In this episode, we sit down with Chistianna Hurt, a millionaire in the e-commerce space, who shares her incredible story of overcoming adversity and finding success. Chistianna's story is nothing short of inspiring. She has faced numerous challenges, including eviction, domestic abuse, and a life-threatening miscarriage. However, through perseverance and hard work, she was able to turn her life around and build a thriving business. In this episode, Chistianna discusses the importance of grinding your way to the top and the strategies she used to achieve success in the e-commerce space. She also shares insights on how to find your niche and develop a winning mindset. From her experience being the last live interview with the late Kevin Samuels and how he shaped her mindset on dating and so much more. This interview is a fascinating deep dive into the life of a successful entrepreneur who has overcome incredible challenges to achieve her dreams and she tells how to do the same. @ChristiannaHurt1
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When you say I found out thatI was pregnant late what is late?
Eighteen weeks? That hurts right becauseit's a gender ident A full baby,
yeah, not a blob that's likewhat for almost four months? Four and
a half. Yeah, So howdo you not know? Though people are
period A lot of women that aredefinitely a crop top Shawdy definitely jim twice
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a day, five days a week. Girl, Like I'm going to see
my dad, my boyfriend, mydoctor, and a crop top and nobody
caught it. If I showed youpictures, you would be like pregnant.
Where my doctor that saw me thatmorning when we did finally figure it out
because I thought I had a tumor. I thought I was dying, yeah,
because the tests were coming back negative. So when we finally figured it
out, he was like, probablylike two to three weeks, I can't
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really feel anything. It was myjust gut feeling of like hmmm, let's
get an ultra sound. He's like, you may not be able to see
anything. I was like, yeah, but I just like want to see
it, like you want to likereally like kind of like understand like this
is real, you know what Imean? The ultrasound woman was like,
how pregnant did you say you were? I was like two or three weeks,
and she was like, we wantto know the gender. I'm still
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laying there like how pregnant do youhave to be to know the gender?
Looking around? This is my firstultra sound, so I'm just looking around
like, wow, this is supercool. Yeah, Like I didn't even
call anybody to go with me becauseI'm thinking you're not gonna be able to
see anything. Yeah, I'm thinkinglike okay, Like I'm like, yeah,
like I'm gonna make sure before Imake the phone call. I'm gonna
make sure like this is real,because again, I don't want to make
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that phone call and it be fake, you know what I mean. So
I'm like, okay, like I'lljust go get the ultra sound too.
She's like doing a nother gender andI'm still sitting here and dumb as how
Like how pregnant is that? Shewas like, you're measuring at eighteen weeks.
I'm like, wow, that's that'sthat's halfway. She's like, yeah,
you're halfway. And then a coupleof seconds later she can't find a
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heartbeat. What is that like?And we are back for another amazing episode
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of Finding Her Niche with Niche.My name is Niche. I am your
lovely host, and I am alwaysexcited when I actually get a chance to
sit across from what I would calla boss chick, like for real,
for real, like in real life, like not Instagram life, in real
life. And right now I'm sittingnext to one of the people that I
have learned to really admire the hustle, the grind, Christiana Hurt. Thank
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you so much for coming on this. Yeah, I'm excited. So she's
on the show that they've talked abouthow she found her niche in specifically e
commerce, but there's a lot ofelements, a lot of fastest to her
story and she has become this multimillionaire owner of Wealthy College Kid, which
is an e commerce educational platform aswell as a clothing line company, and
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I want to kind of talk toyou about that, but before we get
into the nitty greedy of the businessaspects, I am even maybe more a
little bit more interested and fascinated withthe person of who you are in your
story and how you've been able tokind of overcome, so to speak,
all of the adversities that you've facedin order to kind of like see this
current level of success that we seetoday. So if we were to kind
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of backtrack a little bit, becausethere's so many different nuances and facets to
who you are, can you talkto me a little bit maybe for the
people who don't know who Christiana is? Who are you? So? Christiana
her? And it's so crazy becauseI can't remeser those world with just my
first last name. I had toadd some little bit of split to it.
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I moved out at twenty one yearsold, which you know a lot
of people may think like, oh, that's not that bad, But I
moved out straight from my dad's houseto live with a boy, which is
I'm gonna take a lot of peoplemake nowadays, which if I had to
do it all over again, Iwould highly recommend not moving out with a
man. But but unfortunately, youknow, that was under the pretenses that
this man was going to pay thebills. You know, I'm coming from
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my parents' house, so I kindof didn't really have a taste of adulting
yet to now I have thirty daysto figure out how I'm going to pay
three thousand dollars in rent because he'snot paying it. We're fighting. The
situation's just getting time. Sorry sorrysorry sorry sorry sorry? Three thousand dollars
in rent? Yeah, where areyou living in? How to space?
It was just three too, likeliterally, it's going on here, okay,
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sorry for seed. So I hadto figure out how I was going
to pay the rent, and Istarted off with selling other people's products.
Was able to make the rent moneyliterally like June second because we had like
one month free rent. Okay,so I paid the rent, but then
I was still like that broke.So I was selling other people's products to
then selling my own products. SoI started off with a fishing pole pen.
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I never fished a day in mylife, but I knew the types
of people that like to fish,you know what I'm saying. Yeah,
they're older. I knew they wouldlive by lakes like things like that my
ideal customer. So that kind ofshowed me. Okay, like now I'm
like making money, you know,five ten grands to then selling makeup and
making like eighty nine grand at likethree weeks. Did you're saying big numbers?
Well, numbers that are big tosome people. No, of course,
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And I'll always tell people like Iwas anomaly. Okay, I what
my situation was very risky. Idon't recommend that one should never move out
with a boy number two, shouldnot be taking credit cards in dumping them
and spending all your money on advertisingand just praying. And I was very
blessed that I did do that,you know what I'm saying, Like,
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I was very blessed. But atthe end of the day, deep down
in my heart, I did havea home I could go back to.
Okay, even though I didn't doit, and even though I didn't call
for help, I had a safetynet. And I definitely dumped everything with
the mindset of like, well,if all else fail, did you do
that because you knew you had thesafety name at the time, No,
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But looking back, I'm like,that wasn't like that deep it wasn't that
risky. But in the moment,I would have rather died and gotten evicted
than call my dad tell him thathe was right. Why pride, honestly,
pride, So your dad warned you, Yeah, you told me not
to move out. He was like, if you're like, what are you
doing? You have a perfectly goodSo what is that phone call like when
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you have to humble yourself and likesay, hey, I'm getting a victim.
Yeah. I waited literally till thetwenty four hour notice was on the
door to like hey I'm getting avictim. He was like what Like he
was like, don't you have likea notice? Like how much you need?
I was just know what's over likethe notice it's on the door.
I have to go when you tellthe story, because you've told this story
so many times. But you know, I heard I heard somebody say once
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that I think it was it wasa pastor. He said. The way
you know you're really forgiven a situationor forgiven a person is if you don't
have the same feelings when that storycomes up. Have you forgiven that person?
Have you forgiven yourself? Or whenyou tell this story so many times,
are you still having the same emotionsthat were attached to the situation.
Absolutely not. Um if you hadhave asked me prior to twenty eighteen,
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there was like a lot like mybusiness was built out of survival, okay,
And you know it was a villainorigin story and I'm okay with saying
that. And you know, twentyeighteen came around and life really humbled me
because I got pregnant and lost myson. So that C section kind of
like brought me back down to earthto not only just understand, you know,
the value of life, but justunderstanding like you don't want to make
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the phone call to your that sameparent to say, hey, they're trying
to rush me to surgery, Ineed a blood transfusion, but I don't
want to sign like the same pride. That same pride is why I had
to make that phone call just twoyears after my eviction, I had to
make the same phone call of like, hey, like I got myself into
something, but this time, likemy life was on the line, and
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I waited till the very last minuteto the point that, yeah, my
surgery was supposed to last like Ithink like three hours. I was under
for like eleven hours your surgery forsection. So obviously c sections can go
along, but I was put Iwas under general um and because it was
so rush and I had lost somuch blood, wasn't It was not a
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good story and it was a lotof it was probably a lot of anxiety
for my family, for everybody thatwas involved. And again that just kind
of brought me back down to earth, like you really have to may sometimes
make the call okay, question,So that's a story that you kind of
you kind of speed by, youspeed by that story. You speed by
that story a lot. I don'twant to speed by that story anymore,
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Okay, I want you to talkabout that because it's traumatic the in addition
or my child, your child.No, it's definitely the most traumatizing point
of Yes, So I'm curious toknow because I'm a parent. I'm a
seven year old daughter now, andI couldn't imagine being so you know,
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learning about her, being so excitedabout her, to find out that she's
not going to exist in my life. The day I found out was the
same day I found out that hedidn't have a heart beat. I didn't
have an opportunity to process the emotions. So, and it's crazy because I
don't know if it for you.But when I went to the hospital,
they kept sending in this lady.I'll never forget her. Her name was
Danielle. She just kept coming inlike here to talk to you about postpartum,
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and I'm like, get out.Yeah, I was not trying to
have the conversation, was not tryingto nothing. They were asking me if
they want to I guess like thefootprint. I didn't want that. I
didn't want anything. I was nottrying to I wasn't trying to talk.
I was just pissed, Like I'mangry at myself. I was angry at
the man that I was involved withbecause I felt like he gave me a
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dead baby. I just was lookingfor anybody to blame, and it was
just a lot. It took me, like probably that happened in twenty eighteen.
I probably didn't like really fully comprehendwhat happened to my body until like
twenty twenty. Wow, didn't reallygrasp it and heal from it till like
twenty twenty two. Yeah, likeJune, not even a year ago.
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It took years. So how oftendo you think about this child that you've
never met? Um? I honestlystopped like holding onto him with my dear
life. Probably this past June,um I flew out to La. I
finally I'm in a healthy relationship,so I was kind of like more open
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to having the conversations about it andnot so much like holding out because I
still had the ultrasound that I wasjust like, no, you couldn't have
conversations with me, about it andI dated prior to the relationship I'm in
now yea, and there was likearguments about this ultrasound, what do you
mean, like why do you havethat still, like let it go.
I don't want to see it.And I'm just like you can go,
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like rather, I'll just right herewith my own yeah yeah, yeah,
no, Like you're not gonna geta baby without me. And I'm like,
that's nice. I'll be here withmy ultrasound. That's cool. I
just wasn't trying to have a conversationyet. I was just there's no talking
to me. Yeah to twenty twentytwo, like I met somebody who had
the patience to kind of like talkme down. We're going to not have
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this in the bathroom. Yeah,We're gonna put him in the kitchen.
I'm like, okay, he's goingto be in the kitchen. Yeah,
be in there, like to slowlylike okay, we'll put it in a
safe and like it kind of likeand beyond. And then June made the
decision to fly out to LA tosee a high risk pregnancy doctor that specialized
in situations like this because now Ican't see, like I can't just get
pregnant and go to an obie.It's it's something that we had to have
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a conversation once so to having myfirst ultrasound June twenty twenty two, since
that miscarriage, to knowing you know, how did it heal? Where our
options? Are there any issues tofinding out like, hey, you're fine,
Like nothing is gonna go wrong,but at the end, you're just
going to deliver six weeks early asopposed to the normal because we don't want
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you to contract your uters to contractbecause you will die, right because the
uterus will rip, it'll rupture,so you know, like and it just
kind of assured me that like,hey, like if you do want to
go natural, here's here's your risk. I'll ride this boat with you.
But here's a safe route that youcan go through and everything will be fine.
So it kind of just assured meto feel like, Okay, when
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I'm ready to have a child,there's nothing to worry about because you have
to think, my first pargncity everin my life. There you know,
we all have those I think rightnow, like you have those moments,
but you never like your first positivetest where it's real. That was my
first positive test ever, and Ididn't know I was pregnant. I found
out very very late that I waspregnant. So for me, you got
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to think, like when I sawthat positive, the fear of ever seeing
it again realistically just made me thinklike, well, this is that's certificated.
Yeah, because the last time Igot it, within seventy two hours,
I was being rushed to the hospital. When you say I found out
that I was pregnant late, whatis late eighteen weeks? That hurts right,
because it's a gender identic, fullbaby, Yeah, not a blob
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that's like what for almost four months? Four and a half. Yeah,
So how do you not know?Though people are period A lot of women
that are definitely a crop top Shaudydefinitely Jim twice a day, five days
a week. Girl, Like I'mgoing to see my dad, my boyfriend,
my doctor, and a crop topand nobody caught it. If I
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showed you pictures, you would belike pregnant. Where my doctor that saw
me that morning when we did finallyfigure it out, because I thought I
had a tumor. I thought Iwas dying, yeah, because the tests
were coming back negative. So whenwe finally figured it out, he was
like probably like two to three weeks. I can't really feel anything. It
was my just gut feeling of likehmmm, let's get an ultra sound.
He's like, you may not beable to see anything. I was like,
yeah, but I just like wantto see it, like you want
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to like really like kind of likeunderstand like this is real, you know
what I mean. The ultrasound womanwas like, how Bregnan did you say
you were? I was like twothree weeks and she was like, we
want to know the gen. I'mstill laying there like how pregnant do you
have to be to know the gender? Looking around? This is my first
ultrasound, so I'm just looking aroundlike wow, this is super cool.
Yeah. Like I didn't even callanybody to go with me because I'm thinking
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you're not gonna be able to seeanything. Yeah, I'm thinking like okay,
I'm so yeah, like I'm gonnamake sure before I make the phone
call, I'm gonna make sure likethis is real, because again I don't
want to make that phone call andit be fake, you know what I
mean. So like okay, likeI'll just go get the ultrasound too.
She's like you an no, genderand I'm still sitting here and dumb as
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how like, how pregnant is that? She was like, you're measuring at
eighteen weeks. I'm like, wow, that's that's halfway. She was like,
yeah, you're halfway. And thena couple of seconds later she can
find a heartbeat. What is that? Like, I didn't understand it at
the time. Gotta think this ismy first time. How how would I
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understand that? That means you're miscarry, that means you go home? Like,
I didn't understand that. When shetold me I was going to pass
him naturally and see my ob Iwas like, no, I was on
Google trying to see how to removedead baby. I was just on Google,
like trying to figure it out.Oh my god, I didn't know
you could go to the hospital.I didn't know. I did not know.
I'm twenty twenty three at the time. Dagn girl. It was traumatizing.
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I definitely could imagine that. Andyeah, so you decided to carry
the ultrasound, to try to carrythat and continue it. Just I don't
know. I felt like I wasjust holding onto making up was there.
I never want to say on thistoo long, but I just I feel
like there's a person that can benefitfrom this conversation. But I want to
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know, like, is there apart of you that is like I don't
know. I'm trying to think ofhow to ask the question that is kind
of like you feel like you letyour son down. I felt like as
a woman that you know, mysuccess was cool. And this is crazy
because this was even before the hypeof like menals, and it was before
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the hype. I just felt like, damn, like my one job on
this earth as a female is tocreate life, and I have a dead
kid. I feeled myself like Ifeeled the people around me, I feeled
my family. I felt I failedeverybody. How can you fail though?
How can you hold yourself accountable forsomething? Because I should have known?
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How did I miss that I wasworking too much? I was working out,
I was partying. I I wasn'tdrinking at the time, but I
definitely, like would think about thetimes I'd skip breakfast, yeah, or
I didn't drink a bottle of water, like all of those things now we're
running through my head. Yeah,like yeah, so I So, did
you have a period of time whereyou blamed yourself? Yeah? For like
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two years like literally two years.Wow, Like it was bad. It
was really bad, Like the relationshipsI have. I pray for all of
you every day because there was notalking to me. There was there was.
It was just I had a goalof creating a family and I didn't
care how I got it. Idid not give not one fuck about any
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money. Like it was just inmy head of like I'm going to create
a family and whatever happens to youis whatever happens to you. Wow,
did not care. And you havethese people that are like actually like in
love with me, yes, andI have not an ounce You have this
selfish motive from the very beginning oflike I need my son back, Like
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are you gonna give me a sonor get on? Like I don't need
anything else, I need my family. Like there's just no talking to me.
Yeah. And then when I wasn'tgetting pregnant, because at this point
I was just like that was definitelygambling. Yeah it wasn't happening, So
I'm blame. I'm like, getout, like it's your fault. It's
you. It can't be me,it's you. Like you're a broken man,
Like you're broken. So um,definitely pray for all of them,
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and it was just the time thatI just had to take a step back
and go to therapy. Yeah.Sure, definitely go to therapy and just
kind of unlearn that in a senseand like let it go and then allow
a relationship to just come to me. Yeah, and naturally or God brought
me a man that had patience forall of that that really could just like
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talk me down to feel trust,like trust him enough that when it does
happen, like you're going to befine. It's supposed to happen the way
that it's supposed to happen. Wow. What a fascinating story. And I
feel like there's so much meat totake from that, and that there's so
much substance of like the narrative,you know what you're saying. It's very
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sobering, and I feel like alot of women can relate to that.
I feel like it will resonate noteven just the loss of a child,
but when you think of that,if you isolate those two, when you
think about, Okay, the lossof a child is one thing, but
then like you're still you as aperson, as a human being. Very
different feeling when you're sat home fromthe hospital and you're still looked pargnet.
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M that was that far. Ilooked Parknet and people. But what is
the phone call when you're like,hey, I'm pregnant. Oh no,
I'm not. I called him fromI was so The guy that I was
dating was a high school sweetheart,so I made't even worse. He had
known me like damn year was fivesix seven years probably like wow, whole
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high school career. So I knewhe was on felony probation. I knew
he was gonna murder me for Ididn't call him. I mean the call.
I got my passport. This iswhen I got my passport. So
my miscarriage was on the thirteenth.My surgery was on the sixteenth. I
got my passport the twenty eighth.I got released on the twenty six so
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I got released. I was atmy dad's house because I wasn't allowed to
be alone. He had left togo to work, and my sister was
not aware that I was not supposedto go anywhere, so I had her
take me to Target and somebody sawme and they asked me if I was
pregnant. That set me off off, so I went online got the same
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day passport, got her to takeme, went to the car house,
got my passport. I left oneway, went to Dominican Republic. Was
some random guy that I met offthe internet. Told him I lost a
kid. I make money, Youmake money, Like I want to collap,
Like yeah, I just need Ijust like I just got to get
out of here, like I literallyjust And I didn't know the kid more
than a week. He knew thesituation that I just had to be honest,
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like, hey, just let youknow, like I have a C
section, I'm stitched up, I'mglued up, but I have to get
out of here. And he wasdigital nomadic, so he was like sure,
I'm like okay, cool, hoppedon a plane and go meet some
random like stayed out there a monthtill my body went back to normal because
I couldn't do anything. So yougot some weird kid that's just like fascinated
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with me because I do make moneyon the internet like him me when I'm
fighting demons. Yeah, And Icalled him from the DR because I knew
he could and he couldn't have theconversation with me. He wasn't gonna be
able to like corner me, tobe like no, we're gonna talk,
like because he would have drove,he would have drove over to my home
broke the door down. You're youdon't do stuff like that, and he's
right, you shouldn't do a thing. But um, I didn't want to
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have the conversation. I wasn't ready. I wasn't like, I just wasn't.
And the way that I did,I called him from dr and I
photomailed him, like, you know, just ten everything like it was.
I was like, checked your phone, where are you? I'm like,
I'm out the country. When areyou coming back? I don't know.
Click. We actually didn't sit downfor like probably a year and a half.
Wow, like sit down and likereally because he thought I awarded it.
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So there was like a huge clashof like what yeah, yeah,
yeah, like I would never He'slike your line, why would you hide
it? And it was just ahuge, huge clash until um, they
released my medical records and it showedlike a woman dada dada was rushed in.
Yeah, and it calmed you know, the service were they able to
kind of was your nurse at allable to tell you how long the baby
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had been? So No, that'swhere my story gets worse. Okay,
So I had gone to you know, the only place that can get dead
babies out. What's that Let's takea guess. It's like a chop shop.
A chop shop. So they hadattempted to get him out, um
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like DNC way, because that isthe way that they remove children like dead
past fetuses. Yeah. Unfortunately,they use a tool called a dilator stick
that will fill with water to openyour service up to ten centimeters. Okay,
the dilator stick. Unfortunately, theyshould have known from the very beginning.
But unfortunately, my cervix tightens,not opens. It tightens, so
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the dialayer stick wasn't certain it's tightened, and all the dialayer sticks were um
absorbed into my uterus. So nowyou've seen Willy Wonka. It's like the
best class. Remember Violet how sheblew up? Oh yeah, I started
to blow up. Now I didn'trealize it, but the people around me
were starting to freak out, andthen they were freaking. So the sticks
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are inside of you. Eleven elevendie later. Six had started to fill
with water inside of my uterism.We're expanding with my son. So they
attempted too. They should have justsent me to the yard. But they
attempted for hours to try to getthem out, get them out. I
lost too much, but I wentto shock. That's when they rushed me
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to the hospital. And that's whenI called my dad. So, but
do you end up having a Csection? They couldn't get them out.
They couldn't get anything out of meat that point. There's too much.
There wasn't enough times they do aC section. Yeah, they do the
C section and they cut you openand take everything out that way. Yeah.
Oh, my traumatizer. That's whyI can't have a bait. I
could, but there would be ahuge risk to try to have a natural
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birth. Yeah, it would bea huge risk, like he said,
like thirty percent of Dad, Ohmy goodness. I was like, all,
we'll do the C section. Hewas like, I'll try if you
really want to him like, yougot it. I won't. But wow.
Yeah, the dilator six um startedto fill with water in my uterus.
I obviously now I'm going into shock, blood bloss Sir was rush of
the house. Oh my goodness.So it's just a whole mess within itself,
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Like why did you go there?I'm like, that's what Google said,
so many life lessons. It's suchas short like a twenty three,
so many things. But if wefast forward past that very traumatic experience to
seeing like you kind of be ableto have this capacity to mentally think of,
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Okay, how do I want tomake a shift? And who I
wouldn't even talk about it. Ididn't even admit that I got pregnant almost
like June of twenty teen. Ididn't even like I acknowledge it at all.
I wasn't talking to anybody who.I just kept working like nothing was
happening. When she says working,y'all, like she got laser focused.
Yeah. Literally, I started thefirst version of my kids brand just kidding
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around. Kids sold kids clothes,kids shoes, like five hundred grand and
like two and a half months.But my business partner, thank God for
him, because I was just sooff the racket of people posting like children
and hitting us up. Yeah.I don't want to like even fulfill the
orders because it was just always atrigger because everything was sugaring to me.
Yeah, oh my goodness. Okay, so talk to me about um wealthy
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college kid in the inception of that, and then you know what is meant
to you? So far to walkme back to the day where you're like,
I think I want to do thisselling online or teaching people, um.
Selling online, um, because Isaw that it worked. That was
all I needed, Like this wasa way that I could pay my rent
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and this was a fast way.Yeah, so it made sense, like
selling just random pumping up products likefidget spinners back then. You can't do
that now in twenty twenty two,but back in twenty sixteen, seventeen eighteen,
you could sell anything on Facebook,on Instagram. Yeah, I want
to I want to take a pausehere because your eyes are glazed. I
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know your eyes are glazed, SoI want to talk to you about that.
Actually. Yeah, so you're tellingthis story and you talked about,
you know, some of the demonsso to speak, that you've been able
to overcome just almost recently. Iwant to talk about the narrative behind being
like healed versus I'm trying to thinkof the other word because it feels like
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you you're able to talk about it, but I'm still seeing that, like,
as you're telling this story, youreyes are like glazed because there's always
an emotional attachment, okay, andI feel like there's like a huge stigma.
I guess between healed and like beinga strong black woman. Okay,
and I feel like I was strongto survive it. But I am healed
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because I'm okay with the fact thatit has happened. Does that make sense?
Like it doesn't make me resentful orangry, and I don't blame myself
or anybody anymore and it but Istill have an emotional attachment to that,
you know what I mean, Likethat was something that I did really want
and it happened, Yes, andI acknowledge, you know, mischaracters normal
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and I can have more children,but I don't have a child yet,
So there's always going to be thatthat little bit of like I don't even
know what to call it, likeyou just hold on because you haven't had
something else to grab onto. Iwill never ever be that person's like,
oh, I have two kids andone's in the sky. I will never
be that person. But I'm aperson that I'm always going to hold onto
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that pregnancy until I get the opportunityfor my next and then I feel like
I will fully let go, youknow what I'm saying. Like I'm a
person that, like I have tohold onto something, but I have to
have something else to grab onto.I'm like, that's just what it is.
Like, Yeah, I'm sure sometherapists will try to be like it's
horrible hold onto yourself and faith,but yeah, for me, what's gonna
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ground me is that next pregnancy forsure. But yeah, no, I'm
still always going to hold onto thatsituation, the feeling because it's the only
feeling I have. It's all thatI have, literally, So yeah,
yeah, and I think I thinkthat's actually powerful because it also makes me
think too, Like you know,there might be a sector of women who
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might feel like, I don't knowthat that's unfair, but with you doing
that once you get pregnant again,is it more so like you're saying that
you that in order for you tolet go of what was or what could
have been, you have to,like you have to I need to have
what I lost. You need tohave what you lost. I need a
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child that I'm going to stand onthat Like that's really what it comes down
to, because it's like, youwant me to let go of a pregnancy
and I've never experienced a secondary pregnancy. Yeahs And normally the people telling me
those hop kids. Yeah, soit's like, who are you to tell
me to let go of something youhave? You know what I mean.
It's like telling somebody not to behungry and we're at a plate. We're
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out at a table and you're theonly one eating. Yeah, and you're
like, don't be hungry. Yeah, your time will come. No,
Like, I'm hungry too, andI know that my plate will come,
but I'm still hungry, and I'mI feel like you need to acknowledge that.
That's okay, m Yeah, that'sme. No. I think that's
incredibly insightful and commendable for you tobe able to have, like the ability
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to own that, even though it'snot necessarily a popular Yeah, it's not
a popular I you know, neverto take on. But yeah, I
definitely commend you for that, andI also commend you for your ability to
be a super super dope businesswoman.And so I am interested in that,
and I think people do want tolearn from that because there's so many faces
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to your story, whether it bethe miscarriage, whether it be the a
big and whether it be the domesticviolence. How you've been able to kind
of cultivate a sense of strong isbecause of the same the same token,
like, yes, black women arequote unquote are supposed to be strong,
but you are strong, Like Idon't want to be strong. Why don't
you want to be strong? Forwhat? Like to be honest with you,
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I always tell people this too,like do you really think like if
God had a given me a seconddoor and door number one was like become
a millionaire, get everything and workfor it, and door number two was
like dating another guy that's rich,you really think I would have just dated
something Like I'm just saying like Ihate to be like that, but like,
really think about it. How manywomen if there was the choice,
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the opportunity to date because I wasdating a guy that made six seven figures
and I was like, you know, I've always dated up and you really
think like I woke up. Iwas like I'm gonna be a girl.
No, I was pissed, likeit was a villain origin story. And
most people, most career women,if you know, it is it's because
of some bad relationship, some bestfriend. It's always like there was always
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some bad story behind it. Nobodywas like when I was eight years old,
I wanted to be a boss,Like No, I wanted to bake
cookies, right, and I don'tknow, like I'm baking cookies and I'm
cool. I'm cool. Yes,I have to ask you because you just
tapped on. You just tapped intolike the idea of relationships, in the
perception behind relationships, and just thisdomestic life that you're talking about. If
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you had the choice to pick betweenthe two, people have been following you
for a little while, they wouldknow that one of the ways that you
are most known, most popular isfor having your Kevin Samuel's conversation and he
said I could get a million dollarman talk to me about the moment,
like you tapped into that conversation.I don't feel like anything he said was
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wrong, except for the fact thathe said therapy made me damaged. I
don't really agree with that, Butmost part like he was right though,
like I'm a well capped woman,though I have been my whole childhood.
That's the type of dynamic I grewup watching, and my first serious relationship
was that. The only reason itdidn't go that way is because he forced
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me to be that, Like youput me in a corner, But otherwise
I would have just been sitting therecooking and baking Cookie's like really, yeah,
like I do know cooking. Istill believe in a traditional relationship,
and my relationship now is serious tothe point that I'm not striving to make
eight figures. I'm cool at mythree million, like two to three million
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a year. I'm cool. Ican I'm able to support the things that
I want to do, and ourcombined income we qualify for the things that
we you know, want, andthe monthly payment he can handle. So
it's fine. If we need myincome to get us there and you pay
the mortgage, that's fine. Fine. Yeah, but I'm not looking at
rent. I'm not paying yes,mortgage. I don't know what a bill
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is. On this reaction, Onthis reaction, you're scrolling on Instagram,
Kevin Samuel's is dead. What areyou thinking? You know what's crazy?
People were blowing my comments up.They thought I'd killed him. Shut up.
I was his last life. Iwas the last person. Like,
shut up, I was last life. That's why Revolt TV I covered it.
They were saying I killed him.I did not kill that man.
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I had nothing to do with that. Like you killed him. I'm like,
bro, I did not kill thatman. How were you guys on
for like an hour and a half, like super long. You were his
last live Yeah, girl, Iknow, yeah, it made me a
better me. Rest in peace,Kevin Samuels. Outside of Kevin Samuel's giving
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you relationship advice and just maybe holisticadvice about you, know, your identity,
What do you think has been yourbest takeaway from all of your experience
all of your experiences, what doyou think has been your best takeaway for
like who you are? Um,I just feel like again like every every
experience and every opportunity has always allowedme to better myself. Kevin Samuel's experience
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definitely helped me understand the longevity ofrelationships and retention and relationships because I never
had a problem getting high value menor men that made a certain amount of
money. I just feel like oneI was very quick to quit. Okay,
I'm very quick, Like first redflag, I'm gone. Yeah,
And he kind of like just putme in a position of like you cannot
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keep just aggressively dating because you can, like you have to, you have
to fight for something. And italso really made me put my foot down.
I'm not cohabited. I've only doneit twice. Don't want to act
like I'm just out here living withmat men. I've done it twice and
both times were horrible. But Iwill not cohabitant with a man that is
not giving me commitment like I'm notdoing that comment meaning a ring, i
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am not living together. Okay,this is quiet. Listen to me.
Okay, So I'm curious to know. I do want to ask this.
Okay, So I've been married,well, August will be fifteen years.
I've had different conversations with different womenten years, yes, girl, five,
Yes, I know that's what I'msaying. I've been married with feen.
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No. But when you say commitment, it's just marriage, just commitment.
Also faithfulness to you. Yes,one hundred percent, because because I've
met a woman that are like,oh he can do his little things,
but they'll still be married to me. So I'm interested to know what's your
narrative behind that doing his own thing, like what like go bowling? No,
No, it's funny. You knowwhat's crazy? I always hear you
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know, Freshman Fit tried to pullthat conversation with me too, like,
oh, well he's gonna cheat onyou. And I'm like, at the
end of the day, to myknowledge, I have a faithful relationship right
gift. To my knowledge, itis changing at the end of the day.
I am okay with being judged bytwelve then carried by six. Yes,
and what you do with that informationis cool. But a lot of
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people get acquitted in this day aright. So I'm willing to take my
gamble people. People gamble their lifesavings on games. But I'm wrong because
I'm openly like you know, likeif it happens, it happens, and
I will I will lay my bettermaking it, you know what I mean.
That's my preference, you know whatI'm saying. So but again,
no, like commitment to me isgiving me. You know, I've always
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told people like why would I givemy child your last name if I don't
even have it? Like I saidthat too, my man, Like you
would think a baby's gonna come intothose world with your name? And I'm
gonna be the outsiders, right likelost me, lost me better take us
to the courthouse or me and thatbaby step daddy lives matter, but we're
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gonna all have the same last name. Like I'm not playing that. I'm
just not putting my foot down.And the cohabiting thing is because for example,
Okay, me and I make morethan my boyfriend. Let's say,
for example, I want to livein a place that's ten thousand dollars a
month. They told me, no, I can only do five, and
want me to go fifty fifty.I'm not going fifty fifty with no boyfriend.
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You want to be a team,Yeah, better put us on the
same team with the same last nameon the back of the shirt, and
then I would do a seventy thirtyor a fifty fifty. If you fall
down, I pick you up.But I'm not picking a boyfriend off.
But yeah, I'm sorry. Youhave a mother for that. Yeah,
Like you're just gonna have to doit. Like that's just what I'm standing
on. You know a lot ofpeople will chew me up about this,
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But you want me to be ateam, and we'll hold you down and
build you. We all got tobe on the same we gotta have.
You know how they have teams thesame name is on the back of the
shirt. That's just what it is. How do you feel because like you
like you're you know the bravado thatthe energy that I'm thinking, you know,
it gets masking. It's like I'mnot doing this. It's very masking,
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very much independent, very much aboss chick. But how do you
balance the two of being so independent, being so accomplished in your own right,
with your own success, but stillhaving this jexposition of having to be
quote unquote submissive. I'm domesticated,supersticated. I lived in a domesticated home.
For example, I don't eat cereal. I don't eat reheated food.
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I don't eat pre cooked food becausemy mom cooked everything fresh my whole life.
So I don't expect my man toeat cereal because I don't eat cereal.
I know that everything has to becooked fresh. I know that we
don't eat reheated food. We cookevery single meal. There is no leftover
Thursday. I didn't grow up leftover Thursday, so I don't have that,
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you know what I mean. Andlaundry isn't done on Sundays. Laundry
is done seven days a week.Like, That's how I grew up.
That's how I run my home bymyself. That's how I run my home
with my man. Everything is donelike, so as long as you provide,
then yeah, why wouldn't all thatbe done? I don't I don't
know when the first of the month. Is so why wouldn't I do all
that stuff? I know that myman's plate is supposed to be brought to
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him. I know, like Ihave those same things because that's how I
grew up, you know what Imean. So making my man's plate first
isn't like it's not strange to me. That's that's normal, you know what
I mean, Like his clothes beingdry and all that, like everything's done.
Like I don't know, Wow,and you were brought up that I
was brought up that way. Yeah, and I've never strayed. No,
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why has anybody taken advantage of that? Yes, but that's why I left
all the time. So I left, like I just like and it was
crazy because I know people will associatethat with permiscuidity. Permiscus. Yeah,
that's what I'm I'm like, Idon't want it to like slur, but
um no, I just felt likeI'm not supposed to be here, so
I just leave. But I alwaysgive my relationships one hundred and ten percent
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when like every single time, andI feel like that's why when I do
leave, I don't feel like Ileft anything. So definitely, but no,
it's my mom was a mom thatwas her job. Yeah, so
like, yeah, you what Imean? Like and with being a business
owner, I'm curious to know because, like you just mentioned, you make
more than your boyfriend, Like,how have you been able to navigate that
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kind of terrain of like being ina relationship where you make more than the
person that you're with. So youknow, you only have to make a
certain amount of money to qualify forthings. What do you mean, like
a mortgage or a car? Right? Okay, so me like after a
certain number, what does it matter? My man could go get a g
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Wagon, whether it's cash finance orleast, Yeah, he can idea that
he doesn't have to get one,but the idea that he could, yeah,
like he could go get it,Like you know what I mean,
just because like you guys think,I feel like people associate thought like he
couldn't do it. He could goput ten grand down on a g Wagon
and give it to me and paythe monthly payer. Like what do I
care how he got it? Hecould still do those things for me.
What if he could only put downenough to get a Honda Civic does that
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matter to you? Wouldn't we wouldn'twe been having that conversation. Why I
didn't come into the relationship with aHonda Civic. He didn't come into the
relationship. Why does that matter?Because I'm not building anybody from zero.
You have to have already, Likeyour house has to have four walls.
I'll put the couch and the foodon the table, but you have to
have a house when I get here. That's I'm not A man is paying
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rent or a mortgage in his ownplace by himself? How much does it
cost him if I sleep there?Did he lose out on anything? Like?
You know what I'm saying. Youthink a man is gonna fight me
for fifty fifty because I drink allthe milk in the house. No,
like a real man is going toprovide the same way he was providing for
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himself before I got there. I'mjust an ad on Would you still I
guess what I'm asking is, wouldyou still be in love with your current
boyfriend if he fell off tomorrow?Yes, he has a time limit.
There's a time limit with everything.Wait a second time, like I would
still be there, Yes, Iwould still be there. Yes, but
there is a time limit. What'sthe time frame? Like a year?
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Like to get your shit together,like stand them back up like you can
fall. But I'm await, I'mgonna be standing here, Like when are
you gonna get back up? Becausethe real man will get back up.
That's true. Like that's facts.Okay, Okay, stay dollar forever.
I trust that he will always beable to get back up. But there's
a time if you down there fora year, you were done, like
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your tapped out, like he's outfor the count. But um no,
m that is very interesting, Okay, So for the women, that's good
advice for women who are in arelationship pursuing a relationship. A question for
you, how long did you waitfor a ring? Two years? Kevin
Samuels told me two years? Yeah, me might has been did long distance
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for two years and then I gota ring and then we well, we
got engaged and then six months laterwe got married. Kevin Samuels told me
two years, and I didn't havea wedding. See, I'm the more
I learned about weddings, the moreI'm okay with that. Like the first
I was, I was like,now like at a twenty year mark,
I'm like I wanted to do something. Yeah, But at first I was
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so set on it and now learningabout them, Yeah, I'm like,
I don't want to pay for strangersto eat. I didn't know that.
I didn't know you paid for thosepeople. Yeah, you have to know.
I didn't know that. I didn'tunderstand. Now understanding it, I'm
like, Oh, destination wedding withten people sounds right right, like the
people that can afford their own flightsexactly. Yeah, this is a great
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idea. I definitely think I'll havea destination wedding. Yeah. Yeah,
ten people, No, Yeah,I highly encouraged, Marge. I think
it's like one of the most beautifulthings. It's I love it. It's
been an amazing experience for me.And I feel like what you're saying,
like when you have that anchor ofsomebody who's like totally committed to you and
it's like your life partner, thickand thin, like through and through and
all the something to fight for it. Did I feel like if I had
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a child with no ring, Iwill leave you easily. Yeah, I'll
be like, oh, I don'tneed this, I make money, but
that that commitment and that you know, like us really being on the same
team, having all that same name. I'm like, no, like,
yeah, I'll dug it, likeat least like yeah, through thick and
thin, as long as it Yeah, but for the most right, yeah,
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like I'll, you know, I'll, I feel like we have something
to fight for. So for me, like it's worth it. Yeah sure.
Okay. So for the women whoare like I want to be an
entrepreneur, I want to be aboss in business, what were some of
the key I guess factors to yoursuccess that you can kind of like translate
to women who want to follow him. Consistency, Definitely waking up every single
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day and just giving it one hundredand ten percent um. Grind culture.
I know a lot of people areagainst it at grind Culture's grind culture.
Work until you die, work ninetill dine. Just put in the work
and like in a day a day'swork, six months, every day,
six months, every day. Iwas not going to sleep for days.
Not healthy, not not recommended.But if you're a person that honestly like
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looks at my results, looks atmy lifestyle, like damn, I want
to be there. Yeah, you'regonna have You're gonna have to. It's
just the truth. You know,there's there's ai, there's people that will
make it easier. But at theend of the day, you just have
to put in the fucking work.Yeah, just do Like that's just the
truth. Like you have to wakeup every day and put it in one
hundred and ten percent, Like youdon't have anything, and you did them
for how long? Four years?And now it's paid off. Now I
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have staff, and now I travelwith arm and big cookies and worry about
what my man is eating if youwant, Yeah, I make sure he
took his probiotics and use this hisnative toxic free deodor because we live a
toxic free life. Because I checkthe labels of everything because that is my
life. No, wow, okay, okay, So they need to grind
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for four years straight. Literally,just don't sleep, sleep barely. See,
put in the work one hundred,one hundred and twenty percent as much
as you can, especially if you'rea woman with no kids, no no
baggage, nothing, put one hundredand ten percent. You would definitely see
the fruits of your labor. LikeI went to twenty twenty countries last year.
Wow, Like just got a Bentleylike last month. Yeah, a
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lot of people don't do both.Oh my Bentley's paid cash twenty nineteen cash
pink slip. Traveling Wow, Okay, Okay, so you just live.
Okay, So you're living life.You're traveling to all these countries, you
have a Bentley. But would youwalk away today saying that you are fulfilled
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if I got pregnant today? Yeah, so that's the only thing that's missing,
the only thing, because I would. I'm ready to like sit down
somewhere. But my boy friend's justlike working show, he's on what you
were on. Yeah, he's workingto be able to be a sole provider,
you know, me on one andcome home to a degree or at
least, you know, seventy thirtyhome. So I respect that I let
him work. And while he's working, you guys can find me in Brazil
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with my other unemployed home girls.Cannot. I cannot? Okay. So
with your business, though you've beenable to see a cheap, essentially multimillion
dollars success with that, what wouldyou say was a common denominator to being
able to accomplish that level of revenueconsistency? Why does every Okay? So
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I will actually like break it downevery single day. I would go live
three times a day, every singleday even today. Actually, I'm on
Clubhouse Monday through Friday an hour.I'm on Live Monday through Friday an hour.
I do a free class every singleWednesday. I've done close this year
to thirty eight podcasts. Literally,I I don't turn down work. I
don't like I Literally in twenty nineteen, I did forty events. I just
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kept showing. I showed up withno tickets. Sometimes I was like,
I'll figure it out when I getthere, Like putting myself in the room,
posting, doing advertisements when I don'tknow how, reaching out to influencers.
I do all of it. AndI did it myself, because how
am I going to hire somebody ifI don't even know what it takes,
Like sales calls, everything, LikeI woke up every single day and I
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had a routine, and I didevery single thing until I had a sale.
I will call people until I makea sale. I will email people
until somebody responds back. I didnot. I did not give up.
I did not take no for ananswer, And that to me is consistency.
And if you needed to do list, you need to start with post
on TikTok, post on Twitter,post on Facebook, post on Facebook group,
did you make a Lemon account?Lemon eight just rolled out. Did
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you post on LinkedIn? Did yougo live on YouTube and Facebook and Instagram
and TikTok? You know, doall of those things every single day.
And if you don't have an ideaof what to post, ask chat GBT
what to post for today, anddo it. And after you're done posting,
did you email? I wanted tobe a travel influencer. I emailed
every single hotel I wanted to stayout in twenty twenty two until two of
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them fit Tom and that's okay,Like I wanted to do that, So
I put in the work. Iemailed them, I DM them. My
boyfriend's verified, so I asked himto DM all of those pages in d
and see if he got a response. And we just do that until we
get a response. Wow, thatis consistency. And I did that for
four years with literally even my miscarriagein the hospital bed, I was closing
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deals. I mean, like,I think I have a post. I
have a video. It's it's sadand traumatizing and triggering, but I'll post
it again. It's a video ofme and you see like the gauze and
I'm like hey, guys, Likeyou see the ultrasound in the back with
the pregnancy test, because I wassleeping next to it at this time.
I was fresh out, and I'mlike, hey, guys, I just
wanted to show you my progression.Just got back from a vacation because I
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didn't know where and what happened tome. I just looked sick and I'm
like, hey, guys, AndI flipped the screen and I show,
like, did thirty eight thousand andseven days? And it's like I think
it was showing like April twenty,Yeah, it happened on the thirteenth,
type like it was like my god, I did not care. I'm like,
hey, guys, look at mystuff, like makes you like comment
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da da da da. I didnot care nothing like people are commenting like
it's not a ultrasound. Yeah,look okay, and I'm sleep like if
it's not about that video, Idid not hair like I just deleted it.
But I literally did not stop forfour years through everything, which a
lot of people will say that waslike a huge trauma response, and it
was, but I was doing thatbefore it happened, right, I was
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like, it wasn't that I starteddoing that because of my miscarriage. I
was doing that through it, duringit, after it, I was just
every day posting, posting, posting, posting, lying about what happened,
lying about the fact that I gotpregnant, because it was nobody's business at
the time. And then I finallyadmitted it and I made a video.
I was like, yeah, thishappened, and stuff like that. But
for the most part, oh,wake up every single day and post and
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create and try your best if youlike your last dollar, like I was
doing, and you'll see the results. Yeah, that's real consistency though,
And as we close, I'm curiousto know because finding your niche for niche,
I love talking people who have foundtheir own lane, found their path.
For you. So far, it'sbeen the e commerce, you know,
in the clothing line. But whatwould you say was that moment for
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you? Were you it was like, Okay, this is exactly what I
want to do. In compared purpose? Yeah, um, you know what's
crazy. I always tell people like, my purpose was never selling crap online.
Okay, it was neworth teaching peopleeither. My purpose was being able
to do all of the things asa child. Now you know what I
mean? I saw in a historybook the Pyramids. So being able to
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go out and see the pyramids wasmy purpose. My purpose was just being
able to like, like, andit's crazy every world wonder I have like
the same corny photo. All ofmy new arm pictures look like school pictures.
Like it's just like, like,I'm just happy to exist. I'm
happy to learn and understand the thingsthat you know have happened in this world
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and you know our history, likeI'm just a sponge. That's good.
I just had this thought just now, if there were words that you would
want to say to your unborn son, what were those? Would I say?
What would you saying? Hey,we did it, that we did
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it because you made it. You'rehere with me. Wow, we did
it. We good. I'm soproud of you. Yeah, it's just
like we did it. When hefinally here, we did it. He
didn't die. M what do youmean by that? We did it?
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We made it through pregnancy. Wow. So it's just like, yeah,
I love you. And it's crazybecause people are always telling me I look
at motionless on camera. They're neverseeing me break. But it's just I
just feel like that's like that's theonly thing I would say, is we
did it, because when we makeit, it's like we made it,
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you know what I mean. That'sthe only thing I could be grateful for
us to make it. And I'mtrying to understand when you say when we
make it, because pregnancy, nomatter no matter how you look at it,
it's you. You're gonna wake upwith fear, you know what I
mean. I'm sure like you canrelate like you're just scared or like,
oh you're something Like I tell people, like, it's gonna be hard for
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me to look at a positive andbe happy. I'm gonna get scared.
I just know I am because youknow, like I wanted to make it.
So like when I think of myson or I think of a future
pregnancy, I just think of likewhen everyone's like, what would you say,
it's like we did it. Wemade it, Like we made it
through nine we made it through thethird trimester. Because eighteen weeks isn't normal,
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Yeah, it's not unfortunate, Sonineteen weeks for you, yeah,
it's a milestone though Yeah, wellno, because you can't survive outside the
woman until twenty two, so twentytwo would be my milestone mentally, But
um, but yeah, like it'sjust it's it's there's it's a freak accident.
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Yeah, I just I take thatfor what it is. I learned,
and I definitely you know, Ineeded that and why I would say
that, like sometimes you're financially readybut not mentally ready. And I feel
like that put me on track tounderstand you know what I mean. So
yeah, it's just I just wantto make it yeah, because I mean
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it. And you know, it'scrazy. My miscarriage removed my fear factor.
So I skydive, I jump offcliffs, I do everything I do.
I have no indicator of beer wow, and materials to stiff doesn't give
me a dopamine high. The skydivingand the cliffs and the snowboarding and the
wakeboarding, that's where my dopamine comesfrom. Now, it's really Yeah,
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it's bad because I felt like Icheated dat I lost so much blood.
I was laying there on some littlelike it like and it's crazy you see
those tiktoks. I saw it fora while. Everybody was like if,
um, if you have to chooseme or the baby, choose me,
And it's like I have kids athome, but for me, in that
moment and for two years after,I'm like, if I have a kid,
(54:49):
don't pick me. I was onthat. I was on that for
a minute. Wow. It tookmy boyfriend to kind of like talk it
of like we can make more baby. I can't get another, or you
right, we can have a hundredbabies. You is over got here and
I wasn't. I wasn't thinking likethat at first. I was thinking like,
no, I want this baby tomake it regardless. I don't give
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a book how we get there,like pick the baby. But it took
him to kind of like kind ofbring that full circle of like we can
babies all day, make lots ofbabies. And I wasn't thinking like that
at first. I was just onsome like no, like this is the
one that's got to take it,you know what I mean, like that,
Oh that was my only chance ifI do get that far. So
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that scarcity mindset, yeah it is, Yeah, that's what it is.
So it just takes time to breakout of that therapy and a patient.
Man. I feel like the relationshipsthat didn't work for me, the relationships
that did not work, I feellike y'all all did lack patience. But
again I left before you could showme, so who would all? Yeah,
a patient man is a great man. Yeah, like I don't know.
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Yeah, well, I'm so proudof you. You made it for
sure. Every day girl, youare doing it. And for people who
want to tap into what you're doing, people who want to kind of like,
you know, get involved with Wealthycollege Kid and learn about the educational
aspects of e commerce and the clothingline. How can they do that?
You guys can find me at ChristianaHurt on Instagram or any social media platform.
(56:22):
I'm still not verified, so youguys can come see me. Yeah
you are verified, it's not onInstagram. Yeah, I'm verified on Facebook,
but you guys can come and seeme or just type in wealthy college
kid and then just kidding Kids isactually a wellness brand now and it is
Yep. It's vegan, non gmo, no artificial colors, probiotic and multi
(56:42):
vitamins, drops for infants and thengummies for toddlers and teams and kids.
So it's super excited about that andentering the supplement space. I have a
great manufacturer and a great team byme, so you guys will see that.
All twenty twenty three. There itis. Yeah, this has been
another amazing, dynamic episode. Sofinding your niche for niche. I'm so
glad you guys tapped into this amazinginterview, and I'm so glad to be
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connected with you and to talk withyou. And I just commend you for
your strength and your audaciousness to continue, you know, steam forward, um,
in the face of insurmountable odds,and I congratulate you on your success.
Yeah girl, So yeah, y'alltap into what she's got going on
and subscribe to the channel. Allright, we out of here. Peace,
When you say I found out thatI was pregnant late what is late?
Eighteen weeks? That hurts right becauseit's a gender ident A full baby,
yeah, not a blob that's likewhat for almost four months? Four and
a half. Yeah, So howdo you not know? Though people are
period A lot of women that aredefinitely a crop top Shawdy definitely jim twice
(00:23):
a day, five days a week. Girl, Like I'm going to see
my dad, my boyfriend, mydoctor, and a crop top and nobody
caught it. If I showed youpictures, you would be like pregnant.
Where my doctor that saw me thatmorning when we did finally figure it out
because I thought I had a tumor. I thought I was dying, yeah,
because the tests were coming back negative. So when we finally figured it
out, he was like, probablylike two to three weeks, I can't
(00:43):
really feel anything. It was myjust gut feeling of like hmmm, let's
get an ultra sound. He's like, you may not be able to see
anything. I was like, yeah, but I just like want to see
it, like you want to likereally like kind of like understand like this
is real, you know what Imean? The ultrasound woman was like,
how pregnant did you say you were? I was like two or three weeks,
and she was like, we wantto know the gender. I'm still
(01:04):
laying there like how pregnant do youhave to be to know the gender?
Looking around? This is my firstultra sound, so I'm just looking around
like, wow, this is supercool. Yeah, Like I didn't even
call anybody to go with me becauseI'm thinking you're not gonna be able to
see anything. Yeah, I'm thinkinglike okay, Like I'm like, yeah,
like I'm gonna make sure before Imake the phone call. I'm gonna
make sure like this is real,because again, I don't want to make
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that phone call and it be fake, you know what I mean. So
I'm like, okay, like I'lljust go get the ultra sound too.
She's like doing a nother gender andI'm still sitting here and dumb as how
Like how pregnant is that? Shewas like, you're measuring at eighteen weeks.
I'm like, wow, that's that'sthat's halfway. She's like, yeah,
you're halfway. And then a coupleof seconds later she can't find a
(01:47):
heartbeat. What is that like?And we are back for another amazing episode
(02:19):
of Finding Her Niche with Niche.My name is Niche. I am your
lovely host, and I am alwaysexcited when I actually get a chance to
sit across from what I would calla boss chick, like for real,
for real, like in real life, like not Instagram life, in real
life. And right now I'm sittingnext to one of the people that I
have learned to really admire the hustle, the grind, Christiana Hurt. Thank
(02:43):
you so much for coming on this. Yeah, I'm excited. So she's
on the show that they've talked abouthow she found her niche in specifically e
commerce, but there's a lot ofelements, a lot of fastest to her
story and she has become this multimillionaire owner of Wealthy College Kid, which
is an e commerce educational platform aswell as a clothing line company, and
(03:07):
I want to kind of talk toyou about that, but before we get
into the nitty greedy of the businessaspects, I am even maybe more a
little bit more interested and fascinated withthe person of who you are in your
story and how you've been able tokind of overcome, so to speak,
all of the adversities that you've facedin order to kind of like see this
current level of success that we seetoday. So if we were to kind
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of backtrack a little bit, becausethere's so many different nuances and facets to
who you are, can you talkto me a little bit maybe for the
people who don't know who Christiana is? Who are you? So? Christiana
her? And it's so crazy becauseI can't remeser those world with just my
first last name. I had toadd some little bit of split to it.
(03:52):
I moved out at twenty one yearsold, which you know a lot
of people may think like, oh, that's not that bad, But I
moved out straight from my dad's houseto live with a boy, which is
I'm gonna take a lot of peoplemake nowadays, which if I had to
do it all over again, Iwould highly recommend not moving out with a
man. But but unfortunately, youknow, that was under the pretenses that
this man was going to pay thebills. You know, I'm coming from
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my parents' house, so I kindof didn't really have a taste of adulting
yet to now I have thirty daysto figure out how I'm going to pay
three thousand dollars in rent because he'snot paying it. We're fighting. The
situation's just getting time. Sorry sorrysorry sorry sorry sorry? Three thousand dollars
in rent? Yeah, where areyou living in? How to space?
It was just three too, likeliterally, it's going on here, okay,
(04:36):
sorry for seed. So I hadto figure out how I was going
to pay the rent, and Istarted off with selling other people's products.
Was able to make the rent moneyliterally like June second because we had like
one month free rent. Okay,so I paid the rent, but then
I was still like that broke.So I was selling other people's products to
then selling my own products. SoI started off with a fishing pole pen.
(04:56):
I never fished a day in mylife, but I knew the types
of people that like to fish,you know what I'm saying. Yeah,
they're older. I knew they wouldlive by lakes like things like that my
ideal customer. So that kind ofshowed me. Okay, like now I'm
like making money, you know,five ten grands to then selling makeup and
making like eighty nine grand at likethree weeks. Did you're saying big numbers?
Well, numbers that are big tosome people. No, of course,
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And I'll always tell people like Iwas anomaly. Okay, I what
my situation was very risky. Idon't recommend that one should never move out
with a boy number two, shouldnot be taking credit cards in dumping them
and spending all your money on advertisingand just praying. And I was very
blessed that I did do that,you know what I'm saying, Like,
(05:40):
I was very blessed. But atthe end of the day, deep down
in my heart, I did havea home I could go back to.
Okay, even though I didn't doit, and even though I didn't call
for help, I had a safetynet. And I definitely dumped everything with
the mindset of like, well,if all else fail, did you do
that because you knew you had thesafety name at the time, No,
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But looking back, I'm like,that wasn't like that deep it wasn't that
risky. But in the moment,I would have rather died and gotten evicted
than call my dad tell him thathe was right. Why pride, honestly,
pride, So your dad warned you, Yeah, you told me not
to move out. He was like, if you're like, what are you
doing? You have a perfectly goodSo what is that phone call like when
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you have to humble yourself and likesay, hey, I'm getting a victim.
Yeah. I waited literally till thetwenty four hour notice was on the
door to like hey I'm getting avictim. He was like what Like he
was like, don't you have likea notice? Like how much you need?
I was just know what's over likethe notice it's on the door.
I have to go when you tellthe story, because you've told this story
so many times. But you know, I heard I heard somebody say once
(06:45):
that I think it was it wasa pastor. He said. The way
you know you're really forgiven a situationor forgiven a person is if you don't
have the same feelings when that storycomes up. Have you forgiven that person?
Have you forgiven yourself? Or whenyou tell this story so many times,
are you still having the same emotionsthat were attached to the situation.
Absolutely not. Um if you hadhave asked me prior to twenty eighteen,
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there was like a lot like mybusiness was built out of survival, okay,
And you know it was a villainorigin story and I'm okay with saying
that. And you know, twentyeighteen came around and life really humbled me
because I got pregnant and lost myson. So that C section kind of
like brought me back down to earthto not only just understand, you know,
the value of life, but justunderstanding like you don't want to make
(07:34):
the phone call to your that sameparent to say, hey, they're trying
to rush me to surgery, Ineed a blood transfusion, but I don't
want to sign like the same pride. That same pride is why I had
to make that phone call just twoyears after my eviction, I had to
make the same phone call of like, hey, like I got myself into
something, but this time, likemy life was on the line, and
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I waited till the very last minuteto the point that, yeah, my
surgery was supposed to last like Ithink like three hours. I was under
for like eleven hours your surgery forsection. So obviously c sections can go
along, but I was put Iwas under general um and because it was
so rush and I had lost somuch blood, wasn't It was not a
(08:18):
good story and it was a lotof it was probably a lot of anxiety
for my family, for everybody thatwas involved. And again that just kind
of brought me back down to earth, like you really have to may sometimes
make the call okay, question,So that's a story that you kind of
you kind of speed by, youspeed by that story. You speed by
that story a lot. I don'twant to speed by that story anymore,
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Okay, I want you to talkabout that because it's traumatic the in addition
or my child, your child.No, it's definitely the most traumatizing point
of Yes, So I'm curious toknow because I'm a parent. I'm a
seven year old daughter now, andI couldn't imagine being so you know,
(09:05):
learning about her, being so excitedabout her, to find out that she's
not going to exist in my life. The day I found out was the
same day I found out that hedidn't have a heart beat. I didn't
have an opportunity to process the emotions. So, and it's crazy because I
don't know if it for you.But when I went to the hospital,
they kept sending in this lady.I'll never forget her. Her name was
Danielle. She just kept coming inlike here to talk to you about postpartum,
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and I'm like, get out.Yeah, I was not trying to
have the conversation, was not tryingto nothing. They were asking me if
they want to I guess like thefootprint. I didn't want that. I
didn't want anything. I was nottrying to I wasn't trying to talk.
I was just pissed, Like I'mangry at myself. I was angry at
the man that I was involved withbecause I felt like he gave me a
(09:50):
dead baby. I just was lookingfor anybody to blame, and it was
just a lot. It took me, like probably that happened in twenty eighteen.
I probably didn't like really fully comprehendwhat happened to my body until like
twenty twenty. Wow, didn't reallygrasp it and heal from it till like
twenty twenty two. Yeah, likeJune, not even a year ago.
(10:11):
It took years. So how oftendo you think about this child that you've
never met? Um? I honestlystopped like holding onto him with my dear
life. Probably this past June,um I flew out to La. I
finally I'm in a healthy relationship,so I was kind of like more open
(10:33):
to having the conversations about it andnot so much like holding out because I
still had the ultrasound that I wasjust like, no, you couldn't have
conversations with me, about it andI dated prior to the relationship I'm in
now yea, and there was likearguments about this ultrasound, what do you
mean, like why do you havethat still, like let it go.
I don't want to see it.And I'm just like you can go,
(10:54):
like rather, I'll just right herewith my own yeah yeah, yeah,
no, Like you're not gonna geta baby without me. And I'm like,
that's nice. I'll be here withmy ultrasound. That's cool. I
just wasn't trying to have a conversationyet. I was just there's no talking
to me. Yeah to twenty twentytwo, like I met somebody who had
the patience to kind of like talkme down. We're going to not have
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this in the bathroom. Yeah,We're gonna put him in the kitchen.
I'm like, okay, he's goingto be in the kitchen. Yeah,
be in there, like to slowlylike okay, we'll put it in a
safe and like it kind of likeand beyond. And then June made the
decision to fly out to LA tosee a high risk pregnancy doctor that specialized
in situations like this because now Ican't see, like I can't just get
pregnant and go to an obie.It's it's something that we had to have
(11:39):
a conversation once so to having myfirst ultrasound June twenty twenty two, since
that miscarriage, to knowing you know, how did it heal? Where our
options? Are there any issues tofinding out like, hey, you're fine,
Like nothing is gonna go wrong,but at the end, you're just
going to deliver six weeks early asopposed to the normal because we don't want
(12:00):
you to contract your uters to contractbecause you will die, right because the
uterus will rip, it'll rupture,so you know, like and it just
kind of assured me that like,hey, like if you do want to
go natural, here's here's your risk. I'll ride this boat with you.
But here's a safe route that youcan go through and everything will be fine.
So it kind of just assured meto feel like, Okay, when
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I'm ready to have a child,there's nothing to worry about because you have
to think, my first pargncity everin my life. There you know,
we all have those I think rightnow, like you have those moments,
but you never like your first positivetest where it's real. That was my
first positive test ever, and Ididn't know I was pregnant. I found
out very very late that I waspregnant. So for me, you got
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to think, like when I sawthat positive, the fear of ever seeing
it again realistically just made me thinklike, well, this is that's certificated.
Yeah, because the last time Igot it, within seventy two hours,
I was being rushed to the hospital. When you say I found out
that I was pregnant late, whatis late eighteen weeks? That hurts right,
because it's a gender identic, fullbaby, Yeah, not a blob
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that's like what for almost four months? Four and a half. Yeah,
So how do you not know?Though people are period A lot of women
that are definitely a crop top Shaudydefinitely Jim twice a day, five days
a week. Girl, Like I'mgoing to see my dad, my boyfriend,
my doctor, and a crop topand nobody caught it. If I
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showed you pictures, you would belike pregnant. Where my doctor that saw
me that morning when we did finallyfigure it out, because I thought I
had a tumor. I thought Iwas dying, yeah, because the tests
were coming back negative. So whenwe finally figured it out, he was
like probably like two to three weeks. I can't really feel anything. It
was my just gut feeling of likehmmm, let's get an ultra sound.
He's like, you may not beable to see anything. I was like,
yeah, but I just like wantto see it, like you want
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to like really like kind of likeunderstand like this is real, you know
what I mean. The ultrasound womanwas like, how Bregnan did you say
you were? I was like twothree weeks and she was like, we
want to know the gen. I'mstill laying there like how pregnant do you
have to be to know the gender? Looking around? This is my first
ultrasound, so I'm just looking aroundlike wow, this is super cool.
Yeah. Like I didn't even callanybody to go with me because I'm thinking
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you're not gonna be able to seeanything. Yeah, I'm thinking like okay,
I'm so yeah, like I'm gonnamake sure before I make the phone
call, I'm gonna make sure likethis is real, because again I don't
want to make that phone call andit be fake, you know what I
mean. So like okay, likeI'll just go get the ultrasound too.
She's like you an no, genderand I'm still sitting here and dumb as
(14:30):
how like, how pregnant is that? She was like, you're measuring at
eighteen weeks. I'm like, wow, that's that's halfway. She was like,
yeah, you're halfway. And thena couple of seconds later she can
find a heartbeat. What is that? Like, I didn't understand it at
the time. Gotta think this ismy first time. How how would I
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understand that? That means you're miscarry, that means you go home? Like,
I didn't understand that. When shetold me I was going to pass
him naturally and see my ob Iwas like, no, I was on
Google trying to see how to removedead baby. I was just on Google,
like trying to figure it out.Oh my god, I didn't know
you could go to the hospital.I didn't know. I did not know.
I'm twenty twenty three at the time. Dagn girl. It was traumatizing.
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I definitely could imagine that. Andyeah, so you decided to carry
the ultrasound, to try to carrythat and continue it. Just I don't
know. I felt like I wasjust holding onto making up was there.
I never want to say on thistoo long, but I just I feel
like there's a person that can benefitfrom this conversation. But I want to
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know, like, is there apart of you that is like I don't
know. I'm trying to think ofhow to ask the question that is kind
of like you feel like you letyour son down. I felt like as
a woman that you know, mysuccess was cool. And this is crazy
because this was even before the hypeof like menals, and it was before
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the hype. I just felt like, damn, like my one job on
this earth as a female is tocreate life, and I have a dead
kid. I feeled myself like Ifeeled the people around me, I feeled
my family. I felt I failedeverybody. How can you fail though?
How can you hold yourself accountable forsomething? Because I should have known?
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How did I miss that I wasworking too much? I was working out,
I was partying. I I wasn'tdrinking at the time, but I
definitely, like would think about thetimes I'd skip breakfast, yeah, or
I didn't drink a bottle of water, like all of those things now we're
running through my head. Yeah,like yeah, so I So, did
you have a period of time whereyou blamed yourself? Yeah? For like
(16:48):
two years like literally two years.Wow, Like it was bad. It
was really bad, Like the relationshipsI have. I pray for all of
you every day because there was notalking to me. There was there was.
It was just I had a goalof creating a family and I didn't
care how I got it. Idid not give not one fuck about any
(17:11):
money. Like it was just inmy head of like I'm going to create
a family and whatever happens to youis whatever happens to you. Wow,
did not care. And you havethese people that are like actually like in
love with me, yes, andI have not an ounce You have this
selfish motive from the very beginning oflike I need my son back, Like
(17:33):
are you gonna give me a sonor get on? Like I don't need
anything else, I need my family. Like there's just no talking to me.
Yeah. And then when I wasn'tgetting pregnant, because at this point
I was just like that was definitelygambling. Yeah it wasn't happening, So
I'm blame. I'm like, getout, like it's your fault. It's
you. It can't be me,it's you. Like you're a broken man,
Like you're broken. So um,definitely pray for all of them,
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and it was just the time thatI just had to take a step back
and go to therapy. Yeah.Sure, definitely go to therapy and just
kind of unlearn that in a senseand like let it go and then allow
a relationship to just come to me. Yeah, and naturally or God brought
me a man that had patience forall of that that really could just like
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talk me down to feel trust,like trust him enough that when it does
happen, like you're going to befine. It's supposed to happen the way
that it's supposed to happen. Wow. What a fascinating story. And I
feel like there's so much meat totake from that, and that there's so
much substance of like the narrative,you know what you're saying. It's very
(18:40):
sobering, and I feel like alot of women can relate to that.
I feel like it will resonate noteven just the loss of a child,
but when you think of that,if you isolate those two, when you
think about, Okay, the lossof a child is one thing, but
then like you're still you as aperson, as a human being. Very
different feeling when you're sat home fromthe hospital and you're still looked pargnet.
(19:02):
M that was that far. Ilooked Parknet and people. But what is
the phone call when you're like,hey, I'm pregnant. Oh no,
I'm not. I called him fromI was so The guy that I was
dating was a high school sweetheart,so I made't even worse. He had
known me like damn year was fivesix seven years probably like wow, whole
(19:22):
high school career. So I knewhe was on felony probation. I knew
he was gonna murder me for Ididn't call him. I mean the call.
I got my passport. This iswhen I got my passport. So
my miscarriage was on the thirteenth.My surgery was on the sixteenth. I
got my passport the twenty eighth.I got released on the twenty six so
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I got released. I was atmy dad's house because I wasn't allowed to
be alone. He had left togo to work, and my sister was
not aware that I was not supposedto go anywhere, so I had her
take me to Target and somebody sawme and they asked me if I was
pregnant. That set me off off, so I went online got the same
(20:06):
day passport, got her to takeme, went to the car house,
got my passport. I left oneway, went to Dominican Republic. Was
some random guy that I met offthe internet. Told him I lost a
kid. I make money, Youmake money, Like I want to collap,
Like yeah, I just need Ijust like I just got to get
out of here, like I literallyjust And I didn't know the kid more
than a week. He knew thesituation that I just had to be honest,
(20:27):
like, hey, just let youknow, like I have a C
section, I'm stitched up, I'mglued up, but I have to get
out of here. And he wasdigital nomadic, so he was like sure,
I'm like okay, cool, hoppedon a plane and go meet some
random like stayed out there a monthtill my body went back to normal because
I couldn't do anything. So yougot some weird kid that's just like fascinated
(20:51):
with me because I do make moneyon the internet like him me when I'm
fighting demons. Yeah, And Icalled him from the DR because I knew
he could and he couldn't have theconversation with me. He wasn't gonna be
able to like corner me, tobe like no, we're gonna talk,
like because he would have drove,he would have drove over to my home
broke the door down. You're youdon't do stuff like that, and he's
right, you shouldn't do a thing. But um, I didn't want to
(21:18):
have the conversation. I wasn't ready. I wasn't like, I just wasn't.
And the way that I did,I called him from dr and I
photomailed him, like, you know, just ten everything like it was.
I was like, checked your phone, where are you? I'm like,
I'm out the country. When areyou coming back? I don't know.
Click. We actually didn't sit downfor like probably a year and a half.
Wow, like sit down and likereally because he thought I awarded it.
(21:41):
So there was like a huge clashof like what yeah, yeah,
yeah, like I would never He'slike your line, why would you hide
it? And it was just ahuge, huge clash until um, they
released my medical records and it showedlike a woman dada dada was rushed in.
Yeah, and it calmed you know, the service were they able to
kind of was your nurse at allable to tell you how long the baby
(22:04):
had been? So No, that'swhere my story gets worse. Okay,
So I had gone to you know, the only place that can get dead
babies out. What's that Let's takea guess. It's like a chop shop.
A chop shop. So they hadattempted to get him out, um
(22:25):
like DNC way, because that isthe way that they remove children like dead
past fetuses. Yeah. Unfortunately,they use a tool called a dilator stick
that will fill with water to openyour service up to ten centimeters. Okay,
the dilator stick. Unfortunately, theyshould have known from the very beginning.
But unfortunately, my cervix tightens,not opens. It tightens, so
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the dialayer stick wasn't certain it's tightened, and all the dialayer sticks were um
absorbed into my uterus. So nowyou've seen Willy Wonka. It's like the
best class. Remember Violet how sheblew up? Oh yeah, I started
to blow up. Now I didn'trealize it, but the people around me
were starting to freak out, andthen they were freaking. So the sticks
(23:08):
are inside of you. Eleven elevendie later. Six had started to fill
with water inside of my uterism.We're expanding with my son. So they
attempted too. They should have justsent me to the yard. But they
attempted for hours to try to getthem out, get them out. I
lost too much, but I wentto shock. That's when they rushed me
(23:30):
to the hospital. And that's whenI called my dad. So, but
do you end up having a Csection? They couldn't get them out.
They couldn't get anything out of meat that point. There's too much.
There wasn't enough times they do aC section. Yeah, they do the
C section and they cut you openand take everything out that way. Yeah.
Oh, my traumatizer. That's whyI can't have a bait. I
could, but there would be ahuge risk to try to have a natural
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birth. Yeah, it would bea huge risk, like he said,
like thirty percent of Dad, Ohmy goodness. I was like, all,
we'll do the C section. Hewas like, I'll try if you
really want to him like, yougot it. I won't. But wow.
Yeah, the dilator six um startedto fill with water in my uterus.
I obviously now I'm going into shock, blood bloss Sir was rush of
the house. Oh my goodness.So it's just a whole mess within itself,
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Like why did you go there?I'm like, that's what Google said,
so many life lessons. It's suchas short like a twenty three,
so many things. But if wefast forward past that very traumatic experience to
seeing like you kind of be ableto have this capacity to mentally think of,
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Okay, how do I want tomake a shift? And who I
wouldn't even talk about it. Ididn't even admit that I got pregnant almost
like June of twenty teen. Ididn't even like I acknowledge it at all.
I wasn't talking to anybody who.I just kept working like nothing was
happening. When she says working,y'all, like she got laser focused.
Yeah. Literally, I started thefirst version of my kids brand just kidding
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around. Kids sold kids clothes,kids shoes, like five hundred grand and
like two and a half months.But my business partner, thank God for
him, because I was just sooff the racket of people posting like children
and hitting us up. Yeah.I don't want to like even fulfill the
orders because it was just always atrigger because everything was sugaring to me.
Yeah, oh my goodness. Okay, so talk to me about um wealthy
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college kid in the inception of that, and then you know what is meant
to you? So far to walkme back to the day where you're like,
I think I want to do thisselling online or teaching people, um.
Selling online, um, because Isaw that it worked. That was
all I needed, Like this wasa way that I could pay my rent
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and this was a fast way.Yeah, so it made sense, like
selling just random pumping up products likefidget spinners back then. You can't do
that now in twenty twenty two,but back in twenty sixteen, seventeen eighteen,
you could sell anything on Facebook,on Instagram. Yeah, I want
to I want to take a pausehere because your eyes are glazed. I
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know your eyes are glazed, SoI want to talk to you about that.
Actually. Yeah, so you're tellingthis story and you talked about,
you know, some of the demonsso to speak, that you've been able
to overcome just almost recently. Iwant to talk about the narrative behind being
like healed versus I'm trying to thinkof the other word because it feels like
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you you're able to talk about it, but I'm still seeing that, like,
as you're telling this story, youreyes are like glazed because there's always
an emotional attachment, okay, andI feel like there's like a huge stigma.
I guess between healed and like beinga strong black woman. Okay,
and I feel like I was strongto survive it. But I am healed
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because I'm okay with the fact thatit has happened. Does that make sense?
Like it doesn't make me resentful orangry, and I don't blame myself
or anybody anymore and it but Istill have an emotional attachment to that,
you know what I mean, Likethat was something that I did really want
and it happened, Yes, andI acknowledge, you know, mischaracters normal
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and I can have more children,but I don't have a child yet,
So there's always going to be thatthat little bit of like I don't even
know what to call it, likeyou just hold on because you haven't had
something else to grab onto. Iwill never ever be that person's like,
oh, I have two kids andone's in the sky. I will never
be that person. But I'm aperson that I'm always going to hold onto
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that pregnancy until I get the opportunityfor my next and then I feel like
I will fully let go, youknow what I'm saying. Like I'm a
person that, like I have tohold onto something, but I have to
have something else to grab onto.I'm like, that's just what it is.
Like, Yeah, I'm sure sometherapists will try to be like it's
horrible hold onto yourself and faith,but yeah, for me, what's gonna
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ground me is that next pregnancy forsure. But yeah, no, I'm
still always going to hold onto thatsituation, the feeling because it's the only
feeling I have. It's all thatI have, literally, So yeah,
yeah, and I think I thinkthat's actually powerful because it also makes me
think too, Like you know,there might be a sector of women who
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might feel like, I don't knowthat that's unfair, but with you doing
that once you get pregnant again,is it more so like you're saying that
you that in order for you tolet go of what was or what could
have been, you have to,like you have to I need to have
what I lost. You need tohave what you lost. I need a
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child that I'm going to stand onthat Like that's really what it comes down
to, because it's like, youwant me to let go of a pregnancy
and I've never experienced a secondary pregnancy. Yeahs And normally the people telling me
those hop kids. Yeah, soit's like, who are you to tell
me to let go of something youhave? You know what I mean.
It's like telling somebody not to behungry and we're at a plate. We're
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out at a table and you're theonly one eating. Yeah, and you're
like, don't be hungry. Yeah, your time will come. No,
Like, I'm hungry too, andI know that my plate will come,
but I'm still hungry, and I'mI feel like you need to acknowledge that.
That's okay, m Yeah, that'sme. No. I think that's
incredibly insightful and commendable for you tobe able to have, like the ability
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to own that, even though it'snot necessarily a popular Yeah, it's not
a popular I you know, neverto take on. But yeah, I
definitely commend you for that, andI also commend you for your ability to
be a super super dope businesswoman.And so I am interested in that,
and I think people do want tolearn from that because there's so many faces
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to your story, whether it bethe miscarriage, whether it be the a
big and whether it be the domesticviolence. How you've been able to kind
of cultivate a sense of strong isbecause of the same the same token,
like, yes, black women arequote unquote are supposed to be strong,
but you are strong, Like Idon't want to be strong. Why don't
you want to be strong? Forwhat? Like to be honest with you,
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I always tell people this too,like do you really think like if
God had a given me a seconddoor and door number one was like become
a millionaire, get everything and workfor it, and door number two was
like dating another guy that's rich,you really think I would have just dated
something Like I'm just saying like Ihate to be like that, but like,
really think about it. How manywomen if there was the choice,
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the opportunity to date because I wasdating a guy that made six seven figures
and I was like, you know, I've always dated up and you really
think like I woke up. Iwas like I'm gonna be a girl.
No, I was pissed, likeit was a villain origin story. And
most people, most career women,if you know, it is it's because
of some bad relationship, some bestfriend. It's always like there was always
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some bad story behind it. Nobodywas like when I was eight years old,
I wanted to be a boss,Like No, I wanted to bake
cookies, right, and I don'tknow, like I'm baking cookies and I'm
cool. I'm cool. Yes,I have to ask you because you just
tapped on. You just tapped intolike the idea of relationships, in the
perception behind relationships, and just thisdomestic life that you're talking about. If
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you had the choice to pick betweenthe two, people have been following you
for a little while, they wouldknow that one of the ways that you
are most known, most popular isfor having your Kevin Samuel's conversation and he
said I could get a million dollarman talk to me about the moment,
like you tapped into that conversation.I don't feel like anything he said was
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wrong, except for the fact thathe said therapy made me damaged. I
don't really agree with that, Butmost part like he was right though,
like I'm a well capped woman,though I have been my whole childhood.
That's the type of dynamic I grewup watching, and my first serious relationship
was that. The only reason itdidn't go that way is because he forced
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me to be that, Like youput me in a corner, But otherwise
I would have just been sitting therecooking and baking Cookie's like really, yeah,
like I do know cooking. Istill believe in a traditional relationship,
and my relationship now is serious tothe point that I'm not striving to make
eight figures. I'm cool at mythree million, like two to three million
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a year. I'm cool. Ican I'm able to support the things that
I want to do, and ourcombined income we qualify for the things that
we you know, want, andthe monthly payment he can handle. So
it's fine. If we need myincome to get us there and you pay
the mortgage, that's fine. Fine. Yeah, but I'm not looking at
rent. I'm not paying yes,mortgage. I don't know what a bill
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is. On this reaction, Onthis reaction, you're scrolling on Instagram,
Kevin Samuel's is dead. What areyou thinking? You know what's crazy?
People were blowing my comments up.They thought I'd killed him. Shut up.
I was his last life. Iwas the last person. Like,
shut up, I was last life. That's why Revolt TV I covered it.
They were saying I killed him.I did not kill that man.
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I had nothing to do with that. Like you killed him. I'm like,
bro, I did not kill thatman. How were you guys on
for like an hour and a half, like super long. You were his
last live Yeah, girl, Iknow, yeah, it made me a
better me. Rest in peace,Kevin Samuels. Outside of Kevin Samuel's giving
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you relationship advice and just maybe holisticadvice about you, know, your identity,
What do you think has been yourbest takeaway from all of your experience
all of your experiences, what doyou think has been your best takeaway for
like who you are? Um,I just feel like again like every every
experience and every opportunity has always allowedme to better myself. Kevin Samuel's experience
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definitely helped me understand the longevity ofrelationships and retention and relationships because I never
had a problem getting high value menor men that made a certain amount of
money. I just feel like oneI was very quick to quit. Okay,
I'm very quick, Like first redflag, I'm gone. Yeah,
And he kind of like just putme in a position of like you cannot
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keep just aggressively dating because you can, like you have to, you have
to fight for something. And italso really made me put my foot down.
I'm not cohabited. I've only doneit twice. Don't want to act
like I'm just out here living withmat men. I've done it twice and
both times were horrible. But Iwill not cohabitant with a man that is
not giving me commitment like I'm notdoing that comment meaning a ring, i
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am not living together. Okay,this is quiet. Listen to me.
Okay, So I'm curious to know. I do want to ask this.
Okay, So I've been married,well, August will be fifteen years.
I've had different conversations with different womenten years, yes, girl, five,
Yes, I know that's what I'msaying. I've been married with feen.
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No. But when you say commitment, it's just marriage, just commitment.
Also faithfulness to you. Yes,one hundred percent, because because I've
met a woman that are like,oh he can do his little things,
but they'll still be married to me. So I'm interested to know what's your
narrative behind that doing his own thing, like what like go bowling? No,
No, it's funny. You knowwhat's crazy? I always hear you
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know, Freshman Fit tried to pullthat conversation with me too, like,
oh, well he's gonna cheat onyou. And I'm like, at the
end of the day, to myknowledge, I have a faithful relationship right
gift. To my knowledge, itis changing at the end of the day.
I am okay with being judged bytwelve then carried by six. Yes,
and what you do with that informationis cool. But a lot of
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people get acquitted in this day aright. So I'm willing to take my
gamble people. People gamble their lifesavings on games. But I'm wrong because
I'm openly like you know, likeif it happens, it happens, and
I will I will lay my bettermaking it, you know what I mean.
That's my preference, you know whatI'm saying. So but again,
no, like commitment to me isgiving me. You know, I've always
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told people like why would I givemy child your last name if I don't
even have it? Like I saidthat too, my man, Like you
would think a baby's gonna come intothose world with your name? And I'm
gonna be the outsiders, right likelost me, lost me better take us
to the courthouse or me and thatbaby step daddy lives matter, but we're
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gonna all have the same last name. Like I'm not playing that. I'm
just not putting my foot down.And the cohabiting thing is because for example,
Okay, me and I make morethan my boyfriend. Let's say,
for example, I want to livein a place that's ten thousand dollars a
month. They told me, no, I can only do five, and
want me to go fifty fifty.I'm not going fifty fifty with no boyfriend.
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You want to be a team,Yeah, better put us on the
same team with the same last nameon the back of the shirt, and
then I would do a seventy thirtyor a fifty fifty. If you fall
down, I pick you up.But I'm not picking a boyfriend off.
But yeah, I'm sorry. Youhave a mother for that. Yeah,
Like you're just gonna have to doit. Like that's just what I'm standing
on. You know a lot ofpeople will chew me up about this,
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But you want me to be ateam, and we'll hold you down and
build you. We all got tobe on the same we gotta have.
You know how they have teams thesame name is on the back of the
shirt. That's just what it is. How do you feel because like you
like you're you know the bravado thatthe energy that I'm thinking, you know,
it gets masking. It's like I'mnot doing this. It's very masking,
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very much independent, very much aboss chick. But how do you
balance the two of being so independent, being so accomplished in your own right,
with your own success, but stillhaving this jexposition of having to be
quote unquote submissive. I'm domesticated,supersticated. I lived in a domesticated home.
For example, I don't eat cereal. I don't eat reheated food.
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I don't eat pre cooked food becausemy mom cooked everything fresh my whole life.
So I don't expect my man toeat cereal because I don't eat cereal.
I know that everything has to becooked fresh. I know that we
don't eat reheated food. We cookevery single meal. There is no leftover
Thursday. I didn't grow up leftover Thursday, so I don't have that,
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you know what I mean. Andlaundry isn't done on Sundays. Laundry
is done seven days a week.Like, That's how I grew up.
That's how I run my home bymyself. That's how I run my home
with my man. Everything is donelike, so as long as you provide,
then yeah, why wouldn't all thatbe done? I don't I don't
know when the first of the month. Is so why wouldn't I do all
that stuff? I know that myman's plate is supposed to be brought to
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him. I know, like Ihave those same things because that's how I
grew up, you know what Imean. So making my man's plate first
isn't like it's not strange to me. That's that's normal, you know what
I mean, Like his clothes beingdry and all that, like everything's done.
Like I don't know, Wow,and you were brought up that I
was brought up that way. Yeah, and I've never strayed. No,
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why has anybody taken advantage of that? Yes, but that's why I left
all the time. So I left, like I just like and it was
crazy because I know people will associatethat with permiscuidity. Permiscus. Yeah,
that's what I'm I'm like, Idon't want it to like slur, but
um no, I just felt likeI'm not supposed to be here, so
I just leave. But I alwaysgive my relationships one hundred and ten percent
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when like every single time, andI feel like that's why when I do
leave, I don't feel like Ileft anything. So definitely, but no,
it's my mom was a mom thatwas her job. Yeah, so
like, yeah, you what Imean? Like and with being a business
owner, I'm curious to know because, like you just mentioned, you make
more than your boyfriend, Like,how have you been able to navigate that
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kind of terrain of like being ina relationship where you make more than the
person that you're with. So youknow, you only have to make a
certain amount of money to qualify forthings. What do you mean, like
a mortgage or a car? Right? Okay, so me like after a
certain number, what does it matter? My man could go get a g
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Wagon, whether it's cash finance orleast, Yeah, he can idea that
he doesn't have to get one,but the idea that he could, yeah,
like he could go get it,Like you know what I mean,
just because like you guys think,I feel like people associate thought like he
couldn't do it. He could goput ten grand down on a g Wagon
and give it to me and paythe monthly payer. Like what do I
care how he got it? Hecould still do those things for me.
What if he could only put downenough to get a Honda Civic does that
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matter to you? Wouldn't we wouldn'twe been having that conversation. Why I
didn't come into the relationship with aHonda Civic. He didn't come into the
relationship. Why does that matter?Because I'm not building anybody from zero.
You have to have already, Likeyour house has to have four walls.
I'll put the couch and the foodon the table, but you have to
have a house when I get here. That's I'm not A man is paying
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rent or a mortgage in his ownplace by himself? How much does it
cost him if I sleep there?Did he lose out on anything? Like?
You know what I'm saying. Youthink a man is gonna fight me
for fifty fifty because I drink allthe milk in the house. No,
like a real man is going toprovide the same way he was providing for
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himself before I got there. I'mjust an ad on Would you still I
guess what I'm asking is, wouldyou still be in love with your current
boyfriend if he fell off tomorrow?Yes, he has a time limit.
There's a time limit with everything.Wait a second time, like I would
still be there, Yes, Iwould still be there. Yes, but
there is a time limit. What'sthe time frame? Like a year?
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Like to get your shit together,like stand them back up like you can
fall. But I'm await, I'mgonna be standing here, Like when are
you gonna get back up? Becausethe real man will get back up.
That's true. Like that's facts.Okay, Okay, stay dollar forever.
I trust that he will always beable to get back up. But there's
a time if you down there fora year, you were done, like
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your tapped out, like he's outfor the count. But um no,
m that is very interesting, Okay, So for the women, that's good
advice for women who are in arelationship pursuing a relationship. A question for
you, how long did you waitfor a ring? Two years? Kevin
Samuels told me two years? Yeah, me might has been did long distance
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for two years and then I gota ring and then we well, we
got engaged and then six months laterwe got married. Kevin Samuels told me
two years, and I didn't havea wedding. See, I'm the more
I learned about weddings, the moreI'm okay with that. Like the first
I was, I was like,now like at a twenty year mark,
I'm like I wanted to do something. Yeah, But at first I was
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so set on it and now learningabout them, Yeah, I'm like,
I don't want to pay for strangersto eat. I didn't know that.
I didn't know you paid for thosepeople. Yeah, you have to know.
I didn't know that. I didn'tunderstand. Now understanding it, I'm
like, Oh, destination wedding withten people sounds right right, like the
people that can afford their own flightsexactly. Yeah, this is a great
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idea. I definitely think I'll havea destination wedding. Yeah. Yeah,
ten people, No, Yeah,I highly encouraged, Marge. I think
it's like one of the most beautifulthings. It's I love it. It's
been an amazing experience for me.And I feel like what you're saying,
like when you have that anchor ofsomebody who's like totally committed to you and
it's like your life partner, thickand thin, like through and through and
all the something to fight for it. Did I feel like if I had
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a child with no ring, Iwill leave you easily. Yeah, I'll
be like, oh, I don'tneed this, I make money, but
that that commitment and that you know, like us really being on the same
team, having all that same name. I'm like, no, like,
yeah, I'll dug it, likeat least like yeah, through thick and
thin, as long as it Yeah, but for the most right, yeah,
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like I'll, you know, I'll, I feel like we have something
to fight for. So for me, like it's worth it. Yeah sure.
Okay. So for the women whoare like I want to be an
entrepreneur, I want to be aboss in business, what were some of
the key I guess factors to yoursuccess that you can kind of like translate
to women who want to follow him. Consistency, Definitely waking up every single
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day and just giving it one hundredand ten percent um. Grind culture.
I know a lot of people areagainst it at grind Culture's grind culture.
Work until you die, work ninetill dine. Just put in the work
and like in a day a day'swork, six months, every day,
six months, every day. Iwas not going to sleep for days.
Not healthy, not not recommended.But if you're a person that honestly like
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looks at my results, looks atmy lifestyle, like damn, I want
to be there. Yeah, you'regonna have You're gonna have to. It's
just the truth. You know,there's there's ai, there's people that will
make it easier. But at theend of the day, you just have
to put in the fucking work.Yeah, just do Like that's just the
truth. Like you have to wakeup every day and put it in one
hundred and ten percent, Like youdon't have anything, and you did them
for how long? Four years?And now it's paid off. Now I
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have staff, and now I travelwith arm and big cookies and worry about
what my man is eating if youwant, Yeah, I make sure he
took his probiotics and use this hisnative toxic free deodor because we live a
toxic free life. Because I checkthe labels of everything because that is my
life. No, wow, okay, okay, So they need to grind
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for four years straight. Literally,just don't sleep, sleep barely. See,
put in the work one hundred,one hundred and twenty percent as much
as you can, especially if you'rea woman with no kids, no no
baggage, nothing, put one hundredand ten percent. You would definitely see
the fruits of your labor. LikeI went to twenty twenty countries last year.
Wow, Like just got a Bentleylike last month. Yeah, a
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lot of people don't do both.Oh my Bentley's paid cash twenty nineteen cash
pink slip. Traveling Wow, Okay, Okay, so you just live.
Okay, So you're living life.You're traveling to all these countries, you
have a Bentley. But would youwalk away today saying that you are fulfilled
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if I got pregnant today? Yeah, so that's the only thing that's missing,
the only thing, because I would. I'm ready to like sit down
somewhere. But my boy friend's justlike working show, he's on what you
were on. Yeah, he's workingto be able to be a sole provider,
you know, me on one andcome home to a degree or at
least, you know, seventy thirtyhome. So I respect that I let
him work. And while he's working, you guys can find me in Brazil
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with my other unemployed home girls.Cannot. I cannot? Okay. So
with your business, though you've beenable to see a cheap, essentially multimillion
dollars success with that, what wouldyou say was a common denominator to being
able to accomplish that level of revenueconsistency? Why does every Okay? So
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I will actually like break it downevery single day. I would go live
three times a day, every singleday even today. Actually, I'm on
Clubhouse Monday through Friday an hour.I'm on Live Monday through Friday an hour.
I do a free class every singleWednesday. I've done close this year
to thirty eight podcasts. Literally,I I don't turn down work. I
don't like I Literally in twenty nineteen, I did forty events. I just
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kept showing. I showed up withno tickets. Sometimes I was like,
I'll figure it out when I getthere, Like putting myself in the room,
posting, doing advertisements when I don'tknow how, reaching out to influencers.
I do all of it. AndI did it myself, because how
am I going to hire somebody ifI don't even know what it takes,
Like sales calls, everything, LikeI woke up every single day and I
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had a routine, and I didevery single thing until I had a sale.
I will call people until I makea sale. I will email people
until somebody responds back. I didnot. I did not give up.
I did not take no for ananswer, And that to me is consistency.
And if you needed to do list, you need to start with post
on TikTok, post on Twitter,post on Facebook, post on Facebook group,
did you make a Lemon account?Lemon eight just rolled out. Did
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you post on LinkedIn? Did yougo live on YouTube and Facebook and Instagram
and TikTok? You know, doall of those things every single day.
And if you don't have an ideaof what to post, ask chat GBT
what to post for today, anddo it. And after you're done posting,
did you email? I wanted tobe a travel influencer. I emailed
every single hotel I wanted to stayout in twenty twenty two until two of
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them fit Tom and that's okay,Like I wanted to do that, So
I put in the work. Iemailed them, I DM them. My
boyfriend's verified, so I asked himto DM all of those pages in d
and see if he got a response. And we just do that until we
get a response. Wow, thatis consistency. And I did that for
four years with literally even my miscarriagein the hospital bed, I was closing
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deals. I mean, like,I think I have a post. I
have a video. It's it's sadand traumatizing and triggering, but I'll post
it again. It's a video ofme and you see like the gauze and
I'm like hey, guys, Likeyou see the ultrasound in the back with
the pregnancy test, because I wassleeping next to it at this time.
I was fresh out, and I'mlike, hey, guys, I just
wanted to show you my progression.Just got back from a vacation because I
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didn't know where and what happened tome. I just looked sick and I'm
like, hey, guys, AndI flipped the screen and I show,
like, did thirty eight thousand andseven days? And it's like I think
it was showing like April twenty,Yeah, it happened on the thirteenth,
type like it was like my god, I did not care. I'm like,
hey, guys, look at mystuff, like makes you like comment
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da da da da. I didnot care nothing like people are commenting like
it's not a ultrasound. Yeah,look okay, and I'm sleep like if
it's not about that video, Idid not hair like I just deleted it.
But I literally did not stop forfour years through everything, which a
lot of people will say that waslike a huge trauma response, and it
was, but I was doing thatbefore it happened, right, I was
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like, it wasn't that I starteddoing that because of my miscarriage. I
was doing that through it, duringit, after it, I was just
every day posting, posting, posting, posting, lying about what happened,
lying about the fact that I gotpregnant, because it was nobody's business at
the time. And then I finallyadmitted it and I made a video.
I was like, yeah, thishappened, and stuff like that. But
for the most part, oh,wake up every single day and post and
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create and try your best if youlike your last dollar, like I was
doing, and you'll see the results. Yeah, that's real consistency though,
And as we close, I'm curiousto know because finding your niche for niche,
I love talking people who have foundtheir own lane, found their path.
For you. So far, it'sbeen the e commerce, you know,
in the clothing line. But whatwould you say was that moment for
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you? Were you it was like, Okay, this is exactly what I
want to do. In compared purpose? Yeah, um, you know what's
crazy. I always tell people like, my purpose was never selling crap online.
Okay, it was neworth teaching peopleeither. My purpose was being able
to do all of the things asa child. Now you know what I
mean? I saw in a historybook the Pyramids. So being able to
(51:17):
go out and see the pyramids wasmy purpose. My purpose was just being
able to like, like, andit's crazy every world wonder I have like
the same corny photo. All ofmy new arm pictures look like school pictures.
Like it's just like, like,I'm just happy to exist. I'm
happy to learn and understand the thingsthat you know have happened in this world
(51:37):
and you know our history, likeI'm just a sponge. That's good.
I just had this thought just now, if there were words that you would
want to say to your unborn son, what were those? Would I say?
What would you saying? Hey,we did it, that we did
(51:59):
it because you made it. You'rehere with me. Wow, we did
it. We good. I'm soproud of you. Yeah, it's just
like we did it. When hefinally here, we did it. He
didn't die. M what do youmean by that? We did it?
(52:20):
We made it through pregnancy. Wow. So it's just like, yeah,
I love you. And it's crazybecause people are always telling me I look
at motionless on camera. They're neverseeing me break. But it's just I
just feel like that's like that's theonly thing I would say, is we
did it, because when we makeit, it's like we made it,
(52:43):
you know what I mean. That'sthe only thing I could be grateful for
us to make it. And I'mtrying to understand when you say when we
make it, because pregnancy, nomatter no matter how you look at it,
it's you. You're gonna wake upwith fear, you know what I
mean. I'm sure like you canrelate like you're just scared or like,
oh you're something Like I tell people, like, it's gonna be hard for
(53:04):
me to look at a positive andbe happy. I'm gonna get scared.
I just know I am because youknow, like I wanted to make it.
So like when I think of myson or I think of a future
pregnancy, I just think of likewhen everyone's like, what would you say,
it's like we did it. Wemade it, Like we made it
through nine we made it through thethird trimester. Because eighteen weeks isn't normal,
(53:24):
Yeah, it's not unfortunate, Sonineteen weeks for you, yeah,
it's a milestone though Yeah, wellno, because you can't survive outside the
woman until twenty two, so twentytwo would be my milestone mentally, But
um, but yeah, like it'sjust it's it's there's it's a freak accident.
(53:45):
Yeah, I just I take thatfor what it is. I learned,
and I definitely you know, Ineeded that and why I would say
that, like sometimes you're financially readybut not mentally ready. And I feel
like that put me on track tounderstand you know what I mean. So
yeah, it's just I just wantto make it yeah, because I mean
(54:06):
it. And you know, it'scrazy. My miscarriage removed my fear factor.
So I skydive, I jump offcliffs, I do everything I do.
I have no indicator of beer wow, and materials to stiff doesn't give
me a dopamine high. The skydivingand the cliffs and the snowboarding and the
wakeboarding, that's where my dopamine comesfrom. Now, it's really Yeah,
(54:27):
it's bad because I felt like Icheated dat I lost so much blood.
I was laying there on some littlelike it like and it's crazy you see
those tiktoks. I saw it fora while. Everybody was like if,
um, if you have to chooseme or the baby, choose me,
And it's like I have kids athome, but for me, in that
moment and for two years after,I'm like, if I have a kid,
(54:49):
don't pick me. I was onthat. I was on that for
a minute. Wow. It tookmy boyfriend to kind of like talk it
of like we can make more baby. I can't get another, or you
right, we can have a hundredbabies. You is over got here and
I wasn't. I wasn't thinking likethat at first. I was thinking like,
no, I want this baby tomake it regardless. I don't give
(55:13):
a book how we get there,like pick the baby. But it took
him to kind of like kind ofbring that full circle of like we can
babies all day, make lots ofbabies. And I wasn't thinking like that
at first. I was just onsome like no, like this is the
one that's got to take it,you know what I mean, like that,
Oh that was my only chance ifI do get that far. So
(55:34):
that scarcity mindset, yeah it is, Yeah, that's what it is.
So it just takes time to breakout of that therapy and a patient.
Man. I feel like the relationshipsthat didn't work for me, the relationships
that did not work, I feellike y'all all did lack patience. But
again I left before you could showme, so who would all? Yeah,
a patient man is a great man. Yeah, like I don't know.
(55:57):
Yeah, well, I'm so proudof you. You made it for
sure. Every day girl, youare doing it. And for people who
want to tap into what you're doing, people who want to kind of like,
you know, get involved with Wealthycollege Kid and learn about the educational
aspects of e commerce and the clothingline. How can they do that?
You guys can find me at ChristianaHurt on Instagram or any social media platform.
(56:22):
I'm still not verified, so youguys can come see me. Yeah
you are verified, it's not onInstagram. Yeah, I'm verified on Facebook,
but you guys can come and seeme or just type in wealthy college
kid and then just kidding Kids isactually a wellness brand now and it is
Yep. It's vegan, non gmo, no artificial colors, probiotic and multi
(56:42):
vitamins, drops for infants and thengummies for toddlers and teams and kids.
So it's super excited about that andentering the supplement space. I have a
great manufacturer and a great team byme, so you guys will see that.
All twenty twenty three. There itis. Yeah, this has been
another amazing, dynamic episode. Sofinding your niche for niche. I'm so
glad you guys tapped into this amazinginterview, and I'm so glad to be
(57:06):
connected with you and to talk withyou. And I just commend you for
your strength and your audaciousness to continue, you know, steam forward, um,
in the face of insurmountable odds,and I congratulate you on your success.
Yeah girl, So yeah, y'alltap into what she's got going on
and subscribe to the channel. Allright, we out of here. Peace,
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