What is Connection...Part 3

JLJ talks about workplace connections on this episode! alottofhelp.com

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
We'll go to another edition of Extra Connections. What is
Connection Part three? I've got two other parts are out there.
You can hear them or listen to them, or watch
them YouTube jail jam media that they're on my channel,
or just go to Extra Connections and where you found
this and scroll back up and or down how it
looks like and you'll find part two and part one.

(00:24):
This time, I want to talk about work connections because
who you work as you're an entrepreneur, it's very important
to be kind of connections you make. And we'll talk
There's several kinds of connections, but the one I want
to talk about is work connection because I have a
couple of connections that are actually bringing me business and
are we're in site, and I guess I want to

(00:46):
talk about that.

Speaker 2 (00:46):
So I was talked to a friend of mine yesterday.

Speaker 1 (00:49):
I'm not gonna say that Bert's name, but they were
talking about how they're feeling adenonomic in connections. They know people,
they they're well, they know people in our industry and stuff,
but those connections aren't connecting.

Speaker 2 (01:02):
To bring this person work or move them forward. And
that's very legitimate concern.

Speaker 1 (01:09):
It's a legitimate thing it's like who you can meet
people and you can actually have people on your side,
like just kind of you know, they they're adjacent to you.
They're doing some of them, but they cannot really if
they're not fully invested in you or you're not fully
invested in them, nothing really comes out of it. It's
kind of happens, right, But I have I will I'm

(01:30):
going to shout this this person for sure. Doug has
my buddy here from Indiana. We made a connection and
he saw something in me. I saw something in him,
and the foundation was laid there. When I kept I say,
you know, I would tell people who call it my
network for whatever reason, whether it's an audio drama or

(01:51):
you know whatever, I have opportunities. If you want to
do something with me, let me know, pick something to me,
let's work it out. And some people take me up
on that offer, and he did with Forgotten Hollywood, and
it's become.

Speaker 2 (02:01):
A successful show for us.

Speaker 1 (02:03):
But more than that, over the last five years, we've
really we collaborated on so many and we have collaborated
and are collaborating on so many different things. And he's
making connections for me. I'm making connections for him that
are actually moving us forward. And I think one reasons
why this really really worth, the main reason why it works.

(02:24):
We're on the same page in terms of we want
to bring our personal selves forward and upward and onward.
We want more than what we have right now. We
want other things, we want bigger things. So we just
have that in common. We're also close to in the age
wealth in our fifties. But we have a drive. That

(02:46):
drive is to help jail J Media, which is me.
But in turn that helps him, so he sees the
value for him helping me, It helps him get that
connection helping me is this me him. We come together

(03:06):
even though it's for the platform of jail J Media,
it helps both of us. I saw to say this
when it came to co hosting shows ats TV telling
me how to be a co host, because it was
like a proper co host. You have two or three
other people on a panel. Everyone should get a turn,
everyone should get to say and get a term. So

(03:28):
the hope is you don't overstep someone's part. You'll or
you don't come in guns blazing, you know, come in
over talking them or but you know, the whole point
is you can still you can still stand out. A
good co host stands out by being fully whatever it

(03:48):
is they are at that moment. And if you're creating
personality or our person out or do that be courteous
to the others.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
Do that. People will go, oh, I love that panel,
and I love so and so and so.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
You can still stand out, you still win. The show
is a hit. You all are on a hit show.
It's not the show's a hit and just your hit.
It's you're all a hit. Yeah, some folks, you know,
I know, get bigger than you know, just whatever things are.
But the point is you can still have your piece
of the pie if you pour into the mix. As

(04:27):
long as I just understand that, and so I love
about Doug and I. We both pour into the mix.
It's like a good, big, giant pie.

Speaker 2 (04:37):
You know. He brings people to me.

Speaker 1 (04:40):
We tag team it all, we sell it and then
we split everything just about you know what I mean.
Like I said, everybody get a pizza of what I
need to get a piece of m And that might
be one on the channel too, who are very invested
and are in so I just want.

Speaker 2 (04:52):
You know, I want that to be known. Also I have.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
I mean, I mentioned Anthony Jipozi another person who we
have a lot of voice work we do together, and
we're very committed to him. I want to promote him
and get him out there, and he wants to help me.
So he's bringing his talent to me. I'm bringing my
talent to him. Where it's a connection. We've made a connection,
and so I think that's very very important, and I

(05:20):
think that's really you know, it's something that we are
continually having success with. So I mean, it's just it's
these kind of it's like these work connections really do
work if you work them. I know it sounds like
something else, right, but it's true. So you can't just
meet somebody. One person does all the work. You kind

(05:41):
of limp along and then hopefully you'll read some benefits.
I guess I think there's someone who feel like if
I attach myself to someone, let them do all the work,
then I'll read the benefits. In some cases that does happen,
but in most cases it's like nobody need you to
and for all us, we always see somebody who's above

(06:01):
us on some level, not above us. Were like they're
better than we are, but it's like who's further along
than we are and connection with them so they see
and hopefully they see your value whatever I do these shows,
I'm just different of these shows. There's so many people
who when I send a message, yes I'll be on
your show, they should. They they'll tell me my show
is valuable to them. It doesn't hurt their career, it doesn't,

(06:25):
you know, make them look stupid. And they know, they
know they're safe with me. That's a connection, you know.
I asked certain artists can you come on? They tell people,
oh yeah, I love James, Oh yeah, I'm I'm going
to show because they want to help me. They want
and I want to help them because I love them,
I love their work.

Speaker 2 (06:43):
I want to help them.

Speaker 1 (06:45):
So it's one of is that hell give and take
thing right, It's it's very it's very interesting and I
but it's a connection.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
It's back to connection. Connection. I've had connections just.

Speaker 1 (06:58):
Die and I is because either that person has expectations
that are so just not in a line. You have
to you have to be an alignment when it comes
to work connections. You have to be an alignment. You
can't have each have competing agendas and then work together.
It just says I don't see it working. You can
have some different things you made, some outcomes you may
want to may be different than my outcomes, but you

(07:21):
have to have at least one main outcome that you
both agree on, that you work together towards that, and
then from that spawn.

Speaker 2 (07:31):
You know the other stuff. I know.

Speaker 1 (07:35):
It's it's a lot kids. You know, connection is you
know and connect with people. It's a crapshoot. Let's just
be real. Somebody will say to me, you and me
so and so, okay at love each other. Well, why
do you say that? Is that because you love that
person and you get along, this mean you'll get along
with me? Or do you know them so well and

(07:56):
know me so well you feel like we'll get together
and be great. So it's always a crapshoot when that happens.
And I have people who will wait changing this great
guests for you can do it, and so I reach
out to them, they don't reach back. Poor connection there,
And I almost feel bad for the pr person, a
person who is trying to connect us because they're earnest

(08:18):
about it and they do they're doing their job, But
it makes me go, I'm not gonna chase under somebody,
it's do an interview. It's not gonna I'm just not
gonna do that. We're not We're not we're not doing that.
It's not that serious. It's it's but it's like it's
also disrespectful. But at this way, this tells me that
person it's not a priority, which is fine, but doesn't

(08:39):
wrong with that either. It's not a priority for them.
My my podcast is not priority for them. It made
a priority for you, suggested that you have all these
great reasons why, but a connection is not made. But
also on the same token, I will say this, there
are people who I had rocky beginnings with that once
we sat once we sat down and had the interview,

(09:00):
or sat down and had a meeting, like oh okay,
so you have to have grace in there somewhere too.
That comes to connection. Grace you don't know, you so know.
And and then some connections they're so strong after all
these years we work ones that yeah, I interviewed you

(09:23):
years ago, but whenever I see oh my god, you know,
we just we just talk and it's you know, it's
it's just it's a wonderful feeling. I love connecting in
this business. And a business. That's very What can you
do for me? What can I do for you? And
I mean that ain't good and bad ways mean we're
all trying to make money, we're all trying to show upstream,
we all have projects, but to make genuine connections. I

(09:46):
have actually made some genuine connections in this business. It's
a great deal. But again, I always say for anybody
entrepreneurs and you know, whatever out there you have to.

Speaker 2 (09:58):
Going on, I'm sorry, I'm looking at my uh well,
there we go.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
I have a thing you have to you have to
have a genuine want to work with. That person has
to have a genuine want a desire to you know.
And that's what and that's why a good work connection is.
So I'll stop there because I've been I've been doing
these a bit about about five eight minutes long. I

(10:24):
don't know how long this one is. I can't I
can't tell looking at it that I can't tell. But
it's just little thoughts of mine. I'll be strinkling in
with the interviews and stuff on connection because I really think,
because like my friend said, if you don't have a
connection with somebody or a thing or a purpose, you
are mlessly out there we have to we have to

(10:45):
make we have to do these meaningful.

Speaker 2 (10:46):
Connections for life to really work. That's what I think.

Speaker 1 (10:50):
Actually connections on Facebook, a lot of help dot coms
like websites, or life coach in several areas.

Speaker 2 (10:55):
I'll talk to you next time.