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Speaker 1 (00:10):
Welcome to amazing women and men of power, legends and icons. Yesterday, today,
and tomorrow. I'm your host, Raven to talk show Maven.
And today we're rolling out the red carpet. You know
we are for a true powerhouse in television and film,
from battling zombies and The Walking Dead to commanding the
USS Discovery as the first black woman to leave a
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Star Trek series, and today, Oh wow, she has refined
what it means to be a trailblazer in Hollywood. I
kid you not. And she's talking on one of the
most important roles of her career, leading the powerful, darkly funny,
and deeply moving film My Dead Friend Zoe, which is
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one hundred percent fresh on rotten tomatoes and actually had
already hit So run, don't walk. Go see it. This
film is a must want to, deeply personal story of friendship,
grief and healing, walked you by an incredible cast including
Morgan Freeman, Ed Harris, Natalie Morales, and she is a
history making actress and advocate for power storytelling and one
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of the most compelling performers of our time. You know
what I like to say, if you're standing, sit down,
and if you're sitting stand up because the lady is here.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Sonique, that was the most incredib introd.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
You're gonna make me cry. Thank you, You're so deserving
of it. Welcome to the show. It's an absolutely honored
to have you hear, Soniko. Wow, you're amazing.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Oh, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Thank you got so much going on at one time?
How do you do it?
Speaker 3 (01:56):
By the grace of God, by j Jesus.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Yes, absolutely, by the grace of God. You're absolutely life.
That's what I love about you. You know, I can watch
in these different things and I listen to you on
your interviews and you're so grounded. Did that come from,
of course your mom and your dad.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Thank you very yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Yeah, yeah, you're beautiful, beautiful person. But let's get into
this all right. So you got a lot going on,
a lot going on, and I know inquiring minds wants
to know what's the secret? I mean, really, Sonko, what's
the secret to keeping up with all this?
Speaker 4 (02:31):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (02:32):
Wee?
Speaker 6 (02:34):
I would say being in the moment, because what I
have found is that when I'm when I'm not fully
in the moment, I miss things, right, Trying.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
To have like a bird's eye view or a God's eye.
Speaker 6 (02:50):
View and trying to sort of strategize everything and planning
and everything. Of course, planning is necessary, but I feel
that when I'm fully in each moment, the things that
I need for the next moment become available to me.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
If that means mm hmmmm hmm. I like that the
things you need and want for the next we'll not want,
but we actually need, so you don't have to think
about it. It just kind of organically comes that.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
It does, it does.
Speaker 6 (03:23):
I do have to say, you know, if I'm fully there,
if I'm really present, then then you know, I got
a whisper it to me, you know, the holy sport,
like you need to do this next, or this is
what needs to happen, or this is this is how
you need to plan this out or whatever. I definitely
have to be I have to be present, and I
have to not be full of anxiety and worry. You know,
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I gotta let that go because that blinds me and
and deafens me too.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Well, you're being free to be yourself, and that's good.
That takes a lot of pressure off, doesn't it.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Yeah, I really do.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
What is has been like Snika seeing the audience connects
so deeply with pretty much everything you're in.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
Wait, I just I don't know.
Speaker 6 (04:15):
It's it's kind of I marvel at it, right, because
I don't know that that that's how it's gonna happen.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
You know.
Speaker 6 (04:25):
I just am doing my best and giving myself over
to these stories and and trying to handle them with
as much respect and courage that that I can. And
and and then when I hear from people, I'm like, whoa,
it blows my mind. But people share with me about
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how they've been affected by my work, and and I
just go like, wow, that well, that's.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
The power of art.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
Yeah, that's the power of storytelling, power of human connection,
because you know, we know we're gonna connect with each other.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
And that's I think.
Speaker 6 (05:11):
It's one of the gifts of storytelling is that it's
an invitation to connect.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Yes, yes, And what a gift right to be able
to connect. And so and my dead friend Zoe love
that name is deeply personal and raw. So what was
it about this particular story that made you just, I
don't know, made you say, Okay, I want this character,
this is I can do this.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Well.
Speaker 6 (05:38):
I was really moved by the director and co writer
and producer Kyle Hauseman Stokes because this is his life,
so this is autobiographical. He has said before that it's
ninety three percent exactly as it happened, you know.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
And he wrote me a letter and let me know
who he is. He's US Army veteran.
Speaker 6 (06:00):
He was a staff sergeant, received the Bronze Star, did
two tours paratrooper.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Wow.
Speaker 6 (06:05):
He is a filmmaker as well, and a brilliant one
at that, and a brilliant writer. And he wrote me
a letter saying that he wants to tell this story
to save lives. And then I get the sense from
what I've seen of you that you would want to
join me in that. Yeah, And I just it just
it shot right in my heart, like whoa, because he
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wanted to tell this a soldier story to honor the
hob that he's lost. And so I said, one thousand
percent I want to stand with you with that, and
I'm so grateful for it.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Oh wow. I would imagine you don't get many times
when you're doing a character or do you can correct
me if I'm wrong, where people come out and talk
to you like that the person that you're a portraying,
or is this the first time that you really portray
kind of a real story.
Speaker 6 (06:55):
It's the first time that I've portrayed a person who existed,
who is a lie.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Big difference, right, Yeah.
Speaker 6 (07:04):
Yeah, So I've played someone before who who was who
was alive, but you know, she she had passed. It
was it was a play that I did and I
played sonjy Clay Muhammad Ali's first wife.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Back when all but of course she had passed.
Speaker 6 (07:22):
But yes, I've never played someone who's alive and who's
directing you.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
Yeah, air with you. Yeah, yeah, it was my first time.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
That's a big difference. I mean it's wow, what an honor,
right for both situations, but a little bit more pressure
when they're still here because they're going to watch it
and you want to make sure you nail it, you know.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
So I definitely felt it.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
So this film is about friendship, it's about loss and healing,
but also it does bring dark humor into the mix.
How do you balance those heavy emotions with the comedic
elements of it.
Speaker 6 (08:05):
Well, I think that the balance between the comedy and
the drama was already there. It was it was on
the page, you know. It was part of why the
script was so brilliant and it It was really easy
to bring it, bring it to life because Natalie Morales,
my co lead, she was in charge of the comedy, right,
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she was the one carrying that torch, and she brought
so much joy and levity and such precision that I
could just be in the moment with her and there
there is the comedy and drama, you know, right there,
you know, just kind of bically. It wasn't something that
we necessarily had to work for. It was it was
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just a submitting to the script and the story as
it was.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Oh my goodness, you should just write a book. My
secret is being in the moment. Yeah, be in the
moment girls.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
To be I guess becoming a theme.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
No, but it's a good thing. It's a good thing
that I think we all can learn from that. You'll
just be spontaneous, be in the moment, you know, let it,
let it go and let it flow. I guess right,
that's that.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
I know, that's right, let it go.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Absolutely, And yeah, because it takes pressure off of us,
I said earlier, everybody's trying to be perfect and get
it right. And this is one of the things I
teach hosts how to be a great talk show host.
And one of the things I always talk to them
about is don't be so scripted. Be free to be yourself,
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you know, don't try to be like anybody but yourself,
and just go for it, let it go, let it float,
it's flow.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
Can I have that? Can I have it?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
You can.
Speaker 4 (09:59):
To make sure.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
I thank you so much. You said before that the
storytelling has the power to heal. What's the biggest message
you could pass on to our audience to take away
from Dead Friend Zone, my dead friend zolt.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Oh Man, Well, I think that it.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
I hope that that the Kyle's original mission is fulfilled, right.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Because he really wanted to save lives.
Speaker 6 (10:24):
He wanted to honor those he's lost, He wanted to
tell the soldiers story. He wanted to speak to everybody,
even even non veterans who are dealing with post traumatic growth.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
And I hope that that's what happens.
Speaker 6 (10:36):
I hope that people watch it and see themselves, and
I hope that they are encouraged to talk about it.
I hope that they're encouraged to forgive themselves and because
you know, a lot of times that's the hardest person
to forget. Yes, Yes, everybody else but yourself. But I
hope that people are encouraged to do that and encouraged
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to talk about things that they have not allowed out,
that have just been sitting and spoiling inside their hearts.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
They get it out.
Speaker 6 (11:09):
And I also hope that people learn what I learned
from doing it, which is how to be a better
listener too.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Oh that's so important. I hardly ever hear anyone say
that how to be a better listener. That's huge because
we're also busy talking, but we're not listening.
Speaker 4 (11:27):
Right, actually listening.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
We're not getting people a real present caring here. Yeah,
you know, and they can feel it.
Speaker 6 (11:35):
They can feel that like, oh, you're not really here
with me, you don't really care.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
Yes, I hope that. I hope that people are encouraged
in that too.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Yeah. I love that because people aren't just listening to
you or watching you. They want to feel every word,
They want to feel every movement, you know, And that's
so important because it is about how we feel. I mean,
look at how we're all that's going on now, you know,
what is it doing is is tapping us. We've been
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so busy, but now we're slow down, slowing down, and
we're tapping into how we feel. And so that's one
of the things that you do in your acting, and
now I get to see you do it here with me. Yay, well, friendship,
I want to just share this with the audience real quickly,
sneak with that friendship loss and the unexpected ways we hear.
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Critics are calling My Dead Friend Zoe funny, powerful, and unforgettable.
With actors like Morgan Freeman, Ed Harris, and Sonica Martin Green,
this film will stay with you long after the credits roll.
Catch My Dead Friend Zoe in theaters starting now. So run,
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don't walk, Go see it. What are you waiting for it?
While you're still here? Run? Go see it. Don't miss it.
For those listening, where can they find tickets? Oh?
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Man, I think they're everywhere.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Yeah, everywhere.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
This opening weekend, you know. Yeah, it's been a busy
week for anywhere.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Yeah, it has been a busy Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
I want to talk real quickly if you don't mind,
and we got a few minutes left. I just want
you to well, I'm just curious. I'm gonna ask you
this because of just our conversation today. Do you do
much speaking like live on stage, because you would be
incredible if you're not.
Speaker 6 (13:27):
Oh wow, that's that's a high compliment. Thank you for that.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
I I's so inspirational. Yeah.
Speaker 6 (13:34):
I don't do any any speaking really like not not
like oh, this is specifically a speaking engagement.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
I haven't done that.
Speaker 6 (13:43):
I mean I do, obviously, I speak a lot in
impress and and you know, panels and and things like that,
but they're typically connected to projects that I'm doing.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
But but yeah, no, I haven't done.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
Okay, let's put that out there.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
I'm like, maybe I could center.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Yeah, you're so inspirational. You know, so many people would
learn from you, and they'd give them a chance to
see you beyond the acting and filming because you're such
a beautiful person. I'm just enjoying talking to you. And
you know, I'm pretty intuitive, so I see that might
be going.
Speaker 6 (14:15):
I'm just saying, hey, listen, I received I receieve that
because I'm really enjoying talking to you too, and and
and I I am already I've changed a little bit
just from talking to you.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
You know, Thank you.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Well, listen, is there anything that I haven't asked you
that you want to share about? My dad? Friend Zoe
or any projects coming up. We didn't really get a
chance to tap into, uh talking about you and the
Star Trek Discovery, which my husband watches the all time.
You love.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
Wow, phenomenal.
Speaker 6 (14:51):
No, this this has been this has been wonderful. I'm
just I'm just grateful that you you know that you
took the time with me and had had me on
and said all those encouraging things, I will take them
with me and I just like I said, I really
hope that people watch this. I hope that it hits
every heart that it's supposed to hit, because that's what's
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more important than sale or you know, this isn't about
no Hollywood game. This is you know, we really want
people to watch this and be encouraged to start their
journey of healing. So, yeah, it is a stellar cast.
It's you know, we didn't talk about Natalie Morales and
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Ukharsha and Bukhar and Gloria Rubin as well, and also
a lot of our background actors are our veterans. Ninety
percent of the cast is real are real ves.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Oh my god, that's amazing. Thank you for bringing that up. Yeah,
because we wouldn't want to leave them out because that
is so important. Shanipa Martin Green, You guys amazing, amozing
so much, Thank you so much for being my guest today.
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Welcome back to amazing women and men of power, legends
and icons yesterday, today, and tomorrow. I'm your host, Raven
Blair Glover known by many as Raven the talk show Mayben,
and we are just getting started with the powerful conversations today.
But you know what, it ain't over yet. That's right,
because we have a wonderful guest that's absolutely sensational, even
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a lover. Her name, Lwana Jean Parker, lovingly called the
blogging Queen and best storyteller, is on a mission to
help women awaken their clarity, confidence, and courage to live
the life they were created for now. Through her courage
to Live Your Dream coaching, Luana combines faith, storytelling, and
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transformation to help women walk boldly in their purpose. Oh yeah,
her topic today that we're going to be discussing is
dream Builders, the faith fuel formula to live boldly and
leave a legacy. And we're gonna start out with a
few warm hearted moments before we dive deep into her
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signature wisdom. So Lawana, first of all, welcome to amazing
women and men in power legends and icons yesterday, today,
and tomorrow because you certainly a living legend. Oh yeah,
how you doing.
Speaker 5 (17:25):
I'm joining stand with this, Raven, and thank you. I'm
so honest to be here today.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Well, this is a blessing to be able to, you know,
share you as my audience because I know a lot
about you, a lot. We've been connected for a few years.
Ever since you stepped on my toe at an event,
they connected us. You became an amazing women men in
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power host. We still have your podcast airing today, you know,
and oh my god, it's been just wonderful watching you
just grow and grow and you know, just become the
queen of blogging that you are and a storytelling master
that you are, and I just am so proud of you.
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So first of all, let me say that, in fact,
let's give the lady a hand. Okay, absolutely, because it's
been great, But so I want the listeners to get
to know you a little bit. So your story has
touched so many lives. But take us back behind the title.
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What inspired you to step into this work as a
dream builder, coach and mentor and journalists?
Speaker 4 (18:47):
Well, thank you, Raven.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
For that.
Speaker 5 (18:49):
It actually started several years ago when I was depressed,
very depressed, honestly, I heard the voice in my hids
saying journal. I did that and what I wrote became
a book. That was my first book to go on Amazon.
I was so excited about that, but I laxed the
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courage to let anybody know it for about three months
and the and then when I did, people actually bought
my book. So christ But what got me into the
journaling and dream ill news because that voice told me
to journal, and I thought we should learn about journaling.
And the things I learned about journal make me realize
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just how important it is in all of our lives.
So I have made it my mission to work with
people to help them to get their stories on paper.
It doesn't matter if you want to publish a book
or not. The things you carry around and you can
help create the illnesses that you feel. So for me,
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it's my private conversation with God. I feel like he's
actually right there with me and I'm carrying on a
conversation with him. I might not get the answer right then,
but sometime when I go back and read it, answers
will come to me.
Speaker 4 (20:12):
So that's how I got into that.
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Then I started hearing people saying things like I'm too old,
I don't think I have the talent. There was one
excuse after another, and most of these women were like me,
around my age, and I thought, you know what, it's
not too late.
Speaker 4 (20:31):
As long as we have it's not too late.
Speaker 5 (20:35):
So I started working on creating my signature program now
called dream Builders, and that was to help people to
go back and either pick up that dream that you
left behind because you were so busy taking care of
everybody else, you forgot yoursell or to start a new dream,
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not someday but today.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Yeah. And I love the fact that you're saying despite
your age, you know you and I were up there,
proud seniors, right. Yes, I think it's over, but it
ain't over to the fat ladies saying, and I don't
hear a voice nowhere around. And you know you want
to speak extended life into your future. So you never
want to give up goals, You never want to give
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up dreams. You never want to give up sharing your
story because you never know who's going to help. And
I don't know about you. I strongly, strongly believe, Lahana,
that we are all here for a purpose, and part
of that purpose is to share our life, lessons, challenges,
set back, so the part of our story we feel
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comfortable in sharing so that we can pass on the
lessons we've learned and the challenges we've been able to overcome.
Speaker 4 (21:50):
Well in that, I wholeheartedly agree with you. You know.
Speaker 5 (21:54):
One of the one of my guilt trips was that
I didn't have a perfect life coming up, but I
didn't have the heart life that I've heard some people
talk about, and so I felt guilty about that I
shouldn't have, but I did. And then they occurred to
me that there might be some others who are going
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through what I was experiencing, and that's that maybe I
don't have enough to be out there hearing.
Speaker 4 (22:25):
And then it's so wrong, you know, And.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
A lot of people feel that way.
Speaker 5 (22:30):
They do, And it doesn't matter whether you have an
easy life or a heart life.
Speaker 4 (22:36):
Whatever life you have.
Speaker 5 (22:37):
Is an experience that somebody needs to hear about because
it's going to help them.
Speaker 4 (22:42):
You may help somebody improve.
Speaker 5 (22:44):
On what they already have who may be thinking what
I do isn't enough, and then they hear your story
and they realize, yes, it is I should be letting
somebody else know I can help somebody. And those who
are going through really rough things that they have overcome,
my heart leads for them. But I'm so proud of
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them because they stepped out. They didn't let it hold
them back. They stepped out and they started sharing and
helping others. And you're right, we're here to help.
Speaker 4 (23:15):
And pass it on the good and.
Speaker 1 (23:18):
The ugliest at least. I always tell people, don't hold
back the struggles and what you you know, the things
that weren't that desirable in your story, because nobody wants
to see a perfect life. It's not real enough. You know,
you want people to know, hey, I'd been there, I
know how you feel. You know, we don't want you
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to embellish your story, and we want you to feel
comfortable in sharing what you feel comfortable with sharing. So
for those people that are just getting into journaling, give
them this too, because we're showing our time or I
ask for a lot more. But your two most important
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steps to get going.
Speaker 5 (24:02):
The easiest thing to do when you don't know how
to start writing is just to look around you and
see what's.
Speaker 4 (24:09):
Going on the ground is shining.
Speaker 5 (24:11):
How does that make you feel you just wash dishes,
how did you feel about that?
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Tap into your feelings it's.
Speaker 5 (24:19):
Right or exactly. Or take a picture of something that
you did and it was great and write about that experience.
There's so many ways to get started, but that's a
couple of the easy ways to get started. And you
don't have to journal every day, please, folks. You do
not have to feel write a book. If you want
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to write a single sentence, I feel great today and
that's all you feel like writing, that's fine.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Yeah, And don't forget to include your blessings. You have
gratitude all.
Speaker 5 (24:52):
The things you have to be grateful for, because that's
gonna help you on those days when you don't feel
so good.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
You can go back to that day you were feeling
great and you I might discover what you're doing different,
not that something's different about your day other than maybe
you woke up on the wrong side of the bed
or something like that. You know, you've been called the
blogging Queen. So first of all, how did writing and
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generally become the cornerstone of your mission to where you
delved into blogging?
Speaker 5 (25:26):
Well, I always wanted to write from the time I
first learned how to read.
Speaker 4 (25:31):
I always wanted to write my own.
Speaker 5 (25:32):
Book, but I allowed other people to put roadblocks and
things in my way, and then I build on top
of what other people sat down and it just it
took me years. In fact, only a few years ago
that I actually started writing. But when COVID came, I
needed something to do, and I had been thinking about blogging,
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and I had a.
Speaker 4 (25:56):
Friend, you know, and Tim Ja let oh yeah, Tim, Yeah.
Speaker 5 (26:00):
He gave me this list things to do every day
for thirty one days, and I wrote about the things
that were on that list for thirty one days.
Speaker 4 (26:10):
And at the end of that thirty one days, I
didn't want.
Speaker 5 (26:13):
To stop, and I just continue every single day writing
for three years straight.
Speaker 4 (26:19):
I wrote every single day.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
That's awesome. Oh my god, that's amazing. Your Tim is
great at that. So you were inspired to do that.
What was the biggest thing that you discovered in that
process that surprised you?
Speaker 5 (26:35):
Well, As I say, when you write in a journal,
for example, even on a blog, you're putting your feelings down.
You're letting everything out there, and that means any mistakes
that you made, you can go back and take a
look at it and go Okay, it didn't work. I
did it this way. It didn't work. I still want
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to do it, but let me find see if there's
another way that might actually work for me. So it's
like you become your own instructor or a coach, so
to speak. Okay, because you're learning from your failures that
you have.
Speaker 4 (27:12):
Listens. When we don't list things, we don't.
Speaker 5 (27:15):
Write stuff down, we might be doomed to go and
repeat the same thing we did before, thinking we're going
to get a different result.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
You keep doing what you're doing, You're gonna keep getting
what you get. Well. I love your quote about prayers
and whining and post it notes. It is hilarious and real.
Say the quote if you don't mind, and tell us
more about that moment and how humor helps you stay grounded.
Speaker 5 (27:43):
Because I have to be real with myself and it
has helped me in the last couple of years that
I was on TikTok. Sorry to say I lost that account,
but while I was on there, I got to be me,
you know. I just let people know on their Okay.
I don't curse, I don't call people names. I'm respectful
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to everyone unless you give me a reason not to be.
Speaker 4 (28:09):
I don't want any kind of insults.
Speaker 5 (28:11):
I do pray and you're gonna give me referring to
God on here. And people accepted that.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
What about.
Speaker 4 (28:20):
Yeah, without the whining?
Speaker 1 (28:22):
Now I know I was asking you what about the whining?
Because the those quote it is about prayers whining?
Speaker 4 (28:28):
Oh what was that quote?
Speaker 1 (28:30):
You remember?
Speaker 3 (28:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (28:32):
I do, But that whining, that was.
Speaker 5 (28:36):
Me complaining, complaining, complaining, instead of looking at what I
could do differently. Instead, I chose to find all kind
of reason about why this wasn't working any why this
wasn't going on. And it's so easy to do that
rather than looking for the positive. Back in nineteen I
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need five, I made the decision to always smile and
say hello to people. And I do that, and it
made such a difference in my life. The same way
what somebody told me one time, how can you be
positive all the time? But it's not that I'm positive
all the time, but I choose to go in the
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direction of being positive. Choice. You know, It's like that
Cherokee Sam the grandfather kills his grandson about the two wolves,
the one that is evil and all these bad things,
and then there was the good one that does these
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wonderful things, and they're always.
Speaker 4 (29:46):
At war with one another.
Speaker 5 (29:49):
And the grandson said, well, so who wins grandfather? And
grandfather said the one you feed. So I choose to
feed the good.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
I love that. So how do you keep the humor alive?
And what's some things that get you back in your
happy mood?
Speaker 4 (30:07):
Reading the good romance?
Speaker 1 (30:09):
That's right, you do love them romances, don't. I used
to read them a long time ago too. Yeah, yeah, so.
Speaker 4 (30:18):
That's awesome.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
So you feel like everybody should know or at least
try to figure out where their happyness within them is
so during those dark and bad times they can go
back to those moments like for you, it's romance reading
a good romance. For me, I love listening to oldies
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like seventies, eighties, nineties for some reason, go back to
that that time of life, and so listening to those music,
you know, so all of us have that thing right
that we do.
Speaker 5 (30:52):
And you know what the motown sound that I was
doing that for two I'm telling you, as I told them,
there is nothing like the music we had up.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
There you go, there, you go. I love it, I
love it. I'm doing the temptation walk as I sit
down now.
Speaker 5 (31:12):
Oh my god, the Original Temptations with my number one group.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
Yeah yeah, I had an opportunity to interview one of
the stylistics Arian. You know. We were talking about old
school music and it is just amazing. You never get
tired of it. But I'm going to ask you to
hold your thought for a second. We got a couple
more questions and I want to just talk to the
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listeners right now real quick about you. So, first of all,
let me say to all of you tuning in that
just from this short conversation, you see how amazing this
woman is. And so sometimes you got to get out
of your head and get into your heart, you know,
and really tap into what you're feeling, tap into the
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dreams you've accomplished that you can journal about or blog
about in the dreams that you yet to have reached,
but they're coming. So let me ask you ready to
stop dreaming and start living your purpose because you don't
want to just dream and dream and dream and never
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get into action of doing and living. If so, join
Lowana Jean Parker, creator of Courage to Live Your Dream
Coaching and discover the clarity, confidence, and courage to live
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know it's been tugging right well. With powerful tools like journaling,
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legacy storytelling and faith driven mindset work, the Wana will
guide you. She really will towards your God given dreams.
So you can grab her free gift at Lawana Parker
dot com seven Steps and download her ebook as well,
and connect with her on Facebook and you know pretty
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much all your the platforms over there. She'll be back
on tiktoking tiktoking away or Instagram and all that, so
you can you can contact her. Where's the best place?
Give one place that they can reach.
Speaker 5 (33:25):
You, Lawanaparker dot com. That's my website.
Speaker 1 (33:29):
Oh there you go, and you can click on that
contact page and find her. Now, remember your story isn't over,
it's just getting started, and stop trying to do everything yourself.
We all need coaches, we all need mentors. So you know,
check out my friend and someone that's an amazing coach.
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You know, they don't call her Queen of Blogging for nothing.
She can help you get started with journalism. She can
help you get started with blogging. And now pack with
more from the fabulous Lajana Jean Parker, Let's pick up
where we left off and go even deeper into your
journey of power building dreams. Lajanna, you teach women to
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find clarity through journaling, how does that process actually uncover
life changing truths?
Speaker 5 (34:21):
I encourage them to write about what they're feeling deeps inside,
and when they've written that, I have them go deeper
to find what is causing what's.
Speaker 4 (34:35):
Holding you back?
Speaker 5 (34:37):
You know, mine was the lack of confidence and because
I didn't have anyone pushing me until years later that
said you can do. And so I'm there to be
behind you to let you know, find out what it
is that you really want and why you're not doing
it yet. What wasn't we break through that, because that's
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nothing but fear doubts that other people have put into
you and that you held onto. It's like in my
book I wrote here in Scarcity can knocking at the
door I opened and said it come all in, and
they didn't want to leave. So sometimes you gotta push
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some things out and just do it even though you're scared.
Speaker 4 (35:23):
And that's why I come in, because I'll be there
to pick you up push them through.
Speaker 5 (35:29):
Exactly if someone told me one time you can do
this and if you fall, I'll catch you.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
There you go, And you know what, Fear and doubt
are real obstacles. So how can women break through them
without breaking down? Or is it important that they break
down before they break through?
Speaker 5 (35:49):
Well, in my opinion, what I have observed so far
is that once you know what it is that you're
afraid of.
Speaker 1 (35:56):
Face it. You got to figure it out before you
can pick.
Speaker 5 (36:00):
Got to find out what it is. And once you
know what it is, then you can go ahead and
do whatever you want. And I encourage people to schedule
or do something that they were afraid to do before,
and let's put some steps.
Speaker 4 (36:16):
Together to go ahead and do that.
Speaker 5 (36:18):
And once you get across that barrier and you realize
that it wasn't as high as I thought it was,
I was able to jump over that thing and everything
else is waiting for me on the other side. That
starts to build your confidence. Every time you do something
that you were afraid of before, even if it doesn't
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succeed the way you've wanted it to, but the fact
that you made the effort starts to build your confidence.
And he screamed that you do after that builds your
confidence a little more, and once you got the confidence,
there's nothing that's gonna stop you, even when you fall
down flat in your face and you go, oh, what
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was that?
Speaker 4 (37:06):
That's okay, yeah, I read, didn't start all over again?
Speaker 1 (37:11):
There you block?
Speaker 4 (37:13):
I just trip. I'm ready to start over, and it's.
Speaker 1 (37:15):
Okay to start over. I just want the listeners to
know it's okay if I could tell you how many
times I have to start over. And sometimes you're not
actually starting all over, you're just kind of stopping and resetting. Okay,
that's okay.
Speaker 4 (37:29):
For that.
Speaker 1 (37:30):
We got just a couple of minutes, so a couple
I guess you can lighten fast questions for you first,
you only have a few seconds to answer both. Let's
talk about phase driven goal setting, like how is the
difference from the traditional vision board or checklist approach? Talk
about that, what is the difference of that?
Speaker 5 (37:53):
Well, because we create goals that align with your purpose,
not what I think to do, but what it is
that you're going for and will you support that with prayer?
And that's to me, it's extremely important. I don't care
if you pray to the moon, but prayer to me
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is very important.
Speaker 4 (38:16):
Prayer for me to God is what keeps me going.
Speaker 5 (38:20):
And that's activated by your intentional steps. The steps that
you set for yourself is a thing that moves your forework.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
That intentional step for sure. So you say in storytelling
is a legacy and that's powerful. What does it mean,
Lewana to write your story? Since we're talking about intentions
with intentions?
Speaker 5 (38:42):
To me, it means that you share something that you
struggle with.
Speaker 4 (38:48):
You don't have to write your whole life.
Speaker 5 (38:50):
Just find something that you struggle with and how you
overcame it. Because everybody has a story. Can you tell
about how you got started with your mother? I really
got started, well, I stumbled along after I realized I
was depressed and started writing about it. Whatever your story is,
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to share it because they are people out there who
need to hear it.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
Stories to be told exactly.
Speaker 5 (39:21):
Stories help us to heal, they inspire, they lead us.
And well, you don't want to be the person that
called somebody to go through their grain having missed what
they were intended to do because you didn't hear your
story and they didn't realize what they were capable of.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Final question, how can women want to
build a courageous community especially in a world that often
makes them feel isolated or you missed the boat. It's
too late to start.
Speaker 5 (40:01):
Well, you should find a group that is like minded,
people who think like you do. I have a community
that I've started, and I don't just call it a community.
Speaker 4 (40:14):
Is so well.
Speaker 5 (40:16):
I used to say, sister did, But I've had a
couple of guys who asked me information about joining, So
maybe I better go back to the community. Anyway, we
grow together, We hold each other accountable. We celebrated our breakthroughs,
and we can talk about things there and get answers
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from one another without fear of am I gonna be
looking down on What are they gonna think about me?
If I tell them this? We have a mutual understanding
that whatever's said in there is not to.
Speaker 4 (40:54):
Go out now.
Speaker 5 (40:56):
I don't go around spending twenty four hours with every
single person to know whether or not they hold true
to that. But I like to believe that the people
who are part of the community, that they keep whatever
they learn in there to themselves. They're not out there
talking about it at any rate. In there, everybody is comfortable,
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they feel safe, they feel loved, because that's important. I
tell people I love you every day because for a
long time I had never heard of anyone actually say
I love you to me, and I wanted to hear
that so bad.
Speaker 4 (41:34):
And so when I.
Speaker 5 (41:35):
Started the Tichitark program, I got some people who were
in a bad place and I started telling them what
I love you. And then I thought, you know, everybody
needs to hear that, so I made I have it.
Every night I tell them I love you. If you
don't have anyone to say that to you, or you
just need to hear any because you haven't heard it today,
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come here, spend some time with me and you'll hear
me tell you I love you and I don't mean them.
Speaker 1 (42:03):
Yeah, and that's important. And thank you for doing that,
and I encourage everybody to follow you. Luana. You have
truly inspired us today. Thank you for being here and
sharing your stories and your tips and you know, just
things that's going to help people move forward. And we
really appreciate you sharing it with our audience. And I
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want to tell the audience that remember it's never too late.
Our big saying is, you know Lwana for years over
here on our campus is don't wait to be great
or it just may be too late. And we don't
want it to be too late. And too late doesn't
mean that you know you may be on your way
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too great too late. Maybe that you missed an opportunity
because you were holding back because of the butts you
put in your life. Sometimes we have to give our
own sales permission to succeed.
Speaker 5 (43:02):
Right absolute, your dream didn't come to you, back said,
there you go.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
It's your dream. It is your dream, and you deserve
to live your life on purpose and to live that
dream full out without holding back. If this episode with
doctor Lawana Jean Parker touched you and made you think
or made you smile, don't keep it to yourself. Be
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sure to share this episode along with your friends and
your family and everybody. This has been a great episode.
I mean you had Bert Ward aka Robin Yeah, and
now you have Lawana doctor Lawana Jean Parker. Hey, it
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can't go wrong. Listen to amazing women and men of power,
legends and icons yesterday, today, and tomorrow. So tune in
next week. But right now, I want you to tap
into your feelings, what you're feeling, tap into your blessings
for today, grab a notebook and start journaling. Not tomorrow,
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but today. And as my friend Les Brown always says,
you can't see the picture sometimes for being in the frame,
so don't try to figure it all out. That's what
mentors and coaches like doctor Jim Ljana is all about.
And they can go where to find out more about.
Speaker 5 (44:28):
You, Lawanaparker dot com. That's my website.
Speaker 4 (44:34):
Remember your life is your message.
Speaker 1 (44:37):
Absolutely all right, y'all. That's a rap. I'm Raven Blair
Glover Raven the Talk Show Maven, and we'll see you
next time. Bye bye,