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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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I want to balance out all that bad news out there?
Speaker 4 (01:14):
When the head of nine.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Balance it out really well, that was an exclamation mark.
Balance all the magnees out there with some good news,
good shows, good guests, and good people. So today's no exception.
We have with us. As you can see in studio,
it must be Wednesday because we have my co host
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for straight talk with doctor Versa.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
And doctor Tiffany Tate for Doctors in the House. Not
straight talk.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Oh did I just say straight talk? I'm so sorry. Uh,
Doctors in the House with myself.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
She will do some straight talk sometimes. However, is a doctor,
She's an MD. I'm the PhD, which just stands for
piled higher and deeper. But doctor Tiffanthy takes the US
maybe better and published author retired over she went Cobbs
in California. She's a playwright, singer, poet, songwriter and more.
Published author of many books now including an important children's
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book my favorite called Bad Touching, which helps parents talk
to their kids about things that they should know but
is a little bit sensitive and money matters, and her
latest hat being thrown into the political arena writing for Congress.
Please welcome back to my studio. She's live streaming from Washington,
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DC right now, Doctor Tiffany.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
Ta as usual, It is always a pleasure to be
here and tickle your ear with my voice.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
How's DC?
Speaker 4 (03:03):
Actually it is nice. We have a chance of some sprinkles.
Today I'm a little bit jet lag from the weather
traveling from the West coast to the East coast, so
but happy to be here.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Great, let's start. I broke my own role. I asked
you that question before we got to breakfast. It is
our good life habit, our hashtag discipline to start every
show with breakfast, and that consists of taking a bite
of my gratitude sandwich. Top of the button, things were
grateful for when we look outside of ourselves and bottom
(03:40):
of the button, when we look at the end of
the day. We're going to model for you what we'd
like you to go through before you go to bed
and thinking about what you appreciate inside of yourself. So qualities,
gifts and abilities that are unique well not maybe not
uniquely yours, but something that you can fall asleep by
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peacefully instead of beating yourself up for what you didn't
finish or complaining about who done me wrong. So that's
the breakfast sandwich, Doctor Tiffany, besides being in d C,
what are you grateful for outside of yourself?
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Absolutely well. This past weekend I volunteered with my local
sorority chapter Alpha CAPA Alpha's already incorporated at a new
OMEGA chapter and we helped to beautify the Riverside Park
with Riverside Parks and Recreation. We helped pick up trash
in the community at Fairmont Park and it's part of
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our community outreach and it was wonderful to interact with
hopefully my future constituents and we picked up trash and
it was wonderful. I picked up over ten pounds of trash.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
That's quite a bit of tri that for me, that's
called dating.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
No.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Anyways, I am grateful that I, like you, got to
be of service. Wonderful group I had. I love meeting
new organizations that are making a difference on temporary areas
of darkness. This one homelessness the Union Rescue Mission UH
in downtown La. UH cannot turn away women and children
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who are without a home. And I got to volunteer
or I was asked to be a speaker for Monday
at the mission and it's this program that's been going
on for many, many years. It is my my predecessor.
Speakers were Buzz Aldrin Russell Brand, my big brother Michael
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Bernard beckw with and I got to speak there on Monday,
and that was really beautiful speaking to kids who you
know don't have it easy right because of their situation,
but they're taken from the streets and brought into.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
This mission too.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
They cast them the school and then this is a
volunteer program happens on mine days. So I was very
grateful to be with the bot.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
In that.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Wonderful. I think that's fabulous that you are giving back
to the community as well. Thank you. You didn't give
yourself an applause, so I'm going to go.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
All right, all right, all right for both of us.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
All right, yeah, I said, you always have to patch
yourself on the back.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
That's true. That's true. I say, good job, mama. What
else are you grateful?
Speaker 4 (06:44):
Boar? And I am grateful because on Sunday, after I
went to church, I volunteered again to go out into
the community and knock on doors for the election rigging
response at PAR fifty to encourage people to vote yes
or I brought fifty and I was able to educate
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the public and it was great. Again. I love interacting
with people and talking to people. I spent over twenty
five years talking to people as a problem solver, as
an opgi in and it's what I do is what
I thrive on and I just love it awesome.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
I am grateful that I got interviewed by CBS, which
was kind of uncanny. I went to play Mojong in
the park in conjunction with the City of Santa Monica
and East Never Loses Mojohn Club, which I have joined
as a participant, and they happened to say she's someone
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to be interviewed, so that was kind of cool. And
got to play Mojong with giant tiles in the park,
which was very fun. Of course I did whin I'm
just a competitive It's not whether you win or lose,
it's whether I win or lose. And had a great
time with that group and I am grateful that even though,
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but after keeping me from flying in World Tour, I
have picked up a more mod job, something that I'd
love to do to balance out the loss with the game.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
Fabulous. I think that's fabulous because you're going to be
even better and you're going to be a super pro.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
So awesome. One more gratitude outside of yourself.
Speaker 4 (08:38):
And I think I have enjoyed the fact that I
had a conversation with Nathaniel and Mea and they were
brutally honest, because I make like sometimes these little videos
and that I want to post and they were like, no,
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mom no. And so as they said, you're gonna go viral,
I said, wouldn't that be good? They were like, we
make memes. In my generation, we make memes. They said,
you don't want to be a meme. I said, but
wouldn't that be good? They said, no, mom no. And
I like the fact that I could take constructive criticism.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Especialty from kids. From your kids, that's a that's a skill.
Speaker 4 (09:30):
So I'm thankful that I was able to take the
constructive criticismism from my own kids. I had the reverse parenting.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
That's great. That's great. And welcome to Jerry Fox Locater.
Glad to have you captain of the hash you gallery
this morning, the first one to log in. We've got
z gen two and she is grateful for God's keeping
care and grateful to have y'all there. And I'm grateful.
(10:04):
I had an amazing guest yesterday, ninety years young Ruta Lee.
She was in the Seven Brides for seven whatever that
was that movie, classic movie, and also did a movie
with the Brat Pack. A dressed down Marina Marlena Dietrich.
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I mean, she's been a film star and I had
her live again on my show yesterday. What a delight
she has with her friend who's on the other side,
Debbie Reynolds raids so much money, and I just wanted
to do a commercial for the Aliens. It's December sixth.
It will be at the Beverly Sorry bel Air Country Club.
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I get to cover the carpet, I get to be
a VIP guest there. And she's amazing, a ninety year
young woman who just will she makes me you look lazy, right,
she makes me look like slow. So I just want
to say she's just brilliant. And if you missed the interview,
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you can get it in my treasure chest of shows
after six hundred and ninety nine consecutive weeks and one
thy four hundred and eighty podcast shows. So I just
wanted to be grateful for her rutally. All right, let's
go to the bottom of the button. What do you
like about yourself? Doctor Tiffany. Oh, I knew you would
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get that. See sorry, it's seven brides for seven brothers.
I knew somebody was going to get that. Thank you.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
So before I go on, I need to when we
talked about mistakes, I was corrected by someone because they
said I made a mistake, and I'm happy I made
a mistake during the Mistakes show and they said, Tiffany,
you forgot Space Force because that is a new branch
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of the military. So all of our Space Force veterans,
I salute you. And then when even though they did
not correct me on this, I do not want to
forget our homegrown National guardsman because you deserve recognition too,
So I salute our National guardsmen and those veterans as well.
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Charge it to my head and not my heart. Thank
you for your service.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
There talk about talk about living out live. The topic
of the show that week was a missed tip. So awesome, awesome.
Speaker 4 (12:42):
So now I will I will headceforward, move forward. So
what is it that I like about myself? But I
apologize absolutely. I like the fact that I can recognize
my mistake. I can own up to my mistake, and
I can I can, I can walk in my truth,
and I can recognize that I am not perfect and
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we should not hold ourselves to perfection. To air is
human and I am definitely human like we do on
our computer. I am not about and I own it,
and I think that we need to be more forgiving
and we need to acknowledge the fact that we are human.
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And I am willing to walk in my humanness fantastic.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
I appreciate my ability to inspire. I've gotten a lot
of us and really kind words about my ability to
encourage people with a little tough love but say it
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in the way that they actually enjoy it. And so
I appreciate that about myself.
Speaker 4 (14:01):
And I like the fact that I am willing to
answer the call. What do you mean, Tiffany, The fact
that I am in DC again and I was just
here the week before last, and I feel that there
is a need, and when there is a need, I'm
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willing to answer the need. I'm willing to rise up
and answer the call. So I'm here for the Congressional
Black Caucus Leadership Conference. Last time, I was here for
the American Medical Association Campaign School. So I'm willing to
do what's necessary to make sure I fill the gap,
get the knowledge I need to be the best leader
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possible to be the congressional leader that the United States needs.
And that's why I'm ready for Congress.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
I am grateful that I allow myself to feel, even
when it doesn't feel good, moving through the painful. You know,
I don't. I'm start I'm starting to only cry in
before I put my makeup boxau my makeup is expensive,
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but just continuing to allow myself to feel the sadness
that whenever anyone says something about flying anywhere, it does
kind of hit me and it's a sore point that
I will not be able to fly without risk for
the rest of my life. And that is it's okay.
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I gave myself a month and it's now more than
a month. And so the other day I was like, well,
who said that I have to get over it in
a month, and that it was it's quite a bit
that I it just since April, right, not even is
that a happy year? You know, two moms pass to
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blood plots, you know, cancelation of World Tour, no more
sail bow racing and no more flying without race and moving.
So in terms of allowing myself the grace, I'm giving
myself and I appreciate that I'm not wishing myself to feel.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
Artificially okay, absolutely, And there is no timeline for grief,
no matter what that grief or loss is, so let
me add that tagline to that and last one. Another
thing I like about myself is my capacity to give,
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because I can give of myself, be it my time,
my talent, my understanding, or my support. And I think
that that is important. A lot of times people just
want to take, and I think it's important to be there,
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be willing to stand up even if people don't want it.
I remember when you were when you were diagnosed, and
I said, Hey, do you want me to drive down there?
And you were like, no, I'm good. But I think
it's important to be willing to be there for your
friends even if they don't want you there. It's important
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to offer yourself out of sincere generosity because you don't
know what people are going through and you don't know
what they need, but it's the fact that you need
to be willing to be there and to offer that support.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Yeah. Yeah, it was great getting the support from my
co hosts. I have a group chatline with all of them,
and they were one of the first peoples that I
told and it was a beautiful, you know response to that.
Thank you ze queen automatically and I'll pay you by
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I never apologize for crying, because tears are the disinfected
that keep my heart soft. So thank you for the
for the the exclamation mark, the moose on the table,
so to speak, that was a moose drop and not
the droppings on that end, but the acknowledgement that it
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is so okay to cry. I tried to. I used
to try to cry once a week. Now I overshot that,
but it's it really is a good way to expand
your ability to feel good, because when you allow yourself
to feel not so good, then you like that dumb
waiter doors that close. If you don't let yourself feel bad,
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then you also don't let yourself feel good. So that's
why I allow myself to feel as bad as I
want to. When I'm feeling I just don't need to
stay there for that long because I'm naturally high and
I like that feeling of being naturally high. So yes,
peapots our temporary states of being. All Right, that's it
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for for breakfast at Doctors in the House with myself,
Doctor Tiffany Tate, thanks for joining us for breakfast. I
hope that you join me every weekday morning where I
do start every show with breakfast and sandwich. Your day
in the most positive way. Thanks for joining us for breakfast.
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And now for the topic of the day. Mhm, what
is it, doctor Tiffty.
Speaker 4 (20:03):
Donnett Dunnett, Dannet Donnett. The topic for today emotional predators. Yeah,
mm hmmm.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
I actually met the one of the main actors and
the predator and he was on the show. And Bill Duke,
producer director and start opposite man Z Queen helped me. Again.
(20:38):
I really give memory. My recall sucks it comes to
names of especially in Hollywood. But anyways, oh fortunate that's
the guy. Uh why are we talking about emotional bread
that tours Doctor Tiffany, Well, I think.
Speaker 4 (21:02):
In this day and age, there's just so much going on.
So many people are emotionally charged, and they get revved
up and they go from zero, not to one hundred,
because they pass one hundred, they go from zero to
a thousand, And I think that they get manipulated in
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so many ways, and because of that, I think that
they get taken advantage of. And so I wanted to
talk about emotional predators because an emotional predator is a
person who manipulates and exploits other people by praying on
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their emotions. To gain power control and takes personal advantage
of the situation. Because of their emotions, they often appear
very charming, but they lack empathy and use different tactics.
And I want to focus on like five different statements
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later on in the show. But I want to see
if you can think about situations in your life for
things like that, to see if you've come in contact
with different emotional predators in your life. I know I have.
Speaker 3 (22:26):
Well, can you give me an example of someone who
was an emotional predator to you? So that'll give me
sort of a hint on which.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
Okay, yeahs As I go through some of these statements,
you'll be like, oh, yeah, I've heard these. So if
someone has ever said to you you are too and
this is like friendships, relationships, family, whatever, I'm sure you've
probably experienced this. So someone has said you're too sensitive
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or you're being dramatic, Oh you are overreacting. Has anyone
ever made those statements to you?
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Never? Well, the first thing that comes to mind is
when I was a kid, Oh, my lord, if I
had a dollar for every time some it was usually
my dad, mom, or brother who would.
Speaker 5 (23:26):
Say, Sunday, why you said rented it, and that went
on for a long time until I think in the
last ten years.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
Now I take it this compliment because I know that
sensitivity is correlated with creativity. So I say, thank you
very much, But I get what you're talking about. Someone
is criticizing me, uh and putting me down based on
my uh trait right, my personality sort of who I
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am in the world, like there's something wrong with me.
So like it's like the precursor to gas lighting almost.
Speaker 4 (24:12):
It's definitely gaslighting because they're dismissing you for who you
are and basically it's like a psychological manipulation and it's
making you question your own reality.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
Yeah, So it's like it's revealing their own inability to
accept you, and they're testing you to a certain extent
because they don't really know how to embrace your own strength.
And it plans to see to put doubt right.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
Especially you know, when you're growing up as a kid,
you your own self. I mean, it's just very very
much shaped by what you are by people who are
supposed to know better. So yeah, for sure, Zee Queen
says narcissist. Mmm, that would be someone who is an
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emotional credit predator. Because everything. I think my best definition
of narcissists is someone well who has blind faith in
themselves Number one. That's the funny one. I have one
client like that, and literally you would walk around you know,
have you know those letters when we used to sign
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it love write and your name, this would be love
and enjoy the millions who already do. That's a narcissist
and that every single person on the planet is there
to serve that, to make them happy, so there's no
one else has needs that are more important than mine.
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That's my realistic definition of narcissist.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
And it shows their inability to handle someone who knows
their own self worth.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Yeah, because they're threatened by it. And Zea is saying
that narcissist is the emotional predator. So that's another name
for emotional predator. I think is what you say, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (26:22):
It's a form of energetic violence if you think about it,
because think about how you feel after you leave that conversation.
Think about the energy that you have. And so I
want people to start reframing how they interact with people,
the energy that you feel when you interact with people.
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Remember we were talking about the energy of a conversation
and those.
Speaker 3 (26:53):
People who suck the life out of you, well energy vampires,
right that, yeah.
Speaker 4 (26:59):
Yeah, call them energy vampires. And they just literally suck
the life out of you. And so they're just like
and I believe some certain conversations will do that and
you get off, you know, you walk away from the conversation,
whether it's in person, whether it's on the phone, and
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you just feel drained. And then another conversation or statement,
you know, this is sometimes the worst or I'm just
being honest or I'm just telling the truth, especially if
it's followed by something really cruel. Because we talk about
saying something kind, but if it's followed by something that's
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being cruel, this is a way to just manipulate you.
And they're using honesty as a weapon. And truly, they
really lack empathy and they really enjoy causing pain because
a person who really loves you, they want to build
you up and not you down, because kindness does not
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have to be I mean, kind of should be healthy
and it shouldn't be be painful. And they are actually
using it honesty wearing a mask of virtue.
Speaker 3 (28:18):
Yes, oh, huge point, huge point. I will go on
record as saying there is never ever, ever, ever a
time for brutal honesty. You can be honest and non brutal,
but there is never a situation, not one where brutal
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honesty is warranted. That is a moose drop. And everybody
does not have a right to your opinion. When I
do executive coaching, this is the number one leadership development.
This is graduate school where leaders tell me, but I
have to be honest. You don't always have to be honest,
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and not everybody needs to know what your opinion is.
Certainly as a leader, there is a time and a place. However,
there are lots of us, especially in America, who think
that it is our god given right plus the Amendment,
to say whatever the fork it is that we're thinking
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cruel leading. That dropped the mic quickly. I just realized
that my boom arm. I sold my boom arm when
I was supposed to go on tour, and now the
new one has not arrived. So therefore literal mic drops.
But being kindly right, I have to tell you that.
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And my unfortunately my tiger mom on steroids, she was
really really good at this where she would say something
so cruel like you're why did you turn out so ugly.
Right when I was pregnant with your your brother, I
looked at ugly masks and ugly things, and he turned
(30:15):
out so beautiful. And with you, I looked at the
beautiful tulips, and you turned out so ugly. And if
I reacted to that, she would say, I have to
be honest, I'm your mother. So I learned that, Thank god,
I'm not. I never did that to my kids, and
I can say that one hundred percent. Our only job
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was to do better than our parents. And what you said.
She did love me, though, even though it doesn't sound
like she loves you. Before she died, I came to
the conclusion that she loved me in the best way
she knew how wasn't great, but she did love me.
So so that statement that you only love someone if
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you're kind to them, some people can be loving and
erage in their ways of showing their love.
Speaker 4 (31:12):
Absolutely, yeah, I believe there's definitely love there, but they
may not know how to adequately show it. I don't
know if I said that they didn't love you. I
don't think I made that statement, But if I did,
that was a mistake. Remember mistakes, But I definitely think
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that they may not know how to love and that
that's an issue there, and we'll get into that later
in the next half of the show.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
And it is time to take a break for new's
weather in traffic and we will be right back and
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go away. Great discussion, great topic, Doctor Tiffany as usual
and uh that active cashion gallery. We'll get back to
those comments right after we take a break. You know,
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we'll be back into and two. Uh out, don't go away, We'll.
Speaker 4 (32:15):
Be right back.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
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Doctor Tiffany Tate. It's time for doctors in the house
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Speaker 4 (34:57):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 3 (35:01):
And what are we talking about today?
Speaker 4 (35:04):
We are talking about emotional predators.
Speaker 3 (35:08):
And I just gave a horrific example of what I
grew up with. And you know, I am grateful for
everything that's happened in my life, even the hard ones,
because I believe that when you have pain like that
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in childhood, you grow a superpower. If you can move
past the painting, you will land in power. And because
of that very strong emotional predator that I grew up with,
I developed specialized abilities to have passion, to be resilient
(35:55):
and other things. But at the same time, yeah, it's us.
Speaker 4 (36:05):
Now, you know. Another statement is when you try to
express your needs. If you say, please don't be late,
or I want you to call more, like if you're
in a relationship with someone, or I would like for
us to spend more time together, or you just want
to express your boundaries. And when you express what you
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need to feel safe or respected or valued in the relationship,
but they feel that their freedom is more important than
your feelings. That's kind of a concern because if you're
like saying, I need you to call if you're going
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to be X Y and Z, or I don't like
it when you do blank blank blank or blanket even
or I need to just to spend more time together,
and they're like, Okay, I don't want to do that.
You can either stay or you can either go because
you're being clear about your standards, and yet they're being
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completely dismissive, but they're just not interested in loving you. Well,
they want to love you, but they don't want to
love you the way you want to be loved.
Speaker 3 (37:28):
Yeah. I was just interviewed on another podcast and she
was very she loved the things that I was saying,
and so she used the last half of the podcast
show to ask me questions about how to handle certain
situations in life. And so she was saying, you know,
(37:52):
what do I do with people who are just consistently
mean to me or in my energy or all of that?
And my response was, and why do you keep them
around you? Why do you choose to keep them around you?
(38:15):
And boy, that was not what she was expecting to
hear and went Oh.
Speaker 7 (38:18):
She's like, oh wow, that is exactly the lesson in
this is if you continue to be surrounded by people
who are emotional predators, at.
Speaker 3 (38:30):
Some point, I'm going to ask you what you're getting
out of that. Because you attract where you are, so
when you are needy, you will attract people who will
take advantage of your need. But if you are self
sufficient eighty percent of the time, you know who you are.
You're grounded in that no one's going to shake you.
(38:52):
You bake your own cake. Compliments and criticism are just icing.
Then you're not going to have a lot of emotional predators,
or if they come in, they're gonna get pumped out
pretty quick because you don't have anything holding them there.
That's a little something to think about, food for thought.
(39:15):
Absolutely the comments Queen was making here, and this is true.
I mean, we are shifting every generation, even between generations.
We're evolving, and I think it's so good like you
just did to recognize that was It may not be
(39:38):
right or wrong, it's useful or not, but it is
something that was and they learned it from their parents
and the generation before, so we can acknowledge that it
wasn't great, But going forward and blaming them for everything
is also not great. That's why I say our only
(40:00):
job is to do a little better than our parents did.
Speaker 4 (40:06):
Absolutely, absolutely, and I think as we continue to grow
and we continue to shift, we can evolve. And that's
all we can be expected to do is just to
try to evolve. I think Maya Angelo put it best.
She said, you do the best you can, and when
you know better, you do better?
Speaker 3 (40:27):
Absolutely? Do you have any other definitions? Did we go
through all the definitions?
Speaker 4 (40:34):
Another one?
Speaker 3 (40:35):
Funny story, But I don't want to. I want to
make sure you get all the category.
Speaker 4 (40:39):
Okay, so you've changed, but not in a good way.
Have you ever had you've changed the way? And this
implyes some form of disappointment. It kind of makes you
want to abandon your own growth because they fell in
love with you that served their needs and not your needs.
(41:05):
And I thought that that was interesting because I've heard
that before.
Speaker 3 (41:13):
Yes, names will be kept out to protect the guilty right.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
And we should be. We should embrace our growth. Growth
is a good thing. We should be evolving over time.
Evolution is a good thing. Just like she said about
our parents. We want to evolve. We want I want
my children to be better than me, I mean, and
I want their children to be better than them. It
should be a growth thing. Uh, that's that's just an expectation.
Speaker 3 (41:43):
Yeah, absolutely, And it just jogged in my memory. It's
very common for kids who've had childhood trauma or emotional
predators that raise them to then choose mates who resemble that.
And I'm classic that I did that. So I just
gave you what my mom said to me, ugly, fat
(42:05):
and clumsy. So that was my song that I grew
up with against me, the predator song against me. So
then what do I do? I turn around, I pick
a man who introduces me as obese behind my back.
I attracted him. I didn't work through those insecurities that
(42:29):
I had been feeling. Therefore, what do I do? I
attract someone who is attracted to that needy I need approval,
and I go to tractor for milk. I went to
attractor for milk. Tractors don't give milk. Just in case
you don't get that analogy. But I was used to that.
(42:51):
I was constantly trying to get love from my mom,
and that just transferred to the next, you know, key relationship.
So if this, if this at all sounds familiar to you,
and you're complaining about your mate, I would ask you
(43:11):
to examine, and you're accusing them of being an emotional predator,
then I would say, have you done the work so
that you don't attract emotional predators?
Speaker 4 (43:23):
Yeah? And it makes it seem like love is conditional,
like you don't deserve it and you shouldn't have to
work for love. You deserve to be loved, and you
deserve to be loved as you are. You shouldn't have
to change yourself for love. I mean, love is a
(43:45):
two way street. It does require work. You shouldn't just
have to say, yeah, I'm gonna sit around and just
expect to be loved. No, you do have to do
some work in a relationship. Everybody puts in some work,
but you don't need to change to be loved, and
they should love you. Go and do your your your
relationship thing. I mean, you know you're everybody puts in
(44:09):
some work. You should meet in the middle. Mm hmm,
right and set up.
Speaker 3 (44:17):
Mm hmmm.
Speaker 4 (44:18):
And it's interesting because every moment you've been trying to
convince someone to treat you well is a moment you
are not available for someone who would never love you
as you are. And you don't need to waste your
(44:38):
time accepting crumbs.
Speaker 3 (44:45):
Definite mood drop. I did it twice. You didn't see
the first time, and you didn't see the second time,
but I gave you two moos drops on that one.
I think that that's a huge love attraction principle. I'd
like to highlight what doctor Tippety just said that our
habit is to complain about the person you're with. And
(45:07):
when you complain about something, you're saying, I want better.
Instead of going with your desire for better and then
looking for better, you tend to focus on what's wrong
over and over and over again, so your eyes don't
even see what is a result of your express desire.
(45:32):
So it's up to us to quit looking at what
we do like, sorry, don't like, and move to look
for where is it that I do like?
Speaker 4 (45:42):
It?
Speaker 3 (45:43):
Excellent too?
Speaker 4 (45:45):
And then there's one last one for the people who
are being strung along in a relationship. Some people might
say I'm not ready for a relationship, but or a
commitment is something that you deserve. But this is a
form of emotional manipulation. If they are introducing you as
(46:08):
their partner and they're doing all the things like they
want to be in a relationship, but they are just
stringing you along and you have hopes of being in
a relationship. But then they circle back after months or
years later, and then they say, but I told you
I didn't want to be in a relationship, And then
(46:30):
you don't really want to leave because you're like, well,
maybe it might turn into something, and so you see
that you're quasi in a relationship or you're not really
in a relationship, and they're introducing you to their family
and they're introducing you to their friends, but they're like,
I'm not really in a relationship with you. So you're
(46:52):
in this relationship limbo, but they're not ready for a relationship.
So what is it that you want? And so the
reality is a person who really wants to be in
a relationship with you. They move with intention, They are
committed to you, and you deserve that. You do not
(47:12):
deserve to be in limbo.
Speaker 3 (47:16):
Who sings that song that put a ring on it?
Speaker 4 (47:19):
Beyonce?
Speaker 3 (47:23):
Yeah, yeah, Yeah, that's what came to mind. It's it's
a very relationships are a tricky thing. Uh, you know,
as a hashtag ageless.
Speaker 4 (47:33):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (47:34):
But I'm you know, dipping different parts of my body
in the dating pool and still swiper, no swiping. Uh.
The story I was gonna tell you was you remember
the date I had at brunch where the were the
lady next to our table came over and said, to
(47:54):
my date, you're talking too much. And yeah, so I
had another one, and I wish I had gotten the
number of that the woman because I don't know what
I'm doing to attract. Well, I know exactly what I'm doing.
I am attracted to successful, strong alpha males who are
(48:21):
very good at talking about themselves, which is good. And
I'm practicing not talking about myself, which is good your
behavior and you know, letting them take the lead, letting
them have that limelight that I usually have because of
my work and doctor two. To his credit, he actually
(48:45):
asked me questions about myself, which was different than the
other day. And then when I would answer him, he
literally did this that was a yawn for those not
watching and listening and not I have I'm clutching it.
Not one time, but three different times. I waited till
(49:07):
the third time and I said, am I boring you?
You're yawning? This is the third time, and he goes, oh,
I'm just getting oxygen. So I let it go. I
let it go, and then I'm all for I love
it when men take charge. You know we're going to
meet at this time at this restaurant that I love them, right,
(49:29):
I don't you know, what do you want to do?
I like that level of but then he overdid it.
It was like, uh, I love reading menus and six
o'clock so dinner and a beautiful place, and he goes,
I've been here so many times. I know the menu,
and this is what we're gonna get. Okay, if we
(49:51):
want anymore, we'll order more. So it was calamari appetizer
and a salad, served me one thing of salad, and
then proceeded to pretty much eat everything. And then when
the waiter came to say would you like anything else,
he goes, no, that's didn't ask if there's anything. Answer yeah, So,
(50:16):
needless to say, another one bites the desks. That was
date number thirty five. So I've been on thirty five
first dates, two second dates, one third date, one fourth date,
and that's it. I think I'm gonna get a dog,
doctor Tiffany. You know I said I don't want to
get a dog because then I'll never date again. I
(50:38):
think we're there.
Speaker 4 (50:40):
Well, I'm gonna say, don't give up, hope. I'm gonna say,
try something different instead of the alpha male. Maybe, you know,
take off the alpha and just go with the male.
Speaker 3 (50:54):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (50:55):
Maybe maybe anyways, and because maybe they're too strong headed.
Speaker 3 (51:06):
Maybe I don't know, I don't know. Well, I'll say
I my dog's great. I think I'll stick the mondom.
But yeah, that is a form of if I had
stayed with someone like that, total emotional predator. And this
is the part you were saying, you kind of lose
(51:26):
yourself because you are wanting to please the other person.
You know, you're always looking to them for a reaction
on how you're doing. Please folks. I'm so grateful at
the Monday at the Mission, I got to look in
the eyes of these beautiful young girls and say to them,
(51:50):
you can do anything with your heart in mind too,
which is what my tenth grade math teacher said to me.
He knew I was not having good experiences home and
he kept me after class and he looked at me
and said that it will stay with me for the
rest of my life. And I ask that forward every
time I get a chance to speak to young people,
(52:12):
I looked at the the eye and tell them that.
Speaker 4 (52:15):
So, yeah, absolutely absolutely, And I think that as long
as you stay true to who you are and remain authentic,
you'll be fine. And as long as you're continuing in
your community service, he might just be drawn to you.
You may not have to find him. So that's something
(52:38):
that you can consider because it might just happen, So
don't work so hard.
Speaker 3 (52:48):
Yeah, I think I'm gonna stop watching Dora the Explore
with this wifeer or listen to door all right, we're
coming up near the end of the show. Was there
any other research that you were covering on emotional predator
that you have not covered?
Speaker 4 (53:08):
No, I think that that's the main thing. I think
the most important thing is that when you are out there,
pay attention to the conversations that you're having with people.
How do you feel after your conversations and how does
your body feel? Because your body keeps the score and
(53:28):
your energy does not lie. And when you are walking
away from people who don't value you, that is not cruel.
That is called self love. And we have to remember
that because a lot of times we stay and deal
with situations that we don't need to be in. Whether
(53:48):
it is friendships, whether it is jobs, and whether it
is a romantic relationship. We have to place ourselves first
in those situations and don't let these energy vampires that
get all out of you. You need to trust your
intuition because love is about creating safety and not testing
(54:13):
your limits.
Speaker 3 (54:16):
Absolutely, uh and and and you know I've said, I've
been known to say that we can get to world
peace really quickly. Just to balance out the accusation that
someone is an emotional predator in your life and he's
just really someone who's not that into you. Wouldn't it
(54:39):
be great if every person, when they were in a
relationship and it isn't working out, to not go so
quickly to the quiz are you dating an emotional predator?
Are you dating an emotional vampire? Are you dating a narcissist?
Signs of dating mark? Instead of that, just go are
we imagined? So that's another you know, that's my graduate
(55:04):
school what I was saying before about this, And I'm
so grateful my daughter's uses all the time. If you
find yourself giving more than half and reaching over to
do everything for them emotionally, physically, and they're only doing this,
(55:24):
that's on you, boo. So our job is to do
this and see if they come here, and if they
don't come here, you're.
Speaker 4 (55:31):
Not a match.
Speaker 3 (55:32):
It's this, You're just not a match. And it's okay,
does it make them a bad person? You're just not
a match. That's my final word, Doctor tivity. What's your
final word.
Speaker 4 (55:45):
And my final word is don't let someone who doesn't
know your value tell you how much you're worth.
Speaker 3 (55:57):
Another moves drop. I like that. Like that, Now you're
gonna go back into your sessions. I'm grateful that we
were able to do this live even though you're in DC.
Thank you so much, z Queen and Jerry. I love
it when we have an active Cashew gallery. I hope
(56:20):
you've enjoyed this. Another scynthilating episode of Doctors in the
House with myself.
Speaker 4 (56:26):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 3 (56:30):
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Speaker 4 (57:22):
Us out now, go and have the best day ever.
Speaker 3 (57:30):
I'll see you tomorrow.
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Balance it out really well, that was an exclamation mark.
Balance all the magnees out there with some good news,
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We have with us. As you can see in studio,
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(01:42):
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Speaker 4 (01:45):
And doctor Tiffany Tate for Doctors in the House. Not
straight talk.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Oh did I just say straight talk? I'm so sorry. Uh,
Doctors in the House with myself.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
She will do some straight talk sometimes. However, is a doctor,
She's an MD. I'm the PhD, which just stands for
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Published author of many books now including an important children's
(02:23):
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is a little bit sensitive and money matters, and her
latest hat being thrown into the political arena writing for Congress.
Please welcome back to my studio. She's live streaming from Washington,
(02:44):
DC right now, Doctor Tiffany.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
Ta as usual, It is always a pleasure to be
here and tickle your ear with my voice.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
How's DC?
Speaker 4 (03:03):
Actually it is nice. We have a chance of some sprinkles.
Today I'm a little bit jet lag from the weather
traveling from the West coast to the East coast, so
but happy to be here.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Great, let's start. I broke my own role. I asked
you that question before we got to breakfast. It is
our good life habit, our hashtag discipline to start every
show with breakfast, and that consists of taking a bite
of my gratitude sandwich. Top of the button, things were
grateful for when we look outside of ourselves and bottom
(03:40):
of the button, when we look at the end of
the day. We're going to model for you what we'd
like you to go through before you go to bed
and thinking about what you appreciate inside of yourself. So qualities,
gifts and abilities that are unique well not maybe not
uniquely yours, but something that you can fall asleep by
(04:01):
peacefully instead of beating yourself up for what you didn't
finish or complaining about who done me wrong. So that's
the breakfast sandwich, Doctor Tiffany, besides being in d C,
what are you grateful for outside of yourself?
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Absolutely well. This past weekend I volunteered with my local
sorority chapter Alpha CAPA Alpha's already incorporated at a new
OMEGA chapter and we helped to beautify the Riverside Park
with Riverside Parks and Recreation. We helped pick up trash
in the community at Fairmont Park and it's part of
(04:41):
our community outreach and it was wonderful to interact with
hopefully my future constituents and we picked up trash and
it was wonderful. I picked up over ten pounds of trash.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
That's quite a bit of tri that for me, that's
called dating.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
No.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Anyways, I am grateful that I, like you, got to
be of service. Wonderful group I had. I love meeting
new organizations that are making a difference on temporary areas
of darkness. This one homelessness the Union Rescue Mission UH
in downtown La. UH cannot turn away women and children
(05:28):
who are without a home. And I got to volunteer
or I was asked to be a speaker for Monday
at the mission and it's this program that's been going
on for many, many years. It is my my predecessor.
Speakers were Buzz Aldrin Russell Brand, my big brother Michael
(05:53):
Bernard beckw with and I got to speak there on Monday,
and that was really beautiful speaking to kids who you
know don't have it easy right because of their situation,
but they're taken from the streets and brought into.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
This mission too.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
They cast them the school and then this is a
volunteer program happens on mine days. So I was very
grateful to be with the bot.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
In that.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Wonderful. I think that's fabulous that you are giving back
to the community as well. Thank you. You didn't give
yourself an applause, so I'm going to go.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
All right, all right, all right for both of us.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
All right, yeah, I said, you always have to patch
yourself on the back.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
That's true. That's true. I say, good job, mama. What
else are you grateful?
Speaker 4 (06:44):
Boar? And I am grateful because on Sunday, after I
went to church, I volunteered again to go out into
the community and knock on doors for the election rigging
response at PAR fifty to encourage people to vote yes
or I brought fifty and I was able to educate
(07:06):
the public and it was great. Again. I love interacting
with people and talking to people. I spent over twenty
five years talking to people as a problem solver, as
an opgi in and it's what I do is what
I thrive on and I just love it awesome.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
I am grateful that I got interviewed by CBS, which
was kind of uncanny. I went to play Mojong in
the park in conjunction with the City of Santa Monica
and East Never Loses Mojohn Club, which I have joined
as a participant, and they happened to say she's someone
(07:48):
to be interviewed, so that was kind of cool. And
got to play Mojong with giant tiles in the park,
which was very fun. Of course I did whin I'm
just a competitive It's not whether you win or lose,
it's whether I win or lose. And had a great
time with that group and I am grateful that even though,
(08:10):
but after keeping me from flying in World Tour, I
have picked up a more mod job, something that I'd
love to do to balance out the loss with the game.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
Fabulous. I think that's fabulous because you're going to be
even better and you're going to be a super pro.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
So awesome. One more gratitude outside of yourself.
Speaker 4 (08:38):
And I think I have enjoyed the fact that I
had a conversation with Nathaniel and Mea and they were
brutally honest, because I make like sometimes these little videos
and that I want to post and they were like, no,
(09:00):
mom no. And so as they said, you're gonna go viral,
I said, wouldn't that be good? They were like, we
make memes. In my generation, we make memes. They said,
you don't want to be a meme. I said, but
wouldn't that be good? They said, no, mom no. And
I like the fact that I could take constructive criticism.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Especialty from kids. From your kids, that's a that's a skill.
Speaker 4 (09:30):
So I'm thankful that I was able to take the
constructive criticismism from my own kids. I had the reverse parenting.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
That's great. That's great. And welcome to Jerry Fox Locater.
Glad to have you captain of the hash you gallery
this morning, the first one to log in. We've got
z gen two and she is grateful for God's keeping
care and grateful to have y'all there. And I'm grateful.
(10:04):
I had an amazing guest yesterday, ninety years young Ruta Lee.
She was in the Seven Brides for seven whatever that
was that movie, classic movie, and also did a movie
with the Brat Pack. A dressed down Marina Marlena Dietrich.
(10:25):
I mean, she's been a film star and I had
her live again on my show yesterday. What a delight
she has with her friend who's on the other side,
Debbie Reynolds raids so much money, and I just wanted
to do a commercial for the Aliens. It's December sixth.
It will be at the Beverly Sorry bel Air Country Club.
(10:47):
I get to cover the carpet, I get to be
a VIP guest there. And she's amazing, a ninety year
young woman who just will she makes me you look lazy, right,
she makes me look like slow. So I just want
to say she's just brilliant. And if you missed the interview,
(11:09):
you can get it in my treasure chest of shows
after six hundred and ninety nine consecutive weeks and one
thy four hundred and eighty podcast shows. So I just
wanted to be grateful for her rutally. All right, let's
go to the bottom of the button. What do you
like about yourself? Doctor Tiffany. Oh, I knew you would
(11:32):
get that. See sorry, it's seven brides for seven brothers.
I knew somebody was going to get that. Thank you.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
So before I go on, I need to when we
talked about mistakes, I was corrected by someone because they
said I made a mistake, and I'm happy I made
a mistake during the Mistakes show and they said, Tiffany,
you forgot Space Force because that is a new branch
(12:00):
of the military. So all of our Space Force veterans,
I salute you. And then when even though they did
not correct me on this, I do not want to
forget our homegrown National guardsman because you deserve recognition too,
So I salute our National guardsmen and those veterans as well.
(12:23):
Charge it to my head and not my heart. Thank
you for your service.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
There talk about talk about living out live. The topic
of the show that week was a missed tip. So awesome, awesome.
Speaker 4 (12:42):
So now I will I will headceforward, move forward. So
what is it that I like about myself? But I
apologize absolutely. I like the fact that I can recognize
my mistake. I can own up to my mistake, and
I can I can, I can walk in my truth,
and I can recognize that I am not perfect and
(13:05):
we should not hold ourselves to perfection. To air is
human and I am definitely human like we do on
our computer. I am not about and I own it,
and I think that we need to be more forgiving
and we need to acknowledge the fact that we are human.
(13:27):
And I am willing to walk in my humanness fantastic.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
I appreciate my ability to inspire. I've gotten a lot
of us and really kind words about my ability to
encourage people with a little tough love but say it
(13:53):
in the way that they actually enjoy it. And so
I appreciate that about myself.
Speaker 4 (14:01):
And I like the fact that I am willing to
answer the call. What do you mean, Tiffany, The fact
that I am in DC again and I was just
here the week before last, and I feel that there
is a need, and when there is a need, I'm
(14:22):
willing to answer the need. I'm willing to rise up
and answer the call. So I'm here for the Congressional
Black Caucus Leadership Conference. Last time, I was here for
the American Medical Association Campaign School. So I'm willing to
do what's necessary to make sure I fill the gap,
get the knowledge I need to be the best leader
(14:43):
possible to be the congressional leader that the United States needs.
And that's why I'm ready for Congress.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
I am grateful that I allow myself to feel, even
when it doesn't feel good, moving through the painful. You know,
I don't. I'm start I'm starting to only cry in
before I put my makeup boxau my makeup is expensive,
(15:17):
but just continuing to allow myself to feel the sadness
that whenever anyone says something about flying anywhere, it does
kind of hit me and it's a sore point that
I will not be able to fly without risk for
the rest of my life. And that is it's okay.
(15:40):
I gave myself a month and it's now more than
a month. And so the other day I was like, well,
who said that I have to get over it in
a month, and that it was it's quite a bit
that I it just since April, right, not even is
that a happy year? You know, two moms pass to
(16:00):
blood plots, you know, cancelation of World Tour, no more
sail bow racing and no more flying without race and moving.
So in terms of allowing myself the grace, I'm giving
myself and I appreciate that I'm not wishing myself to feel.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
Artificially okay, absolutely, And there is no timeline for grief,
no matter what that grief or loss is, so let
me add that tagline to that and last one. Another
thing I like about myself is my capacity to give,
(16:51):
because I can give of myself, be it my time,
my talent, my understanding, or my support. And I think
that that is important. A lot of times people just
want to take, and I think it's important to be there,
(17:14):
be willing to stand up even if people don't want it.
I remember when you were when you were diagnosed, and
I said, Hey, do you want me to drive down there?
And you were like, no, I'm good. But I think
it's important to be willing to be there for your
friends even if they don't want you there. It's important
(17:37):
to offer yourself out of sincere generosity because you don't
know what people are going through and you don't know
what they need, but it's the fact that you need
to be willing to be there and to offer that support.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Yeah. Yeah, it was great getting the support from my
co hosts. I have a group chatline with all of them,
and they were one of the first peoples that I
told and it was a beautiful, you know response to that.
Thank you ze queen automatically and I'll pay you by
(18:14):
I never apologize for crying, because tears are the disinfected
that keep my heart soft. So thank you for the
for the the exclamation mark, the moose on the table,
so to speak, that was a moose drop and not
the droppings on that end, but the acknowledgement that it
(18:35):
is so okay to cry. I tried to. I used
to try to cry once a week. Now I overshot that,
but it's it really is a good way to expand
your ability to feel good, because when you allow yourself
to feel not so good, then you like that dumb
waiter doors that close. If you don't let yourself feel bad,
(18:57):
then you also don't let yourself feel good. So that's
why I allow myself to feel as bad as I
want to. When I'm feeling I just don't need to
stay there for that long because I'm naturally high and
I like that feeling of being naturally high. So yes,
peapots our temporary states of being. All Right, that's it
(19:22):
for for breakfast at Doctors in the House with myself,
Doctor Tiffany Tate, thanks for joining us for breakfast. I
hope that you join me every weekday morning where I
do start every show with breakfast and sandwich. Your day
in the most positive way. Thanks for joining us for breakfast.
(19:50):
And now for the topic of the day. Mhm, what
is it, doctor Tiffty.
Speaker 4 (20:03):
Donnett Dunnett, Dannet Donnett. The topic for today emotional predators. Yeah,
mm hmmm.
Speaker 3 (20:18):
I actually met the one of the main actors and
the predator and he was on the show. And Bill Duke,
producer director and start opposite man Z Queen helped me. Again.
(20:38):
I really give memory. My recall sucks it comes to
names of especially in Hollywood. But anyways, oh fortunate that's
the guy. Uh why are we talking about emotional bread
that tours Doctor Tiffany, Well, I think.
Speaker 4 (21:02):
In this day and age, there's just so much going on.
So many people are emotionally charged, and they get revved
up and they go from zero, not to one hundred,
because they pass one hundred, they go from zero to
a thousand, And I think that they get manipulated in
(21:27):
so many ways, and because of that, I think that
they get taken advantage of. And so I wanted to
talk about emotional predators because an emotional predator is a
person who manipulates and exploits other people by praying on
(21:49):
their emotions. To gain power control and takes personal advantage
of the situation. Because of their emotions, they often appear
very charming, but they lack empathy and use different tactics.
And I want to focus on like five different statements
(22:12):
later on in the show. But I want to see
if you can think about situations in your life for
things like that, to see if you've come in contact
with different emotional predators in your life. I know I have.
Speaker 3 (22:26):
Well, can you give me an example of someone who
was an emotional predator to you? So that'll give me
sort of a hint on which.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
Okay, yeahs As I go through some of these statements,
you'll be like, oh, yeah, I've heard these. So if
someone has ever said to you you are too and
this is like friendships, relationships, family, whatever, I'm sure you've
probably experienced this. So someone has said you're too sensitive
(23:01):
or you're being dramatic, Oh you are overreacting. Has anyone
ever made those statements to you?
Speaker 3 (23:08):
Never? Well, the first thing that comes to mind is
when I was a kid, Oh, my lord, if I
had a dollar for every time some it was usually
my dad, mom, or brother who would.
Speaker 5 (23:26):
Say, Sunday, why you said rented it, and that went
on for a long time until I think in the
last ten years.
Speaker 3 (23:38):
Now I take it this compliment because I know that
sensitivity is correlated with creativity. So I say, thank you
very much, But I get what you're talking about. Someone
is criticizing me, uh and putting me down based on
my uh trait right, my personality sort of who I
(24:04):
am in the world, like there's something wrong with me.
So like it's like the precursor to gas lighting almost.
Speaker 4 (24:12):
It's definitely gaslighting because they're dismissing you for who you
are and basically it's like a psychological manipulation and it's
making you question your own reality.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
Yeah, So it's like it's revealing their own inability to
accept you, and they're testing you to a certain extent
because they don't really know how to embrace your own strength.
And it plans to see to put doubt right.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
Especially you know, when you're growing up as a kid,
you your own self. I mean, it's just very very
much shaped by what you are by people who are
supposed to know better. So yeah, for sure, Zee Queen
says narcissist. Mmm, that would be someone who is an
(25:12):
emotional credit predator. Because everything. I think my best definition
of narcissists is someone well who has blind faith in
themselves Number one. That's the funny one. I have one
client like that, and literally you would walk around you know,
have you know those letters when we used to sign
(25:35):
it love write and your name, this would be love
and enjoy the millions who already do. That's a narcissist
and that every single person on the planet is there
to serve that, to make them happy, so there's no
one else has needs that are more important than mine.
(25:56):
That's my realistic definition of narcissist.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
And it shows their inability to handle someone who knows
their own self worth.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Yeah, because they're threatened by it. And Zea is saying
that narcissist is the emotional predator. So that's another name
for emotional predator. I think is what you say, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (26:22):
It's a form of energetic violence if you think about it,
because think about how you feel after you leave that conversation.
Think about the energy that you have. And so I
want people to start reframing how they interact with people,
the energy that you feel when you interact with people.
(26:45):
Remember we were talking about the energy of a conversation
and those.
Speaker 3 (26:53):
People who suck the life out of you, well energy vampires,
right that, yeah.
Speaker 4 (26:59):
Yeah, call them energy vampires. And they just literally suck
the life out of you. And so they're just like
and I believe some certain conversations will do that and
you get off, you know, you walk away from the conversation,
whether it's in person, whether it's on the phone, and
(27:20):
you just feel drained. And then another conversation or statement,
you know, this is sometimes the worst or I'm just
being honest or I'm just telling the truth, especially if
it's followed by something really cruel. Because we talk about
saying something kind, but if it's followed by something that's
(27:42):
being cruel, this is a way to just manipulate you.
And they're using honesty as a weapon. And truly, they
really lack empathy and they really enjoy causing pain because
a person who really loves you, they want to build
you up and not you down, because kindness does not
(28:03):
have to be I mean, kind of should be healthy
and it shouldn't be be painful. And they are actually
using it honesty wearing a mask of virtue.
Speaker 3 (28:18):
Yes, oh, huge point, huge point. I will go on
record as saying there is never ever, ever, ever a
time for brutal honesty. You can be honest and non brutal,
but there is never a situation, not one where brutal
(28:40):
honesty is warranted. That is a moose drop. And everybody
does not have a right to your opinion. When I
do executive coaching, this is the number one leadership development.
This is graduate school where leaders tell me, but I
have to be honest. You don't always have to be honest,
(29:05):
and not everybody needs to know what your opinion is.
Certainly as a leader, there is a time and a place. However,
there are lots of us, especially in America, who think
that it is our god given right plus the Amendment,
to say whatever the fork it is that we're thinking
(29:26):
cruel leading. That dropped the mic quickly. I just realized
that my boom arm. I sold my boom arm when
I was supposed to go on tour, and now the
new one has not arrived. So therefore literal mic drops.
But being kindly right, I have to tell you that.
(29:52):
And my unfortunately my tiger mom on steroids, she was
really really good at this where she would say something
so cruel like you're why did you turn out so ugly.
Right when I was pregnant with your your brother, I
looked at ugly masks and ugly things, and he turned
(30:15):
out so beautiful. And with you, I looked at the
beautiful tulips, and you turned out so ugly. And if
I reacted to that, she would say, I have to
be honest, I'm your mother. So I learned that, Thank god,
I'm not. I never did that to my kids, and
I can say that one hundred percent. Our only job
(30:37):
was to do better than our parents. And what you said.
She did love me, though, even though it doesn't sound
like she loves you. Before she died, I came to
the conclusion that she loved me in the best way
she knew how wasn't great, but she did love me.
So so that statement that you only love someone if
(31:02):
you're kind to them, some people can be loving and
erage in their ways of showing their love.
Speaker 4 (31:12):
Absolutely, yeah, I believe there's definitely love there, but they
may not know how to adequately show it. I don't
know if I said that they didn't love you. I
don't think I made that statement, But if I did,
that was a mistake. Remember mistakes, But I definitely think
(31:34):
that they may not know how to love and that
that's an issue there, and we'll get into that later
in the next half of the show.
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Speaker 4 (34:57):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 3 (35:01):
And what are we talking about today?
Speaker 4 (35:04):
We are talking about emotional predators.
Speaker 3 (35:08):
And I just gave a horrific example of what I
grew up with. And you know, I am grateful for
everything that's happened in my life, even the hard ones,
because I believe that when you have pain like that
(35:29):
in childhood, you grow a superpower. If you can move
past the painting, you will land in power. And because
of that very strong emotional predator that I grew up with,
I developed specialized abilities to have passion, to be resilient
(35:55):
and other things. But at the same time, yeah, it's us.
Speaker 4 (36:05):
Now, you know. Another statement is when you try to
express your needs. If you say, please don't be late,
or I want you to call more, like if you're
in a relationship with someone, or I would like for
us to spend more time together, or you just want
to express your boundaries. And when you express what you
(36:30):
need to feel safe or respected or valued in the relationship,
but they feel that their freedom is more important than
your feelings. That's kind of a concern because if you're
like saying, I need you to call if you're going
(36:52):
to be X Y and Z, or I don't like
it when you do blank blank blank or blanket even
or I need to just to spend more time together,
and they're like, Okay, I don't want to do that.
You can either stay or you can either go because
you're being clear about your standards, and yet they're being
(37:16):
completely dismissive, but they're just not interested in loving you. Well,
they want to love you, but they don't want to
love you the way you want to be loved.
Speaker 3 (37:28):
Yeah. I was just interviewed on another podcast and she
was very she loved the things that I was saying,
and so she used the last half of the podcast
show to ask me questions about how to handle certain
situations in life. And so she was saying, you know,
(37:52):
what do I do with people who are just consistently
mean to me or in my energy or all of that?
And my response was, and why do you keep them
around you? Why do you choose to keep them around you?
(38:15):
And boy, that was not what she was expecting to
hear and went Oh.
Speaker 7 (38:18):
She's like, oh wow, that is exactly the lesson in
this is if you continue to be surrounded by people
who are emotional predators, at.
Speaker 3 (38:30):
Some point, I'm going to ask you what you're getting
out of that. Because you attract where you are, so
when you are needy, you will attract people who will
take advantage of your need. But if you are self
sufficient eighty percent of the time, you know who you are.
You're grounded in that no one's going to shake you.
(38:52):
You bake your own cake. Compliments and criticism are just icing.
Then you're not going to have a lot of emotional predators,
or if they come in, they're gonna get pumped out
pretty quick because you don't have anything holding them there.
That's a little something to think about, food for thought.
(39:15):
Absolutely the comments Queen was making here, and this is true.
I mean, we are shifting every generation, even between generations.
We're evolving, and I think it's so good like you
just did to recognize that was It may not be
(39:38):
right or wrong, it's useful or not, but it is
something that was and they learned it from their parents
and the generation before, so we can acknowledge that it
wasn't great, But going forward and blaming them for everything
is also not great. That's why I say our only
(40:00):
job is to do a little better than our parents did.
Speaker 4 (40:06):
Absolutely, absolutely, and I think as we continue to grow
and we continue to shift, we can evolve. And that's
all we can be expected to do is just to
try to evolve. I think Maya Angelo put it best.
She said, you do the best you can, and when
you know better, you do better?
Speaker 3 (40:27):
Absolutely? Do you have any other definitions? Did we go
through all the definitions?
Speaker 4 (40:34):
Another one?
Speaker 3 (40:35):
Funny story, But I don't want to. I want to
make sure you get all the category.
Speaker 4 (40:39):
Okay, so you've changed, but not in a good way.
Have you ever had you've changed the way? And this
implyes some form of disappointment. It kind of makes you
want to abandon your own growth because they fell in
love with you that served their needs and not your needs.
(41:05):
And I thought that that was interesting because I've heard
that before.
Speaker 3 (41:13):
Yes, names will be kept out to protect the guilty right.
Speaker 4 (41:19):
And we should be. We should embrace our growth. Growth
is a good thing. We should be evolving over time.
Evolution is a good thing. Just like she said about
our parents. We want to evolve. We want I want
my children to be better than me, I mean, and
I want their children to be better than them. It
should be a growth thing. Uh, that's that's just an expectation.
Speaker 3 (41:43):
Yeah, absolutely, And it just jogged in my memory. It's
very common for kids who've had childhood trauma or emotional
predators that raise them to then choose mates who resemble that.
And I'm classic that I did that. So I just
gave you what my mom said to me, ugly, fat
(42:05):
and clumsy. So that was my song that I grew
up with against me, the predator song against me. So
then what do I do? I turn around, I pick
a man who introduces me as obese behind my back.
I attracted him. I didn't work through those insecurities that
(42:29):
I had been feeling. Therefore, what do I do? I
attract someone who is attracted to that needy I need approval,
and I go to tractor for milk. I went to
attractor for milk. Tractors don't give milk. Just in case
you don't get that analogy. But I was used to that.
(42:51):
I was constantly trying to get love from my mom,
and that just transferred to the next, you know, key relationship.
So if this, if this at all sounds familiar to you,
and you're complaining about your mate, I would ask you
(43:11):
to examine, and you're accusing them of being an emotional predator,
then I would say, have you done the work so
that you don't attract emotional predators?
Speaker 4 (43:23):
Yeah? And it makes it seem like love is conditional,
like you don't deserve it and you shouldn't have to
work for love. You deserve to be loved, and you
deserve to be loved as you are. You shouldn't have
to change yourself for love. I mean, love is a
(43:45):
two way street. It does require work. You shouldn't just
have to say, yeah, I'm gonna sit around and just
expect to be loved. No, you do have to do
some work in a relationship. Everybody puts in some work,
but you don't need to change to be loved, and
they should love you. Go and do your your your
relationship thing. I mean, you know you're everybody puts in
(44:09):
some work. You should meet in the middle. Mm hmm,
right and set up.
Speaker 3 (44:17):
Mm hmmm.
Speaker 4 (44:18):
And it's interesting because every moment you've been trying to
convince someone to treat you well is a moment you
are not available for someone who would never love you
as you are. And you don't need to waste your
(44:38):
time accepting crumbs.
Speaker 3 (44:45):
Definite mood drop. I did it twice. You didn't see
the first time, and you didn't see the second time,
but I gave you two moos drops on that one.
I think that that's a huge love attraction principle. I'd
like to highlight what doctor Tippety just said that our
habit is to complain about the person you're with. And
(45:07):
when you complain about something, you're saying, I want better.
Instead of going with your desire for better and then
looking for better, you tend to focus on what's wrong
over and over and over again, so your eyes don't
even see what is a result of your express desire.
(45:32):
So it's up to us to quit looking at what
we do like, sorry, don't like, and move to look
for where is it that I do like?
Speaker 4 (45:42):
It?
Speaker 3 (45:43):
Excellent too?
Speaker 4 (45:45):
And then there's one last one for the people who
are being strung along in a relationship. Some people might
say I'm not ready for a relationship, but or a
commitment is something that you deserve. But this is a
form of emotional manipulation. If they are introducing you as
(46:08):
their partner and they're doing all the things like they
want to be in a relationship, but they are just
stringing you along and you have hopes of being in
a relationship. But then they circle back after months or
years later, and then they say, but I told you
I didn't want to be in a relationship, And then
(46:30):
you don't really want to leave because you're like, well,
maybe it might turn into something, and so you see
that you're quasi in a relationship or you're not really
in a relationship, and they're introducing you to their family
and they're introducing you to their friends, but they're like,
I'm not really in a relationship with you. So you're
(46:52):
in this relationship limbo, but they're not ready for a relationship.
So what is it that you want? And so the
reality is a person who really wants to be in
a relationship with you. They move with intention, They are
committed to you, and you deserve that. You do not
(47:12):
deserve to be in limbo.
Speaker 3 (47:16):
Who sings that song that put a ring on it?
Speaker 4 (47:19):
Beyonce?
Speaker 3 (47:23):
Yeah, yeah, Yeah, that's what came to mind. It's it's
a very relationships are a tricky thing. Uh, you know,
as a hashtag ageless.
Speaker 4 (47:33):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (47:34):
But I'm you know, dipping different parts of my body
in the dating pool and still swiper, no swiping. Uh.
The story I was gonna tell you was you remember
the date I had at brunch where the were the
lady next to our table came over and said, to
(47:54):
my date, you're talking too much. And yeah, so I
had another one, and I wish I had gotten the
number of that the woman because I don't know what
I'm doing to attract. Well, I know exactly what I'm doing.
I am attracted to successful, strong alpha males who are
(48:21):
very good at talking about themselves, which is good. And
I'm practicing not talking about myself, which is good your
behavior and you know, letting them take the lead, letting
them have that limelight that I usually have because of
my work and doctor two. To his credit, he actually
(48:45):
asked me questions about myself, which was different than the
other day. And then when I would answer him, he
literally did this that was a yawn for those not
watching and listening and not I have I'm clutching it.
Not one time, but three different times. I waited till
(49:07):
the third time and I said, am I boring you?
You're yawning? This is the third time, and he goes, oh,
I'm just getting oxygen. So I let it go. I
let it go, and then I'm all for I love
it when men take charge. You know we're going to
meet at this time at this restaurant that I love them, right,
(49:29):
I don't you know, what do you want to do?
I like that level of but then he overdid it.
It was like, uh, I love reading menus and six
o'clock so dinner and a beautiful place, and he goes,
I've been here so many times. I know the menu,
and this is what we're gonna get. Okay, if we
(49:51):
want anymore, we'll order more. So it was calamari appetizer
and a salad, served me one thing of salad, and
then proceeded to pretty much eat everything. And then when
the waiter came to say would you like anything else,
he goes, no, that's didn't ask if there's anything. Answer yeah, So,
(50:16):
needless to say, another one bites the desks. That was
date number thirty five. So I've been on thirty five
first dates, two second dates, one third date, one fourth date,
and that's it. I think I'm gonna get a dog,
doctor Tiffany. You know I said I don't want to
get a dog because then I'll never date again. I
(50:38):
think we're there.
Speaker 4 (50:40):
Well, I'm gonna say, don't give up, hope. I'm gonna say,
try something different instead of the alpha male. Maybe, you know,
take off the alpha and just go with the male.
Speaker 3 (50:54):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (50:55):
Maybe maybe anyways, and because maybe they're too strong headed.
Speaker 3 (51:06):
Maybe I don't know, I don't know. Well, I'll say
I my dog's great. I think I'll stick the mondom.
But yeah, that is a form of if I had
stayed with someone like that, total emotional predator. And this
is the part you were saying, you kind of lose
(51:26):
yourself because you are wanting to please the other person.
You know, you're always looking to them for a reaction
on how you're doing. Please folks. I'm so grateful at
the Monday at the Mission, I got to look in
the eyes of these beautiful young girls and say to them,
(51:50):
you can do anything with your heart in mind too,
which is what my tenth grade math teacher said to me.
He knew I was not having good experiences home and
he kept me after class and he looked at me
and said that it will stay with me for the
rest of my life. And I ask that forward every
time I get a chance to speak to young people,
(52:12):
I looked at the the eye and tell them that.
Speaker 4 (52:15):
So, yeah, absolutely absolutely, And I think that as long
as you stay true to who you are and remain authentic,
you'll be fine. And as long as you're continuing in
your community service, he might just be drawn to you.
You may not have to find him. So that's something
(52:38):
that you can consider because it might just happen, So
don't work so hard.
Speaker 3 (52:48):
Yeah, I think I'm gonna stop watching Dora the Explore
with this wifeer or listen to door all right, we're
coming up near the end of the show. Was there
any other research that you were covering on emotional predator
that you have not covered?
Speaker 4 (53:08):
No, I think that that's the main thing. I think
the most important thing is that when you are out there,
pay attention to the conversations that you're having with people.
How do you feel after your conversations and how does
your body feel? Because your body keeps the score and
(53:28):
your energy does not lie. And when you are walking
away from people who don't value you, that is not cruel.
That is called self love. And we have to remember
that because a lot of times we stay and deal
with situations that we don't need to be in. Whether
(53:48):
it is friendships, whether it is jobs, and whether it
is a romantic relationship. We have to place ourselves first
in those situations and don't let these energy vampires that
get all out of you. You need to trust your
intuition because love is about creating safety and not testing
(54:13):
your limits.
Speaker 3 (54:16):
Absolutely, uh and and and you know I've said, I've
been known to say that we can get to world
peace really quickly. Just to balance out the accusation that
someone is an emotional predator in your life and he's
just really someone who's not that into you. Wouldn't it
(54:39):
be great if every person, when they were in a
relationship and it isn't working out, to not go so
quickly to the quiz are you dating an emotional predator?
Are you dating an emotional vampire? Are you dating a narcissist?
Signs of dating mark? Instead of that, just go are
we imagined? So that's another you know, that's my graduate
(55:04):
school what I was saying before about this, And I'm
so grateful my daughter's uses all the time. If you
find yourself giving more than half and reaching over to
do everything for them emotionally, physically, and they're only doing this,
(55:24):
that's on you, boo. So our job is to do
this and see if they come here, and if they
don't come here, you're.
Speaker 4 (55:31):
Not a match.
Speaker 3 (55:32):
It's this, You're just not a match. And it's okay,
does it make them a bad person? You're just not
a match. That's my final word, Doctor tivity. What's your
final word.
Speaker 4 (55:45):
And my final word is don't let someone who doesn't
know your value tell you how much you're worth.
Speaker 3 (55:57):
Another moves drop. I like that. Like that, Now you're
gonna go back into your sessions. I'm grateful that we
were able to do this live even though you're in DC.
Thank you so much, z Queen and Jerry. I love
it when we have an active Cashew gallery. I hope
(56:20):
you've enjoyed this. Another scynthilating episode of Doctors in the
House with myself.
Speaker 4 (56:26):
And doctor Tiffany Tate.
Speaker 3 (56:30):
It's all about balance piece in piece out world peace
through inner piece. Oh Asian OPRAH Giveaway giving another pass
to the Catalina Jazz Festival Doctor Tiffany on Catalina Island
in Avalon for October the it's a second weekend on
(56:53):
the Sunday. I believe it's the sixteenth and the nineteenth.
But if you would like a free pair of passes
for the entire Sunday, it's worth hundreds. So just go
to doctor Meursa dot life, put in your email and
Asian Oprah Giveaway and I'll get those tickets to you,
(57:15):
because you know we give stuff away here. We did
this already, doctor Tiffany, take.
Speaker 4 (57:22):
Us out now, go and have the best day ever.
Speaker 3 (57:30):
I'll see you tomorrow.
Speaker 8 (57:43):
NBC News Radio I'm Jim Rupe. List likely for a
government shutdown after the Senate voted down to competing funding proposals.
Senate Majority Leader John Thune of South Dakota says, blame
the Democrats for the looming shutdown. The Democrat caucus here
in town in the Senate has chosen to shut down
the government over a clean, non partisan funding bill. The
(58:04):
government will partially shut down Wednesday at twelve oh one
am Eastern if no deal is reached. President Trump says
he and the military are reawakening the warrior spirit. He
addressed top military leaders in Quantico, Virginia this morning. Mister
Trump said the military will become stronger and faster over
the next few years. He followed Defense Secretary Pete Heigseth's
remarks and his speech. Haig Seth spoke out against DEI
(58:27):
and politics infiltrating the military.
Speaker 9 (58:30):
We became the woke Department, but not anymore. No more
identity months, DEI offices, dudes in dresses, No more climate
change worship, no more division, distraction or gender delusions.
Speaker 8 (58:44):
Hag Seth said the message he was hoping to convey
is we must do better. Hurricane Amelda has formed off
the southeastern coast of the US. National Hurricane Center says
it could become a Cat too hurricane as it heads
toward Bermuda later this week. Even though landfall is not
expected to hit the US, the impacts of Ameld are
being felt up and down the entire East Coast. Heavy
(59:05):
security is in place for Turning Point USA's first campus
event since the assassination of its founder, Charlie Kirk. Official
say today's event being held indoors at Utah State University.
Attendees are being required to go through metal detectors in
addition to bag checks. Alex Clark, Utah Governor Spencer Cox,
Senator Mike Lee, and Arizona Congressman Andy Biggs are all
(59:28):
among the speakers. The university also plans to restrict signage
and there will be no re entry if an attendee
leaves the venue. Jim Roop, NBC News Radio.
Speaker 1 (59:40):
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