February 9, 2022 • 55 mins
Going live on Fb and YouTube with *Sherontelle she has been seen on Dr. Oz Show, Rachael Ray Tv Show & Steve Harvey. She has had an amazing career in entertainment as a successful Celebrity Music Publicist. Sherontelle is now using her platform creating workshops and delivering talks to empower men, women, & youth to live their best life while not letting fear hold them back from their dreams, hopes, & future accomplishments. Tune in 10am eastern time #podcast #podcastlife #podcasting #podcasters #explorepage✨ #viralvideos #viralposts #podcaststudio
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Speaker 1 (01:43):
Thank you so much for stopping by to check out
my site. I'm sharing tell Dair Skill. I am an entrepreneur,
a mom, and a motivational speaker and also an author.
For many years, I have worked as a music publicist
and the entertainment industry, helping artists expand their brand. Now
(02:05):
I have decided to become a motivational speaker to inspire
others to also go after their dreams and strive for
their greatness. We as human beings, I know for sure,
benefit from each other through our stories, whether we read
them in magazines, TV shows, or media outlets. We all
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can benefit from hearing each other knowing that we're not alone.
Have you ever had a fear of doing something that
you wanted to do but you just was too afraid
to do it? So have I, and that's the reason
why I am doing this, so that I can help
others who also have that struggle that I've had for
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so long, letting fear paralyze me from going out and
doing what it is that I want to do, or
living the light that I have only dreamed of living.
We all have the ability to create the life that
we want to live. Feel your way to success it's okay.
Sometimes I believe that we're afraid to fail, so we
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don't go after what it is that we want to
go after because we don't want to fail, and not
realizing that that failure is what's going to make us
a better person. Fear has only one goal, and that
goal is is that it keeps us from me living
less than we should live. It should never stop us
from reaching our potential. Fear is just an illusion. It's
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not real. What's real is the reality of what's actually
going on right at that moment. Fear is something that
creates in our head, but not realizing that on the
other side of fear is everything that we want, everything
that we dream of. I believe that I remember hearing
the Great Real Smith say that bliss is on the
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other side of fear. You may have had unfair things
happen to you and your life life, but know that
the depth of your pain, the depth of your struggles,
and those things that we have had happen to our
life is the heightening of our future. Realize that you
have the power every day and how you use it
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is how you can create your life. You have the
ability to create the life that you want so I
want to be able to do and my stories and
the things that I have struggled with for so long,
be able to tell others to go after it and
do what it is that you want to do. I
have made appearances on Rachel Ray Show and several appearances
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on Doctor Oz and Steve Harvey and showing people that
this little girl from Cleveland, Ohio can be on TV
and do the amazing things that I have done. So
can you. My mission is to empower men and women
to live beyond their fears, pursue their dreams, and to
step into their greatness. Oh my goodness, let me see,
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Let me check. Let me make sure because I can
hear me. Okay, wait, nope, I can't hear you. Is
it my phone? Okay, there we go now, yes, I
can wait. That video clip is from my a demo
(05:42):
that I had to do for like a speaking engagement
from years years ago, and it really made me tear up.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
That's a phenomenal video.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
When I saw it, I was like, yo, I had
to get this video because how you explain fear at
the end, how it's all in your head?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
I say that out lot. So I really had to
get that video I love it.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Oh, I gotta get myself together. Wow, I don't watch myself.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
You should. You did a phenomenal job, queen, Like yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Really that was my first demo video. All the other
stuff just happened. I didn't have no resume, I didn't
have a media kid, I didn't have none of that.
I just had me and was like, hey, can I
be a part of your show, Like like I need
to do this, because you know, when I'm just jumping
right into it. You know, when you when you come
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so close to death, or when you come from a
neighborhood like the one that I come from, where every
day you're not really paying attention that people like you
literally stepping over a dead body or this homie and
that homie and everybody just just get killed, like you're
just talking to him, just like me and you, and
then they're just gone. When you realize when you just
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take a look back, when I take a look back
at my past, I'm like, oh my goodness, I overcame that.
So I gotta go for it. I gotta go for
the juggler every single day, Like every day when I
wake up, I wake up with the mindset of a champion.
Like I'm gonna get this no matter what. Like even
during the pandemic, I became an international bestselling author during
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one of the most prolific times in history. Like people
are literally hundreds of thousands of people are like literally
like dying all around this, but yet I'm still like
in the race, Like Okay, I'm still here.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
I gotta get it.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
So yeah, wow that video. So I'm.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
You could explain to the audience about fear like that
that's your niche. I love it because like you've overcome
so much, so please like just break down the constable fear.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Okay, if I could share a story, it always has
attached to a story. There was an opportunity, and I
talk about it sometimes in my workshops. I don't know,
I'm not really comfortable we're talking about the number, but
to say it was a it was definitely a really
big number. I had got offered an international TV show
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deal my own show, so I did the uh that
was the same time that I did that demo video.
I also had to pronounce names that were very difficult
to pronounce. I had to take three months and study
a certain culture like this. I mean, I really had
to dive into it. You remember how Belly like he
had to do what he had to do to get
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to That's what I had to do. And it got
to the point where we talked about numbers. Numbers is
great while life changing, but then it got to a
point where I was afraid it got to it. I
started to question my tegrity, you know, and all of
those things. And because of that, I turned it down.
(09:05):
I turned it down. It took six months and I
decided to turn it down. And I find myself on
TV with Bishop Jakes and Doctor Eyes. That was that
last show that I did like that. I've been on
Doctor Ies several times. He's one of my mentors. I
absolutely love him. But this particular show right here was
what I really needed, what I really needed to step
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into what was already waiting for me. I was so scared.
So we did this show. There's Doctor Eyes, there's bitsch
of Jakes. I'm sitting down, I'm having a conversation. And
that was like bragging about working seventy five hours. I
was like, you know, I get it in I do
seventy five hours. We could play the bluh and Bschiel.
Jakes looked at me and he said, well, Sharon to
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he says, well, how is that working for you? Like?
Are you being productive?
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Like?
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Are you like? It didn't sound cool to him. I
could feel it, the energy, you know. I'm like, dang
made me think, like, am I really being productive? So
I have this going on and I think that I
was just moving one hundred miles an hour because I'm
so I was so afraid of going back to where
I come from that I was neglecting my sleep, you
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know what I mean. Like working out. I'm working out
at the gym every day. I love working out, but
I'm not taking care of my mento. I'm not checking
in with myself. I am just like working to cover
up the pain I felt leaving Ohio from a domestic
violence relationship, the pain I felt when I felt like
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when I needed people the most. When I was a ICU,
I woke up out of a coma and there was
not one family member. There was not a homie, friend, lover, nobody.
It was me and God in the ICU room. And
I was looking all around and seeing all these families
with their loved ones, and it was me just there.
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And I realize, right then and there, then fear will
no longer hold me back. I don't care if the
deal is two hundred and fifty million. We're gonna sit
at the table and let's talk about it, because that
means that I'm deserving of it. I want it, and
I know that when you when you get to that point,
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right when you get to that point where you're sitting
at the table, when you're talking these numbers, you realize
that it's no longer about the number, it's about living
on purpose. How dare me be afraid? Yes, be afraid,
feel it because it's an emotion, but don't let it
paralyze you. Doctor Oz asked the audience that day. He said,
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do anyone here have a fear of something that can
be paralyzing them from holding them back? And every single
person I can feel this in my spirit right now
as I tell you this story, every single person in
that audience, including my friend that I didn't even know
she was an audience. Like the end of the show,
I'm looking up and I'm like, oh, go, and everybody
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raise their hand. That's all those Look at all those
hands as gifts that haven't been open. Like everybody in
my mind is gifted. They're just sometimes just too afraid
to open up the package. They're looking at the Christmas
tree and they're like, Ooh, I know that big boxes
and for me, you know what I mean? Like, I
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know that big boxesm for me because Christmas almost didn't happen.
So I want people to feel what I feel every
day when I get to finally wake up, no longer
afraid of somebody, you know, talking down to me, like
my eggs was horrible, and I stayed because it started
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to become my norm. Like if he wasn't are you
with me? Something was wrong? I'm like, hey, you see
me doing I need to get slapped up today. Hello.
But then when I really lies, literally, that's what it is.
When I realized that I deserved more, I deserved better.
I deserve love, I deserve kindness, I deserve respect, I
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deserve so much stuff. That's his listen. And what he
was bringing wasn't nothing that looked like what I needed
and wanted and what I wanted to be because I'm
not looking for someone to fulfill me. I'm looking for
us to both bring something to the table so that
we can be our best selves. Fall in love with
my purpose? Yeah, fall in love with Sharon tel because
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I'm amazing, right, But I want someone who falls in
love with my purpose because that is on the top.
That's the top of the list. And I learned that
from Bishop Jakes because I was like, oh, I don't
want to sound selfish when I say it's not it's
not my kids, it's actually my purpose because my purpose
was going to take care of all of us and
some and generations to come. So this is important. If
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I'm nurturing this, if I'm wordering this, Fear is just
something now that I'm looking at and saying, I see
you there. But I'm gonna go ahead and go on ahead,
open this door and see what's behind it, you know
what I mean. And if there's nothing there when I
open that door, it's okay because the next door is
coming and I'm gonna open up that one and I'm
no longer gonna let that be holding me back. So
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I did this book Fear for What. I've been talking
since four o'clock this morning, believe it or not.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Oh, man Quin, you will go get a dope, queen.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Yeah I was. I was on Bigo earlier for hours.
I'm talking. But yeah, So this book Fear for What,
literally that's a bow title to put. But I can't
think of another title. I didn't want. It didn't need
to sound pretty. It needed to like get straight to
the point, like fear for what? Because the time is now.
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The time is now. We can't say, oh, well, I'm
gonna way till tomorrow. I'll get paid tomorrow so then
I can start this podcast. I asked this guy on
TikTok the other day because he said he want to
start a podcast, and I was like, well, what are
you wait doing? Like do it today? You know what
I mean, and invite me over. I'm gonna come and talk.
I'm talking on You're blind now, like I'm here. You
don't even know who I am, do you? You don't
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even know why I'll connect to And I tell him
I tell people like be ready all the time because
you never know who's watching. And I'm like, you can
start it for absolutely nothing. Ask me if he started it.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
No he didn't, that's crazy, that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Just started started. Fear is definitely an illusion. It's an illusion.
It's supposed to be there. It's supposed to these feelings
that we have, like anger, sadness, happiness, amazing, Like I
feel right now, like we're supposed to have all that
that is, but it's never supposed to take the wheelie
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your car and just drive you because it's gonna drive
you right off the embankment, right into the water, and
you're gonna sing like You're just gonna be like or
like live in the same thing year after year after
year after year after year until you know, until you say, hey,
I see you. But I'm gonna go ahead and choose
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this path and go this way right here, because I
want everything. I want everything that this universe guy, whatever
they call it, I want it. I want it. I
want to continue to surround myself with really good, amazing people.
I really, I mean I shared that story of being
in I See You alone. I'm sure that my business
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associates and friends that I build relationships would have been there.
But you know, when you're in a personal situation, you
don't really even though you talk a little bit. I
tell my business socials, but certain things you don't really
dive them all in, like open the door and say
have a seat in the living room and chill here
for a few days. It's not like that. Like certain
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things you really have to it's between you and your
and your loved ones. It really is like, that's the
time to heal, that's the time to reset, that's the
time to reflect, that's the time to cut off. Because
I've never been in a situation where at some point
at the end of it somebody had to get cut
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off in order for me to go to the next thing.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Exactly, sacrifice, had a sacrifice. I mean, queen you.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Do You're doing good though, come on, queen, you went
from Ohio living blocks away from Steve Harvey.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
That's a blessing. Like you're doing good. I'm proud of you.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Oh man, Steve Harvey, I got stories to days. He
lived ten blacks away. For me, I lived in Cleveland.
It was and not the nice part of Cleveland, like
everybody that showed those pictures on TV, you know when
the games are going on, and no, I lived in
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literally the heart of Cleveland and it was it was not. Uh,
it wasn't easy. And to see what Steve Harvey did,
I said, I gotta meet that guy. Not for the optics.
I mean, I got optics for days that I will
never release to the public. I just won't. There's no
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need to do that. But sitting with him and being
able to talk to someone who was in your neighborhood
and was able to build something. So I'm in tears again,
like so massive. You just know that it's possible, and
he can write me the biggest check and I would
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not want the check. I want to know what makes
you think? How you think? How do you decide whether
to answer the two one six number? Because soon as
someone's guaranteed, soon as they see they know they you
know you'd be doing a little time and they're like, yeah, okay,
I hear you. But when you actually show up and
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show out and do it, then they're they call it
he cuzmember me, Like really from you, like cousin, I
haven't talked to you since like I was nine, Like
what's up? You know what I mean? Like what's up?
And it teaches on that's I need reciprocity. I don't
care who you are. You can be my mother and
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if you are bringing negative vibes, you're not bringing anything
that's conducive to my growth. I have to I have
to love you from a distance because I have to
make sure that I'm taking care of me first and
being around people that are negative, being around people who
talk down to you. That's not giving you that love
that you deserve on You don't deserve my time, and
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that I don't. It does not matter who you are.
And I tell my daughter that too. She knows. Going back, like,
I apologize, Ma, because you know I don't play that like.
You have to take care of you. You, you come first,
and that is self love and it's not selfish whatsoever.
That is not selfish whatsoever. So here we are, Steve Harvey.
We have a conversation. I got to ask some questions.
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I think it was amazing. He turned his staff away
and he kept talking to me. I was like, oh
my god, I gotta take this in, like I gotta
take this in. And I knew at that moment. I
don't know. That wasn't my first time on TV, but
it was something about that moment that said for it.
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And I started doing my own events, these workshops titled
Unlock your Fears and Release your Fullest Potential. My I
did my first one and I didn't think anybody was
gonna come. I didn't care. It could be one person
on here and I'm talking because I love talking. I
love the camera and I was showing up and it
did it sold out and someone gave a donation, anonymous
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donation like oh my god, I see you, and it
was like God, it was just basically guys saying, Okay,
you finally answered my call. I've been calling you. You
finally answer, Like, here you go. I need you to
do this. Not giving me money. So it could be
like oh, Sharon Togo get a car. It's like, hey,
take this and put that into the next event, you
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know what I mean, and like and just keep growing it.
But when you have good friends, you can call them
up and say, hey, I got this idea, you know,
and the butter day, we ain't even talking the budget.
You're just telling the vision. And when they see that vision,
they don't. You don't talk money, you talk value. So
it's like it's just I don't know. It's just been
amazing to be able to just continuously share my story,
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and not just my story, but also other people's story.
Even though I'm telling in the form of my experience,
someone can connect with that and say, yeah, I might
not have that fear, but I definitely have a fear
or something that's holding me back. I do have this dream,
but I don't know, like my husband or my wife
might leave me, you know what I mean, because it
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takes some strong people to sustain. Like, think about me,
just me, I could just only share me being in
entertainment most of the time. I've been in studios with
guys all night long. Can you imagine if a guy
is like insecure or that will work? Like, no, you
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can't mess with my bread and butter like this, this
is my bread and butter. This is what I have
to get back to the world. I'm here on purpose.
People have to be very careful with that. But yeah,
Steve Harvey, so.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
Questions, So how do you how do you cut people
off like that?
Speaker 3 (22:46):
So like, if you have a kind heart and you
have a good heart, and that person is not really
that bad of a person, But how do you cut
people off like that?
Speaker 2 (22:55):
That's not really adding value to your life? Person?
Speaker 1 (23:00):
You just cut him off? Let me tell you, Let
me tell you. Working in entertainment, you know, Like, yes,
I have this so boye and I got this smile
going on, and I'm not going to say like, oh
I got another side to me. Oh you don't know that.
That's not what I'm saying. Definitely, I just stand true
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to who I am. What I believe, what I stand for,
and I learned that a long time ago when I
was a kid cut him off. How did I get
into the domestic violence relationship. I got into that because
I became my grief. I became the grief of what
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I felt losing my daughter's father at twenty four years old.
He was murdered in our city, right murdered, done down
like at the dog, and that just wiped my whole.
I just can't see anything, like nothing, I do not
care because this guy that would have been nobody that
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would have ever dated you know what I mean. But
when you find yourself in a vulnerable state, you walking
around with a cloud, anybody snaking just creep on through,
and you'll find yourself all sliberty and doing stuff that
you would normally never do because you in another universe
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somewhere like I'm here physically, but mentally I'm somewhere else.
So I put them off. I just cut it off
like that, just as simple. Even in relationships, like I
even sat down with my eggs. We had a conversation.
We sat down like hey, you know, like I just
really this is time I'm feeling. You know, I love
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you and I want to see you happy somehow, God
telling me that I'm not your wife. I feel that
and that's okay with me. You gotta be okay with
that too. But they don't always, though they don't always.
People don't always. They don't like the feeling of the unknown.
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It's very scary, you know what I mean? I know you,
I know you sharing tell I know what makes you click.
I think I do. You know what I mean? Because
there's always something new to learn about somebody, and that's comfortable,
and it's very uncomfortable to have to meet someone else where.
People say, like I don't want to have to meet
somebody else all over again, Like what you never fully
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know anybody? Why not your happiness? Right? But that's a
whole nother relationship show. But that's how I do you
Just you just love yourself enough that you know that. Yeah,
you know your works. You're not deserving of my time.
I need I need more of that circle that I
got and you ain't it. And that's okay.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
Yeah, we had a comment somebody said that change is
so hard when routine is set.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
So, I mean I definitely agree too.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
But one thing that Tdjke's told I love TJS by
the way.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
That's my guy, by the way, I do so.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Another manifestation of mind for sure.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Yeah, I'm telling I'm going to church one day, but
one day he said, is that you are attracted to
what you are exposed to.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
And I tell a lot of people that.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
So you have to want it, Like you said, you
have to love yourself and want change for yourself and
really get out of that situation for yourself because it
will be so hard to fall back in there because
if you with somebody for a long period of time
like you do, get set in that routine. So you
got to tear your mind, get past that barrier, that fear,
and really move forward and move past that right.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
And it's a work in progress. And you have to
be okay with that too. And that's the thing with
the ebook Fear for what It's literally like an easy
read like some of my friends. One of my friends
was like, I read it on the plane ride from
Texas to Atlanta. I was like, oh cool, thanks. And
it's just really practical things that you can work at
because sometimes some people don't know how to go cold
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turkey and say, hey, all right, I'm leaving my house
in two cars. I'm going to New York City with
two hundred and fifty dollars, my baby and a stroller.
I don't know where I'm going to stay. Really, because
you can get there, people can be like, yeah, I
got you, and then a couple days they realized that,
you know, you ain't got that much to contribute other
than maybe you can clean up cook you know what
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I'm saying, And they're like, oh, no, I need some money.
And then now you're in a situation, another situation. So people, Yeah,
change can be very, very uncomfortable, but it's absolutely necessary.
Decisions definitely determine destiny. Absolutely. Circum circumstances does not determine
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destiny at all. Like where I am today, Absolutely, I'm
so grateful, but that's this ain't what I see done yet.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
You ain't done yet. You ah done yet?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
You know, I tell everybody you never want to get
complacent or detect with life. You know, you always want
trying to go to the next level every single year.
You want to be a better version of yourself every
single day. You know, working on yourself is like a
full time job, literally, like you have to commit to yourself.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
You have to love yourself. You have to really fight your.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Mom because every day, Queen, every day, because like if
you don't want to do something, your might going to
tell you go back to sleep or sit back down,
or don't do it.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Like you really have to fight your mind. Not used
to it.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
So definitely like working on yourself. And one thing Smith said,
like you love Will Smith. I love Will Smith. If
he said that, you know, God plays the best things
in life on the other side of terror, you know.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
That's true. That is definitely true. Doctor Oz has said
to me, he said, he you don't think that I
get afraid. I'm afraid when I come out here every
day and I'm like no, But it was just so
many gems that then too was dropping on me that day.
(29:01):
And because of that day, that's how I started the workshops,
you know, just from having that experience of sitting down
and talking to them. Definitions are not definance for definite,
I think definite, You think definite. Okay, the definitions are not.
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I mean, you know, I don't know my class, I
need probably need glasses. Uh yeah, no, definitely no, definitely not.
But every day we're faced with decisions and choices that
have to be made. Every single day, every single day,
and how you set the tone for your day. There's
this other book that I'm a part of the Number
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one I'm doing, like this point to it the Number
one Habit Series for Entrepreneurial Success. And there's the CEO
of UGS in there. There's some amazing boxers and producers.
There's me, uh, let's brown like it's really it's really
a cool thing. And it's talks about the habits. And
my number one habit that I learned was high management.
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You know. I used to let the day just happen,
Like if somebody calls up, we're up the phone at
I just be like, what's up, you know, and then
before you know it, another hour and a half has
passed and I haven't really gotten anything done. But yet
I'm going seventy five hours a week plus. I learned
so much and that was the biggest lesson that I learned.
(30:29):
And so in that book, I share that journey of
what it looked like, you know, to create those habits.
Because what I realized was my friends that are millionaires, multimillionaires,
and I even know I think I know a couple
of billionaires. I don't know. I don't count any people's pockets,
but it's the habits, Like you watch their habits. They
have a morning routine. So I'm like, yeah, I'm going
(30:51):
to start. I want to you know. The goal is
four o'clock in the morning, one o'clock pm. I'm done
with deals, I'm done with emails. Now I'm playing ten
because I love to play tennis. I'm doing the things
that I love to do, and I'm spending time with
the people that I need to spend time with. Because
what I realized is that the emails. I used to
spend all day on emails, and they're not really an emergency,
Like you can really give yourself twenty four to forty
(31:13):
eight hours to answer those emails because if it is
an emergency, they got your number, they're gonna hit you
up on the phone, not in the email. So I'm like,
I just learned so much, and it's like you just
gotta be open to the possibilities of the unforeseen, the
unforeseen possibility. You gotta be open to that, like every
single day, renew your mind daily, what the good books is,
(31:35):
that's a real thing. Every single day. I gotta choose,
share and tell and say. She's like, oh, she was,
Oh my god, you're amazing, Like you see what you're doing.
I'd be in the mirror talking to myself like that,
like that's that's freaking amazing, like, oh my god, like
you're doing it and they like pump and then it
pumps me up and then I there's this DJ that
(31:56):
I like to listen to in the morning, like I
do things that are like really give me empt for
the day and also asking God to give me strength
for those things that may come against me that not
even come against me but look like a setback because
someone could die, someone can get sick, oh, dune whatever,
like so many things can happen, and you have to
(32:19):
also be ready for that too. You got to have
a mindset to be ready for that too. Yeah, be
transformed by the renewing of your mind at a booty.
I love those words. I love words. So amazing you too.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
Yeah, I do too. So tell us, Quinn, tell us
how we can get your book.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Oh yes, so this is really cool. I love this part.
It is on Amazon, Barnes and Noble. Is one of
my favorite stories.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
Right.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
So I was like one day I said, ooh, I
want to get my book. I want to have my
book as a noble like and it's just so amazing
to know that my book fear for what like when
you go to the birds and of a website, like
my book is there, Like that's absolutely amazing. And not
only is it that those two places, because those are
really too easy places that people know it's on sixty
(33:19):
six thousand digital outlets, like it's international. My Malaysian friends,
I absolutely love them, like they bought a bunch, like
a lot of digital ebooks, Like it's just so cool,
Like it's all over the world and it's such a small,
easy read. I'm so happy. And so when people think, like, oh,
(33:40):
people got books in them, like books, and they don't
even start because they're so worried about the result. How
many chapters am I going to self publish this or
I'm gonna get they don't even they don't have the
answers to that at all, but they have the first
chapter and they didn't even like write the first page
because so worried about the results. I want to tell people, like,
(34:02):
if they have a dream, you got a vision, trust
the process, yes, because people love saying trust the process.
I like to say, fall in love with it, like
fall in love with it. You know what we do,
We fall in love? Yeah, what aing that thing every day?
Like good, you're good? You need anything like when you
(34:23):
in love, Like smiling makes things so much better. So
imagine doing that with your your dreams and your visions.
Like I love my podcast, like I show up every
Tuesday and Thursday that it's an emergency and I am
there and I'm intentive to each and every guest because
it's like, oh my god, I'm really doing this and
(34:45):
this person is taking their like their spent they chose
to spend time. I spend money. I can get that
back time. Thirty six minutes have gone by and it
is gone, like everything that I said from this moment
before it's over, just like that. And I think that
(35:07):
I want to make sure that I'm spending my time
wisely and spending my time where I'm continuously evolving as
a woman, as a business woman, as an entrepreneur, as
a mother, all these titles, Like I want to make
sure that I'm being the best at every single one
of those. So yeah, tap into fear, Tap into fear
(35:28):
for what, because I just know that there are a
lot of people like that was just that studio audience.
But imagine those millions of people that were tuned into
us that day and was feeling like, I hate this
job I'm going to every day, like every day like
just literally so sucking crushing. You know, someone literally like
(35:53):
speaking down to you because they know that they have
your mortgage dangling over your head exactly the kids food,
how you going eat over your head? But you're still
staying faithful to it, Like a bad relationship. I'm still
gonna show up. I know you cheat, know me, I
(36:15):
know you ain't you know, respecting me, But I'm gonna
still keep I'm gonna stay here.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
I don't know why. I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
This is because it's comfortable.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
Kobe Bryant said the best god rest is soul.
Speaker 3 (36:25):
He said that if he wake up every morning dreading
to go to work and do something else.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
Like literally, I'm no longer with FedEx.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
You know, I've been WITHX for three and a half years,
and that job I master FedEx.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
I still love.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
I did twenty some houses per hour in the country
imagine meaning city. I'll go crazy, right, So I left
that job about three and a half years, and I
tell people fears everything, but you want to conquer your fear,
because through fear comes success. You know, God and God
in our place on earth to be average God, and
I place those on earth just trouble or any of that.
(37:01):
You know, God wasn't average, you know what I mean,
He had wine and all that other stuff like that's
the Bible, you know what I'm saying. He wasn't average.
So I tell people like God himself wasn't born to
be average, so he was. He didn't make us to
be average. He made us to be the best version
of ourselves. People do that, you know.
Speaker 1 (37:20):
Yes, absolutely every single day. I mean like I was
like you a pig, I'm like, yeah, I'm any time
that I can get an opportunity where I can say
you can do it, I'm telling you. And then you know,
when I get in in the morning, I'm like love,
light and energy to everybody. I hope you're doing well,
but if you're not, because I'm never oblivious to the
(37:43):
fact of people struggle because I felt that struggle. I've
been there, you know what I mean, I've been there.
I didne that. I wore the T shirt. I waited
on it every single month. The books that my grandmother
used to get or whatever those foodstand books that I
hated going to. So I hated it. Like people were like,
I don't know what's wrong with you. You better give
you your food steps. I'm like, oh, we gotta do better,
(38:05):
and then bone thus in harmony. They came out with
that song first of the month and the whole city
was rocking. And don't get me wrong, it's a dope song,
but the concept for me just didn't work because I'm like,
why am I sitting here? Why are we waiting? Like
by the fifteenth of the month, the refrigerator starts to
look a little scarce, and like for basically like two weeks,
(38:28):
you're just in there waiting and everybody at the back.
In my time, because I'm a little bit older, they
were waiting at the mailbox. It was not coming on
no card. They being down the mailman to get to
the check, you know, and waiting every single month. And
it's just like it was all it took, really, it
was for somebody to change their mindset, someone to say like, hey, yeah,
(38:51):
we're over here, but we're gonna own that store around
the corner. No, you can't come here and buy up
my neighborhood. This is ours, you know what I mean,
and it would have just lived totally different. But it's
not that. And I just want to be the voice
for the voiceless, and I want to hopefully put a
(39:12):
spark under that child that's back at home that yeah,
that's just like, oh man, my mom is beating on
me every day. But I got a dream. Don't let
go yo dream. That's what I tell the kids. Don't
let go your dream. I know, like it could be
really rough at home. Trust me this. I am not
here to be like, do you think it's great to
(39:34):
see me? I'm on TV. You can do it. No, Like,
the pain is real and it's real for those kids.
Like I talked to young men who literally gang member
selling drugs. He was like, I think it's like twelve.
It's like, tell I know that they even start younger
(39:55):
than that, because when I was growing up, I mean
some of my friends started at seven, you know what
I mean, and may go younger than that. I mean,
you can really groom little ones that they're like little soldiers,
Like you can really do that, and I know that
to be true. My daughter is a is like she's
(40:17):
a college graduate and I don't. I can't even remember
a time other than when she was in college that
she called and asked me for money. Honestly, it's not
even just about the money, but it's really the survival
of the fittest. It's really like if you have I'm sorry,
Like if you I'm sorry that I've talked to people
(40:39):
who have lost the entire family. What do you do
from there? You're gonna have to deal with it. You're
gonna have to feel the pain, right, You're gonna but
at some point you're gonna have to pick up, put
your big boots on, and get back in the race,
or you just get truffled over. Like my grandmother raised me,
(41:00):
you know what I mean. She she raised me to
not just not just survive, but really to thrive, like
go after your dreams, like do what you got to do,
but survive, like feel that pain, but you got to
get up and keep going. I love that book The
Art Award. Do you do you read that book?
Speaker 2 (41:17):
I haven't. I been. I need to read it though
I heard about it. I heard it's a great book.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Oh is it one right here? Oh it's right here
to Ooh manifestation come through? So yes, I look like
you know when you read, like when you got to
notice stuff like the Art of War. It is just
I love this book too because it's like one of
the limited ones with the with the red in it,
(41:42):
but it is so it's so dope. And I even
had a couple of I had a friend that came
on who uh I think he served in our rack,
Like he's been there in the battlefield. So he read
this book when we were talking about it, and it's
it's like exactly, that's how life is. Like you gotta
(42:04):
like how do you cut them off? You cut them off?
You know what I mean, Like you cut them off.
You gotta keep going like this is literally every single day.
It's like psychological warfare going on.
Speaker 2 (42:18):
Yeah, it is.
Speaker 3 (42:20):
I needed to hear that though. I really need to
hear that, man, you really queen, like, thank you. I
need to hear that far because you're right. You can't
bring people negative into your life and for the people
like to hold you back. You got the team to
could God gave you the vision, so you got the
team to press world with your vision.
Speaker 1 (42:35):
You know, you gotta press forward. That's why I like
Star Wars and all of those like you know sci
fi movies, because they literally am putting a mission and
it don't matter if they ship, you know how sometimes
it ship get hit by some flying orbit or whatever
and they're on fire, but nobody is really it looks
(42:56):
like they're freaking out, but everybody is moving in and
placing themselves in position. So you know what I mean,
Like as the ship going to the side, and we're
gonna you stand on that side, We're gonna stand on
that side, and we're just gonna hold on into you know,
until we land where we need to land, but we're not.
The mission is still the mission, and so that's how
I look at it every day. Like that's how I
(43:17):
made me cry when I watched that video because I
say that all the time. I even added children, I'm
like my mission to inspire men, women and children to
live beyond their fears. Pursue, not chase, because when you're
chasing things, you're saying that you don't deserve it and
it's gonna get away. Not chase. Pursue and step right
into it because we are ready who we are. I
(43:39):
was a millionaire before I was a speaker, before I
even I was telling people I'm a speaker. I had
not even been on No. One stage, and then one
was believe in me. I'm like, yes, they're like you
a speaker too, Like absolutely, I Am like they were like,
what do you speak about? Whatever? Pertains to whatever? I mean?
(44:00):
You know, I have tech friends, I speak that language.
You want to talk about that. I speak entrepreneurship. You
want to talk about that? Like we can, we can
talk ends. Let's let's do it. I mean, I love
that I'm so well rounded. I love that I'm so
well read. I love the fact that unfortunately my mom
cannot raise me. I love that I tell the kids
(44:22):
all the time that a lot of times we want
what we didn't what we feel that we didn't get,
when actually everything that's in front of us, whether it's pain,
whether it's struggle, whatever that is, that's what we needed
at that moment, and we have to embrace it, and
we have to know that it's not going to last forever. Right.
I live by that model. So yeah, I'm here, and
(44:45):
I'm grateful for it. In fear less.
Speaker 3 (44:51):
Thank you for just taking the time, because a lot
of queens need to hear that message that you know,
because I had enough, But kings on the podcast and
for a queen to come on and just be power.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
Put the ballast, bring the ballot because some more they
come in. We coming because it's cool. We're out here
like I brought. I brought some amazing, two excessful, beautiful
black women on my show. And it makes me so
(45:20):
proud and so excited because I remember there was a
time when I would hang out with girls who couldn't
even buy their own drink, and now we're hanging out
with women who have their own empire and you know
what I mean. And when I'm speaking, we are speaking
(45:40):
in the same language and they give me and it's
just so beautiful because we can inspire each other whether
they're not in the in the empire stage, that they
trust and believe they're on their way because I'm only
talking to movers and shakers at this point, like, look,
what's going on in the world. Don't have no time
(46:01):
to waste, none at all, So we were here. I'm excited.
This is absolutely amazing.
Speaker 3 (46:07):
By the way, thank you your time and just doing
this with me definitely inspired some heads to day because
we got a lot of comments, so real, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (46:19):
So you have any questions for me, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
I did have a question. Let me think, hold on,
hold on, you had shared the story and I had
came up with like five questions and now they're going,
that's all good. No, But what made you? When made
you start this? Because I mean you were doing your
thing early in the morning on club I was like
(46:46):
to motivate and inspire every time I see you, it's
just motivations. So and when we have the conversations on
club houses, motivations.
Speaker 3 (46:55):
So yeah, I just I wanted to get in. I
mean I I had a podcast for a while. I
just never really took the time to do it because
I didn't believe in my voice because you know, as
the kid has to get picked on by like by
a lot of people because talk mad fast, and they like,
what do you say?
Speaker 2 (47:12):
What you say and they.
Speaker 3 (47:13):
Mock me yourself it is nick me mad. So like
I never really got into having the confidence to do it.
But then being no Clubhouse and I tell people all
the time you listen, they may want to download Clubhouse
because that's that's go bringing the confidence.
Speaker 2 (47:25):
Right out of you. You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (47:28):
Choice exactly?
Speaker 3 (47:30):
Can you say it at home like you're saying at
home on the app, you know what I mean. That
gives you all the confidence to come most stage, talk
to people from around the world, not just locally or global,
but around the world, you know, nations and stuff like that,
and just connect with mad people and get and find
you a voice. And I think I found my voice
on Clubhouse, and I just wanted to start doing podcasting
(47:52):
and just having people who are doing great things, who
overcome the stress and doing great things in this world.
Speaker 2 (47:57):
Because all of us have a story, we should be
the example for our kids.
Speaker 1 (48:02):
You know.
Speaker 3 (48:02):
I love I love Lebron James, I love Kevin Durant.
But they got their own kids, got their own kids.
Speaker 2 (48:07):
Look up to them. It's not ours look up to us,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (48:11):
So yeah, absolutely, yeah. Clubhouse is so powerful because I
was on I'm on Bigo and I went into a
virtual room with a guy and he was speaking and
I said, I heard this voice before, right, So I
(48:31):
go on Clubhouse and look him up and there he
was and I said, oh my god. You know, I'm
in the comments like, oh my god, you and your
another yeah, yeah, yeah, that's me, like you know, And
it was just so crazy how powerful a voice can be. Like,
oh my goodness, I've been taking voice acting classes for
(48:52):
about a year. I'm like really studying and taking my
time with it because I really want to master it.
Like I don't even know if I can master it thing,
but I really want to be the best at it
because I just love animated movies and I want to
be a part of one, so I want to be like,
but yeah, oh man, that is absolutely amazing. Clubhouse is
(49:16):
definitely powerful. That's how I got one of my sponsors,
think cards. He's yeah, it came from we started from Clubhouse. Okay, yeah,
so I don't know. And then I now have a
new sponsor to Amazon Music, so I'm grateful for them
as well. So it's like, you guess, got to start
it and then the rest is history.
Speaker 2 (49:37):
Literally just got to do it.
Speaker 1 (49:40):
I'm glad you started.
Speaker 3 (49:41):
Oh yeah, you can't think about it, queen. We don't
think about it, and we think about anything. You're not
gonna do it, you know, you just gotta just do it.
So yeah, Queen, I don't thank you.
Speaker 1 (49:56):
That's that's what everything like. Think about a man like
the ARTI worm. It is a really dope book when
you read it. Let me know, it's so dope. But
when you think about a man at war, like if
he even taken guests, whether he should shoot this person
that looks suspicious he out of there, like go, And
(50:16):
we got to think about that with life, like let's
really life is so beautiful, yes, but we really need
to take it more serious and live with an intent
of something. It's always love for me, always love for me.
So yeah, thank you so much man for having me
on on this amazing podcast. This is so cool.
Speaker 3 (50:36):
Thank you for coming through. Sending love to you from
me and and kill it today. Continue doing great.
Speaker 1 (50:43):
Things you too. I'm so proud, like I'm like a
proud mama, like like I'm not much older than you,
but you know what I mean, like a problem mama.
Like when mama is proud, that's huge. Like when someone's
mom is probably they proudy you like, oh my god,
you think that's you think it's good, mom, Like that's
(51:04):
what That's what it feels like to see, you know,
be a part of your journey and seeing you grow
like a much success to you as well. I love brother,
I well done, King, You're welcome.
Speaker 2 (51:21):
I just want to say, Queen, look, go out there
and could today and have a blessful.
Speaker 3 (51:24):
Blessed forul day and to the audience, how to get
hold of you on I G Instagram.
Speaker 1 (51:30):
Oh yeah, they're gonna have to take you back out
and like type up the name, write it up because
it's long. It's Sharon Tell. It's Sharon Tell, dairt scale everywhere.
I am on Twitter, i am on YouTube, I'm on Bigo,
I'm on TikTok. I have a website, sharonteldirscale dot com. Yes,
(51:53):
I don't think that's old school. I'm holding on to that.
That's my that's my real estate, exactly, exactly, that's my
real estate. People. I didn't know how much money you
can make from just buying websites. That's a whole nother conversation. Yeah,
that's a real thing.
Speaker 2 (52:11):
Yeah, I sold like two websites already. Oh so you know,
I sold like two websites already.
Speaker 1 (52:19):
So definitely, it's like you on a monopoly board, do
not plans, go, do not collect, just let it keep
going and let it build and let it build. But yeah, wow, okay,
what was the question? Oh yeah, where they can find me?
So YouTube the fifth I'm sharing tel d everywhere, sharing
(52:41):
Tolddirskill dot Com. Fear for What you can find on Amazon.
Number one Habit Series for Success you can find on
Fine on Amazon. I also did a My Now Entrepreneur
because it's all about that whole creating, like that's what
it is. It's just literally creating what it is that
you love, like literally turning that into an empire. So
(53:02):
My Now Entrepreneur number one Habit Serious Success for Success
and Fear for What. So I'm three books in, let's
get it.
Speaker 2 (53:12):
I'm welcome to my first one. I'll be done. I'll
be done a few months my first one.
Speaker 3 (53:17):
You are.
Speaker 1 (53:21):
Lazios. Oh my gosh, I can't wait.
Speaker 2 (53:27):
A publish.
Speaker 1 (53:28):
I tried to put the do not disturbance over now
I don't know if it came back. Here. There we go,
all right, so there we go, phone springing.
Speaker 2 (53:39):
Yeah, I know, I know, I know, I know you
gotta go.
Speaker 3 (53:41):
I know you busically, queen, but yeah, thank you so
much for taking the time though, at your time and
just jumping on the podcast, you know, and just showing.
Speaker 1 (53:50):
Love because I know I went away.
Speaker 2 (53:53):
Oh it did you? Now? Is it my phone? Can you? Queen?
Speaker 1 (54:00):
It went away?
Speaker 2 (54:03):
What about now? What about now?
Speaker 1 (54:07):
Ah?
Speaker 3 (54:08):
Did all right, all right, that's cool, that's cool, all right,
Queen well, piece and blessings and I'll talk to you
piece and blessings. All right, all right, guys, yeah that
(54:30):
I hope you guys enjoyed the show. That was our
long show. We lost communication somehow she got a phone call.
But guys, thank you for tuning in, for all the
comments and all the family support. I'm loving it. And yeah, guys,
Champions Connet podcast were just beginning.
Speaker 2 (54:44):
Man.
Speaker 3 (54:44):
We had like four celebrities on the podcast already and
just the only beginning, man.
Speaker 2 (54:50):
Thank you all goes. Subscribe it on.
Speaker 3 (54:51):
YouTube, haven't yet, subscribe it on YouTube Champions Connects typing
Champions Connect podcast and it'll pop up. I'm Sean Jackson.
You guys, I have a blessful day. Go out there
and get that back
Thank you so much for stopping by to check out
my site. I'm sharing tell Dair Skill. I am an entrepreneur,
a mom, and a motivational speaker and also an author.
For many years, I have worked as a music publicist
and the entertainment industry, helping artists expand their brand. Now
(02:05):
I have decided to become a motivational speaker to inspire
others to also go after their dreams and strive for
their greatness. We as human beings, I know for sure,
benefit from each other through our stories, whether we read
them in magazines, TV shows, or media outlets. We all
(02:28):
can benefit from hearing each other knowing that we're not alone.
Have you ever had a fear of doing something that
you wanted to do but you just was too afraid
to do it? So have I, and that's the reason
why I am doing this, so that I can help
others who also have that struggle that I've had for
(02:49):
so long, letting fear paralyze me from going out and
doing what it is that I want to do, or
living the light that I have only dreamed of living.
We all have the ability to create the life that
we want to live. Feel your way to success it's okay.
Sometimes I believe that we're afraid to fail, so we
(03:10):
don't go after what it is that we want to
go after because we don't want to fail, and not
realizing that that failure is what's going to make us
a better person. Fear has only one goal, and that
goal is is that it keeps us from me living
less than we should live. It should never stop us
from reaching our potential. Fear is just an illusion. It's
(03:33):
not real. What's real is the reality of what's actually
going on right at that moment. Fear is something that
creates in our head, but not realizing that on the
other side of fear is everything that we want, everything
that we dream of. I believe that I remember hearing
the Great Real Smith say that bliss is on the
(03:54):
other side of fear. You may have had unfair things
happen to you and your life life, but know that
the depth of your pain, the depth of your struggles,
and those things that we have had happen to our
life is the heightening of our future. Realize that you
have the power every day and how you use it
(04:15):
is how you can create your life. You have the
ability to create the life that you want so I
want to be able to do and my stories and
the things that I have struggled with for so long,
be able to tell others to go after it and
do what it is that you want to do. I
have made appearances on Rachel Ray Show and several appearances
(04:37):
on Doctor Oz and Steve Harvey and showing people that
this little girl from Cleveland, Ohio can be on TV
and do the amazing things that I have done. So
can you. My mission is to empower men and women
to live beyond their fears, pursue their dreams, and to
step into their greatness. Oh my goodness, let me see,
(05:14):
Let me check. Let me make sure because I can
hear me. Okay, wait, nope, I can't hear you. Is
it my phone? Okay, there we go now, yes, I
can wait. That video clip is from my a demo
(05:42):
that I had to do for like a speaking engagement
from years years ago, and it really made me tear up.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
That's a phenomenal video.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
When I saw it, I was like, yo, I had
to get this video because how you explain fear at
the end, how it's all in your head?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
I say that out lot. So I really had to
get that video I love it.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Oh, I gotta get myself together. Wow, I don't watch myself.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
You should. You did a phenomenal job, queen, Like yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Really that was my first demo video. All the other
stuff just happened. I didn't have no resume, I didn't
have a media kid, I didn't have none of that.
I just had me and was like, hey, can I
be a part of your show, Like like I need
to do this, because you know, when I'm just jumping
right into it. You know, when you when you come
(06:37):
so close to death, or when you come from a
neighborhood like the one that I come from, where every
day you're not really paying attention that people like you
literally stepping over a dead body or this homie and
that homie and everybody just just get killed, like you're
just talking to him, just like me and you, and
then they're just gone. When you realize when you just
(06:59):
take a look back, when I take a look back
at my past, I'm like, oh my goodness, I overcame that.
So I gotta go for it. I gotta go for
the juggler every single day, Like every day when I
wake up, I wake up with the mindset of a champion.
Like I'm gonna get this no matter what. Like even
during the pandemic, I became an international bestselling author during
(07:23):
one of the most prolific times in history. Like people
are literally hundreds of thousands of people are like literally
like dying all around this, but yet I'm still like
in the race, Like Okay, I'm still here.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
I gotta get it.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
So yeah, wow that video. So I'm.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
You could explain to the audience about fear like that
that's your niche. I love it because like you've overcome
so much, so please like just break down the constable fear.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Okay, if I could share a story, it always has
attached to a story. There was an opportunity, and I
talk about it sometimes in my workshops. I don't know,
I'm not really comfortable we're talking about the number, but
to say it was a it was definitely a really
big number. I had got offered an international TV show
(08:22):
deal my own show, so I did the uh that
was the same time that I did that demo video.
I also had to pronounce names that were very difficult
to pronounce. I had to take three months and study
a certain culture like this. I mean, I really had
to dive into it. You remember how Belly like he
had to do what he had to do to get
(08:43):
to That's what I had to do. And it got
to the point where we talked about numbers. Numbers is
great while life changing, but then it got to a
point where I was afraid it got to it. I
started to question my tegrity, you know, and all of
those things. And because of that, I turned it down.
(09:05):
I turned it down. It took six months and I
decided to turn it down. And I find myself on
TV with Bishop Jakes and Doctor Eyes. That was that
last show that I did like that. I've been on
Doctor Ies several times. He's one of my mentors. I
absolutely love him. But this particular show right here was
what I really needed, what I really needed to step
(09:27):
into what was already waiting for me. I was so scared.
So we did this show. There's Doctor Eyes, there's bitsch
of Jakes. I'm sitting down, I'm having a conversation. And
that was like bragging about working seventy five hours. I
was like, you know, I get it in I do
seventy five hours. We could play the bluh and Bschiel.
Jakes looked at me and he said, well, Sharon to
(09:49):
he says, well, how is that working for you? Like?
Are you being productive?
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Like?
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Are you like? It didn't sound cool to him. I
could feel it, the energy, you know. I'm like, dang
made me think, like, am I really being productive? So
I have this going on and I think that I
was just moving one hundred miles an hour because I'm
so I was so afraid of going back to where
I come from that I was neglecting my sleep, you
(10:17):
know what I mean. Like working out. I'm working out
at the gym every day. I love working out, but
I'm not taking care of my mento. I'm not checking
in with myself. I am just like working to cover
up the pain I felt leaving Ohio from a domestic
violence relationship, the pain I felt when I felt like
(10:37):
when I needed people the most. When I was a ICU,
I woke up out of a coma and there was
not one family member. There was not a homie, friend, lover, nobody.
It was me and God in the ICU room. And
I was looking all around and seeing all these families
with their loved ones, and it was me just there.
(10:59):
And I realize, right then and there, then fear will
no longer hold me back. I don't care if the
deal is two hundred and fifty million. We're gonna sit
at the table and let's talk about it, because that
means that I'm deserving of it. I want it, and
I know that when you when you get to that point,
(11:20):
right when you get to that point where you're sitting
at the table, when you're talking these numbers, you realize
that it's no longer about the number, it's about living
on purpose. How dare me be afraid? Yes, be afraid,
feel it because it's an emotion, but don't let it
paralyze you. Doctor Oz asked the audience that day. He said,
(11:42):
do anyone here have a fear of something that can
be paralyzing them from holding them back? And every single
person I can feel this in my spirit right now
as I tell you this story, every single person in
that audience, including my friend that I didn't even know
she was an audience. Like the end of the show,
I'm looking up and I'm like, oh, go, and everybody
(12:05):
raise their hand. That's all those Look at all those
hands as gifts that haven't been open. Like everybody in
my mind is gifted. They're just sometimes just too afraid
to open up the package. They're looking at the Christmas
tree and they're like, Ooh, I know that big boxes
and for me, you know what I mean? Like, I
(12:25):
know that big boxesm for me because Christmas almost didn't happen.
So I want people to feel what I feel every
day when I get to finally wake up, no longer
afraid of somebody, you know, talking down to me, like
my eggs was horrible, and I stayed because it started
(12:49):
to become my norm. Like if he wasn't are you
with me? Something was wrong? I'm like, hey, you see
me doing I need to get slapped up today. Hello.
But then when I really lies, literally, that's what it is.
When I realized that I deserved more, I deserved better.
I deserve love, I deserve kindness, I deserve respect, I
(13:11):
deserve so much stuff. That's his listen. And what he
was bringing wasn't nothing that looked like what I needed
and wanted and what I wanted to be because I'm
not looking for someone to fulfill me. I'm looking for
us to both bring something to the table so that
we can be our best selves. Fall in love with
my purpose? Yeah, fall in love with Sharon tel because
(13:33):
I'm amazing, right, But I want someone who falls in
love with my purpose because that is on the top.
That's the top of the list. And I learned that
from Bishop Jakes because I was like, oh, I don't
want to sound selfish when I say it's not it's
not my kids, it's actually my purpose because my purpose
was going to take care of all of us and
some and generations to come. So this is important. If
(13:57):
I'm nurturing this, if I'm wordering this, Fear is just
something now that I'm looking at and saying, I see
you there. But I'm gonna go ahead and go on ahead,
open this door and see what's behind it, you know
what I mean. And if there's nothing there when I
open that door, it's okay because the next door is
coming and I'm gonna open up that one and I'm
no longer gonna let that be holding me back. So
(14:20):
I did this book Fear for What. I've been talking
since four o'clock this morning, believe it or not.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Oh, man Quin, you will go get a dope, queen.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Yeah I was. I was on Bigo earlier for hours.
I'm talking. But yeah, So this book Fear for What,
literally that's a bow title to put. But I can't
think of another title. I didn't want. It didn't need
to sound pretty. It needed to like get straight to
the point, like fear for what? Because the time is now.
(14:51):
The time is now. We can't say, oh, well, I'm
gonna way till tomorrow. I'll get paid tomorrow so then
I can start this podcast. I asked this guy on
TikTok the other day because he said he want to
start a podcast, and I was like, well, what are
you wait doing? Like do it today? You know what
I mean, and invite me over. I'm gonna come and talk.
I'm talking on You're blind now, like I'm here. You
don't even know who I am, do you? You don't
(15:13):
even know why I'll connect to And I tell him
I tell people like be ready all the time because
you never know who's watching. And I'm like, you can
start it for absolutely nothing. Ask me if he started it.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
No he didn't, that's crazy, that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Just started started. Fear is definitely an illusion. It's an illusion.
It's supposed to be there. It's supposed to these feelings
that we have, like anger, sadness, happiness, amazing, Like I
feel right now, like we're supposed to have all that
that is, but it's never supposed to take the wheelie
(15:53):
your car and just drive you because it's gonna drive
you right off the embankment, right into the water, and
you're gonna sing like You're just gonna be like or
like live in the same thing year after year after
year after year after year until you know, until you say, hey,
I see you. But I'm gonna go ahead and choose
(16:16):
this path and go this way right here, because I
want everything. I want everything that this universe guy, whatever
they call it, I want it. I want it. I
want to continue to surround myself with really good, amazing people.
I really, I mean I shared that story of being
in I See You alone. I'm sure that my business
(16:39):
associates and friends that I build relationships would have been there.
But you know, when you're in a personal situation, you
don't really even though you talk a little bit. I
tell my business socials, but certain things you don't really
dive them all in, like open the door and say
have a seat in the living room and chill here
for a few days. It's not like that. Like certain
(17:00):
things you really have to it's between you and your
and your loved ones. It really is like, that's the
time to heal, that's the time to reset, that's the
time to reflect, that's the time to cut off. Because
I've never been in a situation where at some point
at the end of it somebody had to get cut
(17:22):
off in order for me to go to the next thing.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Exactly, sacrifice, had a sacrifice. I mean, queen you.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Do You're doing good though, come on, queen, you went
from Ohio living blocks away from Steve Harvey.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
That's a blessing. Like you're doing good. I'm proud of you.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Oh man, Steve Harvey, I got stories to days. He
lived ten blacks away. For me, I lived in Cleveland.
It was and not the nice part of Cleveland, like
everybody that showed those pictures on TV, you know when
the games are going on, and no, I lived in
(18:00):
literally the heart of Cleveland and it was it was not. Uh,
it wasn't easy. And to see what Steve Harvey did,
I said, I gotta meet that guy. Not for the optics.
I mean, I got optics for days that I will
never release to the public. I just won't. There's no
(18:21):
need to do that. But sitting with him and being
able to talk to someone who was in your neighborhood
and was able to build something. So I'm in tears again,
like so massive. You just know that it's possible, and
he can write me the biggest check and I would
(18:42):
not want the check. I want to know what makes
you think? How you think? How do you decide whether
to answer the two one six number? Because soon as
someone's guaranteed, soon as they see they know they you
know you'd be doing a little time and they're like, yeah, okay,
I hear you. But when you actually show up and
(19:04):
show out and do it, then they're they call it
he cuzmember me, Like really from you, like cousin, I
haven't talked to you since like I was nine, Like
what's up? You know what I mean? Like what's up?
And it teaches on that's I need reciprocity. I don't
care who you are. You can be my mother and
(19:27):
if you are bringing negative vibes, you're not bringing anything
that's conducive to my growth. I have to I have
to love you from a distance because I have to
make sure that I'm taking care of me first and
being around people that are negative, being around people who
talk down to you. That's not giving you that love
that you deserve on You don't deserve my time, and
(19:49):
that I don't. It does not matter who you are.
And I tell my daughter that too. She knows. Going back, like,
I apologize, Ma, because you know I don't play that like.
You have to take care of you. You, you come first,
and that is self love and it's not selfish whatsoever.
That is not selfish whatsoever. So here we are, Steve Harvey.
We have a conversation. I got to ask some questions.
(20:14):
I think it was amazing. He turned his staff away
and he kept talking to me. I was like, oh
my god, I gotta take this in, like I gotta
take this in. And I knew at that moment. I
don't know. That wasn't my first time on TV, but
it was something about that moment that said for it.
(20:38):
And I started doing my own events, these workshops titled
Unlock your Fears and Release your Fullest Potential. My I
did my first one and I didn't think anybody was
gonna come. I didn't care. It could be one person
on here and I'm talking because I love talking. I
love the camera and I was showing up and it
did it sold out and someone gave a donation, anonymous
(21:02):
donation like oh my god, I see you, and it
was like God, it was just basically guys saying, Okay,
you finally answered my call. I've been calling you. You
finally answer, Like, here you go. I need you to
do this. Not giving me money. So it could be
like oh, Sharon Togo get a car. It's like, hey,
take this and put that into the next event, you
(21:23):
know what I mean, and like and just keep growing it.
But when you have good friends, you can call them
up and say, hey, I got this idea, you know,
and the butter day, we ain't even talking the budget.
You're just telling the vision. And when they see that vision,
they don't. You don't talk money, you talk value. So
it's like it's just I don't know. It's just been
amazing to be able to just continuously share my story,
(21:47):
and not just my story, but also other people's story.
Even though I'm telling in the form of my experience,
someone can connect with that and say, yeah, I might
not have that fear, but I definitely have a fear
or something that's holding me back. I do have this dream,
but I don't know, like my husband or my wife
might leave me, you know what I mean, because it
(22:09):
takes some strong people to sustain. Like, think about me,
just me, I could just only share me being in
entertainment most of the time. I've been in studios with
guys all night long. Can you imagine if a guy
is like insecure or that will work? Like, no, you
(22:30):
can't mess with my bread and butter like this, this
is my bread and butter. This is what I have
to get back to the world. I'm here on purpose.
People have to be very careful with that. But yeah,
Steve Harvey, so.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
Questions, So how do you how do you cut people
off like that?
Speaker 3 (22:46):
So like, if you have a kind heart and you
have a good heart, and that person is not really
that bad of a person, But how do you cut
people off like that?
Speaker 2 (22:55):
That's not really adding value to your life? Person?
Speaker 1 (23:00):
You just cut him off? Let me tell you, Let
me tell you. Working in entertainment, you know, Like, yes,
I have this so boye and I got this smile
going on, and I'm not going to say like, oh
I got another side to me. Oh you don't know that.
That's not what I'm saying. Definitely, I just stand true
(23:22):
to who I am. What I believe, what I stand for,
and I learned that a long time ago when I
was a kid cut him off. How did I get
into the domestic violence relationship. I got into that because
I became my grief. I became the grief of what
(23:44):
I felt losing my daughter's father at twenty four years old.
He was murdered in our city, right murdered, done down
like at the dog, and that just wiped my whole.
I just can't see anything, like nothing, I do not
care because this guy that would have been nobody that
(24:04):
would have ever dated you know what I mean. But
when you find yourself in a vulnerable state, you walking
around with a cloud, anybody snaking just creep on through,
and you'll find yourself all sliberty and doing stuff that
you would normally never do because you in another universe
(24:24):
somewhere like I'm here physically, but mentally I'm somewhere else.
So I put them off. I just cut it off
like that, just as simple. Even in relationships, like I
even sat down with my eggs. We had a conversation.
We sat down like hey, you know, like I just
really this is time I'm feeling. You know, I love
(24:46):
you and I want to see you happy somehow, God
telling me that I'm not your wife. I feel that
and that's okay with me. You gotta be okay with
that too. But they don't always, though they don't always.
People don't always. They don't like the feeling of the unknown.
(25:07):
It's very scary, you know what I mean? I know you,
I know you sharing tell I know what makes you click.
I think I do. You know what I mean? Because
there's always something new to learn about somebody, and that's comfortable,
and it's very uncomfortable to have to meet someone else where.
People say, like I don't want to have to meet
somebody else all over again, Like what you never fully
(25:30):
know anybody? Why not your happiness? Right? But that's a
whole nother relationship show. But that's how I do you
Just you just love yourself enough that you know that. Yeah,
you know your works. You're not deserving of my time.
I need I need more of that circle that I
got and you ain't it. And that's okay.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
Yeah, we had a comment somebody said that change is
so hard when routine is set.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
So, I mean I definitely agree too.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
But one thing that Tdjke's told I love TJS by
the way.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
That's my guy, by the way, I do so.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Another manifestation of mind for sure.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Yeah, I'm telling I'm going to church one day, but
one day he said, is that you are attracted to
what you are exposed to.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
And I tell a lot of people that.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
So you have to want it, Like you said, you
have to love yourself and want change for yourself and
really get out of that situation for yourself because it
will be so hard to fall back in there because
if you with somebody for a long period of time
like you do, get set in that routine. So you
got to tear your mind, get past that barrier, that fear,
and really move forward and move past that right.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
And it's a work in progress. And you have to
be okay with that too. And that's the thing with
the ebook Fear for what It's literally like an easy
read like some of my friends. One of my friends
was like, I read it on the plane ride from
Texas to Atlanta. I was like, oh cool, thanks. And
it's just really practical things that you can work at
because sometimes some people don't know how to go cold
(27:03):
turkey and say, hey, all right, I'm leaving my house
in two cars. I'm going to New York City with
two hundred and fifty dollars, my baby and a stroller.
I don't know where I'm going to stay. Really, because
you can get there, people can be like, yeah, I
got you, and then a couple days they realized that,
you know, you ain't got that much to contribute other
than maybe you can clean up cook you know what
(27:24):
I'm saying, And they're like, oh, no, I need some money.
And then now you're in a situation, another situation. So people, Yeah,
change can be very, very uncomfortable, but it's absolutely necessary.
Decisions definitely determine destiny. Absolutely. Circum circumstances does not determine
(27:45):
destiny at all. Like where I am today, Absolutely, I'm
so grateful, but that's this ain't what I see done yet.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
You ain't done yet. You ah done yet?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
You know, I tell everybody you never want to get
complacent or detect with life. You know, you always want
trying to go to the next level every single year.
You want to be a better version of yourself every
single day. You know, working on yourself is like a
full time job, literally, like you have to commit to yourself.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
You have to love yourself. You have to really fight your.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Mom because every day, Queen, every day, because like if
you don't want to do something, your might going to
tell you go back to sleep or sit back down,
or don't do it.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Like you really have to fight your mind. Not used
to it.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
So definitely like working on yourself. And one thing Smith said,
like you love Will Smith. I love Will Smith. If
he said that, you know, God plays the best things
in life on the other side of terror, you know.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
That's true. That is definitely true. Doctor Oz has said
to me, he said, he you don't think that I
get afraid. I'm afraid when I come out here every
day and I'm like no, But it was just so
many gems that then too was dropping on me that day.
(29:01):
And because of that day, that's how I started the workshops,
you know, just from having that experience of sitting down
and talking to them. Definitions are not definance for definite,
I think definite, You think definite. Okay, the definitions are not.
(29:22):
I mean, you know, I don't know my class, I
need probably need glasses. Uh yeah, no, definitely no, definitely not.
But every day we're faced with decisions and choices that
have to be made. Every single day, every single day,
and how you set the tone for your day. There's
this other book that I'm a part of the Number
(29:42):
one I'm doing, like this point to it the Number
one Habit Series for Entrepreneurial Success. And there's the CEO
of UGS in there. There's some amazing boxers and producers.
There's me, uh, let's brown like it's really it's really
a cool thing. And it's talks about the habits. And
my number one habit that I learned was high management.
(30:08):
You know. I used to let the day just happen,
Like if somebody calls up, we're up the phone at
I just be like, what's up, you know, and then
before you know it, another hour and a half has
passed and I haven't really gotten anything done. But yet
I'm going seventy five hours a week plus. I learned
so much and that was the biggest lesson that I learned.
(30:29):
And so in that book, I share that journey of
what it looked like, you know, to create those habits.
Because what I realized was my friends that are millionaires, multimillionaires,
and I even know I think I know a couple
of billionaires. I don't know. I don't count any people's pockets,
but it's the habits, Like you watch their habits. They
have a morning routine. So I'm like, yeah, I'm going
(30:51):
to start. I want to you know. The goal is
four o'clock in the morning, one o'clock pm. I'm done
with deals, I'm done with emails. Now I'm playing ten
because I love to play tennis. I'm doing the things
that I love to do, and I'm spending time with
the people that I need to spend time with. Because
what I realized is that the emails. I used to
spend all day on emails, and they're not really an emergency,
Like you can really give yourself twenty four to forty
(31:13):
eight hours to answer those emails because if it is
an emergency, they got your number, they're gonna hit you
up on the phone, not in the email. So I'm like,
I just learned so much, and it's like you just
gotta be open to the possibilities of the unforeseen, the
unforeseen possibility. You gotta be open to that, like every
single day, renew your mind daily, what the good books is,
(31:35):
that's a real thing. Every single day. I gotta choose,
share and tell and say. She's like, oh, she was,
Oh my god, you're amazing, Like you see what you're doing.
I'd be in the mirror talking to myself like that,
like that's that's freaking amazing, like, oh my god, like
you're doing it and they like pump and then it
pumps me up and then I there's this DJ that
(31:56):
I like to listen to in the morning, like I
do things that are like really give me empt for
the day and also asking God to give me strength
for those things that may come against me that not
even come against me but look like a setback because
someone could die, someone can get sick, oh, dune whatever,
like so many things can happen, and you have to
(32:19):
also be ready for that too. You got to have
a mindset to be ready for that too. Yeah, be
transformed by the renewing of your mind at a booty.
I love those words. I love words. So amazing you too.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
Yeah, I do too. So tell us, Quinn, tell us
how we can get your book.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Oh yes, so this is really cool. I love this part.
It is on Amazon, Barnes and Noble. Is one of
my favorite stories.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
Right.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
So I was like one day I said, ooh, I
want to get my book. I want to have my
book as a noble like and it's just so amazing
to know that my book fear for what like when
you go to the birds and of a website, like
my book is there, Like that's absolutely amazing. And not
only is it that those two places, because those are
really too easy places that people know it's on sixty
(33:19):
six thousand digital outlets, like it's international. My Malaysian friends,
I absolutely love them, like they bought a bunch, like
a lot of digital ebooks, Like it's just so cool,
Like it's all over the world and it's such a small,
easy read. I'm so happy. And so when people think, like, oh,
(33:40):
people got books in them, like books, and they don't
even start because they're so worried about the result. How
many chapters am I going to self publish this or
I'm gonna get they don't even they don't have the
answers to that at all, but they have the first
chapter and they didn't even like write the first page
because so worried about the results. I want to tell people, like,
(34:02):
if they have a dream, you got a vision, trust
the process, yes, because people love saying trust the process.
I like to say, fall in love with it, like
fall in love with it. You know what we do,
We fall in love? Yeah, what aing that thing every day?
Like good, you're good? You need anything like when you
(34:23):
in love, Like smiling makes things so much better. So
imagine doing that with your your dreams and your visions.
Like I love my podcast, like I show up every
Tuesday and Thursday that it's an emergency and I am
there and I'm intentive to each and every guest because
it's like, oh my god, I'm really doing this and
(34:45):
this person is taking their like their spent they chose
to spend time. I spend money. I can get that
back time. Thirty six minutes have gone by and it
is gone, like everything that I said from this moment
before it's over, just like that. And I think that
(35:07):
I want to make sure that I'm spending my time
wisely and spending my time where I'm continuously evolving as
a woman, as a business woman, as an entrepreneur, as
a mother, all these titles, Like I want to make
sure that I'm being the best at every single one
of those. So yeah, tap into fear, Tap into fear
(35:28):
for what, because I just know that there are a
lot of people like that was just that studio audience.
But imagine those millions of people that were tuned into
us that day and was feeling like, I hate this
job I'm going to every day, like every day like
just literally so sucking crushing. You know, someone literally like
(35:53):
speaking down to you because they know that they have
your mortgage dangling over your head exactly the kids food,
how you going eat over your head? But you're still
staying faithful to it, Like a bad relationship. I'm still
gonna show up. I know you cheat, know me, I
(36:15):
know you ain't you know, respecting me, But I'm gonna
still keep I'm gonna stay here.
Speaker 2 (36:20):
I don't know why. I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
This is because it's comfortable.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
Kobe Bryant said the best god rest is soul.
Speaker 3 (36:25):
He said that if he wake up every morning dreading
to go to work and do something else.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
Like literally, I'm no longer with FedEx.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
You know, I've been WITHX for three and a half years,
and that job I master FedEx.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
I still love.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
I did twenty some houses per hour in the country
imagine meaning city. I'll go crazy, right, So I left
that job about three and a half years, and I
tell people fears everything, but you want to conquer your fear,
because through fear comes success. You know, God and God
in our place on earth to be average God, and
I place those on earth just trouble or any of that.
(37:01):
You know, God wasn't average, you know what I mean,
He had wine and all that other stuff like that's
the Bible, you know what I'm saying. He wasn't average.
So I tell people like God himself wasn't born to
be average, so he was. He didn't make us to
be average. He made us to be the best version
of ourselves. People do that, you know.
Speaker 1 (37:20):
Yes, absolutely every single day. I mean like I was
like you a pig, I'm like, yeah, I'm any time
that I can get an opportunity where I can say
you can do it, I'm telling you. And then you know,
when I get in in the morning, I'm like love,
light and energy to everybody. I hope you're doing well,
but if you're not, because I'm never oblivious to the
(37:43):
fact of people struggle because I felt that struggle. I've
been there, you know what I mean, I've been there.
I didne that. I wore the T shirt. I waited
on it every single month. The books that my grandmother
used to get or whatever those foodstand books that I
hated going to. So I hated it. Like people were like,
I don't know what's wrong with you. You better give
you your food steps. I'm like, oh, we gotta do better,
(38:05):
and then bone thus in harmony. They came out with
that song first of the month and the whole city
was rocking. And don't get me wrong, it's a dope song,
but the concept for me just didn't work because I'm like,
why am I sitting here? Why are we waiting? Like
by the fifteenth of the month, the refrigerator starts to
look a little scarce, and like for basically like two weeks,
(38:28):
you're just in there waiting and everybody at the back.
In my time, because I'm a little bit older, they
were waiting at the mailbox. It was not coming on
no card. They being down the mailman to get to
the check, you know, and waiting every single month. And
it's just like it was all it took, really, it
was for somebody to change their mindset, someone to say like, hey, yeah,
(38:51):
we're over here, but we're gonna own that store around
the corner. No, you can't come here and buy up
my neighborhood. This is ours, you know what I mean,
and it would have just lived totally different. But it's
not that. And I just want to be the voice
for the voiceless, and I want to hopefully put a
(39:12):
spark under that child that's back at home that yeah,
that's just like, oh man, my mom is beating on
me every day. But I got a dream. Don't let
go yo dream. That's what I tell the kids. Don't
let go your dream. I know, like it could be
really rough at home. Trust me this. I am not
here to be like, do you think it's great to
(39:34):
see me? I'm on TV. You can do it. No, Like,
the pain is real and it's real for those kids.
Like I talked to young men who literally gang member
selling drugs. He was like, I think it's like twelve.
It's like, tell I know that they even start younger
(39:55):
than that, because when I was growing up, I mean
some of my friends started at seven, you know what
I mean, and may go younger than that. I mean,
you can really groom little ones that they're like little soldiers,
Like you can really do that, and I know that
to be true. My daughter is a is like she's
(40:17):
a college graduate and I don't. I can't even remember
a time other than when she was in college that
she called and asked me for money. Honestly, it's not
even just about the money, but it's really the survival
of the fittest. It's really like if you have I'm sorry,
Like if you I'm sorry that I've talked to people
(40:39):
who have lost the entire family. What do you do
from there? You're gonna have to deal with it. You're
gonna have to feel the pain, right, You're gonna but
at some point you're gonna have to pick up, put
your big boots on, and get back in the race,
or you just get truffled over. Like my grandmother raised me,
(41:00):
you know what I mean. She she raised me to
not just not just survive, but really to thrive, like
go after your dreams, like do what you got to do,
but survive, like feel that pain, but you got to
get up and keep going. I love that book The
Art Award. Do you do you read that book?
Speaker 2 (41:17):
I haven't. I been. I need to read it though
I heard about it. I heard it's a great book.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Oh is it one right here? Oh it's right here
to Ooh manifestation come through? So yes, I look like
you know when you read, like when you got to
notice stuff like the Art of War. It is just
I love this book too because it's like one of
the limited ones with the with the red in it,
(41:42):
but it is so it's so dope. And I even
had a couple of I had a friend that came
on who uh I think he served in our rack,
Like he's been there in the battlefield. So he read
this book when we were talking about it, and it's
it's like exactly, that's how life is. Like you gotta
(42:04):
like how do you cut them off? You cut them off?
You know what I mean, Like you cut them off.
You gotta keep going like this is literally every single day.
It's like psychological warfare going on.
Speaker 2 (42:18):
Yeah, it is.
Speaker 3 (42:20):
I needed to hear that though. I really need to
hear that, man, you really queen, like, thank you. I
need to hear that far because you're right. You can't
bring people negative into your life and for the people
like to hold you back. You got the team to
could God gave you the vision, so you got the
team to press world with your vision.
Speaker 1 (42:35):
You know, you gotta press forward. That's why I like
Star Wars and all of those like you know sci
fi movies, because they literally am putting a mission and
it don't matter if they ship, you know how sometimes
it ship get hit by some flying orbit or whatever
and they're on fire, but nobody is really it looks
(42:56):
like they're freaking out, but everybody is moving in and
placing themselves in position. So you know what I mean,
Like as the ship going to the side, and we're
gonna you stand on that side, We're gonna stand on
that side, and we're just gonna hold on into you know,
until we land where we need to land, but we're not.
The mission is still the mission, and so that's how
I look at it every day. Like that's how I
(43:17):
made me cry when I watched that video because I
say that all the time. I even added children, I'm
like my mission to inspire men, women and children to
live beyond their fears. Pursue, not chase, because when you're
chasing things, you're saying that you don't deserve it and
it's gonna get away. Not chase. Pursue and step right
into it because we are ready who we are. I
(43:39):
was a millionaire before I was a speaker, before I
even I was telling people I'm a speaker. I had
not even been on No. One stage, and then one
was believe in me. I'm like, yes, they're like you
a speaker too, Like absolutely, I Am like they were like,
what do you speak about? Whatever? Pertains to whatever? I mean?
(44:00):
You know, I have tech friends, I speak that language.
You want to talk about that. I speak entrepreneurship. You
want to talk about that? Like we can, we can
talk ends. Let's let's do it. I mean, I love
that I'm so well rounded. I love that I'm so
well read. I love the fact that unfortunately my mom
cannot raise me. I love that I tell the kids
(44:22):
all the time that a lot of times we want
what we didn't what we feel that we didn't get,
when actually everything that's in front of us, whether it's pain,
whether it's struggle, whatever that is, that's what we needed
at that moment, and we have to embrace it, and
we have to know that it's not going to last forever. Right.
I live by that model. So yeah, I'm here, and
(44:45):
I'm grateful for it. In fear less.
Speaker 3 (44:51):
Thank you for just taking the time, because a lot
of queens need to hear that message that you know,
because I had enough, But kings on the podcast and
for a queen to come on and just be power.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
Put the ballast, bring the ballot because some more they
come in. We coming because it's cool. We're out here
like I brought. I brought some amazing, two excessful, beautiful
black women on my show. And it makes me so
(45:20):
proud and so excited because I remember there was a
time when I would hang out with girls who couldn't
even buy their own drink, and now we're hanging out
with women who have their own empire and you know
what I mean. And when I'm speaking, we are speaking
(45:40):
in the same language and they give me and it's
just so beautiful because we can inspire each other whether
they're not in the in the empire stage, that they
trust and believe they're on their way because I'm only
talking to movers and shakers at this point, like, look,
what's going on in the world. Don't have no time
(46:01):
to waste, none at all, So we were here. I'm excited.
This is absolutely amazing.
Speaker 3 (46:07):
By the way, thank you your time and just doing
this with me definitely inspired some heads to day because
we got a lot of comments, so real, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (46:19):
So you have any questions for me, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
I did have a question. Let me think, hold on,
hold on, you had shared the story and I had
came up with like five questions and now they're going,
that's all good. No, But what made you? When made
you start this? Because I mean you were doing your
thing early in the morning on club I was like
(46:46):
to motivate and inspire every time I see you, it's
just motivations. So and when we have the conversations on
club houses, motivations.
Speaker 3 (46:55):
So yeah, I just I wanted to get in. I
mean I I had a podcast for a while. I
just never really took the time to do it because
I didn't believe in my voice because you know, as
the kid has to get picked on by like by
a lot of people because talk mad fast, and they like,
what do you say?
Speaker 2 (47:12):
What you say and they.
Speaker 3 (47:13):
Mock me yourself it is nick me mad. So like
I never really got into having the confidence to do it.
But then being no Clubhouse and I tell people all
the time you listen, they may want to download Clubhouse
because that's that's go bringing the confidence.
Speaker 2 (47:25):
Right out of you. You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (47:28):
Choice exactly?
Speaker 3 (47:30):
Can you say it at home like you're saying at
home on the app, you know what I mean. That
gives you all the confidence to come most stage, talk
to people from around the world, not just locally or global,
but around the world, you know, nations and stuff like that,
and just connect with mad people and get and find
you a voice. And I think I found my voice
on Clubhouse, and I just wanted to start doing podcasting
(47:52):
and just having people who are doing great things, who
overcome the stress and doing great things in this world.
Speaker 2 (47:57):
Because all of us have a story, we should be
the example for our kids.
Speaker 1 (48:02):
You know.
Speaker 3 (48:02):
I love I love Lebron James, I love Kevin Durant.
But they got their own kids, got their own kids.
Speaker 2 (48:07):
Look up to them. It's not ours look up to us,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (48:11):
So yeah, absolutely, yeah. Clubhouse is so powerful because I
was on I'm on Bigo and I went into a
virtual room with a guy and he was speaking and
I said, I heard this voice before, right, So I
(48:31):
go on Clubhouse and look him up and there he
was and I said, oh my god. You know, I'm
in the comments like, oh my god, you and your
another yeah, yeah, yeah, that's me, like you know, And
it was just so crazy how powerful a voice can be. Like,
oh my goodness, I've been taking voice acting classes for
(48:52):
about a year. I'm like really studying and taking my
time with it because I really want to master it.
Like I don't even know if I can master it thing,
but I really want to be the best at it
because I just love animated movies and I want to
be a part of one, so I want to be like,
but yeah, oh man, that is absolutely amazing. Clubhouse is
(49:16):
definitely powerful. That's how I got one of my sponsors,
think cards. He's yeah, it came from we started from Clubhouse. Okay, yeah,
so I don't know. And then I now have a
new sponsor to Amazon Music, so I'm grateful for them
as well. So it's like, you guess, got to start
it and then the rest is history.
Speaker 2 (49:37):
Literally just got to do it.
Speaker 1 (49:40):
I'm glad you started.
Speaker 3 (49:41):
Oh yeah, you can't think about it, queen. We don't
think about it, and we think about anything. You're not
gonna do it, you know, you just gotta just do it.
So yeah, Queen, I don't thank you.
Speaker 1 (49:56):
That's that's what everything like. Think about a man like
the ARTI worm. It is a really dope book when
you read it. Let me know, it's so dope. But
when you think about a man at war, like if
he even taken guests, whether he should shoot this person
that looks suspicious he out of there, like go, And
(50:16):
we got to think about that with life, like let's
really life is so beautiful, yes, but we really need
to take it more serious and live with an intent
of something. It's always love for me, always love for me.
So yeah, thank you so much man for having me
on on this amazing podcast. This is so cool.
Speaker 3 (50:36):
Thank you for coming through. Sending love to you from
me and and kill it today. Continue doing great.
Speaker 1 (50:43):
Things you too. I'm so proud, like I'm like a
proud mama, like like I'm not much older than you,
but you know what I mean, like a problem mama.
Like when mama is proud, that's huge. Like when someone's
mom is probably they proudy you like, oh my god,
you think that's you think it's good, mom, Like that's
(51:04):
what That's what it feels like to see, you know,
be a part of your journey and seeing you grow
like a much success to you as well. I love brother,
I well done, King, You're welcome.
Speaker 2 (51:21):
I just want to say, Queen, look, go out there
and could today and have a blessful.
Speaker 3 (51:24):
Blessed forul day and to the audience, how to get
hold of you on I G Instagram.
Speaker 1 (51:30):
Oh yeah, they're gonna have to take you back out
and like type up the name, write it up because
it's long. It's Sharon Tell. It's Sharon Tell, dairt scale everywhere.
I am on Twitter, i am on YouTube, I'm on Bigo,
I'm on TikTok. I have a website, sharonteldirscale dot com. Yes,
(51:53):
I don't think that's old school. I'm holding on to that.
That's my that's my real estate, exactly, exactly, that's my
real estate. People. I didn't know how much money you
can make from just buying websites. That's a whole nother conversation. Yeah,
that's a real thing.
Speaker 2 (52:11):
Yeah, I sold like two websites already. Oh so you know,
I sold like two websites already.
Speaker 1 (52:19):
So definitely, it's like you on a monopoly board, do
not plans, go, do not collect, just let it keep
going and let it build and let it build. But yeah, wow, okay,
what was the question? Oh yeah, where they can find me?
So YouTube the fifth I'm sharing tel d everywhere, sharing
(52:41):
Tolddirskill dot Com. Fear for What you can find on Amazon.
Number one Habit Series for Success you can find on
Fine on Amazon. I also did a My Now Entrepreneur
because it's all about that whole creating, like that's what
it is. It's just literally creating what it is that
you love, like literally turning that into an empire. So
(53:02):
My Now Entrepreneur number one Habit Serious Success for Success
and Fear for What. So I'm three books in, let's
get it.
Speaker 2 (53:12):
I'm welcome to my first one. I'll be done. I'll
be done a few months my first one.
Speaker 3 (53:17):
You are.
Speaker 1 (53:21):
Lazios. Oh my gosh, I can't wait.
Speaker 2 (53:27):
A publish.
Speaker 1 (53:28):
I tried to put the do not disturbance over now
I don't know if it came back. Here. There we go,
all right, so there we go, phone springing.
Speaker 2 (53:39):
Yeah, I know, I know, I know, I know you
gotta go.
Speaker 3 (53:41):
I know you busically, queen, but yeah, thank you so
much for taking the time though, at your time and
just jumping on the podcast, you know, and just showing.
Speaker 1 (53:50):
Love because I know I went away.
Speaker 2 (53:53):
Oh it did you? Now? Is it my phone? Can you? Queen?
Speaker 1 (54:00):
It went away?
Speaker 2 (54:03):
What about now? What about now?
Speaker 1 (54:07):
Ah?
Speaker 3 (54:08):
Did all right, all right, that's cool, that's cool, all right,
Queen well, piece and blessings and I'll talk to you
piece and blessings. All right, all right, guys, yeah that
(54:30):
I hope you guys enjoyed the show. That was our
long show. We lost communication somehow she got a phone call.
But guys, thank you for tuning in, for all the
comments and all the family support. I'm loving it. And yeah, guys,
Champions Connet podcast were just beginning.
Speaker 2 (54:44):
Man.
Speaker 3 (54:44):
We had like four celebrities on the podcast already and
just the only beginning, man.
Speaker 2 (54:50):
Thank you all goes. Subscribe it on.
Speaker 3 (54:51):
YouTube, haven't yet, subscribe it on YouTube Champions Connects typing
Champions Connect podcast and it'll pop up. I'm Sean Jackson.
You guys, I have a blessful day. Go out there
and get that back
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