October 8, 2025 • 19 mins
What if aging isn’t a slow fade… but your next rise?
In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Mary Coleman, creator of The Whole Woman and a 40-year veteran of the beauty industry, to explore how daily riturals can transform midlife from self-critique into confidence, purpose, and joy.
Mary’s story begins in rural Ireland, where helping her brothers with their acne sparked a lifelong passion for skincare rituals, natural beauty, and hilistic welllnness. From opening a Cork City clinic during a recession to navigating skepticism and tight finances, she built her work on consistency, community, and care. When COVID hit, she reinvented her business with online classes and a mission rooted in soul care — showing midlife women that aging confidently starts from within.
💡 In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why avoiding the mirror first thing protects your mood
- How 30-second wellness rituals boost confidence all day
- The nine-day rule that resets habits for lasting change
- How to highlight what you love, support your skin barrier, and use color with intention
- Why community and mindset shifts matter more than perfection
Mary offers a realistic, empowering approach to beauty after 50 — one that celebrates presence over perfection and helps women over 50 feel radiant, supported, and strong.
✨ Midlife is a reset button, not a stop sign. If you’re ready to trade guilt for grace and perfectionism for progress, this conversation gives you the tools, rituals, and perspective to age well with confidence and clarity.
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Resources
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Announcer (00:06):
Welcome to Aging with Purpose and Passion, the
podcast designed to inspire yourgreatness and thrive through
life.
Get ready to conquer yourfears.
Here's your host,psychotherapist, coach, and
empowerment expert, BeverleyGlazer.
Beverley Glazer (00:34):
What if you look into the mirror and it
reflects your strengths, notonly what you see on the
outside?
Welcome to Aging with Purposeand Passion.
I'm Beverly Glazer, a catalystfor women who are ready to raise
the bar in their own life.
And you can find me onreinventimpossible.com.
Mary Coleman is the creator ofthe Whole Life Woman, a movement
(00:58):
to help women in midlifereclaim their confidence,
health, beauty, and yes, eventheir skin.
With 40 years in the beautyindustry, Mary now blends
skincare with soul care, guidingwomen to see midlife and beyond
as their most powerful chaptersyet.
(01:21):
This episode will give you thetools, rituals, and inspiration,
and you'll even see aging in awhole new light.
Welcome, Mary.
Thank you, Beverley, for havingme.
Mary, you grew up and you stillare, and you're living in
Ireland.
What was your childhood likeback then?
Mary Coleman (01:44):
Well, Beverley, I was a 60s baby, so it was a bit
quiet at that time in Ireland,and I suppose right across the
world.
So here in Ireland, bigfamilies, we live in the
country, so it was quiet.
A lot of the activities as achild you'd define from within.
And I suppose I found some ofthose activities being skin care
(02:05):
on my brothers.
I had four older brothers, andI got an opportunity really
firsthand at a very young agewhen they were, you know,
starting to present withhormonal acne, which I didn't
know that's what it was.
But small, simple antidotesthat I used for at home helped
their acne improve and it helpedme see a career.
(02:26):
And that's where I am at today.
Beverley Glazer (02:28):
Yes.
But did you have difficultywith skincare as well?
Or was it just them?
Mary Coleman (02:35):
Just them, more or less, I suppose, you know, boys
and being so physically active.
And I suppose we see womentoday a lot more physically
active than what they were inthe past.
And I suppose at that time itwas just the boys.
But now today it's it's everyage, every creed, and every, you
know, at every age, as I say,from young adolescents to mature
(02:55):
people.
So to answer your question, Ididn't have acne, but I had very
dry skin.
And that's what I also got achance at looking at and seeing
where I could help myself.
Beverley Glazer (03:05):
Okay.
Why did you feel it wasnecessary for you to be the one
to help them?
And maybe not your mother or adoctor or someone else.
Mary Coleman (03:14):
Yeah, I suppose, you know, at that time money was
scarce in the 60s, and peopledidn't, you know, you went to
the doctor when you wereseriously ill.
This wasn't ill.
This was like a rite ofpassage, just tell acne was
okay.
But I could see for them theirconfidence and self-esteem was
really low when their skin wasproblematic.
So I thought, look, if I canhelp and do something, and they
(03:37):
were very willing to let me dowhatever I could to try and help
it.
And certainly, you know, justbeing mindful of cleaning it and
having rituals around cleaningmorning and evening, using, you
know, witch hazel or rose water,which were very natural
ingredients in those days, as atonic, was very good to close
down the pores after activity.
And those basics, justinstilling that in them and you
(04:01):
know, making sure we didn't havesunscreen at the time, but to
be in out of the midday sun whenwe did get a good summer.
And, you know, simple thingslike changing pillowcases, not
to pick at the spots.
And that's what I learned andshared with them.
Beverley Glazer (04:16):
Okay.
And you created a business outof it.
And you were a woman inbusiness back then.
And women were supposed to takecare of the family, and women
not necessarily were the onesthat were supposed to have a
business.
How did you just gravitate intodoing that?
Why didn't you say, no, thisisn't for me?
Mary Coleman (04:38):
I suppose I got a great inner joy from seeing the
results and seeing peopleuplifted by what I was able to
do.
And, you know, I trained at 18to become an aesthetician,
beauty therapist, skincarespecialist, whatever title you
give it today.
And I could see just the smallthings that I was able to do to
instill confidence, raise thebar, and just give back good,
(05:02):
healthy skin, very simply at thetime.
And then, you know, I got theopportunity to open a business
and it grew.
You know, it's almost 40 yearsin existence now.
It's a skin therapy clinic inthe middle of Cork City, which
would be the second largest cityin Ireland, and it has done
very well, Beverley.
But I just felt, I suppose, asI matured myself and saw myself
(05:27):
having my own family, my ownhome.
It was hard and very difficult.
And I got to see otherlike-minded women who were
having the same difficulties.
And I just had to reach out toa second business, which I know
we're going to talk about in awhile, but it was a stepping
stone.
So having the skin clinic was astepping stone to another
business.
Beverley Glazer (05:46):
And so you were an entrepreneur at heart.
This was something you wantedto do.
You were always stepping up tothe plate and wanting to do
more.
And were there challenges inopening the business, getting
the loan, getting the finances,getting help for the home,
anything like that?
Mary Coleman (06:04):
Huge.
You just said it.
It was 87 that I opened.
And at the time, getting a bankloan was just virtually
impossible.
Um, I remember the bank managersaying to me, you know, he
said, Mary, we're in arecession.
Do you think people are goingto come to you for skin
treatments?
And there was no way, you know,really.
And I said, Look, this is mygamble.
The best tools I have are theseand my head.
(06:26):
And I said, please, I startsmall, let's keep it very tight.
And that's what I did.
I kept it so tight for thefirst few years.
So 87 to 90, I just, it justtook off.
When I went back in 1990 todiscuss my loan again, I had it
cleared, what I had borrowed,and then I moved on.
And it just, I'm not sayingit's a million-dollar industry,
(06:50):
it's not, but it provides andhas provided an income for me
and two to three othertherapists over the years.
And I've been able to rear myfamily on it, which I am so full
of gratitude.
And also showing my own, I hadthree sons myself, to show them
that women can do it.
It has been very difficult.
I cannot say it was easy atthat time.
(07:12):
But it certainly, as you put itquite nicely there, I raised to
the opportunity, and that'sexactly and meeting other
like-minded women, no more thanyourself, Beverly, that just
instilled.
Yes, you can do it.
The opportunity is there.
You do meet the wall, but youtry and climb the wall.
I mean, and COVID, that was ahuge fall.
Beverley Glazer (07:35):
Absolutely.
Mary Coleman (07:36):
That's yes, yes.
Beverley Glazer (07:37):
And you were retail, and people had to come
to you.
So what did you do there?
Mary Coleman (07:42):
Well, you know, for the first week, like all of
us, I just literally sat andthought, oh my divine God, I've
so much stock inside my clinic.
The landlord that I um leasedthe building from wouldn't give
me any let up from the rent.
Um, and an awful lot of things,and even the staff I had, I
thought, how am I going tomanage?
So I just literally got out ofmy head and said, look, let's
(08:05):
connect every day with somecustomers.
So I wasn't that familiar withZoom at the time, bar doing
trainings online, which weretwice a year.
But I got one of my nieces toshow me how to do Zoom and how
to invite people in.
And I began doing daily classeswith people.
I would have eight to 28 at anyone time talking about what
they could do at home.
(08:25):
And I started sending out theproducts.
So they were buying productsfrom me, but they weren't having
treatments.
But selling the products wasmeaning my stock was moving and
I had some revenue coming in.
And that was absolutely greatbecause we were in COVID from
March till June.
We went back in June and thenwe came out again in October.
And at that stage, really, forme, Beverly, it was great
(08:46):
because my times, the word hadspread.
So Mary has an online forumnow.
As I said, I wasn't chargingfor this Zoom at the time, but I
decided then I'd have to makemore of a living from it.
And I started doing umone-to-one online classes and
then group sessions of tellingthem what they could do at home.
But I found a lot of the womenlike myself in midlife were
(09:09):
lonely, they were sad.
They just started taking thatdip that we do at midlife with a
drop in estrogen, and a lot ofself-negative negativity was
starting to arise.
So no longer was I talkingabout skin, I was talking about
identity reset, confidencecodes, you know, nourish to
(09:32):
flourish, those kind of things.
And that's how the whole womanprogram began.
Beverley Glazer (09:38):
And why do you think it's so important at
midlife to make that change?
Mary Coleman (09:45):
I think it's a time when you come back into
yourself and you don't realizethe best is yet to come.
You've been so busy as tryingto find your career, come
through college, take on amortgage, you know, get married,
have children.
But then at last there's a gap,and you're going, oh my God,
does this mean I can actuallyhave a bit of exercise before
work?
(10:06):
I don't have to race home andcatch up with homework.
And I think it's not a timewhere we decline, we rise, but a
rising tide lifts all boats andwe lift each other.
And that's what's so important.
The power of just what we'redoing here: chatting,
discussing, you know, playingout situations that we're
(10:26):
encountering and saying, how canI work on that?
Where do I go from here?
It can't be down here, and itcertainly isn't.
Beverley Glazer (10:34):
Yes.
What simple daily rituals doyou tell people who are feeling,
ah, another day, Mary, I don'tknow, I just don't feel up to
it.
What will you tell them?
Mary Coleman (10:49):
And I think that's that's the first thing.
You know, where do you start?
You know, you wake in themorning, and I suppose a lot of
it is gratitude is attitude.
And I think to have thegratitude that you wake and say,
listen, how many never get tobe 60?
How many never get to be 55?
So I am here, and I'm going toput my hand on my heart and say
first thing in the morning, I amhere.
What is Mary or Beverly goingto do for Mary or Beverley
(11:12):
today?
And I always try and think ofsomething nice, be it the nice
cup of coffee, maybe the walk towork, maybe the way I greet my
neighbors, my dog beatress,who'll surely knock at the door
any minute, but something thatinstills a bit of joy to get you
going.
And the first thing I alwayssay is do not, do not look in
(11:32):
the mirror at yourself firstthing in the morning.
I ban my friends and familyfrom seeing mirrors.
If anything, have less mirrors.
Because when you've beencomatosed and your head is on
the pillow for six to eighthours, possibly with broken
sleep, your face is not going tolook good first thing.
So when you look in the mirrorand you see yourself, you get an
(11:54):
awful shock.
So I would suggest again, keepaway from the mirror, start
wriggling your mouth, waking upyour muscles, the same for your
face as you would for your body.
30 seconds even on the ground,just doing a yoga stretch, just
loosening your back.
Because remember, a lot of ussleep in a fetal position.
So we loosen out and we get theoxygen flowing.
(12:16):
And that improves the wholeprocess of you thinking and
planning for the day.
And if you can get into thehabit of doing that beverly for
nine days, it's a habit.
So don't be hard on yourself,but just slowly put this little
ritual in place, and that's thefirst start to the day.
Beverley Glazer (12:36):
And what would you tell women that say, I'm too
busy, or I don't have time, orMary, really, I feel so guilty?
What would you tell thosewomen?
Mary Coleman (12:46):
This is us.
This is us in here.
This is our time.
You have time for everythingelse.
You've time to scroll, you'vetime to, you know, spend longer,
you know, watching TV, eatingthe wrong foods.
Five minutes in the morning andthe evening.
It is crucial.
And you'll be surprised.
You look forward, and I hear alot of my own clients saying
this to me, they look forward towaking even earlier to say, Oh
(13:09):
my god, I've got a little bit oftime to myself.
You and I both had the same 24hours.
It's just how we manage the 24hours.
And I think, you know, callingthat out, getting out your
journal, you know.
I had this earlier today,showing it to somebody, and I
said, This little book is alifesaver.
Writing down the two or threethings before you go to bed at
(13:30):
night in that journal andsaying, I'm going to take that
off in the morning.
You and I know Beverly, there'sa great sense of satisfaction
with the pen and the ticking.
And if you say, I will havethose three things done before
my day starts, this is my time.
If I'm not going to give it tome now, when am I going to give
it?
Beverley Glazer (13:50):
Excellent.
What's one message that youtell women that are over 50
about their beauty and aging?
Mary Coleman (14:00):
Well, I suppose the first thing is, you know,
you can't look 30 if you have a30-year-old son.
So be realistic.
And I think I know that's areal cleat here.
So we do our very best.
When you wait after that 10minutes and you look in the
mirror, you see your face is alot brighter than you think.
Again, you know, don't belooking too close.
(14:20):
When you I'm talking toanybody, and even yourself from
our screens, we're a good footapart.
So people only see a lot lessthan you think.
And people are so caught up inthemselves.
If you ask them an hour later,what color lipstick or had I on
or what color blouse, theywouldn't remember.
So get out of your own head andtrust the process.
(14:41):
You know, the looks you've had,they're still there.
They might be a bit moresubdued, but highlight the good
points.
If you have nice hair, if youhave nice eyes, you know, draw
attention to your lips.
I think for all of us, as weget older, myself, I see it.
You know, things fade.
So I deliberately make theeffort.
And that's what I suggest topeople.
Put on a bit of lip colour, abit of eyeliner, add a sparkle
(15:02):
of color through a scarf, maybethrough your earrings.
But this is your time ofbeauty.
Just like you were a baby, justlike, you know, you were four,
fourteen, forty-four,sixty-four.
It's changing, it's evolving.
And how lucky are we to begoing through this change?
Beverley Glazer (15:20):
Thank you.
Thank you, Mary.
Mary Coleman is the creator ofThe Whole Woman, a movement to
help women in midlife reclaimtheir confidence, health, and
beauty.
With 40 years in the beautyindustry, Mary blends skincare
with soul care, guiding women tosee midlife and beyond as their
(15:42):
most powerful chapters.
Here are a few takeaways fromthis episode.
Confidence starts with soulcare.
It's from the inside out.
Small daily rituals can sparkbig shifts in your self-worth.
And you are not invisible.
Your voice matters more so thanever when you're older.
(16:04):
If you've been relating to thisepisode, here are a few actions
to take right now.
Instead of criticizing yourselfin the mirror, name one thing
that you love about yourself.
Take five minutes for soulcare, breathe, stretch, journal,
or sit with a cup of tea, asMary said, no guilt.
Choose one small daily ritual,skin care, movement, meditation,
(16:29):
and commit to it.
It's a gift to yourself.
For similar episodes onclaiming your worth, check out
episodes 144 or 147 of Agingwith Purpose and Passion.
And if you link podcasts forwomen in midlife and beyond, the
Late Bloomer Living Podcast isyour weekly invitation to
embrace change, spark joy, andlive playfully at any age.
(16:54):
Yvonne Marchez chats withinspiring guests who share
practical real-world tips, andthat link will be in the show
notes below.
And so, Mary, where can peoplelearn about you, learn about
your courses, get information?
Please share your links.
Mary Coleman (17:12):
Perfect.
So the wholewoman.life is my uwebsite.
So please, you can email me aswell on infotheolewoman.com.
I am up around just if youliterally Google Mary, Whole
Woman, I would come up.
I am in Ireland, but I doenough how to work online,
especially in the UK.
Um, so I'm wide open to dealingwith anyone.
(17:35):
You can do a one-to-one or youcan come into a group
environment.
Tomorrow I have another groupsession of six.
And again, none of these womenknow each other, and it's not
that they have to share anythingpersonal.
It's just the next part of ourjourney we're going to go
through together.
Beverley Glazer (17:50):
Thank you, Mary.
Mary's links are going to be inthe show notes and on my site
too.
That's reinventimpossible.com.
And so, my friends, what's nextfor you?
Are you just going through themotions or are you living a life
that you truly love?
Get my free guide to go fromstuck to unstoppable.
And that's also in the shownotes, too.
(18:12):
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(18:37):
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And celebrate life.
Welcome to Aging with Purpose and Passion, the
podcast designed to inspire yourgreatness and thrive through
life.
Get ready to conquer yourfears.
Here's your host,psychotherapist, coach, and
empowerment expert, BeverleyGlazer.
Beverley Glazer (00:34):
What if you look into the mirror and it
reflects your strengths, notonly what you see on the
outside?
Welcome to Aging with Purposeand Passion.
I'm Beverly Glazer, a catalystfor women who are ready to raise
the bar in their own life.
And you can find me onreinventimpossible.com.
Mary Coleman is the creator ofthe Whole Life Woman, a movement
(00:58):
to help women in midlifereclaim their confidence,
health, beauty, and yes, eventheir skin.
With 40 years in the beautyindustry, Mary now blends
skincare with soul care, guidingwomen to see midlife and beyond
as their most powerful chaptersyet.
(01:21):
This episode will give you thetools, rituals, and inspiration,
and you'll even see aging in awhole new light.
Welcome, Mary.
Thank you, Beverley, for havingme.
Mary, you grew up and you stillare, and you're living in
Ireland.
What was your childhood likeback then?
Mary Coleman (01:44):
Well, Beverley, I was a 60s baby, so it was a bit
quiet at that time in Ireland,and I suppose right across the
world.
So here in Ireland, bigfamilies, we live in the
country, so it was quiet.
A lot of the activities as achild you'd define from within.
And I suppose I found some ofthose activities being skin care
(02:05):
on my brothers.
I had four older brothers, andI got an opportunity really
firsthand at a very young agewhen they were, you know,
starting to present withhormonal acne, which I didn't
know that's what it was.
But small, simple antidotesthat I used for at home helped
their acne improve and it helpedme see a career.
(02:26):
And that's where I am at today.
Beverley Glazer (02:28):
Yes.
But did you have difficultywith skincare as well?
Or was it just them?
Mary Coleman (02:35):
Just them, more or less, I suppose, you know, boys
and being so physically active.
And I suppose we see womentoday a lot more physically
active than what they were inthe past.
And I suppose at that time itwas just the boys.
But now today it's it's everyage, every creed, and every, you
know, at every age, as I say,from young adolescents to mature
(02:55):
people.
So to answer your question, Ididn't have acne, but I had very
dry skin.
And that's what I also got achance at looking at and seeing
where I could help myself.
Beverley Glazer (03:05):
Okay.
Why did you feel it wasnecessary for you to be the one
to help them?
And maybe not your mother or adoctor or someone else.
Mary Coleman (03:14):
Yeah, I suppose, you know, at that time money was
scarce in the 60s, and peopledidn't, you know, you went to
the doctor when you wereseriously ill.
This wasn't ill.
This was like a rite ofpassage, just tell acne was
okay.
But I could see for them theirconfidence and self-esteem was
really low when their skin wasproblematic.
So I thought, look, if I canhelp and do something, and they
(03:37):
were very willing to let me dowhatever I could to try and help
it.
And certainly, you know, justbeing mindful of cleaning it and
having rituals around cleaningmorning and evening, using, you
know, witch hazel or rose water,which were very natural
ingredients in those days, as atonic, was very good to close
down the pores after activity.
And those basics, justinstilling that in them and you
(04:01):
know, making sure we didn't havesunscreen at the time, but to
be in out of the midday sun whenwe did get a good summer.
And, you know, simple thingslike changing pillowcases, not
to pick at the spots.
And that's what I learned andshared with them.
Beverley Glazer (04:16):
Okay.
And you created a business outof it.
And you were a woman inbusiness back then.
And women were supposed to takecare of the family, and women
not necessarily were the onesthat were supposed to have a
business.
How did you just gravitate intodoing that?
Why didn't you say, no, thisisn't for me?
Mary Coleman (04:38):
I suppose I got a great inner joy from seeing the
results and seeing peopleuplifted by what I was able to
do.
And, you know, I trained at 18to become an aesthetician,
beauty therapist, skincarespecialist, whatever title you
give it today.
And I could see just the smallthings that I was able to do to
instill confidence, raise thebar, and just give back good,
(05:02):
healthy skin, very simply at thetime.
And then, you know, I got theopportunity to open a business
and it grew.
You know, it's almost 40 yearsin existence now.
It's a skin therapy clinic inthe middle of Cork City, which
would be the second largest cityin Ireland, and it has done
very well, Beverley.
But I just felt, I suppose, asI matured myself and saw myself
(05:27):
having my own family, my ownhome.
It was hard and very difficult.
And I got to see otherlike-minded women who were
having the same difficulties.
And I just had to reach out toa second business, which I know
we're going to talk about in awhile, but it was a stepping
stone.
So having the skin clinic was astepping stone to another
business.
Beverley Glazer (05:46):
And so you were an entrepreneur at heart.
This was something you wantedto do.
You were always stepping up tothe plate and wanting to do
more.
And were there challenges inopening the business, getting
the loan, getting the finances,getting help for the home,
anything like that?
Mary Coleman (06:04):
Huge.
You just said it.
It was 87 that I opened.
And at the time, getting a bankloan was just virtually
impossible.
Um, I remember the bank managersaying to me, you know, he
said, Mary, we're in arecession.
Do you think people are goingto come to you for skin
treatments?
And there was no way, you know,really.
And I said, Look, this is mygamble.
The best tools I have are theseand my head.
(06:26):
And I said, please, I startsmall, let's keep it very tight.
And that's what I did.
I kept it so tight for thefirst few years.
So 87 to 90, I just, it justtook off.
When I went back in 1990 todiscuss my loan again, I had it
cleared, what I had borrowed,and then I moved on.
And it just, I'm not sayingit's a million-dollar industry,
(06:50):
it's not, but it provides andhas provided an income for me
and two to three othertherapists over the years.
And I've been able to rear myfamily on it, which I am so full
of gratitude.
And also showing my own, I hadthree sons myself, to show them
that women can do it.
It has been very difficult.
I cannot say it was easy atthat time.
(07:12):
But it certainly, as you put itquite nicely there, I raised to
the opportunity, and that'sexactly and meeting other
like-minded women, no more thanyourself, Beverly, that just
instilled.
Yes, you can do it.
The opportunity is there.
You do meet the wall, but youtry and climb the wall.
I mean, and COVID, that was ahuge fall.
Beverley Glazer (07:35):
Absolutely.
Mary Coleman (07:36):
That's yes, yes.
Beverley Glazer (07:37):
And you were retail, and people had to come
to you.
So what did you do there?
Mary Coleman (07:42):
Well, you know, for the first week, like all of
us, I just literally sat andthought, oh my divine God, I've
so much stock inside my clinic.
The landlord that I um leasedthe building from wouldn't give
me any let up from the rent.
Um, and an awful lot of things,and even the staff I had, I
thought, how am I going tomanage?
So I just literally got out ofmy head and said, look, let's
(08:05):
connect every day with somecustomers.
So I wasn't that familiar withZoom at the time, bar doing
trainings online, which weretwice a year.
But I got one of my nieces toshow me how to do Zoom and how
to invite people in.
And I began doing daily classeswith people.
I would have eight to 28 at anyone time talking about what
they could do at home.
(08:25):
And I started sending out theproducts.
So they were buying productsfrom me, but they weren't having
treatments.
But selling the products wasmeaning my stock was moving and
I had some revenue coming in.
And that was absolutely greatbecause we were in COVID from
March till June.
We went back in June and thenwe came out again in October.
And at that stage, really, forme, Beverly, it was great
(08:46):
because my times, the word hadspread.
So Mary has an online forumnow.
As I said, I wasn't chargingfor this Zoom at the time, but I
decided then I'd have to makemore of a living from it.
And I started doing umone-to-one online classes and
then group sessions of tellingthem what they could do at home.
But I found a lot of the womenlike myself in midlife were
(09:09):
lonely, they were sad.
They just started taking thatdip that we do at midlife with a
drop in estrogen, and a lot ofself-negative negativity was
starting to arise.
So no longer was I talkingabout skin, I was talking about
identity reset, confidencecodes, you know, nourish to
(09:32):
flourish, those kind of things.
And that's how the whole womanprogram began.
Beverley Glazer (09:38):
And why do you think it's so important at
midlife to make that change?
Mary Coleman (09:45):
I think it's a time when you come back into
yourself and you don't realizethe best is yet to come.
You've been so busy as tryingto find your career, come
through college, take on amortgage, you know, get married,
have children.
But then at last there's a gap,and you're going, oh my God,
does this mean I can actuallyhave a bit of exercise before
work?
(10:06):
I don't have to race home andcatch up with homework.
And I think it's not a timewhere we decline, we rise, but a
rising tide lifts all boats andwe lift each other.
And that's what's so important.
The power of just what we'redoing here: chatting,
discussing, you know, playingout situations that we're
(10:26):
encountering and saying, how canI work on that?
Where do I go from here?
It can't be down here, and itcertainly isn't.
Beverley Glazer (10:34):
Yes.
What simple daily rituals doyou tell people who are feeling,
ah, another day, Mary, I don'tknow, I just don't feel up to
it.
What will you tell them?
Mary Coleman (10:49):
And I think that's that's the first thing.
You know, where do you start?
You know, you wake in themorning, and I suppose a lot of
it is gratitude is attitude.
And I think to have thegratitude that you wake and say,
listen, how many never get tobe 60?
How many never get to be 55?
So I am here, and I'm going toput my hand on my heart and say
first thing in the morning, I amhere.
What is Mary or Beverly goingto do for Mary or Beverley
(11:12):
today?
And I always try and think ofsomething nice, be it the nice
cup of coffee, maybe the walk towork, maybe the way I greet my
neighbors, my dog beatress,who'll surely knock at the door
any minute, but something thatinstills a bit of joy to get you
going.
And the first thing I alwayssay is do not, do not look in
(11:32):
the mirror at yourself firstthing in the morning.
I ban my friends and familyfrom seeing mirrors.
If anything, have less mirrors.
Because when you've beencomatosed and your head is on
the pillow for six to eighthours, possibly with broken
sleep, your face is not going tolook good first thing.
So when you look in the mirrorand you see yourself, you get an
(11:54):
awful shock.
So I would suggest again, keepaway from the mirror, start
wriggling your mouth, waking upyour muscles, the same for your
face as you would for your body.
30 seconds even on the ground,just doing a yoga stretch, just
loosening your back.
Because remember, a lot of ussleep in a fetal position.
So we loosen out and we get theoxygen flowing.
(12:16):
And that improves the wholeprocess of you thinking and
planning for the day.
And if you can get into thehabit of doing that beverly for
nine days, it's a habit.
So don't be hard on yourself,but just slowly put this little
ritual in place, and that's thefirst start to the day.
Beverley Glazer (12:36):
And what would you tell women that say, I'm too
busy, or I don't have time, orMary, really, I feel so guilty?
What would you tell thosewomen?
Mary Coleman (12:46):
This is us.
This is us in here.
This is our time.
You have time for everythingelse.
You've time to scroll, you'vetime to, you know, spend longer,
you know, watching TV, eatingthe wrong foods.
Five minutes in the morning andthe evening.
It is crucial.
And you'll be surprised.
You look forward, and I hear alot of my own clients saying
this to me, they look forward towaking even earlier to say, Oh
(13:09):
my god, I've got a little bit oftime to myself.
You and I both had the same 24hours.
It's just how we manage the 24hours.
And I think, you know, callingthat out, getting out your
journal, you know.
I had this earlier today,showing it to somebody, and I
said, This little book is alifesaver.
Writing down the two or threethings before you go to bed at
(13:30):
night in that journal andsaying, I'm going to take that
off in the morning.
You and I know Beverly, there'sa great sense of satisfaction
with the pen and the ticking.
And if you say, I will havethose three things done before
my day starts, this is my time.
If I'm not going to give it tome now, when am I going to give
it?
Beverley Glazer (13:50):
Excellent.
What's one message that youtell women that are over 50
about their beauty and aging?
Mary Coleman (14:00):
Well, I suppose the first thing is, you know,
you can't look 30 if you have a30-year-old son.
So be realistic.
And I think I know that's areal cleat here.
So we do our very best.
When you wait after that 10minutes and you look in the
mirror, you see your face is alot brighter than you think.
Again, you know, don't belooking too close.
(14:20):
When you I'm talking toanybody, and even yourself from
our screens, we're a good footapart.
So people only see a lot lessthan you think.
And people are so caught up inthemselves.
If you ask them an hour later,what color lipstick or had I on
or what color blouse, theywouldn't remember.
So get out of your own head andtrust the process.
(14:41):
You know, the looks you've had,they're still there.
They might be a bit moresubdued, but highlight the good
points.
If you have nice hair, if youhave nice eyes, you know, draw
attention to your lips.
I think for all of us, as weget older, myself, I see it.
You know, things fade.
So I deliberately make theeffort.
And that's what I suggest topeople.
Put on a bit of lip colour, abit of eyeliner, add a sparkle
(15:02):
of color through a scarf, maybethrough your earrings.
But this is your time ofbeauty.
Just like you were a baby, justlike, you know, you were four,
fourteen, forty-four,sixty-four.
It's changing, it's evolving.
And how lucky are we to begoing through this change?
Beverley Glazer (15:20):
Thank you.
Thank you, Mary.
Mary Coleman is the creator ofThe Whole Woman, a movement to
help women in midlife reclaimtheir confidence, health, and
beauty.
With 40 years in the beautyindustry, Mary blends skincare
with soul care, guiding women tosee midlife and beyond as their
(15:42):
most powerful chapters.
Here are a few takeaways fromthis episode.
Confidence starts with soulcare.
It's from the inside out.
Small daily rituals can sparkbig shifts in your self-worth.
And you are not invisible.
Your voice matters more so thanever when you're older.
(16:04):
If you've been relating to thisepisode, here are a few actions
to take right now.
Instead of criticizing yourselfin the mirror, name one thing
that you love about yourself.
Take five minutes for soulcare, breathe, stretch, journal,
or sit with a cup of tea, asMary said, no guilt.
Choose one small daily ritual,skin care, movement, meditation,
(16:29):
and commit to it.
It's a gift to yourself.
For similar episodes onclaiming your worth, check out
episodes 144 or 147 of Agingwith Purpose and Passion.
And if you link podcasts forwomen in midlife and beyond, the
Late Bloomer Living Podcast isyour weekly invitation to
embrace change, spark joy, andlive playfully at any age.
(16:54):
Yvonne Marchez chats withinspiring guests who share
practical real-world tips, andthat link will be in the show
notes below.
And so, Mary, where can peoplelearn about you, learn about
your courses, get information?
Please share your links.
Mary Coleman (17:12):
Perfect.
So the wholewoman.life is my uwebsite.
So please, you can email me aswell on infotheolewoman.com.
I am up around just if youliterally Google Mary, Whole
Woman, I would come up.
I am in Ireland, but I doenough how to work online,
especially in the UK.
Um, so I'm wide open to dealingwith anyone.
(17:35):
You can do a one-to-one or youcan come into a group
environment.
Tomorrow I have another groupsession of six.
And again, none of these womenknow each other, and it's not
that they have to share anythingpersonal.
It's just the next part of ourjourney we're going to go
through together.
Beverley Glazer (17:50):
Thank you, Mary.
Mary's links are going to be inthe show notes and on my site
too.
That's reinventimpossible.com.
And so, my friends, what's nextfor you?
Are you just going through themotions or are you living a life
that you truly love?
Get my free guide to go fromstuck to unstoppable.
And that's also in the shownotes, too.
(18:12):
You can connect with me,Beverly Blazer, on all social
media platforms and in mypositive group of women on
Facebook.
That's Women Over50 Rock.
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