Andrew Z in the Morning! 6.26.2025 - Hour 2

Andrew Z in the Morning! 6.26.2025 - Hour 2

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Steve's got sleeves for us. All right, what do you got, Steve?

Speaker 2 (00:06):
Oh my god. So I hinted about this yesterday. So
after weeks of rumors and speculation, it seems safe to
say Katy Perry and Orlando Bloom are done. So the
source says Katie and Orlanta have split but are amicable.
It's not contentious at the moment. Katie is, of course upset,
but it's believed to not have had to go through
another divorce as that was the worst time in her life.

(00:28):
So if you remember, Katie and Orlando first got together
in twenty sixteen, they briefly split in seventeen and got
back together in eighteen. They've been engaged since nineteen and
share a daughter named Daisy Dove, who turns five in August. Well,
thanks are just not meant to be.

Speaker 1 (00:45):
Yeah, you don't like to see it, but it was
for trip to space.

Speaker 3 (00:48):
Yeah, he was like he probably like wanted nothing to
do with her after that. That was crazy.

Speaker 1 (00:52):
That It's funny you say that, because Steve did say that
the rumors got out that he was like, dude, this
looks ridiculous. Will you look ridiculous doing this? And so
I mean, you're probably probably did have something to do
with it.

Speaker 4 (01:03):
I don't think did you even go to space?

Speaker 1 (01:06):
No? No, well you flew you flew up and then
you came back down. It was like a five minute trip.

Speaker 3 (01:12):
They went like literally right above where airplanes five. It's
not like they were like, oh in the sky like
that high right.

Speaker 1 (01:18):
They weren't going to the moon.

Speaker 3 (01:20):
And she acted like they changed the world.

Speaker 1 (01:24):
What Here's what's weird is over the last I'm telling
you it's American idol. But ever since the last like
seven years, people people used to love Katie Prick. She's
the super Bowl and she was the hottest thing, and
now people just like really just dislike her, Like what
what happened? And I think it is American idol? I do,
because it.

Speaker 2 (01:42):
Could be you might have a point there.

Speaker 1 (01:44):
I don't know what else.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
Steve, Oh my god. So Margaret Show says Ellen DeGeneres
wasn't nice to her through most of her career. So
Choe reflected on a relationship with Ellen while appearing on
the Kelly Mantles Show podcast. So he said, somebody that
I had known for such a long time, she said's
so weird. Now the public perception of her is more
true to more true than ever. She's mean. Show then

(02:07):
told host Kelly Mantle she was like a mean girl
kind of, but also she would be real nice. I
think she always had negative feelings to me because her
girlfriends and wives always liked me. Now there's a kind
of woman. She loves a female comic. And then she
goes on to say, but yeah, Ellen was really weird
and not nice to me for most of my career.
Representatives for Dinner Generes did not immediate respond to people's

(02:30):
requests for comment on Sunday, So Heart, get a wrap.

Speaker 5 (02:35):
You hear Ellen is not nice to a lot of
I think.

Speaker 3 (02:39):
I like you, like ten twenty years ago, but like now,
I feel like you've heard so much and you're kind
of like.

Speaker 4 (02:45):
I heard she was eating babies that too. I heard
the pizza gates.

Speaker 6 (02:51):
That's why they said she moved, not because of the
Trump thing. They said that she moved because she was
going to be in trouble with the law.

Speaker 1 (02:58):
Oh you're you're being serious?

Speaker 4 (03:00):
Yeah that was I went down a TikTok hole. I
don't know why. It's so far fetched.

Speaker 3 (03:06):
That's why the celebrities look like that's why Anne Hathaway
looks younger than she did in Princess Diary.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
Why are you why are you guys trafficking in these
in these what do you call them?

Speaker 3 (03:15):
Weird them weird algorithms.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
No theories?

Speaker 4 (03:20):
Why is it?

Speaker 6 (03:20):
But why is it so far fetched that you would
believe babies? Why would you not believe that? Do you
know how many like eat people all the time, It's
the common thing.

Speaker 3 (03:28):
How many babies go missing, like in the year, and
like I'm telling you, I've seen so many guys.

Speaker 1 (03:34):
You listen, you know what?

Speaker 6 (03:37):
Crazy people are really so closed minded to think that
there are not people out there, you know, missing people
there are that are never found kids, Like, yeah, this
is a very possibility.

Speaker 3 (03:46):
Like you should look at this hard.

Speaker 5 (03:48):
How about they are buried somewhere, not eaten.

Speaker 3 (03:51):
Do you see the babies that were buried that.

Speaker 4 (03:53):
They found, Yeah, yes, I did see that the.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
Women's home or something like that. There's weird stuff that
goes on, you guys. That's all I'm saying. It's like
weird except that we cannot explain.

Speaker 1 (04:02):
What else do you.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
She was says she was pressured to come out as
a lesbian. She said when she came out at seventeen.
She says, I was paying sexual because I don't care
about gender, and then I kind of boxed myself in
and I said, I'm a husband. And I think I
did that because of pressure, she says. She noted that
she felt the pressure came in a weird way from
inside the LGBTQ community at times, from people I know,

(04:27):
from partners I've had said Siwa, you just get put
in this world where you feel like because you now
have said, oh I'm a lesbian, you have to be
a lesbian, And the truth is sexually, she is fluid,
so well, I.

Speaker 1 (04:40):
Think that generation, she's in her early twenties, it's gender
is not a thing. It's okay, Like if you have
a connection with someone, it doesn't matter if they're a
guy or a girl. I mean, as long as you
I don't know, I mean, as long as you don't
miss pen I guess. I mean, because if you missed
the pen, well you stunt. I mean that's the one
piece that well, I mean she can't have that too, now,

(05:02):
I mean there's ways, right, yeah, there are ways, I mean, yeah,
so just I think nowadays they're more into the relationship
doesn't matter, man, woman doesn't matter if I've got a
connection with you and we can be in a relationship.

Speaker 2 (05:15):
M Mmm, nah, honey, if you telling me I'm getting chicken.
It but it looks, smell and taste like chicken. And
I know exactly what I want to say.

Speaker 1 (05:25):
Because you're old school. I mean by talking about the
kids now, it's tree, am I right?

Speaker 6 (05:29):
I mean I personally don't care because it's not my business.
So I feel like when people are out here broadcasting
what they like, I mean, I feel like if to
me it seems attention seeking, because you could have a
relationship with whoever you want in private, didn't have to
be broadcasted. But she obviously felt like she needed to
explain herself to people that don't really matter. So again,
I don't digress into anyone's life who's not mine. It's

(05:49):
not my business.

Speaker 2 (05:51):
And well, she's a model for the LGBTK community.

Speaker 6 (05:54):
I mean, I guess a role model is like a
hefty word to give Jojo cwat Yeah whatever.

Speaker 4 (05:59):
I mean, know, I guess someone's looking up to her.

Speaker 1 (06:01):
Yeah, all right, what else?

Speaker 2 (06:02):
Steve brad Pitt, you guys went to a A for
a reboot after his divorce from Angelina Jolie. He went
to AA after his divorce and he says I needed rebooting.
Check out this audio.

Speaker 7 (06:12):
I was pretty much on my back, on my knees,
and I was really open. I was trying anything and everyone, anything,
anyone threw at me. Difficult time. I needed rebooting. I
needed to wake up in some areas and it just
meant a lot to me. So gives you permission in
a way to go, Okay, I'm going to step out
on this edge and see what happens. And then I really,

(06:33):
you know, I just really grew to love it.

Speaker 6 (06:35):
M I heard a lot of things in there, back
in his knees, and things were thrown at him. This
was a well no, he said.

Speaker 1 (06:44):
He tried when it was going through a tough time
when he when he separated from Angelina, So mey was
he got knocked to his knees. Basically, you know, he
just his life was over. Whatever, thank you? What's that
speacon up his knee?

Speaker 2 (07:00):
He also said during this interview that he missed the
window when it comes to having a gay experience. Brad Brand's, Brad,
what happened? Honey? You need to come in later. Honey,
I make sure you get that about that.

Speaker 1 (07:12):
We're own girl signing up for amish experience. See he's
gonna start a gay experience. You want to try it?
Ninety nine dollars.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
Come out, bitch, try try some things. Try some things.
Come out into the dressing room, slip body looking.

Speaker 3 (07:29):
You know, in other countries you can rent a boyfriend
or girlfriend. Like I just saw this. This girl went
to Japan and she wanted a lesbian experience. It is
a thing.

Speaker 4 (07:37):
I do that here.

Speaker 1 (07:38):
Yeah the escort, Yeah, well he did.

Speaker 4 (07:40):
He's been doing it for a while.

Speaker 3 (07:42):
This is this is not anything sexual.

Speaker 1 (07:45):
It's nothing sexual.

Speaker 3 (07:46):
Rent the girl. She runted the girlfriend, and the girl
like took her around town and like twit her around
Tokyo or wherever she was, and you know, just gave
her like the girlfriend experience. So this is a thing,
and this could be turned into a business you.

Speaker 6 (07:59):
Never heard of out the cuddle business. Yeah yeah, yeah,
that's the thing. I feel like I would thrive at that.
Like if some I could be like a cuddlert, like
someone paid me to come lay with them, I would
come lay and we could cuddle, And I think that
would make some good finances.

Speaker 3 (08:12):
Anyone could pay me and I will come cuddle you.

Speaker 1 (08:15):
So, Lisa, are you are you dabbling in anything that
relationships like you almost not have like a relationship bubble
that you're looking exploring any any monetary ways to take
that into wherever it's being done somewhere.

Speaker 3 (08:28):
Well, I'm a little bit of a hustler, so I'll
do whatever you know I need you to make to
make I'm a single mom, you know what I mean,
Like I need to make money. But no, my next
thing that I think I'm gonna start, so a friend
actually showed me this yesterday and I think it's super cool.
Is so I'm going to kind of go into more
not only single things. I'm going to do some more
event things because what I've found through doing this is

(08:49):
there's not a lot of really cool things happening in
our area. Like you know, you can go up to
Detroit or Chicago and there's like really cool events that
you can go to, brunches and things like that. So
then next thing I want to try, it's a brunch
where they bring a DJ in, so you come in
and like everyone gets like a microphone, like a like
a fake microphone. Okay, it's like part of your package.

(09:12):
You get brunch, you get mimosas a DJ comes in
and they just like play like awesome music like nineties
and two thousands and it's just like a brunch time.

Speaker 1 (09:21):
See Steve, you're an expert at this, uh at these
type of things. What do you think? You think this
sounds good? People go to that.

Speaker 2 (09:27):
I had to do that at a conscious picciaus.

Speaker 1 (09:31):
Yeah, on Sundays he does.

Speaker 6 (09:33):
So I need to reach out to him and like
join up at an Earth coffee house downtown two on
Sundays they do DJ they.

Speaker 3 (09:41):
Do this is like this is almost like a rave though,
you know what I mean, Like it's like everyone like
it's like a huge Like I'll send you guys the
video later.

Speaker 4 (09:50):
I got an idea.

Speaker 1 (09:51):
I got an idea. All right, what else, Steve?

Speaker 2 (09:53):
Oh my god? This is my friend Seth came to
one of her events and he had a good time.

Speaker 3 (09:57):
I love Seth. He's fantastic.

Speaker 2 (10:00):
Isn't he hot too? He's coming up to spend the
whole weekend with me.

Speaker 3 (10:02):
I mean, I'm not I'm not gonna lie. He's a
very good looking man.

Speaker 2 (10:05):
Yeah he is?

Speaker 1 (10:07):
Is?

Speaker 2 (10:07):
He is?

Speaker 1 (10:08):
He?

Speaker 3 (10:09):
Uh?

Speaker 4 (10:10):
Gay?

Speaker 1 (10:10):
Or no, no.

Speaker 3 (10:11):
No, no, no, he's straight.

Speaker 2 (10:13):
No, no, very straight, very all right, very hot.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
See with Steve. Steve's weird because he's in a relationship,
but he's he's on all these hot dudes. But I
guess is you're allowed to look at the buffet as
long as you don't eat, right, Yeah, exactly.

Speaker 2 (10:27):
And Kevin knows them all. That's that's the thing. Like
he knows all of my friends and hangs out with them.
They all talk. They talk to him about you know,
exercise and you know, lifting and working out and stuff
like it's fine.

Speaker 3 (10:40):
He was just like a cool guy. He was just
like a fun guy, you know what I mean. Like
we had a great time hanging out that night.

Speaker 1 (10:46):
What else, Steve, Oh, it's bad.

Speaker 2 (10:49):
Bachelor in Paradise returns July seventh, and it includes both
Golden contestants and their younger counter partner.

Speaker 5 (10:57):
What we're gonna get old?

Speaker 2 (11:00):
Then the Goldens are real horn dogs, So host Jesse
Palmer says, it's actually the Goldens who I think infuse
the most energy in the show. They bring it every
single day, like the parties at the pool in Paradise,
it was all the Goldens turning it up. They turned
up every day, like the makeout sessions and the pool
and the body shots. It was the Goldens. He says,

(11:22):
just watch it.

Speaker 1 (11:23):
It was Kelly, and I think you would you. You
would go on, You would be a Golden Bachelorette. You
would do it.

Speaker 4 (11:28):
I want to see Kelly on Love Island.

Speaker 1 (11:30):
Oh my god.

Speaker 8 (11:32):
I feel like they should do like a Love Island
with like more mature. I fel like that would be
so amazing though, because Love Island is so like ratchet.
It would just be so fun to see, you know,
people in there like prime, like single ma, like parents,
just doing ratchet stuff.

Speaker 1 (11:48):
I think that would be in Kelly. Would you do them?
If they came to you and it said a scout
said we want you to do the Golden Bachelorette, would
you do it? You would?

Speaker 4 (11:59):
I will help you up.

Speaker 1 (12:00):
You would do it.

Speaker 4 (12:01):
I know video would get everything. You would get it.

Speaker 6 (12:04):
I know a couple of casting directors. I can literally
do it right now. We can reach out to dude.

Speaker 9 (12:08):
You would get it, Kelly?

Speaker 1 (12:10):
Would you would? If you if you told them yes,
you would get it.

Speaker 5 (12:13):
I mean, Ohio right there, boom done.

Speaker 1 (12:15):
Yeah. What do you think would you do it.

Speaker 3 (12:18):
Yeah, I think we should submit you for.

Speaker 4 (12:21):
I know you think we should.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
I do you be amazing?

Speaker 3 (12:24):
He has the wardrobe for it.

Speaker 4 (12:26):
I've always in the personality.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
What do you think, Steve? What do you think, Steve?
She'd do good job, right, she would do a good job.

Speaker 2 (12:33):
I would want to be on like selecting the cast,
like picking out the cast, going around the country, like
you need to be a bachelor, right you? Oh? Yes,
I've got good taste when it comes to you, do.

Speaker 1 (12:44):
You do you? You and Lisa should join forces. He's
a grave matchmaker. Although there was one there was one
bad spot, Steve.

Speaker 2 (12:53):
Oh, I know who you.

Speaker 1 (12:56):
Missed that one?

Speaker 2 (12:58):
Well? Hey it I said for a year, I'm like, hey,
I got them together. What you do when I after
I get you together? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (13:07):
All right, what else Steve.

Speaker 2 (13:09):
Luke Bryan's back in the news, guys. Luke Bryan was
doing a show in Arkansas on Thursday and his voice
was starting to go out, so he stepped up, up,
stepped up in a big way for his fans. Halfway
through his set, he told the crowd, I cannot have
my voice in this venue. For some reason, it happens
every time. I don't know why I don't give a
damn I'm going to refund everybody their tickets tonight and

(13:29):
we're going to keep doing the damn show. Okay, and
a lot of other fans in the audience cheered him,
and who wouldn't want a real full refund. So that's
what he did. How cool?

Speaker 1 (13:40):
Wow? Hey, that is? That is It's great, great work
for him.

Speaker 2 (13:45):
What else, Steve Okay, Tim McGraw. Tim McGrath's pulled out
of the upcoming Professional bull Riders Last Cowboys Standing event
in Fort Collins, Colorado. Now, if you didn't know, Tim's
been battling some serious back issues and just had what
looks like his six under a year. That's three backs,
there's two new knees and about a million hours a
physical parrap.

Speaker 1 (14:06):
Back surgery scares the ship out of me because people
that have it, it doesn't seem like they it's chronic
forever forever once you have it, Like that's that scares me.

Speaker 2 (14:16):
I feel that I had that and she just like
as she got older, it just took a toll, like
they shrink and they have all kinds of problems.

Speaker 3 (14:25):
And yeah, then they say, like when you hit a
certain age, you have one surgery and then another and
just keeps like rickcheing off?

Speaker 1 (14:34):
What else do?

Speaker 2 (14:35):
That's why you gotta keep That's why you got to
keep that course strong. People got to exercise that course.

Speaker 1 (14:40):
Yeah, I know, I got to exercise. Man, you gotta
take me out, Trey.

Speaker 4 (14:47):
Yeah, I don't know if you get hanged or going
outside of me.

Speaker 1 (14:49):
No, No, to take me to work out?

Speaker 4 (14:53):
Once work out?

Speaker 6 (14:54):
I thought you said I was in my own zone.
Oh absolutely, Let's go to the gum going right after here?

Speaker 1 (14:58):
I know you?

Speaker 4 (14:59):
Are you free?

Speaker 1 (14:59):
No?

Speaker 3 (15:00):
I'm not.

Speaker 1 (15:02):
I'm like, what else do you?

Speaker 2 (15:07):
And finally, Alanis moris Set was just twenty one when
her Jag A Little Pill album came out and made
her start and it was a rough time for her.
She says, there was no one to hide behind. What
I found in terms of the lovely patriarchy was that
at that time, if men could f me, they didn't
know what to do with me. She goes on to sly,
I have an anxious depress a tendency. Those who are

(15:30):
sensitive are much more susceptible to their environmental information. If
you put a high sensitive person in an environment where
they've rowbeaten or reduced, they'll basically want to kill themselves.
It's the worst. So she spent the next twenty five
years making being an extrovert tequila. Anything that allowed me
to be the life of the party, that's what she did.

(15:52):
Or if I was doing a talk, Xanax was part
of it. Anything that would help me pretend I'm not me.

Speaker 1 (15:58):
Wow, all right, well, thank you, Steve. That is Steve's
sleeve said. So you I've been reading that you are
in the Toledo City Paper for what is it called
the best Single?

Speaker 3 (16:17):
I should have brought a copy and I have them
in my car just like giveaway if you autograph them. No,
but I do. I do love to like show up
to my friends or family's house and like with a
copy and be like, oh my god, this on the cover.

Speaker 1 (16:32):
So so how did what what made you decide to
what's it called?

Speaker 3 (16:36):
It's called single? So these are two someone? Yeah, So
my business is four to nine singles and this is
single the single in the Glass City contest for the
Toledo City Paper. And you someone nominates you, and then
you accept the nomination if you want to do it,
and then you be a part of the contest and
so I really was like last year someone wanted to

(16:57):
do it for me and I was like, no, I
don't think I want to do that. This year, I
did it because one I was like, well, it's great
for business, you know. And then to the girl who
won it last year is now engaged, so I figured, yeah,
So I was like, okay, here's the plan. I win,
then I get to be engaged next year. Like in
my mind, this is how my mind works, Okay. So
I was like, okay, I'm going to do it. And

(17:19):
the girl who nominated me, she you know, wrote this
really actually this really beautiful letter and it was so nice.
So I was like, okay, do you do you win anything? Yeah,
you win like a big prize package they have, like
I think they have like gift cards and stuff like
local businesses, you know, and I like free stuff. So
that's another reason why I want to.

Speaker 10 (17:40):
So I mean, I'm kind of interested it, like what
like what do you have to do?

Speaker 3 (17:48):
You just pimp yourself out, you know. Actually it was
what I do every day for business.

Speaker 1 (17:54):
Because next year, since she's single.

Speaker 3 (17:56):
Now, I don't know, I won't say I am the
oldest one in the contest really, So when I showed
up to the photo shoot and Nick Ameron did the photos.
You know, he's wonderful, really yeah, really great job, and
I know him. So I show up and I'm like,
oh my gosh h And then you know, I turn
and I look at the people and it's a small

(18:19):
I saw last year's group. This year was a lot
smaller group, and I kind of like look around and
I'm like, how old are you? And I started asking,
I'm like, how old are you? How old are you?
And like, you know, I mean, there's some young people
in this and I'm like, oh my god, I'm the
oldest person here.

Speaker 10 (18:36):
Welcome to my world every day. So I am my friends,
I'm the oldest.

Speaker 1 (18:41):
Yeah, definitely about because your mind was like Kelly, you
and at least too that your mind is younger than.

Speaker 3 (18:47):
Yeah, for sure. I don't feel like I'm forty two,
you know.

Speaker 1 (18:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (18:52):
But the people are lovely that are in the contest.
They were so sweet and we had actually had a
lot of fun. So that was the photo shoot and
then and the voting leads up to this Friday. You
can vote up until five o'clock. The link is in
my bio if anyone wants to go vote Licelento done,
and then that's I believe for like the winner, the
official winner. And then at Bar one four five seven

(19:14):
o'clock Friday night you can come and cheer everybody on.
Obviously for single it might be a good chance for
you to come and meet a lot of single people.

Speaker 1 (19:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (19:22):
I did put it out on like my page for
the four nine singles to come. But then that I
believe is like the fan favorite. So if you're up
on stage and you get a lot of applause, it'll
be like by whoever gets the most applause, they're the
official fan favorite.

Speaker 1 (19:36):
So wow, all right, well congrant, good luck.

Speaker 3 (19:38):
Thank you, and if anyone wants to come, so I'm
not standing on stage with no applause that I'm very
nervous about that. I literally started a Facebook event and
send it to all my friends and it says, I
don't want to be on stage with no one clapping
for me. Please come Friday night.

Speaker 1 (19:53):
So that's the scary part when you put yourself out there,
huh is like I mean, and people.

Speaker 3 (19:57):
There're you know, people say some mean thing. You know
they're was a post that they put out and they
were like, oh is this like that there's no diversity
or this is the best. These people are all suburban people.
These aren't even like Toledo people. And you know, for me,
I've always can I've grown up here my whole life.
I've lived here my whole life. I consider the greater
Toledo area to be Taledo, you know. And I think,

(20:19):
like I when I say I'm supporting local business.

Speaker 1 (20:22):
It's in all are What are they saying that it's
not diverse, it's just all white people or what is
it like it's all.

Speaker 6 (20:27):
Yeah, because I follow a lot of minorities on my
pay well, I've seen the share go like viral, and
so like, I think they all were white, and I
think that that's what but there.

Speaker 4 (20:36):
I mean, there's two sides to it.

Speaker 6 (20:37):
The people who were on there were like nominated or
wanted to be a part of that. So I mean
maybe this is just not a many minorities that wanted
to be a part of it.

Speaker 3 (20:44):
That's why saego, did you you can even nominate yourself?
I was like, did you nominate yourself? Did anyone nominate people?

Speaker 1 (20:49):
That are? You know?

Speaker 4 (20:50):
Any ways, regardless, people are always going to talk, you know.

Speaker 1 (20:52):
Yeah, and so like, I mean, well, And the problem
is the problem is too with us as a society
and just as a people, is that it doesn't matter
how many good comments there are, we focus on that
one fucking asshole that that trolls us. It's annoying. Like
I post a video of pizza and there's like twenty
thousand views of the video and I still remember this

(21:12):
one asshole. Where's the cheese?

Speaker 2 (21:14):
Bitch?

Speaker 3 (21:14):
Fuck you?

Speaker 1 (21:17):
But you funny? I I don't know, I can't, I don't,
I don't remember the names. But you just focused on
that one negative comment.

Speaker 3 (21:22):
Yeah, And I've really it's hard for me right because
I'm like a very like I'm a little sensitive and
I also have a big heart and things like that.
So when I see negativity, it really does get to me. Yeah,
But being more in the spotlight, like over the last
couple of years, I really have had to learn that
you cannot let it get to you. You have to
have thick skin, you.

Speaker 1 (21:42):
Do well, and then you really really stay away from
the comments. Like I usually let Colleen read the comments.

Speaker 3 (21:48):
And told me don't read the comments, and I was like,
I read the comments with pride.

Speaker 6 (21:53):
I'm smoking. I'm just like because I've got viral on
TikTok so many times. I love the comments, Like people
literally love to be trolls.

Speaker 1 (22:00):
It's like what they do.

Speaker 6 (22:01):
And it's probably literally someone who's like five foot one
at home masturbating in a corner to a picture of
their grandma.

Speaker 5 (22:06):
You know, you're an Amish person.

Speaker 4 (22:09):
Literally, it's definitely Jebalidiah and Ezekiel.

Speaker 6 (22:12):
But here's the thing, like, if you have time to
be attrolled, it literally just goes to show you have
a lot of time in your life. And me and
that person just would never relate because I don't got
time to be scrolling in common and random shit on
random videos like that person literally is a local, like
life loser, like real life.

Speaker 3 (22:26):
Yet them, yes, And I'm just like I in general
try to be really positive. I mean, I I'm what
I'm doing in the community, and you know, the things
that I support, it's to be a positive impact in
the community. So you know, if people want to hate
on that or say they didn't like my dress or whatever,
which nobody did say that, just say one likes my dress.

Speaker 4 (22:47):
I mean a comment real quick.

Speaker 6 (22:50):
There's another side. So there's like people who get paid
two trolls, So like that's another side of contentation, you know,
like people will share things with negative comments for the
interaction because it's rage baiting and get paid for that monetization.

Speaker 1 (23:02):
It's an annoying Yeah, all right, so I got it.
I get some normal notes. By the way, So Lisa Friday,
you got that in a Saturday of a Mudhons event. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (23:09):
So if you're single and you want to be a
part of four nine Singles, you can go to four
nine Singles on Facebook and then you can come out
and enjoy the throwback. It's nineties throwback weekend at the
Mudhons this weekend. Oh so yeah, it's gonna be fun
and I think like Hensville has a DJ afterwards there's fireworks,
so like, I think.

Speaker 1 (23:29):
It's gonna be a good vibe.

Speaker 3 (23:30):
Yeah, and I've got a pretty good crowd coming so far.
So I believe Steve is coming actually oh cool, he's
not single, but you know I'm all inclusive.

Speaker 1 (23:38):
No, no, Kelly, are you going to join now that
you're now that you're on the marketing and enjoin four
one nine Singles?

Speaker 3 (23:43):
I mean, of course, I know. If I told her,
I was like I saw her, I was like, oh
my gosh, I gotta get you to like come to
some even just to like you can just help pump
up my my business.

Speaker 1 (23:52):
The funny thing about Kelly is she she has a
hard time saying no, So just an invite her to
sh she hasn't saying no. And most people that have
a hard time saying no, then they'll make an excuse.
To the end, she actually shows up to everything.

Speaker 3 (24:04):
She says yes, she is going to be there, and honestly,
it's really fun. Like he was, Steve was talking about
his friend stuff that came to, you know, this event
that we had too, and it's like sorry, and you know,
it's it's really fun. And the one thing that I
think has come out of this the most is just
this great community. So not everyone's gonna come to the first, second,
or even third event and find love. I'm not. I'm

(24:25):
not promising that. When I'm promising is like, you're gonna
find friends, You're gonna have a great time, it's gonna
be a fun night.

Speaker 1 (24:31):
Well then is it is it all weird people that
can't find friends? No?

Speaker 11 (24:35):
No?

Speaker 3 (24:35):
But I think for me, when you're single, right single, No, No,
they're act friend they're good looking, they're you know, it's
a it's a wide age of ages and stuff. But
I think for me, the first time I was single,
when I was like thirty six, after my divorce, you know,

(24:56):
I was the only one of my friends that was divorced.
I was the only single person. I didn't have anyone
to go out with. I didn't want any friends to
go out with. And even now, you know, to go
out with your couple of friends, they're cool to just
like sit at a bar and never move out of
their spots. Where like if I'm getting dressed up and
I'm going on the town, like i want a man hunt,
you know what I mean, And I want other people

(25:17):
that are in the same boat. Yeah, or I'm saying
that kind of joking.

Speaker 1 (25:22):
Yeah yeah. But also like just like you're open to
stuff that you're you're you're it's just different. It's that
you're looking at things differently and different.

Speaker 3 (25:30):
And also you know, to have those people to relate
to that are single parents, single moms, they're living on
one income like you are, and you can you know,
talk to them and become friends with them. I think
is really important to have that support in your life.

Speaker 9 (25:43):
So honestly, since you started this business, I have seen
because I obviously on Facebook, I have seen your friend
group change.

Speaker 3 (25:54):
Yeah, my friend group has changed. And I was like,
for the better, Yeah, for the better. More single friends, Yeah,
I definitely have more single friends. And then you know,
like there's four guys out of the group specifically, like
they're super like I would go hang out with these
guys anytime. At the last event they walked in, they
were all like kind of in the corner talking to
each other and hang out here. I found out they're

(26:14):
like now going out like, you know, once a week
and having drinks together. So like I felt so proud
about that. I was like, I love that I'm helping
people in the same stage of life and you know,
going through the same things, coming together and finding the
support system.

Speaker 1 (26:29):
Do you know if you've if you've put put love together?
Have you have you has loved blossomed?

Speaker 3 (26:34):
So I have had. I've had a couple relationships come
out of it. I've had. I'm nothing where I want
to like do like a testimonial yet, because I want to,
you know, see how it goes. I mean, it's also
people's own private business that that's not for me to
like make money off of you know what I'm saying, Like,
I don't want to use it as like a but
you know, there's been people that just dated like casually.

(26:54):
There's people that have obviously like you know, probably just
hooked them up. I mean, you know, so it's any
babies yet the phone? Yeah, babies yet?

Speaker 1 (27:03):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (27:03):
When baby yeah?

Speaker 3 (27:05):
But I mean gotship when comes then I am going
to use them for a time. I guess you're kind
of waiting to see if somebody is in something like
I mean, this whole business is only six months old,
you know, so I'm waiting to see if there's something
that maybe turns into like an engagement or marriage, and
then for sure I would ask them to you know,
post that and and I would be so excited about that.

Speaker 4 (27:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (27:25):
Cool.

Speaker 1 (27:26):
Let me ask you this because since you are dating,
I was reading this this morning, do you think is
chivalry dead?

Speaker 2 (27:33):
Like?

Speaker 1 (27:34):
Are men still doing things like opening doors because you're dating,
allowing women to into rooms first, you know, giving up
their seats on public transportation that type? Are men still
chivalrous in twenty twenty five?

Speaker 4 (27:48):
I want her answer for hers, and then I'm gonna
give you my okay.

Speaker 3 (27:52):
So for me, yes, because that's the kind of men
I date. Okay, so I have like very I'm I'm
old school, I'm traditional, and I'm not going to go
out with somebody who's not doing those kinds of things.

Speaker 1 (28:04):
You know.

Speaker 3 (28:04):
The topic comes up all the time about like do
you split the bill on the first day. I don't like,
I want a gentleman. I want someone who's old fashioned
and that's who I am, and that's my expectations.

Speaker 1 (28:15):
Do they know do you let them know that upfront
or it's just you know, I.

Speaker 3 (28:20):
Would just know, you know what I mean. And one time,
this was years ago when I was first single, one
time a guy made me split a bill okay, and
what did he say? He goes, He literally said.

Speaker 1 (28:31):
So she comes up one or two right, like this
server comes up and it says, how do you want to?

Speaker 3 (28:36):
Said that? And first of all, the date started. The
guy wanted me to meet at a park okay and
Perry's Burg on like a ninety degree day. Again, I
don't like the sweat, and I don't like you know,
so I'm like sweating. So then we go afterwards and
have like two drinks and an appetizer and he goes
just so you know, and he was kind of rude
about it, and he goes, just you know, I don't
pay on dates, and I was like wow, and I

(29:01):
just was kind of like after and then he tried
to like kiss me in the parking.

Speaker 1 (29:04):
Lot and I was like, oh, how no, fuck out
of here. I was like no. I was like, this
is and I haven't so actually want to at least
pay through drinks and then maybe you have an obligation
to give him a little smoochy smoochy, but he hasn't.

Speaker 3 (29:18):
Put it in here fuck her up.

Speaker 1 (29:20):
No.

Speaker 3 (29:20):
Yeah, I was so grossed out by it. Yeah, and
he followed me and tried to date me and take me.

Speaker 11 (29:26):
You know.

Speaker 3 (29:26):
He messaged me a million times after that, and I
was like, I don't know if I should just tell this.
At my age now, I would just tell the guy wait.
When I was like the first time I was single,
I was a little more naive to things. But I
think in general, men are not men like they used
to be in the year twenty twenty five. I think
that they are.

Speaker 1 (29:44):
I think society and won't wait and like name.

Speaker 4 (29:47):
It, I'll tell you the way. It's good.

Speaker 6 (29:48):
There's way too many options with dating apps, like you
can literally swipe forty five people in three minutes. And
what one girl won't do, another one will. And that's
the thing is not that men have changed. I think
that will men have changed, but also women have changed
because there's women who have high standards and there's women
that have no standards. And what I mean by that
is there's also women out there who are okay with
being a side piece for a man who's in a

(30:09):
happy relationship. There's also guys who are side pieces too.
But there's just way too many options, and social media
helps find an unhappy home because people put too much
of their personal business on social media. So when you
have a scavenger looking, they start doing things by liking
your picture, commenting under your comments, and then that person,
if they're interested, they'll start liking your pictures and then

(30:30):
it slowly turns into a message in the DM.

Speaker 4 (30:32):
And you know, I feel like there's just too many options.

Speaker 6 (30:35):
Yeah, and then there's just so many options out there,
and people aren't as secure with their partner to keep
that relationship between them and their partner and build from it.
Instead of working on some of their part they would
rather find other options. I think I heard someone the
other day say I feel like my partner is always
nitpicking me. Was the excuse of why they were stepping

(30:55):
outside of their home. So because you felt nitpicked at home,
you thought it'd be easier to go find something else
than the fix. It's the problem at home that makes
no sense to me, zero sense at all. And I
feel like, here's the thing. Although I am single, for
my guy friends, I'm a hold them accountable because at
the end of the day, we still are men and
we have a choice. And if you're making a choice
without telling your partner, I feel like that's very unfair
to someone. And I speak on that because I'm saying

(31:16):
I would hate for someone to do something behind my back.
And I don't stand by someone who is being non
loyal to their partner because as a man, for me,
if you can't be honest and loyal to your woman,
there's no way you could ever be.

Speaker 4 (31:26):
A good friend of mine.

Speaker 1 (31:27):
It's so interesting because you're spot on you you are
spot on, But I don't know if there are a
lot of guys like that though, with the same mentality
that you have.

Speaker 6 (31:36):
If you're dating, you're dating, But if you're married, that's
another thing. And I feel like here's the As a friend,
you should be loyal to your friend, your family, whoever around.
But if you can't be loyal to your wife, you
could never be loyal to anyone. And I feel like
the life your wife is your most important person, or
should be, that should be your number one.

Speaker 1 (31:53):
That goes either way. You can't be loyal to your husband,
then you.

Speaker 6 (31:55):
I'm speaking from a man's point of view. I have
a lot of guy friends girls. I don't really have
a lot of conversation with them about their relationship. They
usually wild talk to girlfriends about that. So, like men,
I hold my men accountable as I would want my
guy friends to hold me accountable in the situations, whether it's.

Speaker 4 (32:09):
Dating, being a man, going to work, just showing up
as a man should show up.

Speaker 6 (32:14):
And I feel like a lot of men don't have
men in their corner holding them accountable of what they
should be doing every day to be a better man.

Speaker 1 (32:19):
Well, and one thing that I think you said that
was so interesting was if you have so many options
in twenty twenty five, it's like, Okay, well I'm not
going to put I'm not going to invest time into
you because I can have instant gratification. One of these
forty five women that I swipe on in three minutes
is going to give me instant gratification. So why am
I going to play a game with you? Or why
am I going to chase you if I don't get

(32:42):
time for that? And it's changed mentality big time.

Speaker 3 (32:45):
No, I that was a whole reasoning of me starting this,
right is I'm doing the dating apps, and I have
friends doing the dating apps, and it is so unintentional,
and it is so such a yes, is very much
the grass is green on the other side of mentality,
where like it's oh you have you know, and I'm
not gonna lie. I would do it on there too.

(33:06):
I would swipe on a bunch of people on match
and then forget I even had it, or I'd start
talking to somebody and then somebody else popped it. It's
almost overwhelming, is what it is.

Speaker 1 (33:16):
There's no connection.

Speaker 6 (33:17):
Yeah, there's no I swipe half the time and then
I get matches, and then then I never messaged him.
It's like, you know what I mean, I was just bored,
So you're sitting there doing something I had no real integ.

Speaker 1 (33:25):
Which which is interesting because I think that that way,
that's what makes gonna gonna make such a market for
what you do. Because you know, we talked about this
pendulum swings the other the other day to where things
will crazy one way, and it's these dating apps, and
people want that personal touch. They want to have because
because no one everyone complains about the dating apps, everyone
says they're shit. So they're looking for something that's going

(33:46):
to be more real and more long lasting and and
have more to it.

Speaker 3 (33:50):
And just getting back to for me again little old
school traditional person as it is, but like just getting
back to meeting people in real life. It's like, you know,
how you you when we were you know, first dating,
when we were like nineteen twenty or whatever, you know,
graduated high school and you would just go out to
an event or you would go to you know, I

(34:12):
love that they like brought back party in the Park.
I was things like that, like you actually have places
now to go, And for me, it was like, you know,
I'm laying and I was literally laying on my couch
like in January sick. I had bronchitis, and I was
like where am I going to go? Like I do
the downtown Toledo thing. And for people my age, it's

(34:32):
a lot of young people. And also if there's not
a mud Huns or a Walleye game, there's nobody downtown, right.
And then if that's like your only kid free weekend,
then like what do you do? How do you meet
people in real life? And so that was the really
the driving and.

Speaker 1 (34:48):
Then we say, oh, go to uh the grocery store,
blah blah blah. These are all dumb things that did
no dumb suggestions. You're not going You're not going to
the grocery store trying to meet a dude or a girl.
It's insane.

Speaker 3 (34:59):
You absolutely.

Speaker 12 (35:03):
Right, sweet or sour.

Speaker 3 (35:05):
I look like this when I go to the grocery store. No,
but like no, like I at least have my hair
in some makeup on it. Like I'm like in a
T shirt usually and like something raggedy, and I like
want into Kroger. So there happened a couple of times
where I have seen something that was like good looking,
you know, but I'm not going to be like, oh,
hey do you like that brand of cereal?

Speaker 6 (35:24):
You know, like what do you do when like, yeah,
I mean a couple hours ago I've seen you pick
out that spaghetti.

Speaker 4 (35:31):
To know, I think we have same interest. Would you
like if I come over tonight?

Speaker 3 (35:35):
And it's so funny that because people do say that,
like that'd be something my mom would say. She'd be like, well,
you know, just go out to places like the grocery
store and I'm like, oh my god, or the library
or yeah, because I know, like my my mom was like,
don't get on those dating sites. They're really dangerous, which

(35:56):
she's She's not wrong, you know, I mean there are
things that happen on them. But also people older people
don't understand that that is like the only way prior
to for one nine singles, Okay, that was like the
only way in our area at least to really find anybody.

Speaker 1 (36:12):
That's all right, So people more should go to your
Facebook page four one nine singles and you can find
all the details there. And then the two events. Friday,
she's going to be in the Toledo City Paper event
and it Saturday her own mud Hens event. Lisa Lento Dunn.
All right, so here's some unnormal notes. People text me
in some things that Okay.

Speaker 3 (36:30):
All I see Kelly's guys, see you next week.

Speaker 4 (36:33):
By I won't to see you next week, Kelly.

Speaker 3 (36:36):
Why not?

Speaker 4 (36:36):
Because I told you I can only.

Speaker 1 (36:37):
Do Dune bullshit. I did bullshit.

Speaker 4 (36:40):
Go read your text.

Speaker 3 (36:42):
Is so cute, Kelly, that it is.

Speaker 4 (36:44):
We'remagine and I'm sad. I feel like, wait, so you're
not You're not better have You're not gonna be here
in July. No, Remember I told you I got promoted.
I'm the manager.

Speaker 6 (36:53):
I'm the manager of the brand new luxury property, uh
colony lost by Toledo Hospital. So on next month I
will be training some new employees and I will be traveling,
so I won't be available man for like two months.
I'm gonna be doing this two month travel thing, you know.

Speaker 1 (37:08):
And then you're coming back.

Speaker 4 (37:09):
Yes, I'll come back absolutely. I love it here. Good,
This is good, starts my morning.

Speaker 1 (37:13):
We love we love having your love that create addition here.
And you know, and your insight is really good too.
I mean, for being such a young guy.

Speaker 3 (37:20):
I think I think your mentality is like spot on.
Everything's like for me in what I'm doing right now
and hearing your thoughts on like this the single life
and men. I just I think you're really in a
great headspace.

Speaker 4 (37:32):
But to be honest.

Speaker 6 (37:32):
What she said though, is more of my style. I
feel like as much as experience I have and what
I've been through, I know that I'm younger, but meeting
people organically, that's the word I want to use, is
more natural than a dating app A lot of times
as a man, and I feel like women probably get
it more. But you learn these dating apps really not
dating apps, hookup apps. People are literally intent there is
to go meet, go grab dinner, and then after we

(37:53):
took up, that's the intent regardless. I feel like for me,
my case scenario, everyone who I've met up with, that's
the intent. I feel like it's mutual. Yeah, but I
feel like you get the vibe right off of your
like first five minutes of communication.

Speaker 1 (38:05):
You know, well, in almost one hundred percent of people,
it doesn't matter guy or girl. You're not satisfied, like
you're not you're not having it's not genuine, and you're
not you're not happy. You're like, oh my god, I
got I went on Tinder and I found this great
guy and blah blah blah, that's not it. No, you're
going on there for you're you both want to go
on there and hook up and that's that.

Speaker 4 (38:23):
But I thought about this in a deeper way.

Speaker 6 (38:25):
Dating apps don't work because essentially you are swiping because
of a physical attraction. At first shot, there's there's no connection,
and so like you really don't know what you're getting into.
So you actually meet that person and at that point
you're like, well, I'm already here, you know, hey, And
I was.

Speaker 1 (38:38):
Watching I was watching a show too it said that
like ninety percent of the swipes are are are got
by five percent of the dudes. So like these hot
dudes are getting all the swipes, like Trey, He's fucking
inbox is full. My inbox ain't fucking full. But you
know it's it's the same. It's just the ninety percent

(38:58):
for for five percent. It's it's crazy that so the
average guy, an average looking guy, like, how do you
still you need to count on organic?

Speaker 3 (39:06):
I lost my phone died?

Speaker 1 (39:08):
Oh you lost your camera charger? Yeah, I think there's one.
What kind of phone do you have? Is iPhone? It's
got the new new I know, I don't think I
have what it was.

Speaker 3 (39:17):
Oh, I think you might have. You wants to be
are you a mom? A?

Speaker 1 (39:22):
Yeah?

Speaker 5 (39:23):
With my phone? Late only charges on those things.

Speaker 1 (39:25):
Okay, thank you, all right, sonway normally no people have
texted in some things, and you got to tell us
whether they are normal or whether they are abnormal with
what they do. I like to cry when driving. I
find it soothing. Is that normal or no?

Speaker 3 (39:38):
I think that's normal.

Speaker 4 (39:39):
I cry in the car.

Speaker 3 (39:40):
You really, yeah, like for for what we're just in life,
just my love life.

Speaker 1 (39:47):
I don't know, I I don't know.

Speaker 3 (39:49):
I think it's normal.

Speaker 5 (39:51):
But it's okay, Yeah, it's okay.

Speaker 3 (39:52):
It's your therapy. Sometimes I think your car can be
like a safe for me. It's like a safe space.
It's not in my house with my kids. It's just
me and I to meet you. I sit in my
car all the time.

Speaker 4 (40:04):
I leave the gym. I will go to the gym
for two hours.

Speaker 6 (40:06):
I will come out of the gym and sit in
my car for an hour in the parking lot and
not even move, just to like recenter.

Speaker 1 (40:11):
It's so funny because Colleen will go somewhere. She'll come
home and like, I come home, I get the car
and I get in the fucking house. Yeah, it'll be
forty five minutes. I'm like, what are you doing? She
was working in the car.

Speaker 3 (40:21):
I'm not not women. I sit in my car. I
work in my car all the time. I will sit
in my driveway for literally, like I don't know, thirty
minutes when I get home from the groceries or something.

Speaker 6 (40:31):
It's so peaceful, it is. It's literally the only place
where everything is just like makes sense. It's solid like silence.
I mean the gym does that for me too, but
like in the car, there's just literally nothing.

Speaker 11 (40:40):
Everybody that sits in their car for at least fifteen
minutes after they get home.

Speaker 12 (40:46):
How's your adhd Oh.

Speaker 3 (40:48):
I'm I'm I'm on adderall if that's what? Yeah, okay, so.

Speaker 11 (40:53):
That makes it is it is a processing because we've
been over stimulated while we've been out.

Speaker 1 (40:59):
Amen, And so it's peaceful to us to.

Speaker 11 (41:02):
Sit there and not have anybody ask us for anything,
not have any kids touch us, not have anybody do anything.

Speaker 12 (41:09):
Like you can ignore everybody because you can lock the
darn doors in the windows.

Speaker 3 (41:13):
I love it.

Speaker 6 (41:13):
That makes so much the funniest part about this is
I didn't know where this was coming from. Someone's like,
is this god? You walk up so quietly?

Speaker 12 (41:23):
I still here, No, No, you'd hear her heels.

Speaker 1 (41:28):
I did get a text four one nine three four
five three seven five. They say it's normal sometimes life
just be life, and yeah, uh I okay, another one.
I will turn down my music to see better when driving.

Speaker 4 (41:42):
I always try to turn down that the air when
I'm like doing things in the air. Knob. It just
gives me every time distractions.

Speaker 3 (41:50):
I get it.

Speaker 11 (41:50):
How is their eighth Yes, because that is another eighth
thing really, also the lights that hurt your eyes or
the fact that Andrew says this is not normal.

Speaker 12 (42:01):
But I can hear electricity.

Speaker 3 (42:04):
Oh I don't think I can hear that, but like
your your senses are in tune to them.

Speaker 12 (42:07):
Yeah, Like I can hear the power running through the chords.

Speaker 5 (42:10):
Okay, wow, you could hear him almost get electrocuted.

Speaker 4 (42:14):
Yes, that's why she had.

Speaker 12 (42:17):
Yeah he's cool, but he laughs at me because it's like,
you can't hear electricity. Yes, I can. Yeah, I can
hear the hum of it. I can. I can tell
you when a light bulb is gonna blow because I
can hear it.

Speaker 1 (42:28):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (42:28):
I mean I'm sure that it does give off like
a frequency and sounds and stuff.

Speaker 12 (42:32):
But that is another neurodivergent thing.

Speaker 1 (42:34):
I get another text in, I will text haha to
acknowledge a joke even though I didn't think it was funny.

Speaker 4 (42:40):
Normal or nope, normal normal, I say all the time,
it ain't shit funny.

Speaker 3 (42:46):
Or if you don't understand their commentary, I'll just put
like the haha sign on it, like okay, I don't
get it.

Speaker 1 (42:52):
By the way, turning down the music to see better
when driving, that is that normal or nope? Did we
say no?

Speaker 4 (42:59):
I guess that's normal.

Speaker 1 (43:00):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (43:01):
I mean, I do, I think I do do it
not to.

Speaker 1 (43:04):
Say but I think to focus, to focus.

Speaker 4 (43:09):
Yeah, I would say that, yeah.

Speaker 1 (43:11):
I think she's trying to be funny when she said yeah, yeah,
but yeah, I.

Speaker 6 (43:13):
Think the driver trying to order some food in my
fat ass. I'm just like, hold on, you say, yeah, no,
I'm not doing a mobile order.

Speaker 11 (43:20):
Yeah, but I also understand what you're saying too about
the air, because it'd be loud.

Speaker 5 (43:24):
It is low.

Speaker 4 (43:25):
I'm like that loud it has air, yeah, so coold.

Speaker 3 (43:30):
Literally you're in the car for people that do have
eighty eighth She's like all of these things it does
when you lay layer them. I guess it's almost Yeah,
like when you layer them, it's like yeah, and it
is normal, and you pick up on these things and
sometimes you do have to just like tune out. That's
why we sit in our car so we're over stimulating.

Speaker 11 (43:47):
And then you have a seven year old that comes
up and pulls on the door handle until you unlock it,
and you're like, I just.

Speaker 1 (43:53):
Yeah, for sure, all right? Another normal enough? Four one
nine three four five three three seven five. I say
I let you go. When I want to get off
the phone, I'll let you go now.

Speaker 4 (44:03):
I usually just like I know my mom's calling, I'm
gonna call you back.

Speaker 3 (44:07):
I al always blame like kids.

Speaker 5 (44:08):
I'm like, oh my gosh, give me, yeah, yeah, it's definitely.

Speaker 1 (44:15):
Here you go. I brush my teeth in the shower.

Speaker 3 (44:18):
I hate people do that.

Speaker 2 (44:20):
What do you mean why is it gross?

Speaker 3 (44:21):
I know people to do that. I think it's.

Speaker 4 (44:25):
Why do you think that's telling?

Speaker 3 (44:26):
No, it's just you. You do think there's a way
to do things, okay, And like you.

Speaker 4 (44:33):
Brush your teeth all your ship who else? It just
doesn't make sense.

Speaker 1 (44:37):
You should be washing yourself in the bathroom those things
that doesn't make sense to you.

Speaker 12 (44:40):
When I first said that, one does not have ADHD.

Speaker 1 (44:42):
Yeah, brush my teeth the shower. So we say that's
not normal, right, not normal, And I know people are
doing it's weird. Someone said, I avoid taking a call
even when I'm free. Sometimes I will stare at the
phone ring.

Speaker 4 (44:56):
I feel like that's normal for me.

Speaker 5 (44:58):
Normal a few people, you're just like I do it
all the time.

Speaker 4 (45:02):
I do, really, I don't.

Speaker 3 (45:04):
For as social of a person as I am. There
are also times where like I don't. I won't respond
to a text for days. I don't want to.

Speaker 1 (45:11):
I just don't.

Speaker 12 (45:12):
That's ADHD again, honey.

Speaker 1 (45:14):
I know, I know it's weird because I think there's
times too where you need to be in a mindset
to to talk to them. Yeah, So like like, okay,
I'm not going to take this call now, but I
see who it is, I'm gonna call it. I'm give
me thirty minutes and then then I'm gonna.

Speaker 12 (45:28):
Call you now, ADHD. People don't give you thirty minutes.

Speaker 3 (45:30):
We give you thirty remember left, Yeah, maybe sixty.

Speaker 6 (45:36):
That girl said that her best friend didn't text her
back for like three days, and she was like, I
think this isn't my best friend anymore. And I'm like, bitch,
if you don't let your best friend be herself for
like three days ship, she might be struggling right now.

Speaker 12 (45:48):
It doesn't ADHD.

Speaker 5 (45:49):
Sometimes to not text back like a text is very easy.
I think it's rude.

Speaker 3 (45:52):
It is rude.

Speaker 12 (45:53):
I'm not saying it's not rude, like you should risk.

Speaker 1 (45:57):
Although there are times where if it's questioned, where I'll
be okay, I don't have the answer, and I should
say I get back right, and I don't do that,
but I kind of put it aside in my mind
and then twenty four other texts come in and I
never fucking get back to the war.

Speaker 12 (46:13):
He text me, and he asks me for the answer.

Speaker 3 (46:15):
Yeah, no, I just think sometimes it's again, it's over,
like people don't understand my brain works totally different. I
tried to explain this to my mom the other day
because she found like some old report cards where it
was like Lisa talks too much about you know and
all that, and like and you know she I don't know.
She said something aout school, and I was like, I
should have been medicated in school.

Speaker 12 (46:35):
Well, in the eighties and nineties we didn't have ADHD
for girls. It was only for boys.

Speaker 3 (46:39):
Right, and I and I and she goes, well because
I was heying my son tested and you know, she
was like, well, and Bubba, you don't want to put medication.
I go, you don't get it when you don't have
this brain, you don't understand, I said, Mom. I go,
it is like I see all this stuff and I
can't like.

Speaker 4 (46:55):
Focus on much one you want to start with.

Speaker 6 (46:56):
Yeah, And I tell people I hate when people hate
medication because my brother they are like so firm believers
or not. And I'm like, I don't think you get
how much more I can do when I take my adderall.
Because last week I went to work and I didn't
take my adderall and I tried to freebase it and
I literally was at my desk and I was like,
I think I'm about to have a heart attack.

Speaker 1 (47:15):
Again. Here's the problem. I don't know if this American
problem or what, but we it's it's hard for us
to be sympathetic to someone when you don't have what
they have.

Speaker 13 (47:26):
Yeah, like like especially when you can't see it, like
especially when you can't see it. Like but like it's like,
oh you're fat, just don't eat, or you have a
drinking problem. Don't drink. Stop drinking like you don't.

Speaker 1 (47:37):
You don't comprehend if if you don't have it for
some reason, we just can't put our head. And especially
if you can't see it, like like your mom, if
you can't see, you can't see.

Speaker 11 (47:45):
Such a stigma that surrounds it too. Even still today
there's still a stigma that surrounds it. And they don't
want to put kids on medication, which is stupid to
me because that's exactly what happened to me.

Speaker 1 (47:57):
Well, if you have can't, I mean you gotta, you know,
you get chemotherapy, if you have diabetes, you take medicine.
It's the same thing.

Speaker 3 (48:06):
I think. Why I think why society is like that
and what happens is because so many people abuse these things, right,
so many people abuse adderall or they abuse like using
like ADHD as an excuse or a life crutch, or
drinking or you know what, food or whatever. People abuse
all of these things and they abuse all the treatments
for so then it turns into this like what's even

(48:29):
real and who really has it? But like for people
that really have an eating disorder, people that really you know,
I've had eating problems, my whole life. I've been on
and off of diets, and you know, when people really
have struggled with those things, other people or I don't know,
you know, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (48:47):
In a lot of ways too, with these things, your
your body or your brain is wired differently. It just
is like they did a study once and I'll never
forget it's been years. But a normal eating person, if
there's a play of cookies, they'll have a cookie and
then they'll be like, Okay, well I'm done. And there's
other people that are wire whor if you have one,

(49:08):
fuck it, my day's screwed up. The whole plate.

Speaker 3 (49:12):
Yeah, so I do I have like a bin. Like
my daughter said it to me. She goes, you know,
you have a binge eating disorder, right, And I was like,
you know, yeah, I do it because it's you know,
straws or whatever. And so I think, yeah, there are
people that just really do have these issues and it
is a thing and it should be acknowledged and we
shouldn't be disregarded just because so many people abuse that.

Speaker 12 (49:33):
I do not disagree with any of that.

Speaker 11 (49:35):
And it's also proven like a neurodivergent brain is significantly
different than a non neurodivergent brain.

Speaker 12 (49:44):
And it's funny.

Speaker 11 (49:45):
Because Andrew has seen me on medication and he seen
me off of medication because I didn't get medication until
I was thirty. And it has been a damn roller
coaster trying to figure out what is right and what
is wrong. They just made another medication change. Yeah, and
it is literally a roller coaster every single time. There's
no magic formula for every single person. So like you're

(50:07):
on adderall, I'm on adderall and focal in. Okay, So
they have me on two different ones.

Speaker 4 (50:12):
Yeah, I'm on both.

Speaker 3 (50:15):
But I was misdiagnosed for a long time and they were.

Speaker 12 (50:18):
Polar or borderline personality disorder.

Speaker 3 (50:21):
No, I probably do have that, no, you know, saying
that it was anxiety and stuff like that, and then
finally got me like on the right stuff and it
made a huge difference in my life.

Speaker 1 (50:31):
Well, one thing that Jimmy ham said, my former friend
who passed away, He said, you know, back in our days,
they didn't they didn't they didn't have ADHs, they didn't
diagnose ADC. It was sit down and shut the fuck up.

Speaker 8 (50:46):
You know.

Speaker 3 (50:47):
I think there was probably a lot less of it
back than to my My assumption is is because of
how we are so like on our devices and just
how life is so crazy and busy and high. Yeah,
but it all so I'm sure, I'm sure that that
stuff has made it worse for me over the year.
What I'm saying, So, I'm sure there was less of
it back then, but I definitely had it, like for sure.

Speaker 4 (51:09):
In high school.

Speaker 3 (51:10):
And I'm like, somebody should have like treated me for.

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