May 25, 2023 • 23 mins
Welcome to the Hot Girls Cry podcast!
Your go-to podcast for all things wellness, mindset, personal development, health, fitness, beauty and lifestyle!
This episode is the trailer, get to know us and hear our story!
Follow us on social:
https://www.instagram.com/shaniahdip/
https://www.instagram.com/valerierocio/
Your go-to podcast for all things wellness, mindset, personal development, health, fitness, beauty and lifestyle!
This episode is the trailer, get to know us and hear our story!
Follow us on social:
https://www.instagram.com/shaniahdip/
https://www.instagram.com/valerierocio/
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:00):
This week, a hot new bombshellenters the Villa. I'm Shanaya. I'm
a content creator and a manic moneyspender. I'm Valerie. I'm a serial
entrepreneur and recovering perfectionists. We're hereto bring you life in wellness, tips,
tricks and hacks from experts and ourpersonal experiences. This is the Hot
(00:21):
Girls Cry Podcast. Hi, guys, welcome to the very first episode of
the Hot Girls Cry Podcast. Hie, it feels so it's the real to
be sitting here. I feel likeit happened so fast. This is a
dream that I've had since lunch andI'm not giving up on it. Yeah,
(00:48):
how did this come about? ValHow did we get here? How
do we get to be sitting hereacros from each other with Mike's in front
of our faces? Honestly, itreally did like kind of come out of
nowhere. But then at the sametime, I've been thinking about it for
a minute, but I was like, I don't want to bring it up
because I don't want because I'm suchlike I have so many projects that I'm
like, I don't want to belike putting a project on our friendship.
And then we really just talking onenight and then I think one of us
(01:08):
said something about it, or wewere talking about someone else's podcasts and they
were like, well, if wehad a podcast, And then we're like,
well, if we had a podcast, And then within like one night,
we planned all of it and thengot started, and well, I've
been thinking about it. Well,well I've been thinking about it, so
I had been. It's so weirdbecause I feel like a lot of times
me and you have the same exactthoughts on our head. Actually, it's
(01:33):
really weird. And I had beenthinking about it for months, just like
envisioning it. Kind of. MaybeI manifested this, we both manifested this,
probably, but I had been thinkingabout it because you are such a
type a person and I've been wantingto start a podcast, not like I'm
using you because for your organization skills, but also like our conversations are just
(01:55):
so valuable they are to each other, at least at the very least.
Yeah. Yeah, I feel likewe're both very wellness focused and very like
being better every day focused, SoI feel like it's just very It's like
it was bound to happen. Basically. Well, it's funny because that's why
I never ever brought it up becauseI was like, I am so type
(02:15):
A then I don't want to starta project and then hijack it and then
be like never mind, this ismy project. And so until you brought
it up and you were like,well, I think, I'm like,
okay, well, then maybe wecan do it mutually and it'll be a
fun thing. And I'm like internallymonitoring myself to not hijack. No,
I will actually take the reins onany organization skill, which I love.
(02:38):
Yeah, you go ahead, Yeah, I handled the admin. You bring
the creative. Yes, Yin andYang, Baby, Yin and Yang,
Yes, ma'am. But I thinkthe part of like why we really wanted
to start to start too is becauselike our entire friendship has been based like
on wellness and growth, and Ifeel like we both individually dedicate so much
time to like growing, and likewe both are really into research and being
(03:01):
healthier and like mental health and habitsand routines. And then that's why like
our conversations are always so like likeI guess valuable to each other because we're
like, oh, this book,stead said this and these stats and like,
well, actually this study and we'rejust constantly, like just in school.
Yeah, not to be cringey,but it's just that be one person
(03:23):
better everyday type of thing. AndI feel like we really do live that
way, and we've seen each otherevolve through so many different phases and talk
about so many different problems that weactually do fix and work through and always
just striving to be the hottest andthe most healthy and just live our best
(03:46):
lives basically. Yeah, and that'swhy I think it's like the best part
too. It's like not even justvanity, Like we're both totally for like
being the hottest versions of ourselves andlike really put a lot of effort into
like our fitness and our beauty andour skincare. But at the same time,
like we're both very very focused onlike how do we handle situations,
what's our communication with our partners?Like, and then also just our actual
(04:08):
health of like longevity, and likewe really focus on that too. And
then, like you said, likewe just have really supported each other through
a lot of it, and butwe've also like some accountability there too.
Yeah. I mean I don't knowif I would actually eat a vegetable if
it didn't have vanity benefits as well, and I'm saying, but really,
(04:28):
I really actually set mushrooms. Yeah, I agree. I think at the
end of the day, you can'tyou can have one without the other.
There's no way for you to actuallybe beautiful on the outside if you're not
feeling good on the inside. Yeah, we take a very holistic approach,
yeah to all the things. Yes, definitely, But where do we think
(04:48):
that's started? And maybe with bodybuilding, good old body building, it got
us solved it in it. Ifeel like it started the wellness journe but
like in the worst way, Likeit seemed great at the time and now
looking back it was like one ofmy not I don't regret it, but
like I'm just like, wow,why did I think that was health?
(05:10):
But then had I not gone throughthat, I wouldn't have maybe made such
a big made health and wellness sucha big priority. So like I'm glad
I did it, But at thesame time, I'm like, boy,
did I get that wrong? Yeah, I just think it was everyone at
that time, we were all justthat was the only ideal, ideal,
that was the only idea that wehad of what health looked like. You
(05:31):
were you're one hundred and it wasvery much like you're healthy if you look
this way. Mmm, we were. We were not very evolved yeah as
a society in that way, atleast healthy. Yeah, that was like
back in the day where like itwas very much like what are you burning
hustled culture or like grind ol day, like get your hardest work out in
(05:54):
and stuff like that. But thatis also like how we kind of met
kind of. Yeah, so ValNo, I moved to Dallas like five
years ago and I moved to Frisco, which is actually where Val lives currently.
(06:15):
And I just up and left Houstonbecause at the time I was just
I don't know what I was chasing, but I was chasing something. So
I moved here and I basically justposted on my Instagram and I was like,
is anybody out here? I wantto be workout buddies, And Val
slid in the DMS because I wasalready following you because you were already a
fit spo, Like you weren't justsome completely rando. I mean you kind
(06:39):
of like, yeah, I didn'tknow you, but like I was already
following you because you were a fitspo and we were both in bodybuilding,
so like we already had a lineinterest and already knew who you were,
but I knew you like in reallife. Yeah, So she slid in
the DMS and we had her firstworkout, and I just remember she just
came in like a wreck ball,this ball of energy, just like running
(07:04):
shit, talking about her job andhow she was just killing it, and
it was just yeah, honestly,we just slowly gradually. I feel like
our friendship was definitely a slow burn. I feel like it was a slow
burner and then it went to likeslow burner to one hundred, Yeah,
for sure, like slow burner toa Soulmates new podcast, but for real
(07:30):
though, because like I remember reachingout and like I was working at my
corporate job and like I've never reallyhad like that many friends or like childhood
friends or anything, and so Iremember just going out on a woman like
I had just I think I hadjust like I did like a past friendship
that was like very fitness focused andlike I didn't have any other friends who
were like in the fitness community andI was still super in it and I
(07:50):
had just like gotten into like orI guess I was in my powerlifting phase
at the time, but like youwere local and I had already followed you,
and you seemed really nice and Iremember thinking like you sounded just like
paid Hathaway. I remember like tellingyou that I'll take it, and I
remember we had like a gym dateplanned and I went into my office and
I was like, I've got agym date with this girl today, like
(08:13):
she's an influencer, and I wasreally nervous because I was like, what's
she gonna be, Like, Like, is she gonna be like you know,
I guess the negative stereotype of aninfluencer versus like you know, obviously
it's not doesn't apply to everyone.But I was just like so nervous.
And then we met and I waslike, oh, this is good,
Like this is good. And thenyou were so skeptical of me. Yeah,
(08:35):
I was unhinged. Yeah, ata time, I don't know what
I was going through something. Idon't know what I was going through,
but you know, happy it allhappened that the way it did, because
I felt like I really just neededto. I don't know, I had
a fire under my ass and Iwas just but you were also single and
like in a new city, andlike that was just very different from me.
(08:56):
Because I've been in a relationship foralmost ten years and I had been
already living with him, and Ihad my corporate job, and I've always
been like, I have a fiveyear plan and I'm achieving it, so
like I've always known what's next,and like you didn't really have a plan
for what was next. And Ithink that to me was like really chaotic,
but it makes sense because like you'resingle and in any city, so
(09:18):
like there's nothing wrong with that.But I just remember being like, this
girl is like just living her life, which was like so unheard of to
me because I'm very much like Ialready know what the next decade is going
to look like, Yeah, yeah, you have it all figured out.
And I was living by the seatof my pants, the absolute seat of
my pants. So I moved toFrisco. We hung out a couple of
times, got kind of close,had our pool dates and all of that,
(09:43):
and then I decided I was goingto move to Miami with another friend
at the time, and so wekind of we're distant for like a year
after I moved to Miami and thenthat didn't work out. I spent three
days in Miami and then moved toLa after that, and I was kind
of getting settled in LA and stufflike that, like quite literally day to
(10:05):
day. Like it wasn't like youwere in Miami for a while, Like
you literally went into Miami and thenwent to La. Yeah, I went
to Miami. Plans just fell throughcompletely, and then I moved to LA
and I was like, here weare because I had a living situation that
I could go to there and Ididn't really have one in Miami. I
could have made it work in eitherof the spot. Yeah, but La,
(10:26):
I don't know. It just Iwas just like, okay, well,
time to drive across country. ButI think that was what was absolutely
wild to me because we were gettingcloser, but like we weren't super super
close, like we weren't texting everyday or anything, and so it's not
like you told me that you weregoing to Miami. I just all of
a sudden saw that you were goingto Miami, and then in a couple
of days I saw that you weregoing to LA and I was like what
(10:46):
in the world, and like thatwas just so wild to me. But
then at the same time, Iwas like she's young and single and like
can do it, so like whynot, and like that was something I
always like, really like, especiallyfrom the beginning, like admire, I
was like, well, she justdoes whatever the hell she wants, Like
she's not following any sort of societalpath or plan, Like it's just if
(11:07):
she wants to go there, shegoes there. And like I try to
live my life like that, butI just am much less of a risk
taker. But I think that's sogood because it balances us out so well.
You keep me, you keep meresponsible. Sometimes not even a lease
agreement can do that, Okay,not even the law honestly though. So
(11:31):
then I moved l got settled infor a year and Val reached out and
basically was like, hey, I'mgoing to come visit. And I was
like, come on, girl,and you were like wait, really,
I didn't know how serious you werebecause like again, like we weren't really
talking a whole lot, and likeyou were just so nice too that you
were like, yeah, like whenevergirl comes, stay with me. And
(11:54):
I was like okay, And thenI went and booked flights and I was
like, but can I actually likecome stay? And like my biggest discomfort
is like ever like intruding, you'reputting someone out or somebody else committing to
something just out of being polite,And so I was just like really nervous
because I was like, what ifshe's just like genuinely just being like yeah
totally and like not thinking that I'mthe kind of person that's like, okay,
(12:18):
I have an itinerary now. Andso I didn't want to like land
and be like I'm here and you'dbe like what why? So I brought
my mommy, yes, which we'reso happy for. I love her.
I love to see her that tripas well, but I wouldn't have I
think that's just classic you and Ias well, where I'm like, yeah,
sure, come, not even thinkinga second about I'm like, come
(12:39):
on, girl, I mean you'reover here like ruminating, like wait,
but actually should I Like, I'mlike, do you have room in your
apartment? Yeah? She's considering everyoption, every like reason I could have
said that, and I'm just likeyeah, come yeah literally. But it
was nice too, because I feellike that gave us a chance to like
get i mean, become friends,like without like I guess, like too
(13:03):
much pressure too, because I broughtmy mom and I was because I basically
told my mom I was like,I really want to be friends with this
girl, Like we get along reallywell, but like I don't know she
actually means for me to come outor if she's just being polite, So
like we can go out and thenI can spend a day or two with
her and then from there kind offigure it out. But then we hung
out for that couple of days wewere there, and I was like,
oh, amazing, And I thinkI even told you that that's kind of
how I was feeling. And youwere like, no, dude, Like
(13:24):
I wouldn't invite you to stay,like and then you invited me. Then
you were like, okay, I'minviting you to come in a couple of
weeks and actually stay with me.And I was like, okay, cool.
I was like, I just needlike very like secure, definitive yes,
like dates times no. But Ithink that's what makes you a good
person as well, because a lotof people, I feel like while I
(13:45):
was living in LA did take advantageof the fact that, like, oh
I know someone who's living in LA. Let me go vacation for a little
bit. And that's why I wouldlove when you would come visit, because
you would just come and you didn'thave any agenda of your own or any
plans of your own. You justgenuinely want to hang out with me,
into my life and also do allof the healthy things. While a lot
(14:05):
of people when they would come visit, they would want to go out and
you know, drink and I wouldbe off on my schedule and all of
that, where you were like,no, actually, I'm gonna work every
day. Literally, yes, thisgirl was like up working and I was
like, okay, let me chopchop, get all my stuff. Because
yeah, good influence for sure.Yeah, because at that point between meeting
(14:26):
and you living in Frisco and thenyou moving to LA, I had quit
my corporate job and started my company, and so when I started coming to
La to see you, I wasat that point running my company and so
I was working like a freaking maniac, and so I would come and like
you obviously worked from home and theyhad more flexible schedule, and so I
would be like, I'll just behere on the couch working while you like
do your stretches and yoga, andthen we would go to the gym together.
(14:48):
But it was really nice because Ifelt like at the time I really
wasn't taking care of myself and sobeing able to come and just have somebody
influence like routine, and like that'salways been like your our biggest priority is
like routine and wellness first, Andlike I knew how valuable it was obviously
coming from like fitness and sports andbeing an athlete my whole life, but
I never made it a priority formyself. And you were always like health
(15:11):
is wealth, man, Like let'sdo our stretches, and like because you
were doing it, I'd be like, Okay, I'm going to do yoga
and I would always be so inspiredin La. I'm gonna go home and
I'm gonna go for walks every morningand I'm gonna do my meditation on the
patio. And it was like italways made me so inspired. So I
feel like every time I went toLa, it was like a retreat,
like a wellness retreat with you.And then you get back to Texas and
(15:31):
it was like one hundred and tendergrace and you're like, yeah, the
window and stress was through the roof. Oh I miss La so much,
Jonas and too much. I know, just need a little airbnb there.
Yeah, So that's kind of howwe became friends. And then I started
to come see you in La allthe time, and like then I ended
(15:52):
up getting work in La, Sothen I started coming like monthly for work
and would stay with you. Butwe never did anything like I don't think
we ever went out in it.I mean, we definitely never went out
in La. Like. We onlyever went to like dinner and then we
just hung out like very chill,like you had your routine. I had
my routine. I would do mywork from your place. And that was
that just a very simple, yeahfriendship. That and I have been friends
(16:15):
for five years, five years,five years, and we've been drunk together
once. Yeah, And I wouldsee together maybe three times and I would
say, like the drunk drunk wasme? Like tipsy? Yeah, yeah,
she was tipsy. I was drunk. It was my birthday this past
year, and that was the firsttime we've ever gone out, like to
(16:37):
an actual bar club together. Yeah. And we even went out to another
club since then, and I didn'teven drink. Wait, which one was
that? Two chains? Oh?And that was very uncomfortable for me.
I mean obviously not because of Shania, but just because it's not my scene.
She was just a sleepy girl.I was sleepy and I was just
had fomo, so I wanted togo to be part of the experience,
(16:59):
but like I really don't drink andI really don't go out late, and
it was just like a lot forme. Yeah, you could tell she
was just there to be there fullof regret. Yeah it's fine. We
have the mems now. Yes,yes you have pictures and the men's but
all of that to say, Ithink we like our friendship is kind of
the foundation of like a lot ofour growth, you know. As cheesy
(17:21):
as it is, like I couldcry about it, but I genuinely think
like we're soulmates, and I justfeel like who I am now has been
like a big heavily influenced by ourfriendship because we've always prioritized health and wellness,
and like where I'm at now inmy career, especially with like taking
care of myself so much more likeI probably would have got here eventually,
but like you saw me break inmyself like day by day, and like
(17:44):
always just supported me but also reiterated, like you need to take care of
yourself, like drink some water.Girl, when I first met Val,
she drank more coffee in a daythan she did water. I mean I
would literally go two to three dayswithout drink water. Yeah, And I
remember when you first told me that, Like we both shocked each other in
different ways. You shocked me withthat and I shocked you with flying off
(18:07):
the seat of my pants. Iwas like what. But it was funny
because you're still like fit and youstill prioritized health in different ways. But
there was just little things, youknow, and I'm like really knowledgeable in
it too, but like absolutely don'tapply it. Yeah yeah, yeah,
yeah, And you've had seasons whereyou have but yeah, sometimes you just
I have like, um spurts whereI'll drink water. No, I do
(18:30):
drink water now, yes, justnot still not nearly as much as the
average person should to survive. No. Yeah, And it's been it's been
crazy to witness your journey, likejust your mental health getting better and your
fitness health getting better, and yourroutines and you always have prioritized like your
business and your career and all ofthat before your personal health, oh for
(18:55):
sure. And then I feel likejust since we've been friends too, like
I've married the majority of it,but I mean definitely with the same guy.
All of our friendship and marriage ishard, and like relationships are hard,
and so like you've seen us likework through a lot of stuff too,
and so like with my business andjust running a business being really hard
and then marriage being hard. Likewe've just had some hard times, but
(19:18):
then you've also been dating through ourwhole friendship and then moved across the country
a couple of times one million percent. I mean she's been married for many
years. And while she's been married, I've been going through relationships that have
just been very toxic a lot ofthem. So that's been one type of
heart, and then another type ofheart is obviously being in a long term,
(19:41):
committed relationship. So it's a it'sbeen a ride. But I think
that's what's nice too, is likewe are very like if especially if you
look at us, like on paper, we're very different people. We're at
very different stages in our lives andlike we're very very different careers, but
I like we're still So that's whywe say like we're soul maze, because
(20:03):
like our souls are the same,and our values and our priorities are the
same, but we're just like Idon't know, because I feel like all
of our interests, hobbies, everything'sthe same, but like our lives are
completely different one million percent. Icouldn't agree more. There's like we're two
total opposite ends of the spectrum,but there's like our values and our everything
(20:25):
else just aligne so perfectly. AndI think that's why we like understand each
other so well. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, And that's what
we started a podcast that we canshare that with the world. Yeah.
I just honestly feel like it's aIt's something that's going to be super fun
with for us because as friends whoare I guess I don't know how to
(20:48):
say getting better driven or like justevolving driven. I feel like this is
just a really fun endeavor for usbecause it's something we can be creative at,
it's something we can work towards toget there as a goal, and
I just feel like it's something that'sfun more than anything for us. Yeah,
And I think the topics that wewant to talk about are things that
(21:10):
we've already always been really interested in, like mental health, habit building,
routine, wellness, vitamins, nutrition, like all the things. And so
like we'll obviously share our personal experienceshaving trial and air and then having grown
together, seeing each other grow throughstuff. But then also we want to,
like just because we love it somuch and are so invested that we
(21:30):
want to talk to experts and getlike the real deal info and like actual
like and apply it to our livesand stuff too. And so I think
like it's just like us being ableto have a creative outlet for the things
that we already care so much aboutand like constantly obsess over with each other.
Yes, perfectly said one million percent. I'm so excited for this podcast
(21:52):
and just to see where it goes. And I mean, we have these
conversations anyways, so might as wellhave them documented and might as well share
them with the world. Yeah,and hopefully they can help someone else and
inspire someone else. Yeah, I'mso excited. I can't believe we just
recorded our very first episode of ourpodcast. Yeah, I honestly don't want
(22:15):
it to be over. But there'sa lot more to come. We will
get I will get more comfortable onthe Mikey guys, So stay tuned for
that and all of our topics.We have a whole map already of things
we want to talk about. Butif you guys want to hear anything,
in particular, definitely let us knowon our socials chat with us there,
(22:37):
Slide into the DMS. Yeah,slide into those dums, baby, and
we'll talk to you next time.Bye. Thanks for listening to the Hot
Girls Cry Podcast. If you've enjoythis episode, show some love and support
with a rating review, or keepthe conversation going over on our socials t
t y l
This week, a hot new bombshellenters the Villa. I'm Shanaya. I'm
a content creator and a manic moneyspender. I'm Valerie. I'm a serial
entrepreneur and recovering perfectionists. We're hereto bring you life in wellness, tips,
tricks and hacks from experts and ourpersonal experiences. This is the Hot
(00:21):
Girls Cry Podcast. Hi, guys, welcome to the very first episode of
the Hot Girls Cry Podcast. Hie, it feels so it's the real to
be sitting here. I feel likeit happened so fast. This is a
dream that I've had since lunch andI'm not giving up on it. Yeah,
(00:48):
how did this come about? ValHow did we get here? How
do we get to be sitting hereacros from each other with Mike's in front
of our faces? Honestly, itreally did like kind of come out of
nowhere. But then at the sametime, I've been thinking about it for
a minute, but I was like, I don't want to bring it up
because I don't want because I'm suchlike I have so many projects that I'm
like, I don't want to belike putting a project on our friendship.
And then we really just talking onenight and then I think one of us
(01:08):
said something about it, or wewere talking about someone else's podcasts and they
were like, well, if wehad a podcast, And then we're like,
well, if we had a podcast, And then within like one night,
we planned all of it and thengot started, and well, I've
been thinking about it. Well,well I've been thinking about it, so
I had been. It's so weirdbecause I feel like a lot of times
me and you have the same exactthoughts on our head. Actually, it's
(01:33):
really weird. And I had beenthinking about it for months, just like
envisioning it. Kind of. MaybeI manifested this, we both manifested this,
probably, but I had been thinkingabout it because you are such a
type a person and I've been wantingto start a podcast, not like I'm
using you because for your organization skills, but also like our conversations are just
(01:55):
so valuable they are to each other, at least at the very least.
Yeah. Yeah, I feel likewe're both very wellness focused and very like
being better every day focused, SoI feel like it's just very It's like
it was bound to happen. Basically. Well, it's funny because that's why
I never ever brought it up becauseI was like, I am so type
(02:15):
A then I don't want to starta project and then hijack it and then
be like never mind, this ismy project. And so until you brought
it up and you were like,well, I think, I'm like,
okay, well, then maybe wecan do it mutually and it'll be a
fun thing. And I'm like internallymonitoring myself to not hijack. No,
I will actually take the reins onany organization skill, which I love.
(02:38):
Yeah, you go ahead, Yeah, I handled the admin. You bring
the creative. Yes, Yin andYang, Baby, Yin and Yang,
Yes, ma'am. But I thinkthe part of like why we really wanted
to start to start too is becauselike our entire friendship has been based like
on wellness and growth, and Ifeel like we both individually dedicate so much
time to like growing, and likewe both are really into research and being
(03:01):
healthier and like mental health and habitsand routines. And then that's why like
our conversations are always so like likeI guess valuable to each other because we're
like, oh, this book,stead said this and these stats and like,
well, actually this study and we'rejust constantly, like just in school.
Yeah, not to be cringey,but it's just that be one person
(03:23):
better everyday type of thing. AndI feel like we really do live that
way, and we've seen each otherevolve through so many different phases and talk
about so many different problems that weactually do fix and work through and always
just striving to be the hottest andthe most healthy and just live our best
(03:46):
lives basically. Yeah, and that'swhy I think it's like the best part
too. It's like not even justvanity, Like we're both totally for like
being the hottest versions of ourselves andlike really put a lot of effort into
like our fitness and our beauty andour skincare. But at the same time,
like we're both very very focused onlike how do we handle situations,
what's our communication with our partners?Like, and then also just our actual
(04:08):
health of like longevity, and likewe really focus on that too. And
then, like you said, likewe just have really supported each other through
a lot of it, and butwe've also like some accountability there too.
Yeah. I mean I don't knowif I would actually eat a vegetable if
it didn't have vanity benefits as well, and I'm saying, but really,
(04:28):
I really actually set mushrooms. Yeah, I agree. I think at the
end of the day, you can'tyou can have one without the other.
There's no way for you to actuallybe beautiful on the outside if you're not
feeling good on the inside. Yeah, we take a very holistic approach,
yeah to all the things. Yes, definitely, But where do we think
(04:48):
that's started? And maybe with bodybuilding, good old body building, it got
us solved it in it. Ifeel like it started the wellness journe but
like in the worst way, Likeit seemed great at the time and now
looking back it was like one ofmy not I don't regret it, but
like I'm just like, wow,why did I think that was health?
(05:10):
But then had I not gone throughthat, I wouldn't have maybe made such
a big made health and wellness sucha big priority. So like I'm glad
I did it, But at thesame time, I'm like, boy,
did I get that wrong? Yeah, I just think it was everyone at
that time, we were all justthat was the only ideal, ideal,
that was the only idea that wehad of what health looked like. You
(05:31):
were you're one hundred and it wasvery much like you're healthy if you look
this way. Mmm, we were. We were not very evolved yeah as
a society in that way, atleast healthy. Yeah, that was like
back in the day where like itwas very much like what are you burning
hustled culture or like grind ol day, like get your hardest work out in
(05:54):
and stuff like that. But thatis also like how we kind of met
kind of. Yeah, so ValNo, I moved to Dallas like five
years ago and I moved to Frisco, which is actually where Val lives currently.
(06:15):
And I just up and left Houstonbecause at the time I was just
I don't know what I was chasing, but I was chasing something. So
I moved here and I basically justposted on my Instagram and I was like,
is anybody out here? I wantto be workout buddies, And Val
slid in the DMS because I wasalready following you because you were already a
fit spo, Like you weren't justsome completely rando. I mean you kind
(06:39):
of like, yeah, I didn'tknow you, but like I was already
following you because you were a fitspo and we were both in bodybuilding,
so like we already had a lineinterest and already knew who you were,
but I knew you like in reallife. Yeah, So she slid in
the DMS and we had her firstworkout, and I just remember she just
came in like a wreck ball,this ball of energy, just like running
(07:04):
shit, talking about her job andhow she was just killing it, and
it was just yeah, honestly,we just slowly gradually. I feel like
our friendship was definitely a slow burn. I feel like it was a slow
burner and then it went to likeslow burner to one hundred, Yeah,
for sure, like slow burner toa Soulmates new podcast, but for real
(07:30):
though, because like I remember reachingout and like I was working at my
corporate job and like I've never reallyhad like that many friends or like childhood
friends or anything, and so Iremember just going out on a woman like
I had just I think I hadjust like I did like a past friendship
that was like very fitness focused andlike I didn't have any other friends who
were like in the fitness community andI was still super in it and I
(07:50):
had just like gotten into like orI guess I was in my powerlifting phase
at the time, but like youwere local and I had already followed you,
and you seemed really nice and Iremember thinking like you sounded just like
paid Hathaway. I remember like tellingyou that I'll take it, and I
remember we had like a gym dateplanned and I went into my office and
I was like, I've got agym date with this girl today, like
(08:13):
she's an influencer, and I wasreally nervous because I was like, what's
she gonna be, Like, Like, is she gonna be like you know,
I guess the negative stereotype of aninfluencer versus like you know, obviously
it's not doesn't apply to everyone.But I was just like so nervous.
And then we met and I waslike, oh, this is good,
Like this is good. And thenyou were so skeptical of me. Yeah,
(08:35):
I was unhinged. Yeah, ata time, I don't know what
I was going through something. Idon't know what I was going through,
but you know, happy it allhappened that the way it did, because
I felt like I really just neededto. I don't know, I had
a fire under my ass and Iwas just but you were also single and
like in a new city, andlike that was just very different from me.
(08:56):
Because I've been in a relationship foralmost ten years and I had been
already living with him, and Ihad my corporate job, and I've always
been like, I have a fiveyear plan and I'm achieving it, so
like I've always known what's next,and like you didn't really have a plan
for what was next. And Ithink that to me was like really chaotic,
but it makes sense because like you'resingle and in any city, so
(09:18):
like there's nothing wrong with that.But I just remember being like, this
girl is like just living her life, which was like so unheard of to
me because I'm very much like Ialready know what the next decade is going
to look like, Yeah, yeah, you have it all figured out.
And I was living by the seatof my pants, the absolute seat of
my pants. So I moved toFrisco. We hung out a couple of
times, got kind of close,had our pool dates and all of that,
(09:43):
and then I decided I was goingto move to Miami with another friend
at the time, and so wekind of we're distant for like a year
after I moved to Miami and thenthat didn't work out. I spent three
days in Miami and then moved toLa after that, and I was kind
of getting settled in LA and stufflike that, like quite literally day to
(10:05):
day. Like it wasn't like youwere in Miami for a while, Like
you literally went into Miami and thenwent to La. Yeah, I went
to Miami. Plans just fell throughcompletely, and then I moved to LA
and I was like, here weare because I had a living situation that
I could go to there and Ididn't really have one in Miami. I
could have made it work in eitherof the spot. Yeah, but La,
(10:26):
I don't know. It just Iwas just like, okay, well,
time to drive across country. ButI think that was what was absolutely
wild to me because we were gettingcloser, but like we weren't super super
close, like we weren't texting everyday or anything, and so it's not
like you told me that you weregoing to Miami. I just all of
a sudden saw that you were goingto Miami, and then in a couple
of days I saw that you weregoing to LA and I was like what
(10:46):
in the world, and like thatwas just so wild to me. But
then at the same time, Iwas like she's young and single and like
can do it, so like whynot, and like that was something I
always like, really like, especiallyfrom the beginning, like admire, I
was like, well, she justdoes whatever the hell she wants, Like
she's not following any sort of societalpath or plan, Like it's just if
(11:07):
she wants to go there, shegoes there. And like I try to
live my life like that, butI just am much less of a risk
taker. But I think that's sogood because it balances us out so well.
You keep me, you keep meresponsible. Sometimes not even a lease
agreement can do that, Okay,not even the law honestly though. So
(11:31):
then I moved l got settled infor a year and Val reached out and
basically was like, hey, I'mgoing to come visit. And I was
like, come on, girl,and you were like wait, really,
I didn't know how serious you werebecause like again, like we weren't really
talking a whole lot, and likeyou were just so nice too that you
were like, yeah, like whenevergirl comes, stay with me. And
(11:54):
I was like okay, And thenI went and booked flights and I was
like, but can I actually likecome stay? And like my biggest discomfort
is like ever like intruding, you'reputting someone out or somebody else committing to
something just out of being polite,And so I was just like really nervous
because I was like, what ifshe's just like genuinely just being like yeah
totally and like not thinking that I'mthe kind of person that's like, okay,
(12:18):
I have an itinerary now. Andso I didn't want to like land
and be like I'm here and you'dbe like what why? So I brought
my mommy, yes, which we'reso happy for. I love her.
I love to see her that tripas well, but I wouldn't have I
think that's just classic you and Ias well, where I'm like, yeah,
sure, come, not even thinkinga second about I'm like, come
(12:39):
on, girl, I mean you'reover here like ruminating, like wait,
but actually should I Like, I'mlike, do you have room in your
apartment? Yeah? She's considering everyoption, every like reason I could have
said that, and I'm just likeyeah, come yeah literally. But it
was nice too, because I feellike that gave us a chance to like
get i mean, become friends,like without like I guess, like too
(13:03):
much pressure too, because I broughtmy mom and I was because I basically
told my mom I was like,I really want to be friends with this
girl, Like we get along reallywell, but like I don't know she
actually means for me to come outor if she's just being polite, So
like we can go out and thenI can spend a day or two with
her and then from there kind offigure it out. But then we hung
out for that couple of days wewere there, and I was like,
oh, amazing, And I thinkI even told you that that's kind of
how I was feeling. And youwere like, no, dude, Like
(13:24):
I wouldn't invite you to stay,like and then you invited me. Then
you were like, okay, I'minviting you to come in a couple of
weeks and actually stay with me.And I was like, okay, cool.
I was like, I just needlike very like secure, definitive yes,
like dates times no. But Ithink that's what makes you a good
person as well, because a lotof people, I feel like while I
(13:45):
was living in LA did take advantageof the fact that, like, oh
I know someone who's living in LA. Let me go vacation for a little
bit. And that's why I wouldlove when you would come visit, because
you would just come and you didn'thave any agenda of your own or any
plans of your own. You justgenuinely want to hang out with me,
into my life and also do allof the healthy things. While a lot
(14:05):
of people when they would come visit, they would want to go out and
you know, drink and I wouldbe off on my schedule and all of
that, where you were like,no, actually, I'm gonna work every
day. Literally, yes, thisgirl was like up working and I was
like, okay, let me chopchop, get all my stuff. Because
yeah, good influence for sure.Yeah, because at that point between meeting
(14:26):
and you living in Frisco and thenyou moving to LA, I had quit
my corporate job and started my company, and so when I started coming to
La to see you, I wasat that point running my company and so
I was working like a freaking maniac, and so I would come and like
you obviously worked from home and theyhad more flexible schedule, and so I
would be like, I'll just behere on the couch working while you like
do your stretches and yoga, andthen we would go to the gym together.
(14:48):
But it was really nice because Ifelt like at the time I really
wasn't taking care of myself and sobeing able to come and just have somebody
influence like routine, and like that'salways been like your our biggest priority is
like routine and wellness first, Andlike I knew how valuable it was obviously
coming from like fitness and sports andbeing an athlete my whole life, but
I never made it a priority formyself. And you were always like health
(15:11):
is wealth, man, Like let'sdo our stretches, and like because you
were doing it, I'd be like, Okay, I'm going to do yoga
and I would always be so inspiredin La. I'm gonna go home and
I'm gonna go for walks every morningand I'm gonna do my meditation on the
patio. And it was like italways made me so inspired. So I
feel like every time I went toLa, it was like a retreat,
like a wellness retreat with you.And then you get back to Texas and
(15:31):
it was like one hundred and tendergrace and you're like, yeah, the
window and stress was through the roof. Oh I miss La so much,
Jonas and too much. I know, just need a little airbnb there.
Yeah, So that's kind of howwe became friends. And then I started
to come see you in La allthe time, and like then I ended
(15:52):
up getting work in La, Sothen I started coming like monthly for work
and would stay with you. Butwe never did anything like I don't think
we ever went out in it.I mean, we definitely never went out
in La. Like. We onlyever went to like dinner and then we
just hung out like very chill,like you had your routine. I had
my routine. I would do mywork from your place. And that was
that just a very simple, yeahfriendship. That and I have been friends
(16:15):
for five years, five years,five years, and we've been drunk together
once. Yeah, And I wouldsee together maybe three times and I would
say, like the drunk drunk wasme? Like tipsy? Yeah, yeah,
she was tipsy. I was drunk. It was my birthday this past
year, and that was the firsttime we've ever gone out, like to
(16:37):
an actual bar club together. Yeah. And we even went out to another
club since then, and I didn'teven drink. Wait, which one was
that? Two chains? Oh?And that was very uncomfortable for me.
I mean obviously not because of Shania, but just because it's not my scene.
She was just a sleepy girl.I was sleepy and I was just
had fomo, so I wanted togo to be part of the experience,
(16:59):
but like I really don't drink andI really don't go out late, and
it was just like a lot forme. Yeah, you could tell she
was just there to be there fullof regret. Yeah it's fine. We
have the mems now. Yes,yes you have pictures and the men's but
all of that to say, Ithink we like our friendship is kind of
the foundation of like a lot ofour growth, you know. As cheesy
(17:21):
as it is, like I couldcry about it, but I genuinely think
like we're soulmates, and I justfeel like who I am now has been
like a big heavily influenced by ourfriendship because we've always prioritized health and wellness,
and like where I'm at now inmy career, especially with like taking
care of myself so much more likeI probably would have got here eventually,
but like you saw me break inmyself like day by day, and like
(17:44):
always just supported me but also reiterated, like you need to take care of
yourself, like drink some water.Girl, when I first met Val,
she drank more coffee in a daythan she did water. I mean I
would literally go two to three dayswithout drink water. Yeah, And I
remember when you first told me that, Like we both shocked each other in
different ways. You shocked me withthat and I shocked you with flying off
(18:07):
the seat of my pants. Iwas like what. But it was funny
because you're still like fit and youstill prioritized health in different ways. But
there was just little things, youknow, and I'm like really knowledgeable in
it too, but like absolutely don'tapply it. Yeah yeah, yeah,
yeah, And you've had seasons whereyou have but yeah, sometimes you just
I have like, um spurts whereI'll drink water. No, I do
(18:30):
drink water now, yes, justnot still not nearly as much as the
average person should to survive. No. Yeah, And it's been it's been
crazy to witness your journey, likejust your mental health getting better and your
fitness health getting better, and yourroutines and you always have prioritized like your
business and your career and all ofthat before your personal health, oh for
(18:55):
sure. And then I feel likejust since we've been friends too, like
I've married the majority of it,but I mean definitely with the same guy.
All of our friendship and marriage ishard, and like relationships are hard,
and so like you've seen us likework through a lot of stuff too,
and so like with my business andjust running a business being really hard
and then marriage being hard. Likewe've just had some hard times, but
(19:18):
then you've also been dating through ourwhole friendship and then moved across the country
a couple of times one million percent. I mean she's been married for many
years. And while she's been married, I've been going through relationships that have
just been very toxic a lot ofthem. So that's been one type of
heart, and then another type ofheart is obviously being in a long term,
(19:41):
committed relationship. So it's a it'sbeen a ride. But I think
that's what's nice too, is likewe are very like if especially if you
look at us, like on paper, we're very different people. We're at
very different stages in our lives andlike we're very very different careers, but
I like we're still So that's whywe say like we're soul maze, because
(20:03):
like our souls are the same,and our values and our priorities are the
same, but we're just like Idon't know, because I feel like all
of our interests, hobbies, everything'sthe same, but like our lives are
completely different one million percent. Icouldn't agree more. There's like we're two
total opposite ends of the spectrum,but there's like our values and our everything
(20:25):
else just aligne so perfectly. AndI think that's why we like understand each
other so well. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, And that's what
we started a podcast that we canshare that with the world. Yeah.
I just honestly feel like it's aIt's something that's going to be super fun
with for us because as friends whoare I guess I don't know how to
(20:48):
say getting better driven or like justevolving driven. I feel like this is
just a really fun endeavor for usbecause it's something we can be creative at,
it's something we can work towards toget there as a goal, and
I just feel like it's something that'sfun more than anything for us. Yeah,
And I think the topics that wewant to talk about are things that
(21:10):
we've already always been really interested in, like mental health, habit building,
routine, wellness, vitamins, nutrition, like all the things. And so
like we'll obviously share our personal experienceshaving trial and air and then having grown
together, seeing each other grow throughstuff. But then also we want to,
like just because we love it somuch and are so invested that we
(21:30):
want to talk to experts and getlike the real deal info and like actual
like and apply it to our livesand stuff too. And so I think
like it's just like us being ableto have a creative outlet for the things
that we already care so much aboutand like constantly obsess over with each other.
Yes, perfectly said one million percent. I'm so excited for this podcast
(21:52):
and just to see where it goes. And I mean, we have these
conversations anyways, so might as wellhave them documented and might as well share
them with the world. Yeah,and hopefully they can help someone else and
inspire someone else. Yeah, I'mso excited. I can't believe we just
recorded our very first episode of ourpodcast. Yeah, I honestly don't want
(22:15):
it to be over. But there'sa lot more to come. We will
get I will get more comfortable onthe Mikey guys, So stay tuned for
that and all of our topics.We have a whole map already of things
we want to talk about. Butif you guys want to hear anything,
in particular, definitely let us knowon our socials chat with us there,
(22:37):
Slide into the DMS. Yeah,slide into those dums, baby, and
we'll talk to you next time.Bye. Thanks for listening to the Hot
Girls Cry Podcast. If you've enjoythis episode, show some love and support
with a rating review, or keepthe conversation going over on our socials t
t y l
Popular Podcasts
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com
Are You A Charlotte?
In 1997, actress Kristin Davis’ life was forever changed when she took on the role of Charlotte York in Sex and the City. As we watched Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte navigate relationships in NYC, the show helped push once unacceptable conversation topics out of the shadows and altered the narrative around women and sex. We all saw ourselves in them as they searched for fulfillment in life, sex and friendships. Now, Kristin Davis wants to connect with you, the fans, and share untold stories and all the behind the scenes. Together, with Kristin and special guests, what will begin with Sex and the City will evolve into talks about themes that are still so relevant today. "Are you a Charlotte?" is much more than just rewatching this beloved show, it brings the past and the present together as we talk with heart, humor and of course some optimism.