Adventures in Parenting: What Every Parent Should Know

As a parent, you fight hard to find a family rhythm because what you make time for ultimately shapes what your child will value. In the first few years, parents fight hard to try to find a rhythm. In the pre-school and early elementary years, parents hone the rhythm to a pretty fine science with school, homework, church, sports, bedtime routines and other activities creating a pretty predictable pattern.

But as kids push the double digit birthdays, a significant shift start to happen:

They go to friends houses with your blessing but without you.
They have sports, activities and school projects that expand their world.
They develop interests that may reflect their personality – not necessarily yours

As we said earlier this week, a key step is to ensure that you as a parent don’t withdraw even if it feels like your son or daughter is withdrawing from you. And I made some other shifts that helped. I believe teens need as much attention from their parents as toddlers do. Simply being around can be a game changer with teens. When you have time, relationship can happen. And when a relationship happens, you can build into them spiritually and emotionally in ways you never could without that relationship.

How about you? What are you learning about rhythm as your kids are growing up?