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December 9, 2025 27 mins
Sometimes the best thing to do is the hardest thing to do; let go. 
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Hello everyone, and thank you so much for joining me
for Daily Spark. But Doctor Angela. I'm your host, Doctor Angela. Butchester,
you guys know who I am, and you know what
I like to do on my shows. Say it with me.
I want to enlighten, inspire, and empower you to become
your best self. No sculpture reminds us that the tongue
is a small thing that makes grand speeches, but a

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tonic spark can set a great forest on a fire.
And that's what we want to do today. We want
to get you fired up about the topic. We'll be
talking about the lessons learned in Letting Go. So you
know what I'm gonna tell you to do. Go on,
get comfy, get cozy, get your coffee or get your

(00:54):
tea because we are about to get started. Hello everyone,
and thank you so much for joining me here on
Daily Spark with Doctor Angela. I cannot wait to talk
to you today about the topic lessons in Letting Go.
Now as we are starting to get through this phase

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and stage of our lives, I think that when we
look at the harvest of the heart and we are
more aligned and more ready for what God has in
store for us, then we are able to start the
year the best version of ourselves. Letting go. Let's admit

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it's never easy. It's one of those spiritual disciplines that
doesn't get enough credit for how sacred it really is,
because to let go is not to quit. Letting go
means that you are going to trust the process. It's

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to say, God, I don't understand all of this, but
I trust you. I'm gonna put my hand in yours
more often than landing on my own understanding. When we
talk about the harvest of the heart, part of that
harvest includes the release. Every good gardener knows you can't

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keep everything. Some things you plant don't make it. They
just don't make it through the entire process of the season.
Some you harvest and use, some you let return back
to the soil. So today we're talking about the grease,

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the wisdom, and the healing that come when you learn
the lessons in of letting go. Our key scripture today's
sparkers is Isaiah chapter forty three, verse eighteen and nineteen.
Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past.

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See I am doing a new thing. Now it springs up.
Do you not perceive it? Understanding what letting go really means.
Letting go doesn't mean giving up. It means giving God

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permission to move. For those that like to micromanage or
make sure that they always have their finger on the
pulse of what's happening, this can be particularly difficult for you.

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The other is understanding that true release is active faith,
not passive surrender. Active faith says Lord, I don't know
what's next, but I know you will guide me. Huge difference.

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Understanding what letting go can really mean also means that
you cannot receive new blessings while your hands are full
of old burdens. Now, you guys have heard me mentioned
that one before. You can't walk around as the bag lady,

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as the bag man, as the bag person, right, you
know that song bag lady? You've got too much stuff
dragging around all them bags like that. That song is

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so powerful because it's talking about carrying the stuff that
no longer belongs to you, the stuff that no longer
serves you. But yet you're so used to addicted to
can't let go of all that junk. Learning to open

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our hands to allow God to remove what we don't need,
let it fall away, so that we can receive what
He has in store for us. That is a powerful move.
Sometimes we hold on because we think letting go means failure,

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but spiritually speaking, letting go is one of the most
courageous things that we could ever do. When God begins
to shift our season, he often starts by inviting us
to release something a mindset, a plan, a person, or

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even an identity that we have outgrown. Think about Abraham
leaving his homeland or the disciples dropping their nets. Each
an act of faith that began by letting go. And

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maybe that's where you are right now. You're in the pause.
You've been trying on your own, and you just can't
seem to catch anything. You can't catch a break, you
can't catch a ride, can't catch the rhythm, whatever it is.

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You can't seem to catch anything. But when Christ says
cast it now on that side, there was just a pause.
A pause said, but we've been out here all day.
Don't you think we've tried over there too, because that's

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what humans do, right. But in that pause, that was
just enough faith that said, Okay, we'll do it, because
you are instructing us to do so. If you're in
the pause, that's okay. At least there's still just enough

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faith for you to hear the voice, recognize it, and
then act or move. You've been praying for a direction,
but God has been waiting for you to release what
you kept trying to fix, to carry to control. When

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we release, we make room for revelation. So today I
want you to take a moment to pause somewhere in
your daily routine. Be it that you are someone who
writes your gratitude message in the morning, or maybe you

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do yours midday. Are you more of an evening person
who can reflect upon the entire day, write down what
you are grateful for, what you're hoping for, praying for
what you are standing for. Well, if you do, I
want you to add these two to your journal. What

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are you still holding onto because it feels too risky
to release? What are you still holding onto because it
feels too risky to release? How might you feel lighter

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if you trusted God with it fully? That's the second question?
How might you feel lighter if you simply trusted God? Now?
I know sometimes asking the question is easier than the
actual action. I got you, But everything that I suggest

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you do, I too have to take my own advice.
Is there anything that I'm holding onto that I should release?
Sometimes it's determining whether or not a program, an event,
a conference that I've created so many years ago is

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still relevant today if there's still a need for that,
or has my audience, my client beast, they've moved on,
they've grown up, they've matured, so perhaps they don't need
that anymore. But letting it go would mean it's time

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for me to stretch as well, to create something new,
to do something different. So as much as I ask
everyone who listens for them to stretch, I too have
times of reflection and ask myself, is it time to

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release this so that God can give me something new
for you? Well, the part that many times you don't
discuss is the emotional side of the releasing. Oftentimes, release
stirs up emotion before it brings relief. Being afraid can

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mean that you are feeling anxious, that you're feeling triggered,
losing control. You know that opening your hand, for so
many people, this is one of the scariest things that
they could ever do. You want me to not feel,

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to not have an emotional connection to the thing that
you're asking me to do. Absolutely not. Instead, I do
want you to connect to it emotionally. I want you
to feel the release, experience the emotions that it brings up,
so that when you get to the relief, boy is

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it that much sweeter. Understanding the emotional side of relief
also means that you understand that God is not asking
you to pretend that you're fine. He's asking you to
hand him the pain. And pretending that you're fine, you're

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denying a part of the process. You're glossing over what
should be looked at and examined. That's part of gathering
the lessons from what you have lived. Every lived experience
leaves us a lesson. Sometimes our lived experiences are beautiful,

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they're great, they're grand, they're glorious, they're victorious. They're good words,
positive words, good words, positive words. Sometimes they're negative words,
negative feelings, negative expression. But even in that, once we

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have gotten through to the other side, good words can
now start to fill in. How do I say that
because you survived, you made it through. You didn't let
it beat you down, you didn't let it sway you

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enough that you gave up. You made it through. And
that is a positive word, positive expression, and something to
be noted. When we're talking about the emotional side of
real we should also make note that tears can be holding.

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They water the ground for transformation. Far too many times
we see someone crying and the first things that are
expressed is, oh goodness, why are you crying? Don't cry?
Stop crying. We don't want that person to cry. Our

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intention might be good and that I don't want you
to feel pain. But if someone is crying, the tears
are a release, a release from what they've been experiencing,
what they've been feeling, and they've gotten to the point

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where they now will will out and over as tears.
Tears can be tears of sadness, tears a frustration. They
can also be tears of joy and happiness. We wouldn't
tell that person to stop crying. So many times the

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reasons why someone says stop crying is not because of
how they're unsure of your feeling, but it's because of
how they are feeling, because they can't bring the comfort,
the control, the answer. They don't want you to make

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them feel bad. But then there's the flip side. There's
always that person in your life that comes along who
sees you crying and says it's okay. Let it out. Yes,
let it out. Cry, cry as they hug you and

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embrace you, and let you know that in these arms,
the person who's embracing you, in these arms, you're safe
to cry, to let it out. It's okay to feel
what you are feeling, because I am secure enough in

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how I am able to support you to give you
a moment of vulnerability, because crying can be holy. Well, everyone,
it is time for us to take a very short breakful.
When we get back, we will continue our conversation. We'll
be back right after this discovery, not just as.

Speaker 2 (17:01):
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Speaker 1 (17:36):
And we are back. Thank you so much for joining
me for Daily's book with Doutrick Angela. I'm your host,
Doutric Angela bus ses sir. Today we are talking about
lessons in letting go. Let's jump back into that conversation. Now,
let's be real letting go hurts. It's okay to grieve

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the dream that didn't happen. The friendships that faded were
the version of yourself that no longer fits where you're going.
Far too often we hold on to things that no
longer serve us because we don't have something to replace
it with. Yet, because we've been holding on to it

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so tightly, it has become a part of who we are.
We do it as though we are in autopilot. It's
automatically a response, a default setting of our lives, and
letting go means we now have to pay attention to

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the road. We now have to pay attention to what
the settings are saying. We now have to see, we
now have to feel, we now have to do, We
now have to be. So it's okay if you're just

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a little wobbly as you initially come off of autopilot.
Even Jesus wept at the Tomb of Lazarus, though he
knew resurrection was coming. That moment reminds us that divine

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purpose and human emotion can coexist. Sometimes your tears are
a part of your healing. You can cry and still
be growing. You can feel lost and still be walking

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in faith. The emotional part of release is where God
meets you with comfort. Matthew five four says it this way,
Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
That verse isn't just about physical loss. It's about mourning.

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What happens when we let go of anything that wants
held dear to us. But you know me, I'm going
to always try to encourage you. So if you've been
struggling to release something, give yourself permission to feel it,

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and then trust that peace will follow. So what do
we do when God removes what you wouldn't That's a
really great question, right. Sometimes God removes things because we're

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too attached to release them ourselves. Sometimes, if you look
back over your life and there's this one thing that
really you were stuck on that you couldn't seem to
make any type of positive progression, if you notice the

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things that motivated you to move kept getting worse and
worse and worse, bigger and bigger and bigger, louder and
louder and louder. That was God's way of each time
making it so obvious that you couldn't avoid it, that

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you could not see it, you could not hear it,
you could not do it, and once it got to
that point, It's funny how you all of a sudden go, oh, okay, fine,
so many of you have had that experience. If you haven't,
that's fine, but believe you mean I mean of you have.

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There are sometimes in our lives, even still, where divine
disconnections are protection and not punishment. You lost that friend,
that job, that placement. You lost what you thought was

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power or esteem. You thought that you had been knocked
off of your pedestal, when instead it was protection. By
moving you out of the way, you missed the train
wreck that was coming. Not realizing that the train wreck

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was coming in the first place is because you're a human.
But God, in all of his divineness, knew that you
did not deserve the punishment, so pleasantly quietly removed you
from the situation. I know, I could just hear someone

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now saying, yes, that was me, and I did not
realize it at the time. But the wonderful thing about
how God operates is that when he does that, when
he places you back on that pedestal, it was better
than the one he took it down from or off of.

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When he puts you back in place it's better than
the place that you were initially, so that trust gets rewarded.
When God removes you from what you written, many times
it's because of closure. Closure doesn't always come in conversations,

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but sometimes it comes and can. There are times, Dear Sparker,
when God will gently and sometimes not so gently, remove
what no longer aligns with your growth. You may not
understand it in the moment, but hindsight has a way

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of revealing divine protection. That job that didn't work out,
that door that closed, that relationship that ended. If you
look back with spiritual eyes, you can see often how
God's mercy and his grace were written all over it.

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Letting go in these moments, yeah, they feel hard, but
one day you will realize that it was necessary because
God loves you too much to let you stay and
what would have stunne your growth. John fifteen, verses one

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and two. Say it this way. I am the true vine,
and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every
branch in me that bears no fruit. When God prunes,
it's not rejection, it's redirection. So let's take a moment

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to reflect. Have you confused God's pruning for punishment ever
in your life. If you have, now is the time
to shift that paradigm, to understand that it was never
about punishment, but it was about pruning away that which

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does not serve. You can now walk in that victory.
What's one moment of removal that looking back was actually grace.
And now that you know, boy, does it put a
little pep in your step and realize that God was

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protecting you and saving you from that situation after all. See,
the freedom that follows release is just as important. Letting
go creates space for peace, creativity, and new blessings. God
replaces what you release with something stronger, deeper, and better aligned.

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Freedom is the fruit of faith. Once you released what
God asked you to, something beautiful begins to happen, and
you breathe easier. You stop trying to control the outcome,
and you stop living from fear. If you've ever been

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afraid to let go, let this serve as your reminder
that what's meant for you cannot pass you. By release
what's over, bless it, and step forward in your peace.

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Alrighty everyone, thank you so much for spending time with
me here today. I hope that I have once again enlightened,
inspired and empowered you as always. May the Lord continue
to shine his face upon you. May you receive his
grace and his mercy in all that you do. Until
next time, everyone remember that you you are blessed in

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the Lord. Have a great day everyone, Bye bye,
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