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We’re shaking up the holiday season with a cocktail that tastes like Christmas, cozy vibes, and just a little bit of sin. This week’s drink is the Naughty Nog Martini, a frothy eggnog latte moment that somehow led us straight into one of the wildest public emergency stories ever told on CockTales.

🍸 Naughty Nog (Eggnog Latte Martini) Recipe
Ingredients:

  • 1–2 oz vanilla vodka

  • 1 oz eggnog

  • 1.5 oz cold brew or espresso

  • 0.5 oz simple syrup (optional if you like it sweeter)

  • Dash of cinnamon or nutmeg

  • Ice

Instructions:
Add everything to a shaker with ice. Shake hard until frothy, strain into a martini glass, and top with cinnamon or nutmeg. Sip slowly… because clearly, this drink has consequences.

Once the cocktails hit, we dive into:

✨ Holiday traditions and why cheesy Lifetime movies still eat every time
✨ All Her Fault theories, plot twists, and why Kiki is ready to write and direct
✨ Medina’s acting dreams and the monologue she’s already prepared
✨ Theme night prep: Dirty Disney, North Pole After Dark, In Living Color, and Strip Club Night
✨ Plane farts, airplane germs, and why those blankets are not your friends
✨ A full-on stomach betrayal that led to a Ziploc bag, a frantic phone call, and an emergency Chick-fil-A pit stop

We also get into supporting partners with mental health struggles, TikTok conspiracy holes, dog-nap nightmares, Carry-On Only delusion, and why sometimes you just have to end the whole day and start over.

This episode has holiday chaos, movie talk, outfit planning, questionable decisions, and a very public emergency that will absolutely have you hollering.Grab a Naughty Nog and press play — we warned you.


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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Yeah, yeah. Check one two, check one two. Is this
Mike Coin?

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Is this Mike on? Hey?

Speaker 1 (00:06):
Listen man, it's the one and only trunks that of
DJ Sis And you're listening to cocktails dirty discussions with
Kikia Medina Monroe. Here. Today's cocktail is called a naughtynog
latte Martini. I just thought you gotta say it like that,
a naughty dog. The ingredients you need to make a

(00:29):
naughty dog is one and a half ounces of vanilla vodka. Oh,
I ain't tasted this one yet. Two ounces of almond
nog if you're trying to be healthy, or a little eggnog.
One and a half ounces of cold brew espresso. Zero
point five ounces of simple syrup optional if you like
it sweeter. Did we use it?

Speaker 2 (00:49):
I use a little bit, not just like probably zero
point five for.

Speaker 1 (00:53):
Both of us. A dash of cinnamon and some ice, y'all.
So here's how you're gonna make a naughty dog. You're
gonna add everything to a shaker field with I shake
hard until it's frothy and chilled, and strain into a
martini glass.

Speaker 2 (01:07):
Top with just a sprinkle of.

Speaker 1 (01:09):
Cinnamon or nutmeg and enjoy it. Let me taste this
because I ain't taste this, and it looks like chocolate milk.

Speaker 2 (01:14):
It does looks like chocolate milk with cinnamon. To me,
it tastes like an eggnog latte. Tell me what you think.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
I got a big ounce of cinnamon.

Speaker 2 (01:25):
Right as I'm looking at your cup, I see all
the cinnamon is on that side that you sip from.
I did the same thing. It's all in my lip gloss.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
This tastes like Christmas. It tastes like Mariah carries On
and you're decorating the tree. The bulb dropped and all
and it rolled and Morris Chestmut picked it up and
you're like, oh, is that my man? He's like no,
but he hands you a glass of eggnog and you

(01:56):
have the fireplace going. This is very good. This is
I love the holidays, sometimes I do.

Speaker 2 (02:06):
But I love the holiday bevro ginos and the sweet
treats and all the meals. This is just the time
where you've got to be careful because you could quickly
enter the big back Olympics. So sometimes it's good to
just like look at people making food and not eat it.
But Thanksgiving is my fave, and then Christmas I mean,

(02:27):
we kind of do it all over again. My family
has done. When we used to all get together, we
would try to do something different. Pick a theme for
the dinner for Christmas, so we're not eating turkey and
shit again.

Speaker 1 (02:38):
We always say we're gonna do that. Never do it.
Ends I want turkey and macari, cheese and gravy. Mom,
are you gonna make the potato sound? And then my
dad would be like, let's do a healthy mac and
cheese with no dairy, and then we're all Mecca is
always the manager of the family. She'll be like, I'll
kind of just roll with it. You can tell me
what's doing. I'll just be like secretly, like sad, like okay,
I don't know. I didn't want almond macaroni and cheese,
and Mac will be like, no, Dad, we're not doing that.
And then we're gonna have makarni and cheese the way

(03:01):
that it is. And if you don't want any, well
you make your own. This is we get this once
a year and we're eating it, and then my dad'll
be like, okay, and then we have the normal meal.

Speaker 2 (03:12):
Family dynamics are so funny. I don't know what I'm
doing still I got a text message about it. A
few text messages. I just saw that's what I was
doing when you're checking your socials. But I am excited
for a holiday season. I just like it. I like
watching cheesy movies every now and again. Like if you're

(03:34):
a lifetime movie girl, this is your time, because it
doesn't even have to be just Lifetime to get the
cheesy movies.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
Hallmark. Hallmark is a good one. Speaking of lifetime movies,
I just want to say this really quick, Kiki. I
went to another premiere of a movie called Friends and Lovers,
which was also a book back in the day, okay,
and they made it into a movie and there was
part one and part two. At first, I wasn't sure
what it was going to be, like, it hasn't a
toury a toy from three lwosy Natory. Notton is in it.

(04:01):
She's the star. And there's another I don't know everybody's
names with this actress that y'all know, y'all. This movie
was it was so it's a lifetime movie. What's it about.
It's about lovers and friends and it shows the dynamics
in dating right now in today's real estate when we're
logging onto the internet and seeing all the women be like,
I'm not dating no more. I'm healing and I don't
want to do this and I don't want to do this,

(04:22):
and the men being like, I want to be a girl,
like like, it's just like all this stuff and so.
But it also portrays it in a way where I
saw myself on that screen and I saw that it's
about how everyone really is just scared when you get
down to the nitty gritty in the root of it all. Now,
there are some people that can we can navigate that
and be honest and see it, and then there's some people

(04:42):
who're just gonna keep moving through life scared and act
like that's not what it is. And they show all
the versions of that in the dating world. But at
the end of the day, everyone has been hurt and
is trying their hardest not to be hurt again. But
in reality, in the game of love and dating, it
is inevitable. It was actually really good. It had all
the things you need. Funny love, fine black man.

Speaker 2 (05:06):
That's my favorite part too. You could have just said
that and I watched it, watch.

Speaker 1 (05:12):
And it's okay.

Speaker 2 (05:13):
Anybody want to put us in a movie because somebody
put us in a movie.

Speaker 1 (05:16):
I'll promise you we're gonna be We should go to
acting class. Let's go to my brothers, let's go to
active freedom. Let's commit to eight weeks.

Speaker 2 (05:23):
That was a strong commitment, very quick of a fleeting thought.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
Okay, already I've been ready for what we get in
that class. I think you can pick a Monday night
or Tuesday night.

Speaker 2 (05:33):
Okay? And how long are they?

Speaker 1 (05:35):
I think it's a three hour You know them classes
be long. They're not in their playing.

Speaker 2 (05:38):
We got to go college. Well, does he have an
option to do Monday and Tuesday for an hour and
a half?

Speaker 1 (05:43):
Eat? I can ask him if we can get like
a mix. He's gonna look at us like, stop playing
with me, But.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
Maybe I'm gonna do it. But three hours is a
long time.

Speaker 1 (05:50):
Maybe we can get a little maybe we I'm gonna
ask him, can he remix something for us?

Speaker 2 (05:53):
It's like, okay, does he ever do workshops? Maybe I
should just do a workshop first.

Speaker 1 (05:58):
His workshops are expensive. He is my brother, like that game,
my brother. We busting up in there like we in
the class. But no, for real, we're going to do
the class.

Speaker 2 (06:09):
No, I really did say that's one of the things
that I want to do next year for twenty twenty six.
I was like, you know what I want to Well,
I've already started, not acting, but something that I want
to do that I think will help me feel like
I have a richer life, like richer in the sense
of being fulfilled and all that shit. Explore more hobbies

(06:33):
and more of my interests. So I have started back
doing Spanish classes. I have signed up with a tutor. Oh,
I haven't started with my tutor yet, but we start
week after after Thanksgiving we start. But I've been on
duo lingo refreshing, and yesterday I was on a streak
and I was like, Okay, I need to go to bed.

(06:54):
But when I kept getting them perfect scores and you
hear them chings, I see how people end up being
gambling addicts. They're going to the casino because that sound
and like the lights and like the ch ch That's
why I'm like TikTok, and TikTok has got me all
and I don't. I'm not a poster, but I'm on
there and I'm deep in the conspiracy thing. So please
send me other stuff so I can get out of

(07:14):
this algorithm because the aliens are here. Anyway, I do
want to do I do want to do acting classes,
so that is something I.

Speaker 1 (07:23):
Think, let's do them, and I'm gonna do them with
you on my list. One of the things on my
goals for next year is I want to be in
a play. Oh with the actors.

Speaker 2 (07:31):
What kind of character would you like to play? I
feel like I'm.

Speaker 1 (07:34):
Gonna have to cry whatever it is. I want to
have to have a moment where I'm.

Speaker 2 (07:37):
Like, like, what kind of cry? An ugly cry? Are
an angry or a happy cry? You do a hurt cry?
And it's like, you know what's funny to me? I
haven't done any acting classes since I was a wee child,

(07:58):
but I helping Jay with his auditions, like taping and
when he has these self tape things, right, So I'll
be looking at this script and I'd be battling like
do I say something or do I not? While I'm
not an actor or director or anything, I am a
heavy TV consumer, So sometimes I'm like, well, I know
that you did all the classes and you do all
the things, but maybe you could just like, are you

(08:20):
open to suggestions? That's what I always say. Sometimes it's
a hard no, but other times it's not. And then
it made me think, I want to try this. I
just want to see what it's like, because it is
very different to like watch somebody and critique people like
what y'all do with us, and it's different when you're
in it, and I just kind of want to try it.
I don't think that I want to. I would be

(08:43):
open to it. I guess if I find out I'm
good at it, but I really want to write and
direct and produce the behind the scenes. And so I
watched All Her Fault. Did y'all watch it? Many of
y'all have been messaging me on threads and Instagram, and
I appreciate it. We've been having all these conversations. If
you haven't watched it, please watch. I start. I'm not done,
but how far did you get?

Speaker 1 (09:02):
I'm on episode three?

Speaker 2 (09:03):
Okay, Okay, I'm not going to say anything because that's
very early on, but it's good. And let me tell y'all.

Speaker 1 (09:08):
I'm just like, who took my low? I'm really I
don't know yet because it's to me, it's like the mom. Okay,
I'm leaning towards the dad because it's like, who is
the Courtney Cotney, who's the redhead girl Carrie cheating? I
can't I can't tell if he's cheating on the mother

(09:30):
or not. But I think when cheating pops up and
niggas start lying you cheating. So then I'm like, But
then the little Columbia nanny she being weird because when
stuff like this happens, I always be thinking, like in
anything in life. First of all, when something happens and
it doesn't add up and there's like a crime that's
been committed, I'm already telling everything, just so y'all know
I don't got none to do with this, Okay. So
I was at the store that I know, this seemed like,

(09:50):
I'm like, why would you sit on some information that
could help somebody get found?

Speaker 2 (09:54):
That's weird, I assume with her, I thought she was illegal.

Speaker 1 (09:59):
I see, I didn't even think that because the white
people seem rich, and so I was like, they probably
went through a company like a like a you know,
and so like they're not trying to get in. So
I didn't think that.

Speaker 2 (10:10):
I don't think any of them went through a company.
But I'm gonna shut up because you haven't finished.

Speaker 1 (10:14):
And then her best friend. Something seems weird there. I
think it's her best friend, the girl with the lady
with the raiders. I don't know nobody's names, the mom
of Milo, her best friend, the one who she's well
right now, I think is her best friend. She's always
staying with her, and she's the one who's always kind
of like she was sleeping on in her office. The
one who is who's somebody's little sister.

Speaker 2 (10:34):
What's her name? Oh, that's not her best friend.

Speaker 1 (10:37):
Okay, something seems weird with Yeah, something seems weird with
their relationship, and I can't tell what it is, but
she's making me mad. She kind of made me feel
like how sometimes you know people and you're like are
you my friend or not? But they're like you want
to go get drinks like that?

Speaker 2 (10:51):
Okay, Okay, Well, I just want to say, when I
was watching the show and.

Speaker 1 (10:58):
Then the black Man is making me nervous, why you
need Lawrence? Yeah, Lawrence, Lawrence forever try to change his hairstyle.

Speaker 2 (11:08):
They didn't, Lawrence. I thought that they were all such
interesting characters. I was watching it with like a really,
I was like tuned in, tuned in, and I binged
it over the course of a weekend, and I thoroughly
enjoyed myself. But I've been watching these shows like I

(11:28):
love thrillers, psychological thrillers, suspense, mystery, those types of shows.
Those are like my fab and then it's sci fi
those the others. But I really like those and I
love when there's plot twist. I love a show with
a plot twist that I don't see coming. But because
I do really and truly want to write, I've been
trying to study how they do things like how you

(11:48):
tell the story using cinematography and the dialogue and the
sound and even like warmness, coolness, saturation, all this stuff.
I knew what the end was and I put it
on threads, so don't go look at my threads. But
I put it on threads. I was like, this is
what I think it is. I knew the big thing.
There were still things that surprised me, so that was

(12:09):
exciting to me. And now I have to watch everything
else that all of the behind the scenes people have
been a part of. So I thank you IMDb for
making it very easy to find other people's work when
I find something that I like. But yeah, that's what
I've been spending my free time doing on the airplanes.
I'm gonna have to find that's why I'm sneezing.

Speaker 1 (12:30):
Too, because you was on the airplane with the Do
I keep.

Speaker 2 (12:32):
Being on airplanes. I've been on a lot of planes.
I'm tired.

Speaker 1 (12:35):
And let me tell you being a former flight as
if y'all are new here, I used to be a
flight attendant for several years and I never worked on
the commercial flights. However, the planes are dirty. The rich
ones and the poor ones, they are dirty. Nobody has
ever deep cleaned a plane.

Speaker 2 (12:53):
It's you know what I was looking at as I
was waiting to deeplane the other day. I'm looking out
the window and I see the what is it called
the jet bridge? And I was just looking in the
corner and I was like, it looks like carpet, but
I know it's just gook. And I'm like, does anybody
ever vacuum this? And how do you vacuum this? If
it's if the jet bridge isn't attached to the plane,

(13:14):
because you would fall out.

Speaker 1 (13:15):
And Quickness said, you gotta turn flats.

Speaker 2 (13:18):
When they hop on a plane with them feather dusters.

Speaker 1 (13:21):
They just and their bags. People be fighting them seats.
He'll be have an accident having accents and it's just
a quick little wipe. If you get to do that
with a disinfectant, it's nasty. And you know how we
were talking about cleaning icemans.

Speaker 2 (13:34):
I know they not. That's why I like my cans
up the sparkling wine on the plane. Give me, just
give me the can and the paper cup.

Speaker 1 (13:42):
Them head rasp, you just laying ear gook them blankets
they not washed. They just refold them and put them
rich or poor, first class or private. The blankets just
get wrapped up.

Speaker 2 (13:56):
I haven't even seen a blanket on a plane in
a very long time.

Speaker 1 (13:59):
If you see a blanket, just no, it ain't been washed.
And I understand it because every now and you'll be like,
well I'm cold.

Speaker 2 (14:04):
Yeah, because I will wrap up in and whatever I'm cold,
I'm we just on here with and we all just brea.
I mean, you can't crack no window.

Speaker 1 (14:13):
You can't crack farting and burping and coughing.

Speaker 2 (14:16):
And video of the man he has like an Indian accent.
He's like, whoever is farting, please stop?

Speaker 1 (14:25):
I have seen that.

Speaker 2 (14:26):
But it is so funny because like.

Speaker 1 (14:29):
What do you do? And when that's happening on both
sides of it, when it's me fartening and everybody's looking like,
who the fuck is doing this?

Speaker 2 (14:39):
Who did that? Who did that? Who is knowing?

Speaker 1 (14:42):
Is you? And then I've been on the side of
it where it's like you're looking like, who the fuck
is farting like this?

Speaker 2 (14:49):
This is rude. I miss the days of the masks.
They didn't really do too much, but I just liked
him it everybody made everybody feel confided.

Speaker 1 (15:00):
But also about the planes. I was going to say
thank you the farting, but then also the shitt Oh no,
not that, because sometimes every now a year you have
to take a little dookie on the plane.

Speaker 2 (15:13):
Somebody blew it up on my way back and I
was just like, wow, how we.

Speaker 1 (15:17):
Talk about that real quick? Now? I was debating on
it if I was going to share the story, but I
said I got to share this story because it happened.
Blowing stuff up Kiki. This past weekend, I went to
go surprise a friend of mine turn who is just
always so supportive of the show. She's given us opportunities
and she had she was speaking on a panel and

(15:38):
I was like, you know what I found. I was like,
I'm going to go, and I got there, didn't know
that the panel had a certain start time. I got there,
you know, not super early how I would normally do.
I got there like an hour late, and I was like,
surely I'm on time. But I didn't know that the
panel actually started three thirty and I got there at
one thirty. And anyways, I was walking around doing some
like shopping with the vendors and I was like, this

(15:59):
is just so well, she doesn't know I'm coming. I'm
gonna surprise her. I tasted some sea moss. I bought
a juice from a man uh that was selling juices.
It was carrot ginger and like something else, and I
drink it and then I had a work call. I
was like, where is she at? I'm trying to surprise it,
but I now forgot to go. So then I'm like, okay,
I'm gonna do the work call in the car and
then i'll come back out and then toront I'll be here.

(16:21):
I go in the car and do this work call
and I'm like having the call, my stomach starts rumbling
and I was like, at first it wasn't oh It
was just like, you know, sometimes you get a rumble,
like I probably need to be heading to the toilet soon.
But I wasn't gonna go in the place because it
was small and it was a one person back kind
of like here, but it wasn't space. So I was like,
if somebody comes and needs use the bathroom there, everyone's
gonna be waiting on me. I'm gonna walk out the
foofe of stump funk is gonna run. Now they're gonna

(16:43):
be like, you real, why did you come here and
blow the bathroom. It's like, well, y'all, it's a bathroom
and I had to poop, but I was like.

Speaker 2 (16:48):
Did you want me to do it on the couch,
run a chair? But I do it everywhere.

Speaker 1 (16:52):
So I was like, well, I'm not gonna go, and
so I'm gonna hold it. I'm gonna fish this call,
I'm gon go see to run and I'm gonna go
somewhere in these the bathroom. So I'm on the call
with UH and it's all I speaking. My stomach really
starts rumbling and I couldn't get off of the phone.
I'm listening to the lady. We're having like a real
deep connection. It has turned into a deep connection. She
crying and I'm like, okay, this is going real long.

(17:13):
I'm starting to squirm like I'm getting hot. It's happening.
I take my heels off, like this is uncomfortable, Karen.
I have on highwaist tight blue jeans like Sierra in
the video where we were coming jutting bads she had

(17:36):
on there was like that. I had a belt. I
started undoing the belt like my my.

Speaker 2 (17:39):
I'm really yeah.

Speaker 1 (17:42):
I ended up having to grab a large zip lock
bag that was in the back. And this is why
when everybody's like clean your car, I know, no, no.

Speaker 2 (17:50):
No, because if you would have cleaned your car, I
would have had to carush the seat back.

Speaker 1 (17:56):
I'm so embarrassed. I can't even believe. It was like
all of a sudden. My son was like, you want
to play with us?

Speaker 2 (18:00):
Wait a minute, Wait a minute. Where you were in
the car? Where like where worried?

Speaker 1 (18:04):
I was in the parking lot of this outside of
the hair salon. It was midday, was two o'clock. Now
to Ron's calling me like hey, I know you're there.
Someone say, I'm like I'm doing a work call. I'm
in the car like this, trying to squeeze because now
it's so bad that I can't walk in cause it's
gonna it's just gonna follow you. Something's gonna happen. I

(18:26):
take my shoes up, I scoop the chair back, I
find a bag. I'm still on the call, and I'm like, yeah,
I get the ziplock back. I have to put the
ziplock bag under my butt hole.

Speaker 2 (18:36):
Did you catch it?

Speaker 1 (18:37):
I cut it all, every last bit I was. I was.
I'm still on the phone. Nobody but ever tell me
I can't multitask. I'm I'm dying. I'm not sweating.

Speaker 2 (18:46):
No if this is what people think about when they're
thinking about commending multitasking. But okay, I'll give you that
because you did. You took a ship and a call
and I'm texting when you could have flipped the phone
to airplane mode. I'm sorry, girl lost signal.

Speaker 1 (19:01):
Key key. I couldn't believe I was in this position
at my age, and I said, wow, and I'm holding
the zippap bag. It gets on my shirt now, mind you,
I got it. I know.

Speaker 2 (19:12):
I thought we were done.

Speaker 1 (19:14):
And then I'm also looking around because the people are
pulling up it's the highlight of the time now, And
I'm like.

Speaker 2 (19:19):
If way, what area town you in?

Speaker 1 (19:22):
I was off a forest parkway, like past the airport
or towards like towards over there.

Speaker 2 (19:27):
Okay, okay, at least you weren't like in midtown, or
if I would have somebody would I was like anything.

Speaker 1 (19:33):
But still I was like, I don't know if there's cameras.
I don't know. If somebody walks to their car, they're
gonna look in if this, And it made me think
about like when people get put on Instagram doing the
wildest shit and it's like, you don't know the backstory.
Because I was like, if somebody saw this, they would
be like, what are you doing? Or somebody walked like
medean or you know what, people would.

Speaker 2 (19:50):
Probably think you were doing only fans and masturbating. If
you like had your pants down and you got your
stuff up like you're lifted up. I would assume only fans,
and I'm gonna mind my business.

Speaker 1 (19:59):
It's meld so bad, and it was a lot. It
wouldn't stop. It was juicy booty because I had tasted
the sea moss, I drank coffee, so what I had
was I had everything I needed, because there's a lot
of shit in my car right now. It's open house scigns,
it's bullets, it's a pack of wipes and paper towels,
and everyone's all like take it out.

Speaker 2 (20:18):
No, I shroud pan.

Speaker 1 (20:24):
I grab a roll of paper towels and I start wiping.
I am so terrified. Then there's a Trader Joe's back.
I put the ziploc bag in the Trader Joe's bag.
I'm wiping. I put this thing in. I'm like, man,
I gotta get off this phone. Toront's con I'm like,
she's like, hey, are you coming in. I was like,
I'm sorry, I gotta go. She's like, what happened? I
was like, I gotta go.

Speaker 2 (20:42):
I having a lady emergency.

Speaker 1 (20:44):
I couldn't even say what just I didn't know what
to say. And then I had to get rid of this.
So I'm like, I'm like looking around, like I put it,
I take get out the car. I put the whole
bag just in the grass because it stunk. So I
was about to throw up. Shit is on my kiki.
I was so and so then it came back. My
stomach star was rumbling and I said, I said, I
can do this. The second time I go to the
Chick fil A, I run in and I talked to
my sister, said, Mecca, do you think I should go

(21:05):
back to say hi to Toronto. I feel so bad.
I've been here two hours. I didn't know the bitch
thing started three. I'm trying to Mecca was like, if
you go in there with poop on your wrist, Like,
as someone who is a mother of toddlers, I know
the smell of poop, even if someone's trying to hide it.
I'm like, someone is hiding poop, I can just smell it.
Someone's gonna smell that. And I was like, I got
a home. I went to Chick fil A because I
still had this poop. I'm in Chick fil A blowing

(21:26):
it up. I go out there and I still have
shit on my arm. I go home. I just took
a shower. Ended the whole day. I had so much
to I just ended the whole day. Yeah, ended the
whole day.

Speaker 2 (21:35):
That's a game over, that's a game. You have to
disinfect your life.

Speaker 1 (21:39):
The next day, I went and got my car detailed.
Now I still jumped.

Speaker 2 (21:42):
Out to say, does anybody detail cars?

Speaker 1 (21:45):
I could not believe. I said, Wow, that really just happened.

Speaker 2 (21:49):
So, like, how long did you have to ride with
your windows down?

Speaker 1 (21:52):
Well? I didn't, only because when I had got to
Chick fil A. When I got Chick fil A, I
was in Chick fil about thirty more minutes. I had
the windows and before I went in, I had I
had a little wife in my car and I had already.
I didn't let anything sit and the chip wasn't riding
with me.

Speaker 2 (22:06):
I had to your cloak, like on your arm.

Speaker 1 (22:10):
I don't know, but what happened was after she fell,
like buy a little French frying so they s Nobody
thought I just went in the poop, but they were
looking at me like it was a dwarf house.

Speaker 2 (22:19):
Four dollars to poop.

Speaker 1 (22:22):
I went home, I took that shirt off, I took
a shower, and I just sat on the couch. That's
when I started watching It's Not Her Fault M. And
I just said, well, this really happen.

Speaker 2 (22:30):
You needed to see somebody else with worse problems than you.

Speaker 1 (22:32):
Yeah, that's and sometimes you don't know what happened because
I really had to Roma's like you really didn't come in.
I said, let me tell you what happened. And I
told her I said, she was like, okay, so yeah,
that's ship in the car.

Speaker 2 (22:43):
You know what, sometimes when people do things and it
doesn't make sense and they're giving me funny answers, I
have done that, and it's because I did. The truth
was so embarrassing. I didn't want to go there, or
it was just I'm embarrassed. But I would tell you,
but I don't want to gross you out. But sometimes
when people keep poking, it's just like, all right, bitch.

Speaker 1 (23:04):
I was in the car fighting for my life. I
drank the carrot juice that they're in there selling. It's good,
but I had only had coffee and I had to
get a ziplock back the.

Speaker 2 (23:11):
Carrot juice, the coffee and the sea moss was right.
It was just like a water slide. Everything's coming out.
How many pounds did you lose?

Speaker 1 (23:20):
Five? Probably seven?

Speaker 2 (23:22):
M I mean maybe next time, just get them all
and take them home and drinker. Maybe That's what I'll
do this weekend. Do you have to do something?

Speaker 1 (23:32):
Oh I do?

Speaker 2 (23:33):
I better not do that. That could be a mess. Well,
I'm sorry that happened to you, but I'm glad that
you're still alive, and you got your car detailed, and
I don't see any shit on this sweater.

Speaker 1 (23:43):
Ain't nothing, but this was in it. I had this
is what I This was in it in my car
and I took it out and then I was like, oh,
this bag is big enough.

Speaker 2 (23:54):
Oh you know what, That's why you got to keep
extra shit around. That's what I said people when they
complain about my overpacking. Oh you got all this luggage, okay,
but you left something, and you left something, and everybody's
now coming to me for the things that I packed
in anticipation of your needs, because I know that y'all
all want to brag about being carried on only bitches.

(24:14):
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Speaker 2 (28:13):
Speaking of carrions, when I'm going to so I'm going
to Hedonism, you're.

Speaker 1 (28:19):
Excited, I am.

Speaker 2 (28:20):
I wasn't at first.

Speaker 1 (28:21):
Are you bringing the plus one? M hm?

Speaker 2 (28:23):
Okay, same one? Okay. I was looking on the Facebook
groups and I forgot that there's multiple Facebook groups. So
there's like a general Facebook group for the travel group,
and then there's one for all the people who paid
to go and they play this game in the group.
If you signed up to go and you haven't joined
the Facebook group, you should. If you're curious about who's

(28:44):
going to be there and stuff like that, and you
haven't signed up.

Speaker 1 (28:46):
Is your plus one in the Facebook group? Mm hmm,
come on all active?

Speaker 2 (28:51):
Well, I don't know if you've been posting, but he
in there because he's the one that reminds me about
the Facebook group happenings sometimes and sometimes we be beefing
and fighting. So hopefully it all goes well on this trip.
We'll see, because we was on each other's nurves recently
and it wasn't looking so good. I'm about to be like,
I don't want you to come. Is the girl coming?

Speaker 1 (29:13):
That girl from last time?

Speaker 2 (29:14):
I don't know. I asked her and she's like, oh,
I don't know, but she said the same thing Memorial Day. Now,
I had a funeral, so I didn't go, but she
went that time, So I don't know. We'll see, And
I don't really know who all is going. One of
our listeners and we've met her before and we had
a call with her. Her name is Gladys. Gladys is

(29:35):
gonna be there. Oh really, she's gonna be there, and
we were talking about stuff. Where was I going with this?
I don't know anyway, I'm excited to go. At first,
I was just kind of like, I don't know, but
then I checked my period up and I realized, oh,
I'm about to be on my period. This is why
I'm so moody and weird right now. Okay, well, it's
only about seven days out of an entire month that

(29:58):
I am kind of normal, which is said, but you know,
it is what it is. Anyways, they have these different themes,
and I would like some suggestions from you guys, if
it's not too late. So one of the themes is
like Naughty Santa or something. I don't here because I'm
kind of jumping all over, but I know I put
it on here. Okay, so there's okay. These are the themes,

(30:20):
and I want to know if you have a suggestion
for what I could wear. And I also want you
to tell me if you were going, what she would
wear for these themed nights. Okay, first one Dirty Disney.

Speaker 1 (30:33):
Dirty Disney. I would definitely be either aerial because I
really do love my titties. I do so, and she
you know, she only can wear shells. It's a fish,
half human, half fish, so I do. But don't they
don't look like areas? Yes?

Speaker 2 (30:53):
They look like monsters.

Speaker 1 (30:54):
They look like skeleton monsters. And I have been in
a dee one. I well, there's if you get on
it on not Instagram YouTube, you will be in a
dark hole. And I didn't know you shouldn't show kids that.
I showed Kai. He was scared and I was like, well,
that's a mermaid. You said you want to see it.
Michael was like Mini, and I was like, this is
a mermaid. He's scared. Like d D showed me this

(31:14):
skeleton fish. I was like, that's a mermaid.

Speaker 2 (31:17):
Have you ever ate a whole fish? Well, here you are.
That's what Auntie's are for, to teach you about real life.

Speaker 1 (31:23):
Anyway, I think I would do a little I think
I would do area. I think I would do the
shell top and make put a whole bunch of glitter,
and then I think I would try to find something
that looked like the gills or something at the bottom,
but like a skirt. I'm not gonna wrap my feet up,
but like something yeah, because you go to walk see
through in like glittery, but you maybe see a little
but cheek. And I think I would do a long

(31:43):
red wig short one. Maybe a remix area.

Speaker 2 (31:47):
Oh, yeah, an aerial for the summertime, it's not okay.
Another one is north Pole after dark.

Speaker 1 (31:55):
Hmmm. I think I would be a reindeer only because
I would wear all brown, like a brown tube top
and a brown booty short and then I would put
the rain getting tone brown and then do a reindeer
nose and little freckles and some little antlers. It's easy.

Speaker 2 (32:14):
So the other part was I need a suggestion for
me both of them.

Speaker 1 (32:19):
I think the antler thing is just so.

Speaker 2 (32:24):
For aerial, maybe for dirty Disney. Okay, so you would
do arial What could I do?

Speaker 1 (32:30):
You could do Pocahontas. Yeah, you could be scantily dressed
and get a long wig.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
I got three of them with a little a.

Speaker 1 (32:40):
Little brown again little. You can't never go wrong with
a little brown. And then like do a little tattoo
your arm.

Speaker 2 (32:46):
You might have a swede brown fringe fit. That was
a backup.

Speaker 1 (32:55):
And you don't gotta put the feather in here. You
could wrap the feather around your arm.

Speaker 2 (32:58):
When I was a little girl, I did do that
thing with a lipstick on my arm, and I was Pokehontas,
I love me, you can and I remember I got
a fight with my best friend. Her name was Alexander.
We only became friends because her name is Alexandra and
that's my middle name, and that's why we decided to
be best friends. Anyway, she pissed me off because she
was trying to convince me Pocahontas was white.

Speaker 1 (33:21):
Was was Alexander white? Yes?

Speaker 2 (33:24):
She and I said, the problem is y'all think y'all
got everything. Y'all what? And so from very early on
I knew those people have me fucked up sometimes.

Speaker 1 (33:38):
Or you can switch it up. Because we're thinking about
the main disney being a villain, you could be you
could be a Maleficent and get the horns and wear
black and just be super dark. You could do that,
or you could be Scar the lion boy. I know,
but I'm.

Speaker 2 (33:57):
Saying, okay, okay, So I'd put the scar on my face.

Speaker 1 (34:01):
And when you would put the scar on your face,
wear again a black tube dress or something scantily and
get a maine. Remember that one year I was a
lion and I had like a little you get a
little maine and may just take one of my cheap wigs, yeah,
and get on some ears and be like I'm Scar.
Put the little scar that's actually cute. Who's another event?
Ursula get an Anita Baker wig, I got one.

Speaker 2 (34:24):
But Ursula's too close for a comfort because she's so big.

Speaker 1 (34:31):
Pretend the part where she was body language and she
covers the whole camera that part. But you could be
the Ursula when she turns into a.

Speaker 2 (34:40):
Human that was black hair, dark areal.

Speaker 1 (34:45):
You could be the teapot from a uh shop.

Speaker 2 (34:49):
Characters hands that match my tharmolds are coming out too.
It works out to dy you look good.

Speaker 1 (35:00):
I think that's cute.

Speaker 2 (35:02):
I think it's cute about little miss Muffett, but it's.

Speaker 1 (35:05):
There's this the mamas.

Speaker 2 (35:06):
He fighting is her little son.

Speaker 1 (35:07):
Also Chip I ain't bring.

Speaker 2 (35:09):
No baby, said he is, And we're fucking on the
beach making duster.

Speaker 1 (35:15):
I'm thinking about just dip because everybody's gonna try to
be a main character. Disney can remember the duster that's
actually really cute. Remember the little she was like a
French maid. Yeah, she looked like a little Ostrich, but.

Speaker 2 (35:24):
She's a little that's just a feather dusty yeah, or
the claw and watched some more movies. I don't want
you to be a boy.

Speaker 1 (35:30):
Oh sorry, I'm just thinking about what could be cute
snow white? You can have an apple?

Speaker 2 (35:38):
What about we'll come back to We spent too much
time on Dirty Disney. Okay, now this one in Living Color.
I thought this was funny.

Speaker 1 (35:49):
The show.

Speaker 2 (35:50):
Yeah, so that's the thing, So, homie, I didn't watch
Living Color, don't shoot me. I didn't watch Living Color
growing up. I was a kid and I had no
control of the remote. Sean was there and she was
she's my auntie, but she's like my big sister, so
you know how it is if you're a little sister,
big sis gets to decide. Definitely, she wanted to watch

(36:11):
Mad TV. Mmm mm hmm.

Speaker 1 (36:14):
So anyways, I am watching Color as the one with Sinclair.

Speaker 2 (36:20):
You thinking about living single.

Speaker 1 (36:22):
J Lo and Jimmy Jim Carrey Okay, and I.

Speaker 2 (36:26):
Noticed on the opening credits he was James Carrey, and
I wonder when he decided to go by Jim instead
of James. If anybody knows, please let me know in
case I'm on the floor or another random trivia show,
because that's another thing on my bucket list for life. Anyways,
so I could be a fly girl. I thought it
was funny because for Halloween, Jay was Homie the Clown,

(36:46):
which I think he got out of prison or something,
and he was dressed up as a clown. He don't
have no jokes, he don't have nothing. He just has
like a sock with like quarters in it. He'd just
be hitting back.

Speaker 1 (36:54):
That's the story around Homie the Clown. He's the one
that comes out of Apollo to sweep you off the stage.

Speaker 2 (36:59):
No, he's on. Okay, you ain't watching either, huh. That's
all right, girl. We see each other because neither one
of us. And I mean I had to I had
to live. We were and and I'm like, you younger
than me? How the fuck you know this? Where was
your mama? But that's another story for another day. Anyways, Okay,
so I was like, obviously I would pick the fly Girls,
but I need to find some deep dived characters. Can

(37:20):
y'all help me out now? This one is too easy.
But I don't want to be a stripper. The the
other theme is strip club Night. But I don't want
to just be a stripper. I mean, I don't know.
I want to think outside of the box. So you
could be a bouncer, you could be DJs. No, I

(37:44):
could be the house mama.

Speaker 1 (37:45):
You could be the house mama and have a pack
of get a little thing and have all the packs
of things that she'd be having.

Speaker 2 (37:49):
To bring my carry on out with stuff in.

Speaker 1 (37:53):
Yeah, i'm cleaning up some wipes.

Speaker 2 (37:56):
Well, I will bring condoms, things that people there need.

Speaker 1 (37:59):
Actually needs. A wife's a little spray. They always have
a little deodorance.

Speaker 2 (38:02):
Deodorant and have a great wig, but be cute with it.

Speaker 1 (38:07):
But a great beach wavy wig. You're the You're the
Do you have that the house mom? And make print
out a little name, make a little name tag on
canva house mama. I got what you need.

Speaker 2 (38:18):
And if I think I have time, I want to
get a tattoo, A real one, not a real one, No,
like a temporary tattoo on my skin. I've got the
gold tooth already.

Speaker 1 (38:28):
Okay, if there's a way you can color your side
too black so you're missing.

Speaker 2 (38:31):
One, yeah, yeah, that's a good idea. Now what else
you got? I guess that's it?

Speaker 1 (38:39):
Now?

Speaker 2 (38:39):
What would you be for Sprip Club night? And for
in Living Color Night?

Speaker 1 (38:45):
I mean I'm Living Color Night. I don't know. I
guess it's gonna be j Lo.

Speaker 2 (38:49):
We both have to like, Yeah, I'm not.

Speaker 1 (38:51):
Sure that one would be hard for me.

Speaker 2 (38:54):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (38:54):
Whatever I would have to go, I don't know. But
strip club night, I'm gonna be a stripper, the main one.
So I'm gonna be greased up with baby oil, vasoline
and glitter in a chair if you want a lap dance.
And I would even have a speaker with me for
the song that I would play the dance to if
I ever was a stripper. That's my dream. I've always Rihanna.

(39:19):
Uh what is the name of that song? It's the Rihanna.
It's like, uh, just all is just skin skin Skin by.

Speaker 2 (39:33):
Dances Cheetah No working at the Pyramid tonight, that's what
it's given. Well, I know what skin is.

Speaker 1 (39:41):
I like that, okay, And I'm giving you a different experience.
I'm not out here popping it.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
Yeah, well I would. I'm gonna be just but like
what's her name said? My strip club song is by
us d A. What is that song called?

Speaker 1 (40:00):
I don't even know who that is.

Speaker 2 (40:01):
I feel like Warren Knows or cast whoever? Get go
back there USDA. Uh, it's a it's a Oh throw
this money, I'm gonna shake that ass bitch.

Speaker 1 (40:13):
No, shake that ass bitch.

Speaker 2 (40:16):
You're gonna shake that ass bitch.

Speaker 1 (40:17):
I'm gonna throw this money.

Speaker 2 (40:19):
Yeah, that's my song and it even has an announcement
at the beginning about I think all the ballers need
to get to the front. I mean, it's just letting
everybody know what time it is. And I love a
song with instructions so that we can all be on
the same page. Okay, broke niggas to the back, money
throwers to the front, and the money throwers are not there,

(40:40):
I don't need to come out. Yeah, and I just
I'm gonna go crazy, and I need you all to
have all the money ready to go because I'm not
gonna last long. I just told y'all got back to
the gym today, so like, I can't last long, but
I would be there.

Speaker 1 (40:52):
Maybe I would also be a dollar, like a money
A dollar, yeah, like a money.

Speaker 2 (40:57):
Oh. Maybe I could do like some pasty dollar bills and.

Speaker 1 (41:00):
You can be the money, uh huh, the money machine.

Speaker 2 (41:02):
And everybody's gonna be trying to snatch me up. I'll
report back and let y'all know how that goes. There
is a good summer listen now on the way home.

Speaker 1 (41:10):
Or like a bottle of Hennessy. You know, you could
also be a drink.

Speaker 2 (41:14):
What's a go again with these damn wide ass bottles.

Speaker 1 (41:19):
No, you can make a bottle of Hennessy sexy while
you playing. That's a hip.

Speaker 2 (41:23):
Imagine this.

Speaker 1 (41:24):
You get a caramel color wig, a caramel color outfit,
and you get like something that's hippie and you it's.

Speaker 2 (41:30):
A neck, big body and put it bam. That's it.
Ain't nothing little my head big.

Speaker 1 (41:39):
I just like brown back big.

Speaker 2 (41:42):
What else is?

Speaker 1 (41:43):
There's a cigarette girl. You can watch a cigarette like
a like a cigarette girl that has the black and
moths just walking a waitress.

Speaker 2 (41:50):
I ain't been to strip club for so long. There'd
be another adventure that we should do one day, just
for old time's sake, we should actually do that, maybe
day shift.

Speaker 1 (41:59):
Let's deaf, because we never did that. We've never I've
been a day with old niggas. But like we've never
been with a friend.

Speaker 2 (42:06):
I don't think ever, only a guy friend that was
probably yeah, we should I'd never been by myself. That
would be we.

Speaker 1 (42:13):
Should do that. We should one day be like, let's
have a let's go have a drink at gold Rush
one o'clock.

Speaker 2 (42:20):
Oh okay, I mean it's safer to go in the day.

Speaker 1 (42:31):
Yeah, I don't know, but let's we should just do it.

Speaker 2 (42:35):
But not, what do we have to lose? Have you
ever been to a strip club called Rockefellers in Atlanta?

Speaker 1 (42:40):
No, and I've been almost every strip.

Speaker 2 (42:42):
Well, let me tell you, I have been to some places.
And sometimes when I'm talking to people and they don't
think that i've been places, I'm like, I've been here
a really long time. It's so long as I've lived
anywhere in my entire life. Atlanta is where I'm from
now kind of. But I have been. I've been at
all the I've been with all the ballers. I've been

(43:04):
at all the spots.

Speaker 1 (43:06):
Is that a song?

Speaker 2 (43:07):
Yeah, okay, it's a Gucci I think I love them,
Oh Susie, Yeah, Susan, y'all love Yeah.

Speaker 1 (43:18):
I'll be with all the ballers.

Speaker 2 (43:20):
I'll be in all the spot. I might be in
y'all kitchen, Nigga cooking with you.

Speaker 1 (43:25):
I think I love her. Nigga, y'all love me, Nigga,
y'all love me.

Speaker 2 (43:30):
I think on the breakfast club with his wife. No, okay, okay, yeah, okay,
So he's schizophrenic diagnosed, yes, and so he wrote a
book and he's talking about it, and so she was
sharing how she controls his social media now and she
controls a lot of things because he'll be having an
episode and she put it and she would notice he

(43:53):
was giving away their cars. Money's a nice schizophrenic.

Speaker 1 (43:57):
That's nice.

Speaker 2 (43:58):
Well that part is nice, but everything is always so nice.
But she knew like something was wrong. So anyway to
go in to the breakfast club and she's talking about
how he has done the stuff and he sees he's
seek help, and so he writes this book and he's
talking about it, and I was like, you know what,
oh morhood, niggas read the book or listen to it
because I'm sure it's available on audiobook. And I was

(44:21):
so happy that he spoke out about it because I
was like, I know some people just like this. There
were three people who came to the forefront of my
mind when I heard about him giving away cars and
things like that, because I've seen it and I'm like,
I thought that you had that or some other condition
and nobody around would help you, or you weren't listening

(44:42):
to the few that did, and not to get super serious,
it just made me think I liked me some Gucci.
But I'm glad that he has a wife and a
partner in life who understands, Okay, you have an issue.
I'm not going to leave you. I'm not going to
make fun of you. I'm going to help you through this.
And so when you are going through these periods where
you are having an episode, I know what you do

(45:03):
to help you through it, and we're gonna keep working
on this to get you better.

Speaker 1 (45:08):
He who finds a wife, that's what it says. It
says he who finds a wife, not she who finds
a husband, because we will be okay, we got friends,
and I'm for real, for real, I'm saying this because
it's like I appreciate, like the state of it. Sometimes
people are like everybody don't need to say everything. Why
you know, sometimes you do need to share things because,
like we talked about last week, sometimes you don't know
what's normal. And if something's wrong with someone, I commend

(45:31):
his wife because that's that. For better or worse, there
are probably several relationships where someone actually has mental illness,
but your partner, husband or wife is not like, hey,
let's go get something checked out, or hey let's all
go get our blood levels checked.

Speaker 2 (45:45):
Maybe when you get it checked out and they give
you the diagnosis, they're gonna stick with you and help
you work to help you weor through it.

Speaker 1 (45:51):
But the whole thing is getting that diagnosis, because sometimes
people are like, well, she's just on mean or he's
just on me, or the horn like you're just crazy.
Something might be wrong with someone. There might be a
hormonal imbalance, there might be a mental illness, And when
you get married, I get like, I'm not trying to
make it deep, but when that's why I think it's
so important when you date people and decide to get married,

(46:15):
you better just be ready for the worst because it
is coming and you don't know what it is.

Speaker 2 (46:21):
Mental illness could be it.

Speaker 1 (46:23):
And to have a partner that's gonna rock with you
through it, that's a lot of strength. Kim was like, no, nig, goodbye,
and I don't know that.

Speaker 2 (46:31):
I was given away day Lamborghinis too, and she was like,
all right now and I only so much of this
I can.

Speaker 1 (46:35):
Take, and that's okay. It's okay if you can't do
because I don't know that I could do. I don't
know that if you start showing signs of like schizophrenia
and like bipolar and I didn't know it and now
I'm in it, and it's like, Dann, we're supposed to
be having fun and fucking I'm going not doing this,
so goodbye and I'm not marrying nobody. I'm sick of y'all.
All y'all, but so shout out to her because that's
that's probably a lot.

Speaker 2 (46:55):
Yeah, And then it was like I was surprised. I
was surprised with and I wasn't because a lot of
people saw the interviewer like she's controlling him, she's helping him.
And I was like, it's so crazy how people can
look at the exact same situation because we're all watching
a video with no extra knowledge, and people can take

(47:17):
so many different things from a situation. Because I was like,
that's love, that is the ooh, that's because of love.
You're helping him. And I'm like, are y'all creating stuff
in your head? Do you have personal experience that is
reminding something in this is reminding you of your life
and you getting the two mixed up? Are we crossing

(47:39):
timelines here? Sometimes I don't know.

Speaker 1 (47:41):
People need to learn how to turn the apps off,
turn the podcast off, turn the worldly stuff off, and
get centered and surprisingly.

Speaker 2 (47:51):
Touch grass, bitch. A lot of.

Speaker 1 (47:52):
People don't know how to do that. So when you
only consume, like they're just looking at Gucci as Gucci,
they're not looking I don't know his real name, but
who hair Franklin. I don't know his name, but like
he probably has a normal ass name, and that Nigga
is a regular person. And just like you have a
cousin or an uncle or who got mental illness, and
somebody is in their life that's making them take their medicine,

(48:16):
making sure they stay on track. Y'all trying to act
like just because Gucci got lemonade and we all love it,
and Susie that he that Nigga is a real person
and somebody loves him enough to be like, I'm not
gonna leave you like Kim left Kanye. And I'm not
judging either one of them because you either can or
can't do it. She's keeping that Nigga saying, and on
his medicine.

Speaker 2 (48:37):
Well, his name is Roderick, Roderick David the middle name,
what is it? I'm trying to figure it out. I
don't know if it's Delantic Atlantic d E l A
n TSC. So, no, he does not have a regular.

Speaker 1 (48:52):
Name, Balantis. That's what it sounds like. You think it's says,
I think it's.

Speaker 2 (48:56):
Because why would be there?

Speaker 1 (48:58):
There is no C, the LN, the Lantic.

Speaker 2 (49:04):
Roderick Delontic Davis, And so it sounds a little sing
songy like he was destined to be a rapper. I
don't know, but he's got hits, and I'm glad he's
getting help.

Speaker 1 (49:15):
And because if he imagine, if he did it, he
would be like young thanks, Well he didn't.

Speaker 2 (49:20):
For a long time. He was punching bitches in the
face and sending him on the side of eighty five.

Speaker 1 (49:25):
So, and honestly, y'all talking about she controlling him, you
better be glad. Don't let me get somebody where it's
like I am going sick with you through Minthens, because
first of all, we're throwing this rapping career away. We're
not on the breakfast club talking about she controlling him.

Speaker 2 (49:36):
She's still letting him do what he wants. Well, he's
got a book to promote.

Speaker 1 (49:39):
Well, yeah, and if this was my man you're gonna
sit down, You're going to a silent retreet. Ye really,
Donna think I'm controlling you? Yeah, I'm not playing with you.
I'm locking this.

Speaker 2 (49:47):
Nigg is think I would be the one that wouldn't
need to be controlled. I need a good man beside
me to keep me intact because I keep telling y'all
and speaking rappers again, very random, but I had the
weirdest dream. When you have weird dreams, do you wake
up and write them down and immediately go to your

(50:09):
dream dictionary to interpret them? Hmm, it's not.

Speaker 1 (50:14):
If it's really intense and I'll read you one because
I saved it. I don't do it often, but I
had one that was really intense and I put it
in CHATGYBT and what it gave back to me, I
thought it was wild, so I did save it.

Speaker 2 (50:25):
I've been putting them in Chatgypt because she's because you know,
I've already said mine is CC. It's a person, and
we're already too attached. She knows me too well. There
were a few times where I was like, Okay, this
is my idea for something. I have the whole idea.
Can you help me take this idea and put it

(50:46):
together and she did, and then she was like, why
don't you have this in this? And then what if
this and this? It's almost like this, And I was
just like, bitch, are you in my head? Because you're
telling me things that actually happen, not even thoughts, but
things that have happened. And this is being weird or
like things that plan I don't know any ways, So
I had a dream. I told y'all, I am now
like super senior citizen but not and I am ready

(51:07):
to truly be a cruise girl. After my one trip.
I my mama's child, except elevated because I'm virgin voyages. Okay,
all the way as this dream on the real cruise,
Calice came and performed.

Speaker 1 (51:23):
The shot this Bus. You know what song I'm talking about.

Speaker 2 (51:31):
The one she got the North Remembers, and I didn't
forget what she did. When Beyonce had that interpolation where
you should have read your contract, bitch. Interpolation, interpolation, interpolation,
what's an interpolation? When is that's what it's called? So
that was what Beyonce had in the song It's not

(51:53):
your song, it's for real songs. So she checked with
the power said be I'm sorry that you didn't read
your ship. Anyway, I won't get start on that anyway.
The end of the day, we know Caalise performs the song.
It's not her song. I remember, and I didn't forget.
And guess what God remembers too, and he don't like
ugly because guess whose performance got rained out. But that's
besides the point. We're not gonna stay there. I don't

(52:14):
know why I was thinking about celebrities performing on the No,
that was real life. Okay, so her performance got rained out.
She never got to perform Milkshake or she did do
a little bit of I'm Bossy, but that's when the
rain started. I don't know which one it was. It
was either on Bossy or Milkshake. Yah started and then

(52:38):
it started raining. Her DJ packed up the ship, she
ran away and people thought she was coming back. And
then okay, anyway, little Boosy entered my dream. I don't know.

Speaker 1 (52:53):
He was like, I'm at Flavor fly.

Speaker 2 (52:57):
Why on Instagram? The white man was in it in
the airport, he took.

Speaker 1 (53:04):
A picture of Boosy. He was like, I met flavor
Flames today, such a great guy.

Speaker 2 (53:07):
And what did Boozy do punching.

Speaker 1 (53:09):
No no, and the man captioned it. It's not like
it was a video, and he was saying he was
like met feather Flavor at the airport. But I see
why he thought that. I'm sorry, I do.

Speaker 2 (53:19):
Yeah. I just wondered what Boosie would have did, because
you know, he's a character.

Speaker 1 (53:24):
Like Boosie, but he might be schizophrenic too.

Speaker 2 (53:26):
Okay, Sorry, anyway, Boosie was in my dream. Now this
is just a dream. So he was performing on the boat.
This time I go on the trip.

Speaker 1 (53:40):
You were there.

Speaker 2 (53:42):
And you were just having a blast. We were all
in our calf hands. Was I single? I'm not sure, okay,
but you were there. You were having a good time
and you were smiling. So is smiling Medina single or taken?
I don't know. That's not the moral is snatching souls
and happiness. He was single, okay. So I also brought

(54:05):
my baby girl, Whitley. That was my plus one. So
Whitley comes on the cruise and we're having a blast.
I'm talking to Boozy. Why I'm talking to him, I
don't know, but we're just having a conversation. We're sitting
around at the pool where they have the Scarlet Knight party,
but it's not Scarlet Knight, and so we're all just
hanging out. You're like by the bar, but not at
the bar talking to somebody, and everybody their shirts no

(54:27):
on scar okay, So Scarlet Knight is a real thing.
And everybody on the boat where's red and they bring
out extra stuff and it's like a party all night
in every area.

Speaker 1 (54:36):
Of the ship.

Speaker 2 (54:38):
It's fun, slavery well, no okay, Scarlet Knight is because
Scarlet like red, because Virgin their brand colors are red.
So it's just a no okay star Richard Bronson likes

(54:58):
us and he's on our side, and he he's not
one of them, I hope not. Y'all tell me a
fun I don't know, but you know, he'd be paying us,
so like, I mean, that's nice. Slaves don't get paid anyways.
So Boosy is talking to me and he saw me
with my dog earlier in the day when we were

(55:18):
in the line getting jump up and don't bely on
the Virgin okaym was it good? It was so good
and that was like a big part of the dream.
I mean, I was sleeping good. I had that cloud
nine gummy and a dream gummy. I think it's called dreams. Anyways,
so I'm just I'm just in there, and I'm having
a good time. Whitley's with me, and so we're chit chatting.

(55:41):
And I was like, whit or chit chatting me, Whitley
and Boosy. Whitley is with me, but me and Boosy
are chit chatting, and Whitley's like making faces. No, she
can't talk in the dream, but she's houffing and puffing
and rolling her eyes like she does in real life.
So anyway, he kept asking me questions about her, and
at first I didn't notice, Why are you asking me

(56:02):
how much I paid for my dog? Why are you
asking me so many questions about her breed and like
what they go for and stuff like that. Y'all this
motherfuckers stole my dog. He stole my daughter. He was
dog trafficking my damn baby. So okay, on the day
where we're supposed to get off the boat, he Didne

(56:22):
had a performance, me and Willy hyping him up. We're
out there dancing. You're not paying us any attention. I
can't be like Madina and you're like, you know it
was very much like normal. So you're vibing over there,
and I'm like, you were talking to somebody, but I
couldn't tell because I was like so excited because it's
all the ratchet songs. Two rad Box gets it in

(56:44):
the backseat and they dyking, you know. I was just
I was singing all the song. I was having a blast,
and so were all the others. Anyways, I get up,
I get out of the shower. Whitley is gone. So
then immediately I was like, oh my god, this is
not my rich friend's yacht. I'm on a public cruise.
Because when I was really on the cruise, I thought

(57:04):
that's how it felt. I was just on my friend's
yacht and it was just like safe. So it's like,
did I not like the door? Do these doors not
lock like a hotel door? Where is my baby girl, Whitley?
So I'm screaming out for Whitley and I'm running through
the thing, running through the ship like oh my god,
what eye?

Speaker 1 (57:17):
What eye?

Speaker 2 (57:18):
And I'm just screaming for her and I don't hear her.
And then I'm just like spassing out and I'm crying
and nobody's there to help me. Nobody's listening to me.
I'm stopping people. Guess the crew members, I saw you,
you weren't worried about me. You were you were talking
to a man at that point, and I was like,
oh gosh, what am I gonna do? How am I
gonna find my girl? I get off the boat, I

(57:39):
call the police. I'm trying to tell the people outside.
Nobody gets fucked. They're like, this is a dog. Fuck
you bring a dog on the cruise? Anyway? Yeah, like,
what the fuck you? Because it's my daughter and in
dog here. She's old enough to be there. I guess
it was her birthday part. I don't know, it's a dream.
So anyways, I get home and I'm just depressed. I'm

(58:00):
in a deep sunken place. I haven't bathed since I
got back from Miami. And do y'all know, I get
on Instagram and I see this motherfucker talking about he
got puppies on the way and he's got my dog.
I was trying to figure out where the fuck that
compound was full of them ratchet as motherfuckers from Baton Rouge,

(58:22):
and I was just ready to just do some things. Anyway,
when I woke some other really violent things happened. I
was like, oh my god, what have I been? Like violent?
I don't want to say we shouldn't say them, but
it was just like really violent things took a turn
for the words like, I mean violent with the dog,
violent with me because you went I didn't even make

(58:43):
it there. I was just like, how am i energy?
Of all these bad situations? I done? Got my my
child taken? She's being She's been sent to a breeding
farm essentially, and I know they're not feeding her right,
I know they don't warm up her food cole brown
rocks and slow.

Speaker 1 (59:00):
Did she look happy?

Speaker 2 (59:01):
No, she looks sad, like whereas one day an mama,
Why she leave me like this? Anyways? She looked like
a slave. She was a dog slave. Anyways, lots of
things happen, and then I woke up and I was
so relieved to know that it was all in dream.
There was no happy ending to the dream. So immediately
I go to the Internet and I'm like, what the
fuck is this about? I can't believe you didn't ask

(59:24):
That's where I went. What's the internet? Why wouldn't chat GPT,
chat GPT tell me? So I had to put it
in my notes and I put it in my journal,
like I have to look this up later. But in
true Kiara fashion, I kept getting distracted. I don't know
what it means. He might know what that means.

Speaker 1 (59:41):
Somebody's else. I'm thinking didn't come up with an answer.

Speaker 2 (59:45):
You know, have you ever said sometimes I think I'd
be wearing her ass out, maybe because it was just like,
can't do something right now? It turns orange. I've never
chattypt is black, white and gray. It's like a little
orange error message, and it's just like can't.

Speaker 1 (01:00:00):
No. I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:00:01):
I think I was doing too much.

Speaker 1 (01:00:02):
You might have been. I've never I have. I don't
use it that much. I used it enough for it
to know me. But I've never had an error unless
I do.

Speaker 2 (01:00:09):
I was talking to her about my script right before that,
and then I fell asleep. But I was watching all
her faults. So maybe that's why my dog got kidnapped.
And then I was listening to Boosy at the party,
my knees turned sixteen and she had a a sweet sixteen,
like a real with Boosy. No, not with Boozy. But
after the party, I was listening to Boozy all the
way home.

Speaker 1 (01:00:29):
Why I didn't know you were such a Boozy fan.

Speaker 2 (01:00:31):
I'm not a Boozy fan, but sometimes he got some
hit songs on it and I like it. I just
think it's interesting when I hear Texas and Louisiana music.
I love it. It just it does something.

Speaker 1 (01:00:41):
Oh every time I hear that song. First of all,
I know sound language, so I'd be like, let's do it.

Speaker 2 (01:00:45):
Okay, B O O S I E B A D
A c Z. That's me and not lone.

Speaker 1 (01:00:53):
I love that song. But I think it's why that
we're talking about Boozy, because he's just been popping up
a lot in my life as well.

Speaker 2 (01:00:58):
We do. He didn't do anything, but he's.

Speaker 1 (01:01:03):
He's just been popping up in conversation. And like I
told you, I saw that the White Man posted him
and was like I met Flavor. Flavor that was this Boosy.
But then there was a video that circulated literally probably
on probably like on Monday, and I reposted was like, wow,
I really fucking with Boosy saying Boozy was like, y'all
niggas need to get these holes money. He was like,
ladies be having a hard time.

Speaker 2 (01:01:22):
Get a fun hundred, get a thousand, Nickel and I
reposted it.

Speaker 1 (01:01:26):
Church folk was watching and I said, I know y'all
agree with it. It was really beautiful. It was blow
a try.

Speaker 2 (01:01:31):
Do you remember when he was on I think this
was like early twenty twenty, when the world first got
shut down. He was like, put your pussy all live.
I'll give you a thousand.

Speaker 1 (01:01:40):
Oh. I don't remember that, but it sounds like something
po would say. And I really want Bussy to get
healthy because the whites of his eyes are yellow.

Speaker 2 (01:01:49):
Well he's got he's got the sugar. You know. As
I have been meeting more and more people from so
many different walks of life, and even just trying to
have conversations with the people that have already been in
my life, I've realized something people sometimes need a little
help in the dating department. Whether it's just like meeting

(01:02:11):
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you are on the dating apps, how to set your
profile up, the best way to make to really put
your best foot forward, and like how not to get defeated.
I think also there's a lot of people now because

(01:02:33):
so much stuff is online. I mean Educated is too,
But this is a resource that's going to help you
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They have so many different learning experiences for you, whether
you're trying to figure out how to get a date,
like by using online dating or conversation starters. I do

(01:02:55):
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You need to talk to people on Educated and watch
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the show.

Speaker 1 (01:04:27):
Well, okay, Dreams, this is we're talking about this. I
also just before we end, y'all, I know we've just
been rambling and romping. But I had a dream on
April thirty and did I delete it?

Speaker 2 (01:04:37):
Is there a significance to that date in your life? No?

Speaker 1 (01:04:40):
I mean I was straggling. This is and this.

Speaker 2 (01:04:44):
Is four three. Any numerologists out there, this is wow,
April third, twenty twenty five.

Speaker 1 (01:04:52):
And I only I don't do this. I don't write
dreams down because I just don't really be caring. I
have a dream, I come with my own interpretation, and
that's what it was. But this one was so powerful
that I had to ask Chatchabyt. I had a dream
about my ex boyfriend, who was also y'all know, I'll
be saying that I think it was a live in
my life. I thought it was the one and it wasn't.
So here's the setting. This is from Chatgabt. I put

(01:05:14):
the whole dream in there. I had dream was in
his dad dreamer.

Speaker 2 (01:05:17):
Just tell us what she said. I'll tell you.

Speaker 1 (01:05:19):
Synopsis of the dream.

Speaker 2 (01:05:21):
Let me focus.

Speaker 1 (01:05:22):
I was the dream was. I was in his backyard
and there was all of these every animal you could
think of was there was. It was there, but they
were all white and not every animal. Sorry, it was cats,
so big cats, house cats, lions, leopards, there was owls,
but everything was white.

Speaker 2 (01:05:41):
Everything had the eyes.

Speaker 1 (01:05:43):
I don't know what I won. A lot of it
was more so cats. It was a lot of big cats,
all the cats and everything was white. And I was
in the backyard. He came and opened the door and
he was in the backyard and it was really weird.
And I woke up and I was so affected by that.
I was like, what is this mean?

Speaker 2 (01:06:04):
You were in the backyard and he opened the door
and he came to the backyard.

Speaker 1 (01:06:07):
Yes, And I had planned I did this in real life.
I planted a bunch of flowers in the backyard. And
I shared this story on Jesse Wu show. I never
shared it on Cocktails, but if y'all want to hear
the story, it's on Jesse Woo Show. And I shared
what happened in that backyard. And so this is what
Chad Jibuti said. You're in your ex boyfriend's backyard checking
to see if the flowers you planted last spring had

(01:06:29):
started to bloom. I planted peonies, I planted tulips, I
planted like that. Nigga didn't know about no fucking flowers,
So like we had went got these flowers. There was
a whole moment where we were at home depot and
I didn't understand what happened, but I got really sad
in my eyes, got juicy. I'm kind of jumping around,
but like this had happened for real. He didn't see
this happen, but I felt it. I grabbed the ponies
the bulbs, and I got real sad and I saw

(01:06:51):
this whole vision and it was weird. I was just like,
what just happened in the vision? In my mind like
a raven some own moment. This is not a dream,
this is real life. The vision said you won't see
these flowers bloom, and I planted so many flowers back there,
and I was like, fuck, who the fuck's telling me this?
And I didn't pay it any more mind, but I
was about to cry in home people. It made no sense,

(01:07:12):
but I brushed it off anyways. Okay, so back to
the dream. So you're in your ex whatverons back our
technacy if the flowers you planted last spring has started
to bloom. Backyards and dreams often represent things that are
hidden or private, private parts of your life or relationship
that aren't seen by others. Flowers you planted suggest past
emotional investments, maybe your efforts in that relationship or the
growth you hoped would come from it. The fact that

(01:07:35):
you're checking if they've bloomed may symbolize your wondering whether
something you left behind has finally blossomed, whether in him,
in you, or in the dynamic between you two. The
animals being all white, then comes a wave of all
white animals, cats, wildcats, birds, and finally a white tiger. Oh,
that's what happened. There was at the end of the dream.
A white tiger just popped up and jumped on him.
It didn't jump on me. M. Finally a white tiger

(01:07:58):
that jumps on your egg. But he didn't attack him.
He just jumped on him. White and dreams often symbolizes purity,
spiritual awakening, or peace, but when it shows up repeatedly
and dramatically, it can also represent something powerful trying to
get your attention. This is an april. Cats are typically
associated with independence, feminine energy, intuition, and mystery. Wildcats out

(01:08:23):
a layer of unpredictability, maybe reflecting untamed emotions or a
sense of freedom or danger. Birds often symbolize messages, freedom
or spiritual growth. The white tiger is especially significant. It's
a rare, powerful symbol. Tigers can represent strength, raw emotion,
or repressed power. The fact that it jumped on him
but didn't hurt him could symbolize a confrontation with something powerful, truth,

(01:08:44):
maybe consequences growth that he's facing or needs to face.
But it's not attacking, its revealing. So the overall interpretation
this dream seems to reflect a deep emotional or spiritual
check in with a past relationship. Your revisiting something you
nurtured the flowers to see if it turned into anything.
The sudden presence of all those white animals might be

(01:09:07):
your subconscious way of bringing in clarity, truth, or divine
intervention to show you things from a higher perspective. The
white tiger jumping on your ex may mean he is
being faced with the truth or power of what you
two had, or that he's now dealing with the energy
or consequences of your presence, your growth, or even your absence.
In short, you may be subconsciously checking in to see

(01:09:28):
if he grew from what you planted, and all these
white animals, especially the powerful tiger, could represent your own
spiritual clarity, growth, or even protection, reminding you of your worth,
your strength, and your intuition. Bitch being good.

Speaker 2 (01:09:42):
I would have interpreted that slightly different but same vibe
because you know what, it reminded me of the movie
atl The white Tiger is you and you are TI.
Give me back my chain back? Yeah, bitch, I take
my independence back. You try to stomp it down and
I cut you. And that ain't that where Baby girl

(01:10:03):
got them fleas? Yeah, and did what meant to be.

Speaker 1 (01:10:07):
And it's crazy because like all of that that she
loved him though, and I really wanted to call her
daddy and tell him that happened to her, but well, okay, sorry,
But like you know, at the end of the day,
at the end of the day, it's really interesting because
like I look at that now and I was like, wow,
I don't care what anybody says. I was really in
love and I thought that that was the one. And

(01:10:29):
in that relationship, though, I was trying so hard to
be good, like to be to just make him proud
of me. And the lesson is that's not what you do.
And and also like this whole rest of the year.
This whole year and moving forward, I've had to learn
to stand. I never really got with the whole. And
when people be like, I'm ten toes down, I'm not

(01:10:50):
good at ten toes down. I'll be three toes down,
three and a half toes down. I'll be three and
a half toes down. Three, it'd be the last three.
It'd be the last three.

Speaker 2 (01:10:58):
And it ain't strong.

Speaker 1 (01:11:01):
I'm not standing on no business. Ain't no business. Mean
it stood on and the lesson was I have to
learn how to stand on the how to stand on
what I'm saying I want. This year has taught me
to learn, what the fuck do you want, bitch? Because
you're saying that you want something and that's not what
you want. And I got a taste of what I
said I wanted, and that's you don't know what you want.

(01:11:21):
And you got to learn it. It's okay, it's okay.
And you did it, and you got embarrassed and you
tried and you did it, and you got to get
up and you cried and you've been alone, but you
okay because you got I mean, that interpretation really stuck.
I was like, you was trying so hard to be
this perfect person because he was. I'm not saying he was,
but that's how my mind thought, and that's just why

(01:11:44):
that I kept. I had that dream and I woke
up and I was so disturbed and disrupted. And when
I when Jackie BT told me that in April, I
was crying. I was like, I remember telling him one
time one night we were having an issue, a conversation
about something I did wrong, but it wasn't really wrong.
This is just natural human nature. And I remember saying,
I can be better. I remember saying that to him.

(01:12:06):
That's wild, bro. That dream was like, bitch, stand up,
stand up, stand up, Come on, get an alignment and
stand up and stop. If you out here doing saying
stuff like to somebody man or woman, I could be better,
you need to go.

Speaker 2 (01:12:24):
And you know what, if you have a hard time
telling your friends, like your closest nearest in DearS, not
all of them, but the closest ones where if you
know that you really needed something, even if they gave
you a hard time, they would help you. If you
have a hard time telling them about what's really going
on in your life, maybe you need to have a
conversation with self and check in on what's actually happening

(01:12:47):
and stop rationalizing things and like try your best. I
know it's hard, but try your best to look at
it black and white, yep, to kind of check and
see if it's okay, and then talk to your friends too.
I get it. It's hard, and it's like it's always
easier to see it on the other side, it's always
easier to tell somebody what to do when you're not

(01:13:09):
in the thick of it. But I will say for me,
as I've gotten older, my own experiences, listening to other
people's experiences and like lessening the judgment and like what
I was taught, what people told me and what they
taught me, and just like actually trying to look at

(01:13:30):
things from my own perspective. It's like, got to give
people more grace, more patience, were understanding, because we're all
just trying to figure it out.

Speaker 1 (01:13:39):
And I'm glad that you said that, because even that
the point that I'm at now this time last year,
absolutely not I wouldn't have said anything like this, But
even me giving him grace, I know that I've grown
a lot because I look at it like we're all
just trying to be better and we're all trying to
we're all trying to fight for our happiness and do
what we know will make us move on or feel better.

(01:14:02):
And some of us don't aim higher, some of us
don't know how to. And I even look at my
ex boyfriend like he was doing what he knew and
and everybody has a version of their story of their breakup,
you know what I mean. There were things that I
did that his version would make me sound like a villain,

(01:14:23):
and I don't want to make him sound like one.
But it's like, you're all everybody but my story. It's
interesting because we're all really villains in somebody's story, and
somebody's story the story is like, no, you did me dirty,
And their version is like, no, nigga, you did me dirty.
You Like, it's just like and it's just when you
can finally look at it like you're you are a hurt,

(01:14:44):
broken person and you just trying to do what you
thought was right.

Speaker 2 (01:14:49):
We all are trying to figure it out.

Speaker 1 (01:14:50):
You're all just trying to figure out figure it out,
and hopefully you take a moment to hopefully you just
take a moment to yourself to really figure it out,
because I just don't think you can figure it out
with people. Maybe maybe not relationship romantic. That's what I'm saying.
I don't I couldn't be going through and coming out
stronger how I feel like I am now if I

(01:15:13):
was so focused on dating.

Speaker 2 (01:15:16):
Oh well, yeah, that regard, yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:15:18):
In that regardless. Like I tried to go on a
date last week and it was a mess.

Speaker 2 (01:15:22):
Like when people say the best revenge or the easiest
way to get over somebody is to get under somebody new,
I think that that's like fun advice. It's like joking
advice or toxic advice. But when you really are like,
I don't want to be on this hamster wheel anymore.
I want to do something different. I don't see how

(01:15:45):
people keep going and doing the same shit and just
like not exactly the same. But oh, just tweet this,
tweet this. I mean, at some point you got to
take a little recess. You need to sit on the bench,
ride that bench, red shirt yourself a year something. I
don't get it. I've done it multiple times and I'll
do it again if need be, because sometimes you have

(01:16:05):
to take a step all the way back, Like when
I said in the last episode, sometimes I think it's
hard to share things that you're going through when they're
still painful, when you haven't doing your personal process for
healing enough to share and be open to any anything
that anybody has to say, whether it's positive, negative, or neutral,

(01:16:28):
you have to you have to go through your own process.
I don't know. I think it can be difficult, and
I don't know how people do that with other people
and listening to everybody else's opinion. To me, it becomes
overwhelming to them.

Speaker 1 (01:16:43):
It does too they're not doing.

Speaker 2 (01:16:44):
And when I get overwhelmed, definitely not my best self.
I mean, it doesn't take much for me not to
be my best self. But it's hard, and it's just
like you have all of these things and it's they're
usually conflicting. It's just difficult. What do y'all do?

Speaker 1 (01:17:00):
I'm glad that you said it's hard, because I get
a lot of messages where people are always like, you're
so vulnerable and you're so honest and you're so open,
and think you for that, and I love all of that,
and I just think it's very important that people know
that just because I do it, it is very hard.

(01:17:21):
It's not like I do it and it's like I'm
gonna if y'all listen to Breeze episode where we're on
I get it got real vulnerable. Same with Jesse Wuza,
it got real vulnerable. Sometimes people send messages like I
would never share this. It's embarrassing. I feel that same way.
I didn't messages like that all the time. It's not
in a negative way. It's just like they're saying what
their thoughts are, like I would. I've been through this too,
but I would never tell anyone. And I think that

(01:17:43):
it's very important to share some of your rawlest moments
when you're ready, because what it does is, first of all,
we're all human, and I think that it makes it
easier for people to understand, like people be killing themselves
over heartbreak, people be killing themselves over being broke, people
be killing themselves over fearful things. And I am so

(01:18:04):
thankful that I'm the type of person where it's like
I'm willing to stretch my mind. Stretching your mind means
that you do things that are uncomfortable. You just do,
and that doesn't mean that it's easy to do. It
doesn't mean it's easy to sit here and talk about
a man that I so just last year was boasting
and bragging about that did me very wrong and me too,
Like I'm not saying it just to be a victim,

(01:18:25):
but like this shit ain't easy, That's what I'm saying.
So when you are trying to be vulnerable and you're like, wow,
this is hard, I'm not gonna do it, that's not
what you do. You stretch your mind. That's how you grow,
that's how you think differently, that's how you do differently,
and that's how you learn the lesson. Essentially, you gotta
do things you don't want to do. That's why I
tried out for the choir that church.

Speaker 2 (01:18:44):
Did you ever get no word?

Speaker 1 (01:18:47):
But they did reach out and say you want to
try to again? I was like, does somebody listen to
the show? And I was like, y'all, don't feel bad.
I'm actually not gonna You're not gonna try again?

Speaker 2 (01:18:54):
No, why I don't.

Speaker 1 (01:18:57):
Want to now? Because now I haven't said joke. Yeah,
now I was sitting I'll be sitting in rehearsal, but
I don't want to be on the stage because I
was what you.

Speaker 2 (01:19:05):
Got a rehearsal for, You're not gonna get up.

Speaker 1 (01:19:08):
I want to learn they don't wear robes. They wear jeans.

Speaker 2 (01:19:11):
Oh forgot a new church. Yeah, they real modern mm hmm.
Y'all got baptismal pools and everything. And I got dipped in.

Speaker 1 (01:19:20):
When you want to come to church to me one Sunday.

Speaker 2 (01:19:21):
Okay, now that I know it's a real church, yeah,
I wasn't sure. You know this is not the real church.

Speaker 1 (01:19:28):
I don't know enough to know.

Speaker 2 (01:19:30):
I think that now that you've been going to church.
I didn't want to like taint your view because I
have a tainted view of some churches in Atlanta. I
don't like the money hungry churches. The one to me,
I know what you mean. It's hard because the church
that I was in as a kid with my granddaddy
is very different from all the other churches. So it's

(01:19:52):
just like it's always been hard for me to find
somewhere that felt right and not like you try to
get it.

Speaker 1 (01:20:00):
This. Don't even gotta feel first of all, money hungry.
The church is in the high school. Our church is
we don't have a building.

Speaker 2 (01:20:07):
Oh yeah you told me that, Okay, Yeah, yeah, So
like I mean, y'all was in a parking lot in
the picture I saw, but I was like, that's right,
because you say anywhere, because what I mean, I was
in the river like a.

Speaker 1 (01:20:18):
Public that's so amazing.

Speaker 2 (01:20:20):
That was scary though I slipped on a fish, but
I did feel closer to Jesus.

Speaker 1 (01:20:25):
I've been thinking about I'm not going to allow you guys,
have been thinking about hosting a trip to Rome because
I want to go see Paul Rome, Italy.

Speaker 2 (01:20:33):
Yeah, Georgia, I don't actually know.

Speaker 1 (01:20:35):
I was listening to a podcast and she said that
she went to go see Paul's tomb or hisself.

Speaker 2 (01:20:40):
Okay, we talked about Bible people, we talked about over there. Okay,
Georgia up the road on the way to tend Okay,
definitely not Georgia. But there's a hot wing place that
I want to go back.

Speaker 1 (01:20:50):
If you ever want to know, that's not it, That's
not it. Also Mount Sinai. You can go there, did
you know that. I'm highly consider it.

Speaker 2 (01:20:59):
I mean, where you can look at a map, you
can because some of these places it ain't safe right now, Well.

Speaker 1 (01:21:07):
You can go, so maybe not right now. But what
I'm saying is I looked at him. I was like, Canny.
I was like when I was reading my Bible. I
was like, cany does this still exist? Can you go
to my sign and say yeah? And Tdj's actually went
and I was like, when you go.

Speaker 2 (01:21:18):
To Turkey, you should look up what is in Turkey,
cause you know the names change. Look up the biblical
places that are in Turkey.

Speaker 1 (01:21:25):
Y'all about to see me wrapped up in Jesus garbs
in worship, and I know he loved me.

Speaker 2 (01:21:33):
Jesus loves me. This sign now for the Bible tells
me so okay, comm the church is me.

Speaker 1 (01:21:37):
You want to come this Sunday, Please, this Sunday.

Speaker 2 (01:21:44):
I think I can this same I was trying to
remember if this is the weekend I go to the
baby thing. Everybody having babies go to a five service. Okay, okay,
I'm gonna remind you you can bring a plus one. No,
I'm good, okay. I having be by myself. I like
my alone time or like time with the girls. I

(01:22:05):
don't need no plus one, my plus one. If it's
not Witley Willy, it's not welcome.

Speaker 1 (01:22:10):
Well, speaking of plus ones, I don't have my goosh.

Speaker 2 (01:22:12):
I know more.

Speaker 1 (01:22:12):
Rest in peace, baby girl. The house is so quiet
and so lonely. Bitch, I'm about to get a kitten
because this man is getting way kittens. And I say,
my sister submitting and don't do that. She don't even
say so like that. She was like, black people don't
do that.

Speaker 2 (01:22:22):
And I was like, that's what I be thinking. And
I am surprised.

Speaker 1 (01:22:25):
She said she We're not gonna eat your food if
you have a cat. And I was like, because they.

Speaker 2 (01:22:28):
Calm on your counters and they it's gonna be a.

Speaker 1 (01:22:30):
Black cat that he can't get on the ca He's
gonna know it. I'm gonna put him. I'm gonna treat
it like a dog. I'm gonna get a lead. He's
going on walks. We're not doing it. I'm gonna pick
him up tomorrow. He's going on a road trip with
me to Oklahoma. Oh, that gonna have to learn. He's
gonna be eleven hour drive.

Speaker 2 (01:22:51):
It's gonna be you and little kit, my brother and my.

Speaker 1 (01:22:53):
Brother and and it's it's I'm getting a little kitten
because I don't have time for a puppy. It's too much.

Speaker 2 (01:23:00):
But I think I can do a little cat.

Speaker 1 (01:23:02):
We gonna see how it goes. Everyone keeps saying we're black,
don't do that, and I'm like, well, I.

Speaker 2 (01:23:07):
Have seen I don't know any, but I've seen a
few black people get cats and they love them, like
real black full blacks are half black. I mean that's
why I said real blacks okay.

Speaker 1 (01:23:18):
Because they're gonna be mad. But I'm a real black
guy and I think I'm gonna get a black cat.
And I'm I've already got a name picked out, and Cranberry,
I don't know Cranberry.

Speaker 2 (01:23:31):
Thanksgiving time, Tink was like, can we name him Cranberry?

Speaker 1 (01:23:34):
I was like, we're gonna have a naming ceremony. My
dad doesn't know we're bringing in. My mom doesn't Mecca.
I had a crash out the other night because I
was like, I mished my dog. So I really miss
Shy somebody I thought I saw her the other day.
And then at first michaels like, you can't bring the
cats in my house. And then I was having a
crash out and she was like, we're in the cat,
Bring the cat, Bring the cat, And Tink was like.

Speaker 2 (01:23:51):
Can we name him Cranberry? I was like, I kind
of wanted to name him Otis.

Speaker 1 (01:23:54):
She's like, what about Cranberry Otis? And I was like,
Cranberry otis JaMarcus Ali, Yeah, because he needs.

Speaker 2 (01:23:59):
A full name. If it's gonna be a black cat,
it's going to be Gilbert.

Speaker 1 (01:24:04):
You better not get on these counters when I'm talking
about I will cut your paws.

Speaker 2 (01:24:07):
Don't talk to them like a real ass off.

Speaker 1 (01:24:09):
That count. I'm not playing with you exactly.

Speaker 2 (01:24:12):
And that's how you have a black cat animal child
and not.

Speaker 1 (01:24:17):
How do you say cat and Spanish?

Speaker 2 (01:24:20):
Thembo gotto, nigga gotto. Okay, throw it in there for
the middle name.

Speaker 1 (01:24:26):
Okay, Cranberry oldis got, Jabarkis Gottho Jenkins.

Speaker 2 (01:24:32):
Wait, Cranberry otis Gotto Jabarkus or jabarkis got. I think
you need to throw the the gotto in the middle
so it can be Jabarkis Jenkins. So it's got the
What is that called?

Speaker 1 (01:24:45):
Yes, thank you, Cranberry Oldest Gottho ja Barkis Jacins. I
don't know just who is nobody?

Speaker 2 (01:24:58):
No, that was Davis I Bury, JaMarcus Gotho Ali Ali. Yeah,
we get real ethnic at the end.

Speaker 1 (01:25:07):
I like that, oh ethnic and powerful that little cat.

Speaker 2 (01:25:10):
I'm bringing a cat up here, Jenkins, because you're right,
that was.

Speaker 1 (01:25:13):
About to be a realm, like got they had fucking
monkeys in here. They did?

Speaker 2 (01:25:20):
Remember look weird?

Speaker 1 (01:25:22):
I do remember put.

Speaker 2 (01:25:24):
That fucking monkey in here?

Speaker 1 (01:25:25):
My little cat, it's not gonna be no game. Sit down.

Speaker 2 (01:25:28):
Well, I know you're gonna have his nails done because
you know they like to.

Speaker 1 (01:25:33):
I'm not getting his nails done.

Speaker 2 (01:25:34):
We're not done, but like trimmed. I mean in this one,
don't cats they do.

Speaker 1 (01:25:40):
I gotta get a scat, a cat scraper?

Speaker 2 (01:25:43):
What the fuck is that?

Speaker 1 (01:25:44):
It's like the things they don't rip up the couch.
And that's why I'm like, do I really want to
do this?

Speaker 2 (01:25:48):
We're supposed to cat? Well, let me know what you decide. Now,
how long you gonna be down in Oklahoma?

Speaker 1 (01:25:55):
Just till Saturday Thanksgiving? Until Saturday and then I'm bringing back.
He gotta used to kids, though, I'm like, this is
the perfect time of kids.

Speaker 2 (01:26:02):
I'm gonna be down in Texas.

Speaker 1 (01:26:03):
Yeah, he's gonna get used to the kids. All the
kids will be there. He gotta get used to kids.
I'm not playing with you because cats be bad. They
smother baby, they smother good thing. Nobody's a baby. Because
this is gonna my dad's gonna be so mad. You're
eating poork? Now you got a cat? What's happening down
there in Atlanta?

Speaker 2 (01:26:21):
Come home, living life. I'm just exploring.

Speaker 1 (01:26:24):
But I'm lonely. I'm like, I'm y'all's only child who
don't got no kids or you know what.

Speaker 2 (01:26:28):
Maybe you should come visit me, but I will. Your
daddy ain't like my daddy. I would never compare the two,
but I did get my daddy a hard time about
never visiting me. Yeah, but your daddy is a different
kind of daddy than my daddy. I'm saying he's better.

Speaker 1 (01:26:46):
He don't visit well.

Speaker 2 (01:26:49):
Just like okay, but I mean just like as a dad. Okay.
I just would never compare anybody to my damn daddy.
He gonna be mad, will he hear this? And so
the Cusins run and tell that like you do everything.
They've been doing this ship for eight years. Remember when
I told you they got I'll tell y'all again if
you're a new listener. The first and only time I
ever spent Thanksgiving my daddy's family, I took that GP

(01:27:11):
don't make this clip, but I took that Thanksgiving plate
and I turn it upside down in the trash can
and I ain't been back since I do it again.
Never see me again. Tell Michi go, tell everybody, like
y'all always do.

Speaker 1 (01:27:25):
Thanksgiving teeth.

Speaker 2 (01:27:27):
I have more. Maybe I just need to go home
tonight and just record a bunch of shit for Patreon
and actually post it.

Speaker 1 (01:27:33):
I need to put some sit on. Maybe we should
put that.

Speaker 2 (01:27:35):
You should just maybe that's what we need to do.
Get together and just ran and rave. I recorded some
stuff and the sound was bad. I was outside.

Speaker 1 (01:27:42):
We'll probably still appreciate. Maybe that dream that I described.
Should that go on Patreon? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:27:48):
Excuse me? Okay, well really sick, I'm not sick. I'm choking.

Speaker 1 (01:27:55):
Okay, y'all.

Speaker 2 (01:27:56):
Well it's time and I have to tinkle chose the
description box. Please thank you for listening. That you guys
enjoy the time with your family if you can. I
hope you enjoy our shorties about our families. If you can't,
or even if you can. I have a community event.
This is my first time doing this. December sixth. Missus

(01:28:18):
Claus will be there. You can bring your children. It
is family friendly. It'll be at Keller Williams Buckhead and
I hope that you come it's a free event. We'll
have cocoa.

Speaker 1 (01:28:28):
We will have the coco bar is trying to force
me to have alcohol, but so there might there may
or may not be alcohol. But this is for the children. Come.
I'm very nervous about it because I've never done like
a community events like And if you're wondering, who's going
to be missus Claus, it's me. So come, it's free.
Register on event. I got a whole outfit. Bring your kids,

(01:28:51):
think and write letters. We'll have cookies, we'll have snacks.
It's from one to three December six. Keller Williams Buckhead.

Speaker 2 (01:28:57):
All right, Well, on that note, you guys follow us
on program. We're at Cocktails podcast. I'm he said, so
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