Andrew Z in the Morning! 6.25.2025 - Hour 2

Andrew Z in the Morning! 6.25.2025 - Hour 2

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Juy in the morning, this town away again the Juesy.
Good morning, It's time for the show. Brought to you
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(00:23):
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Kelly Lance, the Princess the property from Howard Hannah Realty.
We've also got coming up for you. Coming up for you.
Our good friend doctor D will be in the house

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and Steve with the sleeves all on the way, jusey
hereon ah, good morning, Good morning. All right, doctor D's
on the way here. But first you got Steve. Hello Steve. Oh,

(01:06):
we're a little early. Sorry, I just knowed the time.
We're like five minutes.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
Early for It'll be two of us, you guys. I know,
it's so crazy, like.

Speaker 1 (01:15):
There's seven people yesterday.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
Yeah, it's like you know, feast or famine here. But
it's super funny that I've never been here with two really. Yeah,
I mean, I think we did for like a half
an hour or something, but nothing like well.

Speaker 1 (01:33):
Doctor Dee will be here in a couple of minutes
and then Steve's gonna be on here in about five minutes.
Something that I thought was interesting. They were talking online
about skills that we had that are now obsolete, like
that we used to do. Like for me, one of
them was I used to be able to rewind a cassette,
like with a cassette with a pencil and yeah, like

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if it came undone or whatever. That's so that's one thing.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
That was like a hack.

Speaker 1 (02:01):
It was a hack. Well, and so here's some other
ones that people kind of put took from that. Programming
a VCR things that they used to be paying ass
You have to start it and stop it and then
set the time about five minutes after in case it
ran long or yeah. So that's that's not even not
even a thing anymore. What's another one loading a thirty

(02:25):
five millimeters camera because you have to pull it out
and then you thread it on the other side of
the camera. They don't have to do that anymore. Driving
a stick.

Speaker 2 (02:34):
Shift, So I can drive a stick shift, I can
as well. In fact, I kind of like it, But.

Speaker 1 (02:43):
I don't think your kids know how to drive a
stick No. My mom bought me a car and she
bought a stick shift. She said, well, when you learn
how to drive it, you can. I learned quick. Yeah,
you know, drive it. You could have it. Someone said
making a weed pipe out of a coke can.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
And then there's that.

Speaker 1 (03:05):
Remember that.

Speaker 2 (03:07):
I might have solid. I never did it.

Speaker 3 (03:10):
I never.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
I have never smoked. I've never done drugs. I never
had done any drugs. I have ones like weed or
more or.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
I've done weed, mushrooms I did in la ones.

Speaker 1 (03:24):
Recently or like a long time, long time ago.

Speaker 2 (03:26):
I haven't do anything now. I'm like so like so
for like pot for me, Like I ge't paranoid, so
like it's not fun for me. It doesn't chill me out,
doesn't make me funny like it does. I just freaking
it's so funny because when I did back back back

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in the day, like I would talk really soft and
people go like, I can't hear you because I thought
I was just screaming. So, I mean, it's just the
weirdest thing. I was so paranoid. It was not fun
for me.

Speaker 1 (03:59):
Yes, they used to when I was younger, because all
my friends either smoked weed or deal drugs or you know,
deal weat or whatever, and they used to try to
get there, we go we They used to try to
get me contact high, so they would lock me in
the car and they.

Speaker 2 (04:15):
Roll up.

Speaker 1 (04:17):
Face. I don't think it ever worked. I mean, I
don't think I've ever been I don't think I've ever
been high. I don't know.

Speaker 2 (04:23):
Well, remember when we had that the meatball girl in
that and you guys ate the meatballs and then you
slept like for Renee.

Speaker 1 (04:34):
And that's right, because she came in she had weed
infused food and the meatballs were amazing. And I had
one meatball and I sell asleep right after that.

Speaker 2 (04:46):
I think it was in both of their heads. I
mean I had no way one meatball would make you sleep.
Like three hours after the show.

Speaker 1 (04:54):
I got a texted for one nine three four five
three three seven five getting your film developed. I'd have
to wait three weeks to see my girlfriend's boobs.

Speaker 2 (05:03):
Oh my gosh. And then they would report you right.

Speaker 1 (05:06):
Yes, and then or they would take a copy of them.
They take a copy of the pictures because you just
have to send them in.

Speaker 2 (05:12):
That was the og Internet.

Speaker 1 (05:15):
It was also using one eight hundred collect remember that
one hundred call att or one eight hundred. Oh my god,
that's a good one. Not being able to use your
cell phone until after nine o'clock for free nights and weekends.

Speaker 2 (05:26):
Do you remember like just even like calling people like
and pranking them, Like you don't do that anymore.

Speaker 1 (05:33):
No, he's still you know what we used to do,
which was really I had step brothers for a minute
when my mom was with this guy, and we used
to we used to call I used to call random
numbers and we would do Christmas Caroling over the phone.
I came up with it. I'm like, I'm like, hey,

(05:54):
you wanted to sing you Christmas Carol? And we would
just sing Christmas for no reason.

Speaker 2 (05:57):
We just you are creating bits before you were evident.

Speaker 1 (06:02):
I was. That's so funny.

Speaker 2 (06:04):
I used to have I don't know who it was,
would call me all the time and play Blondie call
me call.

Speaker 1 (06:09):
Me like, oh my god, what's the other one? Someone said,
using a Thomas Guide map book to find a street location.
I remember those days. You had to you had to
like in the olden days. I've talked about this before.
But in the olden days, you couldn't just leave the house.

Speaker 2 (06:25):
No, you'd go to Triple A. You would get a
map and how to get to your vacation destination if
you were driving, well, no map quest.

Speaker 1 (06:34):
Yeah, and not only yeah, it's not that you wouldn't.
You wouldn't leave the house unless you were going to
a destination. You either knew exactly where you were going,
or you had to have directions, or you had to
have a map or something. You couldn't. You couldn't just go.
And now you we don't realize how freeing it we
are or how lucky we are now to just leave
the house and go wherever. And if you ways or

(06:55):
Apple google it whatever, it doesn't matter. But we could
just go and just go.

Speaker 2 (06:59):
Yeah, Like my job would be insane if I did
not have that, like getting to people's houses. I mean
I just sold a house in Tiffin. Lord knows if
I did not have you know, GP it Yeah.

Speaker 1 (07:12):
Yeah. Well And the other thing two is do you remember,
like what about when you didn't have you didn't have
a cell phone, Like you just left, You got in
the car and you just left. Remember Billy, remember having
to page someone in the store, like they would go
to the grocery store because you forgot to tell him something.
So you're like, hey, can you page whoever?

Speaker 2 (07:29):
Well, I remember like seeing the first kind of like
cell phone and it was like huge. It was like
it was like this box and it was this he
like twelve inches and it looked kind of still like
a phone. It was weird.

Speaker 1 (07:42):
Oh I got a text it someone said, you remember
remember dial a joke? You used to call it number?
Remember remember you called time and timp? You remember the number?

Speaker 2 (07:52):
Yes, I don't remember the numb a.

Speaker 1 (07:54):
Five three two one two. Yeah, if I three one
two one two. That was the time of tip.

Speaker 2 (08:01):
Uh stout Steve.

Speaker 4 (08:04):
Were you there shoot trying to find gay bars? Back
in that day? You had to do your you spent
like Thursday you had if you knew you were going
to go hit the bars on a Thursday, especially if
there were new ones and like other spots, you had
to literally look it up.

Speaker 3 (08:20):
You had to call.

Speaker 4 (08:21):
Remember when you had to dial information for one one Yeah,
four one one you had to dial information. There's none
of that anymore, but yeah, you had to map out everything.
You had to write the streets, you had to write
it all on a piece of paper, and you're driving
with this piece of paper or a map.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
Yes, these people remember when you would when someone want
to come over to your house, the first time, you
got to tell them, all right, you got to turn left,
it's the second street.

Speaker 2 (08:47):
You gotta Now, you.

Speaker 1 (08:50):
Just give them an address and they just punch it
in it there or whatever. So but man in the
old days used to have to do that. Someone said
they used to have to down nine three six one
two one two time in tim they said they think
it's still in service.

Speaker 5 (09:02):
Nine.

Speaker 1 (09:03):
No one said another text for one nine three four
five three three seveny five. I remember when they had
cordless phones. My mom bought a hundred foot before they
had cordless phones. My mom bought a hundred foot cord
and I was so excited. I was walking in the
backyard with a hundred foot full car and I thought
I was the ship God.

Speaker 2 (09:20):
Speaking of gay bars, Steve, I miss brought so much.

Speaker 3 (09:25):
Every palace, Oh my god.

Speaker 2 (09:29):
I loved it so much. I would go there and
dance all the time. And Thursdays was like dollars.

Speaker 3 (09:34):
Dollar drinks, Yeah, drink and it.

Speaker 2 (09:38):
It was so fun. Lesbians loved me By the way,
do they do they.

Speaker 1 (09:44):
Think that they think they could turn you or they
like being your friend?

Speaker 2 (09:47):
No, I think they well, in back when I was
a lot younger, I mean like they would fight over me.

Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yeah, did you have did you have a gay tryst?

Speaker 2 (09:59):
I never have?

Speaker 1 (10:00):
Never have?

Speaker 2 (10:01):
I know?

Speaker 1 (10:01):
Right, have you kissed a woman?

Speaker 2 (10:03):
I mean not like really but.

Speaker 1 (10:06):
Not like I mean like with like tongue like make out.
You never made out with a woman.

Speaker 2 (10:10):
No, I know, I kind of like should have done that,
am I?

Speaker 1 (10:14):
You say you wish you would have at least tried it.

Speaker 2 (10:17):
And maybe I wish I would have kissed the girl.

Speaker 1 (10:19):
Is it ever too late to turn get? Like because
you said, because here's the thing.

Speaker 3 (10:22):
Oh, it was never too late.

Speaker 2 (10:24):
Well, I mean because here because because here's the thing.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
Killing guys can be we know, the guys can be
assholes and it's hard to you know, everyone said it's
hard to date. And you love being around people, and
you love you love girlfriends, you guys love going out,
and why why not just say you know what?

Speaker 6 (10:39):
Guy?

Speaker 1 (10:40):
Yeah, you and I you and I were in our
fifties and we're just gonna be together.

Speaker 2 (10:44):
Oh my gosh, I just I mean it doesn't do
it for me. I think you know, it doesn't, although
it would have been, life would be a lot easier, right,
I know.

Speaker 3 (10:58):
She's like the power of the burrito is mighty strong man.

Speaker 1 (11:05):
Oh my god. All right, what else going on with you, Steve?
Anything else?

Speaker 3 (11:10):
I'm just getting ready for the weekend. It's human. It
took the dog out for a walk. God, it is.

Speaker 1 (11:16):
It's like it's like eighty or ninety percent humidity right now.

Speaker 2 (11:19):
Crazy.

Speaker 1 (11:19):
Yeah, it's insane.

Speaker 4 (11:20):
My plants are loving it though, Like ooh, I already
got a card, mister raby On behalf of the gay community.
Your flowers are spectacular. I got the green light for that,
so I was quite happy to nice.

Speaker 1 (11:33):
So if you go by, if you go on, or
you go downtown like a mud Hens game, you just
look up at Steve's Patty and you can see the
beautiful the gate, you see the gayness. That's true, all right.

Speaker 3 (11:46):
What's going on sleeve, Steve well Man? There's so much
sad sadness. And this is.

Speaker 4 (11:51):
How I knew I might be gay, because I kept
looking and I was questioning. Back in the day, I'm like, Bobby,
Sure it was hot back in the dayteen idol Bobby
Sherman is passed away.

Speaker 3 (12:05):
He was eighty one.

Speaker 4 (12:06):
He was the seventies teen idol singer and TV actor
Bobby Sherman. He had four top ten hits. Here's a
montage of three of them.

Speaker 6 (12:17):
Hey, little wolselease mate case, come on, You've got to
come into my world.

Speaker 3 (12:24):
And leave your world. Come on now, what of it?

Speaker 1 (12:27):
May they think that I was number one?

Speaker 4 (12:31):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (12:33):
Eusy go easy, go Legion, le Jolt you love me.

Speaker 7 (12:43):
Jee Lejo rajoy.

Speaker 3 (12:49):
Je le Joy? Are you thinking of me?

Speaker 8 (12:55):
Jee lady? You see?

Speaker 1 (13:00):
I gotta tell you I can. I can name almost
every song from nineteen fifty till today, and I have
never heard of him, nor any one of those songs.

Speaker 2 (13:13):
I heard of the middle song.

Speaker 1 (13:15):
Really yeah, shocking to me that I listen. I'm like,
I don't know who Bobby Bobby Sherman is, and I've
never heard those songs, and I know every free song.

Speaker 3 (13:25):
And I can't believe.

Speaker 4 (13:26):
And you must not have eaten cereal back then, because
you could get all these teen Idols records.

Speaker 3 (13:32):
They were on the back of cereal boxes.

Speaker 1 (13:34):
I remember that though some of them even were even square. Yes,
I remember square you'd pull them off the back of
the the cereal box you could play records. I remember that,
but I don't remember this guy.

Speaker 6 (13:45):
I was poor.

Speaker 2 (13:46):
I never got you, never got no because I had
off brands. I never had like the and the off
brands didn't give you free rectords.

Speaker 1 (13:54):
That's one thing that kids are not cannot appreciate these days,
is that remember when you used to used to have
prizes in the cereal and you would I remember when
we get so mad, I would pour all the cereal
out because the damn prize would be at the bottom,
and she get so pissed. I would pour the cereal, oh,
just to get the prize.

Speaker 2 (14:14):
Used to do that, But it's never this right, know,
I knows the box.

Speaker 1 (14:20):
The boxs got a little poof to it now and
it's a whole thing.

Speaker 3 (14:24):
I get that lining tuppleware bowl outey tuple wear bowl.
I'm pouring that cereal out.

Speaker 1 (14:29):
I got a text in four one nine three four
five three three seven five. If it would help me,
I would identify as a woman for one night with Kelly.
He's listeners man, Doctor D's in the house, going on,
Doctor Dean and Morning Hey, it's just the show nowadays
of listeners just hitting on Kelly all morning now that

(14:51):
they found out she's single.

Speaker 7 (14:55):
Hey, don't surprise me. I mean, you're not going to
because she's over fifty.

Speaker 1 (14:59):
So God damn it. She just came in and told
you I won't let him love a dog doctor. Have
you ever heard of Bobby Sherman? No, No, you never
heard me either.

Speaker 6 (15:15):
You know.

Speaker 1 (15:15):
Usually, Steve, you're very young and hip, but this is
the one time where you really show your age because
you are older than all of us.

Speaker 3 (15:22):
I am that.

Speaker 5 (15:24):
See.

Speaker 1 (15:24):
It's greazy because you look better than you look better
than all of us, and you're really older than all
of us. It's crazy. I'm telling you.

Speaker 2 (15:33):
Yeah, you look so allow.

Speaker 1 (15:35):
And olive oil that's Steve's secret for the.

Speaker 3 (15:37):
Have you been doing it? Because I remember you texted me,
did you get some I'm.

Speaker 1 (15:41):
Gonna get I'm gonna get something. We're ordered online. I
couldn't find any aloe the pure you said pure aloe,
and yeah, and all they had was aloe with sunscreen
in it or something at Walmart. No, So I want
pure alo and I'm gonna put it in some olive
oil and just start putting it on my face.

Speaker 2 (15:58):
I have a huge aloe plant.

Speaker 7 (16:00):
Yeah, that's what I was going to say. Yeah, a plant,
you just take the.

Speaker 3 (16:05):
Yeah, really break it off.

Speaker 7 (16:07):
Yeah, you break off?

Speaker 1 (16:08):
Do you have one? Killies? Keep bring me smelling?

Speaker 4 (16:12):
Is it?

Speaker 7 (16:13):
Is it enough like to put in like a in
a cocoction or it's more like if you get sunburn,
you can take one of the.

Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah all right. Someone said I'm going to start putting
aloe and olive oil on my balls. They look old. Gracious,
it's not that magical.

Speaker 3 (16:35):
Doug. That sounds like that.

Speaker 1 (16:37):
It does sound like Doug. What else do you The.

Speaker 3 (16:40):
Fourth season premiere on TV tonight of The Bears on
IT eight o'clock.

Speaker 1 (16:45):
You guys watched The Bear.

Speaker 2 (16:47):
I've dabbled. I need to get more into it.

Speaker 1 (16:49):
I do too. I've dabbled as well, and I really
need to focus on it because the problem it's so stressful.
It's not a comedy, it's not a drama. It's the
stress of me, like I work in a fucking kitchen.
It's it's so strong. It's not it's just it's just
one trauma after like, one thing after another with this guy.

(17:10):
And it's a great show. But I don't. You don't
even know what category you'd put it in. One time
it won for like best Comedy. We like, what's not
a comedy?

Speaker 2 (17:18):
I was right there with all those people. I'm like, what.

Speaker 1 (17:22):
Is the people have been waiting for this? Oh? You
know what else is coming back? Is? I think next
month is The Morning Show with Jennifer Aniston and Reese Witherspoon.
Such a good show.

Speaker 2 (17:33):
I need to catch up on that one.

Speaker 1 (17:35):
Someone said, I love the Bear. Thank you Steve for
letting me know that.

Speaker 3 (17:40):
Welcome.

Speaker 2 (17:41):
Our text people are back.

Speaker 1 (17:43):
Yeah, I know if you got the text are rolling in.
I got a new number, doctor D but and I didn't.
I got a new number, but it's a new phone number,
but the text number is the same. But they've been
texting the phone number and I don't get those texts.

Speaker 7 (17:57):
Oh got it? So now I thought you were ignoring right,
he did.

Speaker 1 (18:01):
So we'll just send me a screenshot of like nine
text messages they said yesterday they thought I was ignoring him.

Speaker 2 (18:06):
I know, I know. We have like seven people here yesterday,
and it was so odd that there.

Speaker 6 (18:11):
Was no.

Speaker 1 (18:14):
Yeah, we had seven people yesterday. Today it's just me
and Kelly.

Speaker 5 (18:18):
It is.

Speaker 1 (18:19):
It is all right.

Speaker 3 (18:20):
What else where where the boy is at?

Speaker 1 (18:22):
Well, uh, Stephen is going to Florida for a porn convention.

Speaker 7 (18:28):
Oh my god, I can't, I can't.

Speaker 1 (18:31):
I love it.

Speaker 2 (18:31):
I want content, please Steve, if you're listening.

Speaker 1 (18:35):
So Steve, Steve, Stephen brought in. Stephen brought in, uh,
because he does a stripper podcast. So the stripper. Yeah, yeah,
it's called Unstripped. He's been doing it, he said. He
did his twenty first episode yesterday, and I.

Speaker 2 (18:47):
Mean it's not bad. It's kind of cute. It it's
hey morning.

Speaker 3 (18:54):
I don't know. Wow, it's not that good.

Speaker 1 (18:56):
No, it was great. It's a great show. I love
I love listening to it. But so anyway, so the
stripper needs she needed a ride in to the show,
so she had to come. She had to come into
the morning show. So she hung out on the morning
show all morning. And this is a girl, so she's, uh,
she's like a does adult content. So she's going to
this convention in Florida and she's paying the way. So

(19:18):
Steve is gonna be like her either.

Speaker 2 (19:20):
Her bodyguard, body driver, yeah, purse while she poses.

Speaker 1 (19:26):
Or does whatever, hold her, hold her bildo, hold her.

Speaker 2 (19:30):
Hair does not matter.

Speaker 7 (19:34):
I think Steve's job description requirement there would be pretty slim.

Speaker 1 (19:39):
Yeah, So it's just it's that. And then Denny's went on,
Ah went to Vegas, and then Jake is on a cruise.
So everyone's everyone's going, everyone's going on. It's it's big summer.
It's vacation time except for me. I'll be working tomorrow though, Yeah,
full house tomorrow, all right. What else?

Speaker 4 (19:56):
Steve, Jeff Bezos, and Lauren Sanchez are throwing them themselves
into a multi day wedding celebration in Venice this week,
and it hasn't been going over so well with the
local group called No Space for Besos has been protesting
hard and they even forced a change in venue for
a big day after party he's hosting on Saturday. But

(20:16):
Jeff and Lauren are trying to make good with the people.
Their wedding invitation says they want no gifts and instead
the couple will make donations to local charities in their
guest and honors. Now, some of the guests, as you're wondering,
that are coming to this big Affairvanka Trump, of course,
Jared Kusher and their kids have already arrived in Venice.
Now Orlando Bloom was also expected minus Katy Perry and teams.

(20:37):
TMZ says he's showing up single. So the entire event
will totally cost between ten and twenty million dollars and.

Speaker 2 (20:46):
The wedding costs forty eight million.

Speaker 1 (20:48):
Correct. Janet Amid was on with us yesterday and she
is triggered by this dude's figure. She was going, she
went on a diet tribe. This dude spending fifty million
dollar dollars on this wedding and like not helping charity,
and uh, well, and it is annoying because his company
is one of those companies like you know, Amazon and Walmart,

(21:09):
where they don't pay their people enough to they're they're
on a lot of them, a lot of them are
on public assistance. So we're paying them to make these
billions of dollars and they don't pay them enough to
give them insurance and healthcare and all these things that
that we're having to provide for them because they're not
giving them a livable wage. And so she's she was
triggered by that yesterday. What else, Steve, I just looked.

Speaker 4 (21:32):
I was looking on Good Morning America and they're saying, oh,
Wimbledon starts this weekend.

Speaker 3 (21:37):
I'm excited for that. I love all the pomp and circumstance.
I love it.

Speaker 1 (21:41):
When I was a kid, I used to love watching
Roland Garos and I haven't.

Speaker 3 (21:46):
Watched the French Open.

Speaker 1 (21:47):
I haven't watched tennis and I was that French. Oh,
I haven't watched tennis in twenty years?

Speaker 5 (21:52):
Right?

Speaker 1 (21:53):
Is the kid?

Speaker 2 (21:54):
Did you just watch a kiunt ye like when it
was to watch all that kind of stuff?

Speaker 1 (21:57):
Sampress and uh and Agacy and Stephanie Graff and all?

Speaker 7 (22:02):
And who is the the on the throws racket?

Speaker 5 (22:05):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (22:05):
John mcenroll, And what's the other? The really cute girl
that she was like the darling of it all? Tracy,
Tracy Everett is Tracy Everett. I don't Christy ever, Chris. Yes,
I used to love tennis and I have not watched
it in twenty years.

Speaker 3 (22:21):
I watch it all to time? Do you really love
it all the time? I don't miss it? All?

Speaker 1 (22:26):
Right? That's that?

Speaker 3 (22:28):
What else? So did?

Speaker 4 (22:30):
He ended up not testifying in his sex trafficking trial
yesterday The prosecution rested, then the defense did the same
two hours later, without calling any witnesses.

Speaker 3 (22:39):
So closing statements are today.

Speaker 1 (22:42):
Interesting, what does that mean? We need a law, we
need a long expert, like it's been going on for
a month and a half. And then the defense just
like does it call any witnesses, like.

Speaker 2 (22:51):
Because they just give up? Well, I think they believe
that they didn't make their their case their case, and
so yeah, and so why if they don't make their
case then.

Speaker 1 (23:00):
That is true? That is that is a strategy bringing
people in. They're like ladies and gentleman of the jury.
They have not proven one ounce of this. I don't
even we don't even have to bring anyone forward to
because it's already bold move. It is a bold move.

Speaker 2 (23:16):
We'll see what happens.

Speaker 1 (23:17):
He ends up right next to r Kelly or the
ends on the streets like ojay or.

Speaker 2 (23:23):
If we should buy stock and baby oil.

Speaker 1 (23:25):
Someone said, oh, go figure, a gay guy watches tennis.
Well yeah, yeah, so what it said, you haven't watched
tennis in twenty years, Andrew, you haven't played tennis in
fifty I know pickleball? Are you still playing pickleball? Kelly?

Speaker 2 (23:40):
I am, but not. I want to play more. It's hard.

Speaker 3 (23:44):
Let's play I play on Saturday mornings.

Speaker 2 (23:46):
It's due. Do you do downtown?

Speaker 3 (23:48):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (23:49):
I played pickball every Saturday, every Saturday morning.

Speaker 3 (23:51):
You're there every Saturday. Yep, nine thirty.

Speaker 1 (23:53):
What want you, doctor, Desa? Some you like sports?

Speaker 7 (23:56):
Yeah, I played pickleball for years. What started playing in
twenty eighteen?

Speaker 5 (24:00):
What?

Speaker 1 (24:00):
Yeah?

Speaker 7 (24:01):
And then COVID hit and that kind of squashed the
indoor course, definitely, Yeah, and then we would play outdoor
and then just kind of yeah, like Kelly said, it's
you just kind of have to pick and choose. And
I play a lot of volleyball three times a week.

Speaker 1 (24:17):
So I thought you were retired from volleyball.

Speaker 7 (24:20):
Well, some would say that when they watch me I have.
It started with Okay, I'm not blocking or diving anymore,
and then it's okay, I'm not going to spike anymore.
I'm just gonna switch and sit and play back row,
and then it's okay, now my overhead serve is torque
in my back, so now I need to serve underhead.

(24:41):
So now just my famous line is I'm not getting that.
I'm not getting that if you don't pass the bottom
me when I'm setting, I'm not getting that. So I
am still trying you used to be.

Speaker 1 (24:53):
I mean, you're passionate, passionate about volleyball, but you you
would through injury on injury.

Speaker 7 (24:57):
Yeah, yeah, Yeah, it's a it's a slow death. But
my my knee surgery is scheduled for October and my
back surgery tentatively for December. So wow, next year I'm gonna.

Speaker 1 (25:07):
Be rearing to go.

Speaker 7 (25:08):
But I played pick a ball every Monday last year
out in Rochford, and this year I just decided I'm
gonna get fixed up before I get back.

Speaker 1 (25:15):
I'll tell you what this I uh was. I gonna say.
I have a buddy he's like in he's like our age,
and this fucking dude still playing, still playing basketball with
young guys, and he's always coming in with a brace
on his knee or he's always limping. I'm like, dude,
you gotta let it go.

Speaker 7 (25:31):
Are you just have to adjust your play like I have?

Speaker 1 (25:34):
Yeah?

Speaker 7 (25:34):
I mean, my husband's gonna be fifty three and he's
playing competitive beach doubles still with twenty seven year olds.

Speaker 2 (25:40):
Oh my gosh. So we're over at doctor D's house
and these these boys are chea yeah, and I made Yeah,
it was pleasant, like watching was very pleasant.

Speaker 7 (25:53):
Yeah, Yeah, they're good.

Speaker 3 (25:54):
Way.

Speaker 7 (25:55):
They played doubles on Monday nights.

Speaker 6 (25:57):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (25:57):
One of the guys started for Penn State, played semi
profession I mean played all over the world, like there's
there's some good ball here. But yeah, my hobby's still hanging.
He plays against sometimes they're about twenty five years old.

Speaker 1 (26:09):
I guess my problem is that if you're doing sports
like that, you're some more after you could still get it.
You could still be responsible and work out and exercise
and see what you're supposed to do. But I mean,
you're really opening yourself up as you get older to
long term injuries, and I'm like, man, it's just not
worth it.

Speaker 7 (26:26):
I don't Yeah, I think you know, you could look
at it both ways, because they also say, you know,
it keeps you young, and if you stop lubricating your
joints and doing things you know that are going to
keep you active. I mean, John works out every day,
he's done yoga almost every day on his own, and
he's had two back surgeries, but it's been over a decade,
and so you know, it's just some people are lucky

(26:47):
with those genes, you know, I have arthritis, and some people, Yeah,
it's just more natural than others. It's harder for others
I have. There is a guy, his name was Warren.
He just stopped playing volleyball. And I know I'm gonna
get wrong, but I know he was at least ninety wow.
Oh yeah, he played in the Senior Olympics. But he
was all braced up. He looked like a robot on

(27:08):
the court. But he played. Uh, you know, he just
played intelligently and didn't jump and land and yeah.

Speaker 1 (27:14):
Like like you were saying, like I'm not doing I'm
not diving, I'm not doing all the crazy shit anymore.
But yeah, yeah, all right, what else Steve?

Speaker 4 (27:21):
I would say, we played, I played up to two
years ago and actually our team won, we won the doc.

Speaker 3 (27:26):
We played at the docks, Yeah, I played. We played
the dogs. Handing blocks was fine.

Speaker 7 (27:33):
Fun.

Speaker 1 (27:34):
And why did you you you used to play a lot.
Why did you give it up? Now? Two years that the.

Speaker 4 (27:39):
Game Some of the games were late, like some of
the games didn't even start till nine thirty, Right, that's ridiculous.

Speaker 3 (27:45):
I'm not doing that.

Speaker 2 (27:46):
I did love it though when that was going on,
because like all the dock restaurants would like have specials
that it was kind of like it was fun atmosphere.

Speaker 1 (27:55):
Yeah, what happened, Like I remember when when the Kuzinos
owned Who's No Steak Gus there and that was the vibe.
And look, it's so sad what the docks has become
because both ends now are nothing.

Speaker 2 (28:09):
Well that one end is an event center.

Speaker 1 (28:12):
I mean yeah, I mean just like you said that
people would be at the docks, like Steve, that was
amazing and boats would be pulling up and you going
to get food and everyone would sit down on the
patio and the docks was. The docks is a place
and maybe it still is. I haven't been in a
long time. It's a place where, like people are out
of town, that's where you go because you show nice.

Speaker 7 (28:33):
Yeah, I love like Zia's has an amazing happy hour
and real seafood. I'm standing by it has the best
fish in Toledo. There's sea bass is great. Kelly over
there takes care of everybody. She's been there decades, I mean,
and it's busy and I know it's also one of
the only places now that does the birthday discount still,

(28:55):
so both people get fifty percent off all the appetizers.
Your food, your dessert just not ranks, but it's I
really like the duck still.

Speaker 2 (29:03):
And the Mexican restaurant just put in an upper deck
so people like to go up there and look at
the water and the other side of.

Speaker 4 (29:12):
Yeah, yep, we took the boat there. Last Saturday, we
had all all guys day. We took all the guys.

Speaker 1 (29:16):
We all went to Steve, I'm going to be invited
to He's on here with a bunch of like a
thirty year old studs all on the boat.

Speaker 3 (29:27):
I was working at. Say, hey, the best successive to
a game man is.

Speaker 7 (29:33):
Kelly's Like pickleball is a challenge, but let me take
on that challenge. That's a big challenge there. If I
could turn somebody.

Speaker 3 (29:43):
Margarita and took them on the boat and lived that
best life, all right?

Speaker 1 (29:49):
What else?

Speaker 4 (29:50):
Steve Christian China defends Game seventh national anthem performance after
mixed reactions.

Speaker 3 (29:56):
She says she wanted to make Oklahoma proud.

Speaker 1 (29:59):
Look, I people are giving christ and Channa with a ship.
I thought I thought it, would you say, Steve?

Speaker 3 (30:06):
I said, I agree.

Speaker 1 (30:08):
I didn't think it was I didn't think it was bad.
She's an amazing singer. She's an operator. I mean she's
a musical singer, so she's saying musical. It was on
key perfect. Here's a little bit of it in case
you missed it.

Speaker 2 (30:20):
Oh can you she why the tally lone? Wats sur
poly we.

Speaker 7 (30:38):
The twilight line?

Speaker 1 (30:42):
Now here we go, here, we go here. This is
the part. This is the part where they're giving her
home Land of the Free. This is where they're giving
her some ship.

Speaker 6 (30:51):
For the line's amazing, It is amazing, beautiful, it was.

Speaker 1 (31:10):
It was great, and she was she was into it
like she was in the crowd.

Speaker 7 (31:13):
Was ever a saying that it didn't sound good or
she should have knocked off that third squeak like.

Speaker 1 (31:20):
That was a bit too much, too much.

Speaker 3 (31:21):
It was just she just yea.

Speaker 7 (31:24):
If she was lack of daisical it would have been and.

Speaker 1 (31:26):
You can't wait.

Speaker 3 (31:27):
She was showing her vocal.

Speaker 2 (31:29):
Yes, I mean, did she break any glass that's mine?

Speaker 1 (31:32):
It's not Manmber that old commercial where it was Elephantzgerald
was it?

Speaker 2 (31:37):
Whoever?

Speaker 3 (31:37):
She breaks?

Speaker 1 (31:38):
Surprised glasses weren't breaking, well, you know they don't allow
glass in the stadium.

Speaker 7 (31:42):
The Lord Jesus So was shattering all around, so what
is Some of the specific feedback just that it was
just over.

Speaker 1 (31:49):
The top too much. Yeah, someone see and I just
got a text in over the top? Should have just
had a band play it all?

Speaker 3 (31:57):
Come on, there are there were way work. Let's talk
about Roseanne barn.

Speaker 7 (32:03):
That she did get rose to the deserving length?

Speaker 1 (32:07):
Yes, what else?

Speaker 4 (32:09):
Steve nick Cannon's in the news, you guys. Nick Cannon
has asked her name all twelve of his children, and
he blanked on the last. Also said the reason he
has so many kids is because he has that king complex.

Speaker 3 (32:22):
Check out the audience.

Speaker 1 (32:23):
Do you do if you don't know, Like, if you're
one of the kids that didn't get named, how do
you feel like do you just blow it off?

Speaker 2 (32:30):
Or do you feel a certain way you do? Right?

Speaker 1 (32:32):
There's no way you can't.

Speaker 2 (32:34):
They're probably under five, so they probably will never know.

Speaker 7 (32:38):
Yeah, because he doesn't had them the longest. My mother
in law had a prayer on Thanksgiving and prayed for
everybody around the table and left my husband and.

Speaker 1 (32:46):
I ow, did you say something?

Speaker 3 (32:49):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (32:51):
And what did she say?

Speaker 7 (32:51):
Actually the sister John's sister said, oh man John, and
uh and Jesus please bless yeah them too. Just not
as much BLUs them, just a little less. No, okay,
and her defense she does now have Alzheimer's pretty bad,
so maybe it was like maybe it could have been.

Speaker 1 (33:13):
Okay, you're trying to give her the benefit of.

Speaker 3 (33:16):
Honey. I to talk about her food. I got to
talk about her pot.

Speaker 1 (33:23):
All right, here we go, Here we go, here's here's
Nick Cannon. Here you go.

Speaker 3 (33:27):
What are their names?

Speaker 4 (33:28):
You want?

Speaker 3 (33:29):
All twelve twelve names? This is where I usually get in.

Speaker 7 (33:32):
Trouble, right, because you don't know all of them.

Speaker 3 (33:34):
I know all of them, but like all labels, see
keep me honest.

Speaker 5 (33:39):
There's rock Row, Golden, Powerful, Rise, ONYX, Legendary, Zion, zillion Zin, and.

Speaker 2 (33:54):
Uh anything too.

Speaker 3 (33:57):
I'm missing two, Oh jesus, and not even.

Speaker 1 (34:03):
Even if you even if you're on the roll and
you name ten and she's only at ten. Okay, then
you think about it, and then you kept then the
other two come to you. Yeah, then the other two
weren't fucking coming to him.

Speaker 7 (34:15):
I don't know if that's more embarrassing than the actual
names that he read off, because those are got terrible,
or I think the two that got forgotten were like, oh,
thank goodness, he didn't announce my stupid name.

Speaker 1 (34:28):
Oh my god, that's that's insane. That's amazing, that's embarrassing. Embarrassing, dude.
You know, you should not be allowed to have any
more kids until you can at least learn their names.
I mean, and that's the minimum. You gotta learn your names. Yeah,
it's kind of the minimums.

Speaker 4 (34:42):
Start Turbans through his brain. That's what happened. Damn turban
looking like swath swahi.

Speaker 3 (34:52):
What else do you?

Speaker 4 (34:54):
Twenty five years after The Boy is Mine, Brandy and
Monica are two ring together, yes, watching the go, headlining
toward this ball. Twenty five years after their nineteen ninety
eight hit song The Boy is Mine put them on
the mat. Not surprisingly, they're calling it the Boy is
Mine Tour, So how witty of them.

Speaker 1 (35:17):
Kelly Rowland is gonna be on there. Two from Dusty's
Child up for him, so it's a.

Speaker 4 (35:22):
Good Mooney Long and American Idol winner Jamal Roberts are
also on the bill.

Speaker 1 (35:27):
Oh that's the black dude. Yeah, that's that's the guy
that that uh he sang someone's song was a jelly
roll and said that's your song. Now, oh that's a
good show.

Speaker 3 (35:40):
Well, Jamal kind of indicates he might be African American just.

Speaker 1 (35:44):
Saying someone said, hey, this is Nick Cannon. I just
got a text. I got a text. It from Nick Canson.
I might not be able to name my all my kids,
but I guarantee you can't remember all your businesses.

Speaker 3 (35:56):
Oh jug is on fire.

Speaker 1 (36:02):
Oh shit, all right, you got one more Steven than
we're raffles.

Speaker 3 (36:06):
Sure.

Speaker 4 (36:07):
Jelly Roll was recently performing at the Buckeye Country Superfest
and a very special guest star came out to sing
with him, Kevin James, and he was dressed exactly like
Jelly and they did a duet together, Need a Favor
Together with the name of the song.

Speaker 3 (36:22):
Oh We've got to hear it.

Speaker 1 (36:23):
Oh I love Kevin Jane for those who know that's
the King of Queens, Kevin James. Here we go, you
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(42:14):
go on to doctor D. I wanted to start with
this before we get into I got a bunch of
questions lined up. But before we get to that, there
was a new study that came out, and I wanted
to get your thoughts on it, And of course Kelly's
going through a breakup right now, and so I wanted
to see if she felt that this was true as well.
So a new study that was just published in the

(42:36):
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology has found that relationship
satisfaction tends to decline gradually at first, followed by a
much steeper drop and they can pinpoint it actually to
about two years before a breakup that you can start seeing.
They calling it. They're calling it a terminal decline pattern,

(42:58):
which is consistent across large samples that they've done in
national studies, highlighting how the unraveling of a relationship often
begins long before the final decision to separate, and they
can pinpoint to about two years early earlier. Does that
make sense to you, doctor Dean, It does.

Speaker 7 (43:14):
The only thing that would skew that statistic is acute
events like infidelity or domestic violent You know, where the
person leaves right away like it could be great and
something happens like that and they're not waiting, they're not
sitting and waiting on that. So, but if it's not
something dramatic like that, and it's just that they fell

(43:35):
out of love with each other or the incompatibility just
became too much. I would definitely agree that two years
is a I mean, I think because a lot of people,
especially when they're vested, they try to make it work
and they think that maybe it's a phase, and they
go to counseling, or they have these conversations, or they

(43:57):
dig deep and reflect on what they could do better.
Because ultimately, when you are vested and it's a nasty,
single world out there, nobody wants to delve into it,
you know, just because I mean I shouldn't say nobody,
But once you reach a certain age, you'd rather just
what you've already vested in and you're already comfortable with
this person. There's often financial ties children. Then you do

(44:21):
try to do everything you can to make it work.
And I would say after approximately two years, it either
does or it doesn't.

Speaker 1 (44:28):
You bring up a great point. We've talked about that before.
There's just so much unraveling to do. Yeah, it's like
it's daunting. It's daunting to even think about it. So
you do, I think you try to make it work. Kelly,
would you say it would that two year window. They
say one to two years to your window. Is that
sound about right for you?

Speaker 2 (44:45):
Or it really does? And I believe it's more than
women too, because I feel like women, when we know
it's over, we're trying to work for it. Yeah, takes
us a long time. I mean, it takes us a
long time. I I feel like we tried. I tried

(45:07):
a lot.

Speaker 1 (45:09):
In the end.

Speaker 2 (45:10):
I think that like when you grow apart or you're
in different places in life. I mean, it is what
it is, but I do think, like I mean, I
know that I shared this a couple of days ago,
but like I gave my ring back in October, so
like and no one noticed. But like I mean, before
I gave my ring back, I mean, we were struggling

(45:32):
and trying, and we had good days and bad days
and good days and bad days.

Speaker 7 (45:36):
So you know, it takes time. It takes time to
lay those throws on the cons.

Speaker 2 (45:41):
And we were together for like twelve years, so like
that also is like it it's so hard to even
though it was great, it's.

Speaker 1 (45:52):
It's better than the unknown, especially when you hear about
all these shitty people. I hear the day the dating
pool is a cesspool.

Speaker 2 (46:02):
I'm old.

Speaker 1 (46:04):
What do they say? What? I want to stay with
this asshole that I know instead of the asshole that
I don't know.

Speaker 7 (46:08):
Well, I was going to say quite the opposite about you, Kelly,
not to you know that you need feed or anything.
But it imagine somebody who doesn't have a lot going
for them, you know. I mean, you're attractive, you're you're fun,
and you're successful, and you're responsible. I mean there's people
out there too that are none of those things. I
hate to say it, it's factual, are none of those things,

(46:31):
and they're scared to leave and be alone.

Speaker 2 (46:35):
You know you're not going to be alone.

Speaker 7 (46:37):
And the other thing too, is I am you're scared
and you feel like you're older. But at least you
know that you will be able to find somebody if
you want them. I mean, there is a difference.

Speaker 1 (46:48):
And you've got imagine someone that that was in which
often happens, even if it's not even if it's not
physically but emotionally abused, like you think you're you're worthless
away like and let's say you don't even like you
love to go out and you love to socialize, You're
going to be out with people there's some people that
are like, dude, I already introverted. I don't want to
go out there. There's so many other factors that you

(47:10):
have going for you that the average person maybe doesn't
have going on.

Speaker 7 (47:14):
Yeah, And all I'm saying is those people stay in
those relationships even moong because they're scared, like or they're
not even social enough to meet anybody, and they don't
want to be alone.

Speaker 1 (47:24):
Oh god, it's just And you know, we've talked about
this before and we've brought a million people on here,
and everyone says, the dating pool in Toledo sucks. And
I don't know if that's nationwide. We only know what
we know here, but it's probably is nationwide. But for sure,
dating here sucks. And I do want to be with
that asshole that I'm that I'm already with.

Speaker 7 (47:44):
To defend Toledo. I really think standards have gotten through
the roof. I think because people do you know, put
their life as a highlight reel on Facebook, and people
just it's just these standards and these comparison are so
great and we just need to get back to are
you compatible with that person? Does he have a job,

(48:06):
is he decent looking? But for some reason. I don't
know if it's society or Hollywood or what, but standards
are through the roof with some women, especially not so
much men, but with with and I know some amazing women.
My sister is one of them who should not be
as single as long as she is, but she'll find

(48:27):
one little thing with someone and to be like, yeah,
I know that that little birthmark scar thing on his forehead.
I just would stare at that all the time. I
can't do that, we can't.

Speaker 1 (48:36):
You said you said something about women. You know, I
think for a couple of reasons now that you said
the number one, I think they're on social media more
and I think number two, other women that are their friends,
they're the like men aren't. Men aren't throwing their whole
lives on social media generally and but or.

Speaker 7 (48:55):
Running them by everybody like do you approve? And then
you get one person that doesn't. Now, I will say
a flip side a positive reason why standards are high
and why women are single longer. Women are more empowered,
women have found happiness without a man, and they're like,
I'm going to travel, I'm going to get certified and diving,
I'm going to and they really are big on loving

(49:17):
themselves and loving their life, and that is an extra
and a bonus. So they're not going to settle because
that's not the source of their happiness. And that is
a difference.

Speaker 2 (49:26):
Now, I mean, that's my whole goal is to fall
back in love with me and just have fun.

Speaker 1 (49:30):
And Kelly said, is two days in a row now,
I mean she would love a golden girl's house.

Speaker 2 (49:34):
Yeah, like her and a couple of houses.

Speaker 1 (49:36):
Yeah, Now you're in a couple divorce as and they
just kind of hanging out at the coffee table and
drink coffee in the morning.

Speaker 7 (49:43):
And it's it's definitely more people just fighting themselves and
girlfriends and our you know, stronger bonds where a lot
of times, you know, back in the fifties and sixties especially,
you would be in this marriage and that was you
were just a homebody. And now that is not the
case with and so they're not as dependent on men.

Speaker 1 (50:02):
I did get a text in too, said, you're also
forgetting Another reason is you're also petrified to make another
wrong choice, Like you don't you don't want to do it.
You know, you don't want to do it again. You're
you're doubting. Yeah, your garden's up and you're you're doubting
your own choices.

Speaker 7 (50:17):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that does all of the above. Actually,
it really is, which makes people like my beautiful sister,
who really, in my opinion, could have anybody she wants
and she's been single ten years plus.

Speaker 1 (50:29):
Really is that is for all these reasons, all of
them combined.

Speaker 7 (50:34):
But she really she just sees the relationships around her too,
and most of them are miserable and she's happy and
she's like so she's like, it better be worth it,
you know what I mean. And then I just she
was also in a terrible marriage and so she's scared
of trusting and as a guard up and she's super picky.

Speaker 1 (50:51):
So well, and if I'm killing, it's like, I have
so much fun with my girlfriends and you know, and
I'm doing so many amazing experiences having time. It's like, okay,
so maybe I just have a couple of dudes that
are just saying, look, we're gonna have sex and that's it,
because you know, everyone has needs. So you're just like, dude,
my life is great. All I'm missing is the sex part.

(51:12):
Then hey, let's just hook up for sex and then
I'm gonna go about my business with all my friends
and have my great life.

Speaker 7 (51:17):
Yeah, I think temporarily, I don't think that we're meant
to be in this world alone. And you know, I
think we're meant to grow old and wake up next
to someone and have your meals with somebody, and you know,
vacation with people as we age. But yeah, I think
temporarily I don't see anything wrong with it. But eventually
you don't want to get to the point where you've

(51:38):
kind of waited too long and the pool is even smaller.

Speaker 2 (51:43):
My pool is shrinking.

Speaker 7 (51:44):
And some people are happy, they're sixty, seventy, eighty ninety.
I know people who are widows and they said, I'm
never getting married again, and they didn't and they're fine.

Speaker 1 (51:55):
My mom is seventy one. She mean when she was eight,
so she's probably seventy four, and she is living and
living her best life. Like she she goes out and
she has a guy take her to dinner, she goes
on a dates, she hangs out with her girlfriends, she went,
she goes to have cookouts, she's a in a couple
of clubs. She takes Josie, you know, during the day

(52:17):
and they go to the the library and do all
kinds of stuff.

Speaker 3 (52:22):
Spy.

Speaker 1 (52:23):
Yes, she's freaking busy all the time and is living
her best life is you know, and do whatever she wants,
and she's happy without some sort of dude at the
You know. It's just everyone's different, different for sure. All Right,
let's get into some questions, doctor D. I am a
forty eight year old woman. I've been enjoying your conversation

(52:43):
so far this morning. Here's what I got. When I
was seventeen, I hooked up with this guy who was
part of my friend group. I knew he had a
crush on me, so I decided to have sex with
him in his car. It ad meant nothing to me
but everything to him.

Speaker 7 (52:57):
He could have taken her somewhere.

Speaker 3 (52:59):
Then.

Speaker 1 (53:00):
He has tried to reach me over the years. If
I was married, he was single. After my first husband died,
I did meet up with him briefly. I guess I
shouldn't have done that. I asked him if he wanted
to date, but he was married. His marriage didn't last long.
Then he was upset that I met a wonderful man,
and I was dating that wonderful man and I are
now married and my old high school hookup is pouting

(53:22):
and upset. He's declaring his love for me and insisting
that I leave my husband for him. I'm not going
to do that. Is the fact that he's still in
love with me after thirty years romantic or creepy creepy?

Speaker 7 (53:37):
I think that it's really none of the above. I
think that it's people when they're alone, like that's what
he is grasping for, and there are some people that
don't want to be alone and can't be alone. So
now all of a sudden, this person that's always been
there on the transition times and the relationships that evan flow,

(53:58):
and that is, like Kelly said, the pool gets smaller
and smaller. So that's he's got his eye on the
prize because that's why it's really his only option right now.
And so when you're the only option, all of a sudden,
you're madly in love. So I don't think it's you know,
necessarily creepy, because he he wants what he wants and
he's being you know, he doesn't care, he's being selfish.

(54:20):
But I also don't think it's romantic because if somebody
came along two hours after the last time she talked
to him and he was all into her and she
wanted him, then he wouldn't be quite as in love.

Speaker 1 (54:31):
So it's just the options, Kelly, what we're gonna say.

Speaker 2 (54:33):
I think it's also like the like because they really
they've only dabbled and so they've never really been together.
And it's like it's like he's in love with what
he doesn't know, Like when you get together, it could
be not as magical as the night in the cart,
you know. So it's it's like he's like lusting for

(54:57):
something that he doesn't even know.

Speaker 1 (55:00):
Right, because it too you take it to another novel.
I know many scenarios where you were let's say you
were together with somebody and then you're not together, and
then you get back together, but and then you're like,
it's like it's like you have amnesia other than the
good things. And then you're together and then you're like, oh, fuck,
this is this is this is why, Yeah, this is

(55:23):
why we aren't together because you are paid in my ass.

Speaker 7 (55:26):
Yeah, but then you always feel better about Okay, I
tried again, and now I have this confirmation that this
was not right. John and I broke up for a
quick minute, like six weeks before we were engaged, and
I got together with my ex. John's listening. I don't
know if he knows that, but anyway, I got together
just just to see just met him out and I

(55:51):
was like, I feel nothing like it was almost he
was more, you know, just it was like nothing at all.
And I felt so much better that I did that.
And I just got to hang out with them one
night and see if, because you know, you just questioned.
We were together for many years before I met John,
and he was a great guy. He just fell out
of love. And so I do think that it's still

(56:12):
worth if you want to dabble and seeing if, because
sometimes people get back together and they're like that breakup
was the best thing that ever happened, right.

Speaker 1 (56:20):
And it's funny because in Kelly you can have some
experience at this. There are times where a lot of
times where people will get back together and then they're
shooting and they're living their best lives.

Speaker 2 (56:30):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (56:30):
You know, it's like I went out and test the
water and I see, man, there's a lot of a
lot of shit out there. Yeah, and so man, we
might as well just make this work.

Speaker 7 (56:41):
Sometimes people are on their best behavior though, when you
do get back together and then they can't but.

Speaker 2 (56:46):
They can't hold on to that law. I am back
eventually it comes out.

Speaker 1 (56:55):
Yeah, Okay, I got another one for you. By the way,
you said, I remember with that, Okay.

Speaker 7 (57:00):
So I don't think it's necessarily creeper. I don't think
that he's you know, madly in love either. But none
of it's really relevant because you're in a happy marriage.
So you, out of respect for your husband, you need
to cut all communication with that person because you just
have to put the shoes on the other Yeah.

Speaker 1 (57:17):
If you're still talking, if you're still communicating, then you're
doing something wrong. Yeah, because you should just be cutting
that shit off. All right, Here, we got another one
for you. I'm a mother of three girls, twenty five,
twenty one, and fifteen. My youngest has always lived with me.
Her father and I separated when she was one. They
always had a good relationship. Over the past couple of years,
after he moved to another state and married, our co

(57:40):
parenting relationship has changed for the worst. My youngest has
always complained about spending time with him. Sometimes she came
home crying because he didn't want to go with because
she didn't want to go with him. She's a freshman
in high school now, and out of the blue, she
told me she wants to live with him and finish
high school in this state, in that state. This is
broken my heart. I don't want her to leave me.

(58:03):
She tells me that it's because the schools are better there,
which will help her get into a college, a good college.
I don't know if my ex has said anything to her,
or if that's really what she wants. I don't know
how to handle that. I feel like I'm losing my child.
All of my girls have always lived with me, and
the older girls have yet to leave me, and I'm

(58:24):
feeling nervous.

Speaker 7 (58:25):
Doctor Dean, Well, this is a prime example of we
It's hard, and I validate and understand because you are
losing her. You know, logistically it means you're not losing
her as a child, But logistically it is different. Long
distance relationships in any capacity or a challenge. But kids
kids nowadays, Kids nowadays are are very fluid, They're very flexible,

(58:51):
they're they're courageous, they aren't grounded that it really isn't
about you. Yeah, I really don't. I don't know the
whole story. I agree, they don't have that fear. And
if there's one thing she doesn't like about her school,
and it sounds like the schools are better or it's
a change or whatever it might be, you would know

(59:13):
if it's about you, because there would be animosity or
problems or fights or whatever it might be. It probably
is simply just the school. But they are okay with
seeing their parents. I mean, it's funny when people sometimes
used to say when John and I, because we don't
have children, who's going to take care of you when
you're older? And I'm like, have you children are so transient,

(59:35):
they're not gonna be here, like most kids move away
and they want to move away, and most parents see
their adult children a few times a year. It's just
a completely different world. So I wouldn't take it personally. However,
validate yourself. That's a sad thing. You're used to your
child being there and living there, and you should be validated.
But support her, love her unconditionally. And I will say,

(59:58):
just like when people complain about Toledo or complain about
their job, oftentimes they find themselves right back. So it
doesn't mean that she's gonna stay there.

Speaker 1 (01:00:07):
I have a couple questions about this, and you kind
of said it already, doctor, but I just want to
reemphasize it. Is that if it was about you, you
would know it was about you, like just you. You
would you would feel it. There would be a vibe,
you know, she would tell you or she would straight
out tellar.

Speaker 2 (01:00:24):
Yeah, and if not straight out in ways, yeah, you.

Speaker 1 (01:00:27):
Would know if it was about you. That's number one
And number two. Is there a point though, doctor d
Because like you said, kids are more transient and they're
fearless and willing to try stuff. Is there a point
where as an adult you're like, well, you need to
step in and be like, you know, okay, I'm sure
you want to do things at a whim, but that's
doesn't make sense. And I'm gonna say that you're gonna

(01:00:47):
stay here and you're gonna go to this school because
of one thing you don't like in school. You can't
just run away from it. You need to you need
to confront it.

Speaker 7 (01:00:55):
Is there is there any well, you know, as a counselor,
I would say if there really the extreme is if
there's a chance of them hurting themselves or somebody else.
But and for selfish reasons. You can try that, and
you know, because you really don't want them leaving, you
could try to talk them into it. You could have
timelines on it, you know, if you stay for this long,

(01:01:17):
or how about we have a compromise two years here,
then your last two years there. You could try all
of those things. But I don't think it's healthy to
force it unless it's an unhealthy or dangerous situation for them.

Speaker 2 (01:01:30):
I agreed, all right.

Speaker 1 (01:01:32):
That's good. All right, I get one more, doctor Dean,
and hold on, let me find it here in my
bag of tricks.

Speaker 3 (01:01:41):
Here we go.

Speaker 4 (01:01:42):
I have.

Speaker 1 (01:01:44):
Hemifacial spasms h FS, a relatively rare disorder characterized by
random and unc controllable spasms on one side of my face.
HFS can sometimes be alleviated through surgury and or treated
with botox injections. HFS makes social contact challenging when the

(01:02:06):
face contorts for no apparent reason, sometimes with accompanying speech slurring.
In my case, surgery was unsuccessful, and my only option
is botox, which leaves one eye wider open and my
mouth unable to move naturally or smile on one side.
I'm learning to accept this facial asymmetry as in my
new normal. But I'm not there yet. I'm self conscious

(01:02:28):
about having photos taken, but camera wielders insist and persist.
Can you help me with a response I can use
to photo takers who refuse to take no for an
answer or worse, tell me to just smile, something I
can no longer do. I'm feeling self conscious, Doctor D.

Speaker 7 (01:02:45):
Who are these photographers?

Speaker 1 (01:02:47):
Like? Friends?

Speaker 2 (01:02:51):
Come on the picture?

Speaker 1 (01:02:54):
Yeah, yeah, the one we want you to picture people.

Speaker 7 (01:02:57):
That's a very unique question. I mean to me, I
guess I'm just an outspoken person and I would have
individual I wouldn't wait till the time and the people
that I'm comfortable with or you know, it sounds like
this person would be comfortable even posting something saying, hey,
if you're a friend or family in my life. I'm
getting through this, but one of the things is taking
photos I'm not overly comfortable with, especially people telling me

(01:03:21):
to smile. And this is why you could go the
complete opposite and you can just be okay with it.
You can turn your head slightly to the side that
you can.

Speaker 1 (01:03:31):
Smile, or you can do the Phantom of the Opera thing. Yeah,
you could a mesh.

Speaker 6 (01:03:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (01:03:35):
Yeah, but I think a lot of people. I mean,
you know, if he was a woman, he could just
always do kissy duck face. But but you know, it's
just one or the other, or you just say, you know,
I'm going to respectfully decline and people will get the hint.
I mean, unless you're a famous person and you're talking
about paparazzi, there is only so many people that want

(01:03:56):
to take a picture of you in your life. So
I'm a big fan of over communication and transparency and
not waiting until being in the moment to have these
conversations with people. But you know, it sounds like, you know,
there's a lot of courage there, and I don't envy that.

Speaker 1 (01:04:12):
I think you said this, doctor d did you say
maybe even make a Facebook post? Yeah, that's a good idea.
And you also, yeah, hey, guys, you know I've got
this thing, like she told us, like I have this,
I have this thing. I'm not comfortable to taking pictures.
So if I if for some reason I don't jump
into a picture, is this is why. Yeah, it's a
great idea.

Speaker 2 (01:04:30):
And please respect my yeah boundaries.

Speaker 1 (01:04:33):
Yeah, no, I think it's a great idea. Yeah, all right,
there you go. That's in. That was a good one.
All right, good, all right, doctor d Uh. What's going
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Speaker 1 (01:05:15):
Awesome, Thank you doctor d Thank you guys. All right,
thank you count We will see you guys tomorrow. Thank
you so much for listening. We appreciate it. Have a
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Have a great day home.

Speaker 3 (01:05:31):
Boo bye.