98. Herramienta para elegir bien a tu pareja | Audioblog de Andrea

En este episodio, Andrea se sumerge en el complejo mundo de las relaciones románticas. A través de sus propias vivencias y la aplicación del método FIA, nos ofrece una perspectiva única sobre cómo identificar las cualidades esenciales en una pareja potencial. 
Descubre junto a Andrea cómo tus experiencias pasadas y heridas de infancia pueden influir en tu elección de pareja, y aprende a diferenciar entre lo que es fundamental, importante y meramente accesorio en tu búsqueda del amor verdadero.
Puntos clave:

• Entender tus heridas pasadas: Cómo reconocer y sanar tus heridas de infancia para tomar decisiones amorosas más saludables.
• Identificar tus detonantes: Aprende a reconocer qué desencadena tus reacciones emocionales y cómo esto afecta tus relaciones.
• Definir lo esencial en una pareja: Descubre qué cualidades son imprescindibles, cuáles son importantes y cuáles son bonus en la búsqueda de tu pareja ideal.

Únete a Andrea en este viaje personal hacia el autoconocimiento y la búsqueda del amor genuino, y equípate con las herramientas necesarias para elegir bien a tu pareja.

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Episode Transcript

(00:02):
Ke leuke How you are welcome toa new episode of the impact club.
I' m filming this chapter froma completely different toronto than I recorded last
week. I think last week Itold them it was raining good. Today
it makes a truly unbearable galluron andit is interesting because you will also hear

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in my voice that I am verymormada and I still do not know if
I am getting sick or someone mentionedto me today that here, in Canada,
it is super common that when summerbegins to arrive there are seasonal allergies,
for pollen and for all those things. Never in my life had it
happened to me and I still don' t know which one it is but

(00:55):
I bear here morbid but here andI hope you won' t be able
to hear the fan that' shere in the office, because I'
m dying of heat. But welcometo an episode of the impact club.
I am Andrea Palacio today with atheme that, as you will have seen
in the title, we are goingto talk about love aha of love.

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And this topic is curious because inrecent conversations I have shared a tool that
helped me a lot to choose mycurrent partner, with whom I consider that
I have a super mature, superstable relationship, and which cost me a
lot, because finding I worked toomuch on myself and recently a person told

(01:42):
me you, how you knew thatthe person you are with today was your
person and I said good, becauseseveral things, and those are several things
that I want to talk to youtoday, because I don' t know
if it has been between that I' ve been talking to new people,
I' ve made new friendships,between that it was also my anniversary last

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week, that it has been asvery afloat this tool that I used to
choose my partner that I have today, with which I' m truly at
ease, that I' m happy, that I feel that I chose well
and curiously, when I shared thistool, it has been like a chain

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of reactions, as of a momentpeople reacts very much. Wow. Where
you learned that, how you knewthat. I have to think about mine.
Well, this tool that I'm going to share with you today
is that you are in search ofyour person you are in search of a
more mature, healthier relationship, arelationship that truly serves you and I mean

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the verb of serving, that servesyou in your personal growth, but that
you too are a point for theother person to have his personal development as
well. Well, this tool seemsto me to have changed my life,
completely changed my perspective. It wasextremely obvious to find the person because you

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know exactly what you' re lookingfor, you have clarity in what you
' re looking for. And,well, if you' re already in
a relationship, this can help youreaffirm that you' re with the right
person, or it can just putyou thinking and thinking yes, it'
s really the person or relationship you' re in today, the one that

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meets the different squares that I wouldhave to fulfill and I don' t
mean that chairs from a point ofvanity. As far as we are concerned,
it seems to me that yes,yes, there must be a demand,
but not an over- requirement withinbanal things. Well, this is

(03:57):
a tool that I' ve toldyou about and I' ve been covering
for about five years. They seemto me and to talk to you a
little bit more about how this toolgrew its potential within my life, how
it impacted into my life. Iwant to tell you a little bit about

(04:19):
my story, too. Well,I was ending an extremely toxic relationship and
when I got out of that relationship, I' ve told this story several
times already and I have several videos. I have documented this whole process of
heart brage, heart broken, inwhich it has been of the years that

(04:43):
I have grown the most in mylife, in the years in which I
have always developed the most, Well, not always, but I learned through
that experience that heart broken. Havingyour heart broken is one of the greatest
blessings that can happen to you,because that moment in your life when things
start to move in an incredible wayand that, if you know how to

(05:08):
get into the wave, you cantake advantage of it in an extremely gigantic
way. And I' m referringto this hard break, this broken heart.
There are many broken types of heartand there are ones that touch at
that moment is, therefore, toface it, is to feel it.
I mean particularly when you end aromantic relationship, when you had expectations set

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on a person in the future andyou realize that it will no longer happen,
when the ego is also hurt.It seems to me that when that
situation occurs you open up a spaceof opportunity for you immensely. That doesn
' t mean it' s easy. That doesn' t mean it'

(05:58):
s less painful. However, Iturn back to that time of my life
and even already healed, already onanother level, on another step. I
turn to see that stage in mylife even with nostalgia, even with affection,
I say wow. Wow. It' s Andrea from the past who
did everything she did, who happenedeverything that happened and built everything. That

(06:20):
I admire so much, truly.I admire her so much, and I
must confess to you something I haven' t said out loud, but I
' m going to confess it toyou so stay between us. Okay,
there are times when I miss thebroken heart energy. I don' t

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mean quiet. It doesn' tmean I want to have my heart broken,
but I remember a lot that atthat time I had so much energy,
I felt that I had nothing tolose. Suddenly, I had so
much time, I had so muchenergy and I wanted to get ahead.
And if I say this it won' t break me, it won'

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t throw me out that I'm going to turn this situation into light.
I remember that I said through me, my body, my spirit,
when this situation, which is asituation full of crap, everything I had
left of that relationship was just crap. And through me, what I'

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m going to do that crap isgoing to turn into light and that'
s exactly what I did, butbecause there was so much this feeling that
I' m going to fall intothe void or something' s going to
happen to me. If I don' t move, then all that energy
I used to start this podcast,to start doing so many things that I

(07:44):
' ve already told you on otheroccasions, but to run a race that
I' ve never run in mylife. I started making my bucket,
let me do my list of thingsthat I' d always wanted to do,
like venting to parachute so many thingsthat I did and sometimes weird.
I say how I generate that energyfrom the light, because I don'

(08:05):
t want to touch my heart againfor a while. But how I generate
that energy from the light, frompeace, from balance, from tranquility,
from health. Sometimes the comfortable point, sometimes I don' t know,
suddenly it' s too comfortable andit doesn' t drive us to move.

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I don' t think, Ithink they' re stages, but
well, putting me back in thattime where I was giving it all away
trying to get through, I rememberperfectly well that I said it didn'
t happen to me again. Idon' t choose wrong again. And
the reason I took responsibility for whatwas mys, which is I chose wrong

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why, because many people around mewho love me when that relationship ended told
me things like that not maybe,I didn' t deserve you. Or
what all your loved ones tell youabout me is a relationship that didn'
t value you. He' snever going to find anyone better than he

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is, we always hear no andI honestly what I thought was good.
He' ll be a person,a very, very, very, very
mature person. He never notices asuper immature person, a super healthy person,
he' ll never notice an injuredperson. So that means that if

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I chose this person, it meansthat I also have injuries, that I
am also injured, that I amnot super mature, because if for that
I felt that it reached me,then that means that if I don'
t work on me, I willnever find that person I want to find,

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I will have that beautiful relationship thatI want to have. And I
said or are going to happen oneof two things if I don' t
work on myself, that life isgoing to repeat this cycle to me again
and I don' t want togo back to that relationship. I really
don' t want or number twois that a completely similar relationship to the
one I have maybe with another person, with another face and with another body,

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with another name, is going tobe exactly the same and it'
s going to come back to meuntil I learn the lesson. So I
said this was so painful that I' m going to learn the lesson.
I don' t want to,I don' t want to repeat this.
Then I' m going to workon me, I' m going
to heal the wounds I have toheal, I' m going to rise

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from level to maturity, because Iwant to bring just someone who' s
at the same level of maturity thatI hope to be. Not then,
during all this internal work, accompaniedby my therapist, how blessed, whether
because I tried so many things formyself that helped me, but the reality

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is that what really healed me wasto be accompanied by a professional and I
am talking about my experience. Itdoesn' t necessarily have to be yours,
but that' s how it wasmine and accompanying me with an expert,
a professional to let me see whatthose areas I had to heal and

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make me see and light up thingsthat, maybe I wasn' t seeing.
It was extremely important and that's where I met that tool,
I knew so many tools and Iknew so much about me and I realized
that if I was looking for acouple that would give me the kind of

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relationship that I want and that,thank God, I have today, then
I had to do this that I' m going to share with you today.
The tool was called faith and faithand you grab pen and paper,
because what this trust tool is basedon is that we all have the right

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to choose the person we want withthe characteristics we want for each of us
and it is completely individual. Choosinga person who has certain characteristics, can
be physical, spiritual, mental,emotional, is important, but it will
be different for each of us.So, if at this moment I told

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you what are the most important characteristicsyou are looking for in a couple,
maybe you have them well distinguished,but maybe your first answer would be,
then, that it is a personwho studied, I don' t know
gastronomy or who exercises. Well,yeah, it' s important to you,

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but it' s really so important. Really if you know a person
who has values align with yours whotreats you well who has adequate mental health
and who takes care of their emotionsand who is has an education similar to
yours that sees the world the sameway you do, but does not exercise.

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You' re going to tell himno good, because that' s
what the trust tool is all about. The f means fundamental, the I
means important and the letter a meansaccessory and I will explain you. We

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all look for certain features in ourpartner when we' re in the rating
world, when we' re datingpeople. Yes, but it seems to
me that it is extremely important tobe clear what we want and that we
do want then inside the faith column, because we are going to divide it

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as three columns the FA where youare going to put all the fundamental requirements.
The one where you' re goingto put all the important requirements and
the one where you' re goingto put all the accessory requirements. To
talk to you about the fundamental column, I' m going to refer to
an episode we had a few weeksago, not many, I find four

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maximum, five back with one ofour guests, called Abigail Ordonez. She
is a psychotherapist where, step bystep, I explain to us what the
five childhood wounds are and if Iregret it, let me tell you that
we need to talk about this again. You can' t choose a couple

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if you don' t know whatyour own wounds are. I' ve
said it and I' m goingto keep repeating it over and over again
in this podcast. Emotional intelligence isknowing where your little ray is, where
your limit is, and what personyou become when you cross that line.
In other words, I mean,what are your wounds and what are your

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trigger buttons? OK, so farwe' re good. Well, in
the faith of faith, in themental foundation, in the fundamental characteristics that
we are going to seek in ourpartner, it must be yes or yes.
Our theme of childhood injury, thatis, if you have a childhood

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wound, which is, for example, you reject. You can' t,
no, you can' t bewith a person who rejects you.
OK and it' s not aboutgood. You' re gonna tell me
Andrea, but I mean, howI' m gonna be with a person

(16:00):
who rejects me, because if he' s already with me, then he
' s already with me. Notgood. I invite you to listen to
this episode if I haven' theard it, but for those of us
already here, then I' llsummarize it. Reject you inside the couple.
He can say he' s constantlycriticizing you, oh, he looks
super bad to you. Why youhave to do that, why you have
to be, why you have totalk all the time, why you can

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' t manage a little more,why you don' t study a career,
why you don' t have abetter job. All those criticisms are
either a way of rejecting or he' s telling the truth. I'
m not gonna introduce you to myfamily,' cause that' s too
bad. There are so many waysand it does exist. There is rejection
within the couple, more often thanyou might believe. Well, for example,

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if you have a rejection wound,what would you need from a couple,
because a person who sees you andaccepts you as you are is simple.
That' s fundamental now, forexample, if you have the abandonment
wound, if you had an episodeof abandonment in your childhood, in your

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childhood, or you have some woundthat has to do with abandonment, you
need a person that' s therefor you, that' s a person
that' s sure that there's going to be for you whatever happens
and that' s not going togo, okay also in the wound of
injustice that' s going to giveyou what you need whenever it' s

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going to give you what' sright, because that' s the definition
of justice, as I remember,giving everyone what' s right, because
that might sound, it may soundlike a little strange, but that'
s the definition, the definition ofjustice that I remember well, because that

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' s fundamental to know you andhow we' re going to know this.
Maybe, Andrea, I don't know which one I looked at
in childhood. Sounds too much,sounds too complicated. Okay, so,
what are your buttons, what areyour triggers? When you get into your
worst version, what, well they' re too capable, when you have
your worst version, when you becomeyour worst version, what it detonates.

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That' s because it' svery important first of all that you know
in, who you become when theypass your limit, your line, or
when you let them cross it.Rather, what' s your worst version
and what are the triggers that leadyou to become that person, because what
really happens is that you get intosurvival mode, you get hit by a

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button that wakes you up that wound, that trauma and you react in a
survival mode, as you did atthat time, what worked for you at
that time, what saved you atthat time, you try to replicate it
and there are times that just,for example, what Abigail Ordonez told us
in that episode is that, forexample, many times people who have the

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injury of humiliation suffer an episode andwhat makes them succeed there are times that
is humor. So, you maybe in a relationship where you constantly feel
that humiliation and you try, becauseI don' t know how to make
jokes about it, but maybe hurtfuljokes, jokes that aren' t really

(19:27):
funny. Or you' re ina relationship where they' re constantly rejecting
you, so what do you do? Well, you turn down first and
you say now I' m notgoing with you, now I don'
t want to anymore. Now Iknow you don' t talk to me
anymore and the law of ice.So, those are behaviors that, because
we all have childhood wounds. Andone thing that became clear to me during

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my process and also during the conversationwe had with Abigail, is that we
' re never going to make 100% perfect, we' re never going
to be 100% healed, becausethat' s impossible. We will always
have, because this memory, thisis now that like when you get intoxicated,
you eat something that falls heavy,that makes you an allergic reaction in

(20:18):
some way and that as much asat that time you take something that some
medicine calms your allergic reaction if atsome point you re- eat that,
small or large. Your body hasmemory. Then that whole alert system is
reactivated, as it more or lessworks like this. So what can we

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do, because simply be responsible.We are not going to heal a hundred
or ever be perfect, always perfectable, but we can take responsibility for our
wounds. To that it leads methat we are always going to have to
be responsible for choosing a couple thatdoes not detonate the wounds or traumas that

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we had and that makes us becomeour worst version, on the contrary,
that helps us to overcome, totransform, to overcome these wounds and to
get our best version. Then wereturn to the fundamental faith. What are

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those buttons that can drive you crazyor crazy that will definitely keep you on
alert. If you' re arelationship with a person who' s constantly
biting those buttons, well, onceyou' ve identified them, what'
s the opposite, if it's a person who constantly abandons you,

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then what is it you need,what is the fundamental thing you need in
a person. Well, I needa stable person, I need a person
to give me security, I needa person to give me permanence, give
me this sense of permanence. Sothat' s the only thing that should
be fundamental, the opposite of yourdetonators. Okay, that' s the

(22:18):
bottom line. And let' ssay. But, Andrea, what about
having a certain religion, what abouthaving certain studies, what about having a
certain car, what about being attractiveor attractive? What about all that stuff,
okay that dances and it' svery important. How important, no,

(22:41):
it' s not fundamental, it' s very important. Yes,
it is important, but whether ornot you have a certain religion could make
it negotiable as long as it isyour fundamental points. Don' t touch
them. I know that for somepeople there are things they say you know

(23:04):
that this is fundamental to me.Okay, I' d tell you,
they' re very, very,very important and they might not be negotiable
for you. But you have tokeep in mind that those go within the
category of important and are generally thethings that I mentioned have to do with
certain social and family standards that wereinstilled in us, that is, when

(23:30):
we were kids, teenage girls,all that your mom, your dad your
aunts society. He told you youhad to look into a couple. Good
for men many times it' sjust that she' s a girl,
a very beautiful woman, that she' s smart. Well for some,
uh, and for women we areoften told, not so much, that

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they have money, that they havea car ok or that they just have
certain affiliations, I don' tknow, even political, religious, certain
studies maybe they told you they haveto have a PhD or they have to

(24:17):
have a certain socio- economic income. Okay, those things are really important.
I' m not telling you thatI' m not important, they
' re very important, but fundamental. So, imagine that you grew up
in another family, in another space, what you are, with what you
came here to earth, with youradn. That' s the fundamental thing
if they send you to live anothercountry with another family. Whatever it is,

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you' re still gonna be thatperson. That' s what'
s fundamental and you' re goingto still need certain fundamental things. The
important thing has a lot to dowith context, with life cycles. It
' s not going to be thesame for someone who chooses a couple for
the first time than maybe for someonewho chooses a couple for the second round,

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that is, someone who, maybehad a marriage and had a divorce
experience and is looking for a couple, it' s not going to be
the same. So, all thosethings are important, and they do have
to be taken into account. However, they are not fundamental. Then we
already said important fundamental delfía. Nowwhat' s the letter to accessories.

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OK, here I did go toyour whole wish list, your wish list,
everything I' ve always written,no, so dance good. For
me, for example, I havea friend of mine to Mega Karen,
who I love Karen, if she' s listening to this, that I
know you hear this, I sendyou a kiss that dances amazing. I
mega Karen maybe she says to meit' s very important that I dance.

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I don' t mean, becausedancing is my life for me.
And I' d say, well, I like to dance and I'
d like the person to dance.However, if he doesn' t dance,
because it' s not the endof the world either that I would
like, I' d like to. However, I can live. If
you don' t go ok thenyou decide on the important topic and on
the accessory theme. But in theaccessory topic, there are several things that

(26:11):
maybe, because they are therefore caprichitos. Not that I' d love to.
Right here' s the way oflife. If I' d love
you to work out, I'd love you to like to climb mountains
like me. If I would loveto have you like motorcycles or like to
party every Friday, or like todrink or like to smoke. I mean,

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everything that' s important to yougoes in accessory. For good forgiveness,
not everything that is accessory goes inaccessory. And everything that' s
important is important. But here's your wish list that has everything to
do with lifestyle. Why is thiswhere you will see yourself in the day
to day, that is, youwill live your day to day, your
daily life and well I said it, with what diction, what barbarous,

(27:03):
with your daily life you will livethese things, that is, if you
are a person who loves the party? And your partner is not necessarily a
person who loves the party, becauseyes, if it can be something that
discourages a little. But if onthe fundamental issue they agree and on the

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values they agree and on the importantthey agree, that' s just going
to be a negotiation, it's just going to do something that they
' re going to have to talkabout and something that' s going to
have to make agreements. But iffor you, for example, you get
a super sensitive fiber because at homeyou had a theme, I don'

(27:47):
t know about addictions. When youwere a kid, when you were a
kid and you' re suddenly witha person who also has a subject of
excesses. There, yes, it' s detonating all your buttons. Darling,
darling, then it' s differentthere. Yes, I' m
implying that for one person the subject, for example, let' s continue

(28:07):
with this topic, the subject ofalcohol, may be in accessory, but
for another person it may be infundamental. No, I don' t
want and I' m not goingto be with anyone who has any kind
of addiction. Okay. That's completely non- negotiable. There'
s no way. It doesn't matter that you like that exercise,
it doesn' t matter that youhave a PhD, it doesn' t

(28:32):
matter that you' re super pretty, super handsome, no matter what you
have all the money in the world. But you have an action problem.
It' s not good, becausefor people, for each person, it
' s completely different. So,day to day, we' re going
to live it on the accessory theme. And yes, of course, it
is something to be taken into account. Why it will be cohabitation there will
be cohabitation However, if we seeit the way I am presenting it to

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you, when some things in thecolumn of accessories are not aligned with us
and the rest, if this canbe solved, it can be overcome.
On the other hand, when thingsfrom the accessory column we like the same
music, we have the same favoritecolor, we love the beach. Well,

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all those things that when you startdating someone, it looks like they
' re the best and they playguitar and they also won the beauty contest.
All that or he has millions offollowers. I don' t know
what they care about, but allthese things are things that we have to

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categorize inside the accessory column. Then, once we have this list and think
about it well, from that momenton, we can now go out into
the world with a clearer view ofwhat the requirements of the person we seek
are. And requirements is a wordthat seems to me to sound like very

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I don' t know, Idon' t even know how to describe
it, but I could dare tosay that bloodthirsty as demanding, like it
would have a negative connotation. However, I think that at the stage we
are, you and I are nolonger for games, we are no longer
and we do not want good.If you want to go ahead, please,

(30:36):
I' ll put on the longtablecloth and enjoy everything you have to
enjoy. But the day you wantto find some stable relationship that you want
to find a couple for something alittle more serious, to build a life
plan, I would recommend you turnto know this dolphin tool, because in
my case it served me a lot. In my case, my toxic relationship

(31:00):
that I had bit me all mybuttons, all the triggers. And the
worst version I' ve ever beenof myself has been in that relationship,
of course, and I even seemyself with compassion. I remember with compassion
because I say that poor, Iwas, I put myself in a situation,
in an environment where I constantly feltat war, I felt attacked,

(31:25):
I felt so survival, but it' s part of growing up, that
is, it' s part ofit. It seems to me that we
are all at some point in arelationship that troubled us. So and I
know perfectly well what I don't want now, as I go out
to life, to start then,daiting with people was so clear and,

(31:47):
in fact, the first conversation Ihad with my current boyfriend when we started
talking about dating. We weren't even out. But when I was
asked out, I said good.I let go of my negotiables I said
good. But look. It's important to me. Okay. For
me it' s negotiable, this, this and this how you see it.
I sang it to her because youknow what. Honestly, I said

(32:12):
no. I was so sure itwouldn' t happen to me again,
I' m not going to bewith anyone who would wake me up to
my worst version. Quite the opposite. And I' m gonna tell you
another story, too. In thisperiod when I was single a few years
ago, of course, I hadconversations and I went out with more people

(32:35):
and I remember perfectly one person whoapparently had a lot of things to do
with the list. But all ofa sudden he got something out of you
that was negotiable for me and asmuch as we were fine, as much
as maybe, because I don't know, nothing really happened when he

(32:58):
said yes to me, I likeit, because he' s already going
to confess one of my non-negotiables. Actually, I do like the
drug thing. I told him todo well and he said no, no,
no, no, no, wait, but I don' t like
him that much anymore. And Idon' t, no, no,
no, I mean, well,you like it and thank you for telling
me, because I don' twant to change you. I mean,
if it' s something you like, not that I don' t like

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anymore, that' s long,not that I don' t know what,
okay, what. Well, I' m very happy for you,
but I don' t want tochange anyone. I will resent you if
I ask you to change and changeyou and I will, of course,
resent you very much, very muchevery time you do it then once I
tell you that, well, justbefore something is believed here, before,
because I don' t know thatthere are feelings involved, because seriously,

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in good luck, because for meit is I can' t, I
can' t, I can't, I can' t, I
can' t and I don't want power. Sorry, bye,
think Onext. And it looks great, because honestly, we didn' t
even have a lot of time,that is, we had like two exits

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or something. So it' salso important because when you' re meeting
someone, you know perfectly well whatthings to ask and honestly, when you
' re already like, I wantsomething right and I' m not ashamed
to ask something right, I'm not ashamed to have the standards I
have and I' m not ashamedto accept that I want a relationship.

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It' s so easy to reallysay no to those who don' t.
And when you find the person whodoes, I find my current boyfriend,
that same conversation, the first timewe talked, I told him I
want you to tell me what youare, what you' re looking for
with me. I want you,I mean, I said, let'
s see if we' re inthe same tune you and I that everyone
says what they want right before theydevelop emotions, before they develop feelings.

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And we both said, because Isaid in a formal relationship, no,
because I did too. Then fromthen on, because it was already different,
because it was already established what waswanted and I am not telling you
that from that conversation already in thewe made boyfriends. It didn' t
actually happen. It was several monthsbefore we became boyfriends, just because I
was doing very careful because I saidI already know myself when I give my

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heart, I give it, butI really give it to him, so
I said if I' m goingto give it to someone, I have
to be sure that he' sthe right person, because I didn'
t work so hard on myself asto make a bad choice again. And
I did very well and I'm very proud of myself. I'
m asking, please, my friendand my producer, I don' t

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even know if you want to saya name for me. Plauditos here to
my friend and my producer who helpsme to do it said in this video,
but well, I hope you findyour blowballs. If nothing happens to
want, then that' s thetool that I' ve constantly been sharing
in the last few weeks with friends, with friends that' s been truly

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received in a way that I didn' t expect. In fact, I
' m going to give you theexample of a friend. A friend is
an extremely social person, extremely extrovertedand was with a couple who were very
upset that he was such an extrovertand who constantly forbade him to go out,

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forbid him to speak, get angrywhen he came to a place and
greeted everyone he said that maybe hedidn' t peel her off. And
so, well, speaking to thisfriend, I told him you need a
person who likes you the most tobe an outgoing person who lets you be.

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You don' t need a personto tell you that what you are
is wrong just the opposite that whatyou are is what he likes most about
you, and with that we're going well, because I hope this
has served you. If yes,it served you I ask you please,
make me aber in the comments.In fact, I have some greetings for

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some people who have left comments inSpotify, which I want to thank very
much because they inspire me a lot. The other day, I honestly felt
a little out of place and Istarted to see the comments that were in
the recent episodes, not even inold episodes, and I want to tell
you that you wrote a comment thatyou inspired me and I read you before

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recording and thanks to you I feltin a better place to record and keep
sharing, because there are times thatyou don' t know if this really
serves others. So a huge greetingand hug to the following people go annie
J Fernández, g Ismael Cruz Proseland Liliana G de la Cueva. Thank

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you all very much for commenting.You inspire me. Thank you and all
of you if this served you anygood you already know. Right now apply
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