May 22, 2025 • 28 mins
Award-winning gospel and blues artist Miss Freddye shares how faith shaped her journey through motherhood, music, and ministry. With a voice rooted in soul and a heart grounded in prayer, she reminds us that healing often begins at home — and sometimes, through a song.
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Speaker 1 (00:14):
Hello everyone, and thank you so much for joining me
for Daily Spark. You guys know who I am. I'm
Doctor Angela but Chester and you know what I like
to do on my show, Say it with me. I
want to enlighten, inspire and empower you to become your
best self. No inscription reminds us that the tongue is
a small thing that makes grand speeches, but a tiny
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spark can set a great forest on a fire. And
that's what we're doing today on the National Day of Prayer.
My guest today is Miss Freddie. You've seen her on
the show before and I cannot wait to hear what
she has to say. So you know what I'm gonna
tell you to do. Go on, get comfy, get cozy,
get your coffee or get your tea because we are
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about to get started.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Hello, Mis Freddy.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Thank you so much for joining me here on Daily Spot.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Hi, Doctor Angelick, thank you for having me again. I'm
so grateful to be back with you, and especially on
this day of National Prayer.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Absolutely absolutely, and you have so much to share with
us because you're bringing in from being a nurse, from
being someone in entertainment, from being a philanthropist like you
have so many hats that you wear, so of course
we want, you know, valued input from those that are
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out there not only living their dream but making a
difference and building legacy. Now what that said, someone might
be going now, who is this lady? So let me
give you an opportunity to introduce yourself to those that
may be unfamiliar with you. So first question, tell us
a little bit about yourself. What makes you you?
Speaker 4 (01:59):
Well, I'm well, I am God's child first, then I'm
a woman second, then I'm a mom third, and then
the list goes on.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
And so I'm a nurse. Uh and I'm also a
singer musician, and that's what I am all together, and
you can break up, you can break up each section,
but that's for another time. But that's who I am.
In a nutshell, I have two bands, and I work
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in a surgical oncology outpatient setting and we deal with pancreatic,
colon and rectal cancers and other things you know surgical,
but those are our main focus. And the mother powd
mother of two boys gay men, I should say, because
they are adults and I love being a mom. You know,
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it's challenging. Nobody ever gives you instructions, and I love
being a mom and I'm my grandma too. But thanks.
He's old. He's probably like nineteen twenty. He's old. Yeah,
And you know, most of all, I'm very, very thankful
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that I realized years ago in my mid twenties that
I am God's child. No matter what I've done, no
matter what I've set out of my mouth, I am
his child because He's a forgiving, unchanging hand God. So
that's who I am.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
I love that, you know. I think as we start
to one of the gifts of the numbers of the
candles that are on each birthday cake that we receive
should be the gift of the wisdom that we have
gathered along the way, right, that it is the bits
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and pieces, the stories, the wisdoms, the ups, the downs,
the uh oh's that we have gathered that really make
us who we are, who we are today. You know,
I've gone through some stuff, good and bad, you know,
and wouldn't wouldn't necessarily trade it for anything. That includes
being a breast cancer survivor.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
You know.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
I know that that's something that you've dealt with as well,
that you know, even those bad things, it has helped
make us the empathetic, caring, kind, great sister, friend, auntie whatever.
It is right that we that we are because of
those experiences. So thank you, Thank you so much for
sharing that perspective. Now, one of the things that I
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love about the National Day of Prayer, and I am
so honored to be able to participate every year, is
that we are not just looking at ourselves or just
our small groups, but we're looking at what can we
do as a nation for our nation, what can we
do as a community for our community. So I would
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like to talk to you about family, because not only
do you wear the hat of mom and grandmother and
all of that, but also as a nurse, So to me,
you are a part, even if it's for just a
moment or two, a part of people's families for that moment,
and you see them at a very vulnerable time in
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their lives. So if you don't mind, I want to
jump right in. So my first question for you is
is that with the all that goes on in the world,
there's so many distractions, good, bad, and just life, how
do you think we can contribute to continuing to build strong,
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healthy families.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
I can I can answer that by saying my life
experiences as a mom and as a nurse, and especially
as a nurse, because I am finding our patients and
it doesn't matter what generation they are part of. I'm
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finding more and more that they need someone to lean on,
an advocate, if you will. And I take my life experiences,
not necessarily sharing my life. Some of the patients know
that I sing, and they have come to hear me sing,
which is an honor. But I take my life experiences
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and I may be able to relate to what you
know a patient has gone through or is going through,
or is getting ready to go through. And it's all
about having patients, you know, take your time life is
you know, the life can be chaotic, can be chaotic,
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what's going on in the world today, or that individual
is fighting for their life and they don't have time
for the outside world because their inner world is chaotic.
So I have learned well a I always tell my
newly diagnosed diagnosed patients you know, I will keep you
in my thoughts, and they're very grateful for that. I've
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even prayed with some patience, you know, just say, oh,
say a prayer for me, and I'm like, are you serious?
You know and I and they smiled, were like, oh yeah.
I said, well, why don't we just do a short prayer,
just like two sentences, you know. So I think being mindful.
And I have family too that I missed my family
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because of my busy life, and that's you know, including
my siblings, my nieces and nephews. Texting is okay, talking
on the phone is okay, but I like to see
you up front. So I think being flexible, being honest.
I'm not saying bear your soul, you know, but I'm
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saying if I tell you, hey, I'm going to check
and see if that can be done for you. I'm
not just blowing smoke. I'm actually gonna do it. And
and I do tell people if I don't know the answer,
if I can, if I cannot find out, I will
find someone who can. And so it's about being honest, reliable,
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standing up for what you believe in, because what you
believe in you have to share with people. And it's
kind of like I have developed a family, like I
have my family, my blood family, but there are friends
and then there are patients. Because lately and I swear
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tos God telling me something I know, So he is
he always throwing bricks at me and I just don't
get it right away. And I've been like that most
of my life until it's like, oh, okay, I get it.
But lately I have had people say, you, you know,
you are so kind and you know you're so patient,
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and I tell people I don't take that for granted.
I just kind of like, Okay, that comes natural for me.
And I'm not trying to be some big headed diva,
you know, or you know that's going to get me
into heaven when I'm done vacationing here on this earth.
That's not why I do it, because guess what, one
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day I may be in that situation. And actually I've
been in situations where you know, I've had cancer, What
the heck do I do? Even though I'm a nurse,
that kind of goes off the window. I'm fighting for
my life, you know, And it's like, yeah, we are,
and a lot of people out there who are healthcare
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profect no matter what you do, whether you draw blood,
a PA or a nurse, you know what I'm talking about.
We can be our own worst patience, and people appreciate
that because if you come correct, you know, and if
you keep your promise, people will respect you at the
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end of the day, and you never know that favor
may turn over to you tenfold. So that's what it means.
You know, it means to me because I had to
grow up. I was very spoiled and I was a
very selfish child. But I found out why being a
being born premature and you know, way back then, my
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chances of you know, living were not that great. And
so from what I understand, the nurses held me and
the icee you like forever in the day. You know,
every time I cried, somebody was picking me up, and
so by the time my mother's able to take me home,
I was. I was very spoilt. So but I've learned
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to grow out of that and I took that experience
even though I don't remember because I was a baby,
but I remember growing up acting very selfish with my siblings. Said,
you know, it's kind of not right. Yeah, did I
do this. I'm still a little selfish, but it's not
like it was years ago. Because if I want someone
like no, I want this.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
And that's the important part.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
They're right, It's like, Okay, I have become self aware.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
I am apologizing now.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
For all of the last years that I was.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Like a bratty little sister or a bratty big sister.
I apologize right like, I'm growing. Thanks God, I am growing.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
And for so many people, I think that since we're
talking about family, for so many people, that conversation is
the conversation that they wished that someone would have with them,
right Because, unfortunately, for many of the people who come
to visit me as for either being their their counselor
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or as their coach, a lot of their issues stem
from the apology that they did not receive from a parent,
the apology that they never received from a sibling, or
from that person who wasn't blood related, but they consider
it them family and they're still carrying around that hurt
and that wound. So you are so right there. Let's
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kind of look at along the same vein a little bit.
But I want to maybe instead of zooming out, I'm
going to zoom in just a little bit. What is
some of the ways in which we can present our
relationships back to the Lord? What are some ways that
we can make sure that God stays in our marriage,
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in our relationship, and really is that glue that helps
hold us together?
Speaker 3 (12:59):
There's always this say. I've heard the saying for the
last several years. A family that prays together stays together.
And I know I've heard from my elders, and that
would include my mother, my father's sister who was the
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oldest in their family, and I've heard from cousins. You know,
you want somebody who were all children of God. But
when I've heard them say it, I understood that what
they meant, it's like that person believes that they are
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a child of God. You want someone who is on
the same plane as you are because you're gonna face challenges.
You know, you're not perfect, you're not trying to be perfect.
You're trying to survive. But at the same time, you
know how to give it to God. You know how
to put yourself in God's n changing hands and you
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pray about it and you don't it's gonna be tough.
And then there's gonna be days that you know you're
gonna be smiling and you're gonna be thanking God. And
there's days you're gonna be like, really, God, or you,
what what do I do with this?
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Like?
Speaker 3 (14:16):
You got to help me? Did you make a mistake?
So that's important I think, and that has been my
my thing, I want to say, for the last fifteen years,
my last relationship. Unfortunately he died suddenly. He believed in
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the Lord, and you know, and I've known him for
years and we just you know, got back together like
twenty twelve, and then we broke up. But you know
what I loved about him. We talk on the phone.
Even know we lived in the area, We're about forty
five minutes away. I loved when he talked out the
Bible and talk scripture. And you know, I had to
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tell him before he even got deeper into that conversation,
as they don't have to forgive me if I'm silent.
He says, I know why. He said, you told me.
You know, he said, he said, you're so like infatuated.
I said, it's either infatuation or God has come to
you to come to me with his stories in his scriptures.
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I'm telling you. I mean, he just and I said,
never thought about being a minister, And he did minister.
He was a deacon at a church that he used
to belong to, and he was so powerful. It's so interesting.
So instead of pulling out my Bible and thumbing through
the paper I would, you know, get on my tablet.
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While we're on the phone and he's quoting scripture. I'm like, wow.
He said, what did he do? And I would tease him.
I said, please, don't take this the wrong way. And
I know you've never been to jail. I said, have
you been a person? That's all you had to do
was like to read the Bible and memorize it, you know,
front back. And he would laugh. He's like, no, that's
not what I He's like, you know better, So that's
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important to me. He definitely believes in praying. He definitely
believes in the Lord. He definitely, you know, he will
go to church and you know he likes to hear
the message, and so do I. I am one. Let
me in the building, let me hear the message, because
I know somehow you know, I'm going to hear God
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giving me advice through the message. Whatever the minister or
the pastor has to say. M hm.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
And isn't it wonderful that you know that you're going
to get a something?
Speaker 2 (16:45):
And it is.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
So it's so interesting because I think about the various
people that I know and the thing that I like
about their church. Right, sometimes I want to go to
church with that friend because I love their music ministry.
I know that I am going to get a word
from in song great that I am going to leave
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there just filled to the brim. And then others it
is their pastor or for some folks it's a little combination,
like it's kind of split between the two. But there
may be this one woman or this one person there
that I really want to see them because they are
just so filled with the spirit. To hug them is
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almost refreshing. So you are you are so right. We
need to make sure that we have those people around
us that we need.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
I love it. I love it. Well, it's ready.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
It's time for us to take a very short break.
So viewers, listeners, you guys know, don't go anywhere. We
are going to continue this conversation for the National Day
of Prayer.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
We'll be back right after this.
Speaker 5 (18:00):
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Speaker 1 (18:26):
And we are back. Thank you so much for joining
me for Daily Spark. We are talking about the National
Day of Prayer today, so thank you so much for
joining me.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Ms Freddy.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Let me ask you about We're talking about family today,
so I want to ask about how families can keep
a sense of hope between the family members. So, for
someone who may not necessarily be familiar with scripture, how
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can we encourage families to stand in and walk in hope.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
I think it takes that one person in the family
who the members look up to and they see that
they have not faltered or they have not wavered, no
matter what, they walk through the storm, and you know,
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they're always coming out of the storm, not wet, nothing's
going on, not frazzled, not shaking up. And I think
it's families nowadays. And I've noticed that, And it doesn't
matter what culture you're in, because I've noticed this. Families
want consistency. There are some people who actually rely on that.
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But like I tell people like my family, it's like,
you know, I know what it takes perfectly. Sample my
youngest who lives with me. He's on the autism spectrum,
and I figured out as he was growing up, the
one thing you don't do. Don't promise him something if
you can't keep that promise. You know, I would tell him, oh,
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you know what, we're going to the zoo, but something
else has come up, and then we don't end up going,
and then I find myself not explaining and apologizing and
that's not right. He's a human being. And so now
as he grew, if I have in the back of
my head, oh, I think I'm going to take him
to the mall. Oh i think I'm going to take
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a bully, But I'm not going to mention it until
you know, that day or two hours from when I
want to take him out. I think that's important because
people will they will rely on what you are saying,
and they want to see if you are a keeper
and a keeper of faith. And I think that's important
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and I'm notice that and I've noticed that and my
practice as a nurse and I've noticed that and to
practice with my family. So if I want to say,
you know, hey, how about if we all go out
to breakfast. And this means like, you know, either niece's nephews,
whoever wants to join us, my siblings, like we're gonna
meet for breakfast. What's your schedule and we do that
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because I'm I and I hate to say this. It
might not be a good thing, and it might be
a great thing. But if you tell me we're gonna
do something, I'm on it before we even hang up,
while the wheels are spinning in my head because it's
important to me, because I don't know if this will
be our last conversation. I tell people I don't know
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when we hang up, that's it. I might drop dead,
you might drive, something may happen in the long run,
I may lose my you know what I mean. So
it's about reliability, it's about being consistent, and it's about believing.
And I know in the email that I got Romans.
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And that's kind of interesting because my church has Bible
study every Thursday night and my pastor has been talking
about Romans a lot, and so and I know a
couple of weeks ago. My memory serves me right, he's
talking about hope and family and that's just so interesting, Wow,
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because it is very because it's important. Yeah, it's so important,
especially nowadays what we're going through as a people, as
God's children. So that's my take on it. You know,
I don't and I try to tell people I'm not
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getting preachy. This comes from life experience and if I
can pass it on to the next generation because I
know some things that I've taught my oldest I have
heard him say to his son, and I chuckle to myself,
I don't say anything. I stay out of it because
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you know, that's that's his world. Yeah, And I just
chuckled and I said, Oh, he really was listening to me,
because you know, it's like, oh, he never listens to me,
but really was listening to me, which I'm very prowerful.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Yes, I love I love that, and it is It
is so nice when you're right your children repeat something
that you that you've told them, be it that you
thought that they weren't listening, or they were really making
eye contact with you, but now you know that it
it really got down in there and they were able
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to really understand your intention, not gesture words that you
weren't being preachy or you know, muthering them like smother
mothering them that.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
You were really trying to teach them.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
That is I think it is one of the greatest
rewards as a parent that we could see is that
our children are taking the lessons that we have given
to them and they're passing them on.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
You're you're, you're so, you're so right, you're so right there.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
Well, Miss Reddy, I know that we are talking family today,
but I want to also be able to introduce the other.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Side of who you are.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
And you mentioned your bands for someone who's like I
love music. I am a music person. So I would
love for you to as we wrap up our time
together today, if someone wants to find out more about
your music, if they are in.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
The local area, can you tell us a little.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Bit about that.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
They can go on my website and see what I'm
doing Miss Freddy dot com. They can check out check
me out on Facebook on my musician page Facebook and
then slash miss Freddy. You can find me on an
x forre be known as Twitter Music, go to YouTube,
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you go to Amazon. Geez, Michael has me all over
the place. That's my publicist, Michael said, where God bless him.
So you can definitely find me on those platforms. And
my nieces or one of my nieces told me is like,
what are you going to get on TikTok? I said, Okay,
don't rush me. I'm going to get there. And she's
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like by the time you get there, I said, don't worry.
I'm going to get there.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Don't worry.
Speaker 3 (25:30):
But I am on those platform Yeah, and I'm on
Instagram too, so they can find me on Instagram. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
I love it. I love it. And that's right.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Let's let's give a shout out to Michael Stover for
being an awesome and amazing guy at what he does
that his artists are out there shining Bray. I am
a very big proponent of, you know, give people.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Their roses while they're here.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
We as people that are on it in the light,
like you know, in front of the camera. It is
the people behind the camera that help us be these
you know.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Who we are.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
So absolutely, I love that you gave him a shout out.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
That's awesome. I love it.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
Another reason to love miss Freddy. I tell you such
an awesome and amazing personality. Thank you so much, Miss
Freddy for coming with me today.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
Thank you. I appreciate that. I really do, because you know,
just one thing. It brings me back to my mom
growing up. She always said, you treat people the way
you want to be treated, and she's so right. And
I've had people do little nasty things to me over
the years. At first I used to get angry, but
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as I've gotten, you know, more into the adulthood, I
have learned to just say, Lord, hold me back and
let me and I'm just keeping them in prayer, and
then positive opposite stuff starts to happen. So I'm just
very grateful that I'm keeping calm, and I do a
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lot of meditation, and I pray every day. Let's see,
my oldest will be forty six next month, so I've
been praying every day, even if it's a one sentence
or an hour long prayer, every day for forty six years.
That's a long time to be praying.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
You are you are so you are so right.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
It's like, oh my goodness, I'm pretty I'm pretty sure
that our sons know that we are mamas who do
not pray about keeping them covered in prayer.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
I love it. I love it. Thank you again. It's
ready for being a guest on the show today.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
You're welcome, and thank you for having me and many blessings,
and I will keep you and others out there and
continued prayer a.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
Mint to that.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Thank you so much, and listeners, viewers, thank you so
much for spending time with us as well. I hope
that we have enlightened, inspired, and empowered you again today,
as always been, the Lord continue to shine his face
upon you. May you receive his grace and his mercy
in all that you do. Until next time, everyone remember
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that you you are blessed in the Lord. Have a
great day everyone. Bye bye,
Hello everyone, and thank you so much for joining me
for Daily Spark. You guys know who I am. I'm
Doctor Angela but Chester and you know what I like
to do on my show, Say it with me. I
want to enlighten, inspire and empower you to become your
best self. No inscription reminds us that the tongue is
a small thing that makes grand speeches, but a tiny
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spark can set a great forest on a fire. And
that's what we're doing today on the National Day of Prayer.
My guest today is Miss Freddie. You've seen her on
the show before and I cannot wait to hear what
she has to say. So you know what I'm gonna
tell you to do. Go on, get comfy, get cozy,
get your coffee or get your tea because we are
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about to get started.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Hello, Mis Freddy.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Thank you so much for joining me here on Daily Spot.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Hi, Doctor Angelick, thank you for having me again. I'm
so grateful to be back with you, and especially on
this day of National Prayer.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Absolutely absolutely, and you have so much to share with
us because you're bringing in from being a nurse, from
being someone in entertainment, from being a philanthropist like you
have so many hats that you wear, so of course
we want, you know, valued input from those that are
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out there not only living their dream but making a
difference and building legacy. Now what that said, someone might
be going now, who is this lady? So let me
give you an opportunity to introduce yourself to those that
may be unfamiliar with you. So first question, tell us
a little bit about yourself. What makes you you?
Speaker 4 (01:59):
Well, I'm well, I am God's child first, then I'm
a woman second, then I'm a mom third, and then
the list goes on.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
And so I'm a nurse. Uh and I'm also a
singer musician, and that's what I am all together, and
you can break up, you can break up each section,
but that's for another time. But that's who I am.
In a nutshell, I have two bands, and I work
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in a surgical oncology outpatient setting and we deal with pancreatic,
colon and rectal cancers and other things you know surgical,
but those are our main focus. And the mother powd
mother of two boys gay men, I should say, because
they are adults and I love being a mom. You know,
(02:59):
it's challenging. Nobody ever gives you instructions, and I love
being a mom and I'm my grandma too. But thanks.
He's old. He's probably like nineteen twenty. He's old. Yeah,
And you know, most of all, I'm very, very thankful
(03:22):
that I realized years ago in my mid twenties that
I am God's child. No matter what I've done, no
matter what I've set out of my mouth, I am
his child because He's a forgiving, unchanging hand God. So
that's who I am.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
I love that, you know. I think as we start
to one of the gifts of the numbers of the
candles that are on each birthday cake that we receive
should be the gift of the wisdom that we have
gathered along the way, right, that it is the bits
(04:04):
and pieces, the stories, the wisdoms, the ups, the downs,
the uh oh's that we have gathered that really make
us who we are, who we are today. You know,
I've gone through some stuff, good and bad, you know,
and wouldn't wouldn't necessarily trade it for anything. That includes
being a breast cancer survivor.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
You know.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
I know that that's something that you've dealt with as well,
that you know, even those bad things, it has helped
make us the empathetic, caring, kind, great sister, friend, auntie whatever.
It is right that we that we are because of
those experiences. So thank you, Thank you so much for
sharing that perspective. Now, one of the things that I
(04:50):
love about the National Day of Prayer, and I am
so honored to be able to participate every year, is
that we are not just looking at ourselves or just
our small groups, but we're looking at what can we
do as a nation for our nation, what can we
do as a community for our community. So I would
(05:11):
like to talk to you about family, because not only
do you wear the hat of mom and grandmother and
all of that, but also as a nurse, So to me,
you are a part, even if it's for just a
moment or two, a part of people's families for that moment,
and you see them at a very vulnerable time in
(05:32):
their lives. So if you don't mind, I want to
jump right in. So my first question for you is
is that with the all that goes on in the world,
there's so many distractions, good, bad, and just life, how
do you think we can contribute to continuing to build strong,
(05:55):
healthy families.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
I can I can answer that by saying my life
experiences as a mom and as a nurse, and especially
as a nurse, because I am finding our patients and
it doesn't matter what generation they are part of. I'm
(06:22):
finding more and more that they need someone to lean on,
an advocate, if you will. And I take my life experiences,
not necessarily sharing my life. Some of the patients know
that I sing, and they have come to hear me sing,
which is an honor. But I take my life experiences
(06:45):
and I may be able to relate to what you
know a patient has gone through or is going through,
or is getting ready to go through. And it's all
about having patients, you know, take your time life is
you know, the life can be chaotic, can be chaotic,
(07:05):
what's going on in the world today, or that individual
is fighting for their life and they don't have time
for the outside world because their inner world is chaotic.
So I have learned well a I always tell my
newly diagnosed diagnosed patients you know, I will keep you
in my thoughts, and they're very grateful for that. I've
(07:28):
even prayed with some patience, you know, just say, oh,
say a prayer for me, and I'm like, are you serious?
You know and I and they smiled, were like, oh yeah.
I said, well, why don't we just do a short prayer,
just like two sentences, you know. So I think being mindful.
And I have family too that I missed my family
(07:51):
because of my busy life, and that's you know, including
my siblings, my nieces and nephews. Texting is okay, talking
on the phone is okay, but I like to see
you up front. So I think being flexible, being honest.
I'm not saying bear your soul, you know, but I'm
(08:12):
saying if I tell you, hey, I'm going to check
and see if that can be done for you. I'm
not just blowing smoke. I'm actually gonna do it. And
and I do tell people if I don't know the answer,
if I can, if I cannot find out, I will
find someone who can. And so it's about being honest, reliable,
(08:37):
standing up for what you believe in, because what you
believe in you have to share with people. And it's
kind of like I have developed a family, like I
have my family, my blood family, but there are friends
and then there are patients. Because lately and I swear
(08:58):
tos God telling me something I know, So he is
he always throwing bricks at me and I just don't
get it right away. And I've been like that most
of my life until it's like, oh, okay, I get it.
But lately I have had people say, you, you know,
you are so kind and you know you're so patient,
(09:18):
and I tell people I don't take that for granted.
I just kind of like, Okay, that comes natural for me.
And I'm not trying to be some big headed diva,
you know, or you know that's going to get me
into heaven when I'm done vacationing here on this earth.
That's not why I do it, because guess what, one
(09:39):
day I may be in that situation. And actually I've
been in situations where you know, I've had cancer, What
the heck do I do? Even though I'm a nurse,
that kind of goes off the window. I'm fighting for
my life, you know, And it's like, yeah, we are,
and a lot of people out there who are healthcare
(09:59):
profect no matter what you do, whether you draw blood,
a PA or a nurse, you know what I'm talking about.
We can be our own worst patience, and people appreciate
that because if you come correct, you know, and if
you keep your promise, people will respect you at the
(10:20):
end of the day, and you never know that favor
may turn over to you tenfold. So that's what it means.
You know, it means to me because I had to
grow up. I was very spoiled and I was a
very selfish child. But I found out why being a
being born premature and you know, way back then, my
(10:41):
chances of you know, living were not that great. And
so from what I understand, the nurses held me and
the icee you like forever in the day. You know,
every time I cried, somebody was picking me up, and
so by the time my mother's able to take me home,
I was. I was very spoilt. So but I've learned
(11:02):
to grow out of that and I took that experience
even though I don't remember because I was a baby,
but I remember growing up acting very selfish with my siblings. Said,
you know, it's kind of not right. Yeah, did I
do this. I'm still a little selfish, but it's not
like it was years ago. Because if I want someone
like no, I want this.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
And that's the important part.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
They're right, It's like, Okay, I have become self aware.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
I am apologizing now.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
For all of the last years that I was.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Like a bratty little sister or a bratty big sister.
I apologize right like, I'm growing. Thanks God, I am growing.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
And for so many people, I think that since we're
talking about family, for so many people, that conversation is
the conversation that they wished that someone would have with them,
right Because, unfortunately, for many of the people who come
to visit me as for either being their their counselor
(12:05):
or as their coach, a lot of their issues stem
from the apology that they did not receive from a parent,
the apology that they never received from a sibling, or
from that person who wasn't blood related, but they consider
it them family and they're still carrying around that hurt
and that wound. So you are so right there. Let's
(12:29):
kind of look at along the same vein a little bit.
But I want to maybe instead of zooming out, I'm
going to zoom in just a little bit. What is
some of the ways in which we can present our
relationships back to the Lord? What are some ways that
we can make sure that God stays in our marriage,
(12:52):
in our relationship, and really is that glue that helps
hold us together?
Speaker 3 (12:59):
There's always this say. I've heard the saying for the
last several years. A family that prays together stays together.
And I know I've heard from my elders, and that
would include my mother, my father's sister who was the
(13:21):
oldest in their family, and I've heard from cousins. You know,
you want somebody who were all children of God. But
when I've heard them say it, I understood that what
they meant, it's like that person believes that they are
(13:41):
a child of God. You want someone who is on
the same plane as you are because you're gonna face challenges.
You know, you're not perfect, you're not trying to be perfect.
You're trying to survive. But at the same time, you
know how to give it to God. You know how
to put yourself in God's n changing hands and you
(14:03):
pray about it and you don't it's gonna be tough.
And then there's gonna be days that you know you're
gonna be smiling and you're gonna be thanking God. And
there's days you're gonna be like, really, God, or you,
what what do I do with this?
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Like?
Speaker 3 (14:16):
You got to help me? Did you make a mistake?
So that's important I think, and that has been my
my thing, I want to say, for the last fifteen years,
my last relationship. Unfortunately he died suddenly. He believed in
(14:41):
the Lord, and you know, and I've known him for
years and we just you know, got back together like
twenty twelve, and then we broke up. But you know
what I loved about him. We talk on the phone.
Even know we lived in the area, We're about forty
five minutes away. I loved when he talked out the
Bible and talk scripture. And you know, I had to
(15:05):
tell him before he even got deeper into that conversation,
as they don't have to forgive me if I'm silent.
He says, I know why. He said, you told me.
You know, he said, he said, you're so like infatuated.
I said, it's either infatuation or God has come to
you to come to me with his stories in his scriptures.
(15:30):
I'm telling you. I mean, he just and I said,
never thought about being a minister, And he did minister.
He was a deacon at a church that he used
to belong to, and he was so powerful. It's so interesting.
So instead of pulling out my Bible and thumbing through
the paper I would, you know, get on my tablet.
(15:52):
While we're on the phone and he's quoting scripture. I'm like, wow.
He said, what did he do? And I would tease him.
I said, please, don't take this the wrong way. And
I know you've never been to jail. I said, have
you been a person? That's all you had to do
was like to read the Bible and memorize it, you know,
front back. And he would laugh. He's like, no, that's
not what I He's like, you know better, So that's
(16:14):
important to me. He definitely believes in praying. He definitely
believes in the Lord. He definitely, you know, he will
go to church and you know he likes to hear
the message, and so do I. I am one. Let
me in the building, let me hear the message, because
I know somehow you know, I'm going to hear God
(16:35):
giving me advice through the message. Whatever the minister or
the pastor has to say. M hm.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
And isn't it wonderful that you know that you're going
to get a something?
Speaker 2 (16:45):
And it is.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
So it's so interesting because I think about the various
people that I know and the thing that I like
about their church. Right, sometimes I want to go to
church with that friend because I love their music ministry.
I know that I am going to get a word
from in song great that I am going to leave
(17:07):
there just filled to the brim. And then others it
is their pastor or for some folks it's a little combination,
like it's kind of split between the two. But there
may be this one woman or this one person there
that I really want to see them because they are
just so filled with the spirit. To hug them is
(17:30):
almost refreshing. So you are you are so right. We
need to make sure that we have those people around
us that we need.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
I love it. I love it. Well, it's ready.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
It's time for us to take a very short break.
So viewers, listeners, you guys know, don't go anywhere. We
are going to continue this conversation for the National Day
of Prayer.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
We'll be back right after this.
Speaker 5 (18:00):
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Speaker 1 (18:26):
And we are back. Thank you so much for joining
me for Daily Spark. We are talking about the National
Day of Prayer today, so thank you so much for
joining me.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Ms Freddy.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Let me ask you about We're talking about family today,
so I want to ask about how families can keep
a sense of hope between the family members. So, for
someone who may not necessarily be familiar with scripture, how
(18:59):
can we encourage families to stand in and walk in hope.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
I think it takes that one person in the family
who the members look up to and they see that
they have not faltered or they have not wavered, no
matter what, they walk through the storm, and you know,
(19:29):
they're always coming out of the storm, not wet, nothing's
going on, not frazzled, not shaking up. And I think
it's families nowadays. And I've noticed that, And it doesn't
matter what culture you're in, because I've noticed this. Families
want consistency. There are some people who actually rely on that.
(19:54):
But like I tell people like my family, it's like,
you know, I know what it takes perfectly. Sample my
youngest who lives with me. He's on the autism spectrum,
and I figured out as he was growing up, the
one thing you don't do. Don't promise him something if
you can't keep that promise. You know, I would tell him, oh,
(20:16):
you know what, we're going to the zoo, but something
else has come up, and then we don't end up going,
and then I find myself not explaining and apologizing and
that's not right. He's a human being. And so now
as he grew, if I have in the back of
my head, oh, I think I'm going to take him
to the mall. Oh i think I'm going to take
(20:36):
a bully, But I'm not going to mention it until
you know, that day or two hours from when I
want to take him out. I think that's important because
people will they will rely on what you are saying,
and they want to see if you are a keeper
and a keeper of faith. And I think that's important
(20:59):
and I'm notice that and I've noticed that and my
practice as a nurse and I've noticed that and to
practice with my family. So if I want to say,
you know, hey, how about if we all go out
to breakfast. And this means like, you know, either niece's nephews,
whoever wants to join us, my siblings, like we're gonna
meet for breakfast. What's your schedule and we do that
(21:22):
because I'm I and I hate to say this. It
might not be a good thing, and it might be
a great thing. But if you tell me we're gonna
do something, I'm on it before we even hang up,
while the wheels are spinning in my head because it's
important to me, because I don't know if this will
be our last conversation. I tell people I don't know
(21:45):
when we hang up, that's it. I might drop dead,
you might drive, something may happen in the long run,
I may lose my you know what I mean. So
it's about reliability, it's about being consistent, and it's about believing.
And I know in the email that I got Romans.
(22:05):
And that's kind of interesting because my church has Bible
study every Thursday night and my pastor has been talking
about Romans a lot, and so and I know a
couple of weeks ago. My memory serves me right, he's
talking about hope and family and that's just so interesting, Wow,
(22:30):
because it is very because it's important. Yeah, it's so important,
especially nowadays what we're going through as a people, as
God's children. So that's my take on it. You know,
I don't and I try to tell people I'm not
(22:51):
getting preachy. This comes from life experience and if I
can pass it on to the next generation because I
know some things that I've taught my oldest I have
heard him say to his son, and I chuckle to myself,
I don't say anything. I stay out of it because
(23:12):
you know, that's that's his world. Yeah, And I just
chuckled and I said, Oh, he really was listening to me,
because you know, it's like, oh, he never listens to me,
but really was listening to me, which I'm very prowerful.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Yes, I love I love that, and it is It
is so nice when you're right your children repeat something
that you that you've told them, be it that you
thought that they weren't listening, or they were really making
eye contact with you, but now you know that it
it really got down in there and they were able
(23:47):
to really understand your intention, not gesture words that you
weren't being preachy or you know, muthering them like smother
mothering them that.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
You were really trying to teach them.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
That is I think it is one of the greatest
rewards as a parent that we could see is that
our children are taking the lessons that we have given
to them and they're passing them on.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
You're you're, you're so, you're so right, you're so right there.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
Well, Miss Reddy, I know that we are talking family today,
but I want to also be able to introduce the other.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Side of who you are.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
And you mentioned your bands for someone who's like I
love music. I am a music person. So I would
love for you to as we wrap up our time
together today, if someone wants to find out more about
your music, if they are in.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
The local area, can you tell us a little.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Bit about that.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
They can go on my website and see what I'm
doing Miss Freddy dot com. They can check out check
me out on Facebook on my musician page Facebook and
then slash miss Freddy. You can find me on an
x forre be known as Twitter Music, go to YouTube,
(25:05):
you go to Amazon. Geez, Michael has me all over
the place. That's my publicist, Michael said, where God bless him.
So you can definitely find me on those platforms. And
my nieces or one of my nieces told me is like,
what are you going to get on TikTok? I said, Okay,
don't rush me. I'm going to get there. And she's
(25:26):
like by the time you get there, I said, don't worry.
I'm going to get there.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Don't worry.
Speaker 3 (25:30):
But I am on those platform Yeah, and I'm on
Instagram too, so they can find me on Instagram. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
I love it. I love it. And that's right.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Let's let's give a shout out to Michael Stover for
being an awesome and amazing guy at what he does
that his artists are out there shining Bray. I am
a very big proponent of, you know, give people.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Their roses while they're here.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
We as people that are on it in the light,
like you know, in front of the camera. It is
the people behind the camera that help us be these
you know.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Who we are.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
So absolutely, I love that you gave him a shout out.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
That's awesome. I love it.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
Another reason to love miss Freddy. I tell you such
an awesome and amazing personality. Thank you so much, Miss
Freddy for coming with me today.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
Thank you. I appreciate that. I really do, because you know,
just one thing. It brings me back to my mom
growing up. She always said, you treat people the way
you want to be treated, and she's so right. And
I've had people do little nasty things to me over
the years. At first I used to get angry, but
(26:46):
as I've gotten, you know, more into the adulthood, I
have learned to just say, Lord, hold me back and
let me and I'm just keeping them in prayer, and
then positive opposite stuff starts to happen. So I'm just
very grateful that I'm keeping calm, and I do a
(27:07):
lot of meditation, and I pray every day. Let's see,
my oldest will be forty six next month, so I've
been praying every day, even if it's a one sentence
or an hour long prayer, every day for forty six years.
That's a long time to be praying.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
You are you are so you are so right.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
It's like, oh my goodness, I'm pretty I'm pretty sure
that our sons know that we are mamas who do
not pray about keeping them covered in prayer.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
I love it. I love it. Thank you again. It's
ready for being a guest on the show today.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
You're welcome, and thank you for having me and many blessings,
and I will keep you and others out there and
continued prayer a.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
Mint to that.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Thank you so much, and listeners, viewers, thank you so
much for spending time with us as well. I hope
that we have enlightened, inspired, and empowered you again today,
as always been, the Lord continue to shine his face
upon you. May you receive his grace and his mercy
in all that you do. Until next time, everyone remember
(28:13):
that you you are blessed in the Lord. Have a
great day everyone. Bye bye,
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