March 9, 2025 • 8 mins
Join Dr. Troy in "The Hardest Thing" as he explores why we label tasks as difficult and questions the necessity of such labels. Delve into how our perceptions of difficulty can hinder us, and discover ways to make tasks feel effortless by shifting your mindset. Through personal anecdotes, Dr. Troy illustrates the power of letting go, embracing possibility, and practicing a peaceful approach to challenges. Learn how to easily navigate life's complexities and find the balance between effort and surrender in everyday situations.
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Dr. Troy Munson explores the intricate relationship between desire, thought, and personal fulfillment. With a reflective tone, Dr. Troy engages the audience in a conversation that challenges conventional perceptions of fantasizing and arousal, presenting them as inherent aspects of human nature that drive our actions and emotions. He suggests that by understanding and contemplating these urges, one can attain a deeper sense of peace and enlightenment. Dr. Troy emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between beneficial and harmful desires. Touching on spiritual ideologies and the concept of letting go, he urges listeners to question their thoughts and contemplate them to unearth underlying truths. By rejecting negative fantasies and understanding the nature of arousal, individuals can move towards a state of inner tranquility. Dr. Troy's message is clear: to experience true joy and contentment, one must transcend the superficial allure of desires and uncover the boundless possibilities of a mind liberated from illusions.
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Dr. Troy Munson explores the intricate relationship between desire, thought, and personal fulfillment. With a reflective tone, Dr. Troy engages the audience in a conversation that challenges conventional perceptions of fantasizing and arousal, presenting them as inherent aspects of human nature that drive our actions and emotions. He suggests that by understanding and contemplating these urges, one can attain a deeper sense of peace and enlightenment. Dr. Troy emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between beneficial and harmful desires. Touching on spiritual ideologies and the concept of letting go, he urges listeners to question their thoughts and contemplate them to unearth underlying truths. By rejecting negative fantasies and understanding the nature of arousal, individuals can move towards a state of inner tranquility. Dr. Troy's message is clear: to experience true joy and contentment, one must transcend the superficial allure of desires and uncover the boundless possibilities of a mind liberated from illusions.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
You're listening to doctor Troy Munson's words of radiance. Now
here is doctor Munson. Hello and welcome. I'm doctor Troy.
The hardest thing, Oh my gosh, it's so hard. This
is going to be so difficult. Oh it's really hard
to do that. These are comments and things that I'll
(00:26):
hear from exasperated people, and we'll say it that way,
and ultimately, when I hear it, I keep thinking, why
would we want to make something more difficult? Why does
it have to be more difficult? Why is it even hard?
Why do we even label it that way? And I
think part of it is we really don't want to
do it, or we don't want to possibly have the
(00:48):
responsibility that it takes to do something, and so if
we fail, we've actually given ourselves the out by saying
in the beginning that it's going to be so hard,
so that when it doesn't happen, we don't feel so
bad about it. But I think about some of the
quote unquote more difficult things that I've done, or at
least that that I thought was hard. When I look
(01:09):
at it directly, I think, nah, it wasn't hard at all.
It simply was the same amount of time I would
have done anything, even here doing a podcast. Some people
out there might think, oh, I could never do a podcast.
That's way too hard. No, it's simply discussing and talking
about something that you're passionate about, or that you like,
or that you have a lot of knowledge about. And ultimately,
(01:32):
it's simply whether or not we're driven to do exactly
what we're doing. And I would call that a leading.
And if we're led to do something, it often becomes
just simply effortless. Now, let's say that I'm supposed to
move a bunch of heavy bricks from one side of
my yard to the other side of the yard, or
(01:52):
maybe I'm supposed to carry them. Ah. To give you
an example, my neighbor was unloading a bunch of sixteen
foot two by four two by sixes and I thought
he does not need to be doing that all by himself.
There had to be one hundred there. I'm sure they
weigh twenty twenty five, thirty thirty five pounds a piece,
depending on how much water they had. And when I
(02:12):
went over and started helping him, was like, oh my gosh,
you don't have to I said, your wife is not
going to be trying to help you do this. That
is just not okay. Let us do this. We are strong,
we can do this. And I can tell you by
the time I was done, my hands were definitely burning.
My forearms were probably like road maps. Now. Did I
(02:33):
look at it and say, oh my gosh, this is
too hard, I can't do it. No, you just start
doing and you just find that eventually you get done.
Did I want to stop halfway through? Yes? I did.
Did I tell my hands you're not going to stop.
You're going to complete even though you may not want to. Yes.
(02:53):
So we can make things more difficult by saying, oh
my gosh, this is really hard. But the whole time
that we did, we just simply did it. We didn't
talk about how heavy. We might have said, hey, that
one was especially heavy. I noticed it must have been
much more water logged than the last one. So can
we just calm our head and simply do I think
(03:17):
about some of the mental stuff. Let's say that you
have to go to court or be in front of
some scary, supposedly scary individual, and your mind is now
racing the entire time for the day before, the week before,
the month before. Whoever knows and it creates this massive
block or unscalable wall or seemingly impossible insurmountable wall that
(03:43):
you've got to go around that's just going to be
so difficult. Did that help you or did that hurt you?
Did it make it easier or make it more stressful?
And could we simply wipe it away and say, you
know what, when I get there, I guess I'll experience
whatever it is that I have to do, and I
will do it even though I may not want to.
(04:05):
It isn't a big deal. I don't have to go
through all this suffering, though many of us will do it,
and we will think way too much about it. Maybe
it's a difficult conversation coming up with a coworker or
a spouse or a child or a friend or who knows,
and you're like, oh, I don't want to have this conversation.
(04:26):
It's going to be awful. Well, now you're creating more
issues with the conversation than what is necessary. I cannot
tell you how many times that I have coached people
through this. I said, hey, can you just maybe for
a moment, have an open mind set about it? Could you?
I'm not asking you to, could you and they're like, yeah,
(04:46):
I suppose I could. Great, that's a beginning point. Let
us just open our mind to possibility rather than to
try to direct whatever awful thing happens. And I know
you've done that. You have actually sat down in thought
or worried or fretted over something that was going to
happen in your life, and then when you got there,
(05:07):
it wasn't nearly as bad, or it may have been
just as awful but in a different way, and none
of your mental prep did anything. Now, on a very
rare occasion, my mental prep will actually do something. But
I find the times that it is actually vital and
it is helpful is when I simply let it all
go and said I wonder what will happen, and then
(05:30):
all of these things come to mind, and say, okay,
well those are a bit disconcerting, but I'm still going
to go through with it, and I don't really care
if that's as bad as it is or if something
different happens. I release it and then I move on
about my day without a care. Now, that takes practice,
my friend. But if you're like, man, I wish I
could do that, it will not happen until you practice
(05:52):
when there is no storm. So please check out my
prior podcast on sailing in a storm. It was a
while ago, And so we don't want to practice in
the midst of a storm. I don't want to be
on a sailboat for the first time in a hurricane, wondering, Hey,
how do you rig this? Hey, what's the best angle
of attack for the sale here? How should I have
(06:14):
the rudder? No, my friend, I do not want to
be in a hurricane and start asking those kinds of questions.
I want to be well practiced, and I want to
then allow that innate, beautiful intuition, that holy spirit driven idea,
that that beautiful self of us that is always there
trying to help us, that presence of God, whatever you
(06:36):
want to call it, that is what we want to
be at the forefront of our mind, directing us in
all ways, and then not judging the outcome. Perhaps the
person in front of you needed to quote unquote win
or get the last word in, or you know, whatever
they needed to do, or maybe somebody needed to have
(06:58):
something happened on their side, and you need to like
not necessarily win. Is that okay? No, says my little ego. Well,
I'm here to tell you that if you listen to it,
you're going to be continuously unhappy. As I've talked to
another podcast, what makes the ego unhappy two things, getting
what it wants and not getting what it wants. So,
(07:21):
if you've realized that nothing will ever make your ego happy,
it might be for a very slight period of time.
Just give it a few minutes, maybe an hour a day,
and it will be unhappy again, So you don't have
to wait too long. But if we stop listening to
that little voice in our head and realize that I
(07:42):
could be at peace, and I could actually walk through
life quite lovely by choice, and even if something looks
quote unquote not so pleasant, hang in there. You may
find that it radically shift and turn around, and then
all of a sudden you think, ah, I knew it
would work out. I can have that kind of faith
(08:02):
and it would be wonderful. So let us pull back
from making things more difficult, more hard by speaking them
out and demanding that they be hard or that they
be difficult. Let us not add extra pressure life as
complicated as it is enough, we can actually let it
all go and row through life with such an effortless ease, merrily, merrily,
(08:28):
merrily down the stream until next time, I'm doctor Troy,
and remember you have nothing to do, only something to see.
You're listening to doctor Troy Munson's words of radiance. Now
here is doctor Munson. Hello and welcome. I'm doctor Troy.
The hardest thing, Oh my gosh, it's so hard. This
is going to be so difficult. Oh it's really hard
to do that. These are comments and things that I'll
(00:26):
hear from exasperated people, and we'll say it that way,
and ultimately, when I hear it, I keep thinking, why
would we want to make something more difficult? Why does
it have to be more difficult? Why is it even hard?
Why do we even label it that way? And I
think part of it is we really don't want to
do it, or we don't want to possibly have the
(00:48):
responsibility that it takes to do something, and so if
we fail, we've actually given ourselves the out by saying
in the beginning that it's going to be so hard,
so that when it doesn't happen, we don't feel so
bad about it. But I think about some of the
quote unquote more difficult things that I've done, or at
least that that I thought was hard. When I look
(01:09):
at it directly, I think, nah, it wasn't hard at all.
It simply was the same amount of time I would
have done anything, even here doing a podcast. Some people
out there might think, oh, I could never do a podcast.
That's way too hard. No, it's simply discussing and talking
about something that you're passionate about, or that you like,
or that you have a lot of knowledge about. And ultimately,
(01:32):
it's simply whether or not we're driven to do exactly
what we're doing. And I would call that a leading.
And if we're led to do something, it often becomes
just simply effortless. Now, let's say that I'm supposed to
move a bunch of heavy bricks from one side of
my yard to the other side of the yard, or
(01:52):
maybe I'm supposed to carry them. Ah. To give you
an example, my neighbor was unloading a bunch of sixteen
foot two by four two by sixes and I thought
he does not need to be doing that all by himself.
There had to be one hundred there. I'm sure they
weigh twenty twenty five, thirty thirty five pounds a piece,
depending on how much water they had. And when I
(02:12):
went over and started helping him, was like, oh my gosh,
you don't have to I said, your wife is not
going to be trying to help you do this. That
is just not okay. Let us do this. We are strong,
we can do this. And I can tell you by
the time I was done, my hands were definitely burning.
My forearms were probably like road maps. Now. Did I
(02:33):
look at it and say, oh my gosh, this is
too hard, I can't do it. No, you just start
doing and you just find that eventually you get done.
Did I want to stop halfway through? Yes? I did.
Did I tell my hands you're not going to stop.
You're going to complete even though you may not want to. Yes.
(02:53):
So we can make things more difficult by saying, oh
my gosh, this is really hard. But the whole time
that we did, we just simply did it. We didn't
talk about how heavy. We might have said, hey, that
one was especially heavy. I noticed it must have been
much more water logged than the last one. So can
we just calm our head and simply do I think
(03:17):
about some of the mental stuff. Let's say that you
have to go to court or be in front of
some scary, supposedly scary individual, and your mind is now
racing the entire time for the day before, the week before,
the month before. Whoever knows and it creates this massive
block or unscalable wall or seemingly impossible insurmountable wall that
(03:43):
you've got to go around that's just going to be
so difficult. Did that help you or did that hurt you?
Did it make it easier or make it more stressful?
And could we simply wipe it away and say, you
know what, when I get there, I guess I'll experience
whatever it is that I have to do, and I
will do it even though I may not want to.
(04:05):
It isn't a big deal. I don't have to go
through all this suffering, though many of us will do it,
and we will think way too much about it. Maybe
it's a difficult conversation coming up with a coworker or
a spouse or a child or a friend or who knows,
and you're like, oh, I don't want to have this conversation.
(04:26):
It's going to be awful. Well, now you're creating more
issues with the conversation than what is necessary. I cannot
tell you how many times that I have coached people
through this. I said, hey, can you just maybe for
a moment, have an open mind set about it? Could you?
I'm not asking you to, could you and they're like, yeah,
(04:46):
I suppose I could. Great, that's a beginning point. Let
us just open our mind to possibility rather than to
try to direct whatever awful thing happens. And I know
you've done that. You have actually sat down in thought
or worried or fretted over something that was going to
happen in your life, and then when you got there,
(05:07):
it wasn't nearly as bad, or it may have been
just as awful but in a different way, and none
of your mental prep did anything. Now, on a very
rare occasion, my mental prep will actually do something. But
I find the times that it is actually vital and
it is helpful is when I simply let it all
go and said I wonder what will happen, and then
(05:30):
all of these things come to mind, and say, okay,
well those are a bit disconcerting, but I'm still going
to go through with it, and I don't really care
if that's as bad as it is or if something
different happens. I release it and then I move on
about my day without a care. Now, that takes practice,
my friend. But if you're like, man, I wish I
could do that, it will not happen until you practice
(05:52):
when there is no storm. So please check out my
prior podcast on sailing in a storm. It was a
while ago, And so we don't want to practice in
the midst of a storm. I don't want to be
on a sailboat for the first time in a hurricane, wondering, Hey,
how do you rig this? Hey, what's the best angle
of attack for the sale here? How should I have
(06:14):
the rudder? No, my friend, I do not want to
be in a hurricane and start asking those kinds of questions.
I want to be well practiced, and I want to
then allow that innate, beautiful intuition, that holy spirit driven idea,
that that beautiful self of us that is always there
trying to help us, that presence of God, whatever you
(06:36):
want to call it, that is what we want to
be at the forefront of our mind, directing us in
all ways, and then not judging the outcome. Perhaps the
person in front of you needed to quote unquote win
or get the last word in, or you know, whatever
they needed to do, or maybe somebody needed to have
(06:58):
something happened on their side, and you need to like
not necessarily win. Is that okay? No, says my little ego. Well,
I'm here to tell you that if you listen to it,
you're going to be continuously unhappy. As I've talked to
another podcast, what makes the ego unhappy two things, getting
what it wants and not getting what it wants. So,
(07:21):
if you've realized that nothing will ever make your ego happy,
it might be for a very slight period of time.
Just give it a few minutes, maybe an hour a day,
and it will be unhappy again, So you don't have
to wait too long. But if we stop listening to
that little voice in our head and realize that I
(07:42):
could be at peace, and I could actually walk through
life quite lovely by choice, and even if something looks
quote unquote not so pleasant, hang in there. You may
find that it radically shift and turn around, and then
all of a sudden you think, ah, I knew it
would work out. I can have that kind of faith
(08:02):
and it would be wonderful. So let us pull back
from making things more difficult, more hard by speaking them
out and demanding that they be hard or that they
be difficult. Let us not add extra pressure life as
complicated as it is enough, we can actually let it
all go and row through life with such an effortless ease, merrily, merrily,
(08:28):
merrily down the stream until next time, I'm doctor Troy,
and remember you have nothing to do, only something to see.
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