October 24, 2025 • 18 mins
As we go through life, very often we can be critical of ourself for the mistakes of the past. We all have something we beat ourselves up over but it is only after we find a way to forgiveness that we can move on and find true happiness in our life. This meditation hopes to help with that process.
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Welcome to mindful meditations with calm the bleed down. Once again,
I'm your guide, Michael Beckameier. Today we are going to
forgive ourselves. Let's get started. As always, we have a
(00:35):
mindfulness quote to help us head into our meditation with
some intent. And today our quote comes from Nicole Addison
and it reads, forgive yourself and every one of your
past selves too. This quote reminds me of another quote
(00:57):
I heard at one point, and it went something to
the effect of I have already forgotten so many of
the people I used to be, And I think that
that made me think, because it's very true. We are
not the same person today that we were yesterday because
we lived through yesterday. And even if it was the
(01:18):
same day we have every day, got up with the work,
came home, ate dinner, watched some TV, went to bed.
Even if it's the same day we had yesterday, we're
still different because we lived through today and yesterday and
tomorrow will be different than we were today because we
lived through today. And when we're talking about mistakes we
(01:40):
made or things we did that we regret now or
are wish we hadn't done, there's no way of knowing
what we should have done in the midst of a crisis.
There's no way of knowing what we should have done
while it was happening. We just do what we can
(02:02):
with the information we have and the experience we have.
So you stayed with a partner for far too long
even though they were a narcissist or a you know,
they didn't treat you right, or they didn't care enough,
or they didn't love you the way you feel you
deserve to be loved. You can't be angry at yourself
(02:25):
for that, because there's nothing wrong with trying. What so
often happens is we beat ourselves up for the things
that we did wrong yesterday that we wish we hadn't done,
But there's no way of knowing what we should have
done in the time we have. Crisis is crisis. It
could go either way. This also makes me think of
(02:50):
a story that I've probably told here before, But a
friend of mine caught me talking negatively about myself, which
is something that I'm guilty of a lot, being hard
on myself. I should know better. You know, it's okay
if you made that mistake, But for me, I hold
(03:11):
myself to a much higher standard and really if you
think about it, listen to that sentence. There's arrogance in there,
like it's okay for you to mess up, but for me,
I'm better than you. But my friend did me a
favor and stopped me from saying whatever I was saying
about myself and said, would you talk to a child
that way? And of course the answer is no. And
(03:33):
then she said, well, why don't you think of yourself
as a child, because we all still really are just
children trapped inside of our grown up bodies that were
forced to grow up in a big, scary world. And
you might find that you find a little grace with yourself,
(03:54):
a little easier on yourself. All the negative self talk
is not good for you. You're beating yourself help up
on the inside. You're harder on yourself than anyone in
life ever could be to you. So now I try
to stop myself from doing that. It does not mean
you let yourself off the hook and you say, well,
(04:16):
I can do whatever I want, because kids do whatever
they want. It's not that. What it is is just
a way of approaching I guess, teaching yourself or loving
yourself through the mistakes you make. Because when the kid
makes a mistake, they're just like, eh, okay, well I
won't do that again. But when an adult makes a mistake,
(04:38):
they're like, idiot, you should have known better. All the
negative self talk, So just keep that in mind. And
that's what we're going to meditate on today is finding
a way to forgive ourselves. So for this meditation, you
can either sit down or lie down. Start to get
(04:59):
yourself comfortable and deep in your breath in and out,
in and out. Start paying attention to the sensations in
(05:29):
your body. Feeling where the breath is coming in and
flowing out of you, Perhaps imagining yourself getting heavier with
each exail, relaxing deeper with each exhile, Feeling that gravity
pull you down into the seat or mattress that you're
(05:53):
lying on, Feeling that connection pushing back up against your body.
(06:19):
I'm cleaning your breath deeper and slower, feeling it coming
into your body, I'm feeling it exit your body. Maybe
if it helps to scan a quick scan of your
(06:43):
body from the head to the toes, are you relaxed
at every relaxation point, every muscle, every joint, every part
of your body loosening. We carry so much tension in
our body as the day goes on and on, tension.
(07:13):
We're trying to do now is to put ourselves back
in this present moment with our breath. Our breath lives
in the present. Our breath is never a minute ago
(07:37):
or a minute from now. Our breath is always right
this moment, right now. Our breath is always right here
with us, in the never ending present moment. Take a
(08:14):
few more long, slow, deep breaths in. Spend some time
with yourself, tuning in to now and an out and
(08:46):
an out d Now, I would like you to imagine
(10:12):
yourself standing in front of a mirror, staring back at yourself.
Take a moment and look at your face, your eyes.
Maybe you notice how tired or upset. Maybe maybe something
(10:34):
upset you or sad or happy the person in the
mirror is. Take a moment and admire the person staring
back at you. Now, I want you to think of
(11:21):
something that you have always been mad at yourself over,
something that you've always picked on yourself about, something you've
never quite forgiven yourself. For we all have something. It
(11:45):
doesn't really matter what it is, as long as it's something.
It doesn't have to be a massive huge life altering error.
It could be something simple if you want to, because
in our minds there was no such thing as a
big thing and a little thing. Often, very often we
just beat ourselves up over little things and big things
(12:08):
just to like. So, take a moment and think about
that thing, whatever it is, come to a conclusion, really
hone in on the thing, whatever it is, and then
hone in on the feeling that you have about that
(12:30):
thing and about yourself in relation to that thing, and
then do your best to just let it go. Do
(12:51):
your best to free yourself from that thing in this moment.
Forgive yourself, Forgive that reflection in the mirror, for that thing.
(13:16):
The reflection in the mirror did the best they could
with what they had in that time and place. We
want to extend some compassion and empathy to that reflection
(13:39):
in the mirror, to yourself, Extend some of that grace
that you would give to just about anyone else if
they had done the same exact thing. Take a few
(14:04):
moments and breathe into that feeling of forgiveness, that feeling
of letting go, feeling of compassion. Maybe breathe some of
that forgiveness into your heart and let it flow back
(14:26):
out of your heart. Spend some time with that reflection
in the mirror, telling that person that it's okay, that
(14:47):
it's all going to be okay. You forgive them, and
it's not their fault. They tried, they did what they could,
They did the best they could with what they had,
(15:09):
just as you would nearly anybody else. Spend some time
with that reflection. Spend some time and this feeling of
compassion and forgiveness and empathy, just the two of you
(15:34):
together in this moment, this moment of catharsis and release
and healing and let go y in our last few
(16:39):
moments together, take another long, slow, deep breath in in
and out, in and out. Before we go, just do
(17:03):
what you can to wrap your arms around yourself and
give yourself a big hug. You did the best you could.
Now in this moment, give yourself a big, compassionate, empathetic hug.
Tell yourself it's all going to be okay. Let go
(17:26):
of whatever it is that's weighing you down. Breathe in
one last time and breathe out, and when you're ready,
you can open your eyes and go about your day.
(17:53):
I'm a stay. That's it. For this time on Calm
(18:17):
the bleep Down. If you like this meditation, please feel
free to send us an email, post a comment, hit
us up on Instagram or TikTok, where we're posting a
lot these days. We'd love to hear from you. Once again.
I'm Michael Beckamia reminding you to please calm the bleep down.
We'll see you again soon. Thank you for meditating with us.
Be well, have fun, and no mistake
Welcome to mindful meditations with calm the bleed down. Once again,
I'm your guide, Michael Beckameier. Today we are going to
forgive ourselves. Let's get started. As always, we have a
(00:35):
mindfulness quote to help us head into our meditation with
some intent. And today our quote comes from Nicole Addison
and it reads, forgive yourself and every one of your
past selves too. This quote reminds me of another quote
(00:57):
I heard at one point, and it went something to
the effect of I have already forgotten so many of
the people I used to be, And I think that
that made me think, because it's very true. We are
not the same person today that we were yesterday because
we lived through yesterday. And even if it was the
(01:18):
same day we have every day, got up with the work,
came home, ate dinner, watched some TV, went to bed.
Even if it's the same day we had yesterday, we're
still different because we lived through today and yesterday and
tomorrow will be different than we were today because we
lived through today. And when we're talking about mistakes we
(01:40):
made or things we did that we regret now or
are wish we hadn't done, there's no way of knowing
what we should have done in the midst of a crisis.
There's no way of knowing what we should have done
while it was happening. We just do what we can
(02:02):
with the information we have and the experience we have.
So you stayed with a partner for far too long
even though they were a narcissist or a you know,
they didn't treat you right, or they didn't care enough,
or they didn't love you the way you feel you
deserve to be loved. You can't be angry at yourself
(02:25):
for that, because there's nothing wrong with trying. What so
often happens is we beat ourselves up for the things
that we did wrong yesterday that we wish we hadn't done,
But there's no way of knowing what we should have
done in the time we have. Crisis is crisis. It
could go either way. This also makes me think of
(02:50):
a story that I've probably told here before, But a
friend of mine caught me talking negatively about myself, which
is something that I'm guilty of a lot, being hard
on myself. I should know better. You know, it's okay
if you made that mistake, But for me, I hold
(03:11):
myself to a much higher standard and really if you
think about it, listen to that sentence. There's arrogance in there,
like it's okay for you to mess up, but for me,
I'm better than you. But my friend did me a
favor and stopped me from saying whatever I was saying
about myself and said, would you talk to a child
that way? And of course the answer is no. And
(03:33):
then she said, well, why don't you think of yourself
as a child, because we all still really are just
children trapped inside of our grown up bodies that were
forced to grow up in a big, scary world. And
you might find that you find a little grace with yourself,
(03:54):
a little easier on yourself. All the negative self talk
is not good for you. You're beating yourself help up
on the inside. You're harder on yourself than anyone in
life ever could be to you. So now I try
to stop myself from doing that. It does not mean
you let yourself off the hook and you say, well,
(04:16):
I can do whatever I want, because kids do whatever
they want. It's not that. What it is is just
a way of approaching I guess, teaching yourself or loving
yourself through the mistakes you make. Because when the kid
makes a mistake, they're just like, eh, okay, well I
won't do that again. But when an adult makes a mistake,
(04:38):
they're like, idiot, you should have known better. All the
negative self talk, So just keep that in mind. And
that's what we're going to meditate on today is finding
a way to forgive ourselves. So for this meditation, you
can either sit down or lie down. Start to get
(04:59):
yourself comfortable and deep in your breath in and out,
in and out. Start paying attention to the sensations in
(05:29):
your body. Feeling where the breath is coming in and
flowing out of you, Perhaps imagining yourself getting heavier with
each exail, relaxing deeper with each exhile, Feeling that gravity
pull you down into the seat or mattress that you're
(05:53):
lying on, Feeling that connection pushing back up against your body.
(06:19):
I'm cleaning your breath deeper and slower, feeling it coming
into your body, I'm feeling it exit your body. Maybe
if it helps to scan a quick scan of your
(06:43):
body from the head to the toes, are you relaxed
at every relaxation point, every muscle, every joint, every part
of your body loosening. We carry so much tension in
our body as the day goes on and on, tension.
(07:13):
We're trying to do now is to put ourselves back
in this present moment with our breath. Our breath lives
in the present. Our breath is never a minute ago
(07:37):
or a minute from now. Our breath is always right
this moment, right now. Our breath is always right here
with us, in the never ending present moment. Take a
(08:14):
few more long, slow, deep breaths in. Spend some time
with yourself, tuning in to now and an out and
(08:46):
an out d Now, I would like you to imagine
(10:12):
yourself standing in front of a mirror, staring back at yourself.
Take a moment and look at your face, your eyes.
Maybe you notice how tired or upset. Maybe maybe something
(10:34):
upset you or sad or happy the person in the
mirror is. Take a moment and admire the person staring
back at you. Now, I want you to think of
(11:21):
something that you have always been mad at yourself over,
something that you've always picked on yourself about, something you've
never quite forgiven yourself. For we all have something. It
(11:45):
doesn't really matter what it is, as long as it's something.
It doesn't have to be a massive huge life altering error.
It could be something simple if you want to, because
in our minds there was no such thing as a
big thing and a little thing. Often, very often we
just beat ourselves up over little things and big things
(12:08):
just to like. So, take a moment and think about
that thing, whatever it is, come to a conclusion, really
hone in on the thing, whatever it is, and then
hone in on the feeling that you have about that
(12:30):
thing and about yourself in relation to that thing, and
then do your best to just let it go. Do
(12:51):
your best to free yourself from that thing in this moment.
Forgive yourself, Forgive that reflection in the mirror, for that thing.
(13:16):
The reflection in the mirror did the best they could
with what they had in that time and place. We
want to extend some compassion and empathy to that reflection
(13:39):
in the mirror, to yourself, Extend some of that grace
that you would give to just about anyone else if
they had done the same exact thing. Take a few
(14:04):
moments and breathe into that feeling of forgiveness, that feeling
of letting go, feeling of compassion. Maybe breathe some of
that forgiveness into your heart and let it flow back
(14:26):
out of your heart. Spend some time with that reflection
in the mirror, telling that person that it's okay, that
(14:47):
it's all going to be okay. You forgive them, and
it's not their fault. They tried, they did what they could,
They did the best they could with what they had,
(15:09):
just as you would nearly anybody else. Spend some time
with that reflection. Spend some time and this feeling of
compassion and forgiveness and empathy, just the two of you
(15:34):
together in this moment, this moment of catharsis and release
and healing and let go y in our last few
(16:39):
moments together, take another long, slow, deep breath in in
and out, in and out. Before we go, just do
(17:03):
what you can to wrap your arms around yourself and
give yourself a big hug. You did the best you could.
Now in this moment, give yourself a big, compassionate, empathetic hug.
Tell yourself it's all going to be okay. Let go
(17:26):
of whatever it is that's weighing you down. Breathe in
one last time and breathe out, and when you're ready,
you can open your eyes and go about your day.
(17:53):
I'm a stay. That's it. For this time on Calm
(18:17):
the bleep Down. If you like this meditation, please feel
free to send us an email, post a comment, hit
us up on Instagram or TikTok, where we're posting a
lot these days. We'd love to hear from you. Once again.
I'm Michael Beckamia reminding you to please calm the bleep down.
We'll see you again soon. Thank you for meditating with us.
Be well, have fun, and no mistake
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