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And am refers to more than just the time of day.
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Jump off that exhausting amster wheel and into balance.
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Living with Doctor Marissa from Miss You Joy.
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The Doctor Marissa, also known as the Asian Oprah. Her
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purpose to be your personal advocate, to live, lap love,
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Pey and welcome. You're tuned in to take my advice,
I'm not using it. Get balance with Doctor Marissa The
Morning Show. You're on KCAA NBC NewsRadio home to the
Asian Oprah Number one talking the ie Thank you very much,
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AM ten fifty f M one O six four five
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Why so many places? Well, I want to maximize my
splatters ofone for more hope and happiness. So there's no gossip,
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no scandal, and no K words. That's how I used
to say it. No Kardashian talk at all, although not
many people are talking about them, and I don't want
to encourage you to talk about anyone except yourself in
a positive way. All right, we can talk about others
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in positively too. That's why we don't talk about the
headlines because guess what the headlines are here to give
you the four A syndrome, angry, anxious, aggravated, and a freed. Instead,
I want you to get the big A, which is amazing,
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feeling about life, about yourself, life is way too short.
Time is a non renewable energy, and I want you
to feel good about yourself and about everyone else around
you eighty eight percent of the time. That's why I
have topics and guests get guests is Monday guests to
that end, and today is no exception. And it is Monday.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
Monday, which means it's mental health matters Mondays. And our
topic for the day is, let's see.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
It is maintaining our sanity, which is something that I
get asked a lot about pretty much from everyone. I
am your your cheerleader for more hope and happiness. I'm
on a happy eighty eight mission eight million more eighty
eight million, more happy people. The next day ears and
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I continue to do that to balance out all the
bad news with good News because that's my brand. I
am very, very grateful, and we'll go right into breakfast,
which is, you know, taking a bite of my gratitude sandwich.
We do this every weekday morning on the show and
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today because it is mental health Matters, mondays, I get
to have the studio to myself, with the exception of
one interview that I could be bringing you later. I
like to bring on people who can give us some
tips as well, and that'll be after the break But
I absolutely absolutely want you to be happy eighty eight
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percent of the time. So that's why we start the
day going like this, which is what are you grateful
for that's outside of yourself. So take a minute. If
you're driving in the car, don't take your foot off
the yeah, but don't also type in to the chat
because I don't want you to be driving and texting
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or writing or anything like that. But when you get
to a safe space, then I want you to participate
with me. And I see eyeballs rolling into the studio.
Welcome to the show. What am I grateful for this morning?
I am grateful for My turkey was super tender this year.
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It is usually tender because I use this grape soda
recipe that I got from Lucy, my twenty eight year
beautiful manicurist who has a She's kind of like my
big sister, and she has this great recipe and if
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you want a great manicure pedicure, go to Tiffany's Nails
on Main Street in Seal Beach. She gave me a
recipe that Gary Tease tender turkey, but this year was
especially turkey because the white meat was actually as tender
as the dark meat. And that's from my older daughter
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who knows her turkey. So I'm grateful for the tender turkey.
I'm also grateful that my kids made it back safely
to San Francisco, and I love them so much and
it's always amazing to have them here. Those of you
are my social saw them and lots of eyeballs on
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that particular post doc Ballance on Instagram and doctor mers
everywhere else. But the easiest way to find me is
just Google. Use my assistant Google to put on Asian Oprah,
which I'm grateful for too. My honorable moniker Asian Oprah
Michael Bernard Beck with my big brother. He was the
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one who introduced me to Oprah as the Asian Oprah,
And I'm grateful that yesterday he texted and said today
or yesterday. December November thirtieth was the actual anniversary for
Agape International Spiritual Center where I am where I get
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to teach my Chinese yoga meditation and be part of
that love community. So happy Ena Sui do a god
Thank you big brother Michael for answering the call to
start that thirty nine years ago. Ab anivers to you.
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Happy anniversary, do love Mayagape where I get my positive
roots watered and my peace of mind, peace of mind fertilized.
All right, My last gratitude those of you who are
having breakfast with me thinking about my gratitude sandwich, My
last gratitude is four my bonus popap my bonus dad,
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Graham Martin, who turned ninety six on Friday. And I
had a great time with my sisters and him at
the tep On Place Kobe if you want a good
tep On that's in Seal Beach. And we had a
great time celebrating ninety six incredible years. And yes, it
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was a bittersweet holiday in the sense that we had
a great one with Pops and and my bonus mom
passed earlier this year, and so it was a you know,
they'd been married seventy four years. It would have been
seventy five a couple of weeks ago. So yeah, but holidays.
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You know, I tell you all the time that we
focus on the things that we remember people home. We
don't remember them in their last hour before they passed
on to the other side. We don't remember them in
their past year of sickness, but we remember them in
the wholeness of who they are and continue to be
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on the other side. And let's go to the bottom
of the bun. Top of the bun is things that
we're grateful for outside of ourselves. Thank you for the finger.
Someone on the chat, not on the chat but streaming
just gave me a finger. This one the other one
for whatever I just said that tickled their thumb. The
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bottom of the bun is weight training. Y'all. I want
you to approve of yourself because, frankly, my dear, if
you can't approve of yourself, how the fork do you
expect anyone else to approve of you? And it's Desiree Mulligan.
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Welcome to the show. I've seen you playing on my
Facebook and I'm glad to have you here this morning.
I recall her knitting and still have one of her pieces.
All that's for mom, Dolores Martin, and yes, and she's
on the other side. Also, my Chinese mom passed as well,
six weeks after Dolores did this earlier this year, so
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it's been a year. And then they're both out of
discomfort and pain, which I am so grateful for, and
they're loving us real strong from the other side, because
there is we didn't lose them, you know, they're just
out of their body, but their love and and their
spirit lives on and we all come from love and
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we all go back into love. So I'm looking forward
to connecting with them then, but we can connect with
them now. I can feel their love right now. Continue
to work me. This my seven hundred and ninth working
consecutive week on the air, and I'm so so so grateful.
That would be my bottom of the bunt is what
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do you like about yourself today? Is mental health? Matters? Mondays.
The foundation mybs my belief system is the foundation of
good mental health is the ability to love yourself, care
for yourself, soothe yourself, not be so hard on yourself.
Not be your worst enemy, but be your best friend.
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Not to have perfectionistic ideals about oneself. I'm eighty eight
percent fabulous, and then twelve percent of the time I
step at it because I'm human and I've stopped wanting
to become perfect, and that's such a relief. So, however,
I want everyone to focus on what they are good at.
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Everybody's one of a kind, wonderful. We're all special and
unique in our own way, but every one of the
eight billion of us are special and unique in our
own way, and I kind of want it us to
get away from that star struck kind of you know,
spending more time talking or paying attention to celebs. Nothing
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against them, but if you notice, all the celebs that
have been on my show have had taken their limelight
and focused it on temporary areas of darkness, which is
what I think, if you are in the public eye,
something you should be doing, not shitting on you. I
kind of did. But that's why I want us to
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really talk about ourselves the same way we talk about
others if we're talking well, and not talk about others
in a negative way as well as ourselves. Eighty eight
percent of the time, so I appreciate my ability to
keep on going. They said this show wouldn't last more
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than a year because I don't talk about the headlines
or politics or anything negative unless there's a solution. And
thirteen point seven years later, I'm still going and going.
I didn't check the numbers this morning. I check them
once a week only, but the last time I checked,
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this YouTube TV channel had four point two over four
point two million impressions. That means there's positive people out there,
and we're anchoring the side that is happy. Eighty eight
percent of the time we choose to be happy. We
make a conscious decision to claim our birthright to happiness.
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And I am so so appreciative of my ability to
keep doing that and practice what I teach most of
the time. Even though the name of the show is
take my advice, I'm not using it, but all right,
that is the whole breakfast. Taking a bite of my gratitude, Sam,
please join me Every weekday morning I'm here live on
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my YouTube TV channel, and then a week later I
go to my NBC news radio channel a CASEAA at
eight am drivetime. I'm back on my favorite slot. So
if you know anybody in the ie especially, you get
the strongest signal on fifty six and that goes straight
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through to iHeartRadio, Spotify and all of the other great platforms.
All right, that's it for breakfast. I promise if you
have breakfast with me every weekday morning, you will sandwich
your day in the most positive way. Thanks for joining
me for breakfast. All right, what are we talking about today?
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It's rainy days and mondays. Woop, wrong song, no rain today,
beautiful day today, it's a little let's see, it's a
little I don't know if that's marine layer, but I
love it when it gets super looks like you got
out of the shower steam. I call it stepping into heaven.
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But it is a beautiful day in the neighborhood here
in Long Beach, California. I get to live. I'm really grateful.
I get to live looking overlooking the ocean of abundance,
and wherever you are, hopefully you will look out and
see what is good. And the topic today is where's
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my nerd is? The topic today is at a not
fuss with my hair? That's eighty eight percent this morning.
The topic today is how do we maintain our sanity?
Some of you may be saying I don't have sanity
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in the first place. I'm just going to assume that
at one point in your life you felt sane. And
you know, as I like to do, look up definitions.
Ask my assistant Google, what is the definition of insanity
or sorry, sanity? We all know what the definition of insanity,
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right is? In the twelve step program, it's going to
see doing something. What is it doing something the same
and expecting different results? I call it insanity going to
the tractor for milk, So that is going to people
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who are not capable of giving you love, and you
keep going and keep trying to get love from a
tractor or milk from a tractor. I think in another
twelve step program there's a saying don't go to the
hardware store for break However, hardware stores are selling. There's
one My best friend Emory told me there's peach cobbler
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at a certain hardware store. So we can't say that.
So my version is don't go to the tractor for milk.
Cows give milk, but not tractors. And yet, especially if
you're one of the seven out of ten of us,
which I am, who grew up with childhood trauma. We
do have a habit, a non useful habit, to go
to the tractor for milk, and so that's the opposite
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of sanity. But what is the definition of sanity. Let
me pull it up here so you know that I'm
not lying to you. Sanity is reasonable and sensible behavior
or thinking. Oops, there we go, the ability to think
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and behave in a way considered to be normal and rational. Yes,
So the first thing that comes to mind is there
is no such thing as sanity because common sense is
uncommon and logical thinking is illogical. I'm an organizational psychologist
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by training. My PhD is in organization psychology, so I
get to work with companies and the number one thing
that I do when I do executive coaching is sit
down with the C suite or the director or VP.
And inevitably, one of the comments that comes up is,
I don't understand. This isn't Rocket science, unless when I
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worked did some consulting at Rockwell, but this isn't you know,
Why don't people just follow simple instructions? Why is it
so difficult to do what you need to do without
all this other stuff and jealousy and favoritism and conflict
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and miscommunication and and ego. Why why can't we just
do the work. And my response always is, uh, well,
you know, there is one organization where you can work
where that you know, there is no favoritism, there is
no you know, common sense prevails, logical thinking prevails. And
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and they will say, please tell me, I'll go work there,
and I'll say the cemetery where there are no people.
Speaker 5 (18:35):
There are no problems, and there are no uh you know,
there's no insanity.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
It's all common sense. And then they laugh and they
get the point. So that is my comment for sanity,
when we say how do we maintain our sanity? Let's
not have the expectation that life is always sane. There's
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a certain level of insanity that is normal in your life. Right.
You compliment someone and they take it the wrong way
and they see it as an insult, or they are
suspicious that you want something and you just wanted to
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give them a compliment, or you mean, well, your intentions
are good, you think that someone would want to know
that that outfit doesn't look good on them. But then
they bite you back and say, how dare you? You
look like crap or whatever it is, or you shouldn't
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be saying that. Look at yourself or you know, all
these ways in which we interact with people, and it's
it's like, I don't understand. That's not common sense people.
If people just use their common sense, we be okay.
But what is common sense? We've got so many ways
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of defining respect, so many ways of defining common sense,
so many ways. You know, people go, uh, if we
just all live by the Golden rule, it would be fine.
We would have world peace. No, you wouldn't, because the
Golden Rule says do unto others as you would have
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done unto you. But there are people that don't like
being hugged, or don't like being complimented, or don't like
you patting them on the back. They don't like that.
Whatever the way they grew up, defining respect is not
the same as yours. And you can never understand fully
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how other people feel about where they are because you
didn't have their experiences, you didn't have their upbringing. I'm
reminded of if you haven't watched Frontline PBS special called
brown Eye, Blue Eyes or a Class Divide It, it's
called it Class Divideed. It's an excellent portrayal of one
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of my past guests, Brilliant. Her name is Jane Elliott,
and she was the elementary school teacher who after doctor
King was shot, she decided to teach her students what
it's like to have prejudice and discrimination. Little town in Iowa,
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no one looked different, so she used callers to distinguish
people as up or down. And what unfolded was incredibly
horrific and incredibly magnificent in the way that it showed
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you that prejudice and discrimination are taught, and we don't.
We don't. We're not born with that skill. We're not
born with that trait. And so really good holiday watching
with your family, especially if we have children. Jane Elliott's
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Frontline Divided Class Divided on Frontline PPS. Actually you can
watch it for free on YouTube now and I have
you know, I had my kids watch it. I wish
that it was required in all schools. If you're a
parent and active in your school, you might want to
look into that because it's a it's a great way
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to balance out what's going on now, uh and and
do something that we actually have some control over. I
don't like talking about politics because for the most part,
after you voted. We can't change things right. We voted
as we voted, and now you can join organizations that
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are doing something proactive. That is where I'd like you
to spend your energy. But I don't argue on the
show for either side because it does not change anything
except maybe the way we feel about that other person.
So where was I I was talking about sanity. I'm
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talking about your expectations around sanity. So if you can allow,
for some measure, twelve percent of.
Speaker 6 (23:37):
The time things when you mean well and.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
The impact is not well and people get pissed off
at you or get in touch with their pissoffedness, is
now I say it, thank you, big brother Michael Bernard
bick with. Then don't you get pissoffedness too? Right? Tick
not han beautiful saying if if someone comes and set
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your house on fire, resist the urge to chase after
them and set their house on fire. Instead, turn around
and put out your own fire. So that's my number
one tip today for how to maintain sanity is don't
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poke the animal. Don't talk to someone about anything that
you know they disagree with you. On another way to
say it is I love don't poke the animals is
one of my favorite things. Don't go there, don't pick
up the rope. Right, You can't have a tug of
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war if you're not pulling against someone or pushing against someone.
That's how you maintaintain sanity. Is y'all are not stupid? Okay,
y'all know, especially during the whole someone is gonna push
your button, then don't have your button out on the
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outside of your clothes. Don't put your goat out there
for them to get your goat. It is a simple
not easy. I have to say that sometimes I you know,
I'm tempted to go there with someone, especially when they're
related to me, and I want the best for them.
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I want them to be happy, and I see so
clearly how they are making themselves unhappy, and I gotta
say something. No, I don't got to say something. Uh,
this will bring some sanity to you that you have
not had. I guarantee it if you keep your mouth shut,
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And that's one way to do it. Take a swig
of something good for you, not alcohol, not you know
that three thousand drink callery drink. Take a drink. I
know that's my one coffee for the day, and I
do like creamer. I like coffee with my creamer, but
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it's only one. But if you can not engage with
someone that you know is not going to agree with you,
if you don't go back there, if you don't look
to them for approval, if you don't look to them
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for a reaction, I've learned there are some people that
will do they don't. They'll never take my side. Why,
I don't know, and it's okay. They just feel like
they're the ones that to be my devil's advocate. So
when I'm not feeling good, or if I have had
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an experience where I feel put again or what's that expression,
somebody did something to me, and that's my biggest button,
Like if I did something to you, I deserve you
coming at me, but I have if I've done nothing
to you, I don't even know who you are. Social media,
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every once in a while, get that comment on YouTube
and it's like, where is this coming from? I didn't
ask you for feedback. I don't even know you. But
you know what, if I do what I do and
I love what I do, I'm putting myself out there
and people, you know, I'm gonna have eighty eight percent
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lovers and twelve percent haters. That is just the way
it is, and so it's my job not to shut
the twelve percent down. Oh my gosh. If you're active
on social media, this message is for you. If you're
going to post something out there, do not engage with
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anyone who disagrees with you. They have their right to
freedom of speech. You put it out there. But if
they disagree with you, I challenge you, and I guarantee you,
if you want to maintain your sanity, do not argue
with them. Oh but they need to know what the
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truth is. They need to know the better way to
look at this. They need to know that everybody has
a right to my opinion bullshit talking. No one has
the right to your opinion unless they're paying you for it.
That's how I stay good is that I do not
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give feedback most of the time, at least eighty eight
percent of the time, working towards ninety eight percent of
the time. And that's how I maintain my sanity. You
want my advice, you got to pay for it. That way,
I'm not randomly giving what I think on a random
basis or a frequent basis. I promise that rule, right
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there will give you more sanity. Okay, So those of
you who don't believe me, just give it a try
this week one week. That's your hashtag Happy eighty eight challenge,
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And if you do it, use that hashtag on your
post and say, this is meeting the challenge, this is
my belief system, this is my BS. What do you think?
And then don't respond if someone disagrees. Instead, if you
have to put something, please put and you can write
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this down. That's an interesting way of looking for it.
That's an interesting way of looking at it. Hmmm. The
other response is let me think about that. That's it.
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Don't say I'll be getting back to you. Just say
let me think about that, or I didn't think of that,
or even if you haven't thought of that, make them
feel special and say let me think about that. That's
an interesting point of view. Okay. So if you can
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do that, that's your happy eighta challenge. And I promise
you that if you do that, you will have at
least stayed your level of sanity the same if not
gone up a bit. If you respond and you started
it because you posted it, I guarantee you your sanity
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will be in jeopardy. You'll come down a few points. Okay,
a little bit of tough love there too. All Right,
it's time to take a quick break for news, weather, traffic,
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When we come back, the first thing I'm gonna do, though,
is give you some holiday tips with a special guest.
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She came back this year. She's a veteran TV host.
Name is Christine Palura. She's a lifestyle producer currently seen
on American Trends and Lifestyle. She's best known for her
fifteen year run on Atlanta and Company, where she spotlighted
national trends, celebrity guests, and everyday solutions for busy families.
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Christine's also hosted shows on HGTV and Turn herself and
as a mom of too. She brings a relatable voice
to the modern holiday hustle. That's when we come back
in two and two piece in peace Out and you'll
hear us laugh it up and that's my favorite sound
in life. So please do enjoy her mini interview when
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we come back, and then we'll come back and talk
more about maintaining sanity, especially during the holidays. We'll be
right back.
Speaker 7 (32:57):
Take Back your Life with Doctor Maurica Pe, Take Back
your Life with Doctor Maurice.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
Fey, and we're back. You're tuned in to take my advice,
I'm not using it. Get balanced with Doctor Marris of
the Morning Show and yep, yep, yep. The countdown to
the holidays is on and if you're still trying to
wrap up your gift list or get your home holiday ready,
you're definitely not alone. Here to help us tackle the
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season with style, his TV host and lifestyle expert Christine Polara.
She's back and a former HGTV host and now anchors
the nationally syndicated show American Trends and Lifestyle. Please welcome
back to my studio, Christy Pla. Oh so good to
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see you again.
Speaker 8 (34:07):
Right to see you. Can you believe that it is
the holidays? Thanksgiving?
Speaker 7 (34:11):
Like?
Speaker 8 (34:11):
Where did the year go.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
It went fast, It went very fast, and we must
be having a good time, right.
Speaker 8 (34:20):
I like that attitude.
Speaker 3 (34:22):
That's what I get paid for. I've just gotten what
is a good way, Christine, to get ready for the holidays.
Speaker 9 (34:28):
Okay, so I am a reformed procrastinator. Took me many,
many years to get there. So I have learned that
shopping on Christmas Eve is fun if you want to,
not so fun if you have to. So I have
started in November. I get my notesap on my phone.
I start making my list, ticking it off one by one.
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Because if you have to do something on Christmas Eve,
like you're not going to get a gift that actually
is maybe the right gift, and so then it feels.
Speaker 8 (34:57):
Like you're wasting money. So be intentional.
Speaker 9 (34:59):
Start early so you can really be thoughtful and make
those gifts extra special.
Speaker 8 (35:05):
That's what I say.
Speaker 3 (35:06):
That sounds good, you know, Christine, I've always wanted to
be a procrastinator, but I never got around to it.
But for you, there was a joke. Punch.
Speaker 8 (35:15):
Oh sorry, I'm.
Speaker 3 (35:19):
It's been a long morning early. It's always good. That
was good. Do you have a suggestion to elevate the
holiday season?
Speaker 8 (35:26):
I'm going to use that one.
Speaker 9 (35:27):
Yes, I do, and you're gonna love it, okay, because
it brings back nostalgia. How about right here, lind Or,
So simple, so special. Melt into those holiday moments with
family and friends with lind Or. Sharing bliss is really
as simple as getting down Grandma's beautiful candy bowl and
letting your guests discover the magic insight every truffle, luxurious
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lind Or truffles.
Speaker 8 (35:52):
We know them, we love them. They add that festive.
Speaker 9 (35:54):
Touch, that beautiful holiday packaging, not to mention just their
chocolatey goodness. So you really feel so special, like the
holidays are here and what I love is for the
first time ever, they're in the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade.
It's this master Chocolate tear ballroom float. How cute is that?
So don't miss the magic giving Get some for your
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table and make sure you tune in to the parade.
Speaker 8 (36:19):
To see their float.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
I understand when you unwrap it, all the calories go away.
Speaker 8 (36:23):
To that's what I heard that too.
Speaker 3 (36:25):
Yeah, please share a secret for looking great all the time,
which you do.
Speaker 9 (36:32):
Okay, it's fifty six, it's hard, let me tell you.
But years ago my teenagers. Of course, they my teenage girls.
They had me discover cosrx or they discovered it. So
you might have heard their snail musin their runway approved
peptide formula. Well now they are totally helping us out
with tired eyes. It's the peptide collagen hydrogel eye patches.
Speaker 8 (36:55):
There I was at six am, sorry about that.
Speaker 3 (36:58):
It works.
Speaker 9 (37:00):
It's low molecular collagen niacinemai caffeine. That little natural pink
comes from vitamin B twelve. It lifts, it tightens and
deep puffed my eyes. Listen, before your holiday party use
them or after the holiday party as a reset. They
were used at Faris Ferris Paris Fashion Week, So if
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those runway models like them, then we like them as well.
I love this product. I give it as gifts. You
get it on Amazon.
Speaker 3 (37:31):
How about that it's great. How about a gift to
spark creativity.
Speaker 9 (37:37):
You seem like you're very creative, doctor Marsa, and I
think that you would like this or the musician in
your life. Well, it is the aeroband pocket drum two max.
It lets you play anytime anywhere you walk around, drumming
to yourself and guess what nobody else is bothered.
Speaker 8 (37:55):
Isn't that amazing?
Speaker 9 (37:56):
The sound goes through your headphones or speakers, so you
can be indoors. You could be in a public library,
for heaven's sakes, your dorm room. It's going to be
quiet all around you. So it's designed for portability on
the go. So the pedals, the drumsticks, the adapter, they're
very lightweight. You can pack them up. It's so easy,
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and apparently it's very responsive for the drummer. I'm not
a drummer, but you know, just having that instantaneous sound,
there's no delay. It's a very satisfying and thoughtful gift.
And they're offering twenty five percent off. All you have
to do is go to Amazon or aeroband dot net
use the code b D beat five. That's BD beat
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five for more.
Speaker 3 (38:42):
Well, that's definitely good for those of us who live
by the beat of a different drummer.
Speaker 8 (38:49):
Now that one I thought excellent.
Speaker 3 (38:52):
That was good, But you can use that too. Just
make sure you give me credit.
Speaker 8 (38:57):
I will always always.
Speaker 3 (39:00):
There's the creativity. Any I drank my creative juice this morning?
Final tips Christy Ver holiday must have you'd recommend?
Speaker 9 (39:12):
Okay, I think you are going to love this because
my final tip is it doesn't cost anything. My teenage girls,
we run in different you know, we're always crossing each other.
So I'm going to be very intentional with my time.
So I say, I broke out an old fashioned notepad
and made coupon cards like I used to when I
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was little.
Speaker 8 (39:33):
This entitles you to game night with mom and dad.
This gets you.
Speaker 9 (39:38):
Your favorite you know pasta at that Italian restaurant you love.
You know, it's all about just looking each other in
the eye and disconnecting. Really, connection is what the holidays
are all about. And so you can't put a price
tag on that.
Speaker 3 (39:54):
I love that. That's the best one for me. I
still have one for a massage that I think I
got when my kids were four and they're now twenty eight.
So I think I'm gonna redeem that is.
Speaker 8 (40:07):
The place still in business. You need to find out.
Speaker 3 (40:10):
No, no, no, it was a personal massage.
Speaker 8 (40:12):
Oh oh okay, yeah, I do that.
Speaker 3 (40:15):
From San Francisco. So I think I'm gonna redeem it.
Speaker 8 (40:17):
You need to self care.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
That's important too, absolutely, And I love the looking right
in the eye. That's what the season is all about. Love, connection,
where can we go for more information?
Speaker 9 (40:30):
Do a deeper dive on all of these great products
at tips on tv dot com. That's tips on tv
dot com. You can learn more, order, don't forget about
that coupon code for your drums, and most importantly, thank
you for having me.
Speaker 8 (40:43):
Have the best holiday.
Speaker 3 (40:45):
You have the best holiday ever. May your parents be
sweet and your turkey be tender. Always great to see you, Christine.
Speaker 10 (40:53):
You have the best day ever.
Speaker 7 (41:12):
Take back your line with doctor Mauricepe.
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(42:01):
later to eight am on my NBC News radio channel,
which then goes to IR radio, Spotify, and all the
major platforms. So yes, I am everywhere, and I'm so
glad that you've been with me seven hundred and nine
consecutive weeks. For those of you don't do math anymore
like me, we use calculators or chet GPT. That is
(42:25):
over thirteen and a half years, So I'm really glad
I'm still here. And I forgot to show you. This
is a beautiful holiday.
Speaker 11 (42:36):
Now.
Speaker 3 (42:36):
I got all my reindeers on these are This was
made in elementary school by my daughter class. The teacher
gave this to me for all the volunteering I did,
so yeah, I'm really grateful that I had a chance
to do that. If you're a mom, you know I
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always tell my mom's it's great to work. I know
you love your career and I love you what you
do for six years if you can try to be
a full time mom, don't worry about your career. It
will be there and you're going to do great. But
that first six years, it's the joy for yourself. It's
(43:21):
not even I mean it's for the kid, but you
know me, I'm God or ups Man and then self
and then others. So the for yourself, the joy of
the feeling you get when you volunteering classes is tremendous,
and then you get presents too. All right, let's see,
(43:44):
it's Monday. For those of you who don't really know
what day it is, you have had a little too
much turkey maybe and are still somewhat in that case.
I think when I was like marinating the turkey, you know,
I had to put my hands on that tell you
a lot. I honestly my hands felt like they were faultously.
(44:06):
But it's true that whatever that trick, whatever it is.
All right, we're talking about maintaining your sanity. How do
you maintain your sanity, especially during the holidays. Well, those
of you weren't here in the first half, go back
(44:26):
and review that, because I think I hit on something
that will definitely keep your sanity at the same level,
if not higher, and that is, don't poke the animal.
Don't try to convince someone who disagrees with you. Let
go of the rope, don't argue if you're posting, don't
(44:50):
try to convince someone who isn't agreeing with you. What
what you think? Don't say what you think unless you're
being paid for. That's my extreme. And then yeah, that's interesting.
I haven't thought about that. And that also is going
to lead our country back into the United States. So
(45:15):
one person at a time, one interaction at a time,
that's what I do, all right. So that's one thing
I'm maintaining sanity. What's another thing that will help you
maintain your sanity? I think you know that order thing.
Let's go through that a little. So I'm not religious,
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those of you who know I'm spiritual.
Speaker 11 (45:37):
I have.
Speaker 3 (45:39):
A beliefs. I choose to believe in a friendly universe.
Why because it feels better than believing that the universe
is random and chaotic and and there isn't something behind
the beauty that's out there. I don't know. Randomness in
chaos does not bring a beautiful ocean life that's under
(46:05):
the sea, or the fact that above the sea, every
single grain of sand is different, every single drop of
water is different, every single butterfly is different, every single
one of us are different. There's got to be something
like an energy, a positive energy that created that. So
I choose to believe in a friendly universe. And when
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I choose to believe that the universe is conspiring for
me and not against me, then my sanity. When bad
things happen to me, I am not rocked off my
boat or my life. And that.
Speaker 6 (46:47):
It is a real life changing.
Speaker 3 (46:52):
Switch, because sixteen and a half, almost seventeen years ago,
I was not a happy camper eighty eight percent of
the time. I grew up with the school of snow
White and Cinderella, and I thought, you know, if I
went to the right school, if I got the great job,
if I had the money, if I had the status,
(47:13):
if I had the significant other, if I had children,
I should be happy. Right. I should should, should have should,
and I shouldn't. It was it was a place, a
very dark place, because I didn't believe in a friendly universe.
(47:33):
I believed that I was being punished. I believed that
the messages I got when I was young that I
was good for nothing, that I was a horrible daughter,
that I was fat, ugly and clumsy. And then, you know,
as very common, if you have childhood trauma like that,
you pick mates who continue that trauma and continue to
(47:55):
validate your bs, your own bs that you're you're not worthy,
and that is a horrible way to live. So, speaking
of which, that's why I wrote this book, This book
eight Ways to Happiness from wherever you are. You get
a free audiobook book copy today for all Mondays. Just
go to my website that I will bring up again
(48:19):
and just put your email address and I give you
a free that's your Asian Oprah giveaway, a free copy
of that for you because I want you to have
it and it is my Asian Oprah giveaway for the day.
So if you grow up like that, it would make
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sense for you to say the universe is not friendly.
And then even if you had a great childhood, you
may say the universe is not a friendly pace. Look, otherwise,
there wouldn't be starvation going on, there wouldn't be war
going on, there wouldn't be and that's not on anybody else.
But are human decisions, Okay, we have free will, and
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so sometimes we do things like I said, that are illogical,
not common sense twelve percent of the time. And we
have humans interacting with humans and it's not always pretty.
So you can either believe that we are in a
hostile world and life sucks because bad things happen. That
(49:31):
book well meaning as it was, why do bad things
happen to good people? Planted in our minds helped plant
or not plant but fertilized the bs the belief system
that bad things don't happen in life, and Lord knows,
bad things happen to everybody, not just good people, not
just bad people. That's life. Life is a series of
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events that happen consequences to our own action. Sometimes they're
not even consequences, they just happen, and guess what it
is our choice on how we see those things. So
if you want to have a modicum of sanity, quit
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thinking that you're being punished when bad things happen. Okay,
quit thinking that that that the world is a horrible
place and I don't want to bring children into it.
That hurts my heart when I hear that. Or I
hate the holidays. I just wish we could go to
the other side. I get too sad about people that
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are that I loved in my life were dead, and
it's like, sorry, but people don't live forever. We will
always have people that we love who are on the
other side, and we will all go there. We come
from love, we go back into love. And if you
can just focus on the the dash they were here
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and how they helped you learn something and bring those
memories forth instead of bo It's okay to feel sad,
but don't marinate in it. Don't throw the baby holiday
out with the bathwater because you're sad. Be sad, feel
sad fully, and then feel happy because this is the
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season of joy. We just did the gratitude month. We're
in a new month. Now, let's let's choose right, our
birthright to be happy eighty eight percent of the time.
So you want some sanity. Don't buy into the random, chaotic,
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angry god that needs anger management classes. You can choose right.
You can choose your for your life. What do you
believe in?
Speaker 6 (51:57):
Does it feel better to believe in a punishing angry god.
Speaker 3 (52:00):
If it does, go for it. It didn't work for me,
But choosing to call the God of my understanding, my
ups man, universal power source who delivers every morning when
I pray and meditate. That works for me because I'm
constantly looking for things that are delightful, and when I
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look for those things law of attraction, they come to me.
And when I celebrate the good, more good comes. You know,
those checks that come from a lawsuit that you didn't
know you were in a class action suit, and it's
like money sometimes twenty. Sometimes I got two hundred or
five hundred or whatever. It is like, it's like I
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love that, and the more I love that, I'll find
money or all has. You know, it's what you choose
to put in front of you, folks, really, really, really,
it's as simple as that. It's not easy if you're
a worry wart or if you're a be down or
whatever it is. Sorry, Debbie, my bonus sister's name is Debbie.
(53:04):
I don't that's not you. But when you choose to
believe that everything's working out for you, the universe is
always conspired for you, you're gonna look for that. Hopefully
you're looking for evidence of that. And I know it
works for me because I'll never forget. I was having
a bad day, like a really bad day. I don't
(53:26):
know if it was about the almost three million I
lost in the divorce, probably that day, and I was
not yet. I was on San Vicente Boulevard and I
swear that I had a UPS truck in front of me,
and then if that wasn't good enough, I had one
come behind me, and then I had another two come
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beside me. So I was boxed in the universal power
source as evidenced by those trucks. And if you don't
believe that, I don't care because it happened and it's
true and I'm not exaggerating. And then if you don't
think it's true, there is going to be a UPS
cap at the front desk for me this week because
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I ran when I was coming out of the gym,
I ran into the UPS man who was putting the
packages in the what are they called anyways the boxes
that the package room, and so I told him. He
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was friendly, and so I said to him, you know,
I call my higher power God, my ups man, and
I told the universal power source. And he goes, oh,
that's great. He goes, I'm going to bring you a hat,
so you you know, for that. And I'm like, you know,
(54:54):
it's a what coop moment? What are the chances of that?
Pretty high in my life? Because I choose, I choose
to believe that. So honestly, if you're at a low
level of sanity and you're trying to maintain sanity that
is really just above zero, you have very little sanity
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at all because you start your mourning a little tough
love here, You start your morning doing this, which is
MS ms, meaningless scrolling, and you're gonna notice things that
are angry. You're gonna notice things in the news that
are shocking and negative because if it bleeds, it leads,
(55:36):
And those producers are out there to give you the
case of the four a's, because why anger, aggravation, afraid,
and annoyed is anxious? It are the four a's to
keep you.
Speaker 6 (55:53):
Tuned into the news that they.
Speaker 3 (55:56):
Chose to show you. And it will always be negative,
will always ignite in you. Except for that last little
bit in the news hour, which I stretched into a
whole show, you will always be not sane. The whole
point of the headlines is to lead you to say,
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what's wrong with peopaull or the world is going to
hell in a hand basket? Do you want to wake
up that way? You choose your level of sanity. That's
the happy eighty eight tip for the second half of
the show. So don't pull the animal. And what do
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you believe? Do you believe that you're one of a
kind wonderful which you are? Do you believe that you're loving,
loved and lovable and wrapped in a warm blanket of
worthiness you are? If you don't, and you think you're
just a random blip, or that you know you just
follow rules by a punishing entity or a Santa Claus.
(57:12):
Sanity maybe on your reach. I don't want sanity, to
be honest, I don't want sanity. I don't want to
live my life in common sense. That's boring for me.
I want to live with the expectation. I'm satisfied with
what is and I'm eager for what is coming. That's
(57:33):
Abraham Hicks law of attraction. If you want a free
way to feel good about your life, you start YouTube free.
You know, I listen every day when i'm driving because
it makes me feel good. That is my guiding principle
for maintaining sanity is I choose the best feeling thought,
(57:54):
moment by moment. It matters to me if I feel
good or bad, and I want to feel good eighty
eight percent at the time, and then I'm more than sane.
Maybe I'm a little insane in a positive way. I
do know that the guys at the station are laughing
(58:15):
because I'm the only host that doesn't need a guest
and I'm out of time. Egg yeain, and thank you
so much for joining. Thank you, desiree oh She has
a comment here. Thanks for joining me and playing too.
Me too all right, not the me too movement, but
me too in the choices. And I'm so glad and
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I hope all of y'all, whether you're listening an now
or later, make that choice. You have a birthrate to
happeny happiness. Choose it because life is way too short
to think that it sucks. It's all about balance. Peace
in peace, out world, peace through inner piece. Now go
and have the best day. Wow.
Speaker 12 (59:02):
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no scandal, and no K words. That's how I used
to say it. No Kardashian talk at all, although not
many people are talking about them, and I don't want
to encourage you to talk about anyone except yourself in
a positive way. All right, we can talk about others
(01:36):
in positively too. That's why we don't talk about the
headlines because guess what the headlines are here to give
you the four A syndrome, angry, anxious, aggravated, and a freed. Instead,
I want you to get the big A, which is amazing,
(01:57):
feeling about life, about yourself, life is way too short.
Time is a non renewable energy, and I want you
to feel good about yourself and about everyone else around
you eighty eight percent of the time. That's why I
have topics and guests get guests is Monday guests to
that end, and today is no exception. And it is Monday.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
Monday, which means it's mental health matters Mondays. And our
topic for the day is, let's see.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
It is maintaining our sanity, which is something that I
get asked a lot about pretty much from everyone. I
am your your cheerleader for more hope and happiness. I'm
on a happy eighty eight mission eight million more eighty
eight million, more happy people. The next day ears and
(03:01):
I continue to do that to balance out all the
bad news with good News because that's my brand. I
am very, very grateful, and we'll go right into breakfast,
which is, you know, taking a bite of my gratitude sandwich.
We do this every weekday morning on the show and
(03:23):
today because it is mental health Matters, mondays, I get
to have the studio to myself, with the exception of
one interview that I could be bringing you later. I
like to bring on people who can give us some
tips as well, and that'll be after the break But
I absolutely absolutely want you to be happy eighty eight
(03:44):
percent of the time. So that's why we start the
day going like this, which is what are you grateful
for that's outside of yourself. So take a minute. If
you're driving in the car, don't take your foot off
the yeah, but don't also type in to the chat
because I don't want you to be driving and texting
(04:06):
or writing or anything like that. But when you get
to a safe space, then I want you to participate
with me. And I see eyeballs rolling into the studio.
Welcome to the show. What am I grateful for this morning?
I am grateful for My turkey was super tender this year.
(04:27):
It is usually tender because I use this grape soda
recipe that I got from Lucy, my twenty eight year
beautiful manicurist who has a She's kind of like my
big sister, and she has this great recipe and if
(04:48):
you want a great manicure pedicure, go to Tiffany's Nails
on Main Street in Seal Beach. She gave me a
recipe that Gary Tease tender turkey, but this year was
especially turkey because the white meat was actually as tender
as the dark meat. And that's from my older daughter
(05:10):
who knows her turkey. So I'm grateful for the tender turkey.
I'm also grateful that my kids made it back safely
to San Francisco, and I love them so much and
it's always amazing to have them here. Those of you
are my social saw them and lots of eyeballs on
(05:32):
that particular post doc Ballance on Instagram and doctor mers
everywhere else. But the easiest way to find me is
just Google. Use my assistant Google to put on Asian Oprah,
which I'm grateful for too. My honorable moniker Asian Oprah
Michael Bernard Beck with my big brother. He was the
(05:54):
one who introduced me to Oprah as the Asian Oprah,
And I'm grateful that yesterday he texted and said today
or yesterday. December November thirtieth was the actual anniversary for
Agape International Spiritual Center where I am where I get
(06:15):
to teach my Chinese yoga meditation and be part of
that love community. So happy Ena Sui do a god
Thank you big brother Michael for answering the call to
start that thirty nine years ago. Ab anivers to you.
(06:39):
Happy anniversary, do love Mayagape where I get my positive
roots watered and my peace of mind, peace of mind fertilized.
All right, My last gratitude those of you who are
having breakfast with me thinking about my gratitude sandwich, My
last gratitude is four my bonus popap my bonus dad,
(07:03):
Graham Martin, who turned ninety six on Friday. And I
had a great time with my sisters and him at
the tep On Place Kobe if you want a good
tep On that's in Seal Beach. And we had a
great time celebrating ninety six incredible years. And yes, it
(07:25):
was a bittersweet holiday in the sense that we had
a great one with Pops and and my bonus mom
passed earlier this year, and so it was a you know,
they'd been married seventy four years. It would have been
seventy five a couple of weeks ago. So yeah, but holidays.
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You know, I tell you all the time that we
focus on the things that we remember people home. We
don't remember them in their last hour before they passed
on to the other side. We don't remember them in
their past year of sickness, but we remember them in
the wholeness of who they are and continue to be
(08:11):
on the other side. And let's go to the bottom
of the bun. Top of the bun is things that
we're grateful for outside of ourselves. Thank you for the finger.
Someone on the chat, not on the chat but streaming
just gave me a finger. This one the other one
for whatever I just said that tickled their thumb. The
(08:32):
bottom of the bun is weight training. Y'all. I want
you to approve of yourself because, frankly, my dear, if
you can't approve of yourself, how the fork do you
expect anyone else to approve of you? And it's Desiree Mulligan.
(08:52):
Welcome to the show. I've seen you playing on my
Facebook and I'm glad to have you here this morning.
I recall her knitting and still have one of her pieces.
All that's for mom, Dolores Martin, and yes, and she's
on the other side. Also, my Chinese mom passed as well,
six weeks after Dolores did this earlier this year, so
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it's been a year. And then they're both out of
discomfort and pain, which I am so grateful for, and
they're loving us real strong from the other side, because
there is we didn't lose them, you know, they're just
out of their body, but their love and and their
spirit lives on and we all come from love and
(09:38):
we all go back into love. So I'm looking forward
to connecting with them then, but we can connect with
them now. I can feel their love right now. Continue
to work me. This my seven hundred and ninth working
consecutive week on the air, and I'm so so so grateful.
That would be my bottom of the bunt is what
(10:02):
do you like about yourself today? Is mental health? Matters? Mondays.
The foundation mybs my belief system is the foundation of
good mental health is the ability to love yourself, care
for yourself, soothe yourself, not be so hard on yourself.
Not be your worst enemy, but be your best friend.
(10:24):
Not to have perfectionistic ideals about oneself. I'm eighty eight
percent fabulous, and then twelve percent of the time I
step at it because I'm human and I've stopped wanting
to become perfect, and that's such a relief. So, however,
I want everyone to focus on what they are good at.
(10:47):
Everybody's one of a kind, wonderful. We're all special and
unique in our own way, but every one of the
eight billion of us are special and unique in our
own way, and I kind of want it us to
get away from that star struck kind of you know,
spending more time talking or paying attention to celebs. Nothing
(11:12):
against them, but if you notice, all the celebs that
have been on my show have had taken their limelight
and focused it on temporary areas of darkness, which is
what I think, if you are in the public eye,
something you should be doing, not shitting on you. I
kind of did. But that's why I want us to
(11:35):
really talk about ourselves the same way we talk about
others if we're talking well, and not talk about others
in a negative way as well as ourselves. Eighty eight
percent of the time, so I appreciate my ability to
keep on going. They said this show wouldn't last more
(11:58):
than a year because I don't talk about the headlines
or politics or anything negative unless there's a solution. And
thirteen point seven years later, I'm still going and going.
I didn't check the numbers this morning. I check them
once a week only, but the last time I checked,
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this YouTube TV channel had four point two over four
point two million impressions. That means there's positive people out there,
and we're anchoring the side that is happy. Eighty eight
percent of the time we choose to be happy. We
make a conscious decision to claim our birthright to happiness.
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And I am so so appreciative of my ability to
keep doing that and practice what I teach most of
the time. Even though the name of the show is
take my advice, I'm not using it, but all right,
that is the whole breakfast. Taking a bite of my gratitude, Sam,
please join me Every weekday morning I'm here live on
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my YouTube TV channel, and then a week later I
go to my NBC news radio channel a CASEAA at
eight am drivetime. I'm back on my favorite slot. So
if you know anybody in the ie especially, you get
the strongest signal on fifty six and that goes straight
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through to iHeartRadio, Spotify and all of the other great platforms.
All right, that's it for breakfast. I promise if you
have breakfast with me every weekday morning, you will sandwich
your day in the most positive way. Thanks for joining
me for breakfast. All right, what are we talking about today?
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It's rainy days and mondays. Woop, wrong song, no rain today,
beautiful day today, it's a little let's see, it's a
little I don't know if that's marine layer, but I
love it when it gets super looks like you got
out of the shower steam. I call it stepping into heaven.
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But it is a beautiful day in the neighborhood here
in Long Beach, California. I get to live. I'm really grateful.
I get to live looking overlooking the ocean of abundance,
and wherever you are, hopefully you will look out and
see what is good. And the topic today is where's
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my nerd is? The topic today is at a not
fuss with my hair? That's eighty eight percent this morning.
The topic today is how do we maintain our sanity?
Some of you may be saying I don't have sanity
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in the first place. I'm just going to assume that
at one point in your life you felt sane. And
you know, as I like to do, look up definitions.
Ask my assistant Google, what is the definition of insanity
or sorry, sanity? We all know what the definition of insanity,
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right is? In the twelve step program, it's going to
see doing something. What is it doing something the same
and expecting different results? I call it insanity going to
the tractor for milk, So that is going to people
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who are not capable of giving you love, and you
keep going and keep trying to get love from a
tractor or milk from a tractor. I think in another
twelve step program there's a saying don't go to the
hardware store for break However, hardware stores are selling. There's
one My best friend Emory told me there's peach cobbler
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at a certain hardware store. So we can't say that.
So my version is don't go to the tractor for milk.
Cows give milk, but not tractors. And yet, especially if
you're one of the seven out of ten of us,
which I am, who grew up with childhood trauma. We
do have a habit, a non useful habit, to go
to the tractor for milk, and so that's the opposite
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of sanity. But what is the definition of sanity. Let
me pull it up here so you know that I'm
not lying to you. Sanity is reasonable and sensible behavior
or thinking. Oops, there we go, the ability to think
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and behave in a way considered to be normal and rational. Yes,
So the first thing that comes to mind is there
is no such thing as sanity because common sense is
uncommon and logical thinking is illogical. I'm an organizational psychologist
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by training. My PhD is in organization psychology, so I
get to work with companies and the number one thing
that I do when I do executive coaching is sit
down with the C suite or the director or VP.
And inevitably, one of the comments that comes up is,
I don't understand. This isn't Rocket science, unless when I
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worked did some consulting at Rockwell, but this isn't you know,
Why don't people just follow simple instructions? Why is it
so difficult to do what you need to do without
all this other stuff and jealousy and favoritism and conflict
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and miscommunication and and ego. Why why can't we just
do the work. And my response always is, uh, well,
you know, there is one organization where you can work
where that you know, there is no favoritism, there is
no you know, common sense prevails, logical thinking prevails. And
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and they will say, please tell me, I'll go work there,
and I'll say the cemetery where there are no people.
Speaker 5 (18:35):
There are no problems, and there are no uh you know,
there's no insanity.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
It's all common sense. And then they laugh and they
get the point. So that is my comment for sanity,
when we say how do we maintain our sanity? Let's
not have the expectation that life is always sane. There's
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a certain level of insanity that is normal in your life. Right.
You compliment someone and they take it the wrong way
and they see it as an insult, or they are
suspicious that you want something and you just wanted to
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give them a compliment, or you mean, well, your intentions
are good, you think that someone would want to know
that that outfit doesn't look good on them. But then
they bite you back and say, how dare you? You
look like crap or whatever it is, or you shouldn't
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be saying that. Look at yourself or you know, all
these ways in which we interact with people, and it's
it's like, I don't understand. That's not common sense people.
If people just use their common sense, we be okay.
But what is common sense? We've got so many ways
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of defining respect, so many ways of defining common sense,
so many ways. You know, people go, uh, if we
just all live by the Golden rule, it would be fine.
We would have world peace. No, you wouldn't, because the
Golden Rule says do unto others as you would have
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done unto you. But there are people that don't like
being hugged, or don't like being complimented, or don't like
you patting them on the back. They don't like that.
Whatever the way they grew up, defining respect is not
the same as yours. And you can never understand fully
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how other people feel about where they are because you
didn't have their experiences, you didn't have their upbringing. I'm
reminded of if you haven't watched Frontline PBS special called
brown Eye, Blue Eyes or a Class Divide It, it's
called it Class Divideed. It's an excellent portrayal of one
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of my past guests, Brilliant. Her name is Jane Elliott,
and she was the elementary school teacher who after doctor
King was shot, she decided to teach her students what
it's like to have prejudice and discrimination. Little town in Iowa,
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no one looked different, so she used callers to distinguish
people as up or down. And what unfolded was incredibly
horrific and incredibly magnificent in the way that it showed
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you that prejudice and discrimination are taught, and we don't.
We don't. We're not born with that skill. We're not
born with that trait. And so really good holiday watching
with your family, especially if we have children. Jane Elliott's
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Frontline Divided Class Divided on Frontline PPS. Actually you can
watch it for free on YouTube now and I have
you know, I had my kids watch it. I wish
that it was required in all schools. If you're a
parent and active in your school, you might want to
look into that because it's a it's a great way
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to balance out what's going on now, uh and and
do something that we actually have some control over. I
don't like talking about politics because for the most part,
after you voted. We can't change things right. We voted
as we voted, and now you can join organizations that
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are doing something proactive. That is where I'd like you
to spend your energy. But I don't argue on the
show for either side because it does not change anything
except maybe the way we feel about that other person.
So where was I I was talking about sanity. I'm
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talking about your expectations around sanity. So if you can allow,
for some measure, twelve percent of.
Speaker 6 (23:37):
The time things when you mean well and.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
The impact is not well and people get pissed off
at you or get in touch with their pissoffedness, is
now I say it, thank you, big brother Michael Bernard
bick with. Then don't you get pissoffedness too? Right? Tick
not han beautiful saying if if someone comes and set
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your house on fire, resist the urge to chase after
them and set their house on fire. Instead, turn around
and put out your own fire. So that's my number
one tip today for how to maintain sanity is don't
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poke the animal. Don't talk to someone about anything that
you know they disagree with you. On another way to
say it is I love don't poke the animals is
one of my favorite things. Don't go there, don't pick
up the rope. Right, You can't have a tug of
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war if you're not pulling against someone or pushing against someone.
That's how you maintaintain sanity. Is y'all are not stupid? Okay,
y'all know, especially during the whole someone is gonna push
your button, then don't have your button out on the
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outside of your clothes. Don't put your goat out there
for them to get your goat. It is a simple
not easy. I have to say that sometimes I you know,
I'm tempted to go there with someone, especially when they're
related to me, and I want the best for them.
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I want them to be happy, and I see so
clearly how they are making themselves unhappy, and I gotta
say something. No, I don't got to say something. Uh,
this will bring some sanity to you that you have
not had. I guarantee it if you keep your mouth shut,
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And that's one way to do it. Take a swig
of something good for you, not alcohol, not you know
that three thousand drink callery drink. Take a drink. I
know that's my one coffee for the day, and I
do like creamer. I like coffee with my creamer, but
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it's only one. But if you can not engage with
someone that you know is not going to agree with you,
if you don't go back there, if you don't look
to them for approval, if you don't look to them
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for a reaction, I've learned there are some people that
will do they don't. They'll never take my side. Why,
I don't know, and it's okay. They just feel like
they're the ones that to be my devil's advocate. So
when I'm not feeling good, or if I have had
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an experience where I feel put again or what's that expression,
somebody did something to me, and that's my biggest button,
Like if I did something to you, I deserve you
coming at me, but I have if I've done nothing
to you, I don't even know who you are. Social media,
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every once in a while, get that comment on YouTube
and it's like, where is this coming from? I didn't
ask you for feedback. I don't even know you. But
you know what, if I do what I do and
I love what I do, I'm putting myself out there
and people, you know, I'm gonna have eighty eight percent
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lovers and twelve percent haters. That is just the way
it is, and so it's my job not to shut
the twelve percent down. Oh my gosh. If you're active
on social media, this message is for you. If you're
going to post something out there, do not engage with
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anyone who disagrees with you. They have their right to
freedom of speech. You put it out there. But if
they disagree with you, I challenge you, and I guarantee you,
if you want to maintain your sanity, do not argue
with them. Oh but they need to know what the
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truth is. They need to know the better way to
look at this. They need to know that everybody has
a right to my opinion bullshit talking. No one has
the right to your opinion unless they're paying you for it.
That's how I stay good is that I do not
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give feedback most of the time, at least eighty eight
percent of the time, working towards ninety eight percent of
the time. And that's how I maintain my sanity. You
want my advice, you got to pay for it. That way,
I'm not randomly giving what I think on a random
basis or a frequent basis. I promise that rule, right
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there will give you more sanity. Okay, So those of
you who don't believe me, just give it a try
this week one week. That's your hashtag Happy eighty eight challenge,
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And if you do it, use that hashtag on your
post and say, this is meeting the challenge, this is
my belief system, this is my BS. What do you think?
And then don't respond if someone disagrees. Instead, if you
have to put something, please put and you can write
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this down. That's an interesting way of looking for it.
That's an interesting way of looking at it. Hmmm. The
other response is let me think about that. That's it.
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Don't say I'll be getting back to you. Just say
let me think about that, or I didn't think of that,
or even if you haven't thought of that, make them
feel special and say let me think about that. That's
an interesting point of view. Okay. So if you can
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do that, that's your happy eighta challenge. And I promise
you that if you do that, you will have at
least stayed your level of sanity the same if not
gone up a bit. If you respond and you started
it because you posted it, I guarantee you your sanity
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will be in jeopardy. You'll come down a few points. Okay,
a little bit of tough love there too. All Right,
it's time to take a quick break for news, weather, traffic,
and a word from our sponsor, and then we'll be
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(31:23):
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When we come back, the first thing I'm gonna do, though,
is give you some holiday tips with a special guest.
(31:46):
She came back this year. She's a veteran TV host.
Name is Christine Palura. She's a lifestyle producer currently seen
on American Trends and Lifestyle. She's best known for her
fifteen year run on Atlanta and Company, where she spotlighted
national trends, celebrity guests, and everyday solutions for busy families.
(32:08):
Christine's also hosted shows on HGTV and Turn herself and
as a mom of too. She brings a relatable voice
to the modern holiday hustle. That's when we come back
in two and two piece in peace Out and you'll
hear us laugh it up and that's my favorite sound
in life. So please do enjoy her mini interview when
(32:31):
we come back, and then we'll come back and talk
more about maintaining sanity, especially during the holidays. We'll be
right back.
Speaker 7 (32:57):
Take Back your Life with Doctor Maurica Pe, Take Back
your Life with Doctor Maurice.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
Fey, and we're back. You're tuned in to take my advice,
I'm not using it. Get balanced with Doctor Marris of
the Morning Show and yep, yep, yep. The countdown to
the holidays is on and if you're still trying to
wrap up your gift list or get your home holiday ready,
you're definitely not alone. Here to help us tackle the
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season with style, his TV host and lifestyle expert Christine Polara.
She's back and a former HGTV host and now anchors
the nationally syndicated show American Trends and Lifestyle. Please welcome
back to my studio, Christy Pla. Oh so good to
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see you again.
Speaker 8 (34:07):
Right to see you. Can you believe that it is
the holidays? Thanksgiving?
Speaker 7 (34:11):
Like?
Speaker 8 (34:11):
Where did the year go.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
It went fast, It went very fast, and we must
be having a good time, right.
Speaker 8 (34:20):
I like that attitude.
Speaker 3 (34:22):
That's what I get paid for. I've just gotten what
is a good way, Christine, to get ready for the holidays.
Speaker 9 (34:28):
Okay, so I am a reformed procrastinator. Took me many,
many years to get there. So I have learned that
shopping on Christmas Eve is fun if you want to,
not so fun if you have to. So I have
started in November. I get my notesap on my phone.
I start making my list, ticking it off one by one.
(34:49):
Because if you have to do something on Christmas Eve,
like you're not going to get a gift that actually
is maybe the right gift, and so then it feels.
Speaker 8 (34:57):
Like you're wasting money. So be intentional.
Speaker 9 (34:59):
Start early so you can really be thoughtful and make
those gifts extra special.
Speaker 8 (35:05):
That's what I say.
Speaker 3 (35:06):
That sounds good, you know, Christine, I've always wanted to
be a procrastinator, but I never got around to it.
But for you, there was a joke. Punch.
Speaker 8 (35:15):
Oh sorry, I'm.
Speaker 3 (35:19):
It's been a long morning early. It's always good. That
was good. Do you have a suggestion to elevate the
holiday season?
Speaker 8 (35:26):
I'm going to use that one.
Speaker 9 (35:27):
Yes, I do, and you're gonna love it, okay, because
it brings back nostalgia. How about right here, lind Or,
So simple, so special. Melt into those holiday moments with
family and friends with lind Or. Sharing bliss is really
as simple as getting down Grandma's beautiful candy bowl and
letting your guests discover the magic insight every truffle, luxurious
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lind Or truffles.
Speaker 8 (35:52):
We know them, we love them. They add that festive.
Speaker 9 (35:54):
Touch, that beautiful holiday packaging, not to mention just their
chocolatey goodness. So you really feel so special, like the
holidays are here and what I love is for the
first time ever, they're in the Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade.
It's this master Chocolate tear ballroom float. How cute is that?
So don't miss the magic giving Get some for your
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table and make sure you tune in to the parade.
Speaker 8 (36:19):
To see their float.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
I understand when you unwrap it, all the calories go away.
Speaker 8 (36:23):
To that's what I heard that too.
Speaker 3 (36:25):
Yeah, please share a secret for looking great all the time,
which you do.
Speaker 9 (36:32):
Okay, it's fifty six, it's hard, let me tell you.
But years ago my teenagers. Of course, they my teenage girls.
They had me discover cosrx or they discovered it. So
you might have heard their snail musin their runway approved
peptide formula. Well now they are totally helping us out
with tired eyes. It's the peptide collagen hydrogel eye patches.
Speaker 8 (36:55):
There I was at six am, sorry about that.
Speaker 3 (36:58):
It works.
Speaker 9 (37:00):
It's low molecular collagen niacinemai caffeine. That little natural pink
comes from vitamin B twelve. It lifts, it tightens and
deep puffed my eyes. Listen, before your holiday party use
them or after the holiday party as a reset. They
were used at Faris Ferris Paris Fashion Week, So if
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those runway models like them, then we like them as well.
I love this product. I give it as gifts. You
get it on Amazon.
Speaker 3 (37:31):
How about that it's great. How about a gift to
spark creativity.
Speaker 9 (37:37):
You seem like you're very creative, doctor Marsa, and I
think that you would like this or the musician in
your life. Well, it is the aeroband pocket drum two max.
It lets you play anytime anywhere you walk around, drumming
to yourself and guess what nobody else is bothered.
Speaker 8 (37:55):
Isn't that amazing?
Speaker 9 (37:56):
The sound goes through your headphones or speakers, so you
can be indoors. You could be in a public library,
for heaven's sakes, your dorm room. It's going to be
quiet all around you. So it's designed for portability on
the go. So the pedals, the drumsticks, the adapter, they're
very lightweight. You can pack them up. It's so easy,
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and apparently it's very responsive for the drummer. I'm not
a drummer, but you know, just having that instantaneous sound,
there's no delay. It's a very satisfying and thoughtful gift.
And they're offering twenty five percent off. All you have
to do is go to Amazon or aeroband dot net
use the code b D beat five. That's BD beat
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five for more.
Speaker 3 (38:42):
Well, that's definitely good for those of us who live
by the beat of a different drummer.
Speaker 8 (38:49):
Now that one I thought excellent.
Speaker 3 (38:52):
That was good, But you can use that too. Just
make sure you give me credit.
Speaker 8 (38:57):
I will always always.
Speaker 3 (39:00):
There's the creativity. Any I drank my creative juice this morning?
Final tips Christy Ver holiday must have you'd recommend?
Speaker 9 (39:12):
Okay, I think you are going to love this because
my final tip is it doesn't cost anything. My teenage girls,
we run in different you know, we're always crossing each other.
So I'm going to be very intentional with my time.
So I say, I broke out an old fashioned notepad
and made coupon cards like I used to when I
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was little.
Speaker 8 (39:33):
This entitles you to game night with mom and dad.
This gets you.
Speaker 9 (39:38):
Your favorite you know pasta at that Italian restaurant you love.
You know, it's all about just looking each other in
the eye and disconnecting. Really, connection is what the holidays
are all about. And so you can't put a price
tag on that.
Speaker 3 (39:54):
I love that. That's the best one for me. I
still have one for a massage that I think I
got when my kids were four and they're now twenty eight.
So I think I'm gonna redeem that is.
Speaker 8 (40:07):
The place still in business. You need to find out.
Speaker 3 (40:10):
No, no, no, it was a personal massage.
Speaker 8 (40:12):
Oh oh okay, yeah, I do that.
Speaker 3 (40:15):
From San Francisco. So I think I'm gonna redeem it.
Speaker 8 (40:17):
You need to self care.
Speaker 3 (40:19):
That's important too, absolutely, And I love the looking right
in the eye. That's what the season is all about. Love, connection,
where can we go for more information?
Speaker 9 (40:30):
Do a deeper dive on all of these great products
at tips on tv dot com. That's tips on tv
dot com. You can learn more, order, don't forget about
that coupon code for your drums, and most importantly, thank
you for having me.
Speaker 8 (40:43):
Have the best holiday.
Speaker 3 (40:45):
You have the best holiday ever. May your parents be
sweet and your turkey be tender. Always great to see you, Christine.
Speaker 10 (40:53):
You have the best day ever.
Speaker 7 (41:12):
Take back your line with doctor Mauricepe.
Speaker 3 (41:18):
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(41:40):
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at nine am Pacific time, and then go a week
(42:01):
later to eight am on my NBC News radio channel,
which then goes to IR radio, Spotify, and all the
major platforms. So yes, I am everywhere, and I'm so
glad that you've been with me seven hundred and nine
consecutive weeks. For those of you don't do math anymore
like me, we use calculators or chet GPT. That is
(42:25):
over thirteen and a half years, So I'm really glad
I'm still here. And I forgot to show you. This
is a beautiful holiday.
Speaker 11 (42:36):
Now.
Speaker 3 (42:36):
I got all my reindeers on these are This was
made in elementary school by my daughter class. The teacher
gave this to me for all the volunteering I did,
so yeah, I'm really grateful that I had a chance
to do that. If you're a mom, you know I
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always tell my mom's it's great to work. I know
you love your career and I love you what you
do for six years if you can try to be
a full time mom, don't worry about your career. It
will be there and you're going to do great. But
that first six years, it's the joy for yourself. It's
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not even I mean it's for the kid, but you
know me, I'm God or ups Man and then self
and then others. So the for yourself, the joy of
the feeling you get when you volunteering classes is tremendous,
and then you get presents too. All right, let's see,
(43:44):
it's Monday. For those of you who don't really know
what day it is, you have had a little too
much turkey maybe and are still somewhat in that case.
I think when I was like marinating the turkey, you know,
I had to put my hands on that tell you
a lot. I honestly my hands felt like they were faultously.
(44:06):
But it's true that whatever that trick, whatever it is.
All right, we're talking about maintaining your sanity. How do
you maintain your sanity, especially during the holidays. Well, those
of you weren't here in the first half, go back
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and review that, because I think I hit on something
that will definitely keep your sanity at the same level,
if not higher, and that is, don't poke the animal.
Don't try to convince someone who disagrees with you. Let
go of the rope, don't argue if you're posting, don't
(44:50):
try to convince someone who isn't agreeing with you. What
what you think? Don't say what you think unless you're
being paid for. That's my extreme. And then yeah, that's interesting.
I haven't thought about that. And that also is going
to lead our country back into the United States. So
(45:15):
one person at a time, one interaction at a time,
that's what I do, all right. So that's one thing
I'm maintaining sanity. What's another thing that will help you
maintain your sanity? I think you know that order thing.
Let's go through that a little. So I'm not religious,
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those of you who know I'm spiritual.
Speaker 11 (45:37):
I have.
Speaker 3 (45:39):
A beliefs. I choose to believe in a friendly universe.
Why because it feels better than believing that the universe
is random and chaotic and and there isn't something behind
the beauty that's out there. I don't know. Randomness in
chaos does not bring a beautiful ocean life that's under
(46:05):
the sea, or the fact that above the sea, every
single grain of sand is different, every single drop of
water is different, every single butterfly is different, every single
one of us are different. There's got to be something
like an energy, a positive energy that created that. So
I choose to believe in a friendly universe. And when
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I choose to believe that the universe is conspiring for
me and not against me, then my sanity. When bad
things happen to me, I am not rocked off my
boat or my life. And that.
Speaker 6 (46:47):
It is a real life changing.
Speaker 3 (46:52):
Switch, because sixteen and a half, almost seventeen years ago,
I was not a happy camper eighty eight percent of
the time. I grew up with the school of snow
White and Cinderella, and I thought, you know, if I
went to the right school, if I got the great job,
if I had the money, if I had the status,
(47:13):
if I had the significant other, if I had children,
I should be happy. Right. I should should, should have should,
and I shouldn't. It was it was a place, a
very dark place, because I didn't believe in a friendly universe.
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I believed that I was being punished. I believed that
the messages I got when I was young that I
was good for nothing, that I was a horrible daughter,
that I was fat, ugly and clumsy. And then, you know,
as very common, if you have childhood trauma like that,
you pick mates who continue that trauma and continue to
(47:55):
validate your bs, your own bs that you're you're not worthy,
and that is a horrible way to live. So, speaking
of which, that's why I wrote this book, This book
eight Ways to Happiness from wherever you are. You get
a free audiobook book copy today for all Mondays. Just
go to my website that I will bring up again
(48:19):
and just put your email address and I give you
a free that's your Asian Oprah giveaway, a free copy
of that for you because I want you to have
it and it is my Asian Oprah giveaway for the day.
So if you grow up like that, it would make
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sense for you to say the universe is not friendly.
And then even if you had a great childhood, you
may say the universe is not a friendly pace. Look, otherwise,
there wouldn't be starvation going on, there wouldn't be war
going on, there wouldn't be and that's not on anybody else.
But are human decisions, Okay, we have free will, and
(49:04):
so sometimes we do things like I said, that are illogical,
not common sense twelve percent of the time. And we
have humans interacting with humans and it's not always pretty.
So you can either believe that we are in a
hostile world and life sucks because bad things happen. That
(49:31):
book well meaning as it was, why do bad things
happen to good people? Planted in our minds helped plant
or not plant but fertilized the bs the belief system
that bad things don't happen in life, and Lord knows,
bad things happen to everybody, not just good people, not
just bad people. That's life. Life is a series of
(49:55):
events that happen consequences to our own action. Sometimes they're
not even consequences, they just happen, and guess what it
is our choice on how we see those things. So
if you want to have a modicum of sanity, quit
(50:16):
thinking that you're being punished when bad things happen. Okay,
quit thinking that that that the world is a horrible
place and I don't want to bring children into it.
That hurts my heart when I hear that. Or I
hate the holidays. I just wish we could go to
the other side. I get too sad about people that
(50:38):
are that I loved in my life were dead, and
it's like, sorry, but people don't live forever. We will
always have people that we love who are on the
other side, and we will all go there. We come
from love, we go back into love. And if you
can just focus on the the dash they were here
(50:58):
and how they helped you learn something and bring those
memories forth instead of bo It's okay to feel sad,
but don't marinate in it. Don't throw the baby holiday
out with the bathwater because you're sad. Be sad, feel
sad fully, and then feel happy because this is the
(51:21):
season of joy. We just did the gratitude month. We're
in a new month. Now, let's let's choose right, our
birthright to be happy eighty eight percent of the time.
So you want some sanity. Don't buy into the random, chaotic,
(51:44):
angry god that needs anger management classes. You can choose right.
You can choose your for your life. What do you
believe in?
Speaker 6 (51:57):
Does it feel better to believe in a punishing angry god.
Speaker 3 (52:00):
If it does, go for it. It didn't work for me,
But choosing to call the God of my understanding, my
ups man, universal power source who delivers every morning when
I pray and meditate. That works for me because I'm
constantly looking for things that are delightful, and when I
(52:22):
look for those things law of attraction, they come to me.
And when I celebrate the good, more good comes. You know,
those checks that come from a lawsuit that you didn't
know you were in a class action suit, and it's
like money sometimes twenty. Sometimes I got two hundred or
five hundred or whatever. It is like, it's like I
(52:44):
love that, and the more I love that, I'll find
money or all has. You know, it's what you choose
to put in front of you, folks, really, really, really,
it's as simple as that. It's not easy if you're
a worry wart or if you're a be down or
whatever it is. Sorry, Debbie, my bonus sister's name is Debbie.
(53:04):
I don't that's not you. But when you choose to
believe that everything's working out for you, the universe is
always conspired for you, you're gonna look for that. Hopefully
you're looking for evidence of that. And I know it
works for me because I'll never forget. I was having
a bad day, like a really bad day. I don't
(53:26):
know if it was about the almost three million I
lost in the divorce, probably that day, and I was
not yet. I was on San Vicente Boulevard and I
swear that I had a UPS truck in front of me,
and then if that wasn't good enough, I had one
come behind me, and then I had another two come
(53:48):
beside me. So I was boxed in the universal power
source as evidenced by those trucks. And if you don't
believe that, I don't care because it happened and it's
true and I'm not exaggerating. And then if you don't
think it's true, there is going to be a UPS
cap at the front desk for me this week because
(54:11):
I ran when I was coming out of the gym,
I ran into the UPS man who was putting the
packages in the what are they called anyways the boxes
that the package room, and so I told him. He
(54:32):
was friendly, and so I said to him, you know,
I call my higher power God, my ups man, and
I told the universal power source. And he goes, oh,
that's great. He goes, I'm going to bring you a hat,
so you you know, for that. And I'm like, you know,
(54:54):
it's a what coop moment? What are the chances of that?
Pretty high in my life? Because I choose, I choose
to believe that. So honestly, if you're at a low
level of sanity and you're trying to maintain sanity that
is really just above zero, you have very little sanity
(55:14):
at all because you start your mourning a little tough
love here, You start your morning doing this, which is
MS ms, meaningless scrolling, and you're gonna notice things that
are angry. You're gonna notice things in the news that
are shocking and negative because if it bleeds, it leads,
(55:36):
And those producers are out there to give you the
case of the four a's, because why anger, aggravation, afraid,
and annoyed is anxious? It are the four a's to
keep you.
Speaker 6 (55:53):
Tuned into the news that they.
Speaker 3 (55:56):
Chose to show you. And it will always be negative,
will always ignite in you. Except for that last little
bit in the news hour, which I stretched into a
whole show, you will always be not sane. The whole
point of the headlines is to lead you to say,
(56:18):
what's wrong with peopaull or the world is going to
hell in a hand basket? Do you want to wake
up that way? You choose your level of sanity. That's
the happy eighty eight tip for the second half of
the show. So don't pull the animal. And what do
(56:43):
you believe? Do you believe that you're one of a
kind wonderful which you are? Do you believe that you're loving,
loved and lovable and wrapped in a warm blanket of
worthiness you are? If you don't, and you think you're
just a random blip, or that you know you just
follow rules by a punishing entity or a Santa Claus.
(57:12):
Sanity maybe on your reach. I don't want sanity, to
be honest, I don't want sanity. I don't want to
live my life in common sense. That's boring for me.
I want to live with the expectation. I'm satisfied with
what is and I'm eager for what is coming. That's
(57:33):
Abraham Hicks law of attraction. If you want a free
way to feel good about your life, you start YouTube free.
You know, I listen every day when i'm driving because
it makes me feel good. That is my guiding principle
for maintaining sanity is I choose the best feeling thought,
(57:54):
moment by moment. It matters to me if I feel
good or bad, and I want to feel good eighty
eight percent at the time, and then I'm more than sane.
Maybe I'm a little insane in a positive way. I
do know that the guys at the station are laughing
(58:15):
because I'm the only host that doesn't need a guest
and I'm out of time. Egg yeain, and thank you
so much for joining. Thank you, desiree oh She has
a comment here. Thanks for joining me and playing too.
Me too all right, not the me too movement, but
me too in the choices. And I'm so glad and
(58:38):
I hope all of y'all, whether you're listening an now
or later, make that choice. You have a birthrate to
happeny happiness. Choose it because life is way too short
to think that it sucks. It's all about balance. Peace
in peace, out world, peace through inner piece. Now go
and have the best day. Wow.
Speaker 12 (59:02):
Ever, I will see you tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (59:18):
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Speaker 11 (59:26):
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of God in truth instead of by uninformed and misinformed people.
Tune in on Sundays at one pm for the truth.
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