EP. 3 Red Alert feat. Izzy, Mel B., and Mr. Boombastic

This episode is about red flags when dating or in a relationship. Featuring new cast member Izzy, guest host Mel B, and guest Mr. Boombastic.

Episode Transcript

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No, I don't like to dothat. It's me. Welcome to Dirty

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Tea Podcast. Is your Girl BeSavage? And we're back in the building
for another episode season three, andwe have my co host it's a Oh,
we'll get Jolie in here someday,but but now, hello, my

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sister. In place of the unicorn, we have melb Hello, Hello,
Hello, everybody bag and then wehave mister mister a ka, you gotta

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do it again, do it again? That sexy voice was too low.
Let you can't counterfeit that. Sotoday is called red alert. And the
reason why is if you listen tothe first episode of season three, Tyler
Taro, we were talking about redflags and we felt like we need to

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make a whole episode dedicated to thisbecause there was just too much to talk
about. We only got through onereading. It was supposed to be three,
but we got through the flag.There was a lot of red flags
that popped up, and uh,we're going to dissect that and we're going
to figure out how do you avoidit, how do you determine it?

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Yes, because you know, nobodyhas time to waste. We get old
older, we're getting older. We'reold, but we're getting older and nobody
has time to wais anymore. SoI'm really really interested to hear from a
guy's perspective because we've been talking shipall last episode US girls, and I

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want to know, like, whatis your biggest red flag? What deters
you flags? Yeah, I'm surethere's more than one, but like,
what what's number one in your eyes? If you're like, I'm just not
dealing with this chick. Whatsoever?I got to break downs, right,

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And I'm sure it could be likeit could be like the smallest things could
be like the biggest things. Itdepends on what you show first, Right,
What's like I'm ducking under a rockand I don't want to come in
contact. We are black her blockingher? Maybe? Okay, multiple baby
dads, Okay, that's like athing, multiple as in what more than
one? Like two? Three?Okay, it's kind of like that's a

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deal break almost red flag. Somepeople like risky things, but I'm just
saying I'm risky business over here becauseI got three. I mean that exactly
the red black. I'm not gonnalie. I don't know. I mean,
I guess it depends on the situation, and I'm just saying that because

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me being I have to I don'thave two kids. But I was a
teenage mother at seventeen, so youknow that obviously is like I don't want
to say a mistake by all means. Ever, I was young but welcome
by but you know, I wastoo young to you know, kind of

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know really better. But then Ihad another child and twenty six years old
and I was engaged, and Isaid, you know, maybe it will
be a good idea to kind ofplan and have another baby, which I
did as backwards because I should havemarried first. Then I had a kid,
but I got engaged, had akid, and then never married.
But whatever, So that's where itcomes to two you know, baby daddies.

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But the first one I was veryyoung, you know, so I
don't know, I don't think Ishould be reprimended for that as a red
flag four oh well, red flagthe red flag. But that's why I
said, it depends on the situation. But he's just he's speaking his truth.

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And then I think there's definitely adouble standard, Like there's not not
a double standard, and it's notnecessarily right or wrong wrong, but there's
not not a double standard, andit's a good thing. To talk about,
because then you can kind of likeiron those things out or at least
understand them when you're going into asituation. Right, Yeah, so can
a situational basis, right, wecan put them in in that. So

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what's another rest my favorite ing,like, what's I feel like a whole
nother episode we just got to ofcourse, But I'm just saying, like,
it's a situational how we got pastour baby. I probably not for
you, but I'm just saying formyself, and I get it, and
I kind of would agree with youin some sort of way. But I

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mean I talked to a guy thathad ten kids and I was, well,
after you don't have to pay childsupport, that that's really a thing
for like six more black what you, homie? I'm sorry, I know

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you have more, like because I'mfour kids, I don't know if that's
cut off anyway. I don't evenwant to know about ten. That's a
red flag for me, all right, So what's another red flag? No?
For me? It is like whenwhen you're constantly, like not constantly,
let's say you're the communication isn't there, So if you're like texting or

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whatever, you don't hear back forhours sometimes days. Yeah, that's a
red flag that you have a familyand I agree on Yeah, I don't
agree. So so why what doyou get back to somebody in a couple
of days. I could be textingyou right now and you're in a podcast.
So do you know, do youfeel like as life happens or do

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you feel like like you have tomake her wholla that you have to make
her I got real big, theygot real big. What's your priority way
of making her like, Oh,she's gonna want me because I gotta I
gotta give her a little time tolike to think about me. I feel
like, is that just like oris that just like you're you're you're,

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you're you're absolutely busy. You askedme this has like guys like the unicorn
unicorn hypothetically, I feel like acouple of hours, it is reasonable,
like we want to know, youknow, you're trying to have me spill
the beans. I can't go withthe guy code. I got to be

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the man. I don't know whomister bombs is. Yeah, I don't
know he was often that's a goodquestion. I think sometimes when guys don't
text back in fast enough, liketime It could be anything, you know,

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it could be it could be I'mdriving days though she didn't say like
four hours. That's he's just notin her Okay, Yeah, what do
you think is a reasonable time ifyou're busy, you're working whatever. I
feel like maybe the next day ifyou're no, what do you what do

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you think like as a female textingyou, if you're feeling her, what
do you think is appropriate time forIf you texted her and you're waiting for
a response from her, what doyou think is appropriate time for her to
text you back that you'd be like, all right, you know, I'm
okay with this. I don't thinkit's a gender with that. I feel
like if I'm into you, thenyou know, okay, A S A

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P would be fine. Okay,that's good, and I agree, I
agree, But there are you know, situations where you might be working or
whatever. So in my eyes,I'm like, if you're not getting back
to me the same night, itdoesn't matter if it's eight hours from now,
but the same day, you knowwhat I mean, I think next

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day, next morning at the latest, because what if they're like even just
husted two seconds, like I'm tired, I'll talk to you in the morning.
It takes a second to say,look, I'm probably you know,
going to be busy for the restof the day or whatever the case is,
but I just want to let youknow that I will hit you back.
Yeah, you don't feel like it'slike a nerves thing though, Like

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if you send something and they're likeI really like this girl, and I
want to respond depending on what itis, like, I want to respond
like with something well thought. Oh, I kind of want to make them
think about like maybe next morning.No exactly, I feel like it will
chase me away, like you knowwhat. I say that, because the

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situation starts off with chemistry and communication. Communication is everything. So if I'm
really feeling you though, you're apriority at that point. So absolutely,
And and you want to show themthat at the beginning, because if you're
interested in me, then you're showingme that and I give you the opposite
energy. It's kind of like,yeah, what am I doing here at

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this exactly? Yeah, So that'sagreed, that's good. Here is interesting.
I don't know. I don't know. In my life. I mean,
there's a lot of factors that plan. So somebody has like younger kids,
it's harder to like, you know, respond back, and that kind
of thing. Life comes into playat any time. I feel like twenty

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four hours is reasonable. A fewseconds to send it, even if you
can't make a phone call, senda text it takes a few seconds.
And even if it's like you tooka few minutes to go to the restroom,
you know what I mean, Iknow you take your phone with you.
I don't. I don't know youyou especially an hour. Well,

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they got to pay their taxes.Some of my best text messages that right
there is the one hundred percent thetime that they get out. Men go
to the bathroom, to the bathroom, the fucking phone, and they get
there a minimum of their phone.I mean, well, they got to
pay their taxes. They gotta like, they gotta balance their I legit been

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catfish like on a toilet. Yes, no, how do you know that?
Wow? No? I mean likemy ex made a whole brand new
page to try to toilet me andI said, when did you have time
to do this? He said,toilet on the toilet? Oh my god.
See there's plenty of time on thetoilet, so there's plenty of time
to send a text message. Catfish, he's well, he's on. It's

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like sometimes you guys just trick yourway and sometimes like you see, if
you got somebody work, if youwould have felt for that. Though.
Everybody goes to the bathroom at somepoint throughout the day and you know,
you know, you got your phonewith you. I don't. That's a
red flat, is it? Really? Yeah? Bringing your phone with you
everywhere? It's like, what doyou have? Especially if you put it

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face down for me, I don'tknow what you have to hide or how
many podcasts you have to catch upto. Maybe I have to listen to
like Dirty Tea or why. Imean, my ship is opening like that,
My ship is open, Like whenI open my asthroom. I'm gonna

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be honest, I don't take myphone. Well for what, I go
in there and do what I gottado and get out. I take my
phone everywhere. Do you need totake your phone in there? I play
games? How about you charge ofI use the bathroom to give you a
chance. I'm so quick, I'min it now, so quick. I
don't even have time. You're goingto use the bathroom real fast? Right?

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If I got to go, Igo and I get out. I
don't sit there. I have atoilet and be like sometimes I flip through
email. I have to. That'sjust me. I guess four, I
have to catch up to my DirtyTea podcast break and then like, but
my ship is open. Like ifmy man ever went on my I would

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never be like my phone is neverI have a pascal, but he knows
it, So you haven't matter committedrelationship. I mean, it's it's been
a while, like a while yourpast. I told them to him briefly,
real fast, but two three toone, that's all you get numbers.

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Actually it's twenty four because you gotthe android, right, Yeah,
that's but I definitely, I definitelyknow his and I've I've known this for
quite a while. I'd be like, woman, you can because they be
spies real alright, that's my therapistsdo the rundown on any nigga. I'm

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like, thank you, this iswhy you get paid. Und she does
a whole background checked. You giveme your therapy, hurt. She has
books solid damn that don't even spotome half the time that she is damn,
but I need the guy. Onceshe was like, hold up,

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I know this person. She's likeviv you need to run for mayor because
like real ship, like you knoweverybody and I'm like I do. But
that's why it's like when my exused to try to cheat. It's like
just because I'm not out here inthese streets doesn't mean that I don't know
people. Like people get it twisted, like I know everyone. Harford is
my fucking town. So I havea quite like cheating an eagle thing,

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like is that an egle thing?Is that like I can get hurt?
I feel like it's more of tryingto get away with it, just like
with Nola Wright, are doing likethe feeling stealing? Well would you like
to she's a millionaires mister b ordo you not about getting away with ship?
Challenge a different reason for okay,Well you we can give our you

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can give your reason. I wantto hear, yeah, I want me
to run down your man stuff.But it's like mister gumble slash, mister
no, I just want to hearlike the perspective on it on like why
men cheap? Well, why doyou think women do? And why men
do everything? Everything? I don'tthink we have everything. It's it's your

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your territory. It's your opinion.It's your water in my life, but
I want to but I would loveyour opinion on the thoughts. I feel
like sometimes I feel like it canbe an ego thing too. Yeah,
but sometimes I agree. I agree, don't hit all the spots with what

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their guy likes all the time,So a little bit of excitement, it
might be a little more or I'msure it's like, Okay, I have
my girl, I want to seeyou know, if I still got it,
like you know, other women,or maybe I'm into more than one
girl and I don't think my girlfriend'sinto that. So I feel like I
feel like it's like cheating comes fromlike a deficit, and it might not

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be necessarily like attractive, like oh, she's not attracted like this. It
might be more like, I don'twait, I think it might be yes,
wait, I think it might be. I don't think it's they don't
know. I think I think itmight be she's super attractive, but she
doesn't make me feel good and everytime she or somebody way uglier like wait,

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but that's but that's exactly what I'msaying. But that's exactly what I'm
saying. It's not that Wait wait, wait, wait. But then,
but it's not necessarily like, oh, she's not super attractive or my girl's
not super beautiful. My girl,it's more like she's gorgeous and she's amazing
and she loves me. But likethis other girl, she puts me on

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a pedestal, and I'm always puton a pedestal because at one time that
I ain't clean the toilet. Right, she's done, all right, So
I let him talk, all right, I just want to I think he
can so demand it. I lovethat ship, girl, I love it.
But listen, I want to knowfrom his perspective, because you know

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that's my cousin. You like thatthis is why we can assume as women.
But I think I think it's Ithink it's it's it's different. Okay,
I'm going to say this, guys. You give guys too much credit
for being like, we don't reallyuse our emotions, our thought. It's
like an impost thought when it comesto you, because it's like, oh,

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you might be my girl, andbeauty is in the hold, right,
So if you're my woman, you'rebeautiful to me every way. And
look at me when you say that, the eyes are piercing, So it
might just guys just wing it.You being my woman, I have to

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attend to you a certain way.I have to care for you a certain
way. Another woman that might meetit might be a man. Damn,
thank you. Then I'm going on. They'll do what I want fast,
They'll do what I want, andthen I'm going home to do what there
you go. Yeah. But alsobecause I got this answer from my ex
husband, because he was the kingof fucking cheating right, the whole family

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and a whole other town. Ohmy goodness. And he was like,
I wasn't because we got married veryyoung. I was nineteen years old.
He was like twenty two maybe,and he was just like, you put
too much pressure on me. Iwas not ready to be a man.
And the girl that he was dealingwith was like his high school sweetheart.
You know. She was a ghettohood rat bitch and she just made him

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feel like a man versus I guessI demasculated him because I'm like, you're
not doing enough. You put toomuch, like too much pressure. I
can see that. So I respectedthat. I was like, I respected
getting the answer, I respected theclosure, and we're good friends now.
So I was just like, cool, that's all I needed to know.
But there's different reasons for different people. But sometimes it is emotional, like

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sometimes you're just not getting treated theway you feel you should be treated in
your relationship and they go outside ofit. That's what I feel like,
That's what I feel like. Itis like me not complete. I'd never
like literally caught somebody cheating on me, but I feel like the only way
that the way that it happens isliterally there's a void on either has either
a woman or a man's part.It's not necessarily looks because you could be

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the baddest bitch and get cheated onwith like a gollum. But that's very
like, but it's right, Iwould have respected you more if she was
hotter, right, but if notlike, But I don't, I don't

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even I don't even think reason.I don't think reason. I don't think
it's even necessarily about that. Ithink it's more of like like like pride
and things that are missing, whetherit's like whether it's like emotional or whether
it's like they give them something,yeah, something that you don't necessarily because

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a lot of times men tend todate women that are can I say this
ratchet some time. See I can't, okay, but it's like a it's
like a want and a neat thingbecause you might need somebody like savage.
But what I'm saying, you mightneed something like that that's your wife up.

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But then you have your ratchet bitchon the side, and you kind
of want you want. These chicksdon't do their job as a side bitch.
And we've and we've talked about thisand you'll see in another episode ten
Commandments of a side chick. Butthis is crazy, that crazy side do

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not do their le Let me askyou, let me ask you women,
the question, are you guys guiltyside chick? Not intentional? But yes?
Is that a thing? Yes?Because they lie to you and say,
oh, I'm on a break orit's over with such and such.
Turns out was not a break,right, oh ship, I mean,

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I guess at one point, Havel. This was a long time ago,
but it was with someone that I'veknown pretty much since my teenage years and
they, you know, happened toget into a relationship and someone was just
emotionally you were the main bitch ofhis fucking thought process. You were is

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the second person is no, becauseit didn't start off like that. It
was like I just knew them,you know what I mean, I've known
them, he would have given thatchick. They were young, and it
just so happened that, you know, one day we kind of just connected
a different way girlfriend, and Ikind of was like yeah, and I

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kind of was like, I knowthis is not right, But I mean
I've known you my whole life.So I'm not saying I'm not saying right
or wrong. That doesn't go tosay that he's not with her anymore,
like obviously, because like just that'skind of like where it ended up.
But I don't talk to them either, But I'm just saying like they weren't

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in a spot in that relationship wherethey wanted to be with the person either,
you know what I mean, Andso was able to bring you in
like look at me. No,no, no, not with them,
not with their not in their relationship, not say when it stopped, when
it when it was no longer youknow that way with between me and that

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person anymore, Like they just theyended up not being with that person anyways,
you know what I mean. Solate can I say, yeah,
So I'm not saying that like rightor wrong, not debating that, but
like you were still like the mainone, like they wanted, like they
wanted to worship they when they wereyounger. They've always had a thing for

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me always they would have give thatquick fact and they've always wanted to kind
of have a thing with me.But it never was like that, you
know, and then when it didend up, so you are on the
line, you wouldn't be wait waitabout that. So wait wait, you
wouldn't be. You wouldn't be withno one that would have that would like
have you second or where you werelike second best, like they would have
literally if you had wait wait,if you had wanted, they would have

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put you ahead of like everybody.I didn't like them, but that's what
I didn't ever want to be relationshipwith them. I didn't like them like
that if you happened to kind ofbut you appreciated someone worshiping at the at
the temple of Izzy, you want, that's what they did for that time
being even like I mean I was, I was, I was single,

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and I mean I could do whateverI want, ready to be going,
But it wasn't that serious. Itwas just a sexual thing. I guess
that's it. That's it nothing.So I didn't think about it. It
it just was. It was soVIVI you have an experience with like it.
I can't count how many times niggastry to get at me over the

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years, didn't give them the timeof day. When I'm finally like,
you know what, let me giveyou a chance, it's like they put
you on this pedestal and then theminute they have you, they don't know
what to do with you, andthen it's just like, oh fuck,
like I didn't think this day wasgonna come. And then it's just like
they don't know how to act.And then I was like, this is

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literally what my therapist said, likeand I just like I don't understand it
because it's like I should have listenedto my instincts and never gave you the
time to day to begin with,because if this is how I knew it
was gonna play out, I wouldn'thave. And it's like by me going
out of my comfort zone and tryingsomething new because obviously the things that I've

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tried aren't working for me. Likethat's when it's like, okay, let
me give somebody a chance, asthat I normally wouldn't because let me get
out of my because what I've beendoing has been working for me, working,
But let me just get out ofshallow how for a minute and like
figure it out, see if there'ssomething I'm missing. The nerves. They

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got some nerves, O, youugly, You got the audacity not be
sexually satisfying, and and you're gonnatreat me like ship. You got some
nerves, mister b Have you everbeen aside? Dude? You can't take

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my friends. I have a coupleof times, but you were okay with
hold my episode. Let's talk aboutsomething. But you ever go to a
car lot and just look at thecar and say, yeah, I want

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this car and just take the car? You shop around? After you shop
around, what do you do afterthat? I make a what you can
afford? You can't afford? Youknow what you do when you shop around

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and you see what you like?The bathroom is by the elevators. You
gotta walk and you check the carout. Then you jump in the car,
start the car, and it feelsgood, and then you want it
right. That's the way it smells. They don't be really cleaning the cars
driving and then it just it feelsgood. And want the same way I

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got you. Span is very short, so sometimes you want to test drive
the whip before you buy it.Mm hmm, so what if I get
with you? But not everybody hasto test drive this car exactly. And
that's why guys just tend to like, yeah, I'm okay with that.

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That's not you gotta do it,but I'm okay with it. Like sometimes
this is this is why side iscoming to play, if you ask me,
Because sometimes some females they need moreto get to that space with them,
you know, when other females arejust looking for a good time,
and it's like when you bump intoa female, like, I'm looking for
a good time too, so it'slike a good time that sounded like it

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might be another female that is alsotied down, so they're looking for the
same thing. Oh my god,you're a relationship, y'all know what I
mean? Yeah, I feel likesometimes being in a relationship too, Like
when you have like a side situationthat's like being in heat kind of like
go outside, so what your what? What? What does your car?

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I just feel like when like yourmain shake that you do have those feelings
for what happens when she like foundfinds out she's about to find out.
Like what that like? Is thatthat like feeling? I can't be that
kind of person. I just likeme saym, I'm cheating, I'm cheat
her right, and then I findout you, being my woman, you
cheat back on me. How amI going to cry about that? How

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would you? But how would youfeel about that? I would feel like
ship, she's on the same thingI want and you wanted her auto yourself,
and you're just like, wait asecond, it happens and females do
the same thing, because you mightbe surprised how many females cheat. More
so is that part of it?It's like it's like I'm gonna do it

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before she does it, or I'mgonna do it because she's gonna do it.
Anyway, that's how we all doit, because we're all humans,
or I feel like we all haveother interests. So you can't sit here
and tell me you have a boyfriendand you've never seen the man. Now
was just so far, it's likethis nigga is fine. So have you
ever been in like a super monogamousrelationship or a relationship where you haven't cheated?
A relationship where you're like, I'mnot going to ruin this for nothing
in the world because it's like amazing. And I have four kids from those

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situations, those way that sound likeit's like I give it a shot.
That's why, like all of mykids, all of my kids come from
relationships. Okay, so so yourkids come from like those those moms or
those women are like amazing women,Like they're not they're good women in their

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own ways, but red flags settlingout and then you know, you start
to like you could never really allthe way. Know somebody, do you
feel like, no, you can't. Everybody feel like they're red flags,
like burn brighter than yours. Idon't think it's a competition thing. It's
like we both send if you're asinner, I'm a sinner. We're sinning
this. I could be, likeI could be for real, I could

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be I could be a guy thatcheats and then you know me not really
caring. It could just be afling. Things like females don't cheat like
that. It's either a guy youhave, No, they don't a female
cheat when they remember the female.A female is always gonna cheat with the
guy that they had on the side. That respect, that respects the situation

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at the moment, and as soonas he suck up, I'll be right
back. I think a female isgonna what's somebody you care for? It's
not just you don't just jump in, I'm sorry for you off. It's
going to jump into situations and belike, oh, well, I'm gonna
go cheat with this guy. It'salways a comfort that you go cheating.
I think a woman is gonna gonnacheat to like, and you don't necessarily

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have reason vagina. I can't hurtme. But it's not about you're putting
knowledge on your vagina. That's nothurting me. But it's not about how
you feel. It's about how Ifeel that you would feel if you knew.
But you don't necessarily have to know. But it's about how I feel
that you would feel. It's new. And it's just how many times you
have seen? How many times you'veever seen a cat have sex? Never?

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I mean, I ain't never stayhaving sex. You've seen a dog
have sex? I have never howmany dogs and cats you look at from
the project, I've seen dogs havesex them you never you never seen a
dog never never never have never neverthem things I've heard them. I've never

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seen a cat hump things, neverfemales and guys. Guys. Guys are
dogs and they hump everything exactly.I've never seen females hump everything cat all
the time. They just never getcaught the same thing females dogs guys.

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I don't care as much to getin front of anybody. I like,
if I get caught, I'm gonnadeal with that question. You're gonna hide
it, We're gonna take it tothe grave. Females got their own friends
that they tell you, I havea question, I have a question,
So I forgot my questions. Iforgot it, you know, just like

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I've got the whiskey real good,like that ship find out honey. But
I'm killing it. I'm just sayingI'm not a cheater because I've been in
that position. I never wish thatupon anybody. But with that being said,

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I have cheated on a motherfucker onpurpose, like not cheated, broke
up with them on purpose, justso I could go through my bullshit.
But in that moment, I didn'tcare about the other person in the factor
they were rebound. I didn't haveany feeling cheating. You didn't care about.

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For me, sex means nothing thing. It's not. It's not the
act of sex that pisses me off. It's like when you catch your man,
like I caught my eggs texting somebitch talking about She was like,
oh, I got to pay formy son's prom I don't have no money.
He's like, I'll send you money, don't worry about it. For
me different. For me, thathurt me more than you trying to get

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with this chick. That's a differenttype because now they're financially the bitch.
Yes, absolutely, I have forgivenbecause I don't care about like, I

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ain't care about that because I personallydon't give a ship any of that.
But when you're financially trying to supporta side bitch, that's a whole different,
whole different financial I'm already cracking itright then. That means you have
some feeling in your families. Butthat's what I say, That's what I

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say. Cheating is a baller sport. If you can't afford to take your
family and your basins, you don'tneed to. You don't you don't need
cheating cheating. Ever, if youdon't want to be in a relationship,
you need to not be in it? What is that? Like? Why

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not be like open and say thatyou're open and not being a relationship?
What is it about? Like,so, what is it about literally being
a relationship and then cheating on heras opposed to being like, I'm going
to be open. I want youto be open because I will agree to
that? Is it having women won'tagree to? Is it having that woman
agree to that faithful to you,that woman that's at home and then like

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having opportunities or like, what isit about like actually being a relationship and
cheating on them as opposed to justbeing open and just being like, hey,
let's have like flings. Well,this is the thing. Most women
are happy to be a relationship.You're not obligated to be You could do
what you want when you want to. You know what I mean. You

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don't have to be in a relationship, So why choose to be in a
relationship if you want to? Thoughthis whole last I need to make sense?
But why if you still want toexplore other things like you can before

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you watched baby Baby Boy before.Yeah, it's perfectly see he said I
lied to you because I care aboutyour feelings, right, I'm like,
looking, are you look at it? No? I So it's exclusivity for

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us. God strike right now.You know when you said when I was
like, females can't really like Ohso you sitting here and listening to me.
Of course they want to. Ihave to listen. But if you're

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in a situation with a guy andit's exclusive, right and he takes you
pretty serious, I feel like nobodywants Nobody doesn't want someone that everybody doesn't
want, you know what I'm saying. That's one thing about Americans. I
feel like we tend to want thingsthat other people. So it's nice that
you have to shake. That's supershe's she's gorgeous, she's driven, she's

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exclusive, she's yours. She's yours. But like you get to like experience
everything you want, but like you, you have her and no one else
can touch what you have that's yours. Okay, that's exactly what it is.
But it doesn't work like that.That's why when it happens, because
when you heard her, you can'tbe like that. But like I said,

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if you get back at the guyon some spiteful stuff, does it
hurt. It doesn't hurt. Thatmakes it hurt less though you were less
than I like you were less thanI thought she was exactly, you're better
than me? How you like Idid something? By the way, you
guys, has these eyelashes. Sohe's sitting here like godding his eyelashes,

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talking to me whatever. Just soy'all know, not even, not even
it's just not even. The chicksthat are hearing this are like, oh
my god, he's over here,like because it's the girl like my sauce.
That's what it is. It's thatgumbo entirely. Hello Jesus, go

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into prayer. Bring on, thecandles are going down. Unders take a
moment of silence with them. Waitah, we need we need a moment of
silence. Take me down with them, Hello Jesus. But yeah, we

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went completely off topic. But Iappreciate everyone for listening and tuning in to
Dirty Tea Podcast. We appreciate you, and check us out on social media
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where everywhere. I hope you canhear them. She got enough rings on.

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I love you guys. No,I don't like to do that.

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