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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Oh, tough off that exhausting amster wheel and into balance.
Living with Doctor Marissa from Miss You Joy. Doctor Marissa,
also known as the Asian Oprah. Her mission to be
a beneficial presence on the planet, her purpose to be
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don't die wondering. Take back your life with Doctor Maurissa Pey.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
And welcome your genden to take my advice. I'm not
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more hope and happiness. So there's no gossip and no
headlines here, only heart lines. If you're looking for headlines
and ranting about them, I don't believe in starting your
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morning off with the four a's angry, aggravated, afraid, and anxious. Instead,
I want you to feel amazing, which is why I
have topics and guests and co hosts for to that end.
And today is absolutely no exception. It is the birthday
boy in the house. You know him as Ricky Rebel Rocks.
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He is a billboard top forty and inducted into recently
the American entertain Music Entertainment Hall of Fame. And he
just celebrated a birthday and I got to sing Happy
Birthday to him on stage. Recent When was that, I
don't know, the days are blurring, but it was recently.
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Please welcome back to my Studiocky Rebel.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Thank you very much. Thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Of course, it's always great to have time with you.
This is a rare time because we actually did get
to see each other in person. Normally we catch up,
so we are already caught up, but we might let
out some juicy details. But we're gonna start with our
gratitude sandwich and breakfast taking a bite. Top of the
(02:47):
button is if we look outside of ourselves, what are
we grateful for? And then tonight we're gonna model for
you what we want you to do before you get
a mad which is take a look inside and it's
the bottom of the bunch because I like it on
the bottom. And what do we like? What do we
appreciate about ourselves? And I think that that is the
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foundation of good mental health. When you can approve of yourself,
that's great. Because frankly, my dear, if you can't approve
of yourself, how the fork do you expect anyone else to? Right, Ricky,
what are you grateful for this morning?
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Oh? What am I grateful for? So much to be
grateful for? Let's see, let's see, let's see. I'm grateful
for that wonderful party we had the other day. You
were there, Mom was there, My friends were there. It
was a beautiful location. They arked Beverly in Beverly Hills.
And I'm grateful for the people that came out. They're
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really great people I met at the party. They gave
me a birthday cake that was really beautiful.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
It was.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah, grateful for the gifts you gave me. I'm gonna
I want to take a moment and step off camera
at some point. I want to go get them and
share what you got because it's.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Really kay okay, so so glad that you enjoyed them.
And I really it was interesting time I was the
MC and uh, you want to talk about herding cats
and nailing jello to a tree? Paste still hurts from
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you know, having nobody could tell which is the best
compliment that I was able to move through it and
people It's funny. People would come up and say, wow,
you did an amazing job, what a great show that was.
And MY first response was are you like, what are
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you crazy? Are you lying to me? Are you trying?
What do you want from me? And then uh, and
then Ricky pointed out that that was compliment because they
had no idea of all the shenanigans that were going
on behind Stanes woof that was I have not had
that happen since the very first time we met, which
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was the trauma in Las Vegas, what two years ago? Yeah,
so yeah, it's I mean, I'm grateful that no matter what,
I can smile. How's that that's actually the bottom of
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the bud. That's a quality that I am. But I
am grateful that. Wow, it was you know, there was
just such a beautiful cross section of people from a
film director, film house. Actually he came because he saw
my article in the journal and I don't know if
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you knew this. He lived in my building ten years ago,
or we both lived in that building ten years ago.
I'm not there, he's not there, And it was a
tough It was an opportunity time in his life, and
I didn't even remember how much of an impact. And
he told me how grateful he was for well, I
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didn't even know what I did then, but I helped
him apparently. And I also do remember giving his daughter
when they moved out, this giant teddy bear that literally
was like almost as big as me. And so she
still has it, which is kind of cool.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
I love that. Yeah, I am grateful for the whole week.
The birthday week has been a lot of fun. I
for my actual birthday December seconds, we had a jam
session in my recording studio and a group of my
friends got together and we just wrote a song together.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Oh that's cool.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Yeah, I produced the music and it came out really hot.
It's a hot track because I'm writing an ed M
album right now.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Nice. Yeah, I love it, love it, love it now.
Were those the friends that were there?
Speaker 3 (07:17):
Yeah, exactly, those same friends.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Those two. Oh good, because I have a picture together.
I didn't know who they were. I mean, there was
so much going on, and so.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Samantha to the girl. You meant you met Samantha Hart right.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Yes, yes, And Michael Jackson's niece was there.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Yeah. What was her name again? Do you recall? I
got to tag her. I put her in my post,
and I'm like, what's her day? My mom will remember, like.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Was it Rajah? I don't know. We're connected on.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Oh you guys connected on social media?
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Yeah, yeah, but it starts with an R. I remember,
you know me, she's lovely, so lovely. I I have
a I have a you know, great memory, but my
recall sucks, and you're and that night was you know,
my recall is connected with the state of mind that
I was in. So they say studies have shown that
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if you memorize something when you're drunk, you won't remember
it until you're drunk again. So I.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Get angry and furious you don't remember right away.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy, oh girl, oh girl.
Sometimes boy it is. I'm grateful for I'm grateful for
a day off after this, even though I worked now
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and I did an interview before this interview. Uh, the
rest of the day I get to I've got some
projects going. I'm writing an online course for Mojong. I'm
I'm making Mojong ear rings. Uh. You know when CBS
did the special on Mojong and they put up Mojong veteran.
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You know, now I gotta I have to do something
to prove it. So that's what I'm doing today. I'm
grateful that I actually have a day off where I
don't have to drive to Beverly Hills. Do you know
I drove there again last night? Uh so yeah, so
two nights in a row, from Long Beach to Beverly
Hills in traffic.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Oh no, oh yes, I'm going to be Hills. You
are yeah to see again?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
And the designer, Oh good good, I'm glad. All right,
let's see. Oh we've got captain of the Cashew Gallery,
April beat your rebel rebels this morning. Good morning to you, Donna.
I think that's a rebel. Maybe I'm glad whether you're
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a rebel or a doctor. Marissa. Uh, here's we're in class,
so can't listen in. That's okay, we're here. You can
sneak a sneaker gratitude and if you would like, let's
see one last gratitude. I'm grateful for the sunshine. It
is sunny out, it's beautiful, solar powered. So grateful I
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live in sunny California.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Yeah, I'm grateful for all the things that I don't
want that I don't get, which is billions of things
I don't want that I don't get. I don't want cancer.
I don't have it, any of those crazy diseases you
can just put out a scroll.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
Okay, I'm grateful that I have health and hell yeah,
I'm like, ah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
I actually I actually did wake up a little bit,
you know, with all of the stress of not distress,
but just we're doing a lot of choreography right now,
so I was like coughing a van like, oh, but
I know exactly what to do. Have you ever gotten
an ivy hydration drip?
Speaker 2 (11:19):
No, I tried to avoid.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Oh it's so good.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
You can do it for me. I'll get it from you.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
I probably later today give a nice ivy drip.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Yeah, all of vitamins and good stuff. Good stuff.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Actually. Uh. Because of my new series Beating Cancer with Nutrition,
I'm learning I don't have cancer, but the information that
Mark Simon, who's the founder of nutrient nutrition Oncology Research
Institute has taught me about the importance of fiber that
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I didn't you know that fiber is more important than
protein because it is brain food. I didn't know that,
and so and probiotics and prebacs. Never understood all that.
So you get some shows on the YouTube that you're
all free subscribed to. So I've been eating and taking
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probiotics instead of natural laxatives because it's so important to
be regular. Never understood that either. So realizing that sickness
sometimes comes from the lack of flow, okay, and yeah, yeah,
So I'm really really grateful that I have this show
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that I get to learn things from every single day,
every weekday morning. Let's go to the bottom of the button,
which it is what do you like about yourself? And
one of the presents I gave to Ricky was exactly
to highlight his ability to like himself more. When we started,
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he hated this exercise. I don't know what I like
about myself. And he's not alone. Many of us have
such unrealistic high expectations of perfection that are never fulfilled.
So we're never happy with ourselves because there's always more.
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But it's so important to go you know what I
like most of me and that I love that. I
love that his growth, and I love it when your
mama always gives me some credit so he knows that.
Speaker 3 (13:48):
She can see the growth and the evolution.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Yeah, shall go first, Yes, actually, April, I'm gonna let
her go first to have littles in my life against
but the evening with my dude's grandkids too.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
In a four.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
Okay, so she's grateful. That's the top of the bike.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
She's the top of the bune. Gratefulness. Love it, Yes,
bottom of the bun. I am grateful. Oh we got more.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Yes, someone's crafty. Oh yeah that's me, doctor Rissa. Hello Rickie,
about watch you're dancing. You're good, You're so good. Yay,
so great dance. Thank you, Danna. What do you like
about yourself?
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Booth? I like the fact that I know how to
radiate light and I'm getting better at what that feels
like when I'm doing that, in the process of doing that,
and when I'm not, I'm getting more clear. That night especially,
I could feel when I was it was so cool
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actually to experience it. I felt like this real because
my mom was there, and whenever my mom is there,
I get very protective and very concerned. Yeah, about how
she's feeling, what she's thinking. Is this event going smoothly?
Is it, you know, is it as big? Is it
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supposed to be? Is it the right kind of big?
You know? Well, there's a lot of thoughts in my
head and and I could feel myself going there being
very critical. But then I I could also feel myself
letting it all go and be like, oh, whatever, what's
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have fun, It's all good. And I would start laughing
with my friends, connecting with other people. So I just
really enjoyed the fact that I can I can do
that now. Mm hmmm.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
It was so funny. This one moment he came up
to me. I remember I was at the bar getting
my diet coke and he goes, uh, doctor, Bissa, you're
going to need to I need help, but I need
to be anchored. And I looked at him and I went, ah, ah,
it's your turn.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
You know, you got to anchor me, anchor me.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
You have no idea what's going on. And that's the
first time ever, right, that has been the case.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
So yeah, but I was able to self anchor.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Proud of that, Yes, I'm proud of you for that.
Very much. So uh, yes, we all need to love ourselves.
Done it, That's why we do the bottom of the button.
Let's seetive is sisterly, long term and holistic, with trust
that the universe is conspiring for my favor patients, and
persistence pays off. That's great. Lots of self care, self love,
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and self affirmation going on in the Cashoo gallery right now.
Love self can sing them like tar all, so we're
just flooded. I love this because it's so important to
take responsibility for our own mental health, which means stop
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hating yourself, stopping so critical, stopping your own worst enemy,
and become your best friend. And y'all have done that.
I mean, we don't even need it.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
You know, it's done.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Very inspiring today. Oh and I'm going to end it
with saying I appreciate my ability to you know, be
very in tune with what I'm feeling like that yesterday
I was so mad and I was able to talk
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about it with Ricky before the event so I could
get it all out, and he was a great. If
you don't have a friend that is able just to
let you vent and then let you know without trying
to fix it, without trying to whatever you need to
have one, because that is I think the key to
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feeling your feelings fully. I don't I don't recommend stuffing
it down because it'll get infected. But I think I
have the skill of being able to do that fully
and then be able to be present and fully, you know,
smiling and doing what I'm doing. At the event, which
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was at the Hollywood Museum, they had their Christmas thing.
Ats gorgeous and I'm going to have some people back
on the show. Who who are you know, old older
Hollywood people and classic Hollywood people just like posers and iconic.
You know, Danielle Danagan is the founder. It is huge,
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and you know the fact that I'm respected there is
it's just amazing to me that, you know. Anyways, I
love that and I was able to receive that and
not be in my head because I gotten rid of
the irritation and then I slept on it and I
didn't respond and this morning I'm now realizing I've moved
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from anger to sadness and also you know, away from blame,
away from shame, and now you know, I'm more balanced,
don't have an answer and it's okay, So yeah, I
appreciate my ability to move through that awesome. Yeah, and
that's it for breakfast. For joining us, You've got another
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love here and yeah so and more love.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Oh that's cool, April, that's inspiring. I feel the same, April.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
Ah getting some love Dona. All right, that was a great,
yummy breakfast today.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
Yummy.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Thank you for joining us for breakfast. I do this
every weekday morning, so you'll have to come back even
if you can't say for the whole show. But I
promise you if you do this good life habit every
single day versus at starting your day with MS meaningless scrolling,
you will sandwich your day in the most positive way.
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Thanks for joining us for breakfast. And no for the
topic of the day. I just love that going. It's
like so it centers me as soon as I hear it. Ricky,
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what's the topic of the day.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
The topic of the day for Straight Talk on Courage
with Ricky Rebel Rocks and Doctor Marissa the Asian Oprah.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Courage to Change You haven't I actually had here? Let's
show my instagram so that people can see the kind
of funly had. How's that? I don't know if you've
posted it yet, but I actually put one out yesterday
in order to whereas oh, you just came up. Let's
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put me up.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
I think you have a.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Picture up there, but I actually have a video that
I could show so y'all can share in the fun
that we had that night. And see, I'm gonna share it. Yeah,
why is that is that me?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
I have it? I have it hanging in my room. Now,
oh you have it in your room.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
You put it up because I put it in. So
let's do this and uh, oh this is great. Can
you see it?
Speaker 3 (21:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Okay, I don't know if I have the sound on
just for copyright, you can see it. And there's me,
and there's the whole venue.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
Amazing, lots of people.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Yeah, and I'm trying to start the program. Yeah, and
there's a beautiful friend. She's a friend of Carrie Case.
There she is. That's the news of And there's my
new friend. And look at my co hosts.
Speaker 5 (22:35):
There we are.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
I gotta guess Sandwich my co host sandwich his birthday.
Yay at this Hello. You know Ricky is my red
Partner teacher. So this is one of my presents. Happy birthday.
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And this is there's the Curtis is in Chinese.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
So that so mom gave me the video? Does she
give you the video?
Speaker 2 (23:08):
Yes, you gave me the video.
Speaker 3 (23:10):
I gave you the video. Good it went through per video.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Yeah, so there you go.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
I'm going to be posting it throughout the days.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
That's the article that I wrote in the journal. Oh sorry,
we're back here, all right.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
I like the lungs.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
Yeah, there you go. So yeah, that was a little taste.
For those of you who are on my YouTube live
you get to watch and listen and uh for those
of you on the am FM side, hopefully that was
enough commentary that you could get an idea. But please
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so once you are somewhere, you can always get the
visual on my YouTube TV channel, which is now over
four point two million impressions. So super happy that there
are people who are getting the fact that I have positive.
That means, you know, a lot of million people like positive.
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So that's really great. Let's see PAMs here.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Who's there, Pam givens Pam.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
So yeah, okay, So courage to change that's the topic.
Speaker 5 (24:26):
If you have any eight cents worth of an opinion
or experience and you'd like to join us in this discussion,
we love it, except if you're driving and listening.
Speaker 6 (24:38):
To casey aaam FM ten fifty and one fix one
oh three point five, do not chat, wait till you
get somewhere.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
And I'm so delighted y'all have found me again. I
moved back to my original slot, the best slot in
the morning am Pacific time, drive time to get you
to work in a good mood. All right? So, uh,
courage to change? What does that do for you? You
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know those old you know I say this and you
react as what is that? Verbal ping pong? Mental ping pong?
Speaker 3 (25:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (25:23):
What does that bring?
Speaker 3 (25:24):
What does it bring up in me?
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Courage to change? Well, I feel like I am pretty
good at it. Since I was a child, I've had
to evolve and change, uh, to survive in the industry.
And and I've always looked up to people who knew
how to change at least their outward appearance very well. Madonna,
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David Bowie, people that have reinvented themselves quite fluidly. Madonna
went on a spirit journey. And remember during the Ring
of White era, a big contrast when she started with
like a virgin and material girl, and it was it
was interesting to see her to do that, especially in
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music As an artist, to change styles is also very
takes to try new things, and I've always been very
open to that. And I also think that, uh, I
am a sponge next to people who I'm with. If
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I spend time with certain people, I take on a
lot of their traits, their strengths and their weaknesses, their
talents and things like that. I kind of I feel
like I'm the you know, the X Men, the character rogue.
Did you ever watch X Men? Like energy? You know,
she touches them and she absorbs it.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
So I feel like if I'm around somebody for a bit, I,
uh I can do that. So it's very important to
surround myself with people who are in the light, who
energetically high frequency people.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Yes, I loan it loone.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
It full of life and love, And it doesn't mean
you have to always be that way. Like we talk
about at least eighty percent of the time is great, right.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Yeah, No one's perfect, y'all. You know, I'm eighty eight
percent fabulous, and then twelve percent of the time I
step in it. That's just the way it is. Yeah,
And then to.
Speaker 3 (27:34):
Put a button on it, I think I'm a very
malleable person naturally, so it doesn't take as much courage
for me to change because I love it. I love
to learn, I love to like, for instance, want to
I want to do archery next, right, I think that
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the hardest thing to change, though, are like beliefs things
like that. Now that's different if we're talking about physical
changes like the hair that makeup the clothes, the attitude even,
but it's the beliefs not that is interesting.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
That's what it's called bs. The belief systems.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Call when you start to get the courage.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Yeah, yeah, truly, that is truly. And let me just
make a comment for me. Let me just make a
comment about your your EmPATH, your energy, your ability to
draw or emulate. That sensitivity is the word that you
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didn't use that sort of encapsulates you. And I don't
know about you when I was told, oh, you're so sensitive,
and I just drive me and push my buttons. And
now I know that my sensitivity is one correlated with
my creativity. So you are uber sensitive and uber creative,
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Like you can't even have a birthday without writing a song,
you know, Like that's that's true creativity, right.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Mixed and mastered, I will say too, mixed and mastered.
You go, it's ready to go.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
You gotta overdo everything right. We have a happy birthday
from Patricia.
Speaker 3 (29:28):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
Those of you have just tuned in and wondering what's
going on in studio today. We're talking about courage to change,
but we're also re clebrating Ricky's birthday.
Speaker 7 (29:39):
Happy birthday, de my beloved friend. Happy Who's day to.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
You? Happy birthday to thank you? Where is it? Where
is it?
Speaker 3 (30:08):
You think it beautifully? Here and there at the party.
And that's not an easy song to sing.
Speaker 2 (30:12):
By the way, thank you, thank you, thank you is
a good probiotic. Oh thank you. That's from a little
bit of a go of a conversation, But that's good.
I actually can't take kombucha because I'm sober and I
don't want any traits of any alcohol anything to ruin that.
That's exactly why the Bible tells is this, Mama, Pam
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is okay, Pam, sorry? Exactly why the Bible tells us
surround ourselves with like people. Yeah, take on the traits
of the people were surrounded by. Yeah, there's a saying
too that you are the five people that you hang
around or something like that. Something, So you.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Really are those people? Yeah, I'm like, uh oh, not you.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
Yeah, all right, we're gonna I just looked at the clock.
We're gonna have to take a quick break for news,
weather and traffic and a word from our sponsors. So
don't go away. We'll be right back into and two.
As Chuck Literary used to say, I say piece in
and piece o. Don't go away. We'll be right back
with more Ricky Rebbel and his birthday and a courage
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to change.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Well.
Speaker 8 (31:45):
She has been dubbed the Asian Oprah, and she just
wants all of us to be happy.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
Doctor Marissa aka the Asian Oprah says, the most most
important thing you can choose is choosing to be happy.
You are tuned into my weekly tech radio TV show called.
Speaker 9 (32:08):
Take My Advice. I'm not using it. Get balance with
Doctor Marissa.
Speaker 2 (32:23):
That's the idea for it.
Speaker 8 (32:24):
Dtr Marissa Pay's new book call Eight Ways to Be Happy.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Many of us say I am my own worst critic.
Nobody's harder on me than I am. And my response
to that is stop it. Why are you doing that
to yourself? You have to be your biggest fan because
if you can't at the end of the day say
I did a good job. Who is We don't have
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to constantly be angry at the things that are wrong.
Why don't we choose to be happy about things that
are right. We have the choice. That's our muscle and
life is so amazing if we can see it. And
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with some of your favorite people, like Ricky Rebel, who
is going to be in Vegas performing again in January
and February and March because we put this into his
desire vortex and it manifested into a residency. Still proud
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of them, and I will be there to cheer him
on beyon A cruise. But February, I'm going so yeah,
and we're talking about his birthday and the courage to Change,
which is a little present that I gave him that's
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Chinese in case you thought I was Swedish. Yeah, it's
the courage to change, and that's what we're talking about today.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
So I want to read it. Yes, please do it
says the courage to change to seek unknown potential. It
takes great courage and inner strength to change from what
is known and comfortable to something which is new and fresh.
That which is unknown often contains our greatest potential. To
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seek our potential by risking change is the path of
true greatness. Such action brings great favor and untold blessings. Lovely,
I love it, I.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
Love it, I love it.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
I'm sorry it hanging up, and thank you for that
beautiful gift.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
You're welcome, my blessing, my blessing. And boy, lots of
wise nuggets in that right.
Speaker 3 (36:47):
I agree. Did you read it? I mean, I'm.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Glad you read it. So yeah, let's talk. Let's put
the moose on the table.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
Put the moose on the.
Speaker 2 (36:58):
Table Canadian version of talking about the elephant in the room.
And I have to say that the expression jack of
all trades, master of none has ruined people's ability to
have the courage to try new things, have the courage
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to know that you can be good at more than
one thing, have the courage to you know, see layoff
as not a horrible thing, but the opportunity to try
something new that our school system does not capitalize on
the ability to explore many different things when they push
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people to figure out what their major is or figure
out what their their career is going to be at
an age where they not should, but they could be exploring.
And I wrote a column to that end, and I
walked into a store in Seal Beach and they had
that article by their cash register because it was such
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a you know, a hope inspiring thing for everyone who's
feeling like they're stuck. They hate their job, they're stuck
in their job. COVID didn't help they Now they don't
want to try anything. They're just gonna sit in front
of the TV and stream all the time that you
could be learning a new language. Ricky's learning freaking DM
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and putting an album together. That's not his regular thing,
you know, and such a great example, and on his birthday.
You know, time is our most valuable resource. It's a
non renewable energy. What are you doing with your time?
Do you have the courage to try something new? Do
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you want the most? I grab life by the kahonas
because I know I'm only here for this dash, right,
I know I from love. I know I'm going to love,
but this is here, and I have the choice every
day what am I going to do today? Am I
getting a plane of all all the things that I
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don't like? Or am I gonna go yay? I get
to like make eries for the first time in my life.
And and uh put a curriculum together for Mojong for
the first time in my life. Uh, putting an online
course for choosing happiness for the first time in my life.
Speaker 1 (39:30):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
You know, I am the poster child for don't die Wondering.
And I've had so many people rain on my parade.
You can't chase two rabbits three rabbits at the same time.
You really need to focast online thing. You can't do
a job now. And then six months ago somebody goes, oh,
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you're the real multi hyphen it, And I'm like, what
the heck is that? Is that a good thing? And
they go, oh, no, it's a good thing. That means
you're good at a lot of different things. It's like,
and y'all poo pooed, Yeah, yeah, I wanted to give
them a figure, not this one.
Speaker 3 (40:16):
My friend and I Samantha Heart. We were talking about
that the other day. She's a Sagittarian like me, and
I think, you know, you're Leo fire science. We have
a lot of talent, natural talent. Okay, it's just the
way it is, just the way it's that fire, it's
that passion, and it's really good for art and creativity.
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And the thing is Samantha is like she's talented at
multiple a lot of things. So she's kind of like, oh,
she wants to you know, she's right now, she's really
focusing on speaking and her book. She has a book
focusing on that. But she's also a singer and a
choreographer and you know, dancer and and so I'm trying
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to you know, come into my world. Come come to
come perform in Vegas and come. She performed at the
last show that we did, and it was fire and
it was actually it was so hot that the producers
were like, that was a little too a little too hot,
and we're like, wow, we're too hot for Vegas. Okay,
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we get tone it down. She you know, she was
really upset. I'm gonna be very blunt, you know, she's
very upset by that note because she's like, this is
one of the fun things, that this is what you're doing,
what you're doing to express yourself and that's part of
the joy. And I didn't really take it as personal.
I'm like, well, it's just we got to be a
little more commercial about that, about the way we express it. Yeah,
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we can't be rolling on the floor. We can do
the same song. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (41:55):
I want to see it.
Speaker 3 (41:57):
Oh, it's great, you can see you all my Instagram
account rocks a baby clip.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Okay, Leo. So so, Bradley, what what is your actual date?
Mine's the tenth. And I had an astrologer on the
show and I had the churt done, like you know,
the right way. Apparently there's a way to you know,
where you're born, time you're one and all that. Yeah,
(42:25):
And she said she looked at it and she goes,
oh no, And I'm like, why is rock You're a Leo?
I go, I know, I'm a Leo. She goes, no,
You're a Leo and five planets. I'm like, what's that mean?
She goes, you just can't help yourself. And I'm gonna
use that to say, Ricky, I agree with you that
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fire signs have talent or you know, creativity, right, But
I am going to say to balance it out that
even if you're not a five sign, you have talents
that are not necessarily in front. Okay, uh, you have
talents that are equally important. Everybody, every eight million in
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one of us is one of a kind, wonderful. But
your talents usually are not all, but usually are in
the support of or in the creative background that creators
couldn't have without that. So so I want to just
balance that out. If you're not a fire sign, you're
still important.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
We need good lawyers, we need good accent we need
tax people, we need the balancers, we need the managers,
we need I mean theologists production.
Speaker 2 (43:48):
You know that one thing else is right? One thing
about the writers that that I know it was a
difficult time for writers, but boy, I did not ever
give them the credit that they deserve because when you
see a comedian or you see an actor or actress,
they get the attention. They're the fire signs, they're the
ones in front. But really, you know, non fire signs,
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I'm not saying all but a lot of that, you know,
part of the whole is so important.
Speaker 3 (44:22):
The writers it's the people in the background, and that
the people in the board meetings talking about how are
we going to launch this, how are we gonnah.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
This planning the operation.
Speaker 3 (44:34):
That's a lot of talent. That's a lot of talents.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
It is so so whatever your gift and ability is,
I'm here to tell you that it could be more
than what you're trained in. It could be and why not?
Ye why not try it? Why not learn a new language?
Why not learn an instrument? I think everyone is creative
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in multiple things. So this is your Happy eighty eight
challenge for the week, for the weekend. And I've been
doing this. Now see if it's catching on. I've seen
some posts with a hashtag happy eighty eight April does
it where people are taking the challenge. Whatever the challenge is,
this week's challenges, try something new and post about it
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and I will check it. I'm awarding, you know, free
audio books of my number one bestseller Eight Ways to
Happiness to people that do that, because I think it's so.
It's to think about it and to understand it is
one thing. To practice it and the courage to change
towards it is something completely different.
Speaker 3 (45:45):
I want to tell you, what are your challenges was
to stop complaining, or at least to catch yourself when
you're complaining. And I took that challenge on and I've
been taking that challenge on ever since. And I love
that one. I love that one that you talk about
having the courage to change because I was a big, big,
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big complainer. I would get on screen. I'm on this
app called Bigo b I g Oh, you guys should
follow me if you want to have some fun, follow
me on Bigo at Ricky Rebel Rocks. It's a really
cool app. And I usually just tuck it away. It's
one of those like reality show apps. I put it
on the screen, I put it there and I make music. Period.
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But what what are you looking at the same the
same day. Look at you guys, same day, same leo.
Speaker 2 (46:38):
I just love it.
Speaker 3 (46:41):
Oh wowther Leo.
Speaker 2 (46:43):
See this is crazy designs lighting. Yeah, we're all in agreement.
We're vehemently agreeing.
Speaker 3 (46:49):
So the complaining challenge that you did is really helpful
because you don't have to complain about something. You could
You could describe something without complaining about something. It's hot outside.
It's not a complaint, correct, It's an acknowledgement it's hot
outside and I'm dying and I'm you know, this whole thing,
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the complaining aspect is different than just the description of
what is so yes, So.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
I'm going to invite you if you're interested in making
it very fun and you can make money, it's joining
the twenty one day Fast from Complaining with me. And
we're starting another round of course January first, because it's
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a time. And if what you do is you register
and you donate twenty one dollars to my nonprofit eight
Ways to Happiness, which helps kids, teens and young adults
who have temporarily forgotten their birthright to happiness. So you
donate twenty one dollars and then if you are able
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to twenty one consecutive days in a row not complain.
And I do this honor system, but I will talk
to someone close to you so that I believe you.
Speaker 3 (48:15):
But some references. Yeah, I'll double.
Speaker 2 (48:20):
Your money and I'll and Doctor Mercy Inc.
Speaker 3 (48:22):
Will give you. I need the receipts, So there you go.
Speaker 2 (48:28):
I mean it. I'll tell you this is a great
gift for people who have everything, and or you if
you do this as a family or a group. I've
had divisions in organizations challenge other divisions to see in
my corporate work as an organizational psychologist. So hey, uh,
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if this trends, I'll be very happy, not only for
the nonprofit that's given away eight thousand books, kids and stuff.
So yeah, I would love if the Rebels took the challenge. Yeah,
that is it would be a lot of fun. So yeah,
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that's what you. Uh, here's the where you can find it,
no complace. I used to have an app on it.
Actually that was really funny. When you complained, you hit
the button way and then if you didn't complain, you
go well like the same year. But the person the
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couldn't keep up and it was kind of fell off
the shelf. But if there's any app makers that want
to get that back going, I'd love it. But I
have a whole playlist on YouTube that will give you
day by day the a tip on how to not
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complain for that day.
Speaker 3 (49:57):
The tools. It's very stoic.
Speaker 2 (50:02):
Another birthday. I haven't seen Keiky in a bed.
Speaker 3 (50:07):
Welcome back to Gonzales. She's one of my one of
my people.
Speaker 2 (50:12):
Yes, it's a Rebels in the house latina. Yes, so
courage to change the topic I don't see any courage
to change comments yet. Ricky, what have you What have
you changed recently? That's a good question. I didn't know
you were going to put me on the hobby and
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I know what you want me to talk about.
Speaker 3 (50:37):
You know what I'm going.
Speaker 2 (50:40):
Your little talk. I have had I've had the courage
to change some of my BS, my belief systems about men,
in particular. I at the risk of speaking out of
house and I don't think he's listening, but I have
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had a chance to realize that I am able to
change some of my core bs, my core belief systems
about people, about men, about what's important, what's possible, and
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every dating experience, whether it's really good or really bad, it.
Speaker 10 (51:33):
Will help you clarify what it is that you want
and what it is that you don't want. And I,
for the longest time, did not think that I could
meet someone who was at a similar.
Speaker 2 (51:52):
I don't want to it's not up or down level,
but just experience wise. Okay, let's just put that moose
on the table. Hold on. I did not think I
could be attracted to an older man because I'm kind
of like a guy. I'm attracted through my eyes and
so you know, younger guys, although I never would go
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there because there's nothing about the word cougar that I like. Okay,
so didn't follow that, but my BS, my belief system
was that looks are everything, and or I can't be
attracted to an older guy. And I met someone who
totally I couldn't believe that We talked for two hours,
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never even saw him, didn't do a video chat, but
just on the phone. It was so comfortable, and that
I can meet people who think I'm funny and he
laughed for two hours. And realizing that this may not
work because we have other things that are pretty significantly different,
but being able to feel the hope that has been
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generated instead of the anger that it's not going to last,
I have been able to go, Okay, I now know
that I really can connect with the older man. I
really can connect with someone who The thing that I
didn't realize was so important was that he laughed not
at me, but with me, And you know that was
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so important. I didn't realize how important that was. And
he is a Wikipedia, which validated that I really would
like someone who I can look up and go, wow,
you know, I don't want to be the one on
the pedestal. I want them to be on the pedestal.
And that was a big learning. You know, I have
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the courage to change that bs the belief system.
Speaker 3 (53:50):
Okay, when I was in the dating the moment of
my life. First of all, it's misery. I'm sorry talking
about complaining, talking about complaining. I do not envy anyone
anybody who's going through that. I don't. I don't like it.
(54:14):
I uh m not into it, not into it. Well,
what I will say is when I found someone that
I connected with, my mom and I she would help me, right,
we would go over the pros. We parta lists of
pros and cons. Okay, and you just kind of list
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what are the pros of this, of spending my time
with this person, to get to know them, to to
open my heart to them, and and my bedroom, what
are the pros and the cons and you write it
down boom boom boom boom boom, and then you write
down the cons and if the and my mom taught me.
My mother taught me, if the pros outweigh the cons,
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not something to pursue, that's something to look into. It's
really that simple. And it seems like there are a
lot of pros from what you were saying, and I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (55:09):
There he goes Ricky Madam, and I asked, I said, Ricky,
have you ever seen me bring anyone to anything? And
he's never, never, never, And you know how long it's
been since I felt like this, seventeen years. Seventeen years,
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I didn't even there.
Speaker 3 (55:36):
There's a spark, there's a there's a like, ah, this
is interesting, you know time Right now, I will say
this too.
Speaker 2 (55:46):
He's handsome, see you, well, he's handsome to me now
because like the whole package.
Speaker 11 (55:56):
And I know, Patricia, I know, I know, but but
my heart is connected to my eyes and so there
has to be.
Speaker 2 (56:08):
But what I've learned from this too is I think
it's more important to have a phone call before a
video chat, because a video chat I can like completely,
you know, bye bye before getting to know that person.
So that's another thing that I've learned, and I'm incorporating it.
And my swiper, no swiping if this one doesn't work.
(56:29):
But and and it's oh, oh, it's not that it
doesn't work. I have a book of romance that has
big chapters and little chapters. A few pages and the
march pages, and there's nothing wrong with him. He's not bad.
If it doesn't work, he's not the blame. Yesterday I
was in a very different place. I was so pissed.
But today, you know, it's just it's either a match
(56:52):
or match or not a match. There's nothing wrong with
the other person. Don't blame the relationship, not wor king.
It did work for a certain amount of time and
it was a beautiful time. So there you go.
Speaker 3 (57:07):
I agree.
Speaker 2 (57:08):
Yeah, stay tuned. No, Ricky is able to uh change
things today, but we're at a time word from you,
I know, I'm gonna freak it. Thanks a lot, Ricky.
What's your final word?
Speaker 3 (57:28):
Final word? Everyone? Uh, you know, have the courage to change,
have the courage to be yourself. I think that's the
biggest thing that in the whole world that takes the
most courage is to be ourselves. To be vulnerable is
a huge courage. That word that is the biggest one
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of all. I hate that word. You be both we
hate it. We hate it. It's oh my gosh. But man,
I think that's a big one for me to be
vuln and uh so I'm learning how to be that
way too. See that's my final word. If you guys
want to follow me, go to rickyrebelrocks dot com and
(58:09):
at Ricky rebel Rocks on all social media platforms. Thank
you awesome.
Speaker 2 (58:14):
My final word is the serenity prayer. Grant me the
serenity to accept the things I cannot change, and the
courage to change the things that I can, and the
wisdom to know the difference to may do my loving
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will always. I wrote that several years ago. Just put
the music underneath, and it is a guide me. Oh
thank you, I can't believe I did that. But courage
to change. If you're a person that is constantly changing,
you might want to go to the ability to accept,
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and if you're always okay with everything, you might want
the courage to change. So and the wisdom comes from
that breath, the connection with love. I love y'all. Thank you.
I love you, Ricky. I don't know where I'd be
without you. Love you, Love the Rebels, love my cashw gallery.
(59:17):
Thanks so much for joining us today. Great show. We'll
see you and in the meantime, oh piece and piece
out world peace through inner piece, Ricky, take us.
Speaker 3 (59:26):
Out and now we want you to go and have
the best weekend ever.
Speaker 2 (59:43):
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And today is absolutely no exception. It is the birthday
boy in the house. You know him as Ricky Rebel Rocks.
(01:47):
He is a billboard top forty and inducted into recently
the American entertain Music Entertainment Hall of Fame. And he
just celebrated a birthday and I got to sing Happy
Birthday to him on stage. Recent When was that, I
don't know, the days are blurring, but it was recently.
(02:11):
Please welcome back to my Studiocky Rebel.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Thank you very much. Thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Of course, it's always great to have time with you.
This is a rare time because we actually did get
to see each other in person. Normally we catch up,
so we are already caught up, but we might let
out some juicy details. But we're gonna start with our
gratitude sandwich and breakfast taking a bite. Top of the
(02:47):
button is if we look outside of ourselves, what are
we grateful for? And then tonight we're gonna model for
you what we want you to do before you get
a mad which is take a look inside and it's
the bottom of the bunch because I like it on
the bottom. And what do we like? What do we
appreciate about ourselves? And I think that that is the
(03:09):
foundation of good mental health. When you can approve of yourself,
that's great. Because frankly, my dear, if you can't approve
of yourself, how the fork do you expect anyone else to? Right, Ricky,
what are you grateful for this morning?
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Oh? What am I grateful for? So much to be
grateful for? Let's see, let's see, let's see. I'm grateful
for that wonderful party we had the other day. You
were there, Mom was there, My friends were there. It
was a beautiful location. They arked Beverly in Beverly Hills.
And I'm grateful for the people that came out. They're
(03:49):
really great people I met at the party. They gave
me a birthday cake that was really beautiful.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
It was.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Yeah, grateful for the gifts you gave me. I'm gonna
I want to take a moment and step off camera
at some point. I want to go get them and
share what you got because it's.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Really kay okay, so so glad that you enjoyed them.
And I really it was interesting time I was the
MC and uh, you want to talk about herding cats
and nailing jello to a tree? Paste still hurts from
(04:30):
you know, having nobody could tell which is the best
compliment that I was able to move through it and
people It's funny. People would come up and say, wow,
you did an amazing job, what a great show that was.
And MY first response was are you like, what are
(04:51):
you crazy? Are you lying to me? Are you trying?
What do you want from me? And then uh, and
then Ricky pointed out that that was compliment because they
had no idea of all the shenanigans that were going
on behind Stanes woof that was I have not had
that happen since the very first time we met, which
(05:13):
was the trauma in Las Vegas, what two years ago? Yeah,
so yeah, it's I mean, I'm grateful that no matter what,
I can smile. How's that that's actually the bottom of
(05:34):
the bud. That's a quality that I am. But I
am grateful that. Wow, it was you know, there was
just such a beautiful cross section of people from a
film director, film house. Actually he came because he saw
my article in the journal and I don't know if
(05:55):
you knew this. He lived in my building ten years ago,
or we both lived in that building ten years ago.
I'm not there, he's not there, And it was a
tough It was an opportunity time in his life, and
I didn't even remember how much of an impact. And
he told me how grateful he was for well, I
(06:19):
didn't even know what I did then, but I helped
him apparently. And I also do remember giving his daughter
when they moved out, this giant teddy bear that literally
was like almost as big as me. And so she
still has it, which is kind of cool.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
I love that. Yeah, I am grateful for the whole week.
The birthday week has been a lot of fun. I
for my actual birthday December seconds, we had a jam
session in my recording studio and a group of my
friends got together and we just wrote a song together.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Oh that's cool.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
Yeah, I produced the music and it came out really hot.
It's a hot track because I'm writing an ed M
album right now.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Nice. Yeah, I love it, love it, love it now.
Were those the friends that were there?
Speaker 3 (07:17):
Yeah, exactly, those same friends.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Those two. Oh good, because I have a picture together.
I didn't know who they were. I mean, there was
so much going on, and so.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Samantha to the girl. You meant you met Samantha Hart right.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Yes, yes, And Michael Jackson's niece was there.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Yeah. What was her name again? Do you recall? I
got to tag her. I put her in my post,
and I'm like, what's her day? My mom will remember, like.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Was it Rajah? I don't know. We're connected on.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
Oh you guys connected on social media?
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Yeah, yeah, but it starts with an R. I remember,
you know me, she's lovely, so lovely. I I have
a I have a you know, great memory, but my
recall sucks, and you're and that night was you know,
my recall is connected with the state of mind that
I was in. So they say studies have shown that
(08:16):
if you memorize something when you're drunk, you won't remember
it until you're drunk again. So I.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Get angry and furious you don't remember right away.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy, oh girl, oh girl.
Sometimes boy it is. I'm grateful for I'm grateful for
a day off after this, even though I worked now
(08:54):
and I did an interview before this interview. Uh, the
rest of the day I get to I've got some
projects going. I'm writing an online course for Mojong. I'm
I'm making Mojong ear rings. Uh. You know when CBS
did the special on Mojong and they put up Mojong veteran.
(09:17):
You know, now I gotta I have to do something
to prove it. So that's what I'm doing today. I'm
grateful that I actually have a day off where I
don't have to drive to Beverly Hills. Do you know
I drove there again last night? Uh so yeah, so
two nights in a row, from Long Beach to Beverly
Hills in traffic.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Oh no, oh yes, I'm going to be Hills. You
are yeah to see again?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
And the designer, Oh good good, I'm glad. All right,
let's see. Oh we've got captain of the Cashew Gallery,
April beat your rebel rebels this morning. Good morning to you, Donna.
I think that's a rebel. Maybe I'm glad whether you're
(10:08):
a rebel or a doctor. Marissa. Uh, here's we're in class,
so can't listen in. That's okay, we're here. You can
sneak a sneaker gratitude and if you would like, let's
see one last gratitude. I'm grateful for the sunshine. It
is sunny out, it's beautiful, solar powered. So grateful I
(10:31):
live in sunny California.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Yeah, I'm grateful for all the things that I don't
want that I don't get, which is billions of things
I don't want that I don't get. I don't want cancer.
I don't have it, any of those crazy diseases you
can just put out a scroll.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
Okay, I'm grateful that I have health and hell yeah,
I'm like, ah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
I actually I actually did wake up a little bit,
you know, with all of the stress of not distress,
but just we're doing a lot of choreography right now,
so I was like coughing a van like, oh, but
I know exactly what to do. Have you ever gotten
an ivy hydration drip?
Speaker 2 (11:19):
No, I tried to avoid.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Oh it's so good.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
You can do it for me. I'll get it from you.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
I probably later today give a nice ivy drip.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Yeah, all of vitamins and good stuff. Good stuff.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
Actually. Uh. Because of my new series Beating Cancer with Nutrition,
I'm learning I don't have cancer, but the information that
Mark Simon, who's the founder of nutrient nutrition Oncology Research
Institute has taught me about the importance of fiber that
(12:03):
I didn't you know that fiber is more important than
protein because it is brain food. I didn't know that,
and so and probiotics and prebacs. Never understood all that.
So you get some shows on the YouTube that you're
all free subscribed to. So I've been eating and taking
(12:23):
probiotics instead of natural laxatives because it's so important to
be regular. Never understood that either. So realizing that sickness
sometimes comes from the lack of flow, okay, and yeah, yeah,
So I'm really really grateful that I have this show
(12:47):
that I get to learn things from every single day,
every weekday morning. Let's go to the bottom of the button,
which it is what do you like about yourself? And
one of the presents I gave to Ricky was exactly
to highlight his ability to like himself more. When we started,
(13:10):
he hated this exercise. I don't know what I like
about myself. And he's not alone. Many of us have
such unrealistic high expectations of perfection that are never fulfilled.
So we're never happy with ourselves because there's always more.
(13:31):
But it's so important to go you know what I
like most of me and that I love that. I
love that his growth, and I love it when your
mama always gives me some credit so he knows that.
Speaker 3 (13:48):
She can see the growth and the evolution.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Yeah, shall go first, Yes, actually, April, I'm gonna let
her go first to have littles in my life against
but the evening with my dude's grandkids too.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
In a four.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
Okay, so she's grateful. That's the top of the bike.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
She's the top of the bune. Gratefulness. Love it, Yes,
bottom of the bun. I am grateful. Oh we got more.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Yes, someone's crafty. Oh yeah that's me, doctor Rissa. Hello Rickie,
about watch you're dancing. You're good, You're so good. Yay,
so great dance. Thank you, Danna. What do you like
about yourself?
Speaker 3 (14:32):
Booth? I like the fact that I know how to
radiate light and I'm getting better at what that feels
like when I'm doing that, in the process of doing that,
and when I'm not, I'm getting more clear. That night especially,
I could feel when I was it was so cool
(14:54):
actually to experience it. I felt like this real because
my mom was there, and whenever my mom is there,
I get very protective and very concerned. Yeah, about how
she's feeling, what she's thinking. Is this event going smoothly?
Is it, you know, is it as big? Is it
(15:16):
supposed to be? Is it the right kind of big?
You know? Well, there's a lot of thoughts in my
head and and I could feel myself going there being
very critical. But then I I could also feel myself
letting it all go and be like, oh, whatever, what's
(15:37):
have fun, It's all good. And I would start laughing
with my friends, connecting with other people. So I just
really enjoyed the fact that I can I can do
that now. Mm hmmm.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
It was so funny. This one moment he came up
to me. I remember I was at the bar getting
my diet coke and he goes, uh, doctor, Bissa, you're
going to need to I need help, but I need
to be anchored. And I looked at him and I went, ah, ah,
it's your turn.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
You know, you got to anchor me, anchor me.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
You have no idea what's going on. And that's the
first time ever, right, that has been the case.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
So yeah, but I was able to self anchor.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Proud of that, Yes, I'm proud of you for that.
Very much. So uh, yes, we all need to love ourselves.
Done it, That's why we do the bottom of the button.
Let's seetive is sisterly, long term and holistic, with trust
that the universe is conspiring for my favor patients, and
persistence pays off. That's great. Lots of self care, self love,
(16:52):
and self affirmation going on in the Cashoo gallery right now.
Love self can sing them like tar all, so we're
just flooded. I love this because it's so important to
take responsibility for our own mental health, which means stop
(17:13):
hating yourself, stopping so critical, stopping your own worst enemy,
and become your best friend. And y'all have done that.
I mean, we don't even need it.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
You know, it's done.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Very inspiring today. Oh and I'm going to end it
with saying I appreciate my ability to you know, be
very in tune with what I'm feeling like that yesterday
I was so mad and I was able to talk
(17:47):
about it with Ricky before the event so I could
get it all out, and he was a great. If
you don't have a friend that is able just to
let you vent and then let you know without trying
to fix it, without trying to whatever you need to
have one, because that is I think the key to
(18:08):
feeling your feelings fully. I don't I don't recommend stuffing
it down because it'll get infected. But I think I
have the skill of being able to do that fully
and then be able to be present and fully, you know,
smiling and doing what I'm doing. At the event, which
(18:29):
was at the Hollywood Museum, they had their Christmas thing.
Ats gorgeous and I'm going to have some people back
on the show. Who who are you know, old older
Hollywood people and classic Hollywood people just like posers and iconic.
You know, Danielle Danagan is the founder. It is huge,
(18:53):
and you know the fact that I'm respected there is
it's just amazing to me that, you know. Anyways, I
love that and I was able to receive that and
not be in my head because I gotten rid of
the irritation and then I slept on it and I
didn't respond and this morning I'm now realizing I've moved
(19:14):
from anger to sadness and also you know, away from blame,
away from shame, and now you know, I'm more balanced,
don't have an answer and it's okay, So yeah, I
appreciate my ability to move through that awesome. Yeah, and
that's it for breakfast. For joining us, You've got another
(19:40):
love here and yeah so and more love.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Oh that's cool, April, that's inspiring. I feel the same, April.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
Ah getting some love Dona. All right, that was a great,
yummy breakfast today.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
Yummy.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Thank you for joining us for breakfast. I do this
every weekday morning, so you'll have to come back even
if you can't say for the whole show. But I
promise you if you do this good life habit every
single day versus at starting your day with MS meaningless scrolling,
you will sandwich your day in the most positive way.
(20:21):
Thanks for joining us for breakfast. And no for the
topic of the day. I just love that going. It's
like so it centers me as soon as I hear it. Ricky,
(20:43):
what's the topic of the day.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
The topic of the day for Straight Talk on Courage
with Ricky Rebel Rocks and Doctor Marissa the Asian Oprah.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Courage to Change You haven't I actually had here? Let's
show my instagram so that people can see the kind
of funly had. How's that? I don't know if you've
posted it yet, but I actually put one out yesterday
in order to whereas oh, you just came up. Let's
(21:19):
put me up.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
I think you have a.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Picture up there, but I actually have a video that
I could show so y'all can share in the fun
that we had that night. And see, I'm gonna share it. Yeah,
why is that is that me?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
I have it? I have it hanging in my room. Now,
oh you have it in your room.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
You put it up because I put it in. So
let's do this and uh, oh this is great. Can
you see it?
Speaker 3 (21:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Okay, I don't know if I have the sound on
just for copyright, you can see it. And there's me,
and there's the whole venue.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
Amazing, lots of people.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Yeah, and I'm trying to start the program. Yeah, and
there's a beautiful friend. She's a friend of Carrie Case.
There she is. That's the news of And there's my
new friend. And look at my co hosts.
Speaker 5 (22:35):
There we are.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
I gotta guess Sandwich my co host sandwich his birthday.
Yay at this Hello. You know Ricky is my red
Partner teacher. So this is one of my presents. Happy birthday.
(22:58):
And this is there's the Curtis is in Chinese.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
So that so mom gave me the video? Does she
give you the video?
Speaker 2 (23:08):
Yes, you gave me the video.
Speaker 3 (23:10):
I gave you the video. Good it went through per video.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Yeah, so there you go.
Speaker 3 (23:16):
I'm going to be posting it throughout the days.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
That's the article that I wrote in the journal. Oh sorry,
we're back here, all right.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
I like the lungs.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
Yeah, there you go. So yeah, that was a little taste.
For those of you who are on my YouTube live
you get to watch and listen and uh for those
of you on the am FM side, hopefully that was
enough commentary that you could get an idea. But please
(23:47):
so once you are somewhere, you can always get the
visual on my YouTube TV channel, which is now over
four point two million impressions. So super happy that there
are people who are getting the fact that I have positive.
That means, you know, a lot of million people like positive.
(24:07):
So that's really great. Let's see PAMs here.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Who's there, Pam givens Pam.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
So yeah, okay, So courage to change that's the topic.
Speaker 5 (24:26):
If you have any eight cents worth of an opinion
or experience and you'd like to join us in this discussion,
we love it, except if you're driving and listening.
Speaker 6 (24:38):
To casey aaam FM ten fifty and one fix one
oh three point five, do not chat, wait till you
get somewhere.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
And I'm so delighted y'all have found me again. I
moved back to my original slot, the best slot in
the morning am Pacific time, drive time to get you
to work in a good mood. All right? So, uh,
courage to change? What does that do for you? You
(25:11):
know those old you know I say this and you
react as what is that? Verbal ping pong? Mental ping pong?
Speaker 3 (25:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (25:23):
What does that bring?
Speaker 3 (25:24):
What does it bring up in me?
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Courage to change? Well, I feel like I am pretty
good at it. Since I was a child, I've had
to evolve and change, uh, to survive in the industry.
And and I've always looked up to people who knew
how to change at least their outward appearance very well. Madonna,
(25:49):
David Bowie, people that have reinvented themselves quite fluidly. Madonna
went on a spirit journey. And remember during the Ring
of White era, a big contrast when she started with
like a virgin and material girl, and it was it
was interesting to see her to do that, especially in
(26:11):
music As an artist, to change styles is also very
takes to try new things, and I've always been very
open to that. And I also think that, uh, I
am a sponge next to people who I'm with. If
(26:31):
I spend time with certain people, I take on a
lot of their traits, their strengths and their weaknesses, their
talents and things like that. I kind of I feel
like I'm the you know, the X Men, the character rogue.
Did you ever watch X Men? Like energy? You know,
she touches them and she absorbs it.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
So I feel like if I'm around somebody for a bit, I,
uh I can do that. So it's very important to
surround myself with people who are in the light, who
energetically high frequency people.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Yes, I loan it loone.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
It full of life and love, And it doesn't mean
you have to always be that way. Like we talk
about at least eighty percent of the time is great, right.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Yeah, No one's perfect, y'all. You know, I'm eighty eight
percent fabulous, and then twelve percent of the time I
step in it. That's just the way it is. Yeah,
And then to.
Speaker 3 (27:34):
Put a button on it, I think I'm a very
malleable person naturally, so it doesn't take as much courage
for me to change because I love it. I love
to learn, I love to like, for instance, want to
I want to do archery next, right, I think that
(27:56):
the hardest thing to change, though, are like beliefs things
like that. Now that's different if we're talking about physical
changes like the hair that makeup the clothes, the attitude even,
but it's the beliefs not that is interesting.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
That's what it's called bs. The belief systems.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Call when you start to get the courage.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
Yeah, yeah, truly, that is truly. And let me just
make a comment for me. Let me just make a
comment about your your EmPATH, your energy, your ability to
draw or emulate. That sensitivity is the word that you
(28:40):
didn't use that sort of encapsulates you. And I don't
know about you when I was told, oh, you're so sensitive,
and I just drive me and push my buttons. And
now I know that my sensitivity is one correlated with
my creativity. So you are uber sensitive and uber creative,
(29:07):
Like you can't even have a birthday without writing a song,
you know, Like that's that's true creativity, right.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Mixed and mastered, I will say too, mixed and mastered.
You go, it's ready to go.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
You gotta overdo everything right. We have a happy birthday
from Patricia.
Speaker 3 (29:28):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
Those of you have just tuned in and wondering what's
going on in studio today. We're talking about courage to change,
but we're also re clebrating Ricky's birthday.
Speaker 7 (29:39):
Happy birthday, de my beloved friend. Happy Who's day to.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
You? Happy birthday to thank you? Where is it? Where
is it?
Speaker 3 (30:08):
You think it beautifully? Here and there at the party.
And that's not an easy song to sing.
Speaker 2 (30:12):
By the way, thank you, thank you, thank you is
a good probiotic. Oh thank you. That's from a little
bit of a go of a conversation, But that's good.
I actually can't take kombucha because I'm sober and I
don't want any traits of any alcohol anything to ruin that.
That's exactly why the Bible tells is this, Mama, Pam
(30:36):
is okay, Pam, sorry? Exactly why the Bible tells us
surround ourselves with like people. Yeah, take on the traits
of the people were surrounded by. Yeah, there's a saying
too that you are the five people that you hang
around or something like that. Something, So you.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Really are those people? Yeah, I'm like, uh oh, not you.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
Yeah, all right, we're gonna I just looked at the clock.
We're gonna have to take a quick break for news,
weather and traffic and a word from our sponsors. So
don't go away. We'll be right back into and two.
As Chuck Literary used to say, I say piece in
and piece o. Don't go away. We'll be right back
with more Ricky Rebbel and his birthday and a courage
(31:25):
to change.
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Many of us say I am my own worst critic.
Nobody's harder on me than I am. And my response
to that is stop it. Why are you doing that
to yourself? You have to be your biggest fan because
if you can't at the end of the day say
I did a good job. Who is We don't have
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to constantly be angry at the things that are wrong.
Why don't we choose to be happy about things that
are right. We have the choice. That's our muscle and
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(35:06):
and you're going to learn about how you can be
with some of your favorite people, like Ricky Rebel, who
is going to be in Vegas performing again in January
and February and March because we put this into his
desire vortex and it manifested into a residency. Still proud
(35:28):
of them, and I will be there to cheer him
on beyon A cruise. But February, I'm going so yeah,
and we're talking about his birthday and the courage to Change,
which is a little present that I gave him that's
(35:50):
Chinese in case you thought I was Swedish. Yeah, it's
the courage to change, and that's what we're talking about today.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
So I want to read it. Yes, please do it
says the courage to change to seek unknown potential. It
takes great courage and inner strength to change from what
is known and comfortable to something which is new and fresh.
That which is unknown often contains our greatest potential. To
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seek our potential by risking change is the path of
true greatness. Such action brings great favor and untold blessings. Lovely,
I love it, I.
Speaker 2 (36:32):
Love it, I love it.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
I'm sorry it hanging up, and thank you for that
beautiful gift.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
You're welcome, my blessing, my blessing. And boy, lots of
wise nuggets in that right.
Speaker 3 (36:47):
I agree. Did you read it? I mean, I'm.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Glad you read it. So yeah, let's talk. Let's put
the moose on the table.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
Put the moose on the.
Speaker 2 (36:58):
Table Canadian version of talking about the elephant in the room.
And I have to say that the expression jack of
all trades, master of none has ruined people's ability to
have the courage to try new things, have the courage
(37:21):
to know that you can be good at more than
one thing, have the courage to you know, see layoff
as not a horrible thing, but the opportunity to try
something new that our school system does not capitalize on
the ability to explore many different things when they push
(37:45):
people to figure out what their major is or figure
out what their their career is going to be at
an age where they not should, but they could be exploring.
And I wrote a column to that end, and I
walked into a store in Seal Beach and they had
that article by their cash register because it was such
(38:07):
a you know, a hope inspiring thing for everyone who's
feeling like they're stuck. They hate their job, they're stuck
in their job. COVID didn't help they Now they don't
want to try anything. They're just gonna sit in front
of the TV and stream all the time that you
could be learning a new language. Ricky's learning freaking DM
(38:29):
and putting an album together. That's not his regular thing,
you know, and such a great example, and on his birthday.
You know, time is our most valuable resource. It's a
non renewable energy. What are you doing with your time?
Do you have the courage to try something new? Do
(38:50):
you want the most? I grab life by the kahonas
because I know I'm only here for this dash, right,
I know I from love. I know I'm going to love,
but this is here, and I have the choice every
day what am I going to do today? Am I
getting a plane of all all the things that I
(39:10):
don't like? Or am I gonna go yay? I get
to like make eries for the first time in my life.
And and uh put a curriculum together for Mojong for
the first time in my life. Uh, putting an online
course for choosing happiness for the first time in my life.
Speaker 1 (39:30):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
You know, I am the poster child for don't die Wondering.
And I've had so many people rain on my parade.
You can't chase two rabbits three rabbits at the same time.
You really need to focast online thing. You can't do
a job now. And then six months ago somebody goes, oh,
(39:53):
you're the real multi hyphen it, And I'm like, what
the heck is that? Is that a good thing? And
they go, oh, no, it's a good thing. That means
you're good at a lot of different things. It's like,
and y'all poo pooed, Yeah, yeah, I wanted to give
them a figure, not this one.
Speaker 3 (40:16):
My friend and I Samantha Heart. We were talking about
that the other day. She's a Sagittarian like me, and
I think, you know, you're Leo fire science. We have
a lot of talent, natural talent. Okay, it's just the
way it is, just the way it's that fire, it's
that passion, and it's really good for art and creativity.
(40:41):
And the thing is Samantha is like she's talented at
multiple a lot of things. So she's kind of like, oh,
she wants to you know, she's right now, she's really
focusing on speaking and her book. She has a book
focusing on that. But she's also a singer and a
choreographer and you know, dancer and and so I'm trying
(41:02):
to you know, come into my world. Come come to
come perform in Vegas and come. She performed at the
last show that we did, and it was fire and
it was actually it was so hot that the producers
were like, that was a little too a little too hot,
and we're like, wow, we're too hot for Vegas. Okay,
(41:25):
we get tone it down. She you know, she was
really upset. I'm gonna be very blunt, you know, she's
very upset by that note because she's like, this is
one of the fun things, that this is what you're doing,
what you're doing to express yourself and that's part of
the joy. And I didn't really take it as personal.
I'm like, well, it's just we got to be a
little more commercial about that, about the way we express it. Yeah,
(41:48):
we can't be rolling on the floor. We can do
the same song. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (41:55):
I want to see it.
Speaker 3 (41:57):
Oh, it's great, you can see you all my Instagram
account rocks a baby clip.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Okay, Leo. So so, Bradley, what what is your actual date?
Mine's the tenth. And I had an astrologer on the
show and I had the churt done, like you know,
the right way. Apparently there's a way to you know,
where you're born, time you're one and all that. Yeah,
(42:25):
And she said she looked at it and she goes,
oh no, And I'm like, why is rock You're a Leo?
I go, I know, I'm a Leo. She goes, no,
You're a Leo and five planets. I'm like, what's that mean?
She goes, you just can't help yourself. And I'm gonna
use that to say, Ricky, I agree with you that
(42:48):
fire signs have talent or you know, creativity, right, But
I am going to say to balance it out that
even if you're not a five sign, you have talents
that are not necessarily in front. Okay, uh, you have
talents that are equally important. Everybody, every eight million in
(43:13):
one of us is one of a kind, wonderful. But
your talents usually are not all, but usually are in
the support of or in the creative background that creators
couldn't have without that. So so I want to just
balance that out. If you're not a fire sign, you're
still important.
Speaker 3 (43:34):
We need good lawyers, we need good accent we need
tax people, we need the balancers, we need the managers,
we need I mean theologists production.
Speaker 2 (43:48):
You know that one thing else is right? One thing
about the writers that that I know it was a
difficult time for writers, but boy, I did not ever
give them the credit that they deserve because when you
see a comedian or you see an actor or actress,
they get the attention. They're the fire signs, they're the
ones in front. But really, you know, non fire signs,
(44:12):
I'm not saying all but a lot of that, you know,
part of the whole is so important.
Speaker 3 (44:22):
The writers it's the people in the background, and that
the people in the board meetings talking about how are
we going to launch this, how are we gonnah.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
This planning the operation.
Speaker 3 (44:34):
That's a lot of talent. That's a lot of talents.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
It is so so whatever your gift and ability is,
I'm here to tell you that it could be more
than what you're trained in. It could be and why not?
Ye why not try it? Why not learn a new language?
Why not learn an instrument? I think everyone is creative
(45:01):
in multiple things. So this is your Happy eighty eight
challenge for the week, for the weekend. And I've been
doing this. Now see if it's catching on. I've seen
some posts with a hashtag happy eighty eight April does
it where people are taking the challenge. Whatever the challenge is,
this week's challenges, try something new and post about it
(45:25):
and I will check it. I'm awarding, you know, free
audio books of my number one bestseller Eight Ways to
Happiness to people that do that, because I think it's so.
It's to think about it and to understand it is
one thing. To practice it and the courage to change
towards it is something completely different.
Speaker 3 (45:45):
I want to tell you, what are your challenges was
to stop complaining, or at least to catch yourself when
you're complaining. And I took that challenge on and I've
been taking that challenge on ever since. And I love
that one. I love that one that you talk about
having the courage to change because I was a big, big,
(46:06):
big complainer. I would get on screen. I'm on this
app called Bigo b I g Oh, you guys should
follow me if you want to have some fun, follow
me on Bigo at Ricky Rebel Rocks. It's a really
cool app. And I usually just tuck it away. It's
one of those like reality show apps. I put it
on the screen, I put it there and I make music. Period.
(46:27):
But what what are you looking at the same the
same day. Look at you guys, same day, same leo.
Speaker 2 (46:38):
I just love it.
Speaker 3 (46:41):
Oh wowther Leo.
Speaker 2 (46:43):
See this is crazy designs lighting. Yeah, we're all in agreement.
We're vehemently agreeing.
Speaker 3 (46:49):
So the complaining challenge that you did is really helpful
because you don't have to complain about something. You could
You could describe something without complaining about something. It's hot outside.
It's not a complaint, correct, It's an acknowledgement it's hot
outside and I'm dying and I'm you know, this whole thing,
(47:14):
the complaining aspect is different than just the description of
what is so yes, So.
Speaker 2 (47:21):
I'm going to invite you if you're interested in making
it very fun and you can make money, it's joining
the twenty one day Fast from Complaining with me. And
we're starting another round of course January first, because it's
(47:41):
a time. And if what you do is you register
and you donate twenty one dollars to my nonprofit eight
Ways to Happiness, which helps kids, teens and young adults
who have temporarily forgotten their birthright to happiness. So you
donate twenty one dollars and then if you are able
(48:01):
to twenty one consecutive days in a row not complain.
And I do this honor system, but I will talk
to someone close to you so that I believe you.
Speaker 3 (48:15):
But some references. Yeah, I'll double.
Speaker 2 (48:20):
Your money and I'll and Doctor Mercy Inc.
Speaker 3 (48:22):
Will give you. I need the receipts, So there you go.
Speaker 2 (48:28):
I mean it. I'll tell you this is a great
gift for people who have everything, and or you if
you do this as a family or a group. I've
had divisions in organizations challenge other divisions to see in
my corporate work as an organizational psychologist. So hey, uh,
(48:51):
if this trends, I'll be very happy, not only for
the nonprofit that's given away eight thousand books, kids and stuff.
So yeah, I would love if the Rebels took the challenge. Yeah,
that is it would be a lot of fun. So yeah,
(49:11):
that's what you. Uh, here's the where you can find it,
no complace. I used to have an app on it.
Actually that was really funny. When you complained, you hit
the button way and then if you didn't complain, you
go well like the same year. But the person the
(49:33):
couldn't keep up and it was kind of fell off
the shelf. But if there's any app makers that want
to get that back going, I'd love it. But I
have a whole playlist on YouTube that will give you
day by day the a tip on how to not
(49:55):
complain for that day.
Speaker 3 (49:57):
The tools. It's very stoic.
Speaker 2 (50:02):
Another birthday. I haven't seen Keiky in a bed.
Speaker 3 (50:07):
Welcome back to Gonzales. She's one of my one of
my people.
Speaker 2 (50:12):
Yes, it's a Rebels in the house latina. Yes, so
courage to change the topic I don't see any courage
to change comments yet. Ricky, what have you What have
you changed recently? That's a good question. I didn't know
you were going to put me on the hobby and
(50:34):
I know what you want me to talk about.
Speaker 3 (50:37):
You know what I'm going.
Speaker 2 (50:40):
Your little talk. I have had I've had the courage
to change some of my BS, my belief systems about men,
in particular. I at the risk of speaking out of
house and I don't think he's listening, but I have
(51:03):
had a chance to realize that I am able to
change some of my core bs, my core belief systems
about people, about men, about what's important, what's possible, and
(51:27):
every dating experience, whether it's really good or really bad, it.
Speaker 10 (51:33):
Will help you clarify what it is that you want
and what it is that you don't want. And I,
for the longest time, did not think that I could
meet someone who was at a similar.
Speaker 2 (51:52):
I don't want to it's not up or down level,
but just experience wise. Okay, let's just put that moose
on the table. Hold on. I did not think I
could be attracted to an older man because I'm kind
of like a guy. I'm attracted through my eyes and
so you know, younger guys, although I never would go
(52:16):
there because there's nothing about the word cougar that I like. Okay,
so didn't follow that, but my BS, my belief system
was that looks are everything, and or I can't be
attracted to an older guy. And I met someone who
totally I couldn't believe that We talked for two hours,
(52:37):
never even saw him, didn't do a video chat, but
just on the phone. It was so comfortable, and that
I can meet people who think I'm funny and he
laughed for two hours. And realizing that this may not
work because we have other things that are pretty significantly different,
but being able to feel the hope that has been
(53:00):
generated instead of the anger that it's not going to last,
I have been able to go, Okay, I now know
that I really can connect with the older man. I
really can connect with someone who The thing that I
didn't realize was so important was that he laughed not
at me, but with me, And you know that was
(53:23):
so important. I didn't realize how important that was. And
he is a Wikipedia, which validated that I really would
like someone who I can look up and go, wow,
you know, I don't want to be the one on
the pedestal. I want them to be on the pedestal.
And that was a big learning. You know, I have
(53:46):
the courage to change that bs the belief system.
Speaker 3 (53:50):
Okay, when I was in the dating the moment of
my life. First of all, it's misery. I'm sorry talking
about complaining, talking about complaining. I do not envy anyone
anybody who's going through that. I don't. I don't like it.
(54:14):
I uh m not into it, not into it. Well,
what I will say is when I found someone that
I connected with, my mom and I she would help me, right,
we would go over the pros. We parta lists of
pros and cons. Okay, and you just kind of list
(54:37):
what are the pros of this, of spending my time
with this person, to get to know them, to to
open my heart to them, and and my bedroom, what
are the pros and the cons and you write it
down boom boom boom boom boom, and then you write
down the cons and if the and my mom taught me.
My mother taught me, if the pros outweigh the cons,
(54:59):
not something to pursue, that's something to look into. It's
really that simple. And it seems like there are a
lot of pros from what you were saying, and I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (55:09):
There he goes Ricky Madam, and I asked, I said, Ricky,
have you ever seen me bring anyone to anything? And
he's never, never, never, And you know how long it's
been since I felt like this, seventeen years. Seventeen years,
(55:35):
I didn't even there.
Speaker 3 (55:36):
There's a spark, there's a there's a like, ah, this
is interesting, you know time Right now, I will say
this too.
Speaker 2 (55:46):
He's handsome, see you, well, he's handsome to me now
because like the whole package.
Speaker 11 (55:56):
And I know, Patricia, I know, I know, but but
my heart is connected to my eyes and so there
has to be.
Speaker 2 (56:08):
But what I've learned from this too is I think
it's more important to have a phone call before a
video chat, because a video chat I can like completely,
you know, bye bye before getting to know that person.
So that's another thing that I've learned, and I'm incorporating it.
And my swiper, no swiping if this one doesn't work.
(56:29):
But and and it's oh, oh, it's not that it
doesn't work. I have a book of romance that has
big chapters and little chapters. A few pages and the
march pages, and there's nothing wrong with him. He's not bad.
If it doesn't work, he's not the blame. Yesterday I
was in a very different place. I was so pissed.
But today, you know, it's just it's either a match
(56:52):
or match or not a match. There's nothing wrong with
the other person. Don't blame the relationship, not wor king.
It did work for a certain amount of time and
it was a beautiful time. So there you go.
Speaker 3 (57:07):
I agree.
Speaker 2 (57:08):
Yeah, stay tuned. No, Ricky is able to uh change
things today, but we're at a time word from you,
I know, I'm gonna freak it. Thanks a lot, Ricky.
What's your final word?
Speaker 3 (57:28):
Final word? Everyone? Uh, you know, have the courage to change,
have the courage to be yourself. I think that's the
biggest thing that in the whole world that takes the
most courage is to be ourselves. To be vulnerable is
a huge courage. That word that is the biggest one
(57:48):
of all. I hate that word. You be both we
hate it. We hate it. It's oh my gosh. But man,
I think that's a big one for me to be
vuln and uh so I'm learning how to be that
way too. See that's my final word. If you guys
want to follow me, go to rickyrebelrocks dot com and
(58:09):
at Ricky rebel Rocks on all social media platforms. Thank
you awesome.
Speaker 2 (58:14):
My final word is the serenity prayer. Grant me the
serenity to accept the things I cannot change, and the
courage to change the things that I can, and the
wisdom to know the difference to may do my loving
(58:34):
will always. I wrote that several years ago. Just put
the music underneath, and it is a guide me. Oh
thank you, I can't believe I did that. But courage
to change. If you're a person that is constantly changing,
you might want to go to the ability to accept,
(58:55):
and if you're always okay with everything, you might want
the courage to change. So and the wisdom comes from
that breath, the connection with love. I love y'all. Thank you.
I love you, Ricky. I don't know where I'd be
without you. Love you, Love the Rebels, love my cashw gallery.
(59:17):
Thanks so much for joining us today. Great show. We'll
see you and in the meantime, oh piece and piece
out world peace through inner piece, Ricky, take us.
Speaker 3 (59:26):
Out and now we want you to go and have
the best weekend ever.
Speaker 2 (59:43):
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