of opportunity.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
That's worth a lot, that's worth a ton.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
I think it wasn't authentic because we were forcing people
into relationships when that relationship wasn't authentic, when like we
saw real, like.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Real authentic relationships and they would give voted off, they
would give voted off or like pressed into a different
you know. So it was mostly based on like the individual.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
It was hunger games for all of us to just
like throw them on an island and just say we
will have them do this now, let's make the weather
this way, let's do this hunger gameish of like how
can we have more of a say? And that's why
these watch parties started going because because.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
You would vote start time, yes, genius.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
And then you would vote with your friends, so you
were like, well who are you going to vote for?
And then you had a conversation of why. So it
is fun, but it's like back to my point of Bravo.
Sometimes you give people too much say and this is
where it happens.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
This is what happens.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Okay, you know, like I mean, people are getting death
threats from that show.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
They never had to put a like a.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Disclosures clear of like please do not cyber bully, do not.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
They put that on.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Put that on the show because Huda is getting them. Venna,
this the pretty girl who had nothing to do other
than just to go show face is now getting called
like real things.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Like even her mom is like stay off the internet.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
And she's beautiful understanding.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah, that's the thing that people to be because we're
giving them a say.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
So now they think that no, but that's Easton. It
is normal for people to have a say. That is,
we have voices, we should always use them. But and
it's happening on the valley now too. Like anytime someone
enters this world, this vortex people, it gives them the
right to say whatever the fuck they want.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
That's why I brought Bravo into it when.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
It's productive, please sound off. I literally posted a clip
of our Q and a bonus that we did last
week and my hot take on the Valley, and I
asked people in the comments section on the Give Them
Lalla pod page, how do we feel about this season
of the Valley? Please make your comments productive. I don't
(06:28):
need to see these like hateful, venomously want you.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
To a certain person about the thing as as a whole,
Like I just don't like the way it's vibing, the
way people are getting along, not just outing somebody.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
I don't love that this person always goes below the belt.
Productive love it, but it is wild out there right now.
It's it's so intense that it's really really shitty that
there's so many times where I look at my kids
and I'm like, I'm just so happy right now. I'm
(07:01):
in my bubble. I'm not really out there like that.
And then I remember, oh shit, I have to be
out there like that because I have bills to pay
and I always wanted to be an entertainment So I
have to be on Instagram. I have to you know,
be here. I have to maintain a level of relevance.
To where people are commenting and interacting. I no longer
(07:26):
have the luxury to be like I'm going to delete
my Instagram. I just want to like be a mom
and make lunches because that's where I feel peaceful. I
and then it dawns on me. We have bills to pay.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Yeah, so.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
It's just a different I don't know when it switched
to where people have so much hate in them to
just spew everywhere, and in the same breath they're saying,
so someone needs to get therapy. They're watching someone on
TV saying they need therapy, and then rage commenting.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
I'm like the one thing thinking mirror that Calvin said
that actually stuck and like he said his like his
was nowhere near this, but like he was saying, it's
nice that, like it was nice to be able to
do what he did without having the people have a say.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
That's all.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
It was like you were living in authentic moments. You
weren't living for Oh, I want the vote, so I
need to it's more calculated.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Yeah, I'm going to, you know, curate this relationship with
this person because I actually like them. No one has
a say when we get to the final people get
to say who they liked best of the relationship, who
was actually authentic sore.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Now it's like you're just voting for.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
The person you just like best, which is fine, but
it's not the couple like Huda is, Like I I
like Huda just to let everybody else know. I think
she's great. She's authentically her. She's nuts in her own
you know, in her own love.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
And that's the other thing. People are like, why is
so many people?
Speaker 3 (09:04):
It's like because hood is a crash out, and everybody
loves to watch a crash out.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
We all love to.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
See an accident, right rubber necking, and hooda is a
walking accident.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
We love to see it.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Oh relatable.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
But that's the thing. I mean, I'm a walking accident.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
You're a people who are walking accidents. And I love
people who cannot help but to be anything but themselves.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
But that's the thing, Like, it's she's just her.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
But now people are like calming death threats, this and that,
and it's like, calm down, We've given you too much.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Say let's take that.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Away, abused, Like America's got talent, there's where we need
your voices.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
You know, that's a bummer that I'm hearing that because
I really wanted the.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Bonus theme to be summer fling.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Yeah, like kind of like love islandy like summer fleeings
or like was it a fail or like very like Greece.
You know where they're all singing, Tell me more, tell
me I hear a about it all.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Let me hear about because they're all twenty three twenty four.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
They should call it voters Island.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
They should call it the Hunger Island.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
They should call it the Vote.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
The vote there it is, yeah, because like here's the thing.
You could have the best relationship with Doug, okay, and
it's real authentic.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
You like you, I love Doug, Doug and I are
you get married?
Speaker 2 (10:22):
You are planning children?
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Okay, But Ricky over here, people are like Law and
Ricky need to be together. We need to vote that together. No,
you and Ricky you're just friends. You like Ricky playing
the women. You don't need to be played. You and
Doug are doing fine.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
The vote puts you a Doug or with Ricky because
everybody wants to see you and Ricky because you're a
great one.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
So that forces you into Ricky.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Now, you and Doug, your authenticity of who you guys
are in a is separated.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
So maybe the show should be called the Arrangement.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
The arrangement we're getting somewhere, so we're getting somewhere.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
But honestly, I don't like Love Island.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
Ah, well, you're the only one know. There's a couple
of normies like me.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
I don't. I don't like secondhand embarrassment, and I don't.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Like you should never watch reality TV.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
No, No, that's why when you're like you.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Have to watch other people. I've had it for my
own self, you.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Know, I get it. When I get it for somebody else,
it's almost worse than it is for me because I
feel so bad for you.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
But when it happens to me, I'm like, I don't care,
shake it off, shake it off this. I can't watch it,
and like, oh, it's so just cringey.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Some of the conversations they have with these women. I'm
telling you, turn it off.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Cringey for I watch anybody have to have like conversations
with their unless they've been together for like years on act,
anybody just meeting like even for me, I'm like, you're
not gonna film me going out to like meet somebody. No,
I don't know how to do that with cameras are
on me. Now you want to film me doing it?
Speaker 2 (12:06):
What? I yes, could you have?
Speaker 3 (12:12):
I can't even imagine going on a date and being like, oh,
and by the way it's filmed.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
I'd be like, I can't wait to not say me
and I had to do a date. The hatfish.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
He hatfish. Mom told me the and I'm not going
to out him. Mom told me the other day, you
have to watch this episode of Watch Happens Live because
I saw a guy on there that's really cute and
I think you'd be into it. So I'm watching and
I pause it and I immediately get on Instagram and
(12:43):
he's always in a hat, and I was like, it's
not happening because there was a guy that did.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
You see him without a hat? Though this gentleman was
on wal now you haven't even seen him.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Without a hat never he had a hat on. He
had a hat on his He wears a hat on.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
His show We Need Did you look up just like
on Google like hat out.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Of hat, hats, hats, hats hats and you know Dad
was weird like that too, And then he shaved his
whole head and I was like you're a fucking star.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Dad. Dad is kind of like Joe, who's Joe Nick
and Joe. Joe says he looks terrible in hats and
he won't wear him. Dad hated wearing hats. Oh if
I was just a bit older, I could have helped
you out.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Oh you helped him. You're the one that told him
to shave his head and he did and he looked
so good.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
He What a man?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
What a man? What a man? Do you have a
summer fling or summer fail? We're all wrapped up in one.
I feel like it's a fling and fail if it
doesn't work.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Fling, Yeah, I mean a fling is always a fail.
I mean fling, isn't that.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I think a fling just means like it's supposed to be,
like this is for right now.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
Yeah. Yeah, I had a couple, but.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I mean you just know, you know, no, because I'm
not a man, I get emotionally attached.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
Oh see, like I only had like two summer flings
where it was like but we actually talked. She was
like we were just chatting and she was like, Hey,
I don't want anything, but it would be fun to
do this.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Would you be an interest.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
So I was like, yh yeah, you know we did
it and even like once it like became winter and
I respect her.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
I didn't catch feelings.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
She was great, but after like it was getting come
like cuddle season, you know, like this, Yeah, the pumpkin
spice was coming out.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
And she was like, hey, made it into the fall.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Well almost, we were going in there and that's when
she was like, hey, this is where like I kind
of needed to be away. I catch feelings because of NA.
She was like, so we're done. I was like, all right,
sounds good.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Still chatting and still.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Talk emotionally intelligent human.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
No, she had her shit together. That was the last.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
Fling, So of course, why would you ever want to
commit to her. She's emotionally stable, has her shit together.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
We don't want that.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Well, let's put it this way. If she liked me,
she would have been like, let's try this out.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
But she said she catches feelings, so like you're.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Indy, he knew if she kind of liked me, should she.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Let the ball into your court and you dropped it?
You want to hear my summer fling.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Never had one.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
That's absolutely untrue. I'm going to use two of the
most recents because they kind of overlapped and fizzled both
of them very quickly. The first one he was amazing introduced,
so I guess for me, for him, it was probably
a summer fling. For me, it was like, oh, this
could like potentially go somewhere. He we had met in
(15:37):
the fall, and he somewhat I want to say, he
loved bombed me. And I met him through a friend
of mine, and I remember going to New York and
I had been talking to a basketball player who now
was living in New York, right, and he was texting
me this guy will call him Bruce, call him Marvin.
(16:01):
I like Marvin butter Marvin. Marvin was texting me like
love bombing me. I saw him the night before I
left for New York, and I was super giddy because
I was going to New York to see this other
guy we'll call him Trey. So I'm so proud of
Marvin sends me this like love letter and I'm like, wow,
this is like a little strong, but because me, I'm
used to love bombers, and I think that that's intimate
(16:22):
and cute rather than red flag, I'm like, oh my gosh,
I like him and he's like six or five, built,
incredibly well, not urpy. He has tattoos everywhere, like totally
my type. So hot. So I get back to LA
to see him after I hang with Trey, and I'm like,
I think that, like this is someone I really am into.
(16:46):
He ends up like just falling off the face of
the earth, like sends me one really cute text one night.
I text him the next day responding because I go
to bed at nine, responding never here for him again,
you guys gone. I thought he died. I called my friend.
I was like, yo, dude, like, is Marvin good? She
(17:06):
was like, yeah, he's fine. We shaw him like last weekend.
I'm like, piece of shit. While summer rolls around and
Marvin reappears and I'm thrilled about it. I'm thrilled about it.
I'm like, oh my god, Marvin's back. I'm super hyped.
We hang out, We do all of the things that
people do, and we're like going out together. So it's
(17:30):
not like we're just kicking it at someone's house. We're
seeing each.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Other and you're seen by people out and about. Correct.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
He's coming with my friends, I'm going with his There's
a night in August, Okay, And he says to me,
I would like you to start staying the night, like
when you don't have your daughter and she's with her dad, Like,
could you start staying the night. And I said to him,
(17:58):
I don't love that. I yeah, because I get attached,
so that makes me nervous. Never heard from him again,
Never heard from him again. He's gone, gone, wiped off
the face of the earth. I don't fucking know.
Speaker 2 (18:17):
He's out of La Law's world. He's out of law Lawland.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
He certainly is cut to this tray guy. He invites
me out to a bar. I have to do other things.
I'm working while I'm in New York. And I tell
him I'm going to go grab dinner with some girlfriends
and then I'll let you know where I'm at. He says,
(18:41):
I'm coming. I'm going home from this bar. Just meet
me at my house. So I go to the house.
I'm on my way there and he's we're texting on
the way there, and he says, where did you tell
your friends you were going. I said, I told my
friends I was coming to kick it with you. He
(19:01):
lost He didn't lose his mind, but he was like,
you know I don't like my business out there like that.
I call him on the phone. I'm in the uber
on the way there right. I say, here's the fucking deal, bro,
I need you to understand. You're not Lebron James. No
one gives one fuck about you. I'm not Kim Kardashian.
(19:22):
No one gives a fuck about me. If someone were
to see the two of us out, no one would
think a thing about it, and my friends certainly wouldn't
think a thing about it. So I arrive outside his
door and he was like, you're here. I'm gonna come
down and grab you and we can talk about it.
I was like, I'm not coming in. I've actually just
rebooked this uber to take me back to the city
brow So I leave. I want to see if I
(19:45):
still have this text, because if I do, I want
to read it to you. Because I was so fucking
proud of myself, I may have deleted it. Uugh Hudson,
that's not his name. I just used that word. I
basically told this fool. I said, here's the deal about
(20:06):
last night. I need to get this off my chest.
The reason I told my friends I was going with
you was number one it's not a big deal. I
told people what I was going to do. Number two,
I don't know you. Let's just say you choose to
murder me. I dumped my body in the Hudson. I'm
going to need my friends to be able to tell
(20:27):
the police. The last person I was with Bro and
then I never spoke to him again. He was like,
I would never hurt you, and I was like, well,
you hurt my heart.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
I would never hurt you, said Freddy Krueger. Fuck.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Those are my most recent summer flings.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Yeah, those are tip top notch. Did we get any
from the listeners?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Oh? I got two really funny ones from the listeners.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Sorry, I forgot about him. It was that one question.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
No, but I posted this and most people are just
asking random questions like what being like, what's what's your
worst summer fleeing. I'm like, oh, this is about for
you guys, is how's your eye? I'm like, I'm looking
for summer flings. So this one from kluts and a
(21:20):
half one oh one says I was in a relationship
for most of my end of high school slash undergraduate
college time. The year I turned twenty one, my birthday
was Memorial Day weekend. Hey.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
Same.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
So I was kicking off my first single summer in
a very long time as a twenty one year old.
I met this adorable guy, very handsome. We met each
other at a few parties through my very good friend.
I went on one date with him. We walked to
the Brooklyn Bridge, we went to a park, we went
to a delicious pizzeria. It was like a fairy tale day.
We went back to his apartment and had the longest,
(21:52):
most silent, horrible sex I've ever had in my life.
It was so quiet you could hear people walking in
the halls in the apartment building and people talking outside.
Big summer fail. Flash forward five years and he's finally
out as gay. So mystery saw.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
I was just about to say. Five years later, we
named our kid Frank and.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
Coming back from quiet intimacy pet well unless unless you're
watching like a show or like, you know.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
What, I'm doing this to see if I like it,
And in the middle of it, he's.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Like, what, I don't like it. I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
I don't like it at all, like crying, He's like,
poor guy.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
PS met my husband at the end of this summer
and We're married seven years with two beautiful baby girls.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Oh congrats.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
So her summer fail ended up being a marriage the
like brightest future of her life, she said, husband, right, Yeah,
they've been married.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
I know.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Malcaurri Connor told me his ex was crazy, kicked her
out of the house, got her pregnant as we were dating.
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Sorry for laughing, that's just like I.
Speaker 2 (23:08):
Got kidding you. So many people deserve reality TV shows.
I'm sorry, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Though, I'm like, hold on, everyone is so judgmental in
the comments section, and I'm like, bitch, if I were
to put a camera, you would make fabulous TV and
we would all be commenting on how fucked up your
situation is.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
Well, that's the other thing. It's like, yeah, throwing rocks
at your glasshouse.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
We're all living in glasshouses, talking rocks, shattering our own
damn houses. It's like, when are we gonna learn.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Just a bunch of hypocrites we are? I know It's fine.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Though, my listeners and friends, fan base, my hoace, my pod,
I have never seen any of them go into a
comment section and lift me up while dragging someone else down.
Where I have so many people who are fans of
(24:03):
other people, and they'll tear me down to build someone
else up. And my my homies have never like I've
never seen that. They're like totally normal and chill. Yeah,
And a lot of people are close with their moms.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
I like that we love our mom.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
I love when someone comes up to me and they're like,
my mom loves you.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Also, one thing that I have to say on this
podcast because I've had it the last couple of days.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Or past couple of weeks.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Okay, when you guys see this beautiful lady my sister out,
please do not be afraid because people you'll like it
was a time where we were ordering like Wetzel's pretzels
and then like another food from a different place, and
like you order and like you go back and you
take the stuff to the kids, and like every time
they're like, I just want to tell you how much
(24:51):
I love her. And it's like, tell her it's really
if you are listening to this, tell her. She likes
to hear it just as much as I like hearing
it about her, So that is I do. I was like,
both of us.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
Like it's really good.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
They were like, well, I just feel like and I'm like, no,
like she she loves it.
Speaker 2 (25:07):
She wants it, so yes, because you don't tell me
you don't like it, you love it. Well, No, it
feels great.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
Of course it feels great, especially because I feel like
the past few years, my safest space is just in
my little bubble. So when I kind of go out
and I'm seen, it's very vulnerable for me. I don't
want to say I've lost my confidence, but it has
been dinged.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Here's the thing. You haven't lost it. You just have
a child under one.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Let's put it that way, Like you'll you'll figure like
you're gonna get all that.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
That what you think you've lost, You haven't lost it.
You're just a.
Speaker 3 (25:42):
Mother to a nine ten month old. Yeah, and once
you get there. You did it with Ocean, you'll do
it with her.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
You just mode. Yes.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
But I used to be able to put on armor
when I would go out into the real world or
enter Instagram or TikTok. It was like I was and
like different. I don't want to say a different person,
but it was like something that happened subconsciously where I
was like, I'm tough, this is who I portray out here, can.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
I see that's what you're gonna hit again.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
You're gonna just well, see, I don't know since having SOSA,
and it could be postpartum hormones, it could be PTSD
from you know, the last time I was on TV.
Whatever the case. The line is, so it's non existent
now like me at home and who I go out
(26:29):
into the world as feel very uh one and the same.
I feel like I have zero protector And in a way,
I feel like that's another reason why, like even like
summer fleeings, dating, the whole thing, it's like, you know what,
we're just good right now. We're good in our piece,
We're good in our safe space, and I'm gonna know.
(26:52):
I'm gonna feel it when it's right and it's not trauma,
it's not any of those things. We've talked about this
a million one times. I feel like it's all we've
been talking about for the past two years, four years.
I'm going to know when the time is right to
re enter that world.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
And exactly, And that's where I'm saying, like you feel
this way now, yeah, but subconsciously, there's just going to
be a turn and you'll it's going to happen. And
right now, you just got a nine and ten month old?
Speaker 2 (27:21):
What is she.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
Ten months?
Speaker 3 (27:24):
So that right there is where I'm like, Okay, of
course your armor's down. You're very protective of her, You're
very you know, even you are quieter around her.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
Your armor is off when you're with her. Yeah, will
come back up when things start to change, when she
gets a little older. Yeah, you know. Yes. And that's
where I know you'll get it because I saw it
with Ocean.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Yeah, Ocean is a magical being.
Speaker 2 (27:49):
She I could cry right now just thinking of her.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
She's magical and I adorse so so when people ask
me what's the biggest difference between Ocean and So? Ocean
is an old soul. Now she hasn't fully tapped out.
She's gonna come back a few more times. But she's
been here before, Sosa.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
Brand new me and her brand new.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
Brand new. She's like looking at everything like she's never
been here in her whole life. The way she will squeal,
I'm like, oh, you've never heard a voice before.
Speaker 3 (28:23):
Yeah, she's crazy. It's so crazy how different they are
but the same. Yeah, very different.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
And I can't wait for like So said, to hit
like one and a half too.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
I know that freaks you out, but like for her
to just start waddling and stuff.
Speaker 1 (28:39):
I'm excited for that.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Yeah, I yeah, I'm do ocean is boy energy though,
I know.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
But can I tell you you'd be like, hey, I would.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Jump off these stairs with me when she's one and
a half.
Speaker 1 (28:52):
No, that's why I'm carpeting the stairs tomorrow. I am
getting them carpeted tomorrow. Because of that. I looked into this.
I was h with a friend of mine and she
goes off of like the the Chinese like gender calendar,
and I told her, I said, next May is when
(29:13):
I would like to start trying to get pregnant. She goes,
if you do conceive in May, you'll have a boy,
and she goes every single person that I have done
this with, like, wouldn't was said to be a girl during?
What is it?
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Would if you got May, wouldn't it be February? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (29:32):
I had to count on my fingers.
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Before, don't worry. I was counting on the side of.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
The couch and I was I'm like, maybe I do.
Maybe I'm okay with a boy.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
You know, I'll have kids myself. I know that, but
I for you, would love for you to have a boy.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
And then we would call it a day.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Yeah, I just would love for you to have a boy,
because I think the structure of like the family would
be really well balanced the youngest boy. Like, yes, the
sisters put him in check like Sosa and Ocean, you know, yeah,
put him in check. But like when there is danger,
that is the dude putting.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
Everything else in check.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Yes, you know, And I think that's really good. Like
I love our relationship of like you're the older sister.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
I love that dynamic. But like when she gets real
for mom and you like I do step up.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
Of course she knows it, you know, But like the
being the youngest, I do, and I feel like it's
good for Like I don't know if I would like
to be the youngest sister, but when you're a brother
and you're the youngest, kind of you totally you know. Yeah,
he'll grow up a bit quicker. Yes, in my opinion, yep, yeah,
I think a boy would be very good for you.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
All Right, Well, let's see if the Chinese calendar were
and I would.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Love to be will be Yeah, another little nephew, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
That would be sweet. Back to summer flings. This will
be my last one. This was like not a podcast. It.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
I feel like I've just been alban.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Summer Tangents, Samantha two a's one two two. Wish I
was sexcapading, haven't had sex in four years? Ready to
hot back on one. I'm twenty four. I find that.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
Twenty four and she hasn't had sex and help, but
she was twenty good for you? I think that could.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Let me tell you, I just think that that sounds smart.
Speaker 2 (31:20):
No, it is.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Yeah, it's basically freaking deal.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
And I hate to maybe say it, but like, even
if she goes and has sex, she's gonna be so
disappointed if it's not somebody she's.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Actually interested in.
Speaker 3 (31:35):
You have waited so long that you have to find
somebody you actually are emotionally attached to.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
Like enough, yeah, yeah, Like if I.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
Were just like I've got it, I got it, that's
what things not men, and I don't want it.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
I think that's the other thing.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
Like as a man, like I couldn't just be like,
there's fifteen girls right here, I just gotta pick.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
One and have sex.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
I'd be like, no, let me have like some sort
of relationship with you.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
Yeah, let me get to know conversation.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
She just sounds like a very mature twenty four year old.
And some people will maybe say that's not healthy, she
needs to do this.
Speaker 2 (32:11):
I think it's too healthy and too healthy? Is too great?
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Too healthy? Too great?
Speaker 2 (32:17):
Wow? I love that when people are like that's too healthy.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
I'm like, oh, sorry, but is that even a real thing?
Because I hear about these people. They're like Steve was,
you know, so active, he ran five miles a day,
was a biker, had a heart attack and died. And
then I'm looking at this ninety seven year old and
all she does twenty packs a day and SIPs whiskey,
and I see that what is your Yeah, stress, any
(32:43):
type of stress will kill you before anything else.
Speaker 3 (32:45):
But like they're like, so what do you what do
you contribute to living this long term?
Speaker 2 (32:50):
They're like the grandma's like.
Speaker 3 (32:51):
I have a package hanger atte to day, whiskey in
the morning, bacon.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
It's like, how the fuck are you alive?
Speaker 3 (32:58):
How are you one hundred and three? I know my
arm's popping out of my socket. I have a piece
of meat. I am on the toilet for six weeks.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
Christy Brinkley attributes her fabulous look she's in her seventies
now to not eating meat since she was a child,
And I'm like, I just don't buy anything. We're all
just you can sit out.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
You got lucky, bitch, that's what you did.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
I don't think you can call Christy Brinkley a bitch.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
You got lucky, sweetheart.
Speaker 1 (33:28):
Yes, much better.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
Well that's the other thing. It's like, I know people
who like Mom. I hate to say it. Mom doesn't
eat meat. She doesn't like to. No, Mom needs meat
at least once a week.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
I'm sorry, what does this bonus even about. I don't know.
We're on a tangent of life. I hope you guys
are enjoying it, though, because I sure.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
Am Happy Monday. We're just putting all of the thoughts
we've had all weekend into the jar and detour. Yeah right,
you guys, Thank you for listening to another bonus episode
of Then Give Them Lalla podcast. Thanks for contributing to
the actual topic. Make sure you catch Esin's new podcast
(34:10):
with Calvin Cobb called Happy Detours. When does it come out? Tea?
Speaker 3 (34:14):
We got the first episode up, and we've got a couple.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
We've got two episodes up.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
Okay, mondays can you catch new episodes?
Speaker 2 (34:22):
We were going to release every Monday.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Every Monday, but make sure you hit the bonus first
and they give them Lalla pod. I love you guys.
Will catch you on Wednesday for a normal episode and
back again on Monday. B
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Football’s funniest family duo — Jason Kelce of the Philadelphia Eagles and Travis Kelce of the Kansas City Chiefs — team up to provide next-level access to life in the league as it unfolds. The two brothers and Super Bowl champions drop weekly insights about the weekly slate of games and share their INSIDE perspectives on trending NFL news and sports headlines. They also endlessly rag on each other as brothers do, chat the latest in pop culture and welcome some very popular and well-known friends to chat with them. Check out new episodes every Wednesday. Follow New Heights on the Wondery App, YouTube or wherever you get your podcasts. You can listen to new episodes early and ad-free, and get exclusive content on Wondery+. Join Wondery+ in the Wondery App, Apple Podcasts or Spotify. And join our new membership for a unique fan experience by going to the New Heights YouTube channel now!
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