April 7, 2025 • 48 mins
Being a mom to 6 children is challenging enough. But what if one of your kids is diagnosed with an extreme case of Tourette Syndrome, becomes the subject of online bullying, and courageously decides to take control of her own narrative by documenting her own journey on social media as she navigates life while living with this very public disability. Meet Julie Dupree whose daughter, Baylen, decided to do just that and as a result, their family is now the focus of TLC's smash hit reality show, Baylen Out Loud. Get to know this dedicated and wise Mom who confronts her own challenges with a good dose of humor and common sense. You won't want to miss this insightful and inspiring episode.
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Speaker 1 (00:16):
Hi, Welcome to inside the Mom's Club, where being a mom.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Is the coolest place to be. Here in the.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Mom's Club, we believe that what embarrasses you now will
make a great story later. And let's face it, you
don't laugh sometimes you're gonna cry. Join us in having
a good laugh together. I'm Monica Samuels. You are now
inside the Mom's Club, your private destination for all things mom. Welcome,
(00:45):
Mom's welcome to inside the Mom's Club. I'm your host,
Monica Samuels, and I'm here with my lovely co host,
Julie Orchid.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Hello.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
What's going on, Monica?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Well, it's we're back here in Los Angeles.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
We are.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
It feels it's so good, and I mean it does.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
It feels me.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
The weather's been amazing, as we say here on the
Mom's Club. Yeah, and it's just been great.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
It's been sunny and warm and blue skies and everything
that the whole reason that people live in La So
it's been perfect.
Speaker 6 (01:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
And then the only well it's not this is not
that it's not perfect, but we share a room when
we're traveling here, and we've had to learn each other's
little idiosyncrasy that's for sure, things that we do so,
you know, like I go to bed listening to Seinfeld.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
Yeah, it's a routine and she's not even watching the show.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I actually bought a new pillow that I highly recommended,
and they not a paid sponsor, but I'm talking. I
love it. It's a pillow.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
For your face.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
You put it over your face, right, But Julie threatened
to put it over more than my face.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yea, whether or not she was ready to.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
It was like that pillow me anyway. But yeah, we
have a lot of it. We have to learn each
other's ins and outs, and I can honestly tell you that,
you know, Monica has some teens that I've had to
ask the depth of what they mean and how you
process them. So, I mean, your level of anxiety today,
(02:08):
how is it?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I'm four maybe yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
It's actually pretty good. Bad, it's pretty good today.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Yeah, I have So I have anxiety, which I've shared before,
which is, you know, working on it. That's something that Julie,
who travels with me, then has to deal with because
it means that I do certain things that she's used to.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
My husband's used to it.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
But I mean, yeah, I mean the biggest one is
like you have a routine that you got to make
sure that you're ready to go and processed and rent
the restroom before every show, run to the restroom before
we board a plane. I mean, it doesn't matter. And
so finally, as an ear nurse, I was just concerned
that you had UTIs all the time. Honestly, I didn't
really know what was.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
And it always has to be just under the gun.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Just it's just like it has to be like right before,
I mean, talk about anxiety. Yeah, should make everybody more
anxious than pop, but like I don't.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
It has to be like.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
It's a time and you have a little touch and
I'm not picking on you. I'm literally like, well maybe
sometimes I am, but OCD two plays a part of
that with your anxiety, and you do have that. So
I'm just trying to understand it because I don't know
if it's helpful for a person like me, who you know,
kind of blows and goes, you know, and not processing
(03:24):
all of your you know, little routines. Is it helpful
for me to be like, hey, you're gonna be fine,
let's go, We've got this. Maybe you can tell me.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
I think it it doesn't change anything.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
So I do have a you're ignoring what I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
No, okay, it's just it takes more to get over that.
So I have it started like as a kid, I
had big problems with germs.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
It hasn't changed.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
It hasn't changed, and so that's not good. So I
washed my hands a ton.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
But my dad and he was not being mean about it,
but he started calling me the sanitary kid. And there
was a little diddy he always said it was he.
Let's see, he holds her hands with rubber gloves and
kisses her through a strainer, the sanitary kid. And so
I was the sanitary kid. But you know what, actually
(04:18):
it didn't bother me because as much as they called
me and told me I was a you know I
hated germ. I liked it because I thought, okay, everybody
knows I don't want germs around me, you know.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
And then and it plays into the hyperchondriact.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Yeah, that does have that. But you know what, so no,
CD is one of those things that you also.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Like. I always would like on on walking up and
down steps.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Oh yes, I always forgot about.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
To step over a line with my right It's just stupid.
I mean it's not stupid. It's it's like.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
Something you have to do, but you work on it every.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Day, take your life in a way because it's like, I.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Mean, we've been together for four years and we know
each other's things, and I've learned that you know, this
is part of your routine and who you are, but
I also like to jump in every now and then
and discover what's behind it and will that ever change?
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Well, to answer your question, certainly with people, you know,
therapy and things they call your attention to m it's
not the biggest thing I've been told is why don't
you try to go out and get on that airplane?
Speaker 4 (05:31):
Right?
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Why don't you just run up and down the stairs
and don't worry how it turns out?
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Right? And it's just you can't.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
It's hard, but I'm very well aware of it, right,
and it hasn't you know. And the other thing is
you kind of feel like, you know, like this is
the first time I've ever talked about any of that.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
My sister's going to be a zoomer mom. I bet
she didn't know that.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
I always I'll be asking.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Also, you know, and we're gonna talk more. We give
a wonderful guest. It was to discuss more of this
sort of thing. But on the show Bailing Out Loud,
where she said she has to do everything in threes,
I had to do everything in threes for a while.
That's and I and I also had a tick in
law school, yes, where I was constantly doing squinching my
(06:23):
nose where everybody's like, Monica, you've got it.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I think that it was stress.
Speaker 4 (06:28):
Yeah, stress that.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
So there's a lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
You know, Well, let's just jump right into the subject.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Deal with on a daily.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Ba Absolutely, so we are thrilled to have with us
the mother of the star of TLC's most watched unscripted
TV show, Bailing Out Loud. The reality series showcases Balen,
who has Tourette syndrome, and the ways Bailing and her
family manage the challenges that come with it. In addition
to bail in this amazing as we say on the
Mom's Club, mother of five other children is raising with
(07:01):
her husband Ellen in West Virginia. Please welcome Julie Dupree.
Welcome to the Mosque Club. Hello Julie, We're so thrilled
for you to be here. And let's just start from
a little background for those who haven't seen the series,
(07:21):
but I highly recommend they watch it because.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
It really is.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
It's a great it's a great show, but it's such
as a show it identifies something that people are learning
a lot from. So Bayalin has Tourette syndrome, which you
recognized from her childhood, but it really didn't manifest itself
in a more severe way from what I understand, until
the pandemic. Is that correct, or just tell us a
(07:46):
little bit about how you all came to discover that.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
You discovered that she had Tourette syndrome.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
True, so at a young age, she she did have
multiple issues. You know, you could see the ADHD manifesting
itself in little OCD things. She had a few random
ticks seven eight years old, and then everything kind of
took a break until right around the age of sixteen
(08:13):
she started to get some simple ticks, some neck jerking.
Speaker 7 (08:16):
We kind of let that fly, just.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Not really knowing where we should go with things and
what to do about it. See, if you know your
brain chemistry and those chemicals are rapidly changing at that age,
so you just think, okay, well, we're just gonna we're
gonna let this pan itself out. But by the time
of eighteen, or probably slight slightly before eighteen, maybe a
little bit before the pandemic, things really kicked into high
(08:44):
gear for her and then of course for us, because
we were absolutely clueless with what to do and what
was actually going on, because we had never thought to
it ever, we had thought all these what now we
know as co morbidity is to go that go hand
in hand with tourette We I mean, it was just
(09:06):
I felt like we were ambushed.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Yeah, I bet, I bet, just thrown into the wildfire
of learning something that's going to be a part of
your life.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
And the combination of things like Tourette's a lot frequently
comes with OCD, so that causes her to be in
some danger at times, is correct, because if she's got
a you know, she punches somebody or she hits some
break something, and she's gonna keep doing it until three
times until she feels that she's done what she needs
(09:37):
to do. But that's not safe for her. So I know,
I saw you one episode where you went to the
grocery store with her or cooking with her, and you know,
how do you manage those challenges on a daily basis.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
I mean management is it's kind of it's complicated because
it's not a one way round. You're dealing with so
many other things at one time. But for the most part,
I would say that OCD is the devil. It is
driving the car, and that is what really accentuates her tourette.
I think her tourette would be a much simpler case
(10:17):
of turette to deal with if it weren't for the
OCD kind of infringing itself into her world. So she
has obviously been through counseling, behavioral therapy.
Speaker 7 (10:30):
There's not a whole lot that works, Julie.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Is there like a group you know what I mean? Like,
you know, there's groups for everything, but for people who
are experiencing living with Tourette syndrome? Is there anything like that?
Speaker 2 (10:49):
There?
Speaker 7 (10:49):
Very well could be.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
I haven't personally looked into it. Yeah, now that she's
adulting and we are realizing together that the OCD is
driving the car, well, fortunately and unfortunately that's kind of
her responsibility Sure to make sure that she's managing that.
I can't do that for her, as much as I
(11:11):
want to help Sure, and maybe as much as the
show makes it look like I'm a helicopter mom.
Speaker 7 (11:16):
I'm really not.
Speaker 4 (11:18):
I gotcha.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
I gotcha well, And I understand how that feels too,
because my oldest son had a traumatic brain injury, and
today you wouldn't know that he has. He still deals
with some of it. But whenever he would take the
car out and drive the car, I knew that he
would lose focus or something, and so I was at home.
When I watch you on the show, I feel like
I feel for you. Whenever she's out experiencing other things
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that you don't have control over.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
It's hard, right, because.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Yeah, one time Jared came home and he had swiped
the side of the car on a guardrail and just
lost focus and came home and the whole side of
the car had That's.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Part of it. But that's a that's a good way
I mean to that those types of stories. How did you?
How did you get to be like so public? How
did this come about? The show? And her decision to
go public, which I think has been tremendously helpful, her
YouTube and everything that she's done with it. So how
(12:14):
did the show come about?
Speaker 3 (12:18):
The show came about through Michael Levitt. He reached out
to I believe it was me personally. He messengered me
and basically said that he adored Balen and he felt
very inspired by her and wondering if we could do
a zoom to speak more. He already knew that she
(12:38):
was like a public figure obviously because of her following.
So yeah, that was that was basically it.
Speaker 7 (12:45):
And we had.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
A we had a liking for him right from the
get go, Like you could tell that there was a connection.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Yes, so yeah, no, yeah, we've met him. He's a great,
a great guy. We enjoyed Michael, yeah a lot. So
she was already a public person because she put herself
out there so kids these days. Did you know that
she was had decided how I'm going to go on
TikTok and identify myself as someone with Tourette's. Did she
say in advance, HAMM doing this or seek your counsel?
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Like should I do this? Or you just discovered one
day that she's blown.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
Up into Julie's Like yeah, no, Monica, absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Yeah, I'm just saying it's a question.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
I think I know the answer, but I just let her, Yeah,
tell us about that experience, because.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
I don't think that she was interested in our opinion
at that time, because it was really just it was
really more of like this this freeing of herself.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Right.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
So I think we found out like maybe two weeks
later that she had posted this TikTok video that had
went viral, and we're like, wait, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah, what are we doing here?
Speaker 4 (13:50):
What are we doing now? And yeah, you're.
Speaker 7 (13:52):
In her master bathroom doing videos.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Yeah, this is like, I don't know, this whole generation's different.
So I was like, Okay, if you're comfortable with it,
I'm comfortable with it. And it obviously had a purpose
to her, and the driving purpose was to make sure
that her schoolmates knew.
Speaker 4 (14:13):
Yeah, that she.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
Was a really accelerated version of herself and she was
embarrassed of herself and she wanted to put that out
into the world before anybody could do it for her
because she had seen some girls in a local store taking.
Speaker 7 (14:31):
A video of her.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
So that that was her driving course to say, Okay,
I'm going to I'm going to hold the power here.
Speaker 7 (14:40):
Yeah, and I'm going to show everybody.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
As opposed to the world doing it. So yeah, and
it just kind of blew up from there and we
didn't really understand that it blew up.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Yeah, it really has. I actually knew who Balen was
before I knew about today, So you know what I
mean A from her videos, which I think are super courageous.
I think she's incredibly brave. How do you feel as
a mom on this public journey of her being out there?
You know, obviously you're going to get negative feedback or people,
(15:13):
you know, say things people are in you know, terribly cruel,
and so as a mom, what do you do with that?
How do you guys handle that? Because it seems to
me that that would be almost impossible to avoid.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Right, Like, this is her life and she's living it,
so no matter what I say, it has no impact
on her. So we're just really encouraging and supportive and
always throwing out just little bits of bits, you know,
wisdom of like hey maybe this is and you know,
maybe don't go this route or whatever. But as your
(15:48):
children become adults, you realize that you do have less
control and you're kind of in the backseat going okay,
please don't go off.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
Oh yeah, Julie and I are well aware.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
Yeah I giggled a little bit because I have one
that doesn't she could literally care less about my opinion,
you know, of what I have to say.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
I was like, okay, I learned that with my youngest
son when he texted me and said I think I'm
gonna go skydiving, and I texted back absolutely not, which
was followed by a video of him skydiving.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Yeah, he's already gotten back here.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah anyway, So yes, they don't listen to anything like that.
Well she has done, I mean to put herself out there.
That's a huge public service to get people talking about
all of this and thinking about it in a different way.
When Julie and I were looking at different things related
to tourettes to get ready for the show, I saw
a video of a young man. He had very severe
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tourettes and he's gotten some treatment at the Mayo Clinics.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
So there was a YouTube video about it. But I
looked in the.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Comments and one of the comments read I went to
school with this guy. I didn't really know what was
happening to him, and now I wish I had bothered
to at least say hi, yeah, And that just touched
me like yeah, I mean, so she's giving a voice
to all of these people, and that's tremendous, and I
am with the social media as it is.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Yeah, there's some negative people, and you.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Know, I I'm on Instagram and TikTok and everything. I
do these silly videos and then I get those message
on TikTok the bottom says it's folded to protect my
well being. The comments, you know, it's like, okay, I'm
not going to read those because right, so, yeah, I
know how yeah tough it can be. Well, what's it
like to bring a film crew into your home and
(17:31):
your family? Because I was someone wants joked that we
should do a Mom's Club reality show, and I thought,
I don't think we should number one.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
But second, I wouldn't feel like I was being myself.
Speaker 4 (17:43):
Well, here's the deal. Your makeup and hare would be
done in mine would not be and that, yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
I know who would be all put together?
Speaker 4 (17:50):
But what was that like for you all and your
other kids?
Speaker 3 (17:55):
It was surreal and you can't really describe it to
somebody that hasn't been through it. So it's like we
try to describe it to our family and friends, and
there's really no perfect description of how you can articulate
the feelings that you're going through that all of these
strangers are in your house, and your life is going
(18:18):
to be national and all these crazy things.
Speaker 7 (18:22):
It's just.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
I don't know, it's really just it was. I think
it took just a lot of family thought, perspective, it
just being really like introspective of how is this going.
Speaker 7 (18:37):
To pan out for us?
Speaker 3 (18:38):
How are we going to balance the pros and cons
of this?
Speaker 7 (18:42):
Is it the right thing? And since we came to
the conclusion that.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
This was the right avenue for us, we looked at
it more as a blessing. So having them with us
every day was a little bit of a challenge because
you're opening up your space in your world, right, but
it was way more of a blessing.
Speaker 7 (19:03):
Than it was anything else. Just well, I don't know,
most people don't.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
Get to have that experience, Yes, so just to have
that experience is really just.
Speaker 7 (19:13):
Yeah, that's great.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
I love how you phrased that. It's a blessing, and
you know, I really like that. But this is inside
the mom's club. How do you care for yourself? How
do you take care of yourself? What do you do kid?
Speaker 2 (19:24):
How do you manage that?
Speaker 4 (19:25):
How do you manage.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
I always give props to my husband in this.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
Avenue because that's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
We chose, like out of the gate to be a
little bit more on the end of poor so that
I would always have the ability of availability. Yes, so
there were some rough years in there where I was like,
oh lord, I need to get the job.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
Yeah you can stay home, Yeah exactly.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
And now things have really flattened out, the youngest being eleven.
I feel like I've really come into who I am
as a person and a mom in the last five
to ten years. And I make it a point I'm
intentional about making time for myself and knowing my limits,
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and I don't know, I feel like I've really just
became a person in like the last ten years.
Speaker 7 (20:19):
It's fantastic. Yeah, you know, the first fifteen.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
Years of parenting wasn't you know, it wasn't all daisies
and whatever.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
Now, of course, so getting it having a child he's eleven.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Now now you've come to sort of the other side
of that, is that what you would what would you
share with all the moms out there who are currently
dealing with, you know, some less less me time than
maybe they feel that they need just intentionally taking the
time or how.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Do you.
Speaker 7 (20:49):
How do I What would be my message to them.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Is they're going through it like there is light at
the end of the tunnel. You know, I've got through it,
and I'm.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Yes, when you look back on life, it's so short.
So just keep in mind that this too shall pass, yea. Yeah,
and when it passes, you're going to actually wish it
back because you're probably going to be in a position
of a different struggle. So yeah, I always have those
moments where I'm like, gosh, I wish I would have
(21:21):
been more in the moment when my kids were really little,
because I can appreciate that.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
Yeah, yeah, I think that's amazing. Being present is something
that I like to remind myself. I'd like to remind
my friends, and you know, it is really valuable. So
I have a quick question for you. So I naturally,
I think everybody's naturally a mama bear, right, so you know,
and I don't have a child that has Tourette syndrome,
But how do you handle the public when you're out,
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you know, with balen if someone is you know what
I mean, being not kind, inappropriate, and you know, how
do you handle that? As a mom?
Speaker 3 (22:00):
I think most of the time I err on the
side of grace, sure, because we're all just so human
that and you can never begrudge somebody for ignorance. But
when it just turns a little bit too far and
it becomes malicious, some of the comments or a stare
(22:21):
or a face.
Speaker 7 (22:23):
I tend to.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
I'll tend to say something, but I'm really kind for
the most part. There's only been a couple situations where
they were like extremely rude and we at this one
time in Washington, d C. We had all left the
restaurant and I made it a point to walk back
(22:47):
in and educate this nice couple, and he ended up
he was a doctor, and she was like, I mean,
they were highly educated people and probably two of the
rudest individual I've ever sat next to in a restaurant.
Speaker 7 (23:02):
I was like, do better.
Speaker 4 (23:04):
Do better?
Speaker 7 (23:04):
Do better?
Speaker 4 (23:06):
Good for you? Good for you. I just realized, I'm
glad that you are upfront about that, because that's something
that I wondered about, because yes, and I would disintegrate
these people into my eyes to ashes that would be.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Through your answer.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I was thinking, I know what Julie would do and
there would probably be arrests involved.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Maybe let them have it.
Speaker 4 (23:28):
I have a few friends that might bail me out.
Jennifer Marsh, I totally yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
So how do your other kids feel.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
About all the attention? I mean, are they good with it?
Is anybody resentful? Because I know there's all the sibling
rivalry and things that happen, and you know, Balen's getting
a lot of attention and fame, and I mean, do
they they're on the show, but are they any of
them not thrilled with that or they're there?
Speaker 3 (23:56):
The one that it's taken the least favor with would
be the seventeen year old Spend just because so much
of his life has lived in a social environment with friends,
and I don't think that we know everything that is
being exchanged through Snapchat and things like that. So I
(24:16):
think that he's had to have a lot of defensive
moments for his sister and things like that. He also
doesn't like to hear, hey, your sister's hot. Yeah, like
my kids, maybe other than Beckner, which is the young one,
they are the opposite of, for lack of better words,
like attention horse like they don't they want less attention
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in regards to publicity, which makes it really weird. It's like,
how are we on National TV, and my kids really are.
Speaker 4 (24:50):
Not Kardashians have a brother and he absolutely is out
of the picture when it comes to that. So I
think of that. I mean, their story is nowhere different,
I mean so different. But I'm just saying in general,
so they get a choice, right, I'm sure of how
much they want to be and how much they don't
want to be on television and how much of.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
It because we've interviewed other people that have done reality shows,
is because sitting back as the audience, and you know,
there's an editor and so that they put this show
to each episode together, it has to be some dramatic effect.
Because if all you all did all day was just
walk around and make scrambled.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Eggs, people be bored, right. So I got.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Really into the storyline, which is on a storyline, it's
your real life of Colin.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
And your daughter.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
And I'm watching the relationship unfold, and I'm thinking to myself, Oh,
they're too they're young, that they should they're.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Too young, you know, So you're watching all of that, and.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
Then I then I was his proposal is so beautiful.
I mean, did he write that himself? That was beautiful?
And I cried I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
Well, I mean, I think some people don't know your
daughter is, Oh, she's engaged.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Engaged, she can engage.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
So how much of that now? You can't give too
much of it away, But I mean one point, your husband,
even on the show, kind of seemed to have some
reservations about what's going on with Colin and Balen. They're
just is your real life or does some of it?
Like his Colin, if he's watching that, probably thinks, well,
I thought they liked Mari.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Is that what isn't it tricky? Or how do you
manage that?
Speaker 3 (26:27):
So, yes, it's completely unscripted, right, but it doesn't mean
that like we're not walking around with GoPros.
Speaker 7 (26:34):
On our head.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
Sure so, and that would be the most boring show
ever just to see footage like that. So there has
to be I call it scene setting right where they're
putting you into scenes and they're motivating you to say, Okay,
let's let's talk about this. Because the narrative of the
show is trying to get to a certain place, and
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in order to create that arc, like, there's topics that
they want you to discuss more than.
Speaker 7 (27:01):
Others per se.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Yeah, so there's there's always some like scene setting, and
there's I think that there's like a ton of permits
that they have to go about doing. So reality TV
isn't reality TV in the moment, I can't watch it
the same now because no show. Like I'm like I
could breathe through all that, like, oh, I know what's going.
Speaker 4 (27:23):
On, I know what's happening.
Speaker 5 (27:27):
Yeah, so certain things, you know, when you watch them back,
you're like, they didn't take anything out of context.
Speaker 7 (27:37):
They did a great job.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
I mean, we put so much faith in them, and
they really really came through. They followed our wishes and
desires with making sure that it's like ninety percent awareness
and education.
Speaker 7 (27:50):
But we're all also not stupid.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
We know that there's an entertainment kind of a drama
factor and we have all of that.
Speaker 4 (27:58):
Yeah you know, I've got todrama. You don't. Yeah, we
don't have to like yeah, but that makes me to
a good question for Bailan, what what do you see
for her future? Obviously I know that she's engaged, but
like what is tell us a little bit about her
future and living with tourette?
Speaker 1 (28:17):
So how you see that Julie's a nurse and I
know Balen expressed an interest in being Yes, I.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Was listening to that, like she really you know. I
love the way that you know she wants to help
other people based off what she's been through, and I
always love when someone says they want to be a nurse.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
I feel like what I could see in the future
for her is doing anything that shows that she's really
an ambassador for this condition. So whether it's just always
like moving into more personal spaces, public speaking, private events,
so that she's just not this figure that's that's on
a screen. Really, So that's really what I hope the
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most her because I think it's important for people to
see that every day is really much more of a
challenge for her than what you see on a TikTok
or even what you see in one episode.
Speaker 7 (29:15):
It's it's very complex.
Speaker 4 (29:17):
It's twenty four scents.
Speaker 7 (29:18):
I don't know what you're getting.
Speaker 4 (29:20):
Yeah, I understand. I understand, So well, that's great.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
What I do love about this generation too, is they
some of them, they are choose to be ambassadors for
certain things when bad things happen to them, or they
have some something that they're struggling with, like my son
when he had his brain injury thanks to Julie actually
by accident, he started getting involved in an organization called
Hope for Minds and really talking about traumatic brain injury
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and really going out there and raising money for it
and speaking about it and everything. So hats off to
all of these kids who do that. Well, we are
very excited because we have women who just ask you
some questions, not yet, not just They are our zoomer moms.
So welcome zoomer moms.
Speaker 7 (30:04):
You.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
Okay, I'm going to start.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Ronda Marie, can you please tell us your full name,
where you're from, and a little bit about yourself and
do you have a question for Julie.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (30:19):
Excuse me, I am Ronda Phillips. I'm originally from Los Angeles,
but I actually live in Shreveport, Louisiana, and believe it
or not, I am in Atlanta right now being a
zoomer mom. Excuse me, really excited about what's taking place.
I have a question. You know, Julie, you were sharing
(30:40):
about family and all that has going on. If you could,
could you tell us a little bit about family time
that obviously is unscripted, something that is dear to your
heart because as a mom, we realize that our children
are our husbands. Our family is very important. I am
(31:03):
a mother of a retired vet and she is going
through some things right now, and I know that quality
time with her has really been a blessing to both
of us.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
So I'd just like to.
Speaker 8 (31:17):
Hear a little bit about your quality time with your family.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
Quality time with the family, like when we're a one
complete unit, when all six of the kids are back
under one roof, really looks like eating together and playing
like wiffle ball outside. It's a lot of it is unspoken.
It's through the things that we're doing together in the
time spent. I feel like that's where we really become cohesive.
(31:46):
Like you realize that even though there's one that's twenty
four and one that's eleven, that they really are more
alike than they are different because they're both planted from
the same seed.
Speaker 7 (31:55):
And I think.
Speaker 3 (31:57):
That we've done a decent job parenting them that they
they know that like this is this is where your
value comes from. It's from this household, and don't ever
lose that exactly.
Speaker 4 (32:10):
I agree, yes, And that's an amazing question. I have
a question for you, Like I know that you're a
speaker as well, But like, what do you do with
your family, Like tell us you know a little bit
about your journey. I mean you mentioned just slightly when
you ask the question, but I'd love to hear it.
Speaker 8 (32:29):
So my daughter, she is actually thirty six, and she
active duty retired from a medical condition that happened while
in the military. Okay, We've been separated for just about
fifteen years. So I had a young, young, young adult
(32:50):
who actually now is grown, and we are redeveloping our relationship.
We do lunch, we sit down, we talk about our day,
we go shopping, we have girl time. And one of
the things that is very important to me, I had
to realize that my daughter, I'm still mom, but I'm
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not the mom of that seventeen year old who left
and went into the military. So I'm there to advise her,
but not to dictate to her, okay. And that has
really helped our relationship to bloom and to continue to grow.
Speaker 4 (33:33):
And I think Julie feels that deeply, right, Like as
far as to be there and to you know, advise, advise,
and how we all aspire to the advising role.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
Yeah, relationship.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
Yeah, Kim, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us your
full name, where you're from, and a little bit about yourself,
and do you have a question for Julie.
Speaker 9 (33:53):
Yeah, I'm stepping outside right now because I have two
kids that I'm trying to save you guys from hearing. Amazing,
I guess my biggest question I mean with so you
with so many kids, like how did you manage the
younger years? And keep saying I guess and keep time
(34:14):
for yourself, I don't remember.
Speaker 4 (34:25):
A complete blackout.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
That is actually the most honest answer we've ever had
her on the Mom's Club.
Speaker 4 (34:30):
Yes, that just done. Drop the mic, love it. Yeah, perfect,
So Kimberly, it's all going to go away. This is
why we all have more than one child. We forget
how painful it is, and we do it again for
some reason.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
So you might want to keep a journal you can
refer back to right now if you have the time
to write any jots, something down so that you can remember.
Speaker 4 (34:52):
Because yeah, beautiful blur Kimberly.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Yes, Jennifer, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us your
full name, where you're from, and do you have a
question for Julie?
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Hi, everyone, so glad to be here.
Speaker 4 (35:05):
I'm Jennifer Marsh.
Speaker 10 (35:06):
I'm from Austin, Texas, and I have a twenty three
and a nineteen year old, and I'm sitting here thinking, Wow,
being a parent for that long must be you do
probably have a lot of experience and forget the early
versions of toddlerhood.
Speaker 7 (35:24):
But you know, part of this journey of.
Speaker 11 (35:28):
Being in a marriage and having six kids, I wonder,
like what it's like to also take on a reality
show that comes into your family and a child who
has you know, we all have one child that tends
to take up more time than the others, and it's
you know, and I always wonder like, how what's the
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best way to hold space.
Speaker 6 (35:49):
For the ones who don't have the same needs for
your time? And you know, I just have two, so
it's easy for me. I've definitely had one kid who's
been a lot more just needed a lot more attention
than you know. My first child was super independent, oh
scare of herself, and at some point she was just
done and I launched, and you know, my second child
(36:10):
was you know, also he's an amazing kid, but just
needed a little bit more attention, you know. Sensory integration disorder, dyslexia, dyspraxia.
Speaker 7 (36:20):
You know, all these things which were.
Speaker 6 (36:22):
We worked through them, but you know, they just took
time away from my daughter, and so she was sort
of I always.
Speaker 7 (36:28):
Wonder like, is she independent because she had to be?
Or she independent because she was just going.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
To be that way?
Speaker 3 (36:32):
So I wonder like, what is it how do you
hold space.
Speaker 4 (36:35):
For your other kids? Good question.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
I think my answer to that would be to just
I'm always meeting them where they're at so and I'm
in making sure that I'm also in that moment with them.
So if if I'm spending too much time over here
one day, then then maybe the emotional attention this one
needed was just for me to lay down and watch,
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you know, a thirty minute.
Speaker 7 (37:04):
Episode of a show with them.
Speaker 3 (37:06):
Because everyone's needs are different, so his thirty minutes, we
might think wasn't enough, but really thirty minutes to him
is more like Balan's six hours. So it's always kind
of keeping that in perspective.
Speaker 7 (37:21):
But I just I just love being a mom, so
it comes easy.
Speaker 3 (37:26):
For me, Like I like to set myself on the
back burner. I like to be with them and make
sure that that I'm doing what they love. I'm watching
I'm sitting in the cold watching your baseball games.
Speaker 7 (37:41):
I'm you know, I'm.
Speaker 3 (37:43):
Going shopping at the stores that you want to go
shopping to. We'll go through the coffee shop that you
want to go to. It's kind of like really sacrificial.
Speaker 7 (37:52):
In a lot of ways, and you can lose.
Speaker 3 (37:54):
Yourself, but I just stay grounded in my faith and
that it less of me and and more of Him,
and that makes me whole.
Speaker 4 (38:03):
Beautiful answer, beautiful love that.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
That's so great to hear.
Speaker 7 (38:06):
Yeah, I mean, because you said at the beginning that you.
Speaker 11 (38:08):
Tried really hard to be in the backseat, So sounds
like that's generally a philosophy of yours well.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
And you do give a lot of credit too to Alan,
your husband. So you've I mean, he's works full time
and you're staying at home.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
Do you feel like he's.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
Equally, like spends dedicates time to each of the other kids,
and he's in addition to working and doing everything else.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
Do you feel like it's an equal.
Speaker 4 (38:35):
No, nothing's equal.
Speaker 3 (38:37):
I don't think it's equal, and I do feel that
over the years, he feels like he's missed out because
he has been such a workforce that has given me
the opportunity to make sure that I'm at everything and
I can do everything and all the doctor's appointments and
all of the things that we're dividing and conquering.
Speaker 7 (38:57):
But he still has to hold down a job.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
He's still has to make sure we have medical insurance
and all of those things. So I think men carry
burdens differently than we do. I think they definitely do,
and I acknowledge that for him, and I do have
moments where I feel really sad for him because I
know that I've really been able to embrace a lot
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more of the kids than maybe he has.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
But I really I really like and appreciate your answer
because I think a lot of women seem to come
down on the dads and say, oh, he didn't you know,
it wasn't taking time, And that's really the most honest
I love your answer because I know my husband now
is the kids are older, I think he looks back
he missed a lot. Yeah, I was the team mom
and the baseball team, and I was I got to
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spend a lot of time with him, but he didn't
so because he was working so hard.
Speaker 4 (39:49):
So exactly, but I do want to I do want
to say something to this subject. I am not a
married person, but I will tell you this. I think
it's an amazing relationship that you have stuck together because
this could have this could have broken your relationship and
your family life wide open. That's the truth. So I
love that part. But I will say that if I
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had to guess and get into like a man's head
who's always working, not always around, that he appreciates what
you are able to bring, even though he can't be
there all the time and he may have missed out
on some stuff. He loves how this is set up.
And I think that they really I think men, I
could be wrong, really really value what is being built
(40:33):
and what is created in your home.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
So I just well, when you're when you're watching the show,
like I do, you appreciate your relationship, you're working together together.
It feels like with the entire situation. Lisa, Lisa, welcome
to the Mom's Club. What's your full name? Where are
you from? She's my sister by the way. Yeah, tell
(40:58):
us a little bit about yourself, which I told a
lot right there, And do you have a question for Julie.
Speaker 7 (41:03):
My name is Lisa Morris.
Speaker 12 (41:04):
I am from Horseshoe Bay, Texas, which is outside of Austin.
Speaker 7 (41:08):
I do. My husband and I watch your.
Speaker 4 (41:10):
Show together, so we just love it.
Speaker 12 (41:12):
One of the things I was curious about is because
I have two daughters that are close in age, and
I wonder how the sister relationship is. You know, they'll
go shopping and things like that, but I also know
that my daughters will when I'm all ask something, I'll
get on the nerves about one are kind of a
little bit as much as they get along, are.
Speaker 3 (41:28):
They close or do they have their moments or.
Speaker 7 (41:32):
What's that relationship?
Speaker 3 (41:33):
Like, they have an interesting relationship because Sammy truly is
Balin's biggest advocate in the world, and she's feisty though
she's got like this Italian side to her where there's
no gray. It's black and it's white and this is
what we're doing. So the things that they don't see
(41:54):
eyed eye with are the gray areas because Baylen's so passive, like, oh,
that's fine, he overcharged me fifty dollars, It's okay, and
sam He's like, that's hard earned money. You need to
Like they're like Samuel is very firm, So some of
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their personality traits and their temperament come across as different
and it is.
Speaker 7 (42:19):
A little bit inflated.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
I would say.
Speaker 3 (42:23):
In some of the episodes, I think it's going to
be balanced out where you can really see Sammy's love
and commitment to bailin because they grew up together.
Speaker 7 (42:33):
They're a year and four months apart or something.
Speaker 3 (42:37):
I mean, they're really close. They grew up they were
best friends. That's that's all they knew was each other.
Speaker 4 (42:44):
So it's a scrapper in a relationship. So I love
that somebody, do you know what I mean to help
the other person step in there.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
Well, there's been a lot of times where Sammy is
willing to beat people up.
Speaker 4 (43:00):
Like you need someone to stand in front. So what
do you want people to know about Tourette syndrome.
Speaker 3 (43:12):
That it looks different on everybody, but that mostly it's
such a socially disabling condition that just needs so much
grace yet so much more research because these people are
living in dark places. Yes, just they don't feel like
(43:35):
they fit in anywhere. And it's not like other conditions
genetic disorders, where maybe somebody doesn't have all their faculties
like these these kids have all their faculties. They are
cognizant of when people are staring.
Speaker 7 (43:54):
They know what's going on. You.
Speaker 3 (43:56):
You know, you can't pull a fast one by them
because maybe they are not fully equipped mentally or intellectually.
Speaker 4 (44:04):
So be kind. Be kind is what you're saying.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
Be kind and don't say stupid things.
Speaker 4 (44:10):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
As you would have them. Yeah, let's say things to you.
Let's just say it to you.
Speaker 1 (44:18):
No, we get along. That's what the beauty of the
Mom's Club. Well, thank you Zoomer so much for joining us.
As always, you were amazing.
Speaker 2 (44:28):
We appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
And Julie is aside from the show which is on
every Monday night, is that on TLC, it's also an
HBO Max. I believe where else can they find your
family on social media?
Speaker 2 (44:42):
Or Bayleen? Where did they find her?
Speaker 1 (44:45):
Because I know you want the don't watch your social
media to where can they find you?
Speaker 3 (44:51):
Well, Baylen's TikTok handle, I think it is just Baylan Dupree,
same for same for her Instagram.
Speaker 7 (44:57):
But I don't know where you're going to find their.
Speaker 4 (45:00):
Well I'm going to tell you where you're going to
find the rest of us. Yeah, it's Jules j u
ls Depre number eight, which I'm assuming is the number
of people in your family, so and so that is
your handle, and we are so happy that you were
able to join us today.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
Check it out and definitely watch Balin out loud and
do what you can.
Speaker 2 (45:21):
To support people who have Tourette's for sure.
Speaker 1 (45:24):
And other Be educated, be kind, educate yourself, and be
a good person. That's what that's what we espouse here
on the Mom's Club. Yeah, so thank you so much,
Julie for joining us. You can find us on social
media at inside the Mom's Club, on TikTok, Facebook, YouTube,
you name it.
Speaker 2 (45:43):
We're all over the place.
Speaker 1 (45:45):
We also have a website inside the Moom's Club dot com.
You want to check there if you want to be
a zoomer mom like these lovely ladies that we're on today.
And we'd also like to think today our sponsor.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
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Speaker 1 (45:57):
Our sponsor for the existence of this show, or at
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Speaker 4 (46:05):
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Speaker 1 (46:06):
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helps you sleep better, focus, it gives you energy. But yes,
I turned this on and Julie goes Jesus, we sleep.
Speaker 4 (46:20):
It works better when you don't have Seinfeld.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
And otherwise otherwise there's a lot of snoring and other
things that disturbing.
Speaker 2 (46:29):
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It's very lovely. Anyway.
Speaker 1 (46:39):
We also love Beverly Hills Lingerie because they're a great
example of someone who's been helping us with our chapters
across the country, which I mentioned earlier. So there are
events all over two sisters who started a lingerie store
together and they have an online shop. They contributed to
events that we have across the country. So we are
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going to have events all over the country meet other moms.
And the great thing is you'll have local companies like
Beverly Hills Lingerie that contribute. You can you can come
home with prizes and new friends. I actually met a
lot of new friends at the event in Dallas. I
tried to win the prizes, but I got smoked out
that I wasn't allowed to put my name in the.
Speaker 2 (47:23):
Bowl, so I gie to do it.
Speaker 1 (47:25):
Yeah, I was cheating anyway, but there's great prizes, so
you definitely want to do that and we definitely will
be in Shreveport when that event happens. We're first excited,
so it's all it's all good. So, Julie, I cannot
believe this time goes by so fast.
Speaker 4 (47:39):
It does because we get to meet such cool people
and we learn a lot. We learn a lot and
that feels good.
Speaker 1 (47:45):
We do so, but it's time has passed again. But
we'll be back next time with celebrities and extraordinary moms
like you. We know all your me time is precious
and valuable. Don't forget our motto though, we do have
a motto, ladies, don't forget it. If you don't laugh
sometimes you're gonna so always remember that. Keep laughing and
we'll see you next time inside the Mom's Club.
Speaker 2 (48:09):
Yeah,
Hi, Welcome to inside the Mom's Club, where being a mom.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Is the coolest place to be. Here in the.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Mom's Club, we believe that what embarrasses you now will
make a great story later. And let's face it, you
don't laugh sometimes you're gonna cry. Join us in having
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(00:45):
Mom's welcome to inside the Mom's Club. I'm your host,
Monica Samuels, and I'm here with my lovely co host,
Julie Orchid.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Hello.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
What's going on, Monica?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Well, it's we're back here in Los Angeles.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
We are.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
It feels it's so good, and I mean it does.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
It feels me.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
The weather's been amazing, as we say here on the
Mom's Club. Yeah, and it's just been great.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
It's been sunny and warm and blue skies and everything
that the whole reason that people live in La So
it's been perfect.
Speaker 6 (01:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
And then the only well it's not this is not
that it's not perfect, but we share a room when
we're traveling here, and we've had to learn each other's
little idiosyncrasy that's for sure, things that we do so,
you know, like I go to bed listening to Seinfeld.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
Yeah, it's a routine and she's not even watching the show.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I actually bought a new pillow that I highly recommended,
and they not a paid sponsor, but I'm talking. I
love it. It's a pillow.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
For your face.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
You put it over your face, right, But Julie threatened
to put it over more than my face.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yea, whether or not she was ready to.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
It was like that pillow me anyway. But yeah, we
have a lot of it. We have to learn each
other's ins and outs, and I can honestly tell you that,
you know, Monica has some teens that I've had to
ask the depth of what they mean and how you
process them. So, I mean, your level of anxiety today,
(02:08):
how is it?
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I'm four maybe yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
It's actually pretty good. Bad, it's pretty good today.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Yeah, I have So I have anxiety, which I've shared before,
which is, you know, working on it. That's something that Julie,
who travels with me, then has to deal with because
it means that I do certain things that she's used to.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
My husband's used to it.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
But I mean, yeah, I mean the biggest one is
like you have a routine that you got to make
sure that you're ready to go and processed and rent
the restroom before every show, run to the restroom before
we board a plane. I mean, it doesn't matter. And
so finally, as an ear nurse, I was just concerned
that you had UTIs all the time. Honestly, I didn't
really know what was.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
And it always has to be just under the gun.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Just it's just like it has to be like right before,
I mean, talk about anxiety. Yeah, should make everybody more
anxious than pop, but like I don't.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
It has to be like.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
It's a time and you have a little touch and
I'm not picking on you. I'm literally like, well maybe
sometimes I am, but OCD two plays a part of
that with your anxiety, and you do have that. So
I'm just trying to understand it because I don't know
if it's helpful for a person like me, who you know,
kind of blows and goes, you know, and not processing
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all of your you know, little routines. Is it helpful
for me to be like, hey, you're gonna be fine,
let's go, We've got this. Maybe you can tell me.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
I think it it doesn't change anything.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
So I do have a you're ignoring what I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
No, okay, it's just it takes more to get over that.
So I have it started like as a kid, I
had big problems with germs.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
It hasn't changed.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
It hasn't changed, and so that's not good. So I
washed my hands a ton.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
But my dad and he was not being mean about it,
but he started calling me the sanitary kid. And there
was a little diddy he always said it was he.
Let's see, he holds her hands with rubber gloves and
kisses her through a strainer, the sanitary kid. And so
I was the sanitary kid. But you know what, actually
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it didn't bother me because as much as they called
me and told me I was a you know I
hated germ. I liked it because I thought, okay, everybody
knows I don't want germs around me, you know.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
And then and it plays into the hyperchondriact.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Yeah, that does have that. But you know what, so no,
CD is one of those things that you also.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Like. I always would like on on walking up and
down steps.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Oh yes, I always forgot about.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
To step over a line with my right It's just stupid.
I mean it's not stupid. It's it's like.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
Something you have to do, but you work on it every.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Day, take your life in a way because it's like, I.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Mean, we've been together for four years and we know
each other's things, and I've learned that you know, this
is part of your routine and who you are, but
I also like to jump in every now and then
and discover what's behind it and will that ever change?
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Well, to answer your question, certainly with people, you know,
therapy and things they call your attention to m it's
not the biggest thing I've been told is why don't
you try to go out and get on that airplane?
Speaker 4 (05:31):
Right?
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Why don't you just run up and down the stairs
and don't worry how it turns out?
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Right? And it's just you can't.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
It's hard, but I'm very well aware of it, right,
and it hasn't you know. And the other thing is
you kind of feel like, you know, like this is
the first time I've ever talked about any of that.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
My sister's going to be a zoomer mom. I bet
she didn't know that.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
I always I'll be asking.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Also, you know, and we're gonna talk more. We give
a wonderful guest. It was to discuss more of this
sort of thing. But on the show Bailing Out Loud,
where she said she has to do everything in threes,
I had to do everything in threes for a while.
That's and I and I also had a tick in
law school, yes, where I was constantly doing squinching my
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nose where everybody's like, Monica, you've got it.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I think that it was stress.
Speaker 4 (06:28):
Yeah, stress that.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
So there's a lot of stuff.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
You know, Well, let's just jump right into the subject.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Deal with on a daily.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Ba Absolutely, so we are thrilled to have with us
the mother of the star of TLC's most watched unscripted
TV show, Bailing Out Loud. The reality series showcases Balen,
who has Tourette syndrome, and the ways Bailing and her
family manage the challenges that come with it. In addition
to bail in this amazing as we say on the
Mom's Club, mother of five other children is raising with
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her husband Ellen in West Virginia. Please welcome Julie Dupree.
Welcome to the Mosque Club. Hello Julie, We're so thrilled
for you to be here. And let's just start from
a little background for those who haven't seen the series,
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but I highly recommend they watch it because.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
It really is.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
It's a great it's a great show, but it's such
as a show it identifies something that people are learning
a lot from. So Bayalin has Tourette syndrome, which you
recognized from her childhood, but it really didn't manifest itself
in a more severe way from what I understand, until
the pandemic. Is that correct, or just tell us a
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little bit about how you all came to discover that.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
You discovered that she had Tourette syndrome.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
True, so at a young age, she she did have
multiple issues. You know, you could see the ADHD manifesting
itself in little OCD things. She had a few random
ticks seven eight years old, and then everything kind of
took a break until right around the age of sixteen
(08:13):
she started to get some simple ticks, some neck jerking.
Speaker 7 (08:16):
We kind of let that fly, just.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Not really knowing where we should go with things and
what to do about it. See, if you know your
brain chemistry and those chemicals are rapidly changing at that age,
so you just think, okay, well, we're just gonna we're
gonna let this pan itself out. But by the time
of eighteen, or probably slight slightly before eighteen, maybe a
little bit before the pandemic, things really kicked into high
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gear for her and then of course for us, because
we were absolutely clueless with what to do and what
was actually going on, because we had never thought to
it ever, we had thought all these what now we
know as co morbidity is to go that go hand
in hand with tourette We I mean, it was just
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I felt like we were ambushed.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Yeah, I bet, I bet, just thrown into the wildfire
of learning something that's going to be a part of
your life.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
And the combination of things like Tourette's a lot frequently
comes with OCD, so that causes her to be in
some danger at times, is correct, because if she's got
a you know, she punches somebody or she hits some
break something, and she's gonna keep doing it until three
times until she feels that she's done what she needs
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to do. But that's not safe for her. So I know,
I saw you one episode where you went to the
grocery store with her or cooking with her, and you know,
how do you manage those challenges on a daily basis.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
I mean management is it's kind of it's complicated because
it's not a one way round. You're dealing with so
many other things at one time. But for the most part,
I would say that OCD is the devil. It is
driving the car, and that is what really accentuates her tourette.
I think her tourette would be a much simpler case
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of turette to deal with if it weren't for the
OCD kind of infringing itself into her world. So she
has obviously been through counseling, behavioral therapy.
Speaker 7 (10:30):
There's not a whole lot that works, Julie.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Is there like a group you know what I mean? Like,
you know, there's groups for everything, but for people who
are experiencing living with Tourette syndrome? Is there anything like that?
Speaker 2 (10:49):
There?
Speaker 7 (10:49):
Very well could be.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
I haven't personally looked into it. Yeah, now that she's
adulting and we are realizing together that the OCD is
driving the car, well, fortunately and unfortunately that's kind of
her responsibility Sure to make sure that she's managing that.
I can't do that for her, as much as I
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want to help Sure, and maybe as much as the
show makes it look like I'm a helicopter mom.
Speaker 7 (11:16):
I'm really not.
Speaker 4 (11:18):
I gotcha.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
I gotcha well, And I understand how that feels too,
because my oldest son had a traumatic brain injury, and
today you wouldn't know that he has. He still deals
with some of it. But whenever he would take the
car out and drive the car, I knew that he
would lose focus or something, and so I was at home.
When I watch you on the show, I feel like
I feel for you. Whenever she's out experiencing other things
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that you don't have control over.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
It's hard, right, because.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Yeah, one time Jared came home and he had swiped
the side of the car on a guardrail and just
lost focus and came home and the whole side of
the car had That's.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Part of it. But that's a that's a good way
I mean to that those types of stories. How did you?
How did you get to be like so public? How
did this come about? The show? And her decision to
go public, which I think has been tremendously helpful, her
YouTube and everything that she's done with it. So how
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did the show come about?
Speaker 3 (12:18):
The show came about through Michael Levitt. He reached out
to I believe it was me personally. He messengered me
and basically said that he adored Balen and he felt
very inspired by her and wondering if we could do
a zoom to speak more. He already knew that she
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was like a public figure obviously because of her following.
So yeah, that was that was basically it.
Speaker 7 (12:45):
And we had.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
A we had a liking for him right from the
get go, Like you could tell that there was a connection.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Yes, so yeah, no, yeah, we've met him. He's a great,
a great guy. We enjoyed Michael, yeah a lot. So
she was already a public person because she put herself
out there so kids these days. Did you know that
she was had decided how I'm going to go on
TikTok and identify myself as someone with Tourette's. Did she
say in advance, HAMM doing this or seek your counsel?
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Like should I do this? Or you just discovered one
day that she's blown.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
Up into Julie's Like yeah, no, Monica, absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Yeah, I'm just saying it's a question.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
I think I know the answer, but I just let her, Yeah,
tell us about that experience, because.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
I don't think that she was interested in our opinion
at that time, because it was really just it was
really more of like this this freeing of herself.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Right.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
So I think we found out like maybe two weeks
later that she had posted this TikTok video that had
went viral, and we're like, wait, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah, what are we doing here?
Speaker 4 (13:50):
What are we doing now? And yeah, you're.
Speaker 7 (13:52):
In her master bathroom doing videos.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Yeah, this is like, I don't know, this whole generation's different.
So I was like, Okay, if you're comfortable with it,
I'm comfortable with it. And it obviously had a purpose
to her, and the driving purpose was to make sure
that her schoolmates knew.
Speaker 4 (14:13):
Yeah, that she.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
Was a really accelerated version of herself and she was
embarrassed of herself and she wanted to put that out
into the world before anybody could do it for her
because she had seen some girls in a local store taking.
Speaker 7 (14:31):
A video of her.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
So that that was her driving course to say, Okay,
I'm going to I'm going to hold the power here.
Speaker 7 (14:40):
Yeah, and I'm going to show everybody.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
As opposed to the world doing it. So yeah, and
it just kind of blew up from there and we
didn't really understand that it blew up.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Yeah, it really has. I actually knew who Balen was
before I knew about today, So you know what I
mean A from her videos, which I think are super courageous.
I think she's incredibly brave. How do you feel as
a mom on this public journey of her being out there?
You know, obviously you're going to get negative feedback or people,
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you know, say things people are in you know, terribly cruel,
and so as a mom, what do you do with that?
How do you guys handle that? Because it seems to
me that that would be almost impossible to avoid.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Right, Like, this is her life and she's living it,
so no matter what I say, it has no impact
on her. So we're just really encouraging and supportive and
always throwing out just little bits of bits, you know,
wisdom of like hey maybe this is and you know,
maybe don't go this route or whatever. But as your
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children become adults, you realize that you do have less
control and you're kind of in the backseat going okay,
please don't go off.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
Oh yeah, Julie and I are well aware.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
Yeah I giggled a little bit because I have one
that doesn't she could literally care less about my opinion,
you know, of what I have to say.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
I was like, okay, I learned that with my youngest
son when he texted me and said I think I'm
gonna go skydiving, and I texted back absolutely not, which
was followed by a video of him skydiving.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Yeah, he's already gotten back here.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah anyway, So yes, they don't listen to anything like that.
Well she has done, I mean to put herself out there.
That's a huge public service to get people talking about
all of this and thinking about it in a different way.
When Julie and I were looking at different things related
to tourettes to get ready for the show, I saw
a video of a young man. He had very severe
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tourettes and he's gotten some treatment at the Mayo Clinics.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
So there was a YouTube video about it. But I
looked in the.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Comments and one of the comments read I went to
school with this guy. I didn't really know what was
happening to him, and now I wish I had bothered
to at least say hi, yeah, And that just touched
me like yeah, I mean, so she's giving a voice
to all of these people, and that's tremendous, and I
am with the social media as it is.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Yeah, there's some negative people, and you.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Know, I I'm on Instagram and TikTok and everything. I
do these silly videos and then I get those message
on TikTok the bottom says it's folded to protect my
well being. The comments, you know, it's like, okay, I'm
not going to read those because right, so, yeah, I
know how yeah tough it can be. Well, what's it
like to bring a film crew into your home and
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your family? Because I was someone wants joked that we
should do a Mom's Club reality show, and I thought,
I don't think we should number one.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
But second, I wouldn't feel like I was being myself.
Speaker 4 (17:43):
Well, here's the deal. Your makeup and hare would be
done in mine would not be and that, yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
I know who would be all put together?
Speaker 4 (17:50):
But what was that like for you all and your
other kids?
Speaker 3 (17:55):
It was surreal and you can't really describe it to
somebody that hasn't been through it. So it's like we
try to describe it to our family and friends, and
there's really no perfect description of how you can articulate
the feelings that you're going through that all of these
strangers are in your house, and your life is going
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to be national and all these crazy things.
Speaker 7 (18:22):
It's just.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
I don't know, it's really just it was. I think
it took just a lot of family thought, perspective, it
just being really like introspective of how is this going.
Speaker 7 (18:37):
To pan out for us?
Speaker 3 (18:38):
How are we going to balance the pros and cons
of this?
Speaker 7 (18:42):
Is it the right thing? And since we came to
the conclusion that.
Speaker 3 (18:46):
This was the right avenue for us, we looked at
it more as a blessing. So having them with us
every day was a little bit of a challenge because
you're opening up your space in your world, right, but
it was way more of a blessing.
Speaker 7 (19:03):
Than it was anything else. Just well, I don't know,
most people don't.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
Get to have that experience, Yes, so just to have
that experience is really just.
Speaker 7 (19:13):
Yeah, that's great.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
I love how you phrased that. It's a blessing, and
you know, I really like that. But this is inside
the mom's club. How do you care for yourself? How
do you take care of yourself? What do you do kid?
Speaker 2 (19:24):
How do you manage that?
Speaker 4 (19:25):
How do you manage.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
I always give props to my husband in this.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
Avenue because that's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
We chose, like out of the gate to be a
little bit more on the end of poor so that
I would always have the ability of availability. Yes, so
there were some rough years in there where I was like,
oh lord, I need to get the job.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
Yeah you can stay home, Yeah exactly.
Speaker 3 (19:54):
And now things have really flattened out, the youngest being eleven.
I feel like I've really come into who I am
as a person and a mom in the last five
to ten years. And I make it a point I'm
intentional about making time for myself and knowing my limits,
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and I don't know, I feel like I've really just
became a person in like the last ten years.
Speaker 7 (20:19):
It's fantastic. Yeah, you know, the first fifteen.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
Years of parenting wasn't you know, it wasn't all daisies
and whatever.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
Now, of course, so getting it having a child he's eleven.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Now now you've come to sort of the other side
of that, is that what you would what would you
share with all the moms out there who are currently
dealing with, you know, some less less me time than
maybe they feel that they need just intentionally taking the
time or how.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
Do you.
Speaker 7 (20:49):
How do I What would be my message to them.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Is they're going through it like there is light at
the end of the tunnel. You know, I've got through it,
and I'm.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Yes, when you look back on life, it's so short.
So just keep in mind that this too shall pass, yea. Yeah,
and when it passes, you're going to actually wish it
back because you're probably going to be in a position
of a different struggle. So yeah, I always have those
moments where I'm like, gosh, I wish I would have
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been more in the moment when my kids were really little,
because I can appreciate that.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
Yeah, yeah, I think that's amazing. Being present is something
that I like to remind myself. I'd like to remind
my friends, and you know, it is really valuable. So
I have a quick question for you. So I naturally,
I think everybody's naturally a mama bear, right, so you know,
and I don't have a child that has Tourette syndrome,
But how do you handle the public when you're out,
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you know, with balen if someone is you know what
I mean, being not kind, inappropriate, and you know, how
do you handle that? As a mom?
Speaker 3 (22:00):
I think most of the time I err on the
side of grace, sure, because we're all just so human
that and you can never begrudge somebody for ignorance. But
when it just turns a little bit too far and
it becomes malicious, some of the comments or a stare
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or a face.
Speaker 7 (22:23):
I tend to.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
I'll tend to say something, but I'm really kind for
the most part. There's only been a couple situations where
they were like extremely rude and we at this one
time in Washington, d C. We had all left the
restaurant and I made it a point to walk back
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in and educate this nice couple, and he ended up
he was a doctor, and she was like, I mean,
they were highly educated people and probably two of the
rudest individual I've ever sat next to in a restaurant.
Speaker 7 (23:02):
I was like, do better.
Speaker 4 (23:04):
Do better?
Speaker 7 (23:04):
Do better?
Speaker 4 (23:06):
Good for you? Good for you. I just realized, I'm
glad that you are upfront about that, because that's something
that I wondered about, because yes, and I would disintegrate
these people into my eyes to ashes that would be.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
Through your answer.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I was thinking, I know what Julie would do and
there would probably be arrests involved.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Maybe let them have it.
Speaker 4 (23:28):
I have a few friends that might bail me out.
Jennifer Marsh, I totally yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
So how do your other kids feel.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
About all the attention? I mean, are they good with it?
Is anybody resentful? Because I know there's all the sibling
rivalry and things that happen, and you know, Balen's getting
a lot of attention and fame, and I mean, do
they they're on the show, but are they any of
them not thrilled with that or they're there?
Speaker 3 (23:56):
The one that it's taken the least favor with would
be the seventeen year old Spend just because so much
of his life has lived in a social environment with friends,
and I don't think that we know everything that is
being exchanged through Snapchat and things like that. So I
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think that he's had to have a lot of defensive
moments for his sister and things like that. He also
doesn't like to hear, hey, your sister's hot. Yeah, like
my kids, maybe other than Beckner, which is the young one,
they are the opposite of, for lack of better words,
like attention horse like they don't they want less attention
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in regards to publicity, which makes it really weird. It's like,
how are we on National TV, and my kids really are.
Speaker 4 (24:50):
Not Kardashians have a brother and he absolutely is out
of the picture when it comes to that. So I
think of that. I mean, their story is nowhere different,
I mean so different. But I'm just saying in general,
so they get a choice, right, I'm sure of how
much they want to be and how much they don't
want to be on television and how much of.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
It because we've interviewed other people that have done reality shows,
is because sitting back as the audience, and you know,
there's an editor and so that they put this show
to each episode together, it has to be some dramatic effect.
Because if all you all did all day was just
walk around and make scrambled.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Eggs, people be bored, right. So I got.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Really into the storyline, which is on a storyline, it's
your real life of Colin.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
And your daughter.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
And I'm watching the relationship unfold, and I'm thinking to myself, Oh,
they're too they're young, that they should they're.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Too young, you know, So you're watching all of that, and.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
Then I then I was his proposal is so beautiful.
I mean, did he write that himself? That was beautiful?
And I cried I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
Well, I mean, I think some people don't know your
daughter is, Oh, she's engaged.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Engaged, she can engage.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
So how much of that now? You can't give too
much of it away, But I mean one point, your husband,
even on the show, kind of seemed to have some
reservations about what's going on with Colin and Balen. They're
just is your real life or does some of it?
Like his Colin, if he's watching that, probably thinks, well,
I thought they liked Mari.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Is that what isn't it tricky? Or how do you
manage that?
Speaker 3 (26:27):
So, yes, it's completely unscripted, right, but it doesn't mean
that like we're not walking around with GoPros.
Speaker 7 (26:34):
On our head.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
Sure so, and that would be the most boring show
ever just to see footage like that. So there has
to be I call it scene setting right where they're
putting you into scenes and they're motivating you to say, Okay,
let's let's talk about this. Because the narrative of the
show is trying to get to a certain place, and
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in order to create that arc, like, there's topics that
they want you to discuss more than.
Speaker 7 (27:01):
Others per se.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Yeah, so there's there's always some like scene setting, and
there's I think that there's like a ton of permits
that they have to go about doing. So reality TV
isn't reality TV in the moment, I can't watch it
the same now because no show. Like I'm like I
could breathe through all that, like, oh, I know what's going.
Speaker 4 (27:23):
On, I know what's happening.
Speaker 5 (27:27):
Yeah, so certain things, you know, when you watch them back,
you're like, they didn't take anything out of context.
Speaker 7 (27:37):
They did a great job.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
I mean, we put so much faith in them, and
they really really came through. They followed our wishes and
desires with making sure that it's like ninety percent awareness
and education.
Speaker 7 (27:50):
But we're all also not stupid.
Speaker 3 (27:52):
We know that there's an entertainment kind of a drama
factor and we have all of that.
Speaker 4 (27:58):
Yeah you know, I've got todrama. You don't. Yeah, we
don't have to like yeah, but that makes me to
a good question for Bailan, what what do you see
for her future? Obviously I know that she's engaged, but
like what is tell us a little bit about her
future and living with tourette?
Speaker 1 (28:17):
So how you see that Julie's a nurse and I
know Balen expressed an interest in being Yes, I.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Was listening to that, like she really you know. I
love the way that you know she wants to help
other people based off what she's been through, and I
always love when someone says they want to be a nurse.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
I feel like what I could see in the future
for her is doing anything that shows that she's really
an ambassador for this condition. So whether it's just always
like moving into more personal spaces, public speaking, private events,
so that she's just not this figure that's that's on
a screen. Really, So that's really what I hope the
(28:59):
most her because I think it's important for people to
see that every day is really much more of a
challenge for her than what you see on a TikTok
or even what you see in one episode.
Speaker 7 (29:15):
It's it's very complex.
Speaker 4 (29:17):
It's twenty four scents.
Speaker 7 (29:18):
I don't know what you're getting.
Speaker 4 (29:20):
Yeah, I understand. I understand, So well, that's great.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
What I do love about this generation too, is they
some of them, they are choose to be ambassadors for
certain things when bad things happen to them, or they
have some something that they're struggling with, like my son
when he had his brain injury thanks to Julie actually
by accident, he started getting involved in an organization called
Hope for Minds and really talking about traumatic brain injury
(29:46):
and really going out there and raising money for it
and speaking about it and everything. So hats off to
all of these kids who do that. Well, we are
very excited because we have women who just ask you
some questions, not yet, not just They are our zoomer moms.
So welcome zoomer moms.
Speaker 7 (30:04):
You.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
Okay, I'm going to start.
Speaker 1 (30:10):
Ronda Marie, can you please tell us your full name,
where you're from, and a little bit about yourself and
do you have a question for Julie.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
Hi?
Speaker 8 (30:19):
Excuse me, I am Ronda Phillips. I'm originally from Los Angeles,
but I actually live in Shreveport, Louisiana, and believe it
or not, I am in Atlanta right now being a
zoomer mom. Excuse me, really excited about what's taking place.
I have a question. You know, Julie, you were sharing
(30:40):
about family and all that has going on. If you could,
could you tell us a little bit about family time
that obviously is unscripted, something that is dear to your
heart because as a mom, we realize that our children
are our husbands. Our family is very important. I am
(31:03):
a mother of a retired vet and she is going
through some things right now, and I know that quality
time with her has really been a blessing to both
of us.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
So I'd just like to.
Speaker 8 (31:17):
Hear a little bit about your quality time with your family.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
Quality time with the family, like when we're a one
complete unit, when all six of the kids are back
under one roof, really looks like eating together and playing
like wiffle ball outside. It's a lot of it is unspoken.
It's through the things that we're doing together in the
time spent. I feel like that's where we really become cohesive.
(31:46):
Like you realize that even though there's one that's twenty
four and one that's eleven, that they really are more
alike than they are different because they're both planted from
the same seed.
Speaker 7 (31:55):
And I think.
Speaker 3 (31:57):
That we've done a decent job parenting them that they
they know that like this is this is where your
value comes from. It's from this household, and don't ever
lose that exactly.
Speaker 4 (32:10):
I agree, yes, And that's an amazing question. I have
a question for you, Like I know that you're a
speaker as well, But like, what do you do with
your family, Like tell us you know a little bit
about your journey. I mean you mentioned just slightly when
you ask the question, but I'd love to hear it.
Speaker 8 (32:29):
So my daughter, she is actually thirty six, and she
active duty retired from a medical condition that happened while
in the military. Okay, We've been separated for just about
fifteen years. So I had a young, young, young adult
(32:50):
who actually now is grown, and we are redeveloping our relationship.
We do lunch, we sit down, we talk about our day,
we go shopping, we have girl time. And one of
the things that is very important to me, I had
to realize that my daughter, I'm still mom, but I'm
(33:14):
not the mom of that seventeen year old who left
and went into the military. So I'm there to advise her,
but not to dictate to her, okay. And that has
really helped our relationship to bloom and to continue to grow.
Speaker 4 (33:33):
And I think Julie feels that deeply, right, Like as
far as to be there and to you know, advise, advise,
and how we all aspire to the advising role.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
Yeah, relationship.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
Yeah, Kim, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us your
full name, where you're from, and a little bit about yourself,
and do you have a question for Julie.
Speaker 9 (33:53):
Yeah, I'm stepping outside right now because I have two
kids that I'm trying to save you guys from hearing. Amazing,
I guess my biggest question I mean with so you
with so many kids, like how did you manage the
younger years? And keep saying I guess and keep time
(34:14):
for yourself, I don't remember.
Speaker 4 (34:25):
A complete blackout.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
That is actually the most honest answer we've ever had
her on the Mom's Club.
Speaker 4 (34:30):
Yes, that just done. Drop the mic, love it. Yeah, perfect,
So Kimberly, it's all going to go away. This is
why we all have more than one child. We forget
how painful it is, and we do it again for
some reason.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
So you might want to keep a journal you can
refer back to right now if you have the time
to write any jots, something down so that you can remember.
Speaker 4 (34:52):
Because yeah, beautiful blur Kimberly.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Yes, Jennifer, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us your
full name, where you're from, and do you have a
question for Julie?
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Hi, everyone, so glad to be here.
Speaker 4 (35:05):
I'm Jennifer Marsh.
Speaker 10 (35:06):
I'm from Austin, Texas, and I have a twenty three
and a nineteen year old, and I'm sitting here thinking, Wow,
being a parent for that long must be you do
probably have a lot of experience and forget the early
versions of toddlerhood.
Speaker 7 (35:24):
But you know, part of this journey of.
Speaker 11 (35:28):
Being in a marriage and having six kids, I wonder,
like what it's like to also take on a reality
show that comes into your family and a child who
has you know, we all have one child that tends
to take up more time than the others, and it's
you know, and I always wonder like, how what's the
(35:48):
best way to hold space.
Speaker 6 (35:49):
For the ones who don't have the same needs for
your time? And you know, I just have two, so
it's easy for me. I've definitely had one kid who's
been a lot more just needed a lot more attention
than you know. My first child was super independent, oh
scare of herself, and at some point she was just
done and I launched, and you know, my second child
(36:10):
was you know, also he's an amazing kid, but just
needed a little bit more attention, you know. Sensory integration disorder, dyslexia, dyspraxia.
Speaker 7 (36:20):
You know, all these things which were.
Speaker 6 (36:22):
We worked through them, but you know, they just took
time away from my daughter, and so she was sort
of I always.
Speaker 7 (36:28):
Wonder like, is she independent because she had to be?
Or she independent because she was just going.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
To be that way?
Speaker 3 (36:32):
So I wonder like, what is it how do you
hold space.
Speaker 4 (36:35):
For your other kids? Good question.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
I think my answer to that would be to just
I'm always meeting them where they're at so and I'm
in making sure that I'm also in that moment with them.
So if if I'm spending too much time over here
one day, then then maybe the emotional attention this one
needed was just for me to lay down and watch,
(37:02):
you know, a thirty minute.
Speaker 7 (37:04):
Episode of a show with them.
Speaker 3 (37:06):
Because everyone's needs are different, so his thirty minutes, we
might think wasn't enough, but really thirty minutes to him
is more like Balan's six hours. So it's always kind
of keeping that in perspective.
Speaker 7 (37:21):
But I just I just love being a mom, so
it comes easy.
Speaker 3 (37:26):
For me, Like I like to set myself on the
back burner. I like to be with them and make
sure that that I'm doing what they love. I'm watching
I'm sitting in the cold watching your baseball games.
Speaker 7 (37:41):
I'm you know, I'm.
Speaker 3 (37:43):
Going shopping at the stores that you want to go
shopping to. We'll go through the coffee shop that you
want to go to. It's kind of like really sacrificial.
Speaker 7 (37:52):
In a lot of ways, and you can lose.
Speaker 3 (37:54):
Yourself, but I just stay grounded in my faith and
that it less of me and and more of Him,
and that makes me whole.
Speaker 4 (38:03):
Beautiful answer, beautiful love that.
Speaker 2 (38:05):
That's so great to hear.
Speaker 7 (38:06):
Yeah, I mean, because you said at the beginning that you.
Speaker 11 (38:08):
Tried really hard to be in the backseat, So sounds
like that's generally a philosophy of yours well.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
And you do give a lot of credit too to Alan,
your husband. So you've I mean, he's works full time
and you're staying at home.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
Do you feel like he's.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
Equally, like spends dedicates time to each of the other kids,
and he's in addition to working and doing everything else.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
Do you feel like it's an equal.
Speaker 4 (38:35):
No, nothing's equal.
Speaker 3 (38:37):
I don't think it's equal, and I do feel that
over the years, he feels like he's missed out because
he has been such a workforce that has given me
the opportunity to make sure that I'm at everything and
I can do everything and all the doctor's appointments and
all of the things that we're dividing and conquering.
Speaker 7 (38:57):
But he still has to hold down a job.
Speaker 3 (38:59):
He's still has to make sure we have medical insurance
and all of those things. So I think men carry
burdens differently than we do. I think they definitely do,
and I acknowledge that for him, and I do have
moments where I feel really sad for him because I
know that I've really been able to embrace a lot
(39:20):
more of the kids than maybe he has.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
But I really I really like and appreciate your answer
because I think a lot of women seem to come
down on the dads and say, oh, he didn't you know,
it wasn't taking time, And that's really the most honest
I love your answer because I know my husband now
is the kids are older, I think he looks back
he missed a lot. Yeah, I was the team mom
and the baseball team, and I was I got to
(39:45):
spend a lot of time with him, but he didn't
so because he was working so hard.
Speaker 4 (39:49):
So exactly, but I do want to I do want
to say something to this subject. I am not a
married person, but I will tell you this. I think
it's an amazing relationship that you have stuck together because
this could have this could have broken your relationship and
your family life wide open. That's the truth. So I
love that part. But I will say that if I
(40:10):
had to guess and get into like a man's head
who's always working, not always around, that he appreciates what
you are able to bring, even though he can't be
there all the time and he may have missed out
on some stuff. He loves how this is set up.
And I think that they really I think men, I
could be wrong, really really value what is being built
(40:33):
and what is created in your home.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
So I just well, when you're when you're watching the show,
like I do, you appreciate your relationship, you're working together together.
It feels like with the entire situation. Lisa, Lisa, welcome
to the Mom's Club. What's your full name? Where are
you from? She's my sister by the way. Yeah, tell
(40:58):
us a little bit about yourself, which I told a
lot right there, And do you have a question for Julie.
Speaker 7 (41:03):
My name is Lisa Morris.
Speaker 12 (41:04):
I am from Horseshoe Bay, Texas, which is outside of Austin.
Speaker 7 (41:08):
I do. My husband and I watch your.
Speaker 4 (41:10):
Show together, so we just love it.
Speaker 12 (41:12):
One of the things I was curious about is because
I have two daughters that are close in age, and
I wonder how the sister relationship is. You know, they'll
go shopping and things like that, but I also know
that my daughters will when I'm all ask something, I'll
get on the nerves about one are kind of a
little bit as much as they get along, are.
Speaker 3 (41:28):
They close or do they have their moments or.
Speaker 7 (41:32):
What's that relationship?
Speaker 3 (41:33):
Like, they have an interesting relationship because Sammy truly is
Balin's biggest advocate in the world, and she's feisty though
she's got like this Italian side to her where there's
no gray. It's black and it's white and this is
what we're doing. So the things that they don't see
(41:54):
eyed eye with are the gray areas because Baylen's so passive, like, oh,
that's fine, he overcharged me fifty dollars, It's okay, and
sam He's like, that's hard earned money. You need to
Like they're like Samuel is very firm, So some of
(42:14):
their personality traits and their temperament come across as different
and it is.
Speaker 7 (42:19):
A little bit inflated.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
I would say.
Speaker 3 (42:23):
In some of the episodes, I think it's going to
be balanced out where you can really see Sammy's love
and commitment to bailin because they grew up together.
Speaker 7 (42:33):
They're a year and four months apart or something.
Speaker 3 (42:37):
I mean, they're really close. They grew up they were
best friends. That's that's all they knew was each other.
Speaker 4 (42:44):
So it's a scrapper in a relationship. So I love
that somebody, do you know what I mean to help
the other person step in there.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
Well, there's been a lot of times where Sammy is
willing to beat people up.
Speaker 4 (43:00):
Like you need someone to stand in front. So what
do you want people to know about Tourette syndrome.
Speaker 3 (43:12):
That it looks different on everybody, but that mostly it's
such a socially disabling condition that just needs so much
grace yet so much more research because these people are
living in dark places. Yes, just they don't feel like
(43:35):
they fit in anywhere. And it's not like other conditions
genetic disorders, where maybe somebody doesn't have all their faculties
like these these kids have all their faculties. They are
cognizant of when people are staring.
Speaker 7 (43:54):
They know what's going on. You.
Speaker 3 (43:56):
You know, you can't pull a fast one by them
because maybe they are not fully equipped mentally or intellectually.
Speaker 4 (44:04):
So be kind. Be kind is what you're saying.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
Be kind and don't say stupid things.
Speaker 4 (44:10):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
As you would have them. Yeah, let's say things to you.
Let's just say it to you.
Speaker 1 (44:18):
No, we get along. That's what the beauty of the
Mom's Club. Well, thank you Zoomer so much for joining us.
As always, you were amazing.
Speaker 2 (44:28):
We appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (44:30):
And Julie is aside from the show which is on
every Monday night, is that on TLC, it's also an
HBO Max. I believe where else can they find your
family on social media?
Speaker 2 (44:42):
Or Bayleen? Where did they find her?
Speaker 1 (44:45):
Because I know you want the don't watch your social
media to where can they find you?
Speaker 3 (44:51):
Well, Baylen's TikTok handle, I think it is just Baylan Dupree,
same for same for her Instagram.
Speaker 7 (44:57):
But I don't know where you're going to find their.
Speaker 4 (45:00):
Well I'm going to tell you where you're going to
find the rest of us. Yeah, it's Jules j u
ls Depre number eight, which I'm assuming is the number
of people in your family, so and so that is
your handle, and we are so happy that you were
able to join us today.
Speaker 1 (45:17):
Check it out and definitely watch Balin out loud and
do what you can.
Speaker 2 (45:21):
To support people who have Tourette's for sure.
Speaker 1 (45:24):
And other Be educated, be kind, educate yourself, and be
a good person. That's what that's what we espouse here
on the Mom's Club. Yeah, so thank you so much,
Julie for joining us. You can find us on social
media at inside the Mom's Club, on TikTok, Facebook, YouTube,
you name it.
Speaker 2 (45:43):
We're all over the place.
Speaker 1 (45:45):
We also have a website inside the Moom's Club dot com.
You want to check there if you want to be
a zoomer mom like these lovely ladies that we're on today.
And we'd also like to think today our sponsor.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
Yes, we've credit.
Speaker 1 (45:57):
Our sponsor for the existence of this show, or at
least the existence of Julie on this show, because we
share a room, as I mentioned.
Speaker 4 (46:05):
Because it keeps you from killing.
Speaker 1 (46:06):
Monica is an app that you want to get. It
helps you sleep better, focus, it gives you energy. But yes,
I turned this on and Julie goes Jesus, we sleep.
Speaker 4 (46:20):
It works better when you don't have Seinfeld.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
And otherwise otherwise there's a lot of snoring and other
things that disturbing.
Speaker 2 (46:29):
It's kitten well okay, yeah, lions. Anyway, it's all great.
It's very lovely. Anyway.
Speaker 1 (46:39):
We also love Beverly Hills Lingerie because they're a great
example of someone who's been helping us with our chapters
across the country, which I mentioned earlier. So there are
events all over two sisters who started a lingerie store
together and they have an online shop. They contributed to
events that we have across the country. So we are
(47:01):
going to have events all over the country meet other moms.
And the great thing is you'll have local companies like
Beverly Hills Lingerie that contribute. You can you can come
home with prizes and new friends. I actually met a
lot of new friends at the event in Dallas. I
tried to win the prizes, but I got smoked out
that I wasn't allowed to put my name in the.
Speaker 2 (47:23):
Bowl, so I gie to do it.
Speaker 1 (47:25):
Yeah, I was cheating anyway, but there's great prizes, so
you definitely want to do that and we definitely will
be in Shreveport when that event happens. We're first excited,
so it's all it's all good. So, Julie, I cannot
believe this time goes by so fast.
Speaker 4 (47:39):
It does because we get to meet such cool people
and we learn a lot. We learn a lot and
that feels good.
Speaker 1 (47:45):
We do so, but it's time has passed again. But
we'll be back next time with celebrities and extraordinary moms
like you. We know all your me time is precious
and valuable. Don't forget our motto though, we do have
a motto, ladies, don't forget it. If you don't laugh
sometimes you're gonna so always remember that. Keep laughing and
we'll see you next time inside the Mom's Club.
Speaker 2 (48:09):
Yeah,
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