October 18, 2023 • 26 mins
We continue our convo with our friend, Vaughn Fahie about the power of music on the brain and how to keep that brain healthy. He also shares his role as a caregiver for his mom and the importance of self-care with caring for others. And make sure to check out link below for the generous gift of music from Vaughn.
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(00:00):
Welcome back to our conversation with ourfriend von Fahey on the brain Lady Speaks
podcast. Welcome to brain Lady Speakswith Julie Anderson. Julie brain Lady Anderson
is considered to be one of thenation's top experts on the brain personality connection.
She has been inspiring her audiences tofire up their brains and ignite positive
(00:21):
changes in their relationships, and nowshe is here to bring that knowledge to
you. The information she shares willhelp those who hear it to accelerate their
success in life and business through thediscovery of their natural gifts and maximizing their
brain power. When you learn totap into the potential of your natural gifts
and the power of the brain mindconnection, there is no limit to what
(00:43):
you can accomplish. Today and everyWednesday on brain Lady Speaks, you'll explore
the latest findings to see how theyhave practical application in your life. And
now get ready to join Julie Andersonon the brain Lady Speaks radio show.
Take it away, Julie, Sowhat else? Now? How long ago
was the accident for you? Soactually this past June made ten years actually,
(01:07):
and and it's interesting like you know, something major happens and it definitely
changed my life. Changed my forthe first two three, maybe four years.
Even like I said, I wrotea or yeah, I made a
meditative jazz City and actually, anyonewatching the podcast, I don't know,
(01:30):
maybe we can. I can sendthe gift gift everybody the CD album.
Yeah, download and but but fromthen, you know, either other habits
came back or eating different things,because my main change was uh, I
(01:53):
really started looking ato different supplements.I also also used like life wave life
wave patches and that that was actuallymy main That was the only thing that
I used during the accident and thenafterwards. So I just started learning a
(02:13):
lot. But it's been ten years, been ten years, and some things
this year I've been getting back tobecause it was I can notice the difference,
like, okay, kind of slowin this area in vaugh You've been
eating blah blah blah blah blah forall this time. So it's like,
Okay, as I'm getting order,let me make sure that I keep my
(02:34):
brain intact and back to the bestbest light that it can be. So
yeah, yeah, that's so important. You know, we only have one
brain and we can't transplant it right, So it's not like, okay,
you can, Yes, you canget a kidney transplant. If you lose
your kids, you can get youknow, there are certain things again,
but yeah you can't. You can'ttransplant your brain. So your brain and
(02:59):
it is the orchestra leader since we'retalking music, you know, it is
the orchestra leader of your body.And it's command central and so if it's
off, everything will be off.So you know, very important to have
a healthy a healthy brain. Ialso it's interesting for the last as of
(03:25):
this, by the last five anda half years, I my mom had
a stroke and I was a caregiverfor her, and she had a stroke
induced dementia. And so again likemore things about the brain and what either
triggers, helps or encourages you know, different things Alzheimer's and dementia, things
(03:52):
like that. So it was evenmore what do you want to call it,
hyper focused about things because of thoseAnd then and then also what nutrition
or lack of for for brain.So have even made it even more these
last few years. So yeah,so in that I might ask you,
(04:15):
did you notice because one of thetopics that I talk on is caring for
the caregiver and really noting that you, as a caregiver was under so much
stress and against apology or sorry foryour your loss of your mom here recently.
(04:36):
But what told did you notice thattaking on you? And were you
able to implement in your life someof the take care of you kind of
Yeah, wow, that's a greatquestion. Yes. On our podcast of
(04:59):
a Caregiver's podcast, and we talkabout just like what you're saying, supporting
the caregiver to make sure your cupis full so you can serve from the
saucer and not from an empty cupor cup. And though challenging, I
found it necessary to make sure thatI had either whether it was my quiet
(05:20):
time or other caregivers, I hada whole managing schedules of caregivers so that
I could continue, you know,with business, continue with well being able
to care when the caregivers are goneand moms up that night or you know,
the family. Interestingly, my wifewas caregiving for her parents and I
(05:45):
was caregiving for moms, so weboth had the same time between you know,
we're working on with the marriage andbeing in two different places and handling
with you know, both of ourmoms at the same time and raising their
nearly graduating sun so pulling pulling timefor me to treat feed my brain.
(06:15):
I did some other treatments with ohRonda Gorilla was Sarah set I did some
different mind things and so I reallyfound it, yeah, necessary and very
helpful to pay attention to what mymind was doing, whether stresses or being
(06:40):
able to again eat well, supplementwell so that it was food for you
know, the brain, and makesure that you know, my sleep was
thorough and make sure that I couldmanage or regulate or you know, put
a damn on a lot of thedifferent stressors and control how much flow of
(07:02):
stress was you know, was comingas much as possible. So, yeah,
it was very important, very importantto make sure that my cup was
full, so that I could serveand be able to care for long and
the others in my life that neededto care for. Yeah, that's so
important. And I think that thatoftentimes those in that caregiving position are always
(07:28):
like, well, i'll do thatfor me later, I'll do that for
me, you know, because theyget into that routine and there's always something
that the individual they're caring for needs, and that if they didn't have I
think a big support system is probablythe best thing, because then it gives
you the opportunity to take that breakfor yourself, yes, that you need
(07:48):
to take to regenerate. I talka lot about mindfulness meditation and how you
really just have to slow your braindown and be in the moment. They
did they did a really big experimentwith individuals people in the military soldiers that
they taught mindfulness meditation to prior togoing into the Gulf War and then coming
(08:15):
out, and the levels of PTSDthat individuals suffered from with the control group
was much higher than the group thatthey taught the mindfulness meditation to. And
that's because in those moments of highstress or in those moments when they're triggered,
they're able to calm themselves down fasterby that practice. And that's something
(08:35):
that's excellent for caregivers to practice,to be able to have that time alone
where they can just be completely presentand calm and slow their brain and be
able to just refill themselves. Andyou hit on something else too, that's
incredibly important to sleep. I hadthis put Someone was interviewing me yesterday and
(08:58):
asked me, what's the most singleimportant thing for higher thinking and to have
good brain power. And I'm like, sleep, it's literally goes to sleep.
Oh that's another reason why? Yeah? Yeah, because when you think
about it, sleep affects everything.Like even your business success is going to
(09:20):
be affected by how your quality ofsleep. Because if you're not getting a
good quality of sleep, or you'renot getting enough good quality of sleep,
right, Because some people may say, well, I sleep, you know,
eight hours a night, I sleeplot plenty, But I'm like,
well, how much do you wakeup a lot during the night? Is
that disturbed sleep? Do you doyou have breathing issues? Right? Are
(09:43):
there things that just that mess thatup? Because it doesn't matter. You
could sleep twelve hours, but ifyou're only getting you know, three hours
of good quality sleep, then you'renot getting enough sleep. If you're not
getting enough sleep, think about it. When you wake up in the morning,
your brain is foggy, can't think, You get frustrated. Chances are
(10:03):
you're a little snappy at your yoursignificant other or your kids, and you
can't focus on work, and soyour work suffers, your relationships suffer,
so your overall success in your lifesuffers. So really, sleep is the
number one key I feel. Yeah, you know to make everything else.
There's a lot of other things youcan do. You know, drinking and
(10:24):
exercise is incredibly important, but youcan't even have the energy to exercise if
you don't get good enough Sleep's sleep, that's right, wow, if you
know, let's sleep being now whenyou take quality sleep, is there?
Like I know, I'm so musicianstudio, I am a night owl.
(10:45):
I'll be up late. Actually startingat three o'clock is when that's when my
motors start. I'm very productive fromthree o'clock on. However, I do.
I'm getting better at going to sleep. My body is actually telling me
we're going to sleep right now,and that's probably not the best sleep because
(11:09):
your body's like, okay, wellwe're going to stop you ourselves. I
was going to ask with quality sleep. So for someone like me and I
do wake up in the morning,I just I get up early, maybe
five, you know, six,so I may get five hours. But
can I how can I any suggestionson on those five hours? Improving the
(11:33):
quality of those five hours? Yeah, there's several things that I suggest.
One probably one of your biggest detrimentsto falling into a nice deep sleep right
away are these little nasty things,right, it's bad for your mental health.
(11:56):
Actually, it causes stressors to sitand do this a lot. They
compared doing this unlike your your apps, you know, just constantly scrolling and
the the triggers in the brain.They've compared it to actual to gambling,
to like slot machines. Wow,you know what, that makes total sense.
(12:20):
There's for the next what's going tobe? Oh that's a winner?
Oh yeah, I like that one. Oh yeah, interesting, that's a
really that makes total sense. Yeah, So you want to you want to
definitely have downtime. I tell peopleat least thirty minutes before you go to
sleep at night and thirty minutes beforeafter waking up. Those should be technology
(12:46):
free times. And what that doesis the pineal gland is what secretes melatonin,
and it registers based on the lightthat is going in directly through its
eyes. So if you're in alight environment, a bright environment, or
you're reading on a reader, evenif you have the blue light stuff,
(13:09):
you know, glasses on, itdoesn't matter. It's the light period.
You're still telling your brain don't startproducing melatonin yet, I'm still awake.
So being able to get drop intoa nice deep high quality sleep right away
when you turn out your main lightsis to keep light away from your face.
(13:35):
Right, So if you're gonna havemy husband likes watching TV, and
that's so long as the television isnot really close to you, that's okay.
But the room should be dark,right, dark in the room.
Let your brain realize, oh,it's night time, because if all the
lights are on, it's not goingto know the difference between daytime. Yeah,
(13:58):
all right, so it stops thebrain from producing that. So the
darker you can make it before yougo to sleep, reducing the direct light
into your eyes is going to helpyour body start to secrete the melatonin better
and that's going to make you feelgroggy and slip off into a nice sleep.
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And then during the night while you'resleeping, your body actually responds better
if it's cold. So you don'twant a warm room. You want a
room that's sixty to sixty five degrees. You want it to be cooler because
that slows that body metabolism down andthe brain. It's almost like you go
(14:43):
into this mini hibernation during the nighttime, so dark and cold, and of
course getting rid of as much sound, white noise. Now, if your
brain needs. Some people find thatthey sleep better if they have a white
noise machine. Some people respond wellfor that. Personally, I don't.
(15:09):
It has to be completely like I. Of course, I live in the
mountains, so it's pretty quiet.We don't hear much. But yeah,
dark, cold and quiet is what'sreally best for the brain. Yeah,
for sleep, for sleeping. Yeah, And then you're able to get into
(15:30):
those nice rhythms during the night thatallow your brain to do the healing.
Because remember your brain, that's whenyour brain I call it defragging, right,
it's like in computer language, peopleunderstand what that normally means. That's
when your brain defrags. That's whenyour brain sorts through all of the experiences
of the day and decides what's important. So if you have a memory,
(15:56):
you know, if you're like,man, I just can't remember that much.
My memory's back. Oftentimes it hasto do with poor sleep. It
has very little to do with earlyonset anything or oh I'm just getting old.
It has to do with your sleepnot being well because it's that deep
sleep when your brain takes the importantthings from the day, looks at its
(16:21):
old past memories, decides what's importantto keep and converts that short term memory
into a long term memory. Okay, right, solidifies it down into those
memory circuits in the brain. Sothat's why that good sleep. If you're
not getting good sleep, you can'tremember things well. So lots of little
(16:45):
tips, yeah, lots of littlesticks. And then I tell people in
the morning, stay away from justbe. This is where the mindfulness comes
in. So well, you know, train your brain to slow down.
So when you wake up in themorning, just take those those first thirty
minutes and let your brain slowly pickup its rhythm, right, let it
(17:07):
slowly. It's like that what inmusic term, what is that term?
The the beginning of the song?Oh, the prelude, the prelude,
you know where it's just like it'sjust that little intro I think I often
think of there's a one of myfavorite recordings of Eagles Hotel California was one
(17:30):
of their live recordings, and theyhave this really long prelude that's just beautiful
and it just it's just like it'sjust gorgeous, and it's just like that's
what you want in the morning.You just want your brain to have this
nice, comfortable prelude to the dayof waking up and experiencing the coffee or
(17:51):
the tea or the sounds of thebirds or whatever. You know. So
that's also very very healthy for yourbrain and your your psychological state as well.
Wow. I like the HM moresleep, better sleep, and then
(18:11):
when you wake up. So justas you have the kind of landing the
plane at the end of the day, allow there to be a nice gentle
take off too, no screen,you know, like a nice touch landing
and go off. Yeah, you'reyou know out, we are now at
our cruising altitude. We get upthere and take your seatbelts off and get
(18:34):
to work. I do to usethat analogy. Interesting, okay, and
so yeah, with no screens,so I like too, instead of screens
or flicking or scrolling or answering toa ding or whatever. Yeah, just
(18:56):
just taking just taking a few minutesto allow to get up and like you
said, you can enjoy the coffeeor your I'm into these mushrooms, different
kind of drinks and stuff like that. Yeah, and I'm curious about that.
I mean, probably a whole otherepisode, but like you're different lions
(19:18):
made rishi mushrooms and things like that. That so good for you. Good
Okay, good for you. Yeah, Rishi shataki lions mains, those are
very very very good. They're verygood for overall body health. Now,
I do know that it's certain peoplewho have high issues with yeast, with
yeast intolerances, you know, infact, uh candid to things like that
(19:41):
have to kind of stay away fromthose types of things because they are a
fungus. But yeah, I'm actuallylooking at one of these gummies. I'm
like, I want to do someresearch to see how much sugar there are,
because a lot of times and gummiesthere's sugar, which would you know,
negate the good value of it.But yeah, yeah, there's a
lot of One of the drinks thatI drink, it's just a healthy green
(20:02):
drink. It's got a bunch ofstuff in it, you know, green
barley grass and green commute and Hawaiianspurre leena and all those things, and
it has rechions shattaki mushrooms in it, which is just very good for your
immune system. It's good for cancerif you have cancer. It's good for
you know, beefing up the immunesystems so it can battle to cancer better.
So right, Yeah, Lione's mainis good for the brain. Yeah,
(20:25):
okay, good good good Yeah,good deal, yeah, good deal.
And you know what else, thattime in the morning does too.
I have to say. So,my husband and I have been married for
thirty seven almost thirty seven years.It will be thirty seven years next month.
Yeah, yeah, it is,and it's it's the last couple of
years that we've started taking that timetogether in the morning. Now he's not
(20:47):
as good as I am, likeI leave my phone in the house or
you know, I like, don'teven go in and get my phone.
He'll sit there and scroll, butat least he's spending the time with me,
and we have some great conversations.So it's wonderful for relationships too,
to just take that first thirty minutesof the day and just even if we're
just sitting out there, because alot of times we'll go outside in nature
(21:11):
and we don't always talk. Imean, sometimes we're talking, sometimes we're
just sitting there and experiencing it together, and that's it's like a really beautiful
bonding. Nice. Yeah, Soit's great for relationships. Yeah, wonderful,
wonderful. So much. Well,Vaughan, we could just keep going
and going and going, I'm sureand maybe we'll have to do a take
(21:33):
two in the future. I dowant to tell people from a business point
of view, if I want youto connect with with Vaughan and the services
that he provides for in the audioworld. Yes, yeah, I think
that's we everybody anymore. Whenever you, you know, you go out,
(21:55):
do you have an audiobook? Youknow, is your book on audio?
And that's huge, that fastest growingsegment of the publishing industry. It's like,
well, that's just kind of themost of the way of our life
is where audio is passive, soyou can't physically I think Jeff Bezos said
(22:17):
audiobooks are for people whose eyes arebusy, so you can't just listen and
gather information. So yeah, thankyou. Yeah, so connect if you
have a book or if you wantto do if you have an idea for
a book, you mean, maybeyou don't even have it, you know,
written, you can always script andcreate an audiobook, right, So
(22:41):
talk talk to Vaughan. We've gotit. We've talked to We've talked about
an old book that I the veryfirst book I wrote was on homeschooling,
and it's very it's a very goodhomeschooling guide to school with the Brain and
Mind. And I did it asan audiobook, like literally, we're just
recording on I think it was itwas some audio program I downloaded. This
(23:02):
is in two thousand and eight,two thousand and nine, and technology has
come so far. Yep, weneed to revisit that. Relaunch well,
relaunch, yeah, I love that, and check out his jazz page,
(23:22):
check out the John Yvonne Fahie jazzdot com. That is, will of
course have all of these links willbe in the show notes. We'll be
on the show pages for today's interviewand conversation because it was a beautiful conversation.
Thank you so much for that andways that you can connect. And
(23:42):
you mentioned something about a download thatwe might be able to Yes, I
will have. I'll make sure thatthat gets in the chat too. But
it's my peace of Mind, mypiece of bund album. I call it
meditated jazz, so from the concussionand learning about music and the mind.
(24:04):
So this is very calming. Uh, some are just sexiphone. Well,
no, there's there's music behind it. There's either a piano, but it's
very it's very meditative. That's probablyyeah, probably drops down into that alpha
wave State, which is really good. I love that absolutely, so I
(24:26):
love it. I'm making a newuh, it'll be soon, probably,
it'll be soon. We had whatdo we call it sex saxophone escapes,
but it's like it's the ocean andjust me on the saxophone on top of
ocean waves or rain. Yeah,so that's all right coming as well.
I always wanted to have my ownYouTube channel with my own music and atmosphere
(24:51):
and stuff, so why not.That is perfect. I can't wait.
So we'll have to. That'll beour second show. We'll do another show
and we'll focus more on the music, all right, and the Brain music
and all that. I would lovethat. I would love that. So
we'll be sure to get that informationto all of our listeners. And Vaughan,
thank you so much for being onthe Brain Ladies Speaks show today.
(25:12):
I'm so glad to be here.As always, Julie, this is always
great information, not only just information, but just lifestyle change and the betterments.
So I love what you do andI'm honored honored to be here to
do. Oh, thank you somuch. All right, for those of
you on YouTube, I'm going tostop the stream now, but I want
(25:34):
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(25:55):
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(26:17):
or get an interview on someone you'dlike to have interviewed. All right,
thank you so very much for everyonefor listening. And as I tell
everyone, just kind of roll yourshoulders back. I'd like to finish my
shows by saying, roll your shouldersback, take a nice deep breath,
go out there and simply enjoy everymoment. Thanks for being with us.
Welcome back to our conversation with ourfriend von Fahey on the brain Lady Speaks
podcast. Welcome to brain Lady Speakswith Julie Anderson. Julie brain Lady Anderson
is considered to be one of thenation's top experts on the brain personality connection.
She has been inspiring her audiences tofire up their brains and ignite positive
(00:21):
changes in their relationships, and nowshe is here to bring that knowledge to
you. The information she shares willhelp those who hear it to accelerate their
success in life and business through thediscovery of their natural gifts and maximizing their
brain power. When you learn totap into the potential of your natural gifts
and the power of the brain mindconnection, there is no limit to what
(00:43):
you can accomplish. Today and everyWednesday on brain Lady Speaks, you'll explore
the latest findings to see how theyhave practical application in your life. And
now get ready to join Julie Andersonon the brain Lady Speaks radio show.
Take it away, Julie, Sowhat else? Now? How long ago
was the accident for you? Soactually this past June made ten years actually,
(01:07):
and and it's interesting like you know, something major happens and it definitely
changed my life. Changed my forthe first two three, maybe four years.
Even like I said, I wrotea or yeah, I made a
meditative jazz City and actually, anyonewatching the podcast, I don't know,
(01:30):
maybe we can. I can sendthe gift gift everybody the CD album.
Yeah, download and but but fromthen, you know, either other habits
came back or eating different things,because my main change was uh, I
(01:53):
really started looking ato different supplements.I also also used like life wave life
wave patches and that that was actuallymy main That was the only thing that
I used during the accident and thenafterwards. So I just started learning a
(02:13):
lot. But it's been ten years, been ten years, and some things
this year I've been getting back tobecause it was I can notice the difference,
like, okay, kind of slowin this area in vaugh You've been
eating blah blah blah blah blah forall this time. So it's like,
Okay, as I'm getting order,let me make sure that I keep my
(02:34):
brain intact and back to the bestbest light that it can be. So
yeah, yeah, that's so important. You know, we only have one
brain and we can't transplant it right, So it's not like, okay,
you can, Yes, you canget a kidney transplant. If you lose
your kids, you can get youknow, there are certain things again,
but yeah you can't. You can'ttransplant your brain. So your brain and
(02:59):
it is the orchestra leader since we'retalking music, you know, it is
the orchestra leader of your body.And it's command central and so if it's
off, everything will be off.So you know, very important to have
a healthy a healthy brain. Ialso it's interesting for the last as of
(03:25):
this, by the last five anda half years, I my mom had
a stroke and I was a caregiverfor her, and she had a stroke
induced dementia. And so again likemore things about the brain and what either
triggers, helps or encourages you know, different things Alzheimer's and dementia, things
(03:52):
like that. So it was evenmore what do you want to call it,
hyper focused about things because of thoseAnd then and then also what nutrition
or lack of for for brain.So have even made it even more these
last few years. So yeah,so in that I might ask you,
(04:15):
did you notice because one of thetopics that I talk on is caring for
the caregiver and really noting that you, as a caregiver was under so much
stress and against apology or sorry foryour your loss of your mom here recently.
(04:36):
But what told did you notice thattaking on you? And were you
able to implement in your life someof the take care of you kind of
Yeah, wow, that's a greatquestion. Yes. On our podcast of
(04:59):
a Caregiver's podcast, and we talkabout just like what you're saying, supporting
the caregiver to make sure your cupis full so you can serve from the
saucer and not from an empty cupor cup. And though challenging, I
found it necessary to make sure thatI had either whether it was my quiet
(05:20):
time or other caregivers, I hada whole managing schedules of caregivers so that
I could continue, you know,with business, continue with well being able
to care when the caregivers are goneand moms up that night or you know,
the family. Interestingly, my wifewas caregiving for her parents and I
(05:45):
was caregiving for moms, so weboth had the same time between you know,
we're working on with the marriage andbeing in two different places and handling
with you know, both of ourmoms at the same time and raising their
nearly graduating sun so pulling pulling timefor me to treat feed my brain.
(06:15):
I did some other treatments with ohRonda Gorilla was Sarah set I did some
different mind things and so I reallyfound it, yeah, necessary and very
helpful to pay attention to what mymind was doing, whether stresses or being
(06:40):
able to again eat well, supplementwell so that it was food for you
know, the brain, and makesure that you know, my sleep was
thorough and make sure that I couldmanage or regulate or you know, put
a damn on a lot of thedifferent stressors and control how much flow of
(07:02):
stress was you know, was comingas much as possible. So, yeah,
it was very important, very importantto make sure that my cup was
full, so that I could serveand be able to care for long and
the others in my life that neededto care for. Yeah, that's so
important. And I think that thatoftentimes those in that caregiving position are always
(07:28):
like, well, i'll do thatfor me later, I'll do that for
me, you know, because theyget into that routine and there's always something
that the individual they're caring for needs, and that if they didn't have I
think a big support system is probablythe best thing, because then it gives
you the opportunity to take that breakfor yourself, yes, that you need
(07:48):
to take to regenerate. I talka lot about mindfulness meditation and how you
really just have to slow your braindown and be in the moment. They
did they did a really big experimentwith individuals people in the military soldiers that
they taught mindfulness meditation to prior togoing into the Gulf War and then coming
(08:15):
out, and the levels of PTSDthat individuals suffered from with the control group
was much higher than the group thatthey taught the mindfulness meditation to. And
that's because in those moments of highstress or in those moments when they're triggered,
they're able to calm themselves down fasterby that practice. And that's something
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that's excellent for caregivers to practice,to be able to have that time alone
where they can just be completely presentand calm and slow their brain and be
able to just refill themselves. Andyou hit on something else too, that's
incredibly important to sleep. I hadthis put Someone was interviewing me yesterday and
(08:58):
asked me, what's the most singleimportant thing for higher thinking and to have
good brain power. And I'm like, sleep, it's literally goes to sleep.
Oh that's another reason why? Yeah? Yeah, because when you think
about it, sleep affects everything.Like even your business success is going to
(09:20):
be affected by how your quality ofsleep. Because if you're not getting a
good quality of sleep, or you'renot getting enough good quality of sleep,
right, Because some people may say, well, I sleep, you know,
eight hours a night, I sleeplot plenty, But I'm like,
well, how much do you wakeup a lot during the night? Is
that disturbed sleep? Do you doyou have breathing issues? Right? Are
(09:43):
there things that just that mess thatup? Because it doesn't matter. You
could sleep twelve hours, but ifyou're only getting you know, three hours
of good quality sleep, then you'renot getting enough sleep. If you're not
getting enough sleep, think about it. When you wake up in the morning,
your brain is foggy, can't think, You get frustrated. Chances are
(10:03):
you're a little snappy at your yoursignificant other or your kids, and you
can't focus on work, and soyour work suffers, your relationships suffer,
so your overall success in your lifesuffers. So really, sleep is the
number one key I feel. Yeah, you know to make everything else.
There's a lot of other things youcan do. You know, drinking and
(10:24):
exercise is incredibly important, but youcan't even have the energy to exercise if
you don't get good enough Sleep's sleep, that's right, wow, if you
know, let's sleep being now whenyou take quality sleep, is there?
Like I know, I'm so musicianstudio, I am a night owl.
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I'll be up late. Actually startingat three o'clock is when that's when my
motors start. I'm very productive fromthree o'clock on. However, I do.
I'm getting better at going to sleep. My body is actually telling me
we're going to sleep right now,and that's probably not the best sleep because
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your body's like, okay, wellwe're going to stop you ourselves. I
was going to ask with quality sleep. So for someone like me and I
do wake up in the morning,I just I get up early, maybe
five, you know, six,so I may get five hours. But
can I how can I any suggestionson on those five hours? Improving the
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quality of those five hours? Yeah, there's several things that I suggest.
One probably one of your biggest detrimentsto falling into a nice deep sleep right
away are these little nasty things,right, it's bad for your mental health.
(11:56):
Actually, it causes stressors to sitand do this a lot. They
compared doing this unlike your your apps, you know, just constantly scrolling and
the the triggers in the brain.They've compared it to actual to gambling,
to like slot machines. Wow,you know what, that makes total sense.
(12:20):
There's for the next what's going tobe? Oh that's a winner?
Oh yeah, I like that one. Oh yeah, interesting, that's a
really that makes total sense. Yeah, So you want to you want to
definitely have downtime. I tell peopleat least thirty minutes before you go to
sleep at night and thirty minutes beforeafter waking up. Those should be technology
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free times. And what that doesis the pineal gland is what secretes melatonin,
and it registers based on the lightthat is going in directly through its
eyes. So if you're in alight environment, a bright environment, or
you're reading on a reader, evenif you have the blue light stuff,
(13:09):
you know, glasses on, itdoesn't matter. It's the light period.
You're still telling your brain don't startproducing melatonin yet, I'm still awake.
So being able to get drop intoa nice deep high quality sleep right away
when you turn out your main lightsis to keep light away from your face.
(13:35):
Right, So if you're gonna havemy husband likes watching TV, and
that's so long as the television isnot really close to you, that's okay.
But the room should be dark,right, dark in the room.
Let your brain realize, oh,it's night time, because if all the
lights are on, it's not goingto know the difference between daytime. Yeah,
(13:58):
all right, so it stops thebrain from producing that. So the
darker you can make it before yougo to sleep, reducing the direct light
into your eyes is going to helpyour body start to secrete the melatonin better
and that's going to make you feelgroggy and slip off into a nice sleep.
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And then during the night while you'resleeping, your body actually responds better
if it's cold. So you don'twant a warm room. You want a
room that's sixty to sixty five degrees. You want it to be cooler because
that slows that body metabolism down andthe brain. It's almost like you go
(14:43):
into this mini hibernation during the nighttime, so dark and cold, and of
course getting rid of as much sound, white noise. Now, if your
brain needs. Some people find thatthey sleep better if they have a white
noise machine. Some people respond wellfor that. Personally, I don't.
(15:09):
It has to be completely like I. Of course, I live in the
mountains, so it's pretty quiet.We don't hear much. But yeah,
dark, cold and quiet is what'sreally best for the brain. Yeah,
for sleep, for sleeping. Yeah, And then you're able to get into
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those nice rhythms during the night thatallow your brain to do the healing.
Because remember your brain, that's whenyour brain I call it defragging, right,
it's like in computer language, peopleunderstand what that normally means. That's
when your brain defrags. That's whenyour brain sorts through all of the experiences
of the day and decides what's important. So if you have a memory,
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you know, if you're like,man, I just can't remember that much.
My memory's back. Oftentimes it hasto do with poor sleep. It
has very little to do with earlyonset anything or oh I'm just getting old.
It has to do with your sleepnot being well because it's that deep
sleep when your brain takes the importantthings from the day, looks at its
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old past memories, decides what's importantto keep and converts that short term memory
into a long term memory. Okay, right, solidifies it down into those
memory circuits in the brain. Sothat's why that good sleep. If you're
not getting good sleep, you can'tremember things well. So lots of little
(16:45):
tips, yeah, lots of littlesticks. And then I tell people in
the morning, stay away from justbe. This is where the mindfulness comes
in. So well, you know, train your brain to slow down.
So when you wake up in themorning, just take those those first thirty
minutes and let your brain slowly pickup its rhythm, right, let it
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slowly. It's like that what inmusic term, what is that term?
The the beginning of the song?Oh, the prelude, the prelude,
you know where it's just like it'sjust that little intro I think I often
think of there's a one of myfavorite recordings of Eagles Hotel California was one
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of their live recordings, and theyhave this really long prelude that's just beautiful
and it just it's just like it'sjust gorgeous, and it's just like that's
what you want in the morning.You just want your brain to have this
nice, comfortable prelude to the dayof waking up and experiencing the coffee or
(17:51):
the tea or the sounds of thebirds or whatever. You know. So
that's also very very healthy for yourbrain and your your psychological state as well.
Wow. I like the HM moresleep, better sleep, and then
(18:11):
when you wake up. So justas you have the kind of landing the
plane at the end of the day, allow there to be a nice gentle
take off too, no screen,you know, like a nice touch landing
and go off. Yeah, you'reyou know out, we are now at
our cruising altitude. We get upthere and take your seatbelts off and get
(18:34):
to work. I do to usethat analogy. Interesting, okay, and
so yeah, with no screens,so I like too, instead of screens
or flicking or scrolling or answering toa ding or whatever. Yeah, just
(18:56):
just taking just taking a few minutesto allow to get up and like you
said, you can enjoy the coffeeor your I'm into these mushrooms, different
kind of drinks and stuff like that. Yeah, and I'm curious about that.
I mean, probably a whole otherepisode, but like you're different lions
(19:18):
made rishi mushrooms and things like that. That so good for you. Good
Okay, good for you. Yeah, Rishi shataki lions mains, those are
very very very good. They're verygood for overall body health. Now,
I do know that it's certain peoplewho have high issues with yeast, with
yeast intolerances, you know, infact, uh candid to things like that
(19:41):
have to kind of stay away fromthose types of things because they are a
fungus. But yeah, I'm actuallylooking at one of these gummies. I'm
like, I want to do someresearch to see how much sugar there are,
because a lot of times and gummiesthere's sugar, which would you know,
negate the good value of it.But yeah, yeah, there's a
lot of One of the drinks thatI drink, it's just a healthy green
(20:02):
drink. It's got a bunch ofstuff in it, you know, green
barley grass and green commute and Hawaiianspurre leena and all those things, and
it has rechions shattaki mushrooms in it, which is just very good for your
immune system. It's good for cancerif you have cancer. It's good for
you know, beefing up the immunesystems so it can battle to cancer better.
So right, Yeah, Lione's mainis good for the brain. Yeah,
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okay, good good good Yeah,good deal, yeah, good deal.
And you know what else, thattime in the morning does too.
I have to say. So,my husband and I have been married for
thirty seven almost thirty seven years.It will be thirty seven years next month.
Yeah, yeah, it is,and it's it's the last couple of
years that we've started taking that timetogether in the morning. Now he's not
(20:47):
as good as I am, likeI leave my phone in the house or
you know, I like, don'teven go in and get my phone.
He'll sit there and scroll, butat least he's spending the time with me,
and we have some great conversations.So it's wonderful for relationships too,
to just take that first thirty minutesof the day and just even if we're
just sitting out there, because alot of times we'll go outside in nature
(21:11):
and we don't always talk. Imean, sometimes we're talking, sometimes we're
just sitting there and experiencing it together, and that's it's like a really beautiful
bonding. Nice. Yeah, Soit's great for relationships. Yeah, wonderful,
wonderful. So much. Well,Vaughan, we could just keep going
and going and going, I'm sureand maybe we'll have to do a take
(21:33):
two in the future. I dowant to tell people from a business point
of view, if I want youto connect with with Vaughan and the services
that he provides for in the audioworld. Yes, yeah, I think
that's we everybody anymore. Whenever you, you know, you go out,
(21:55):
do you have an audiobook? Youknow, is your book on audio?
And that's huge, that fastest growingsegment of the publishing industry. It's like,
well, that's just kind of themost of the way of our life
is where audio is passive, soyou can't physically I think Jeff Bezos said
(22:17):
audiobooks are for people whose eyes arebusy, so you can't just listen and
gather information. So yeah, thankyou. Yeah, so connect if you
have a book or if you wantto do if you have an idea for
a book, you mean, maybeyou don't even have it, you know,
written, you can always script andcreate an audiobook, right, So
(22:41):
talk talk to Vaughan. We've gotit. We've talked to We've talked about
an old book that I the veryfirst book I wrote was on homeschooling,
and it's very it's a very goodhomeschooling guide to school with the Brain and
Mind. And I did it asan audiobook, like literally, we're just
recording on I think it was itwas some audio program I downloaded. This
(23:02):
is in two thousand and eight,two thousand and nine, and technology has
come so far. Yep, weneed to revisit that. Relaunch well,
relaunch, yeah, I love that, and check out his jazz page,
(23:22):
check out the John Yvonne Fahie jazzdot com. That is, will of
course have all of these links willbe in the show notes. We'll be
on the show pages for today's interviewand conversation because it was a beautiful conversation.
Thank you so much for that andways that you can connect. And
(23:42):
you mentioned something about a download thatwe might be able to Yes, I
will have. I'll make sure thatthat gets in the chat too. But
it's my peace of Mind, mypiece of bund album. I call it
meditated jazz, so from the concussionand learning about music and the mind.
(24:04):
So this is very calming. Uh, some are just sexiphone. Well,
no, there's there's music behind it. There's either a piano, but it's
very it's very meditative. That's probablyyeah, probably drops down into that alpha
wave State, which is really good. I love that absolutely, so I
(24:26):
love it. I'm making a newuh, it'll be soon, probably,
it'll be soon. We had whatdo we call it sex saxophone escapes,
but it's like it's the ocean andjust me on the saxophone on top of
ocean waves or rain. Yeah,so that's all right coming as well.
I always wanted to have my ownYouTube channel with my own music and atmosphere
(24:51):
and stuff, so why not.That is perfect. I can't wait.
So we'll have to. That'll beour second show. We'll do another show
and we'll focus more on the music, all right, and the Brain music
and all that. I would lovethat. I would love that. So
we'll be sure to get that informationto all of our listeners. And Vaughan,
thank you so much for being onthe Brain Ladies Speaks show today.
(25:12):
I'm so glad to be here.As always, Julie, this is always
great information, not only just information, but just lifestyle change and the betterments.
So I love what you do andI'm honored honored to be here to
do. Oh, thank you somuch. All right, for those of
you on YouTube, I'm going tostop the stream now, but I want
(25:34):
you to if this was a greatshow that you would like to share,
go ahead and give us a littlebit of that social media love, right,
give us the thumbs up, giveus a comment. YouTube looks for
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to the rest of the rest ofthe listeners. So be sure to do
(25:55):
that for us. And if youwant to stay connected with me like the
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me an email info at brainladyspeaker dotcom and let us know what topic you
would like to see covered and we'llsee if we can't can't get it covered,
(26:17):
or get an interview on someone you'dlike to have interviewed. All right,
thank you so very much for everyonefor listening. And as I tell
everyone, just kind of roll yourshoulders back. I'd like to finish my
shows by saying, roll your shouldersback, take a nice deep breath,
go out there and simply enjoy everymoment. Thanks for being with us.
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