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My title is Healing the Soul.
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As I said, we believe in physical healing. Jesus Christ
healed many seeking and diseases as he walk the earth,
and he still heals today. My sister is just one
of many stories that we hear here all the time
of people who experience.
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Physical healing in their bodies.
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But we have also come to understand that sometimes a
sickness or a disease or a condition that we carry
in our body is not only a physical problem, because
our soul, our inner man. Many of the things that
we experience in our body actually starts.
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In our soul.
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Meaning sometimes people experience, you know, extreme anger, they experienced trauma,
they have fear, anxiety, all these things in their soul,
and eventually, as they live in that kind of atmosphere
in their soul, their body begins to take damage from
it as well. And so a physical prayer for healing
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sometimes isn't enough. Let me read a Bible verse for
you from the Book of Proverbs, chapter fourteen, verse thirty.
It says, a heart at peace gives life to the body,
but envy rots the bones. I believe that a heart
at peace, a soul at peace, a soul that has
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peace on the inside, brings life to the body. And
so there's been a lot of research done on the
effects of your mood, the effects of if you have
an extreme fear in your life, if you have envy,
if you're struggling with these kind of things in your life,
and how it affects your physical health. And so we're
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gonna go into looking a little bit of the root
cause and healing the soul. In the Book of Isaiah,
chapter sixty one, verse one, the Bible says the Jesus
came to bind the broken hearted. He came to buy
the broken hearted. And the original word here, the Hebrew
word I had to go into.
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You know, the original word.
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See if there's some nuggets there when when you're a
preacher you look for nuggets there are like in the
root of the words and stuff like that. I love
that kind of stuff. So the original Hebrew word of
the broken of heart is lesh bray lev. Root word
there is Chavar means to break, shatter, or crush, and
lev is the heart. In the Hebrew understanding when they
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say love the heart, it's the seat of your emotions,
the seat of your will and your inner self. And
so when the Bible says the broken hearted, it's not
referring only to those who feel sad today because you
know your favorite team lost yesterday. That's not what they
refer to. They refer to something that has scattered or crushed.
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The seat of your core identity, your emotions, your will,
who you are as a person has been broken and shattered.
And it says he came to bind up Laja bosh.
The meaning of this is like the image of a
healer that is wrapping his arms and healing and taking
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care of this broken part, patching it together. When Jesus
quoted this in Luke chapter four, he said, today.
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This word has come to pass.
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The Greek word that was used for heal is il maib,
which means to make whole, cure, or restore to health.
Meaning he doesn't only bind your heart, he actually restores it.
He doesn't just bandage it. He heals it completely. And
today we're gonna go into it a little bit. How
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that looks like here at Hungry jan he came to
heal and to bind the broken hearted. It's kind of
like an osteotomy, as anyone does. Anyone know what an
osteotomy is. You can show it on the screen. An
osteotomy is when someone fractures their arm or they are
born with a deformed bone.
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Let's say that I fall from here.
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I try to jump down and be really agile, and
I fall and I hit my elbow here on the edge,
and I fracture this, and maybe I brush it off.
I'm like, oh that hurts, but I think I'm good.
I think I'm okay, and I don't go to the hospital.
What will happen with the bone if it fractured with time?
What will happen it will heal? Why because we have
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healing properties in our bodies, we have the nature of
God deposited in us.
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It will heal.
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But the problem is if I don't get it checked
and aligned, the bones may heal wrongly. So they can
heal like this, and so suddenly, even though I'm healed,
my arm may remain dysfunctional even after some time has passed.
And so an armed is supposed to function like this.
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Instead I'm stuck like this and I can't really move
it properly.
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It's dysfunctional.
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And so on osteotomy, you go to the doctor, They
put you back on the surgery table and under controlled
circumstances they re fracture the bone so that they can
realign it, and then when it heals next time, it's
gonna function properly. That is the process of inner healing.
It's something that we need to go through. If we
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have experienced these things that might have fractured our soul, trauma,
childhood abuse. Maybe you're experiencing fear you were bullied, you
were a bully. Imagine that bullies might need inner healing.
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And those who are bullied because a lot of people they.
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Carry guilt and shame from things that they did when
they were foolish.
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I have things I remember from my child.
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I'm like, oh God, could you wipe that away from
my memory?
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Lord, forgive me that thing.
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And you know, sometimes those things kind of come up
and you're like, it's not just that something was done
to me, I actually did something as well to someone else.
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And I carry that.
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That shame, that guilt, that who knows. I'm scared of myself.
What would I do in certain situations and so on.
So it's not only those who were hurt, but sometimes
those who hurt as well. I recently started jogging running,
and I thought in the beginning that I'm too.
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Heavy to run.
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I need to like walk off the first thirty pounds.
But I decided to just start running and it actually worked.
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It's working. I'm running.
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I'm like, man, I thought my knees would give out
or something. But I'm good and I'm really grateful for that.
But something happened when I started running. I had an
injury many years ago in my left ankle. I used
to do construction and so I was wearing steel toe
boots and I took a step down about this up
on a construction site in Sweden, and I landed wrong
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with my foot and so it's still toe those they
don't band s, it's you that band And so when
I landed with my full weight, my whole foot went
like this, and I had a triple tendeon tear right here.
It was soft tissue, no bone was fractured by injuries,
very badly. And so after that I went to the
doctor and they said, oh, you need to do physical therapy.
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Do on the staircase like this, you know, use it,
you know, continue to flex it, you know, so that
it can get its full capacity back. Me being busy
and foolish, this is foolishness, I'm like, God is gonna
take care of that. I'm a child of God, and
so I just trusted God that, you know, even without
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moving my foot, it would be one hundred percent restored.
And I never noticed anything I was walking around. I've
never felt anything until I started running.
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Until there was a more extreme situation.
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That brought out that pain that was always there, but
I didn't notice it because I wasn't exposed to.
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The stress on my ankle.
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The same way is for these breakings of our heart.
Many times we experience things and you feel like you're
good man, Yeah, my boyfriend broke up with me. My
ex husband did this to me, my ex wife, my girlfriend,
my parents. I went through this in school. I'm okay now,
and you go about your life functioning normal until a
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more stressful situation arises and there starts being tension on
that exact area that was broken in the past. Examples
of that is if you were you experience some kind
of sexual abuse as a child. Many times when you
grow up and you're like, you're relatively okay, relationally, but
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then you get married and it's time for intimacy and
there's just a wall there.
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You just can't be intimate.
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There's some kind I just can't I can't trust, I
can't I can't give myself, I can't do this. Or
maybe you experience some kind of a situation where your
parents lost you as a kid. It happens like I'm
a parent now. I haven't lost my kids. I pray
I never will, but I can see how it can happen,
especially when you have multiple You're like, you're here, you're here,
food is here in the grocery store.
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Hold on, hold on, wait, there's two of them. Where's
the second one? Or you guys have like five six kids. Man,
I need more faith before I get there.
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And so sometimes things happen, or you have children, these
wounds that have been hurt in the past, they can
resurface in different situations, like when you get into a relationship,
when you get married, when you have kids, when you
are subject to correction. That's one big one where someone
is correcting you for a behavior that you've done, maybe
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at work, at church or wherever. Someone is like, hey,
don't do that, it's wrong of you. And then suddenly
the wounds from childhood where your parents were too harsh
and beat the crap out of you for smallest things
suddenly resurface. You're like, hey, don't talk to me like that. No, no, no,
nobody talks to me that way. Something triggers because there's
a stress on that sensitive area that is exactly what
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we're gonna address today. And some injuries are big, some
are small. I once had an accident. I kept myself
pretty deeply right here, a scary place. I won't tell
you the story, but let me tell you. There was
an avocado and a box knife involved. Why my wife
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asked me, why are you cutting an avocado with box knife?
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Like I was at the construction site.
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I needed lunch, and so it slipped and it went
too far into my arm. And so when I went
to the hospital, they said I was this far from
attendant and that would have been required a reconstructive surgery
in the tendon. And I was this far away from
the artery as well.
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So I was really really lucky. This said. I know
it's God.
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Even in the middle of my foolish mistakes. He's still like, Okay, okay, boy,
I got you on this one. I'll keep you from
permanent damage. But it required more work than just a
paper cut. The same goes with our hearts. Some things
we can heal through just by releasing forgiveness. Other things
requires a little bit of a deeper work for us
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to be restored in our soul. So we're going to
go into the example here of the Good Samaritan in
the Book of Luke, chapter ten, which is the framework
for inner heeming. At Hungry Jen Luke, chapter ten, verse.
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Thirty.
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Then Jesus answered and said, a certain man went down
from Jerusalem to Jericho and fell among thieves, who stripped
him of his clothing, wounded him, and departed, leaving him
half dead. Some of us can identify with that. Maybe
you didn't fall into the hands of physical raw, but
maybe your ex husband was like a thief or a
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robber that you fell into his hands. Maybe your parents
were not present, they were distant. Maybe situations happened. There
are things that it's live stream, so my parents are
probably watching. But there are things my parents did to me.
If I do it today in this country, I'm going
to jail, okay.
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And that's how many people grew up.
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It's like parents do things to you and you're like,
I guess that's how it is here. But then you
grow up You're like, I, no, that's not okay. How
am I so okay after all of that. And my
parents were good, but there was a couple of times
I remember them, but I've forgiven them and stuff, so
it's all good. And other times where I realize, now
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as a father, how easy it is to become that
robber or that thief in the life of my children,
in the life of someone else. The other day, my daughter,
she's two, she had gone to bed. I told my wife, Hey,
let's just run to the drive through real quick. I'm
so hungry. Let's go and have some food. She's like,
and leave our two year old at home. I'm like,
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she's sleeping, We'll lock the door.
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Listen.
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I didn't do it, okay, anyone watching. I did not
leave my child at home.
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That's not allowed to do. But I was.
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I was like, it's probably okay. Imagine someone does that.
My wife was like that, I rebuke you, spirit of
fast food, trying to cause trauma to your children. So
imagine if my daughter would have woken up and looked
for us and not found us for fifteen twenty minutes
or however long it would have taken massive trauma.
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Something so small to me just run to.
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The drive through and back, but for someone who is small,
tender and looking up to me. Or other times when
I'm like I'm doing some work, I'm talking to someone,
or I'm trying to get some work done at home,
and she comes up to me, my daughter, two year old,
I'm her here.
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The way she loves me.
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I don't know if anyone, including my life, no one,
and maybe only God, loves me that way like she
I am her world.
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I don't even understand. I don't deserve that.
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But she looks up to me, and I'm working and
she comes up and just a moment of me not
being intentional, she said, Daddy, daddy, look at me, Look
at what I can do. Do you see me? That's
the real question she's asking, Do you see me?
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Dad?
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Am I worth paying attention to? Do you notice what
I can do? And maybe I'm like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah,
And I'm working and then because I'm trying to finish
up something so I can attend to her, but she's
really intense. But I've got two minutes left of work,
and so suddenly I'm like, wait, okay, calm down, baby,
I'm coming give me a minute. If I would have
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done that, a simple thing of me just focusing wrong
and then giving her that, suddenly her little tender heart broken,
he doesn't care. Or if she would have woken up
and I wasn't home. My home is not a safe place.
My dad might not be there for me. He doesn't
have me, he's not got me. These little things that
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I can so easily with just a little bit of
lack of focus get sewn into my daughter instantly. Over time,
This causes identity trades in a person. It shapes their
identity up to the age of five. Is my daughter's
formative years, these core questions is my home safe or
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my parents trustworthy? Is this world a safe place? Am
I lovely? Am I worth pursuing? By the age of five,
already those answers, those questions should have been answered by me.
If I fail to do that, my daughter will start looking.
In her adolescent years, we start looking for the answer
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somewhere else. If I cannot answer the question, if you
are lovely and worth pursuing, then she will look for
it somewhere else.
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This is what is called a father wound in a
girl or for a little boy.
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They can experience, you know, they're born into this world.
Boys are born to be wild. They can save lives.
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That's how a man is. They're born to be wild.
We have this adventurous passion they is planted in our hearts.
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And some women they seem.
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To be so attracted to it at first, But once
they get that wild man, their job becomes to domesticate
him to her level. Sometimes, of course, no one here,
but just people out there might do that, and then
they wonder why there is no spark in the marriage
any longer. And the husband stays, but he grows resentment
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because he cannot express his adventure with one question in
his heart, and the question is am I able to
come through?
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Do I have what it takes? Am I strong? Am
I brave? Am I courageous? Am I wild? Am I
good enough to come through?
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And the same thing a father's job is to answer
that and say, yes, Yes you are wild, Yes you
are strong, Yes you are brave, and I'm proud to
be your dad.
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And some of us, as little boys, we never.
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Got that, and so this causes a father wound in
our life where we begin to seek the answer somewhere
else by pursuing success, because maybe success will answer if
I'm good enough, or maybe women will answer if I'm
good enough, or this or that, or one thing after another.
You become aggressive, you become violent, you become insecure, compassive.
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All these things are effects.
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Of a father that didn't answer that question in your life.
So we're gonna have some prayer here in a little
bit for that.
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But as it's said here, stripped him of his clothing.
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Maybe you are that thief to someone, or maybe you
fell into someone's hands and they were like robbers. They
did three things, strip them of their clothing, beat them
and left him alone. Stripping of clothing in Bible, in scripture,
over and over again, seems to represent the stripping of
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your identity, a shift of your identity, something that's taken
away from you. You are no longer secure and safe
in who you are. You don't know who you are.
You're struggling to see.
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Am I, Who am I? What am I supposed to do?
Am I this?
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Or that?
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Especially in our generation, I mean, people ask more questions
about what they are. We don't even know how many
different types.
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Of where lives are that's flagged, and so these questions
come up, and they wonder and.
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They get stripped of that identity. Genesis three seven says
Adam and Eve when they sinned against God, an identity
was shifted.
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They were no longer in union with God.
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They got separated from him, and suddenly they said, why
are we naked? Let's wear clothes, let's put something on.
Throughout scripture Isaiah's forty seven, Whoseia too, All of these
places talks.
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About your nakedness shall.
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Be exposed as if it's something about your identity, And
so when it's stripped, they take your identity. Maybe your
dad was that robber to you stripped you of your identity.
You're stupid, don't cry, don't be a mama's boy. Stop
being so why are you all kinds of hurtful things
that might have been said?
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And then the next thing is the beating.
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It's the deliberate and intentional breaking of your will. Intentional
breaking of your will what I talked about.
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With my daughter.
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How if I would lash out at her when she's
trying to get my attention, even if it's just for
sixty seconds. She just desires to know that she's still
precious to her daddy, And I'll be like, hey, wait, intentionally,
if that happens over and over and over again, you
break their spirit.
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The Bible says in Proverbs fifteen.
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By sorrow of the heart, the spirit is broken the
third step that they many times do. Being left symbolizes rejection, abandonment,
and isolation. How being left alone, like I said, maybe
I got.
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Left alone once as a kid. They or yeah, in
a hotel.
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I don't even remember the story, but somehow I got
lost in the hotel. I found my way back to
my parents' room, but it was on the wrong floor.
I couldn't reach the rights on the elevators. I like
went to the same door, but it was the wrong floor.
So when a stranger opened the door, I'm like, I recover.
They brought me to the labby and my parents found me.
They're like, oh there you are, oh man, looking for
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you some No, I'm just kidding. They were looking for
me seriously. And so these three things happens. Your identity
is crushed or stripped from you, your will is broken,
and you experience isolation, rejection, and abandonment. And that is
when Jesus comes in. And he says, the Samaritans saw
him and had compassion on him. Inner healing is a
ministry of compassion, and numberse thirty four and thirty five.
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I want to go through real quick about the framework
in which we do inner healing.
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Here at hungry Jen, he says.
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So he went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring
oil and wine, and he set him on his own animal,
brought him to an inn and took care of him.
And the next day, when he departed, he took out
two denari, gave them to the innkeeper and said to him,
take care of him, and whatever more you spend when
I come again, I will repay you. This is Jesus
giving a parable to people who were very aware of
medical practices in their day and time.
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And let me explain it to you. The first step
that someone would do to heal a wound.
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Would be to pour wine in the wound, as wine
was known to have anti septic properties. These antiseptic properties
means that the wine, the alcohol content, could help kill
bacteria that are present in the wound and clean the
dirt out of the wound.
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That's the first step of healing the wound.
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If you take this now into soul healing, and we
use this as a framework for soul healing today, we
have something that stings when you first pour it in
a wound, but later on it cleanses you.
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It is the truth of God's word.
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Sometimes in a situation where you have been hurt, you
need to hear the truth. For example, you need to
get out of that house your husband or your ex
your boyfriend is abusing you for example. Other times you
need to hear the truth, which is God's word. Where
Jesus comes and speaks his word peace.
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I give you not as this world gives.
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I give you peace that surpasses all understanding and all
these words, and the word of God cleanses are wounds
John fifteen three already clean because of the word I've
spoken to you. So one one nine, verse nine. How
can a young man keep his way pure by guarding
it according to your words? So the first step is
to use the truth of God's word. The next step
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was pour olive oil, as it was widely used as
a soothing and promoting healing. You pour oil in the wound,
and it moisturized the wound so that he could heal,
because if it dries out too fast, then it won't
it won't grow together. Moisturize the wound acted like a
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dirt barrier and soothed inflammation and pain.
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And just like.
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Oil heels or covers wounds. So the oil and the
anointing and the presence of the Holy Spirit acts as
a soother to our hurt. I believe that the Holy
Spirit is the greatest pain relief that any Christian and can.
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Ever experience his presence.
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His sweet presence in your life will bring soothing to
wounds that are hurting. And so the truth might sting,
but it cleanses you. And the presence of the Holy
Spirit will soothe the pain and the inflammation from those
wounds in your heart. The third step was to cover
it up and bandage it. I believe that this represents
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if we're still using this as an example for inner healing,
it represents prayer as.
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The prayer covers.
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The reason why they bandage it, of course, is to
a greater protection against dirt, but also to keep all
the medicinal properties of the oil and the wine in
the wound so it doesn't go out, and so we
seal it with prayer. The Bible says that the prayer
of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
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Job forty two.
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The Lord restored Job's losses when he prayed for his friends.
Fourth thing that the good small and did he put
the wounded man on his own animal. This signifies the
sharing of burdens, letting someone who is wounded share their experience.
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Without shame or guilt.
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Galatians chapter two says bear one another's burdens and so
fulfill the law of Christ. Someone has been broken and wounded.
He took him and relieved him from the duties that
he had to walk himself. Is that you I carry
you on my own animal. A crucial component of guiding
and assisting someone into healing of their soul. Romans fifteen
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one says, he we who are strong ought to bear
with the failings of the week, and not to please ourselves.
One Corintians twelve twenty six says, if one member suffers,
all suffer together. The fifth thing that he did he
took him to an inn. The inn represents a change
of environment. Sometimes we need to change our physical environment
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from an unsafe home, abusive people. Sometimes we need to
change our relation environment from toxic connections and people who
do not contribute to your healing. And sometimes we need
to change an emotional environment, meaning the environment of our
inner person, coming out of shame, fear, or condemnation and
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start walking in acceptance and grace. And last thing that
he did he gave the innkeeper money to take care
of the wounded man after leaving. I believe this signifies
the importance of giving resources and tools for someone to
continue their healing process until they are fully recovered from
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a soul wound or an injury or a fracture of
someone's heart. And I'm glad to announce today something that
we've been working for some time together with Chrismicbride, Random
Freeman and Larissa, we are actually starting an inner healing
ministry here at Hungary jen where you will be able
to sign up for an inner healing session with some
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of our people, and so more information about that very soon.
But that is something that we're very happy to be
able to announce. So I jumped a few verses, and
that's what I want to go into right now, real quick.
Verse thirty one and thirty two. It says, by chance,
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a certain priest came down that road, and when he
saw him, he passed by on the other side. Likewise,
a levite, when he arrived at the place, came and
looked and passed by on the other side. Undoubtedly, a
priest and levite represents spiritual authority where maybe a pastor
or someone of authority in your life knew about what
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was going on but did not intervene. This is something
that can cause massive hurt in our life and contribute
to the process of not being able to be healed.
But I wanted to take it a little bit deeper,
and I looked into scripture. Many times fathers are represented
as a priest of their house. In Exteodus twelve, verse three,
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the pastor of instructions were given to the fathers to
lead the family in sacrifice. In Job one, verse five,
Job acted as a priest for his household, offering burnt
offerings for his children. So maybe the priest walking by,
seeing the person bruised and broken, represents absent fathers, someone
who didn't contribute. As I said, If I don't know,
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was it this service or last service? I said, many
parents are like, your child comes home and they're like,
someone is bullying me at school, and the parents will
be like, oh, well take the other way then, not me,
not me, you touch my kid. I'm gonna ask God
to look away for a moment. As for some of
that Samson annoying thing, Okay, my daughter and my kids
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will know that their dad would be there to defend them,
even if it gets him in trouble, that's for sure.
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But many people that I'm.
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Joking a little bit, I'm not gonna you know, okay,
I'm not gonna do anything, okay, And there's no threat
of horror here, okay.
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But all I'm.
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Saying is many times our parents just walked by, we
were bruised, we were broken, and that priest of the
household just walk by and let you suffer in your
own and maybe the Levites, because the role of the
Levites in the Bible, the duties of Levites was to
assist and help.
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The priests and serve in the house of the Lord.
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They took care of the tabernacle, guarded the holy things,
were close to the inner rooms, and led worship and
taught the law. Maybe in this example, a Levite can
be resembled by an absent mother.
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A mother who was not present.
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Left you to suffer, didn't nurture and treat you.
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Didn't love you.
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And as I said earlier, every boy, every girl in
this world is born with two questions. Every boy is
born with a question do I have what it takes?
And am I worthy to be loved as I am?
The first one the father answers, the second one the
mother answers. If these answer questions go unanswered, we suffer
in our life times looking for validation from our father
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or from father figures for the entire length of our life.
So also every girl is born with two questions. The
first question is am I lovely? Am I worth being pursued?
And the second one is can I be loved? And
can I give love? And these two questions are answered
again by the father and by the mother. And when
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these things are not answered, this is what we define
as a father wound or a mother wound. Maybe you
are here today and that is part of it. You
fell into something. Your parents were not present, They didn't
show up when they really needed to. You feel left,
You felt left and abandoned. I wonder if we can
get some background music going. Is Colleen here somewhere from music?
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Or is down here like, oh, look at that.
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Holy Spirit?
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Just before I even pray, the music just came on.
Maybe you are here today and that deep cry of
masculine identity in your life? Am I strong? Am I capable?
Can I come through when it counts? Maybe your father
never answered that and you're feeling it, starving for validation.
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You're insecure, maybe you're passive. You're angry because of that.
As a mother is supposed to answer as well. Is
it okay for me to fail? Am I worthy to
be loved? No matter what? Given this question an answered
reduces a man's self image and self worth. Many times,
you don't understand what you're worth. A girl wonders, am
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I lovely? Am I worth pursuing? Am I captivating. Do
you see me? Do you pay attention to me? If
a father doesn't answer that, many times they find that
answer somewhere else.
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The world calls it daddy issues. We call it a
father wound.
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Same way the girl asks from their mom.
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Can I nurture? Can I love?
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Am I worthy of being loved? And if your mom
and dad didn't answer that in your life. Today, we're
going to do a little exercise here and then we're
going to finish up. One of the most important tools
that we can use in the process of healing our
soul is a tool of forgiveness. Unforgiveness gives demons legal rights.
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It causes physical health issues, stress.
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And sickness.
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Unforgiveness is the single biggest reason for family feuds, for
marital issues unforgiveness. When you hold on to unforgiveness, you
experience spiritual torment. According to Matthew eighteen, you block God's
forgiveness in your own life Matthew six. You poison your
soul and your relationships Hebrews twelve. You give the enemy
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legal access Ephesians four. You reject the gift that you
receive from God, which is grace. I'm gonna do a
little practice here now.
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If you're here and you.
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Have experienced a mother wound or a father and there
are many different things to deal with in inner healing.
If I just felt led by the Lord today to
deal with that, I want you to just close your
eyes for a moment. All of us just close your eyes,
and I'm going to ask Pastor Sylvia to come up and.
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Me and her we're gonna read two letters.
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The first one is if you had an abusive father,
an absent father, or a husband or a brother, or
a father figure, a man figure in your life that
wasn't what they should have been. I want you to
hear this word and receive healing today and the same
way in just a minute when Pastor Sylvia reads it.
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If you had a woman figure in your life, a
mother or a sister, someone who wasn't there for you,
didn't nurture you the way that they should have. I
want you to just close your eyes and receive this
prayer to help you heal. I have the privilege today
of being able to stand here in the place of
any man who has been abusive to you and repent
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on their behalf. My prayer is that you would not
see and hear me, but you would see and hear
them speak these words to you, words that they need
to say, and words that you need to hear for
your healing to begin. I repent for being harsh and
abusive when disciplining you as a child. You were just
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a child, and I expected too much from you. It
was my fault, not yours. For the beatings I gave
you that you didn't deserve, and for all the times
that I struck out at you because of my anger
instead of loving you, I'm sorry. I'm so sorry for
all the times that I criticized you when you were
doing the best that you could do. For telling you
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that you were worthless, that you should never have been born,
and that you would never amount to anything.
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I was so wrong.
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I was your dad, and I was so consumed by
my own problems. I'm sorry for using my mouth to
curse you when I should have used it to bless you.
When you were a child and I abandoned you and
I was not the father that you needed. I was
so wrong when your mother and I divorced, I was
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not there for you because I went my own way
when you needed me as your friend and thought you
could count on me to be there, and I was not.
For all these things. I'm so sorry for neglecting you
as you were growing up because I was too busy.
I'm sorry for leaving you to fend for yourself instead
of being there to show you the way. I'm sorry
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that I could not bond with you emotionally when you
were a child and tell you that I love you
when you were a child and I made promises I
didn't keep and broke your tender heart. I'm so sorry
for what that did to you when you needed me
as your friend and thought you could count on me,
and I was not there for all these times, I
ask you to please forgive me when you, as my wife,
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should have been able to trust me and I was untrustworthy.
I'm sorry for threatening you and controlling you with fear
and by my anger. For all these things, I ask
for your forgiveness. For molesting you when you are a
child and destroying your innocence and having no concern for
what that did to you.
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I'm sorry.
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I apologize for exposing you to pornography and destroying your
innocence and purity, For violating you as a young man
or a young woman through rape, day rape, or luring
you into sex and taking advantage of you. I was
wrong for what I did. For violating you as an
adult through rape, espousal abuse, and sexual violence. I was wrong,
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and I'm so sorry for what I did and its
effect on you. For all of these things, I repent
for being a spiritual leader and violating the trust that
you put in me, taking advantage of you being open
and vulnerable to me. I'm sorry when I was critical
and judgmental of you when I should have accepted you.
I repent As a husband and father. I was not
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the spiritual leader of our home, and I did not
protect you and our family as I should have. For
all of these abuses of you, I repent, and I
tell you that I'm genuinely sorry for what I did
and what it did to you. Will you please forgive
me on behalf of all men who have hurt you.
I repent and ask you to please forgive me. The
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same great and wonderful God extends forgiveness to us is
here to help you receive your healing, so that once
and for all you can forgive and be set free.
God is here, and I ask you to please forgive
me and let your heart be made whole in Jesus' name.
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Because the woman who have hurt you cannot stand here today.
I'm here to represent them my prayer. As it is
that you did not see me, but the person who
has hurt you on behalf of all these women. I
ask for forgiveness as your mother. When I may have
intentionally or unintentionally abused you physically or verbally, even when
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I raised my hand to hit you but didn't. I
am sorry when I knew you were being abused and
I did nothing to stop it, And those harsh words
I spoke to you that made you feel worthless and
condemned and wounded your spirit and you cannot forget. Then
there were those times when you felt abandoned or left alone.
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How afraid you must have been.
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Will you please forgive me those times of neglect when
your needs were not met, or you felt like no
one cared, when you had a broken heart and no
one would take the time to listen to you. I
am sorry when I'm sorry when I promise was made
to you and then broken without considering how you felt.
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The times that I set.
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On controlling you so that my plans were accomplished, those
times that you wanted to be held and showed and
show me love, and yet I didn't take the time
to return your love.
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Will you please forgive me?
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And those times when you needed praise I was either
too busy or just refused to give it.
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I am sorry.
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As your wife, I was unfaithful to you, causing you
to feel worthless and abandoned and less of a man.
I was so wrong, and I ask you today.
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To forgive me. You did not deserve that.
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When your deepest desires was to be honored and respected,
and I knowingly or unknowingly withheld that from you. I
was wrong, and I ask you today to give me.
You did not deserve that. As your sister, I verbally
and physically abused you, calling you names and making you
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feel like you were nothing. The things I said and
did were so hurtful.
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I'm so sorry.
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As your close friend, you trusted me, You shared your
thoughts and dreams with me, and I betrayed you. Would
you please forgive me? When I was your teacher, I
was entrusted with your care and I belittled you, embarrassed
you in front of your classmates, or spoke critical or
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negative words that were not true that impacted your.
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Belief about yourself.
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I repent on behalf of all women who have hurt you.
I repent and ask you to please forgive me. The
same great and wonderful God that extended forgiveness to us
is here to help you receive your healings, so that
once and for all you can forgive and be set free.
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God is here, and I ask you to please forgive
me and let your heart be made whole in Jesus' name.
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My title is Healing the Soul.
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As I said, we believe in physical healing. Jesus Christ
healed many seeking and diseases as he walk the earth,
and he still heals today. My sister is just one
of many stories that we hear here all the time
of people who experience.
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Physical healing in their bodies.
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But we have also come to understand that sometimes a
sickness or a disease or a condition that we carry
in our body is not only a physical problem, because
our soul, our inner man. Many of the things that
we experience in our body actually starts.
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In our soul.
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Meaning sometimes people experience, you know, extreme anger, they experienced trauma,
they have fear, anxiety, all these things in their soul,
and eventually, as they live in that kind of atmosphere
in their soul, their body begins to take damage from
it as well. And so a physical prayer for healing
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sometimes isn't enough. Let me read a Bible verse for
you from the Book of Proverbs, chapter fourteen, verse thirty.
It says, a heart at peace gives life to the body,
but envy rots the bones. I believe that a heart
at peace, a soul at peace, a soul that has
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peace on the inside, brings life to the body. And
so there's been a lot of research done on the
effects of your mood, the effects of if you have
an extreme fear in your life, if you have envy,
if you're struggling with these kind of things in your life,
and how it affects your physical health. And so we're
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gonna go into looking a little bit of the root
cause and healing the soul. In the Book of Isaiah,
chapter sixty one, verse one, the Bible says the Jesus
came to bind the broken hearted. He came to buy
the broken hearted. And the original word here, the Hebrew
word I had to go into.
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You know, the original word.
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See if there's some nuggets there when when you're a
preacher you look for nuggets there are like in the
root of the words and stuff like that. I love
that kind of stuff. So the original Hebrew word of
the broken of heart is lesh bray lev. Root word
there is Chavar means to break, shatter, or crush, and
lev is the heart. In the Hebrew understanding when they
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say love the heart, it's the seat of your emotions,
the seat of your will and your inner self. And
so when the Bible says the broken hearted, it's not
referring only to those who feel sad today because you
know your favorite team lost yesterday. That's not what they
refer to. They refer to something that has scattered or crushed.
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The seat of your core identity, your emotions, your will,
who you are as a person has been broken and shattered.
And it says he came to bind up Laja bosh.
The meaning of this is like the image of a
healer that is wrapping his arms and healing and taking
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care of this broken part, patching it together. When Jesus
quoted this in Luke chapter four, he said, today.
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This word has come to pass.
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The Greek word that was used for heal is il maib,
which means to make whole, cure, or restore to health.
Meaning he doesn't only bind your heart, he actually restores it.
He doesn't just bandage it. He heals it completely. And
today we're gonna go into it a little bit. How
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that looks like here at Hungry jan he came to
heal and to bind the broken hearted. It's kind of
like an osteotomy, as anyone does. Anyone know what an
osteotomy is. You can show it on the screen. An
osteotomy is when someone fractures their arm or they are
born with a deformed bone.
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Let's say that I fall from here.
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I try to jump down and be really agile, and
I fall and I hit my elbow here on the edge,
and I fracture this, and maybe I brush it off.
I'm like, oh that hurts, but I think I'm good.
I think I'm okay, and I don't go to the hospital.
What will happen with the bone if it fractured with time?
What will happen it will heal? Why because we have
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healing properties in our bodies, we have the nature of
God deposited in us.
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It will heal.
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But the problem is if I don't get it checked
and aligned, the bones may heal wrongly. So they can
heal like this, and so suddenly, even though I'm healed,
my arm may remain dysfunctional even after some time has passed.
And so an armed is supposed to function like this.
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Instead I'm stuck like this and I can't really move
it properly.
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It's dysfunctional.
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And so on osteotomy, you go to the doctor, They
put you back on the surgery table and under controlled
circumstances they re fracture the bone so that they can
realign it, and then when it heals next time, it's
gonna function properly. That is the process of inner healing.
It's something that we need to go through. If we
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have experienced these things that might have fractured our soul, trauma,
childhood abuse. Maybe you're experiencing fear you were bullied, you
were a bully. Imagine that bullies might need inner healing.
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And those who are bullied because a lot of people they.
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Carry guilt and shame from things that they did when
they were foolish.
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I have things I remember from my child.
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I'm like, oh God, could you wipe that away from
my memory?
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Lord, forgive me that thing.
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And you know, sometimes those things kind of come up
and you're like, it's not just that something was done
to me, I actually did something as well to someone else.
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And I carry that.
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That shame, that guilt, that who knows. I'm scared of myself.
What would I do in certain situations and so on.
So it's not only those who were hurt, but sometimes
those who hurt as well. I recently started jogging running,
and I thought in the beginning that I'm too.
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Heavy to run.
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I need to like walk off the first thirty pounds.
But I decided to just start running and it actually worked.
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It's working. I'm running.
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I'm like, man, I thought my knees would give out
or something. But I'm good and I'm really grateful for that.
But something happened when I started running. I had an
injury many years ago in my left ankle. I used
to do construction and so I was wearing steel toe
boots and I took a step down about this up
on a construction site in Sweden, and I landed wrong
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with my foot and so it's still toe those they
don't band s, it's you that band And so when
I landed with my full weight, my whole foot went
like this, and I had a triple tendeon tear right here.
It was soft tissue, no bone was fractured by injuries,
very badly. And so after that I went to the
doctor and they said, oh, you need to do physical therapy.
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Do on the staircase like this, you know, use it,
you know, continue to flex it, you know, so that
it can get its full capacity back. Me being busy
and foolish, this is foolishness, I'm like, God is gonna
take care of that. I'm a child of God, and
so I just trusted God that, you know, even without
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moving my foot, it would be one hundred percent restored.
And I never noticed anything I was walking around. I've
never felt anything until I started running.
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Until there was a more extreme situation.
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That brought out that pain that was always there, but
I didn't notice it because I wasn't exposed to.
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The stress on my ankle.
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The same way is for these breakings of our heart.
Many times we experience things and you feel like you're
good man, Yeah, my boyfriend broke up with me. My
ex husband did this to me, my ex wife, my girlfriend,
my parents. I went through this in school. I'm okay now,
and you go about your life functioning normal until a
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more stressful situation arises and there starts being tension on
that exact area that was broken in the past. Examples
of that is if you were you experience some kind
of sexual abuse as a child. Many times when you
grow up and you're like, you're relatively okay, relationally, but
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then you get married and it's time for intimacy and
there's just a wall there.
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You just can't be intimate.
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There's some kind I just can't I can't trust, I
can't I can't give myself, I can't do this. Or
maybe you experience some kind of a situation where your
parents lost you as a kid. It happens like I'm
a parent now. I haven't lost my kids. I pray
I never will, but I can see how it can happen,
especially when you have multiple You're like, you're here, you're here,
food is here in the grocery store.
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Hold on, hold on, wait, there's two of them. Where's
the second one? Or you guys have like five six kids. Man,
I need more faith before I get there.
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And so sometimes things happen, or you have children, these
wounds that have been hurt in the past, they can
resurface in different situations, like when you get into a relationship,
when you get married, when you have kids, when you
are subject to correction. That's one big one where someone
is correcting you for a behavior that you've done, maybe
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at work, at church or wherever. Someone is like, hey,
don't do that, it's wrong of you. And then suddenly
the wounds from childhood where your parents were too harsh
and beat the crap out of you for smallest things
suddenly resurface. You're like, hey, don't talk to me like that. No, no, no,
nobody talks to me that way. Something triggers because there's
a stress on that sensitive area that is exactly what
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we're gonna address today. And some injuries are big, some
are small. I once had an accident. I kept myself
pretty deeply right here, a scary place. I won't tell
you the story, but let me tell you. There was
an avocado and a box knife involved. Why my wife
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asked me, why are you cutting an avocado with box knife?
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Like I was at the construction site.
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I needed lunch, and so it slipped and it went
too far into my arm. And so when I went
to the hospital, they said I was this far from
attendant and that would have been required a reconstructive surgery
in the tendon. And I was this far away from
the artery as well.
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So I was really really lucky. This said. I know
it's God.
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Even in the middle of my foolish mistakes. He's still like, Okay, okay, boy,
I got you on this one. I'll keep you from
permanent damage. But it required more work than just a
paper cut. The same goes with our hearts. Some things
we can heal through just by releasing forgiveness. Other things
requires a little bit of a deeper work for us
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to be restored in our soul. So we're going to
go into the example here of the Good Samaritan in
the Book of Luke, chapter ten, which is the framework
for inner heeming. At Hungry Jen Luke, chapter ten, verse.
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Thirty.
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Then Jesus answered and said, a certain man went down
from Jerusalem to Jericho and fell among thieves, who stripped
him of his clothing, wounded him, and departed, leaving him
half dead. Some of us can identify with that. Maybe
you didn't fall into the hands of physical raw, but
maybe your ex husband was like a thief or a
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robber that you fell into his hands. Maybe your parents
were not present, they were distant. Maybe situations happened. There
are things that it's live stream, so my parents are
probably watching. But there are things my parents did to me.
If I do it today in this country, I'm going
to jail, okay.
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And that's how many people grew up.
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It's like parents do things to you and you're like,
I guess that's how it is here. But then you
grow up You're like, I, no, that's not okay. How
am I so okay after all of that. And my
parents were good, but there was a couple of times
I remember them, but I've forgiven them and stuff, so
it's all good. And other times where I realize, now
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as a father, how easy it is to become that
robber or that thief in the life of my children,
in the life of someone else. The other day, my daughter,
she's two, she had gone to bed. I told my wife, Hey,
let's just run to the drive through real quick. I'm
so hungry. Let's go and have some food. She's like,
and leave our two year old at home. I'm like,
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she's sleeping, We'll lock the door.
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Listen.
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I didn't do it, okay, anyone watching. I did not
leave my child at home.
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That's not allowed to do. But I was.
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I was like, it's probably okay. Imagine someone does that.
My wife was like that, I rebuke you, spirit of
fast food, trying to cause trauma to your children. So
imagine if my daughter would have woken up and looked
for us and not found us for fifteen twenty minutes
or however long it would have taken massive trauma.
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Something so small to me just run to.
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The drive through and back, but for someone who is small,
tender and looking up to me. Or other times when
I'm like I'm doing some work, I'm talking to someone,
or I'm trying to get some work done at home,
and she comes up to me, my daughter, two year old,
I'm her here.
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The way she loves me.
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I don't know if anyone, including my life, no one,
and maybe only God, loves me that way like she
I am her world.
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I don't even understand. I don't deserve that.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
But she looks up to me, and I'm working and
she comes up and just a moment of me not
being intentional, she said, Daddy, daddy, look at me, Look
at what I can do. Do you see me? That's
the real question she's asking, Do you see me?
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Dad?
Speaker 3 (15:26):
Am I worth paying attention to? Do you notice what
I can do? And maybe I'm like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah,
And I'm working and then because I'm trying to finish
up something so I can attend to her, but she's
really intense. But I've got two minutes left of work,
and so suddenly I'm like, wait, okay, calm down, baby,
I'm coming give me a minute. If I would have
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done that, a simple thing of me just focusing wrong
and then giving her that, suddenly her little tender heart broken,
he doesn't care. Or if she would have woken up
and I wasn't home. My home is not a safe place.
My dad might not be there for me. He doesn't
have me, he's not got me. These little things that
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I can so easily with just a little bit of
lack of focus get sewn into my daughter instantly. Over time,
This causes identity trades in a person. It shapes their
identity up to the age of five. Is my daughter's
formative years, these core questions is my home safe or
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my parents trustworthy? Is this world a safe place? Am
I lovely? Am I worth pursuing? By the age of five,
already those answers, those questions should have been answered by me.
If I fail to do that, my daughter will start looking.
In her adolescent years, we start looking for the answer
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somewhere else. If I cannot answer the question, if you
are lovely and worth pursuing, then she will look for
it somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
This is what is called a father wound in a
girl or for a little boy.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
They can experience, you know, they're born into this world.
Boys are born to be wild. They can save lives.
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That's how a man is. They're born to be wild.
We have this adventurous passion they is planted in our hearts.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
And some women they seem.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
To be so attracted to it at first, But once
they get that wild man, their job becomes to domesticate
him to her level. Sometimes, of course, no one here,
but just people out there might do that, and then
they wonder why there is no spark in the marriage
any longer. And the husband stays, but he grows resentment
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because he cannot express his adventure with one question in
his heart, and the question is am I able to
come through?
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Do I have what it takes? Am I strong? Am
I brave? Am I courageous? Am I wild? Am I
good enough to come through?
Speaker 3 (18:19):
And the same thing a father's job is to answer
that and say, yes, Yes you are wild, Yes you
are strong, Yes you are brave, and I'm proud to
be your dad.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
And some of us, as little boys, we never.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
Got that, and so this causes a father wound in
our life where we begin to seek the answer somewhere
else by pursuing success, because maybe success will answer if
I'm good enough, or maybe women will answer if I'm
good enough, or this or that, or one thing after another.
You become aggressive, you become violent, you become insecure, compassive.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
All these things are effects.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Of a father that didn't answer that question in your life.
So we're gonna have some prayer here in a little
bit for that.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
But as it's said here, stripped him of his clothing.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Maybe you are that thief to someone, or maybe you
fell into someone's hands and they were like robbers. They
did three things, strip them of their clothing, beat them
and left him alone. Stripping of clothing in Bible, in scripture,
over and over again, seems to represent the stripping of
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your identity, a shift of your identity, something that's taken
away from you. You are no longer secure and safe
in who you are. You don't know who you are.
You're struggling to see.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Am I, Who am I? What am I supposed to do?
Am I this?
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Or that?
Speaker 3 (19:52):
Especially in our generation, I mean, people ask more questions
about what they are. We don't even know how many
different types.
Speaker 4 (19:59):
Of where lives are that's flagged, and so these questions
come up, and they wonder and.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
They get stripped of that identity. Genesis three seven says
Adam and Eve when they sinned against God, an identity
was shifted.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
They were no longer in union with God.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
They got separated from him, and suddenly they said, why
are we naked? Let's wear clothes, let's put something on.
Throughout scripture Isaiah's forty seven, Whoseia too, All of these
places talks.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
About your nakedness shall.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
Be exposed as if it's something about your identity, And
so when it's stripped, they take your identity. Maybe your
dad was that robber to you stripped you of your identity.
You're stupid, don't cry, don't be a mama's boy. Stop
being so why are you all kinds of hurtful things
that might have been said?
Speaker 2 (20:55):
And then the next thing is the beating.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
It's the deliberate and intentional breaking of your will. Intentional
breaking of your will what I talked about.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
With my daughter.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
How if I would lash out at her when she's
trying to get my attention, even if it's just for
sixty seconds. She just desires to know that she's still
precious to her daddy, And I'll be like, hey, wait, intentionally,
if that happens over and over and over again, you
break their spirit.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
The Bible says in Proverbs fifteen.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
By sorrow of the heart, the spirit is broken the
third step that they many times do. Being left symbolizes rejection, abandonment,
and isolation. How being left alone, like I said, maybe
I got.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Left alone once as a kid. They or yeah, in
a hotel.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
I don't even remember the story, but somehow I got
lost in the hotel. I found my way back to
my parents' room, but it was on the wrong floor.
I couldn't reach the rights on the elevators. I like
went to the same door, but it was the wrong floor.
So when a stranger opened the door, I'm like, I recover.
They brought me to the labby and my parents found me.
They're like, oh there you are, oh man, looking for
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you some No, I'm just kidding. They were looking for
me seriously. And so these three things happens. Your identity
is crushed or stripped from you, your will is broken,
and you experience isolation, rejection, and abandonment. And that is
when Jesus comes in. And he says, the Samaritans saw
him and had compassion on him. Inner healing is a
ministry of compassion, and numberse thirty four and thirty five.
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I want to go through real quick about the framework
in which we do inner healing.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Here at hungry Jen, he says.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
So he went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring
oil and wine, and he set him on his own animal,
brought him to an inn and took care of him.
And the next day, when he departed, he took out
two denari, gave them to the innkeeper and said to him,
take care of him, and whatever more you spend when
I come again, I will repay you. This is Jesus
giving a parable to people who were very aware of
medical practices in their day and time.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
And let me explain it to you. The first step
that someone would do to heal a wound.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
Would be to pour wine in the wound, as wine
was known to have anti septic properties. These antiseptic properties
means that the wine, the alcohol content, could help kill
bacteria that are present in the wound and clean the
dirt out of the wound.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
That's the first step of healing the wound.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
If you take this now into soul healing, and we
use this as a framework for soul healing today, we
have something that stings when you first pour it in
a wound, but later on it cleanses you.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
It is the truth of God's word.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
Sometimes in a situation where you have been hurt, you
need to hear the truth. For example, you need to
get out of that house your husband or your ex
your boyfriend is abusing you for example. Other times you
need to hear the truth, which is God's word. Where
Jesus comes and speaks his word peace.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
I give you not as this world gives.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
I give you peace that surpasses all understanding and all
these words, and the word of God cleanses are wounds
John fifteen three already clean because of the word I've
spoken to you. So one one nine, verse nine. How
can a young man keep his way pure by guarding
it according to your words? So the first step is
to use the truth of God's word. The next step
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was pour olive oil, as it was widely used as
a soothing and promoting healing. You pour oil in the wound,
and it moisturized the wound so that he could heal,
because if it dries out too fast, then it won't
it won't grow together. Moisturize the wound acted like a
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dirt barrier and soothed inflammation and pain.
Speaker 2 (24:42):
And just like.
Speaker 3 (24:44):
Oil heels or covers wounds. So the oil and the
anointing and the presence of the Holy Spirit acts as
a soother to our hurt. I believe that the Holy
Spirit is the greatest pain relief that any Christian and can.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Ever experience his presence.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
His sweet presence in your life will bring soothing to
wounds that are hurting. And so the truth might sting,
but it cleanses you. And the presence of the Holy
Spirit will soothe the pain and the inflammation from those
wounds in your heart. The third step was to cover
it up and bandage it. I believe that this represents
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if we're still using this as an example for inner healing,
it represents prayer as.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
The prayer covers.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
The reason why they bandage it, of course, is to
a greater protection against dirt, but also to keep all
the medicinal properties of the oil and the wine in
the wound so it doesn't go out, and so we
seal it with prayer. The Bible says that the prayer
of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Job forty two.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
The Lord restored Job's losses when he prayed for his friends.
Fourth thing that the good small and did he put
the wounded man on his own animal. This signifies the
sharing of burdens, letting someone who is wounded share their experience.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Without shame or guilt.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
Galatians chapter two says bear one another's burdens and so
fulfill the law of Christ. Someone has been broken and wounded.
He took him and relieved him from the duties that
he had to walk himself. Is that you I carry
you on my own animal. A crucial component of guiding
and assisting someone into healing of their soul. Romans fifteen
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one says, he we who are strong ought to bear
with the failings of the week, and not to please ourselves.
One Corintians twelve twenty six says, if one member suffers,
all suffer together. The fifth thing that he did he
took him to an inn. The inn represents a change
of environment. Sometimes we need to change our physical environment
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from an unsafe home, abusive people. Sometimes we need to
change our relation environment from toxic connections and people who
do not contribute to your healing. And sometimes we need
to change an emotional environment, meaning the environment of our
inner person, coming out of shame, fear, or condemnation and
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start walking in acceptance and grace. And last thing that
he did he gave the innkeeper money to take care
of the wounded man after leaving. I believe this signifies
the importance of giving resources and tools for someone to
continue their healing process until they are fully recovered from
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a soul wound or an injury or a fracture of
someone's heart. And I'm glad to announce today something that
we've been working for some time together with Chrismicbride, Random
Freeman and Larissa, we are actually starting an inner healing
ministry here at Hungary jen where you will be able
to sign up for an inner healing session with some
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of our people, and so more information about that very soon.
But that is something that we're very happy to be
able to announce. So I jumped a few verses, and
that's what I want to go into right now, real quick.
Verse thirty one and thirty two. It says, by chance,
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a certain priest came down that road, and when he
saw him, he passed by on the other side. Likewise,
a levite, when he arrived at the place, came and
looked and passed by on the other side. Undoubtedly, a
priest and levite represents spiritual authority where maybe a pastor
or someone of authority in your life knew about what
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was going on but did not intervene. This is something
that can cause massive hurt in our life and contribute
to the process of not being able to be healed.
But I wanted to take it a little bit deeper,
and I looked into scripture. Many times fathers are represented
as a priest of their house. In Exteodus twelve, verse three,
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the pastor of instructions were given to the fathers to
lead the family in sacrifice. In Job one, verse five,
Job acted as a priest for his household, offering burnt
offerings for his children. So maybe the priest walking by,
seeing the person bruised and broken, represents absent fathers, someone
who didn't contribute. As I said, If I don't know,
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was it this service or last service? I said, many
parents are like, your child comes home and they're like,
someone is bullying me at school, and the parents will
be like, oh, well take the other way then, not me,
not me, you touch my kid. I'm gonna ask God
to look away for a moment. As for some of
that Samson annoying thing, Okay, my daughter and my kids
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will know that their dad would be there to defend them,
even if it gets him in trouble, that's for sure.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
But many people that I'm.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Joking a little bit, I'm not gonna you know, okay,
I'm not gonna do anything, okay, And there's no threat
of horror here, okay.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
But all I'm.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Saying is many times our parents just walked by, we
were bruised, we were broken, and that priest of the
household just walk by and let you suffer in your
own and maybe the Levites, because the role of the
Levites in the Bible, the duties of Levites was to
assist and help.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
The priests and serve in the house of the Lord.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
They took care of the tabernacle, guarded the holy things,
were close to the inner rooms, and led worship and
taught the law. Maybe in this example, a Levite can
be resembled by an absent mother.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
A mother who was not present.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
Left you to suffer, didn't nurture and treat you.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Didn't love you.
Speaker 3 (30:39):
And as I said earlier, every boy, every girl in
this world is born with two questions. Every boy is
born with a question do I have what it takes?
And am I worthy to be loved as I am?
The first one the father answers, the second one the
mother answers. If these answer questions go unanswered, we suffer
in our life times looking for validation from our father
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or from father figures for the entire length of our life.
So also every girl is born with two questions. The
first question is am I lovely? Am I worth being pursued?
And the second one is can I be loved? And
can I give love? And these two questions are answered
again by the father and by the mother. And when
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these things are not answered, this is what we define
as a father wound or a mother wound. Maybe you
are here today and that is part of it. You
fell into something. Your parents were not present, They didn't
show up when they really needed to. You feel left,
You felt left and abandoned. I wonder if we can
get some background music going. Is Colleen here somewhere from music?
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Or is down here like, oh, look at that.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
Holy Spirit?
Speaker 3 (31:54):
Just before I even pray, the music just came on.
Maybe you are here today and that deep cry of
masculine identity in your life? Am I strong? Am I capable?
Can I come through when it counts? Maybe your father
never answered that and you're feeling it, starving for validation.
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You're insecure, maybe you're passive. You're angry because of that.
As a mother is supposed to answer as well. Is
it okay for me to fail? Am I worthy to
be loved? No matter what? Given this question an answered
reduces a man's self image and self worth. Many times,
you don't understand what you're worth. A girl wonders, am
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I lovely? Am I worth pursuing? Am I captivating. Do
you see me? Do you pay attention to me? If
a father doesn't answer that, many times they find that
answer somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (32:50):
The world calls it daddy issues. We call it a
father wound.
Speaker 3 (32:54):
Same way the girl asks from their mom.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Can I nurture? Can I love?
Speaker 3 (33:04):
Am I worthy of being loved? And if your mom
and dad didn't answer that in your life. Today, we're
going to do a little exercise here and then we're
going to finish up. One of the most important tools
that we can use in the process of healing our
soul is a tool of forgiveness. Unforgiveness gives demons legal rights.
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It causes physical health issues, stress.
Speaker 2 (33:29):
And sickness.
Speaker 3 (33:30):
Unforgiveness is the single biggest reason for family feuds, for
marital issues unforgiveness. When you hold on to unforgiveness, you
experience spiritual torment. According to Matthew eighteen, you block God's
forgiveness in your own life Matthew six. You poison your
soul and your relationships Hebrews twelve. You give the enemy
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legal access Ephesians four. You reject the gift that you
receive from God, which is grace. I'm gonna do a
little practice here now.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
If you're here and you.
Speaker 3 (34:09):
Have experienced a mother wound or a father and there
are many different things to deal with in inner healing.
If I just felt led by the Lord today to
deal with that, I want you to just close your
eyes for a moment. All of us just close your eyes,
and I'm going to ask Pastor Sylvia to come up and.
Speaker 2 (34:24):
Me and her we're gonna read two letters.
Speaker 3 (34:27):
The first one is if you had an abusive father,
an absent father, or a husband or a brother, or
a father figure, a man figure in your life that
wasn't what they should have been. I want you to
hear this word and receive healing today and the same
way in just a minute when Pastor Sylvia reads it.
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If you had a woman figure in your life, a
mother or a sister, someone who wasn't there for you,
didn't nurture you the way that they should have. I
want you to just close your eyes and receive this
prayer to help you heal. I have the privilege today
of being able to stand here in the place of
any man who has been abusive to you and repent
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on their behalf. My prayer is that you would not
see and hear me, but you would see and hear
them speak these words to you, words that they need
to say, and words that you need to hear for
your healing to begin. I repent for being harsh and
abusive when disciplining you as a child. You were just
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a child, and I expected too much from you. It
was my fault, not yours. For the beatings I gave
you that you didn't deserve, and for all the times
that I struck out at you because of my anger
instead of loving you, I'm sorry. I'm so sorry for
all the times that I criticized you when you were
doing the best that you could do. For telling you
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that you were worthless, that you should never have been born,
and that you would never amount to anything.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
I was so wrong.
Speaker 3 (36:00):
I was your dad, and I was so consumed by
my own problems. I'm sorry for using my mouth to
curse you when I should have used it to bless you.
When you were a child and I abandoned you and
I was not the father that you needed. I was
so wrong when your mother and I divorced, I was
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not there for you because I went my own way
when you needed me as your friend and thought you
could count on me to be there, and I was not.
For all these things. I'm so sorry for neglecting you
as you were growing up because I was too busy.
I'm sorry for leaving you to fend for yourself instead
of being there to show you the way. I'm sorry
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that I could not bond with you emotionally when you
were a child and tell you that I love you
when you were a child and I made promises I
didn't keep and broke your tender heart. I'm so sorry
for what that did to you when you needed me
as your friend and thought you could count on me,
and I was not there for all these times, I
ask you to please forgive me when you, as my wife,
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should have been able to trust me and I was untrustworthy.
I'm sorry for threatening you and controlling you with fear
and by my anger. For all these things, I ask
for your forgiveness. For molesting you when you are a
child and destroying your innocence and having no concern for
what that did to you.
Speaker 2 (37:24):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (37:26):
I apologize for exposing you to pornography and destroying your
innocence and purity, For violating you as a young man
or a young woman through rape, day rape, or luring
you into sex and taking advantage of you. I was
wrong for what I did. For violating you as an
adult through rape, espousal abuse, and sexual violence. I was wrong,
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and I'm so sorry for what I did and its
effect on you. For all of these things, I repent
for being a spiritual leader and violating the trust that
you put in me, taking advantage of you being open
and vulnerable to me. I'm sorry when I was critical
and judgmental of you when I should have accepted you.
I repent As a husband and father. I was not
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the spiritual leader of our home, and I did not
protect you and our family as I should have. For
all of these abuses of you, I repent, and I
tell you that I'm genuinely sorry for what I did
and what it did to you. Will you please forgive
me on behalf of all men who have hurt you.
I repent and ask you to please forgive me. The
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same great and wonderful God extends forgiveness to us is
here to help you receive your healing, so that once
and for all you can forgive and be set free.
God is here, and I ask you to please forgive
me and let your heart be made whole in Jesus' name.
Speaker 5 (38:56):
Because the woman who have hurt you cannot stand here today.
I'm here to represent them my prayer. As it is
that you did not see me, but the person who
has hurt you on behalf of all these women. I
ask for forgiveness as your mother. When I may have
intentionally or unintentionally abused you physically or verbally, even when
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I raised my hand to hit you but didn't. I
am sorry when I knew you were being abused and
I did nothing to stop it, And those harsh words
I spoke to you that made you feel worthless and
condemned and wounded your spirit and you cannot forget. Then
there were those times when you felt abandoned or left alone.
Speaker 6 (39:41):
How afraid you must have been.
Speaker 5 (39:44):
Will you please forgive me those times of neglect when
your needs were not met, or you felt like no
one cared, when you had a broken heart and no
one would take the time to listen to you. I
am sorry when I'm sorry when I promise was made
to you and then broken without considering how you felt.
Speaker 6 (40:07):
The times that I set.
Speaker 5 (40:09):
On controlling you so that my plans were accomplished, those
times that you wanted to be held and showed and
show me love, and yet I didn't take the time
to return your love.
Speaker 6 (40:22):
Will you please forgive me?
Speaker 5 (40:25):
And those times when you needed praise I was either
too busy or just refused to give it.
Speaker 6 (40:31):
I am sorry.
Speaker 5 (40:33):
As your wife, I was unfaithful to you, causing you
to feel worthless and abandoned and less of a man.
I was so wrong, and I ask you today.
Speaker 6 (40:44):
To forgive me. You did not deserve that.
Speaker 5 (40:49):
When your deepest desires was to be honored and respected,
and I knowingly or unknowingly withheld that from you. I
was wrong, and I ask you today to give me.
You did not deserve that. As your sister, I verbally
and physically abused you, calling you names and making you
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feel like you were nothing. The things I said and
did were so hurtful.
Speaker 6 (41:16):
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 5 (41:19):
As your close friend, you trusted me, You shared your
thoughts and dreams with me, and I betrayed you. Would
you please forgive me? When I was your teacher, I
was entrusted with your care and I belittled you, embarrassed
you in front of your classmates, or spoke critical or
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negative words that were not true that impacted your.
Speaker 6 (41:43):
Belief about yourself.
Speaker 5 (41:45):
I repent on behalf of all women who have hurt you.
I repent and ask you to please forgive me. The
same great and wonderful God that extended forgiveness to us
is here to help you receive your healings, so that
once and for all you can forgive and be set free.
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God is here, and I ask you to please forgive
me and let your heart be made whole in Jesus' name.
Speaker 2 (42:17):
Let's rise to our feet right now,
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