Turning Sensitivity Into Power After 50

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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome to Aging with Purpose and Passion, the
podcast designed to inspire yourgreatness and thrive through
life.
Get ready to conquer your fears.
Here's your hostpsychotherapist, coach and
empowerment expert, BeverleyGlazer.

Beverley Glazer (00:36):
Have you ever been told that you're just too
sensitive, too emotional or thatyou're just too much?
Welcome to Aging with Purposeand Passion, the podcast for
women over 50 who are ready tostop settling and live life on
their own terms.
Each week, you'll hear rawconversations, inspiring stories
and get practical tools to helpyou reignite your own fire.

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I'm Beverley Glazer, areinvention catalyst for women
who are ready to step up andkeep raising the bar, and you
can find me onreinventimpossiblecom.
Diana Esther Berschader is asoul doctor, a best-selling
author, a transformational coachand the creator of a global

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educational platform.
She was silenced in Cold WarRussia, stripped of her dreams,
blacklisted for being Jewish andtold she should disappear, but
she didn't.
This story is a reclamation.
If you've ever felt unheard, ifyou've ever felt trapped in

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your own feelings, this storywill show you that your
intuition is your greateststrength.
So keep listening.
Welcome, diane Astor.

Diana Esther Berschader (01:54):
Thank you for having me.
Thank you, Beverly.

Take us back.
Take us back to that littlegirl, that little girl that you
were in the Soviet Union.
What was it like to grow upback there?

I was born in the city called Odessa,
which is at the moment isUkraine.
It used to be one country atthe time of the Soviet Union and
the city was very specialbecause it was a town of famous
artists, famous poets, famousmusicians, and it has a very,

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very special energy of love.
People that live there wouldnever give up at any kind of
challenges in their lives.
They give up at any kind ofchallenges in their lives, but
as a little girl growing up in amiddle-class Jewish family, I
was faced with a lot ofchallenges, emotional challenges

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, which unfortunately wasn'taddressed by my parents, not
because they were bad parents,only because the lifestyle did
not allow them to give me thisemotional support that they
never had themselves.
Yeah, so what happened?
My soul wanted to experiencejoy and happiness in life and,

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unfortunately, everything I everwanted so much.
I wanted to become a ballerina,I wanted to dance, I wanted to
go to ballet school, I wanted toact, but I was not allowed to
do any of it.
And my soul tried so many timesto convince my parents, but
unfortunately nothing helped andthey were not listening to my

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inner needs of the child.
I was simply disregarded andone night I was taken to a
hospital with excruciatingstomach aches.
I didn't know where the painwas coming from and doctors
didn't know either.
It took several days and verythorough investigation to find

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that I had chronic disease ofthe liver and gallbladder at a
very young age, which wasunheard of for the child of my
age.
Staying in the hospital thatnight all alone and being in a
very, very strong pain becauseat the time, unfortunately, we

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had no painkillers readilyavailable and the treatments
that were offered, they wereholistic but they were barbaric
at the same time.
So I felt at some point that Icould not bear the pain any
longer.
It just took over me and mybody was getting ice cold and I

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felt almost I'm going, I'm dying, Something is going to happen.
And in that instant, for thefirst time in my life, I've
heard the inner whisper hang onthere, You're not going.
Today, Everything will be good.
I had no clue what it was.

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I never heard anything fromanybody, but in that moment the
heat wave went through all mybody and I felt like I'm coming
back to life.
And I felt like I'm coming backto life.
It gave me strength.
It gave me courage to hang on,to go through healing process,

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to go through investigation andmany, many years during my
growth, you know to deal withthis illness, because it was not
easy process and it wasn'tsomething that doctors had ready
things for.
Anyway, that moment of claritygave me so much courage and

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strength and built my innertrust based simply on this
experience.
I never shared this experiencewith my parents or anybody else,
because it was no one who couldpossibly understand.
No one who could possiblyunderstand.
But inside of me I felt verydeep gratitude to these whispers

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and I decide whatever is goingto happen in my life, it's like
I discover an inner friend.

I discover someone I can rely on, someone I
can trust.

So is that perhaps why you wanted to
also become a doctor.
That was at some point in mylife, when I was growing up,
because I had no solution torecover completely from my
illness.
I wanted to become a doctor.
I decided one day I grow up, Iwill study and I will give my
very best, I will become adoctor to heal myself and to

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help other children.
But little did I know what mydestiny was preparing for me.
And when I was almost finishingmy study, one of the greatest
war broke into the Israel andunfortunately activated an

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anti-Semitic heat wave in SovietUnion, not allowing Jewish
children to study, children tostudy.
And for the second time in mylife, everything shattered in
millions of pieces, leaving menot only heartbroken but without

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the future.
I had no clue what would happento me or to my parents, but
something inside of me kept megoing, giving me strength from
within to look forward whateverwill happen.
So it was a time when I wassearching for any kind of

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solution.
My parents didn't know muchabout it, but I joined a little
group of young people who wantedto leave Soviet Union at the
time, if it ever will bepossible.
So we are, the young groupsomehow got in touch with
Israeli government and each ofus got an invitation from Israel

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to launch application forSoviet Union to let us out.
It took for us four years ofnot knowing what's going to
happen if they will ever let usout.
My parents had to go throughhumiliation and also my father,

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who was a military man, wasstripped of all of his honors.
So, because I was the onlychild, they went all the way to
help me to find my future and tolive a free life, and none of
us knew where it would lead usand what would happen.
And again, by the hand of faithand I believe in God, I believe

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deeply in this whisper.
Whatever someone call it, Icall it God within my heart.
One night, when America put alot of pressure on Soviet Union
to finally let the Jewish peoplego, 400 first people were

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randomly chosen randomly andbeen given 48-hour notice to
leave the country With threesuitcases, $250 of equivalent
currency, no passport, noidentity, going into unknown

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with only love in the heart,searching for freedom and place
where we can live our destinyand see our dreams alive.
And what did you take?
What did I take?
Only had three suitcases.

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They only had three suitcases.
Look, to be honest, I don'tremember what I took because we
had very little time to live.
It was not about attachment orpersonal effects.
It was something that swept youaway at the emotional tsunami.
We had to leave my grandparentsaway because we couldn't take

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them with us.
So it was like stepping intounknown at the most cold winter
night I've ever experienced, andgoing through a very difficult
journey from Ukraine intoAustria, which was again a lot
of humiliation, a lot ofchallenges.
During this journey, we werevirtually thrown out of the

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train in the middle of midnightinto nowhere to find another
station to walk.
So we walked all night.
I don't know how many people itwas elderly people, younger
people.
I remember everything.
I remember everything becausethe only thing I understood God

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wanted a freedom for me.
God wanted me to live the lifeof dreams and to share my inner
strengths, my courage and mytrust with others, telling them
that there is always a way outin life.

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There is never one solution,there is never one way, there is
multiple and it's always havesomething to do the way we trust
ourselves, the way we trust theGod within us, and how strong
our desires are to achieve whatit is that we want in life.

So where did they finally place you?
Where did you settle?

We finally got into Austria.
From Austria we were supposedto go to Israel, but because two
days later after our arrivalanother war broke in, we didn't
go to Israel and we were sent toItaly, to Rome.
At the very, very first Jewishcameras, and after nine months

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living in Rome applying tovarious countries, australia
took us as the Russian Jewishrefugees, jewish refugees.
So that was the beginning, thebeginning of my of my life in

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freedom.

Did you feel you belonged after all this?

You know, I've lived in many
different countries.
Australia was one of them.
I studied in US.
I lived in Germany.
I lived in many differentcountries.
Australia was one of them.
I studied in US, I lived inGermany, I lived in Belgium.
I live now in the UK.
The only thing I've learned inlife that wherever you go, you

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take yourself with you.
It's not about the countries,it's not about economic
situation or the governmentsolutions.
It's all have something to dowith you because you take
yourself as your own suitcasewherever you go.
And if your consciousness andyour desire strong enough to
find any solution in life,whether it's health issues,
whether it's your relationshipissues, whether it's your

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purpose that you're seeking for,there is always multiple ways,
as long as your desire is strongenough and as long as you trust
yourself more than any outsidecircumstances.

Beautiful.
And today, what is that diamondwithin you?
You have a good life, you'reliving in London, life is good,
so what would you say thatdiamond within what are you
holding today?

The diamond within didn't come just
incidentally.
I studied diamond business inthe US, wanted to become a
diamond expert, but somehownever made business out of it.
And for many, many years thisknowledge got forgotten.
Until 2020, when COVID happenedand I was under lockdown

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helping my parents in AustraliaOver the lunch conversation, the
idea of writing a book andhelping women to step into their
inner power and strength cameout.
Step into the inner power andstrength came out Because there

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is a lot of the same thingsbetween diamonds and humans.
They're both carbon-based, theyboth go through challenges,
heat and a lot of pressure inorder to become brilliant.
But not every piece of carbonbecomes a diamond.
Diamond has a choice, as we do.
If you choose the life of yourdreams, if you choose to find

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solution to your illness, tofind loving relationship, to
live your life regardless ofyour age, to finally allow
yourself to experience your lifepurpose and to live your life
to the fullest.
Because very often when we areyoung, we are busy with children

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, we're helping others, we aremothers, we are givers, we are
wives, we are daughters, we areeverything and it's never left
time for us.
But after our 50s, it doesn'tmatter how old you are, the
whole palette of information canbe open to you.

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Everything can happen only ifyou allow it and if you desire
it strong enough to finally tolive the life of your dreams.

What's one truth that you want the
listeners to remember?

To trust their heart.
If there is something in yourlife that you want to experience
, trust your heart.
But in order to trust yourheart, in order to trust your
heart, you need to understandwhere you're standing right now
in your life, because everythingis consciousness.

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Everything that we do in life,whether we are eating way of
living, the way we speak toothers, the way we speak to
ourselves, our habits, ourdesires, everything has
something to do with ourconsciousness, and consciousness
is everything Very important,more important than what goes

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into your mouth, what comes outof your mouth, and I feel that
if people will connect to theirheart, to the diamond within,
which has been disconnected formany, many thousands of years
from the way of living that welive, we are very much
mind-based society.

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We learn how to live from ourmind and our mind, unfortunately
quite fearful, because that'swhat the mind is for to keep us
safe, to keep us where we arewithout letting us to unleash
our capabilities and to stepinto our empowerment.

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Your heart is the only placethat will allow you to live the
life of your dreams, to healyour body, to heal your mind, to
connect to your own self, toconnect to your divinity, to
connect to your inner power andto feel happy and joyful ever

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after.

Thank you.
Thank you, Diana Esther.
Diana Esther Berschader is asoul doctor, a best-selling
author, a transformational coachand the creator of an
educational platform.
She was silenced in Cold WarRussia, stripped of her dreams,

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blacklisted for being Jewish andtold to disappear.
But instead she transformed andtoday she helps others reclaim
their value and trust thediamond within.
Here's some takeaways from thisepisode.
Every challenge has hiddenblessings.
Look for them.

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Sensitivity is not a weakness,it's inner knowing, and there's
no reason to toughen up.
You need to tune in and honoryour feelings.
If you've been relating to thisstory, here are a few actions
that you could do right now.
Stop apologizing for beingemotional.
Catch yourself.

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If you do it, please let it out.
Listen to your feelings.
If something feels off, it is.
If you're overwhelmed, takethree deep breaths.
It takes only 30 seconds toreset your nervous system.
For similar episodes on bodywisdom, check out episodes 110

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and 133 of Aging with Purposeand Passion.
And if you're a caregivernavigating the challenges of
caring for a loved one withdementia, I highly recommend
that you listen to FadingMemories.
This is a podcast that willgive you insights and guidance
on communicating, managingstress, navigating grief and

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loss and prioritizing thewellbeing of both caregivers and
those they love.
The Fading Memory podcastoffers essential self-care tools
for anyone facing disabilityand chronic illness.
Please check out the links inthe show notes.
And so, Diana Esther, where canpeople learn more about you and

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find your book and learn allabout your services?

I have my website that is called
thediamondwithincouk.
You'll find all my social medialinks on my website.
You will also find my books onmy website and on Amazon.
They're called the DiamondWithin, From Rough to Polish, to
Flawless, and the second book.

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It's called the Poetry of theSoul, because I'm also not only
the writer, I'm also a poet, andmy spiritual poetry helps you
to raise your vibration, to feelgood in the midst of the storm
and to connect to your heart ina beautiful, loving and poetic

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way.

Lovely.
If you didn't catch those links, they're going to be in the
show notes and they're also onmy site too.
That's reinventedpossible.
com.
And so, my friends, what's nextfor you?
Are you just going through themotions or are you living the
life that you truly love?
Get my free guide to go fromStuck to Unstoppable, and that's
also in the show notes, rightbelow on the description of

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