Don’t Date a Jealous Person

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
What's that? What to do? CyberWorld? It is your girl
and the one and only Ash Brown, And this is
Ashbrown Uncensored on this program. I talk a little bit
about everything. It may be pop culture related, but it's
probably Ash Brown related. So you got to say to
him to see what I'm going to talk about. So

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today's topic at hand come to me from one of
my wonderful proteges that is blossoming so well out there
at Georgia State University, Hi treat. But what it comes

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down to being is you cannot date someone who is
jealous of you, Like, oh my gosh, what do you mean?
What do you mean they're jealous of you? Exactly what
I said. You cannot date and be with someone who's
jealous of you because everything will always be a competition.
I learned this many many moons ago, many moons ago,

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and I learned it basically when I was dating this guy.
I was in high school and oh my gosh, he
was the everything. But from the time that we met
and every time afterwards, he was always putting down where

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I was from. And for those that don't know, I
am from Stone Mountain, Georgia. Sure I am been out
there majority of my life up until recently. But yeah,
and he grew up on the South side of Atlanta,

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where it's a little rough around the edges, but you know,
it's not a living it's not as place to be.
And he was always like, I'm grading where I was from.
And I never looked at it at the time. I
was like, oh, you know, he's just being silly. Oh
he's just been. But now as hindsight is twenty twenty

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and I'm looking, he was actually mad. He was actually
angry with me for something that absolutely had no I
had no control over. Okay, my family was fortunate enough
when we moved from New York, we were able to
move to a nice, affluent part of town. It wasn't

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the fanciest, It wasn't quote unquote the best, because what
is the best. No one's ever specified. Oh well, I
think this is the best, or that is the best.
You think I'm better than you, because in your sick
mind I am. I've not once said hey, I'm better
than you or a you know, my life is better

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than your life. Never said it to him, But he
was always very much threatened by where I was from
because he was always you know, oh, you know where
I'm from the south side of Atlanta and rah brah
brah and woo woo wooh. Okay, you're from the south

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side of Atlanta. I'm from the east side of Atlanta.
M does that make me better than you? I guess
that's objective to the person in all honest See, the
subjective is really it is what you make it, whatever
that may be. But for me, I was just never
on that type of stuff, like comparing my situation to

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others looking at it a certain way or that way,
because I just was like, I'm just me, but Blake, period,
I am just me. And if that is something that
you feel threatened by, there are some internal work that
needs to be done, sir. And so I was sharing

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this with my and you know it just everything was
a competition with him. And if you're in a relationship
where everything is a competition, everything is questioned, everything is
a fight. It's like am I in a relationship or
is this a wrestling match? Like why does everything need

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to be a debate? That's what I don't understand. I
stay facts and then you want to debate me on
the facts. The facts they don't need to be debated
because that's what happened. So as time went on, I
come to realize that a lot of what he told
me was lies. A lot of what he told me

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was lies. So when we were getting to know each
other and stuff, I was telling him, you know, I
was born in New York, left when I was young,
moved to the South and all this, and then he
went into, oh, well I was born up north as well. Okay,
all right, I mean, you could be born anywhere. Doesn't that.

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That's not taking away from a situation. I'm not saying
that I am better than you because I was born
up north. I'm just saying this is my story. So
if you're dealing with someone who tries to find issue
in every aspect of the relationship of just getting to

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know the person, you need to run. Run for the hills,
don't look back, don't stop my go collect your hundred dollars,
go past it, and just keep going because it will
drive you insane. So twenty years later we reconnected, and

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as time was going on, I was enlightened that a
lot of what he told me was alive. Like he
wasn't born up north, like how he said he was
born up north, he was actually born in Atlanta. There's
nothing wrong with that. Why would you lie about something

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like that. I will never understand how someone can lie
just so effortlessly about something that you shouldn't even lie about.
It's that simple. It's that simple. And then created this
fantastical story. Okay, I have shared on this program the

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story of my mom's pregnancy with me and how doctors
told her it was impossible she would never get pregnant,
the baby would have all kind of ailments and problems
and issues and blah blah, it would just be a
terrible existence. Yeah, got it. So my mom had made
such a nice little home in her womb for me

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that I didn't want to leave, y'all. I had no
eye idea, I had no plans of leaving, and I
was just going to stay up in there, maybe till
I was two or three, I don't know. So they
actually had to come in and get me because they
were like, oh, just wait, the baby'll maybe you'll turn
the baby'll do it. You know. I was at baby

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in the womb where they were trying to check out
and see what my sex was, and I was always
crossing my legs. I'm a lady, I'm a lady. You
can't look at my stuff. You'll see when I make
my debut on the world. You'll see then. So, yeah,
I was about two weeks overdue. My poor mama, God

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blessed Dona Teresa. She went to the hospital and said, look, y'all,
come get this baby. And so that was the story
that I told him, because it was true. It was
the actual story of my birth. So he comes up
with this story, y'all that I find out later is
no thing but complete fabrication. Tells me that he was

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a triplet in the womb, which you know, they're not
necessarily common, but it happens. People do have triplets. He
was a triplet, and his he was you know, his
brothers in the womb died at birth and he nearly died,
and he was the only one out of the three

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that survived. And I remember in that moment being like,
oh my gosh, wow, that is such a phenomenal story.
This is so fantastical, like wow, like you were meant
to be here, Like what a blessing, Oh my goodness,
you know what. Wow. I just was very impressed with

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the story because I believed it, because I had no
reason not to believe it. So I was enlightened again.
The story was complete fabrication, complete lies, and it was
like he was trying to compete with me again, you know.
And it's just like, why are you trying to compete

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with somebody that you're with If you feel the need
to compete with that person, you probably shouldn't even be
with them. You probably shouldn't even be Yeah, I should
not even be paired together, and you should figure out
some internal stuff whatever's going on with you, because that
makes zero sense to me. And so I tell her

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yet again. So there were some other things that transpired
and happened that were just freaking weird, and I was
brought to the conclusion that this person was not only
a sociopath, psychopath and compulsive liar. And the clues, the

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context clues were there, but I feel as though I
wasn't ready to receive them. I wasn't ready to really
digest that he was sick. He was a sick puppy,
and I took it as a lesson. Took it as

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a lesson because truth be told, the only reason I
allowed myself to reconnect with him was because his mother
had passed away, and by that point, my mother had
already passed, and it was a journey that nobody wants

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to deal with. No one wants to deal with it,
no oney wants to have to deal with it. And
so that's really the only reason why I decided to
commune kate with this guy ever again. And I'm so
thankful to myself that I allowed myself to do it,
because while I was listening to all his delusions and

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I let him fully express himself it it furthermore illuminated
the fact that this was not someone that I would
ever romantically link with again. But also this is the
dangerous type of person that can't even be in my life.

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That was huge, y'all. Don't even understand. That was a huge,
huge undertaking for me as far as being an adult
now and being honest with oneself and looking at the
situation for what it was. And I'm thankful to him

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for being who he was. I'm thankful to myself for
being able to recognize and see who he really was,
because ideally the person that I believed him to be
wasn't real. He was he didn't even exist, y'all. Like,
that's the part that is so mind boggling, is he

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wasn't even a real person. He was so afraid of
showing himself to me because he didn't even like himself.
Two people only hide from things that they don't want
others to see. They don't want others to see. And

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now he's a father, and I can only hope that
he's a good father. That's my hope for him, for
his family is I hope that he's a good father,

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and I hope that he makes better choices and better
decisions for his future and for the future of his family.
But as far as me, oh no, sweetheart, sweety sweet bye,
honey pie, sweetie cakes. No, we have no further dealings,
we have no connection, We have nothing, And I am

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satisfied with that. I wish him well, I wish his
family well, but we have nothing farther to discuss. Nope,
nopp noop. So that's my little too bit for the day.
But yeah, you cannot be with someone who's jealous of you,
because it's not gonna work. If you get any inkling

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of that, just go ahead and save yourself the further
trauma in it and walk away. That's it. That's all
I got say for that. But I appreciate y'all. Thank
you so much for the love and support and all
the good vibrations I've been feeling them. You guys are
rocking it, and I hope that you have a great

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week ahead, a purposeful, powerful and prosperous week ahead. And
I will holler at y'all later. Doss