September 24, 2025 • 60 mins
KCAA: Get Balanced with Dr. Marissa on Wed, 24 Sep, 2025
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Am refers to more than just the time of day,
Jump off.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
At exhausting amster wheel and into balance.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
Living with Doctor Marissa from Miss Joy. The Doctor Marissa,
also known as the Asian Oprah. Her mission to be
a beneficial presence on the planet, her purpose to be
your personal advocate, to live, lap love, learn, her life motto,
don't die wondering, take back your life with Doctor Maurica Pey, and.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Welcome your tooth te my advice, I'm not using it.
Get balance with Doctor Marissa The Morning Show here on
casey AA, NBC News, CNBC News, NBC Sports radio station
a m Empathy one six point five and streaming everywhere iHeartRadio, Spotify, iTunes,
Student in Audible, Amazon Music, TIU, That Rumble, Patty's His Street,
(01:00):
Her Spreaker, and more. Why so many places. I want
to balance out all that bad news out there, and
it is all bad news with some good news, good people,
good topics, and good series. And you'll know it is
Wednesday today, be guys. We have Doctor's in the house
with myself.
Speaker 5 (01:19):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
And you do know her as a obg y n
maybe veteran children's book author, poetry author, singer, songwriter. I'm
doing this from seeing how good my memory is. Today
(01:44):
best Peach cobbler maker and my co host do Wednesburys
for doctors in the house and she's ready for Congress
and she'll tell you more about that at the break
Please welcome back to my studio, doctor too.
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Always a pleasure to be here, and Happy.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
Wednesday, Happy no hamp Day. I am gonna start with
what we usually do at the top of the show,
which is breakfast with me and my co host. Today
top of the bun things that we're grateful for outside
(02:31):
of ourselves, So we look around what physically we're grateful for.
Bottom of the bun, because just because it's not Friday,
I can't say that bottom of the fun is. Things
that we're grateful for will be looking inside of ourselves,
and we want you to do that before you go
to bed tonight, so that you get a good night's sleep.
(02:53):
Instead of thinking about all the things you've done wrong
or who done you wrong, You're gonna think about all
those things that you're good at, what you like about yourself.
So Jiffany, let's start at the top of the bud.
What are you grateful for? This beautiful Wednesday morning.
Speaker 5 (03:09):
Well, I had the opportunity to travel to DC and
attend the American Medical Association Campaign School. So I am
a graduate of campaign School for physicians who are running
for a political office. So yay me. So I feel
(03:30):
that much better, more equipped, and more ready to go
and advocate for the things that people care about.
Speaker 4 (03:38):
I didn't know there was a school like that. That
is so cool, very very cool. I am greatful that
I continue to discover things that are available and maybe
I didn't notice when I was jet setting now that
(03:59):
I'm not setting, and continue to move through the loss
on one hand of things that I used to be
able to do and discovering what I still can and
new things to do on the side. So I'm grateful
for that.
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful, And I am also grateful that I
have received another endorsement for my campaign. I'm always grateful
for things like that. So I am just motivated and
encouraged because to have an impact on the world and
(04:45):
to support people is a positive thing for me, and
that's what I want to do at this stage in
my life. Awesome.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
I'm grateful that I found a new Mojoon group, where
not only did I get to play mojong, there was
karaoke after. So hello, two of my favorite things replacing
sailboat racing and flying with a mojong and karaoke.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
Grateful for that, oh absolutely. And I actually had a
chance to go to the local American Legion because I
am a member of the American Legion, and I sang karaoke.
I sang one of Whitney Houston songs and they were like,
oh my, that was so great, and you'll have to
come and do karaoke with me, and maybe I want
(05:36):
to American Legions and we will definitely have a good time.
Usually they roll through and you sing two songs and
we had a good time. They were like, you have
to come back. But of course I was in DC,
but it was a fabulous time. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
I was just about to say something and now, oh, yeah,
what song did you say?
Speaker 5 (06:00):
I actually sang her song. Let's see which one was that?
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Let me it was, don't tell me it was I
Will Always Love You. No, I was gonna say that
would be too weird. No, but I wouldn't put it
past us.
Speaker 5 (06:21):
No, no, no, I know that that's your favorite. Whitney song,
but no, it was it was, uh, where do broken
Hearts Go?
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Oh? Wait, Hunts. I love that song. I'll have to
put that on my list. And uh, I want to
just give the name to the group that I got
to play with singing I'll Always Love You. They actually
put it in the reel. You could hardly see me
because it was dark, but I made the real Uh
(06:55):
it's l a Modjong league And so that's another one.
I think I told you about. East never loses the
week before, so I certainly am discovering all the things
that La I never realized. So I'm grateful for that.
And I won a comedy competition on Monday for my
(07:18):
stand up, so I'm grateful for that as I continue this.
Instead of a motivational speaker being funny, I wanted to
try stand up and motivate. So there you go. One more.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
And I am actually grateful that I made it home
safely because when I was out there, there was a
lot of issues, I might say, because of so much
going on politically, and my friends were calling and saying, Tiffany,
are you okay? Are you okay? Because there was a
bomb threat at one of the headquarters, like the Democratic headquarters,
(07:56):
but I wasn't there. I was actually at the American
Medical Association building, and so we were a few blocks
away from Capitol Hill, and of course I visit Capitol Hill.
But there was so much going on with the assassination
of Charlie kirktt blessed his family, and then there was
the three students who were shot at the university at
(08:21):
a high school as well, and so there was just
so many issues going on, and I think we as Americans,
we really need to understand that we need peace and
we need understanding, and no one should be shot based
on their political issues. But people were concerned about my
safety and I'm just thankful to make it wherever I
(08:43):
need to be and have traveling grace and mercy. And
I'm thankful for God's grace and mercy.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Absolutely. I am grateful for my two girls. My older
one just had a birthday. It's always nice to recognize.
I think one of the best books in my life
is being a mom, and I so am. But I
know you agree with me, so I'm going to be grateful.
(09:12):
I don't always say that, so I'm gonna say that now.
You say that more than I, So I'm gonna catch up.
Let's go to the bottom of the bud. That is
gratitude for things that are inside of yourself. What do
you like about yourself? So you're not walking around looking
for love and all the around places and looking for
(09:32):
people who like you literally these days on social media.
I want you to like yourself. So what do you
like about yourself? Doctor Tiffany.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
I like the fact that I am a veteran, and
I don't think I've ever said that. I like the
fact that I am a veteran, and I think for
a lot of times I take for granted that I've
served my my country, and I figured, Okay, a lot
(10:03):
of people do service. A lot of people volunteer, but
a lot of people have not served our country. And
a lot of people are like, oh, I love America,
and I say my pledge of allegiance, but a lot
of people have not joined the military. And I think
serving the country in various ways is good. And I
(10:27):
do volunteer in various organizations, but it takes a lot
to be a veteran and to get up and say
I'm willing to make the sacrifice and join the army,
the Navy, the Air Force, the Marines, the Coast Guard,
and I want to take a special moment to say
a shout out to all my federal fellow veterans, because yes,
(10:52):
I love you, I support you, and I am doctor
Tiffany Tate, and I approve this.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
Message absolutely and that is certainly always something to recognize.
Someone gave me the finger on that note, not that one,
but this one, which is always good. I see eyeballs
in the studio. Love having you participate. If you'd like
(11:19):
to make a comment, please do put it in the chat.
We are live today. Please do not put it in
the chat. If you're driving, be safe, get wherever you're going,
and then join us on the chat. But yes, everyone
knows I'm a huge advocate for peace, not for war.
(11:40):
At the same time, I appreciate those who currently are
serving or have served. Just because I want peace and
I'm not a big fan of war doesn't mean that
those people have not dedicated their lives in service to
protect whatever you know, we think we need to protect,
(12:00):
and don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. So
I absolutely acknowledge, and let's give a little luck to
all those who have served our country past, present, in future.
Speaker 5 (12:20):
There you go. That was for you too.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Here I'll close out. What I like about myself is
that I am totally allowing myself to move through everything
I need to move through in this time. I went back.
I didn't tell you yet, doctor Tiffany. I went back
(12:43):
to the hematologist. We did a battery of sixteen tests
to find out if my blood clots were related to
me extra or lack of proteins, enzymes, genetics, and for
the first time in my life, I was hoping that
I got a positive result because then it would not
(13:04):
be blamed on the airplane and flying. Unfortunately, I was
normal first time on all the tests, and therefore it
is the blind and therefore I had to really that
glimmer of pulpe that I had is now extinguished. And
(13:29):
people say, well, you should be able to fly, blah
blah blah blah, and it's like, yes, I will be
able to fly, but every single flight carries a risk,
and there's nothing I can do about that unless I
time traveled before nineteen ninety six December when they found
the first blood plot and the pulmonary embolism when the
(13:52):
piece broke up, and then the second plot the past June,
so you know, sure I can say for few I'm
gonna fly anyways, but you know that's pretty selfish for
my children who don't want me to take risks. And
(14:13):
you know that's what I'm really grappling with now. And
eighty percent of the time I'm good. Twenty percent of
the time I'm not good, and I'm extremely feeling the
pain that comes with that. But I've also learned that
I cannot cry more than once a day because the
(14:35):
makeup is expensive. So it's been but it's great, like
I know who I can be fully, you know, whether
it's being angry about it, which is rare my first time.
I love myself to be pissed offitness about it yesterday.
But I've been sad about it quite a bit. But
(14:57):
you know, I appreciate my ability need to sit with things,
not do a spiritual bypass, not marinated in it, and
sit on a pity pot more than I'm an hour,
like twenty four minutes, right I'd like to bring that
down to sixteen seconds, but right now it's too fresh,
(15:21):
you know. So I'm just grateful I have point doctors
and doctors amazing and both staff. You know, he goes,
can you why like just natural not interactionally, thank you,
but no, but the idea of sorry if you're from
(15:43):
the Midwest thing but doing it doing a book siting
in Ireland is in immensely more interesting to me. And
uh it is the death of the tour. I will
not ever be able to.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Do the.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
You know, the way I had the tour line up
for the next six months with the different country. Ever,
I will never be able to do that. And for
that I'm breathing.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
And you know we won't say never.
Speaker 4 (16:12):
Maybe you know this is this is where I know
you all say this because you love me and you
want me to.
Speaker 6 (16:22):
Not have.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
Optimistic no hope, but this is let me be very clear,
and I have a lot more compassion for people.
Speaker 5 (16:33):
You know.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
This isn't like something like a tumor where you can
pray for a healing a miraculous skin and I believe
in that. But the only way to to to wipe
away the the chance of the risk is to go
back in time and not have had that happen. There's
(16:55):
nothing that can be done to guarantee no risks. So
I just I wish people could understand that part of
it and not keep telling me it's just for right
now because it is not something you can take away.
Speaker 5 (17:14):
Oh, absolutely, you get it. I get it as a physician.
I'm just saying that medical technology fame, and sometimes treatment
options change, and what they can offer you right now
might be different in five or ten years.
Speaker 4 (17:31):
And only way to test out whether I can fly
and not develop a fly is to take the risk
to fly and then see what happens. That's what I'm talking.
Speaker 5 (17:45):
Yeah, the risk will ever be zero, thank you. Yeah,
that's true. The risk won't ever be zero.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
And that is what I'm dealing with. And so when
I wish people would with just like I had one friend,
you know, she got it, and she looked at me rocated,
and she said, of all the people to be told
you cannot fly without risk, that loves to travel, that
(18:17):
loves to fly, how many people do you know have
video of sitting in the pilot's seat on multiple airlines?
People ask me how did you do that? I don't
know if I just asked, But I love flying. It
is a miracle. Doesn't get old, you know. I say
that for years, I mean decades. So to have that
(18:40):
be the reality, please allow me to be one with
that loss I know people don't like me being I
don't like seeing people pay myself. However, it's so important
if this is what I teach, I have to move
through the reality of the pain safely without being told.
(19:04):
Don't say that you know you have to grief.
Speaker 5 (19:07):
You need to grief. You need to grieve in your
own way.
Speaker 4 (19:12):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 5 (19:15):
You need space for that. We should allow you to
have your space for that.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
All right, now that I've used my own show to
process for but I mean it's good. I actually had
someone say, you know, it's really good to watch you
practice what you teach, moving through things, you know, knowing
that your life isn't a fairy tale as it sometimes
looks like right on social media. So uh, one more
(19:45):
thing that you like about yourself, Doctor Tiffany bottom of
the boat.
Speaker 5 (19:49):
Well, I actually like my voice. And I was actually
complimented on my voice when I was attending the Campaign
school at the American Medical Association course, and it was
my speaking voice, not my singing voice, which I thought
(20:13):
was very interesting because I've never really paid attention to
my voice. And they would record us and have us
listen back to our really watch our show. So I
don't necessarily hear myself speak, and it was pretty interesting
to hear me speak, so I thought that was nice.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
That's so cool. That's so cool. All right, and that's
it for breakfast. Thank you so much for joining us
today every weekday morning on KCAA, the station that leaves
no listener behind home to the Asian over number one
talk to me. I thank you very much. You will
have a chance to practice this good life hatchtake listenpline
(21:00):
every single morning, not doing this MS meaning was strolling instead,
I mean breakfast with me and whoever the co host
is on the spot. It is Wednesday, and this is
Doctors in the House with myself.
Speaker 5 (21:15):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 4 (21:19):
Thank you for joining us for breakfast. And now for
the topic of the day. Eh, what is it, doctor Tiffany?
Speaker 5 (21:40):
Mistakes?
Speaker 4 (21:44):
Yes, I never I've only made one mistake in my life.
Speaker 5 (21:50):
I don't know if I want to ask what that is?
Speaker 4 (21:52):
The one I just did, the one I just did I.
Speaker 5 (22:01):
Miss that?
Speaker 4 (22:01):
Take just now, why are we talking about mistakes today
and doctor Tivity?
Speaker 5 (22:07):
Well, I think a lot of people have had issues
in life, and I have interacted with a lot of
people who have had issues in life, and I always
say that denial is not just a river in Egypt.
(22:28):
And they don't want to admit to their mistakes. And
I was like, h how often do we as humans
have mistakes? I know I make mistakes, and I'm readily
and willingly willing to own up to my mistakes. And
(22:50):
then I was thinking, well, how often do we make mistakes?
And what is a mistake? And I just figured, well,
let's just take this issue, smack it, flip it up,
delve into this.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
You go cool.
Speaker 4 (23:10):
I think wanting to learn that, but I know as
soon as I learn it, I'm gonna like not be
able to continue with whatever we're talking about. So I'm
just gonna let you say it and get a tickle
out of that. But that's definitely a straight talk Friday conversation,
(23:31):
all right, So what happens when you talk about mistakes?
I think of a couple of things. One is, I
also don't like making mistakes, one because I hate saying sorry,
Two because it usually means I'm going to be humiliated
in some way right pointed out for doing something wrong. Third,
(23:56):
I grew up in a home where if you made
a mistake, you were there was like horrible consequences for it,
physical implications, mental emotional implications. So I've tried to live
a mistake for you life, which is ridiculous. And it
(24:19):
also leads to if you do make a mistake, the
most important thing is not to admit it is to
hide it, so either defending yourself or pretending you weren't
there or whatever it is. So yeah, great topic, doctor
tiff me depict It is certainly tied into our ability
(24:39):
to be happy or not happy. And the mistake zone,
I think is unhappy making mm hmm.
Speaker 5 (24:48):
And it's interesting. The first thing, Well, I learned a
lot about mistakes, and so it says that on average,
there are various numbers. It says the estimates suggests that
there are about three to six errors per hour in.
Speaker 4 (25:14):
Some people see sirens mean that's the truth. So there
you go, say that statistic one more time.
Speaker 5 (25:22):
Three to six per hour, okay by who?
Speaker 4 (25:29):
Yes?
Speaker 5 (25:30):
In general, so some people make three to six errors
per hour, so there's no specific number, but the average
person makes about three to six per hour, and then
about forty to eighty errors per day, so it varies
per individual based on their distractions, fatigue and different things,
(25:55):
and so it's like, okay, so what is this. It's
a wrong action, faulty judgment, differences in understanding, faulty reasoning,
or just carelessness, insufficient knowledge. And a lot of times,
whether if you're gambling, you back the wrong horse, you
(26:17):
vote for the wrong person, you do something, or you
love the wrong person, you end up in a faulty relationship,
just miscommunication, unintended friendships, just unwanted outcomes, a bad investment
(26:37):
where you money. We do different things and sometimes we
just bury our head in the sand and we just say, Okay,
I don't want to know about it. I'm just trying
to forget about it. But denial is not necessarily the
best thing to do. We don't want to admit to
(26:58):
our mistakes. It's okay to say I made a mistake
because we can own up to it, because that's the
best way to fix it. And I learned that there
are four different types of mistakes.
Speaker 4 (27:13):
Wow, did.
Speaker 5 (27:17):
I learned something new?
Speaker 4 (27:20):
Bigger?
Speaker 5 (27:24):
Right? Right? So they were like the stretch mistake. I
was like, what is a stretch mistake? I never heard
of that. The stretch mistake is considered a positive mistake,
and it's one in which a student will likely find
themselves making throughout their entire education. So it's like, Okay,
(27:46):
I made a mistake, but I'm going to use it
to grow. And then there's the aha moment mistake where
it's like you make a mistake and you're like oh aha,
and you figure something out. And then there is the
sloppy mistake, and I'm like, hmmm, a sloppy mistake. And
(28:10):
then there is the high stakes mistake, and I'm like,
a high stakes mistake, and these cost you a big issue,
a lot of money and maybe a big investment or
a significant problem in your relationship. So these are greater
(28:31):
issues and it just costs you more. I was just like, oh,
I never really divided mistakes. I'm just I just figured
the mistake was a mistake. What's your taking?
Speaker 6 (28:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (28:42):
Really interesting to divide it and look at like that.
I'm reminded of a couple of things. One I got
to share a stake with John Cleese when I was
in Philadelphia, and he said, mistakes, it's really good. His
premise was, in order to be creative, the more mistakes
you make are better, but make sure you don't do
(29:06):
huge mistakes like spell Rabbit with three m's or start
a land war in Asia. Those were his, you know,
examples of like that's just playing stupid, but other mistakes.
And I'm pretty sure it was him that gave the
story of Bordon the guided missile. And if if Gordon
(29:30):
didn't make mistakes, he would never get to his destination.
And if you think about how we learn, that's the
student one I'm thinking that you're talking about is you know,
if I'm going from point A point B, I have
to start someone. And if I start going and I asked,
(29:50):
how am I doing? While you're not pointed in that
the correct direction to hit that target? Adjust, So that's
a mistake, right, You're headed in the not correct accurate
straight line. So you make a correction and then you
ask how am I doing? And well you're kind of overshot.
(30:12):
You made another mistake, so you wouldjust again. And that
is life, folks. We're not going to get it right
out of the gate. That's that ten thousand hours of
learning something to get it right. And some things you
don't need ten thousand hours. But if you never need,
what's that saying? You will never achieve at the things
(30:36):
that you don't even try, right, what's that saying, do
you remember what I'm talking about?
Speaker 5 (30:43):
Say you lose one hundred percent of the races that
you never run. That's it.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
That's it. There's other versions of that, but yeah, exactly.
So that's what comes to mind is really, mistakes are
a good thing. That's why I call them missed takes. Right,
you missed that take, and that means you have more
information to make the next take. You have to miss
(31:12):
the take in order to self correct into the path
that is the most healthful, not right or wrong, but
the most.
Speaker 5 (31:22):
Health absolutely absolutely you have to try.
Speaker 4 (31:28):
Yeah, yeah, So what kind of mistakes have you made?
Or I made? I will before we go on break,
I'll admit because the first half of the show is
we keep it real. We put the moose on the table,
which is my Canadian version of talking about the elephants
in the room. And I've got a friend now from
(31:50):
Canada that I got him. He's got a parachute so
he doesn't hurt himself when there's a moose drop. So
I had lost now those categories. So the first category
was the student learning right. So when I was a professor,
the very first time I tried to be a professor,
it was horrible, and out of seventeen of professors at
(32:15):
Boston University in Brussels, I was ranked second last. And
I wanted to say, you know, I can't do everything well,
so continue is not my big and doctor William Willem
Salem said to me, the director, here's feedback right from
the course. Read it, process it, come back and teach
(32:37):
next semester. If you still feel like you don't want
to teach, fine, but I'm not going to let you
put now. And I did. I took all of the
very difficult feedback was not pretty, but I was insecure.
I was a brand new I was young, youngest professor,
so I, you know, made a lot of mistakes and
(33:00):
came back top of the next one. I was the
second highest ranking of all the professionals. So that's a
good example what you're talking about. For the first cabin.
Speaker 5 (33:11):
I think my mistake. I can't say it was a
true mistake. I guess it was an aha moment mistake.
My very first c section when I was at Vanderbilt.
I was this year running the board and I remember
(33:31):
I was slow. I was really slow doing my sea
section because I wanted to be very, very safe and
it wasn't an emergency see section, and he was My
attending was very domineering, and he was like, I hope
I wasn't going to take all day. I looked up
at him. I looked up at him. I was like
(33:53):
me too. I was like an aha moment. I was like,
I probably shouldn't have said.
Speaker 4 (33:58):
That, but I think that's great. I think that was
a perfect response.
Speaker 5 (34:05):
Yeah, so but I went. I went very slow. I mean,
and of course mom and baby they did great, But
it was like I was very meticulous and mom and
baby did excellent. But fast forward to when I was
a chief resident running the board, running labor and delivery,
we actually had an emergency saesarean section with a prolapsed
(34:28):
cord and that's when the cord is protruding out and
the nurse has to stick her hand up and hold
the baby, hold the cord up, and she's on the
table rushing through labor and delivery with mom and her
hand up inside the mom and the attending is running
back with the mom and the baby, and I'm meeting
them in the operating room and I delivered the baby
(34:52):
from the time of the incision to time of delivery
within one minute of each other. So fast forward from
that time to that time. I think that was like
my aha moment. So you fast forward from that second
year to that chief here it was I turned that
mistake of going super slow to going super fast, and
(35:15):
my attending at that time different attending, was like, oh
my goodness, Tiffany, that was like one of the fastest
c sections I've seen by a resident ever. And I
think that that was a great thing. And I still
remember that because I was like, oh, I felt vindicated.
I still feel vindicated, as you can.
Speaker 4 (35:32):
See, absolutely all right, and that is if for the
first half of the show, we do have to take
a quick break for news weather traffic on my NBC
news radio channel KCAA AM ten fifty one six point five,
the station that needs no listener behind and Home to
the Age and Oprah and number one talking the Ie.
(35:53):
Thank you very much. We'll be right back after a
word from our sponsor. Don't go away. We'll be right
back in two and two or as I say, Pisa, Pisa,
We'll be right back.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
Take Back your Life with Doctor Maurice.
Speaker 5 (36:29):
Hello, my name is doctor Tiffany Tate. I was not
always a physician Prior to that, I was just like you,
working in the community. I was a courtesy clerk at
Lucky's Supermarket, saying paper or plastic. I know what it
(36:51):
means to struggle, and I know what it means to
try to make ends meet. I know it's hard right
now in the economy. Elect a real person. I am
not a politician, but I understand how politics works. I
understand how policy works. I've been to the state capitol
and I've lobbied on policy. I have lobbied for policy
(37:15):
on Capitol Hill here in California. Visit my website at
doctor Tate for Congress. I am a veteran officer of
the United States Navy. I understand American values and I
support them. I am a physician. I understand health care policy,
and I'm willing to advocate for you. I am a
mother and I will fight for our children. Vote for me.
(37:40):
Make a donation to my campaign at doctor Tate for
Congress that is d R T A T E F
O R C O N G R E S S
dot com. If you want real change on Capitol Hill,
support me doctor Tate for Congress dot com. Help me
make a difference for you and your family. My name
(38:00):
is doctor Tiffany Tait and I approved this message.
Speaker 3 (38:19):
Take back your life with Doctor Maurice.
Speaker 4 (38:25):
And 're back. You're tuned in to take my advice.
I'm not using it. Get balance with doctor. Rest of
the morning show. You're on NBC News Radio KACA own
to the Asian OPRAH number one Talk in the Ike.
Thank you very much. As streaming everywhere, I heart Raise,
Spotify and of course my YouTube TV channel where if
(38:46):
you free subscribe, give me the finger. This one, not
the other one. You will get on the alert every
weekday morning because I'm on every weekday morning for a
show about more hope and happiness and co who share
that vision my Happy eighty eight mission eighty eight million
more happy people in the next eight years. And today
(39:08):
you know it's Wednesday because it's Doctors in the house
with myself.
Speaker 5 (39:13):
And doctor Tiffany Tate and we.
Speaker 4 (39:17):
Are talking about I didn't make a mistake. I don't
know what you're talking about. I swept that under the
carpet so well that you won't ever see it, and
it's this coded it.
Speaker 5 (39:36):
I hit those bones in the closet. You don't want
to see those files, do you?
Speaker 3 (39:42):
Yay.
Speaker 4 (39:43):
Yeah, so that's what we're talking about. Doctor Tiffany has
brought us great statistics as usual research three to five
mistakes per minute and how many.
Speaker 5 (39:56):
Hours per hours? Oh for minute.
Speaker 4 (40:02):
Where I know, but there was the first hour. I'm
an overachiever. What can I say?
Speaker 5 (40:12):
That was not a mistake, people, That was a mistake.
Speaker 4 (40:15):
That was a mistake, that was a non Freudian slip,
that was an overachieving slip.
Speaker 5 (40:24):
When we look at what causes mistakes, there are some
different causes, and they say sometimes it can happen from
it could happen from faulty judgment, and we can act
on our incorrect beliefs or misjudging a situation. And I
know that sometimes I have misjudged a situation. I am guilty.
(40:49):
I will say that. I can say if I've been
guilty of that because I have misread a situation before.
I don't know if you've misread a situation never. And
so it could be between friends, it could be between
people in general. If you've walked into a room and
(41:11):
you're like, oh, I don't know if I'm feeling this,
maybe I should go somewhere else. And sometimes we let
our feelings get the best of us, because our feelings
can mislead us, and so we have to let practicality
(41:33):
kick in sometimes because sometimes inadequate knowledge can also lead
to mistakes, lacking the necessary information to make a correct decision,
because information is great and information is key, and we
need information a lot of times to help us proceed.
(41:57):
And sometimes just carelessness because we go as stover things
or we didn't get it and we lacked the focus
you know how we were talking about focus before or
oversight those things are really key, or just general misunderstanding.
A lot of times we don't communicate well, and communication
(42:17):
is key. Communication is key in relationships, whether it is
romantic or platonic or just general friendship. If you don't
have communication, you really don't have anything. Yep.
Speaker 4 (42:32):
Mistakes are also very very easy to make if you
are a perfectionist and if you are a Newtonian thinker,
because you think there's only one right way or one
way and if it's not your way, everybody else is wrong.
(42:56):
Sound familiar. This is a very American quality when we
do studies hop speed did I taught of course on
cultural differences and hofsteeds study and measure different cultures based on,
you know, individualization and the way they solve problems, certainly
(43:18):
independent and Newtonian right, wrong, good, bad? What category does
it go into is an American and on one And
it's good because you're decisive. On the other end, you
get in a lot of trouble because there sometimes are
you're right and I'm right. And the best example I
(43:38):
can give you of this, I'm sure you saw this
in your one oh one psyche class is the old
woman young woman, doctor Tiffany. Which one do you see
the old woman or the young woman?
Speaker 5 (43:50):
The young woman of course?
Speaker 4 (43:51):
Okay, and point out to me where the young woman's
chin is. I'll do that, and you can't do it
up with the thing here. I don't know. Can you
see the little what I'm pointing to?
Speaker 5 (44:04):
Yep?
Speaker 4 (44:05):
Oh good. I never know if the pointer works. But
this is her chin, This is her eyelash, this is
her hair, this is her bonnet or scarf. Right, that's
a young woman. Now there's also another woman in this picture.
It's the older woman. Do you see the older woman,
doctor Tippett?
Speaker 5 (44:25):
I do not see the older womankay.
Speaker 4 (44:27):
So I sometimes I use this as a joke with
my executives. As you see what you want to see.
So you're seeing the young you don't want to see
the old woman.
Speaker 5 (44:36):
Yeah, no I don't.
Speaker 4 (44:38):
But yeah, some of my male c sweeps don't appreciate
that when they see the old woman. But anyways, the
old woman, if you sort of change your perspective, sit
back a bit and look at the same thing, and
this chin becomes a nose, and here is her mouth
(45:02):
right there, and that's her chin, so it's like a
larger face. Here's her eye, so she's got a large
nose mouth. The choker becomes a mouth and her chin.
Speaker 5 (45:15):
Oh, now I see it, Now I see it.
Speaker 4 (45:17):
Yeah, okay. So I use this as an example of
two people can see the exact same data, and who's
right the one that sees the old woman or the
young woman. Neither one, because the same data gives you
two completely different realities. So anytime I'm tempted to get
(45:40):
into an argument with someone who doesn't see things the
way that I see them, I will say, oh, I
got to remember the women. I gotta remember the old
and the young woman, because it's a great example of
you see an accident. One person sees one thing, another
(46:02):
person us another that's the reality of life and humanness.
We're not always right, right, We do make mistakes on
how we interpret the situation, so remember that that's a
great tool.
Speaker 5 (46:20):
Well, yeah, and that's why mistakes are important, because they're
excellent learning opportunities. Mistakes help us to understand our own
limitations and the world around us more clearly. They allow
for personal growth, and responding to our mistakes effectively can
(46:43):
lead us to self improvement and becoming a better version
of ourselves.
Speaker 4 (46:50):
Yeah. Absolutely, If you are so vested in being right,
you're gonna have a difficult time learning, growing, and expanding,
which is really what we do. If you stay the same,
you can be on the right track. But if you
don't keep going, you're gonna get run over. We're here
(47:13):
on the planet to learn, grow and expand that's what
we're here. And the easiest way and the most painful
way is through making mistakes. So in my book Literally
A Ways to Happiness, we spend time. That's why the
trapter is on out of control and happiness and out
of fear, out of perfectionism. Right, because if we're so
(47:39):
trying not to make mistakes, we miss out on learning. Right,
So you don't want to ask a stupid question. Yeah,
you may not want to ask a stupid question in
front of eight hundred people, but you do want to
ask a question if you don't understand something. And so
what if you look like you're, you know, not the
(48:00):
brightest frew in the box. I'm sure most of the
people in the class are saying, Oh, I'm so glad
you asked that question, because I didn't know either. So
it is very valuable to skill to not be so
afraid of making mistakes that you keep yourself from learning.
Speaker 5 (48:20):
Absolutely, and I think when you make mistakes it actually
hons your problem solving skills because correcting your mistakes helps
us develop and strengthen our problem solving abilities, and errors
can lead to more memorable learning experiences.
Speaker 4 (48:45):
There was a true story CEO called in his SVP
who had just made a decision that costs the company
two million dollars make mistake. So that SPB came in
and said, I'm sure you want my resignation, happy to
give it. I'm so sorry, and that CEO looked at
(49:07):
him and said, why would I fire you when you
just when I just invested two million dollars in your
learning now, that is a good CEO. Unfortunately, most companies
are not like that. You don't have a lot of
incentive to admit your mistakes. But if your culture, in
(49:30):
your organization or in your family is that which people
are not allowed to be, you know, human and make
some mistakes, you're going to have a difficult time because
the way you don't allow yourself to make mistakes rubs off.
You're not a very fun person to be around if
you're constantly looking for who's to bling. This is a
(49:54):
huge happiness Robber.
Speaker 7 (49:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (49:58):
I think, especially right now, everyone is on edge, and
we used to have a time where we could agree
to disagree, especially politically, and we need to get back
to that time where we can say, Okay, you believe
what you believe, I believe what I believe, and let's
still be friends. Can we put the kindness back in humankind? Please?
(50:23):
It's just better that way, it really is. It is.
Speaker 4 (50:28):
That's why we don't talk about politics or religion on
my show. I've been very advant about it. I got
a lot of grief for not supporting certain people during
the election, but I know that it's tantamount to talk
about happiness, which transcends people's political beliefs. Everybody has the
(50:51):
right to be happy eighty eight percent of the time.
And if you can believe what you believe and know
that you are more than your political beliefs, your religious beliefs,
then I have co hosts who I don't agree with
religiously or politically, but I love all of my go hosts,
(51:15):
my guests because they're more than that. And yeah, we
have lost that skill, and I will be dang it
if we don't try to strengthen that muscle here on
this ship.
Speaker 5 (51:32):
Absolutely, And if you've watched Doctor Bruss and I, well
we align frequently. We often disagree frequently, and it's not
a mistake. It's just that we often.
Speaker 4 (51:48):
She sees the old woman, I see the young woman,
and it's the same data. And it's okay. Uh. I'm
glad you brought that up about us necessarily, but I'm
learning just like I corrected. Not that you made a mistake,
but I gave you your intention was to make me
(52:11):
feel better when I talked about the black thoughts. The
impact of your particular statement was not making me feel better.
It made me feel worse. And so I because I
love her and she loves me, and it's important that
you understand where I'm coming from. I took the time
(52:34):
to push you back, push back a little bit to
try to explain so that she would understand where I
was coming from. And you saw us model that like
real time, which I'm glad we did that because that's
the kind of carefrontation that can help relationships and help
(52:56):
us all through this time. Can we lovingly say what
we need to say, allowing that person's face to you
may not agree with it. She's a doctor, she still
has that strong belief that one day I'm going to
be able to do what I'm going But in this moment,
(53:18):
for her to understand my implications was really important to me,
and she did it, and she stopped trying to push
her point right because right now that's what I need.
So there's a perfect modeling of how to make sure
(53:39):
your intent to be loving matches your impact to be.
Speaker 5 (53:43):
Loved absolutely, and you have to meet people where they are.
You cannot force your own views on people, and we
need to learn to respect that in personalize lives, in
political lives and romantic lives in everyday lives, and to
(54:07):
not do that is a mistake or a missed take,
as doctor Marisa says, final word. So my final word,
I want to end with a quote by Benjamin Franklin
and it says the only real mistake is the one
(54:30):
from which we learn nothing. And by saying that, I
think it's okay to make mistakes. They say to err
is human, to forgive is divine. I think to make
a mistake and to learn nothing from it is the mistake.
It's okay to make mistakes. Like I started off saying,
(54:53):
people make mistakes daily, it's okay to do that. The
most important thing is that we learn from our mistakes.
You're going to spend time with people you shouldn't, You're
going to spend money on things that you shouldn't, You're
going to prioritize things that you shouldn't. But the most
important thing is that you learn from those mistakes and
(55:17):
you fix it and reshape your priorities, reshape your monetary priorities,
and hone in on the things that you love. That's
my word for media.
Speaker 4 (55:28):
Awesome. Final word for me is everybody, including you, including me,
does the very best that they can with the time
they have and the resources they have. So if you
made a mistake in the past you did. There's no
reason to beat yourself up because you really did. With
what you knew at the time, you did the best
(55:49):
that you could. So quit beating yourself up quick shoulting
on yourself. I shouldn't have done that. Should everybody does
the best that they can at that time and with
what they knew. You know more now. That's because you'll
learn from your missed take. Don't beat yourself up. It
is a useless activity. I want you to be happy.
(56:12):
Eighty eight percent of the time, the past was a
learning round. The present is a learning ground. Don't miss
out on the learning. As doctor Tiffany said, don't beat
yourself up, look forward and move forward with joy. That's
my final word. Thank you so much for joining me.
Tomorrow I'll be giving Asian No for giveaway tickets on
(56:33):
Street Talk for the Catalinea Jazz Festival, one of the
sponsors of the show A long Time Are Good is
so wonderful, So tune in tomorrow poor street Talk. But
today this was lovely with doctors in the house with myself.
Speaker 5 (56:50):
And doctor Tiffany Tick.
Speaker 4 (56:54):
It's all about balance vis in Pisa, We're all peace.
Through inter piece, Doctor Tiffany take us.
Speaker 8 (57:02):
Out, now, go and have the best day ever.
Speaker 1 (57:17):
Ten fifty am. Don't forget that number. And for you
young people who got here by accidentally fat fingering your
FM band select there. We're in AM radio station and
AM refers to more than just the time of day.
Speaker 6 (57:34):
What dowhere not?
Speaker 7 (57:35):
Hey, Southern California, you know what's going on. It's my
new hit show, The Scene with Dorian, and I'm your host,
Dorian Taylor. Join me every week as I chat with
my celebrity friends from TV, movies, music, theater, sports, and
everything in between. We explore the lives and careers of
some of the entertainment industry's biggest names, with some fun
surprises too. Tune into the Scene with Dorian Tuesdays at
(57:59):
seven am on CACAA Radio ten fifty am.
Speaker 6 (58:06):
NBC News on CACAA Loma lad Sponsored by Teamsters Local
nineteen thirty two, protecting the future of working families Teamsters
nineteen thirty two, Dot org.
Speaker 2 (58:20):
Be safe, not sorry this Labor Day, Don't drink and drive.
Our sponsor, WHAM Plumbing is family owned probably serving Riverside
and San Bernardino Counties, providing residential and commercial repipingle repairs, stoppages,
garbage disposal, water heaters, and more, plus twenty four to
seven emergency service, thirty day guarantee, free quotes, and senior
and veteran discounts. In a jam, call Wham at nine
(58:43):
five to one four A two three nine seven zero.
That's nine five to one four A two thirty nine
seventy honest and affordable. That's what Wham Plumbing.
Speaker 1 (58:51):
Is all about.
Speaker 6 (58:52):
There's never been a better time for men to be
whoever they want to be. Yet it's never been less
clear who men really are. Guys Guy Radio, starring author
Robert Manny, is on Caseyaa every Wednesday at eight pm.
Whether it's relationships, sex, wellness, or spirituality, join Robert as
(59:13):
he interviews the experts about how men and women can
be at their best. Guys Guy Radio, Better Men, Better World.
Speaker 9 (59:23):
Hi, this is Pastor Adrian McClellan with Jesus is the
Way ministries? Are You now ready to understand the Word
of God and truth instead of by uninformed and misinformed people.
Tune in on Sundays at one pm for the truth.
You will be very grateful that you did see you THEREPS.
Speaker 1 (59:45):
Hey you yeah, you do you know where you are? Well,
you've done it now. You're listening to casey Aa Loma Linda,
your CNBC news station, so expect the unexpected.
Speaker 3 (01:00:06):
You're listening to the Tahibo Tea Club radio show host
Am refers to more than just the time of day,
Jump off.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
At exhausting amster wheel and into balance.
Speaker 3 (00:09):
Living with Doctor Marissa from Miss Joy. The Doctor Marissa,
also known as the Asian Oprah. Her mission to be
a beneficial presence on the planet, her purpose to be
your personal advocate, to live, lap love, learn, her life motto,
don't die wondering, take back your life with Doctor Maurica Pey, and.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Welcome your tooth te my advice, I'm not using it.
Get balance with Doctor Marissa The Morning Show here on
casey AA, NBC News, CNBC News, NBC Sports radio station
a m Empathy one six point five and streaming everywhere iHeartRadio, Spotify, iTunes,
Student in Audible, Amazon Music, TIU, That Rumble, Patty's His Street,
(01:00):
Her Spreaker, and more. Why so many places. I want
to balance out all that bad news out there, and
it is all bad news with some good news, good people,
good topics, and good series. And you'll know it is
Wednesday today, be guys. We have Doctor's in the house
with myself.
Speaker 5 (01:19):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
And you do know her as a obg y n
maybe veteran children's book author, poetry author, singer, songwriter. I'm
doing this from seeing how good my memory is. Today
(01:44):
best Peach cobbler maker and my co host do Wednesburys
for doctors in the house and she's ready for Congress
and she'll tell you more about that at the break
Please welcome back to my studio, doctor too.
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Always a pleasure to be here, and Happy.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
Wednesday, Happy no hamp Day. I am gonna start with
what we usually do at the top of the show,
which is breakfast with me and my co host. Today
top of the bun things that we're grateful for outside
(02:31):
of ourselves, So we look around what physically we're grateful for.
Bottom of the bun, because just because it's not Friday,
I can't say that bottom of the fun is. Things
that we're grateful for will be looking inside of ourselves,
and we want you to do that before you go
to bed tonight, so that you get a good night's sleep.
(02:53):
Instead of thinking about all the things you've done wrong
or who done you wrong, You're gonna think about all
those things that you're good at, what you like about yourself.
So Jiffany, let's start at the top of the bud.
What are you grateful for? This beautiful Wednesday morning.
Speaker 5 (03:09):
Well, I had the opportunity to travel to DC and
attend the American Medical Association Campaign School. So I am
a graduate of campaign School for physicians who are running
for a political office. So yay me. So I feel
(03:30):
that much better, more equipped, and more ready to go
and advocate for the things that people care about.
Speaker 4 (03:38):
I didn't know there was a school like that. That
is so cool, very very cool. I am greatful that
I continue to discover things that are available and maybe
I didn't notice when I was jet setting now that
(03:59):
I'm not setting, and continue to move through the loss
on one hand of things that I used to be
able to do and discovering what I still can and
new things to do on the side. So I'm grateful
for that.
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful, And I am also grateful that I
have received another endorsement for my campaign. I'm always grateful
for things like that. So I am just motivated and
encouraged because to have an impact on the world and
(04:45):
to support people is a positive thing for me, and
that's what I want to do at this stage in
my life. Awesome.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
I'm grateful that I found a new Mojoon group, where
not only did I get to play mojong, there was
karaoke after. So hello, two of my favorite things replacing
sailboat racing and flying with a mojong and karaoke.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
Grateful for that, oh absolutely. And I actually had a
chance to go to the local American Legion because I
am a member of the American Legion, and I sang karaoke.
I sang one of Whitney Houston songs and they were like,
oh my, that was so great, and you'll have to
come and do karaoke with me, and maybe I want
(05:36):
to American Legions and we will definitely have a good time.
Usually they roll through and you sing two songs and
we had a good time. They were like, you have
to come back. But of course I was in DC,
but it was a fabulous time. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
I was just about to say something and now, oh, yeah,
what song did you say?
Speaker 5 (06:00):
I actually sang her song. Let's see which one was that?
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Let me it was, don't tell me it was I
Will Always Love You. No, I was gonna say that
would be too weird. No, but I wouldn't put it
past us.
Speaker 5 (06:21):
No, no, no, I know that that's your favorite. Whitney song,
but no, it was it was, uh, where do broken
Hearts Go?
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Oh? Wait, Hunts. I love that song. I'll have to
put that on my list. And uh, I want to
just give the name to the group that I got
to play with singing I'll Always Love You. They actually
put it in the reel. You could hardly see me
because it was dark, but I made the real Uh
(06:55):
it's l a Modjong league And so that's another one.
I think I told you about. East never loses the
week before, so I certainly am discovering all the things
that La I never realized. So I'm grateful for that.
And I won a comedy competition on Monday for my
(07:18):
stand up, so I'm grateful for that as I continue this.
Instead of a motivational speaker being funny, I wanted to
try stand up and motivate. So there you go. One more.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
And I am actually grateful that I made it home
safely because when I was out there, there was a
lot of issues, I might say, because of so much
going on politically, and my friends were calling and saying, Tiffany,
are you okay? Are you okay? Because there was a
bomb threat at one of the headquarters, like the Democratic headquarters,
(07:56):
but I wasn't there. I was actually at the American
Medical Association building, and so we were a few blocks
away from Capitol Hill, and of course I visit Capitol Hill.
But there was so much going on with the assassination
of Charlie kirktt blessed his family, and then there was
the three students who were shot at the university at
(08:21):
a high school as well, and so there was just
so many issues going on, and I think we as Americans,
we really need to understand that we need peace and
we need understanding, and no one should be shot based
on their political issues. But people were concerned about my
safety and I'm just thankful to make it wherever I
(08:43):
need to be and have traveling grace and mercy. And
I'm thankful for God's grace and mercy.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Absolutely. I am grateful for my two girls. My older
one just had a birthday. It's always nice to recognize.
I think one of the best books in my life
is being a mom, and I so am. But I
know you agree with me, so I'm going to be grateful.
(09:12):
I don't always say that, so I'm gonna say that now.
You say that more than I, So I'm gonna catch up.
Let's go to the bottom of the bud. That is
gratitude for things that are inside of yourself. What do
you like about yourself? So you're not walking around looking
for love and all the around places and looking for
(09:32):
people who like you literally these days on social media.
I want you to like yourself. So what do you
like about yourself? Doctor Tiffany.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
I like the fact that I am a veteran, and
I don't think I've ever said that. I like the
fact that I am a veteran, and I think for
a lot of times I take for granted that I've
served my my country, and I figured, Okay, a lot
(10:03):
of people do service. A lot of people volunteer, but
a lot of people have not served our country. And
a lot of people are like, oh, I love America,
and I say my pledge of allegiance, but a lot
of people have not joined the military. And I think
serving the country in various ways is good. And I
(10:27):
do volunteer in various organizations, but it takes a lot
to be a veteran and to get up and say
I'm willing to make the sacrifice and join the army,
the Navy, the Air Force, the Marines, the Coast Guard,
and I want to take a special moment to say
a shout out to all my federal fellow veterans, because yes,
(10:52):
I love you, I support you, and I am doctor
Tiffany Tate, and I approve this.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
Message absolutely and that is certainly always something to recognize.
Someone gave me the finger on that note, not that one,
but this one, which is always good. I see eyeballs
in the studio. Love having you participate. If you'd like
(11:19):
to make a comment, please do put it in the chat.
We are live today. Please do not put it in
the chat. If you're driving, be safe, get wherever you're going,
and then join us on the chat. But yes, everyone
knows I'm a huge advocate for peace, not for war.
(11:40):
At the same time, I appreciate those who currently are
serving or have served. Just because I want peace and
I'm not a big fan of war doesn't mean that
those people have not dedicated their lives in service to
protect whatever you know, we think we need to protect,
(12:00):
and don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. So
I absolutely acknowledge, and let's give a little luck to
all those who have served our country past, present, in future.
Speaker 5 (12:20):
There you go. That was for you too.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Here I'll close out. What I like about myself is
that I am totally allowing myself to move through everything
I need to move through in this time. I went back.
I didn't tell you yet, doctor Tiffany. I went back
(12:43):
to the hematologist. We did a battery of sixteen tests
to find out if my blood clots were related to
me extra or lack of proteins, enzymes, genetics, and for
the first time in my life, I was hoping that
I got a positive result because then it would not
(13:04):
be blamed on the airplane and flying. Unfortunately, I was
normal first time on all the tests, and therefore it
is the blind and therefore I had to really that
glimmer of pulpe that I had is now extinguished. And
(13:29):
people say, well, you should be able to fly, blah
blah blah blah, and it's like, yes, I will be
able to fly, but every single flight carries a risk,
and there's nothing I can do about that unless I
time traveled before nineteen ninety six December when they found
the first blood plot and the pulmonary embolism when the
(13:52):
piece broke up, and then the second plot the past June,
so you know, sure I can say for few I'm
gonna fly anyways, but you know that's pretty selfish for
my children who don't want me to take risks. And
(14:13):
you know that's what I'm really grappling with now. And
eighty percent of the time I'm good. Twenty percent of
the time I'm not good, and I'm extremely feeling the
pain that comes with that. But I've also learned that
I cannot cry more than once a day because the
(14:35):
makeup is expensive. So it's been but it's great, like
I know who I can be fully, you know, whether
it's being angry about it, which is rare my first time.
I love myself to be pissed offitness about it yesterday.
But I've been sad about it quite a bit. But
(14:57):
you know, I appreciate my ability need to sit with things,
not do a spiritual bypass, not marinated in it, and
sit on a pity pot more than I'm an hour,
like twenty four minutes, right I'd like to bring that
down to sixteen seconds, but right now it's too fresh,
(15:21):
you know. So I'm just grateful I have point doctors
and doctors amazing and both staff. You know, he goes,
can you why like just natural not interactionally, thank you,
but no, but the idea of sorry if you're from
(15:43):
the Midwest thing but doing it doing a book siting
in Ireland is in immensely more interesting to me. And
uh it is the death of the tour. I will
not ever be able to.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Do the.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
You know, the way I had the tour line up
for the next six months with the different country. Ever,
I will never be able to do that. And for
that I'm breathing.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
And you know we won't say never.
Speaker 4 (16:12):
Maybe you know this is this is where I know
you all say this because you love me and you
want me to.
Speaker 6 (16:22):
Not have.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
Optimistic no hope, but this is let me be very clear,
and I have a lot more compassion for people.
Speaker 5 (16:33):
You know.
Speaker 4 (16:33):
This isn't like something like a tumor where you can
pray for a healing a miraculous skin and I believe
in that. But the only way to to to wipe
away the the chance of the risk is to go
back in time and not have had that happen. There's
(16:55):
nothing that can be done to guarantee no risks. So
I just I wish people could understand that part of
it and not keep telling me it's just for right
now because it is not something you can take away.
Speaker 5 (17:14):
Oh, absolutely, you get it. I get it as a physician.
I'm just saying that medical technology fame, and sometimes treatment
options change, and what they can offer you right now
might be different in five or ten years.
Speaker 4 (17:31):
And only way to test out whether I can fly
and not develop a fly is to take the risk
to fly and then see what happens. That's what I'm talking.
Speaker 5 (17:45):
Yeah, the risk will ever be zero, thank you. Yeah,
that's true. The risk won't ever be zero.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
And that is what I'm dealing with. And so when
I wish people would with just like I had one friend,
you know, she got it, and she looked at me rocated,
and she said, of all the people to be told
you cannot fly without risk, that loves to travel, that
(18:17):
loves to fly, how many people do you know have
video of sitting in the pilot's seat on multiple airlines?
People ask me how did you do that? I don't
know if I just asked, But I love flying. It
is a miracle. Doesn't get old, you know. I say
that for years, I mean decades. So to have that
(18:40):
be the reality, please allow me to be one with
that loss I know people don't like me being I
don't like seeing people pay myself. However, it's so important
if this is what I teach, I have to move
through the reality of the pain safely without being told.
(19:04):
Don't say that you know you have to grief.
Speaker 5 (19:07):
You need to grief. You need to grieve in your
own way.
Speaker 4 (19:12):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 5 (19:15):
You need space for that. We should allow you to
have your space for that.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
All right, now that I've used my own show to
process for but I mean it's good. I actually had
someone say, you know, it's really good to watch you
practice what you teach, moving through things, you know, knowing
that your life isn't a fairy tale as it sometimes
looks like right on social media. So uh, one more
(19:45):
thing that you like about yourself, Doctor Tiffany bottom of
the boat.
Speaker 5 (19:49):
Well, I actually like my voice. And I was actually
complimented on my voice when I was attending the Campaign
school at the American Medical Association course, and it was
my speaking voice, not my singing voice, which I thought
(20:13):
was very interesting because I've never really paid attention to
my voice. And they would record us and have us
listen back to our really watch our show. So I
don't necessarily hear myself speak, and it was pretty interesting
to hear me speak, so I thought that was nice.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
That's so cool. That's so cool. All right, and that's
it for breakfast. Thank you so much for joining us
today every weekday morning on KCAA, the station that leaves
no listener behind home to the Asian over number one
talk to me. I thank you very much. You will
have a chance to practice this good life hatchtake listenpline
(21:00):
every single morning, not doing this MS meaning was strolling instead,
I mean breakfast with me and whoever the co host
is on the spot. It is Wednesday, and this is
Doctors in the House with myself.
Speaker 5 (21:15):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 4 (21:19):
Thank you for joining us for breakfast. And now for
the topic of the day. Eh, what is it, doctor Tiffany?
Speaker 5 (21:40):
Mistakes?
Speaker 4 (21:44):
Yes, I never I've only made one mistake in my life.
Speaker 5 (21:50):
I don't know if I want to ask what that is?
Speaker 4 (21:52):
The one I just did, the one I just did I.
Speaker 5 (22:01):
Miss that?
Speaker 4 (22:01):
Take just now, why are we talking about mistakes today
and doctor Tivity?
Speaker 5 (22:07):
Well, I think a lot of people have had issues
in life, and I have interacted with a lot of
people who have had issues in life, and I always
say that denial is not just a river in Egypt.
(22:28):
And they don't want to admit to their mistakes. And
I was like, h how often do we as humans
have mistakes? I know I make mistakes, and I'm readily
and willingly willing to own up to my mistakes. And
(22:50):
then I was thinking, well, how often do we make mistakes?
And what is a mistake? And I just figured, well,
let's just take this issue, smack it, flip it up,
delve into this.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
You go cool.
Speaker 4 (23:10):
I think wanting to learn that, but I know as
soon as I learn it, I'm gonna like not be
able to continue with whatever we're talking about. So I'm
just gonna let you say it and get a tickle
out of that. But that's definitely a straight talk Friday conversation,
(23:31):
all right, So what happens when you talk about mistakes?
I think of a couple of things. One is, I
also don't like making mistakes, one because I hate saying sorry,
Two because it usually means I'm going to be humiliated
in some way right pointed out for doing something wrong. Third,
(23:56):
I grew up in a home where if you made
a mistake, you were there was like horrible consequences for it,
physical implications, mental emotional implications. So I've tried to live
a mistake for you life, which is ridiculous. And it
(24:19):
also leads to if you do make a mistake, the
most important thing is not to admit it is to
hide it, so either defending yourself or pretending you weren't
there or whatever it is. So yeah, great topic, doctor
tiff me depict It is certainly tied into our ability
(24:39):
to be happy or not happy. And the mistake zone,
I think is unhappy making mm hmm.
Speaker 5 (24:48):
And it's interesting. The first thing, Well, I learned a
lot about mistakes, and so it says that on average,
there are various numbers. It says the estimates suggests that
there are about three to six errors per hour in.
Speaker 4 (25:14):
Some people see sirens mean that's the truth. So there
you go, say that statistic one more time.
Speaker 5 (25:22):
Three to six per hour, okay by who?
Speaker 4 (25:29):
Yes?
Speaker 5 (25:30):
In general, so some people make three to six errors
per hour, so there's no specific number, but the average
person makes about three to six per hour, and then
about forty to eighty errors per day, so it varies
per individual based on their distractions, fatigue and different things,
(25:55):
and so it's like, okay, so what is this. It's
a wrong action, faulty judgment, differences in understanding, faulty reasoning,
or just carelessness, insufficient knowledge. And a lot of times,
whether if you're gambling, you back the wrong horse, you
(26:17):
vote for the wrong person, you do something, or you
love the wrong person, you end up in a faulty relationship,
just miscommunication, unintended friendships, just unwanted outcomes, a bad investment
(26:37):
where you money. We do different things and sometimes we
just bury our head in the sand and we just say, Okay,
I don't want to know about it. I'm just trying
to forget about it. But denial is not necessarily the
best thing to do. We don't want to admit to
(26:58):
our mistakes. It's okay to say I made a mistake
because we can own up to it, because that's the
best way to fix it. And I learned that there
are four different types of mistakes.
Speaker 4 (27:13):
Wow, did.
Speaker 5 (27:17):
I learned something new?
Speaker 4 (27:20):
Bigger?
Speaker 5 (27:24):
Right? Right? So they were like the stretch mistake. I
was like, what is a stretch mistake? I never heard
of that. The stretch mistake is considered a positive mistake,
and it's one in which a student will likely find
themselves making throughout their entire education. So it's like, Okay,
(27:46):
I made a mistake, but I'm going to use it
to grow. And then there's the aha moment mistake where
it's like you make a mistake and you're like oh aha,
and you figure something out. And then there is the
sloppy mistake, and I'm like, hmmm, a sloppy mistake. And
(28:10):
then there is the high stakes mistake, and I'm like,
a high stakes mistake, and these cost you a big issue,
a lot of money and maybe a big investment or
a significant problem in your relationship. So these are greater
(28:31):
issues and it just costs you more. I was just like, oh,
I never really divided mistakes. I'm just I just figured
the mistake was a mistake. What's your taking?
Speaker 6 (28:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (28:42):
Really interesting to divide it and look at like that.
I'm reminded of a couple of things. One I got
to share a stake with John Cleese when I was
in Philadelphia, and he said, mistakes, it's really good. His
premise was, in order to be creative, the more mistakes
you make are better, but make sure you don't do
(29:06):
huge mistakes like spell Rabbit with three m's or start
a land war in Asia. Those were his, you know,
examples of like that's just playing stupid, but other mistakes.
And I'm pretty sure it was him that gave the
story of Bordon the guided missile. And if if Gordon
(29:30):
didn't make mistakes, he would never get to his destination.
And if you think about how we learn, that's the
student one I'm thinking that you're talking about is you know,
if I'm going from point A point B, I have
to start someone. And if I start going and I asked,
(29:50):
how am I doing? While you're not pointed in that
the correct direction to hit that target? Adjust, So that's
a mistake, right, You're headed in the not correct accurate
straight line. So you make a correction and then you
ask how am I doing? And well you're kind of overshot.
(30:12):
You made another mistake, so you wouldjust again. And that
is life, folks. We're not going to get it right
out of the gate. That's that ten thousand hours of
learning something to get it right. And some things you
don't need ten thousand hours. But if you never need,
what's that saying? You will never achieve at the things
(30:36):
that you don't even try, right, what's that saying, do
you remember what I'm talking about?
Speaker 5 (30:43):
Say you lose one hundred percent of the races that
you never run. That's it.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
That's it. There's other versions of that, but yeah, exactly.
So that's what comes to mind is really, mistakes are
a good thing. That's why I call them missed takes. Right,
you missed that take, and that means you have more
information to make the next take. You have to miss
(31:12):
the take in order to self correct into the path
that is the most healthful, not right or wrong, but
the most.
Speaker 5 (31:22):
Health absolutely absolutely you have to try.
Speaker 4 (31:28):
Yeah, yeah, So what kind of mistakes have you made?
Or I made? I will before we go on break,
I'll admit because the first half of the show is
we keep it real. We put the moose on the table,
which is my Canadian version of talking about the elephants
in the room. And I've got a friend now from
(31:50):
Canada that I got him. He's got a parachute so
he doesn't hurt himself when there's a moose drop. So
I had lost now those categories. So the first category
was the student learning right. So when I was a professor,
the very first time I tried to be a professor,
it was horrible, and out of seventeen of professors at
(32:15):
Boston University in Brussels, I was ranked second last. And
I wanted to say, you know, I can't do everything well,
so continue is not my big and doctor William Willem
Salem said to me, the director, here's feedback right from
the course. Read it, process it, come back and teach
(32:37):
next semester. If you still feel like you don't want
to teach, fine, but I'm not going to let you
put now. And I did. I took all of the
very difficult feedback was not pretty, but I was insecure.
I was a brand new I was young, youngest professor,
so I, you know, made a lot of mistakes and
(33:00):
came back top of the next one. I was the
second highest ranking of all the professionals. So that's a
good example what you're talking about. For the first cabin.
Speaker 5 (33:11):
I think my mistake. I can't say it was a
true mistake. I guess it was an aha moment mistake.
My very first c section when I was at Vanderbilt.
I was this year running the board and I remember
(33:31):
I was slow. I was really slow doing my sea
section because I wanted to be very, very safe and
it wasn't an emergency see section, and he was My
attending was very domineering, and he was like, I hope
I wasn't going to take all day. I looked up
at him. I looked up at him. I was like
(33:53):
me too. I was like an aha moment. I was like,
I probably shouldn't have said.
Speaker 4 (33:58):
That, but I think that's great. I think that was
a perfect response.
Speaker 5 (34:05):
Yeah, so but I went. I went very slow. I mean,
and of course mom and baby they did great, But
it was like I was very meticulous and mom and
baby did excellent. But fast forward to when I was
a chief resident running the board, running labor and delivery,
we actually had an emergency saesarean section with a prolapsed
(34:28):
cord and that's when the cord is protruding out and
the nurse has to stick her hand up and hold
the baby, hold the cord up, and she's on the
table rushing through labor and delivery with mom and her
hand up inside the mom and the attending is running
back with the mom and the baby, and I'm meeting
them in the operating room and I delivered the baby
(34:52):
from the time of the incision to time of delivery
within one minute of each other. So fast forward from
that time to that time. I think that was like
my aha moment. So you fast forward from that second
year to that chief here it was I turned that
mistake of going super slow to going super fast, and
(35:15):
my attending at that time different attending, was like, oh
my goodness, Tiffany, that was like one of the fastest
c sections I've seen by a resident ever. And I
think that that was a great thing. And I still
remember that because I was like, oh, I felt vindicated.
I still feel vindicated, as you can.
Speaker 4 (35:32):
See, absolutely all right, and that is if for the
first half of the show, we do have to take
a quick break for news weather traffic on my NBC
news radio channel KCAA AM ten fifty one six point five,
the station that needs no listener behind and Home to
the Age and Oprah and number one talking the Ie.
(35:53):
Thank you very much. We'll be right back after a
word from our sponsor. Don't go away. We'll be right
back in two and two or as I say, Pisa, Pisa,
We'll be right back.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
Take Back your Life with Doctor Maurice.
Speaker 5 (36:29):
Hello, my name is doctor Tiffany Tate. I was not
always a physician Prior to that, I was just like you,
working in the community. I was a courtesy clerk at
Lucky's Supermarket, saying paper or plastic. I know what it
(36:51):
means to struggle, and I know what it means to
try to make ends meet. I know it's hard right
now in the economy. Elect a real person. I am
not a politician, but I understand how politics works. I
understand how policy works. I've been to the state capitol
and I've lobbied on policy. I have lobbied for policy
(37:15):
on Capitol Hill here in California. Visit my website at
doctor Tate for Congress. I am a veteran officer of
the United States Navy. I understand American values and I
support them. I am a physician. I understand health care policy,
and I'm willing to advocate for you. I am a
mother and I will fight for our children. Vote for me.
(37:40):
Make a donation to my campaign at doctor Tate for
Congress that is d R T A T E F
O R C O N G R E S S
dot com. If you want real change on Capitol Hill,
support me doctor Tate for Congress dot com. Help me
make a difference for you and your family. My name
(38:00):
is doctor Tiffany Tait and I approved this message.
Speaker 3 (38:19):
Take back your life with Doctor Maurice.
Speaker 4 (38:25):
And 're back. You're tuned in to take my advice.
I'm not using it. Get balance with doctor. Rest of
the morning show. You're on NBC News Radio KACA own
to the Asian OPRAH number one Talk in the Ike.
Thank you very much. As streaming everywhere, I heart Raise,
Spotify and of course my YouTube TV channel where if
(38:46):
you free subscribe, give me the finger. This one, not
the other one. You will get on the alert every
weekday morning because I'm on every weekday morning for a
show about more hope and happiness and co who share
that vision my Happy eighty eight mission eighty eight million
more happy people in the next eight years. And today
(39:08):
you know it's Wednesday because it's Doctors in the house
with myself.
Speaker 5 (39:13):
And doctor Tiffany Tate and we.
Speaker 4 (39:17):
Are talking about I didn't make a mistake. I don't
know what you're talking about. I swept that under the
carpet so well that you won't ever see it, and
it's this coded it.
Speaker 5 (39:36):
I hit those bones in the closet. You don't want
to see those files, do you?
Speaker 3 (39:42):
Yay.
Speaker 4 (39:43):
Yeah, so that's what we're talking about. Doctor Tiffany has
brought us great statistics as usual research three to five
mistakes per minute and how many.
Speaker 5 (39:56):
Hours per hours? Oh for minute.
Speaker 4 (40:02):
Where I know, but there was the first hour. I'm
an overachiever. What can I say?
Speaker 5 (40:12):
That was not a mistake, people, That was a mistake.
Speaker 4 (40:15):
That was a mistake, that was a non Freudian slip,
that was an overachieving slip.
Speaker 5 (40:24):
When we look at what causes mistakes, there are some
different causes, and they say sometimes it can happen from
it could happen from faulty judgment, and we can act
on our incorrect beliefs or misjudging a situation. And I
know that sometimes I have misjudged a situation. I am guilty.
(40:49):
I will say that. I can say if I've been
guilty of that because I have misread a situation before.
I don't know if you've misread a situation never. And
so it could be between friends, it could be between
people in general. If you've walked into a room and
(41:11):
you're like, oh, I don't know if I'm feeling this,
maybe I should go somewhere else. And sometimes we let
our feelings get the best of us, because our feelings
can mislead us, and so we have to let practicality
(41:33):
kick in sometimes because sometimes inadequate knowledge can also lead
to mistakes, lacking the necessary information to make a correct decision,
because information is great and information is key, and we
need information a lot of times to help us proceed.
(41:57):
And sometimes just carelessness because we go as stover things
or we didn't get it and we lacked the focus
you know how we were talking about focus before or
oversight those things are really key, or just general misunderstanding.
A lot of times we don't communicate well, and communication
(42:17):
is key. Communication is key in relationships, whether it is
romantic or platonic or just general friendship. If you don't
have communication, you really don't have anything. Yep.
Speaker 4 (42:32):
Mistakes are also very very easy to make if you
are a perfectionist and if you are a Newtonian thinker,
because you think there's only one right way or one
way and if it's not your way, everybody else is wrong.
(42:56):
Sound familiar. This is a very American quality when we
do studies hop speed did I taught of course on
cultural differences and hofsteeds study and measure different cultures based on,
you know, individualization and the way they solve problems, certainly
(43:18):
independent and Newtonian right, wrong, good, bad? What category does
it go into is an American and on one And
it's good because you're decisive. On the other end, you
get in a lot of trouble because there sometimes are
you're right and I'm right. And the best example I
(43:38):
can give you of this, I'm sure you saw this
in your one oh one psyche class is the old
woman young woman, doctor Tiffany. Which one do you see
the old woman or the young woman?
Speaker 5 (43:50):
The young woman of course?
Speaker 4 (43:51):
Okay, and point out to me where the young woman's
chin is. I'll do that, and you can't do it
up with the thing here. I don't know. Can you
see the little what I'm pointing to?
Speaker 5 (44:04):
Yep?
Speaker 4 (44:05):
Oh good. I never know if the pointer works. But
this is her chin, This is her eyelash, this is
her hair, this is her bonnet or scarf. Right, that's
a young woman. Now there's also another woman in this picture.
It's the older woman. Do you see the older woman,
doctor Tippett?
Speaker 5 (44:25):
I do not see the older womankay.
Speaker 4 (44:27):
So I sometimes I use this as a joke with
my executives. As you see what you want to see.
So you're seeing the young you don't want to see
the old woman.
Speaker 5 (44:36):
Yeah, no I don't.
Speaker 4 (44:38):
But yeah, some of my male c sweeps don't appreciate
that when they see the old woman. But anyways, the
old woman, if you sort of change your perspective, sit
back a bit and look at the same thing, and
this chin becomes a nose, and here is her mouth
(45:02):
right there, and that's her chin, so it's like a
larger face. Here's her eye, so she's got a large
nose mouth. The choker becomes a mouth and her chin.
Speaker 5 (45:15):
Oh, now I see it, Now I see it.
Speaker 4 (45:17):
Yeah, okay. So I use this as an example of
two people can see the exact same data, and who's
right the one that sees the old woman or the
young woman. Neither one, because the same data gives you
two completely different realities. So anytime I'm tempted to get
(45:40):
into an argument with someone who doesn't see things the
way that I see them, I will say, oh, I
got to remember the women. I gotta remember the old
and the young woman, because it's a great example of
you see an accident. One person sees one thing, another
(46:02):
person us another that's the reality of life and humanness.
We're not always right, right, We do make mistakes on
how we interpret the situation, so remember that that's a
great tool.
Speaker 5 (46:20):
Well, yeah, and that's why mistakes are important, because they're
excellent learning opportunities. Mistakes help us to understand our own
limitations and the world around us more clearly. They allow
for personal growth, and responding to our mistakes effectively can
(46:43):
lead us to self improvement and becoming a better version
of ourselves.
Speaker 4 (46:50):
Yeah. Absolutely, If you are so vested in being right,
you're gonna have a difficult time learning, growing, and expanding,
which is really what we do. If you stay the same,
you can be on the right track. But if you
don't keep going, you're gonna get run over. We're here
(47:13):
on the planet to learn, grow and expand that's what
we're here. And the easiest way and the most painful
way is through making mistakes. So in my book Literally
A Ways to Happiness, we spend time. That's why the
trapter is on out of control and happiness and out
of fear, out of perfectionism. Right, because if we're so
(47:39):
trying not to make mistakes, we miss out on learning. Right,
So you don't want to ask a stupid question. Yeah,
you may not want to ask a stupid question in
front of eight hundred people, but you do want to
ask a question if you don't understand something. And so
what if you look like you're, you know, not the
(48:00):
brightest frew in the box. I'm sure most of the
people in the class are saying, Oh, I'm so glad
you asked that question, because I didn't know either. So
it is very valuable to skill to not be so
afraid of making mistakes that you keep yourself from learning.
Speaker 5 (48:20):
Absolutely, and I think when you make mistakes it actually
hons your problem solving skills because correcting your mistakes helps
us develop and strengthen our problem solving abilities, and errors
can lead to more memorable learning experiences.
Speaker 4 (48:45):
There was a true story CEO called in his SVP
who had just made a decision that costs the company
two million dollars make mistake. So that SPB came in
and said, I'm sure you want my resignation, happy to
give it. I'm so sorry, and that CEO looked at
(49:07):
him and said, why would I fire you when you
just when I just invested two million dollars in your
learning now, that is a good CEO. Unfortunately, most companies
are not like that. You don't have a lot of
incentive to admit your mistakes. But if your culture, in
(49:30):
your organization or in your family is that which people
are not allowed to be, you know, human and make
some mistakes, you're going to have a difficult time because
the way you don't allow yourself to make mistakes rubs off.
You're not a very fun person to be around if
you're constantly looking for who's to bling. This is a
(49:54):
huge happiness Robber.
Speaker 7 (49:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (49:58):
I think, especially right now, everyone is on edge, and
we used to have a time where we could agree
to disagree, especially politically, and we need to get back
to that time where we can say, Okay, you believe
what you believe, I believe what I believe, and let's
still be friends. Can we put the kindness back in humankind? Please?
(50:23):
It's just better that way, it really is. It is.
Speaker 4 (50:28):
That's why we don't talk about politics or religion on
my show. I've been very advant about it. I got
a lot of grief for not supporting certain people during
the election, but I know that it's tantamount to talk
about happiness, which transcends people's political beliefs. Everybody has the
(50:51):
right to be happy eighty eight percent of the time.
And if you can believe what you believe and know
that you are more than your political beliefs, your religious beliefs,
then I have co hosts who I don't agree with
religiously or politically, but I love all of my go hosts,
(51:15):
my guests because they're more than that. And yeah, we
have lost that skill, and I will be dang it
if we don't try to strengthen that muscle here on
this ship.
Speaker 5 (51:32):
Absolutely, And if you've watched Doctor Bruss and I, well
we align frequently. We often disagree frequently, and it's not
a mistake. It's just that we often.
Speaker 4 (51:48):
She sees the old woman, I see the young woman,
and it's the same data. And it's okay. Uh. I'm
glad you brought that up about us necessarily, but I'm
learning just like I corrected. Not that you made a mistake,
but I gave you your intention was to make me
(52:11):
feel better when I talked about the black thoughts. The
impact of your particular statement was not making me feel better.
It made me feel worse. And so I because I
love her and she loves me, and it's important that
you understand where I'm coming from. I took the time
(52:34):
to push you back, push back a little bit to
try to explain so that she would understand where I
was coming from. And you saw us model that like
real time, which I'm glad we did that because that's
the kind of carefrontation that can help relationships and help
(52:56):
us all through this time. Can we lovingly say what
we need to say, allowing that person's face to you
may not agree with it. She's a doctor, she still
has that strong belief that one day I'm going to
be able to do what I'm going But in this moment,
(53:18):
for her to understand my implications was really important to me,
and she did it, and she stopped trying to push
her point right because right now that's what I need.
So there's a perfect modeling of how to make sure
(53:39):
your intent to be loving matches your impact to be.
Speaker 5 (53:43):
Loved absolutely, and you have to meet people where they are.
You cannot force your own views on people, and we
need to learn to respect that in personalize lives, in
political lives and romantic lives in everyday lives, and to
(54:07):
not do that is a mistake or a missed take,
as doctor Marisa says, final word. So my final word,
I want to end with a quote by Benjamin Franklin
and it says the only real mistake is the one
(54:30):
from which we learn nothing. And by saying that, I
think it's okay to make mistakes. They say to err
is human, to forgive is divine. I think to make
a mistake and to learn nothing from it is the mistake.
It's okay to make mistakes. Like I started off saying,
(54:53):
people make mistakes daily, it's okay to do that. The
most important thing is that we learn from our mistakes.
You're going to spend time with people you shouldn't, You're
going to spend money on things that you shouldn't, You're
going to prioritize things that you shouldn't. But the most
important thing is that you learn from those mistakes and
(55:17):
you fix it and reshape your priorities, reshape your monetary priorities,
and hone in on the things that you love. That's
my word for media.
Speaker 4 (55:28):
Awesome. Final word for me is everybody, including you, including me,
does the very best that they can with the time
they have and the resources they have. So if you
made a mistake in the past you did. There's no
reason to beat yourself up because you really did. With
what you knew at the time, you did the best
(55:49):
that you could. So quit beating yourself up quick shoulting
on yourself. I shouldn't have done that. Should everybody does
the best that they can at that time and with
what they knew. You know more now. That's because you'll
learn from your missed take. Don't beat yourself up. It
is a useless activity. I want you to be happy.
(56:12):
Eighty eight percent of the time, the past was a
learning round. The present is a learning ground. Don't miss
out on the learning. As doctor Tiffany said, don't beat
yourself up, look forward and move forward with joy. That's
my final word. Thank you so much for joining me.
Tomorrow I'll be giving Asian No for giveaway tickets on
(56:33):
Street Talk for the Catalinea Jazz Festival, one of the
sponsors of the show A long Time Are Good is
so wonderful, So tune in tomorrow poor street Talk. But
today this was lovely with doctors in the house with myself.
Speaker 5 (56:50):
And doctor Tiffany Tick.
Speaker 4 (56:54):
It's all about balance vis in Pisa, We're all peace.
Through inter piece, Doctor Tiffany take us.
Speaker 8 (57:02):
Out, now, go and have the best day ever.
Speaker 1 (57:17):
Ten fifty am. Don't forget that number. And for you
young people who got here by accidentally fat fingering your
FM band select there. We're in AM radio station and
AM refers to more than just the time of day.
Speaker 6 (57:34):
What dowhere not?
Speaker 7 (57:35):
Hey, Southern California, you know what's going on. It's my
new hit show, The Scene with Dorian, and I'm your host,
Dorian Taylor. Join me every week as I chat with
my celebrity friends from TV, movies, music, theater, sports, and
everything in between. We explore the lives and careers of
some of the entertainment industry's biggest names, with some fun
surprises too. Tune into the Scene with Dorian Tuesdays at
(57:59):
seven am on CACAA Radio ten fifty am.
Speaker 6 (58:06):
NBC News on CACAA Loma lad Sponsored by Teamsters Local
nineteen thirty two, protecting the future of working families Teamsters
nineteen thirty two, Dot org.
Speaker 2 (58:20):
Be safe, not sorry this Labor Day, Don't drink and drive.
Our sponsor, WHAM Plumbing is family owned probably serving Riverside
and San Bernardino Counties, providing residential and commercial repipingle repairs, stoppages,
garbage disposal, water heaters, and more, plus twenty four to
seven emergency service, thirty day guarantee, free quotes, and senior
and veteran discounts. In a jam, call Wham at nine
(58:43):
five to one four A two three nine seven zero.
That's nine five to one four A two thirty nine
seventy honest and affordable. That's what Wham Plumbing.
Speaker 1 (58:51):
Is all about.
Speaker 6 (58:52):
There's never been a better time for men to be
whoever they want to be. Yet it's never been less
clear who men really are. Guys Guy Radio, starring author
Robert Manny, is on Caseyaa every Wednesday at eight pm.
Whether it's relationships, sex, wellness, or spirituality, join Robert as
(59:13):
he interviews the experts about how men and women can
be at their best. Guys Guy Radio, Better Men, Better World.
Speaker 9 (59:23):
Hi, this is Pastor Adrian McClellan with Jesus is the
Way ministries? Are You now ready to understand the Word
of God and truth instead of by uninformed and misinformed people.
Tune in on Sundays at one pm for the truth.
You will be very grateful that you did see you THEREPS.
Speaker 1 (59:45):
Hey you yeah, you do you know where you are? Well,
you've done it now. You're listening to casey Aa Loma Linda,
your CNBC news station, so expect the unexpected.
Speaker 3 (01:00:06):
You're listening to the Tahibo Tea Club radio show host
Popular Podcasts
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
The Joe Rogan Experience
The official podcast of comedian Joe Rogan.