December 19, 2025 • 6 mins
USA TODAY and Peacock launched a survey after the premiere of All Her Fault. It shows the inequalities in parenting and what that does to moms, otherwise known as the “default parent”.According to the survey of 1600 parents, 44% of women feel the pressure to “do it all” or meet high parenting expectations and 64% of women say they always handle day-to-day decisions for their family, compared with 43% of men.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:21):
Good morning, Arrow.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Hello, and good morning. How are you doing today, Wendy?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
I'm good. How are you?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Absolutely fantastic. You're doing something here that I wish we
could do a lot more of, because Lord knows that
you are creating conversation. I mean with you guys, teaming
up with Peacock with all her fault I mean, this
is an open conversation that could be a book groups,
it could be just at little you know, religious circles
or wherever. But the conversation has got to start somewhere,
and you're making it happen.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I think it's an important conversation everybody should be having
and hopefully in every home in America.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
What is the one thing that you're learning from all
of this, because this has really turned into a journey
where it begins with creativity and now it's becoming something
that's very active in our personal lives. I mean, you're
right there at the forefront of the action.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I think what we're seeing is how this show really
sparked a conversation.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
And when we saw everyone talking on social.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Media about the feelings about the mother load that the
show had inspired, we really wanted to go deeper into
what was that like in the everyday lives of parents.
And what we found is, yes, this is a conversation
that's been happening a lot, but I don't think we
recognize the impact it is having on parents and on
moms specifically.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Boy, you just brought it all up right there, right
there in front of us. We don't know, but yet.
What's so funny though about this, Wendy, is that we'll
go into hiding. We know there's something going wrong or
something that just doesn't feel right on the inside, so
we go into hiding, and because there's nobody out here
that saying, hey, look, it's okay to be a little
bit more open.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
I think that's important because one of the things that
we saw on the survey is about eight and ten
of the sixteen hundred parents we talked to that the
mom is the primary parent, the default parent, so to
speak and then moms.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Also reported that sixty four.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Percent of them feel that they are responsible for the
day to day Where are the gloves?
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Are the lunches packed? You have the permission slips ninned.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
This time of year when things are really stressful, have
you decorated the house? Have you moved the elf on
the shelf? Have you brought all the holiday magic? All
of that is really shouldered by moms. And what's happening
is it's really pushing moms to their breaking point. Thirty
five percent of women roughly told us that they feel
overwhelmed every single day, and I really think it's because
(02:36):
of that day to day grind of all of those decisions.
Another third told us that they feel overwhelmed at least
several times a week. So you start to see that
there's two thirds of parents who are feeling this way.
And when you think about the ripple effects of that.
When we talked about when we talk about mental health
and how teens and kids are struggling, how.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Can they get the help they need? Whens are so overwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
So it really is important that we talk about this
and see how we can address it.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Please do not move. There's more with USA Today's Entertainment
Executive editor Wendy Nagle. Coming up next, we're digging in
deep with this subject. We are back with Wendy Nagel,
USA Today Entertainment's Executive Editor. Well, one of the things
that I'm starting to see in the public eyes, I'm
starting to finally see because I sure didn't have it
as a kid, fathers are getting involved. So let's include
(03:29):
them as well, because there's a lot of pressure on
them to basically keep their dang job in the first
place and then to come home to what's happening there.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
And I think that's an important part of this conversation.
We do have this new generation of dads who are
really trying to do things different, be more involved, and
I think that came through in our survey where several
men reported to us that they feel the pressure and
the strain of parenthood. Men's pressures. They really reported were
thinking about the future and find finances, which you might
(04:01):
kind of expect.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Men also felt like parenting could take a.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Bit more of a hit to their career than women reported,
and they're feeling the strain of figuring out work life balance.
I think the reason we saw more men struggling with.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Work life balance. Is it's new to them.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Women have been having this struggle for generations now, and
so these issues are bubbling up for both moms and dads,
and I think that's why it's so important to be
having these conversations both as a society but also across
your own kitchen table.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Well. One of the things that I've taken note of,
and it's not because I'm a snoop, but I noticed
that when guys are more giving to their husbands and
families and stuff like that, I can't help but wonder
were they missing that in their childhood. Therefore, as adults,
they're making sure it is present. That's like me running
around the house telling my birds and dogs how much
I love them as often as I can. I didn't
(04:54):
have that as a kid, but I'm going to make
sure that they've got it today.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I think that's probably part of it. I think some
are also inspired by their own dads. But I think
it's also that, you know, parents are juggling.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
So much and it's.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Very very difficult to do this alone, so you really
do need help. And whether that if you're a single parent,
you need some help, whether that's extended family, and if
you're in a two parent household, you need to rely
on each other. One of the things we saw in
our survey is moms especially tend to turn toward family,
which is a great source of advice and support. They
(05:29):
also turn to friends, but third on the list was
their partner. So I just want to make sure that
you know we give women a reminder to talk to
their partner.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
About these issues.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
So you can get some of that data help, day
to day help, and some of that daily grind might
get a little bit better.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Where can people go to find out more about what
you're doing? This is more than just our conversation.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
People can go to USA today dot com, slash Entertainment
and you can see the article and full results to
our survey.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Please come back to this show anytime in the future.
Ten minutes with you is not enough. You've got to come.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Back happy to be with you anytime. Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Will you be brilliant today?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Okay, thank you too.
Hey.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
One of the biggest things that's going on right now
are podcast networks, those that you check out on a
daily or weekly basis. They've got more than one podcast
and they're starting to share them all in one location.
Mine all seventeen podcasts A R. R Oe dot net,
Aro dot net, Enjoy the Exploration.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Good morning, Arrow.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Hello, and good morning. How are you doing today, Wendy?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
I'm good. How are you?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Absolutely fantastic. You're doing something here that I wish we
could do a lot more of, because Lord knows that
you are creating conversation. I mean with you guys, teaming
up with Peacock with all her fault I mean, this
is an open conversation that could be a book groups,
it could be just at little you know, religious circles
or wherever. But the conversation has got to start somewhere,
and you're making it happen.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I think it's an important conversation everybody should be having
and hopefully in every home in America.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
What is the one thing that you're learning from all
of this, because this has really turned into a journey
where it begins with creativity and now it's becoming something
that's very active in our personal lives. I mean, you're
right there at the forefront of the action.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I think what we're seeing is how this show really
sparked a conversation.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
And when we saw everyone talking on social.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Media about the feelings about the mother load that the
show had inspired, we really wanted to go deeper into
what was that like in the everyday lives of parents.
And what we found is, yes, this is a conversation
that's been happening a lot, but I don't think we
recognize the impact it is having on parents and on
moms specifically.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Boy, you just brought it all up right there, right
there in front of us. We don't know, but yet.
What's so funny though about this, Wendy, is that we'll
go into hiding. We know there's something going wrong or
something that just doesn't feel right on the inside, so
we go into hiding, and because there's nobody out here
that saying, hey, look, it's okay to be a little
bit more open.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
I think that's important because one of the things that
we saw on the survey is about eight and ten
of the sixteen hundred parents we talked to that the
mom is the primary parent, the default parent, so to
speak and then moms.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Also reported that sixty four.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Percent of them feel that they are responsible for the
day to day Where are the gloves?
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Are the lunches packed? You have the permission slips ninned.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
This time of year when things are really stressful, have
you decorated the house? Have you moved the elf on
the shelf? Have you brought all the holiday magic? All
of that is really shouldered by moms. And what's happening
is it's really pushing moms to their breaking point. Thirty
five percent of women roughly told us that they feel
overwhelmed every single day, and I really think it's because
(02:36):
of that day to day grind of all of those decisions.
Another third told us that they feel overwhelmed at least
several times a week. So you start to see that
there's two thirds of parents who are feeling this way.
And when you think about the ripple effects of that.
When we talked about when we talk about mental health
and how teens and kids are struggling, how.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Can they get the help they need? Whens are so overwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
So it really is important that we talk about this
and see how we can address it.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Please do not move. There's more with USA Today's Entertainment
Executive editor Wendy Nagle. Coming up next, we're digging in
deep with this subject. We are back with Wendy Nagel,
USA Today Entertainment's Executive Editor. Well, one of the things
that I'm starting to see in the public eyes, I'm
starting to finally see because I sure didn't have it
as a kid, fathers are getting involved. So let's include
(03:29):
them as well, because there's a lot of pressure on
them to basically keep their dang job in the first
place and then to come home to what's happening there.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
And I think that's an important part of this conversation.
We do have this new generation of dads who are
really trying to do things different, be more involved, and
I think that came through in our survey where several
men reported to us that they feel the pressure and
the strain of parenthood. Men's pressures. They really reported were
thinking about the future and find finances, which you might
(04:01):
kind of expect.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Men also felt like parenting could take a.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Bit more of a hit to their career than women reported,
and they're feeling the strain of figuring out work life balance.
I think the reason we saw more men struggling with.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Work life balance. Is it's new to them.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Women have been having this struggle for generations now, and
so these issues are bubbling up for both moms and dads,
and I think that's why it's so important to be
having these conversations both as a society but also across
your own kitchen table.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Well. One of the things that I've taken note of,
and it's not because I'm a snoop, but I noticed
that when guys are more giving to their husbands and
families and stuff like that, I can't help but wonder
were they missing that in their childhood. Therefore, as adults,
they're making sure it is present. That's like me running
around the house telling my birds and dogs how much
I love them as often as I can. I didn't
(04:54):
have that as a kid, but I'm going to make
sure that they've got it today.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
I think that's probably part of it. I think some
are also inspired by their own dads. But I think
it's also that, you know, parents are juggling.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
So much and it's.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Very very difficult to do this alone, so you really
do need help. And whether that if you're a single parent,
you need some help, whether that's extended family, and if
you're in a two parent household, you need to rely
on each other. One of the things we saw in
our survey is moms especially tend to turn toward family,
which is a great source of advice and support. They
(05:29):
also turn to friends, but third on the list was
their partner. So I just want to make sure that
you know we give women a reminder to talk to
their partner.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
About these issues.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
So you can get some of that data help, day
to day help, and some of that daily grind might
get a little bit better.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Where can people go to find out more about what
you're doing? This is more than just our conversation.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
People can go to USA today dot com, slash Entertainment
and you can see the article and full results to
our survey.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Please come back to this show anytime in the future.
Ten minutes with you is not enough. You've got to come.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Back happy to be with you anytime. Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Will you be brilliant today?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Okay, thank you too.
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