KCAA: Get Balanced with Dr. Marissa (Tue, 9 Dec, 2025)

KCAA: Get Balanced with Dr. Marissa on Tue, 9 Dec, 2025

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The time of day.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
Subvolved at exhausting amster wheel and into balanced living with
Doctor Marissa from u JU. Doctor Marisa, also known as
the Asian Oprah. Her mission to be a beneficial presence
on the planet, her purpose to be your personal advocate,
to live, lap love, learn her life motto, don't die wondering,

(00:27):
Take back your life with Doctor Maurissa Pey.

Speaker 3 (00:34):
And welcome. I'm you're tuned in to take my advice.
I'm not using a GIP Balance with Doctor Marissa. Good
Morning show here on CACAA, NBC News, CNBC News and
NBC Sports Radio station AM ten fifty FM one oh
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(00:56):
in Audible, Amazon Music, TLB, Rumble Pages, a streaker, speaker
and more. It is home to the Asian Oprah Number
one talk in the ie. Thank you very much, and
I am so delighted that you're here for my one
seven hundred and nine consecutive weeks on the air on
camera as well as let's see what's going on here?

(01:21):
As well as how many how many years have we
been here? Let's see that's thirteen almost a little over
thirteen and a half years. This is show number one thousand,
five hundred and twenty six, but who's counting. So glad
that you're here. I do not talk about the headlines,

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so if you're looking for them, go somewhere else. There's
plenty of places that will give you the headlines and
a case of the four a's anxious, afraid, angry, and aggravated.
I don't want that. I don't want the headlines. I
want your heartlines. And I'm so glad that I have
been able to go past that one year mark that

(02:05):
people predicted, and I bring you not only great topics
and guests and co hosts. I have Grammy winners on
the show and they are here this morning, the one
that actually made it today. But I'm going to bring

(02:25):
our second guest back here for sure, with David. I
feel so bad. We were trying scrambling to the last
minute to get her on, but I did bring you
David Longoria. I met him on the red carpet as
he was one of the musicians inducted into the American
Music Entertainment Hall of Fame. And I don't think I've

(02:46):
ever laughed as much as trying to interview someone like David.
You're going to get a sense of that today, I'm sure.
He is an award winning producer, composer, trumpetist, and multi
genre artist known for blending pop, jazz, orchestra, Latin and
dance influences into hit records and internationally acclaimed performances. In

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twenty twenty five, he earned a Grammy Award just this
last year or just this year, solidifying his status as
what of today's most versatile and innovative producers. Over his career,
he's collaborated with a wide range of artists across pop,
R and B DM, jazz, and world music, earning multiple

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Billboard chartings and performing on iconic stages worldwide. And he
will be bringing his friend Carol Connors to us at
another show. She's known for so many things, one of
them being done da Da d Da Da Dun dun

(03:52):
done the theme song too rocky, And she dated someone
that you may know, oh uh, Priscilla Presley actually married him,
but she was like a partner for a little bit.
So Carol Connors will be coming back with us at

(04:14):
some point. We're gonna make it happen very soon. I
apologized we were not able to get her on today,
But we do have the one and only David Longoria. Well, David,

(04:35):
the voice of reason. I love it. That is such
a lower third. Is there any way we can cut
out some of that black behind you and bring your
face up closer?

Speaker 4 (04:47):
Ah?

Speaker 5 (04:48):
Okay, maybe somewhere between.

Speaker 3 (04:53):
David David, David. You know, I wanted to put Humanitarian
because I loved I was so impressed by your song
that you did perform and your son was in it,
and it just touched my heart, and I said, I
want to have him on the show. Then came out,

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was on the red carpet with my co host on
Straight Talk, Ricky Rebel, who was also inducted, and there
you are, and I said, I wanted you on the show,
and here we are. So some things do come true.

Speaker 4 (05:28):
Absolutely, Well, it's great to be here with you. It's
great to be anywhere at this time of the morning.
But I'm happy to be here.

Speaker 3 (05:36):
That's fabulous. And I start every show. I didn't warn
you about this because I like things to be fresh.
Since we are live, we have breakfast together.

Speaker 5 (05:47):
Oh lord, I'm so hungry.

Speaker 3 (05:50):
Well, hopefully taking a bite of my gratitude sandwich will
fill you up. Top of the butt is things that
we look around outside of ourselves that we're grateful for.
Will do a couple because there's lots to talk about today.
Bottom of the butt is we're going to model it
for all who are listening now or later, watching now
ur later. Bottom of the butt is gratitude turned inwards.

(06:13):
I want us to all go to sleep not thinking
about what I didn't get done or who done me wrong,
but really affirming what we like about ourselves. Because frankly,
my dear, if you can't approve of yourself, how the
fork do you expect anybody else to? And that's a reminder, David,

(06:34):
I don't know if I warned you. I am under
FCC regulations, so we cannot use any juicy words.

Speaker 5 (06:42):
I don't even know any ah.

Speaker 3 (06:47):
Bullshitaki. So top of the butt, I'll start with. I
am so grateful for getting to meet the people that
I do on the red carpet, very fun people. I
love my work. I love getting out and playing and
dancing and just doing fun things on the carpet and

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meeting people like you. What are you grateful for?

Speaker 5 (07:12):
I'm grateful for everything.

Speaker 4 (07:13):
I mean, I have had such a blessed life I
can't complain.

Speaker 5 (07:17):
You know.

Speaker 4 (07:18):
It's not that I don't have all kinds of turmoil
and chaos and the same things that everybody deals with.
But to be able to do what I love to
do for a living, and to be able to touch
people with music, and just to enjoy being in wonderful place.
I get to travel the world all the time.

Speaker 5 (07:35):
I get to.

Speaker 4 (07:35):
Perform all over the place, and so I'm grateful for
that and all the wonderful people that are in my life.
I have a lot of people we have in our
lives because of their family, and then there's some people
that you choose to have in your life, and those
people are pretty special too.

Speaker 3 (07:51):
Absolutely. My bonus dad just turned ninety six on Friday,
right after Thanksgiving, so.

Speaker 5 (07:58):
There's a happy birthday him.

Speaker 3 (08:00):
Yes, maybe I'll get you to sing happy birthday. I
sang Happy Birthday to him last week.

Speaker 5 (08:05):
So I'll do it on my trumpet.

Speaker 3 (08:07):
There you go, there you go? Did you bring it?

Speaker 5 (08:10):
I bring it everywhere?

Speaker 3 (08:11):
Of course, that would be awesome. I would love, love
love that we will do, Okay. I am also grateful
for refrigerators because that is a creature comfort that not
everyone has, and to keep the turkey that I make
these kick asset sandwiches out of my leftover turkey.

Speaker 5 (08:35):
What time are you making those?

Speaker 3 (08:37):
I'm making it today at like four o'clock. Do you
want to come down.

Speaker 5 (08:41):
I'm sending a car for them right now.

Speaker 3 (08:43):
All right? What are you grateful for?

Speaker 5 (08:50):
I'm grateful for, Well, I'm grateful for music.

Speaker 4 (08:53):
Music is really cool, you know, because it's the soundtrack
to our lives. If we get in the car and
we're in a bad movie, we turn the right song on.
If instantly uplifts us, or or if we need something
to express that we don't have words for, somebody's written
a song for it. So I'm grateful for that.

Speaker 3 (09:11):
Yeah. Absolutely. Let's go to the bottom of the one,
which is weight training for your self esteem and your
self care and your self soothing, which I believe are
the fundamental foundation of good mental health. So those of
us who were brought up with well meaning parents more

(09:32):
mean than well sometimes who told you don't toot your
own horn, literally, David, that's what I do, or you're
not all that. That's how I grew up. This is
particularly important. So we're not looking for love and all
the wrong places or gen Z's likes in all the
wrong places. Literally, let's exercise that muscle. You know that

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you're one of a kind, wonderful, so are we special
and unique? I appreciate that I am resilient. David. You
touched on this. It's not that we have no bad
things happened to us. Everyone has something in their lives
that they wished hadn't happened, but it did. And I

(10:18):
believe that bad things happened to help chissel us, you know,
into that beautiful sculpture that we are. And I appreciate
my ability to be chisseled. You know, I may cry
out a couple times, but I know that I'm not
being punished. I'm just being chiseled. What do you like

(10:39):
about yourself, David.

Speaker 4 (10:40):
Well, I think that was pretty good. I think to learn.
I think that's the thing with maturity. As we get
a little bit older, we start realizing that, you know,
maybe to stop resisting so much, to stop I think
I'm grateful for a maturity, not.

Speaker 5 (10:57):
Even that I've achieved it by any.

Speaker 4 (10:59):
Means, but they're there's a certain level of it that
gets you to the place where you know what, maybe
I could listen to some important things, somebody that's a
little bit wiser than me, or somebody that mentored me.
I remember when I moved to Los Angeles, I was
living in a tool shed because I didn't have the
money to rent a room from somebody. So for a
few years I lived in somebody's toolshed, and I traded

(11:22):
lawn care for the toolshed, just so I could sleep
at night. And I'm grateful for learning by that humility,
the humility that is embedded in you when you don't
have a roof over your head, but you're sleeping in
a toolshed. You have to move a shovel over to
go to sleep, and it teaches you kind of a

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different level of humility, which clearly I needed. And God
knew that more than I knew it, because then I
started finding people in my life who could mentor me.
But they probably couldn't have mentored me if I'd had
it too easily, because I wouldn't have listened. And the
fact that things got pretty bad was exactly what David

(12:04):
needed to learn from other people. And I was just
so blessed to be mentored by There was a gospel
artist named Andre Crouch who just took me under his
wing and he taught me so much.

Speaker 3 (12:17):
And love his music.

Speaker 5 (12:20):
Oh yeah, he just truly wonderful.

Speaker 4 (12:22):
And he taught me how to write songs, and he
taught me a lot of things about life. And I
had some jazz musicians also who taught me about life.
If you can believe it, you know, Dizney Gillespie and
Oscar Peterson both gave me incredible lessons on life. When
I was trying to get lessons on jazz, they were
giving me lessons on life.

Speaker 5 (12:40):
And you never know where those lessons are going to
come from.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
But I am so grateful for the humility that I've
learned by being torn down.

Speaker 3 (12:50):
Wow, David, thanks for sharing that. I had no idea
our Truro Sandoval was also mentored by Dizzy Gillespie. He's
been on the show and.

Speaker 5 (13:02):
Tremendous trump player, a tremendous human.

Speaker 3 (13:04):
Being, a great yeah, and uh, I love undercatch and
John Paul de Jorio, who I don't know if you're
familiar with him, Yes, Paul Mitchell pa uh Tequila. He
also was homeless, Yes, was helped by Salvation Army. So

(13:28):
you know, if you're listening, you're watching, and you're feeling hopeless. Uh,
you know you're not in the place that you want
to be. I hope you heard this. You know it's
a again, it's a it's you're not being punished, but
you have an opportunity to learn. And I love my

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big brother. Doctor Michael Bernard BECKWI says, whenever you're in
a situation you don't like, ask the question not why me,
but what is being developed in as a direct result
of what's happening right now that is going to help
me write or be something that is fantastic. And that's

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how personally, I didn't know I was going to say this.
This is how I moved from being angry and resentful
that I didn't have a mom that loved me in
the way that everybody else's mom did. She called me fat, ugly,
and clumsy. I was in the hospital because of her
several times, and I spent many years being angry about that.

(14:35):
Right rightfully so. But when I was asked, did I
develop anything that I liked about myself as a direct
result of being treated like that? And the answer is yes.
And when I could turn that corner from blame and
shame to power and pride in myself, life is magnificent

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and it has for you as well. For sure. I
hear that and we share that.

Speaker 4 (15:07):
Right, Absolutely, that's a beautiful thing. And you know, I
think every every child deserves to have parents that understand
how to be parents, and unfortunately that's not the case
most of the time. And yeah, that's just terrible statistics.
And don't even tell me those statistics. I'm covering my ears.
I don't want to hear that kind of stuff. But
you know, and every child, fortunately, those kinds of things

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that are just it makes it a rough beginning. I
think it's still somehow that's going to turn into something
really good because they're going to overcome that obstacle and
then they're going to the next generation is just going
to hear about how important it is to nurture our
children and to lift them up, and not even just
our children, all the neighborhood children. And when you see

(15:51):
a kid acting up, maybe he's just not a bad person,
he just hasn't learned how to be loved and how
to love himself.

Speaker 3 (15:58):
Yes, absolutely, people hurt people. That is definitely true. Okay,
we're getting a philosophical here in this interview at breakfast, No.

Speaker 5 (16:07):
I'm taking notes. I'm taking notes.

Speaker 3 (16:10):
Thank you for joining us for breakfast this morning. I'm
here every weekday morning to have breakfast with you to
you know, get that good life habit going, as well
as my hashtag bliscipline. Join me every weekday morning. Please
do the what you like about yourself before you go
to bed, and you probably have a better night's sleep

(16:30):
and you'll sandwich your day in the most positive way.
Thanks for joining us for breakfast. And now for the
topic of the day. That was God. The topic of

(16:52):
the day is David Longoria, who's here in studio, and
I'm just delighted he managed I usually is I'm the
one that wants to make people laugh on the carpet,
but he had me in stitches, just trying to find
a still picture of me not with my mouth open
and head back. Laughing with the two of us was

(17:13):
my challenge yesterday. But David Longoria, did you know as
a kid that you would be winning a Grammy, inducted
into a Hall of Fame, working with artists and doing
what you love with a trumpet? Did you know your

(17:35):
lips were gonna be important to you?

Speaker 4 (17:40):
You know, it's funny because at ten years old, I did.
I made the decision. It wasn't like, oh gee, I
wonder I'm going to have this destiny. I made the decision.
I can actually remember telling my parents listen, I love
my family. I love where we live, but I don't
love where we live. We lived in a little town
out of Seattle, and every day it was overcast. And

(18:03):
I told my parents when I was ten years old,
everybody we know is a little bit depressed, and it's
because it's always cloudy.

Speaker 5 (18:10):
I said.

Speaker 4 (18:11):
I saw on TV the show called Chips, and in it,
Eric Estrada was running around on a motorcycle and they
were in Los Angeles. There were palm trees, beautiful skies,
the sun was shining, and I said, I asked my mom.
I said, well, where is this taking place? Because if
this place exists, I want to live there. And she goes,

(18:31):
oh no, that's that's Hollywood. That's in Los Angeles. I go, okay,
well that's where I need to live. And my family
just like looked horrified. They said, well that's where all
those Hollywood people are. I said, I know, but you
know they're all smiling, they're wearing sunglasses, they're smiling.

Speaker 5 (18:46):
You know, their Skins got tan on it? So how
can I do that?

Speaker 4 (18:51):
And they said, well, you have to have a lot
of money and you have to do better than we
do up here. I said, well, I'm out the door.
When can I leave? So that was when I made
the decision. I said, I think music's going to be
my ticket because I have a real knack for it.
It seems to be intuitive to me. So at ten
years old, I made the decision. I was going to

(19:12):
pursue what al hurt?

Speaker 5 (19:14):
Did you know? Famous trumpet player?

Speaker 4 (19:15):
And I said, well, he's making a living do it
and he's very happy down in New Orleans. So I'm
going to go to Los Angeles and I'm going to
do that. And everybody said, well, it's a phase David
is going through. He's going to grow it before he
turns eighteen, you know, so don't worry about it.

Speaker 5 (19:29):
And I did not grow it. I probably should have,
but I haven't.

Speaker 3 (19:35):
Yeah, you are one of those what do they call
hashtag ageless? Hashtag timeless? I claim that for myself. I'll
take it. Yeah, and I just welcome to the studio.
April is streaming in. She's happy that the topic is
music and I'm not firmly attached to material James. Not

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sure where that com man came in, but that's okay.
It's always good to have you in studio. She's the
captain of my Cashew gallery this morning. I know there's
other eyeballs that I see. Tuned in, you can ask
questions of David Longoria. He's here to talk about anything

(20:21):
and everything that you would like.

Speaker 4 (20:23):
He is, except material objects. I'm saving up to get some.

Speaker 3 (20:31):
As you can tell, he has no sense of humor
at all. April.

Speaker 4 (20:34):
It was filtered out years ago.

Speaker 3 (20:38):
It was funny. He was trying to interview me on
the carpet. That was very funny. Someone else was trying
to do that. I'm trying to Quincy Jones tried to
do that.

Speaker 5 (20:49):
Well, that rubbed off that.

Speaker 3 (20:51):
Yeah, he flirted with me, by the way, not once,
but twice in Chinese. Nonetheless, he's really smandarin. He said, Nihan,
which is your very beautiful? And I told his daughter
At an event, I went to Eric Bennet's wife, Manuela

(21:14):
Tustalini's event for a Better World in a Perfect World.
It's a foundation, and Quincy's daughter was there and I
told her about that. She's and Samuel Jackson's wife was listening.
Her and her husband were being honored, and she goes,
that does not surprise me at all.

Speaker 4 (21:35):
Exactly exactly, Oh, I can tell you stories, you know,
with Quincy was pretty funny that way. When I worked
with Andre Krout and I was kind of being I
was really being mentored by Andre more than anything, and
he introduced me to Quincy Jones, and Quincy and I
had a lot of things in common. We were both
from the Seattle area, and I actually knew Quincy's mom

(21:57):
for a couple of years before I ever met Quincy.
And I was working with Quincy for three years before
I told him that I knew his mom, and so
we had some good laughs about that. But one time
Quincy would Quincy would say things and he called me
back at three or four in the morning, and then
you know, I'm barely away because I'm just tired from

(22:19):
a long day, and he'd talk about what we were
going to talk about with music, and then the next
forty five minutes we'd be talking about nanotechnology or what
kinds of drugs or vaccines that are harming people, and
all kinds of things that had nothing to do with music.
But he was a brilliant man. He really was.

Speaker 3 (22:39):
Absolutely like just like constant creativity, constant innovation. That mind
is and we all have access to that. I think
that's one of the things. You're living proof of that
the way to constantly Of all the people you know,

(23:01):
fifteen hundred, there's a lot of shows and a lot
of interviews, and I will say that the people who
the successful, people with personal mastery, like they love themselves,
they love their lives, they love what they do, are
the people who are connected to that stream of energy
that is constantly, you know, expanding. They're grateful, they are

(23:27):
learning all the time, they're curious, and I see that
in you for sure.

Speaker 4 (23:33):
Yeah, well, thank you. I think that that's one of
the most important things is because if we don't keep
moving forward, we're staying the same place. And there's no
such thing as really staying in the same place. The
earth is spinning and we're moving backwards if we're not
moving forward.

Speaker 5 (23:46):
So I think it's important growth and learning. I'm never
going to stop learning.

Speaker 3 (23:51):
Yeah yeah, So you move out to la in a
toolshed and a nice.

Speaker 5 (23:58):
Tool shed, but when I fixed it up it was lovely.

Speaker 3 (24:02):
Are you still in contact with that person.

Speaker 4 (24:04):
I still live in that tool said no, no, no,
I don't actually know the lady who She owned an
answering service, and it was called the Music Box Answering Service,
and it was for all the session musicians, all the
musicians who played recording sessions, and it just it was
a friend of a friend of a friend, and so
she was very nice to me, but she was renting

(24:26):
a room out and then she goes, well, I'm not
really comfortable renting a room to a seventeen year old guy.
So I said, well, what about the garage, you know,
because I have no place to sleep tonight. And I
had six dollars when I arrived in LA I had
six dollars, a grocery bag with my clothes in it
and my trumpet. And I said, as long as I
got my trumpet, I can make a living anywhere. I'll

(24:49):
be okay. So she said, well, you can rent the garage.
So she opens the garage and her landlord had it
full of stored stuff. So she goes, I'm really sorry.
I'd like to rent you the garage, but I can't.
It's full of stuff. I said, well, do you have
a tool shed? I was like a desperation moment, and
she goes, I don't think I do. I'm renting this

(25:09):
house and I've been here a year, but I don't
think I've looked in the back. So I looked in
the back. Hey, there's a tool shed. Can I rent
that from you? She goes, well, I can't take money
from you for the toolshed. But I said, well, what
if I do the landscaping. I grew up on a farm.
I know how to grow things. I'll make your long
the nicest in the neighborhood. So she goes, Okay, yeah,
I don't want to do any landscaping myself, so okay,

(25:31):
let's try it for a month. Let's see how it goes.
So I made that place look like in the middle
of Beverly Hills. And it was not Beverly Hills. It
was North Hollywood. So it was lovely and she was
so happy. And I kind of, you know, took care
of other things there. I could fix stuff, and my
dad was a carpenter, so I learned how to do
pretty much anything in the house.

Speaker 5 (25:51):
So she was happy I was there.

Speaker 4 (25:53):
I kind of, you know, kept crazy as away, and
I was happy to be there while I saved up
some money and made records on the little money I made.

Speaker 3 (26:03):
So great, great, great. I just love love hearing you
know this kind of truth, the real story, right.

Speaker 4 (26:14):
The only thing is when that was happening, I didn't
want anybody to know I was living in a tool shed.
I was working with Steven Spielberg and Quincy Jones on
the Color Part Life, major major movie, and I'm still
living in a tool shed, and I'm wondering where my
next dinners could have come from. But it was funny
because I didn't want to talk about it at all.
Then now it flows off my tongue just pretty easily.

Speaker 3 (26:37):
Well, it's it's inspiring, it's and it's helpful for anybody
who's either living in or feel like they are living
in a toolshed. But I think perspective has been the
word of the at least the week for me, is
that people have been talking about, you know, because of
my The Eight Ways to Happiness from Wherever You Are

(27:00):
book that went national bestseller, and I think I showed
you that. People always ask, you know, what is the
what's the one foundation thing, what's the one way, what's
the it's choice, the choice to choose to see the
tool shed as a humbling thing you said in the beginning,

(27:23):
as a thing that was allowing you, you know, the
dichotomy of working with Quincy and the color purple on
one hand, Steven Spielberg, and then going home to a shovel.
You know, I mean to be able to not let that,
you know, derail you, right that, I.

Speaker 4 (27:46):
Mean exactly something. Coming to Los Angeles for me, I
was on a mission. I was here to get some success,
whatever that meant. You know, I didn't know if I
was going to be a pop star or you know,
a trumpet player in the Dicksie Land and Disneyland. I
was here to do music and I couldn't. I did.
I pretty much did everything I could do in Seattle.

(28:08):
I played on the street corners. I got to perform
on all the TV shows all the time regularly. And
I was a teenager because you know, I developed a
good fan base up there, and everybody knew me from
playing on the street corners in Seattle and at the
public market. So when I kind of outgrown that, I
was seventeen years old, and I said, really, I need

(28:29):
to move on, so I don't just spend my life,
you know, doing the same thing. And when I came
here it was I'm on a mission. I've got stuff
to accomplish, and it doesn't make any difference if I
have to scramble for dinner.

Speaker 5 (28:42):
I'm on a mission. I got stuff to do.

Speaker 3 (28:45):
Definitely. Speaking of answering machines for the gen zs and millennials, look,
go use my assistant Google. But I don't have an
answering machine. I have a questioning machine, David. And when
you call me, it says, who are you and what
do you want? So I'm going to ask that for you.

(29:08):
Who are you really and what do you want?

Speaker 4 (29:12):
You know what I'm just. I'm just a guy who
is very grateful to have been given some gifts that
lets me do music, let's me do art, lets me
think about stuff and come up with solutions. I feel
like I'm a very resourceful person. I can I can
find an answer to whatever it is we're looking for,

(29:33):
and not necessarily within myself, but from my resources. My
resources are all the things at my fingertips, all the
people I know, all the relationships I have with others,
and things that maybe I can do something for somebody
one day when I needed. They can do something for me,
and I think those relationships are are just so such
an incredible resource.

Speaker 5 (29:55):
And what do I want?

Speaker 4 (29:57):
I want. I want to say peace on Earth, but
it doesn't the Earth doesn't want to do that. So
I want to touch people's lives in some way that
makes them grateful for being alive, that makes them thankful
that God gave them special gifts, that makes them understand
their meaning in life, and to lift each other up.

(30:19):
Because I did a song called We Are One, which
is all about bringing people together and saying, you know,
we may have different races, faith, you know, politics, all
those things, and there's not only one right way to politics.
They're not only one race that's better than all the others.

(30:39):
We were all put here by the same creator, but
the same energy to do great stuff. And we can't
do great stuff if we're putting each other down. So
my whole premise of We Are One is to say, Okay,
I'm lifting you up, even if you don't look like me,
even if you're probably better off if you don't look
like me. But whatever we can do to lift each

(31:00):
other up, that's what I want. I want to make
the world a little.

Speaker 3 (31:03):
Bit better, beautiful, beautiful and I just got the the nudge.
It's time to take a quick break for news, weather
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(31:23):
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in two and two. He's in peace out, he's on
the other side. But just don't go away. We'll be
right back with David Longoria, Grammy Award winner and so
much more. We'll be right back. Well.

Speaker 6 (31:59):
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Speaker 3 (32:18):
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Why are you doing that to yourself?

Speaker 8 (32:56):
You have to be your biggest fan, because if you can't,
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So I have topics and guests to that end, and

(34:27):
today is no exception. We do have the award, a
Grammy Award winner. He's a trumpet, virtuoso recording, US Artist,
Music Innovator, Grammy Award winner David Longoria. Welcome back to
the studio. Welcome back. I love the way. Yeah. I

(34:56):
like your fashionista too. You're a fashions I am. Tell
me what you're working on now.

Speaker 4 (35:03):
I'm working a change in the world. Yes, and that's
a big diaper. No no, no, that's I'm going to
write that down and use it in my act.

Speaker 3 (35:14):
You know what I mean. This is what happened on
the carpet. I couldn't even ask him anything because he
was joking around and very very funny. Oh no, we
lost him. Don't tell me. Oh, it's because you didn't
turn your notifications off. I think he's been called he
is the voice of reason. He is. That is one

(35:36):
of the things I wanted to talk about is the
song We Are One. And when he comes back, he
will April, sorry, I did not put your stuff up.
I saw that. Let's see. You love the whole conversation.
That's good, and hopefully the conversation will come back. I'm

(35:58):
going to ask him to go out and come back in.
Hold on one second, I just kicked you out. Can
you come back in because your camera was dark. All right,

(36:22):
real time, real time. Uh, trust in the trumpet and
thanks for being you. Thank you, And I'm sure that
was also extended to my guest. Hopefully he will be back.
I wanted him to talk about the project that he
is working with right now, with Carol Connors. I don't

(36:43):
know if you know who that is. She actually is
one of the co writers of the Rocky theme song
Gonna Fly Now. And she also dated Elvis Presley, So
that's kind of cool. And let's see and Carol Connors

(37:10):
and see if I can't pull up that project that
they're working on right now. Yeah, she's a Oh she
has a Grammy nominated audio book, Elvis, Rocky and Me,
The Carol Connors Story, and David produced the audio book.

(37:32):
And yeah, so that's one of the projects that he's
working on. And see is he We've had some heck
of a challenge and chiseling, I should say, with getting
him on and let's see, Hi, what happened? I don't know.

(37:59):
It's okay, it shows my video again? Oh yes, but
you no no picture? Uh? Okay, thank you? Okay, So
what happens when tell a joke? Oh? There you are good.

(38:23):
I didn't have to tell a joke because I was
not ready.

Speaker 5 (38:26):
Do you remember do you remember who I am?

Speaker 3 (38:28):
Clean jokes? I know a lot of dirty jokes and
I can't tell them, so that you had me.

Speaker 5 (38:33):
Uh well, first of all, do you remember who I am?

Speaker 4 (38:37):
Still? Right?

Speaker 3 (38:38):
Carol Connors? Welcome back.

Speaker 5 (38:41):
I'm here.

Speaker 4 (38:42):
I'm Carol reincarnated. I used to be better looking, but
here I am now.

Speaker 3 (38:48):
And I was just telling them about your audio book
that you did with Carol Connors. I thought it was
more recent, but that was nomine Yeah.

Speaker 4 (39:01):
Well that's a Grammy nomination that we got this last
month and it's for February first is the Grammy Awards
for this year, for this coming year, and we're nominated
with our book The Carol Connor Story, which is Elvis,
Rocky and Me, which what an incredible story. This lady

(39:22):
was discovered by she was sixteen and a half years old.
She was discovered by Phil Spector, you know, the crazy
guy that everybody knows about. Anyway. I spoke with him
in prison, believe it or not, and I was trying
to bring Carol up to visit him in prison, but
he passed away last year. I think but she was
the voice of his group called the Teddy Bears, and

(39:44):
she sang the song to No No No Him is
to Love Love Anyway, that great great old teenage lament
of nineteen fifty eight. And then shortly after that, Elvis
Presley heard her voice and said, hey, I'm allowed to
meet her anyway, So he probably said it better than that,
but anyway, so that all these things transpired, and one

(40:07):
thing after another through her incredible life. Like she he
was her first boyfriend when she was still a teenager.
And then after that she wrote the first song for
the Only Girl Girl song that was a hot rod
hit and was called Hey Little Cobra went to the
top of the charts, and it was about the Shelby Cobra.

(40:28):
You know the story Ford versus Ferrari. This the guy Shelby.
Carol Shelby took her to Lemon's to witness the race,
and it was the year before Ford took over and
beat Ferrari in three positions. I mean, it's just incredible history.
And then this happened. Then this happened. Then she wrote

(40:49):
the theme song for Rocky, the movie Rocky. I mean
she co wrote it with Bill Bill CONTI the famous composer,
and it became one of the most iconic movie songs
of all time. And it's seen all those different movies
of Rocky one, two, three, thirteen thirty seven.

Speaker 5 (41:07):
All of those.

Speaker 4 (41:08):
And then.

Speaker 5 (41:10):
And she's not done, and she's not done.

Speaker 4 (41:12):
So after that, she writes this song with you, I'm
Born Again, which went to the number one on the charts,
the pop charts with Billy Preston and Serta. And she's
just written wats a lot of stuff, the Walty's, Disney's,
the Rescuers.

Speaker 5 (41:25):
It's a crazy list of things she's done.

Speaker 4 (41:28):
And the reason I met her was because somebody introduced
me and said, you know, she'd be somebody the great
to invite to sing with you on your song We
Are One, because I invited other artists to be on it,
and I'd already put a couple hundred artists on the song,
and then I said, would you like to sing on it?
Because people recommended you. She goes, well, what's the goal?

(41:48):
I said, to bring people together to lift each other up.
So she goes, good luck with that. So I go,
I love this lady, just the kind of spunk I
need in my life. Around here.

Speaker 5 (42:00):
So it's an incredible story though.

Speaker 4 (42:03):
And then I remember, I don't know if you remember
watching the trial of O. J. Simpson back in the
day when when all that transpired. Well, the second witness
on the stand was Carol Connors telling she was with O. J.
Simpson at a party the night before the murders, and

(42:23):
she testified about his demeanor and all these things.

Speaker 5 (42:26):
And no matter what crazy thing is going.

Speaker 4 (42:28):
On in the world, Carol Connors, she's there in some way,
safe or form. So last night we just were in
the Hollywood Christmas Parade together and it was actually because
of the nomination. I brought them with me in this
vintage rolls Royce, Carol Connors and Kathy Garverer, the beloved

(42:50):
actress who's been twice as she really Oh, she's wonderful,
and she was the narrator for our audiobook and so
she's said, sweetheart, we went all through the Hollywood Christmas Parade.
I'm playing my trumpet and she's singing all the Christmas songs.
The audience just loves her. I mean, no matter where
we went, it was.

Speaker 3 (43:09):
Amazing both of them. You're talking about Carol Or.

Speaker 4 (43:13):
I was talking about Kathy but yeah, Carol's got a
whole different spunk about her.

Speaker 3 (43:18):
So, yes, I got a taste of it this morning
trying to get her on and she said, I'm in
full makeup and I said, I said, hopefully, you know
you'll be able to go. Well, my cats appreciated exactly.
We're going to have a good time when I promise

(43:39):
we're going to have her on. But okay, so you
just unpacked a whole bunch of stuff and I have
to go back and it's crazy. That is so crazy.
So how old was she when she dated Elvis Presley?
This was before Priscilla, right, Yeah, we actually interviewed Priscilla.

Speaker 4 (43:57):
Yeah, Priscilla and Elvis knew each other time, but he
was in La living in La while he made was
it Viva Las Vegas? It was one of the yeah,
one of those shows and movies and uh with Anne
Margaret and so anyways during that time, and he wasn't
married yet, he was just he was dating and I

(44:19):
knew he and I know he and Priscilla were close,
but you know, he was still Elvis Presley.

Speaker 3 (44:27):
Yes, yeah, so he dated Carol for was it nine months?

Speaker 4 (44:32):
I think about nine months? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (44:33):
Nine months? Wow? So how old was she at the time.

Speaker 4 (44:37):
She was thirty seven? No, No, she was I think
she was eighteen something like that.

Speaker 3 (44:41):
She was eighteen, and so he was thirty something.

Speaker 5 (44:45):
Yeah, but he was el yeah, a little bit one hundred.
He was still elpless.

Speaker 3 (44:51):
Because there was an age difference between you and Elvis
and Priscilla's similar, right.

Speaker 4 (44:55):
Yeah, yeah, he waited for her.

Speaker 3 (44:57):
Okay, all right, So that was one question, and the
other one is what did she say about Oji He's guilty?

Speaker 5 (45:07):
No, she didn't say that at all.

Speaker 4 (45:09):
Actually, she said she when when I've asked her, now
you're going to have to ask her this question because
she's got a lot more insight into it. But when
I asked her, I said, well, did you feel like
it was guilty? She goes, I've known him for years
at all the society events, all the Oscars events, the
Television Academy events, all those things, and he's always been
a very sweet, gentle, meek man, like, not maybe not meek,

(45:33):
but a very gentle giant. And she felt something different
that week. And you're gonna have to hear that one
firsthand because she testified about it.

Speaker 3 (45:43):
There's the teaser. There's the teaser.

Speaker 4 (45:46):
For sure, okay, and involves cats, just so you know,
it involves cats.

Speaker 3 (45:53):
Do where's my music?

Speaker 4 (45:57):
Wow?

Speaker 3 (45:58):
I just got a chill, So that'll be definitely a great,
great thing to have. So she actually wrote the book
a while back, right, and that's yes, a grand nomination.

Speaker 4 (46:12):
For that, Okay, Yeah, she and she wrote it along
with a music historian, Steve Bergsman, and he's a very
talented writer and very knowledgeable in music things, especially from
the fifties and sixties, and that's definitely where Carol came from.
And I think that was the perfect synergy because they

(46:33):
wrote an amazing book and it just chronicles this crazy
life Carol Connors has lived. And when we made the audiobook,
we were really blessed to get Kathy Garverer to read
it because she has that sweet personality that can kind
of bring those words to life, and she definitely did.
And you know what's amazing is the voters in the

(46:54):
Grammy Awards, they've been connecting to it because it's music.
It's like the real story of a real music icon.
It's not you know, what the music industry did to her.
It's what she took the reins and made it happen
in spite of the music industry.

Speaker 3 (47:09):
Mm hmmm. Yes. And Kathy Connors, I mean Kathy Garver
as sweet and as you're saying she's a powerhouse, she
has to say she you know, she was very clear
and her My interview with her is like one of
the top, you know, I would say she's in the

(47:32):
top twenty five of fifteen hundred shows, you know. So
it's it's she's definitely a force, and it was it
was great having her. I think I brought her back.
She wanted to come back, and we celebrated a Shoel
milestone together. So one of my show milestones. So is yeah,
small World, zero degrees of separation. Definitely, Uh, maybe I'll

(47:56):
have you and her back, caroyl you know, to promote
that all. And I do have a Grammy nominating voting
members who tune into this show.

Speaker 5 (48:09):
So we'll give me the numbers real quick. I just
got a column, well.

Speaker 3 (48:14):
One of them you've met briefly. In fact, you're invited
to his birthday party tomorrow in Beverly Hills. He is
one of the features in the Acca Journal Beverly Hills
Art Journal, and I am the I write the the

(48:36):
what is It column? I write the Attracting Happiness column
for them for every issue. So we're having the the
what is the Press party, the launching party, and we
doubled it for Ricky and he's a voting member, so
you can definitely, well.

Speaker 5 (48:58):
That's one more vote, that's Carol and me. That's four.
This is amazing. We could probably win.

Speaker 3 (49:05):
When he has a huge following, is what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (49:07):
So, of course, of course, is that Ricky Rebel? Yes,
of course, we've known Ricky for years.

Speaker 3 (49:13):
Oh okay, I didn't know if you if you were Yeah,
so okay, so now question came in while you were
fooling around.

Speaker 5 (49:24):
You know, No, I'm too young to get married. Forget it.

Speaker 3 (49:28):
Oh I could go there, are you single?

Speaker 5 (49:31):
No, I'm not single, but I'll go there for the
joke easily.

Speaker 3 (49:37):
And you have a son I met yourn he's.

Speaker 5 (49:41):
Oh, thank you. I'm so proud of him.

Speaker 3 (49:44):
He sings his voice sings gorgeous.

Speaker 5 (49:47):
Oh yeah, thank you. He definitely has gotten the gift.

Speaker 4 (49:50):
Sometimes it skips the generation anyway, so it jumped over
me and it got to him for sure. Yeah, he's
he's very blessed with a sweet spirit. And and a
beautiful voice.

Speaker 3 (50:00):
You have more kids, No, I don't.

Speaker 4 (50:04):
I have a dog and two kittens and a whole
lot of people I produce.

Speaker 3 (50:09):
So that's great, that's great. What advice would you give
for anyone in these days on becoming part of this
music magic in Hollywood?

Speaker 4 (50:23):
I think it's all in the preparation. Really. I wouldn't
try an audition for things until you've done your homework.
If you're going to audition as a singer, go learn
how to sing, you know, that would be a good start,
and take it really seriously, because you know, with all
the competition shows out there, it seems like you just
walk in and you try it out and you had

(50:44):
the look, you had the voice, and it worked. But
in reality, nobody goes on those shows and succeeds without
a lot of years of preparation and doing your homework
and just get good at what you are doing. Because
Steve Martin, you know, the comedian and an actor, says,
if you're great, people can't ignore you, and if you're

(51:06):
good enough that they can't ignore you, you're going to
be there. You're going to be successful. Whatever successful is
some people, it becomes a star. Some some people. It
means just being great at it and being great at it.
People want to hear your music, they want to see
you act, they want to see what you have to contribute,
and if you're funny, they want to hear you being funny.

Speaker 3 (51:25):
Yeah, even though looks aren't everything, go rub it in,
only you would come back. Let's see pretentiousness. Let's talk
about the stereotype of the pretentiousness of Hollywood.

Speaker 4 (51:44):
Is that a real thing? Is there?

Speaker 3 (51:50):
Were you born?

Speaker 7 (51:52):
You know?

Speaker 3 (51:53):
And okay, so there is? And what you know? What
is that that whole I mean, I pride myself in
being stupid when it comes to star starstruck or who's that?
Or like I embarrass the crap out of my crew
when they go, aren't you going to interview her? And

(52:14):
I'll say, who's that? And she's in the show? What show?
So I'm not going to say the name because I'll
get skewered. But you know that whole thing. And I
think that's maybe one of the reasons why I'm good
at what I do is because I'm not like, you're
a person. You're good at what you're doing, but you're
a person, and I really want to know what you

(52:38):
bring to the table, to the world. Right, that's why
you had me at we are one awesome?

Speaker 4 (52:47):
Well, thank you, you know, I think that's that's the
humility of what we do, if you can find a
way to not get so full of yourself that you
forget how to be a good human. And when my
son was growing up, my wife Letitia, and I decided
we were going to homeschool him so that he didn't
get caught up in all the craziness that happens in

(53:07):
public school. I went to public school and Leticia went
to public school. But as the public schools let us
down more and more with these generations, I said, you
know what, I think this kid deserves better, and I
don't want to miss his childhood. I'm in Europe a
lot every year, I'm there a few times performing, and
I don't want to miss out on anything about his childhood.
So I said, well, either we're going to homeschool him

(53:30):
or I'll get a tutor.

Speaker 5 (53:31):
But he deserves like the best I can give him.

Speaker 4 (53:33):
Even even though I'm not wealthy, I could still give
him the best childhood I can give him. And so
all the way along, you know, if you have a
cute kid, people are coming up constantly with their business card. Hey, look,
I want to manage him because there's this Disney show
that he'd be perfect for. And my response has always been, look,
I'm trying to raise a great human. I'm not trying

(53:54):
to raise a good actor, you know. And if he's
a great human and he has skills, he's going to
find great path at the right time.

Speaker 5 (54:01):
But right now, I didn't want to like exploit him out.

Speaker 4 (54:04):
And I have a lot of friends that were kid
actors and they have a really troubled life now.

Speaker 5 (54:09):
Because of it.

Speaker 4 (54:10):
And it's not that it always happens like that, but
most of the time, you know, it's the Hollywood thing.
So I didn't want to raise a Hollywood actor kid,
you know. I wanted to raise a good human that
I can be proud of as a person, and also
to instill some values that are important to me.

Speaker 3 (54:29):
M So, is there a solution to all of the
troublemaking that happens because of the because of Hollywood? You
know that whole I call it. You may have professional mastery, right,
you have the fame and fortune and success and the

(54:49):
eyeballs and the you know, the celebrity status, and then inside,
you know you, You're needy, you're insecure, you are you know,
full of your you or your imposter syndrome, fear of failure,
fear of success, self sabotage, and you know, Robin Williams,

(55:09):
Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, the list goes on. Yeah, is
there a solution? Is there a way to encourage good
mental health in this La La Land?

Speaker 4 (55:24):
Well, I think a lot of it has to do
with being able to address it, and if people are
able to look in the mirror and say, you know what,
I think I got a problem with this, or look,
you're my brother, I need to help you with this,
or you know I'm working with you. Sit down, We're
going to have a very difficult conversation. But I need
to tell you the truth. Rather than being like all

(55:46):
the Emperor's new clothes people around you, and you know
you don't have any clothes on. I got to tell
you you're naked before the cameras turn on. And so, you know,
if you can imagine how damn it just so many
of us are, especially in Hollywood. I mean, you'd have
to really be insecure to want to be a star.

Speaker 5 (56:07):
That's all it is to it.

Speaker 4 (56:09):
If you didn't feel like, hey, am I worth it?
At the core? Why would you want to be in
front of everybody all the time and trying to look
perfect and make all those things happen?

Speaker 5 (56:21):
You know?

Speaker 4 (56:21):
Really, I mean, I'm probably not supposed to say that
out loud, and I'm probably breaking a few laws in
Hollywood by doing it, but I think it's at the
core of it.

Speaker 5 (56:29):
Maybe there are exceptions to that, but in general.

Speaker 3 (56:34):
You're putting the moose on the table, which is my
Canadian version of talking about the elephant in the room,
which is important because you can't fix something you don't
you're not aware of, or you're not willing to put
out there. And that's what I do on this show
as much as Hope and Happiness is. I'm not naive.

(56:55):
We have places of darkness, but you can't see the
darkness if you don't turn the light on by talking
about it.

Speaker 4 (57:02):
So yeah, once you address it, then it's possible to
start working through it, because I think everything is treatable
at some level. And if you figure out that this
is my issue that I've just got to overcome because
I don't want to just be rich and famous. I
want to be rich and famous and have enjoyed the
process all the way there.

Speaker 5 (57:21):
I want to have treated people.

Speaker 4 (57:23):
Well. Look, I've made all kinds of mistakes. I mean,
any mistake that you could list, I've made that one, Okay,
put everything on there. I haven't killed anybody, but everything
else sort of that. Okay. I've never taken drugs either.
But other than those two things, I've made a lot
of mistakes. But each one of them has taught me
something about what I about myself, but what I need

(57:44):
to not be right right?

Speaker 3 (57:46):
Quick question, we're almost done. How did you know?

Speaker 4 (57:49):
Well, let's make it a two year two hours, so
that's what we need.

Speaker 3 (57:55):
It would be easy with you. How did you meet
your wife?

Speaker 4 (57:59):
She was living at my house and I went who
are you? And she no, No, Actually we met in
a revolving door and we started going around together. No, no,
that's not it either. She was working at she was
working at a shopping mall and I was coming get
the elephant out of the room in Canada, so.

Speaker 5 (58:18):
I met her.

Speaker 4 (58:18):
She was selling clothes at a men's clothing store and
she was just beautiful and I thought, wow, she's very
nice and she's lovely, and so she said, well, what
do you need And I said, well, I'm producing some
artists that are performing. I need to be in Miami
a lot. And we don't wear white suits in LA
but they do in Miami. So I need a kind
of a comfortable white suit I can wear in Miami.

Speaker 5 (58:40):
You know that breathes with that humidity.

Speaker 4 (58:42):
She goes, Oh, no, you want something a different level
than we sell here, so you can't.

Speaker 5 (58:47):
Well let me try that.

Speaker 4 (58:48):
She goes, no, you can't even try that on because
that's not quality that you want. I'm going, are you serious?
And she won't even looked. I was kind of like
frustrated verset. I go, I like her, she's looking out
for me through this. And then then so I came
back to see her and then I said, she said, well,
I'm gonna be in this beauty pageant. You want to
buy a ticket. And I go, you're gonna be in

(59:08):
a beauty pageant? Sure, can I wear a white suit?

Speaker 5 (59:10):
You know?

Speaker 4 (59:11):
So I bought tickets to it, and there was no
turney back.

Speaker 3 (59:16):
Oh that's one of the beautiful I love those stories.
And we're at a time. Oh borrow, thank you so much.
It's been wonderful. He will be coming back with Carol O'Connors.
If you do this with me, you remember on the
carpet it's all about balance. Peace in peace, out world
peace through inner piece. Now go and have the best

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day ever. Thank you so much, David Longoria.

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