Episode Highlights:
- Michelle describes feeling lively at their recent conference while working the expo hall floor, noting how as an extrovert she was energized by constant interaction with curious attendees despite being on her feet for long periods
- Heather contrasts her experience as an introvert who found the conference draining but felt most lively during an intimate lunch conversation with colleagues, illustrating how introverts typically need smaller, deeper connections to feel energized
- Tina shares her challenge with sensory overload at the conference, describing feeling "overwhelmed and panic" rather than lively in large crowds, but noting she becomes lively after recovery through one-on-one conversations and reflection
- The hosts recommend using lively energy purposefully when it appears - tackling tasks you've been putting off, making phone calls that require energy, or engaging in creative or athletic endeavors like going to the gym
- Heather emphasizes that lively energy is "strongly positive" and contagious, with the hosts agreeing that sharing this energy through smiles and random acts of kindness is a responsibility, noting that "kindness is the mindset for lively"
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This episode of the #FeelingsMatter Podcast was recorded and produced at MSR Studios in Saint Paul, MN. No reproduction, excerpting, or other use without written permission.
This episode is sponsored by
FeelWise - bridging the gap between reflection and resilience, offering practical tools to help people overcome obstacles, embrace change, and grow stronger emotionally. https://www.feel-wise.com/
Don’t miss a moment of the conversation, subscribe to the show on your favorite podcasting platform
Episode Transcript
Do you have trouble talking about your feelings, You're not alone.
It's a topic that can make even the most powerful
people somewhat squeamish. You're listening to Feelings Matter, where our
mission is to demystify everything about emotions so that we
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can all get more comfortable in talking about them. Joining Heather,
Tina and Michelle as we unpack a new angle on
emotions and the psychology of human nature. Feelings Matter. Hello everyone,
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and welcome to Feelings Matter.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I'm Michelle Stinson Ross, and I'm Tedishweger and I'm Heather Hampton.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
I have the emotion of lively and for all of
my audio listeners, the visual for life is a very
furry guy with like spiky peek care and pink sneakers.
This guy has lots of energy. He actually lives in
the energy category, and the definition of lively is just
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feeling full of life and energetic. Some of the questions
you can ask yourself are you experiencing the emotion the
feeling of being lively? Do you feel an increased level of.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Energy and vitality in your body? Do you find yourself
laughing and smiling more often?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Are you finding it easier to engage in a physical
activity and movement, or do you have a strong sense
of desire to connect with others and engage in social activities.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
So I will be very honest and tell you that
our recent conference experience being on an expo hall floor
and having people showing up with.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
This just amazed and excited look on in their face
to see the feel wise branding, to just be super
curious about what's the deal with the stickers. I felt
very lively throughout that conference, despite the fact that we
were on our feet for long periods of time, that
we seemed to be talking constantly.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
For me, as an extrovert, that made me feel very lively.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
I was absolutely feeling elevated energy. I was really excited
to connect with people.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
This again, I'm an extrovert. This gets my juices going.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
So I was definitely experiencing that feeling of being lively
being excited.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
So that's me and lively. How about you two there.
I might come to you.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Partly because I am more of an introvert, partly because
I was sick as a dog for the majority of
the conference.
Speaker 4 (03:12):
I found like.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Talking to people while I was very like happy to
be engaged in conversation. It was very draining energetically. But actually,
when on the final day that we were there, when
we got together with Zita Collins, when we were all
at lunch together and it was just the five of
us and we were able to talk both about our
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sort of vision for the brand, but also just connect
on our personal level, that's when I felt more lively.
I felt more buoyed by the support, by the depth
of the conversation, and the more intimate nature of that
conversation felt more lively for me than the sort of
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surface level converse we often had when we were at
the conference.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Sure, and that is very that is quintessentially the differentiator
and the definition of what makes an extrovert different from
an introvert.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
What other experiences, Heather.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Would you normally feel that feeling of light energy bubbling,
What would normally trigger feeling lively for you?
Speaker 2 (04:31):
I'm just thinking, like in my personal life, just being
like again, in smaller groups, anyone who expresses energy towards me.
I am not necessarily an un naturally energetic person. I
tend to be a little quieter, but when someone around
me expresses energy, it's very easy for me to get
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on that train and participate with them. So I really appreciate.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
When I I have those kind of connections with people,
they can bring me out of my quiet, status quo
sort of state of being and participate a little bit more.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
I just need a little kick in the rear occasionally.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
So for you, lively is one of those reactive feelings.
It's like there there has to be some stimulus before
lively happens for you, Yes, generally, yes, Tina, how about you?
Speaker 5 (05:28):
My experience of the conference when I'm on that floor
is not lively. It's a little bit what do.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
You call it? Well, god, wow, how do I what?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Holy cow?
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Look at all these people.
Speaker 5 (05:44):
Panic overwhelmed?
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Holy cow, this is huge.
Speaker 5 (05:49):
Like I really have a hard time, like getting past
the sensory overload of the place. And I did have
to retreat to the sensory room. And I'm sorry. My
internet is probably pretty bad because of the storm. It's
just it's my connection is unstable, so hopefully my audio
is coming through your audio.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Yeah, that's that's what we mean most of all.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (06:13):
Good At the conference itself, I'm overwhelmed and trying to
get a balance between the sensory room and meeting people.
I'm similar to Heather where I start getting really lively
when i have more one on one time with people
and I'm having deeper conversations and I'm really connecting and
I'm getting excited about moving forward and ideas and really
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reflecting on the people that we met and what happened makes.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Me lively after I've recovered.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Yeah, And what would you to say is like a
good use of those lively feelings when they do come along.
If we want to be mindful in our liveliness, what.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Would you recommend, like how do you let me see?
How do I say this? How do you make use
of that energy when it's there?
Speaker 5 (07:14):
Lively is a very energetic experienced and if you have
the energy, you should use it. And if you're feeling lively,
do something like active, like whether it's a task that
you have been putting off because it would take a
lot of energy to do. A person you need to
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call because it would you know that you're going to
need to be on the bone with them for a while,
and a creative or athletic endeavor that you think about, Hey,
I should I should go to Orange Theory sometime and
you're feeling lively like, that's a good time to go.
So build on that lively with something that's very active
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that you think can help expand and help you celebrate
feeling lively.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Yeah, I also really associate lively with joy that if
someone has lively energy, it's a strongly positive energy that's
being put out there. And for me, that kind of
energy is very contagious. And so just smiling at someone
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when you have that energy inside, you can be very
contagious and just make someone feel good. And I think
that's a responsibility is for us to share our positive
emotions and bring people up with us.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Yes, practice acts of kindness exactly.
Speaker 5 (08:44):
Kindness is the mindset for lively.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
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