August 25, 2025 • 20 mins
Sometimes when we get overwhelmed by the things happening in our life, we can very easily get sucked into freezing up, not knowing what to do or where to go next and we begin to stagnate in that feeling of insecurity and if we are not careful, that feeling can become our new normal and the next thing we know, that's just how we feel all the time. This meditation hopes to remind the meditator that the easiest way to snap yourself out of that feeling is to keep moving forward, one breath at a time. One breath at a time.
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Welcome to mindful meditations with calm the bleep down. I'm
your guide Michael Beckameier, and today we are going to
keep moving forward. Let's get started. As always, we have
(00:29):
a mindfulness quote to help us head into our meditation
with some intent, and today our quote comes from the
Buddha and it reads, if you are facing in the
right direction, all you need to do is keep on walking.
This quote jumped out to me because in my own
(00:50):
life recently, I have been in sort of a transitional
period and I think some times, well a lot of
the time, when we are doing something new or doing
something that makes us uncomfortable, where we're not exactly feeling
(01:11):
totally confident about where we are. New job, new relationship,
new whatever, anything that sometimes it can cause us to
just sort of freeze, you know, fight flight or freeze.
And when we get into a phase where we're not
(01:34):
sure what we should do, we're starting to feel a
little overwhelmed or behind the ball on something, we can
just sort of sit in it and not know what
to do next. But the answer for me has always been, hey,
(01:55):
just make a decision, do something, Because at a period
of time when I was at a real low point.
I had gone through a divorce and six months and
I'd been fine. And six months after that divorce, I
was like literally sitting staring at a wall. And I
called a friend of mine just a chat, and she said,
(02:19):
what you're going through is totally normal. I was just
sitting there staring at a wall for days. I'd just
been like all my spare time was just blankly staring.
I was not sure what to do, and I didn't
even want to do anything. I was just kind of
a I was in a real low funk. She, very wisely,
(02:40):
she'd spent her lifetime in therapy apparently, said to me, well,
your whole life has changed in the last six months,
and it wasn't something that you asked for. So you've
been in you've been playing catch up for like six months,
and everything you've done has been in service to that
thing that you do not choose for yourself. So she said,
(03:05):
what you need to do is today, just start right now.
Make a decision. Even if that decision is to just
take a walk or go to the grocery store and
buy food. Just make a decision. And the more decision
making you do, the more you'll start to feel like
(03:28):
yourself again because you're doing things for yourself. And that
day I did. I got up, I went to a
coffee shop and I planned out my next project. I'm
a filmmaker, so I planned out my next film, which
would have been the first film I'd made in about
eight years, and gave me a sense of myself again.
(03:52):
It's doing something that I loved, that made me feel
good and I had some creative catharsis all because my
friend just said, Hey, just make a decision. And I've
been feeling like that a little bit in my life recently,
because I started a business and I quit my day job,
and you sort of get behind the ball. You start feeling,
(04:15):
wait a minute, maybe I'm not the world's greatest business runner.
Maybe I don't know what I'm really doing. And I
was sort of like putting it off, putting things off.
But I caught myself and I knew exactly what I
(04:35):
needed to do. I needed to start making little decisions
that could get me towards where I needed to go.
And I did. I just went out and started talking
to some people about what I do and what I
wanted to do and how could I help them. And
even though nothing really changed. What did change is I
didn't sit there and stagnate in my indecisiveness. So ultimately
(04:59):
I tell you though whole life story just so that
we can meditate on that today. I try to think
of it like am I am? I new? You know,
past four or five years mindful self, my mister zen
Buddha period phase that I'm in. Hey, you know, everything
(05:19):
is just like the next breath. So if you can
just choose to breathe in and breathe out, you have
control no matter what's happening around you. The world could
be crumbling around you, and you still have control over
your life. You might be reacting to things that are
happening to you that you had no choice over, but
(05:42):
you can still choose how to handle it. And for me,
I find that I just feel so much better when
I'm choosing to move forward. Just keep moving forward, maybe
only make it a half a step, maybe only today.
Maybe you didn't move the ball very far down the field,
But did you move the ball down the field at all?
(06:05):
Or did you sit there and wallow in it? So,
like I said, that's what we're going to meditate on today.
As always, you can get yourself comfortable you can sit
down or lie down. Just start slowing your breath and
(06:29):
relaxing the tightness in your body. Give yourself permission to
just take a few moments to yourself and recalibrate. And
I'm sure we all do. We all have things that
are blocking us or bothering us, or keeping us from
(06:49):
being happy in that moment or being content in that moment.
We just need to instead of avoiding it, we need
to face it. The only way really around the problem
is to go through it. You can't walk around it
because it's still there now. Even if you get ahead
(07:12):
of it for a little bit, it's still going to
be chasing you. You just have to go through it,
go through it, figure it out, get it over with.
Avoiding is not the key. So take some long, slow,
deep breaths in, relax your body, start to scan your
(07:32):
body from head to toe. Start to feel yourself relaxing
into this moment. And I'd like you to think of
your breath as a choice you're making, because when you're
just an autopile, your body, your body takes over and
breathes for you. You're not thinking about it. You don't
have to remember to breathe your body will do it
(07:54):
for you. But for this exercise and for meditation in general,
we are choosing to breathe in and breathe out. We
are actively participating in the process of controlling our body
in our life. So we're choosing to breathe in, we're
(08:17):
choosing to breathe out. And we've talked about it before,
even recently. That little gap in between inhale and exhale
is where we make the choice. We choose. We have
a little space right there to decide for ourselves in
(08:40):
and out, in and out, and as you start to
examine yourself deeper, For me, at least, I found that
(09:06):
there's a lot of things that I've sort of just
put a band aid on and kept moving forward because
I didn't want to think about it. I didn't want
to deal with it, didn't want to be troubled by it.
Once had a friend who's We live in Florida, so
it's rains all the time, but I had a friend
(09:27):
whose windshield wipers didn't work and they had to go
get some medication. I said, well, hey, did you get
your meds today? And they said no, I couldn't go
anywhere because it's raining and my windshield wipers don't work.
I thought you've let that one little problem grow to
(09:47):
be such a big thing that you are now reliant
on the weather. The weather to base whether you can
go take care of yourself that day or not, just
because you wouldn't solve the one little, one little problem
is now controlling your life. It's wagging the dog and
(10:09):
we that's an extreme example, but we all do that.
And it's through mindfulness that we start to recognize where
and when we are doing that so we can stop it.
A lot of times we don't even notice that we
are avoiding a thing because it makes us uncomfortable, avoiding
a thing, because it makes us scared, avoiding a thing
(10:30):
because we don't want to deal with it. Today, we
don't have time. I'm in a hurry. I don't have
time to deal with that right now. I'm just going
to ignore it. But eventually, it's all those little things
hiding in the shadows that basically control us, stop us
from doing a thing because we can't handle it right now,
or stop us from going somewhere, or we have to
(10:51):
go do something else we don't want to do because
we're still avoiding the other thing that we don't want
to do. It's just not a way to live. And
we all do it, we all different variations of it.
It's just not any fun. There's no way to enjoy
your life that way. So while you're continuing to follow
your breath in and out, you may notice that your
(11:14):
mind has wondered, and that's okay. Just once you notice,
remind yourself that that is where mindfulness comes from. That
is mindfulness. Noticing is mindfulness. Noticing is the other part
of the meditation. And then bring your mind back to
(11:36):
the breath in and out. Choose to breathe in, Choose
(12:01):
to breathe out. Even if your whole day is running you,
even if the whole process of being alive today is
dragging you around, kicking and screaming, at least you had
time still to sit down for a few minutes and meditate,
(12:26):
and hopefully that reminds you that you are still in charge,
that is still up to you to decide how to
deal with things. And by taking this next breath in,
this next breath out, that is you continuing to move forward,
(12:52):
to continue breathing in and out for a few moments.
In an out, an.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Outs us one must us in as music.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Okay, wherever you are, it's time to return to your body.
Take another couple of long, slow, deep breaths in and
out to give the silence and the stillness another chance
to settle in for just a few more moments. And
(19:08):
wherever you are, whatever's happening to you now, before this,
after this, just know you can always return to this
place where you are breathing in and you are breathing out,
and you are choosing to take another step forward, and
(19:32):
with that you can open your eyes and go about
your day and no mistake. That's it for this time
(20:01):
on calm to bleep down. If you like this meditation,
please feel free to send us an email, post a comment,
hit us up on Instagram or TikTok, where we're posting
a lot these days. We'd love to hear from you
once again. I'm Michael BECAMEAIA reminding you to please calm
the bleep down. We'll see you again soon. Thank you
for meditating with us, Be well, have fun, and no mistake,
Welcome to mindful meditations with calm the bleep down. I'm
your guide Michael Beckameier, and today we are going to
keep moving forward. Let's get started. As always, we have
(00:29):
a mindfulness quote to help us head into our meditation
with some intent, and today our quote comes from the
Buddha and it reads, if you are facing in the
right direction, all you need to do is keep on walking.
This quote jumped out to me because in my own
(00:50):
life recently, I have been in sort of a transitional
period and I think some times, well a lot of
the time, when we are doing something new or doing
something that makes us uncomfortable, where we're not exactly feeling
(01:11):
totally confident about where we are. New job, new relationship,
new whatever, anything that sometimes it can cause us to
just sort of freeze, you know, fight flight or freeze.
And when we get into a phase where we're not
(01:34):
sure what we should do, we're starting to feel a
little overwhelmed or behind the ball on something, we can
just sort of sit in it and not know what
to do next. But the answer for me has always been, hey,
(01:55):
just make a decision, do something, Because at a period
of time when I was at a real low point.
I had gone through a divorce and six months and
I'd been fine. And six months after that divorce, I
was like literally sitting staring at a wall. And I
called a friend of mine just a chat, and she said,
(02:19):
what you're going through is totally normal. I was just
sitting there staring at a wall for days. I'd just
been like all my spare time was just blankly staring.
I was not sure what to do, and I didn't
even want to do anything. I was just kind of
a I was in a real low funk. She, very wisely,
(02:40):
she'd spent her lifetime in therapy apparently, said to me, well,
your whole life has changed in the last six months,
and it wasn't something that you asked for. So you've
been in you've been playing catch up for like six months,
and everything you've done has been in service to that
thing that you do not choose for yourself. So she said,
(03:05):
what you need to do is today, just start right now.
Make a decision. Even if that decision is to just
take a walk or go to the grocery store and
buy food. Just make a decision. And the more decision
making you do, the more you'll start to feel like
(03:28):
yourself again because you're doing things for yourself. And that
day I did. I got up, I went to a
coffee shop and I planned out my next project. I'm
a filmmaker, so I planned out my next film, which
would have been the first film I'd made in about
eight years, and gave me a sense of myself again.
(03:52):
It's doing something that I loved, that made me feel
good and I had some creative catharsis all because my
friend just said, Hey, just make a decision. And I've
been feeling like that a little bit in my life recently,
because I started a business and I quit my day job,
and you sort of get behind the ball. You start feeling,
(04:15):
wait a minute, maybe I'm not the world's greatest business runner.
Maybe I don't know what I'm really doing. And I
was sort of like putting it off, putting things off.
But I caught myself and I knew exactly what I
(04:35):
needed to do. I needed to start making little decisions
that could get me towards where I needed to go.
And I did. I just went out and started talking
to some people about what I do and what I
wanted to do and how could I help them. And
even though nothing really changed. What did change is I
didn't sit there and stagnate in my indecisiveness. So ultimately
(04:59):
I tell you though whole life story just so that
we can meditate on that today. I try to think
of it like am I am? I new? You know,
past four or five years mindful self, my mister zen
Buddha period phase that I'm in. Hey, you know, everything
(05:19):
is just like the next breath. So if you can
just choose to breathe in and breathe out, you have
control no matter what's happening around you. The world could
be crumbling around you, and you still have control over
your life. You might be reacting to things that are
happening to you that you had no choice over, but
(05:42):
you can still choose how to handle it. And for me,
I find that I just feel so much better when
I'm choosing to move forward. Just keep moving forward, maybe
only make it a half a step, maybe only today.
Maybe you didn't move the ball very far down the field,
But did you move the ball down the field at all?
(06:05):
Or did you sit there and wallow in it? So,
like I said, that's what we're going to meditate on today.
As always, you can get yourself comfortable you can sit
down or lie down. Just start slowing your breath and
(06:29):
relaxing the tightness in your body. Give yourself permission to
just take a few moments to yourself and recalibrate. And
I'm sure we all do. We all have things that
are blocking us or bothering us, or keeping us from
(06:49):
being happy in that moment or being content in that moment.
We just need to instead of avoiding it, we need
to face it. The only way really around the problem
is to go through it. You can't walk around it
because it's still there now. Even if you get ahead
(07:12):
of it for a little bit, it's still going to
be chasing you. You just have to go through it,
go through it, figure it out, get it over with.
Avoiding is not the key. So take some long, slow,
deep breaths in, relax your body, start to scan your
(07:32):
body from head to toe. Start to feel yourself relaxing
into this moment. And I'd like you to think of
your breath as a choice you're making, because when you're
just an autopile, your body, your body takes over and
breathes for you. You're not thinking about it. You don't
have to remember to breathe your body will do it
(07:54):
for you. But for this exercise and for meditation in general,
we are choosing to breathe in and breathe out. We
are actively participating in the process of controlling our body
in our life. So we're choosing to breathe in, we're
(08:17):
choosing to breathe out. And we've talked about it before,
even recently. That little gap in between inhale and exhale
is where we make the choice. We choose. We have
a little space right there to decide for ourselves in
(08:40):
and out, in and out, and as you start to
examine yourself deeper, For me, at least, I found that
(09:06):
there's a lot of things that I've sort of just
put a band aid on and kept moving forward because
I didn't want to think about it. I didn't want
to deal with it, didn't want to be troubled by it.
Once had a friend who's We live in Florida, so
it's rains all the time, but I had a friend
(09:27):
whose windshield wipers didn't work and they had to go
get some medication. I said, well, hey, did you get
your meds today? And they said no, I couldn't go
anywhere because it's raining and my windshield wipers don't work.
I thought you've let that one little problem grow to
(09:47):
be such a big thing that you are now reliant
on the weather. The weather to base whether you can
go take care of yourself that day or not, just
because you wouldn't solve the one little, one little problem
is now controlling your life. It's wagging the dog and
(10:09):
we that's an extreme example, but we all do that.
And it's through mindfulness that we start to recognize where
and when we are doing that so we can stop it.
A lot of times we don't even notice that we
are avoiding a thing because it makes us uncomfortable, avoiding
a thing, because it makes us scared, avoiding a thing
(10:30):
because we don't want to deal with it. Today, we
don't have time. I'm in a hurry. I don't have
time to deal with that right now. I'm just going
to ignore it. But eventually, it's all those little things
hiding in the shadows that basically control us, stop us
from doing a thing because we can't handle it right now,
or stop us from going somewhere, or we have to
(10:51):
go do something else we don't want to do because
we're still avoiding the other thing that we don't want
to do. It's just not a way to live. And
we all do it, we all different variations of it.
It's just not any fun. There's no way to enjoy
your life that way. So while you're continuing to follow
your breath in and out, you may notice that your
(11:14):
mind has wondered, and that's okay. Just once you notice,
remind yourself that that is where mindfulness comes from. That
is mindfulness. Noticing is mindfulness. Noticing is the other part
of the meditation. And then bring your mind back to
(11:36):
the breath in and out. Choose to breathe in, Choose
(12:01):
to breathe out. Even if your whole day is running you,
even if the whole process of being alive today is
dragging you around, kicking and screaming, at least you had
time still to sit down for a few minutes and meditate,
(12:26):
and hopefully that reminds you that you are still in charge,
that is still up to you to decide how to
deal with things. And by taking this next breath in,
this next breath out, that is you continuing to move forward,
(12:52):
to continue breathing in and out for a few moments.
In an out, an.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Outs us one must us in as music.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Okay, wherever you are, it's time to return to your body.
Take another couple of long, slow, deep breaths in and
out to give the silence and the stillness another chance
to settle in for just a few more moments. And
(19:08):
wherever you are, whatever's happening to you now, before this,
after this, just know you can always return to this
place where you are breathing in and you are breathing out,
and you are choosing to take another step forward, and
(19:32):
with that you can open your eyes and go about
your day and no mistake. That's it for this time
(20:01):
on calm to bleep down. If you like this meditation,
please feel free to send us an email, post a comment,
hit us up on Instagram or TikTok, where we're posting
a lot these days. We'd love to hear from you
once again. I'm Michael BECAMEAIA reminding you to please calm
the bleep down. We'll see you again soon. Thank you
for meditating with us, Be well, have fun, and no mistake,
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