EP. 6 Put a Pin In It Feat. Mel B, Izzy and Mr. Boombastic

In hysterical episode we touch on all the topics that were brought up in past episodes that we didn't have time to talk about.

Episode Transcript

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Oh no, I don't like todo that. I'm good. That's that's

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one of all was in half hours, especially if wait what about them to
thirty T podcast? I can't getthem to stop talking, so I got
to talk over them. We're adirty t podcasts and walking back. It
is. It is making really goodfriends with Poland Springs right now. I'm

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a little hot mind the hot thesummertime. She's caressing that bottle ever so
tightly. That gonna tell the restof the bottles in the case, Like,
I have that girl with thirsty.She even drinking the water. She

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even drinking the water, Like that'scrazy. Is that fucking Red Bull?
That's what it is. You shouldhave touched that ship. Oh you fucked
your cell phone and spring going forthe wings? This this is not sponsored
by Red Bull. Let's just speakclear on that or Poland Springs. Them
niggas send me a check. Iwill endorse to be though. We love

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you in your apple flavor, inhoney flavor and honey, don't forget the
hone other flavors. Yeah, canyou guys not make me laugh? I'm
gonna need food and drink after this. So we had to put a pin
in the other episode because we justgot entirely off the topic. And that's

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fine though, because that's what dirtyte podcast is about, you know,
tell our truths, the ship onour mind, get it off of our
chest. And if you want moreinsight to the ship we're talking about,
follow us on social media Dirty tUnderscore Podcast. You can catch us on
Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat. Maybeonly fans in the future if they ever

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accept me back, we'll see,because that's I was making my money.
It's a good platform. I gottasee about that, you know, Lily.
Yeah, because they wanted like afull FaceTime video, I was like,
Nick, I don't got time forlisten, you don't want to.

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We can do friends on the front, run on front, toes from the
water bottle in between her feet,cousin to do that. Yeah in girl
girl no action, don't miss outon that. And that's a lot,

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I know. I know. Thisis why I thought fans was only like
vagina. No, there's so muchmore to it. I'm sure there's water
bottles a little bit. I'm suresomebody has a water bottle fetish. Somehow,
some way, we'll make it happen. We'll start the trend would you
would you ever like subscribe to somebody'sonly fan? Sure? Why not?

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What are you looking for when yousubscribe? Mm hmm. You know what?
There was this girl. You couldtell she was a mom because she
had Hella stretch marks, but shewas just so confident in herself that she
was still like even though it wasnot it, I subscribe just to support
you know, did she still havemilk coming on? No, she wasn't.

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Like it was just like it wasa little saggy belly, a lot
of like stretch marks all over theplace. Like, don't get me wrong,
I'm stagging just like the next bitch. But I tried to hide it
a little bit better. We all, we all got our war runs.
So it's just like I just wantedto support her and let her know that

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there's a beautiful body no matter whatin there. Like yeah, like so
show it and I love the confidence, and I think that's great. But
I prefer strip clubs. I liketo be up in front in the action.
Yeah, that's what I like todo. That's pretty much what I
was getting at. I wanted toknow, like what was looking for.
I wasn't really looking for anything.She was subscribing to me. So I

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subscribed back. So, but notthat I was doing anything pen pals or
something. Yeah, you know,I may friends with everybody everywhere. It
doesn't matter where I go or whatplatform of mine. You know, That's
what I do, people together.Remember we went to a bar one time
and there was like this gothic,gothic lady. I was there. She

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was like the bar tender. Shewas fucking weird. You know what.
She bought ticket to my show,though I had to refund her because she
she bought a picure a. Shebought a ticket to the Halloween party.
The Yeah, shout out to yougirl, thank you for supporting Dirty Tea
podcasts, and thank you for beingweird. Not always bad, but no,

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you want to see weird go toI thought she was looking at me
weird like another Oh my god,what is that bar on the corner of
Boulevard and Prospect speaking speaking, that'swhere the weirdos go. I respect this,

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but that was I went. Therewas a guy in the whole like
fucking horse cossume. Is that wherethey have the giant Jenga? Yes,
the giant Jenga. I wanted playingdark bit this dude over touching my Jenga
freaking I wanted to bop him inone of my wooden freaking Jega pieces.

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AnyWho, let's put a pin inthat and my fingers over this person touching
my ship. Yes, that's wherethe weirdos go, but not right,
no time, not if you're goingto am I playing with it. They
have a food truck that smells amazing, so shout out to that guy because

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he'd be making some chop cheese that'dbe smelling amazing. I don't eat that
late at night. So that's whereI left my heels from my high heels
member. I went out there.Yes, yes, I was like,
whoa, So it's where you useheels and dreams they're not listening in.

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But there was these girls that haveburger King uniforms and I was like,
please let that be like a Halloweencostume until I saw the snaggle tooth and
I was like, nah, shereally worked for burger King. Like that's
tough. We're not judging here atdirty, not at all. I wasn't
until she started like rocking my homeboyLexus with her ass like and I'm just

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like, dude, you don't touchpeople cards like that's disrespectful. But yeah,
touching Jenga in cards and cards,they're just disrespectful out there, Okay.
But anyway, anyway, AnyWho maybedon't go there, maybe do whatever.
We hang out there, even thoughit's awful. I go there.

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I go there sometimes in my haselike that's one bar. I never go
by myself for sure. Like youknow, if you it's a last minute
thing, have re enforcements. Youcan go there, but have your team
ready. So that's what I'm saying. But busters and busties. Now,

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I don't know if you heard theepisode where this topic even came up,
but basically we were we were saying, how you get to a level of
toxicity where you just kind of loseyour ship? And what gets you to
that point is the question. Now, me and Izzy have been through some

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missions together. Definitely we go wayback, definitely remember Anni Freeze. But
yes, we have to find somethingthat his head statue of limitations for all
these things right years ago, andeven then, I would still do that

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jail time gladly with a smile onmy face. The only way you would
go to jail for that is ifhe drink it. I just grabbed it
out the trash can through it tofind something. We was looking for something.
Let me ask a question to youas women, right, because this

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is a hard thing to deal withwith being a guy from the streets,
right, do you think as yourother I'm supposed to sit here and let
you evangelize my ship and not putyou in jail. I knew he was
going to go there with this.I didn't wait. I didn't think he

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was going to say put you injail. I thought he was going to
say, put my hands on you. You know that I'm going to lose.
That's true, But a lot ofpeople don't think that way. They
just go with the anger. Butthe difference with my situation was is he

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wouldn't leave me alone, and that'swhy that happened. It wasn't because I
felt some type of way towards him, or I was jealous or anything like
that. The nigga just was alwaystrying to bully me all the time.
Like I've had some pretty like bitchazz niggas, but also just like emotional
warfare is what I went through.That's the best way to describe it,

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but not so much like a niggaput in his hands on me because the
Lord knows I'm gonna win every time, just you know. And that motherfucker
neck will tell you the truth becausehe got that nerve gun to the back.
He couldn't move his neck for likea month. I don't think.
I don't think females be conscious ofthe tricks they do to guys to make

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that crazy come out, because Idon't think guys. I don't think I'll
never do it again. I like, I think one thing is like the
head is like create the head willchange their perspective in the relationship. Mm
hmm. I love a great soulsnatcher. Vagina is cool. But if

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you're like you gotta go, yougotta be really you have to be really
talented to know how to like you'venever met. They can't really see this
because we're not on camera. Theygot that takes a lot of talent.

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That's where the love comes in.But I feel like there's so many women
that know how to do that.No, it's not No, that's like
saying, you know, a bunchof guys know how to eat vagina.
No, that's definitely not true.Definitely not true. And that's what he's
trying to convict the goat. Ohmy, so listen right, this is

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what this is why I come tosong. Was given me the same away
put it there, pause, okay, pause, out of control to be
able to give the same energy.I've know, guys, I thought they

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knew what they were doing. Whydo you think they called me mister?
I don't know. I thought wewere the only ones us to another podcast,
my podcast, but around we definitelyshould have got another battle. Sorry,

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he's trying to tell his truth.I'm sorry, Oh I am the
truth. I'm not trying to tellyou that I am the truth. Yes,
and so humble open, it's sohumble. It happens, you see
see you see how they can't seewhat I just seen. We're not about
to come on share with there thewolves. Just give me a little sip.

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Did you not just see how sheunroused the body? This is what
I'm talking about. Like, so, there's a ship, there's there's a
motto of room here. She looksdelicious. She's a puller backer rose because
I just think I'm circumcised when Ihear that, and I just want to
throw that. Okay, that waswhat? No, Okay, so I

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don't do those don't don't? Ohmy god, I literally want to just
run in the other direction. Andwhen I see that, So, what
do you do if you get ina situation you're there now, it's like
you should see my face? Whatdo you do with it? It's there?
What do you do? What doyou do? Is he I'm just
a girl. I don't know becauseyou pull that turtleneck back. Happened to

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me and you're like an hour along? Was it different? It was
like, what's the difference between itwas? Wait? At that time,
it was the only one I've everhad. It was my first, My
first was that was my first.But he was so tiny. I don't

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even count that because I didn't feelship face did it? Enters? I'm
going to tell you this, becausethe guy's respective, even if their penis
is small, they still cracked mI'm sure he was. They did.

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Yes, they can't have that.He could have that's all right. I
found me alone Spaniard. I waslike, what's that half of my house?
What does that mean? Wait?So so going back to the unless

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unless you wanted to continue with theturtleneck tournament? God, is that why
I don't like turtle necks cringle.Is that why I just wanted to say
something like one thing about like Busterand Busties, like I know, the

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most ratchet thing I've ever done.I felt super guilty after I did it.
Was slapped somebody just a little bit, you know, just slapped him,
just a little tattle. And Ifeel like, I feel like for

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me, it just came from likefrustration, like you're you're telling them you
care, You're telling them what youwant. You're trying to tell them what
you want to change, what youneed from them, and what you need
to feel loved, and you're justnot getting it. And it's like you're
speaking to them, you're talking tothem about it, You're trying to convey
it in every way possible. Andwhen what keeps happening, what keeps hurting

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you, keeps happening, I feellike sometimes you get to the point where
you just like snap, And that's, you know, one of the reasons
I'm not in that relationship because Idon't I don't want to be that person.
I never was that person. AndI felt super guilty after doing that.
It just it grossed me out,like I didn't want to I never
saw myself doing that, and Ijust didn't want to be that person.

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But I felt like I just gotthere after I tried everything else. It's
like, damn, I'm telling you, I'm trying to talk through with you,
and it's like time and time again, and it's like you're doing this
to me again, and you're justso hurt and so upset, and it's
like, well, maybe if Ihit you, but but that was intrusive
thoughts up on that day and youknow that was so many years ago.

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But not toxic at all, Sus. You need a little you need to
be toxic. I feel like youcan strow your situations as if you're a
little more to see her. Youcan tell wives gesus like that her face,
like you can tell when she talks. Look up everything toxic one off

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the Ciphers ship. You're so lovable, like the teddy bear of the grip
enjoys that. Oh yeah, misterperfect, that's good. Loves me for
everything I have to bring to thetable is good. You know. That's
little Wayinge's liquor Really well, I'msorry, just a little change the subject.
I walked into the liquor store.They were giving me samples. I

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tasted it. I said, thisis fucking amazing. I have to have
it. About the bottle, isthis rum or whiskey? You want to
smell to drinker? You want totry? This smells terrible? There is
coffee that Yeah, not everyone hasan amazing water bottle that just smells watery

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and fresh. Okay, Isabelle,it smells it does smell like whiskey does.
I like it. It's really good. So apparently I'm just like a
teddy bear. Oh that's why.Away from her, That's why, and

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that's not a choice. And that'swhy my ex didn't like her. You
see, you know, tell themabout your currents. He loves me,
He's like, oh faith, He'slike, he's faith, but he looks
like he also loves to, likehe loves to, like try to mestle
with you, to bring out thattoxicity. He told me he likes the

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fire. Isabel your my favorite.I was like, I love you too
well. He told you that becausehe done mess with you too many times,
and he knew that fire was atleast with age, I learned how
to control my shit and I learnedwhat brings it out. And that's part
of getting therapy. Growing as aperson that's important. So no, for

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me, it's not validating my feelings. So you're not a big talker,
Well I wasn't now that I knowhow to communicate my feelings better when you
and I used to give people passesbefore, Like I'm not a good communicator,
so I can't expect you to knowwhat I'm thinking, right, but
now when I know, like I'mtelling you what I need from you.
I'm telling you how I'm feeling andhow the situation's making me feel. But

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if you keep playing this game withme and not like giving me, Oh,
I understand where you're coming from,but this is how I'm gonna proceed
to act or whatever. Instead you'rejust giving me little like almost like a
carrot, dangling a carrot, likegive you just enough to keep you around,

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but not giving you what you actuallyneed, or just telling someone I
can't give that to you, likejust keep it a hundred Like that's where
the toxicity comes in. And I'mlike, I actually had this conversation the
other day with somebody that I usedto talk to, but we're like cool
now, and I feel like sometimesguys would be more open to the truth
if you didn't lose things that youhave attachment with, Like say, right

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now, I know I have afine situation with you, you know,
sexually, everything's cool and everything,and I'll just tell you, hey,
well I seen another girl that Ifind attractive and I want to have sex
with her. It's no way.It's probably like a ninety percent chance you're
going to say, well, yeah, I can't have sex with you anymore.

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Have sex with her there, You'renot cool, have such both of
us. That's that's a sure wayto get your know. That's that's the
honesty about being honest and not beinghonest. We go back to the movie

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with Tyree's baby boy, right hesaid, I tell you the truth.
I lie to you. He said, I lied to you because I care
about your feelings. It makes somuch sense and so many ways it does.
You can't have your cake, donot be in a relations in a

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relationship and you cut it right now, what do you do with it so
she can do that too? That'slike no, but you don't care with
her doing that too. You're okaywith sharing her. You're okay with you
if she have that situation that soyou should go into a relationship with it
being an old in a relationship.And if you go into a relationship but

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it be an open relationship, you'renot gonna have those problems. But if
you go into relationship not talking aboutyou're gonna you're gonna assume that you're gonna
be you're gonna you're gonna assume thatit's gonna be monogamous. And and that's
why I said, you need toput it on the table in the beginning,
crazy enough, you need to youknow what I mean, bananas.

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If I was single, I don'tgive a fuck what you're doing. I
understand why people want multiple people,period, whether it be women or men.
I think I think multiple people isa void that you need to fill,
and it's not necessarily sexual. Sometimesit's just, you know, loneliness,
or you're not getting enough attention fromthe other party because of life,

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because of whatever you're going through.So I feel like you seeking something from
elsewhere. It has to do witha void, and it doesn't necessarily have
to do with something being wrong withme. It's just if we go into
relationship, you i'm a monogamous person. If I'm not a monogamous person,
then I'm going to exercise regimen andI'm going to be a fucking basketball wife
like that's playing me. But otherwisebecause I'm not gonna deal with bullshit and

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not get paid for it. Justsay, just say, but but if
I if I go into something andwe're going to be monogamous, we're going
to be monogamous, or you're goingto be rich and pay for and do
whatever you want and pay for meto have my lifestyle because I'm not dealing

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with bullshit for free. So Iheard you say using a relationship with a
guy and part of the reason whyit wasn't working for you is because he
didn't have time for you. Right, So me being a guy, if
I'm in a situation with a womanand I have the time for you,

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but I want to sleep with anotherwoman that don't need as much attention and
caring and everything that you need,right, I think there's something more to
that that bothers me. I thinkit's bigger than you wanting to sleep with
another woman, because yeah, thatwould bother me. It's that you're willing
to share me and that would like, that would bother me more than you

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wanting to be with someone else.They'll fuck. That's like if you come
into an open situation, you wouldshare somebody. It's like, you know,
like I can't control with your vagina. I don't know. I feel
like there's no such thing as like, oh there's a void with this person.
No, you just don't know whatyou want. You're trying to figure
that out. That's how I feel, because if I'm single and I'm like

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dating multiple people or whatever it is, it is because I'm trying to figure
out who I'm trying to fuck withor who is going to make me happy.
Right, But then once I alreadyknow clearly what I need in my
life, and that's when I metto somebody. Once I found that,
and then I have no need tomove around or see other people like just

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in my so I get that fromfrom when I from when when I was
younger, I could never understand whysomeone would feel like they need that.
Now that I've been in a relationshipfor so long and you go through so
many ups and downs and lulls anddifferent things, like I've never been unfaithful,
But just that doesn't mean that youdon't feel different things, and it

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it literally doesn't have to be becauseof wanting sex or doesn't have to be
because of it can just be justavoid just something that's not a need that's
not getting met, and and youstart to feel a certain kind of way.
I'm not the type of person thatwould act on it. I I

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sooner rather water the grass in mylawn instead of because that's where I wanted
to be green. But with policespring, I really need to check.
But after like like hearing different outlookson on on cheating and and being in

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a relationship for so long and kindof like just understanding different going through different
feelings and what have you, thatthat's where I'm coming from with that?
Am I absolutely right? Maybe maybenot, But that's just like my perspective
from the things that I've been through. So Okay, you, like Michael
Blackson had an open relationship that youjust said. When you're dealing with people,

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you're single, and you know,you might go on dates with a
couple of guys to try to figureout whatever you're looking for, Right,
do you have sex with multiple guyswhen you're so so? What if?
How do you get down to thenitty gritty I'm looking for a guy.
If you're dating multiple people, sexis completely out of the question. When

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I'm dating because that alters your lineof thinking. And that's just chemically,
biologically, that's what happens, right, But also because that alters their line
of thinking whether they want to dealwith you. They'll oh, if the
pussy's good, and not only that, they'll deal with you till the cows

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come home, even though they hateyou as a person. The chase is
over, too, the chases over, so it's different. Yeah, once
that chases over, it's also therelationship also changes. You know what I
would never do. I would nevertry to give a female's perspective on dealing
with me because I don't know howa female is. I don't know what
a female. But at the endof the day, another reason why sex
is off the table because when we'reold and your shit don't work or I'm

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too fucking dried up, what's leftthem. I need to know that deep
down I like you or love youas a person, that you are going
to complete me an emotional life exactly. And I can't even get wet for
you if you can't if you can'treach my heart, you know what I
mean. And I think I cannoteven get wet for you, Like I

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don't even give a shit about thatuntil we're on an emotional level where I'm
like, yep, damn, Ican't live without this person. And that's
when it's like and I feel likesex is important just because like you want
to feel wanted, Like it's morethan just it's more than just like getting
your rocks on, Like you wantto feel wanted. And that's where the
importance of like having it when you'rein relationship comes in for me, Like,

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yeah, it's it's great. I'mnot saying it's not great, but
the importance of it is so muchbigger than that, because when it's not
happening, I feel unwanted. It'smore the emotional aspect that's bothering me than
me not getting because there there's otherways to literally like I was in love
with that one. We were lookingat engagement rings and everything, like sex
was trash. Like I can't evenput it any other way. I was

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not turned on at all by thesex with this man, but the way
he would look at me like Iwas the most beautiful woman on earth.
Just cressing my leg. I'm like, oh, say, you know what
I mean, Like that guy thatthat morning, use my toys and I'll
take water my grass. You knowwhat I'm saying, that's not really or

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teaching or tell them a couple ofthings that you want you're like to the
right. A lot of a lotof guys don't like you, see how
you like I say certain things andyou say I'm a uniform, right,
But I just feel like I havea little a little bit more understanding than
guys do because I love women,like you know what I mean, so
like my mom, like my sister, So I kind of know the way

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women think a little bit, likeyou know what I'm saying, So I
know sometimes it could be the smallestthings that means everything, like you know
what I'm saying. Like sometimes guysare like really simple, So we don't
have the extra amount of brain spacethat you think we have to know what
you're thinking. You're not talking likethat. Yeah, but see the type

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of person I understand. I understandthis. I understand that the way to
get you with is to mind fuckyou first. But how you have stimulating
conversations come to building. Every womanis so complicated in what stimulates, and

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I mean that's that's part of figuring. Just don't just don't piss me off
and I think, and I thinkyou you touched upon that. I think
sometimes we read into actions, likewe read into every single action like,
oh, he did this, solike this is how he feels towards me,
or it was this was so disrespectfulin this, And we read in
so much into what's happening, andand we're kind of like, well,

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you did this, so like youmust feel this way about me, or
you must not respect me in thisway. Whereas whereas we sometimes fail to
realize, like if we just madeourselves clearer and what we wanted and we
can pinpoint what we wanted instead ofbeing upset about everything and nagging about a
bunch of things, if we wereable to pinpoint more exactly what we wanted

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and convey that to two men,they'd be like, oh okay, instead
of us being like the time,they're not even listening. You don't have
no time, eye contact facts,eye contact. I want to know that
you're listening to what the I'm saying. Yes, they do, they suck,

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they do. But I'm a teddybear. There is nothing that literally
infuriates me more if someone's looking attheir phone while I'm talking to them or
playing video games. So while you'retalking to them, So I think,
I think, God, that's kindof different. It depends if I'm playing
this game already before you start aconversation or like, you know, because
I would never like have a conversationwith the start playing the game in your

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face. But if I'm playing thegame first, why would you choose this
time right here to talk to me? Because sometimes things come up and it
needs to be said. You needto listen, now, wait right,
talk to you. Okay, justI'm listening, you're not because well,
depending on the game, they can'talways pause it. I will say that.

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Well, because they play online.I understand. Yeah, told that
I can't playing online, so die, Well this is a thing. Okay,
when you can, you know,let me know or whatever. And
that time never comes because that's sleep. For like at three o'clock in the

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morning. You were supposed to remindhim you have everybody can have like perfect
harmonizing relationships. But I don't thinklife is meant to be. I think
people keep saying the word perfect toomuch. There is no there's no such
thing as per literally, and likeshe was saying, relationship first work when

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we were on the episode about firstloves before we would fall in love.
I feel like that word comes fromlike nothing is in your way, not
your thoughts, not your feelings aboutthe past, and you literally just fall
into it. Right. But that'swhy it doesn't become a sustainable love because

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you're going in with expectations that,oh, whatever your expectations are, because
you see your parents have been togetherfor however many years, and you're like,
oh, well, if I fallin love, it's going to be
like that. Or you're told thestory like or told the story, whatever
the case is. But once youlive your life and you've been through,

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you know, multiple relationships, yourealize I have to work at this and
I have to choose this person everysingle day for this to work, because
it's not always going to be perfect. And there's people who think you're a
certain way. Like for me,you know how many times I get put
on a pedestal because people think I'mlike, oh, Vis is cool ass
chick, and she's funny and she'sthis and that, and then once they

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have me, they don't know whatto do with me and they're like,
ooh, she's spicier than I thoughtshe was, like, or she's so
busy I can't obtain her attention orwhatever the case is. And it's like,
listen, I told you what itwas from the get go. Like,
if you're gonna deal with me,this is the literally the lineup,
like I have a million projects,I have this, I have that,

(34:30):
I have kids, I have whatever. I will make time for you if
I feel like you're going to usethat time wisely, if that makes sense,
Like it's one thing gets on mein that time. It's moving together,
and it's like it's like I thinktoo a lot of people are like,

(34:50):
well, they should take me asI am. They should take me
as I am. But then butthen you get with somebody else and you're
like, oh, I can't standthis. I can't stand that. They
need to change that shit or I'mout you. It's it's growing together and
if you can't and I say that, like maybe every two to three years,
you're turning into a different person.I'm a different person than I was
when I was twenty three, twentyfour, different twenty seven exactly. And

(35:12):
so it's kind of like when,especially when your a relationship for a long
time, sometimes sometimes it gets tothe point where you're almost like roommates because
you're you're moving, you're both moving. Well, they say marriage is like
a partnership, like a business transaction, but you literally, you literally have
to talk to each other. It'slike, I'm not like you. You
don't even that connection is dwindling andwhat have you. And it's like you're

(35:35):
you're falling in love again, butyou're falling in love with the person the
people that you are now, andthose are different people. And if you
can't keep like falling like like fallingin love with that person's going along,
it's it's just not going to work. And you should be willing to change,
move and change together. Yeah,absolutely, adapt. Well, that's

(35:55):
why it's so important to find someonewith the same goals as you, because
you can move in a down orat least willing to be super supportive of
your goals while holding your own theirown like morals and and what they need,
but but at least super supportive ofyou. Absolutely right, Yeah,

(36:21):
wow, you can do all thatship you guys talk about right there and
be cheated on step What men aretoo simple? Overthinking it, overthinking the
whole situation because you might get aguy right now, So why are you

(36:43):
such an advocate of that, likewhy do we have to make peace with
that? Why does that have you? But we don't have to do that
either, So this is have tobe a compromising situation, well only for
you, because I don't have You'resticking for women. So no, no,
I don't have that that issue inmy relly. I I know where

(37:04):
my man is. I don't havethat issue in my relationship. And if
I did have that issue in myrelationship, again, plan be basketball wife.
Figure out. People don't live forever, homie, like you kill off?
Do you think I think he wouldmake a lovely Okay, but you

(37:30):
already knows when we get to thepearly gates is me and him, there
is no till death to aspart becauseI pull that motherfucker into the afterlife,
into the next life, into whateverlife you are. You already know if
me, I'm not person, I'mcoming to each other. If you need
to be in with another bitch,then like you said, go be with
that other bitch. I don't needit because there's so many men in this

(37:51):
world that I will find another one. Like it's not that if I don't
get but her over it, orif I have to with somebody else school
or if up with something that Ididn't want to put up with, and
I should be fucking put in alavish lifestyle to put up with that bullshit?
Why am I putting up with itfor someone that's like mid mid talking
mid? I have been cheated onin every relationship I've ever been with,

(38:15):
even the fucking VM E's dude,you boom, I'm dragon ball z,
motherfucker. Should the other perfect personthis question? That sounds like that was
a problem. I don't know.I only one person one out of all

(38:36):
the relationship I've been in a lotof relationships. I'm a serial monogamer.
Like they jumping from a relationship torelationship and they always want to wipe me
up. But then they're like,oh, I can't really be That sounds
like insecurity. My my ex husbandwas the only one that gave me a
solid answer on this. So hesaid, I felt demasculated because you wanted

(39:00):
too much from me, and Iwasn't ready to be that person because when
we met, he spent most ofhis life in jail, Like he never
had a childhood. He was injail the whole time. He was basically
a teenager, So he was like, but nigga, you wanted to marry
me. I proposed to you,motherfucker. So if you weren't ready,

(39:21):
then why do all that? Andthat's the second I've been proposed to three
times by people who weren't ready,three times, Like why do you even
ask the question? This is whatmakes bitches bust out windows because you pretend
like you're ready when you're not ready. And it's okay to not be ready,
but just say that. Listen,I'm not ready. I'm giving you

(39:43):
the choice of moving on, butniggas don't want to let the girl move
on. I want you to bewith me, but I'm not ready for
you. So that's what turns thesewomen into toxic women who are therefore bust
your shit out because you're playing gameswith their hearts. Are you're playing games?
Are you familiar with Yes, theytry to recruit me, motherfuckers.

(40:08):
So you know ship, it's doorsto this ship and this doors to your
vagina. Keep going back to this. Nigga will tell you whatever they want
to tell you to get that vagina. I want to marry you even getting
married, that's crazy. They willbe your friends surprised. A bunch of

(40:29):
years and you see how you likeyour type of person. That's like,
oh fucking is off the table whenI'm dating people. What's the cookest way
to get through that. I don'tknow. I'm still not want to hear.
I have had about six months andI am not rushing into that ship
because at the end of the day, I know where my head's at,

(40:52):
and that's on that bag. Icould give two ships about the batteries.
Not to say I'm not dating somebodyamazing love you boo, No, not,
I don't love you, but Iam seeing someone he's amazing. Just
saying I am not in any shapeor form rushing anything because at the end

(41:20):
of the day, if you're nothelping me obtain my goal, then if
it's not meant to be you knowwhat I'm saying, if you really want
to be with me, That's onething I learned. There was too many
dudes in the past that I dealtwith that held me back. I would
have been in a whole different taxbracket right now if I didn't deal with

(41:42):
the twins Dad, like real shit, he held me back from doing a
lot of ship I should have donewith my life because of his jealousy,
and I feel like the next nigga. If they're not my biggest cheerleader,
then I don't want you. Idon't want you. See how this whole
time, right, we've had thisconversation. I never once heard you guys

(42:04):
say anything about what a guy wants. They want the vagina made, not
that, but I'm saying right right, yeah, I feel like I'm saying
that they don't want to say nothingto. Females know what they don't like

(42:27):
way more than what they do like, Like you can tell me a bunch
of things you don't like right now, I can tell you a bunch of
things I do like to, butnot more than you dislike. Yeah,
so good communication. You know whatguys don't like. Guys don't like dealing
with females that think about what theywant and not what I want. Guys
want to be appreciated exactly. Wewant the same things. We are.

(42:53):
We're not easy. We're simple,so you're easy to We're probably easy to
funk. We're not easy to comebecause if I feel like you're not like
a nurturing woman, you know thatcould not nurturing. I can learn something
from as well, Like I don'twant to be with a woman that I'm
teaching everything too, and you can'tteach me anything I'm not. It doesn't
make sense at all, But that'swhy I can see where I get,

(43:15):
like the cheating seems to come.Like you're such a strong woman and you're
you're out there getting the bag,out there doing what you have to do
and just being an amazing r.I have seven out of ten masculine trade,
and I mean, we know you'rea man, but I dealt with
so many bitch ass niggas that couldn'tbe the man. It's not like I

(43:36):
don't want it to be the manI was trained to because they couldn't.
I don't, so now I don'ttrust anybody to do what they're supposed to
do. When you go home fromthe fucking grocery store and you got little
toddlers that you're pulling out the carand you see a viction notice in your
fucking door that you think your rent'sgetting paid because the motherfucker is supposedly at

(44:00):
work all the time. No,he was fucking some other bitch too.
And that's what makes masculine women,because they have to fund for themselves when
they shouldn't have to do everything.You're in a partnership for a reason.
And I don't have a solution,and I'm not making excuses. I'm just

(44:21):
I'm just saying, you're amazing gettingYou're doing all these things that you need
to be doing, and it's it'shard. I think it's hard for another
man to feel like he can holda candle towards you, and you have
that self consciousness and then they dowant to be made to feel like they
do want to be made to feelappreciated, but they probably don't feel appreciated

(44:42):
because they're really not bringing something tothe table. And I'm not excusing how
they feel or what have you.I'm just kind of like thinking through,
like what's going on. I don'tknow what you should do with that.
I'm just thinking through, like whatit seems to be right. I could
be wrong. A lot of femalesset dating up. It's like you would
basically have to pay someone to betheir boyfriend, Like I don't want to

(45:06):
I have to listen, hear meout. If I have to buy your
love, I don't want your love. Females come with a lot of things
attached to them where they feel like, well, a guy has to have
This is the only generation I've everbeen in where you have to have your
shit together to date a broke bitch. I think you're talking to the wrong

(45:28):
Yeah, I think I'm not talkingYeah, okay, okay, I'm not
speaking on you. I'm just sayingin general enough to have seen my share
of women, there's a lot ofwomen that I encounter they have this thing
set up in their head where theyfeel like a man is supposed to take
care of them. Now, let'ssay, if I do take care of

(45:51):
you, you don't even like me. For real, I'm taking care of
you. No, you're laughing,But this is a serious situation. I'm
taking care of you. I'm spendingmy money you and the whole time you're
in this relationship for what I cando for you, not because, like
you said, when my ship don'twork and your ship drives up. But
but but you have sex with them? How it is? You know,

(46:19):
even the music is like, eventhe music is training people. What I'm
saying, it's generational ship. Likeyou know, like I agree that there's
women like that. I'm just saying, you can wead those women out by
getting to know them. A littlebit further that they have. And for
those and for those men and womenboth, aren't those usually like the men

(46:43):
and women who know they're like likefine or you know there whatever, And
that that's why I said men andwomen. For those men and women both
who want to be taken care of, it is because they have nothing to
offer but their looks and looks expire, looks fade. Their stock is plumbing
daily. And and maybe if youwere less fickle and who you care to

(47:06):
put that into, who you careto put that that money, in time
and energy to, And it didn'thave to be like some the flyest bitch
who thinks she's fly as fuck.It could be some the average bitch that
like it's going to be amazing toyou. Then you wouldn't go through those
and and vice versa. Like ifyou were going to the dude who's nerdiest

(47:27):
fuck and just minding his business insteadof having to have like the coolest deal
with the nerd trying that I can'tmind. I don't want to call him
that. I apologize. I'm beendrinking and you're not a mother, but
no, this hold me, am, I right. I don't know why

(47:47):
he went on my page. SoI I put like just one of those
memes where it's like nerds dating inyour forties is like going to the thrift
store and only having the sale rackto choose from. I thought it was
hilarious. I'm just saying it's funny, but like he took it, he

(48:08):
d M me and everything, like, oh why I gotta be about money?
Like where did you get money fromthat? Like it's like a thrift
store of stuff that's worn down.So like for me, in my head,
I'm I interpret that as like,yeah, but there's the sale rack
has been the ship that's been worndown the moons, that's all you have

(48:29):
to choose from. There's the peoplethat are so emotionally damaged that there's no
you can't give them away for free. Like that's where I got from that
meme. And y'all can correct meif you want to, but that's just
how I interpreted it. Well,Well, some guys are on that like

(48:49):
Red Pill Journey too, where they'relike they read into things so much because
they were listening to these podcasts wherelike women are the devil and like like
but so like he automatically jump tothat conclusion. It sounds like he might
be on like a repilds would youknow, be designered out and chains and
this and that. You need amore simple man that just goes to work,

(49:12):
comes home, maybe plays his videogames and dada da da. No,
I'm sorry, my child goes towork and comes home and plays video
games. I'm not attracted to that. I'm for me, like I need
someone who Okay, you can goto work, I go to work.
We share the bills. I'm notasking for nobody to take care of me.
I don't expect nobody to take careof me. I expect it to

(49:36):
be a partnership. And a lotof people don't even agree with that either.
They're more traditional. But like,we're in Connecticut, one of the
most expensive states to live in,and you have to have Dude, you're
driving me crazy with them. Sorry, but you have to have some sort
of partnership just to fucking exist inthis state. You know, you can't

(50:00):
live by yourself. It's hard tohousehold income, right, So I think
these people that we're talking about arein survival mode. And not to make
excuses for them, but I thinkthat's just where they're at. They don't
know how to survive. They're tryingto figure it out by relying on a
man, you know, but andthat's not cool, And I don't think

(50:23):
that's okay in any shape or form. But I'm just saying, like,
for me, it's just like ifyou're not contributing to me, like we
need a level up, Like yousaid, I can't keep constantly moving forward
and your stuff down here for meso I can bring us upward. But

(50:44):
even still, like you have tohave your own goals and your own things.
You don't have to I'm not madeout of money. I don't have
the financial stability I should be inright now. But like, and I
don't expect you to be either.We're working towards I say that from a
place where like the person I'm with, he already had a good lifestyle,

(51:04):
good way to make money beforehand,so it's not like he's necessary like I
gotta do this and I whereas I'mlike constantly making moves and he's supporting me.
So yeah, absolutely you should bothbe moving together or he should have
should be established somewhat in supporting yourhustle. Is kind of where I am
because that's my experience, So yeah, what about you is he what do

(51:30):
you think. I don't know.You've been quiet in the corner. She's
enjoying that it got warm water inher own grass right now. It got
warm. It was really interesting tohear from like I feel like too.

(51:52):
It's like there's there's three sources ofestrogen right now, and one source that
testosterone, and maybe so like,yeah, we need to technically no,
because I'm more masculine apparently than feminine. Maybe it'd be nice to have like
another male perspective to like go backand forth with issues. So that way,

(52:14):
Yeah, we'll see if we canmake that happen on the next episode.
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(52:38):
before I even turn eighteen, Somaybe we can add multiple generations to that.
I think I would have told myten year old self something different eighteen
or younger self maybe at that pivotalmoment, like were you right? Yeah,
what was your pivotal moment where youshould have done something else? Should

(53:00):
have? It? Ran from somebodyelse that's more like what I want to
hear. Should have never I thinkthat's exactly where I would go with that.
Yeah, I should have stayed farfar away from that person. But
good night everyone, Thank you forsupporting Dirty Tea Podcast. Good night God.

(53:22):
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