97. Algún Día lo Entenderás: Crecimiento y Madurez | Audioblog de Andrea

En este episodio, Andrea profundiza en el significado del conocido dicho "Algún día lo entenderás" y cómo ha marcado su viaje personal hacia la madurez y el autoconocimiento. 
Desde las lecciones de vida compartidas por los padres hasta las experiencias en la escuela y las relaciones interpersonales, Andrea comparte cómo cada momento ha contribuido a su crecimiento y desarrollo como adulto independiente.
Puntos destacados:

• Exploración del cambio de perspectiva y los logros desbloqueados en la vida adulta.
• Reflexiones sobre las cosas que parecían incomprensibles en el pasado y cómo han cobrado sentido con el tiempo.
• Importancia de contar con personas que comprendan y apoyen en el camino hacia el entendimiento.
• Consideraciones sobre las lecciones que aún quedan por aprender y los desafíos futuros que enfrentar.

Únete a Andrea en este episodio revelador mientras reflexiona sobre su propia experiencia con el dicho "Algún día lo entenderás" y cómo ha influenciado su camino hacia la madurez y el crecimiento personal.

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Episode Transcript

(00:02):
Hello everyone welcome to a new episodeof the impact club. I am Andrea
Palacio today with a very thoughtful mood, because when you are not true and
I want you to allow me inthis episode to accompany you to whatever it
is that you are doing today,if you are cleaning your house, if

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you are doing exercises, if youare driving, if you are transporting anything
or activity that you are doing rightnow, let me accompany you. I
hope today' s ideas resonate withyou and I also invite you to take
the time to prepare a drink soyou can sit here with me. If
you' re in hot Mexico,either a cold drink or on the coasts

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of the United States too, butif you' re in other parts of
the United States or in cold Canada, we still don' t have the
hot weather we' re waiting for. In fact, it is a rainy
day, today, because it accompaniesme with a hot drink, and today
to discuss this famous saying or,this famous phrase that we were so told

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when we were children, when wewere teenagers, and that the truth was
quite hateful one day. You'll understand, well, because the truth
is that many times this phrase wasused when people who seemed to have more
experience than us in life, ourparents, our teachers, our older brothers,

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they all told us that when theyreally wanted to shut us up,
no, when they didn' thave anywhere to give the discussion and it
was just a way to close thecomplication and say well, you' re
going to understand it one day.Today you don' t understand just run
the things I' m telling you. Not then, good. In my
experience it was not a very nicephrase to listen to and it has resonated

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throughout my life, throughout surely yourlife as well and and I hear,
as an independent of a functional adult, I want to think I have started
to understand many more of these things. If I' m honest with you
in the last two years, almostthree years of my life, but particularly
recently, in the last few weeks, this idea began to look different from

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what it looks like as a becauseI don' t know like a whirlwind.
Little by little it settled down andtoday I can understand several of those
things that they told me that oneday I would understand and that I want
to share today and above all,we will hear the word perspective in this
episode, because it seems to methat that is the experiences that we are

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gaining, the lessons that we arelearning, the path that we are going
through. A lot of gerund inthis sentence, because it is leading us
to change the perspective, it isleading us to put on other glasses with
which to look at the world.So, well, I want to share

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some past experiences in my life whereI was told that one day I would
understand and how I felt at thattime. No, as I mentioned,
it' s a moment, becausethis usually comes from our parents. I
don' t think in my caseI did have a lot of resistance because
and in fact I understand them,because I' m also an older sister

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and when my younger brother, whotook him six years, has gone through
things that I' ve already beenthrough. Yeah, yeah, from another
level, I mean, hey,don' t go out there, over
there, don' t do it. It' s so easy if you
go left, but to strength youwant to go right. No, and
it' s like no. No, no, I mean, you want
to take care of them from love, you want to take care of them

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from your experience, from knowing thatthe path they want to take is not
going to suit them. And you' d like to save them, either
pain or time or whatever. Butwhen I put myself back in the role
of daughter, when I was atthat crossroads I was told go to the
right and I said, but Iwant to go to the left? But

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why can' t I go left? Not because it' s going to
happen to B C B. Butdon' t let it happen, I
' ll learn I want to goleft and if it' s true what
I' m told, then eventuallyI' ll go right. That'
s basically how I just wrote youmy teenage years. But above all I
say there are things like very obviousthat we can mention, like saving,

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responsibility. But, for example,something that I do in fact is a
bit controversial, the issue of theimportance of studying and getting good grades.
I know and have been in conversationswith people who firmly believe that it is
not necessary to study, because ina traditional educational system to succeed in life,

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for them I want to say thatI agree 100% with what they
are saying. It seems to methat it depends on many things, it
depends on your learning style, itdepends on the social structure in which you
find yourself. I can tell youtoday that living in it and seeing because
I haven' t experienced well,I didn' t experience growing up in

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this country where I live and Canada. I grew up in Mexico and did
study something here in Canada, butI don' t think it gives me
enough experience to think about it.But I realize that in this country definitely
not necessarily studying a career or graduateschool guarantees you nothing and, in fact,

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you can actually make your life inmany ways and you can get ahead
and you can live super well withouthaving studied a career cut data coming to
Canada. Truth is good and itseems to me that in my personal experience
of what I lived in Mexico,yes, those beliefs, they opened certain

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doors for you and so it works. It seems to me that in the
United States it is also a hybrid. And I want to talk about America
because it' s the second countrywhere they hear us most on the tables,
in the analytics that the podcast shows. Greetings to all of you.
Then you will tell me, writeto me and tell me all our listeners
from America how it works now.But it seems to me that it also

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depends on the social structure and everything. But coming back to the subject,
I didn' t understand why Ihad to get good grades, why I
had to learn something I wasn't interested in. That famous phrase of
another day without having applied the perfectbinombio square another day of my life,
being used. Well, I seeit differently today. I' m not

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going to get that far between thebranches, but I think it' s
something I definitely didn' t understand. Another thing that definitely took me by
surprise and that I wasn' texpecting was the issue of running a house,
that of genuinely reading your habits andhygiene. Well, on the subject

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of personal hygiene, that is,of my person, I' ve never
had any kind of resistance. Ilove being hygienic for those who had the
Buddha. But in general, Ido have to confess that I' m
a little messy, I' mnot sucial, I mean the woman,
I can' t stand her.But I do have to confess that if
things are half messy, I mean, if I' m going to pile

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up a pile of clothes, don' t mind? I mean, it
doesn' t bother me In myeyes, it doesn' t bother me,
but yes, and well, thatreflected when I lived at my parents
' house, in my room itwas a constant struggle. But today I
' m running my house, becauseit' s different. True, I
remember above all that my mother wasvery angry because she said that when I

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went into the kitchen, I leftleaving, as well as whirlwind, all
the doors of the open cupboard,that if I used a door or left
it open, then when she enteredthe kitchen. Because when I lived there,
I was leaving the house before anyonefound all the doors open and bothered
him a lot. And today Irealize in my own house that, in

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fact, I didn' t realizebecause when I returned to my parents'
house, the doors were already closedbecause I lived with other people. Today
the doors don' t close.They magically stay open today. The pile
of clothes. There' s noone to tell me to pick up that

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pile of clothes. It' sbuilding up. It' s building up.
There are many things that even embarrassme a little. Yes, I
should be able to share here as, for example, something as simple as
that in my house, and ina traditional Mexican house there was always water
of taste, of many flavors,of Guaya, Va, of Limón,

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of Jamaica, of horchata, butabove all the one that I knew most
and during many years of my childhoodthere was water of Jamaica. It was
the one you were. I couldsay that eighty- eighty- five percent
of my childhood, always every dayin my house had been Jamaican and I
didn' t understand why we couldn' t change our flavor. I didn
' t get it and it botheredme a lot. It said because it

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' s always in Jamaican water.Today, Andrea adult, eighty percent of
her life has Jamaican water. Why. Because I like flavored water and why
because jamaica is something very easy todo. It lasts a long time,
you do it once and it lastsfor several days. Of course today I
understand the importance of certain things thatthey did not understand before, not especially

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in the matter of carrying in ahouse. What a beating uff gave me
my life when I started to runmy own house because, indeed, I
didn' t know and good Icould tell you that I don' t
even know some things yet. I' m learning them on the way not
to do the super all that.Another thing I didn' t understand,
with which I fought the issue ofpermits. My parents were very strict with

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me in the sense of what timeI was arriving when I was leaving,
to sleep at someone' s houseI don' t know about leaving like
a short trip to someone' shouse. All that was very strict with
me and today I see it sodifferent. How I really suffered a lot.

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I suffered a lot from the issueof permits. I felt that I
could do nothing, I felt thatI was different from my colleagues and today
I see it differently. I reallythink I have the ability to put myself
in his shoes and even I'm not a mom today, but I
don' t know. I don' t know if at some point,

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I mean, I' d letgo, I mean, I' d
become too permissive and let my kidsdo everything they didn' t let me
do. I really don' tknow. I have a slight feeling that
I' m going to become myparents, because my perspective has changed so
much. I don' t thinkI had, I didn' t have

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that experience, but I didn't have bad experiences, I mean,
never. I was never at risk, I didn' t have a risky
situation in which my parents or I, because clearly at the ages I wanted
to do that I didn' thave the maturity. But I didn'
t put myself at risk. Inever had, neither my parents nor I

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lost control of my physical or emotionalsecurity. So today I see it and
I say well, I mean,in the end I didn' t live
that, but I didn' tlive many other things, too. I
don' t know. I mean, I think it might be different for
each person, but at least itis. It' s been my experience.
Another one I had a big fightwith on the subject of makeup.

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They wouldn' t let me makeup. They wouldn' t let me.
Until I was fifteen, I wasangry and today I think it makes
sense. In fact, I don' t usually wear a lot of makeup.
There are a lot of things myparents wouldn' t let me do
that I still don' t dotoday. For example, today is not
that I leave until the early hoursof the morning. In fact, I

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got used to not getting out somuch that not today, honestly, if
I go out I' m oneat two in my house, I'
m well served and I don't make it today. I almost made
myself up super little. I don' t need it I never became a

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make- up fan. I feelsuper comfortable with who I am. So,
then, and I' m goingto do a good thing too that
validated to that the theme that whenI was a teenager I felt ugly duckling
and that in fact, came outthe Disney series of ugly duckling channel where
she wore Bracketts, wore glasses.She was güerita. Well, just like

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that, I mean, if youthink of me when I' m fourteen,
think of ugly duckling. I wasugly duckling and I also said good,
because I see all these girls andguys so handsome and so beautiful and
I don' t look like that, I mean, why? Because I
look younger, I feel more girls. I always felt different and today I
can say that it also has alot to do with all of this that

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I' m telling you that Iwas a child as very careful and well,
that is, today, years later, I think I did take a
long time in Muland' s analogyof the movie Mula, I took a
long time to bloom, but inthe end I did and I think with
a huge pride of the way Idid it. And I also think that
one thing I see differently is therelationship with my parents. My mom was

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always a working mom, she's always had her projects and I don
' t remember promptly resenting that,as well as me saying ay why my
parents always work. However, especiallythe whole thing with my mom today I

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see it so different. I mean, today I' m saying how this
woman did to her, that is, how she did to do everything she
did to have two children. Imean, I had a job all the
time, my mom, I hada job, but then she came after
us and started her other job.I mean, his whole day was dedicated.

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I mean, I didn' thave a space for her, but
that was her dream. I mean, his dream was to build something and
he did it, but he tookresponsibility for being a mother and went out
to work. And the moment hewent out to work and came by my
grandmother' s house, it wasto start his work, to get started,

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to study, to get in,to bathe that cardboard, that all
that, that is, the secondpart of his day was completely dedicated to
us and I say it and Isee it and I say it and I
say how I mean poor woman Imean, thank you, mom well.
And that' s also things Iwas told one day. You' ll

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understand, For example, my momWell, my parents in general, they
always told me about finding a couplewhere they found someone who had the same
values as me, not that Iwas the band' s guitarist, not
that I was more handsome, notthat I was, they didn' t
say that, but they always toldme the most, more, more,
more important, that they had thesame values as you. And it took

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me a few years to figure thatout. Not good. These were some
examples of things that I didn't understand and that I was told one
day. You' ll understand,but I also want to talk about something
very, very, very important,and it' s the importance of that
person in your life when you're living, because at that moment,

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when you' re at that moment, it' s impossible and it'
s nefarious to be told one dayyou' ll understand. Today, years
later, we can turn around andsay," Oh, yes, I
understand" They were right, butat the time, how important it is
to have someone close to tell youI understand you, I understand what you
' re living for, I don' t understand why you want to do

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it. And there' s theimportance of what for me was the cool
guy or the cool aunt that maybe, they were a little younger and they
saw the situations and they said Iunderstand you or I understand, that you
want to do it, and thatthey took the time to empathize with you
and make you feel like you're not crazy or crazy for wanting what

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you wanted and not you. Theydidn' t impose anything on you,
they just served as support. Ithink it' s super important. I
try to do that, because fromthe older sister, I try to do
that with people who are somehow youngerthan me and who try to mentor when
I can. So I think thoseexperiences, among what the people who understood

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at that time for what I wasgoing through, have shaped my perspective and,
in general, my understanding of life. Now that I' ve grown
as I' ve grown. NowI want to tell you some things that
I understand, that I assume andthat I say ok, yes, today
I understand with the issue of independence. I think I' ve learned a

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lot. The issue of self-regulation. Speaking of the finance issue,
on the emotional issue, I mean, I think structures do a lot for
me. I think knowing you cancount on yourself, on yourself to solve.
But also, because what does notmean, it involves the you becoming
your own parents, which we talkedabout a few weeks ago in the episode

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with psychologist Abigail Ordonez about the woundsof childhood, which comes to a point
where you yourself, yourself, haveto be that voice, which is this
voice as a parent, because totake care of you of your physical aspects,
of your emotional aspects, of yourspaces, of your finances, that

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is, all that. It seemsto me that today I understand it more
and more and when I have conversationswith my parents that have changed enough,
as we see each other from amore egalitarian level. Not that they accept
and respect my independence. Then Ieven get comments like you' re a

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housewife, you' re already ahousewife. Not because my talks have already
passed from being what they could havebeen, so party concerts. I don
' t know activities. I can' t even mention some of adolescence.
I bought the new bumper or,uh, the new vacuum cleaner and I

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don' t know how to getthe stain out of here. The other
day I was telling my parents thatI' m looking for the best linen
cloth, because I bought several sheetsand I don' t like them.
No, and my mom told meto try the costcos ones were really good
for me. But I mean,those are starting to do our gentlemen'

(19:44):
s talks. But just now,I kind of understand a number of things.
Now I understand, now I turnaround and understand my parents, I
understand very much the ladies who helpedus in the house when I was a
child, I beg you how Iunderstand them in the cause I suffer with

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the house cleaning issue. And untilthat I turn to see and I say
oh like, because I wasn't grateful enough to them, to my
parents, to my teachers, butwell, right now they didn' t
have the tools. Not today Isee it different on the subject of professional
career, wow, this has beena revelation. Honestly, I mean,

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I think throughout life, because Idon' t know, we all have
dreams and I can think of eventhe first day of my college career where
they told us, they asked usall to tell us why we were in
that career, which was communication andwhat we wanted to become, because I
heard a lot of movie directors,photographers, commentators, sportsmen, screenwriters.

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I heard a lot of those.And I mean, I' m going
to say this and I promise Idon' t say it with any judgment,
but today I turn to see mycolleagues and they' re very few,
I mean, really very few.I mean, actually, I'
m thinking. I think I've got leftover fingers of one hand and

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I can say that they' rededicated to something they said they were going
to be dedicated to, or eventhat it has to do with our career,
because life happens and that happens notthen and it' s not bad.
There are times when we genuinely havesome motivation, because momentarily, but
there are times when the economic partreally weighs more or we want to have

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a certain lifestyle, we want tostart having value other things than before,
and not to say that something someoneor something is more or less because we
have made certain decisions. That's just the way life is, that
' s the way adulthood is,and this idea that we were all going

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to dedicate ourselves to what we wantedand what our past was is not necessarily
true, but it' s notnecessarily wrong either. I believe that those
who are engaged in what they trulywant have an important perseverance and are at
a different stage. I mean,I think they' re really focused and

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focused on what they want. Andbecause there' s not necessarily room for
other things is a priority in yourlife and priorities are getting better and better.
Then I think that the subject ofprofessional career is also being modified with

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adulthood. But I think one ofthe most important things that I now understand
is the importance of family relationships andhow you appreciated today the teachings and values
conveyed by my parents, by mygrandparents, especially how I appreciate my grandparents.
I think that' s also somethingthat' s changing. Not the

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typical one. I' m talkingto your grandmother. I' ll give
you the phone to say hello orgood. Today I volunteer to talk to
my grandmothers and start changing. NowI understand the importance of that. Now
I understand the importance of family.Now I understand the importance of having him
around. Now I understand that theyare people who are going to be there,

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who are your clan and that Iknow that there are many people who,
unfortunately, their family experiences have notbeen positive and who are looking for
an oasis in a chosen family.Well, I also understand today that there
are different types of family, thatthere are different types of values, but

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that having relationships that nourish us isextremely important and even knowing our own history.
The last time I went to Mexico, who talks to my grandparents who
live, I asked them about theirgrandparents, about their parents, and it
interests me. I' m veryinterested in knowing about my own story and

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how we got to where we gotto, how they met, what are
the components that make up, becausewho I am not and recently someone told
me a compliment that well, itwasn' t really for me, it
was for my parents who told mehow well they educated you. I didn
' t know how to get that, but I think I should pass it

(24:36):
on to my parents, because itwas more of their job. And today
I feel like I' ve becomemy parents things that I' ve never
said before, ever, ever.And that' s a feeling that I
' ve talked to several people thatwe all have as much as you want
or do totally the opposite, oryou become the same as them. Now
I want to talk to you aboutthings I haven' t been told and

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now I understand number one. Beinga woman in this society, I wasn
' t told in life. Beinga woman makes you different or being a
woman is going to cause you troubleor it' s going to limit you
somehow. I didn' t getthat filter, but today I realize that,
outside my world, the circle Igrew up with, the world doesn
' t work, and being awoman in this society is still different,

(25:26):
it still means things. It tookme by surprise because, indeed, I
wasn' t told, they didn' t put it on the chip and
I realize what certain things mean thatthe world might be my brain. I
think he' s advanced in somethings, in some ideas, but I
realize there' s still a lotof machismo and there' s still a

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lot of inequity. It' sthe right word, well, there'
s no equity, the negative ofequity, and that' s a problem
that I wasn' t told.Another thing they didn' t tell me
that I understand now is just thatnot everyone gets to fulfill their dreams.

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Another thing I was not told thatI now understand is the importance of mental
health and emotional health. I don' t think I was told textually,
but because it wasn' t oursa few years ago either. The generations
ahead of us knew. Hey,I think it' s a while from

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here that it' s taken somuch strength and that taste and that'
s good. Okay. Those aresome things that I' m not told
I understand now. And I finallywant to talk to you about some futures,
my futures. Someday you will understand, because I still don' t
understand it and I hope someday tounderstand it as I always think it,

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as well as levels of adultity unlockedor blocked. Well, these are the
ones that I still have blocked andso, how am I preparing to face
these challenges? First of all,I can' t believe I' m
gonna say this how rough I am. The thing about motherhood is that my
son, my daughters, I tellyou, I' m going to be

(27:15):
thirty now and it' s true. That biological clock thing is you start
thinking, you start counting. Okay, I mean, I do or I
don' t want to, andif I do, how long and how
healthy and how many I want,then how much it has to be used.
You start doing your math and yousay there. There' s already,
I mean it doesn' t geturgent, but it' s important.
But, well, the thing aboutmotherhood makes me wonder if I would

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do the same thing as my parentswhen I' m a mom or not.
I don' t know how Istill don' t get it.
How that works seems to me tobe a level of adulthood that is supreme,
not only to be your own fatherand mothers, but also to be

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the father or mother of another humanbeing and to fill his head with the
ideas that you think are correct.I don' t think I know,
I don' t even have wordsto write. And another thing I still
can' t understand is how myparents did everything, that is, how

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they did it. Today I appreciateit more, I appreciate it very much,
but I can' t yet.I don' t understand it yet
I don' t have the toolsto understand everything that happens behind paternal or
maternal love. But wow and Iappreciate it so much another one one day,

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someday you' ll understand that Istill don' t understand. It
has to do with marriage because Ibelieve that today I am the most formal
relationship I have ever been in mylife and that in fact it is lived
as a marriage. I believe,because we live together in many ways.
But wow I mean, yeah,it' s something different and so many

(29:06):
things that many people said is thatit' s difficult and it' s
challenging and I don' t knowwhat. Blah, blah, blah,
that said good, but why.I don' t understand I still don
' t understand. I still don' t get it, but there'
s bums. But it' sa level not unlocked yet that we'
ll see, we' ll see. I don' t want to say
anything, because I don' tknow if he' s listening to us,

(29:29):
so I don' t want to. But then you do, me,
let' s hope you' rewhat soon. Okay. Another is
the balance of life. I stilldon' t understand. How is it
that we are supposed to manage ourlife in terms of balance, that is,
we want to pursue our passion,our professional career, but at the

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same time we want to grow personally. I still don' t understand this
balance and so I' m startingto realize it in the adult world,
because in reality you can only reallyfocus on one or two things maximum.
I mean, that' s whatI did during my childhood of adolescence,

(30:10):
of being enrolled in thirty million thingsand wanting to do everything right. I
mean, I think the things thatyou start to leave, that start to
develop in your life are the mostimportant and you can focus on then.
I mean, I think you cansay yes that you were at different times
in your expert or expert life oryou developed something, but not everything at

(30:34):
the same time or in general.I think, I mean, I'
m starting, please note that thisis what I don' t know yet.
I mean, if you know,you tell me, but it gives
me the impression that you can onlydevelop in general into one or maximum two
things in your life. But you' ll tell me. That' s

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something I still don' t understand. Another thing I hope to understand one
day is the theme of spirituality,slash religion. I haven' t figured
it out yet. In fact,I think I' m young enough to
have my mind figured out. I' m very open not yet because if
I' m very honest with you, it' s not my priority right
now. If it is something Iconstantly try to exercise, something spiritual practice,

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but I still can' t saythat I know that there is a
truth and that I firmly believe inthat truth. Or that I promulgate it
or whatever, but I want tomean I want to, I want to
discover my spiritual path and I thinkthat another thing I hope to one day

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finally understand is how I love myselfor how I define myself, I mean,
rather, I think the most powerfulquestion is who I am. I
think it' s something that's being discovered, that' s going
to be written. I don't know if this is something I'
ll ever understand, I don't know if at the end of my
life, I don' t knowif it' s something I' ll

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never understand, that can only beseen as I pass to better life and
someone sees how I defined myself andeverything I did. I don' t
know, but well, I thinkthe perspective is changing us and it can
influence the way we focus on futurechallenges, because I' d love to
know what some are someday you'll understand that you had in your childhood,

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in your adolescence, what are somethings that you now understand? And
I' d also love to knowwhat things you expect someday to understand?
And what drives you to continue walkingon this path of constant lessons, constant
challenges and curiosity. I think curiosityis one of the values and one of

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the most important bases I live within my life and I love having that
curiosity awake. I' d lovefor you to have it too, because
you live the tastiest life. But, well, that' s all I
have for you today. They're just reflections that have been in my

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head and that I' d liketo share with you. I' ll
be glad to know what some ofyours are I' ll give you a
hug And we' ll hear youin the next chapter, Ho And you

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remember the impact you want to seein the world.