December 8, 2025 • 8 mins
Longtime coucilman says goodbye and family issues are getting worse.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And voice your opinion of what you think or thought
of the Big Ten Championship. Were you at the game?
It was so close. My daughter Cammy was there. She
simply text Randy and I after the game and said,
what the heck just happened. My niece Corey and nephew Josh,
they're married, so my niece's husband, they were there. They
said they've never heard such a crazy, loud opposing environment before.
(00:22):
They were surrounded by all Indiana fans.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I mean Indiana fans had it all on the line.
What they hadn't won since what forty five.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Or sixty seventeen eighty eight. If you look at the
kids this OSUW If you look at the history of
this game, they played one hundred times, Ohio State won
eighty two of them. Wow, there were five ties in there.
When they used to have ties in college football, Indiana
only went twelve times. Yeah, and then now they have thirteen.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Now they have thirteen.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Could be unlucky, thirteen, it could be.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
And they hadn't won a Big Ten championship in all
those years. It was I can't remember it's forty five
or sixty seven, which year was that they won last time?
But I took a friend of mine got her hip replaced,
and I just took her soup this afternoon. Her husband
is a huge who's wearing that shirt and talking about it?
Speaker 1 (01:06):
You know what, We'll see who wins the nanny. That's
all I'm gonna say. Yeah, so hot topics. I was
at the Westville City Council meeting the other night you went.
I went to it because you're looking at me like,
what kind of controversy is going on in Westernville? You've
been to one other one that I now have a
couple of city school board and in city council meetings.
(01:27):
But I did this in support of somebody. Mike Kayak
is the city council president, Mikayla He has served on
city council longer than any other Westerville resident in the
history of Westerville City Council, thirty two years. So on
Monday he said his final goodbye. He's won every election
(01:47):
eight elections he's ran for city council and as never lost.
But he's at the point in his life where he
just wants to step away from it. He's writing a book.
All the proceeds will go to a charity, and this
is what you're going to love the most about it. Okay,
in those thirty two years of being president, oh no,
I'm sorry of just being on city council. He's current president.
(02:08):
He never once took a paycheck from city council. He
donated every single paycheck for thirty two years to charities
around the city.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
What an incredible thing.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
So he was able to say some words to council
and to the residents who were there watching. And I
have a little bit of sound that I want to hear.
This is from retiring Mike Hayek, who's such a good human.
This was him as he departed from Western City Council.
Go ahead and Chris and play that well by St.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Paul. I have competed well, I have finished the race.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I have kept the faith. God bless our city within
the poor, card Worsterbold and all.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Of you Publis, thank you.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
And then everybody went on to cheer for him and
kind of gave him a congratulations. But the one other
thing that he said that was remarkable that I didn't
know that this was the case. His wife was in
local politics. Not wife, I'm sorry, his mom was in politics.
He really ran for her, you know, he kind of
got interested in politics because of his mom. Really, she
(03:11):
died the year before his first election, so she never
got to see him become a Westerville City councilman, let
alone for thirty two years. I mean, people jump into
local politics for one reason or another, right they do,
but they don't stay for thirty two years.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Pretty impressive. Like, that's pretty impressive.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
So congratulations, Mike Hayek. I sentim a text. I said,
we're going to be talking about you today, and I
just really appreciate everything you stood for. And he was
a very strong conservative voice on city Council representing those
in the city, and toward the end of his reign,
he was constantly being outvoted like five to two on
different things that would come up within city limits. But
(03:50):
I appreciate your passion and your love for the city
of Westerville and your commitment to city council for more
than three decades.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
That's amazing. So I had shared with you that in
Cornell University, which everybody knows, strong research school, they were
working on something recently with a professor of human development.
His name's Carl Pillimer and Mel Robbins. Do you know
who Mel Robins is?
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Remind me.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
She's the best selling author of Let Them. She hosts
a podcast. Ever, she's like the latest self help guru.
You know millions of followers. The two are warning that
we're facing a quote family relationship crisis in a New
York Times op ed. So they're noting that one in
four American adults is now a strange from a close relative.
(04:41):
One in four. It's a pattern the professor has documented
through the largest ever study of family estrangements. Drawing on
his decades of research, Pilmer shares a message we all
need to hear during the holidays. Quote. People don't regret
missing out on a promotion or failing to buy a
bigger house. They ggreat not asking for forgiveness. They regret
(05:04):
not expressing their love. More often, they regret holding a
grudge end quote. So the Cornell Legacy Project has collected
life wisdom for more than fifteen hundred older Americans. One
woman nearing the end of life told the team, I've
had my bath, lunch was good, and I'm getting ready
to watch my programs. She added, you will learn, I
(05:26):
hope that happiness is what you make it where you are.
So this is a tough thing. If one in four
is true, what's our deal? What's the problem?
Speaker 1 (05:37):
To me? It's really sad because and I know different
family dynamics and situations can cause a lot of heartache.
But then, in the end of the day, is it
really worth it to stay a strange from someone who
is your blood? You know, family is everything. What happened
along the way to say I don't want you in
(06:00):
my life anymore? And what can happen that could probably
bridge that gap and put your guard down and say
it's not worth it to be estranged anymore. Let's here's
the olive branch. Let's reconnect well.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
And they make a point at the end of this essay.
They remind us we should accept people as they are
and letting go of what we can't control, because we
can't control other people. We can only control ourselves. I
do find that to be true. And they say that
may be one of the most important gifts we give
ourselves and each other, is to accept people as we
(06:33):
are and let go of what we can't control. And
I do think that speaks to what you're saying, like
it's your family, it's your blood, Let go of what
you can't control, accept people as they are, and if
they're going through a tough time or having tough things
going on in their life, and if they're choosing not
to fix them, because I think sometimes we think people
need to be fixed, right, And I'm preaching, you know
(06:54):
right now what I need to hear and what you
need to hear, even though you know, just minor things
here and there, but we both need to hear it.
And I just that's a good hot topic for other
people to hear too.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Do we get mad at our family members and our
close friends? You know? With me, my friends become family
because I've known so many of my friends since I
was so young, and I am a type of person
that once you're a friend, I don't ever want to
let you go. I love my friends or family, my
family are friends.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
But dodges, I know, I like I think I did earlier.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
And I remember my mom saying to me, you know what, Minnie,
you remind me of me. You know, you get mad
and you stay mad. I learned later in life that
it's just not worth it. It was what she would tell me.
So I had been in a in a part of
my life where I would hold a grudge if someone
really ticked me off or something, and do I get
mad at my sister and my brother or my kids.
Of course, it's human nature to get mad, but you
(07:46):
get over everything because it's just not worth it. You know,
here's the real life situation when you're mad and bothered
by somebody's actions. Who does that really hurt you?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Because it takes your energy?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Does and who's worrying about it and thinking about it
all the time?
Speaker 2 (08:03):
You so let people do them you.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
It's a sad statement that one in four people are
living like that. If that's you and you're listening, what
would it take for you to bridge that gap and
be the bigger person and reach out and say, you
know what, this is stupid. I don't even know what
we're fighting for anymore.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
It might be the moment to do that. That's December.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Why not? Why not?
Speaker 2 (08:27):
So little spice, little spices, little goodness, A little spice
is nice and so hot topics. But we're going to
bring peace to you in the next segment.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
In more ways than one. We want to keep you
safe and with a heart full of peace and love.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Brian has Tattletale portable alarm systems up next here on
what matters,
And voice your opinion of what you think or thought
of the Big Ten Championship. Were you at the game?
It was so close. My daughter Cammy was there. She
simply text Randy and I after the game and said,
what the heck just happened. My niece Corey and nephew Josh,
they're married, so my niece's husband, they were there. They
said they've never heard such a crazy, loud opposing environment before.
(00:22):
They were surrounded by all Indiana fans.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I mean Indiana fans had it all on the line.
What they hadn't won since what forty five.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Or sixty seventeen eighty eight. If you look at the
kids this OSUW If you look at the history of
this game, they played one hundred times, Ohio State won
eighty two of them. Wow, there were five ties in there.
When they used to have ties in college football, Indiana
only went twelve times. Yeah, and then now they have thirteen.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Now they have thirteen.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Could be unlucky, thirteen, it could be.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
And they hadn't won a Big Ten championship in all
those years. It was I can't remember it's forty five
or sixty seven, which year was that they won last time?
But I took a friend of mine got her hip replaced,
and I just took her soup this afternoon. Her husband
is a huge who's wearing that shirt and talking about it?
Speaker 1 (01:06):
You know what, We'll see who wins the nanny. That's
all I'm gonna say. Yeah, so hot topics. I was
at the Westville City Council meeting the other night you went.
I went to it because you're looking at me like,
what kind of controversy is going on in Westernville? You've
been to one other one that I now have a
couple of city school board and in city council meetings.
(01:27):
But I did this in support of somebody. Mike Kayak
is the city council president, Mikayla He has served on
city council longer than any other Westerville resident in the
history of Westerville City Council, thirty two years. So on
Monday he said his final goodbye. He's won every election
(01:47):
eight elections he's ran for city council and as never lost.
But he's at the point in his life where he
just wants to step away from it. He's writing a book.
All the proceeds will go to a charity, and this
is what you're going to love the most about it. Okay,
in those thirty two years of being president, oh no,
I'm sorry of just being on city council. He's current president.
(02:08):
He never once took a paycheck from city council. He
donated every single paycheck for thirty two years to charities
around the city.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
What an incredible thing.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
So he was able to say some words to council
and to the residents who were there watching. And I
have a little bit of sound that I want to hear.
This is from retiring Mike Hayek, who's such a good human.
This was him as he departed from Western City Council.
Go ahead and Chris and play that well by St.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Paul. I have competed well, I have finished the race.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I have kept the faith. God bless our city within
the poor, card Worsterbold and all.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Of you Publis, thank you.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
And then everybody went on to cheer for him and
kind of gave him a congratulations. But the one other
thing that he said that was remarkable that I didn't
know that this was the case. His wife was in
local politics. Not wife, I'm sorry, his mom was in politics.
He really ran for her, you know, he kind of
got interested in politics because of his mom. Really, she
(03:11):
died the year before his first election, so she never
got to see him become a Westerville City councilman, let
alone for thirty two years. I mean, people jump into
local politics for one reason or another, right they do,
but they don't stay for thirty two years.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Pretty impressive. Like, that's pretty impressive.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
So congratulations, Mike Hayek. I sentim a text. I said,
we're going to be talking about you today, and I
just really appreciate everything you stood for. And he was
a very strong conservative voice on city Council representing those
in the city, and toward the end of his reign,
he was constantly being outvoted like five to two on
different things that would come up within city limits. But
(03:50):
I appreciate your passion and your love for the city
of Westerville and your commitment to city council for more
than three decades.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
That's amazing. So I had shared with you that in
Cornell University, which everybody knows, strong research school, they were
working on something recently with a professor of human development.
His name's Carl Pillimer and Mel Robbins. Do you know
who Mel Robins is?
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Remind me.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
She's the best selling author of Let Them. She hosts
a podcast. Ever, she's like the latest self help guru.
You know millions of followers. The two are warning that
we're facing a quote family relationship crisis in a New
York Times op ed. So they're noting that one in
four American adults is now a strange from a close relative.
(04:41):
One in four. It's a pattern the professor has documented
through the largest ever study of family estrangements. Drawing on
his decades of research, Pilmer shares a message we all
need to hear during the holidays. Quote. People don't regret
missing out on a promotion or failing to buy a
bigger house. They ggreat not asking for forgiveness. They regret
(05:04):
not expressing their love. More often, they regret holding a
grudge end quote. So the Cornell Legacy Project has collected
life wisdom for more than fifteen hundred older Americans. One
woman nearing the end of life told the team, I've
had my bath, lunch was good, and I'm getting ready
to watch my programs. She added, you will learn, I
(05:26):
hope that happiness is what you make it where you are.
So this is a tough thing. If one in four
is true, what's our deal? What's the problem?
Speaker 1 (05:37):
To me? It's really sad because and I know different
family dynamics and situations can cause a lot of heartache.
But then, in the end of the day, is it
really worth it to stay a strange from someone who
is your blood? You know, family is everything. What happened
along the way to say I don't want you in
(06:00):
my life anymore? And what can happen that could probably
bridge that gap and put your guard down and say
it's not worth it to be estranged anymore. Let's here's
the olive branch. Let's reconnect well.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
And they make a point at the end of this essay.
They remind us we should accept people as they are
and letting go of what we can't control, because we
can't control other people. We can only control ourselves. I
do find that to be true. And they say that
may be one of the most important gifts we give
ourselves and each other, is to accept people as we
(06:33):
are and let go of what we can't control. And
I do think that speaks to what you're saying, like
it's your family, it's your blood, Let go of what
you can't control, accept people as they are, and if
they're going through a tough time or having tough things
going on in their life, and if they're choosing not
to fix them, because I think sometimes we think people
need to be fixed, right, And I'm preaching, you know
(06:54):
right now what I need to hear and what you
need to hear, even though you know, just minor things
here and there, but we both need to hear it.
And I just that's a good hot topic for other
people to hear too.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Do we get mad at our family members and our
close friends? You know? With me, my friends become family
because I've known so many of my friends since I
was so young, and I am a type of person
that once you're a friend, I don't ever want to
let you go. I love my friends or family, my
family are friends.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
But dodges, I know, I like I think I did earlier.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
And I remember my mom saying to me, you know what, Minnie,
you remind me of me. You know, you get mad
and you stay mad. I learned later in life that
it's just not worth it. It was what she would tell me.
So I had been in a in a part of
my life where I would hold a grudge if someone
really ticked me off or something, and do I get
mad at my sister and my brother or my kids.
Of course, it's human nature to get mad, but you
(07:46):
get over everything because it's just not worth it. You know,
here's the real life situation when you're mad and bothered
by somebody's actions. Who does that really hurt you?
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Because it takes your energy?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Does and who's worrying about it and thinking about it
all the time?
Speaker 2 (08:03):
You so let people do them you.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
It's a sad statement that one in four people are
living like that. If that's you and you're listening, what
would it take for you to bridge that gap and
be the bigger person and reach out and say, you
know what, this is stupid. I don't even know what
we're fighting for anymore.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
It might be the moment to do that. That's December.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Why not? Why not?
Speaker 2 (08:27):
So little spice, little spices, little goodness, A little spice
is nice and so hot topics. But we're going to
bring peace to you in the next segment.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
In more ways than one. We want to keep you
safe and with a heart full of peace and love.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Brian has Tattletale portable alarm systems up next here on
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