November 12, 2023 • 44 mins
This hilarious episode features Kim from What's The Topic CT? and my fellow barber D. We talk about what it means to be a side chick in someone else's relationship and some rules that will help you stay out the drama.
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No, I don't like to dothat. Yo. This is your Girl
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v. Savage in the building andwe are season three already. I can't
believe it's it's been that long,already two years and you know your girl
took a little break and I explainwhy. But for those that missed the
last episode, your girl beat cancer. Okay, yes, yes, yes,
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so I had to take some timeoff, but I'm back and it
feels so good to be in thestudio again. You know, I got
my whiskey right here, and I'mgetting warmed up and ready for this new
season. It's gonna be so muchfun. I have with me today two
new guests that I haven't had yet, and I'm so excited about this.
We have Kim from What's the Topic? Cet say what up? Girl?
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Hey all you already know it's yourgirl keeping moving in a building? What's
the topic? We did? Okay? And then we have D in the
Buildings say what up? D?And actually me and D we uh we
cut hair together. We gets it, We gets it, pop it with
the clippers stellcraft. Nah, we'llkeep that low key until we get a
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little bit better throwing out there thatwe'll throw it out there when I can
do my little tap make perfect soyou could get hid. That's right.
And today is a crazy episode.My mother is gonna kill me. Thank
god she doesn't listen to this.But ten commandments of being a side chick.
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That's what we're talking about today,because you know, this is the
New Testament, that's the old Testament. Shit runs different now. Speaking from
someone who just got out of aneighteen year marriage, I don't know.
I just feel like every woman nowadaysis a side chick. All of y'all
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getting played. Let's talk about it. Talk about it. Even your women
that think your man is so wholesomeand great, he up in somebody's face.
Trust believe that. Trust, youknow, let me not say that.
Let me not say that, becausethey're are some good men. But
out of a thousand, it's aboutone point five and on point five.
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No, seriously, I can't dothat. But you know what, women
ain't shit either. It's just ait's a cool world. It's a cold
world. I'm talking this new millennium. I don't know morals and character.
I don't know y'all. Y'all getright with God? Oh yeah, we
got some age gaps here, sooh yeah, let's talk about talking about
the gaps. Because he looked likehe about twelve, okay, about twelve
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twenty two, big twenty two inthe building. I'm big forty three,
big forty three, I just turnedfour. Always the oldest here. I'm
so fat, I ain't right.Next time I go anywhere, I'm asking
age. I honestly thought you wereyounger than me. Anybody keep saying that,
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I really though some weight. Okay, because let me tell y'all,
son, I've been through a lotthis last year. I also just almost
went through so I almost lost mylife. I went to the from work
my large intesting right now, I'mall swollen up like I'm pregnant. No
one could see this, but Iliterally was at work and heard a big
pop like and it was my largeintesting. No I was going to go
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through the rest of my shift.I would have died on shift. My
manager, thank god, she sentme home, well, sent me in
the ambulance. She called the amblance. If she had not did that,
I would not be here. Sothanks shout out the favor. But given
about your employees, you know whatI'm saying, So yeah, you know
you're not to get caught out bymy side. Nigga, go out.
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I'm just let me start. Haveyou ever been the ever, whether it's
intentionally or not intentionally? Always not. I always played my role. You
cannot. So men play roles toa side. Nigga. Oh that's why
there that comes in number ten ofthe commandments. So number one is you'll
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never be number one, so that'simportant. Wait, hold up, that's
that's that? Can't Can I saysomething? Okay, So I'm not proud
of this. However, when Imet my husband, he actually had a
girlfriend and when I when I basicallytold him like, I'm not doing this,
you need to choose yeah, andhe chose me. So there is
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a possibility of you becoming number one. I went from his side check to
his wife of eighteen years. Sowow, it can happen. It all
depends on what your game. Igot a little game, so you know,
use my game here and there.I'm just saying, yes, they're
they're always is gonna be like themajority of you women will never be number
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one though. But if you ifyou go in thinking I'm going to win
this man over, that's a badplace to be in. And that thought
is a horrible thought, because letme tell you, the way you get
them is how you lose some babygirls. Okay, remember that. So
at that moment, even might thinkyou're winning until three, three years down
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the line because you're crying. Yeah. Yeah, But if you're going,
if you go into that knowing whatit is, you already failed. Like
if you're going thinking that you're goingto be number one going on, if
you don't follow the commandments, that'show you get fucked up every commandment she
has on her I wasn't used tobeing a side check, y'all. Let
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me tell you my story, right, So I met this guy in twenty
nineteen. At that time, Ihad just found out about infidelity and my
marriage, so I was on myway out of it. I met this
guy. He had, you know, a situation going on, but I
was married, so we didn't youknow, it never went too far.
Then a couple of years later,here we are to twenty twenty three.
Now I'm divorced and he got ababy on the way. Goddamn, How
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is damn how not another COVID baby? That baby's coming out like popcorn.
It's over, y'all. Stop,that's the madness. It's over. There's
no more excuses. It is.It is starting back up. We actually
COVID. I'll break at my jobright now. So yes, COVID.
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Well, the hospitals are full.We don't need any more babies down.
People start freaking, freaking freaking likeclean your house, find something else,
some productive, how many? Howmany kids? We can see you during
I don't even know googling right now, let's see, but I got rid
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of about three. I'm lying.I'm lying, y'all. I'm just joking.
No, I don't even think waita minute, because I don't even
think that's right. Know what thelaw that they changed was outside, like
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if you don't live in this state, you can't get an abortion in this
state because people were coming from otherstates where they didn't allow abortion and coming
here. But now they kind ofcut that off. But I don't think,
yeah, they're ever gonna get ridof abortion in this state. Well,
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Number two of the side chick don'tdo rule was that that's number.
It's be the best number two youcan be. If you can't be not
the one, be the best number. Make sure you're taking care of that
man. And and I'm the aspectof let's call it technically the number one,
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the main person, right, ifyou're gonna be the number two,
I would appreciate it if you werea good number two, like take some
shit off my plate. You know, there's nothing worse than a side chick
that doesn't do her job. AndI hope he listened to this. I
really hope he listened to this,because I'm tired of feeding you. So
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I want to know why the sidechick always well not always, but why
in my situation, I'm always feedingmy nigga. If he got a number
one, because what she is,because the number one is doing what she's
been waiting to be doing. She'staking care of herself. The side chick,
take care of this motherfucker. Itold him he got one more time
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to come to me talking about hehungry, and he just left home.
I'm gonna be called out. Youhave to have a talk. We need
to schedule this ship. Bet yougot him. This is horrible. Why
are you talking about this? Thisis not because it's real ship. It
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really is. It really is.Let's talk about it. Something I was
just messing with. She like sidechick or whatever. I told her.
I was hungry and she already hadfood there. I started making me a
place that. No, you don'tcome here hungry, like, that's not
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what we're doing. That she wastrying to train you, because I'm training
mind right now and he's falling rightinto play. I hope he heard that.
Okay, let me tell you something. You gotta train me. Let
me tell you something. Nowadays theyget crazy and females they get crazy,
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like you gotta leave at a certaintime, just how the niggas used to
do it. You can't stay.There's rules. I'm telling you that the
women are the new man. I'mtrying to tell y'all something. Y'all better
get it together. And that kindof trickles in the number three. But
that's more so the ten number threeis ain't no we. So you gotta
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make sure that both parties, whetherit's you know, the side person or
the person you're fucking with, that'sin the relationship. Like y'all got to
know what your roles are, butjust know the roles aren't together. Know
what's crazy. Don't tell my friendsthat you know me. See, And
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that's weird because with this one,he brings me to like we're everywhere wherever,
we want to go together. Wego and I say to him,
you're a disrespectfully because right now,no, because me and my friends are
real friends. So if he wasmy dude and saw, you know,
one of my friends saw him outin the street, they're approaching him right
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in front of whoever. Oh okay, so I haven't got an approach.
So either that girl don't got nogood friends, or he just know what
he doing, or maybe he's inan open relationship, and that's scary.
I don't want no man that's ableto do whatever you want to do.
Yeah, you doing that? Yeah, I mean that's a strong possibility.
But you know what, I don'tthink so because you always talk about what
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I do that she don't do.My girl don't have male friends calling her
five times a day. At thatpoint, it's like, okay, so
your girl is just okay. That'swhy she's your girl. And I'm not
all right okay, right, Butme, I just I'm very sociable.
Like I got a lot of peoplethat I deal with on like a real
intimate basis. I don't just meetpeople. I build brotherhoods and sisterhoods like
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I don't. I don't have friendshipsyou understand what I'm saying, Like,
people really rock with me and Ireally rock with people. So it's just
different. Yeah, it's just different. But yeah, I break all the
rules. Number four, take theE out of emotion. I can't do
that. I'm an aries. Justkeep it about emotion not emotion. I
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can't. And you know another thing, women always start off good. We
always thoughts like, okay, weknow you got a girl, we don't
kids. Okay, just make surewhen I call you come through. Did
he give you that good D andyou'd be out here same. Maybe I
don't know. I've tried to bethe friends with benefits type of deal.
I've never intentionally tried to be aside check. It's happened once without me
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knowing. I was told they werebroken up. Found out later that they
were on those fake as breaks thatpeople go on where you're not really you're
still talking. You're not on abreak break, because if you're on a
real break, y'all just wouldn't haveany communication. But yeah, so it
turns out I was like the sidebitch or whatever you want to call it.
But it was like a one nightthing, and honestly it was more
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so you ever have like that oneperson where it's just like I just want
to know what it's like to havesex with them, Like I don't really
care to be with them now,I just want to know what this is
about, you know what I mean? And it's just like, yeah,
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you just fulfill that one fantasy andthen it's over. Yeah okay, Well,
like I don't know, like Igotta get to know you as a
person before I know if I evenwant to fuck you or not. You
could look good, but what's yoursoul? Like you know what I'm saying.
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But that's more so like for arelationship, like if I'm looking like
to be with somebody, but it'sjust who you lay down with period,
Like you know what I'm saying.People got real demonic shit with them for
real, and I believe it inthat ship wholeheartedly. You not like it's
already bad enough that they say whenyou lay down with one person, you're
literally laying down with like whoever thatperson slept with and whoever that person person
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slept with, Like you you knowwhat I'm saying, So like it's with
me, Like what type of personare you? You know what I'm saying?
Like you could look good. Uh, and I don't really care about
your sex. I will eventually,like we get to it. But like
a person are you? You knowwhat I'm saying. So once I get
to know what type of person areyou? If I'm intrigued, then I
want it. Let's go. Youknow what I'm saying. But that just
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started in June because I was wipedup for a while, long time,
twenty four to forty two, longtime. Yeah now I'm outside outside respectfully,
restoctfully, but I'm outside urget urge. Yeah yeah, I mean,
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yeah, I got that urge.But what I'm saying that like say you
you're too young, so not you. If I wanted to sleep with him,
right, I'm like, damn,he look good. I want to
get to know his mental first.Once I start to pick his brain,
Okay, he fuckable. Now ifI pick his brain and I don't get
fuck how good? I mean?I feel like that's because you missed,
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like the whole prime of my life, of your sexual Like, well,
I wasn't a whole from sixteen.From a sixteen to eighteen, I was
out here doing some whole shit withmy friends. Nothing I'm too embarrassed about
though, Like like I tell mykids all the time. You know your
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mother are gonna be rich one day. So when I'm on TMZ, somebody
try to throw some dirt, theycan't really say nothing about me. There's
not too much, you know whatI'm saying. Oh like shit like,
oh, me and my homegirls fuckedour boyfriend in the same hotel room because
we were too broke to buy morehotel. We were kids, you know
what I'm saying. Shit like that. We weren't sexually covers off. But
you know everybody think they creeping it. We all fucking in the same room,
you know, but we're all inour own little space. Shit like
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that. You know what I'm saying. But I never did no sucking,
no random nigga dick or one nightstands after the club, none of that
weird shit. I ain't never donone of that. So I'm content with
Hawaii. You know, at theend of the day, as a person,
you learned, you learn from yourmistakes, you grow. I had
to learn to be a woman,you know what I'm saying. I'm still
learning how to be a woman.You know what I'm saying. At the
end of the day. But likeI was saying. I said all that
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to say that I need to stopsmoking weed? What was I saying?
God, stop before you sleep withthem? You get to know them by
courting. Oh yeah, you feellike it, but you have to demand
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it. You have to demand it. That's what I'm saying. You really
like coming into this new dating scenegirl. So many the first conversation,
let me tell you the audacity.The first conversation I had with this man,
he asked me to turn my facetime camera around so he could see
how big my bedroom was. SoI said, why would you want to
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see how big my bedroom is soI can see how big your bed is?
I said, what the you needto see that for? Girl?
Complete turnoff? Compte turn off.Okay, So from there, like you
know, you know who trust me? I know they all in the inbox.
They all in the inbox. I'mtelling you, yo, tell me
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why. When I was going throughcancer treatments, I was getting all kinds
of inboxes. Like people think likethey love to be like the person.
They think they're like the night inshining armor, like I'm gonna save you
or whatever, like right literally,but I'm just like this nigga's like can
you still have sex, And I'mlike, oh, no, that's crazy.
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Why do you care because I'm obviouslynot fucking you, but like technically
yes, but not with you,bro, Like just because you asked me
that, Like I can't with people. I'm telling you that. It's really
weird. It's nothing in the hospital, some crazy yo. Seriously. Especially
when I had the ball head,everyone loved it, like rubbing my ball
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head. Like I'm like, damn, I need to put this bitch.
Shine on this bitch, like seriously, because now about you. You got
that face where you crock those shortbut like I didn't know if that was
going to be like a turnoff ora turn on, because like, let
me tell you something, if youdon't have makeup on, like it's kind
of boyish looking. But I don'tknow. Nowadays, I think it just
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made my butt look bigger. Sonot having any because my hair was in
a distraction. Well, first timeI saw you at the ball no,
I was in the barbershop not gettingit over and everything. It was awful.
But moving into number four, Movinginto number four, number five,
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actually know when it's over? Howdo you know when it's over? Okay,
relationships over, it's right. Ifyou don't have like clear communication,
I'm gonna tell you when it's over. When you're asking that person to come
through, and there's always an excuse. They're either losing interest or they are
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getting into a place where they wantedto be or needed to be with the
number one or the number one callon? Is she keeping that mother busy?
Trust? Let me tell you someffhappens. One thing about a man,
he knows where his heart belongs.And it doesn't matter how pretty you
are, how good your sex is, or what you have to offer that
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man, if his heart is somewhereelse, there is absolutely nothing that you
can do. And I'm telling youthis from experience, because just last week,
just last week, I tried todo some old, you know,
out the way shit that I thoughtwould probably like make my dude be like,
you know what, fuck this otherbit y'all really like her? And
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he told me, like, youknow, I appreciate the gesture, but
I told you I wasn't home.You know what I'm saying. At that
point, it's like it's up toyou gotta say, Okay, I enjoyed
the dick, I enjoy the time, but the nigga not mine. What
am I gonna do? Okay,that's when it's up to you. You
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know what I'm saying. Like me, I know that I just got out
of a real long term relationship andright now my goals are financial and building
a foundation for my children. Sohaving this nigga as my side nigga really
doesn't bother me. However, ifI was looking for a relationship, then
that would be an issue. Butbecause feelings started coming and play, I
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started playing myself and ladies we dothis often, keep them keep that e
out of emotion, because trust me, I had to snap myself back into
it like bitch, yeah, likeliterally, like, girl, what are
you doing? Like you know whatthis is about? Wake up? Stop
it. It's not going anywhere.Take it for what it is. Either
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leave that dude, if you getinto emotionally attached and find somebody who's only
for you, or take your feelingsout of it. That's true. Wait
what do you say, d Like, how do you feel about if if
a girl is trying everything and anything, is your heart gonna stay where your
heart's Yes, then I feel likeI'm kind of a little different than I
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start feeling like feeling bad, I'lltry to cut the strings slowly, like
slowly slowly trying to pull back andthen but cutting it with a side chick
or with this dude. He madea comment in my third ear caught it,
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and we were we got into ourfirst little authorcation or and what he
said was and this is why Iwould never leave home to deal with this.
So I feel like I feel likeI feel like I don't I don't
tolerate certain ship and I feel likehe got to push over for a woman.
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So what I'm saying, and onething I'm not gonna do is trick
on no nigga. You know whatI'm saying. I'm a single mom now
at the end of the day,I will never unless me and you are
really on that term. You knowwhat I'm saying. I'm not really giving
up no bread or nothing like that. You feel what I'm saying. And
the situation was the individual's car gottotal or whatever, and remember I told
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you or whatever. So I kindof was sharing a vehicle with this individual
and this motherfucker had to bitch inthe car. And what can I say,
that's his girl. I knew thatwas gonna your vehicle. Well,
but this is but this is thething. This is the thing. If
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I'm letting a that has a girlfrienduse my car, what the fuck do
I expect if the bitch need toget somewhere? Right, But this is
my friend to he, my friendto you. I'm saying, he not
just my like. See, that'swhy you keep the eat out of the
friends. You are a dick andthat's it. N it was all you
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are my boy before you know whatI'm saying, he became I don't know
about crossing the line of friends.I can't like. No, I'm not
saying he was my boy like we'rebest, just saying he was somebody I
met that we were cool and thenbut but we met on the turns.
He knew I wanted to Amanda.But that's set out. No, you
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can say it. Number six isdon't be friend. Number one, don't
do that. Don't do that becauseI could drink, could get like.
See, that's where it got messy. When I was unintentionally the side chick
for that one night. I knewthe couple intimately, and she called me
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a couple of weeks later like,oh, I know he's like staying with
you and blah blah blah, blahblah. I'm just like, oh,
this is mad awkward. Hell no, I didn't snitch, No snitch in
my blood. At the end ofthe day, he was in a way
fam But you know, it's justlike I'm not going to fuck up his
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situation, especially if he's trying togo back home, because I damn sure
didn't want him. So I don'tthink. So we're still Facebook buddies.
What do you Oh, he triedhe tried it again. He tried to
introduce her threesome. That's an absolutenegatives. Don't do that to your girl
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because he's just gonna make his girlupset, really upset his girl upset.
She might want to leave his assfor me. So let's saying that start
competing for but that's when you yet, like you start being the number.
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Then he won't come to last sathungry. No mom, I mean,
if she's cooking for this, thethreesome, I don't know. Maybe I
don't know why I put this,but number seven was non disclosure. I
think that's more so like keep itprivate, like don't yeah, because when
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you start letting other people in onwhat's going on, they're always gonna tell
someone that they think doesn't know you, but we're all connected somehow, somehow,
some way, even in Connecticut,Like it's so small everybody. Someone
said the biggest flaw in humans islike you think you could tell a serior
to somebody, but it's gonna comeout in some form. They're either gonna
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tell you riding around or trying tomake it a joke, but it's gonna
come out. It's gonna come aswell. Just keep it yourself, definitely
keep it. That's why I havea therapist. I could tell her all
my dirty bullshit. And it turnsout she knew someone I was dating.
Isn't that crazy? She was like, yo, V, you need to
just become a mayor because you knoweveryone. I'm like, real ship.
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I'm thinking about it. No,I don't see why not. We need
some politicians. I'm thinking about it. We'll see. We'll see in a
couple of years or so. Butnumber eight have a distraction, so you
don't fall in love with that.Yeah, and that's where I'm going wrong.
So listen, ladies. I'm soused to being a wife that I'm
being faithful to my side. Nigga, that got a girlfriend? No,
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I like such a whore when Ieven respond to a man in my inbox,
like, and it's sad because Iknow what's going on. You feel
what I'm saying, right, Ijust I'm just too old to be out
here messing with this guy, thisguy and this guy. And I really
feel like I'm content with this niggaeven though he got a bitch. I'm
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like, when I call he,come when I want to fuck he when
I need to do something, hedo with So how is he getting out
of this? She has to knowabout it, she has to. I
think she worked third shift. Shegot to work because she is pregnant.
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She can't. That's not true.I used to get hit on all the
time when I was pregnant. Thereare sick motherfuckers out here that love fucking
pregnant women, especially because they knowthey can't knock you up. You're already
knocked up, right. There aredudes that like fucking pregnant women because they
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want that warm gushie that's warm her. I don't know Puerto Rican and Black
different. I guess it is different, any different. What're you trying to
say? So he don't like hiswife? No, I'm just saying that
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just because she's pregnant, doesn't meanshe ain't doing nothing on him, because
at the end of the days madehis living children. He has five by
his first wife. He's experienced.Tell me why, Tell me why.
When she told me that, Iwas like, I need to see a
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picture of this motherfucker. I mighthave, but it wasn't. It wasn't.
It wasn't like dragons or gold.You know, I've got your for
me. It was the teep jewelrythat was That was the deal, and
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make him look so happy. It'sjust shin ship, like all the women
gonna be listening to this looking atthat man. No, there's there's not
that many dudes with that many kids, and it's like I was just messing
with somebody probably like last year,with that many kids. But I didn't
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know until afterwards, because you're like, oh, I kind of like this
guy, and then you send thephoto out to your private investigator and then
she finds out everything about that motherfucker, And then I was yeah, because
I don't waste my time. Imean, obviously I wasn't planning on doing
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nothing with him, but it's investigatorscall him. No, No, it's
not because they provide the information,and then you decide if I want to
cock the black cock. Yeah,you decide what you do with that information.
So yeah, I found out hedid like five of her friends,
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which I'm sure I know a coupleof them, and then he had so
many kids. And then the factthat he was lying about being a nurse.
Well, his little friend smashed twoof my homegirls. So I had
both of my homegirls up on oneline, like, what's up your little
y'all? Little shorty? I raninto y'all, little shorty and telling that
nigga ho y'all feel about that?What's up? Both of my businesses?
Like get up that ain't ship outto watch your heart and be careful,
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said, and I got them andnow I'm strong. Now now somebody else's
man, oh ship and number thatbrings us to number nine. Keep your
lives private, I mean separate,keep them separate, separate and private.
To be honest, like as faras like introducing to your friends to family.
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I don't trust him. Try youcan't trust the side. I don't
trust him because the way you're doingyour girl, you will never get to
do me like that. So Idon't trust him. I told him already
whereas I did want you as mynigga in the beginning, three four months
down the line into this, I'mall set. You're gonna stay right where
you at. Yeah, and that'swhere he belongs, right because you already
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know what he's doing though. Yeah, but it's no let me let me
explain to me. Personally, Idon't care if my man cheat on me.
I know it sounds crazy. Menhave been with multiple women since the
Biblical times. Okay, men alwayshad concu binds the mistress. Back in
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the BC's it was the Caucasian nofense, I don't know if you're half
white. My stepdad's why I loveall people. But it was the Caucasian
people who came up with the monogamyin the Christian relationship. You men,
it's in your nature to create morethan one fucking woman, it's how you
go about it. Are you bringingme home a STDs? Are you bringing
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me home extra babies out of ourrelationship? Are you not answering the phone
when I'm calling you? Are youstaying out all night? Are you not
taking care of your responsibilities in thehouse. That's when it becomes a problem.
Now, I personally don't give afuck what you do now when I
have to where this nigga at.When I start looking for you and you're
not being consistent, now it becomesan issue for me. If I have
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to go to the clinic, thatwould become an issue for me. Stuff
like that. I don't care aboutwhat you do on your own time,
don't invade mine. My time ismy fucking time. Realistically, like I
said in the beginning, half ofyou bitches are being played and that's just
the realistic. Let me tell yousomething, and it's like fifteen bitches,
the one man out here, let'stalk about it. I'm a female and
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I walk down the street every daylike damn, she back, and I'm
not gay. I'm not. Idon't have the equipment to fuck the bit
So imagine a man who can actuallylisten. Ladies, you just need to
focus on you, your bag andwhat you need to do for yourself.
You know what I'm saying. Ifthe man is you know what I'm saying,
that's extra. But personally, y'allall game pad just saying hmm,
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I agree with you're all game plate. But everybody, I mean, I'm
not gonna sit here and if Ifind out my man cheating. I'm not
gonna make it seem like it's okay. I'm gonna get in his ass,
But subconsciously and low key in mymind, I'm like, it is what
it is. Fuck it. Youknow what I'm saying, I'll take one
for the team. Feel like hewas yours. Told you about what he
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did, I would love yo.One thing about me is I feel like
y'all say this now and then certainthings in the relationship naoship later. I
feel like I feel like, subconsciouslywe might be on his heels a little
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bit more because now we know yoube cheating. So now we're gonna be
like what we want. We wantwin why you know, But I mean
low key, I mean it iswhat it is. Like I said nothing,
There's nothing that anyone could do aboutnot being played, bro, because
if that person want to play you, that person gonna play you. Just
like there's a lot of people whothink certain men can't be faithful. Men
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can be faithful. However, yougotta bring that out of him, you
know what I'm saying. You gottamake him, you gotta give him,
like, for instance, I'm gonnakeep it real my homeboy, dirty dog
okay, dirty dog. And Iwas trying to put him on to my
homegirl. I knew he had agirlfriend. My homegirl didn't care about his
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girlfriend. I didn't care about hisgirlfriend. Bitches ain't get about my husband.
So I don't care about nobody's relationshipanymore. I used to be that
person who didn't want to be aside chick or I always had son to
say about side bitches, you know, And I had to come to a
realization, Look, it is whatit is. If he really yours that,
he's not going nowhere, if heout there talking to somebody else,
made the best bitch win at theend of the day, you know what
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I'm saying. But the best bitchI'm not. I'm not. Okay,
Hello, We're gonna have to haveeleven commandments because number ten is put them
in their place. But I like, let the best bitch win. How
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are you putting me in my placein the side chick, because there are
there's not just but like, ifif we're in that relationship or situationship,
I should say, then you can'tbe calling me kinds of hours either,
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like because you ain't my man.So if you're gonna try to hit me
up for like some you know,fun time or whatever. I might be
with somebody else. I got aquestion for you men, that's sitting in
here too. If you guys aredealing with a chick, that's your side.
Chick. Right, and she tellsyou that she went out on a
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date or something with questions, okay, but she literally just fucked your brains
out the night before. If youcome off angry when she tell you that,
that means got feelings for her,Damn. It depends on I might.
But because almost lost his mind whenhe thought and I went out with
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my friend, I may have seen. I'll tell you why. So this
is what it is. If it'sso good now now now it's like,
damn, that person that she probablywent out could probably fuck up a good
thing for me. That's when itbecomes a problem. But if it's some
mediocre sex, it's all right.Feel me. I wouldn't be pressed about
her going on day be pressed.But if that ship fire and that's me,
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I'm over there, like damn,that nigga probably fuck up a good
situation. I go. But yougotta keep it, peepro, you gotta
keep it well, that's why yougotta put everybody in their place like this
is your job, this is yourjob, or this is what's gonna be.
This is the rules job already becausebust me down till I find guys.
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Let's let's just put it out there, because yeah, women can catch
feelings, especially in sexual relationship,but we can move on if the ship
goes south. Niggas can't move onas easily as we can. Yes we
could. When dudes get butt hurt, their butt hurt for years. It
takes them years to get over it. Wait, it depends though, because
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if you decide, chicken you moveon. Is gonna be a little salty
in the beginning, but you stillgot your girl at home. He probably
gonna be trying to extra hard tomake pleases. Please number one again,
he probably just gonna be all feelme and find another number two. If
number one, let me tell you, half the time, those bitches don't
be number two. We be likenumber four. Let'st keep that ship.
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Abut most men have a wifey,a baby mama, a girlfriend, and
then then if you make the cut, Damn, I don't even know what
the fifth bitch is, but she'sjust there. That's the best thing.
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Roster too. No, woman,No, we have a backup plan.
Well that's different. You ain't fuyou you you got people in the pocket
just in case, just in case, and you know what, And it's
all always the good diggers that wedo dirty because I usually I got two
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guys on my heels that I knowwould treat me like a princess. But
they're just not for me. No, no, it's because the guys that
actually treat you like a queen havelittle dicks. That's no. No,
no, no, no no,not this one. Not this one,
at least my experience, this onedon't. But he is too goody goody,
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like he a preacher son, youknow what I'm saying. Oh,
they ain't goody good either. Nothinggoody good about that head Like he acts
like he's all about Christ, buthe really ain't up to nothing nice.
He just seems like he's full ofship. And I told him, maybe
the worst ones, but I don'tknow, like what I call him,
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you want to go out on datesand all that he's trying to court you.
And then the d was good.Oh damn, So I don't know
what Wait, what are you contemplatingthen? If because if it's too good
to be true. It's because he'sa weirdo, like he be mad,
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like do I'm too out? Yousee how I am this meet all day
every day. This is not podcasting. Yeah, but can you imagine if
you were with a partner that's ona hundred at the same time. Sometimes,
you know, opposite is a trackyou balance each other out. Well,
I tried. I tried to goout with him twice, and it
just it's like we had I don'twant to talk about Abraham what. I
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don't want to talk about him.I don't want to talk about Jesus,
you know, my heart Lord.But I just at that moment, it's
you know, and it's just likeI don't want nobody who's going to be
beating me up in choke, slammingme either and cheating on me. But
I don't want you got that's whatyou can The same word. Safe word
is pineapple, skittle. My wordis always skittle, skintals my friend.
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If you see him, if hewalking here and you think he ugly,
says snickers. If you think helooks good, bit say star Wars,
start Wars. I can't well wellto end on that note again. Ten
commandments for being a side check.Number one, you'll never be number one.
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Number two be the best number twoyou can be. Number three,
ain't no we Number four take theE out of emotion. Five, know
when it's over. Six, don'tbe friend number one seven, non disclosure,
eight, have a distraction. Nine, keep your life separate, and
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number ten put them in their place. Everybody gotta know what their place is
in the situationship for it to work. And that that's for pretty much any
type of situationship, whether it's anopen relationship, side hustle, if you
want to call it that, Idon't know, but everyone should know what
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their roles are and that keeps,you know, questions off the table,
and that's that's good for everybody.So and keep the E out of emotion.
That to me, that should havebeen number one. But I mean
logically, if you put sex inany type of form or it releases in
doorphins and other chemicals to your brainwhere you don't think responsibly. The huhah
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thinks for you. She's not she'snot very responsible. The huah thinks for
you. You need your brain tothink for you. So, with that
being said said, good night everybody, and we'll see you next week.
Yes, no, I don't liketo do that. It's me Mar
No, I don't like to dothat. Yo. This is your Girl
(00:44):
v. Savage in the building andwe are season three already. I can't
believe it's it's been that long,already two years and you know your girl
took a little break and I explainwhy. But for those that missed the
last episode, your girl beat cancer. Okay, yes, yes, yes,
(01:07):
so I had to take some timeoff, but I'm back and it
feels so good to be in thestudio again. You know, I got
my whiskey right here, and I'mgetting warmed up and ready for this new
season. It's gonna be so muchfun. I have with me today two
new guests that I haven't had yet, and I'm so excited about this.
We have Kim from What's the Topic? Cet say what up? Girl?
(01:32):
Hey all you already know it's yourgirl keeping moving in a building? What's
the topic? We did? Okay? And then we have D in the
Buildings say what up? D?And actually me and D we uh we
cut hair together. We gets it, We gets it, pop it with
the clippers stellcraft. Nah, we'llkeep that low key until we get a
(01:57):
little bit better throwing out there thatwe'll throw it out there when I can
do my little tap make perfect soyou could get hid. That's right.
And today is a crazy episode.My mother is gonna kill me. Thank
god she doesn't listen to this.But ten commandments of being a side chick.
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That's what we're talking about today,because you know, this is the
New Testament, that's the old Testament. Shit runs different now. Speaking from
someone who just got out of aneighteen year marriage, I don't know.
I just feel like every woman nowadaysis a side chick. All of y'all
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getting played. Let's talk about it. Talk about it. Even your women
that think your man is so wholesomeand great, he up in somebody's face.
Trust believe that. Trust, youknow, let me not say that.
Let me not say that, becausethey're are some good men. But
out of a thousand, it's aboutone point five and on point five.
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No, seriously, I can't dothat. But you know what, women
ain't shit either. It's just ait's a cool world. It's a cold
world. I'm talking this new millennium. I don't know morals and character.
I don't know y'all. Y'all getright with God? Oh yeah, we
got some age gaps here, sooh yeah, let's talk about talking about
the gaps. Because he looked likehe about twelve, okay, about twelve
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twenty two, big twenty two inthe building. I'm big forty three,
big forty three, I just turnedfour. Always the oldest here. I'm
so fat, I ain't right.Next time I go anywhere, I'm asking
age. I honestly thought you wereyounger than me. Anybody keep saying that,
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I really though some weight. Okay, because let me tell y'all,
son, I've been through a lotthis last year. I also just almost
went through so I almost lost mylife. I went to the from work
my large intesting right now, I'mall swollen up like I'm pregnant. No
one could see this, but Iliterally was at work and heard a big
pop like and it was my largeintesting. No I was going to go
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through the rest of my shift.I would have died on shift. My
manager, thank god, she sentme home, well, sent me in
the ambulance. She called the amblance. If she had not did that,
I would not be here. Sothanks shout out the favor. But given
about your employees, you know whatI'm saying, So yeah, you know
you're not to get caught out bymy side. Nigga, go out.
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I'm just let me start. Haveyou ever been the ever, whether it's
intentionally or not intentionally? Always not. I always played my role. You
cannot. So men play roles toa side. Nigga. Oh that's why
there that comes in number ten ofthe commandments. So number one is you'll
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never be number one, so that'simportant. Wait, hold up, that's
that's that? Can't Can I saysomething? Okay, So I'm not proud
of this. However, when Imet my husband, he actually had a
girlfriend and when I when I basicallytold him like, I'm not doing this,
you need to choose yeah, andhe chose me. So there is
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a possibility of you becoming number one. I went from his side check to
his wife of eighteen years. Sowow, it can happen. It all
depends on what your game. Igot a little game, so you know,
use my game here and there.I'm just saying, yes, they're
they're always is gonna be like themajority of you women will never be number
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one though. But if you ifyou go in thinking I'm going to win
this man over, that's a badplace to be in. And that thought
is a horrible thought, because letme tell you, the way you get
them is how you lose some babygirls. Okay, remember that. So
at that moment, even might thinkyou're winning until three, three years down
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the line because you're crying. Yeah. Yeah, But if you're going,
if you go into that knowing whatit is, you already failed. Like
if you're going thinking that you're goingto be number one going on, if
you don't follow the commandments, that'show you get fucked up every commandment she
has on her I wasn't used tobeing a side check, y'all. Let
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me tell you my story, right, So I met this guy in twenty
nineteen. At that time, Ihad just found out about infidelity and my
marriage, so I was on myway out of it. I met this
guy. He had, you know, a situation going on, but I
was married, so we didn't youknow, it never went too far.
Then a couple of years later,here we are to twenty twenty three.
Now I'm divorced and he got ababy on the way. Goddamn, How
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is damn how not another COVID baby? That baby's coming out like popcorn.
It's over, y'all. Stop,that's the madness. It's over. There's
no more excuses. It is.It is starting back up. We actually
COVID. I'll break at my jobright now. So yes, COVID.
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Well, the hospitals are full.We don't need any more babies down.
People start freaking, freaking freaking likeclean your house, find something else,
some productive, how many? Howmany kids? We can see you during
I don't even know googling right now, let's see, but I got rid
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of about three. I'm lying.I'm lying, y'all. I'm just joking.
No, I don't even think waita minute, because I don't even
think that's right. Know what thelaw that they changed was outside, like
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if you don't live in this state, you can't get an abortion in this
state because people were coming from otherstates where they didn't allow abortion and coming
here. But now they kind ofcut that off. But I don't think,
yeah, they're ever gonna get ridof abortion in this state. Well,
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Number two of the side chick don'tdo rule was that that's number.
It's be the best number two youcan be. If you can't be not
the one, be the best number. Make sure you're taking care of that
man. And and I'm the aspectof let's call it technically the number one,
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the main person, right, ifyou're gonna be the number two,
I would appreciate it if you werea good number two, like take some
shit off my plate. You know, there's nothing worse than a side chick
that doesn't do her job. AndI hope he listened to this. I
really hope he listened to this,because I'm tired of feeding you. So
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I want to know why the sidechick always well not always, but why
in my situation, I'm always feedingmy nigga. If he got a number
one, because what she is,because the number one is doing what she's
been waiting to be doing. She'staking care of herself. The side chick,
take care of this motherfucker. Itold him he got one more time
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to come to me talking about hehungry, and he just left home.
I'm gonna be called out. Youhave to have a talk. We need
to schedule this ship. Bet yougot him. This is horrible. Why
are you talking about this? Thisis not because it's real ship. It
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really is. It really is.Let's talk about it. Something I was
just messing with. She like sidechick or whatever. I told her.
I was hungry and she already hadfood there. I started making me a
place that. No, you don'tcome here hungry, like, that's not
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what we're doing. That she wastrying to train you, because I'm training
mind right now and he's falling rightinto play. I hope he heard that.
Okay, let me tell you something. You gotta train me. Let
me tell you something. Nowadays theyget crazy and females they get crazy,
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like you gotta leave at a certaintime, just how the niggas used to
do it. You can't stay.There's rules. I'm telling you that the
women are the new man. I'mtrying to tell y'all something. Y'all better
get it together. And that kindof trickles in the number three. But
that's more so the ten number threeis ain't no we. So you gotta
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make sure that both parties, whetherit's you know, the side person or
the person you're fucking with, that'sin the relationship. Like y'all got to
know what your roles are, butjust know the roles aren't together. Know
what's crazy. Don't tell my friendsthat you know me. See, And
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that's weird because with this one,he brings me to like we're everywhere wherever,
we want to go together. Wego and I say to him,
you're a disrespectfully because right now,no, because me and my friends are
real friends. So if he wasmy dude and saw, you know,
one of my friends saw him outin the street, they're approaching him right
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in front of whoever. Oh okay, so I haven't got an approach.
So either that girl don't got nogood friends, or he just know what
he doing, or maybe he's inan open relationship, and that's scary.
I don't want no man that's ableto do whatever you want to do.
Yeah, you doing that? Yeah, I mean that's a strong possibility.
But you know what, I don'tthink so because you always talk about what
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I do that she don't do.My girl don't have male friends calling her
five times a day. At thatpoint, it's like, okay, so
your girl is just okay. That'swhy she's your girl. And I'm not
all right okay, right, Butme, I just I'm very sociable.
Like I got a lot of peoplethat I deal with on like a real
intimate basis. I don't just meetpeople. I build brotherhoods and sisterhoods like
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I don't. I don't have friendshipsyou understand what I'm saying, Like,
people really rock with me and Ireally rock with people. So it's just
different. Yeah, it's just different. But yeah, I break all the
rules. Number four, take theE out of emotion. I can't do
that. I'm an aries. Justkeep it about emotion not emotion. I
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can't. And you know another thing, women always start off good. We
always thoughts like, okay, weknow you got a girl, we don't
kids. Okay, just make surewhen I call you come through. Did
he give you that good D andyou'd be out here same. Maybe I
don't know. I've tried to bethe friends with benefits type of deal.
I've never intentionally tried to be aside check. It's happened once without me
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knowing. I was told they werebroken up. Found out later that they
were on those fake as breaks thatpeople go on where you're not really you're
still talking. You're not on abreak break, because if you're on a
real break, y'all just wouldn't haveany communication. But yeah, so it
turns out I was like the sidebitch or whatever you want to call it.
But it was like a one nightthing, and honestly it was more
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so you ever have like that oneperson where it's just like I just want
to know what it's like to havesex with them, Like I don't really
care to be with them now,I just want to know what this is
about, you know what I mean? And it's just like, yeah,
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you just fulfill that one fantasy andthen it's over. Yeah okay, Well,
like I don't know, like Igotta get to know you as a
person before I know if I evenwant to fuck you or not. You
could look good, but what's yoursoul? Like you know what I'm saying.
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But that's more so like for arelationship, like if I'm looking like
to be with somebody, but it'sjust who you lay down with period,
Like you know what I'm saying.People got real demonic shit with them for
real, and I believe it inthat ship wholeheartedly. You not like it's
already bad enough that they say whenyou lay down with one person, you're
literally laying down with like whoever thatperson slept with and whoever that person person
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slept with, Like you you knowwhat I'm saying, So like it's with
me, Like what type of personare you? You know what I'm saying?
Like you could look good. Uh, and I don't really care about
your sex. I will eventually,like we get to it. But like
a person are you? You knowwhat I'm saying. So once I get
to know what type of person areyou? If I'm intrigued, then I
want it. Let's go. Youknow what I'm saying. But that just
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started in June because I was wipedup for a while, long time,
twenty four to forty two, longtime. Yeah now I'm outside outside respectfully,
restoctfully, but I'm outside urget urge. Yeah yeah, I mean,
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yeah, I got that urge.But what I'm saying that like say you
you're too young, so not you. If I wanted to sleep with him,
right, I'm like, damn,he look good. I want to
get to know his mental first.Once I start to pick his brain,
Okay, he fuckable. Now ifI pick his brain and I don't get
fuck how good? I mean?I feel like that's because you missed,
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like the whole prime of my life, of your sexual Like, well,
I wasn't a whole from sixteen.From a sixteen to eighteen, I was
out here doing some whole shit withmy friends. Nothing I'm too embarrassed about
though, Like like I tell mykids all the time. You know your
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mother are gonna be rich one day. So when I'm on TMZ, somebody
try to throw some dirt, theycan't really say nothing about me. There's
not too much, you know whatI'm saying. Oh like shit like,
oh, me and my homegirls fuckedour boyfriend in the same hotel room because
we were too broke to buy morehotel. We were kids, you know
what I'm saying. Shit like that. We weren't sexually covers off. But
you know everybody think they creeping it. We all fucking in the same room,
you know, but we're all inour own little space. Shit like
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that. You know what I'm saying. But I never did no sucking,
no random nigga dick or one nightstands after the club, none of that
weird shit. I ain't never donone of that. So I'm content with
Hawaii. You know, at theend of the day, as a person,
you learned, you learn from yourmistakes, you grow. I had
to learn to be a woman,you know what I'm saying. I'm still
learning how to be a woman.You know what I'm saying. At the
end of the day. But likeI was saying. I said all that
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to say that I need to stopsmoking weed? What was I saying?
God, stop before you sleep withthem? You get to know them by
courting. Oh yeah, you feellike it, but you have to demand
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it. You have to demand it. That's what I'm saying. You really
like coming into this new dating scenegirl. So many the first conversation,
let me tell you the audacity.The first conversation I had with this man,
he asked me to turn my facetime camera around so he could see
how big my bedroom was. SoI said, why would you want to
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see how big my bedroom is soI can see how big your bed is?
I said, what the you needto see that for? Girl?
Complete turnoff? Compte turn off.Okay, So from there, like you
know, you know who trust me? I know they all in the inbox.
They all in the inbox. I'mtelling you, yo, tell me
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why. When I was going throughcancer treatments, I was getting all kinds
of inboxes. Like people think likethey love to be like the person.
They think they're like the night inshining armor, like I'm gonna save you
or whatever, like right literally,but I'm just like this nigga's like can
you still have sex, And I'mlike, oh, no, that's crazy.
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Why do you care because I'm obviouslynot fucking you, but like technically
yes, but not with you,bro, Like just because you asked me
that, Like I can't with people. I'm telling you that. It's really
weird. It's nothing in the hospital, some crazy yo. Seriously. Especially
when I had the ball head,everyone loved it, like rubbing my ball
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head. Like I'm like, damn, I need to put this bitch.
Shine on this bitch, like seriously, because now about you. You got
that face where you crock those shortbut like I didn't know if that was
going to be like a turnoff ora turn on, because like, let
me tell you something, if youdon't have makeup on, like it's kind
of boyish looking. But I don'tknow. Nowadays, I think it just
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made my butt look bigger. Sonot having any because my hair was in
a distraction. Well, first timeI saw you at the ball no,
I was in the barbershop not gettingit over and everything. It was awful.
But moving into number four, Movinginto number four, number five,
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actually know when it's over? Howdo you know when it's over? Okay,
relationships over, it's right. Ifyou don't have like clear communication,
I'm gonna tell you when it's over. When you're asking that person to come
through, and there's always an excuse. They're either losing interest or they are
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getting into a place where they wantedto be or needed to be with the
number one or the number one callon? Is she keeping that mother busy?
Trust? Let me tell you someffhappens. One thing about a man,
he knows where his heart belongs.And it doesn't matter how pretty you
are, how good your sex is, or what you have to offer that
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man, if his heart is somewhereelse, there is absolutely nothing that you
can do. And I'm telling youthis from experience, because just last week,
just last week, I tried todo some old, you know,
out the way shit that I thoughtwould probably like make my dude be like,
you know what, fuck this otherbit y'all really like her? And
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he told me, like, youknow, I appreciate the gesture, but
I told you I wasn't home.You know what I'm saying. At that
point, it's like it's up toyou gotta say, Okay, I enjoyed
the dick, I enjoy the time, but the nigga not mine. What
am I gonna do? Okay,that's when it's up to you. You
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know what I'm saying. Like me, I know that I just got out
of a real long term relationship andright now my goals are financial and building
a foundation for my children. Sohaving this nigga as my side nigga really
doesn't bother me. However, ifI was looking for a relationship, then
that would be an issue. Butbecause feelings started coming and play, I
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started playing myself and ladies we dothis often, keep them keep that e
out of emotion, because trust me, I had to snap myself back into
it like bitch, yeah, likeliterally, like, girl, what are
you doing? Like you know whatthis is about? Wake up? Stop
it. It's not going anywhere.Take it for what it is. Either
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leave that dude, if you getinto emotionally attached and find somebody who's only
for you, or take your feelingsout of it. That's true. Wait
what do you say, d Like, how do you feel about if if
a girl is trying everything and anything, is your heart gonna stay where your
heart's Yes, then I feel likeI'm kind of a little different than I
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start feeling like feeling bad, I'lltry to cut the strings slowly, like
slowly slowly trying to pull back andthen but cutting it with a side chick
or with this dude. He madea comment in my third ear caught it,
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and we were we got into ourfirst little authorcation or and what he
said was and this is why Iwould never leave home to deal with this.
So I feel like I feel likeI feel like I don't I don't
tolerate certain ship and I feel likehe got to push over for a woman.
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So what I'm saying, and onething I'm not gonna do is trick
on no nigga. You know whatI'm saying. I'm a single mom now
at the end of the day,I will never unless me and you are
really on that term. You knowwhat I'm saying. I'm not really giving
up no bread or nothing like that. You feel what I'm saying. And
the situation was the individual's car gottotal or whatever, and remember I told
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you or whatever. So I kindof was sharing a vehicle with this individual
and this motherfucker had to bitch inthe car. And what can I say,
that's his girl. I knew thatwas gonna your vehicle. Well,
but this is but this is thething. This is the thing. If
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I'm letting a that has a girlfrienduse my car, what the fuck do
I expect if the bitch need toget somewhere? Right, But this is
my friend to he, my friendto you. I'm saying, he not
just my like. See, that'swhy you keep the eat out of the
friends. You are a dick andthat's it. N it was all you
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are my boy before you know whatI'm saying, he became I don't know
about crossing the line of friends.I can't like. No, I'm not
saying he was my boy like we'rebest, just saying he was somebody I
met that we were cool and thenbut but we met on the turns.
He knew I wanted to Amanda.But that's set out. No, you
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can say it. Number six isdon't be friend. Number one, don't
do that. Don't do that becauseI could drink, could get like.
See, that's where it got messy. When I was unintentionally the side chick
for that one night. I knewthe couple intimately, and she called me
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a couple of weeks later like,oh, I know he's like staying with
you and blah blah blah, blahblah. I'm just like, oh,
this is mad awkward. Hell no, I didn't snitch, No snitch in
my blood. At the end ofthe day, he was in a way
fam But you know, it's justlike I'm not going to fuck up his
(25:36):
situation, especially if he's trying togo back home, because I damn sure
didn't want him. So I don'tthink. So we're still Facebook buddies.
What do you Oh, he triedhe tried it again. He tried to
introduce her threesome. That's an absolutenegatives. Don't do that to your girl
(26:02):
because he's just gonna make his girlupset, really upset his girl upset.
She might want to leave his assfor me. So let's saying that start
competing for but that's when you yet, like you start being the number.
(26:23):
Then he won't come to last sathungry. No mom, I mean,
if she's cooking for this, thethreesome, I don't know. Maybe I
don't know why I put this,but number seven was non disclosure. I
think that's more so like keep itprivate, like don't yeah, because when
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you start letting other people in onwhat's going on, they're always gonna tell
someone that they think doesn't know you, but we're all connected somehow, somehow,
some way, even in Connecticut,Like it's so small everybody. Someone
said the biggest flaw in humans islike you think you could tell a serior
to somebody, but it's gonna comeout in some form. They're either gonna
(27:07):
tell you riding around or trying tomake it a joke, but it's gonna
come out. It's gonna come aswell. Just keep it yourself, definitely
keep it. That's why I havea therapist. I could tell her all
my dirty bullshit. And it turnsout she knew someone I was dating.
Isn't that crazy? She was like, yo, V, you need to
just become a mayor because you knoweveryone. I'm like, real ship.
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I'm thinking about it. No,I don't see why not. We need
some politicians. I'm thinking about it. We'll see. We'll see in a
couple of years or so. Butnumber eight have a distraction, so you
don't fall in love with that.Yeah, and that's where I'm going wrong.
So listen, ladies. I'm soused to being a wife that I'm
being faithful to my side. Nigga, that got a girlfriend? No,
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I like such a whore when Ieven respond to a man in my inbox,
like, and it's sad because Iknow what's going on. You feel
what I'm saying, right, Ijust I'm just too old to be out
here messing with this guy, thisguy and this guy. And I really
feel like I'm content with this niggaeven though he got a bitch. I'm
(28:21):
like, when I call he,come when I want to fuck he when
I need to do something, hedo with So how is he getting out
of this? She has to knowabout it, she has to. I
think she worked third shift. Shegot to work because she is pregnant.
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She can't. That's not true.I used to get hit on all the
time when I was pregnant. Thereare sick motherfuckers out here that love fucking
pregnant women, especially because they knowthey can't knock you up. You're already
knocked up, right. There aredudes that like fucking pregnant women because they
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want that warm gushie that's warm her. I don't know Puerto Rican and Black
different. I guess it is different, any different. What're you trying to
say? So he don't like hiswife? No, I'm just saying that
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just because she's pregnant, doesn't meanshe ain't doing nothing on him, because
at the end of the days madehis living children. He has five by
his first wife. He's experienced.Tell me why, Tell me why.
When she told me that, Iwas like, I need to see a
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picture of this motherfucker. I mighthave, but it wasn't. It wasn't.
It wasn't like dragons or gold.You know, I've got your for
me. It was the teep jewelrythat was That was the deal, and
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make him look so happy. It'sjust shin ship, like all the women
gonna be listening to this looking atthat man. No, there's there's not
that many dudes with that many kids, and it's like I was just messing
with somebody probably like last year,with that many kids. But I didn't
(30:30):
know until afterwards, because you're like, oh, I kind of like this
guy, and then you send thephoto out to your private investigator and then
she finds out everything about that motherfucker, And then I was yeah, because
I don't waste my time. Imean, obviously I wasn't planning on doing
(30:51):
nothing with him, but it's investigatorscall him. No, No, it's
not because they provide the information,and then you decide if I want to
cock the black cock. Yeah,you decide what you do with that information.
So yeah, I found out hedid like five of her friends,
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which I'm sure I know a coupleof them, and then he had so
many kids. And then the factthat he was lying about being a nurse.
Well, his little friend smashed twoof my homegirls. So I had
both of my homegirls up on oneline, like, what's up your little
y'all? Little shorty? I raninto y'all, little shorty and telling that
nigga ho y'all feel about that?What's up? Both of my businesses?
Like get up that ain't ship outto watch your heart and be careful,
(31:47):
said, and I got them andnow I'm strong. Now now somebody else's
man, oh ship and number thatbrings us to number nine. Keep your
lives private, I mean separate,keep them separate, separate and private.
To be honest, like as faras like introducing to your friends to family.
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I don't trust him. Try youcan't trust the side. I don't
trust him because the way you're doingyour girl, you will never get to
do me like that. So Idon't trust him. I told him already
whereas I did want you as mynigga in the beginning, three four months
down the line into this, I'mall set. You're gonna stay right where
you at. Yeah, and that'swhere he belongs, right because you already
(32:40):
know what he's doing though. Yeah, but it's no let me let me
explain to me. Personally, Idon't care if my man cheat on me.
I know it sounds crazy. Menhave been with multiple women since the
Biblical times. Okay, men alwayshad concu binds the mistress. Back in
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the BC's it was the Caucasian nofense, I don't know if you're half
white. My stepdad's why I loveall people. But it was the Caucasian
people who came up with the monogamyin the Christian relationship. You men,
it's in your nature to create morethan one fucking woman, it's how you
go about it. Are you bringingme home a STDs? Are you bringing
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me home extra babies out of ourrelationship? Are you not answering the phone
when I'm calling you? Are youstaying out all night? Are you not
taking care of your responsibilities in thehouse. That's when it becomes a problem.
Now, I personally don't give afuck what you do now when I
have to where this nigga at.When I start looking for you and you're
not being consistent, now it becomesan issue for me. If I have
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to go to the clinic, thatwould become an issue for me. Stuff
like that. I don't care aboutwhat you do on your own time,
don't invade mine. My time ismy fucking time. Realistically, like I
said in the beginning, half ofyou bitches are being played and that's just
the realistic. Let me tell yousomething, and it's like fifteen bitches,
the one man out here, let'stalk about it. I'm a female and
(34:07):
I walk down the street every daylike damn, she back, and I'm
not gay. I'm not. Idon't have the equipment to fuck the bit
So imagine a man who can actuallylisten. Ladies, you just need to
focus on you, your bag andwhat you need to do for yourself.
You know what I'm saying. Ifthe man is you know what I'm saying,
that's extra. But personally, y'allall game pad just saying hmm,
(34:30):
I agree with you're all game plate. But everybody, I mean, I'm
not gonna sit here and if Ifind out my man cheating. I'm not
gonna make it seem like it's okay. I'm gonna get in his ass,
But subconsciously and low key in mymind, I'm like, it is what
it is. Fuck it. Youknow what I'm saying, I'll take one
for the team. Feel like hewas yours. Told you about what he
(34:52):
did, I would love yo.One thing about me is I feel like
y'all say this now and then certainthings in the relationship naoship later. I
feel like I feel like, subconsciouslywe might be on his heels a little
(35:15):
bit more because now we know yoube cheating. So now we're gonna be
like what we want. We wantwin why you know, But I mean
low key, I mean it iswhat it is. Like I said nothing,
There's nothing that anyone could do aboutnot being played, bro, because
if that person want to play you, that person gonna play you. Just
like there's a lot of people whothink certain men can't be faithful. Men
(35:37):
can be faithful. However, yougotta bring that out of him, you
know what I'm saying. You gottamake him, you gotta give him,
like, for instance, I'm gonnakeep it real my homeboy, dirty dog
okay, dirty dog. And Iwas trying to put him on to my
homegirl. I knew he had agirlfriend. My homegirl didn't care about his
(35:58):
girlfriend. I didn't care about hisgirlfriend. Bitches ain't get about my husband.
So I don't care about nobody's relationshipanymore. I used to be that
person who didn't want to be aside chick or I always had son to
say about side bitches, you know, And I had to come to a
realization, Look, it is whatit is. If he really yours that,
he's not going nowhere, if heout there talking to somebody else,
made the best bitch win at theend of the day, you know what
(36:19):
I'm saying. But the best bitchI'm not. I'm not. Okay,
Hello, We're gonna have to haveeleven commandments because number ten is put them
in their place. But I like, let the best bitch win. How
(36:40):
are you putting me in my placein the side chick, because there are
there's not just but like, ifif we're in that relationship or situationship,
I should say, then you can'tbe calling me kinds of hours either,
(37:01):
like because you ain't my man.So if you're gonna try to hit me
up for like some you know,fun time or whatever. I might be
with somebody else. I got aquestion for you men, that's sitting in
here too. If you guys aredealing with a chick, that's your side.
Chick. Right, and she tellsyou that she went out on a
(37:25):
date or something with questions, okay, but she literally just fucked your brains
out the night before. If youcome off angry when she tell you that,
that means got feelings for her,Damn. It depends on I might.
But because almost lost his mind whenhe thought and I went out with
(37:49):
my friend, I may have seen. I'll tell you why. So this
is what it is. If it'sso good now now now it's like,
damn, that person that she probablywent out could probably fuck up a good
thing for me. That's when itbecomes a problem. But if it's some
mediocre sex, it's all right.Feel me. I wouldn't be pressed about
her going on day be pressed.But if that ship fire and that's me,
(38:13):
I'm over there, like damn,that nigga probably fuck up a good
situation. I go. But yougotta keep it, peepro, you gotta
keep it well, that's why yougotta put everybody in their place like this
is your job, this is yourjob, or this is what's gonna be.
This is the rules job already becausebust me down till I find guys.
(38:34):
Let's let's just put it out there, because yeah, women can catch
feelings, especially in sexual relationship,but we can move on if the ship
goes south. Niggas can't move onas easily as we can. Yes we
could. When dudes get butt hurt, their butt hurt for years. It
takes them years to get over it. Wait, it depends though, because
(38:57):
if you decide, chicken you moveon. Is gonna be a little salty
in the beginning, but you stillgot your girl at home. He probably
gonna be trying to extra hard tomake pleases. Please number one again,
he probably just gonna be all feelme and find another number two. If
number one, let me tell you, half the time, those bitches don't
be number two. We be likenumber four. Let'st keep that ship.
(39:21):
Abut most men have a wifey,a baby mama, a girlfriend, and
then then if you make the cut, Damn, I don't even know what
the fifth bitch is, but she'sjust there. That's the best thing.
(39:42):
Roster too. No, woman,No, we have a backup plan.
Well that's different. You ain't fuyou you you got people in the pocket
just in case, just in case, and you know what, And it's
all always the good diggers that wedo dirty because I usually I got two
(40:05):
guys on my heels that I knowwould treat me like a princess. But
they're just not for me. No, no, it's because the guys that
actually treat you like a queen havelittle dicks. That's no. No,
no, no, no no,not this one. Not this one,
at least my experience, this onedon't. But he is too goody goody,
(40:29):
like he a preacher son, youknow what I'm saying. Oh,
they ain't goody good either. Nothinggoody good about that head Like he acts
like he's all about Christ, buthe really ain't up to nothing nice.
He just seems like he's full ofship. And I told him, maybe
the worst ones, but I don'tknow, like what I call him,
(40:52):
you want to go out on datesand all that he's trying to court you.
And then the d was good.Oh damn, So I don't know
what Wait, what are you contemplatingthen? If because if it's too good
to be true. It's because he'sa weirdo, like he be mad,
(41:13):
like do I'm too out? Yousee how I am this meet all day
every day. This is not podcasting. Yeah, but can you imagine if
you were with a partner that's ona hundred at the same time. Sometimes,
you know, opposite is a trackyou balance each other out. Well,
I tried. I tried to goout with him twice, and it
just it's like we had I don'twant to talk about Abraham what. I
(41:43):
don't want to talk about him.I don't want to talk about Jesus,
you know, my heart Lord.But I just at that moment, it's
you know, and it's just likeI don't want nobody who's going to be
beating me up in choke, slammingme either and cheating on me. But
I don't want you got that's whatyou can The same word. Safe word
is pineapple, skittle. My wordis always skittle, skintals my friend.
(42:10):
If you see him, if hewalking here and you think he ugly,
says snickers. If you think helooks good, bit say star Wars,
start Wars. I can't well wellto end on that note again. Ten
commandments for being a side check.Number one, you'll never be number one.
(42:36):
Number two be the best number twoyou can be. Number three,
ain't no we Number four take theE out of emotion. Five, know
when it's over. Six, don'tbe friend number one seven, non disclosure,
eight, have a distraction. Nine, keep your life separate, and
(43:00):
number ten put them in their place. Everybody gotta know what their place is
in the situationship for it to work. And that that's for pretty much any
type of situationship, whether it's anopen relationship, side hustle, if you
want to call it that, Idon't know, but everyone should know what
(43:20):
their roles are and that keeps,you know, questions off the table,
and that's that's good for everybody.So and keep the E out of emotion.
That to me, that should havebeen number one. But I mean
logically, if you put sex inany type of form or it releases in
doorphins and other chemicals to your brainwhere you don't think responsibly. The huhah
(43:47):
thinks for you. She's not she'snot very responsible. The huah thinks for
you. You need your brain tothink for you. So, with that
being said said, good night everybody, and we'll see you next week.
Yes, no, I don't liketo do that. It's me Mar
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