May 20, 2022 • 34 mins
✌🏼 Ride or Die Or Ride or Thrive! OPENING SCRIPTURE PSALM 20 :1-9
Isn’t it amazing how we adopt certain trends or sayings without fully understanding the meaning behind them or how they came about.
I’ve heard this saying before and honestly, I never knew what it meant.
Just a quick one on the meaning , ride or die is a term used to describe a person (usually a woman) that is willing to do anything for their partner, friend, or family, even in the face of danger or it kills you.
Listen in and share your thoughts too…
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Isn’t it amazing how we adopt certain trends or sayings without fully understanding the meaning behind them or how they came about.
I’ve heard this saying before and honestly, I never knew what it meant.
Just a quick one on the meaning , ride or die is a term used to describe a person (usually a woman) that is willing to do anything for their partner, friend, or family, even in the face of danger or it kills you.
Listen in and share your thoughts too…
Be Blessed ✨
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Let me make you gave friends friendsnothing makes sense. I would you move
over with the blood chollom and welcomeback to listen to the podcast. I
hope you're doing well. Yes,it's Friday, all about the weekend vibes,
bring you some good music and ofcourse I'm interesting to talk about.
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And remember we are all about thriving. So how's your week been? How
was today? How did your Mondaystart? Do you have the three things
that we're supposed to you know,share three areas that you think of it
like you would thrive that in thisweek? Unfortunately I have to I didn't
make it to three, so Iwill share my two. But I hope
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you also have you too. Thatwill also encourage me to keep moving and
pushing. I was actually thinking earliertoday it's a hashtag tg I still that
common, you know, I don'tknow. I don't know. I was
thinking about it. But anyway,if it's not, I have a new
hashtag for us. And guess whatit is? Tcay if because we're thriving.
So we're going to be thriving becauseit's Friday. Who says you cannot
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meet our goals even at the lastminute. The week is ending. But
who says we cannot do what we'remeant to do things that we didn't manage
to do. You know, theBible says sometimes God works at the eleventh
hours, so I mean he cangive us the ability to do the same.
So it feels Please feel encouraged.Don't be discouraged. Just in case
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you plan to do something you didn'tmanage to do it, say show prayer,
put yourself together and just speak itup. Who knows you just might
end up succeeding at it. SoI'm going to read our opening scripture and
it's coming from some twenty and theBible reads, May the Lord answer you
when you're in distress. May thename of the God of Jacob protect you.
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May he send you home from thesanctuary and grant you support from Zion.
May he remember all your sacrifices andaccept your burnt offerings. May He
give you the desire of your heartand make all your plans succeed. May
we shout for joy over your victoryand lift up our banners in the name
of our God. May the Lordgrant you all your requests. Now this
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I know the Lord gives victory too. He's anointed, he answers him from
his heavenly sanctuary and the victorious spowerof his right hand. Some trust in
chariots and some in horses, butwe trust in the name of the Lord,
our God. They are brought totheir knees and fall, but you
rise up and stand firm. Lord, give victory to the king. King
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sorry answer us when we call aman. So that is an opening scripture
just to encourage us. I guessto keep calling on the Lord because indeed,
at the end of the day hewill still answer us. Most importantly
to hip our trust in him,because we will never be put to shame.
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So today's topic again is yet justanother saying that I've heard about a
lot. And this as saying is, or should I say, phrase,
the phrase ride or die. AndI think many of us have probably been
used it, or have friends thatI've used it, or partners or maybe
family members that I've used the phraserite or die, maybe asked you to
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be a writer or die? Friend, ritter die, partner, right or
die, family member, whatever thatit is. And so I got very
curious. I'm like, why shouldwe be writing and dying? Why don't
we write and thrives. Isn't impossiblethat we can be people that are writing
and thriving, you know, Andit just it it's I got so curious
again just to go and read moreabout it, like where did this come
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from? Exactly what brought about thephrase ride or die? How did it
spread? And why did it spread? Probably, you know, And so
I'm just going to read a fewthings. I'm going to read its meaning
first, then maybe I'll share theorigin and how it's spread as well.
So the meaning for the term rideor die simply means to describe usually a
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woman that is willing to do anythingfor their partner, friend, or family,
even in the face of danger oreven if it kills them. So
now the origin of write or die, so right or dow, initially had
a different meaning in the nineteen fiftyso that's when it's starting. The nineteen
nineteen fifties. It was a slangfor bikers, all these bikers, big,
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big, big people, tattoos andwhatnot bikers, So that's where it
started, and the meaning was differentthen. So its meaning that then meant
that it reflected on the fact thatif you're a biker and couldn't ride,
you'd rather die, you know.But then over the years the meaning and
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the sense of it all began tochange. Now, when did it start
spreading and who started spreading it?So like in the early is it in
the earlier of the late should bethe late nineties to two thousands hip hop
artists like ice Cube, jay Zand the Locks. I don't know who
the Locks is, but I knowice Cube and jay Z. Yeah,
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so they started using this one.Okay, they started using it, and
they changed it, you know,they changed it from ride and Die to
ride or Die. So in thebeginning it was ride and die. Then
they later changed to ride or Die. And then people letter began to spread
it in their songs, people likeLeo Wayne as Driven now Baby Ganster.
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I don't know who Driven and BabyGanster are, but I know Leo Wayne.
And so over the years it's gottento just keep on changing and changing
and changing. But its origin itwas bikers and initially it was ride and
die, not to ride or Die. And I was just thinking that,
isn't it amazing? And how mostof the times we get to pick things
that we don't know, we justhear because it sounds fancy, It sounds
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catchy, and we adopt these thingswithout really knowing the meaning behind it,
where it came from, or justnot knowing its background, its origin,
you know. And then it continuesto say that the statement, the phrase
right, write or die now isoften used to praise, you know,
people in this aspect that you've heardit's like women for their fierce loyalty and
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commitment to their partner, you know, although in most cases it has a
hidden cord which is kind of relatedor kind of like sends out or perceives
unhealthy relationships, if I can saythat. Yeah, so it is used
to praise women, not women,praise people sorry for their fierce loyty and
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commitment, but has a hidden cordof unhealthy relationships. So in cases we're
in a healthy relationships, you areimpression to prove your love or take a
fall for a partner. You're alsonot required to endure unfair treatment of any
kind. But when you're write ordie all those things you have to you
know, catch alambano. Then wehave to hold on to all these things.
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And I'm going to read this inthe Bible. That kind of helped
me come to the understanding that thisnarrative probably since it has spread so much
that people is in write or die, Write or die? How bad we
write or thrive? You know?Or write and thrive instead. And the
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story of Naomi, Ruth and Oppahis what came to my mind when I
strength to think about which kind ofperson can I relate or which kind of
people can I relate this this phraseto? And so we're not about the
story now. Me is married toElimelech and they have three sons, sorry,
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two sons, and then these twosons are their husbands to Ruth and
Opah, and then they die.So Naomi loses her husband Alimeleic and have
two sons who had Naomi and Opah'ssorry Ruth and Oppa's husbands, and so
she's widowed. And then she hasno sons. And then they're just the
three of them. I think weknow the story. They just remain the
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three of them. And then shetells them that they should go away because
she has nothing to give them,even if she wanted to, even if
she remarried and her children would theywait for them to grow and then she
should give them to the ladies,to the women to marry again. That
won't be possible, and she tellsthem to go their way. So Auntie
Apa decides, okay, you knowwhat, it makes sense. She leaves.
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And then Ruth is like, no, I am stay, I will
I will, I will go whereveryou go, where you die, I
will die. Your God shall bemy God, and all those things.
She yeah, I think here iswhere you can see like Ruth has been
the she's been the right or diecheek here, you know. But that's
not what exactly got my attention inthe story. So quickly just going to
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read from Ruth chapter two, andI read from verse two in the Treats
and Ruth, the more Abites sayto Naomi, let me go to the
field and pick up the left overgreenbehind anyone in whose eyes I find favor.
Naomi said to her, go ahead, my daughter. So she went
out, entered the field and beganto glean behind the harvesters. As it
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turned out, she was working inthe field belonging to Boas, who was
from the clan of Elimelek. Sowe know that Elimelek is sorry BoA's is
kind of in the same plan asElimelek, who was Naomi's husband, and
so of course we know what happens, Ruth meets Boas and the rest is
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history. We have a fairy talestory there and that happens. But what
really, really, like I said, caught my attention, here is the
part where Neconomic allows Ruth to goand do her thing. So I'm just
trying to think, you know,it's both of them are morning, right.
Ruth is morning, her husband,No me is morning. Her husband
and her two sons, you know. And of course they didn't even leave
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like any children behind her. Shedoesn't have any like grandchildren or anybody,
just hold on to and you know, be comported. And yet she still
allows her daughter in loaves to goand do their thing. Of course maybe
she did it from a place ofhurt, but she still allows them.
She did not like, she didnot tell them to stay with her,
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or force them to be mourning withher, to be crying with her,
to be throwing petty parties with her. But she says, you not go
do your thing. You know,we've been on this road together. But
now go and do your thing.And then of course Opa goes. We
don't know how opahs story ends.I don't know. I think I need
to read about it. But thenwe know about Ruth. She let her
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miss boards and it's a very goodstory. And so even with her meeting
boys when they when they went towhen they had traveled and went what was
the place that they went to,Bethlehem? Yes, it was in Bethlehem.
So when they went there and Ruthwanted to do something, Naomi again
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did not like hold her and sayno, these are not your people,
they will not accept you. Youyou're a widow. And she allowed her.
She just like, let her be, go and do what you want
to do. And I just thoughtto myself, like this was really healthy,
that the kind of relationship that theyhad was really healthy. She wasn't
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imposing like her personal believes, herperson or her pain. She wasn't imposing
her like what she was feeling orwhat she wasn't feeling on She allowed her
to go and do her thing.And when Boa said it to marry her,
she was okay with it. Andthat just encouraged me. You know
that it is possible that we couldactually change this. We shouldn't be writing
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and dying, but we should bewriting and thriving. Let's allow people to
do their thing if the person wantsto go and you know, explore different
aspects, probably on the same path. You could be same class, same
school, same family. But theyjust said, okay, maybe let me
try this, like allow them.If it was the wrong step, they'll
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come back, you know, andnot just stay and impose things on people
to do because it is good inyour eyes, and you want them to
do it because that's what it seemsright in your eyes. And yeah,
we are going to now later discussa few things that I found interesting about
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like how this write or die statementgot go to, like how it has
got into the society, if Ishould say, and for most of the
part, I think the people thathave spread it, like it's like the
world people from the world, ifI can say that, that just it's
like celebrities. They're the ones thathave spread this notion, and we have
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just picked it without really thinking aboutit. What is this exactly? What
imposing it from people? Sometimes indirectly, sometimes directly. You know, we
don't even know what exactly is goingon. And I think I'm going to
read I read one story particularly thatI think we can maybe learn a few
things from. And so let's takethe first musical break and this is coming
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from a notaria. The name ofthe song is staying with me the blessed.
As you listen, this isn't managesintisinally ranitiously, no lee, why
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do I have to Gosh forever wantsyour eyes on me? Wady Indian nopan
gags. That's a bad me.It's on me. I know, I
know everything's all around me. Youare the Rana, So stay with me.
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Oh, by by god, Iwon't you stay me with me from
my nanny, stay me, sayyou be stay with me, baba,
But no, hyper I still goeswith tears. My face ain't heaven in
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purpose. I tripped over too manytimes when I found our eyes again eating
of for gavity. That's at thatbaby's army. And I know all you
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are. I know, I know, So stay awa with me. Oh
my god, I won't just stayhere with me. From my name,
stay here with me. Stay yourmeaner saying stay here with me, Mama,
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don't turn your face away from me. I know this life with that
jewison only above the world. Pleasedon't show your friends away from me.
I know this time without jewisly upon. Well, stay with me. I'm
my back. God, won't youstay with me from my nanny, Stay
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with me, say you'll be there, Stay with me, by by,
stay with me, by my God. Won't just stay with me from my
nanny? Stay say your bed,say stay here with me? The back
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o, Amen starch you beautiful,beautiful melodies. I hope we have enjoyed.
So still on the topic, rideor die? Or should I say
ride or thrive? I think nowwe know that initially it was ride and
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die, then it's changed to rideor die, I guess, And then
maybe I'd like to say, howabout we ride or thrive? Excuse me,
you know. And so just tocontinue, I'd like to read I
said it's going to be astir Butit's just a commentary, and the first
one is about Tei and his wifeis written formal wife, So I'm not
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being a bit behind what's happening withTea and Tiny. But anyway, so
Ti and Tiny, then there's Guccimen as well. So the commentary simply
says when rapper Ti and his formerwife Tiny were arrested for drugs, we
saw the ride or diamontality in action. When fifty cents treated that Tiny should
take the four for her man,and when Guchi men are proposed to longtime
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girlfriend Okay Keisha. Many people onsocial media proclaim that the proposal was well
deserved, a well deserved reward forKitius to Kisha for sticking to the troubled
rapper through his struggles of drug addiction, infidelity, and incarceration. Hmm,
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so it was a reward. Sowhether you love the famous couple or not,
it's clear that the ride or Diettroupe normalizes unhealthy behaviors and rewards people
for staying unhealthy relationships, whether theyare routinely neglected and mistreated by their partner.
This can be especially harmful to Blackwomen, who are disproportionally impacted by
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unhealthy and abusive relationships. So inthis particular article, this is what is
being this is what is being saidanyway, So those are kind of like
examples the extent to which, likethis red and die mentality was saying,
has actually spread. And what ismaking people? Do you know, they're
sticking, They're staining infidelity, theseeking people who have been incarcerated, drug
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addicts or whatever it is. Idon't really have much to comment about it,
but I just thought I should givelike the knowledge of where this statement
came where it came from, youknow, and what exactly people the definition
of the world and the impact ithad on them, you know. And
so back to our story of Naomi, Uppah and Ruth, I think we
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see something here. We see somegood lessons from what Naomi did Here.
Naomi was just their mother in noshe probably had her own traditions, her
own beliefs, yet she did notimpose them on her daughter in laws.
You know. She was willing torelease them to go and experience the world
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again, to go and remarried,to go and be happy. She was
willing to do that despite her ownloss. But I sometimes I think that
I think even I have indirectly madepeople, you know, like write or
die for me without knowing, becauseprobably I know something in a certain way.
I believe something should be done ina certain way. I feel like
if you don't do this, you'reprobably doing the wrong thing. You know.
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Sometimes necessarily that you're just you willpoint to black tails somebody, Yeah,
you if you you better ride ordie. You know, you're either
riding with me or you die.Either riding with me or you go.
You know. But how about alove pole to write and thrive and still
be with them, you know,like write, thrive, go do your
thing. I will accept you forwho you are. You know, I
will still be there for you becausethat's what you've chosen to do. And
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if at all they find that thepath that they went to throw or whatever
that is, they will still comeback, you know. But at the
end of the day, all I'mjust trying to say, just allow people
to write and do what thrive.And so I'm just going to quickly read
a few things that I think canalso help us to evaluate ourselves and maybe
the friendships or relationships that we mayfind ourselves in. And before I get
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to read that, there's a questionI'd like to pause and maybe we can
just jutt it down and just thinkabout it. So, is it possible
that the right or die mentality isa sense of duty or blind loyalty?
Is it possible that the sense ofthe statement write or die is a sense
of duty or blind loyalty? Youknow, in the aspect where some people
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get to lose sight of their ownvalues, is it blind loyalty? This
is a sense of duty. Sohere are a few signs that maybe we
can use to evaluate whether or notyou're in a read or die relationship.
And then the first one is youfollow your partner without question. You're willing
to engage in activities that make youuncomfortable and wouldn't normally do so. I
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think this one is basically talking aboutpartners, but I think it applies to
friendship, families, whatever that itmay be. You were things that are
a symbol of your loyalty. Youexplain your partners. You explain away your
partner's bad behavior, your partner's priorityover your family and friends. You've been
confronted by a friend who sees yourrelationship as controlling. You feel the need
to hide your partner's actions or thingsyou do together. Your partner encourages you
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to take one for the team.You've already accepted blame or consequences for their
negative or illegal actions. You know, this might not be exactly everything,
but it's just away things that againI thought resonated better and that easier to
just understand. And it might notnecessarily be a relationship kind of setup.
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It can be family, it canbe friends. So these are quite I
think some good points. Just sitdown on and just e very weight,
you know, and if at allyou have imposed on people or anybody,
a friend, a family member.I think it's never too late to just
let it go, cut the tidesand allow the person to thrive. Let's
take another musical break, and nowwe come and look at some ways to
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consider how to set boundaries, youknow, if at all we find ourselves
in these kind of situations, orhow we can even help other people sell
bound set boundaries too, if wethink they're in those situations. And we're
gonna take a musical break, startthis little place with at that heat with
okay the blessed as you listen alongabout me, lookay, my god,
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you don't want for me, Yougave me good to love nothing the better,
the fair see vera about me fromme one the rejascle on the re
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jack Paris listen to. Okay,okay, we love smarter. Okay,
that to your love and sols forshure your love smartertoa pharasata emharis you do
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me fum me. They read gentleemparisons. They read gentle Emerson. Check
me like chack chack cho just holdme check job first, learning a collectibles.
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Okay, okay, listener, lookI'm just a little looking person.
I want to second. Okay,okay, your love is smarter and okay,
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okay, okay you love and yes, God's life is more than okay
all day, every day. Soyeah, so back to talking about how
to set boundaries. You know,uh, maybe people might let me talk
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about walking away just consider sitting boundaries, because I think that for most of
us when it comes to like friendships, especially that we invest so much,
and maybe walking away might not bethe best thing to do. Maybe just
say boundaries, talk about it.I think that would help a lot.
Excuse me, And I think likeone of the things one of the first
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things that we can do to startthat process would be when you're asked to
do something you're not comfortable with,be able to speak up right away if
something doesn't feel right, trust yourGod, be honest about what you will
and won't do. Remember that it'shealthy to take time away from a relationship
or a friendship if you need it. Take responsibility for your own actions,
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not to people around you or theparties involved. Leave if you see or
experience anything that puts you in danger. Danger if you've shared how you feel
and your boundaries aren't respected, thenit's time to move on. So that's
just basically basically it honestly, that'sjust what I wanted to share for today.
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It's not much, but I hopeit helps somebody to just take some
time and just really really evaluate,am I in a ride or die friendship?
Right or die relationship? What exactlymy doing? You're supposed to be
thriving and not dying. And justremember that this statement, it's what it
started with or where it started from, isn't what it is today. It
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has totally been misinterpreted, misinterpreted.Yes, so initially it was ride and
die for bikers. If you can'tride, then you die, So you
better ride. You better know howto ride a bike, you know.
So yeah, and maybe just alittle bit of a take hot, let's
just be careful the things that weadopt, you know, because of the
norms, because of society, becauseit was's trending, because if you don't
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understand anything in the Bible says no, you should get wisdom. And in
all in all that getting it anunderstanding, you know, let's just no
pig things and take them because andconsume them because that is what is trending.
And so that was it for today'spodcast. I hope you've enjoyed learned
one or two things. Oh mybad, I haven't shared my three things.
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Yes, yes, yes, beforewe close. I didn't get to
do three things like I said earlier. I only did two. And the
first one was just to learn aboutfinances. I realized that I don't really
know much about like maybe I don'tknow in depth and cons like saving and
how to go about really saving goodand allocated finances for different things. So
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it's something that I started being intentionalabout learning and if I have an opportunity
to read out, I didn't liketo go to school for it, take
a shot online course maybe or somethinglike that. And the other thing is
I also tried I managed to havelike a niche for my business. Like
the forecast I mentioned, I thinkpreviously that I was trying to think of
a business to do and I foundlike I try to narrow down to what
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kind of niche I'd like to gointo. So those are the first two
things that I managed to do,thrive in and accomplish this week. And
yeah, I hope to hear whatyours was. So thank you so much
for listening. And I'd just liketo shout out to yvon Dr Mohangle,
Yvonne and doctor Zealote Hoda. Thankyou so much for the love and the
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support I really really really really appreciate. So this was it for today's podcast
until Monday with the victory Monday,Stay safe and remember thrive cause it's Friday,
TC. I f stay blessed,signing out with a song by Sally
and Erica titled I'm Good, BeBlessed. I'm good. I'm good.
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I'm good, I'm good, I'mgo. I'm good. I'm good.
I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood, I'm good. I'm I'm feeling
it in my mom, slaving itwhen I'm singing it, and my thought,
I'm killing it when I talk.I'm really feeling his love. Yeah,
give me mother, I got becauseI'm knowing now that he's done and
he leave me, I'm an Iburn. I don't se him. I'm
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never gonna girl Jimmy brand new Heimmoving about. I ain't gonna make it
too. I mean, like youna on the dailies. Okay, what
we're gonna do. Take me outto the gun where you're coming me home
and make it on my own.Ala, He's making me better, begin
me no claim, He's making mesongay, Perci see my like loam yeah,
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Percy see my life maam yeah,living god, I ain't can I
see it all right? Baby?Yeah me do me now? We got
me a sun I sam Yeah.Yeah. I'm good. I'm good.
I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood. I'm good. I'm good.
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I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood. I'm good. I'm good.
I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood. I'm good. I'm good.
I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood. I'm so allowed to be a
sellout my bars in a prison,but I still got the ol Doc Christ
in the blood. I can neverget the smell out mean now, but
I had to get the hell outfeeling the lead. He's wreaking to me.
They's not been when I talk abouta god because billing the bees,
billing this to me. I gotmost sold in some black eyed peace.
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The only reason I'm good because he'sgreater than me. That's but I see
the lot cheesus. It's not alittle person. But he gave me a
pees. I'm gonna be good tothe flatline, got that living water in
a new un I'm gonna be good. Don't that even when it gets sought,
I'm still out at this time,up to the back of the stage.
I want to pretend. Let mepraise, let me thank God for
to day. Boy ever got mymic trying to sing something, A little
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song, get my heart, giveme reason. I want to be the
song. I give us a littleseason. Lay up in the world because
I'm safe. But I'm hood andI'm good with a brace. I never
understood. I never see ice comparedto the wood, down to the cross,
and he does under stood. Lookat the bird in the bath and
then he's go on back to hisside and a kind of sipping. And
I'm talking Jesus, God came downas a man and he breed us every
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other coming back in the world.And I wan't want to bay. He's
making me better, I'm turning anything. He's making me stronger. Percy say
my moya, yeah, Percy,say my my mola. Bade all right,
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I shine, I see my lad. I'm good. Okay, I'm
good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I would never be
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the same without you, Emma.If I know you change the way I
see things through my eyes off itsIma, go you name. I'm never
afraid away. Just keep feeling youcloser and closer, just as long as
you know that to love don't know'swhat's the go playing my laf House.
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You You're the only world. I'msuddenly changing. He's making me better.
Nose thing, He's making me stronger. Chris Sam going ay same, I
go a suddenly changing. He's makingme better. It's telling a nose thing.
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He's making me strongsism Well you arenothing. Yeah,
Let me make you gave friends friendsnothing makes sense. I would you move
over with the blood chollom and welcomeback to listen to the podcast. I
hope you're doing well. Yes,it's Friday, all about the weekend vibes,
bring you some good music and ofcourse I'm interesting to talk about.
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And remember we are all about thriving. So how's your week been? How
was today? How did your Mondaystart? Do you have the three things
that we're supposed to you know,share three areas that you think of it
like you would thrive that in thisweek? Unfortunately I have to I didn't
make it to three, so Iwill share my two. But I hope
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you also have you too. Thatwill also encourage me to keep moving and
pushing. I was actually thinking earliertoday it's a hashtag tg I still that
common, you know, I don'tknow. I don't know. I was
thinking about it. But anyway,if it's not, I have a new
hashtag for us. And guess whatit is? Tcay if because we're thriving.
So we're going to be thriving becauseit's Friday. Who says you cannot
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meet our goals even at the lastminute. The week is ending. But
who says we cannot do what we'remeant to do things that we didn't manage
to do. You know, theBible says sometimes God works at the eleventh
hours, so I mean he cangive us the ability to do the same.
So it feels Please feel encouraged.Don't be discouraged. Just in case
(01:33):
you plan to do something you didn'tmanage to do it, say show prayer,
put yourself together and just speak itup. Who knows you just might
end up succeeding at it. SoI'm going to read our opening scripture and
it's coming from some twenty and theBible reads, May the Lord answer you
when you're in distress. May thename of the God of Jacob protect you.
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May he send you home from thesanctuary and grant you support from Zion.
May he remember all your sacrifices andaccept your burnt offerings. May He
give you the desire of your heartand make all your plans succeed. May
we shout for joy over your victoryand lift up our banners in the name
of our God. May the Lordgrant you all your requests. Now this
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I know the Lord gives victory too. He's anointed, he answers him from
his heavenly sanctuary and the victorious spowerof his right hand. Some trust in
chariots and some in horses, butwe trust in the name of the Lord,
our God. They are brought totheir knees and fall, but you
rise up and stand firm. Lord, give victory to the king. King
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sorry answer us when we call aman. So that is an opening scripture
just to encourage us. I guessto keep calling on the Lord because indeed,
at the end of the day hewill still answer us. Most importantly
to hip our trust in him,because we will never be put to shame.
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So today's topic again is yet justanother saying that I've heard about a
lot. And this as saying is, or should I say, phrase,
the phrase ride or die. AndI think many of us have probably been
used it, or have friends thatI've used it, or partners or maybe
family members that I've used the phraserite or die, maybe asked you to
(03:29):
be a writer or die? Friend, ritter die, partner, right or
die, family member, whatever thatit is. And so I got very
curious. I'm like, why shouldwe be writing and dying? Why don't
we write and thrives. Isn't impossiblethat we can be people that are writing
and thriving, you know, Andit just it it's I got so curious
again just to go and read moreabout it, like where did this come
(03:52):
from? Exactly what brought about thephrase ride or die? How did it
spread? And why did it spread? Probably, you know, And so
I'm just going to read a fewthings. I'm going to read its meaning
first, then maybe I'll share theorigin and how it's spread as well.
So the meaning for the term rideor die simply means to describe usually a
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woman that is willing to do anythingfor their partner, friend, or family,
even in the face of danger oreven if it kills them. So
now the origin of write or die, so right or dow, initially had
a different meaning in the nineteen fiftyso that's when it's starting. The nineteen
nineteen fifties. It was a slangfor bikers, all these bikers, big,
(04:38):
big, big people, tattoos andwhatnot bikers, So that's where it
started, and the meaning was differentthen. So its meaning that then meant
that it reflected on the fact thatif you're a biker and couldn't ride,
you'd rather die, you know.But then over the years the meaning and
(04:58):
the sense of it all began tochange. Now, when did it start
spreading and who started spreading it?So like in the early is it in
the earlier of the late should bethe late nineties to two thousands hip hop
artists like ice Cube, jay Zand the Locks. I don't know who
the Locks is, but I knowice Cube and jay Z. Yeah,
(05:19):
so they started using this one.Okay, they started using it, and
they changed it, you know,they changed it from ride and Die to
ride or Die. So in thebeginning it was ride and die. Then
they later changed to ride or Die. And then people letter began to spread
it in their songs, people likeLeo Wayne as Driven now Baby Ganster.
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I don't know who Driven and BabyGanster are, but I know Leo Wayne.
And so over the years it's gottento just keep on changing and changing
and changing. But its origin itwas bikers and initially it was ride and
die, not to ride or Die. And I was just thinking that,
isn't it amazing? And how mostof the times we get to pick things
that we don't know, we justhear because it sounds fancy, It sounds
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catchy, and we adopt these thingswithout really knowing the meaning behind it,
where it came from, or justnot knowing its background, its origin,
you know. And then it continuesto say that the statement, the phrase
right, write or die now isoften used to praise, you know,
people in this aspect that you've heardit's like women for their fierce loyalty and
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commitment to their partner, you know, although in most cases it has a
hidden cord which is kind of relatedor kind of like sends out or perceives
unhealthy relationships, if I can saythat. Yeah, so it is used
to praise women, not women,praise people sorry for their fierce loyty and
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commitment, but has a hidden cordof unhealthy relationships. So in cases we're
in a healthy relationships, you areimpression to prove your love or take a
fall for a partner. You're alsonot required to endure unfair treatment of any
kind. But when you're write ordie all those things you have to you
know, catch alambano. Then wehave to hold on to all these things.
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And I'm going to read this inthe Bible. That kind of helped
me come to the understanding that thisnarrative probably since it has spread so much
that people is in write or die, Write or die? How bad we
write or thrive? You know?Or write and thrive instead. And the
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story of Naomi, Ruth and Oppahis what came to my mind when I
strength to think about which kind ofperson can I relate or which kind of
people can I relate this this phraseto? And so we're not about the
story now. Me is married toElimelech and they have three sons, sorry,
(08:05):
two sons, and then these twosons are their husbands to Ruth and
Opah, and then they die.So Naomi loses her husband Alimeleic and have
two sons who had Naomi and Opah'ssorry Ruth and Oppa's husbands, and so
she's widowed. And then she hasno sons. And then they're just the
three of them. I think weknow the story. They just remain the
(08:28):
three of them. And then shetells them that they should go away because
she has nothing to give them,even if she wanted to, even if
she remarried and her children would theywait for them to grow and then she
should give them to the ladies,to the women to marry again. That
won't be possible, and she tellsthem to go their way. So Auntie
Apa decides, okay, you knowwhat, it makes sense. She leaves.
(08:50):
And then Ruth is like, no, I am stay, I will
I will, I will go whereveryou go, where you die, I
will die. Your God shall bemy God, and all those things.
She yeah, I think here iswhere you can see like Ruth has been
the she's been the right or diecheek here, you know. But that's
not what exactly got my attention inthe story. So quickly just going to
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read from Ruth chapter two, andI read from verse two in the Treats
and Ruth, the more Abites sayto Naomi, let me go to the
field and pick up the left overgreenbehind anyone in whose eyes I find favor.
Naomi said to her, go ahead, my daughter. So she went
out, entered the field and beganto glean behind the harvesters. As it
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turned out, she was working inthe field belonging to Boas, who was
from the clan of Elimelek. Sowe know that Elimelek is sorry BoA's is
kind of in the same plan asElimelek, who was Naomi's husband, and
so of course we know what happens, Ruth meets Boas and the rest is
(10:01):
history. We have a fairy talestory there and that happens. But what
really, really, like I said, caught my attention, here is the
part where Neconomic allows Ruth to goand do her thing. So I'm just
trying to think, you know,it's both of them are morning, right.
Ruth is morning, her husband,No me is morning. Her husband
and her two sons, you know. And of course they didn't even leave
(10:24):
like any children behind her. Shedoesn't have any like grandchildren or anybody,
just hold on to and you know, be comported. And yet she still
allows her daughter in loaves to goand do their thing. Of course maybe
she did it from a place ofhurt, but she still allows them.
She did not like, she didnot tell them to stay with her,
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or force them to be mourning withher, to be crying with her,
to be throwing petty parties with her. But she says, you not go
do your thing. You know,we've been on this road together. But
now go and do your thing.And then of course Opa goes. We
don't know how opahs story ends.I don't know. I think I need
to read about it. But thenwe know about Ruth. She let her
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miss boards and it's a very goodstory. And so even with her meeting
boys when they when they went towhen they had traveled and went what was
the place that they went to,Bethlehem? Yes, it was in Bethlehem.
So when they went there and Ruthwanted to do something, Naomi again
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did not like hold her and sayno, these are not your people,
they will not accept you. Youyou're a widow. And she allowed her.
She just like, let her be, go and do what you want
to do. And I just thoughtto myself, like this was really healthy,
that the kind of relationship that theyhad was really healthy. She wasn't
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imposing like her personal believes, herperson or her pain. She wasn't imposing
her like what she was feeling orwhat she wasn't feeling on She allowed her
to go and do her thing.And when Boa said it to marry her,
she was okay with it. Andthat just encouraged me. You know
that it is possible that we couldactually change this. We shouldn't be writing
(12:13):
and dying, but we should bewriting and thriving. Let's allow people to
do their thing if the person wantsto go and you know, explore different
aspects, probably on the same path. You could be same class, same
school, same family. But theyjust said, okay, maybe let me
try this, like allow them.If it was the wrong step, they'll
(12:33):
come back, you know, andnot just stay and impose things on people
to do because it is good inyour eyes, and you want them to
do it because that's what it seemsright in your eyes. And yeah,
we are going to now later discussa few things that I found interesting about
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like how this write or die statementgot go to, like how it has
got into the society, if Ishould say, and for most of the
part, I think the people thathave spread it, like it's like the
world people from the world, ifI can say that, that just it's
like celebrities. They're the ones thathave spread this notion, and we have
(13:15):
just picked it without really thinking aboutit. What is this exactly? What
imposing it from people? Sometimes indirectly, sometimes directly. You know, we
don't even know what exactly is goingon. And I think I'm going to
read I read one story particularly thatI think we can maybe learn a few
things from. And so let's takethe first musical break and this is coming
(13:37):
from a notaria. The name ofthe song is staying with me the blessed.
As you listen, this isn't managesintisinally ranitiously, no lee, why
(14:11):
do I have to Gosh forever wantsyour eyes on me? Wady Indian nopan
gags. That's a bad me.It's on me. I know, I
know everything's all around me. Youare the Rana, So stay with me.
(14:41):
Oh, by by god, Iwon't you stay me with me from
my nanny, stay me, sayyou be stay with me, baba,
But no, hyper I still goeswith tears. My face ain't heaven in
(15:05):
purpose. I tripped over too manytimes when I found our eyes again eating
of for gavity. That's at thatbaby's army. And I know all you
(15:28):
are. I know, I know, So stay awa with me. Oh
my god, I won't just stayhere with me. From my name,
stay here with me. Stay yourmeaner saying stay here with me, Mama,
(15:56):
don't turn your face away from me. I know this life with that
jewison only above the world. Pleasedon't show your friends away from me.
I know this time without jewisly upon. Well, stay with me. I'm
my back. God, won't youstay with me from my nanny, Stay
(16:23):
with me, say you'll be there, Stay with me, by by,
stay with me, by my God. Won't just stay with me from my
nanny? Stay say your bed,say stay here with me? The back
(16:49):
o, Amen starch you beautiful,beautiful melodies. I hope we have enjoyed.
So still on the topic, rideor die? Or should I say
ride or thrive? I think nowwe know that initially it was ride and
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die, then it's changed to rideor die, I guess, And then
maybe I'd like to say, howabout we ride or thrive? Excuse me,
you know. And so just tocontinue, I'd like to read I
said it's going to be astir Butit's just a commentary, and the first
one is about Tei and his wifeis written formal wife, So I'm not
(17:30):
being a bit behind what's happening withTea and Tiny. But anyway, so
Ti and Tiny, then there's Guccimen as well. So the commentary simply
says when rapper Ti and his formerwife Tiny were arrested for drugs, we
saw the ride or diamontality in action. When fifty cents treated that Tiny should
take the four for her man,and when Guchi men are proposed to longtime
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girlfriend Okay Keisha. Many people onsocial media proclaim that the proposal was well
deserved, a well deserved reward forKitius to Kisha for sticking to the troubled
rapper through his struggles of drug addiction, infidelity, and incarceration. Hmm,
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so it was a reward. Sowhether you love the famous couple or not,
it's clear that the ride or Diettroupe normalizes unhealthy behaviors and rewards people
for staying unhealthy relationships, whether theyare routinely neglected and mistreated by their partner.
This can be especially harmful to Blackwomen, who are disproportionally impacted by
(18:37):
unhealthy and abusive relationships. So inthis particular article, this is what is
being this is what is being saidanyway, So those are kind of like
examples the extent to which, likethis red and die mentality was saying,
has actually spread. And what ismaking people? Do you know, they're
sticking, They're staining infidelity, theseeking people who have been incarcerated, drug
(18:59):
addicts or whatever it is. Idon't really have much to comment about it,
but I just thought I should givelike the knowledge of where this statement
came where it came from, youknow, and what exactly people the definition
of the world and the impact ithad on them, you know. And
so back to our story of Naomi, Uppah and Ruth, I think we
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see something here. We see somegood lessons from what Naomi did Here.
Naomi was just their mother in noshe probably had her own traditions, her
own beliefs, yet she did notimpose them on her daughter in laws.
You know. She was willing torelease them to go and experience the world
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again, to go and remarried,to go and be happy. She was
willing to do that despite her ownloss. But I sometimes I think that
I think even I have indirectly madepeople, you know, like write or
die for me without knowing, becauseprobably I know something in a certain way.
I believe something should be done ina certain way. I feel like
if you don't do this, you'reprobably doing the wrong thing. You know.
(20:07):
Sometimes necessarily that you're just you willpoint to black tails somebody, Yeah,
you if you you better ride ordie. You know, you're either
riding with me or you die.Either riding with me or you go.
You know. But how about alove pole to write and thrive and still
be with them, you know,like write, thrive, go do your
thing. I will accept you forwho you are. You know, I
will still be there for you becausethat's what you've chosen to do. And
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if at all they find that thepath that they went to throw or whatever
that is, they will still comeback, you know. But at the
end of the day, all I'mjust trying to say, just allow people
to write and do what thrive.And so I'm just going to quickly read
a few things that I think canalso help us to evaluate ourselves and maybe
the friendships or relationships that we mayfind ourselves in. And before I get
(20:53):
to read that, there's a questionI'd like to pause and maybe we can
just jutt it down and just thinkabout it. So, is it possible
that the right or die mentality isa sense of duty or blind loyalty?
Is it possible that the sense ofthe statement write or die is a sense
of duty or blind loyalty? Youknow, in the aspect where some people
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get to lose sight of their ownvalues, is it blind loyalty? This
is a sense of duty. Sohere are a few signs that maybe we
can use to evaluate whether or notyou're in a read or die relationship.
And then the first one is youfollow your partner without question. You're willing
to engage in activities that make youuncomfortable and wouldn't normally do so. I
(21:37):
think this one is basically talking aboutpartners, but I think it applies to
friendship, families, whatever that itmay be. You were things that are
a symbol of your loyalty. Youexplain your partners. You explain away your
partner's bad behavior, your partner's priorityover your family and friends. You've been
confronted by a friend who sees yourrelationship as controlling. You feel the need
to hide your partner's actions or thingsyou do together. Your partner encourages you
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to take one for the team.You've already accepted blame or consequences for their
negative or illegal actions. You know, this might not be exactly everything,
but it's just away things that againI thought resonated better and that easier to
just understand. And it might notnecessarily be a relationship kind of setup.
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It can be family, it canbe friends. So these are quite I
think some good points. Just sitdown on and just e very weight,
you know, and if at allyou have imposed on people or anybody,
a friend, a family member.I think it's never too late to just
let it go, cut the tidesand allow the person to thrive. Let's
take another musical break, and nowwe come and look at some ways to
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consider how to set boundaries, youknow, if at all we find ourselves
in these kind of situations, orhow we can even help other people sell
bound set boundaries too, if wethink they're in those situations. And we're
gonna take a musical break, startthis little place with at that heat with
okay the blessed as you listen alongabout me, lookay, my god,
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you don't want for me, Yougave me good to love nothing the better,
the fair see vera about me fromme one the rejascle on the re
(23:57):
jack Paris listen to. Okay,okay, we love smarter. Okay,
that to your love and sols forshure your love smartertoa pharasata emharis you do
(24:21):
me fum me. They read gentleemparisons. They read gentle Emerson. Check
me like chack chack cho just holdme check job first, learning a collectibles.
(24:48):
Okay, okay, listener, lookI'm just a little looking person.
I want to second. Okay,okay, your love is smarter and okay,
(25:29):
okay, okay you love and yes, God's life is more than okay
all day, every day. Soyeah, so back to talking about how
to set boundaries. You know,uh, maybe people might let me talk
(25:56):
about walking away just consider sitting boundaries, because I think that for most of
us when it comes to like friendships, especially that we invest so much,
and maybe walking away might not bethe best thing to do. Maybe just
say boundaries, talk about it.I think that would help a lot.
Excuse me, And I think likeone of the things one of the first
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things that we can do to startthat process would be when you're asked to
do something you're not comfortable with,be able to speak up right away if
something doesn't feel right, trust yourGod, be honest about what you will
and won't do. Remember that it'shealthy to take time away from a relationship
or a friendship if you need it. Take responsibility for your own actions,
(26:44):
not to people around you or theparties involved. Leave if you see or
experience anything that puts you in danger. Danger if you've shared how you feel
and your boundaries aren't respected, thenit's time to move on. So that's
just basically basically it honestly, that'sjust what I wanted to share for today.
(27:07):
It's not much, but I hopeit helps somebody to just take some
time and just really really evaluate,am I in a ride or die friendship?
Right or die relationship? What exactlymy doing? You're supposed to be
thriving and not dying. And justremember that this statement, it's what it
started with or where it started from, isn't what it is today. It
(27:29):
has totally been misinterpreted, misinterpreted.Yes, so initially it was ride and
die for bikers. If you can'tride, then you die, So you
better ride. You better know howto ride a bike, you know.
So yeah, and maybe just alittle bit of a take hot, let's
just be careful the things that weadopt, you know, because of the
norms, because of society, becauseit was's trending, because if you don't
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understand anything in the Bible says no, you should get wisdom. And in
all in all that getting it anunderstanding, you know, let's just no
pig things and take them because andconsume them because that is what is trending.
And so that was it for today'spodcast. I hope you've enjoyed learned
one or two things. Oh mybad, I haven't shared my three things.
(28:17):
Yes, yes, yes, beforewe close. I didn't get to
do three things like I said earlier. I only did two. And the
first one was just to learn aboutfinances. I realized that I don't really
know much about like maybe I don'tknow in depth and cons like saving and
how to go about really saving goodand allocated finances for different things. So
(28:37):
it's something that I started being intentionalabout learning and if I have an opportunity
to read out, I didn't liketo go to school for it, take
a shot online course maybe or somethinglike that. And the other thing is
I also tried I managed to havelike a niche for my business. Like
the forecast I mentioned, I thinkpreviously that I was trying to think of
a business to do and I foundlike I try to narrow down to what
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kind of niche I'd like to gointo. So those are the first two
things that I managed to do,thrive in and accomplish this week. And
yeah, I hope to hear whatyours was. So thank you so much
for listening. And I'd just liketo shout out to yvon Dr Mohangle,
Yvonne and doctor Zealote Hoda. Thankyou so much for the love and the
(29:25):
support I really really really really appreciate. So this was it for today's podcast
until Monday with the victory Monday,Stay safe and remember thrive cause it's Friday,
TC. I f stay blessed,signing out with a song by Sally
and Erica titled I'm Good, BeBlessed. I'm good. I'm good.
(29:57):
I'm good, I'm good, I'mgo. I'm good. I'm good.
I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood, I'm good. I'm I'm feeling
it in my mom, slaving itwhen I'm singing it, and my thought,
I'm killing it when I talk.I'm really feeling his love. Yeah,
give me mother, I got becauseI'm knowing now that he's done and
he leave me, I'm an Iburn. I don't se him. I'm
(30:17):
never gonna girl Jimmy brand new Heimmoving about. I ain't gonna make it
too. I mean, like youna on the dailies. Okay, what
we're gonna do. Take me outto the gun where you're coming me home
and make it on my own.Ala, He's making me better, begin
me no claim, He's making mesongay, Perci see my like loam yeah,
(30:44):
Percy see my life maam yeah,living god, I ain't can I
see it all right? Baby?Yeah me do me now? We got
me a sun I sam Yeah.Yeah. I'm good. I'm good.
I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood. I'm good. I'm good.
(31:07):
I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood. I'm good. I'm good.
I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood. I'm good. I'm good.
I'm good. I'm good. I'mgood. I'm so allowed to be a
sellout my bars in a prison,but I still got the ol Doc Christ
in the blood. I can neverget the smell out mean now, but
I had to get the hell outfeeling the lead. He's wreaking to me.
They's not been when I talk abouta god because billing the bees,
billing this to me. I gotmost sold in some black eyed peace.
(31:30):
The only reason I'm good because he'sgreater than me. That's but I see
the lot cheesus. It's not alittle person. But he gave me a
pees. I'm gonna be good tothe flatline, got that living water in
a new un I'm gonna be good. Don't that even when it gets sought,
I'm still out at this time,up to the back of the stage.
I want to pretend. Let mepraise, let me thank God for
to day. Boy ever got mymic trying to sing something, A little
(31:52):
song, get my heart, giveme reason. I want to be the
song. I give us a littleseason. Lay up in the world because
I'm safe. But I'm hood andI'm good with a brace. I never
understood. I never see ice comparedto the wood, down to the cross,
and he does under stood. Lookat the bird in the bath and
then he's go on back to hisside and a kind of sipping. And
I'm talking Jesus, God came downas a man and he breed us every
(32:12):
other coming back in the world.And I wan't want to bay. He's
making me better, I'm turning anything. He's making me stronger. Percy say
my moya, yeah, Percy,say my my mola. Bade all right,
(32:37):
I shine, I see my lad. I'm good. Okay, I'm
good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I would never be
(33:00):
the same without you, Emma.If I know you change the way I
see things through my eyes off itsIma, go you name. I'm never
afraid away. Just keep feeling youcloser and closer, just as long as
you know that to love don't know'swhat's the go playing my laf House.
(33:25):
You You're the only world. I'msuddenly changing. He's making me better.
Nose thing, He's making me stronger. Chris Sam going ay same, I
go a suddenly changing. He's makingme better. It's telling a nose thing.
(33:49):
He's making me strongsism Well you arenothing. Yeah,
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