October 24, 2025 • 24 mins
Growing up, my mother was fond of saying “Ulunkumbwa telusuma.” In as much as I didn’t fully understand the context of the saying as a child, it stuck with me for a very long time until it eventually began to make sense.
In this episode, I share a few stories and lessons on contentment which I define as not the fulfillment of what we want, rather the realization of how much we already have.
✨ Now Godliness with contentment is great gain. 1 Timothy 6:6
In this episode, I share a few stories and lessons on contentment which I define as not the fulfillment of what we want, rather the realization of how much we already have.
✨ Now Godliness with contentment is great gain. 1 Timothy 6:6
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What's some masheky, what's what's what's what's what's what's what's, what's,
what's what's a ma shakya, what's.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
All?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
What's what's what's your What's what's lasky.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
On your chair? Wande bony Exi then un Journeyshani, welcome
back to the African Blues Podcast. My name is Neska
and as leave Agisha will just say a word of prayer.
Heaven it Father, we just want to say thank you
for today. We give you the praise, the glory, the
honor and the adoration in the mighty name of Jesus Christ,
(01:16):
the Spirit of the Living God. We just want to
commit today's episode into your hands and we pray that
you alone may have your way, may lead us and
guide us. We pray that you may lead us into
attracting us to learn in this season in Jesus might name,
and I pray for everybody who will take time to listen,
that you may provide for them, for the Lord meet
them at their point of nism perfect everything that concerns
(01:37):
them and their loved ones. And the Mighty name of
Jesus Christ. The prayer with thanks giving and praise in
my heart Amen. So we're going to have our opening
scripture is coming from Psalms chapter two. We're going to
read from verse eight to eleven, and the barbaries ask me,
and I will make the nations to inherit us the
ends of the earth your possession. You will break them
at the road of iron, and you will touch them
like pieces of poetry. Therefore, you kings be wad be warned,
(02:01):
You rulers of the earth, serve the Lord with fear
and celebrate his roule with trembling. Amen. So that's a
scripture that we are running with for today and our
topic for today it's honestly, it's a story that I'm telling.
It's just a story that I also believe has had
some spiritual significance in my life and I just want
(02:22):
to share with us today. So the topic for today
is beans is from Mondays and I'm going to be
exposing my mother a lot today or just a little bit,
not a lot. So I don't know if it's in
every Zambian home growing up, but for me, when I
was growing up, every Monday would have beans with okra
and is shima. Whether you liked it or not, whether
you were sick, you're, well, you have beans on Monday,
(02:45):
you would get lucky to have some chicken with the beans,
or just chicken if there was some chicken left over
from Sunday. But that also depends on the people that
you're living with you're going to have leftovers. So it
just all happened that in this particular Monday, it was
a holiday. And so I got an unexpected visit, very
(03:05):
surprising and shocking visit from some friends from school. So
these were like my really really close friends back in
primary school. This should have been either grade five or
grade six if I'm not mistaken. And so my friends
come and I'm just in shock. Now the shock was
not because they visited abruptly, but because of what I
knew was cooking, because they came on a Monday. The
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reason I was I was in shock was because with
this particular family, every time that we went to their house,
like we ate everything else and anything else apart from beans.
So most of the times that they would do is
maybe after school at the school bus is dropping them
off first, their mom or their older siblings would be
like Corneicily and the other guys that we used to
(03:46):
hang out with used to be like this little knit family,
So they would be like corne Cilia and these other people.
Let them come in and eat before they go home.
Then either the driver would take them home or get
them the taxi to go home. So would like get
off the back and go eat. Would either have beef,
would have chicken, got meat, sausages, you could have anything
(04:07):
else that you want, anything bush meat, anything that's just
not beans. And so I had that in the back
of my mind and I was just thinking, oh my goodness,
and yeah, well come then time was moving ten, it
was eleven, and it was twelve, and I think around
twelve thirty they're about lunch was served, And honestly, I
was praying, and I was hoping that deep down they
(04:30):
might have just compromised a little bit on the menu
because my friends had come. Maybe they fried some sausages
for them, maybe some meat or even just fish or
some eggs. I don't know, but I just I was
hoping that they would have done something and added to
be beans or hopefully not serve the beans. But no,
the beans was served. And on this particular day, my
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darling dearest mother decided to go very local. I don't
know if it's because she was home, it was a holiday.
She she started to go into her deepest, deepest Namonga
roots and she decided to Sashila the poop boy. So
it wasn't it wasn't awkward that we're having on this day.
We had I think the English name for purpo is
no board, so for those that may know, you can
just google no boards. So it's very like the leaf
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is blended, it's grinded, then it's very like fine, and
then you can add peanut paste. I think that's the
best I can describe. So that's what she made, and
that's a very like traditional traditional meal four like in
her tribe. So my mother decided to really go tradition
on that day. And yeah, that's how they made that.
She made the no board the poop boy sin so
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Sheilla liked the poop way. We could not even see
the tomatoes in the poop or the poopo was just
there with the peanuts that was staring at usin in
our faces. And now that's how we ate the food.
My friend ate the food like nothing was honestly, like
like nothing was wrong. They were just eating and I
was wondering in my head, like God, what exactly is
going on in their mind?
Speaker 2 (05:57):
You know.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
I was just so so so nervous and so. And
the holiday finished, we went back to school, and I
was just like, I was thinking, like when am I
just going to hear the story from either Mary classmates
or from like the school. And because your girl was
used to be very talkative back then, she used to
really yeah, she was known in school, So I was
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expecting somebody in class would say it, or somebody in school.
I'll hear it from somewhere, but till today, like I've
never heard of it, you know, just the insecurities of
being like young, but till today, like I've never heard
of it. So anyway, we'll take a musical break. And
I just started to read a look twelve verse fifteen
before we get to continue the bibraries. I'm taking it
(06:39):
from amplified Amplified classic says, and he said to them,
guard yourselves and keep free from all conviciousness, the immoderate
desire for wealth, the greedy longing to have more from
Ma's life, does not consist in, and does not derive
from possessing overflowing abundance or that which is over and
(07:01):
above his needs. Amen. So we're going to take our
first musical break. And the song is coming from Limo
Blaze and it's entitled Hallelujah enjoyed the song be blessed
as you listen.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Oh yeah, oh no, no, no, no.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Famo, that's no, I tell you.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Yo, Dylan, now your diabyz not he when he come
for my case, But dad did not use me playing now,
I said, no, dling now me, I want to praise
now when you come for my case, my dad did
not use me play. He carving my mataphone. I've been
deformed my dony, but then you pull me in. Yes's
(07:52):
my favorite, right baby, Yes, you carving my mataphone. Hell,
I've been deformed my donk, but then he pulled me.
Speaker 4 (08:00):
Yeah yeah, oh my favorite baby dad.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Oh halley alleh. Daddy had to bring my holiday holiday holiday.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
Daddy had to bring my holiday aldayl allein. Paddy had
to bring my holiday. Daddy had to bring my holday attention.
Speaker 5 (08:23):
We they give me your attention along with Mark matell
and not send the arrow an tell oh my baby,
be here, you're my favorite, right pray be here a
challenge It is nothing know me are there for you?
Short you After having your ma telephone, and when you're
being the phone my drunk, Kenny, I'm being nipple Union, Yes,
(08:44):
in my favorite right bad after you your materphone and
when you're in the farmer drunk, I'm living napoo un ye.
Oh my favorite baby dad, Oh Halley, Halley, Daddy had
to bring.
Speaker 6 (08:59):
My oh.
Speaker 4 (09:13):
Every name right for me.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
You and you die for me. Oh, you are so
much you love me. I'm freak.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Your friends, welcome back. I hope you're blessed by the song.
So just to continue, like I mentioned earlier, I never
have never heard anybody, at least the best of my knowledge,
never heard anybody, not from school nor from my class,
ever talk about the experience that they my friends had
like them telling anybody. They might have told their family maybe,
but anybody else they never did. And now this singular
(09:52):
situation had a great impact on me growing up, and
they never knew. I think I got to realize this
probably four years after I left home for UNI, maybe
three four years after I left home for UNI. And
it just don't know me because my mother always used
to say she has this bemba saying I don't know.
I'll try my best to translate it to English, but
it's it says it's all one combat de lusuma. I
(10:14):
think in English the most, the most I can try
to translate it would be like being envious is not nice.
Envying other people people or people's things is not nice. Yeah,
So she always used to say this a lot to us,
all on combat delus on combat telosom And although like then,
I never fully understood the entire contest in chimany of
the statement, but a little bit it put like that
(10:37):
kind of fear in me, like if I see something
and I know I can't afford it to my parents,
can't afford it, like I just have to look away,
like I shouldn't even think of wanting to get it.
Like that, that consciousness was just there, and I feel
like looking back, not to a certain extent, it helped
me to stay content no matter what. Now, that is
not to say that I haven't had instance as well
(10:57):
falling into peer pressure. Definitely I have been, But for
the most part I can look back and I can
honestly say that it has saved me from jumping into anything,
whether it be trends or maybe styles that are happening, clothes,
music and all those kind of things because I always
had that thing in the back of my mind. It
almost felt like un kumba. That looks like it was
(11:17):
the threats, you know, like if we just that thing
rings in your head, it's like, ah, it's a matter
of life and day, so you better not have lun kumba.
I remember one time a friend of mine, like, just
to show you how clueless I would be of things,
still letters were trending at some point. I'm back in school,
and you know, with being in China, like when things happen,
(11:38):
there's always there's going to be the original, there's going
to be the counterfeit and whatnot. So everything is available,
readily available. So still letters were trending, and I didn't
know the records. Still letters. Then I could hear from
conversations from people, and I think the first time I
heard from me, I heard skeletal So I was just
like fine, skeletal heels, and it actually stuck in my head.
(11:59):
So one time, a very close friend of mine then
I think we were trying to find her pair online
to order, and I don't know what happened, but I
ended up saying skeletor heels, and the girl had a
good laugh, like she really had good laugh, And in
the moment I felt a little bit bad that she
laughed at me, But afterwards it's just like, you know what,
it's okay. Moreover, at least I don't even own a pay.
(12:21):
If I owned a parent that didn't know what it was,
it make me feel bad. But then it was also
learning a point from me. So they're not called skelator hiss,
but stilltter his so I got to learn. So there's
certain things that for me I was just oblievious about,
like I didn't really care if I have it I
have if I can't afford it, like I won't even
bother myself. I will stay with what I have and
just be there. I think a scripture I just randomly
(12:43):
stumbled on, and when I meet random just one of
those days when I just scrolling through your Bible you
just want to read something first time. Off it chapter six,
verse six and the biberries. But godliness with contentment is
great gain. Like the day that I read this scripture,
the first thing that came to my mind is alone combat.
And at this point I feel like it made sense
to me because I felt like I kind of like
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had a scripture back into what my mom used to say,
even if it's not like really directly related, but I
just really felt like, wow, this is really like what
my mom has been saying is actually a scripture. You know,
I might not have understood completely then, but I feel
like for me having read this scripture, though I believe
there are the scriptures which talks about who talk about
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envy and how it's bad they think among the seven
Deadly spirits or something like that. But having stumbled on
these scriptures, it like stealed everything for me, just like
laid the foundation. If I should say so now, I
would like to make mention to you guys that A
few years later, I later asked my mom, I think
I should have been in twenty twenty two. I was
home on a holiday, I asked her. I was like, Mommy,
(13:49):
do you remember the time when I was in primary
school and a group of friends visited me. She's like yes,
I asked, do you remember what to serve them? I
was like, no, I thought I was. She said, so
I thought it was a Monday. Then I'm sure she remember, like, okay,
definitely it was beans. Then I asked hers, like, Mammy,
so why didn't you like get some sausages or chicken,
(14:10):
maybe some meat or fish or eggs, Like why didn't
you get anything else but service beans? Like even went
to the extent we sure, So I just asked it, like, Mammy,
why didn't you, like, you know, do something else for us?
It's like, ah, what did you want me to do?
Then I told us, like do you know that whenever
we went to their house, we never ate anything like that,
like would eat meat, beef, chicky? Would it got meat,
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to eat sausages, anything else but beans? Then my mother
was like, oh, but you didn't tell me. If you
had told me, then out of cooks something different from
like you've had told me that that's what you were
eating at their house, and I've cooked something different from them.
And anyway, we just had a good laugh about it
because right now, like since that time, since that year
when I was from that twenty twenty two, it just
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so happens that my mother's pallette has changed. Her pallette
has changed, and she does not want to eat beans
within Shimar anymore. She wants to eat beans with rice
or if there's in Shima with beans, you should have
She will say, where is the where is the other protein,
Like where is the chicken or where is the sausage?
Where is something? Where is the fish?
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Maybe?
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Where is some sardines or something like add something. The
beans is not it's not counted like it's not it's
like it's not there anymore. So that's like my mom now,
after all the trauma she had put us growing up,
making sure that we eat the beans. So anyway, that's
just a little bit of the story that I need
to share with us. But there's something interesting that, you know,
as I was reflecting after we had that conversation, I
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got to release it done and had a time of
reflection and I picked up a few things that I'd
like to share with That's what we're going to be
concluding at today's topic. So we're going to take our
last musical break, and the song's gonna be coming from
Tim turning to Ghana and the song isn't take its
enjoying you.
Speaker 6 (15:59):
It's the come on he Man's why You're ready the
store wa to listen now?
Speaker 7 (16:05):
H yeah yeah yeah, oh no no no oh yeah
yeah yeah oh no no no, h yeah yeah yeah
that's it. Oh yeah yeah, yeah, oh no no, no,
everybody now.
Speaker 6 (16:23):
Come on, tell anybody now the store. Listen, do you
want to honeymost boy in the house where you went?
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Where you went? Come on? Lit to my sister, Lit
to my son that spot what two three? List come good?
Do you have a honey?
Speaker 6 (16:44):
Those people in the house where you went where you want?
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Are you ready?
Speaker 5 (16:49):
Now?
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Are you ready?
Speaker 5 (16:50):
Now?
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Listen?
Speaker 6 (16:53):
Listen, your sir, but be hondey hairs.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
I'm great cool for great sauce, Gibby, you want to
prey sauce, your sn co ma, how the hand off?
Pret cool for big sauce. Now only you don't want
to prey sauce.
Speaker 6 (17:10):
That's like your sons, my mo they handle I'm great
cool for Greig sauce. No holy you want to break sauce,
your sir my, how they hand off?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
I'm great fool for Greig sauce. No, holy you No,
I can not do one. Yeah that do? Come? Let
anybody give it to the give it to the fuck
yahd yes that do coble shirt your ship. I fin
come a fucking dog cat that do.
Speaker 6 (17:46):
Come give it to the hear it to the give
it to the to whe the honey bus. People want
in the house where you went where you went, come
come get them me?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
You de you just s not go away.
Speaker 6 (18:04):
My tips, leave my house a house, gave a house.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
How are you already?
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Now?
Speaker 2 (18:16):
So give respect mother part, so give my side, so.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
We'll come back. I hope you enjoyed that song. And
now just to come up with a conclusion, what did
I learn from what my mother did? Like car not
changing the menu because of the presence of my friends.
Number one, it helped me realize that I don't have
to fake anything. I don't have to pretend. I don't
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have to present myself in any way or to present
anything just to match up to a particular standard, whether
it's realistic or it's not realistic, Like I just have
to be me, regardless of the circumstances. And the other
thing that I believe is also important to me is
that for those that want to be in your life
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will be very regardless of who you are, what you are,
what you have, or what you don't have. And you know,
sometimes whenever there is a reason for people wanting to
be in your life, is always a because of this,
and the reason is something that is fleeting. That reason
can be unreasoned. If I should say there's going to
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be a point when that reason is not going to
be as valuable anymore. And so with the relationship or
the friendship. So these are the things that I really
learned from that situation where my mom didn't change. The
main that I shouldn't be fake and I shouldn't pretend.
And of course, people who really want me to be
in their lives I want to be a part of
my life, will be there for me or with me,
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regardless of what I am, I have, or what I
don't have, or what I am not. So just to
give a summary, I'm going to read from Philippians, chapter four,
verse eleven to twelve, from the message translation the Biberies. Actually,
I don't have a sense of needing anything personally. I've
learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances.
(20:20):
I'm just as happy with lead to as with much,
with much as with lead too. I found the recipe
for being happy, whether full or hungry, handsful or hands empty.
Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it
through anything in one who makes me who I am
a man. So that is our very famous philippiins For
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verse one to thirteen, I read from the message translation
and I hope that we have been placed by today's episodes.
So if beans is from Mondays, whatever that may represent,
beans be from Mondays in your life, allow the beans
to be from Mondays. You will survive. It will be
all right, Nothing is going to go wrong. So thank
you so much for your time. And just a little
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bit of an addition, maybe if there's anything that your
parents have ever done, your guardians, your spiritual authority, A
caution may be a word, something that they always told
you growing up, that was engraved in you, and when
you look back, it is something that you It has
somehow saved you from trouble, it has preserved you. If
I should say, well, you look back and you say,
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because of that thing that my mom or my dad
always used to say, my aunt, my uncle, my pastor
every time i'd speak with them, every time we'll do
something together, every time we're working, they would say this
particular thing, and it helped me. Leave them a message,
leave them a text. I think, if you're able to
get them flowers, get them flowers, but appreciate them while
you can. And so this is what I had to
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share for today. Thank you so much for your time.
Thanks for listening. This was Kanda African Blues Podcast and
I'm going to be signing out with a song by
Marizzo and it's called wonder Have a Beautiful Day, Stay.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Less walking on the road us.
Speaker 8 (22:03):
You know the issues and all that that she is
you yo, glue and everything you created. Nobody compass to
you him and hurt me and you he meet us wonderful,
wonderfully crafted, perfecting him, cause he lives in man.
Speaker 4 (22:22):
You know what I'm saying. He brack some god playing
and I carry cuss doc gess can't up with standing
light when I start being it.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Please out of side. That's side.
Speaker 4 (22:33):
I'm mahaa, gosh, guys, this my man.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
Go see Lis aside. That's side.
Speaker 4 (22:43):
I'm mahaa. This guy is This man lives aside.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
There is no heir brun. I say there is no.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
Head brun from against me, and it is small not
the next that can never prospy.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
There is no heir.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
But I've said there is no hair but coming against me.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
It is smaller.
Speaker 8 (23:07):
The next day can ever prosper.
Speaker 4 (23:10):
That's why everything sweet, everything nice, everything nice, so nice,
Just stick at me everything us nice, I thing gainst
then against me, no that's sorry. I'm Mohanda.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
That's guys. This my man go see Liz inside. That's sorry.
Speaker 4 (23:32):
I'm Mohandas this man say, lives inside.
Speaker 8 (23:39):
You know everything, everything, everything, everything.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
From the good from the goods.
Speaker 4 (23:48):
I don't know, sen me on look ausuals from every
initial im
What's some masheky, what's what's what's what's what's what's what's, what's,
what's what's a ma shakya, what's.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
All?
Speaker 1 (00:25):
What's what's what's your What's what's lasky.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
On your chair? Wande bony Exi then un Journeyshani, welcome
back to the African Blues Podcast. My name is Neska
and as leave Agisha will just say a word of prayer.
Heaven it Father, we just want to say thank you
for today. We give you the praise, the glory, the
honor and the adoration in the mighty name of Jesus Christ,
(01:16):
the Spirit of the Living God. We just want to
commit today's episode into your hands and we pray that
you alone may have your way, may lead us and
guide us. We pray that you may lead us into
attracting us to learn in this season in Jesus might name,
and I pray for everybody who will take time to listen,
that you may provide for them, for the Lord meet
them at their point of nism perfect everything that concerns
(01:37):
them and their loved ones. And the Mighty name of
Jesus Christ. The prayer with thanks giving and praise in
my heart Amen. So we're going to have our opening
scripture is coming from Psalms chapter two. We're going to
read from verse eight to eleven, and the barbaries ask me,
and I will make the nations to inherit us the
ends of the earth your possession. You will break them
at the road of iron, and you will touch them
like pieces of poetry. Therefore, you kings be wad be warned,
(02:01):
You rulers of the earth, serve the Lord with fear
and celebrate his roule with trembling. Amen. So that's a
scripture that we are running with for today and our
topic for today it's honestly, it's a story that I'm telling.
It's just a story that I also believe has had
some spiritual significance in my life and I just want
(02:22):
to share with us today. So the topic for today
is beans is from Mondays and I'm going to be
exposing my mother a lot today or just a little bit,
not a lot. So I don't know if it's in
every Zambian home growing up, but for me, when I
was growing up, every Monday would have beans with okra
and is shima. Whether you liked it or not, whether
you were sick, you're, well, you have beans on Monday,
(02:45):
you would get lucky to have some chicken with the beans,
or just chicken if there was some chicken left over
from Sunday. But that also depends on the people that
you're living with you're going to have leftovers. So it
just all happened that in this particular Monday, it was
a holiday. And so I got an unexpected visit, very
(03:05):
surprising and shocking visit from some friends from school. So
these were like my really really close friends back in
primary school. This should have been either grade five or
grade six if I'm not mistaken. And so my friends
come and I'm just in shock. Now the shock was
not because they visited abruptly, but because of what I
knew was cooking, because they came on a Monday. The
(03:26):
reason I was I was in shock was because with
this particular family, every time that we went to their house,
like we ate everything else and anything else apart from beans.
So most of the times that they would do is
maybe after school at the school bus is dropping them
off first, their mom or their older siblings would be
like Corneicily and the other guys that we used to
(03:46):
hang out with used to be like this little knit family,
So they would be like corne Cilia and these other people.
Let them come in and eat before they go home.
Then either the driver would take them home or get
them the taxi to go home. So would like get
off the back and go eat. Would either have beef,
would have chicken, got meat, sausages, you could have anything
(04:07):
else that you want, anything bush meat, anything that's just
not beans. And so I had that in the back
of my mind and I was just thinking, oh my goodness,
and yeah, well come then time was moving ten, it
was eleven, and it was twelve, and I think around
twelve thirty they're about lunch was served, And honestly, I
was praying, and I was hoping that deep down they
(04:30):
might have just compromised a little bit on the menu
because my friends had come. Maybe they fried some sausages
for them, maybe some meat or even just fish or
some eggs. I don't know, but I just I was
hoping that they would have done something and added to
be beans or hopefully not serve the beans. But no,
the beans was served. And on this particular day, my
(04:53):
darling dearest mother decided to go very local. I don't
know if it's because she was home, it was a holiday.
She she started to go into her deepest, deepest Namonga
roots and she decided to Sashila the poop boy. So
it wasn't it wasn't awkward that we're having on this day.
We had I think the English name for purpo is
no board, so for those that may know, you can
just google no boards. So it's very like the leaf
(05:16):
is blended, it's grinded, then it's very like fine, and
then you can add peanut paste. I think that's the
best I can describe. So that's what she made, and
that's a very like traditional traditional meal four like in
her tribe. So my mother decided to really go tradition
on that day. And yeah, that's how they made that.
She made the no board the poop boy sin so
(05:36):
Sheilla liked the poop way. We could not even see
the tomatoes in the poop or the poopo was just
there with the peanuts that was staring at usin in
our faces. And now that's how we ate the food.
My friend ate the food like nothing was honestly, like
like nothing was wrong. They were just eating and I
was wondering in my head, like God, what exactly is
going on in their mind?
Speaker 2 (05:57):
You know.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
I was just so so so nervous and so. And
the holiday finished, we went back to school, and I
was just like, I was thinking, like when am I
just going to hear the story from either Mary classmates
or from like the school. And because your girl was
used to be very talkative back then, she used to
really yeah, she was known in school, So I was
(06:19):
expecting somebody in class would say it, or somebody in school.
I'll hear it from somewhere, but till today, like I've
never heard of it, you know, just the insecurities of
being like young, but till today, like I've never heard
of it. So anyway, we'll take a musical break. And
I just started to read a look twelve verse fifteen
before we get to continue the bibraries. I'm taking it
(06:39):
from amplified Amplified classic says, and he said to them,
guard yourselves and keep free from all conviciousness, the immoderate
desire for wealth, the greedy longing to have more from
Ma's life, does not consist in, and does not derive
from possessing overflowing abundance or that which is over and
(07:01):
above his needs. Amen. So we're going to take our
first musical break. And the song is coming from Limo
Blaze and it's entitled Hallelujah enjoyed the song be blessed
as you listen.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Oh yeah, oh no, no, no, no.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Famo, that's no, I tell you.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Yo, Dylan, now your diabyz not he when he come
for my case, But dad did not use me playing now,
I said, no, dling now me, I want to praise
now when you come for my case, my dad did
not use me play. He carving my mataphone. I've been
deformed my dony, but then you pull me in. Yes's
(07:52):
my favorite, right baby, Yes, you carving my mataphone. Hell,
I've been deformed my donk, but then he pulled me.
Speaker 4 (08:00):
Yeah yeah, oh my favorite baby dad.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Oh halley alleh. Daddy had to bring my holiday holiday holiday.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
Daddy had to bring my holiday aldayl allein. Paddy had
to bring my holiday. Daddy had to bring my holday attention.
Speaker 5 (08:23):
We they give me your attention along with Mark matell
and not send the arrow an tell oh my baby,
be here, you're my favorite, right pray be here a
challenge It is nothing know me are there for you?
Short you After having your ma telephone, and when you're
being the phone my drunk, Kenny, I'm being nipple Union, Yes,
(08:44):
in my favorite right bad after you your materphone and
when you're in the farmer drunk, I'm living napoo un ye.
Oh my favorite baby dad, Oh Halley, Halley, Daddy had
to bring.
Speaker 6 (08:59):
My oh.
Speaker 4 (09:13):
Every name right for me.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
You and you die for me. Oh, you are so
much you love me. I'm freak.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Your friends, welcome back. I hope you're blessed by the song.
So just to continue, like I mentioned earlier, I never
have never heard anybody, at least the best of my knowledge,
never heard anybody, not from school nor from my class,
ever talk about the experience that they my friends had
like them telling anybody. They might have told their family maybe,
but anybody else they never did. And now this singular
(09:52):
situation had a great impact on me growing up, and
they never knew. I think I got to realize this
probably four years after I left home for UNI, maybe
three four years after I left home for UNI. And
it just don't know me because my mother always used
to say she has this bemba saying I don't know.
I'll try my best to translate it to English, but
it's it says it's all one combat de lusuma. I
(10:14):
think in English the most, the most I can try
to translate it would be like being envious is not nice.
Envying other people people or people's things is not nice. Yeah,
So she always used to say this a lot to us,
all on combat delus on combat telosom And although like then,
I never fully understood the entire contest in chimany of
the statement, but a little bit it put like that
(10:37):
kind of fear in me, like if I see something
and I know I can't afford it to my parents,
can't afford it, like I just have to look away,
like I shouldn't even think of wanting to get it.
Like that, that consciousness was just there, and I feel
like looking back, not to a certain extent, it helped
me to stay content no matter what. Now, that is
not to say that I haven't had instance as well
(10:57):
falling into peer pressure. Definitely I have been, But for
the most part I can look back and I can
honestly say that it has saved me from jumping into anything,
whether it be trends or maybe styles that are happening, clothes,
music and all those kind of things because I always
had that thing in the back of my mind. It
almost felt like un kumba. That looks like it was
(11:17):
the threats, you know, like if we just that thing
rings in your head, it's like, ah, it's a matter
of life and day, so you better not have lun kumba.
I remember one time a friend of mine, like, just
to show you how clueless I would be of things,
still letters were trending at some point. I'm back in school,
and you know, with being in China, like when things happen,
(11:38):
there's always there's going to be the original, there's going
to be the counterfeit and whatnot. So everything is available,
readily available. So still letters were trending, and I didn't
know the records. Still letters. Then I could hear from
conversations from people, and I think the first time I
heard from me, I heard skeletal So I was just
like fine, skeletal heels, and it actually stuck in my head.
(11:59):
So one time, a very close friend of mine then
I think we were trying to find her pair online
to order, and I don't know what happened, but I
ended up saying skeletor heels, and the girl had a
good laugh, like she really had good laugh, And in
the moment I felt a little bit bad that she
laughed at me, But afterwards it's just like, you know what,
it's okay. Moreover, at least I don't even own a pay.
(12:21):
If I owned a parent that didn't know what it was,
it make me feel bad. But then it was also
learning a point from me. So they're not called skelator hiss,
but stilltter his so I got to learn. So there's
certain things that for me I was just oblievious about,
like I didn't really care if I have it I
have if I can't afford it, like I won't even
bother myself. I will stay with what I have and
just be there. I think a scripture I just randomly
(12:43):
stumbled on, and when I meet random just one of
those days when I just scrolling through your Bible you
just want to read something first time. Off it chapter six,
verse six and the biberries. But godliness with contentment is
great gain. Like the day that I read this scripture,
the first thing that came to my mind is alone combat.
And at this point I feel like it made sense
to me because I felt like I kind of like
(13:05):
had a scripture back into what my mom used to say,
even if it's not like really directly related, but I
just really felt like, wow, this is really like what
my mom has been saying is actually a scripture. You know,
I might not have understood completely then, but I feel
like for me having read this scripture, though I believe
there are the scriptures which talks about who talk about
(13:26):
envy and how it's bad they think among the seven
Deadly spirits or something like that. But having stumbled on
these scriptures, it like stealed everything for me, just like
laid the foundation. If I should say so now, I
would like to make mention to you guys that A
few years later, I later asked my mom, I think
I should have been in twenty twenty two. I was
home on a holiday, I asked her. I was like, Mommy,
(13:49):
do you remember the time when I was in primary
school and a group of friends visited me. She's like yes,
I asked, do you remember what to serve them? I
was like, no, I thought I was. She said, so
I thought it was a Monday. Then I'm sure she remember, like, okay,
definitely it was beans. Then I asked hers, like, Mammy,
so why didn't you like get some sausages or chicken,
(14:10):
maybe some meat or fish or eggs, Like why didn't
you get anything else but service beans? Like even went
to the extent we sure, So I just asked it, like, Mammy,
why didn't you, like, you know, do something else for us?
It's like, ah, what did you want me to do?
Then I told us, like do you know that whenever
we went to their house, we never ate anything like that,
like would eat meat, beef, chicky? Would it got meat,
(14:33):
to eat sausages, anything else but beans? Then my mother
was like, oh, but you didn't tell me. If you
had told me, then out of cooks something different from
like you've had told me that that's what you were
eating at their house, and I've cooked something different from them.
And anyway, we just had a good laugh about it
because right now, like since that time, since that year
when I was from that twenty twenty two, it just
(14:55):
so happens that my mother's pallette has changed. Her pallette
has changed, and she does not want to eat beans
within Shimar anymore. She wants to eat beans with rice
or if there's in Shima with beans, you should have
She will say, where is the where is the other protein,
Like where is the chicken or where is the sausage?
Where is something? Where is the fish?
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Maybe?
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Where is some sardines or something like add something. The
beans is not it's not counted like it's not it's
like it's not there anymore. So that's like my mom now,
after all the trauma she had put us growing up,
making sure that we eat the beans. So anyway, that's
just a little bit of the story that I need
to share with us. But there's something interesting that, you know,
as I was reflecting after we had that conversation, I
(15:37):
got to release it done and had a time of
reflection and I picked up a few things that I'd
like to share with That's what we're going to be
concluding at today's topic. So we're going to take our
last musical break, and the song's gonna be coming from
Tim turning to Ghana and the song isn't take its
enjoying you.
Speaker 6 (15:59):
It's the come on he Man's why You're ready the
store wa to listen now?
Speaker 7 (16:05):
H yeah yeah yeah, oh no no no oh yeah
yeah yeah oh no no no, h yeah yeah yeah
that's it. Oh yeah yeah, yeah, oh no no, no,
everybody now.
Speaker 6 (16:23):
Come on, tell anybody now the store. Listen, do you
want to honeymost boy in the house where you went?
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Where you went? Come on? Lit to my sister, Lit
to my son that spot what two three? List come good?
Do you have a honey?
Speaker 6 (16:44):
Those people in the house where you went where you want?
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Are you ready?
Speaker 5 (16:49):
Now?
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Are you ready?
Speaker 5 (16:50):
Now?
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Listen?
Speaker 6 (16:53):
Listen, your sir, but be hondey hairs.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
I'm great cool for great sauce, Gibby, you want to
prey sauce, your sn co ma, how the hand off?
Pret cool for big sauce. Now only you don't want
to prey sauce.
Speaker 6 (17:10):
That's like your sons, my mo they handle I'm great
cool for Greig sauce. No holy you want to break sauce,
your sir my, how they hand off?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
I'm great fool for Greig sauce. No, holy you No,
I can not do one. Yeah that do? Come? Let
anybody give it to the give it to the fuck
yahd yes that do coble shirt your ship. I fin
come a fucking dog cat that do.
Speaker 6 (17:46):
Come give it to the hear it to the give
it to the to whe the honey bus. People want
in the house where you went where you went, come
come get them me?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
You de you just s not go away.
Speaker 6 (18:04):
My tips, leave my house a house, gave a house.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
How are you already?
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Now?
Speaker 2 (18:16):
So give respect mother part, so give my side, so.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
We'll come back. I hope you enjoyed that song. And
now just to come up with a conclusion, what did
I learn from what my mother did? Like car not
changing the menu because of the presence of my friends.
Number one, it helped me realize that I don't have
to fake anything. I don't have to pretend. I don't
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have to present myself in any way or to present
anything just to match up to a particular standard, whether
it's realistic or it's not realistic, Like I just have
to be me, regardless of the circumstances. And the other
thing that I believe is also important to me is
that for those that want to be in your life
(19:17):
will be very regardless of who you are, what you are,
what you have, or what you don't have. And you know,
sometimes whenever there is a reason for people wanting to
be in your life, is always a because of this,
and the reason is something that is fleeting. That reason
can be unreasoned. If I should say there's going to
(19:37):
be a point when that reason is not going to
be as valuable anymore. And so with the relationship or
the friendship. So these are the things that I really
learned from that situation where my mom didn't change. The
main that I shouldn't be fake and I shouldn't pretend.
And of course, people who really want me to be
in their lives I want to be a part of
my life, will be there for me or with me,
(19:57):
regardless of what I am, I have, or what I
don't have, or what I am not. So just to
give a summary, I'm going to read from Philippians, chapter four,
verse eleven to twelve, from the message translation the Biberies. Actually,
I don't have a sense of needing anything personally. I've
learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances.
(20:20):
I'm just as happy with lead to as with much,
with much as with lead too. I found the recipe
for being happy, whether full or hungry, handsful or hands empty.
Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it
through anything in one who makes me who I am
a man. So that is our very famous philippiins For
(20:43):
verse one to thirteen, I read from the message translation
and I hope that we have been placed by today's episodes.
So if beans is from Mondays, whatever that may represent,
beans be from Mondays in your life, allow the beans
to be from Mondays. You will survive. It will be
all right, Nothing is going to go wrong. So thank
you so much for your time. And just a little
(21:04):
bit of an addition, maybe if there's anything that your
parents have ever done, your guardians, your spiritual authority, A
caution may be a word, something that they always told
you growing up, that was engraved in you, and when
you look back, it is something that you It has
somehow saved you from trouble, it has preserved you. If
I should say, well, you look back and you say,
(21:24):
because of that thing that my mom or my dad
always used to say, my aunt, my uncle, my pastor
every time i'd speak with them, every time we'll do
something together, every time we're working, they would say this
particular thing, and it helped me. Leave them a message,
leave them a text. I think, if you're able to
get them flowers, get them flowers, but appreciate them while
you can. And so this is what I had to
(21:45):
share for today. Thank you so much for your time.
Thanks for listening. This was Kanda African Blues Podcast and
I'm going to be signing out with a song by
Marizzo and it's called wonder Have a Beautiful Day, Stay.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Less walking on the road us.
Speaker 8 (22:03):
You know the issues and all that that she is
you yo, glue and everything you created. Nobody compass to
you him and hurt me and you he meet us wonderful,
wonderfully crafted, perfecting him, cause he lives in man.
Speaker 4 (22:22):
You know what I'm saying. He brack some god playing
and I carry cuss doc gess can't up with standing
light when I start being it.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Please out of side. That's side.
Speaker 4 (22:33):
I'm mahaa, gosh, guys, this my man.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
Go see Lis aside. That's side.
Speaker 4 (22:43):
I'm mahaa. This guy is This man lives aside.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
There is no heir brun. I say there is no.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
Head brun from against me, and it is small not
the next that can never prospy.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
There is no heir.
Speaker 4 (23:02):
But I've said there is no hair but coming against me.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
It is smaller.
Speaker 8 (23:07):
The next day can ever prosper.
Speaker 4 (23:10):
That's why everything sweet, everything nice, everything nice, so nice,
Just stick at me everything us nice, I thing gainst
then against me, no that's sorry. I'm Mohanda.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
That's guys. This my man go see Liz inside. That's sorry.
Speaker 4 (23:32):
I'm Mohandas this man say, lives inside.
Speaker 8 (23:39):
You know everything, everything, everything, everything.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
From the good from the goods.
Speaker 4 (23:48):
I don't know, sen me on look ausuals from every
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