Soft Life, Hard Lessons

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Yeah, yeah, Check one two, check one too. Is this
Mike going? Is this Mike going? Hey, listen, man, It's
the one.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
And only Trenk said the DJ sis and you're listening
to Cocktails Dirty Discussions with Kikia Medina Monroe.

Speaker 1 (00:14):
Here.

Speaker 2 (00:20):
Today's cocktail is called Unruly and really what it is
is just a glass of unruly champagne and it's actually
really tasty. I love a good classic glass of champagne
for no reason I do.

Speaker 1 (00:33):
We're celebrating because it's Monday and we're still live, and
we're still here and we're breathing.

Speaker 3 (00:37):
Yes, Welcome back to Cocktail Sturty Discussions, you guys. I'm
Kiki said.

Speaker 2 (00:42):
So hey, y'all, I'm Medina Monroe and we're back with
another episode for you guys.

Speaker 3 (00:49):
What's been going on with you? It's been a while
since we've been in the studio.

Speaker 1 (00:52):
It has been a while since we've been in the studio.

Speaker 2 (00:54):
I'm always so it's always so funny because I think
obviously people don't know that we bolk record, and sometimes
people I will send clips of things at like something
I said or something you said that happens so long ago,
because we bolk recorded, and I'll be like, I don't
remember really listening. Somebody was like I thought you weren't dating,
and like, if you're not gonna be dating, you don't
need to be dating.

Speaker 1 (01:14):
And I was like, well, how they gonna tell you?
Are we not allowed to change our minds? I thought
I was in trouble. I was like, what is my life?
But you're lying to us? And I was like, whoa
are we growing? Because what's happening? I don't friend told
me to go ahead and date? Maybe I listened to them?

Speaker 3 (01:33):
Did you ever think of that?

Speaker 1 (01:34):
Yeah? And I do. He was like, well, you just
keep going back and forth. Are you dating or not?
And I was like, both, I'm dating and not. Sometimes
I want to do it and sometimes I don't. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:42):
So it's so freeing to feel that type of freedom,
you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (01:46):
Like I don't owe anybody.

Speaker 2 (01:47):
Anything exactly, just yourself, just myself, and it's it's I'll
tell y'all what up been up to a second. But
because I just said that, it's funny because I was
talking to my sister the other day and my girlfriend Erica,
and I was super stressed about Kiki just dating, like
going on a real date, like a real one. Some
of the stuff I've told you it's not It wasn't
a real day. It was just like flirty stuff. But

(02:08):
I was going on a real date and I was like,
oh my gosh, is this too much. I was just
like totally overthinking it to the point where I was
like talking myself out of it, and I was like,
this is not healthy. My sister was like no, no, no, no.
Erica was like, uh, do you think you're doing too much?
And I was like, excuse me?

Speaker 1 (02:23):
She was like doing too much as far as what
like overthinking it.

Speaker 2 (02:26):
She was like, just what if you just kind of
like chill a little bit and just like, yes, you've
been doing the work, Yes you're trying to heal, but
like it's okay to just like go on the date
and just keep it to that. And I was like,
you're right. I was like, but what if I go
on three different dates with three different people. She's like,
it's okay. And then we started this conversation about how

(02:46):
women are just amazing, because I don't know if you've
ever felt this way, but sometimes it feels like if
you are dating several people and you are rightfully so
you're single.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Do you ever feel like you like bad, like.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
You owe it to like It's It's interesting because men,
when they're really interested in you, they make it seem
like you owe them something, and sometimes it works like
you are like, oh well, and you want to like
share all the details, when really you don't have to
do that. I don't have to be honest with you.

Speaker 3 (03:13):
I think that that is where having too much testosterone
in my mindy with the PCOS comes in handy, because no,
I don't feel bad, but I guess a little piece
of me does still because sometimes I'll feel bad, not
because I'm going on the dates, but if I don't
tell them, and I'm never telling all of the details,

(03:35):
I've had some major issues behind that. Some people feel
like it's lying by omission. I feel like I'm minding
my business if I'm not, if this isn't your day,
It's not like I'm canceling a day with you to
go with somebody else and making up a whole lie.

Speaker 1 (03:49):
I'm just like not saying nothing right, you know.

Speaker 3 (03:51):
But I don't, which is not I don't think you
want that, ye Now, the lying part is wrong if
you do start lying, So that's why I wasn't saying nothing.
Then I'm like, well, damn you think of if I
admit it, Well, I'd rather take the lie by omission
than a lie to your face. I just cause I
didn't say that, I let you imagine. But these days
I've been trying not to do that.

Speaker 1 (04:11):
I mean, but it's hard.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
It is because you I feel like I owe you something,
and when in reality, like I needed my friends to
be like you. I mean you not even in like
a flex type of way. You don't owe anybody anything.
Nobody's your boyfriend. And so it's really interesting because it's
like when women act like how some of the men
have been acting with me, who are like, there is
it's very clear, this is nothing, this is dinner.

Speaker 1 (04:31):
You're a guy, that's cool and like, and it's.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
Like when women kind of do the pressure too soon
and you're trying to bring everybody around, we're crazy.

Speaker 1 (04:40):
It's like why are you doing so much? Why are
you doing so much?

Speaker 2 (04:42):
And it's like, wow, this one lady was like, you
got to be mean to the men. The more the nicer,
I'm really mean.

Speaker 1 (04:48):
She was like how she was like the well, she
didn't say you to be mean she was like, but
just pay attention to this.

Speaker 2 (04:52):
The nicer you are to a man, the more he's
either gonna distance himself.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
Or act up. And I was like, have I been
so blind I'm blind.

Speaker 2 (05:01):
To this that I haven't noticed that? And then I'm like,
so I think so too. Not that I would just
be mean like boom, but like just it's more like.

Speaker 4 (05:09):
Being more straightforward and direct.

Speaker 1 (05:11):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:11):
But it's like the more you're like, hey, I don't
want a relationship, they're like I want to marry you.

Speaker 1 (05:15):
It's like, wait, what what happened?

Speaker 3 (05:18):
Yeah, it's like that reverse psychology stuff, and then it's
like do I do that? But then it's like okay,
well once you give in and say yes, then that's
when they get taxed.

Speaker 1 (05:25):
I mean, I just don't know.

Speaker 2 (05:26):
I don't understand it either, and that's why there is
a part of me where I think I'm overthinking, because
it's like, do I want to add this stress back
in to my life?

Speaker 5 (05:33):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (05:33):
I don't know. But maybe you will meet the right
person on one of these dates here soon and it
won't be stressful, and y'all might be on the same page.

Speaker 1 (05:42):
Who knows that has not have happened yet.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
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(06:08):
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Speaker 1 (06:22):
Send voice notes about dates that have gone wrong.

Speaker 2 (06:24):
I always check in the Monday on Mondays, like, how
did everybody's weekend go? Have we been on any dates?
Does anybody need a vent? Does anybody need a waiting?
Next hel moment? What we got so very uplifting. It's
almost like a little community now, so if you want
to come, come, Okay. I know we're like well past
my birthday, but we haven't recorded since then. My birthday
volunteer activity with Meals on Wheels Atlanta was everything that

(06:47):
I wanted it to be. It was very intentional. It
was how I wanted to start off this year, my
birth year, not like you know, the whole year, but
this whole year, starting from my birthday until the next
I just want to see how much I can be effective.

Speaker 1 (07:01):
Like you ever pick a word for the year, whether
it's a new year or your birthday.

Speaker 3 (07:05):
I haven't tried that.

Speaker 2 (07:06):
So I've been picking a word, and so this year
the word is effective, and so I just want to
be effective. And so that was It was just so special.
My mom came out, a bunch of my friends came,
and people that I didn't even think were gonna come came,
and it was just such a special bonding moment to
get to do with the people that you love and
care about and just learn about Meals on Wheels Atlanta.

(07:27):
You can have events at Meals on Wheels and the
one in Atlanta is super vibby almost some of the
areas look like a lounge because it's independently owned. They're
not government funded, so it's just Atlanta is going to
Atlanta and Meals on Wheels Atlanta's and you can every
event that you have there, you can all the money
goes back to Fielding feeding the seniors in Atlanta.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
So it was really special. It was a really good time.

Speaker 2 (07:49):
I had just a great birthday month. I will say
I reconnected with some friends we talked in a previous
episode about like forgiveness and understanding and sometimes how people
mess up and you meet in just like a bad moment.
I had a girlfriend of mine who was my best friend,
like she was my best friend. She reached out a
few days and maybe the weekend of my birthday, and

(08:10):
she she texted me and she was like, I was
so well. She texted me and it was this long
text and she was just basically apologizing for something the
last time we spoke it.

Speaker 1 (08:22):
Was bad, and she apologized.

Speaker 2 (08:25):
She was like, I was just looking at my phone
and I was looking at the last text that I
sent you, and she was like, I was so wrong,
and I just wanted to tell you that it's not no,
but it's not no, and it's I just wanted to
make sure I let you know that because this wasn't okay.
And I told her. I texted her back and then
I was like I'm gonna call you. In about a hour,
I called her.

Speaker 1 (08:41):
We have this. We were on the phone for about
an hour.

Speaker 2 (08:43):
She was like, I was so scared to call you,
and I was like, I get it, because when you
have to apologize, nobody wants to do that.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
Like it's just not it's never like I get to
go apologize today.

Speaker 3 (08:52):
You don't even know if the person is going to
be open to it. So that's like a little bit
of anxiety there.

Speaker 1 (08:57):
And that's exactly what she said. And I was just like,
I'm so glad you did it.

Speaker 2 (08:59):
I was because honestly, I'm not going home no grudge,
like I love you.

Speaker 1 (09:03):
Let's just pick it back up. Let's just pick a
buck it.

Speaker 2 (09:05):
We sat on the phone for about an hour just
catching up, reminiscing, and it was just it was just
it made me just feel like it felt like a godwink,
Like sometimes I feel like God gives you these little
like y'all see you. And it was like, okay, girl,
like we could pick it back up here and it's
been very refreshing. I went to a gala. This also
happened quite a few weeks ago. But again, we haven't

(09:28):
we I have we just didn't have I didn't have
a moment to let you guys know this. I was
honored at a gala. I cried, this was the most
regulation girl.

Speaker 1 (09:35):
It was so I was so shocked. Thank you. There's
this woman, her name is de Blair Tate. Do you
know her? I didn't know her.

Speaker 2 (09:41):
It's just a beautiful woman. I think she was in
the Army. She has this nonprofit. She's a business woman,
and like, I just felt so honored that she even
knew who I was. When I went to the event,
I didn't know what it was going to be. Like
I asked my brother would he be my date? Best
day was the nonprofit it's called Well Within Your Reach Foundation,
and basically she raises money to the foundation raises money

(10:04):
to sponsor young girls in what they want to do
in life, like if you're trying to be a cosmetologist, whatever,
a bunch of different things. Yeah, and so this was
her first time doing she always does a conference. I
think she said this was her fourth year or sixth
year doing the conference, but this was the first time
that they did at gala. And so they honored me.
They honored a news anchor. I forgot her name and

(10:25):
they honored Gail Bean from Snowfall. I didn't know she
was a sorrower. We connected. She is so down to
earth that like, I mean, like you kind of like
forget that she was a celebrity, Like she was so
cool and the fact, like it was just such a
beautiful evening seeing all these black women. I didn't know
I was not to get up there and give a speech.
Girl went up there and gave a speech and I

(10:46):
was like, oh my gosh, I feel like a baby oper.
It was just such a great night of networking, dancing,
playing games. I want to free photo shoot. I can't
wait to do it. And I was glad. I got
to bring my brother out and he got to meet
a bunch of new people. There were some of the
guys Earn Your Leisure there. It was really like it
was so dope. There was a guy that I met
and we connected and it was just like an effective

(11:09):
night of connecting with people that you can help each other.
And I've just never experienced something like that before. And
it was funny because I had asked the publicist what
made y'all pick me? And she was like, you know,
like I was like, how do y'all pick the people
that you honored. She was like, you know, we pick
people that are authentic, We pick people that are themselves,
no matter like what you're talking about. And she was like,

(11:31):
de Blair has been watching you and she just loves
that you speak your mind, that you're honest, when you're sad,
when you're funny, like whatever. It is like, you are
authentically yourself. And I told them, I even told them
this on the stage. I was like, this has been
a really rough year for me. It's been everything has
been no and so you guys doing this, it was
just so affirming that you're on the right path. And
it meant so much to just be seen, you know

(11:51):
what I mean. Like sometimes you feel like then y'all,
don't does anybody see me? Not that it always matters.

Speaker 3 (11:56):
But you have your moment sometimes, yeah, you're feeling defeated,
you want to give up.

Speaker 1 (12:01):
Am I on the right path?

Speaker 3 (12:02):
You need those all.

Speaker 1 (12:03):
You need them.

Speaker 2 (12:04):
And so that was a really it was just such
a fun event. Got to dress up and you know,
just do all those things. I wanted to tell y'all
the Blair doing this and also just kind of who
I am. She made me want to be paying paying
more attention to people that cross my timeline and that
are doing things for the community or doing things for
a cause. There is this young lady who puts I

(12:26):
put a note in my phone because I thought this
was just beautiful.

Speaker 1 (12:29):
She is in Atlanta.

Speaker 2 (12:30):
She's a mom, and she highlights single moms and she
does a dinner every year. It's called her instagram is
thevill dot atl and she's doing a dinner for single
moms October eighteenth at six forty five. If you guys
are interested in going, it's a dinner party and she
makes it like super bougie and like you get a
chance to don't bring your kids.

Speaker 1 (12:51):
You get to there's a red carpet, you get to
connect with other.

Speaker 2 (12:54):
Single moms, and they have other meetup groups that they do,
but it's a dinner that you just get to be beautiful.
They do giveaways and it's I think when you're a
single mom, life can be kind of lonely or hard,
and so I always have like a soft spot for
moms in general.

Speaker 1 (13:09):
So when I saw her doing this, I was like wow.

Speaker 2 (13:11):
So she does a reflection dinner party for moms in Atlanta,
October eighteenth, six point forty five. Her instagram is atthviil
dot Atl. If you guys are interested in going, go
get your ticket and you can also if you don't
want to go, you just have money, you can sponsor
a mom who maybe can't afford the ticket for.

Speaker 1 (13:29):
Her to go, and you can gift it to that mother.

Speaker 3 (13:32):
So'b be a nice just because I see you and
I just wanted to do something nice. I love those gifts.

Speaker 1 (13:37):
I do too.

Speaker 2 (13:37):
If you know a single mom, you know she ain't
had a break, she ain't had like a she hasn't
had a moment to put on makeup.

Speaker 1 (13:42):
Go out just and just enjoy her time.

Speaker 2 (13:44):
Be around adults, be around adults like you might want
to give this to someone, to a mom or your mom.
I don't know, but go to her instagram page check
it out, and I hope that you guys are able
to attend.

Speaker 1 (13:58):
And if you're not, like I said, check out her
instagram page.

Speaker 2 (13:59):
She puts together different meetups for these moms to just
be seen and paredis and vibe. Go to parisbob dot com.
If you want to come to Turkey with me, I
would love to host you.

Speaker 1 (14:12):
Did you say dates already for that yet, or y'all
haven't released week, you haven't released the dates yet.

Speaker 2 (14:15):
We should be doing it next week, so you'll just
have to look at my Instagram.

Speaker 1 (14:20):
What you been up to, Kiki?

Speaker 3 (14:22):
Okay, so we haven't recorded since my birthday either, and
really I mainly relaxed. I spent time with mainly my
family and the Sims and a few friends, and that's
exactly what I wanted to do. I was thinking about
getting out, but I really didn't. But my aunt Sean
and Walker hit me up and they were like, well,

(14:42):
you probably have plans this week and I was like,
I don't and I'm not making them.

Speaker 1 (14:45):
What's up?

Speaker 3 (14:46):
They were like, well, how do you feel about crab
legs and cupcakes? And I was like, that's an odd pairing,
but I love them, so yeah. So I went over
there and her fiance was there. They cooked for me.
I hung out for a really long time. Then that
night I went to This is one of my favorite restaurants.
I actually went there last year. It's called Fia. It's
in Bucket, It's near your brokerage. It always popular. It's

(15:09):
at the bottom of the hotel. The hotel was the
Burgess Hotel. I don't know if it still on that
think it's really cute. It's like it's a coastal Mediterranean.

Speaker 4 (15:19):
Style restaurant, which I love.

Speaker 3 (15:21):
I've had so many things on the menu, almost everything,
but not quite Sony to go a few more times.
They have an open heart grill and I just love
the flavor from stuff coming from that. I'm always getting
the branzino and then many other things. But I went
to dinner there that was like a little dinner date
and that was nice. And then the next day I

(15:43):
chilled out and I went on a walk, spent some
time in nature and just really relaxed and did a
lot of like reflecting and thinking about, Okay, what do
I really want for this year? Because twenty twenty five,
even though it's not over, it has been so much
better than twenty twenty four. Twenty twenty four was just

(16:03):
like sad depression year for me, and I've had several,
but it was just rough, and.

Speaker 4 (16:09):
It's like sometimes when you feel really sad.

Speaker 3 (16:11):
There were a few things that I know that happened
that had a direct effect, but then other stuff it
was like, he.

Speaker 4 (16:15):
Doesn't even happen, Why are you in this?

Speaker 3 (16:18):
But working through it it's just better. So this year
something that I want to do more of that I've
talked about a bit.

Speaker 4 (16:26):
It's just trying new things and we're trying to do more.

Speaker 3 (16:28):
Classes, get more active, be more consistent with these new things.
But first I got to find the things that I
want to be consistent with. And another big one, at
least career wise, is really putting myself out there and
not just waiting for things to come to me. Like
it's always great when stuff just comes to you, right,
but sometimes you have to open up your mouth or
you have to intentionally be in these spaces and talk

(16:51):
to people something.

Speaker 1 (16:53):
This is something that literally happened last week.

Speaker 3 (16:55):
So I've been trying to use LinkedIn more because outside
of like doing fun stuff like this, professionally, I have
worked in media in my entire career in different lanes,
and so I know a lot. I have a lot
of experience and expertise, and I need to stop acting
like I'm entry level when it comes to getting other jobs,
because like anything podcasting, I am not entry level, okay,

(17:18):
And so I'm looking at other people who are in
different positions and I'm like, I know just as much
as them. I'm just as capable of them. Why am
I not getting those opportunities? It's because but you're not trying.
You gotta try. Sometimes you have to put yourself out
here and the only person that's really blocking you is you.
And so I've been trying to be more intentional there.

(17:40):
So something that I did that I've been trying to
do is people will feel like we're in this era
of everybody wants to be a influencer, well and influencer,
a content creator and all this stuff. And I've said
it once, I'm to say it again. If everybody's making
the content, who's gonna watch the content? If everybody's an influencer,
who is gonna get influenced. It's an ecosystem that we

(18:03):
need everybody. We need some consumers, you know. And that's
not to discourage anybody from trying, but it's like, do
you really want to do this? Or you chasing a bag?
And I wish the people who were just chasing a
bag would get out the way, because if you don't
really enjoy any aspect of this, you probably will get
burnt out. So like stop clouding the timelines and just

(18:23):
like just enjoy the stuff that you see and going
about it right, But you know whatever, if you guys
still want to try to keep trying anyway back to LinkedIn,
so people aren't here writing these long posts and all
this stuff. I'm trying to be influencers on LinkedIn.

Speaker 1 (18:35):
I'm like on LinkedIn, I didn't even know it was
posting like that on LinkedIn. Girl.

Speaker 3 (18:39):
Yes, But what I do like about LinkedIn is you
can really connect with people. So like I've been going
to these conferences in different industry events lately, and whenever
I go, depending on what it is, Like Podcast Movement
is the biggest one that I've been able to participate
in and attend. And they have their own app and
so there's you get your contacts in the app. But
what I always forget to do is go to LinkedIn

(19:02):
because you can usually link the profile. And I'm like,
let me go there because it just works better for me,
and I want to have the right tone. I want
y'all get confused because who knows what clip might pop up.
So we're gonna talk on LinkedIn. Anyway. I met someone,
she reached out to me, well, she like sent a
connection request, And what often happens is people will send
these connection requests and they never send a message, you

(19:23):
never talked to them. They're just in your.

Speaker 1 (19:24):
Network now, right, And I was like, no, I'm not
doing that.

Speaker 3 (19:27):
So literally, this first person I tried it with and
I send her a message, I responded, accepted. She did
seem like she has a really cool career and I'm
just looking through all this stuff and I was like, wow,
I would love to know this person. I was like, well, shit,
she messaged you. Well, she added you send her a message.
I did, and she was I'm like kind of pitching
myself and giving her compliments and accolades, and she was

(19:47):
just like, oh, I already know who you are. I
have been a fan of for years of cocktails and
I've especially love getting to see you in a different
arena with you doing Xoman and I should really be
thanking you because the content has been great and I've
enjoyed it and you know, I've been a watcher listener

(20:07):
for years and I was like wow.

Speaker 1 (20:08):
So then that made me smile, And so we're talking.

Speaker 3 (20:11):
She worked for a really big company, and when I
was really looking at what she does, I was like,
this is the person I need to meet. So we
connected and then there was another person that I met.
I met a guy he works here. He is a
podcast producer and head of something with a company here,
and I met him when I went on an episode
of another podcast couple months back. I didn't remember his

(20:33):
full first and last name because this is kind of,
you know, just a common name.

Speaker 1 (20:38):
Meet this girl at the podcast conference.

Speaker 3 (20:40):
We continue to talk. She's like, Hey, do you know
this guy? I was like no, And so she's like, well,
I'm going to connect you guys on LinkedIn. That's a
good person to know. I'm surprised you haven't met him.
So then when she made a little group message, which
I didn't know you could do that either, I was like, oh,
we have met. We actually met right before the conference.
I did an episode. He connected me with somebody else
for a job opportunity in podcasting, producing and consulting, which

(21:03):
is what I wanted. And I'm like, these are the
things I'm talking about. So sometimes you just have to
put yourself out there and talk. And I've been speaking
to other people peers and like students and stuff like, hey,
sometimes that's going to be the thing that sets you
apart from everyone else, because a lot of times we
all have the same skill set, but that's going to

(21:24):
show that you are a self starter, that you're assertive,
and that you will go after things.

Speaker 1 (21:28):
So just do it.

Speaker 3 (21:29):
And in a sea of everybody having the same skills,
what is going to set you apart if you don't.

Speaker 2 (21:34):
Send that message, Send that message, make that call, send
the email.

Speaker 1 (21:38):
Do it all you know.

Speaker 3 (21:40):
And then also speaking of messages, when we were recording,
we were talking about birthday gifts and stuff. I was
saying to you guys listeners, I was like, something I
would like is if I've ever made you smile or
laugh or like grow, anything that I've ever if I've
left a positive impact on your life, send it.

Speaker 1 (21:59):
The girls were sending me.

Speaker 3 (22:00):
I'm not gonna read them all because they were long
and I didn't screenshot them to read to take me
a minute, but y'all had me crying. So to everybody
who sent those messages, I already told you, but thank you,
thank you, thank you. I really appreciate it. And they
all came in like different moments. And when I looked
at the message, it was weird because it was like
I was having a shitty day and then I saw

(22:23):
the message and it like was like.

Speaker 4 (22:24):
Girl, get out of the funk, getting out of the bed.
You don't have to get off the stems, but get
out of the bed and like.

Speaker 1 (22:29):
Go outside, drink a little water. Little wise, it's all right.

Speaker 3 (22:33):
We do want to go ahead and say something about
by a Hemp, though we haven't talked about him in
a while, and I actually needed one because I told
you I had hurt my leg.

Speaker 2 (22:43):
I don't know what I did or was it like
a sexual act. Okay, just old old.

Speaker 3 (22:47):
I fell asleep on the couch when I was babysitting Walker,
and I woke up in pain. We were both discombobulated.

Speaker 1 (22:54):
Well, you know, thirty seven.

Speaker 2 (22:58):
By a Hemp has always been one of my Day
one favorites. I absolutely love them. I talk about them
even when they're not fan us. I give them as gifts.

Speaker 1 (23:06):
If you're someone where.

Speaker 2 (23:06):
You're like, I'm probably not gonna eat an edible you can.
The holiday season is coming up. This is perfect gift
to surprise someone with. If you're going to a stranger's birthday,
if you're going to a friend's birthday, if you're going
to just even an auntie's birthday.

Speaker 1 (23:22):
I have put especially an auntie. If your auntie got attitude.
Put them in there and just tell her like, hey, look, listen,
I got something. I gotta say something for you.

Speaker 2 (23:29):
Like she's gonna at all offended at first, and then
she's gonna text you on the side like, thank you
so much for.

Speaker 4 (23:33):
Giving men candidates.

Speaker 2 (23:35):
Give me them one candies that high on love really
saved my marriage.

Speaker 3 (23:38):
Like you got cloud none saved me from jail because
I had an attitude.

Speaker 2 (23:42):
And I calm down, here's how I feel about via him.
It's almost like, not almost, I'm gonna be a matter
of fact. It is a uh it enhances your life.
I mean, and I know that's like any avenue. It's
a bold statement like it's but it has an enhanced
my life. They have so many different versions that are

(24:04):
like four different things. If you need to focus, they
have something for that. If you need to be flirty
and get in the mood for date night, they have
something for that. If you need to be fun and
upbeat they have If you need help sleeping, they have
something for that. And it's subtle. It's not like this thing.
I don't smoke weed, y'all. I don't do that.

Speaker 3 (24:23):
But the edible I like that.

Speaker 2 (24:25):
Oh, my god, it's just like, this is an amazing product.
I don't even really even know what to say on
Gone off Script. I absolutely love their brand. I love
the packaging. It's discreet, it's affordable. It just comes in
a brown box. It looks like Amazon but not. Yeah,
you get sent you get to pick samples if it's
if it's your first time ordering, and so you can
try out the other things that we're talking about. You
get more than enough in a bottle. Like It's just

(24:48):
one of those brands where it feels fair, you know
what I mean, You.

Speaker 3 (24:50):
Don't feel like you're getting taken advantage of. And the
one that I took the other day was Cloud nine
and I didn't know about this until I saw it
and what they sent us. So Cloud nine is supposed
to make you feel like you're on Cloud nine, right,
And we used to talk so much about High Love,
which is still amazing, but now we gotta get y'all
hip to Cloud nine. So Cloud nine. They do taste good.
That's the most important real because some you know, but

(25:13):
these are not that these taste good, but Cloud nine
Chef's kiss, it's going to give you a different feeling.
And what I really like about this formula is it
includes like botanicals, adaptogens, and functional mushrooms. Now that mushroom.

Speaker 1 (25:31):
Part makes you smart.

Speaker 3 (25:33):
I was always a little nervous about the mushi's right,
But as I've been looking into more of like via
hemp stuff and other things, and like how like researching
what it actually does and when you're doing it and
not a major dose, you're not gonna think that you're
in Alice in Wonderland and try to go down a

(25:54):
hole when really it's a manhole in the middle of
the street. That's what I was scared. I just thought
I was gonna lose my SHITNA do that. You're just
really gonna feel good. You'll feel happy and not over
the top happy. Now, I always follow their dosing instructions.
I'm gonna take a bite of the gummy. I don't
pop the whole thing in because I have to assess.

Speaker 1 (26:13):
The sleeping when I eat the whole thing, because I'm
going to sleep.

Speaker 3 (26:15):
Yes, And it doesn't have THHC. Right, but this one
has different things in it, and they say, you know,
take a bite and give it some time. If you're
new to this, if you are a heavy smoker or consumer,
of THC products and stuff, go ahead and take the
whole thing. But for somebody who doesn't, just take a
bite and wait an hour and then see if you

(26:36):
can handle more because you don't want to do too much.
And then it's like when you only have to take half,
then you doubled your bottle. That's the best part.

Speaker 1 (26:44):
Anyway.

Speaker 3 (26:44):
Cloud nine is amazing. It's going to give you a
fun and relaxing buzz. And it also helps because I
have been cutting back on drinking and that is hard,
but especially when you do still want to unwind and
you want to have something out. I don't necessarily like
being drunk, but I do like feeling more relaxed, especially
because I'm such a caffeinated person.

Speaker 1 (27:06):
Anyway, cloud nine and many of the.

Speaker 3 (27:10):
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(27:31):
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Speaker 4 (27:44):
After you purchase, they ask you where you heard about them.

Speaker 3 (27:47):
Please support our show and tell them that we sent
you and enhance your every day with So yeah, there's that.
And then I went to your Meals on Wheel's birthday thing.
That was really cool and it was nice to get out.
And I didn't know a lot about Meals on Wheels
until you talked about it. I've already always seen it.

(28:08):
I didn't know it's for old people, and that really
tugged at my heartstrings. And so it's nice to go
out and volunteer. It was nice to see the facility.
I'm looking at it taking pictures like, oh, this would
be cool for some other events. And I have been
spreading the word if you watch this on YouTube, I
don't know if you noticed the episode that we put
out the week of your birthday. I put a little thing,
a little donation thing for Meals on Wheels because it

(28:28):
allowed me to link it. So I hope that you, guys,
if you could and you felt it in your heart
that you donated. But you can always go to their website.
They have volunteer opportunities and donation donation links if you
just want to give. So that's nice. And then my
sister was telling me about this thing. Have you heard
that people talking about the Winter Arc?

Speaker 1 (28:48):
No?

Speaker 3 (28:48):
Okay, So the girls on TikTok and some Instagram have
been talking about this winter arc. And basically, you are
supposed it started October first, but you are supposed to
write down your goals and this season for the next
I think it's six months or four six months something
like that. You're supposed to just lock in on whatever
it is. It could be anything. It's personal to you,

(29:10):
and you just make sure that you are doing something
every single day going towards this. They say, like in
the winter time it starts to get cold, it's harder
to get out, it's.

Speaker 1 (29:21):
Easy to just like fall seasonal depression.

Speaker 3 (29:25):
Yeah, And so if you can focus on your goals
and really lock in on them and work hard and
not wait until the new year, but do it now, you're.

Speaker 4 (29:34):
More likely to stick with those changes.

Speaker 3 (29:36):
So I encourage you guys to do it. I have started.
I ain't doing so great, but I haven't given up.
I had a few mishaps here and there, but I'm
still focused and working towards it.

Speaker 4 (29:47):
And speaking of that, like I did write down.

Speaker 3 (29:49):
Goals and set some stuff, I got an opportunity that
I'm so excited about. Y'all will see it later this month.
I'll talk about it later, but I can't say anything yet.
But it was.

Speaker 4 (29:58):
It was one of the things and very pacific I
work wrote down.

Speaker 3 (30:01):
It was a company that I wanted to do a
collaboration with and the type of industry that I wanted
to do something with. And not only is it something,
it was a last minute thing, like over the weekend.
It just came through and I was like, okay, I
can't procrastinate. I gotta move quickly. Not only did I
get accepted, I'm getting paid and Mallory is coming to

(30:24):
come on and so I'm like, we both get to
do it. And so Mallory was just gonna be my
plus one, and I wasn't sure because this type of thing,
they don't always have plus ones.

Speaker 4 (30:31):
But clothed mouse don't get fed.

Speaker 1 (30:33):
So I asked.

Speaker 3 (30:33):
They were like, yeah, you can freaking plus one. It's fine.
And so then we had like an onboarding call today
and some of the people it seemed like some people
might drop out right or they're not going to be
able to or whatever because everything is moving really really fast,
like it all happens this month. So I sent my
agent in the within that company a message and I

(30:55):
was like, hey, I was on the call and I
just wanted to know something. I referred my sister to
this company. She signed up and she's on the platform now,
but she signed up after I got accepted. She's my
plus one. I was wondering if anybody drops out, could
she be an additional could she feel their spot because

(31:16):
she's coming anyway, And so they were like, okay, well
what's her handle, what's her info? And so that's what
I was messaging right before we start. I hope that
they can pay her to and do something too, and
so she's not just there being my plus one, because
that'll be good for her. And she's been working so
hard and I just want her to get something for
all the hard work that she's been putting in. But

(31:37):
I'm excited about it happens later this month. We're going
to be going some places, having some experiences, and so
it's really really exciting. I'm doing something I've never done before,
so that is a little nerve wracking, but like in
a good way.

Speaker 1 (31:51):
I think it's really fun that you get to deal
with your sister. Like I was gonna ask.

Speaker 3 (31:55):
My mom, but when I first hit her up about it,
I didn't like her initial reaction.

Speaker 1 (32:00):
I said, you know what, Clockett was a little bit. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (32:08):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (32:09):
I had a moment with my mother the other day
and I was so offended that I just had to
say something to her. And I love my mom first
of all, so don't regularly I love mine too.

Speaker 3 (32:20):
But she knows because we're gonna go back and forth
me and her.

Speaker 2 (32:23):
I don't normally go back and forth my mom, and
I don't normally really speak up in moments like this
to adults, even though I'm an adult. Sometimes I forget
that I'm an adult. Want to be your mama or
like an auntie or something.

Speaker 3 (32:31):
Because I'm the only one who won't cuss around my mom.

Speaker 1 (32:35):
Yours? Where's so?

Speaker 2 (32:40):
I too have something coming out not till next October,
and I'm so excited about it. And I got an
email that was confirming some of the things that I
have that's good. And I was telling my mom about
it on FaceTime and I haven't been talking about it,
like they don't even know, but it's been very like yes,
and this is something I've never done before, and so

(33:02):
and it's me.

Speaker 1 (33:02):
It's not nobody help me, it's me.

Speaker 2 (33:05):
I was telling my mother and she's not paying attention
and this is like an important and I.

Speaker 1 (33:09):
Was like, this is me.

Speaker 2 (33:11):
And I can see her on face and I was
just looking like what are you doing? I said, oh,
this must be what they talk about when they say
that your your biggest supporters are going to be the
people you don't know.

Speaker 1 (33:19):
And she was like, excuse me.

Speaker 2 (33:20):
And I was like, Mom, you're not even listening to me,
and she was I'm really looking at the camera like
my mom talking to mom. She was like, well, I
didn't call you to talk about this, and I said, oh,
I said oh, I said oh, I said okay. I said, well,
let me tell you something. I wouldn't let someone anybody

(33:41):
else do what you just did. I'm not going to
let you do it either. And I was talking just
like this. I didn't yell, I didn't get high very
matter of fact, I'm not going to let you do
it either, even though you were my mother.

Speaker 1 (33:49):
I said, Mom, that was so rude.

Speaker 2 (33:51):
This is something that's so important to me and you
really just hurt my feelings.

Speaker 1 (33:54):
And I said, she said, what do you want me
to do? Apologize?

Speaker 2 (33:57):
I can't even know who this woman was. I said,
is this how you church your high? Because I was like,
you know what I'm about to I was like, oh,
I said, okay, Mom, you have a problem apologizing because
I've never really said something like this with you. I
just kind of would let it. I said, you have
a good day and I will call you back later.

(34:17):
She was like Medina and I was like, no, Gina,
have a good day. And you called me back when
you would like to apologize. That was rude. It is
and she it was so hard for she called me back.
This happened days ago. She called me this morning and
said Hi.

Speaker 1 (34:34):
I mean it was so and I get it because
of but she was it was.

Speaker 3 (34:38):
So it was rude.

Speaker 2 (34:39):
I was. She was like, hi, and I'm calling and
I was like, I'm I'm on the phone. She was like,
and I just wanted to tell you that I am
sorry for uh.

Speaker 1 (34:53):
What happened the other day, so what happened?

Speaker 2 (34:55):
She was for the way I was not paying attention, sugar.
I wasn't trying to rough. I said, Okay, I think
I get it, and thank you for real.

Speaker 1 (35:04):
We can move on. It's like I'm gonna be like
you can give me trauma. I get it, Like cool, cool, Well,
we just can't keep doing it.

Speaker 3 (35:09):
I want to have it's cool.

Speaker 2 (35:10):
And she's like, we'll tell me more about no, no, no,
oh no, not we done.

Speaker 1 (35:14):
I'm not telling you no more about it.

Speaker 2 (35:15):
But I was really just like, okay, mom, Yeah, that's
that's my mom was listening.

Speaker 4 (35:23):
And when I called her, I wasn't because the issue.

Speaker 1 (35:26):
Is is happening this month and I told you Sean
has two weddings, so it's a lot going on.

Speaker 3 (35:31):
Yeah, and I have to miss Sean's first wedding. Should
do mad No, Okay, But I was really nervous about it,
and I was like, well, I don't want to like
stress her out further because everything is within the month.
Like the big wedding is November first. The other wedding
is the twenty third, which is also the middle of
the week, so that was already like okay, November October

(35:54):
twenty third and November first.

Speaker 1 (35:55):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (35:56):
So she's having a small ceremony.

Speaker 3 (36:00):
It's really just immediate family and like me, well, no
longer me, I ain't going, but her siblings, but even
just the girls, my grandma, her husband, her child, well,
her fiance, her child, and I don't know who else.
But that date was really important to them and they're
doing it in Savannah. So I was like, okay, well,

(36:25):
I'm still going to apply and we'll just see. Maybe
it won't be a factor. I'm not going to bring
it up to her and cause additional stress if it's
not even going.

Speaker 1 (36:34):
To be a thing.

Speaker 3 (36:35):
But I call my mom because it's something that I
thought she would have enjoyed, and I had a feeling
we could get a plus.

Speaker 1 (36:43):
One, and so I was like, well, maybe I'll invite her. Now.

Speaker 3 (36:47):
She was going to the wedding too, but it's also
something that she told me she wanted to do, and
now that it's going to be free, because it's really expensive,
but now that it's going to be free, maybe she'll come.

Speaker 1 (36:56):
So she's like she she was like, well.

Speaker 3 (37:00):
That's when we're gonna be in Savannah. I said, yeah,
so I might not be able to make it. And
I was like, it's not her real wedding. She's like,
it is her real wedding. That's when she's legally getting married.
I said, well, when I'm gonna be a bridesmaid of
November first, I'll be back before then. It'll be fine.
And so she's like, I said, so you wouldn't want
to come with me in case I get a plus one,
because that's what I was calling you for, not to

(37:21):
ask for approval. I'm damn mare forty the fuck. So
she was like, well, no, I'm gonna go to Savannah
because I'm gonna do what I said I was gonna do.
I said, oh now, Immediately I had ten bullet points
ready to go in my mind about all the times
that she said she was gonna do something and she

(37:42):
didn't pertaining to me. But I didn't bring up none
of them. I paused, I did a deep breath. I've
been working on my breathing exercises and being calm is hard,
but I'm doing it.

Speaker 1 (37:53):
And I was like, well, I thought it might be nice.
She was like, well, when I see on.

Speaker 3 (37:56):
YouTube and people have these experiences, they usually don't get
a plus one. I said, do they not get a
plus one? Or does it look like they're on a
trip by themselves? Because I know you not one of
the people that's really privy to like what's really going
on versus what you see. You are just when you talk.

Speaker 1 (38:11):
To people like that, and you was like, ya really
believe that, yeah?

Speaker 4 (38:14):
Or you really thought it was just this it says paid.

Speaker 1 (38:18):
My sister's like, I'll be like Macca, yeah, I can
take a turn to app off. Yeah, And I'd be like,
you need.

Speaker 3 (38:23):
To go to the eye doctor.

Speaker 4 (38:24):
You don't see how this is pieced together.

Speaker 3 (38:26):
You're not checking anything.

Speaker 1 (38:27):
If it's on tiktoks, I think it's real anyway.

Speaker 3 (38:31):
So she had all these stark comments and she's like, yeah,
I mean I thought about it. You're right, I would
have liked it, but then when I look further into
that specific company, I say, it's gonna be bored. She
just kept going on and on and on, and I
was just like and then like, I'm applying as we're
doing this, and so she was like, well, why haven't
you sent me at the application? I said, I literally
just got it. I was kind of excited. So I

(38:51):
called Mallory first, honestly, but she had to take clients.
And then I called you because I wanted to invite you,
but you obviously don't want to go. Well, no, I'll
go no no, because our an already text. Mellory said,
if I get a plus one, it's her you have
already invitation has been rescinded. But also I'm just trying
to work through things, and I'm trying to figure out
because another part is because I'm getting paid negotiating rates,

(39:14):
which is always like tough because you don't want to
sell yourself short ever, but you also don't want to
price yourself out. So I had sent the agent like
a message to see what they thought, because this is
what I'm thinking, and I was waiting on a response,
but I had until like the end of the day
to like midnight end of the day to respond. So
she was like, well, if they're gonna be comping on

(39:36):
all this stuff for you, you don't want to be
asking for too much money. Well hold on, now, why
would you ever tell me to lower my price. I
didn't even tell you what the price was, but automatically
you're acting like I'm doing too much. And this is
literally like a career thing. This is what I do
for a living, this high make money. It all pissed
me off, so I tried to get off the phone.
Then you can added Martin In on the call, and

(39:58):
let me say this. This is a something that is
interesting about the two of them, because Martin is my stepdad,
but something I've always loved about Martin. The energy was
totally different. Martin immediately was supportive and when I said
something about the dates, once the thing happens, I'll tell
y'all more about it, or maybe i'll do a patren

(40:19):
so we don't have to rehash.

Speaker 1 (40:20):
But I was like, yeah, I was saying.

Speaker 3 (40:22):
The dates not for this reason, but for that reason.
And Martin was like, man, fucking people, are you getting
married on that day? You better go out there and
get that money. I know you gonna get it, so
just go ahead and finish it, and you go and
do what you need to do. I believe in here,
you're gonna get it. And then she drifts off into
a conversation about reality TV and we both tried to
get off the phone. He hung up, so I did too.

(40:43):
She gonna call me back. I don't want to talk
no more. Because you're being negative and it put a
little bit of damper on me, but then it also
lit fire under my ass, like I cannot wait to
tell her I booked it. So this morning me and
Mallory are texting her in separate messages. She goes, make
a group chat, y'all may as well tell me y'all
going together? I said, and we are, And that said,
I hope you have fun in Savannah. We will be

(41:05):
in where are we going? Saint Martin and the British
Virgin Islands and what's the other place somewhere else we
get to go, but it's like a week and a
half experience and we're going to multiple places. I hope
you have fun down there in South Georgia. Anyways, I
am just really excited about that, and I love that

(41:26):
the company is gonna be there every step of the
way because I want her to meet more people because
I'm like, you are so talented, And sometimes I look like,
why me and not her? Because really she's more talented
in the creation aspect. She be coaching me through it,
but it is what it is. I ain't gonna stop,
but I want her to get her things too, so
I can't wait, I can't. Speaking of which, I also

(41:49):
apply for something today. I don't even know if you're available,
but I put your name in the hat, so we'll
see what happens. It's an opportunity, so one day is
paid and this in New York next month, so hopefully
we can get it. They ask for a duo and
I just not about it, so I'll tell you more later.
But it's a luxury car experience and we would be
hosting something, so I don't know if we'll get it,
but I definitely put our names in the hat, you know.

Speaker 1 (42:09):
I was.

Speaker 2 (42:09):
I sent somebody an email today and someone who I
would like to have on the show, and I always
include like maybe like two or three of my favorite episodes,
and so whenever I do that, sometimes it changes like
what my favorite is.

Speaker 1 (42:23):
And sometimes I'll go through and watch us.

Speaker 2 (42:26):
And I'm really sometimes I will be cracking up, as
if I don't know that it's me or you. Even
when I asked GP to cut a clip today and
I posted it today and it was like me saying
I'm done, I'm done, and I'm done, and then you
were like, and I'm a what didn't you say? You
were so quick with the like the way that we

(42:46):
vibe off of each other's energy and you just be
knowing what to say and I don't know what to say
and we feed. It's funny because one of my friends
they trying to start a podcasting, Well, when you and
Kiki do stuff like this, I was like, I can't.

Speaker 1 (42:55):
Teach that, like it just happened. It just happens.

Speaker 2 (42:57):
Like if I start to rant, Kicky kind of like
picks up on the rent and then she kind of
I take a breath, and then she jumps, and if
she starts a rent, I kind of jump, And it's
just like a chemistry that you feel in people. You
can't but I can't teach you that, like y'all either.
Maybe y'all need to hang out some more. May you
need to have a few fallouts. I don't really know
what you need to know.

Speaker 3 (43:13):
You need to hang out. You gotta have followouts, you
gotta like I would say, the biggest thing is you
have to be around the.

Speaker 1 (43:18):
Person you got to like.

Speaker 2 (43:20):
And so it's funny because I was watching some more
episode and I was just like, what did you say?

Speaker 1 (43:23):
I'm a Stage ten snitch?

Speaker 5 (43:27):
I am, because baby, I am snitching and I meant
that I was snitching on my neighbors today because all
the bus is my high ass apartment. Okay, I don't
even want to tell y'all too much that I don't
need nobody talking about you to eat it.

Speaker 1 (43:38):
Bye, baby.

Speaker 3 (43:39):
I don't have the down payment, and that's.

Speaker 1 (43:41):
Just you don't always need the down pad.

Speaker 3 (43:44):
Okay, I'm not ready, and I would like to get ready,
but I'm working diligently on it, and that's where all
my extra money has been going.

Speaker 2 (43:52):
Right.

Speaker 3 (43:52):
I'm not ready because I want something really, really nice.
I am loving watching lex p TV and her Bobby
on the Builder series. It is coming along so beautiful.
I can't wait to see everything come together. I want
something like that. But if I bought the house, it's
gonna be empty for five years at this rate.

Speaker 1 (44:12):
Now, I need to stand on the players that I'm
on and.

Speaker 3 (44:15):
Keep saving money and like paying off things and.

Speaker 4 (44:19):
Like not spending unnecessary.

Speaker 2 (44:22):
If you can do it, like you know, just you know,
because the house is are only getting more expensive.

Speaker 3 (44:26):
I just love to know they are.

Speaker 1 (44:28):
And that's what stresses me out.

Speaker 3 (44:29):
That's why I was applying for shit and why I
got an attitude with my mama, when you're telling me
to lower my rate, Like, excuse me, bitch, why would
I lower the rate they are paying. This is a
luxury company.

Speaker 4 (44:38):
This isn't we're not talking about.

Speaker 3 (44:41):
This is not no Spirit sorry, no shade, not on
you in shade then, because hey Spirit, hay Frontier, because
I'm not above it. Because sometimes when you need a
last minute booking, you need a last minute book you
fly on Frontier. One time it was a last minute
trip and I had to go and I wasn't paying
five hundred dollars for Delta when I could pay one
hundred for your Frontier and I was going to be

(45:02):
in and out. It really wasn't that bad. It was
at the end of the time. I mean, did you
get there? I got there early. I slept so I
didn't even care that I missed snacks. My flight was
at five something. We left early. We got there early.
I was out at the airport, I mean, and I
only had to carry on. It was a wonderful experience.

Speaker 1 (45:18):
And I was at the front of the plane.

Speaker 2 (45:20):
Yeah, like you know, the older I get, the more
I'm like, yeah, Like, am I do I care about
what people think? Or is it the airline. It's like,
if it's not. Now, what I will say is if
it's a long.

Speaker 3 (45:28):
Flight, oh no, because I'm gonna need to recline. I
do need some less than two hours.

Speaker 2 (45:33):
Here we go.

Speaker 1 (45:34):
Yep.

Speaker 4 (45:35):
But yeah, So anyways, what was I saying?

Speaker 3 (45:38):
Oh, I submitted us for an experience or not an experience,
a paid opportunity hosting something. We'll see how that goes.
Oh also, well, I said that the guy submitted me
for the thing. Book club has been going great for October.
We are reading a book called The Landlord. Every October,
I like to try and pick something that's kind of

(45:58):
like spooky seas, So this one is a Landlord. I
haven't started it yet, but it's by Brandon Massey. It's
available for on audiobook for sure. There's a hardback and paperback,
and I think it might be free on Kendle Unlimited.
A lot of people were hitting me up about the
If You Love Me book. The paperback, like physical copy

(46:19):
is sold out, but it's free on Kendle Unlimited, and
it's available on Audible and it's available on Spotify Premium
audio books. So I don't know if y'all have been
paying attention, but if you subscribe to Spotify, they have
a bunch of free audiobooks. They're too Anyway, this month
we're reading that, and then next month we're reading a
book called The Silent Patient by Alex something or another.
We don't usually pick that far in advance, but I

(46:41):
was like, we need to go hand pick because these
next two months are going to be hectic. Holiday season
that's coming up, and the one next month is short.
They say, I mean, I listened to all of them,
but they say it's like three hundred and some pages,
so it's not that bad.

Speaker 4 (46:53):
According to the girls who are looking at the.

Speaker 2 (46:55):
Papage, season is coming right around the course. I'm just like, wow,
the times really going fast. Speaking of Key's Book Club,
you guys, if you aren't reading, read a book. I
don't care what book you read. I don't care if
you listen to it on audible. I don't care if
you hold the book in your hand. But what I
am realizing is read a book. So some of y'all

(47:16):
need to read some books, and so just read the books.
I'm reading a few books right now. I got someone audible.
But the one book that i'm reading that is just
amazing and I can't believe that I'm friends with this woman.
And I drove down to Tennessee to surprise her for
one of her books tours. I've never been to Vanderbilt.
I didn't know my cousin went to Vanderbilt. I didn't
know it was so white. Elizabeth Gilbert wrote a book
called All the Way to the River Bitch.

Speaker 1 (47:40):
The book is so good.

Speaker 2 (47:42):
At first, I thought I was just gonna I'd be
forgetting it, like I know her, but like I never
ready pray love and I remember I told her that.
I was like, I mean, like I have seen the movie,
but like I also was like, like now that I
like know her, I'm like, let me read the book.
She always cracks because I'm like, you're actually like a.

Speaker 1 (47:56):
World renowned writer.

Speaker 2 (47:57):
She's like I am, and you know Oprah. She just
go in Oprah's book club and.

Speaker 1 (48:01):
She I will.

Speaker 2 (48:02):
When we were when we were in Costa Rica and
I was having a heartbreak, melt down and eat, praying
and loving with her, She's like Oprah just called me
like I'm gonna be in her book club, like when
my book comes out. We knew that she gave us
her manuscript without any edits before the book. I'm just
like I'd be feeling like, you know when people say
like you are your circle, I'd be like.

Speaker 1 (48:19):
Well, when am I going to a circle? And I'm like, oh,
I was a circle here, but yeah. So I drove
down to Tennessee to surprise her. She didn't know I
was doing it.

Speaker 2 (48:27):
I hit up her purplicist and her best friend was like,
I'm gonna surprise Liz. He telling me how to do
it and they were like, yeah, boom boom, they connect everything.
I drive down there to Vanderbilt, I'm like, I'm the
only black girl there was. There was another girl from
Paradise VI, but we was the like she saw me
from the other side.

Speaker 1 (48:42):
Is this your bout that? It's like it's me.

Speaker 2 (48:44):
Yeah, it was like it was white. So I'm reading
the book. Her book is called All the Way to
the River. This book is about when Liz decided to
date a woman, but the whole concept of the book
is about going to.

Speaker 1 (48:57):
The Lady Pond.

Speaker 2 (48:58):
No Oh, the whole All the Way to the River
thing is like a concept of I thought this was beautiful.
It was she talked about like the stages of the
types of friends you have like and she they map
it out in the way New York is. So she
says something like, you have like your I can't remember,
but you have your friends that you'll go all the
way to the river with. Like then the friends that
know about the abortion, they know you cheating on your husband,
they know you like all that, you will go all

(49:19):
the way with that friend and you're still gonna be
friends even though they acting up. You're gonna be when
they acting them when they're not. Anyways, the book is
essentially about love addiction. It's about loving someone who you
really do love, but that same love ruins your fucking
life and her love died.

Speaker 1 (49:33):
So the can can you want to tell you? This
book is so good?

Speaker 2 (49:37):
It just teaches you a lot about what you could
maybe be focusing on that might not be that healthy.
And I don't talk about these things to make you
like jump start into wellness.

Speaker 1 (49:47):
I don't. It's just a I love awareness.

Speaker 2 (49:49):
You might have awareness and still be like, well, I'm
not gonna do right yet, But just to read about
some of other people's journey through this thing called life,
the human experience, it's just a beautiful book. Read a
book you don't have to read that one, but read
a book because books help us.

Speaker 3 (50:04):
They do, And if you find yourself stumbling over words,
I do care. If you're listening to audible or reading
the book, you need to read the book the book
and strengthen those skills because just like writing. I don't
know about you guys, but like, when's the last time
you actually had to pick up a pencil, pen or
writing utensil and actually write something on ink. When it's
a long time since I've done that, I notice my
handwriting isn't as great.

Speaker 4 (50:25):
That's something that you got to keep doing and keep
reading the books.

Speaker 3 (50:28):
I'm concerned, as I always say for the kids, because
they'd be like, why do I need to learn? And
when I could just ask Google, Well, little motherfucker, when
you don't know how to phrase the damn question, so
Google know what the fuck you're talking about, then you'll
never get to the answer. And you also don't know
how to discern what is actual truth in fact versus
what is spit back out at you. And that's why

(50:48):
y'all still be failing tests when you cheating with AI.

Speaker 4 (50:51):
But I digress anyway, Yeah, y'all read some books.

Speaker 3 (50:54):
There's lots of stuff. If y'all have any recommendations, If
any of you guys, there's been a few people who
have submitted their books, and I'm not ignoring you, but
what we do in our book club is we throw
out suggestions. Either it's during one of our two meetings
of the month or I do it on our Patreon,
but I put a little blurb about the book and
then people vote. So if we've not read your book,

(51:15):
keep submitting your book over and over again. If anybody
out there has written a book, send me the summary
and a link to it. We prefer that they're available
for audio books because a lot of the ladies are
in traffic a lot, and their moms and so it's
like when they have that time in the car or
when they're at work, that's when they're listening and that's
the only time they have. But if you don't have

(51:36):
it as cool anyway, send me the books and let
me know what y'all are thinking about now.

Speaker 4 (51:41):
I also wanted to shout out this girl, Lauren.

Speaker 1 (51:44):
I met her.

Speaker 3 (51:47):
On the Beltline. I was walking one day. It was
it was about a month ago because it was.

Speaker 1 (51:52):
Right before my birthday, and I was like, I'm gonna
shout you out.

Speaker 3 (51:54):
We're going to the studio. But when we went to
the studio, that part didn't work out, and I did
I think I forget got it or something happened.

Speaker 4 (52:01):
I don't know, but it wasn't an episode.

Speaker 3 (52:03):
So I wanted to make sure that showed you out
because she was like walking with someone, maybe her mom,
I'm not sure, but she was like, are.

Speaker 1 (52:10):
You a kicky? And I was like yes.

Speaker 4 (52:13):
Because the way she said, I was like, girl, what
I do to you?

Speaker 1 (52:15):
I don't think I did anohing? And so she's like, oh,
listen to a show.

Speaker 4 (52:18):
Wasn't sure that was you.

Speaker 3 (52:19):
I hadn't like a hat and I was outside being active,
so I know that was like a little mind fucked
for but it was me. And we chatted for a
minute and I said I was gonna shout you out,
so I hope that you hear this. And then also
you said earlier you had a friend reach out to
you to apologize. Now I had an old friend reach
out to me, and I was surprised.

Speaker 1 (52:41):
She is coming out here next month.

Speaker 3 (52:44):
And she sent me a message and she wished me
happy birthday, and she also said like this is a
while later because I was really getting back to everyone.
But she was like, I'm coming to Atlanta in November.
I wanted to know if you would be open to
getting together for a drink and we could talk. If not,

(53:06):
I totally understand. So I sat on it for a
few minutes and I was like, you know what, I
would like to talk because we had a major fallout
and we never had a face to face talk. We
did talk a little bit and I was like, why
would you do this? Why did you It doesn't matter,
I asked her why I don't Yeah, I don't think that.

(53:28):
She was very honest with me, but we never after that.
I was just like, I'm done because I feel like
you're still lying. And it was like such a big
thing that had such a major like domino effect in
my life. I was just like, I was shocked.

Speaker 1 (53:46):
When I figured out you're the problem.

Speaker 4 (53:48):
I've been trying to figure out what's been going on?
What are the issues here?

Speaker 3 (53:52):
And it's you and you don't line and said I
did something, but it was you all along. It was you,
and now you're lying too, Like it.

Speaker 1 (53:58):
Was just a lot.

Speaker 3 (53:59):
So anyway, years and years have passed and so now
I'm like hmmm, am I open.

Speaker 1 (54:04):
I'm open. We'll see more on that later.

Speaker 3 (54:06):
Maybe that'll be a good Okay, agree, no, I did,
but it's not gonna happen until November.

Speaker 1 (54:12):
Okay, So I don't know.

Speaker 3 (54:14):
It's been November and I was say, well, what days
you come, and I said, I said a little prayer,
and I was like, well, I got to travel a
lot in November. If she's going to be here when
I'm gone, and that's a sign from God, I don't
need to see her. But if we can make it happen,
then maybe it is like an exercise in growth. So
I don't know what will come of that. I'm not
even sure what I'm hopeful of, but it's not till November,

(54:35):
so I'll get to that when I get to it. Also,
I wanted to remind you guys about worst behaviors for
it because it's coming up and I'm getting really excited
about it. More people have been hitting me up, and
I've been on Facebook a little bit more like looking
at what people are talking about in the groups and
just in general. I wanted to say, you know, a

(54:56):
lot of people are nervous. There's a lot of solo
travelers who want to go. I don't think you should
be nervous because the reasons that they are concerned about
being nervous, I don't think that they should. And I
was like, well, I'll be there. And the biggest thing
is like going by yourself, it's your first time and
you don't know what to expect. A big thing there

(55:17):
is consent and no, there's lots of people who are
working on the trip outside of the staff from the
actual facility, but people who are working the trip. I'll
be there. I'm not staff, but I can get to
the staff if need be. Like, but I think that
overall the people who are gonna be with the group
are pretty respectful and they're not going to like make

(55:40):
you suck somebody stick if you don't want to. You know,
like that's not going to be going on. You're not
gonna see pictures of you. I've seen pictures and videos
from Hedonism on that catamaran and other places, but I've
never seen it during their trips. I've seen it during
two specific companies trips, and this company is not that company.

(56:02):
And that's something I appreciate it because I know what
some people was doing that they wouldn't want all over
Twitter or x or anywhere else. And it's nice that
what is like Vegas, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.
What happens with Worst Behavior Tour will stay with Worst
Behavior Tour unless you decide to share it. So that's

(56:24):
something important. And then there's also a lot of other newbies.
A few girls reached out to me and they were like, oh, well,
how do you pick a room? I don't have anybody
to go with. There are they still have double and
I think they might have a few triple rooms left.
I'm not one hundred percent sure. If y'all have already booked,
or if you're about to book and you don't need
a roommate or whatever you was just getting your funds together,
go ahead and book. Let them know that I sent you,

(56:46):
and then if not, you can hit me up.

Speaker 1 (56:49):
And there's also a.

Speaker 3 (56:50):
Facebook group for people who are interested, and then there's
another Facebook group for everybody who's paid who's going to
be there. One of the girls that I met on
the trip that I spent a lot of time with
when we went, she came alone. She just shared a
room with other people, and she has gone on multiple
trips with them right, not even just in hedonism, but
they go all other places. They've been to Greece, they

(57:12):
were just in Tokyo. They went to Africa earlier this year.
A few different countries in Africa and.

Speaker 4 (57:17):
A few other places. I mean, they be traveling.

Speaker 3 (57:19):
There is a cabin party coming up, they do an
adult problem. They do all kinds of stuff, And if
you're nervous and you know that December isn't gonna happen,
you don't have to tell them I sent you unless
there's a fill in boxes. I don't have any affiliation
with the other events, but maybe you try that. The
shorter trips to Truth in the Country, I think they're

(57:39):
in Atlanta and maybe Tennessee or something.

Speaker 4 (57:41):
But they have some really cool experiences.

Speaker 3 (57:44):
Also there was another trip try something.

Speaker 2 (57:47):
I have this idea for a cartoon where it's like
there's a black superwoman lady that just pops up with
a wand and she saves black people from everything they're
scared of and what they eating bad, like scared to fly.

Speaker 1 (57:57):
She bops you on a head with the wand like, bitch.

Speaker 2 (58:00):
Stop being so scared you you you eating bad and
you got high blobber and she just like bops your
hand and it's kale, like come like the teeth the
little kids got step she bops.

Speaker 1 (58:09):
The kids on. Stop being candy.

Speaker 2 (58:11):
Like.

Speaker 1 (58:11):
It's just like she just pulling.

Speaker 2 (58:12):
Up bopping niggas. Stop being scared going to one. Yeah,
it's like a little one.

Speaker 1 (58:16):
Sometimes she got to like smack you to get it
to work. And she just like bopping niggas.

Speaker 2 (58:19):
And then and then for white people, like if she
sees him and they're like black people need to get
over slavery, she bops him on the head and makes
them black and it's just like she just this is
a black fison walking around bopping bitches. Stop being scared.
If you want to go on the Worst Behavior Tour,
I was scared. Go. I have been to the sex
club and the Worst paper. I still get scared every
time I do stuff like that. But it's still like
one of those things where it's like life is short, y'all.

Speaker 1 (58:42):
It is, and you don't have to go and have sex.

Speaker 2 (58:44):
It's no pressure, like just go and if you have
a thought or an ounce of you want to experience.

Speaker 1 (58:49):
It, you should go.

Speaker 4 (58:52):
Somebody there that's gonna be with the shit.

Speaker 1 (58:54):
Yeah, And I.

Speaker 3 (58:56):
Was also I put it in the Facebook group, but
I was like, something you could do is one Facebook groups.
Don't be shy because in the specifically the worst behavior
tour here is in group. I can't speak for any
of the others. Ain't nobody screenshot and sharing shit in there,
so you don't have to post anonymous. People get more
concerned about people who are hiding their faces versus people

(59:16):
who are replying from their own profile. They can respect
that more. That's one too. I would say, if you
book and you still got nerves, which is totally understandable,
go to it one of the big tables in the
dining hall area where it's like buffet style, And when
you go there, make sure that you go ask to

(59:37):
sit at a table with a lot of people. Don't
do the two or four or three because you might
be interrupting something you're throwing off five. You need a
big table.

Speaker 4 (59:45):
And then let them know.

Speaker 3 (59:46):
And if you tell somebody, hey, this is my first
time I've never been before, I came along. I guarantee
you whoever you tell is that's in the group. Every
they will all have on the same color wristband, so
you know they're gonna look out for you. They're gonna
make sure to invite you and gonna keep an extra
eye out on you. Yeah, because it's more of a
family vibe than just like fucking and stuff. So don't
be scared, y'all. Come, it's gonna be a good time.

(01:00:08):
I'm only staying five days, so my mood should be
up the entire time. But again, if I'm at a
table and you see it's just me and one or
two other people, don't come sit at that table. You
see me when I'm in motion, but at a bigger table,
shorret come on over. We might be discussing things that
ain't your business, you know what I'm saying. Or if
I'm at a different restaurant, definitely just say hi, that's
not that's not where you come and pull up a

(01:00:29):
see it.

Speaker 1 (01:00:29):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (01:00:30):
Other than that, it's all good. I have more catching up,
but I'll say that for another time. We're gonna move
on to weird sex this week. Well it's really gonna
be next week, but we were the plan. Wise we
would do a catch up, and then we had a
lot of cocktails and advice emails in our inbox, so
we're recording all at once, but this is gonna be
a part one and part two of the episode. So

(01:00:52):
next week's episode will have advice and the cocktails, and
we have several of them. So if that's your favorite
part of the show, next week is for you. It
won't be in this one, but you'll know what's coming
on next week. But just sitting in the advice or
the cocktails, we will try and get you in a SAP.

Speaker 2 (01:01:11):
Make sure you, guys, look at the description, look at
all the links, look at all the things you have
going on. If you're searching for a community. We gave
several options for that.

Speaker 1 (01:01:19):
Bye you guys.

Speaker 3 (01:01:20):
Oh wait, I forgot follow us Cocktails podcast. I'm a
keiky said so, And until next.

Speaker 6 (01:01:26):
Week, you guys, goodbye, goodbye, bye bye bye yap.

Speaker 3 (01:06:26):
Alright, you guys, And now we're going to move on
to part two of the episode and go back to
the same, same mmmm here it is.

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