November 24, 2024 • 9 mins
Dr. Troy Munson reflects on the nature of small talk and its impact on personal connections. He questions the value of superficial conversations, urging listeners to reach deeper levels of communication with themselves and others. Dr. Munson shares personal anecdotes, including his inability to express love to his dying father, and explores themes of self-discovery, authenticity, and embracing meaningful exchanges. He encourages an approach of grace, light, and forgiveness, suggesting that genuine interactions can transform simple exchanges into profound moments of connection. Join Dr. Munson in exploring the power of heartfelt communication.
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Dr. Troy Munson explores the intricate relationship between desire, thought, and personal fulfillment. With a reflective tone, Dr. Troy engages the audience in a conversation that challenges conventional perceptions of fantasizing and arousal, presenting them as inherent aspects of human nature that drive our actions and emotions. He suggests that by understanding and contemplating these urges, one can attain a deeper sense of peace and enlightenment. Dr. Troy emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between beneficial and harmful desires. Touching on spiritual ideologies and the concept of letting go, he urges listeners to question their thoughts and contemplate them to unearth underlying truths. By rejecting negative fantasies and understanding the nature of arousal, individuals can move towards a state of inner tranquility. Dr. Troy's message is clear: to experience true joy and contentment, one must transcend the superficial allure of desires and uncover the boundless possibilities of a mind liberated from illusions.
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Dr. Troy Munson explores the intricate relationship between desire, thought, and personal fulfillment. With a reflective tone, Dr. Troy engages the audience in a conversation that challenges conventional perceptions of fantasizing and arousal, presenting them as inherent aspects of human nature that drive our actions and emotions. He suggests that by understanding and contemplating these urges, one can attain a deeper sense of peace and enlightenment. Dr. Troy emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between beneficial and harmful desires. Touching on spiritual ideologies and the concept of letting go, he urges listeners to question their thoughts and contemplate them to unearth underlying truths. By rejecting negative fantasies and understanding the nature of arousal, individuals can move towards a state of inner tranquility. Dr. Troy's message is clear: to experience true joy and contentment, one must transcend the superficial allure of desires and uncover the boundless possibilities of a mind liberated from illusions.
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
Now you are listening to doctor Troy Munson with words
of Radiance. Now Here is your host, Doctor Munson. Hello
(00:31):
and welcome. I'm doctor Troy. One of the things that
I do not particularly air for is small talk. And
as I was pushed the other day to maybe have
some small talk, I thought, hmm, why not, let's just
do it. And as I looked later on in my
(00:53):
head about why why don't I like small talk? And
ultimately I feel like, isn't life short? Do I really
want to just talk about the weather with you? Do
I want to talk about the grass growing or the
leaves changing, or the seasons, or how is it sitting
(01:18):
on that chair? Well, look at that park bench getting older?
I just I feel like there's better things we can do.
When I look at an individual and I see the
beauty and the light and the life in each person,
it's this deep inner sense of just wanting to commune
(01:42):
in a deep level. I guess I don't mind the
superficial stuff, but it just seems so trivial and unimportant.
I mean, do we really have to talk about the weather?
Can't we just get right to it? And for most people,
when they think about small talk, they if they were
(02:03):
to look inside, they would think, well, if I talk
about something heavy, what if they don't like my ideas?
What if I don't have anything to contribute? What if
they find out I'm just hollow inside and I don't
have anything to offer anyone. And of course this is
(02:24):
not true, but we tend to become afraid that we
don't have this depth, or that we haven't met the
true us inside as you begin to let go of
the small talk, even within your own mind, to yourself,
while you go on about the daily dribble in your
mind of what you've got to do next, and things
(02:47):
you must accomplish, and oh, you better get a hold
of so and so. Oh you should definitely eat this
or cook that, or make sure you take flowers to
sow and so. Now all of these things are deep
in and of themselves, but we tend to have all
(03:07):
of this nonsense or noise running around inside of our heads,
and instead of questioning it and moving beyond it and
getting to a deeper level with our own self, we
tend to stay superficial with ourselves as well. And if
you're listening to this, you're probably wanting to go beyond
that anyways. And so if you're thinking, oh my gosh,
(03:29):
I have a friend who needs to hear this, don't
then to do them. They don't want it. If you're
listening to it, it's because you want it, and it's
okay to begin that process of growing deeper. To give
an example, and may or may or may not have
talked about this on other podcasts, but when my father
(03:49):
was on his deathbed, he I couldn't tell him I
loved him. I just couldn't. And yet I tell everybody,
almost everybody, Hey, I love you, I really love you,
and it is something that we should do so effortless
to be able to tell another. But it was almost
as if my father, if I told him that, it
(04:13):
would crush him. And I don't know if it was
fear or what, but if we at least come face
to face with some of those things that we would
like to say to people we love, Hey, I just
wanted you to know this. I wanted you to know
that I love to watch you when you're not not
(04:34):
realizing that I'm watching you, and I love to see
how relaxed your forehead is and how easy you are.
I love to listen to you play an instrument. Hey,
I love to watch you move around the kitchen. Hey,
I love to watch you when you're at work. I
just love you and to be able to say things
(04:57):
in a beautiful way to those that we love, but
even more so to the gifts of the people that
we just meet on the street. Hey, I see you,
and I notice you, and I appreciate the clothes you're wearing,
the smile on your face, the look of your eyes,
(05:20):
the thoughtfulness in your expression. Thank you for being you.
And so as we do that, we kind of get
away from small talk. It's okay to look at somebody
and say, hey, you really make that shirt look amazing.
I'm glad you picked it out, and I'm glad you
chose to wear it. Thank you for blessing me with that. Now,
(05:46):
for some it may seem weird. Well, what will people
think if I do that? Yes, what will they think?
They might actually be like wow, And if they yell
at you, then you might ask yourself, why did I
want that? And just maybe they just need to yell
at somebody and you're the one. And maybe when they're
(06:07):
all done and you look at them and say, are
you better now? Instead of well, screw you too, you know,
Instead of that, why don't we shelve everything inside that
would try to tell us something that we not and
be able to simply say, hey, I've got your back.
(06:29):
If you need to unload any time, you can on me.
I'm okay, and you're okay. That shirt still looks nice
on you. These are the things that people that are
okay with themselves. They've come to the depths of themselves
and looked face to face with what they thought was
(06:51):
not okay about themselves and realized that is a lie.
And they've realized that they are love, that they are light,
that they are peace, and they are joy, and they
are one, and they can tolerate another's supposed bad behavior
(07:14):
without ever once taking it inside and trying to make
it true. So as we leave things out there and
we don't take things in, we become a point of
light for others. Sometimes they need something like an outburst.
They need somebody to look at their outburst with genuine
(07:37):
care and forgiveness and grace, so that they might accept
it that offered grace and take it deeply within and
forgive themselves of all the thoughts they made inside, and
all of a sudden that small talk becomes something quite grand,
(07:58):
quite big. So if you're going to go out there
and start changing lives by loving on people and being
that sounding board without judgment and offer grace and mercy
and beauty and joy to all that you come in
contact with, you might do a little prep but you
(08:20):
might not. Let's see how it hits you right between
the eyes and what's still lurking under your skin. Until
you get rid of all of those little buttons that
people push, and now they cannot push them anymore because
they don't exist, and there's just forgiveness and love and joy,
(08:40):
and they can push those buttons all they want. I
hope this was helpful. I hope this gave you a
little look at small talk and big talk and everything
in between. Until next time, I'm doctor Troy, And remember
you have nothing to do, only something to see.
Now you are listening to doctor Troy Munson with words
of Radiance. Now Here is your host, Doctor Munson. Hello
(00:31):
and welcome. I'm doctor Troy. One of the things that
I do not particularly air for is small talk. And
as I was pushed the other day to maybe have
some small talk, I thought, hmm, why not, let's just
do it. And as I looked later on in my
(00:53):
head about why why don't I like small talk? And
ultimately I feel like, isn't life short? Do I really
want to just talk about the weather with you? Do
I want to talk about the grass growing or the
leaves changing, or the seasons, or how is it sitting
(01:18):
on that chair? Well, look at that park bench getting older?
I just I feel like there's better things we can do.
When I look at an individual and I see the
beauty and the light and the life in each person,
it's this deep inner sense of just wanting to commune
(01:42):
in a deep level. I guess I don't mind the
superficial stuff, but it just seems so trivial and unimportant.
I mean, do we really have to talk about the weather?
Can't we just get right to it? And for most people,
when they think about small talk, they if they were
(02:03):
to look inside, they would think, well, if I talk
about something heavy, what if they don't like my ideas?
What if I don't have anything to contribute? What if
they find out I'm just hollow inside and I don't
have anything to offer anyone. And of course this is
(02:24):
not true, but we tend to become afraid that we
don't have this depth, or that we haven't met the
true us inside as you begin to let go of
the small talk, even within your own mind, to yourself,
while you go on about the daily dribble in your
mind of what you've got to do next, and things
(02:47):
you must accomplish, and oh, you better get a hold
of so and so. Oh you should definitely eat this
or cook that, or make sure you take flowers to
sow and so. Now all of these things are deep
in and of themselves, but we tend to have all
(03:07):
of this nonsense or noise running around inside of our heads,
and instead of questioning it and moving beyond it and
getting to a deeper level with our own self, we
tend to stay superficial with ourselves as well. And if
you're listening to this, you're probably wanting to go beyond
that anyways. And so if you're thinking, oh my gosh,
(03:29):
I have a friend who needs to hear this, don't
then to do them. They don't want it. If you're
listening to it, it's because you want it, and it's
okay to begin that process of growing deeper. To give
an example, and may or may or may not have
talked about this on other podcasts, but when my father
(03:49):
was on his deathbed, he I couldn't tell him I
loved him. I just couldn't. And yet I tell everybody,
almost everybody, Hey, I love you, I really love you,
and it is something that we should do so effortless
to be able to tell another. But it was almost
as if my father, if I told him that, it
(04:13):
would crush him. And I don't know if it was
fear or what, but if we at least come face
to face with some of those things that we would
like to say to people we love, Hey, I just
wanted you to know this. I wanted you to know
that I love to watch you when you're not not
(04:34):
realizing that I'm watching you, and I love to see
how relaxed your forehead is and how easy you are.
I love to listen to you play an instrument. Hey,
I love to watch you move around the kitchen. Hey,
I love to watch you when you're at work. I
just love you and to be able to say things
(04:57):
in a beautiful way to those that we love, but
even more so to the gifts of the people that
we just meet on the street. Hey, I see you,
and I notice you, and I appreciate the clothes you're wearing,
the smile on your face, the look of your eyes,
(05:20):
the thoughtfulness in your expression. Thank you for being you.
And so as we do that, we kind of get
away from small talk. It's okay to look at somebody
and say, hey, you really make that shirt look amazing.
I'm glad you picked it out, and I'm glad you
chose to wear it. Thank you for blessing me with that. Now,
(05:46):
for some it may seem weird. Well, what will people
think if I do that? Yes, what will they think?
They might actually be like wow, And if they yell
at you, then you might ask yourself, why did I
want that? And just maybe they just need to yell
at somebody and you're the one. And maybe when they're
(06:07):
all done and you look at them and say, are
you better now? Instead of well, screw you too, you know,
Instead of that, why don't we shelve everything inside that
would try to tell us something that we not and
be able to simply say, hey, I've got your back.
(06:29):
If you need to unload any time, you can on me.
I'm okay, and you're okay. That shirt still looks nice
on you. These are the things that people that are
okay with themselves. They've come to the depths of themselves
and looked face to face with what they thought was
(06:51):
not okay about themselves and realized that is a lie.
And they've realized that they are love, that they are light,
that they are peace, and they are joy, and they
are one, and they can tolerate another's supposed bad behavior
(07:14):
without ever once taking it inside and trying to make
it true. So as we leave things out there and
we don't take things in, we become a point of
light for others. Sometimes they need something like an outburst.
They need somebody to look at their outburst with genuine
(07:37):
care and forgiveness and grace, so that they might accept
it that offered grace and take it deeply within and
forgive themselves of all the thoughts they made inside, and
all of a sudden that small talk becomes something quite grand,
(07:58):
quite big. So if you're going to go out there
and start changing lives by loving on people and being
that sounding board without judgment and offer grace and mercy
and beauty and joy to all that you come in
contact with, you might do a little prep but you
(08:20):
might not. Let's see how it hits you right between
the eyes and what's still lurking under your skin. Until
you get rid of all of those little buttons that
people push, and now they cannot push them anymore because
they don't exist, and there's just forgiveness and love and joy,
(08:40):
and they can push those buttons all they want. I
hope this was helpful. I hope this gave you a
little look at small talk and big talk and everything
in between. Until next time, I'm doctor Troy, And remember
you have nothing to do, only something to see.
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