Ep. 466 Tired of Toxic Love? Let’s Talk Breaking the Bare Minimum Cycle ft. Kamilla Davis

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Yeah, yeah, Check one two, check one two.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
Is this Mike On? Is this Mike On? Hey listen man,
it's the.

Speaker 3 (00:07):
One and only Trenks that a DJ sis and you're
listening to cocktails Dirty Discussions with Kiki and Medina Monroe. Yeah,
today's cocktail is called I'm tired and I need a
glass of rose. And so what we have is just
a simple glass of some blush rose and it is

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rather tasty. I was a real working woman today, Kiki,
and this drink is really giving me life.

Speaker 4 (00:37):
I am so.

Speaker 1 (00:37):
Glad that it is this particular wine Epanina. It's a
sparkling rose.

Speaker 2 (00:42):
I got it from.

Speaker 1 (00:43):
I don't know if you guys have ever heard of
naked wines. I'll drop a little cold. I think I
have one for them. But they sent me a birthday
gift of a case of wine. Uh, but they do
a subscription, and I don't know, don't get me to line,
but it's something good about the wine. I don't think
it has additives. And then you're so a boarding local
farmers and other stuff that matters. So yeah, I mean,

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I love it.

Speaker 3 (01:05):
I feel good to know while we're at it, if
you have a liquor brand or a wine brand, and
you would love to sponsor the cocktail portion.

Speaker 2 (01:11):
Hit us up.

Speaker 1 (01:12):
Yeah, anyway, welcome back to Cocktails Dirty Discussions, you guys.
I'm Kiki said.

Speaker 4 (01:18):
So, hey, y'all, I'm Medina Monroe.

Speaker 1 (01:20):
I'm trying really hard not to look like what I'm
going through, but y'all, I'm tired. So if I did,
thank you, I'm going to slap a face song because
this is not what I was looking like earlier, let
me tell you. But that's all right because today we
do have a guest. But before we get to her,
I love Mandina share any quick announcements that she has
and then I'll share mine.

Speaker 3 (01:39):
Not much, okay, so really quick, you guys, I have
decided and I stuck to the decision. I am doing
a lover Girl experience giveaway. So if you haven't followed
me on Instagram yet, or if you haven't looked on Instagram,
look at the lover Girl giveaway click the link in
my bio.

Speaker 4 (01:55):
If I can remember, I'll send Kiki the link.

Speaker 3 (01:57):
There's a form you have to fill out and you
have to submit a wom minute video and there's some
other ways to kind of expand your ways of winning.
But this is a trip to Thailand. You'll see all
the details when you click on the form to fill
it out. I won't give you all those details right now, so.

Speaker 4 (02:09):
Make sure you click it.

Speaker 3 (02:10):
Join if you know someone who just really needs a getaway,
If you're a rich girl and you can afford to go, well,
the trips held out, but come on the next one.
But you can also nominate a friend or somebody that
you know just needs a little break. Maybe they've never
been out of the country and I got their spot
on their retreat. Also really quick. It is Breast cancer
Awareness month. My girlfriend has created a nonprofit. It is

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called Lula's Legacy of Love Foundation in honor of her mother.
They have their walk coming up in Tampa, Florida. So
if you can make it on October twenty fifth and
you live in Tampa, go ahead and go. Or you
can donate go to Lula's Legacy of Love Foundation dot
org and tell them we sent you or not. You
actually don't even got to tell them. Just donate or
go to the walk. And another thing for all the moms.
Last week I said it was for the single moms.
This is actually for all the moms who just need

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some friends. Apparently I'll be having some rough times with
them kids, So make sure you guys follow thevil dot
Atl get all the information on their meetups and the
dinner that she is sponsoring.

Speaker 4 (03:03):
You can also sponsor a mom that you know needs
another little break.

Speaker 3 (03:06):
We're just trying to give the women some breaks because
they tied, They tied, they tired, they tired.

Speaker 4 (03:10):
So yes, the eighteenth, that's the eighteenth.

Speaker 1 (03:13):
Oh so it passed, but y'all still follow.

Speaker 3 (03:15):
This yeah, because she does different meetups throughout the month,
So theviil dot Atl.

Speaker 1 (03:20):
Okay, you guys, and I want to remind you guys
that the trip to Hedonism too and the Girl Jamaica
is coming up. It is coming quick, fastening, hurry now.
We are not giving away any free spots on the trip,
but deposits are low. There's still a few spots and
what I can tell you people will be giving out
is dick and pussy. So if you want some, come

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on down to Hedonism and have a good time. Also,
like you, no pressure if you don't want to have sex,
but people are gonna be ready to have a good time.
I've been seeing people talk in the Facebook group and
life is stressful, and so many people are just really
looking forward to going here, whether they're going there to
get these sexual rocks off or not. And I also

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want to let you guys know there's a lot of
people who've been asking a ton of questions. Join the
Facebook group. When you actually book your spot, you can
join the separate group that is for all the paid members.
Don't be going in there being anonymous. People are really respectful.
Nobody in this specific group with worse behavior tour is
going to be trying to like put you on blast
or anything. These people got real jobs, real careers, real lives,
and they are not trying to do any mess. They

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really just want to know who you are because they
want to make sure you're not the weirdo. So go
ahead and join us. Come on down. There's a link
in there. And I also want to make sure that
if you're thinking about going alone, that you can sign
up my DMS. You can hit them up. There's a
lot of different people that you can contact. But I
do want to let everyone know, especially the ladies, like
they are really big on consent. If something happens, speak up,

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say something, and that motherfucker will go home and you
don't even have to worry about it. But they don't
really have many incidents like that because people are generally
very respectful. More people are shy than not until about
nine three or four. So y'all come on down. If
you have more questions, hit me up. I've seen some
beautiful people who have signed up for this December trip
is December thirteenth or the eighteenth. I hope to see

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you there and then everything else. Check the link in
the description. I also hope you guys have been enjoying
my content from this trip. When I get back, I
cannot wait to tell you about it. But we're recording
this a couple of days before I leave, so we'll
talk in a few weeks.

Speaker 3 (05:20):
All right, that's it, okay, y'all. This week we do
have a guest, and we have a comedian. Y'all know
I love a good comedian, and y'all it's just sound good, yeah,
good good.

Speaker 2 (05:29):
I am a comedian. Group of y'all know.

Speaker 3 (05:30):
I'll be at every show looking at I think I'm
like a manager or something in my past life. Maybe
I managed comedians. I don't know, because I'll be acting
like I know the talent and apparently I do so, y'all.
This week we have Camilla Davis, akak Davis. I've seen
you perform. You are so funny. Welcome to cocktails.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
Thank you. I'm glad to be here. You're so so spoken.

Speaker 1 (05:49):
It's the Southern Valley. Where are you from?

Speaker 2 (05:51):
Mississippi?

Speaker 5 (05:52):
What part small town? Grew up in Panola County started Mississippi?
And then I had the I'm almost.

Speaker 4 (05:57):
Where is that in the state?

Speaker 2 (06:00):
Say you know where Memphis, Tennessee is. It's about probably
about thirty five minutes from me, so mid South. Yeah, okay,
did you watch Pea Valley Kenda? Not really?

Speaker 4 (06:10):
Okay, Yeah, okay, okay.

Speaker 1 (06:15):
Show still ain't came back. I don't understand what happened.

Speaker 2 (06:18):
It just went a.

Speaker 1 (06:19):
Long break and now they're talking about this coming baby.
We don't know what. Everybody get a new job.

Speaker 2 (06:24):
It's I was really liking that show. So okay.

Speaker 4 (06:27):
So you're from in Sippy your comedian.

Speaker 3 (06:29):
I was looking at your page the other day, and
you're not just a comedian, you're also a motivational speaker,
an actress.

Speaker 2 (06:36):
Yes, and I ain't know all that.

Speaker 3 (06:38):
So tell me a little bit about the type of
content you like. To create the types of things you
like to act in or have, and then like, what
do you motivational speak about?

Speaker 2 (06:46):
That was a weird way to.

Speaker 1 (06:47):
Ask how do you motivate people?

Speaker 5 (06:50):
Because I've been through a lot, and like you said,
I don't look like what I've been through and going
through a live you know. So when I motivational speak,
I like to talk about things that would inspire.

Speaker 2 (06:59):
Pece people to keep pushing, keep going.

Speaker 5 (07:02):
So I'll take a little bit about like the life,
like the life lessons and talk about it, and then
even more of a like even in the entertainment industry,
you know, like so for example, if you want to
I mean, if you want to grow in your career,
you need the network. So I may speak about that,
and then I talk about like how when I was
homeless and stuff. So I like to encourage people that

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despite what you're going through, you have to keep going
to overcome the storm, like you can't just if you
just sit.

Speaker 2 (07:29):
In it and you'll never come up out of it,
You'll never of it.

Speaker 3 (07:31):
Even though something when you be going through some of
the rough ones, you find yourself sitting in it.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
And then you be like, get on up, get you
on that guy, But send the track and I'm on
the breakthrough. Now come I hear a song?

Speaker 1 (07:42):
Can I get to something?

Speaker 4 (07:43):
The other day I was like, God, do you still
talk to people?

Speaker 2 (07:47):
Is there a new way? Are you taxting? Like Moses?
You can't write on down and spoke to them like
you can, Okay? Actress. I love actors. I love the arts,
all all of the things arts.

Speaker 3 (07:58):
You would think that I'm an actress not, but I
just love the people that decided to do it because
that's a lot of rejection. I'll like when people are
like I'm gonna act, It's like you're signing up for
a bunch of no's. And my brother's an actor, so
I'll be saying it and I'd be like, wow, y'all
be really in it? Yeah, what drew you to acting?

Speaker 2 (08:19):
I believe it or not.

Speaker 5 (08:20):
Growing up, I was like involved in a whole bunch
of like drama.

Speaker 2 (08:25):
Classes and schools, so drama club. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (08:28):
Becoming from somebody that grew up in the trenches, I
didn't have the fund. It's too fun my career to
be a child actress. So as I grew up, you know,
I constantly kept doing things throughout high school, like news
related and acting in high school. So then when I
went to college, I actually got a degree in broadcasting,
but me too Mississippi State University.

Speaker 2 (08:48):
Look, I got to say it's the best, the biggest
college in the state of Mississippi. I will say that,
go dogs Hell State forever. But honestly, just because I
always wanted to act.

Speaker 5 (09:01):
So when I realized when I got my degree, I'm
like news kind of too sophisticated. And then I got
to thinking about all the things I've gone through, I
was like, you know, I want to do something that
I can showcase my personality and my talent outside of
like because I interned at a news station, so I'm
always sophisticated and stuff like that. But I'm like, no,
I play a lot, so I want to get into
something that I could showcase that. But that's what kind

(09:23):
of led me into a comedy and so acting.

Speaker 3 (09:27):
So if you can work with any director or not,
if you could, because you will, who is a director
or an actor or an actress that you would love
to work with one day.

Speaker 5 (09:36):
I know it's proud of cliche, but of course Tyler
period because his life story is similar to mine in
a lot of ways, So I definitely want to would
like to work with him direct, Like I've done background
work for one of his shows, but I would like
to just live and direct, have a conversation with him,
and you know, just talk to him.

Speaker 2 (09:53):
I feel like he would love you.

Speaker 3 (09:54):
I was an extra in one of his shows when
I was going to try to be an actor, and
then I realized my feelings. But I was an extra
on one of his shows, and they feed you so well.

Speaker 2 (10:02):
On a Tyler, Perry said he'd be heard by the
end of the night.

Speaker 3 (10:05):
But you're gonna eat you that do baked salmon with love,
and he is good.

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Speaker 3 (12:42):
Okay, so before we get into today's episode, we're going
to play a game with you. Kiki and I created
a conversational card game. It's called I'm Curious to Know,
So We're gonna ask you a few questions to get
you to get to know you even more, and then
we will get to weird techs.

Speaker 1 (12:55):
You got a card, Kiki, I do, okay, So I'm
curious to know how often do you actually use condoms?

Speaker 5 (13:02):
Every time I have sex? But I don't have six
that much, so every blue moond because but you.

Speaker 1 (13:08):
Could also say one if it's every time?

Speaker 2 (13:10):
I always? Yeah, always.

Speaker 1 (13:14):
That's very responsible, very smart.

Speaker 3 (13:16):
Okay, I'm curious. What's the biggest age gap you've you
have dated her?

Speaker 2 (13:22):
The biggest age gap.

Speaker 5 (13:24):
I'm in my thirties, he like fifty two, so we
kind of dated a little bit. I feel like it
was more of like a now you in a low place,
so you kind of just want somebody.

Speaker 2 (13:33):
To talk to.

Speaker 5 (13:35):
Several times friends and stuff though, So he was a
great person throughout that time. But I guess like because
the age different, the things that I want is still
like he have children and I don't.

Speaker 2 (13:45):
I still desire your.

Speaker 5 (13:46):
Kids, but he's at the age that I mean, his
kid's grown and you to manage and stuff. Yeah, so
it's like we're friends, I mean cool, but there's nothing
you know.

Speaker 3 (13:55):
Yeah, it's always good to have a good old man
under your belt. That is a good person. You have
a little car trouble, I got you, baby, It's like
it's like a dad.

Speaker 2 (14:07):
For me.

Speaker 5 (14:07):
I would say it's like a dad because I have
a brother that that's fifty and a sister that about
to be fifty. So it's like I look at it.
I ain't gonna look at him like a big brother.
But it's like not even a daddy uncle.

Speaker 3 (14:17):
But you could call on somebody, you can do a
little extra, you might get.

Speaker 1 (14:24):
I did have an old man when I first moved
to Atlanta. I don't know where I met him, but
I had a raggedy car and he used to help
me get it fixed. But eventually he got mad because
I wasn't giving up ship, so he was mad. He
cussed me out and right, and I'm like, oh, you
better stop for your pressure get too hot.

Speaker 2 (14:46):
Ship.

Speaker 1 (14:47):
You on the phone, he was all loud at the
windows down his pickup truck and everything, and I was like,
you really need pop down. You're gonna suck around have
an aneurysm, a stroke or something. I don't know, like
who told you to do this? Anyway? Okay, what what
did your parents, think of the last person you dated.

Speaker 2 (15:06):
It's rough. My mom died when I was fourteen and
started this sentiment of ship.

Speaker 5 (15:13):
But yeah, my dad like he cool, but I didn't
grow up with him, so I never let anybody meet him.

Speaker 1 (15:19):
But did they meet your older siblings or who'd you
grow up with?

Speaker 5 (15:23):
I mean, I grew up with my mom until she passed,
but then my older siblings, I don't think I ever
really let nobody meet them.

Speaker 2 (15:29):
It was weird, Like.

Speaker 1 (15:31):
I'm the same way I get it until that one time. Anyway,
got another car?

Speaker 3 (15:36):
Okay, I'm curious to know how often do you need
to talk to someone you're dating every day?

Speaker 2 (15:43):
Like your multiple Yeah, because you go multiple time?

Speaker 5 (15:47):
Yes, yeah, check in because I feel like if you
go like an eighth to ten hour spand without thinking
about me, I feel like you don't like me no more.

Speaker 2 (15:54):
Yeah, like it ain't I.

Speaker 1 (15:56):
Don't feel like talk on the phone. I was like
a text to check again.

Speaker 5 (16:00):
But talk on the phone at least multiple times a
day because if we talk in the morning time, ain't
no way I'm gonna wait till the next day to
hear from you again.

Speaker 4 (16:06):
That's true.

Speaker 5 (16:08):
You have to be constent you know, but you're gonna
make time for who and what you wanna make time
for you.

Speaker 1 (16:12):
But like what if you're really busy with work, you
got a job where I can't build the phone with you.
I gotta talk to my clients.

Speaker 5 (16:18):
I'm being real to you then, so you probably ain't
got the space to be dated if you don't got
the time to be there, even though you're gonna make
time for what you wanna make time for. But if
you know that your schedule is so busy that you
can't fit nobody in there but yourself, you really don't
need to be talking to me.

Speaker 1 (16:28):
I'm just gonna be real with you, y'all are but
don't call me all day every day. I mean day, Well,
you said multiple times a day for an hour times
I mean I said, I slept two hours, and I
still don't need you calling me throughout the other.

Speaker 3 (16:44):
Take on this because I'm the same as you. I
want to talk throughout the day. It's not an all
day every day. But also I don't date that. Don't
also think like that. If that's a problem for you,
it's we're just not gonna be a match. And you're
not only calling me.

Speaker 4 (16:56):
I'm calling you.

Speaker 3 (16:56):
It might just be a quick like, oh my gosh,
let me tell you what happened real quick. But if
we just go the whole entire day without talking to
each other, I don't know how we're connecting. But not
like breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

Speaker 7 (17:05):
Yes, before you go to bed every day is fine,
But I mean the every day times and everything.

Speaker 1 (17:17):
Sometimes I'd be like, I don't feel like talking. I
need a nap. You don't even talking like that. You
even need to live because I.

Speaker 5 (17:26):
Know about working twenty four hours in a day, because
that's not only how many hours left in the day.
So ain't nobody working twenty four hours?

Speaker 1 (17:32):
Well yeah, yeah, but I also don't want to talk.
Now I got another question. This ain't on the cards,
but now I'm just really curious before we go into
weird sex. Now, throughout your days, how much time do
you like both of you to just have for just you.
Maybe you're soaking in the bathtub, you praying, you listen
to music, listen to a podcast, whatever you like to

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do in your me time. How often do you need
me time in a week and in a day, Because
that's what I need multiple times.

Speaker 2 (18:02):
Today every day. Now I got to have a meat time.

Speaker 5 (18:05):
And the person that I'm getting to, you know, talking
to a day, and I want you to have your
meat time too.

Speaker 2 (18:09):
However, you know, we still need to talk.

Speaker 1 (18:11):
But we'll tie into that. But yeah, I'm just curious.

Speaker 5 (18:14):
Yeah, I have me time every day. Like my phone
actually been on doing not to Start since twenty seventeen, and.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
That is the best feet chain it. I love that
shit and I hate to turn off.

Speaker 5 (18:23):
And I live on an emergency call when it like
like my sister because she has kids or something and
like that. But everybody don't get the emergency call. If
I talk to you every day or I feel like
I hear from you enough, then you get the privilege
to be on a mercy call. But I protect my
peace spot and it means necessary.

Speaker 2 (18:38):
So I got me Friday.

Speaker 3 (18:40):
Yeah, because same, My mornings are very sacred for me,
and I get that and I take it and I
don't take it lightly.

Speaker 4 (18:47):
I take like an hour in the morning for me in.

Speaker 2 (18:51):
The evening time.

Speaker 3 (18:52):
Also, there's this there's a right before I go to bed,
I have like this routine that involves me talking to God,
doing all my things, getting everything out, maybe a little
journal I'm learning with the older I don't really enjoy journaling,
and so that's when I get a little meant time.

Speaker 4 (19:04):
But Sundays and.

Speaker 1 (19:06):
I'm not even a lot.

Speaker 5 (19:07):
I get a little Saturday, Sunday, Saturday, Monday right there.

Speaker 4 (19:14):
Today be my days and it feels so refreshing.

Speaker 3 (19:20):
And when you sometimes when I sit down and I reflect,
I am like, while I love my path, I'm not
saying like, oh my god, I regret everything.

Speaker 2 (19:28):
But I used to go out. I am not.

Speaker 3 (19:31):
Kidding you, Camilla. From Thursday to Wednesday. I'm talking about
it was a brunch on Saturday and then a party
Saturday night, brunch on Sunday and a party maybe, and
then we get up on Monday evening. It might be
a comedy show. Well, a little drink happy hour Tuesday.
It's a comedy show at two five five on people.
I mean, I sometimes look at life now and I'm like,

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oh my gosh, I wholeheartedly enjoy my Saturday, A calm
Saturday night evening. Definitely, Sunday definitely is my day of
Like I wake up, I go to church and nobody
is disrupting, and I might have an open house and
then I go home I make a little meal and
that's like my my one mill time. Yeah, and then
I really let me tell you all this real quick
because I did a little deep dive into the luteal

(20:16):
phase of your minstrual cycle.

Speaker 2 (20:18):
Do you know what that is?

Speaker 3 (20:19):
I didn't know what this wasn until last weekend because
I did no, okay, keep going.

Speaker 2 (20:26):
So I was again like.

Speaker 3 (20:27):
A Saturday night, like I was like laying there and
I'm just I was I had put I had paused
my little show and for some reason, I was about
to start my period. I looked on my app and
I was like, I'm feeling so tired today, like I
just couldn't do anything, and so I started looking into it.
I got on my app, my flow app, and I
looked like you're in your ludial phase. And I was like,
what exactly is that? Like we're always like pms. I'm

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feeling away, I'm hungry, I'm getting bigger, Like what's happening?
Mine is coming. I'm telling everybody about themselves, y'all. I
saw I do this deep dive I fall into I'm
in a rabbit hole. I'm just like there's men making videos,
there's women making these videos.

Speaker 4 (21:02):
They're saying that.

Speaker 3 (21:03):
Like when you are when a woman's in her luteal phase,
you are the most in tune with yourself than you
are throughout the whole month. And so sometimes people take
that and they look at it like you're being crazy,
You're you're.

Speaker 2 (21:15):
Going off on people.

Speaker 3 (21:17):
A lot of the deep dives that I did, and
I asked chat GPT because there were some men that were.

Speaker 4 (21:20):
Saying they crazy to want they don't want to and
then there were other people that had in it.

Speaker 1 (21:25):
How did y'all?

Speaker 3 (21:25):
But there were some men that were really like in
tune with it, and they were like, and the women,
this is a phase where like you're tired, you don't
need to push through that tier. You need to actually
lay down. You need to get nine hours of sleep.
If you can take the day off, you need to
take the day off. You need to like rest. If
a problem comes up and you feel like you need
to tell somebody about themselves, it's actually not you being crazy.
It's your body trying to tell you something about this situal.

Speaker 2 (21:47):
I mean, y'all.

Speaker 3 (21:49):
I was like, so you're not going crazy. They're like, no,
you're not going crazy. Your body is at the most
in tune with you, and it's trying to speak to you,
and you need to just have a calm day and listen,
I said, And I did, and I told so many
people about them.

Speaker 4 (22:03):
I was like, so here, I was, so I've never
been that clear in my life.

Speaker 5 (22:07):
Oh my god, I'm literally going through that right now.
I swear to go like I'm going through there right now.
And I was literally thinking the other day, I was like, dang,
I'm kind of snapping.

Speaker 2 (22:15):
Am I tripping?

Speaker 5 (22:16):
Like why why did I say it like that? And
it's like so direct, It's so direct my tongue. Sometimes
I spare folks, But then I'm going through there like
it's no or if I like I said what I said, like,
I'm not going back and forth about X y Z
or what I just said.

Speaker 2 (22:32):
I'm literally in their face. Is it okay?

Speaker 3 (22:35):
Let me go ahead and tell you all the story
then before we get to because I I really thought
this was wild and sorry to the young man that
I'm not going to say your name if you listen
to it is no disrespect. So this weekend, the gate
at my complex was malfunctioning and it hit my car
and that's why I'm in a different vehicle right now.

Speaker 4 (22:52):
My car is in the shop for four weeks. WHOA
really damn it?

Speaker 3 (22:56):
The damaged my car so and it's and it closed
on it and then it's lid down my car so
it ripped the back bumper.

Speaker 2 (23:02):
All for the rest of the year.

Speaker 3 (23:08):
Was like, Oh my gosh. I was like, oh my gosh, Like,
so I park and I get out. I look, there's
this guy that recently resurfaced back in my life.

Speaker 4 (23:17):
Well, first of all, let me be honest, there there
was a new guy in.

Speaker 2 (23:22):
Trying to come back. Now, mind you.

Speaker 4 (23:25):
Both of them been hitting me up every day? Do
you need anything?

Speaker 3 (23:28):
Love?

Speaker 1 (23:28):
When black people say now mind you, that is crazy.
Now mind you, that's when it's getting good.

Speaker 3 (23:34):
Now, this specific one, the cowboy, I was so excited,
like black cowboy, he hadn't hitting me up every day,
like like I can't wait to help you with something.

Speaker 4 (23:42):
He specifically said that I'm.

Speaker 3 (23:44):
Not the type of woman where I'm just about to
be like, I'm not one of the normal Atlanta girls.
I'm gonna be like by my rant, I'm trying to
be like a good wholesome woman. And so I am
starting to be over it as well.

Speaker 2 (23:55):
I love the Atlanta girl, and I love the.

Speaker 4 (23:57):
Way see good. Yeah, I'm tired.

Speaker 2 (24:02):
So he has been.

Speaker 3 (24:02):
So I mean, just like this, this what you want, right,
He's not my boyfriend, and he's like courting me, doing
all the things, and I can't wait to help you.

Speaker 4 (24:10):
If you ever need anything, let me know. Well that
evening I was like, you know what.

Speaker 2 (24:13):
He called me. I picked up and I told him
what had happened with my.

Speaker 3 (24:15):
Vehicle, not like, you know, oh my god, I get it,
but I told him and I was like, he just
happened to call.

Speaker 4 (24:20):
Yeah, He's like, all right, okay, Cary me back.

Speaker 2 (24:23):
All right, wait that's all he said.

Speaker 1 (24:25):
Excuse me, cowboy, you better hold those fucking horses. What
the hell is going on?

Speaker 3 (24:30):
So I got off the phone. I was like, you
know what, because I'm still a growing up, I'm ana
handle what I need to handle. But I made a
mental note and I wouldn't have normally done that. I'm
in my luteo phase. So then the whole night goes by.
He don't call me, the other dude don't call me,
and the other one don't even text, and everybody really
been texting it to.

Speaker 1 (24:45):
The block party. Bitch because I would have been over.

Speaker 2 (24:47):
So then I was like, I.

Speaker 3 (24:48):
Go to sleep, But really I was focused on him
because you're the one that was specifically saying all the
things you wanted to do.

Speaker 2 (24:53):
Volunteer.

Speaker 3 (24:54):
Yeah. So and he and he's older, so we I
wake up in the morning, he only sends like he
normally sends, like a good morning text, this beautiful mess.
Nothing the whole days they oh my God, said he
was gonna send autobody shot.

Speaker 4 (25:07):
Nothing was sent to me. And I normally would be like,
let me call and be like, did.

Speaker 2 (25:10):
You do you have the No.

Speaker 3 (25:11):
I woke up early, got everything handled. He called me
that night and he said girl the whole day. So
my body was telling me, I don't want to jump
to conclusions, but I was talking to myself, you've been
working at a girl jump conclusions. But I feel like
you avoided me this whole day because you've heard that
I had the car problem and you don't want me
to ask you for help. And so so then he

(25:34):
texted me and I kind of sent something short back
and then he said, I feel like there's an energy
ships and then I.

Speaker 1 (25:38):
Said you know what it is?

Speaker 2 (25:39):
And you know what? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (25:40):
Hell yeah, I said, let's talk about it. He calls me,
We get on the phone, works. We get on the
phone and I said, I'm going to be very clear
with you. I've never I don't think I've ever been
this clear. And I was like, oh my gosh, the
Ludia will really have you telling people about themselves respectfully?
I said, listening, I'm not even gonnae of you that
it has shit did the energy had shifted because I

(26:02):
feel like, well, I just thought what I just told y'all,
I feel like you didn't contact me all day because
you felt like I was going to ask you for
help with my vehicle, which I had no I wasn't
gonna do that, but it would have been nice for
you to check on me. How you've been checking on
me every day when I didn't need anything.

Speaker 2 (26:16):
And at the end of.

Speaker 3 (26:17):
The day, I would like a man who that comes
naturally to you are emotionally in tune to a woman's needs.
And it is no disrespect towards you. You're probably a
wonderful guy, but you not the one for me. So
there's no reason to even continue this because this is wild.
You call me at the very end of the day, Well,
did you get a handled. Absolutely, I'm a grown up.

Speaker 1 (26:36):
That was his response to what you said.

Speaker 5 (26:38):
And I would have said, cause somebody else handled it.
I was somebody else.

Speaker 1 (26:43):
And then sometimes you want to be a little.

Speaker 5 (26:47):
Me said, even if nobody else would have except me,
but I would would have.

Speaker 3 (26:52):
You said, you can't just let this slide slide sliding
except for CUPI period.

Speaker 2 (27:01):
I was.

Speaker 3 (27:01):
And then I got off the phone. He said, so
this is like done? Oh no, no, no, it's done.

Speaker 1 (27:06):
Do you feel.

Speaker 2 (27:08):
Said I want a man?

Speaker 1 (27:10):
Who is this? You are not that?

Speaker 5 (27:12):
Then you volunteering and you're not even coming through. Ain't
nobody asked you to say that to me?

Speaker 2 (27:16):
Nobody?

Speaker 3 (27:16):
I should just say that. I was just so proud
of myself. I got off the phone, didn't text back nothing.
I was just like, wow, that with your night routine,
chumped on some ice yep, and I turned that could
have been some type of I feel like a confirmation.

Speaker 5 (27:30):
Just say if you want to say, like that could be.
I guess that happened for a reason, for him to
say that, for you to cut him off, because down
the road you probably realize he wasn't for you know.

Speaker 3 (27:39):
Or imagine this, imagine I would have over thought something
and been like, that's so rude for me to assume
that you were gonna, as a man helped me with
my vehicle, or even just at the bare minimum check
on me.

Speaker 1 (27:49):
Or as a person who offered when I didn't need there.

Speaker 4 (27:53):
I hold you accountable.

Speaker 3 (27:55):
Yeah, you know what's just like I started to be
like wow, Like, as a black woman, you really do
have to speak up for yourself. It doesn't matter if
you are like, oh my god, people are going to
think I'm some Oh well, right, I just.

Speaker 1 (28:06):
Want to say I want to commend you. You were
questioning on the show and then convos and stuff like,
I don't know if I should. I don't think I'm
ready at this. How you know, God, I've been working
on you because you would have You probably would have
let some shit. You would have made some excuses or
like I wouldn't trusted mysel size some stuff.

Speaker 3 (28:23):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (28:23):
Let me just consider what he has to say. It's like, no,
I'm good, and you did it before too. This ain't
the first time. Wow, So who was the third? The
other one had to cut.

Speaker 3 (28:32):
Him off to I just yet that one I didn't
even he just he said so that one's done. That
one was just like I was like, oh, this is
just everything is just done, y'all. I'm not doing this.
You have a right to have a one, and it's
okay to voice that this is not gonna work. I
will never be disrespectful, but yeah, no, this is not
I'm not doing this. You think I just came out
of heartbreak to jump into another one.

Speaker 2 (28:50):
Everything to offer that somebody is looking for.

Speaker 5 (28:51):
We don't have to let these men make us guess
like ourself and our own thoughts and stuff.

Speaker 2 (28:56):
That's where I'm at with it right now. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (28:58):
Same, it felt good. It feels good to trust yourself,
trust yourself. Yeah, because like people will try to convince
you that you need to play the game of numbers.

Speaker 1 (29:07):
I don't need sixty husbands. I'm not Elizabeth Taylor. I
just care like I just need one to be even
need one to be a match. But if one is
a match, that is good enough for me. I don't
need multiple. So I don't need to be everybody's cup
of tea. I need my cup of tea to make
sure that I'm their cup of tea. And that's it.

(29:30):
I think that a lot of times people and this
is when you end up in pick me territory. You
are trying so hard to be attractive and appealing to
so many people, you lose sight of yourself if you
even had a thought of who you were. And I
just want us to stop doing that, Like figure out
who you are, what you want, and it's okay if

(29:50):
everybody don't like it, You're gonna feel so much better
when you get to that point. I wasn't always there,
but I'm there now because yeah, it can be fuck everybody,
and I have a good time at home, me my
WiFi and my acy and my dog. Sometimes she could
she she ate my AirPod, that's what it was. And
I got the new AirPod pro she ate it.

Speaker 2 (30:11):
She ate.

Speaker 1 (30:12):
I took her for a walk, and I'm picking up
that goddamn shit. What do I see the little the
tiny piece that goes in your ear that's interchangeable in
another piece. So Sunday morning, I wake up, she just
sitting there. I guess she hit the remote with her pause.
She's watching Real Housewives somehow. Now we do watch it
together and that was the thing we watched for but
fell asleep. But she watching Housewives and she's just chomping

(30:32):
on something. But I'm like, we're in my bedroom. The
door is closed, you haven't been out of the room.
What could you possibly be chewing on? Some looking around?
And see my phone it's on the charge. That's good,
I thought. I put both air pods in the case.
I don't know she opened that bitch up when I
was sleep or not, but I pulled it out of
her mouth like a real mother would do. You gotta
stick your hand in that nasty mouth anyway. I see

(30:55):
like a chip, like a little microchy. I don't like
what the fucking is? What are it's not a robot?
Did you throw up your micro.

Speaker 2 (31:04):
Got?

Speaker 1 (31:04):
God, there's a glitchen matrix. I don't know, y'all know,
I've been deep in the sci fi. I didn't know
what the hell was going on. And then I said,
I know, you lie, I know you fucking line. The
big part, the big round part came out and she's like,
you know, the dogs made call that noise? And I
was like, go out there, look at me, Like, but.

Speaker 4 (31:22):
You share a room.

Speaker 1 (31:23):
She has a room and a little house. I didn't
want to give her a doggy metal crape cage because
I thought it was given jail, and like I told
you before we started, I knew I was adopting a
boogie black girl. That's why her name is Whitley Beyonce Gilbert.
She's born on September fourth. I'll have to show you
pictures afterwards. That's why her middle name is Beyonce. And
I really reber my last time because it's boring. Anyways,

(31:45):
I'm very disappointed in her. She had an attitude when
I left, but I turned on calming music for dogs
and I left her.

Speaker 2 (31:52):
She didn't get a pop.

Speaker 1 (31:55):
Well, I'm not there yet, okay, definitely.

Speaker 3 (31:59):
Now.

Speaker 1 (31:59):
One time she made and dropped a new wine glass
that was a gift, and I knew it was pricy,
and I was very upset because it's also like, girl,
we could both hurt ourselves so many little shirts of glass.
So I popped her, but then I felt so bad.
It was so sad, and then I went and got
her like a puppy popsicle. I'm a soft ass mama,
you okay, And that's why I just see my girl

(32:19):
that's get in trouble. It's just like five of the time. Okay.
So we're gonna move on to weird text and then
we're gonna talk about some more mess. You said a
man is not a necessity.

Speaker 2 (32:31):
A man is a luxury like dessert. Yeah, a man
is absolutely not necessity.

Speaker 1 (32:37):
Did you mean that to sound mean it bitter?

Speaker 3 (32:41):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (32:41):
Not at all.

Speaker 2 (32:43):
I adore dessert.

Speaker 1 (32:44):
I love man, and I think men are the coolest,
but you don't.

Speaker 2 (32:47):
Really need them to live. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (32:53):
Okay, So this week's weird sex story. Y'all, don't ask
me what color this woman is. Just look at my face.
That's irrelevant in this story. Now, there was a woman
from Ohio. Maybe that'll be the news state I say

(33:14):
stuff about because I did fuss at Willie and say
I rescued you from Ohio? Girl, Did you really want
to live out there at the farm When I got you,
you were dirty. I cleaned you up and I gave
you a soft life. You don't even work, girl, you'd
be even better than me anyway. Okay, So this Ohio
woman is wanted. Oh, I ain't gonna say too much.
I don't know. We'll see y'all. Let me know in

(33:35):
the comments if you think we should be able to
look out for her or not. But this Ohio woman
is wanted. She broke into her boyfriend's home.

Speaker 2 (33:42):
Oh lord, and she.

Speaker 1 (33:45):
Sliced up his boss. Now, allegedly, let me just tell
y'all a little bit more, she turned into the butcher
from Ohio. So, according to documents, somebody who's around forty
five is face seeing felonious assault and aggravated burglary charges
following an incident that occurred relatively recently this month. Okay, So,

(34:09):
the investigators alleged that she forcefully kicked open the front
door of her boyfriend's home and entered without permission. Sounds
like she just might have thought he was sleep and
he just fell asleep, and so she just had to
get in there because she had a pee, right, Okay,
So anyways, she entered without permission. The man told police
he heard someone breaking in and went downstairs to investigate,

(34:31):
and he wasn't wearing a clothes. Well, the affidavit says
the door kicker cut the man's testicles with an unknown instrument,
causing a severe laceration that left the area clearly exposed.
She tried to do an orgiectomy. He was taken to
a hospital for treatment. Court records show that a warrant
has been issued for her rest. So she so she

(34:53):
must be in hiding and made him put her picture everywhere.
I don't know if she I don't want to show
you the picture. It don't look like she was kicking
the door in her hair is still it's not just
chefid you look like an r N. She looks like
a little scrub. Somebody had her fucked up. Maybe she

(35:14):
was in her ludio phase.

Speaker 4 (35:15):
I don't know, But you're.

Speaker 1 (35:16):
Not just craziest relative.

Speaker 2 (35:20):
I don't know, y'all.

Speaker 1 (35:22):
Isn't your cousin that's the victim, And like I just
want I'm ready for the trial. I'm gonna keep my
eyes on this one because I need to see what
happens in court and I need to know why did
you slice his boss off? Did he give you something?

Speaker 2 (35:35):
He probably won the phone.

Speaker 1 (35:38):
I think it was more than that, but I mean
it could be. People do be a little throat off
in the hair. You just never know anyway. One of
our listeners sent me this story. Thank y'all, because I
ain't seen no mess like this in a minute. But
I feel like the stories you're going to be picking up.
It's getting colder outside. People are getting laid off, and
times are hard and that's when everybody really gets to
nothing up. So y'all keep them coming, thank you.

Speaker 2 (36:00):
That's it.

Speaker 3 (36:01):
That weird text is just getting weirder and weirder every week. Okay,
this is such a random question and it has popped
in my head last night when I was putting these
notes in Cameila. How long is too long to keep
leftovers like food?

Speaker 2 (36:15):
Food? I mean four day hours, like about two days.

Speaker 5 (36:19):
It's trying to get rid of it. But it all
depends on the food, like hamburgers and stuff. Well, I
won't even keep that as a leftover, but like spaghetti
and stuff. Maybe about three days with spaghetti, but something
like seafood, yeah, seafood and stuff like that.

Speaker 2 (36:34):
Yeah about you don't even like leftover.

Speaker 1 (36:37):
I don't like leftovers, but every now and again, either
me or somebody else and put their foot in it
and I will eat it. And gumbo is best the
next day, and it's like a few other things. And chili, Yeah,
like chili. You could eat on that for a while.
What I've been doing with the chili and the gumbo,
lots of those things like that. I will vacuum cel
it and freeze it because I'm gonna want to eat
it some more, and I don't want to be on

(36:58):
the toilet after What do you think what happened?

Speaker 3 (37:01):
Girl? Well? I don't want people think I'm talking about them,
but you know, someone you're look at people's fridge and
you'd be like, why is this here to go?

Speaker 2 (37:07):
Food? In here?

Speaker 1 (37:09):
Did they not get around to like are they eating it?

Speaker 3 (37:11):
I don't know because I feel like it's rude to ask,
like why are you looking to here?

Speaker 2 (37:16):
Well?

Speaker 1 (37:16):
Yeah, why were you?

Speaker 2 (37:17):
Because I was just being nosy?

Speaker 4 (37:18):
Okay, okay, what did you start doing comedy?

Speaker 3 (37:23):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (37:23):
What made me start doing comedy? And how long have
you been doing comedy?

Speaker 5 (37:27):
Since twenty nineteen? So October ninth, twenty nineteen. My little
backstory of this girl that was one of my colleagues.
She put together a show February twenty eighteen, right before
I graduated college, and I tried it, but I.

Speaker 2 (37:39):
Really wasn't feeling it. Were you good? Yeah?

Speaker 5 (37:41):
I was good at actually, like me out of all
the ones that was on the show, I was just like,
I don't.

Speaker 2 (37:45):
Know what I'm doing.

Speaker 5 (37:46):
You are on the stage, Oh yeah, I just I
just be fooling around. So it was like I wasn't
feeling it because it took me a long time to
accept being a comedian.

Speaker 2 (37:55):
I'm like, I'm not a comedian, Like I'm like this,
you know.

Speaker 1 (37:58):
It would just be living sometimes.

Speaker 5 (38:00):
Yeah, because I've really just sometimes be having a conversation
and people be laughing at me, like or whatever. So
then I came here, when I moved to Atlanta, I
tried it again, like twenty night, like June twenty nineteen.
I still wasn't feeling it. But October twenty nineteen, that's
when I felt a shift and it was like, Okay,
you need to be doing this really.

Speaker 3 (38:18):
So did you do what comedians doing, like have to
write your set or were you just like I can.

Speaker 2 (38:23):
Just go out there and try this.

Speaker 5 (38:25):
Sometimes I write, or throughout the day, I'll take my
phone out and go to my notes and I make
bullet points, like when I see certain stuff or I
think of something, I'll put it in my phone or
write it down and then I'll write around it.

Speaker 3 (38:37):
So, what do you think is the most difficult part
about being a comedian? Because I just adore y'all so
much I wish I could.

Speaker 2 (38:41):
Do it the most.

Speaker 4 (38:44):
Wait, the most difficult part about being a comedian.

Speaker 5 (38:49):
I guess doing what you need to do. I guess
to try to get to that next level because it
does take sometimes some people it don't happen overnight, but
some people they can do it within the first ten
years and then they because they'd be.

Speaker 2 (39:02):
Saying, oh, you gotta get X amount of hours to
do X y Z.

Speaker 5 (39:05):
So that's a difficult part of it, like trying to
do it full time.

Speaker 2 (39:09):
Early in the beginning, Yeah, it was like real estate.

Speaker 5 (39:13):
Yeah, so you know, because you have to keep a
side job or something because company ain't really gonna pay.

Speaker 2 (39:18):
Right like that, but like you want this show. It's
ten dollars right.

Speaker 1 (39:23):
There, need some chicken.

Speaker 2 (39:26):
Drink.

Speaker 3 (39:27):
It's like if I ever was in that position, I'd
be like, we're gonna pay y'all, Like this is absolutely wild.

Speaker 2 (39:32):
Let me ask you this.

Speaker 3 (39:33):
Do you feel like it's a different You feel different
performing in front of a white crowd than a black crowd.

Speaker 2 (39:39):
It's one harder than the other.

Speaker 5 (39:41):
Oh, I'm kind of sort of because to be real
with you, white people they slip laugh at everything, like
you could just cough and they probably start laughing.

Speaker 2 (39:49):
I'm like, gosh, you got covid though, they are not
the reason to laugh.

Speaker 5 (39:54):
But black people, yes, it can be a little hard
because some black people they look at it like, oh
what they talking about?

Speaker 2 (40:00):
Are they talking about that? Or but I did notice too.

Speaker 5 (40:03):
Just because people not laughing doesn't mean that you're not
always funny, because some people be listening, you know. So,
but black people are typically harder to make laughing.

Speaker 1 (40:12):
White people, you are gonna be looking at you like,
make me laugh. I still had to buy these two drinks, bitch,
I need make us do that.

Speaker 2 (40:25):
All the comedy shows they can make.

Speaker 1 (40:27):
Some money because so some people not think about if
you had an open mic, and it's all these starving artists,
these comedians who are trying to make it. They not
buying ship, they drinking in the car. If they drink,
they're gonna eat a little snack before they get there.
They're gonna try and get something off of somebody else.
And it's just a room full of people that's not

(40:47):
spending no money. How the funk We're gonna pay them,
you know. And you also can't charge too much when
you have talent that is not super popular. Yet I
have a question, Uh, we have performed in comedy clubs
when we've done our live shows. I hate how close
people be, but I was sitting earlier because they really
do look at you make me laugh and I'm just like,

(41:08):
can y'all turn the motherfucking lights down or something? Oh,
y'all can see up my nostrils. Anyway, idly said, you
don't have a lot of sex. Are you dating or not?

Speaker 5 (41:22):
Love myself dating earlier this year, but that shit didn't
work out.

Speaker 1 (41:26):
It can be raggedy. Have you ever made jokes about
somebody you were dating or previously dated or thought about
dating and they heard you and got.

Speaker 2 (41:36):
Me absolutely what happened? Did you care?

Speaker 1 (41:39):
Because sometimes it's not.

Speaker 5 (41:41):
I didn't care because it's like that's how you did me, Like,
that's how you made me feel, So you do.

Speaker 2 (41:46):
I mean. Okay.

Speaker 5 (41:48):
One guy, he was actually another comedian, so that was
very weird to be in the same spot. He actually
told me that I was intimidating. I don't see how
because I guess, you know, like I dressed up and stuff.
I'm very late that I think that is sorry you
and timid dayn and stuff. So you try to you
know how people try to play in your face. So
they tried to play and play in my face. But
then when I got on the stage, I started.

Speaker 2 (42:07):
Like throwing.

Speaker 5 (42:10):
Then, yeah, that's what it was. But I didn't throw
shade out through the whole tree. And I know like
that it was about him, so it kind of yeah,
you could tell that he knew it was about him,
so it kind of got a little weird.

Speaker 1 (42:22):
Yeah, well, well you can get over it. Do you
know a lot of comedians here. How long have you
been in Atlanta?

Speaker 2 (42:29):
Well it's been seven seven years.

Speaker 1 (42:31):
Okay, so you moved here right after college at.

Speaker 5 (42:33):
Thirty days later, God for real, I brought one hundred
dollars to my name in the old regular carpets in Atlanta.

Speaker 2 (42:39):
It's like it's just time to go, like after college,
like being in Startville, Mississippi, from my college it's located.

Speaker 5 (42:44):
I'm just like, what's next. And I was going through
a breakup too, so I didn't leave the run from that.

Speaker 2 (42:49):
But he kind of left.

Speaker 5 (42:50):
He was like, I'm not about to follow you. I
didn't want him to follow me. I'm just like, you
want to move and do something different because he was
from Memphis. But he didn't want to.

Speaker 2 (42:57):
So I just packed my stuff up and just left,
like swear just apply for a job and just left.

Speaker 4 (43:02):
Yeah, that's good.

Speaker 1 (43:03):
I'm glad you decided to do that for yourself. Seem
like it's paying off.

Speaker 5 (43:07):
Yes it is. I'm having like ups and downs, but
it's definitely paying.

Speaker 2 (43:10):
Off, or I get it.

Speaker 3 (43:11):
I noticed on your Instagram you talk a lot publicly
about the rough times that you have experienced. Now, I
didn't know that you had experienced homelessness before about three times.

Speaker 1 (43:21):
Are there here here.

Speaker 2 (43:26):
And homeless once in Mississippi, But it's been a lot here.

Speaker 4 (43:28):
When did you start feeling comfortable enough to share that
with people?

Speaker 5 (43:33):
Usually right after I overcome it so they won't have
ammunition to use against me. So like typically in the
first So if I was homeless when I got the place,
I was cool to talk about it because it's like, Okay,
God didn't take you do this and just keep it
for yourself. Somebody need to hear it. So it was
like something tugging at me to say it.

Speaker 3 (43:49):
You know, it's interesting that you say that, because yesterday
I was talking to a friend who, like you, are,
talk about something with somebody, get you hear their real
views on something, and you're kind of like, I know,
there's freedom of each but I don't want to be
your friend anymore.

Speaker 1 (44:01):
Yeah, I think that you have the freedom to make
that choice.

Speaker 2 (44:05):
Yeah, I was like really torn.

Speaker 3 (44:06):
But I was talking to a guy friend of mine
who was also older, and he was like, I don't
understand why Aishugarry had to get on the internet and
share how she felt about what she said? Are you familar?
Do you know what she said? She said it wasn't
even that bad. She said that her plan was never
to just like get into marriage and kids, something along
the lines that she didn't say I hate my husband
and I hate my life, and she just said that

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wasn't that's not what she would have chosen for herself
the way that it came like in.

Speaker 1 (44:30):
Her her love her life, in her head.

Speaker 3 (44:33):
Yeah, she had her own plan basically. And so my
guy friend was like, I just don't understand why women
would do that. Women are ruining marriages and she's borah
and women are leading the divorces. Now he was getting
there are the data.

Speaker 1 (44:48):
Is showing that we are we're talking to the sign.
Oh man, I was so upset.

Speaker 3 (44:55):
So he was like, the percentages right now, we pulled
the percentages up and women are now. They're the ones
like I'm getting out of this and I said, yeah,
but you need to yeah filing, I said, but you
don't think the numbers are high.

Speaker 2 (45:05):
But you wouldn't.

Speaker 3 (45:06):
Why wouldn't you get curious and be like, wow, maybe
something is wrong. He's like, they're just trying to They're
just trying to ruin families and break them up.

Speaker 2 (45:12):
I was like, what in the nineteen fifties are you
talking like? I said?

Speaker 4 (45:16):
Aisha Curry said what.

Speaker 3 (45:18):
Her plan was, and then that she had a different
plan for her life. Like that's okay to say that,
and it's okay, he said, But why she have to
share that with people? I said, because she's helping somebody.

Speaker 1 (45:29):
And she's also having an interview.

Speaker 3 (45:31):
And she's having an interview. I'm pretty sure she talked,
he husband. But even if she didn't, there are women
that feel like they're stuck, or maybe feel like they
It could make you feel you could have negative thoughts
if you start to be like I shouldn't be feeling
like this, Like sometimes I have her new moms be
like I don't know if I can do this, but
they don't talk about it because they feel like that
makes you a bad mom. No, you have normal feelings,
you have normal thoughts, and it's okay to share your

(45:53):
testimony and share your feelings. You have no idea what
young woman she's helping them might be like, you know what, Okay,
so it is a okay that this is not really
what I chose for my life, and maybe I'll get alone.

Speaker 2 (46:04):
I'm not alone in this.

Speaker 3 (46:05):
Women seek community when we're feeling bad about a thought
or anything about life. We share it because you don't
know who you're helping, and I just I think it's
so important. Sometimes feel that you don't got to share
all your business though you don't that.

Speaker 1 (46:18):
Be your you be right, sir?

Speaker 2 (46:21):
Like that, y'all, And you.

Speaker 1 (46:24):
Know what, I don't give a fuck what the things
say about who is filing. It's two people in a marriage,
so so what if it's a lot of women that
are filing. That's because y'all would be perfectly happy continuing
to stay in stagnant relationships, unhappy relationships because a lot
of times y'all are the ones who are more likely
to do shit, get caught and then expect somebody to

(46:45):
do it and say something like, oh you grandparents and
grandparents and grandparents. Boy, fuck you and your granny too,
because you know what, guess why it was not that
long ago that we as women couldn't even have bank accounts.
It was out of survival. There's all so a reason
that your granny was always cooking meals because it was
a little bit of rat poison and arsenic and all

(47:05):
those mills. That's why granddaddy's stomach was all bother us.

Speaker 3 (47:08):
And why was with fourteen year olds that like, come on,
don't take it back to the day When I said
the bank account statement, he was like, oh, I didn't
know that, and sign I need to stop talking. You
need to pick up a book and do some research
about emotions, about feelings, just about relationships before you start
trying to talk about them.

Speaker 2 (47:27):
I was so mad.

Speaker 3 (47:28):
I was like, I don't want to know you anymore
because I can't believe that I know someone who is
thinking like that.

Speaker 5 (47:34):
I literally was on the phone with someone last night
having a conversation similar to exactly what we're talking about.

Speaker 2 (47:40):
He said, why are women saying that they're tired?

Speaker 3 (47:42):
I said, I don't even have kids, and I can
listen to women and be like, oh, I said, there
is an invisible way that I have seen several women
take on.

Speaker 1 (47:55):
Women are just asking men.

Speaker 3 (47:57):
To get emotionally aware, not even saying like take care
of the kids by yourself.

Speaker 4 (48:02):
It's I told him, I said, it is not.

Speaker 1 (48:04):
You've never even heard a woman say that, Actually not,
because it's not even expected if someone be unrealistic, like
do I want my kids to die? I mean when
you look at kids and they know how to talk
normally because the mom took the time to teach them
before they go to school. If someone has to stop
working a little bit, it's because y'a don't want them
to go to daycare. It's normally gonna.

Speaker 2 (48:23):
Be the woman.

Speaker 1 (48:24):
You would look at your wife crazy.

Speaker 3 (48:26):
She was like, you know, husband, could you stop working
a little bit so I can keep doing my dreams?

Speaker 4 (48:30):
He would say absolutely not, Like and it's it's.

Speaker 1 (48:33):
Like, why are y'all battling it?

Speaker 2 (48:35):
It's not a battle.

Speaker 3 (48:36):
Just they women will stay with you fifty five years
and thirty of them.

Speaker 1 (48:39):
They was asking you, could you just share with me
how you feel? And you're like, no, can we just
talk about some of these things? Could you give me
a day off? Could you take me on a day
Could we just go to therapy. No, you just want
everything right. I'm working so hard. You go to work
where you don't fucking think you in their weld and shit,
and then you come home waiting for your hungry man dinner,

(49:01):
for your pre meal, and you still want me to
make some goddamn meat loaf. My back is get bigger
by the hour. And then that's the once you get
your eyes checked, that's gonna be another thing you complain about. Like,
I'm motherfucking tired. I've heard of you the dog and
the keys.

Speaker 2 (49:16):
Women is tired.

Speaker 1 (49:17):
I don't even have tired.

Speaker 2 (49:19):
I'm tired for y'all because I said, moms, like, when
are you gonna get me?

Speaker 3 (49:21):
I said, don't you ever ask me? Don't stop asking me.
That asked me when I'm gonna be a millionaire.

Speaker 1 (49:26):
I'm not different to your makes.

Speaker 2 (49:30):
I'm tired. I don't know if I could do this anymore.

Speaker 3 (49:32):
It's already too much just dating y'all, talking about stuff
that don't make no sense.

Speaker 4 (49:36):
Go to therapy, pick up a book and read it.

Speaker 1 (49:39):
I just want to some of them to bathe real good,
every crack and crevice. Let's just start. Let's start at
the roof, get clean. Maybe if you get some of
that dirt and mess up out of you from up
under you and get in that.

Speaker 3 (49:52):
So speaking of getting in your butt crack and cleaning,
tell me what you think about this. I was talking
about this in my love Girl group chat and I
was like, y'all, I need some advice. How would you
feel if you were spending the night with a gentleman
who was good and grown.

Speaker 1 (50:05):
An actual gentleman.

Speaker 3 (50:07):
Well, no, just like, okay, he is gentle.

Speaker 4 (50:12):
He wasn't like because y'all say that poster.

Speaker 3 (50:14):
It was like the minute acting crazy because y'all they're
not getting hit with pots and pans no more.

Speaker 2 (50:17):
No.

Speaker 3 (50:18):
But I wish it wouldn't get seen it. I wanted
to look, I wanted to repost me. I didn't want
my church people to see it.

Speaker 1 (50:24):
Well send it to me, I'll be reposting like that.

Speaker 3 (50:27):
So I was like, I'm really big on cleanliness, like
and like it, like if i I'm getting a shower
at night before that butt touched that bed, And how
would you feel if you were out all day with
a man and he You're like, okay, it's something you know,
I'm gonna get a shower and he doesn't get a shower.

Speaker 5 (50:45):
Oh my gosh. I can't stand it because it was
a guy that I know that was doing.

Speaker 1 (50:48):
I'm just like, okay, and you don't want to be rude,
like both got to do it.

Speaker 5 (50:52):
I guess what I say. I was like, okay, the
face towel and a big towel in there.

Speaker 2 (50:56):
You know.

Speaker 5 (50:56):
I started throwing hints and stuff. Then I'm like, yeah,
because I know why you not about it. It's so
embarrassing because like why ain't you getting in the shower
and you see me getting in there?

Speaker 2 (51:04):
Please don't touch me either, like don't get behind me
or nothing like.

Speaker 3 (51:06):
And he is touching yeah, Like he's like what, like
what if he doesn't get in the shower?

Speaker 4 (51:11):
Like would you say something? Would you just we live?

Speaker 1 (51:13):
I'm sorry, I'm gonna spending the night. Well he got
a couch. Yeah, but it's my phone dad, because I
call it uber. You know, I say something.

Speaker 2 (51:21):
I'm not gonna lie to you. I say something. I
don't even know. I I'm just very direct.

Speaker 3 (51:24):
I'm like, what if you said something like someone's did
and you say you're not gonna get in a shower
and he's like I took one this morning.

Speaker 5 (51:29):
And I'm gonna be like, okay, like she said, I'm
get well, ain't gonna have to call it uber. I
probably drove or he drove. If I'm at my house
and he there, I'm gonna I probably just go let him.
I'm not gonna let him have a bed. I'm asking
him to get on the couch or the flow or something.

Speaker 1 (51:41):
But yeah, there have been times where I didn't want
nobody to touch me, and I was like, I'm just
gonna lay on the couch because I was too tired.
I didn't want to go home, and so I was
just like, maybe if he feels like this dirty bitch,
he won't he gonna get in the shower. Yeah, I
just want to go to sleep. Like we've been drinking

(52:01):
all day. I just want to take a little nap
and then I'm going home. Whatever. Well, that didn't work,
so I don't think it works in the reverse. But
if we are getting in my bed with my fresh linens,
even if they're a little stale, like come on, I
just don't understand why you want to be there with
somebody else and they're doing it but you're not.

Speaker 4 (52:21):
Just this is the perfect time to be a follower.

Speaker 5 (52:24):
Yeah, and then I started making a screech to like
my stomach cramping a song unless you go get in
the shower, because yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3 (52:30):
When I was talking about it in my group, chest
some a lot of girls like, on this is like
that's a red flag to me, Like that's a bad habit.
And then some of the girls are like, well, it's
a habit that it can be worked on. I don't
want to at the least get in the show. There's
already so much we're.

Speaker 2 (52:42):
Gonna have to work on.

Speaker 3 (52:43):
If we have kids, I got to take care of them.
We already know that.

Speaker 1 (52:47):
I'd be like some kids.

Speaker 2 (52:51):
Or if you wake up the next day and I
don't or when he brings clothes over me, I don't
like it.

Speaker 1 (52:59):
We're not brushing your cheese. Bothers me more than the
shower part. And you want to talk, you're you want
to you want some coachy and don't kids me. Don't
be spending my pussy.

Speaker 3 (53:11):
You want this top tear premium pussyfection.

Speaker 7 (53:21):
Right.

Speaker 2 (53:22):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (53:25):
Sometimes it just like I just feel like it's women
we don't get taught. Even still, it's hard for me
to speak up for myself because I should have just
been you know what, I'm gonna go home.

Speaker 2 (53:32):
I didn't.

Speaker 3 (53:32):
I just I was just like, I couldn't sleep.

Speaker 2 (53:40):
On the couch.

Speaker 1 (53:41):
I'm just curious.

Speaker 4 (53:43):
It was a lot of animals, and so it was
just either way it was.

Speaker 2 (53:48):
It was just a lot.

Speaker 1 (53:49):
Wait a minute, Wait a minute.

Speaker 3 (53:50):
What do you mean it was like animals, like it
was just a I like dogs, but it's like if
you got more than two dogs, really more than one.

Speaker 2 (53:58):
It's just too much.

Speaker 3 (53:59):
How much of service house was still it was just
like I was trying to picture it was. It was
big dogs, big dogs, big old dogs, all just running
around everywhere.

Speaker 2 (54:09):
So I couldn't.

Speaker 3 (54:10):
I wasn't the couch wasn't an option, Yeah, because that's
they Yeah, it's.

Speaker 2 (54:14):
A turn off.

Speaker 5 (54:15):
But okay, I mightn't let you slide one time, but
if I see that you're doing this every time, we're
more than more than you mean a regular day like
I have it or something, I'm like, I ain't gonna
like it.

Speaker 1 (54:26):
Yeah, because I can't let somebody slide. Sometimes I need
somebody let me. Sometimes you just be sof in the morning,
but right now I just gotta lay down. You just
both be dirty and do y'all.

Speaker 4 (54:36):
Look at the quality of people's soaps and their towels?

Speaker 2 (54:38):
Like yeah, says something about.

Speaker 1 (54:42):
Number one for me is the toilet tissue one play.
First of all, you stole this from the lease in
office or for the world store of the gas stage,
because where do you even buy that? Like I said
many a time, I love to get ship delivered, even
because everything was out and I had to order something

(55:02):
from Go Puff again. Uh, can somebody call me anyway?
Go Puff brand of toilet tissues? Still like one plot,
I had to get it for emergency until I can
make it to the store. But I was like, I
can't really be using this. This is an emergency only.
But if you got that little shit, it's gonna be
like the little Sharman bears and you got all that
shit in your ass. Yeah, it's interesting, like hinostrous booty

(55:25):
that I told you about earlier.

Speaker 2 (55:26):
When you pay.

Speaker 3 (55:27):
Attention to some of those key details of a person's
life is not a judgment, but it is just like,
what is a judgment? What type of life do you want?
There are certain things that I even look at again
in the fridge.

Speaker 1 (55:38):
It's like you.

Speaker 3 (55:39):
Shouldn't this again, y'all, this is not a judgment, but
you should not be cooking with canola oil like you
need like you need to get some olive oil with
certain with vegetables and stuff like that's just not healthy
certain butters. It's like you need like do we care
about our health? Like I really am looking at it
like I'm gonna be single. I think I'm gonna say
it because I just think that that it's like an

(56:00):
outrageous discussion with certain people. But it again again, like
we said at the beginning of the show, you needn't
want what you need and you want and I pray
that you're not cooking with it's not good.

Speaker 5 (56:13):
So like bath towels like they're raggedy, because the reason
why I pay attention to stuff like that because I'm
actually from the trenches, like the slums. But but there's
not an excuse, like you would never know that I
went through like deep poverty or whatever because I'm gonna
get some new towel.

Speaker 2 (56:25):
They only cost a few dollars at Walmart.

Speaker 5 (56:27):
It's just the thought of like are you going to
continue to just use these raggedy towels or the soap
all the way down to a nube, Like why aren't you.

Speaker 1 (56:34):
I'm absolutely judging any and everybody that is adding water
to the soap or if you.

Speaker 2 (56:39):
Don't have is shaking it up like.

Speaker 1 (56:43):
You need hand soap. I understand when you run out,
don't in fight nobody over. I'm so sorry, y'all give
me al this.

Speaker 3 (56:50):
The soap is on the way. But like I had
to ye and again, somebody gonna have a woman over,
like even if you're favoring it, like you need to
just go get the town. I was even if this
is just you're having a woman over, like, come on, bro, my.

Speaker 1 (57:03):
Hand sanitizer, my pooperri and my wipe that tush white.

Speaker 3 (57:07):
Yes, And to what you were saying, it doesn't matter
where you're from. Like I grew up, a lot of
my family members am not like they grew where we
would go it was rough. You still are clean. Like
when you walk into the house, you get to decide
what this is gonna look like, you know what, I
know what you have, Yes, work with what you got.

Speaker 5 (57:25):
But when you just like, yeah, you're gonna cut a
big til and made little pieces and stuff.

Speaker 3 (57:32):
That you might be going through something. And now as
I'm seeing you don't address those things.

Speaker 1 (57:36):
Now, do you have another question? Speaking of the towels,
When y'all have raggedy towels, do you if a hole
is torn or like a bleach shain or something gets
on them or they're white, they gotta say, do you
immediately throw them out? Or do you have like a
special set of towels that you use for cleaning.

Speaker 4 (57:56):
So there's two things.

Speaker 3 (57:57):
I'll either let it be for cleaning or for my dog,
Like now when Shan gets out of when I give
her about the little crazy looking towels are for her
or she I'll give her an extra one to sleep on,
or she old she needs a lot of cushion. I'll
just like, well, this is gonna be yours, girl. I
don't throw them away immediately, because you know, if you
have a leak or something spills, you can just use those.

Speaker 2 (58:17):
So that's what I do.

Speaker 4 (58:18):
But I surely would not give it to a guess.

Speaker 1 (58:21):
Oh absolutely not. And when I know I'm having people over,
like I like when people come and they stay, like
when my family and stuff comes, I will take my
I go through them towels and watch them again. Bleaching
fabric all that, and I need to make sure they're
good and fluffy. All the bad towels that I'm still
holding on to that ain't all the way bad. But
it's like, okay, girl, next month, you need a new set.

(58:43):
I am putting the best ones out for the guests,
and then I'll take the ones that's like, okay, you're
on your last days. I don't like when people don't
do that for me, and I make a mental note
of it.

Speaker 4 (58:53):
Yeah, it's it's important.

Speaker 2 (58:56):
If you're struggling with some of the things you don't
know me what to order.

Speaker 4 (59:01):
I'm gonna tell you all this right now. Case this
is popping in.

Speaker 3 (59:03):
My sister works for a wellness company and you can
actually get on her email list and get some healthy
tools to keep your house clean and you're and it
can just come every month. If you're just not good
at doing it yourself, just keep it on a cycle
every month, so then you get an overflow of toothpaste,
toilet paper, laundry detergent, soap. But you just always know

(59:23):
what the least you're gonna have that. But I can't don't.

Speaker 2 (59:28):
Because it's like ittergy to and show sign of depression.

Speaker 5 (59:30):
I feel that you don't even take the time out
to want to do some of the things.

Speaker 2 (59:34):
See.

Speaker 5 (59:34):
And my issue is if I inform a guy about it,
if you start making me feel like I'm criticizing you,
even if I say it nice and calm, and you
start thinking that I'm talking about you and down talking
to you, that's an issue for me. But if I
make you aware and inform you of what's going on
and you start to go take the steps towards it
to fix it, then I can deal with a man
like that.

Speaker 2 (59:53):
But I really despise the guys that you, Hey, you
know what you order this?

Speaker 7 (59:56):
Now?

Speaker 5 (59:56):
I'm talking how am I talking about you? And I'm
just trying to inform you to help you become a
better man.

Speaker 3 (01:00:01):
And if I like you enough, I will be like
if you're like, I don't know how to do this
because some of the stuff I don't be knowing how
to do, and my mom and my sister will come
and I think I did something. They'll be like, this
is we need to clean everything out. I'm like, shut up,
I am, but I'll let them do it because they
do it really well. But if you're a guy and
I am like kind of liking you, and it's like
you don't know where to get the towels from. Okay,
let me show you where my sister gets the towels

(01:00:21):
for me from this. Let me see you the link,
like just.

Speaker 1 (01:00:26):
Yeah, that's a nice gift. Sometime, depending on the relationship,
I will say like to your point about like, oh,
this is a sign of a depression. Because I was
looking at my apartments so that I hadn't really spent
a lot of time there. I was treating like a
storage unit, and I was like, this is a depression apartment.
I thought I was doing okay, and then I was like,

(01:00:46):
I guess I have been overwhelmed and stress and I'm
just looking around. I was like, I have been rewashing,
Like I'll come back home, wash my clothes, put them
in the laundry basket to like put them away. Only
thing I'll putting up with towels. I mean, it's shit
for months and months and months. And so I was like, Okay,
this is going to be a multiple day project, but

(01:01:07):
I have got to get this done. I've got to
get out of it. I don't like the space, That's
why I've been avoiding it. But it is hard sometimes
so maybe sometimes too, Like we said, everything, because sometimes
people are just trifling, and I've definitely been in the
just trifling mode. But sometimes you really are down and
you might not realize it. Stop what you're doing right now,
if you're at home, look around your space, look around

(01:01:28):
your room, and then really evaluate what's been going on
in your life. Do you think maybe you are stressed,
maybe you are overwhelmed, maybe you need a little help.
I used to think growing up that like hiring somebody
to clean was going to be super expensive, and it's
it's not at all. And that is in the year
of twenty twenty five, so way back in the nineties

(01:01:52):
and the two thousands, I know it wasn't that high
because everything was cheaper, and I'm just like, why didn't
we have that? Like it's something little, and so sometimes
like when I get in that mode, it's best for
me to call Veronica, ask her and her crew to
come over. She usually brings one, two, three people whoever's
available that day, and they get it done in an
hour or two and I'm just like, oh, it feels

(01:02:14):
so much better. Thank you guys. They'll put up my
laundry and everything. Because sometimes life does get to you.
So aside from like the jokes about us talking about
y'all being trifling. Not the trifling people you can just
go clean up. But everybody else where it's like, oh,
it's like this, I don't know how to get out
of it. Maybe you should just like consider that and
see if it's in your budget to reach out to somebody.

(01:02:35):
It's really, oftentimes not that expensive. Sometimes depending on the
size of your space, it can be one hundred dollars
or less.

Speaker 2 (01:02:42):
And here's the thing.

Speaker 3 (01:02:42):
If you're like, oh, it's not in my budget, but
you also go out to eat every weekend, you be
getting hook you need. That's a whole three hundred dollars
dinner first of all. Who because in Atlanta is one
hundred dollars if the cleaner is not even that much.

Speaker 1 (01:02:54):
So if you are saying it's not.

Speaker 3 (01:02:56):
My budget, but you're doing all of these things, bro
like stop, come on. Merrymaid's is like forty five dollars.

Speaker 1 (01:03:03):
Come on, But don't call Dazzle Dazzling cleaners fucking scammers.
I'll tell you about that another day. I cannot stand
that company in there across the country anyway. I got
to smoke with them forever.

Speaker 2 (01:03:16):
M Well, if you heard it. Can you smoke with
you bitches? Okay.

Speaker 3 (01:03:19):
On that note, we're gonna move on, and when we
come back, we have an advice letter that Camilla is
gonna help us with.

Speaker 1 (01:03:53):
Okay, you, guys, we are back and it is time
for the advice. Remember. If you would like us to
possibly answer question or maybe tell you about yourself, email
us advice at cocktailspod dot com and it's LinkedIn the description. Okay,
So this one says, Hi, ladies, I recently turned twenty
nine and have found myself in a really difficult place

(01:04:16):
in my relationship. I was in what I thought was
a serious, committed partnership. We were about to reach our
two year anniversary. We initially met online during the pandemic,
but didn't make it official until twenty twenty three. Even
though we live in different parts of Florida, Florida, we've
been making the distance work with flights and road trips.

Speaker 4 (01:04:39):
Why okay.

Speaker 1 (01:04:41):
Back in twenty twenty four, right before our one year mark,
my best friend told me her sister, who was on
the dating apps, matched with him on Hinge. I had
no idea he was even on apps. I bet you didn't,
because y'all supposed to be official in it's an anniversary.
He gave me a half hearted apology, and though I
forgave him, I never.

Speaker 2 (01:05:00):
For god.

Speaker 1 (01:05:02):
Everybody in my house and depressed. Fast forward to July
of this year. I found him again. I know, you
fucking lie, she said. Fast forward to July of this year.
I found him again on a goddamn I'm adding, god damn,
on a goddamn gossip app where he on the tea

(01:05:24):
app okay, where two different women claim they met him.
Everybody get mad, tender, and the I don't even know.
It's the worst of them all. Face book dating. The
only thing beneath Facebook dating is plenty of fish. You
already knew, you already knew. That's where you get a

(01:05:45):
pop pop at Anyway. One even mentioned that they had
been texting, facetiming and went on a date. When I
confronted him, he admitted to it, but brushed it off
as just conversation. You need to have a conversation, Jesus.

Speaker 2 (01:06:03):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (01:06:04):
His excuse was that he only did it because he
wanted me closer to him and was too afraid to
bring up the long distance issue.

Speaker 4 (01:06:14):
You need to win the lover girl experience trip because.

Speaker 1 (01:06:17):
The silence in the room, it's really she's not done okay.
Despite despite knowing the answer deep down, okay, good, you
got something in there, I still find myself asking I
want to give you a hug. Is this relationship repairable?

(01:06:39):
And more importantly, what drives men to become repeat offenders
even when they claim to love you? It feels like
a classic case of fool me once, shame on you,
fool me twice, shame on me. You said it, not us,
as much as he is trying to get convince me otherwise,

(01:07:01):
I don't see myself going back good. Still, this situation
has taken a heavy tone of me mentally, and i'd
appreciate your advice. Thank you for taking the time to
read this. Okay, I'm glad that you did not ignore it.
And you know, like this ain't gonna work out. Why
they do fucked up stuff? I don't know, child, A

(01:07:21):
lot of these motherfuckers can't even read these days.

Speaker 2 (01:07:23):
I just.

Speaker 1 (01:07:25):
I saw something a parent posted on Facebook, a worksheet
that she was helping her child with. She was like, y'all,
I'm so confused. Me my daughter asked me for help
on her homework. I'm helping her. You know how they
have the work sheets and it has the prompt is
like use the word bank to complete the sentence of below. Yeah,

(01:07:47):
there's a word bank with several words and then multiple
sentences with blank lines. Do y'all know that I'm not
gonna call a little girl a dummy, but that lady
the mama was a dummy. She put word bank as
the answer, like word bank, not the words from the word.
I said, I know you fucking like we are doomed.

(01:08:08):
This is why we do need to let the AI
take over. I'm sorry, I said, I just I mean,
I don't know what the hell? What the hell are
y'all saying?

Speaker 2 (01:08:15):
Right?

Speaker 4 (01:08:16):
What's about?

Speaker 5 (01:08:18):
She need to increase her self, love and stop letting
the man gas like her? Because I noticed that you
said that she thought there was in a relationship. See
that's the problem a lot of us. We don't really
act like what are we doing? We just assumed because
they took out on a date or he paid a
bill a song, we assumed that we're in a relationship
and we're not. Because it seemed like she was in
a relationship with him and he wasn't in one with her.

Speaker 1 (01:08:40):
They made it official in twenty twenty three, but his
actions was showing otherwise.

Speaker 3 (01:08:46):
And this is why y'all have to in that lout
to your phase. You need to go on dates in
that loot to your phase because you need to start
speaking up more about like what you what you would
like as a woman. I agree with Camilla, you need
to work on yourself friend. I think that when you're
dealing with this the bar in hell, and I really do.
I'm not even joking with you if you're dealing with
this type of behavior.

Speaker 4 (01:09:05):
I don't know how old you are. I don't even
get twenty nine.

Speaker 2 (01:09:08):
Hey.

Speaker 3 (01:09:08):
No, that means that you need to sit down and
have a reset of self love because this ain't it.
You're gonna keep going back and you gonna have a
baby bye.

Speaker 2 (01:09:16):
And then you're just gonna be another statistic.

Speaker 3 (01:09:17):
Come on, bro, we know what happens when you deal
with people with this type of behavior.

Speaker 4 (01:09:21):
Sit down, and I think to.

Speaker 1 (01:09:24):
Answer your question, what drives men to be repeat offenders,
especially when they claim to love you, they'd be lying.
And I also think it's sometimes like they don't know
what love is. I would encourage every woman, any man

(01:09:45):
in your life, whether it's a romantic relationship or not
family members. Even when you have a moment and you
can have like a real heart tart conversation, ask them
what is love? How do you show love? How do
you like to receive love? Ask them that and not
just us on like little conversations about like love languages.
Sometimes people get caught up in like the surface level

(01:10:07):
of it and they've never read a book. They don't
really understand like the theory behind it and what it means.
People be making up, Well, my love language is lamb chops.
That's not and that's not how it.

Speaker 3 (01:10:22):
Goes it Just books in general, you do y'all need
to start asking people on days what book are you reading?
And if they are not, you need to ask. I
asked somebody the other day when is the last time
you read a book? And this man could not. It
was like he gave me a year, a year since
this year on.

Speaker 2 (01:10:36):
YouTube or something maybe, like like policy.

Speaker 3 (01:10:41):
Were talking about it earlier, what they do for community?
Where do they spend their free time at Like, come on,
if he's playing video games, that's the number one problem
have you don't wait.

Speaker 1 (01:10:51):
A minute, we're not gonna get on the video games too,
because you only I love the sim sometimes I need.

Speaker 4 (01:10:58):
Yeah, some of these men in the room and they're
in their shot all day.

Speaker 1 (01:11:04):
Well, I do remove the ladder from the pool, or
I'll delete a door because that motherfucker needed to go.

Speaker 3 (01:11:11):
But it's just sometime and two people's behaviors for it,
and to be the minute behaviors. If your car messed
up and you say, hey, something on my car and
he's like, oh, I'm not gonna talct her all day,
that's a behavior and they.

Speaker 2 (01:11:22):
Keep coming back because you allowing it or whatever.

Speaker 5 (01:11:24):
And a lot of times they don't get still care,
they feel like they got excess.

Speaker 2 (01:11:28):
They trying to see if they still have.

Speaker 1 (01:11:29):
They like when you really reflect, and I won't put
it on you. I'll let you come to the realization
in your own time. But when you realize, hey, a
bit of me was lonely. I did just want somebody there.
I just needed something for whatever reason, it doesn't matter.
When you realize that you felt like that, he might

(01:11:50):
have felt like that too, and everybody else wasn't accepting it,
but you were somebody who was and it might probably
very likely others were you. But you're available, so sometimes
it's like, okay, well, as long as somebody is still
going to be there, even if it's a piece of somebody.
You ever heard somebody say I'd rather have a piece
of use than nothing at all. It'd be that as

(01:12:12):
men feel it too, they just express it sometimes differently,
and they love to flip the strip. They they're very
good at it, even though they're not that great at it.
It's a bit of mind control. It's another glitch in
the matrix that I'm researching.

Speaker 2 (01:12:24):
Line.

Speaker 1 (01:12:25):
Anyway, I wish you luck. I hope that you have
some self care journey experiences that are positive for you.
I hope that you have people in your life. If
you don't and you really trying to reach out to
people or you just need to connect, I don't know
how available I would, because I ain't talking the phone
all day every day.

Speaker 2 (01:12:46):
Distancebodyda Florida.

Speaker 3 (01:12:53):
Our next guest is here, so y'all we gotta wrap up,
so we're gonna move onto the cocktails.

Speaker 1 (01:13:05):
But it ain't.

Speaker 3 (01:13:11):
Is it?

Speaker 7 (01:13:11):
Some cat?

Speaker 1 (01:13:16):
Once upon a time, not long ago, I was.

Speaker 3 (01:13:21):
You guys cameilla. You gotta share a cocktail? Says you
got one?

Speaker 5 (01:13:27):
Yeah, So men and this guy we went out on
a date or whatever. We went to go see that
movie with Scissa and Kick Palmer. I ain't gonna lie
like that movie was stepping on my toes because the
nigga that was there with me watching it like he
was the nigga that was in the movie that she
was dealing with.

Speaker 2 (01:13:42):
So I felt like, oh my gosh, I was actually him, no.

Speaker 5 (01:13:47):
History, you know the story like how because I found
myself trying to help, like call myself helping him out,
and it seemed like that I was losing. So the
guy that was in the movie, who was that? Was
that Sissa dealing with him trying to come up with
the rent money or something. So it was embarrassing because
we first of all, we went to the movie and
I can't remember if I paid for my ticket or
he paid for it, but it was something like either

(01:14:10):
pay for the ticket or the snacks.

Speaker 2 (01:14:11):
He wasn't gonna pay for both, So here we are
like trying to.

Speaker 1 (01:14:13):
It was embarrassing because he said it out.

Speaker 5 (01:14:15):
Loud and the girl at the counter, I'm so embarrassed,
like why'd you say it out loud?

Speaker 2 (01:14:19):
I'm going there.

Speaker 5 (01:14:21):
Yeah, I was so embarrassed, but I'm saying when we
watched the movie out, my life story was kind of
similar to what was taking place in the movie, like
trying to come up with the money and stuff, and
I'm helping this niggaut he laying around the house, not
helping me. So that's how it was watching them. Yes,
I was so embarrassed watching a movie. So that was
the wake up cause, like God.

Speaker 1 (01:14:39):
Was like, but but I'm telling after him?

Speaker 5 (01:14:42):
Was that pop like you know what, I'm not gonna
ever again because it turned into like slick competition, you
know how you help a man out when in a
low place, and they started like coming against you.

Speaker 2 (01:14:51):
And yeah, that was.

Speaker 5 (01:14:53):
The wake up cause and never again. I don't care
if I meet you today and you lost your car
stuff yesterday. We just can't talk. We just could have
lost a few minutes ago before we met. I'm not
doing it.

Speaker 4 (01:15:02):
And since they don't make the men how they used
to make him back then, we just.

Speaker 2 (01:15:05):
Can't do it. It's like I want to help you,
but I also just can and.

Speaker 5 (01:15:10):
I because messed myself up trying to help trying to
help him, I said, never again. But that was that movie.
Watching that movie, it was so embarrassing. I would cringe.
I'm like, oh my gosh, just remind me of what
I'm dealing with right now. He's sitting there looking every
time a part come on.

Speaker 2 (01:15:22):
With Sissy still on the guy, and.

Speaker 5 (01:15:25):
I was like, why gosh, when the movie's gonna go off,
like I'm living, I'm living what they living in this movie,
hurry up. Yeah, because he was down and it really
wasn't working like that. So I'm trying to help with
the bills and stuff that was living together. But that
was the confirmation never again what a saying we all left.

Speaker 2 (01:15:41):
Uh None. He was just like looking because I know
he felt I know he.

Speaker 5 (01:15:44):
Felt embarrassed to because he's portraying like the guy that's
in the movie. He's slicked the guy in the movie
because he's not really helping me with the Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:15:50):
So girl, that's what That's a great broken and that
are headed to great places in life. But I think
that it helps maybe if they're like, I'm just not
in a financial position right now to be dating and
I don't want you.

Speaker 2 (01:16:05):
I don't want to.

Speaker 3 (01:16:06):
I want to give you what you deserve, and so like,
let me, I need like three years to get myself
together and then I hope you're.

Speaker 5 (01:16:11):
Saying that he was doing little things like buying a toilet,
trees and stuff. But the partner got me when it's
started to turn into like competition, and it's like you
almost beat me down for helping you, you know, And
that's what happens.

Speaker 2 (01:16:22):
Why you need to just not do this.

Speaker 3 (01:16:23):
It's like and come back in three years if I'm
still here, will be like Noah and Abby in the
notebook and whatever was.

Speaker 2 (01:16:29):
Oh my gosh, well my god, he's in a better
place now. No, oh lord, he's just away from He's
in a better situation. Yeah, situation.

Speaker 7 (01:16:39):
Job.

Speaker 4 (01:16:44):
Thank you so much for joining us. I am rooting
for you.

Speaker 3 (01:16:48):
I'm watching your career. I'm coming let us know. Whatever
shows you got coming up, we're gonna be there.

Speaker 1 (01:16:52):
Do you have any coming up?

Speaker 5 (01:16:54):
So not yet that My next show is no Him
in the first is going to be in Mississippi, Louis, Mississippi.

Speaker 2 (01:17:00):
If someone's reunion.

Speaker 5 (01:17:02):
Pray for me though, because they've been having a lot
of like shooters and stuff at homecomings and stuff back
in Mississippi.

Speaker 2 (01:17:07):
So I'm gonna have to get in there and do that. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (01:17:11):
Yes, Oh, and I'm actually an armed security obstitute, so
I may have to perform my damn vista.

Speaker 2 (01:17:18):
Don't play with her, come straight up with the vest on.

Speaker 3 (01:17:21):
Let everybody know where they can find you and how
they can keep up with you.

Speaker 5 (01:17:24):
You can follow me on all social media platforms at
K Davis Comedy. That's the letter K D A V I,
S C O, M E D Y. And just stay
tuned because I'm always posting what I have next and
things that I'm doing throughout the day.

Speaker 2 (01:17:37):
So thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (01:17:39):
Yeah, I really hope that you have something coming up
before the end of the year in Atlanta so that
I can come check you out in person. I love comedy,
but I especially love when the girls are funny. Yeah
that much. Y'all. Make sure that y'all are following us
and check out all the links in the description box.
We will link our guests, and we will link ourselves

(01:18:01):
and all the things that we mentioned earlier in the show,
as well as the correct emails. Just all your stuff too.
Remember to follow us. We are at Cocktails Podcast. I'm
at Kiki said, so I'm at Coffee Band And until
next week, you guys, goodbye.

Speaker 2 (01:18:16):
Goodbye, bye bye bye.

Speaker 3 (01:18:22):
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