June 15, 2022 • 42 mins
Childhood is a very vulnerable period in our lives. We are growing, developing and learning how to see ourselves and the world around us. This can in turn affect how we function as adults that if not careful, a very toxic generational cycle of trauma can be set up.
In today’s episode, I share some responses as kids, that may be as a result of childhood trauma including a few signs and symptoms too.
I hope this helps you or someone you know navigate and find healing through any past traumas. Most importantly, remember that God cares for you and ready and willing to heal our broken hearts (psalm 38:18).
At the end of it all, we only have each other. Let’s love ourselves and be more merciful, let’s love our countries and most importantly, let’s love Africa!
Hoping you’ll be blessed and encouraged 🙏♥️
In today’s episode, I share some responses as kids, that may be as a result of childhood trauma including a few signs and symptoms too.
I hope this helps you or someone you know navigate and find healing through any past traumas. Most importantly, remember that God cares for you and ready and willing to heal our broken hearts (psalm 38:18).
At the end of it all, we only have each other. Let’s love ourselves and be more merciful, let’s love our countries and most importantly, let’s love Africa!
Hoping you’ll be blessed and encouraged 🙏♥️
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Ma Shi, Wikeni, Muliban,Gie Mambo, k Dou, Moribo Etising
and their own Johnny Baoni, Ihope we're all doing well. Welcome and
thanks for tuning into the African BluesPodcast again. And yes, that was
just me trying to appreciate the diversityof our lovely continent, you know,
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and of course I know that weare many of us could be native native
English speakers. We have the French, we have Portuguese. But that's just
the beauty of the continent. AndI think it's just really good to be
reminded of how blessed we are asa continent. From being able to speak
any other language, we also haveour own tanks and tribes and everything else
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you know that we have and havebeen blessed with. So as we get
into today's podcast, let's just saya word of prayer. Dear heavenly Father,
we just under say thank you forthis day. Thank you for your
goodness, your grace and your mercyis in the mighty name of Jesus.
Glory and honor bit to you alone, because only you deserve it. Father,
we thank you for granting us anopportunity to see it another day.
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The light of this day, Spiritof the Living God, I just want
to pray that you alone may breatheyour wings of life in everything that concerns
us as we get into this day. In the Mighty name of Jesus,
glory and honor. Bit to youalone. Father, you're starting to pray,
living up this entire podcast into yourhands, have your way, let
your kingdom come, and you willbe done alone in the Mighty name of
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Jesus Christ. That there be noneof me, not my emotions and my
feelings. Let none of me picturewho O God, But I pray that
you allot me lead and guide me. In the Mighty name of Jesus.
I pray Heavenly Father for everybody whowill take time to listen, Father,
bless them, replenish their time andthe resources in the Mighty name of Jesus.
And I pray, yeh God specificallythat this podcast is less as many
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today in the Mighty name of Jesus, Glory, beauty, you aloneless one
to say, thank you Father forthis opportunity. Thank you, thank you,
thank you, thank you. InJesus, might them, I pray
thanksgiving them praise in my heart,even remembering the people that are listening,
the people that they love, thepeople that they care for the needs that
they may have. Please, Please, Lord, meet them at their points
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of me and just provide for anyand everything that they may need in our
accordance with Your perfect and plan fortheir lives in Jesus. Might them a
prayer with thanksgiving them prayers in ourhearts. Amen. So our opening scripture
today is coming from Psalm twenty one. I'm just going to read quickly the
biberies. The king rejoices in yourstrength. Lord, How great is his
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joy in the victory's give You havegranted him his heart's desire, and have
not withheld the request of his lips. You cannot. You came to greet
him with rich blessings and place thecrown of Pear God on his head.
He asked you for life, andyou gave it to him, length of
days forever and ever. Through thevictories you gave you gave his glory is
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great. You have bestowed him onhim splendor and majesty. Surely you have
granted him and lending blessings that methim glad with the joy of your presence
for the king. Trusting the Lordthrough the and fit in love of the
most High. He will not beshaken. Your hand will lay hold on
all your enemies. Your right handwill seize, you, will seize your
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falls. When you appear for battle, you will burn the map in a
blazing furnace. The Lord will fallowthe map in his wrath, and his
fire will consume them. You willdestroy their descendants from the earth, a
prospirative from mankind. Though they plotevil against you and devise wicked schemes,
they cannot succeed. You will make. You will make them turn their backs
when you aim at them with drawnball. Be exalted in your strength.
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Lord, we will sing your praise, your might. We will sing of
your praise, and you might amen. This is the word of the Lord
for us, just as we're startingthe day. Is sound from our great
great great great grandfather, mister David, and I hope that it just listens
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us as we can as we startour day. The regardless of what may
come away, the Lord is ourstrength, and it's already gone before us
and granted us victory and everything thatwe need for life and godliness. So
yesterday I'm going to be talking aboutsomething that I just thought well because last
time I think I talked about mentalhealth, and I just thought maybe of
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digging done a little bit and justtalk about childhood trauma, you know,
from an African perspective. It mightbe a series. Maybe I don't know,
we might start on packing childhood trauma, or maybe this just might be
the end of it. We justtalk about it today and ended here.
So I'm just going to give anintroduction. Maybe I'll really feel not if
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just one article that I found notan article, it's actually a paper certain
article. Might it seems like justsomebody and just you know, put on
Google and adjustment and go to Google. No, it's actually a paper paper
from world health organizations. So Problem'mgoing to read something from there too.
But then, as we all mayknow, you know, childhood is a
very very very very vulnerable time inour lives, as we are growing and
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developing and learning to see things aroundus, getting to understand things around us.
Sometimes we're getting to understand ourselves,you know. And so depending on
how good that goes or how bador how and certain that time goes,
the growing, the developing, thelearning, however it turns out, it
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may in turn affect how we functionas adults. You know so, and
then if we're not careful, ifwe're not careful on how we handle our
growing, our developing, our learningand all that stuff, it might end
up leading to toxic generational cycles oftrauma, you know. And I think
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this is very It's evident in somany many ways. It is very,
very, very evident. And I'vegotten to realize one thing. You know,
I grew up watching a lot ofniger movies, like we have watched
and watched Nigera movies. I don'tknow. Sometimes we'd actually live in Binge
watch you know, weekend times werewe were watching a Sita and Aki and
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Purple. You're waking mister, You'rewatching, mister you boo, You're watching
Sity, You're watching all these funny, funny, funny movies, you know,
and then even you'd see something youwould be laughing at what's going on
in the movies. And of courseother life like you know, just Lessen
movies. You know how Mamag's alwayscalled the evil step mother and stuff like
that. But I've just come torealize that most of the times when I'm
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watching these movies, especially in themows froom back then, they had so
many lessons in them, you know. But then of course Yahyang just watched
them for inertainment, and so subSaharan Africa, and I'm just going to
read quickly from the research that Iwas doing. So sab Soaran Africa is
said to one of the most beautifulparts of the world that is both rich
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in natural resources and culture. Butunfortunately it is also the part of the
world that is affected by war,poverty, and exploitation. Let's not even
talk about exploitation. I mean,we've been exploited since since you know,
we learned about excuse me about exploitationeven before before time we learned in our
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history, and it's so unfortunate thatwe're still getting to see these things still
happening, you know. And yeah, it's just really, really really unfortunate.
So some traumatizing events are not uniqueto African countries. People in all
countries face similar challenges. The contrast, however, is in the way the
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varied challenges with disasters converge upon thepeople who find them selves and prepared,
and of course, the mental healthconsequences that they may face due to the
lack of mental health services. Andthis is according to research by the WHO
of this a little bit late toresearching, but I think it's still just
important. It's a very valid point. This was done in twenty thirteen.
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So social problems arise and the needfor mental health intervisions. Sorry, it's
the social problems that arise from theneed of mental health. Problems you know
include poverty, political conflict, wordfamily dysfunctioned, lack of physical health,
lack of education, and social instability. So now all these social problems,
some mainly be saying I'm not verysure if maybe this is true. But
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then according to research, both ruraland urban Africa affect are affected by these
and even the more the most thatare affected our children. So the WHO
estimates the seventy five percent of thehealth mics, which is the law and
middle income countries in Sub Saharan Africamake up to fifty four percent whose suffer
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mental health illnesses and never get thehelp that they require. And the consequences
of this are so so so deadlyto the countries that are already impacted,
especially especially by poverty. Now inAfrica, fourteen point five percent of children
under the age of sixteen are sufferingfrom the effects of violence, and they
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think especially what I was seeing mostlyin the papers that I was reading.
I really don't know how and whyor maybe how true it is, because
at the same time you find thatI can just aggressive little bit. I
was watching a YouTube video. IfI don't know if many of us may
know the Nigeria and YouTube. Ithink his name is Taiwo Aina and I
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think he was interviewing a certain manwho rode his an electric bike, I
think a motorbike from London to Lego. You know, you listen to the
story and you hear it London toLegos, are like, no, that's
the lie. But of course yeshe had to you know, of course
I think to water bodies, andhe did, but not on the back.
He had to get on like onehe got on. I think it
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was on a ship. I'm notmistaken. The next way he just got
like on a boat. But anyway, so when he said that when he
was moving from London to Legos,of course he had to pass through like
North Africa. And apparently before heleft Africa, before he left to go
to London, he had done hisresearch because he's going to really he is
going to pass through those places.And apparently, according to the resist that
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has been done by the worstern world. Most of the countries, the places
on the north and a few othersactually on the central and south, they
are called should I say cord oryes, they are lebeled as red zones,
which is like they're dangerous. Butthen what the man said is when
he went to those places, thekind of hospitality that he received, and
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the majority of the people, especiallyin the northern part where like French speaking,
and I think a little bit onthe western summer summer there were like
French speaking people. He could barelycommunicate. He didn't really know how to
speak French, but he was justsurprised at the hospitality that he received,
you know. And he was justtalking about how we have like we have
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so much consumed what has been givento us, you know, what researchers
have been given or what has beenlabeled on us and have taken it us
that so we don't want to befriend a fellow Nigeria, sorry, in
Nigeria, and you don't want tobe friend of South African. You don't
want to befriend someone from Cameroon orfrom Gambia because or somebody has said this
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about their country or maybe you readsomething about you don't to befriend someone from
Congo, from Bekin of Us sobecause you have heard something about them or
you've read something about them. SoI think it's becod important. Then we
get to learn for ourselves too.So anyway back to what I was reading
about Africa, so most of theregards the violence here the effects of violence,
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and the fourteen five percent should havebeen affected by that. I was
looking when I was reading, mostof the research was showing like South Africa
is like the most affected, likewhen it comes to violence. I was
just like, okay, let's justread. Maybe it's good if we get
to ask some and living in SouthAfrica, you know, because again news
is news, propaganda, everything isexisting. So if you want to go're
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going to go on Google and justsay, oh violence in South African Google,
you would definitely see the proof,you know, but then you just
might never know. So in theWorstern Cape, the PREVALENCEE is seventeen percent
and PTSD affecting eight percent of childrenunder sixteen, and then they generalize anxiety
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disordered or in anxiety affecting eleven percent. I hope I haven't lost us.
Hope are still together. So nowwhat are some of these issues you know
that arise from this, you know, so mental health issues you've just read
from there, some of the symptomsof depression anxiety PTSD, and then others
which are locally and culture bound anddefined syndrome. So there are some of
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them that may probably they're not reallyknown known because it's just something that is
a belief, it's a culture thing, and some of them are now just
defined by the people themselves. Nowfor my country itself, my country,
which I feel like for this one, I might agree a little bit because
I think that I have I havenot seen, I have indirectly maybe observed
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that this could actually be somehow true. So in Zambia, eighty nine percent
of what sexual abuse cases reported involvechildren. This is so heartbreaking. Now
imagine what that does to the affectedchild, you know how they grow up
in low self esteem and adequacy,self distraction, just like oh no,
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oh no, you don't for ashanny shanny shany. But then it's not
because the child doesn't listen. Youdon't know what they've been through. Have
you taken them to therapy for continhave you spoken with them a bit,
told them there is life after trauma, you know, after abuse, and
then some of them didn't go tothe extent of having suicidal thoughts, and
so it was just really I feellike it's not like we don't know that
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these things are there, but justgetting to read again, learn again,
remind ourselves again that these things areactually happening. I think that we're able
to have at least a bit ofgrace and mercy towards one another, towards
one another, because then you willnot for sure that nobody just wakes up
and wants to be bad to you, number one. Nobody just wants wake
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up and wants to ruin your day. Maybe there could be people who are
just like that, But nobody justwakes up and they're crazy, you know,
and all they want to do,excuse me, is smoke. All
they want to do is drink.All they want to do is club or
maybe they don't want to go toschool. All they want to do is
self distract, harm them themselves.All they want to do is the bad
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things are not the good things.So I think this should encourage us to
have a little bit of mercy onourselves especially and on people that are around
us. Now, what are someof the factors that influence the response to
these dramatic events. What are someof the factors that affect that that influence
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the response. So maybe you canjust try. Maybe it might not be
you, it can be somebody else, but maybe just which one do you
think maybe you could fall on orsomebody you know has fallen on among these.
So one of the factors, Numberone is developmental level. So this
one just basically means the age ofsomebody the child that's affected, you know,
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how mature they are mentally, ofcourse, and maybe how old they
are. So someone's age or maybesomeone's maturity can affect how they respond to
dramatic events. The second one isethnicity and cultural factors. You know,
this can impact what a child viewsas normal response to trauma based on what
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they have seen from people in theirfamily, communities or families. This is
so deep, you know, Ifeel like a lot of a lot of
people, or maybe a lot ofus, if I should say, are
so good at numbing emotions because you'veseen that, Oh my mom never cried,
Oh my dad never cried. Ohmy older brother, my older sister
never cried. I never saw mycousin cry over this, or my aunts
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and my uncle cried over this,So why should die? You know,
of which that there's a lot ofdamage in us, and leaven the people
that are around us, because thethings that we're trying to keep inside of
us, if we don't let themout, the day that the cap gets
too full and starts like it startsoverflowing, it's not going to be a
good thing. So the third thingis previous exposure to trauma. If a
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child is more accustomed to traumatic events, it could mean they that they adapt
learning to control their emotions, youknow, And sadly this is so true.
It's not a good thing to let'ssay, for example, to lose
a parent. This is it isnot a good thing at all. But
then, excuse me, we shouldnot we should not be people that just
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stay comfortable and be like, youknow what, fine, maybe my mom
is gone or my dad is gone. It is what it is, and
just you know, just want tocontrol your reactions if you need to care
about it. It's okay grieve grief. Grief, grief, sorry, is
a process. It's okay to grieve, But of course you could also seek
like counseling or therapy on how togo about it and for how long we
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should do it. I don't know. But then just don't get don't adapt
to learning to control your emotions whenyou know that you haven't dealt with something.
Now, availability of resources, Sothis refers to how social economically someone
is connected to their family, youknow, how they access their needs on
a regular basis. I think.Now this also goes by issue, maybe
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your poverty on stuff like that.I think it's important, especially for people.
Let's say, I think it's it'sgeneral that at least every child or
at least every home is supposed tome at least three meals per day,
you know, and then you findthat some people are not able to get
up to three meals. It's justone meal, you know. And if
you look most of the times,there's a lot that we get to see
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a lot of what can I say, responses maybe behaviors that are not so
good when there is an availability ofresources or things that are basic needs,
if I should say that. Andthen the last point is pre existing child
and family problems. Pre existing childand family family problems. So this could
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dictate how supportive your parents are whenyou tell them that something traumatic happened,
or it could mean that some formof abusive trauma is occurring in your immediate
family. This is just I think, as clear as it can be,
you know, just as clear asit can be. And I think for
me one thing, I never tookadvantage of talking to my especially my mom,
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because there are days when I wouldn'tbe okay, and I think she
would notice. This is one thingof having somebody who's you know, works
in the medical field. Like theyyou can't run away from anything. So
maybe for people that do. Mymom's a nurse, and by God's grace
now is she is running the districtoffice as a maternity and child health care
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I think manager or something like that. I've forgotten what they call what they
call the position, so but anyway, I think I remember one particular incident.
I was something had happened, notabusive, just a disclaimer, you
know. And I think a oneperson who is easily affected by words,
So something will say to me thatreally didn't not say to me, Derek
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will say to somebody that is closeto me, and it didn't really sit
well with me, and it affectedme for some time. And I'm not
really good. I wasn't really goodat hiding emotions. Now I'm better be
learning how to work on that.And so I think when she came and
she sent me mistake, she setme down. She was like, Mammy,
are you okay. I was like, oh, Mammy, I'm fine.
It's like no, no, no, I feel free to talk to
me, you know. And Iwould never I would never say anything because
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I was always afraid that somebody mightget in trouble, you know, and
all that, or what if shegoes and confronts the person and whatnot.
But one thing is she never MyMom's no confrontational. She should never confort
anybody. But I think all sheneeded was me to just speak, because
I think I I think I knowthat her giving me that opportunity to just
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you know, pour it out,I would have lifted the breaden for myself,
you know, and not have thosethoughts inside of me. So take
advantage of those times. If youhave somebody who's close to you and you
know they're able to tell or readwhen you're not okay, and they give
you an opportunity to speak, pleasespeak, you know. And also for
the rest of us, just beable to open our arms and just you
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know, allow people to to pourthemselves out into us. You know,
let's be the hands and the feetof Jesus like we ought to be.
So I think I've talked to us. It's now like over twenty one minute.
So let's take our first musical breakand we're going to continue. First
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me said it's shop that's got yourcouple of shore funny about chip do s
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to learn how to pronounce this amazing. What else agrees with me? The
French just sounds beautiful, Like justsaying something in French is just like soothing,
you know. But as we continue, Previously we just talked about the
factors that influenced the response to traumaticevents. Now we're going to get into
talking about the signs and symptoms ofPTSD in children. So after export it
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to any traumatic event, you know, kids tend to express some form of
behavioral change, and these behaviors areyou know, mostly reported according to studies
by health professionals. When people likeour adults, So the behavior changes can
include sudden new fears, and thensome of the fears may be or may
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not be related to the dramatic eventthat somebody experienced. Then separation anxiety which
your cousin. A child becomes overwhelmedwith anxiety if their parents are not around
sleep disturbances. This could mean thatthey start having nightmares or those the ability
to first quickly sadness. You know, if you notice that your child,
you or a loved one is feelingdown much more often, it may be
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so that they are copying with atraumatic event. Losing interest in normal activities
again, I just I love whenpeople talk about this, and because nobody
just wakes up and doesn't want todo something that they love, you know,
the job that they love to do, the hobbies that they love,
the interests that they've always had.Nobody just wakes up and just be like,
no, I'm done. At leastif they don't want to do that,
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they'll pick something else, something elseup. Sorry, So, loasing
interest in normal activities, a childmay lose interesting things they once enjoy it.
So it's important to pay attention toall these details, no matter how
small they may be. An abilityto concentrate this could be long or short
term and impact things like schoolwork andnormal activities. Men, I've got testimonies
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on this one. Anger and explainedanger or utability that doesn't match up to
the level of the event can bea soun of a traumatic event. Eh,
you're aver reacting blah blah blah blahblah blah. Those kind of commentsary
you receive, you know, butyou just don't know what somebody has ever
been I mean, somebody has beenthrough before. So I think we need
to be really really more messify,a bit more grassous toward to our certain
two people around us. When wefind that people are reacting different to certain
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things that we might not react similarto how they are so mutic complaints.
This may include stomach aches, headaches, or any physical pains that may simply
have no root cause. Oh goodness, you know. I feel like a
certain extent having knowledge of something,nobody can take away what you know.
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You know when you've come to know, When you come to know or learn
about something, you have power overit when you get to it. There's
a certain freedom that comes with knowing. If I should say so, it's
not that you are possessed, notthat you're seeing not because you there's a
tumor going on in your head,you know, not because your stomach something
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you're having stomach issues, something iswrong with your interestine or maybe you live
out, or just something. It'ssometimes you just have to, you know,
take some time or rethink, trustback a few things, talk to
somebody and just find that it's probablyjust a response, a symptom or a
sign of a traumatic event that somebodymight have experienced. And then press self
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self esteem depression, self distractive behavior, and difficult to trust in others.
I think these things you also talkedabout them earlier. And when it comes
to difficulty trust in others, Ithink you've seen a lot of these things,
a lot and a lot of thesethings. The people who just say
I cannot trust anybody, I onlytrust God. Oh of course, yeah
that's true. But then anyway,let me not get into that, because
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I might even end up in confusingmyself or even contradicting myself. So let's
just keep it there. Per Selfesteem depression, self distractive behavior, and
difficulty trust in others. So thoseare the last ones. And then I
just got so curious, you know, because I believe that the Word of
God is everything, you know,the Word of God is everything. So
if we're able to grab the word, you know, and related with our
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lives in many aspects, I believethat it can also apply in so many
other areas. So I got curiousto check is there anybody in the Bible
who maybe could have experience I mean, when you look at his story and
maybe how we got to live lifeletter, can you trust any sort of
maybe traumatic event or maybe his behaviorbeing related to a traumatic event that he
might have experienced. And I thought, I thought, maybe I started to
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be created. But I thought thisis one among the many examples that we
could relate with. So I tookthe story of Moses so as we may.
Oh, no, Moses was Moseswas born during the time when the
Egyptian king has said that all themale born children are supposed to be killed,
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you know. And then what Iunderstood when I was reading about this
and just connecting it to this topic, is that Moses might have encountered severe
emotional trauma, you know, whichled to the issue of him statuing,
you know, psychogenic statuing, becausein Israel, again it's tand to be
ecouraging. Maybe what I was readingfrom was wrong, but yeah, in
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Israel. Israel speaks Hebrew and theEgyptians speaks Arabic. So if you remember
he left, he was speaked byPharaoh's daughter instead of keeping him. So
but then, but then when itcomes to like region, the in the
region itself, they tend to speakthe same language, you know, they
can't the two countries, Egyptorian Israel, they can speak the same language.
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But then of course the Israelites speakHebre and the Egyptians speak Arabic. So
you know, he never had theopportunity to grow up, to grow up
with his people. Sorry, andthen he would hear of his people being
cured, you know, there werebeing more treated and all those things,
and you know, these are mypeople. So now imagine you know,
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later having to grow up and youhave to lead people. You have to
lead people who are giving you somuch trouble, you know, crossing the
Red Sea and just everything that hadto be done with Pharaoh and the plagues
and all that. I want someonestarter, you know. So it just
got me thinking that probably he couldhave faced a certain level of you know,
emotional severe emotional trauma. No,my time is quickly quickly running out,
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and I have so much to youknow, just here, let me
see I they can squeeze it inthis few nine minutes. And I'd just
like to maybe say that it's importantto know that the symptoms that we've talked
about here, you know, cango away at every at any time,
but then the risk of PTSD ina child can increase if they're repeatedly exposed
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to trauma, you know, yousaid, says again that kids may heal
between three percent kids may heal andbetween three and fifteen percent of girls and
then one to six percent of boyswho develop PTSD if they go through anything
traumatic. You know. So ifyou hear or know of anybody, please
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help them find the therapist, letthem go and seek seek help because it
is needed. So in addition nowto all the symptoms I mentioned, there
as children who experience PTSD which maynow exhibit as hypervigilance. You know,
now what is hypervigilance? It isan effort to so it's important that you
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look at the science to prevent futuretraumas. Hypervigilance is about more than just
being extra vigilance. So people justwanting to do work, work, work,
work, work work, you know, it is a state of extreme
alertness that underminds the quality of life. If you are hypervigilance, you're always
on the lookout for hidden dangers,both through and presumed. Hypervigilance is one
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of the central features of PTSD occurwith other anxieties as well, like panic
disorder, substance and medical induced anxietydisorder, generalize anxiety disorder, schizophrenia,
dementia, and paranoia. You know, all these things can lead to hypervigilance.
So you know, you're just you'realways alert, or if you don't
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if you're not really doing any ifif you feel like you're just in a
place where there's so much solitude,it's just too quiet, you want to
do something just so you can selfdistract and not end up, you know,
focusing on the things that are happeningaround you or maybe the thoughts in
your head. You know. Soat the end of the day, I'd
just like to say and point outthat anxiety is a normal emotion, like
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you reacting to that It's just howit's your brain reacting to stress, you
know, and alerting you to thepotential of danger. And occasional anxiety is
normal. But then anxiety disorders thatnow is a whole new is a whole
different level. So I'm just goingto quickly read on the anxiety disorders that
I have here that maybe you canjust maybe take some time and look for
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for them yourself and read about them. And the first one is the generalize
anxiety disorder, excessive worry and realisticworry and tension for no reason, panic
disorders. You have social anxiety disorder, you have specific phobias, you have
agoraphobia, you have separation anxiety,selective mortism, and then you have medication
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in just anxiety disorders. So allthese you can take some time and just
read about them. And then ofcourse we wouldn't want to just read,
read and talk about things without theword of God. So I have about
for scriptures here that I will share. The first one is some thirty four
verse eighteen, some ninety four verstnineteen, some fifty one verse eight,
and someone forty seven verse three,and I'll just quickly read I think I'll
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read some thirty four verst. Eighteen, and then the rest of them.
Please just take some time and readthem by yourself, because yes, my
time is fast, fast, fast, fast moving, and the Lord is
near to those who have who havea broken heart and say such as a
contract spirit in conclusion. In conclusion, I would just like to say and
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maybe just give you this scenario.Imagine that you get hurt and you have
a wound, right and now insteadof like allowing someone or maybe just allowing
yourself to take care of it,or like disaffecting it, applying some ointment
or antibiotics or even taking in poeticsto when and then dressing it. You
know, then of course you justcan do it one day, probably to
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take maybe a few days. Youhave to undress it. There's a pain
in that, you know, cleanit up, do the routine until it
gets better. So imagine you don'tdo those things, and what you just
decide to do is just, youknow, after the womd just cover it
up, cover it up, coverit up, and then you never clean
it. You never change it,You never take anto biotics, you never
clean it tup, it never disinfected. Imagine the stinks, Imagine the mugots
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that might pop up. You know, imagine the effect might end up having
on the affected part of the body, or even if it can lead to
affecting other parts of the body.So at the end of the day.
Let's not repress, deny, ordon't play anything that we may experience that
we may feel. There are noquick fixes and there will never be any
quick fixes when it comes to dealingwith trauma. So if need be,
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get the help that you need totalk to someone confront your trauma if need
be, But then of course withguidance and counsel and let's all just break
all the generational curses and the generationinheritance that come with trauma. Because it's
not that we are possessed. Ithink, especially from an African perspective,
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we like going for deliverizs and allthose things, but that it's not because
we are possessed, but probably it'sjust that what we're going through. Sorry,
what we have gone through has justbeen traumatic. So this is all
that I had to share for today. I hope that it has blessed someone.
Yeah, and thank you so muchfor taking the time. Don't forget
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to read the scriptures that I mentionedearlier. I was reading from Sorry nkjv
antipeated the Passion translation. So ifyou're able to just take some time and
read them, and my time isfirst spent. And this is where I
had to share for today. Ihope you're blessed, and maybe just say
a word of prayer somebody around youor maybe yourself, and just allow God
to hear your heart. If maywe've experienced any sort of traumor or you
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know somebody who has, and letGod heal has because only he can.
So thank you so much time fortaking time to listen. Goodbye for today.
In the afriking blue, I seeI've learned that was shall show for
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you beautiful freaking beautiful area when you'regonna do Betta. Let go that God
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doesn't matter who you are. Letgold and God rise up Africa. Let
God and God's that gold and gotthe gold and got the gold. The
God that's matter who you that goldand got on Brica. The God and
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guts the gold and cuts that gold. And God trust in the melone of
your honor. Lean not onto yourown. Let go that God, but
in all your ways acknowledge. Letgold that God shout direct your Let go let God
Ma Shi, Wikeni, Muliban,Gie Mambo, k Dou, Moribo Etising
and their own Johnny Baoni, Ihope we're all doing well. Welcome and
thanks for tuning into the African BluesPodcast again. And yes, that was
just me trying to appreciate the diversityof our lovely continent, you know,
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and of course I know that weare many of us could be native native
English speakers. We have the French, we have Portuguese. But that's just
the beauty of the continent. AndI think it's just really good to be
reminded of how blessed we are asa continent. From being able to speak
any other language, we also haveour own tanks and tribes and everything else
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you know that we have and havebeen blessed with. So as we get
into today's podcast, let's just saya word of prayer. Dear heavenly Father,
we just under say thank you forthis day. Thank you for your
goodness, your grace and your mercyis in the mighty name of Jesus.
Glory and honor bit to you alone, because only you deserve it. Father,
we thank you for granting us anopportunity to see it another day.
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The light of this day, Spiritof the Living God, I just want
to pray that you alone may breatheyour wings of life in everything that concerns
us as we get into this day. In the Mighty name of Jesus,
glory and honor. Bit to youalone. Father, you're starting to pray,
living up this entire podcast into yourhands, have your way, let
your kingdom come, and you willbe done alone in the Mighty name of
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Jesus Christ. That there be noneof me, not my emotions and my
feelings. Let none of me picturewho O God, But I pray that
you allot me lead and guide me. In the Mighty name of Jesus.
I pray Heavenly Father for everybody whowill take time to listen, Father,
bless them, replenish their time andthe resources in the Mighty name of Jesus.
And I pray, yeh God specificallythat this podcast is less as many
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today in the Mighty name of Jesus, Glory, beauty, you aloneless one
to say, thank you Father forthis opportunity. Thank you, thank you,
thank you, thank you. InJesus, might them, I pray
thanksgiving them praise in my heart,even remembering the people that are listening,
the people that they love, thepeople that they care for the needs that
they may have. Please, Please, Lord, meet them at their points
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of me and just provide for anyand everything that they may need in our
accordance with Your perfect and plan fortheir lives in Jesus. Might them a
prayer with thanksgiving them prayers in ourhearts. Amen. So our opening scripture
today is coming from Psalm twenty one. I'm just going to read quickly the
biberies. The king rejoices in yourstrength. Lord, How great is his
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joy in the victory's give You havegranted him his heart's desire, and have
not withheld the request of his lips. You cannot. You came to greet
him with rich blessings and place thecrown of Pear God on his head.
He asked you for life, andyou gave it to him, length of
days forever and ever. Through thevictories you gave you gave his glory is
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great. You have bestowed him onhim splendor and majesty. Surely you have
granted him and lending blessings that methim glad with the joy of your presence
for the king. Trusting the Lordthrough the and fit in love of the
most High. He will not beshaken. Your hand will lay hold on
all your enemies. Your right handwill seize, you, will seize your
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falls. When you appear for battle, you will burn the map in a
blazing furnace. The Lord will fallowthe map in his wrath, and his
fire will consume them. You willdestroy their descendants from the earth, a
prospirative from mankind. Though they plotevil against you and devise wicked schemes,
they cannot succeed. You will make. You will make them turn their backs
when you aim at them with drawnball. Be exalted in your strength.
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Lord, we will sing your praise, your might. We will sing of
your praise, and you might amen. This is the word of the Lord
for us, just as we're startingthe day. Is sound from our great
great great great grandfather, mister David, and I hope that it just listens
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us as we can as we startour day. The regardless of what may
come away, the Lord is ourstrength, and it's already gone before us
and granted us victory and everything thatwe need for life and godliness. So
yesterday I'm going to be talking aboutsomething that I just thought well because last
time I think I talked about mentalhealth, and I just thought maybe of
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digging done a little bit and justtalk about childhood trauma, you know,
from an African perspective. It mightbe a series. Maybe I don't know,
we might start on packing childhood trauma, or maybe this just might be
the end of it. We justtalk about it today and ended here.
So I'm just going to give anintroduction. Maybe I'll really feel not if
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just one article that I found notan article, it's actually a paper certain
article. Might it seems like justsomebody and just you know, put on
Google and adjustment and go to Google. No, it's actually a paper paper
from world health organizations. So Problem'mgoing to read something from there too.
But then, as we all mayknow, you know, childhood is a
very very very very vulnerable time inour lives, as we are growing and
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developing and learning to see things aroundus, getting to understand things around us.
Sometimes we're getting to understand ourselves,you know. And so depending on
how good that goes or how bador how and certain that time goes,
the growing, the developing, thelearning, however it turns out, it
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may in turn affect how we functionas adults. You know so, and
then if we're not careful, ifwe're not careful on how we handle our
growing, our developing, our learningand all that stuff, it might end
up leading to toxic generational cycles oftrauma, you know. And I think
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this is very It's evident in somany many ways. It is very,
very, very evident. And I'vegotten to realize one thing. You know,
I grew up watching a lot ofniger movies, like we have watched
and watched Nigera movies. I don'tknow. Sometimes we'd actually live in Binge
watch you know, weekend times werewe were watching a Sita and Aki and
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Purple. You're waking mister, You'rewatching, mister you boo, You're watching
Sity, You're watching all these funny, funny, funny movies, you know,
and then even you'd see something youwould be laughing at what's going on
in the movies. And of courseother life like you know, just Lessen
movies. You know how Mamag's alwayscalled the evil step mother and stuff like
that. But I've just come torealize that most of the times when I'm
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watching these movies, especially in themows froom back then, they had so
many lessons in them, you know. But then of course Yahyang just watched
them for inertainment, and so subSaharan Africa, and I'm just going to
read quickly from the research that Iwas doing. So sab Soaran Africa is
said to one of the most beautifulparts of the world that is both rich
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in natural resources and culture. Butunfortunately it is also the part of the
world that is affected by war,poverty, and exploitation. Let's not even
talk about exploitation. I mean,we've been exploited since since you know,
we learned about excuse me about exploitationeven before before time we learned in our
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history, and it's so unfortunate thatwe're still getting to see these things still
happening, you know. And yeah, it's just really, really really unfortunate.
So some traumatizing events are not uniqueto African countries. People in all
countries face similar challenges. The contrast, however, is in the way the
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varied challenges with disasters converge upon thepeople who find them selves and prepared,
and of course, the mental healthconsequences that they may face due to the
lack of mental health services. Andthis is according to research by the WHO
of this a little bit late toresearching, but I think it's still just
important. It's a very valid point. This was done in twenty thirteen.
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So social problems arise and the needfor mental health intervisions. Sorry, it's
the social problems that arise from theneed of mental health. Problems you know
include poverty, political conflict, wordfamily dysfunctioned, lack of physical health,
lack of education, and social instability. So now all these social problems,
some mainly be saying I'm not verysure if maybe this is true. But
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then according to research, both ruraland urban Africa affect are affected by these
and even the more the most thatare affected our children. So the WHO
estimates the seventy five percent of thehealth mics, which is the law and
middle income countries in Sub Saharan Africamake up to fifty four percent whose suffer
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mental health illnesses and never get thehelp that they require. And the consequences
of this are so so so deadlyto the countries that are already impacted,
especially especially by poverty. Now inAfrica, fourteen point five percent of children
under the age of sixteen are sufferingfrom the effects of violence, and they
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think especially what I was seeing mostlyin the papers that I was reading.
I really don't know how and whyor maybe how true it is, because
at the same time you find thatI can just aggressive little bit. I
was watching a YouTube video. IfI don't know if many of us may
know the Nigeria and YouTube. Ithink his name is Taiwo Aina and I
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think he was interviewing a certain manwho rode his an electric bike, I
think a motorbike from London to Lego. You know, you listen to the
story and you hear it London toLegos, are like, no, that's
the lie. But of course yeshe had to you know, of course
I think to water bodies, andhe did, but not on the back.
He had to get on like onehe got on. I think it
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was on a ship. I'm notmistaken. The next way he just got
like on a boat. But anyway, so when he said that when he
was moving from London to Legos,of course he had to pass through like
North Africa. And apparently before heleft Africa, before he left to go
to London, he had done hisresearch because he's going to really he is
going to pass through those places.And apparently, according to the resist that
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has been done by the worstern world. Most of the countries, the places
on the north and a few othersactually on the central and south, they
are called should I say cord oryes, they are lebeled as red zones,
which is like they're dangerous. Butthen what the man said is when
he went to those places, thekind of hospitality that he received, and
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the majority of the people, especiallyin the northern part where like French speaking,
and I think a little bit onthe western summer summer there were like
French speaking people. He could barelycommunicate. He didn't really know how to
speak French, but he was justsurprised at the hospitality that he received,
you know. And he was justtalking about how we have like we have
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so much consumed what has been givento us, you know, what researchers
have been given or what has beenlabeled on us and have taken it us
that so we don't want to befriend a fellow Nigeria, sorry, in
Nigeria, and you don't want tobe friend of South African. You don't
want to befriend someone from Cameroon orfrom Gambia because or somebody has said this
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about their country or maybe you readsomething about you don't to befriend someone from
Congo, from Bekin of Us sobecause you have heard something about them or
you've read something about them. SoI think it's becod important. Then we
get to learn for ourselves too.So anyway back to what I was reading
about Africa, so most of theregards the violence here the effects of violence,
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and the fourteen five percent should havebeen affected by that. I was
looking when I was reading, mostof the research was showing like South Africa
is like the most affected, likewhen it comes to violence. I was
just like, okay, let's justread. Maybe it's good if we get
to ask some and living in SouthAfrica, you know, because again news
is news, propaganda, everything isexisting. So if you want to go're
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going to go on Google and justsay, oh violence in South African Google,
you would definitely see the proof,you know, but then you just
might never know. So in theWorstern Cape, the PREVALENCEE is seventeen percent
and PTSD affecting eight percent of childrenunder sixteen, and then they generalize anxiety
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disordered or in anxiety affecting eleven percent. I hope I haven't lost us.
Hope are still together. So nowwhat are some of these issues you know
that arise from this, you know, so mental health issues you've just read
from there, some of the symptomsof depression anxiety PTSD, and then others
which are locally and culture bound anddefined syndrome. So there are some of
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them that may probably they're not reallyknown known because it's just something that is
a belief, it's a culture thing, and some of them are now just
defined by the people themselves. Nowfor my country itself, my country,
which I feel like for this one, I might agree a little bit because
I think that I have I havenot seen, I have indirectly maybe observed
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that this could actually be somehow true. So in Zambia, eighty nine percent
of what sexual abuse cases reported involvechildren. This is so heartbreaking. Now
imagine what that does to the affectedchild, you know how they grow up
in low self esteem and adequacy,self distraction, just like oh no,
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oh no, you don't for ashanny shanny shany. But then it's not
because the child doesn't listen. Youdon't know what they've been through. Have
you taken them to therapy for continhave you spoken with them a bit,
told them there is life after trauma, you know, after abuse, and
then some of them didn't go tothe extent of having suicidal thoughts, and
so it was just really I feellike it's not like we don't know that
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these things are there, but justgetting to read again, learn again,
remind ourselves again that these things areactually happening. I think that we're able
to have at least a bit ofgrace and mercy towards one another, towards
one another, because then you willnot for sure that nobody just wakes up
and wants to be bad to you, number one. Nobody just wants wake
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up and wants to ruin your day. Maybe there could be people who are
just like that, But nobody justwakes up and they're crazy, you know,
and all they want to do,excuse me, is smoke. All
they want to do is drink.All they want to do is club or
maybe they don't want to go toschool. All they want to do is
self distract, harm them themselves.All they want to do is the bad
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things are not the good things.So I think this should encourage us to
have a little bit of mercy onourselves especially and on people that are around
us. Now, what are someof the factors that influence the response to
these dramatic events. What are someof the factors that affect that that influence
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the response. So maybe you canjust try. Maybe it might not be
you, it can be somebody else, but maybe just which one do you
think maybe you could fall on orsomebody you know has fallen on among these.
So one of the factors, Numberone is developmental level. So this
one just basically means the age ofsomebody the child that's affected, you know,
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how mature they are mentally, ofcourse, and maybe how old they
are. So someone's age or maybesomeone's maturity can affect how they respond to
dramatic events. The second one isethnicity and cultural factors. You know,
this can impact what a child viewsas normal response to trauma based on what
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they have seen from people in theirfamily, communities or families. This is
so deep, you know, Ifeel like a lot of a lot of
people, or maybe a lot ofus, if I should say, are
so good at numbing emotions because you'veseen that, Oh my mom never cried,
Oh my dad never cried. Ohmy older brother, my older sister
never cried. I never saw mycousin cry over this, or my aunts
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and my uncle cried over this,So why should die? You know,
of which that there's a lot ofdamage in us, and leaven the people
that are around us, because thethings that we're trying to keep inside of
us, if we don't let themout, the day that the cap gets
too full and starts like it startsoverflowing, it's not going to be a
good thing. So the third thingis previous exposure to trauma. If a
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child is more accustomed to traumatic events, it could mean they that they adapt
learning to control their emotions, youknow, And sadly this is so true.
It's not a good thing to let'ssay, for example, to lose
a parent. This is it isnot a good thing at all. But
then, excuse me, we shouldnot we should not be people that just
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stay comfortable and be like, youknow what, fine, maybe my mom
is gone or my dad is gone. It is what it is, and
just you know, just want tocontrol your reactions if you need to care
about it. It's okay grieve grief. Grief, grief, sorry, is
a process. It's okay to grieve, But of course you could also seek
like counseling or therapy on how togo about it and for how long we
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should do it. I don't know. But then just don't get don't adapt
to learning to control your emotions whenyou know that you haven't dealt with something.
Now, availability of resources, Sothis refers to how social economically someone
is connected to their family, youknow, how they access their needs on
a regular basis. I think.Now this also goes by issue, maybe
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your poverty on stuff like that.I think it's important, especially for people.
Let's say, I think it's it'sgeneral that at least every child or
at least every home is supposed tome at least three meals per day,
you know, and then you findthat some people are not able to get
up to three meals. It's justone meal, you know. And if
you look most of the times,there's a lot that we get to see
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a lot of what can I say, responses maybe behaviors that are not so
good when there is an availability ofresources or things that are basic needs,
if I should say that. Andthen the last point is pre existing child
and family problems. Pre existing childand family family problems. So this could
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dictate how supportive your parents are whenyou tell them that something traumatic happened,
or it could mean that some formof abusive trauma is occurring in your immediate
family. This is just I think, as clear as it can be,
you know, just as clear asit can be. And I think for
me one thing, I never tookadvantage of talking to my especially my mom,
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because there are days when I wouldn'tbe okay, and I think she
would notice. This is one thingof having somebody who's you know, works
in the medical field. Like theyyou can't run away from anything. So
maybe for people that do. Mymom's a nurse, and by God's grace
now is she is running the districtoffice as a maternity and child health care
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I think manager or something like that. I've forgotten what they call what they
call the position, so but anyway, I think I remember one particular incident.
I was something had happened, notabusive, just a disclaimer, you
know. And I think a oneperson who is easily affected by words,
So something will say to me thatreally didn't not say to me, Derek
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will say to somebody that is closeto me, and it didn't really sit
well with me, and it affectedme for some time. And I'm not
really good. I wasn't really goodat hiding emotions. Now I'm better be
learning how to work on that.And so I think when she came and
she sent me mistake, she setme down. She was like, Mammy,
are you okay. I was like, oh, Mammy, I'm fine.
It's like no, no, no, I feel free to talk to
me, you know. And Iwould never I would never say anything because
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I was always afraid that somebody mightget in trouble, you know, and
all that, or what if shegoes and confronts the person and whatnot.
But one thing is she never MyMom's no confrontational. She should never confort
anybody. But I think all sheneeded was me to just speak, because
I think I I think I knowthat her giving me that opportunity to just
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you know, pour it out,I would have lifted the breaden for myself,
you know, and not have thosethoughts inside of me. So take
advantage of those times. If youhave somebody who's close to you and you
know they're able to tell or readwhen you're not okay, and they give
you an opportunity to speak, pleasespeak, you know. And also for
the rest of us, just beable to open our arms and just you
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know, allow people to to pourthemselves out into us. You know,
let's be the hands and the feetof Jesus like we ought to be.
So I think I've talked to us. It's now like over twenty one minute.
So let's take our first musical breakand we're going to continue. First
step is going to be a songby the Bora, Leocando and Lison in
my consolation to be blessed to listen. Oh yeah, Mona me yeah,
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Comfido and honest world mo pfire myco sol s local. The maighbor said,
what gear s shapers one up?She's a chew your too, World
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Tears Shapers one up. She's achew your too. Oh mona mean mona
mean mon of me said Sid say, that's because you prop your Monima Donna
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mean uncofo im monist a mob mancoSolici Lonca dom Mab said she any Shaperson
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says a chew your tube. Sheas shapers says a chew your tube.
Oh mona me more of me MonaMead said. Wah Papa said to what
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say, I don't do little premnasoto that solic I don't miss it.
Your yay Mi's some madam my goodwash a freak of sunds. Listen many
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mom for quantition consund lays m namedMona Corma soon said less love me if
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samon of me mona, he shouldhave the family something should have been the
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me said it's shop that's got yourcouple of shore funny about chip do s
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to learn how to pronounce this amazing. What else agrees with me? The
French just sounds beautiful, Like justsaying something in French is just like soothing,
you know. But as we continue, Previously we just talked about the
factors that influenced the response to traumaticevents. Now we're going to get into
talking about the signs and symptoms ofPTSD in children. So after export it
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to any traumatic event, you know, kids tend to express some form of
behavioral change, and these behaviors areyou know, mostly reported according to studies
by health professionals. When people likeour adults, So the behavior changes can
include sudden new fears, and thensome of the fears may be or may
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not be related to the dramatic eventthat somebody experienced. Then separation anxiety which
your cousin. A child becomes overwhelmedwith anxiety if their parents are not around
sleep disturbances. This could mean thatthey start having nightmares or those the ability
to first quickly sadness. You know, if you notice that your child,
you or a loved one is feelingdown much more often, it may be
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so that they are copying with atraumatic event. Losing interest in normal activities
again, I just I love whenpeople talk about this, and because nobody
just wakes up and doesn't want todo something that they love, you know,
the job that they love to do, the hobbies that they love,
the interests that they've always had.Nobody just wakes up and just be like,
no, I'm done. At leastif they don't want to do that,
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they'll pick something else, something elseup. Sorry, So, loasing
interest in normal activities, a childmay lose interesting things they once enjoy it.
So it's important to pay attention toall these details, no matter how
small they may be. An abilityto concentrate this could be long or short
term and impact things like schoolwork andnormal activities. Men, I've got testimonies
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on this one. Anger and explainedanger or utability that doesn't match up to
the level of the event can bea soun of a traumatic event. Eh,
you're aver reacting blah blah blah blahblah blah. Those kind of commentsary
you receive, you know, butyou just don't know what somebody has ever
been I mean, somebody has beenthrough before. So I think we need
to be really really more messify,a bit more grassous toward to our certain
two people around us. When wefind that people are reacting different to certain
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things that we might not react similarto how they are so mutic complaints.
This may include stomach aches, headaches, or any physical pains that may simply
have no root cause. Oh goodness, you know. I feel like a
certain extent having knowledge of something,nobody can take away what you know.
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You know when you've come to know, When you come to know or learn
about something, you have power overit when you get to it. There's
a certain freedom that comes with knowing. If I should say so, it's
not that you are possessed, notthat you're seeing not because you there's a
tumor going on in your head,you know, not because your stomach something
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you're having stomach issues, something iswrong with your interestine or maybe you live
out, or just something. It'ssometimes you just have to, you know,
take some time or rethink, trustback a few things, talk to
somebody and just find that it's probablyjust a response, a symptom or a
sign of a traumatic event that somebodymight have experienced. And then press self
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self esteem depression, self distractive behavior, and difficult to trust in others.
I think these things you also talkedabout them earlier. And when it comes
to difficulty trust in others, Ithink you've seen a lot of these things,
a lot and a lot of thesethings. The people who just say
I cannot trust anybody, I onlytrust God. Oh of course, yeah
that's true. But then anyway,let me not get into that, because
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I might even end up in confusingmyself or even contradicting myself. So let's
just keep it there. Per Selfesteem depression, self distractive behavior, and
difficulty trust in others. So thoseare the last ones. And then I
just got so curious, you know, because I believe that the Word of
God is everything, you know,the Word of God is everything. So
if we're able to grab the word, you know, and related with our
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lives in many aspects, I believethat it can also apply in so many
other areas. So I got curiousto check is there anybody in the Bible
who maybe could have experience I mean, when you look at his story and
maybe how we got to live lifeletter, can you trust any sort of
maybe traumatic event or maybe his behaviorbeing related to a traumatic event that he
might have experienced. And I thought, I thought, maybe I started to
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be created. But I thought thisis one among the many examples that we
could relate with. So I tookthe story of Moses so as we may.
Oh, no, Moses was Moseswas born during the time when the
Egyptian king has said that all themale born children are supposed to be killed,
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you know. And then what Iunderstood when I was reading about this
and just connecting it to this topic, is that Moses might have encountered severe
emotional trauma, you know, whichled to the issue of him statuing,
you know, psychogenic statuing, becausein Israel, again it's tand to be
ecouraging. Maybe what I was readingfrom was wrong, but yeah, in
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Israel. Israel speaks Hebrew and theEgyptians speaks Arabic. So if you remember
he left, he was speaked byPharaoh's daughter instead of keeping him. So
but then, but then when itcomes to like region, the in the
region itself, they tend to speakthe same language, you know, they
can't the two countries, Egyptorian Israel, they can speak the same language.
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But then of course the Israelites speakHebre and the Egyptians speak Arabic. So
you know, he never had theopportunity to grow up, to grow up
with his people. Sorry, andthen he would hear of his people being
cured, you know, there werebeing more treated and all those things,
and you know, these are mypeople. So now imagine you know,
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later having to grow up and youhave to lead people. You have to
lead people who are giving you somuch trouble, you know, crossing the
Red Sea and just everything that hadto be done with Pharaoh and the plagues
and all that. I want someonestarter, you know. So it just
got me thinking that probably he couldhave faced a certain level of you know,
emotional severe emotional trauma. No,my time is quickly quickly running out,
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and I have so much to youknow, just here, let me
see I they can squeeze it inthis few nine minutes. And I'd just
like to maybe say that it's importantto know that the symptoms that we've talked
about here, you know, cango away at every at any time,
but then the risk of PTSD ina child can increase if they're repeatedly exposed
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to trauma, you know, yousaid, says again that kids may heal
between three percent kids may heal andbetween three and fifteen percent of girls and
then one to six percent of boyswho develop PTSD if they go through anything
traumatic. You know. So ifyou hear or know of anybody, please
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help them find the therapist, letthem go and seek seek help because it
is needed. So in addition nowto all the symptoms I mentioned, there
as children who experience PTSD which maynow exhibit as hypervigilance. You know,
now what is hypervigilance? It isan effort to so it's important that you
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look at the science to prevent futuretraumas. Hypervigilance is about more than just
being extra vigilance. So people justwanting to do work, work, work,
work, work work, you know, it is a state of extreme
alertness that underminds the quality of life. If you are hypervigilance, you're always
on the lookout for hidden dangers,both through and presumed. Hypervigilance is one
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of the central features of PTSD occurwith other anxieties as well, like panic
disorder, substance and medical induced anxietydisorder, generalize anxiety disorder, schizophrenia,
dementia, and paranoia. You know, all these things can lead to hypervigilance.
So you know, you're just you'realways alert, or if you don't
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if you're not really doing any ifif you feel like you're just in a
place where there's so much solitude,it's just too quiet, you want to
do something just so you can selfdistract and not end up, you know,
focusing on the things that are happeningaround you or maybe the thoughts in
your head. You know. Soat the end of the day, I'd
just like to say and point outthat anxiety is a normal emotion, like
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you reacting to that It's just howit's your brain reacting to stress, you
know, and alerting you to thepotential of danger. And occasional anxiety is
normal. But then anxiety disorders thatnow is a whole new is a whole
different level. So I'm just goingto quickly read on the anxiety disorders that
I have here that maybe you canjust maybe take some time and look for
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for them yourself and read about them. And the first one is the generalize
anxiety disorder, excessive worry and realisticworry and tension for no reason, panic
disorders. You have social anxiety disorder, you have specific phobias, you have
agoraphobia, you have separation anxiety,selective mortism, and then you have medication
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in just anxiety disorders. So allthese you can take some time and just
read about them. And then ofcourse we wouldn't want to just read,
read and talk about things without theword of God. So I have about
for scriptures here that I will share. The first one is some thirty four
verse eighteen, some ninety four verstnineteen, some fifty one verse eight,
and someone forty seven verse three,and I'll just quickly read I think I'll
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read some thirty four verst. Eighteen, and then the rest of them.
Please just take some time and readthem by yourself, because yes, my
time is fast, fast, fast, fast moving, and the Lord is
near to those who have who havea broken heart and say such as a
contract spirit in conclusion. In conclusion, I would just like to say and
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maybe just give you this scenario.Imagine that you get hurt and you have
a wound, right and now insteadof like allowing someone or maybe just allowing
yourself to take care of it,or like disaffecting it, applying some ointment
or antibiotics or even taking in poeticsto when and then dressing it. You
know, then of course you justcan do it one day, probably to
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take maybe a few days. Youhave to undress it. There's a pain
in that, you know, cleanit up, do the routine until it
gets better. So imagine you don'tdo those things, and what you just
decide to do is just, youknow, after the womd just cover it
up, cover it up, coverit up, and then you never clean
it. You never change it,You never take anto biotics, you never
clean it tup, it never disinfected. Imagine the stinks, Imagine the mugots
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that might pop up. You know, imagine the effect might end up having
on the affected part of the body, or even if it can lead to
affecting other parts of the body.So at the end of the day.
Let's not repress, deny, ordon't play anything that we may experience that
we may feel. There are noquick fixes and there will never be any
quick fixes when it comes to dealingwith trauma. So if need be,
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get the help that you need totalk to someone confront your trauma if need
be, But then of course withguidance and counsel and let's all just break
all the generational curses and the generationinheritance that come with trauma. Because it's
not that we are possessed. Ithink, especially from an African perspective,
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we like going for deliverizs and allthose things, but that it's not because
we are possessed, but probably it'sjust that what we're going through. Sorry,
what we have gone through has justbeen traumatic. So this is all
that I had to share for today. I hope that it has blessed someone.
Yeah, and thank you so muchfor taking the time. Don't forget
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to read the scriptures that I mentionedearlier. I was reading from Sorry nkjv
antipeated the Passion translation. So ifyou're able to just take some time and
read them, and my time isfirst spent. And this is where I
had to share for today. Ihope you're blessed, and maybe just say
a word of prayer somebody around youor maybe yourself, and just allow God
to hear your heart. If maywe've experienced any sort of traumor or you
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know somebody who has, and letGod heal has because only he can.
So thank you so much time fortaking time to listen. Goodbye for today.
In the afriking blue, I seeI've learned that was shall show for
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you beautiful freaking beautiful area when you'regonna do Betta. Let go that God
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doesn't matter who you are. Letgold and God rise up Africa. Let
God and God's that gold and gotthe gold and got the gold. The
God that's matter who you that goldand got on Brica. The God and
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guts the gold and cuts that gold. And God trust in the melone of
your honor. Lean not onto yourown. Let go that God, but
in all your ways acknowledge. Letgold that God shout direct your Let go let God
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