"Hot Yoga, Hot Men & Hot Mess Advice Letters"

Kiki and Medinah are back with a no-guest episode full of stories, laughs, and a little real talk. From church crushes and splits that should’ve stayed retired, to wild mall chaos and situationships that feel more like soul ties, nothing is off-limits. The ladies get reflective about health, stress, and why peace is work (not silence), before diving into this week’s advice letter that mixes astrology with a messy situationship. Whether you’re here for the laughs, the life lessons, or just to hear why soda is basically crack, this episode is for you.


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Chapters
00:00 – intro & “Agua” cocktail of the week
01:00 – Last week’s flirty fallout & church lust confessions
04:15 – Recapping guests & male perspectives
07:00 – Health reflections & stress talk
10:45 – Soda = crack & healthy swaps
11:30 – Save the Tatas Walk + travel updates
13:00 – Travel Tribe Thailand trip plans
14:00 – Drinks & Reads Book Club updates
16:00 – XO Man podcast shoutout
21:30 – Fashion chaos & mall fights
23:00 – Sensitivity vs understanding men
29:00 – Men who want “peace” but don’t do the work
35:00 – Hot yoga & self-reflection
36:30 – Advice Letter: Astrology & soul ties
48:00 – Perfect match or perfect mess?
55:00 – Knowing if someone’s really for you
1:02:00 – Closing thoughts, chaos & cocktails

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Yeah, yeah. Check one two, check one two. Is this
Mike on? Is this Mike oning? Hey listen man, it's
the one and only Trenks that the DJ sis And
you're listening to Cocktails Dirty Discussions with Kiki and Medina
Monroe here. Today's cocktail is called Agua man Agua man,

(00:24):
and that's just a little water over some ice because
you bitches need to hydrate.

Speaker 2 (00:29):
Drink up, ah white jeesus. Welcome back to Cocktail Shirty Discussions.
You guys. I am Kiki said so hey y'all, I
am Medina Mine Road and welcome back to another episode
of Cocktail Shirty Discussions.

Speaker 1 (00:45):
All.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
Last week's was very still hot in here. The windows
are fine.

Speaker 1 (00:49):
My edges are sweated out, and I had to take
my ponytail down. I just want to apologize my wig
and napped up on the bottom piece. I do not
mean to flirt like that. Oh you did it. No,
he was making a marriage to me, not to like
I am just like, I was like, oh my god, okay,
so it's still in me. My pussy was thumping.

Speaker 2 (01:08):
I knew it wasn't I start to day, but I
was like, I don't want to be instigating the situation
anymore than I am.

Speaker 1 (01:14):
And that's why you know I don't need to go
on a date with that man. Really, don't you think no?

Speaker 2 (01:19):
I mean because it's like the response Kiera would be like, no,
you shouldn't go on a date because I don't think
that you have to self control. Okay, but Kiki wants
you to go. I want to hear the story.

Speaker 1 (01:31):
It's like but like it's like the little angels over
here and the little Devil's over here, like go beach go.
You know you want to go. You don't even want
to pop down.

Speaker 2 (01:38):
You know it's been a long time since you did
a split.

Speaker 1 (01:41):
Yeah, it's like, you know, like go go. And then
this one's like Medina, you just gotta say and do
not bring him to church because I'm ready to be
like okay, yeah, because I'm not.

Speaker 2 (01:54):
I don't like being in church having lustful thoughts.

Speaker 1 (01:57):
I've never been in church with a lustful thought.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
I don't go to church with men that I'm attracted
to because I will have lessful thoughts. And I just
be feeling like Jesus is gonna strike me down right.

Speaker 1 (02:07):
This is what I'm gonna I'm gonna post what church
I go to and just see if he shows up,
I'm not gonna invite him.

Speaker 2 (02:11):
Would I ever make you feel like it's a bit
crazy because he'll see it. But what if somebody else does.

Speaker 1 (02:17):
I mean they be seeing me at church? Anyways?

Speaker 2 (02:19):
Yeah, but like, okay, go do it. Let's see Joe.

Speaker 1 (02:26):
Okay. But he was a great guest. Let's say that
he was a great guess.

Speaker 2 (02:29):
He's a great guest. He's very entertaining, very well spoken.

Speaker 1 (02:32):
He could clearly answer a question.

Speaker 2 (02:34):
Well, I don't know if I would go that far.
He answered some questions with some questions I was. I
felt like I was very clear and he wasn't understanding
me or understanding the question when I simply asked him
if the both of you, if there was an issue,
If you give a man question, they can't get away.
They can't which is which is not clear? So that's
why I'm saying, Nah, I wouldn't say that.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Would you say there was more that? I felt like
he was overall a good guy.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
I think he was a typical man in so I
think overall, yes, great guests. Being a clear answer to
like actual questions not so much. But I still think
it was great conversation because he still had thoughts. But
sometimes it seems like, and I find this a lot
with men guests, very generic thoughts, and it's like, but
we really are asking about you, So it's okay that

(03:19):
you're making generalizations, but we do want to know what
you think, and we don't expect you to speak for
all men.

Speaker 1 (03:24):
What is your thought?

Speaker 2 (03:25):
So you know there is that. But I totally enjoyed
him a plus guest. I would love to have him
back again. There's more questions. I had some too, So
maybe next time he's in town in come and some
of the other guys that were a part of the
show might be good guests too. Do you think the
way y'all talked about.

Speaker 1 (03:44):
Them, I now, now, I don't know. I don't know,
but I think just the fact that they're funny, I
feel like I feel like comedians are such good guests.
The host Detroit read he was really funny. Let's I'm
gonna hit him out. I think he lives in Atlanta,
and see if he could come up with the thirteen year
old and not so much. Can't come on here, but
I'll be baby, Yeah, we'll see. We'll see that. Because
comedians are great. What if we did a whole season

(04:07):
of just men. Nah, I can't handle it. No, Yeah,
I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 (04:13):
But I mean we recorded fifteen fucking episodes and we
didn't recorded another one since the end of February, and
I'm glad we bulked those up and left them alone,
because like it's a lot, Yeah, especially when you want
them to open. But I would be down to do
like four episodes of like comments. We could do four guys,
four girls. I'm open. I went on a podcast. She

(04:39):
said it first this week it comes out. It came out.
I guess when y'all hear this, it will have come
out the previous Thursday. And I really enjoyed is the
recording with them. I hadn't met them before, and we
had talked with Hugo about like your network and like
pouring into people and all this stuff that we talk
about often. One of the guys who convinced me to

(05:04):
audition to be on the radio when I was in DC,
he's a producer for this show, well their show, but
she said it, but he does something with Urban one,
which is like Radio one, and all of them with
their podcasts, all of the podcasts, Like he's over something
I don't know, but anyway, he hit me up to
come on the show, and I was like, you know,

(05:26):
I was talking to him briefly and I was just
thinking about it, like I've known this guy for a
long time. This is one of my Howard people, and
like we did the radio together and that was like
a close knit group, and I just was glad that
I didn't burn a ton of bridges throughout college and stuff,
because you just never know where people are going to go,
and you never know like who remembers you. You remember people,

(05:47):
but you don't know who remembers you and who will
think of you. So shout out to JAHI. I call
him Jay High because that was his radio name, but
his name is actually JAHI, So shout out to you.
And then there he works with some other people, and
I've been running into a lot of people and I
was like, you must have been talking me up. And
I appreciate that. It's nice when that happens, especially when
you didn't ask, you didn't say anything, you didn't even

(06:09):
know the person thought about you.

Speaker 1 (06:10):
It feels good that that's a good feeling. I'm doing
something good, so something right.

Speaker 2 (06:16):
Yeah, and we all hear this I'll still be in Dallas,
but hopefully everything went well. Whenever we come back and
we record again, I would love to share whatever happened.
There's a few people that I've already connected with that
I plan to hang out with. I want to see
my friends and family. I'm so happy it's in Dallas
because I feel like, Okay, this is gonna be a
good trip. That's why I'm going ahead of the conference.

(06:38):
A couple of days ahead, I have to say one
of my friends and we also work together, passed away.
He was thirty eight cardiac arrest, just like out of nowhere,
and his funeral is next weekend. I'm not sure if

(06:59):
I'll be able to make it or not. I'm going
to try to, but I just wanted to say that
to remind y'all not only to contact Life or X
aside from plugging our actual sponsors. Is like, think about
your health. I'm saying that with cocktail in hand, but
I do think about it. So you think about it,
especially if you got kids adult Okay, I mean, they're

(07:20):
interesting creatures, they'll be all right, But the adults and
the babies in your family and your wife or whoever,
like life is precious. Even if nothing is wrong with
you health wise, anything could happen, And so I hope
that I start can real reflective around this time of year.
You know, our birthdays are coming up. I hope that everybody,

(07:42):
whenever you decide to do this at the point in
your year, and if you never do it, do it
with us during this time of the year, think about
your life and where you are, where you want to go,
where you came from, and what you want and how
you're going to make those things happen. Not in like
a stressed out situation, but like do you have you.

Speaker 1 (07:59):
Been feeling happy lately?

Speaker 3 (08:01):
No?

Speaker 2 (08:01):
What would make you happy? What little things can I
do to make myself happy? Take a time to reset
and think about that. Because something that we don't talk about.
We talk about being fat, we talk about drugs, we
talk about drinking, we talk about gang shit, all kinds
of things that can kill you. But the stress of
life can take a toll on your body in so
many ways. So I hope that you guys try to

(08:21):
find some happiness and peace and joy and yet every day,
even if it comes in the form of a tall
man with an icy chain, and go, do you and he's.

Speaker 1 (08:30):
A comedian name you go. I also just want to
say about the health thing because I just feel like
this has to be said, and I'm really not trying
to be go any but y'all do need to be
healthy and stop being taking so much sugar. If you're
gonna have a lot of sugar, let the sugar be
the alcohol. I mean, I know, alcohola not that.

Speaker 2 (08:44):
Great your pison.

Speaker 1 (08:45):
You gotta pick your poison. But I want to say
this about like, when I see grown people drinking soda,
it just gets It makes me so sad, especially or
if you're giving your kids soda when they're when we
have options that almost taste the same to me they do.
There is a soda called ollipop. I love a olipod.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
They are good, but they don't taste the same.

Speaker 1 (09:02):
I like them, and they're good for you. At the
end of the day, it's like I don't need it
to really taste like, you know, whatever it is. They
got a ginger ale version, they got a Coca cola version.
At least if you not gonna do it for yourself,
get it to the children. Is drinking a full can
of Coca cola. It's like a baby doesn't need that.
I don't care if it's an issue with it. The
point is it is not the sugar is just what

(09:25):
it's crack. It's crack. Please y'all try to find the
healthy version of whatever it is that you are in taking.
What you put into your body will expose itself even
if it's not doing it now when you get older.
I mean, I just I've been talking to so many
young people where it's like you're having these issues and
it's because of your everybody. Have you ever talked to
somebody it's like they're going through every other reason as

(09:48):
to what could be wrong except for what you're putting
in your body. I have. I've been talking to this
She's like and you kind of just like fall back
because sometimes people just don't want to hear it's like, yeah,
I'm not giving up my ribs or I'm not giving
up my fried and it's like, I don't care, you're
gonna be I don't.

Speaker 2 (10:02):
Choose to engage in those like m M. But I
mean not to tell people not to drink the lollipops.
I like them. But I just wanted to put that
out there. While we're talking about health, there was something
about them and how they market them to be certain things.
So not the sugar aspect, but it's the probiotic thing, y'all.
Get y'all being more hell, I'm worrying about the sugar part.

(10:23):
Sugar is literally like like crack. Like watch the documentary
on Netflix and do ash judgebt.

Speaker 1 (10:29):
You don't even have to look that hard. It's really
especially for kids. If you're an adult, you want to
do see yourself, but for the children, it's just to try,
just try to make a better uh choice. I want
to remind you, guys to save the Tata's two point
zero Breast Cancer Awareness Walk is October twenty fifth in Tampa, Florida.

(10:50):
One of my good girlfriends lost her mother to breast cancer.
The foundation is called Lula's Legacy of Love Foundation, and
it's one of the very very few breast cancer or
organizations in the US that specifically is dedicated to serving
African American women. They have a mission to bridge the
gap in the care for minority women and so they
help get wigs, they help you go get your checkups.

(11:12):
So make sure you guys donate or attend the walk.
Go to www Dot Lula's Legacy of Love Foundation dot org.

Speaker 2 (11:23):
And you have any other announcements.

Speaker 1 (11:26):
Lover Girls Trip is in full effect. Y'all is five
spots left and if they fill up by the time
you hear this, still join because you can be added
to a waitlist because since the trip is a year away,
if someone, if something comes up for someone, we can
fill that gap with you on the waitlist. So we'll
put the link in the description for you to attend.

(11:47):
It's gonna be a really good time. We're gonna get
matching tattoos, and we have amazing I put together like
a I know the company is like reach, this is
what we do. I was like, well, I've got some
other stuff. So I put together a super curated itinerary
for the girls, the lover girls of the world that
got their heart stomped on uh recently and when I

(12:07):
say recently, the past five years. Bitch, if you was sad,
even if you happy, now come come have a good
time with the girls. We have a group chat going.
It's really great. We start off with a morning inspiration,
ended with a night an evening question and just it's
always all these discussions going on, learning what people are
going through, what you're struggling with what you need to
help with. So if you want to come, if you
want to join that community, make sure you look at

(12:27):
our descriptions and click that link. Also, I will be
doing a how to write your will by the time
you read this. By the time you hear this, it
might have already happened. But I'm gonna make this a
reoccurring thing because again, health and planning for your death death,
some of us struggle with that. And you should have
a will if you were an adult, if you own anything,
you should have a will.

Speaker 2 (12:46):
So, yeah, you guys, do you know where you're staying
in Thailand? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (12:52):
I do, but I don't know what I've stopped my
head honestly. Yeah, but if you join, if you get
the trip, you will definitely see the hotel one of
them stars of the and I think I stay they're
the last time I went to Tyler really the one
in Bangkok, not Fouquet, but because.

Speaker 2 (13:04):
Those are the two cities, are going to right, Okay.

Speaker 1 (13:07):
Yeah, we'll start off in Bangkok and then we'll stay
in Bangkok for a few days and then we will
fly to Fuquet and ended in Fuquet, and Fuquet is
a Fuqut is the party city, so you go there.
There's the beaches. We're gonna have a boat day and
tour all the different islands and Peepee Island. I'm really
excited about this trip because it's just very intentional. It's
all me. It's not a paradise and vibe trip. However,

(13:29):
if you do want to steal, come to go to
the paradiviobe dot com and come see me interview Easter
Ray if it hasn't happened by the time this comes out.
And thank you guys just for supporting me. I'm really
I'm always like overwhelmed by the amount of support that
we get through cocktails, that I get through any other
thing that I ever tell anybody about. I really, I
just I appreciate you guys so much. Sometimes I feel

(13:51):
like I know you and I don't.

Speaker 2 (13:54):
It does feel good. I want to remind you guys
to join my book club this month. We are reading
a book like Kimberly Brown if you ever love me,
I think it's the name of it. We are trying
to have her at the meeting. I will let you
guys know for sure if she will be there or not.
I'll post it I have a Patreon specifically for the
book club, and we have a really good group of ladies.

(14:16):
A lot of times people don't join the meetings, and
I want to take a second to remind y'all, I
did it this summer, and then more people started actually
joining the meeting, because people will sign up, but they
don't ever join the meeting. So it's like, there's all
these people in the book club, but we have the
same like fifteen to twenty that show up every time.
So it's a little curious about that, like what's going on?

(14:38):
And then I realize, Oh, some people aren't coming because
they didn't finish the book on time, or you know,
little things like that. You guys, it is a stress
free environment. If you didn't read the book, if you
didn't finish the book, we are not snooty at all
about it. If you didn't read it and you don't
want spoilers, then yeah, don't join. But if you don't

(15:00):
mind the spoilers, you want to come and chitchat We
talk about the book, and then just like any other
rendition of a Housewives version of a book club on
TV that you would see, we talk about all kinds
of stuff. It isn't so wonderful for me being able
to make friends with some of these ladies, meet different people,

(15:22):
hear other perspectives.

Speaker 1 (15:24):
To me, that's.

Speaker 2 (15:24):
Always like the joy in doing things where you get
to meet different people. Because I only know what I know.
I only feel what I feel, and until I talk
to people and listen to people, I'll never have those
other things because some things that are like I will
never think that way or how did you even get there?

(15:44):
Is just like second nature to someone else. So I
just think it helps with so many different aspects of life.
But anyway, it's a great group of women. Y'all can
join by going to patreon dot com. Slash Kiki said,
So now the conference. I'll tell you guys about that later,
and I am seriously considering doing some things for I

(16:06):
don't know if it'll be a bootcamp or a digital
thing or what, but if you are interested in learning
more about podcasting media, digital media specifically, and things in
that realm, please send me an email or a DM.
I would prefer an email, And I will also be
posting soon, so make sure that you are following me

(16:28):
on all the platforms. I've been posting stuff, y'all, because
pretty soon I will be looking for some interns for
some upcoming things that are going on, and these are
internships for college students. It will be twelve weeks. So
if when y'all hear this, if everything is ready to go,
there will be a form that you can click in
the description to fill it out. If not, you know,

(16:50):
you can send me an email or DM and I'll
let you know. And then also lastly, make sure you
guys are checking out the Xoman podcast where I sit
an interview black man every single week about different aspects
of black masculinity and their experience through it. It has
really been an eye opening experience to me. I really
am listening to them and I've got thoughts and I

(17:13):
would love for y'all to tune into the show to
hear them. I think the next episode when you'll hear this,
it's either my friend Ferrari Simmons, who is also a
radio personality and a father and just an actual good guy.
I think it's either him or well, I don't know,
Hopefully it's him. If it's not him, you just heard him,

(17:34):
So make sure you check out the episode. And there's
a ton of other people, all right, y'all, let's talk
about something that I didn't realize I needed to fully upgrade,
not know going halfway in putting a little toe in
the pool. I really needed to upgrade my whole bedroom set,
not just the mattress. So I upgraded the mattress to

(17:56):
a Brooklyn Betting mattress. I think the model is the Sedon.
I'm an elite. I got a queen size bed. It
is so comfortable. But not only did I neath that,
I got the cooling pillows too, and I got two
of those, and then I also got some sheets, and
then you know what else. You know, I've had a
lot of fun times in my day in my bed,

(18:18):
those slats up under the mattress, those slats, and it's
been a long time since I had somebody in mind.
So I should have been fixed this. I put the
new mattress on the old slats, but I should have
waited and got the whole new bed system. So now
that I have a better base, y'all check them slats

(18:40):
up under your bed if you have them, or whatever's
going on underneath, because you know, I'm being a little
rocky sometimes. New mattress, new sheets, new pillows. I went
from feeling like I just had a street fight the
night before every day when I was waking up, or
like I wanted to fight somebody because I'm just I
just was in pain too, feeling like a princess when

(19:03):
I woke up, like there must have been somebody massaging
me while I was sleeping. I don't know how I
slept so good, and I don't know how I called
myself sleeping before Brooklyn Betting, y'all need to just throw
it all in the car, okay, to upgrade everything I am.

Speaker 1 (19:18):
I want to get a comforter. I want to get
like the extra pillow top on the matches. I too
have the Sedona Elite mattress. And when I get up,
I don't want to get up. It's so hard for
me to get up out of the bed. And it's
just so comfortable. It feels like the soft life that
you wish your man would provide for you. And it
turns into a debate every time you just be like,
I just want to I just want to have soft life.
The Sedona Elite mattress gives it to you. You feel like

(19:39):
you have woken up and just everything is taken care of.
It's hard for me to get out of that bed.
Those pillows though, they're cooling gel pillows, And I was like,
am I really gonna feel cooler when I sleep? Because
I did get a little hot when I sleep. I
need a fan on now. I didn't used to be
like that. I need the fan on high. And that
look cooling pillow.

Speaker 2 (19:57):
It helps heavyweighted Like it's just a different type of sleep.
It's like laying on a man's chest. So it works out,
but like doesn't work out so hard that you know
he's on them shots and all kinds of other drugs.
It's just like a good muscle, but not too much.

Speaker 1 (20:15):
Yeah, like he cares about you. He gonna support you.
I mean, I just really have the sheets also and
the pillowcases, and I just feel like a real adult.

Speaker 4 (20:24):
I do too.

Speaker 2 (20:25):
And y'all let's be we're all adults here. If you're
not an adult, I don't know why you listening to
us who are adults. And it's time to invest in
things like this, Like we talk about going to the doctor.
We've talked about like losing weight and staying healthy in
that way, but we still have to no matter what
phase you are in that part of your journey. You
got to take care of yourself on the outside too,
from the outside to the inside. Having that support while

(20:47):
you rest is going to help your bones for real,
and my attitude so probably yours too.

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Speaker 2 (21:33):
But that's all mine. Oh, last, last, last, I was
getting trusted out fashion. Iv Ha been texting me, did
you see anything anywhere about she in having a store
in Atlanta?

Speaker 1 (21:44):
A pop up app so people.

Speaker 2 (21:47):
Just want to look.

Speaker 1 (21:48):
I knew I wasn't going. I knew it was gonna
be crazy.

Speaker 2 (21:50):
I didn't go.

Speaker 1 (21:51):
I wasn't even going. Well. I was like, I'm not
gonna go little fifty cent outfits. Not that I love
a good she in, but I knew it was gonna
be crazy. Did you see that line?

Speaker 2 (21:58):
No, I didn't see none of it. I just saw
she in with people. It was the steal before you
click the video. I didn't even click the video. It
was gonna be chaos.

Speaker 1 (22:06):
That straightening out chaotic. However, my home.

Speaker 2 (22:09):
Brother me about it. They don't live here, they live
in Texas, and they were like is this First one
was like is this real? She texted met like two am.
She's a nurse, she works overnights, so she text me.
She's like is this real? Say, oh yeah sorry. The
other one text me this morning she's like, were you there?

Speaker 1 (22:23):
Girl?

Speaker 2 (22:24):
Hell no, y'all know I don't like to shop in person.
It is stressful as too many people. Did you see
the little girl who somebody reported her for shoplifting and
she went and found she's a little girl, like little,
like eighten like little. You know, she don't look like
no teenager. She saw them ladies, went up the escalator,

(22:44):
bought them, drag them bopped them, dragged one lady by
the hair was her mom?

Speaker 1 (22:50):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (22:51):
I mean she was in there stealing, so I don't
think her mama was with her, But I don't know
where her mama was. Maybe she was the one filming that.
I don't know. It seemed like just a bystander was like,
what is going on from the other side of the mall. Anyway,
she went up there, She drugged the woman by her hair,
threw her bag over her back, went back down the escalator,
and proceeded to walk up the mall. You know she was.

Speaker 1 (23:12):
Wait, I feel like I missed so much. Why does
she do that?

Speaker 2 (23:15):
She just won because the ladies told on her for stealing,
so she wasn't actually stealing. Yeah, she wasn't innocent by
no means.

Speaker 1 (23:23):
And she was a white girl, and she went and
beat the other white ladies up.

Speaker 2 (23:28):
Well she I wouldn't say she beat them up because
they were grown women and they knew better than to
fight a little kid.

Speaker 1 (23:33):
Because jail bitch, who the fuck are you?

Speaker 2 (23:39):
And I may not get it, but it's like have
some self control. And they were probably also in shock
because who thinks that little mini mouse is gonna come
up and do this anyway. Anyway, I have spent a
lot of time on the internet. I have been posting
on the Tiki took follow me and talk to me.
I've been hosting little things. My sisters sending me stuff.
Anybody in well making of sisters, my sister recording she

(24:01):
still calling. I see sister, sister, sister is going on
that phone.

Speaker 1 (24:05):
Is Oh no, I just wanted to talk I met.

Speaker 2 (24:13):
Anyways.

Speaker 1 (24:13):
I was gonna ask you that doing the X Man podcast,
are you gaining like a sensitivity for men like that
you haven't had sensitivity?

Speaker 2 (24:23):
No better understanding?

Speaker 1 (24:24):
Yes, Okay, why I know sensitivity? M I don't know.

Speaker 2 (24:31):
Maybe I don't have that uh whatever hormony you need
for that, I don't know. I'm very sensitive, but I
don't have a greater sensitivity for them. But I have, uh,
I'm more apt to listen.

Speaker 1 (24:46):
I mean, I don't even know.

Speaker 2 (24:47):
What a greater sensitivity for them would look like or
sound like for me. Actually, I guess that's why I
can't say yes. But I know that I feel like
a better understanding and I know that.

Speaker 1 (25:01):
Like, have you noticed it has transferred into your personal life?
On like maybe how you treat men, not assuming that
you treat them a certain way, but just have it.
Are you like, oh, wow, okay, I'm listening to this,
or I'm.

Speaker 2 (25:10):
Willing and not assuming that I treat because.

Speaker 1 (25:13):
I don't want people to be like, well is she
treating the missione?

Speaker 2 (25:15):
Well, we're all thinking it. It's fine. In certain times,
I will try to like, oh, let me remember what's
such and such said, because he said something, I put
a pin in it, I put it in my notes.
Where's my note? Let me let me find it. Like
there are a few things where it's I never looked
at it like that. Let me change my perspective. But

(25:36):
then it's hard to say that I'm sensitive because when
I try.

Speaker 1 (25:40):
It's somebody to do that and you're like, this is
why I don't fuck with y'all for real.

Speaker 2 (25:44):
Or it's like I try to like be that whatever
the men have collectively said that they need basically, and okay.

Speaker 1 (25:51):
I get it.

Speaker 2 (25:51):
It makes me sense. It makes sense to me, but
it hasn't gotten me to the point of anybody like
not doing what I thought or hoped or want to
them to do, where I feel like I'm just never
gonna do it. I just maybe more since I don't know.
I don't know what the word is. But what I
do know is I have a better understanding of why

(26:13):
so many of them do not do well with expressing
their feelings because a lot of times they don't know
how to identify their feelings, they don't know what it is,
they can't put the word to it because they're so
used to suppressing it. And I think that the biggest
thing that makes me be able to do this is

(26:36):
because sometimes I feel the same way. I think I've
got way too much testosterone. And there have been been
noy'll joke about like I'm too much of a nigga
for them, and I get it. But I do think
sometimes like suppressing emotions and things like that, I have
that in common with a lot of men, or not
wanting to talk about things. I ask the question to
you and you go because sometimes I feel that way,

(26:58):
like when somebody is asking me about what's wrong, what's wrong?
What's wrong? Sometimes because I'm anticipating the feelings that I
think I will have when I say these things out loud,
and I'm anticipating them because when I've done it by myself,
that's what happens. So if I'm telling you all this
and I go through this emotional roller coaster, but all

(27:19):
I'm doing is like letting you listen to me, and
there's no solution, I don't always feel like I have
the mental capacity or emotional capacity to go through that
roller coaster, so I won't because there is no solution.
Right now, you don't have a solution. I don't want
to let all of these feelings out because I know

(27:41):
like the ripple effect that it has for me. Not
that I can't ever let them out, but sometimes it
is so annoying to me when somebody picks at you
and picks it you and picks at you to open
up and express a feeling. You express the feeling, and
it's like, well, what did you really ask me for?
Because in the end, nothing you did change. Something might
happen later. You act like you don't understand when I

(28:02):
poured my heart out, so you weren't really listening. You
sat there like a listening ear. It's just like little
things like that. So that's a work in progress for
me because I have to remind myself that because I
had an experience with one person, or even if I
had an experience, Like if I have an experience with
you today, that doesn't mean that every time in the
future something similar happens, the experience is going to have

(28:24):
the same outcome where both people we are both working
on ourselves and doing things. So it's like, you gotta
if you don't want somebody to hold you to who
you have been or who they think you are, you
can't do that to other people. So it's just like
a lot And sometimes I don't feel like it, and
so I'll say that and people don't like it, and
I get that, but it's like I don't like it either,

(28:45):
So what makes your feelings more important than mine? And
I've been having to be more firm on that. But
it's really interesting to hear some of the things that
really make them feel the way that they feel, because
sometimes it's really simple, and I was thinking it would
be something deeper, Like I've said this to a few
people when they ask about it. Men acting out and

(29:07):
like doing what I would just call dumb shit like
attention seeking behavior and stuff like that. I have all
these ideas about why it is, but this guy on
the show was like, they just want to feel seen
and they don't even know how to be seen, so
they just do stuff and they're not connecting it because
they're not self aware enough to understand. But a lot
of black men don't feel seen. And I was like,

(29:29):
that is something so small. But I can see that
in every black man I know pretty much. How like
some of the things that they did, you probably just
wanted to feel seen and you hadn't been, and that sucks.
I can only imagine what that must feel like to
be them. But overall, like talking to them is, I
like it. Even when I don't agree with them or

(29:50):
I don't truly understand how they arrived at like how
they look at life and how they think, it's still
interesting to hear their reasoning. And I'm okay with not agreeing.
It's not something where it's like, okay, you need to
we have to see each other and we have to
reach an agreement at the end. No, I just want
to hear men, and hear you when I think that

(30:12):
you are actually saying what you feel versus what you
think people want to hear. Because I be's so tired
of the performative stuff online, you.

Speaker 1 (30:21):
Know, I'll be tired of the and this ain't even online.
This is just in real life, what is wrong with you?
Like I just don't I'm and this.

Speaker 2 (30:27):
Is somebody asking you that or no, you know, for.

Speaker 1 (30:29):
Men sometimes like the more that I like listen to everyone,
Like you said, like sometimes it don't even be that
big of a deal, but you've caused so much chaos
around this thing that's not a big deal. And at
the end of the day, it is twenty twenty five
and we have the tools and the more. Sometimes there's
this like common saying with men where they're like, I
just want peace, and then you'll ask me question peaceful,

(30:51):
what are you doing? Like it's very hard. And again,
if you're not in a relationship with somebody or you're
not trying to have an it's your sex. I'm not,
this isn't for you. But if you are, if you're
in a marriage, or if you have something binding you
to a person like a kid, like it's like, how
do you figure everything else out? You want to you
we know how to work towards a goal. Accomplishing a goal,

(31:11):
there was something that you wanted to accomplish, you dealt
with the ebbs and the flows, the herds and the
easy parts, all of the journey of like whatever it
is that you were trying to accomplish, and everybody has
different goals and you can watch a man like go
through it and be like, I'm gonna figure it out.
And then when it comes down to like certain things
where it's like you say you love the person, you

(31:32):
want to be with the person. In some instances you're
married to the person, and you actually said vows, you
promised these things, and now all of a sudden it's
like I don't know what to do and there's no tools.
And then you'd be like, have you read a book
about relationships? No, I don't need to do that. You do,
but you do. And I've been having a lot of
personal conversations with men who are going not men I'm
attracted to not it's not a relationship, just friends and

(31:55):
family members. And then you ask like, so what have
you done to work on it? And if the question
if the answer is always like, well, I don't need
to talk about it, I don't know. You do, though,
like you do. And so sometimes with men it's just
like just because you don't want to feel uncomfortable with
the emotions, that doesn't mean that you just get a

(32:15):
way out to not if you're sharing a life with someone, like,
have your space and have your boundaries. But sometimes it's
it feels like when men are like, well, I just
want my piece. All men want is peace, but you're
not actually peaceful. You can't be if you're not working
through what is causing you chaos in you and you
never want to work on it. How do you? Sometimes

(32:38):
it seems like peace means you don't want anybody to
bring anything up, and that that's so.

Speaker 2 (32:42):
Does I think that you guys think peace sings silence.
Peace and silence are not the same thing.

Speaker 1 (32:49):
Piece is work and peace.

Speaker 2 (32:52):
Like if you don't know what makes you feel at piece,
that's okay, read a book you can figure it out, right.
But when somebody like you say you want peace, anybody
listen to this man or woman right now, you should
ask yourself what would it look like, feel like, sound like,
tastes like, feel like to be at peace in this

(33:13):
very moment. You might not know, and that's okay. If
we don't know.

Speaker 1 (33:19):
Seek the information.

Speaker 2 (33:21):
Like, try different things, talk to people, get in touch
with your emotions. Reading books is cool, but also you
can't read a book and get the answers if you
don't know what's troubling you, So you got.

Speaker 1 (33:35):
When you read the book, you start to be like, oh,
identify with that. You can't just sit here and be like,
something's wrong and I don't want to talk about it
and I don't want to know anything about it.

Speaker 2 (33:45):
So I hope that anybody who is looking for peace
right now and doesn't feel it in their life like you,
do some introspective work, read some books, talk to the lady.
I'm being serious, and just really figure out how you feel.
You can talk to other people, but I'm not adding
that to my list of suggestions only because I think oftentimes,

(34:07):
when you already don't know, you can let other people's ideas, thoughts,
and feelings intrude your own and cause confusion when you
already don't know how you feel. And so I don't
want you to look outside of yourself to figure out
what's wrong or certain things now how to fix it? Now,
that's you're gonna need some help. But like, what is

(34:28):
troubling you? Are you upset because you don't like your
whole life? Are you upset because you don't like the
person that you're with and you're scared to break up?
Are you upset because you don't know how to vocalize
your feelings and you feel the person slipping away from
you and you don't want to lose them, but you
don't know how figure out what it is because you
can't fix something when you don't even know what the

(34:49):
fuck is broke, and when it's like taking your car
to get fixed and you keep spending all this money
and you don't know what the fuck is wrong, and
they keep fixing everything but the right thing. So like, yeah.

Speaker 1 (35:01):
One of my guy friends was talking to me about
some things, some feelings that he was having and some
issues he was having. In my My goals was always
gonna be okay. Let's say you're like, I don't like
to read, which I hate that read a book. But
I was like, okay, well my next go to. Have
you tried hot yoga? Y'all high yoga? It doesn't allow

(35:22):
you to hide? Because he was like, what, you don't
have to become a yoga go to, I mean a
yoga go to. You want to be a yogi, go
to a hot yoga class in your community, preferably if
you could go to be high in Atlanta, go to
Ayana Edwards class. It changes your life because when you
do hot yoga, whether you want to continue it or not,
hot yoga makes you face yourself. You don't have to

(35:44):
tell anybody else, you don't have to read a book,
you don't even have to talk about it. When you
get in hot yoga, it makes you face yourself and
see where you're truly at, and you'll either come back
and do it again or you'll be like, I don't
want to see this again. You have to look in
the you have to at least try to get in alignment.
You don't have to be perfect, but it shows you

(36:05):
where you're at, and it is, oh my, it's so
intertwined with relationships, with how you communicate, with how you
do business, with how it's just a beautiful it's to me,
it's art and it's like if you really are struggling,
you're like, I don't know what the fuck do and
I don't want to talk to nobody. Go do a
hot yoga class. You about to be like you gonna
me and they're crying. That's what's gonna happen. And just
act like it's sweat because it's so hot, it's gonna

(36:26):
look like sweat. But I love it.

Speaker 2 (36:30):
Okay, I'm gonna skip weird sex this week because we
have been going way, way way over time and it's
Friday night, and I'll be honest, I want to play
the same so bad, and I want to play with
my baby girl, Whitley.

Speaker 1 (36:44):
I want to go to Hero Show, so I.

Speaker 2 (36:46):
Know you do. I'm gonna there was something you wanted
to ask me that you said in the hallway, and
you say, what we're talking about it here?

Speaker 1 (36:53):
Do you remember? No?

Speaker 2 (36:55):
Okay, well it escapes us. Aunties are getting old, y'all.
I would love it. Also, if you guys would send
me some ideas for food stuff. I don't know who's
gonna eat it.

Speaker 1 (37:13):
I'll need it. Do you have enough appetite?

Speaker 2 (37:15):
I haven't been having enough appetite off my Oh okay.

Speaker 1 (37:18):
Yeah, you make it a little snackable sizes.

Speaker 2 (37:21):
Chop that shit out. You know what I really want
some ribs? No, actually, nope, salad. I'm just gonna tell you.
I really want an open hearth, outdoor kitchen. I want
to roast fish every day. I just love it. I've
been on this kick and it's just so good. There's

(37:44):
a restaurant in Atlanta called Fia I went there for
my birthday last year, and I've been a few times before.
I love it. It's in the Burgess Hotel and Buckhead
and it is just so good. They have other things
that are really good, but it just roasted brands. You know,
it's the whole fish. I love the way a whole
roasted fish looks. I'm just really into it. And so

(38:07):
I want a house.

Speaker 1 (38:09):
With that where you pick I'm gonna put you on,
and what I would put you on if you were
my client to send you the houses. Were just gonna
act like you're a millionaire and we should go and
look at houses and you rate them. But now you
got to act like you're a real client. Just get camera.

Speaker 2 (38:24):
I got business outfits. I can buy shit outfits, yep,
and we'll.

Speaker 1 (38:27):
Go through and like and like film it and like
you you have a drone? I do, but I love it.

Speaker 2 (38:33):
At that next, well, guess what you're in, luck girl,
because I've got a gift on the way. Oh it's
my gift. But do you want one?

Speaker 1 (38:40):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (38:41):
Okay, maybe that's what you'll get for your birthday. There's
one that's easy to use. It small, and I have
been eyeing it for a while. It's the Digi Dji Digit.
I don't know how you said that ship, I'll be
saying Digit. But it's small and it's supposed to be
super user friendly. Because I've never flown a drum.

Speaker 1 (39:00):
I'm like, I don't know how people want to be crashnated.

Speaker 2 (39:01):
But it follows you. It's like automated. So like when
you go do the home tours. And one of my
friends who does really say he's been doing it for
a while. He upgraded all his ship and he goes
in the homes and I love how the videos look
like he has the drone and so.

Speaker 1 (39:16):
He'll be in the drone, goes inside the house.

Speaker 2 (39:18):
Yes, he'll use the drone to get the view of
the house and like go around and it's so steady
and it looks so good and I could tell the
upgrade from whatever he had before to this. Anyways, Yeah, content,
and they don't how to worry about Trumpott just need
a charger anyway. Yeah, I'm doubt to do that. I

(39:39):
have several I need to send you that list. I
never sent it from last time. Anyways, if you guys
have any idea, suggestions or thoughts about things that you
want to hear our takes on as long as it's
not involving court, send it our way. I don't really
want to talk about court stuff. Remember when they were like, oh,
y'all talk about the Diddy.

Speaker 1 (39:57):
Kase, I don't want y'all not gonna want to hear
me and I just don't want to talk about it.
It's like, y'all, I don't want to talk about it.
I'm so fucking horny. I don't want to talk about that.
She can't.

Speaker 2 (40:08):
All right, So on that note, we're gonna We're just
gonna move on on the next segment, and yeah, all right.
Losing weight and improving your health used to feel like
something impossible. I felt like I was on a hamster
wheel and I was going nowhere at all fasts. Something
that I've realized after being a part of the life

(40:29):
our XMD family for quite some time now is how
much the cravings that I would have, like sugar cravings
st I mean, I just y'all know, I love me
some flavors. When I would crave stuff, I literally had
like no self control. It was like food was a
fine ass man or something. I mean, I just don't know.
I was just like I had to have a lick,

(40:49):
just a taste, and then you have a taste, and
then you want some more than you want the whole thing.
And like I needed help. I couldn't do it on
my own. I just can't be out here while dog
in life like this, I just can't. So anyway, I
have realized that so many of the things that I
used to crave. Chips, candy, rice, creased retreats. Who I
love a good rice, creasedy treats. Ice cream, Yes, I

(41:10):
love them. I like to make them, I like to
buy them. It doesn't matter. Ice cream, y'all. I have
had ice cream in my freezer for a few months
that did not happen before. Like I have had this
one pint and it's just sitting there because I don't
really crave it. Like sometimes I want something cold, and
you know what I do, I just chew on my
little ice Wow. I have a little nugget ice maker

(41:32):
and I love it. It gives you that good crushed ice
and that's water and it makes me drink more water.
I do miss the days of eating those things, but
I don't actually missed the taste. And it's not until
I get to talking about it. But then I can
just look at videos on my phone or on my
iPad and I'm good. It's just like, I never thought
I could get over the cravings like that, and y'all,

(41:52):
I think they're pretty much gone.

Speaker 1 (41:54):
Yeah. I never thought that I could lose these two
rolls that was in my back, and I know I
talk about it every other week, but it was really challenging,
and I was like, how am I gonna actually get
rid of these roles life OIXMD. They are out here
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Kiki said, those cravings they just go away. And it's
okay if sometimes you need a little help to lose

(42:14):
the little extra pounds that maybe you gained from that
breakup or whatever else you maybe gained it from, and
it's okay. I love that. For me, It's made me
be more intentional because it's like, Okay, it took the cravings.
It took the cravings away. Now I make a plan
for what I'm gonna eat so I can make sure
I eat at the right times and keep my energy up.
Take my B twelve shots. I absolutely love them. I

(42:35):
also love that they have twenty four to seven customer
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I love that you have to talk to a nurse.
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(42:56):
They sure do.

Speaker 2 (42:57):
Because I was telling them I was like not eating
a lot, but there was a point where I stopped
dropping pounds and I expected to drop pounds because I
wasn't working out, So what nothing turned into muscle. And
so when we talked about like my patterns of eating,
she's like, oh, you've got to spread that out more
and just like little things that you don't think about.

(43:17):
But it's like, Okay, I thought suppressing my appetite, I
gotta eat less, But she's like, no, you still need
to eat throughout the day. Just break it up, have
a little protein shake or something. And so once I
started doing that, like within a week or two, it's like, Okay, yeah,
I see now.

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back to the show.

Speaker 3 (44:06):
Okay, and then we have one more hey text.

Speaker 2 (44:37):
All right, guys, and so we are back in this
time for the advice. If you have a question that
you want us to answer on the show, please shoot
us an email. The email is advice at cocktail SPoD
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maybe we will answer it on the show.

Speaker 1 (44:55):
Okay, okay, So this one is titled astrology situationship question. Right,
I'm already like ah. Also, speaking of astrology and situationships,
is it a season for exes to come back? I
have this retrograde I'm talking about the way. Do you
remember this white man that I used to talk to,

(45:17):
which one I don't know, but he popped up on
he is a coach for a major league school and
he is looking fine. I was like, I might got
to go back and figure him out. I'm gonna show
I'm gonna show you. But I was like, I'm highly considered.
He was like, I'm gonna be in Atlanta. We have
a game out there, and I would just love to
like revisit like us because I'm gonna different space. I

(45:39):
don't know it's college is college football. And I was like, well,
you know what I'm actually open.

Speaker 2 (45:44):
To maybe Georgia Tech.

Speaker 1 (45:45):
Yeah. I was like, I'm in a space where maybe
we could do it. But then I saw he popped
up in my feed on YouTube in an interview, and
I was like.

Speaker 2 (45:53):
Don't you be blinded by the lights?

Speaker 1 (45:55):
Mmm, he looks good. Number morning.

Speaker 2 (45:59):
Well, I don't want you to be.

Speaker 1 (46:02):
Somebody. I just want to kiss. That's all I want
to do. I'm like, I just feel like in high school,
you don't have to want to kiss and fill the
tip with the advice. Hi, ladies, maybe you can help
me with some astrology advice. I an Aquarius woman born
the Auarius.

Speaker 2 (46:19):
I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (46:20):
Friends, feel like when you know your cusp and all
the things. Something is wrong. You need a little medicine. Okay.
I am an Aquarius woman born on the Aquarius capricorn.
Cuss have been dating this guy Gemini born on the
Gemini cancer nouse? Is this my friend writing this in?
For about seven months now? That's how long we've been

(46:43):
seeing each other. Okay. In the beginning he said he
didn't want a relationship.

Speaker 2 (46:48):
There you go with that, clean them ears out and
you will save yourself some typing.

Speaker 1 (46:52):
So I ended things okay, all right, only for him
to reach back out to continue dating. I was a
bit confus used, but agreed. Fast forward seven going on
eight months now, and we're in a whole relationship. We
have a whole routine and it's kind of what is you? No, No,

(47:14):
you need to speak it. I'm talking about this. I'm
not gonna talk, Nigga, you don't talk, okay. Why do
I have such a strong bond with him? It's as
if we have soul ties together?

Speaker 2 (47:25):
Well, it was fucking him and I'm sure it was raw.
He can got all up in your guts, your sol
your nostrils.

Speaker 1 (47:29):
I've read into our astrologies to find out we're a
great match. But have you asked God? That's what I
want to know.

Speaker 2 (47:37):
Did you send me the charts? Because I think y'all
be seeing what y'all want to see?

Speaker 1 (47:41):
Definitely, I'm trying not to be delusional.

Speaker 2 (47:44):
Hm, So what does she do instead?

Speaker 1 (47:48):
Our perfect match are? Perfect match is a thing? And
does it truly exist? How do you know when you
and your partner are on the same wavelength? How do
you know there is karmic connection between the two of you.

Speaker 2 (48:06):
You might not like what I have to say. This
is what I'll say to answer your actual question. How
do you know?

Speaker 1 (48:10):
Right?

Speaker 2 (48:11):
Do I think a perfect match exists?

Speaker 1 (48:13):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (48:13):
My idea of perfect is not everything is right. I
think some things are what I want. Some things are
not what I want. But I learned to we learn
how to work together to have this coexistence. I think
that you know that you're with the right person when
you don't no shade, I'll save the shape for later.

(48:34):
But you know that it's perfect when you don't find
yourself constantly asking your friends for advice on your relationship,
when you don't find yourself searching birth charts, chatch ebt,
all these outside sources to figure out if this should
be because you're inside your heart, everything about your being
is making you uncomfortable in this situation because it's not right.

(48:58):
Sometimes that happens when things are new, but sometimes it
happens because it's not right, and that's why you always
feel unsettled, uneasy, unsure. When you feel sure, you don't
think about the fact that you do feel sure. It's
not until you hear something like this, and it's like,
maybe you feel like you know that you're as a

(49:18):
right person when you don't find yourself constantly questioning at
every turn of an issue. Like if you have an issue,
y'all work through it, or even if you're in the
midst of it, but you don't feel the need to
like seek validation, reassurance and all these other things from
outside sources who aren't in your relationship. Sometimes we want
those other people to tell us that to make us

(49:39):
feel better about making the wrong decisions. And you got
to tune that noise out you're unhappy. I don't know
what y'all's whole routine is, but you can be in
a routine and let me tell you, as a queen
of a situationship, even when I didn't want it to
be a situationship and it was because well, yeah it
was that, and I didn't want it to be that. Yeah,

(50:00):
there were routines, there were all sorts of things they
can do, all the things that look like a relationship,
look like they love you, look like they care about you,
look like they at least give a fuck if you
live or die. And then something happens and you realize
they don't because you allowed all of this outside stuff
to infiltrate your thoughts. And I don't think that anything

(50:22):
should be easy, and it doesn't come without issue, But
when you find yourself constantly searching to make something right,
that should be a sign that maybe it's just not
right at all, and you need to let it go.
It's okay to let things go, it's okay to be
to start over. It is okay to not be okay.

Speaker 1 (50:42):
And realize it and move on.

Speaker 2 (50:43):
And I hope that more of us will learn to
be okay with that. But that's how I think. You know,
when you constantly feel like I don't know what to do,
I'm upset, I'm easy, it doesn't feel good. You just
feel unsettled and you're searching for answers constantly and nothing
fits this ain't this don't fit.

Speaker 1 (51:02):
You're part of on the same wavelength. My answer, surprisingly
is going to be simple and short. I think you
know and this is tried and true for me in
my life. If you're on the same wavelength when you
experience something really tough, whether it's you or him, and
they have your back, and that's how I'd be knowing
that we on the same wavelength, because at the end
of the day, life is fucking hard, and shit be

(51:23):
going on in life be life, and if if somebody
can rock it through with you, with a friend or
a romantic person or even just someone you're not necessarily
you ever know somebody that you're not really in a
relationship with, but they really fuck with you, oh do
I And it's like, wow, you really got my back,
like you care about me. We're on the same wavelength,
you get it. That's how, unfortunately I have figured out

(51:46):
the people that truly fuck with me in life. That's
what honestly matters. If I'm up and everything's going well
and you got my back, it don't really matter. It matters.
I'm not saying it doesn't matter, thank you, But when
life be life, in which we've all been in a
life be life in situation who is there? Is he?
And we've all been fucking somebody at times where it's
like you know, he not gonna be there, and you

(52:06):
just you don't. You also want to lose that dick,
so you just don't even bring those things up to them.

Speaker 2 (52:09):
But the people you can bring this little thing that
you can hold on.

Speaker 1 (52:12):
Yeah, you're like if I tell him, then I'm going
he's gonna be like, oh here you go get an emotion.
But the people in your life that it's like I
got somebody like that where it's like it can be sexual,
it can be friend, it can be something, and everybody
in my life might not know him, but like he
gets me in a way where it's like wow, like
I appreciate this, Like it's the wavelength we don't have
to be even in a relationship. But I hope that
somebody that I'm gonna be in a relationship with can

(52:34):
be like that. Like I don't want it to be
a situation where it's like, let me just tell Kiki this,
because I know if I tell my man, he not
gonna he's gonna have an attitude and he's gonna start
an argument he's not gonna get it. He's not gonna
see me, he's not gonna try to see it. Let
me tell you how I knew somebody. Really.

Speaker 2 (52:49):
I mean, it was a few things, but then I
just really had a moment. And I've been very emotional
these past couple of months, like a real woman. It's
so weird and uncomfortable. I don't know hormone steel ain't regulated, yeah,
because I've always felt a little disconnected. Like not that
I thought I was a man or anything, but I
mean I literally had a lot on testosterone. I think
that's why I'm so hairy. Anyways, when my grandfather passed

(53:12):
away that I mean, it's still hard, but it gets easier.
This man was like, well, I said, I have all
this stuff to do. I don't know how I'm gonna
get there. I don't know when the funeral is gonna be.
I have to cancel things. I don't know what to do.
I gotta record today, Like I'm always overwhelmed. I'm always crazy, y'all.
Not my head ain't right. The wigs ain't been too tight.

(53:33):
They've actually been too loose. But that's another thing. If
you have a wig, send it to me. But I
was like, what am I gonna do with my baby girl?
What am I gonna do with baby girl?

Speaker 1 (53:42):
Why?

Speaker 2 (53:42):
I don't know how long I'm gonna go. I don't
want to feel rush like I don't know. So he
was like, well, I know you don't like to drive,
but would it be easier if we drove. I'll come
with you. He don't like my family, and I don't
blame him. Well, I won't say he doesn't like them,
but some people have made it very clear that they're
not interested in him. It was very uncomfortable. Maybe even
it could be a patrio.

Speaker 1 (54:02):
Conversations like that, that's an honest conversation, at least, not
holding on to it like faking it.

Speaker 2 (54:07):
It's like he's like, yeah, And I was like, and
this one, I told you. I don't want to bring
nobody around because I get it. It's it's a tough crowd,
like y'all think y'all know me. Oh wait till it's
the tribe I came from. Like imagine that. Yeah, so
it can be uncomfortable. Ain't shit else to do. It's fun,
we're gathering for a sad occasion. But he drove the

(54:29):
whole way, even though I didn't sleep the night before
we recorded. I went how I'm supposed to sleep, didn't.
We drove there and meet him and Whitley. He rented
a car, We stayed at a hotel. We stayed there
for a long time. He didn't rush me to leave,
and he was just there. And it's like little things
like that, I know you didn't want to be there.
I wouldn't have wanted to be there. And then I
had to ask myself on the drive would I have

(54:50):
done the same thing? And that's another thing that I
think we have to ask ourselves, like when you want
these things from different people, would you reciprocate? And when
you question it, that's okay, but like really ask yourself,
because I don't think any sort of relationship, friendship, anything
should be one sided. Would you be willing to do this?

(55:11):
I didn't ask that, but I really appreciated that. Could
I do it? Yeah? Would I like it?

Speaker 1 (55:15):
Maybe not?

Speaker 2 (55:16):
But could I do it?

Speaker 1 (55:17):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (55:17):
And so it's important to look at things like that,
like it's somebody willing to do things that are uncomfortable
to them that they really don't want to do, that
cost them thousands of dollars. They didn't plan to spend.
You gotta ask and do that, and then you ask
do they throw it in your face later? Because that's
the other side. You don't want somebody who throws it

(55:39):
in your face because it feels good when you know
that somebody is there for you, But then it feels like, well,
are you really there for me if you're gonna keep
reminding me. I thought you were really being supportive or
like trying to help me, because I've been through that too.
It's just like, don't ever give me a goddamn thing,
because boy, fuck you, And now I want to slash
your tires and put sugar in your tank. I didn't
say that. I haven't ever done that, actually, but I've

(56:03):
thought about it anyways. I think that we've all got
to ask ourselves these questions. But you miss girl in
the email, you're unhappy. Yeah, and Heed say it out
loud three times a year.

Speaker 1 (56:14):
And I'm gonna say it again. I said it in
the beginning several times. Cut out the sugar and read
a book.

Speaker 2 (56:20):
Sugar does make your mind do crazy things, and they
putting all kind of stuff in there. I didn't know
that Red forty in the chips that your nephew was
talking about. I think that's what he was talking about. Maltred,
oh something way longer name. Ask him about the Red forty.
I bet he knows. He probably does, because I didn't
know that a lot of people don't want the kids
eating talkies. I thought it was because heartburns and heart

(56:41):
attacks and salt and stuff. But apparently red forty does something.
And when the kids have a lot of it in
their system, sometimes they get diagnosed with autism and ADHD,
but the symptoms are the same. But it's really that.
And so when you cut that out of their diet,
after some time, retest and you see like you have

(57:04):
a change in the kids. And so they didn't really
have it. It's just something that mimics it.

Speaker 1 (57:08):
If you're looking for a healthy chip for your child, sorry, y'all,
really a healthy chip, it's called and this. I love them.
You don't even have to be like these were healths
and they're not. They're not expensive. There's a blame version.
Now they got flavors. There's lime. There's a nacho cheese.
I don't like the notch cheese, but there is. If
you just are someone where you need a flavor, they
have flavors. I love the flavorless and I love the lime,

(57:31):
and they're really good with time. It's like a dorito,
but it's not. It doesn't have all the extra shit
in it.

Speaker 2 (57:35):
They make regular like taco shells, like the crunchy.

Speaker 1 (57:38):
Kinds they make, but if you get the soft and
you eat them, you're like this nasty. Nope, no, nope,
you got to put at olive oil in the pan.
You gotta heat it up. And that changed.

Speaker 2 (57:47):
To read telling you to heat it.

Speaker 1 (57:50):
And they're good and it's like a healthy And that's
a flowerless tortilla right there. I use the I use
the Cia everything, the chips and the tortillas. I'm making
my tacos. I'll make a little toast y'all, just make as.

Speaker 2 (58:03):
With no meat or anything, and just the avocado because
I know you've been on your avocado cake.

Speaker 1 (58:07):
I'll be putting a little meat on there because I
mean energy, because I've been really lifting. But I do
a little meat. I'll do a little avocado. I do
my little Greek yogurt, a little salt and pepper or
little candors. I don't care what nobody tell me about kenders.
If you got I be like, I'm sorry, I'm using kender. Y'all.
That's one of the ones where it's like we can't
be perfect. You still fucking with niggas that you don't

(58:29):
even be fucking with, And when I get back out there,
I probably will too. So I don't know what to
tell you.

Speaker 2 (58:33):
I'm un makes the story and that's what we got
right here, and we're just all having story time. Y'all
keep sending us your cocktails and whatever you're going through.
Do you have a question that you need advice or
do you have a question and you just want us
to talk about it, Like you're just curious about thoughts,
because even if you have things like that you can
send them.

Speaker 1 (58:48):
To, you're in confusion, maybe that you've reached a point
with a friendship or a relationship or even at work,
and you're like, I just really don't what should I
do with this? Let us know. I want to know
where y'all are at.

Speaker 2 (58:58):
I want to know where I'm at. I'm not quite sure,
but at a.

Speaker 1 (59:01):
Point where now it's like, can I go the full
year without dating? I want to? I want to any wait.

Speaker 2 (59:07):
Can we put this on prospect? Can we get a
bad going I wait because I'm ready to cash out.

Speaker 1 (59:14):
I want to kiss some man. I want I want the.

Speaker 2 (59:16):
Last time you kissed somebody last in twenty twenty four.
You gonna say last week.

Speaker 1 (59:20):
No, I haven't. I haven't done the things I mean obviously,
you see. I haven't been going out. I'm really nervous
because this weekend is my girlfriend Chanelle's birthday. She's ali,
they be trying to act like they don't want attention.
They do. I was just dating one and then he anyway,
she's doing a whole week She's like, I'm not going
to do anything. It's a whole weekend of events. I'm
not They did a boat day to day. I was like,
I'm not going on the boat. It's too many people
down on the water. I'm sorry, I'm not going y'all

(59:41):
drinking Lake Alatuna okay? And she was like, well, such
just I was like, who's going to be the captain?
Is it a certified captain? She was like, no, Bobby
from the gym. I'm sorry, y'all, I'm not going out.

Speaker 2 (59:52):
I need somebody just strictly on the clock.

Speaker 1 (59:54):
And you're not drinking, You're not.

Speaker 2 (59:55):
I don't even want to know you.

Speaker 1 (59:56):
I can't risk it. And so but tomorrow she was like,
you're gonna come Saturday. I was like, I'm coming. So
we're going to dinner at Master or something. And after
that she's like, please come to the club. I'm going
with it. I don't know. I think maybe revel, but
I said, I'm going. It's your birthday, Like, yeah, this
is called for a bitch. I'm nervous.

Speaker 2 (01:00:16):
Sit in the corner of this section, not in the
middle where everybody. You need to sit in the corner
where everybody on the side can cover you up and
block your bed.

Speaker 1 (01:00:23):
That's the thing. It's not that I don't want to
go to the clubs. It's not fun. I'm normal have fun.

Speaker 2 (01:00:26):
I'm not gonna tell you, but I need you to
be in the corner so that you can stay safe
because I know you gonna cut up next thing. I
know that hang on, throw up. She gonna be having
that bang. Don't let that sweat start rolling down her body.
Somebody's gonna pay a compliment. But then you cannot help
but flirt. She's a natural fir and she's very good
at it. Sometimes I just sit back and watch. I'm
a horrible fir. I don't know how. I am very

(01:00:47):
much Angelica, and so I just be watching like, oh okay,
so I want a giggle or a little let me
lean in, Okay, okay, take the note and the next
thing I know, I got a pee and then all
fineologies flush down the toilet.

Speaker 1 (01:00:59):
I just want to I just want to kiss somebody.

Speaker 2 (01:01:02):
But when I say that, you give a woman a kiss, like,
if you give a boy a cookie, he's gonna want
some milk. If you give this girl a kiss, I'm
gonna want some dick. And I was gonna say.

Speaker 1 (01:01:15):
A love story, but yeah, I wanted I'm gonna go
to Higos show and I'm gonna kiss him.

Speaker 2 (01:01:23):
I know that's right. Cast That's what I was because girl,
like what where are we? I was gonna let you
make it, but I also want to let you know
it's not remissed me and listen, we had no communication,
but you let it slip who you had a little
ship chat with. And somebody left a comment on the
YouTube video Lieutenant Bay was now slide back in. She

(01:01:47):
just let it let it go in there.

Speaker 1 (01:01:49):
That was because I had a ticket and I really
was like, can you and.

Speaker 2 (01:01:53):
You just start talking about life.

Speaker 1 (01:01:54):
That's how it goes. But listen, I'm gonna kiss him
tonight and I'm gonna he's gonna go, is gonna gleeve
and then some kissing because I just need a kiss.

Speaker 2 (01:02:02):
I'm just gonna go set up your camera, okay, so
we can see this, because then we won't believe it.
If there's no footage of it, we don't believe it.
He lets you put put he puts you in the splits,
and he did that nasty thing that I heard the
Q dogs.

Speaker 1 (01:02:18):
Dude.

Speaker 2 (01:02:18):
What anyway, y'all checked a description box. Sign up for Patreon.
I'm gonna try and get this tea out and I'm
gonna try and do something to give y'all something Sometimes
I don't think that y'all believe us. Well.

Speaker 1 (01:02:35):
Challenge and by the end of the challenge, because by
the end of the year, we both have to have
a cocktail.

Speaker 2 (01:02:42):
I got a cocktail, but is it a good one.
I've had a little bit of sake. I wasn't in
a sex mood. I can go have some sex. This
is what I need. We can do that, but this
is what I need for y'all to help me out.
I would like for y'all to give me a suggestion
of something that maybe you have allways want to try
but you haven't, and you want me to try it first.

(01:03:03):
No blood, no dookie ooh hell no, no animals, nothing illegal,
just nothing too crazy, something very simple that are an
old auntie with bad joints can do. I got arthritis
in my neck. I got oversized feet, so they're fucked up. Yeah,

(01:03:25):
but I'm willing to try a few things and I'll
tell you all about it. I'm not recording video. Yeah,
but let's see Modina.

Speaker 1 (01:03:33):
What is your child?

Speaker 2 (01:03:34):
Oh you need a cocktail by the end of the year. Well,
I don't think that'll be hard at all. So Prize
picks holler at me because we ready to get these
bets going. And I would like to make myself a
rich woman. But maybe it'll be one of y'all because
we got to get something on the leaderboard. Y'all leave
a comment and let me know what the things could be,
Like how it was the Super Bowl with Taylor Swift. Oh,
they'll kids, She'll wear a red lipstick. All that Medina

(01:03:56):
is going to do X, Y and Z and I'm
just gonna look kiss and we need timeline.

Speaker 4 (01:04:02):
So nothing is like an old ugly sugar baby dad,
Like what why, I'll just give me a little kiss, baby,
just no, I just need to look kiss like.

Speaker 2 (01:04:13):
I was saying a paraplegic. But that's where my mind goes. Anyway,
you guys, that's it for today. We gotta go and
I've gotta pee.

Speaker 4 (01:04:20):
Okay, thank you, We love you.

Speaker 1 (01:04:26):
Bye bye bye bye bye weir dry bye bye