July 22, 2025 • 29 mins
Join me as I dive into a personal challenge of navigating betrayal and discovering how faith can guide us through the toughest times!
Have you ever felt betrayed by someone you trusted? It's a painful and isolating experience, but what if I told you that God is always watching and waiting to intervene on your behalf? In this powerful video, we'll explore the ways in which God steps in when we're betrayed, and how His divine intervention can bring healing, restoration, and vindication. From biblical examples to real-life testimonies, get ready to be inspired and encouraged as you discover the hope and redemption that only God can bring.
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Have you ever felt betrayed by someone you trusted? It's a painful and isolating experience, but what if I told you that God is always watching and waiting to intervene on your behalf? In this powerful video, we'll explore the ways in which God steps in when we're betrayed, and how His divine intervention can bring healing, restoration, and vindication. From biblical examples to real-life testimonies, get ready to be inspired and encouraged as you discover the hope and redemption that only God can bring.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to Fearless Heart. Get your power back, learn to
let go and let God. Thank you for joining Fearless
Heart podcast. And now here's your host, author entrepreneur na A. A. Sahari.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hey, friends, this is not a Sahari your host. Oh,
I'm so excited. I have a great message today. It
is going to be called when they betray you, God
steps in. Yes he does. And it is beautiful when
he steps in, because I can attest to that it
(00:41):
happened to me, maybe more than I thought. I never
thought of it in this way. So I would love
to share this with you. I'm going to share a
little tidbit of my story and I want to hear
your story, and if you want to share you let
(01:04):
me know.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
And let's do this. Let me ask you.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Were you betrayed by someone you loved and hoped with
all your heart that it would all work out for
the better if you just waited and did things to
make it work between the two of you. Does that
sound familiar? I know the majority of us women do this.
(01:32):
We do this, You do everything right and then one
day everything changes. Your hopes, your dreams, they fly out
of the window like an eagle, never ever to return.
Perhaps you know someone who has had a similar experience.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
I'm going to tell you my story.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Just a little bit, and the experience regarding the pattern
of thinking that many women often adopt to make relationships work.
I have about fifty years of married life experience. Oh,
I don't like to say this, between three marriages and
(02:18):
one long lasting relationship that God surprisingly ended and closed
that door to save me and to work on bringing
me back to him. God had other plans for me,
but someone had to be removed first for those plans
(02:40):
to unfold. I also believe it was to wake up
my partner to change his ways, to put God first
instead of the worldly things that he thought were more important.
God allows things to happen to change us and to
draw us back to Him. We are not here to
(03:02):
fool around with sex from one partner to the next,
to do nothing beneficial with and in our lives.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
We are here for a purpose.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
We are here to love and help others, to share
salvation and the love God has for each of us.
Self centeredness and sexual thoughts and activity get in the
way of that. You get distracted by the noisy world,
(03:35):
You get distracted by the sex movies, the emptiness that
you have from sex, alcohol, drugs, cheating, going from woman
to woman or man to man, never fulfilled. We desire
(03:55):
the hedonistic life for a season until we realize we
are still empty and wanting more of what will only
temporarily satisfy us in the moment that we're doing those things.
Oh yes, it's a lot of pleasure, it's a lot
of fun. It's a great feeling. But you're alone. You're empty.
(04:24):
There's nothing there anymore. There's no one there to talk
to every second of the day, no one to share
your dreams with, no one to share your life with,
no one to play games with, card games, word, all anything,
all gone because you are all alone, because you prefer
(04:48):
the noisy world and the insecurity and holding grudges that
you should be giving to God and releasing yourself and
forgiving all who hurt you and enjoy a life with
Lord Jesus. It's just a moment's pleasure, and once you
(05:11):
realize that, you will come back to Jesus. Jesus is
the long lasting joy and contentment. When you come back
and you have given your heart and soul to God,
he will.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Fill your soul to the fullest.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
With life and peace, and you will never thirst again.
I can attest to that. I've done it all the way,
except the man to man thing.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
I don't. I'm not that type. I married three times.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
The men that I dated almost married the one that
was my partner, but I did not. I never really
had boyfriends.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
I said.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
My boyfriends became my husband. So in reality, I probably
dated five men in my life, married three, and had
a relationship with one. And now I have several male friends.
(06:31):
They're friends. I don't do anything I'm ashamed of. We
are friends, and I am so happy to have friends.
Male and female friends are important in your life.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
When you give.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Your heart to the Lord, he will fill your soul
to the fullest with life and peace, and you will
never thirst again. This is where most of us fail
at times. You can return to your past life, the
usual life of sin, because that is where you're comfortable,
(07:10):
that is where you get your kicks, that is where.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
You think you should be, but it's not.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
The pattern from your history is still there and you
have not changed for the better. You may pretend or
be unaware that you need to be transformed. We all
need transformation. The only way that happens is if you
truly repent and ask for forgiveness from God. The life
(07:43):
of hedonism, self pleasure and no worries about anyone or anything,
only your sexual pleasures and needs will leave you empty.
God will not let this continue without consequences. And we
know there are consequences when you're sinning always.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
I know.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
I know because I did not know that you had
to be obedient to the Lord in order to be protected.
I was not obedient.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
I did not know.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
I was ignorant to that. I just learned it a
few months ago. Imagine that being saved at seventeen and
still being a baby in Christ for years and nobody
told me. But I'm telling you because I want to
help you not make the mistakes that I have made,
(08:37):
because there will be consequences. I know a lot of
you will relate to this story. When you end a relationship,
you feel guilty. We women do, and we feel we
made a mistake, and then when the man wants.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
To come back, we let him come back. We all have.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
These issues in loving relationships or in marriage. You forgave
this person many times for your broken heart. They deceived you,
they betrayed you, They cheated on you right, we have
been through it. We have all been there, men and women.
We forgave over and over again because we are supposed
(09:25):
to forgive.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
We're not better than God. Rich or poor. Celebrity are
not a celebrity. Men cheat.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
We all go through the same feelings, the same betrayal,
the same love or the same hate, or the same
sin or the same anything. We all have the same feelings.
We all go through something. We all have heartbreaks, we
(10:00):
all suffer and get mixed emotions, and we don't know
what to do.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
We get confused. I've watched the documentaries of women celebrities
who were cheated on and then they have little children.
That is the saddest part is when you have.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Little children and those little children don't know exactly what's
going on, and they're so beautiful and they love their
daddy and their mommy, And that is the saddest. We
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want to be could work. We put our hearts and
our souls on the line. We're hoping one day would
all be loving and peaceful, we would be loved.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
For who we are for persevering. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
It's not the way. I found out the hard way.
That's not how to do it. I also found out
my Middle Eastern culture left me naive, vulnerable, gullible, blind
and wanting the love I did not have as a
child or during my growing up years. Once culture can
(11:36):
entrap you, it programs you. It programs your thoughts and
your brains because you grow up in that environment, and
over the years, our brain continues to follow the same
patterns and thoughts that evoke the same feelings. Therefore, we
(11:59):
never break out of our mental prison.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
We have a prison in our head, in our brain.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Our brain is the tower that controls us, controls our thoughts,
our feelings, and how we react is what happens in
our lives. The men in our lives may trigger a
(12:27):
response in our brain by saying the same thing, or
becoming abusive or arguing with us in the same way
that someone in our past may have our fathers, our
ex husbands, our ex boyfriends, our girlfriends, our mothers, anybody
which makes us feel threatened in that moment, Our brain
(12:49):
responds by evoking the same feelings as someone in our
past behaved towards us.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
In that way.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Our brain responds the same way we did as children, teens,
and as adults I was looking for love and all
the wrong places for the wrong kind of man.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
I didn't know that, but I was doing it.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
I recently discovered that I was married three times to
the babies of the family, the last one born in
that family. I was married to three times, and I
found out that this happened in each of them, each
(13:38):
of my marriages, as well as my relationship with my partner.
The one I did not marry. However he proposed, I
never answered. I just kept silent, and I knew there
would be trouble. Some men don't grow up. These are
men in the pants, but boys in the brain. That's
(14:00):
my quote.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Get it.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
I made this up and it works. My friends are
all laughing. They just love that quote. Men in the pants,
but boys in the brain. The brain never matured. I
believe that genetics and environment are both to blame. The upbringing,
(14:27):
the parents, the environment. Nobody had a wonderful home life.
I don't care who you are. There is dysfunction in
everyone's family, some worse than others. But we still have it.
Everyone does. You cannot escape it. The boy's brain never matured.
(14:57):
They still needed mommy, love, nurturing, and like babies, they
required to be fed on time.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Where's my dinner?
Speaker 2 (15:10):
They wanted to be attended to all the time, and
they wanted.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
The woman to be there is my command.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Your wish is my command. Master, Your wish is my command.
Attitude is what they want from their partner. I was
the genie, the mom, the lover, the friend, the nurse,
the accountant, the chef, anything and everything they needed, including
(15:39):
what they needed in the bedroom. I fit all the requirements.
I was the strong one. They needed all these things
from me. They wanted me to be everything they needed.
I was even their technology queen. I knew how to
(16:01):
do things on the computer they did not know. I
was creative, I was brilliant. I knew how to do everything.
I was high tech. I still am.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
Oh boy, So I was everything.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Everything a man needs is in this body right here.
The more I became what they wanted and needed, the
(16:49):
more insecure they became. How's that for working hard to
please the man you love. In the process, I lost
my identity. I lost who I was, my dreams, my life,
it was gone, gone, God. I became them. I lived
(17:11):
their life. I became the Stepford wife. Remember the movie
Stepford Wives. You must watch it.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
That was me.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
The definition that I googled said that the personality of
the Stepford wife has become synonymous with a woman who
is subservient to her husband or partner and content with
a narrow range of domestic interests. Oh well, I was
(17:49):
restless and I was not settling for the domestic stuff.
I did it, but I had interests and I I
tried to venture out, but it didn't work. My partner
proposed five times, but I remained silent. I knew that
(18:13):
he would cause me more harm and heartbreak than ever
during a divorce.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
He proved me right. This time.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
This relationship had me out of control of my own life.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
He had to be in control.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Insecurity does that to a person When they know you
are smart, confident, empathetic, trusting, and you have a light
shining around.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
You that you can do all things they cannot do.
They get to.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Feel you are higher, brighter than they are, and soon
the partner develops a poor self image. Insecurities set in
where they think they are better than than you are.
They rule, they control, and then they micromanage you to death.
(19:09):
Just discovering that it was hilarious, It's funny. On one aspect,
but sad in another that I was put in that position.
I was a very forgiving person. I wanted to be
christ Like. I have my life back. I am heading
(19:29):
towards success and that is because I'm obedient to God
and letting him direct my path. If your partner, or
your husband, or your girlfriend or your wife walks away,
let them it was God allowing it. Stay silent and
let God do the work. God's peace is more important
(19:52):
to you than holding a grudge, getting angry and confronting them.
I often watched doctor Charles Stam, Billy Graham, and doctor
Joe Dispensa. I have learned a great deal from each
one of these men, especially from doctor Stanley, about God,
what God expects from me as a born again Christian.
(20:14):
I have learned so much I never never knew. I
wish I had known, because it would have saved me
a lot of grief and a lot of messing up
my life. Joe Dispensa is a neuroscientist and he knows
the brain. Oh he is so good. You've got to
(20:38):
watch him on YouTube. I have learned so much about
my brain from him. He's the one that I learned
about the patterns. That was three years ago. I never
knew about patterns of the brain. I had that disease
pattern disease, not anymore. I have learned what God wants
(21:04):
from me, who he is, what his promises are to me,
and what they are for you. Once doctor Stanley said,
you can't expect to move forward in life dragging a
load of bitterness behind you.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
That is beautiful and it's true.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
If you want to walk in God's blessings, you must release,
let go, let God, pray to God, talk to him
every day, and choose him over anger or holding grudges.
I have never held a grudge in my life. I
can honestly say that, and not even knowing that that
was a requirement that God wanted.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
I'm not that person.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Getting into a battle with someone who has broken your
heart is not worth it. God closed that door for
a reason. Reasons such as someone wanting too much attention
from you, compromising your identity.
Speaker 3 (22:18):
Ho ho ho.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
That was my partner, That was some of my husbands,
and feeding their insecurities they wanted to be fed. Those
will keep you from getting close to the one who
deserves all your attention, and that is your Lord. Jesus Christ,
(22:40):
and I was removed from being with my Lord and
giving him the attention. I couldn't do it. I had
to give man attention. God is a jealous God. I
had relationships like that several times. One will the worst ever.
(23:01):
He wanted my attention one hundred percent. I couldn't work
on my computer without him barging in to tell me
something that could have waited until I had time to
devote to his needs. Even with boundaries in place, he
still overstepped. Choose your peace, forgive the betrayers. Forgiveness freeze you.
(23:25):
It's time to heal and give God the time to
work on a solution for you.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
He knows what to do. He allowed it.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
He is there for you every moment, every moment. He
never leaves, never, he never changes. He is the same today, yesterday,
every day. He will provide all the answers as long
as you trust and open your heart to him. God
(23:55):
will give you joy as long as you are obedient
to him. God says vengeance is mine. It's not our
place to take revenge. This is a tough thing to do.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
I know. I feel like I want to take revenge.
Sometimes I want to confront him and show him.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
How stupid he was or how disappointed I am in him.
I want to yell and scream and shame him and
tell him what I think of him. Yet I know
it's not the right thing for me to do. He
knows what he did and why. I know why I
(24:37):
chose God. I decided to let him go and let God.
God will repay him for the pain and hurt he
caused me for many years. God will repay the man
or the woman that caused you pain.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
For many years.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
God said that he will repay anyone who causes you pain.
He is the Avenger. God knows my heart, knows your heart,
and he knows all that I did and what you
did to be the perfect partner and friend. The funny
thing is that he told me, and so did my husbands.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
That I was the proverb's woman.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
They all said that they knew my value, but they
forgot who I was.
Speaker 3 (25:29):
Either forgot who I was.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
Or they totally dismissed it from their minds. Narcissists forget,
they forget things. Some men love the world's way, self
indulging in sex, drugs, and alcohol. They cannot walk in
obedience with God. Their desire is satisfying their egos, getting attention,
and being told constantly how wonderful they are. And they
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don't look their age. Oh I wish I was like
that when I was sixty. I hope I look like
that when I'm eighty.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
These men and women today are called narcissists. Now there's
another story. This will be discussed in part two of
my podcast. This is part one, and I will begin
the story about narcissism. Whoa wait till you hear that one.
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So I pray that you will join me for part two.
And I'm doing this because I want to share a
little bit of what I've been through, and I know
that you've been through the same thing. I have met
women who we can talk and tell stories and we go, wow,
(26:56):
are we twins? That's a funny story. So the same
God who allowed the betrayal will use it and one
day you'll look back not with bitterness, but with a
testimony that says what they meant.
Speaker 3 (27:11):
For evil God used for good.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
That's the power of walking forward in obedience God's Way.
On Amazon, you will find my book Breakaway the Road
to Freedom.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
I would love it if.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
You would get it and read it so you can
read my memoir and all the things I've been through
since five years old and through the marriages.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
You will not believe that I.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Am alive today and it's only by God's grace that
I am. And on my YouTube channel, please go there
and subscribe. It's called the Power of Jesus with Nadia
Sahari and the channel is YouTube forward slash at Nadia
(28:04):
hyphen Sahari.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
And of course I'm on.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
Facebook and Instagram. I'm everywhere, and I look forward to.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Seeing you on my social media.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
And here and follow and like and subscribe and all
the goodies.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
I would love it.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
Thank you so much, God bless you all. Keep the
light shining and don't let anyone dim it because you
are bright. You are so bright that it's blinding. And
God is with you always and forever.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
God bless you. I love you. See you next time.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Thank you for tuning in to Fearless Heart with Nadia
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(29:18):
You have the power, the passion and the purpose. Change
your mind, change your life. Fearless heart,
Welcome to Fearless Heart. Get your power back, learn to
let go and let God. Thank you for joining Fearless
Heart podcast. And now here's your host, author entrepreneur na A. A. Sahari.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hey, friends, this is not a Sahari your host. Oh,
I'm so excited. I have a great message today. It
is going to be called when they betray you, God
steps in. Yes he does. And it is beautiful when
he steps in, because I can attest to that it
(00:41):
happened to me, maybe more than I thought. I never
thought of it in this way. So I would love
to share this with you. I'm going to share a
little tidbit of my story and I want to hear
your story, and if you want to share you let
(01:04):
me know.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
And let's do this. Let me ask you.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Were you betrayed by someone you loved and hoped with
all your heart that it would all work out for
the better if you just waited and did things to
make it work between the two of you. Does that
sound familiar? I know the majority of us women do this.
(01:32):
We do this, You do everything right and then one
day everything changes. Your hopes, your dreams, they fly out
of the window like an eagle, never ever to return.
Perhaps you know someone who has had a similar experience.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
I'm going to tell you my story.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Just a little bit, and the experience regarding the pattern
of thinking that many women often adopt to make relationships work.
I have about fifty years of married life experience. Oh,
I don't like to say this, between three marriages and
(02:18):
one long lasting relationship that God surprisingly ended and closed
that door to save me and to work on bringing
me back to him. God had other plans for me,
but someone had to be removed first for those plans
(02:40):
to unfold. I also believe it was to wake up
my partner to change his ways, to put God first
instead of the worldly things that he thought were more important.
God allows things to happen to change us and to
draw us back to Him. We are not here to
(03:02):
fool around with sex from one partner to the next,
to do nothing beneficial with and in our lives.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
We are here for a purpose.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
We are here to love and help others, to share
salvation and the love God has for each of us.
Self centeredness and sexual thoughts and activity get in the
way of that. You get distracted by the noisy world,
(03:35):
You get distracted by the sex movies, the emptiness that
you have from sex, alcohol, drugs, cheating, going from woman
to woman or man to man, never fulfilled. We desire
(03:55):
the hedonistic life for a season until we realize we
are still empty and wanting more of what will only
temporarily satisfy us in the moment that we're doing those things.
Oh yes, it's a lot of pleasure, it's a lot
of fun. It's a great feeling. But you're alone. You're empty.
(04:24):
There's nothing there anymore. There's no one there to talk
to every second of the day, no one to share
your dreams with, no one to share your life with,
no one to play games with, card games, word, all anything,
all gone because you are all alone, because you prefer
(04:48):
the noisy world and the insecurity and holding grudges that
you should be giving to God and releasing yourself and
forgiving all who hurt you and enjoy a life with
Lord Jesus. It's just a moment's pleasure, and once you
(05:11):
realize that, you will come back to Jesus. Jesus is
the long lasting joy and contentment. When you come back
and you have given your heart and soul to God,
he will.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Fill your soul to the fullest.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
With life and peace, and you will never thirst again.
I can attest to that. I've done it all the way,
except the man to man thing.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
I don't. I'm not that type. I married three times.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
The men that I dated almost married the one that
was my partner, but I did not. I never really
had boyfriends.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
I said.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
My boyfriends became my husband. So in reality, I probably
dated five men in my life, married three, and had
a relationship with one. And now I have several male friends.
(06:31):
They're friends. I don't do anything I'm ashamed of. We
are friends, and I am so happy to have friends.
Male and female friends are important in your life.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
When you give.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Your heart to the Lord, he will fill your soul
to the fullest with life and peace, and you will
never thirst again. This is where most of us fail
at times. You can return to your past life, the
usual life of sin, because that is where you're comfortable,
(07:10):
that is where you get your kicks, that is where.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
You think you should be, but it's not.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
The pattern from your history is still there and you
have not changed for the better. You may pretend or
be unaware that you need to be transformed. We all
need transformation. The only way that happens is if you
truly repent and ask for forgiveness from God. The life
(07:43):
of hedonism, self pleasure and no worries about anyone or anything,
only your sexual pleasures and needs will leave you empty.
God will not let this continue without consequences. And we
know there are consequences when you're sinning always.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
I know.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
I know because I did not know that you had
to be obedient to the Lord in order to be protected.
I was not obedient.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
I did not know.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
I was ignorant to that. I just learned it a
few months ago. Imagine that being saved at seventeen and
still being a baby in Christ for years and nobody
told me. But I'm telling you because I want to
help you not make the mistakes that I have made,
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because there will be consequences. I know a lot of
you will relate to this story. When you end a relationship,
you feel guilty. We women do, and we feel we
made a mistake, and then when the man wants.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
To come back, we let him come back. We all have.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
These issues in loving relationships or in marriage. You forgave
this person many times for your broken heart. They deceived you,
they betrayed you, They cheated on you right, we have
been through it. We have all been there, men and women.
We forgave over and over again because we are supposed
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to forgive.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
We're not better than God. Rich or poor. Celebrity are
not a celebrity. Men cheat.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
We all go through the same feelings, the same betrayal,
the same love or the same hate, or the same
sin or the same anything. We all have the same feelings.
We all go through something. We all have heartbreaks, we
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all suffer and get mixed emotions, and we don't know
what to do.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
We get confused. I've watched the documentaries of women celebrities
who were cheated on and then they have little children.
That is the saddest part is when you have.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Little children and those little children don't know exactly what's
going on, and they're so beautiful and they love their
daddy and their mommy, And that is the saddest. We
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want to be could work. We put our hearts and
our souls on the line. We're hoping one day would
all be loving and peaceful, we would be loved.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
For who we are for persevering. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
It's not the way. I found out the hard way.
That's not how to do it. I also found out
my Middle Eastern culture left me naive, vulnerable, gullible, blind
and wanting the love I did not have as a
child or during my growing up years. Once culture can
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entrap you, it programs you. It programs your thoughts and
your brains because you grow up in that environment, and
over the years, our brain continues to follow the same
patterns and thoughts that evoke the same feelings. Therefore, we
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never break out of our mental prison.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
We have a prison in our head, in our brain.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Our brain is the tower that controls us, controls our thoughts,
our feelings, and how we react is what happens in
our lives. The men in our lives may trigger a
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response in our brain by saying the same thing, or
becoming abusive or arguing with us in the same way
that someone in our past may have our fathers, our
ex husbands, our ex boyfriends, our girlfriends, our mothers, anybody
which makes us feel threatened in that moment, Our brain
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responds by evoking the same feelings as someone in our
past behaved towards us.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
In that way.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Our brain responds the same way we did as children, teens,
and as adults I was looking for love and all
the wrong places for the wrong kind of man.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
I didn't know that, but I was doing it.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
I recently discovered that I was married three times to
the babies of the family, the last one born in
that family. I was married to three times, and I
found out that this happened in each of them, each
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of my marriages, as well as my relationship with my partner.
The one I did not marry. However he proposed, I
never answered. I just kept silent, and I knew there
would be trouble. Some men don't grow up. These are
men in the pants, but boys in the brain. That's
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my quote.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Get it.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
I made this up and it works. My friends are
all laughing. They just love that quote. Men in the pants,
but boys in the brain. The brain never matured. I
believe that genetics and environment are both to blame. The upbringing,
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the parents, the environment. Nobody had a wonderful home life.
I don't care who you are. There is dysfunction in
everyone's family, some worse than others. But we still have it.
Everyone does. You cannot escape it. The boy's brain never matured.
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They still needed mommy, love, nurturing, and like babies, they
required to be fed on time.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Where's my dinner?
Speaker 2 (15:10):
They wanted to be attended to all the time, and
they wanted.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
The woman to be there is my command.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Your wish is my command. Master, Your wish is my command.
Attitude is what they want from their partner. I was
the genie, the mom, the lover, the friend, the nurse,
the accountant, the chef, anything and everything they needed, including
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what they needed in the bedroom. I fit all the requirements.
I was the strong one. They needed all these things
from me. They wanted me to be everything they needed.
I was even their technology queen. I knew how to
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do things on the computer they did not know. I
was creative, I was brilliant. I knew how to do everything.
I was high tech. I still am.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
Oh boy, So I was everything.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Everything a man needs is in this body right here.
The more I became what they wanted and needed, the
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more insecure they became. How's that for working hard to
please the man you love. In the process, I lost
my identity. I lost who I was, my dreams, my life,
it was gone, gone, God. I became them. I lived
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their life. I became the Stepford wife. Remember the movie
Stepford Wives. You must watch it.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
That was me.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
The definition that I googled said that the personality of
the Stepford wife has become synonymous with a woman who
is subservient to her husband or partner and content with
a narrow range of domestic interests. Oh well, I was
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restless and I was not settling for the domestic stuff.
I did it, but I had interests and I I
tried to venture out, but it didn't work. My partner
proposed five times, but I remained silent. I knew that
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he would cause me more harm and heartbreak than ever
during a divorce.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
He proved me right. This time.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
This relationship had me out of control of my own life.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
He had to be in control.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Insecurity does that to a person When they know you
are smart, confident, empathetic, trusting, and you have a light
shining around.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
You that you can do all things they cannot do.
They get to.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Feel you are higher, brighter than they are, and soon
the partner develops a poor self image. Insecurities set in
where they think they are better than than you are.
They rule, they control, and then they micromanage you to death.
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Just discovering that it was hilarious, It's funny. On one aspect,
but sad in another that I was put in that position.
I was a very forgiving person. I wanted to be
christ Like. I have my life back. I am heading
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towards success and that is because I'm obedient to God
and letting him direct my path. If your partner, or
your husband, or your girlfriend or your wife walks away,
let them it was God allowing it. Stay silent and
let God do the work. God's peace is more important
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to you than holding a grudge, getting angry and confronting them.
I often watched doctor Charles Stam, Billy Graham, and doctor
Joe Dispensa. I have learned a great deal from each
one of these men, especially from doctor Stanley, about God,
what God expects from me as a born again Christian.
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I have learned so much I never never knew. I
wish I had known, because it would have saved me
a lot of grief and a lot of messing up
my life. Joe Dispensa is a neuroscientist and he knows
the brain. Oh he is so good. You've got to
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watch him on YouTube. I have learned so much about
my brain from him. He's the one that I learned
about the patterns. That was three years ago. I never
knew about patterns of the brain. I had that disease
pattern disease, not anymore. I have learned what God wants
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from me, who he is, what his promises are to me,
and what they are for you. Once doctor Stanley said,
you can't expect to move forward in life dragging a
load of bitterness behind you.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
That is beautiful and it's true.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
If you want to walk in God's blessings, you must release,
let go, let God, pray to God, talk to him
every day, and choose him over anger or holding grudges.
I have never held a grudge in my life. I
can honestly say that, and not even knowing that that
was a requirement that God wanted.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
I'm not that person.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Getting into a battle with someone who has broken your
heart is not worth it. God closed that door for
a reason. Reasons such as someone wanting too much attention
from you, compromising your identity.
Speaker 3 (22:18):
Ho ho ho.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
That was my partner, That was some of my husbands,
and feeding their insecurities they wanted to be fed. Those
will keep you from getting close to the one who
deserves all your attention, and that is your Lord. Jesus Christ,
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and I was removed from being with my Lord and
giving him the attention. I couldn't do it. I had
to give man attention. God is a jealous God. I
had relationships like that several times. One will the worst ever.
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He wanted my attention one hundred percent. I couldn't work
on my computer without him barging in to tell me
something that could have waited until I had time to
devote to his needs. Even with boundaries in place, he
still overstepped. Choose your peace, forgive the betrayers. Forgiveness freeze you.
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It's time to heal and give God the time to
work on a solution for you.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
He knows what to do. He allowed it.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
He is there for you every moment, every moment. He
never leaves, never, he never changes. He is the same today, yesterday,
every day. He will provide all the answers as long
as you trust and open your heart to him. God
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will give you joy as long as you are obedient
to him. God says vengeance is mine. It's not our
place to take revenge. This is a tough thing to do.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
I know. I feel like I want to take revenge.
Sometimes I want to confront him and show him.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
How stupid he was or how disappointed I am in him.
I want to yell and scream and shame him and
tell him what I think of him. Yet I know
it's not the right thing for me to do. He
knows what he did and why. I know why I
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chose God. I decided to let him go and let God.
God will repay him for the pain and hurt he
caused me for many years. God will repay the man
or the woman that caused you pain.
Speaker 3 (24:55):
For many years.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
God said that he will repay anyone who causes you pain.
He is the Avenger. God knows my heart, knows your heart,
and he knows all that I did and what you
did to be the perfect partner and friend. The funny
thing is that he told me, and so did my husbands.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
That I was the proverb's woman.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
They all said that they knew my value, but they
forgot who I was.
Speaker 3 (25:29):
Either forgot who I was.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
Or they totally dismissed it from their minds. Narcissists forget,
they forget things. Some men love the world's way, self
indulging in sex, drugs, and alcohol. They cannot walk in
obedience with God. Their desire is satisfying their egos, getting attention,
and being told constantly how wonderful they are. And they
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don't look their age. Oh I wish I was like
that when I was sixty. I hope I look like
that when I'm eighty.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
These men and women today are called narcissists. Now there's
another story. This will be discussed in part two of
my podcast. This is part one, and I will begin
the story about narcissism. Whoa wait till you hear that one.
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So I pray that you will join me for part two.
And I'm doing this because I want to share a
little bit of what I've been through, and I know
that you've been through the same thing. I have met
women who we can talk and tell stories and we go, wow,
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are we twins? That's a funny story. So the same
God who allowed the betrayal will use it and one
day you'll look back not with bitterness, but with a
testimony that says what they meant.
Speaker 3 (27:11):
For evil God used for good.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
That's the power of walking forward in obedience God's Way.
On Amazon, you will find my book Breakaway the Road
to Freedom.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
I would love it if.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
You would get it and read it so you can
read my memoir and all the things I've been through
since five years old and through the marriages.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
You will not believe that I.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Am alive today and it's only by God's grace that
I am. And on my YouTube channel, please go there
and subscribe. It's called the Power of Jesus with Nadia
Sahari and the channel is YouTube forward slash at Nadia
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hyphen Sahari.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
And of course I'm on.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
Facebook and Instagram. I'm everywhere, and I look forward to.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Seeing you on my social media.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
And here and follow and like and subscribe and all
the goodies.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
I would love it.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
Thank you so much, God bless you all. Keep the
light shining and don't let anyone dim it because you
are bright. You are so bright that it's blinding. And
God is with you always and forever.
Speaker 3 (28:47):
God bless you. I love you. See you next time.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Thank you for tuning in to Fearless Heart with Nadia
and her guests. Share episodes with your family and friends.
Follow the show on Spotify, iTunes, iHeartRadio, and Instagram. Are
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You have the power, the passion and the purpose. Change
your mind, change your life. Fearless heart,
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