January 27, 2025 • 50 mins
Actress, author, and model Mariel Hemingway is so accomplished that it's hard to imagine adding anything else to her incredible resume. Add spokesperson and advocate for physical and mental health to that lengthy list! Mariel joins the Moms as they discuss her incredible career and her passion and mission to improve health. It's instructional, inspirational and an episode you definitely don't want to miss!
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Speaker 1 (00:14):
Hi, Welcome to inside the Mom's Club, where being a
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Speaker 2 (00:40):
Think the money?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Are you?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I am excellent? And I should ask how are you?
Because you were telling me so we are in that
part of life where we are starting to investigate issues
of the M word, and we're not talking about money.
We're talking about menopause. And you showed up lots of drugs.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Yeah, I was hot a little bit on some hormone
replacement therapy. This week. It's been, you know, an interesting
mini phone calls and appointments. I learned a lot and uh,
my background is nursing, so I thought it was fascinating
all the way around. So yes, I'm pro all my
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new medications.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Well, there is a fun So I started to do
some of that and then the doctor that I was
working with gave me this calendar. She said, we get
to give you this medicine on a lunar calendar.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
And so she's saying natural family planning or something.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Something like that. She's like, okay, so you do three
twists on Monday, You're gonna do three twists of this
and two twists of that, and the next day you're
doing four twists of that and five twists. I gave up.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
I would fail because I couldn't keep up. But you know,
I really did it because I take a class of
pure bar class that I love really for my mind
most of all, I find that part of my day.
But I could not get rid of my hip pain,
and I felt like I didn't have enough hormones flowing
through and that I needed to address it. So anyway,
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it's no secret everybody goes through it, and so why
not feel better.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I didn't know that hip pain. You know, you know
I've had a huge hip problem, right. I didn't know
that hip pain was connected to all that.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Oh yeah, I mean that, yeah teninopathy.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
So I need le more about all of this.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
So I'm hoping that helps along with doing other things
like taking care of myself, whether it's the walking, getting outside,
all of the things that we should be embracing on
a regular basis. I'm no picture of health, but I
sure am trying well.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
So you know that I I used to that was
really fit first for quite a while. And then I
broke my foot. Literally, I took four steps in my
own house. My foot twisted, it broke, and I was
a year of I had a screw put in my
foot and then they had to take it out. And
then I was on one of these knee rollers because
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I hated crutches, and then the knee roller caused my
hip a hip laborl tear. I mean, it's like one
thing is yeah, but I've always been I've never been limber,
not even I mean, but you I have no flexibility.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
What was the procedure you did for your hip?
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Just cell replacement? And actually it was that actually worked.
I mean it made a huge difference because you saw
me right after I after I had the procedure, it
was very painful.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
I went from friend to nurse asap.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I invited her. I invited to join me in Florida
on a vacation, but little did she know it was
mainly to make sure that I could. She had to
help me up the stairs and into the car and
all of a sudden, but it was good friend to
do such a thing. But yeah, but now I'm trying
to get back into shape again and trying to get there.
And so when we recently went to outside of London,
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we were in the English countryside, which was tons of fun.
Although Julie put me on a horse, which was so great.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
I feel the horse spirit, like, you know, you really
need to grasp what I tried to get you to
talk to your horse, lean over and pet it, you know,
get that energy going and see your face.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
No, I love the horse was very nice, but I
have a little problem with germs. So she told me
to pet the horse and then I had to reach
for my my yeah, hand sanitizer. It was kind of
a little too much, but then so we did that,
and then we took a walk in the English countryside,
which they teased me because I brought my purse and
they're like, who brings a purse to a hike in
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the English countryside? But we almost we got to be
late at night and we were afraid it was going
to be too dark to walk back, and who had
money to pay the taxi when we had to walk?
When we had to.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Take thank God for your cashmere sweater and your fancy
person or not, or we never would have made it anyway.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
But the biggest thing was the yoga.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
Oh God.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
So we took a yoga class from a woman who's
very serious. He was really good, I mean she was excellent,
really good instructor. And I said from the beginning, I'm
gonna be on the back row because I don't want
anybody to see this because it's just not something anybody
should have to see. And that worked fine. I mean
I did most.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Of the poses.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
A few were like there was no way that was happening.
But the worst thing.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
So it's silent.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
You get on the back row and you think, Okay,
I'm safe, except like I said, I'm not limber. I
got lots of issues. My knees were cracking.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
So loud to the point where I was like people
in my class they were laughing, they laughed.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
I don't blame them because so I'm trying.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
We are trying. We are trying, but we have somebody
who can really help us.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Today.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
It's going to help us a lot, which is why
we should mental health get straight to our guests. Becauseyoga,
we're going to learn a lot. And yeah, so let
me introduce our guests today. It's very exciting. She is
the granddaughter of the illustrious author Ernest Hemingway. And for
those of you moms out there who have not heard
of him, that is a shameful statement about our educational
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system in this country. You need to look that up.
Very famous author, but she's famous in her own right.
She made her silver screen debut at the age of
thirteen in the film Lipstick, and then she was nominated
for an Academy Award for Woody Allen's Manhattan. Since then,
she's made over thirty films and TV appearance appearances, and
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today she pursues her passion for yoga and health and
is now the voice of holistic and balanced health and
well being. Please welcome maryel Hemingway.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
Yeah, into the mom's flow.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Thank Ye you're a mom.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
And she's a mom of two daughters. Yeah, and an
author herself. I mean I could go on and on
and just read your biography and then we could say
call in a day because you have quantity of accomplishments.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Oh, that's very sweet of you. Well, it's really fun
to be here. Yeah, I hope, Uh. I hope my
background doesn't get too crazy.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Yeah, you might have some animals run through.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
We never know.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
Yeah, the catt will probably jump up on the table.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
It's very pretty back there. Yeah, very nice. Well let's start.
So there's two facets to this we want to talk
to you about. One is the physical health side, and
then we like to talk to you about the mental
health side because you put it all together and that's
what we what we need information on. So I want
to start with the physical side because, as I said,
if you're kind of a mess like me, particularly with yoga,
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do you really need someone in the class who's cracking
and creaking? Like, what's the mindset? How do you yoga?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Let me explain something about yoga. I've been doing yoga
since I was twenty six years old, which means I've
been doing yoga for very long, many many decades since then. Anyway,
yoga is really just movement with breath. If you're not breathing,
then you're really not doing yoga. You're just doing exercise now.
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And the reason why there's that delineation is that breath
has the ability to heal, cause the creakiness to kind
of mellow and it really doesn't matter. Yoga's not a competition.
It's not like other you know, it's not like other
exercise sports. It's really about you getting in tune with
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your body on the inside so that you can be
aware of what suits it best.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Does that make sense, It does make sense. Yeah, well
it makes me feel better too. Honestly, I was trading
it as a competition because I was there with Julie
and our friend Jennifer, who's there's nothing Jennifer doesn't do
that's just perfect, And so she was right in front
of me, and I'm like, oh, show off. I'm about
to fall over on my face what I'm doing and
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she's doing it great. But yeah, if I just so
just internalize it to myself, just focus on what I'm
doing and not all these really.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Is it really is just about you understanding that your
body is tight in certain areas. And you know, you're
talking about hormones and and you know, and your hips
and all these different things. You know, Yoga is just
a place where you get to It's kind of a
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Buddhist approach to let's just step back and look at
what our body needs. It's training you to be soft
within yourself. I think as women, as mothers, as me
as a grandmother. Now, I think that we're hard on ourselves.
We need we have expectations about what we need to
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be doing and the and the truth is, you know,
there's no like. Things change as we get older, things shift,
We move into different facets of our lives. And it
doesn't mean that you move less. It means that you
move with more compassion and awareness of of your of
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your self and your body. So that's why there's this
the idea that if you focus on your breath during
this movement, it shifts the way your body will move
and how you feel about it. Because sometimes we, you know,
get into things and we're doing things in exercise and
you're like, oh, you're britting your teeth and like, I'm
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going to get through this, whereas yoga should be more
about oh wait a second. This is telling me to
do something different. This is telling me to be more
gentle with myself. And I think women, that's a really
important yeah that we have a hard time doing. But
you it's like I keep pushing, I keep pushing, and
then really what happens is you hit a wall and
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then you're like, I'm not going to do this anymore, right,
And that's not good. It's always about like, oh it's okay,
I don't have to be the best in the class,
because that's not what this is about. It's not a
hip hop class. It's not a you know, a kickboxing
boxing class.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
So you've read a lot of these things. Is there
there's no judgment in like any of the students on
the participants. I guess because I feel judged. I mean,
I guess I was always an overachiever in school and
I'm like, wow, the teacher's got to.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
Think on your competitive monica.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
So yeah, so but there's no judgment here, right, I mean,
if I look like if you see me in the
back falling over, if you're not thinking, oh.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
Gosh, and you know, I used to I used to
lead a lot of workshops, and I used to I
used to fall kind of on purpose. As you It's
like falling is just like part of the It's like, oh,
that's great, you pushed yourself to a limit and now
you know where that limit is, and you know, and
falling doesn't necessarily mean you fall to hurt yourself. It's
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just like it's just part of It's like we don't
need to be perfect, and I think that that's kind
of the bane of width. This exist is like, ah,
this need to be perfect. I'm a perfect mother, I'm
a really good wife, I'm a really good partner. Whatever
it is, whatever, you know, dialogue we have going on
in our heads. That's not what yoga's about. It's about
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actually not listening to the dialogue that's inside your head.
Because by the way, that negative self talk that you
do inside yourself, that's not you. That's your ego trying
to control you. That has nothing to do with who
you are, because.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
You are you, the inner you, the kind of a.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Ware you knows what's right for you. And so that's
why you know, when I talk about wellness, yoga, just
being your best self, it's about really just tuning into
the voice that is you, that knows that you're okay
right now right So, like everybody has this idea that
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there's somebody out there that's gonna teach us what's right
for us, you know, like, oh, there's that doctor, there's
that holistic person, or a yoga teacher. For me, it
was I went to a lot of gurus, and I
traveled the world and did a lot of goofy things,
and I learned a lot, but you know, I did
a lot of goofy things. Anyway, what I realized is
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is that you're your best teacher. I went to I
actually went to India once and I met his Holiness,
the Dalai Lama, and and it was it was such
an incredible story.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
I I, do you want me to tell the story?
I mean, we've never really had someone you can say
they've met that please anywhere.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
So I went to India at where he lives in
Darham Solim because he can't be into bed as you know,
because of political reasons. Anyway, we went there. I was
about forty five, so that's almost anyway, almost twenty years ago,
Holy crap. And so I went there and I was
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really excited. We were going to have a private audience.
And when I say a private audience, there's about ten
really influential people, super wealthy, super political whatever, and they
were whooptie doos, and they all had questions for his
Holiness and I was just super happy to be there.
I had nothing to say to him, but I was
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just like excited. So we go into this little it's
like a little cottage, but it had a little stairwell
up and you could see him. He came down these
stairs and not it wasn't grand it was it wasn't
like a grand staircase. It was just he came down
these stairs and there was these chairs, these overstuffed chairs
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and pillows in front of him, and two chairs beside him,
and we all kind of were waiting for him. He
came down and he directed me. He sat down, and
he directed me, of all people, to sit down next
to him, and I was super excited. So I sat
down next to him. And first of all, I just
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want to say that listening to a man of such
like he's, you know, like this great leader kind of
you know, and just listening to him, and I wasn't
in worship of him.
Speaker 5 (15:44):
But I was.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
I was pretty astonished, Yeah, in awe And watching him
listen to people was extraordinary. The fact that he could
he took it. When a person asked him a question,
he looked them in the eyes though they were the
only person in the room at that time. So that
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was the first thing that really touched me. The other
thing was he didn't say much in response to their questions,
but he listened with such attention that the person felt
so incredibly heard. So that was that was number one.
And then I just watched him and periodically he would
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look over at me and he would he would smile,
and that he would giggle, and I was like, oh
my god. So I would smile and giggle back, thinking,
oh my god, I'm having this unspoken communication with his
wholiness anyway whatever. And so an hour and a half
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goes by. I haven't said a word because I have
nothing to say to him, and you can tell is
wrapping up, and we all start to get up, and
I start to get up like this, and he puts
his hand on my hand and he looks me in
the eye and it still makes me cry. He looks
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me in the eye and he says, you're okay.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Oh, And you have to.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
Understand my story. I have traveled the world looking for
answers to why my family was the way that they were,
the mental illness. Was I going to end up like them?
Was I going to take my lef whatever?
Speaker 1 (17:32):
And him saying that.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
Was such an epiphany for me. I mean, I didn't
see angels or white light, but I did. I remember
going back to the States thinking, oh, I am okay,
And that's when I started my journey. I really do
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a lot of work for mental health. I have a
foundation called the Foundation called the maryel Hemingway found which
I'm trying to create as a a resource navigator for
mental health. I just want people to be able to
go there, plug in. You know, I'm in Austin, Texas, Texas,
I'm in Bourbonck, California, wherever I am in the United
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States or hopefully the world, and be able to say,
if you've got addiction issues, suicide issues, whatever your child
is going through something, where do I go if I
want holistic help, if I want psychanter health, if I
want you know whatever.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
Right, So, Miriel, you want that to be That's an
incredible experience getting to know the Dalai Lama. I thank
you for sharing that, because when you said that and
he touched you, you know, for someone to say it's
going to be okay, You're going to be okay, it
was pretty cool. But how did you know with all
the things that have gone in in your life? You know,
you talk a lot about mental health and the journey.
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You've even done a documentary called Running from Crazy. Is
that the correct?
Speaker 5 (19:00):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (19:00):
I just want to make sure. So yeah, so my
I would like to know how you chose the path
that you chose, because you've seen it all before, You've
seen the addiction and everything else. How did you choose
meditation and yoga knowing that was going to boost your
life and you were going to be this champion for
mental wellness.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
I well, that that's kind of what the point of
the whole holys His Holiness conversation or the story is
really that. That was the that was kind of the
turning point where I realized, oh, this is my journey.
I need to go down this path. I need to
help people. I mean I always had been. I'd been
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doing yoga for twenty years prior to that. Sure, I was,
you know, I was on that path, but it was
I was disconnected. There was something about me that was
I was still in fear. I was still chasing a guru,
a doctor of thisa that until I realized it was me.
That was the moment I went, oh, I'm my best teacher,
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I'm my best guru, I'm my best nutritionist. Now it
doesn't mean that you don't need help. We all need help.
We all need you know, we need moms and friends
and maybe doctors, maybe this, that and the other thing whatever.
But at the end of the day, all of us
are guided by our own intuition, yes, right, And if
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we don't trust what we have to say about ourselves,
then you know, like you're never going to get the
healing that you really need because you know what's best
for you ultimately.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
I mean about four years ago, I did that too,
you know, I said to myself, Oh my gosh, I'm
actually know a lot of things and to trust myself,
turn into myself, so you help people. You do have
a podcast? I do, Yeah, it comes. It's called Outcomes
the Sun. Is that correct?
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (20:57):
And so I have and I out Come the Sun
Outcomes the Sun beautiful. I love that when I was
looking this up in your podcast, is there one common
treatment or product that people give you feedback on that
they say that works that. I loved that because there
are so many and I was just wondering the type
of feedback you get from people who listen to your podcast.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
Well, you know, my podcast is not about like, I'm
not pushing any particular anything. I what I do talk
about with my I have a co host. Yeahs, you
both have each other Melissa Alma Gucci, and we we
it's not like we're pushing any particular thing, but we
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do talk of the seven doctors, and the seven doctors
or doctor son, doctor air, doctor water, doctor, exercise, doctor earth,
doctor nutrition, and doctor rest. They're available twenty four hours
and day, seven days a week, and they're free, They're
super free. Yeah, and we get a lot of feedback.
We get a lot of feedback that, oh my god,
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I never realized that grounding, taking your shoes off and
walking on your grass in the backyard or walking h
actually makes me feel more inflammation in my body because
it actually gets rid of inflammation, also gets rid of
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neuro inflammation, which is the inflammation the brain, which is
also a great cause of our mental health problems. So
there's a lot of feedback and we try to share
things that help boost the mental our mental health. But
I think everything you do physically helps your mental health.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Yeah, let's talk a little bit about mental health. And
there's always been a stigma over mental health issues, and
it seems like it's gotten much better, but we're still
not quite there yet. Where do you think we are
in helping people identify? You know, and I will say
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I have, as Julie Well knows, I have an issue
with anxiety, and just the way then I said it
is like as an apology, I should apologize. I can't
help that. But where are we? Where do you think
we are now? And what can we do to make
people feel more comfortable? Just saying, hey, yeah, I got it.
I have anxiety. You know I'm working on it, but
I have it. Where do you think we are?
Speaker 5 (23:24):
In question?
Speaker 3 (23:24):
What do we do? What you just did gave a
lot of people that listened to your podcast permission to
say that that's all, you know, just saying, gosh, I'm embarrassed.
I'm you know, because everybody is right. We're all in
the same boat. We're all trying to live a life.
And the reason why I share my story and you know,
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I have seven suicides in my family and all that stuff,
I only share it to say, look, just because I
come from a famous family or I've got a famous
name or whatever it is, doesn't mean that I don't
have all this issues that everybody else has. It wakes
up in the morning, putting their pants on, you know,
one leg at a time, making their coffee, sometimes having
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a headache, you know, whatever it was a while ago,
but I had hot flashes. But you'll get back to menopause.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
Can't wait.
Speaker 3 (24:17):
But anyway, it's just it's it really is about just
talking about it. You help people by saying that you're
embarrassed about it, because that makes people feel comfortable. They go, oh, gosh,
I'm kind of embarrassed about that, And then then you
realize once you've said it, are you really embarrassed? No,
because we're not embarrassed if we have a headache. We're
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not embarrassed when we get a cold, but we're super
embarrassed if we have a day where we're anxious. Like why,
our brain is connected to our body, so these things
are working in conjunction. So sometimes physical things are manifestations
of the brain not being happy, and sometimes the brain
is a manifestation of the body not being happy.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
Do you think this country is getting better about bringing
it to the surface.
Speaker 6 (25:09):
Yeah, I think.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
I just did a speaking engagement in Spain and they're
really I mean, they have a whole belief system. They
kept saying to me, well, gosh, we sort of believe
if you talk about suicide it might encourage people to
take their life.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
And I was like, whoa no, no, no, no, it's
not that way at all.
Speaker 3 (25:28):
The more you talk about it, the less power it has. True,
because when you keep things in the darkness, they get bigger.
You know how it is like your problems that you
don't discuss, you know how big they get in your brain.
You wake up in the middle of the night it's
like ah, You're like, ah.
Speaker 4 (25:46):
This is like taking over my life.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Whereas when you talk about it, it takes that. It's
like it unplugs it from the wall and it becomes
less powerful.
Speaker 4 (25:55):
Yeah, could not agree more, could not agree more. Well,
I love that you do what you do and spreading
the word. And I think that we have people that
want to have a question.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
Do Yeah, we have some women that would like to
ask you some questions as well, and there are zoomer moms,
So welcome zoomer moms. Welcome to Hi ladies. Well, we
know you each have a question for maryel So I'm
going to introduce each one of you and tell us
a little bit about yourself and ask your question. And
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we will start with Kathy, Welcome to the Mom's Club.
Speaker 7 (26:30):
Hi, thank you so much for having me as a
zoomer mom today. A little bit about myself. It used
to be have held a couple of elected official positions,
currently serving as an appointed position for the state of Texas.
I'm so excited to have this network that you've put together, Monica,
because now my kids, my daughter just turned twenty five,
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my son's about to turn twenty one, so I'm in
a different phase of the mom world. But the mom
world never leaves you.
Speaker 5 (26:58):
So thank you.
Speaker 7 (26:58):
Thank you for the part of Mary l My goodness,
you are as sunny as ever, and God bless you
for the work you're doing to allow people to talk
about mental health. I've got a couple of loved ones
that suffer from some pretty significant mental health issues, and
it's a family. It takes everybody to help out with
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moms nowadays. If you're a new mom starting out, and
you've got social media, which can be used for good
in things like this, but so many people compare themselves
to that TikTok mom or Facebook mom or probably showing
my age say on Facebook, what advice do you give
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to a new mom who doesn't just have the noise
that I had in my head back when my kids
were little. But they've got people who look perfect like
it's easy.
Speaker 5 (27:52):
What advice them?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
Well, I mean, you've hit on one of the most
important things that I think mental health issues are are
so prevalent, especially for the youth, because social media is
destroying their view of themselves. They're thinking that, oh my god,
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I'm not as perfect and by the way, who got
you know, like I was sitting here trying to make
sure that my lighting was okay because you don't want
to be ugly, Yeah, you got, we do these things,
but nobody's going on social media putting their ugliest picture
up and you know, being all open or people that
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are doing that are kind of doing that. I don't know,
it's all and comparison is just the bane of anybody's existence.
Comparison is the cause of more pain and more suffering,
especially for the youth, because they're just they're comparing themselves
to things that aren't real. And so I think there
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needs to be education to our youth about what social
media is. Yes, it's a great tool. It enables all
of us as women to get together and be excited
about meeting each other and talking about being a mom
or whatever it is you're going through in your life.
But we have to know that there's limitations to that.
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It's not real connection. You know, there's really a When
you're on your phone and you're texting, that's a seven
percent connection. All of us here were This is better
because I can see your face and you can see mine,
and we can hear each other, so there's much more
of a connection. But the truth is when you're looking
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on Instagram, there's not a connection. People are feeling more
and more lonely because of social media. It's creating more anxiety,
more depression. So I think we need to be educated
and we need to give our children limitations when it
comes to social media. Look, it's not going to go away,
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but you have to say, look, when we're eating dinner,
you cannot be on your phone. That's just a no go, right,
And by eight nine o'clock that thing shut down unless
your kids are you know, out, You've got to stay
in contact. But you know what I mean, we got
to start going Look my my real connection with my children,
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real connection with my spouse or whomever you're living with.
That's what really matters, right, We need to highlight the
reality of real connection.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Yeah, that's true as a society, and yeah, how we
actually get the power back, because we put so much
power into social media that even if you're like I
wrote a book and to sell another book, they ask me, well, like,
what's your numbers on social media? And I think that
it matters so much. And I now today I can't
even walk through a room without saying something about, uh, gee,
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I need some blue shoes. And suddenly if the advertise,
I mean, I feel like I'm being followed by this
thing I'm carrying around. I mean, I know we need
to consciously take the power back by being more connected,
I think is what you're saying with other people, like
intentionally saying that.
Speaker 4 (31:19):
That what replaced which is which?
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Absolutely? And your question was just so right on, because
it's just so so very important, Kathy, to really address
that issue. So my advice is, let's educate our kids
just like, hey, this reality. We know it's not going away.
We know you're not we're not going to unplug you completely,
but let's all come together and decide, Okay, here are
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the times and that that we can't do it, that
then that it's really important that we go you know,
we go for a walk together and we don't look
at it on our phone.
Speaker 4 (32:03):
Nice, right, Nice?
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Yep. Cindy, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a
little bit about yourself. Do you use a question for MARYL?
Speaker 3 (32:12):
Hi Per?
Speaker 5 (32:13):
Can you Hi?
Speaker 8 (32:15):
I am retired airline employee for twenty five years and
I come with a fifteen year old boy.
Speaker 5 (32:23):
Yeah, and very proud mom.
Speaker 8 (32:25):
And my question, firstly, thank you so much for sharing
your story with us today.
Speaker 5 (32:33):
I too have mental health in my background.
Speaker 8 (32:37):
My mom was manic, depressive, bipolar, and so growing up
with the ups and downs and the ebbs and flows and.
Speaker 5 (32:45):
Not really understanding what it meant.
Speaker 8 (32:48):
I'll be fifty five this year, so I didn't understand
what that meant when I was eight and nine years old,
working through treatments and whatnot. So thank you for giving
mental health a voice. And my question today would be,
it's taken you a while to get to the place
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you're at today. In the moments that you wake up
and you're not feeling great, what is something you go
to that helps you get back into that good.
Speaker 5 (33:24):
Thinking that positive as positive thoughts? What do you lean on?
Speaker 4 (33:30):
Good question?
Speaker 3 (33:32):
Thank you? Thank you for that question because it's it's
so important and it's actually super easy. One of the
greatest things that you can do if you're not feeling right,
or you wake up and it's just or things aren't
working you're you know, you're sitting in front of your
computer and just things aren't working out, I go for
a walk, and if I come back and I'm still
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feeling that way, I go for another walk. Always, so
what we have to done stand about anxiety, depression and
all that stuff. It always changes. Always, Everything always shifts
because energy changes. Energy is always in movement, it's always
in motion, it's always changing. So to literally physically move
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your body will help you to get out of that state.
I also, I'm very conscious of my mornings and how
I spend them. So how I wake up really will
define the kind of day that I will have. So
one of the big things that I try to do
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when I wake up is to take a few moments,
you know, or a few minutes to be grateful. To
just think of all that I'm grateful for. You know,
my good health, I live in this beautiful place, my husband,
my you know, the really good friends of my life,
and just really say, I'll kind of whisper out loud,
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what you're grateful for, your kids, you know, all of it,
and then really kind of try to be present throughout
the morning and visualize the day before you get up
out of bed. Visualize the day you want to have, right.
I call it kind of a the perfect day meditation.
(35:25):
So you're lying there and you just like all of
a sudden, you start thinking of just this really great day. Right,
I see myself, there's a lighting there this morning. I'm
gonna have a really good podcast with me, my new friends.
You know, I'm going to meet these lovely women. It's
all gonna be, you know, like an all, it's all
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gonna manifest into this day. And ninety percent of the time,
And I also do that the night before, the night
before before I go to sleep, I try to digitalize.
You know, I'm not always successful. I'm not a perfectly
but I try to imagine the day that I want
to have the next day. And I'm telling you it
is the most effective thing I've ever done in my life.
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If I have speaking engagements and I visualize it or whatever,
it's like the day just unfolds the way I Now.
Does it happen in a specific way, No, But the
day like I feel the way that I wanted to feel, right,
And that's we are. I feel like we're computers and
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I think we can program ourselves, but I think we
forget that we have a lot of power that we
don't acknowledge in ourselves. So again it gets back back
to energy and frequency. Are we are electrical beings. That's
why I talk about groundings because when you put your
feet on the ground, there's an electrical impulse that comes
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from the earth into your feet, and our feet have
thousands of pores, so you take in that energy. That's
what gets rid of the influence. But it's all of
those They sound like kooky things, but they're not. They
really really work and they really help with any kind
of issues that come up.
Speaker 1 (37:12):
I love I I really do, so I really believe that. Angel.
Welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a little bit
about yourself, and do you have a question?
Speaker 6 (37:22):
Yes, I'm actually at My background is radio and television,
and Cindy had the exact same question I have. But
you just said something that gave me another question. You
were talking about us being grounded, and it made me
think about the medical community itself. Do you think that
the medical community and being on medications and whatnot, has
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made us adverse to holistic approaches to our health.
Speaker 3 (37:51):
That's a really good question, and I want to be
very very careful in how I answered, because well, you know,
everybody has their stance on how we heal and how
we go about our lives.
Speaker 6 (38:05):
Right.
Speaker 3 (38:06):
So I am not a big medication fanatic at all.
I don't take anything. But that doesn't mean that I
think that everybody doesn't need some help or whatever, you know.
And when it comes to emergency medical care, there's nothing
better than the United States. But I do think that
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our right I think especially when it comes to mental health,
because that's what I'm more of an expert at. I
think that medication can be a good break for somebody
who's having an issue, but it's not a solution. It's
a band aid. It gives us space to figure out
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what we need to do. Right, We need to tell
our story, we need to whatever it is. But to
use medication as like a way to say, oh, I
don't need to address this, right, you know, because usually
our mental health problems come from some sort of trauma
that we buried inside, right, some story that we're not
(39:09):
willing to tell. So I do think that we kind
of overuse medication in this country, especially, we sort of
like i'd write, you know, we want to go to
a doctor and have him give us a pill and
you know we're going to lose weight and you know,
like instead of like, but I got to work out
and I got to eat properly, you know what I mean.
(39:31):
So there's like there's a balance, right, And I'm not
being judgmental when I say that for me, you know,
medication is is just not a solution for me. But
but I and I believe that these natural ways, like
the seven doctors I talked about, are really amazing ways
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to find your solution, right, to find what works for you,
to to address that inner that inner voice, that intuition, intuition.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
Yeah, taking a pill doesn't mean that you don't get
to do the work exactly exactly.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
That's yeah, yeah, well said.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
Well yeah, and in this country, we do have this
idea that you just take a pill and it's all
even when you're scientifically I know, during the pandemic, everybody said,
well just give me an antibiotic. Well it's a virus.
It's hard to explain to people that's not going to
cure you. But yeah, so we kind of over medicate
ourselves to Jan, Welcome to the Mom's club. Tell us
a little bit about yourself and being.
Speaker 2 (40:33):
A question I real, Jan, everybody knows me about three
little letters. That my last name is Corkanus. We have
encountered each other several times in our lifetime at limousine
service for thirty years here in Dallas, Texas. I also,
(40:57):
you remember, uh, you said don't make the paper to
Laurie Muslow, and I you said, if you don't make
the paper, you're not getting paid. You opened up a
room here at the Crescent Hotel Bams.
Speaker 3 (41:15):
Yeah, my gosh, I did well. Yes, the kid crad
as true. You remember a while ago, yeah, a while ago.
Speaker 4 (41:26):
It was in the eighties.
Speaker 2 (41:27):
I want to say, you.
Speaker 5 (41:29):
Know, so we go back.
Speaker 3 (41:31):
I was pregnant with my first daughter, so yes, I'm sorry.
Oh that's great.
Speaker 2 (41:37):
And then now I have an autistic grown child at home.
It's a godson, and I didn't really have much on
his background. I got him about five years ago. And
it is true what you're saying. They just give you
the medication and and they just asked you a few
(41:58):
questions and that's about it. I got thrown into this
situation and I really didn't know how to navigate through it.
So now I definitely want to know how I can
help with your Texas Foundation.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
Oh that's sweet.
Speaker 3 (42:14):
Well it's a it's a hopefully a worldwide foundation. But wow,
well we'll talk later.
Speaker 4 (42:24):
I can.
Speaker 3 (42:25):
But I just want to say bravo for for taking
on a very that's it's not easy, I know, because
autism is a challenge at best, but there are we've
seen some really amazing results for autism through frequency, you know,
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through frequency healing. And that's kind of a deeper conversation
on how that works, but there's, uh, there's a lot
of ways to kind of because I I think, in
my genius, not being a doctor, way that that that
there are it's like a neural pathway thing that happens
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in the brain that needs to be disrupted, interrupted and shifted.
So I think that that's why frequency has been very
successful and kind of helping get people with autism to
a place where they're very high functioning. And and that's awesome.
But God probably to you for taking that on.
Speaker 5 (43:37):
Nice to see you.
Speaker 3 (43:38):
That's well, we don't like the paper, we won't get paid.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
That's okay. I am going to remember that the paper, Well,
and you and you mentioned being pregnant with your your
first daughter, so your your children are grown now, right, there.
Speaker 4 (43:54):
Are grown up.
Speaker 3 (43:56):
I have my oldest is thirty there, she'll be thirty
eight in December, and she has a daughter who is
nineteen months old. So I am a grandmother. And then
my youngest is thirty five.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Oh wow. So what's that like being the mother of
adults with their own children. I mean, do you feel
like you've how much input do you have?
Speaker 4 (44:20):
And yeah, you took the question right out of mind.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
Well, I mean maybe some mothers are different, but I
feel like I'm perfectly happy not to have much input.
I'm just perfectly happy to show up and have the
best time ever with my grandchild. Because you and you
will know this when it happens to you, it is.
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It's just a different situation. You don't have the same responsibility.
You don't have the anxiety, but you know, you didn't
not sleep. You know, you get to have them, you're
fully rested. You know, you have a lot of fun
with them. It's just a different thing. I mean there's
certain things I go, hell, they're you know, the baby's
still sleeping with them. Okay, you know, like I I
(45:08):
just keep my moud. It's like, it's not my journey,
right and and by the way, she my granddaughter, is amazing,
so it must be working. Yeah. I've never been one
to think that I needed to control their journey or
their situation. So I'm I just love. Being a grandmother
(45:30):
is really kind of extraordinary. And it also shifts your
relationship with your child, you know, like my daughters and
I being you know, having two adults as as children.
It's what happens is there's this shift into you're always mom,
but you're also a friend. And that's kind of beautiful.
(45:53):
And and I didn't realize how profound that would be
because I lost my mother when I was much younger
and we hadn't gotten to that place and she was
sick and you know all of that. So it's it's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
Well, that's very that's awesome. Actually, I can't wait to
be a grandmother myself because I'm just that fun. I
was always I like to have fun with the kids.
Speaker 4 (46:16):
Yeah, you would be there, want to shower them with
and come back as your grand they wouldn't be Yeah, So.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
I'm looking forward to that when I have none of
the other responsibilities like I'll just let it their parents
deal with the fallout of they're very spoiled because their
grandmother spoils them. Well, thank you so much, Merriel. I
can't believe the time has passed. Where do we find
your podcast and what's your project? What we look forward
to it.
Speaker 4 (46:41):
It's called it's.
Speaker 3 (46:42):
Called Outcomes the Sun and it's on you know, YouTube
and Spotify and Apple and whatever wherever you find your podcast.
And then I also have the foundation, which is maryel
Hemingway Foundation dot orgy and that's coming away with one
M M A R I E. L. Just you know,
in case you're not familiar with my grandfather's work. And
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then I am producing. I've got two television shows kind
of based on my family history and legacy. It's they're
not documentaries. They're based on my grandfather in the twenties
in Paris and then then he's in Cuba. And then
there's a part of the part of the show which
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will be about me and my sisters in the sixties,
seventies and eighties. But the through line is mental health
kind of that's the unspoken through line of that project.
And yeah, I've just got a lot going on. My
husband created a chamber that pressurizes you at different altitudes.
(47:48):
So we've got a health and wellness facility here in
southern California on Pacific Coast Highway which we're about to
open in another month, and that'll have hot plunges and
cold plunge and saunas and all kinds of different things.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
That's very exciting.
Speaker 3 (48:05):
You can see me on social media because we know
we're all going to do it. Mary El Hemingway, it's
pretty easy.
Speaker 4 (48:14):
Yeah, well that's great.
Speaker 1 (48:15):
Well, there's so much going on. I can't wait all
the documentary. I can't wait wait to watch that.
Speaker 4 (48:21):
And we have to go to this punge.
Speaker 1 (48:24):
For sure, we're going to plunge a lot. I think
we're really going to enjoy that.
Speaker 4 (48:27):
Well, I think my hips would like that would too.
Speaker 1 (48:30):
Well, thank you so much Mariel for joining us, and.
Speaker 3 (48:33):
We thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
It was so much fud.
Speaker 3 (48:36):
Thank you and thank you ladies for your lovely questions.
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Speaker 2 (00:40):
Think the money?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Are you?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I am excellent? And I should ask how are you?
Because you were telling me so we are in that
part of life where we are starting to investigate issues
of the M word, and we're not talking about money.
We're talking about menopause. And you showed up lots of drugs.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Yeah, I was hot a little bit on some hormone
replacement therapy. This week. It's been, you know, an interesting
mini phone calls and appointments. I learned a lot and uh,
my background is nursing, so I thought it was fascinating
all the way around. So yes, I'm pro all my
(01:25):
new medications.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Well, there is a fun So I started to do
some of that and then the doctor that I was
working with gave me this calendar. She said, we get
to give you this medicine on a lunar calendar.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
And so she's saying natural family planning or something.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Something like that. She's like, okay, so you do three
twists on Monday, You're gonna do three twists of this
and two twists of that, and the next day you're
doing four twists of that and five twists. I gave up.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
I would fail because I couldn't keep up. But you know,
I really did it because I take a class of
pure bar class that I love really for my mind
most of all, I find that part of my day.
But I could not get rid of my hip pain,
and I felt like I didn't have enough hormones flowing
through and that I needed to address it. So anyway,
(02:15):
it's no secret everybody goes through it, and so why
not feel better.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
I didn't know that hip pain. You know, you know
I've had a huge hip problem, right. I didn't know
that hip pain was connected to all that.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Oh yeah, I mean that, yeah teninopathy.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
So I need le more about all of this.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
So I'm hoping that helps along with doing other things
like taking care of myself, whether it's the walking, getting outside,
all of the things that we should be embracing on
a regular basis. I'm no picture of health, but I
sure am trying well.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
So you know that I I used to that was
really fit first for quite a while. And then I
broke my foot. Literally, I took four steps in my
own house. My foot twisted, it broke, and I was
a year of I had a screw put in my
foot and then they had to take it out. And
then I was on one of these knee rollers because
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I hated crutches, and then the knee roller caused my
hip a hip laborl tear. I mean, it's like one
thing is yeah, but I've always been I've never been limber,
not even I mean, but you I have no flexibility.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
What was the procedure you did for your hip?
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Just cell replacement? And actually it was that actually worked.
I mean it made a huge difference because you saw
me right after I after I had the procedure, it
was very painful.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
I went from friend to nurse asap.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
I invited her. I invited to join me in Florida
on a vacation, but little did she know it was
mainly to make sure that I could. She had to
help me up the stairs and into the car and
all of a sudden, but it was good friend to
do such a thing. But yeah, but now I'm trying
to get back into shape again and trying to get there.
And so when we recently went to outside of London,
(04:09):
we were in the English countryside, which was tons of fun.
Although Julie put me on a horse, which was so great.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
I feel the horse spirit, like, you know, you really
need to grasp what I tried to get you to
talk to your horse, lean over and pet it, you know,
get that energy going and see your face.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
No, I love the horse was very nice, but I
have a little problem with germs. So she told me
to pet the horse and then I had to reach
for my my yeah, hand sanitizer. It was kind of
a little too much, but then so we did that,
and then we took a walk in the English countryside,
which they teased me because I brought my purse and
they're like, who brings a purse to a hike in
(04:52):
the English countryside? But we almost we got to be
late at night and we were afraid it was going
to be too dark to walk back, and who had
money to pay the taxi when we had to walk?
When we had to.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Take thank God for your cashmere sweater and your fancy
person or not, or we never would have made it anyway.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
But the biggest thing was the yoga.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
Oh God.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
So we took a yoga class from a woman who's
very serious. He was really good, I mean she was excellent,
really good instructor. And I said from the beginning, I'm
gonna be on the back row because I don't want
anybody to see this because it's just not something anybody
should have to see. And that worked fine. I mean
I did most.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Of the poses.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
A few were like there was no way that was happening.
But the worst thing.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
So it's silent.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
You get on the back row and you think, Okay,
I'm safe, except like I said, I'm not limber. I
got lots of issues. My knees were cracking.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
So loud to the point where I was like people
in my class they were laughing, they laughed.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
I don't blame them because so I'm trying.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
We are trying. We are trying, but we have somebody
who can really help us.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Today.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
It's going to help us a lot, which is why
we should mental health get straight to our guests. Becauseyoga,
we're going to learn a lot. And yeah, so let
me introduce our guests today. It's very exciting. She is
the granddaughter of the illustrious author Ernest Hemingway. And for
those of you moms out there who have not heard
of him, that is a shameful statement about our educational
(06:27):
system in this country. You need to look that up.
Very famous author, but she's famous in her own right.
She made her silver screen debut at the age of
thirteen in the film Lipstick, and then she was nominated
for an Academy Award for Woody Allen's Manhattan. Since then,
she's made over thirty films and TV appearance appearances, and
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today she pursues her passion for yoga and health and
is now the voice of holistic and balanced health and
well being. Please welcome maryel Hemingway.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
Yeah, into the mom's flow.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Thank Ye you're a mom.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
And she's a mom of two daughters. Yeah, and an
author herself. I mean I could go on and on
and just read your biography and then we could say
call in a day because you have quantity of accomplishments.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Oh, that's very sweet of you. Well, it's really fun
to be here. Yeah, I hope, Uh. I hope my
background doesn't get too crazy.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Yeah, you might have some animals run through.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
We never know.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
Yeah, the catt will probably jump up on the table.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
It's very pretty back there. Yeah, very nice. Well let's start.
So there's two facets to this we want to talk
to you about. One is the physical health side, and
then we like to talk to you about the mental
health side because you put it all together and that's
what we what we need information on. So I want
to start with the physical side because, as I said,
if you're kind of a mess like me, particularly with yoga,
(07:53):
do you really need someone in the class who's cracking
and creaking? Like, what's the mindset? How do you yoga?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Let me explain something about yoga. I've been doing yoga
since I was twenty six years old, which means I've
been doing yoga for very long, many many decades since then. Anyway,
yoga is really just movement with breath. If you're not breathing,
then you're really not doing yoga. You're just doing exercise now.
(08:22):
And the reason why there's that delineation is that breath
has the ability to heal, cause the creakiness to kind
of mellow and it really doesn't matter. Yoga's not a competition.
It's not like other you know, it's not like other
exercise sports. It's really about you getting in tune with
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your body on the inside so that you can be
aware of what suits it best.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Does that make sense, It does make sense. Yeah, well
it makes me feel better too. Honestly, I was trading
it as a competition because I was there with Julie
and our friend Jennifer, who's there's nothing Jennifer doesn't do
that's just perfect, And so she was right in front
of me, and I'm like, oh, show off. I'm about
to fall over on my face what I'm doing and
(09:13):
she's doing it great. But yeah, if I just so
just internalize it to myself, just focus on what I'm
doing and not all these really.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
Is it really is just about you understanding that your
body is tight in certain areas. And you know, you're
talking about hormones and and you know, and your hips
and all these different things. You know, Yoga is just
a place where you get to It's kind of a
(09:42):
Buddhist approach to let's just step back and look at
what our body needs. It's training you to be soft
within yourself. I think as women, as mothers, as me
as a grandmother. Now, I think that we're hard on ourselves.
We need we have expectations about what we need to
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be doing and the and the truth is, you know,
there's no like. Things change as we get older, things shift,
We move into different facets of our lives. And it
doesn't mean that you move less. It means that you
move with more compassion and awareness of of your of
(10:25):
your self and your body. So that's why there's this
the idea that if you focus on your breath during
this movement, it shifts the way your body will move
and how you feel about it. Because sometimes we, you know,
get into things and we're doing things in exercise and
you're like, oh, you're britting your teeth and like, I'm
(10:48):
going to get through this, whereas yoga should be more
about oh wait a second. This is telling me to
do something different. This is telling me to be more
gentle with myself. And I think women, that's a really
important yeah that we have a hard time doing. But
you it's like I keep pushing, I keep pushing, and
then really what happens is you hit a wall and
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then you're like, I'm not going to do this anymore, right,
And that's not good. It's always about like, oh it's okay,
I don't have to be the best in the class,
because that's not what this is about. It's not a
hip hop class. It's not a you know, a kickboxing
boxing class.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
So you've read a lot of these things. Is there
there's no judgment in like any of the students on
the participants. I guess because I feel judged. I mean,
I guess I was always an overachiever in school and
I'm like, wow, the teacher's got to.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
Think on your competitive monica.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
So yeah, so but there's no judgment here, right, I mean,
if I look like if you see me in the
back falling over, if you're not thinking, oh.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
Gosh, and you know, I used to I used to
lead a lot of workshops, and I used to I
used to fall kind of on purpose. As you It's
like falling is just like part of the It's like, oh,
that's great, you pushed yourself to a limit and now
you know where that limit is, and you know, and
falling doesn't necessarily mean you fall to hurt yourself. It's
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just like it's just part of It's like we don't
need to be perfect, and I think that that's kind
of the bane of width. This exist is like, ah,
this need to be perfect. I'm a perfect mother, I'm
a really good wife, I'm a really good partner. Whatever
it is, whatever, you know, dialogue we have going on
in our heads. That's not what yoga's about. It's about
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actually not listening to the dialogue that's inside your head.
Because by the way, that negative self talk that you
do inside yourself, that's not you. That's your ego trying
to control you. That has nothing to do with who
you are, because.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
You are you, the inner you, the kind of a.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Ware you knows what's right for you. And so that's
why you know, when I talk about wellness, yoga, just
being your best self, it's about really just tuning into
the voice that is you, that knows that you're okay
right now right So, like everybody has this idea that
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there's somebody out there that's gonna teach us what's right
for us, you know, like, oh, there's that doctor, there's
that holistic person, or a yoga teacher. For me, it
was I went to a lot of gurus, and I
traveled the world and did a lot of goofy things,
and I learned a lot, but you know, I did
a lot of goofy things. Anyway, what I realized is
(13:43):
is that you're your best teacher. I went to I
actually went to India once and I met his Holiness,
the Dalai Lama, and and it was it was such
an incredible story.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
I I, do you want me to tell the story?
I mean, we've never really had someone you can say
they've met that please anywhere.
Speaker 3 (14:05):
So I went to India at where he lives in
Darham Solim because he can't be into bed as you know,
because of political reasons. Anyway, we went there. I was
about forty five, so that's almost anyway, almost twenty years ago,
Holy crap. And so I went there and I was
(14:26):
really excited. We were going to have a private audience.
And when I say a private audience, there's about ten
really influential people, super wealthy, super political whatever, and they
were whooptie doos, and they all had questions for his
Holiness and I was just super happy to be there.
I had nothing to say to him, but I was
(14:47):
just like excited. So we go into this little it's
like a little cottage, but it had a little stairwell
up and you could see him. He came down these
stairs and not it wasn't grand it was it wasn't
like a grand staircase. It was just he came down
these stairs and there was these chairs, these overstuffed chairs
(15:09):
and pillows in front of him, and two chairs beside him,
and we all kind of were waiting for him. He
came down and he directed me. He sat down, and
he directed me, of all people, to sit down next
to him, and I was super excited. So I sat
down next to him. And first of all, I just
(15:30):
want to say that listening to a man of such
like he's, you know, like this great leader kind of
you know, and just listening to him, and I wasn't
in worship of him.
Speaker 5 (15:44):
But I was.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
I was pretty astonished, Yeah, in awe And watching him
listen to people was extraordinary. The fact that he could
he took it. When a person asked him a question,
he looked them in the eyes though they were the
only person in the room at that time. So that
(16:05):
was the first thing that really touched me. The other
thing was he didn't say much in response to their questions,
but he listened with such attention that the person felt
so incredibly heard. So that was that was number one.
And then I just watched him and periodically he would
(16:27):
look over at me and he would he would smile,
and that he would giggle, and I was like, oh
my god. So I would smile and giggle back, thinking,
oh my god, I'm having this unspoken communication with his
wholiness anyway whatever. And so an hour and a half
(16:47):
goes by. I haven't said a word because I have
nothing to say to him, and you can tell is
wrapping up, and we all start to get up, and
I start to get up like this, and he puts
his hand on my hand and he looks me in
the eye and it still makes me cry. He looks
(17:08):
me in the eye and he says, you're okay.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Oh, And you have to.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
Understand my story. I have traveled the world looking for
answers to why my family was the way that they were,
the mental illness. Was I going to end up like them?
Was I going to take my lef whatever?
Speaker 1 (17:32):
And him saying that.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
Was such an epiphany for me. I mean, I didn't
see angels or white light, but I did. I remember
going back to the States thinking, oh, I am okay,
And that's when I started my journey. I really do
(17:55):
a lot of work for mental health. I have a
foundation called the Foundation called the maryel Hemingway found which
I'm trying to create as a a resource navigator for
mental health. I just want people to be able to
go there, plug in. You know, I'm in Austin, Texas, Texas,
I'm in Bourbonck, California, wherever I am in the United
(18:17):
States or hopefully the world, and be able to say,
if you've got addiction issues, suicide issues, whatever your child
is going through something, where do I go if I
want holistic help, if I want psychanter health, if I
want you know whatever.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
Right, So, Miriel, you want that to be That's an
incredible experience getting to know the Dalai Lama. I thank
you for sharing that, because when you said that and
he touched you, you know, for someone to say it's
going to be okay, You're going to be okay, it
was pretty cool. But how did you know with all
the things that have gone in in your life? You know,
you talk a lot about mental health and the journey.
(18:54):
You've even done a documentary called Running from Crazy. Is
that the correct?
Speaker 5 (19:00):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (19:00):
I just want to make sure. So yeah, so my
I would like to know how you chose the path
that you chose, because you've seen it all before, You've
seen the addiction and everything else. How did you choose
meditation and yoga knowing that was going to boost your
life and you were going to be this champion for
mental wellness.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
I well, that that's kind of what the point of
the whole holys His Holiness conversation or the story is
really that. That was the that was kind of the
turning point where I realized, oh, this is my journey.
I need to go down this path. I need to
help people. I mean I always had been. I'd been
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doing yoga for twenty years prior to that. Sure, I was,
you know, I was on that path, but it was
I was disconnected. There was something about me that was
I was still in fear. I was still chasing a guru,
a doctor of thisa that until I realized it was me.
That was the moment I went, oh, I'm my best teacher,
(20:04):
I'm my best guru, I'm my best nutritionist. Now it
doesn't mean that you don't need help. We all need help.
We all need you know, we need moms and friends
and maybe doctors, maybe this, that and the other thing whatever.
But at the end of the day, all of us
are guided by our own intuition, yes, right, And if
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we don't trust what we have to say about ourselves,
then you know, like you're never going to get the
healing that you really need because you know what's best
for you ultimately.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
I mean about four years ago, I did that too,
you know, I said to myself, Oh my gosh, I'm
actually know a lot of things and to trust myself,
turn into myself, so you help people. You do have
a podcast? I do, Yeah, it comes. It's called Outcomes
the Sun. Is that correct?
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (20:57):
And so I have and I out Come the Sun
Outcomes the Sun beautiful. I love that when I was
looking this up in your podcast, is there one common
treatment or product that people give you feedback on that
they say that works that. I loved that because there
are so many and I was just wondering the type
of feedback you get from people who listen to your podcast.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
Well, you know, my podcast is not about like, I'm
not pushing any particular anything. I what I do talk
about with my I have a co host. Yeahs, you
both have each other Melissa Alma Gucci, and we we
it's not like we're pushing any particular thing, but we
(21:39):
do talk of the seven doctors, and the seven doctors
or doctor son, doctor air, doctor water, doctor, exercise, doctor earth,
doctor nutrition, and doctor rest. They're available twenty four hours
and day, seven days a week, and they're free, They're
super free. Yeah, and we get a lot of feedback.
We get a lot of feedback that, oh my god,
(22:00):
I never realized that grounding, taking your shoes off and
walking on your grass in the backyard or walking h
actually makes me feel more inflammation in my body because
it actually gets rid of inflammation, also gets rid of
(22:21):
neuro inflammation, which is the inflammation the brain, which is
also a great cause of our mental health problems. So
there's a lot of feedback and we try to share
things that help boost the mental our mental health. But
I think everything you do physically helps your mental health.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Yeah, let's talk a little bit about mental health. And
there's always been a stigma over mental health issues, and
it seems like it's gotten much better, but we're still
not quite there yet. Where do you think we are
in helping people identify? You know, and I will say
(23:01):
I have, as Julie Well knows, I have an issue
with anxiety, and just the way then I said it
is like as an apology, I should apologize. I can't
help that. But where are we? Where do you think
we are now? And what can we do to make
people feel more comfortable? Just saying, hey, yeah, I got it.
I have anxiety. You know I'm working on it, but
I have it. Where do you think we are?
Speaker 5 (23:24):
In question?
Speaker 3 (23:24):
What do we do? What you just did gave a
lot of people that listened to your podcast permission to
say that that's all, you know, just saying, gosh, I'm embarrassed.
I'm you know, because everybody is right. We're all in
the same boat. We're all trying to live a life.
And the reason why I share my story and you know,
(23:47):
I have seven suicides in my family and all that stuff,
I only share it to say, look, just because I
come from a famous family or I've got a famous
name or whatever it is, doesn't mean that I don't
have all this issues that everybody else has. It wakes
up in the morning, putting their pants on, you know,
one leg at a time, making their coffee, sometimes having
(24:08):
a headache, you know, whatever it was a while ago,
but I had hot flashes. But you'll get back to menopause.
Speaker 4 (24:16):
Can't wait.
Speaker 3 (24:17):
But anyway, it's just it's it really is about just
talking about it. You help people by saying that you're
embarrassed about it, because that makes people feel comfortable. They go, oh, gosh,
I'm kind of embarrassed about that, And then then you
realize once you've said it, are you really embarrassed? No,
because we're not embarrassed if we have a headache. We're
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not embarrassed when we get a cold, but we're super
embarrassed if we have a day where we're anxious. Like why,
our brain is connected to our body, so these things
are working in conjunction. So sometimes physical things are manifestations
of the brain not being happy, and sometimes the brain
is a manifestation of the body not being happy.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
Do you think this country is getting better about bringing
it to the surface.
Speaker 6 (25:09):
Yeah, I think.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
I just did a speaking engagement in Spain and they're
really I mean, they have a whole belief system. They
kept saying to me, well, gosh, we sort of believe
if you talk about suicide it might encourage people to
take their life.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
And I was like, whoa no, no, no, no, it's
not that way at all.
Speaker 3 (25:28):
The more you talk about it, the less power it has. True,
because when you keep things in the darkness, they get bigger.
You know how it is like your problems that you
don't discuss, you know how big they get in your brain.
You wake up in the middle of the night it's
like ah, You're like, ah.
Speaker 4 (25:46):
This is like taking over my life.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
Whereas when you talk about it, it takes that. It's
like it unplugs it from the wall and it becomes
less powerful.
Speaker 4 (25:55):
Yeah, could not agree more, could not agree more. Well,
I love that you do what you do and spreading
the word. And I think that we have people that
want to have a question.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
Do Yeah, we have some women that would like to
ask you some questions as well, and there are zoomer moms,
So welcome zoomer moms. Welcome to Hi ladies. Well, we
know you each have a question for maryel So I'm
going to introduce each one of you and tell us
a little bit about yourself and ask your question. And
(26:26):
we will start with Kathy, Welcome to the Mom's Club.
Speaker 7 (26:30):
Hi, thank you so much for having me as a
zoomer mom today. A little bit about myself. It used
to be have held a couple of elected official positions,
currently serving as an appointed position for the state of Texas.
I'm so excited to have this network that you've put together, Monica,
because now my kids, my daughter just turned twenty five,
(26:51):
my son's about to turn twenty one, so I'm in
a different phase of the mom world. But the mom
world never leaves you.
Speaker 5 (26:58):
So thank you.
Speaker 7 (26:58):
Thank you for the part of Mary l My goodness,
you are as sunny as ever, and God bless you
for the work you're doing to allow people to talk
about mental health. I've got a couple of loved ones
that suffer from some pretty significant mental health issues, and
it's a family. It takes everybody to help out with
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moms nowadays. If you're a new mom starting out, and
you've got social media, which can be used for good
in things like this, but so many people compare themselves
to that TikTok mom or Facebook mom or probably showing
my age say on Facebook, what advice do you give
(27:42):
to a new mom who doesn't just have the noise
that I had in my head back when my kids
were little. But they've got people who look perfect like
it's easy.
Speaker 5 (27:52):
What advice them?
Speaker 3 (27:55):
Well, I mean, you've hit on one of the most
important things that I think mental health issues are are
so prevalent, especially for the youth, because social media is
destroying their view of themselves. They're thinking that, oh my god,
(28:16):
I'm not as perfect and by the way, who got
you know, like I was sitting here trying to make
sure that my lighting was okay because you don't want
to be ugly, Yeah, you got, we do these things,
but nobody's going on social media putting their ugliest picture
up and you know, being all open or people that
(28:36):
are doing that are kind of doing that. I don't know,
it's all and comparison is just the bane of anybody's existence.
Comparison is the cause of more pain and more suffering,
especially for the youth, because they're just they're comparing themselves
to things that aren't real. And so I think there
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needs to be education to our youth about what social
media is. Yes, it's a great tool. It enables all
of us as women to get together and be excited
about meeting each other and talking about being a mom
or whatever it is you're going through in your life.
But we have to know that there's limitations to that.
(29:18):
It's not real connection. You know, there's really a When
you're on your phone and you're texting, that's a seven
percent connection. All of us here were This is better
because I can see your face and you can see mine,
and we can hear each other, so there's much more
of a connection. But the truth is when you're looking
(29:40):
on Instagram, there's not a connection. People are feeling more
and more lonely because of social media. It's creating more anxiety,
more depression. So I think we need to be educated
and we need to give our children limitations when it
comes to social media. Look, it's not going to go away,
(30:02):
but you have to say, look, when we're eating dinner,
you cannot be on your phone. That's just a no go, right,
And by eight nine o'clock that thing shut down unless
your kids are you know, out, You've got to stay
in contact. But you know what I mean, we got
to start going Look my my real connection with my children,
(30:24):
real connection with my spouse or whomever you're living with.
That's what really matters, right, We need to highlight the
reality of real connection.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Yeah, that's true as a society, and yeah, how we
actually get the power back, because we put so much
power into social media that even if you're like I
wrote a book and to sell another book, they ask me, well, like,
what's your numbers on social media? And I think that
it matters so much. And I now today I can't
even walk through a room without saying something about, uh, gee,
(31:00):
I need some blue shoes. And suddenly if the advertise,
I mean, I feel like I'm being followed by this
thing I'm carrying around. I mean, I know we need
to consciously take the power back by being more connected,
I think is what you're saying with other people, like
intentionally saying that.
Speaker 4 (31:19):
That what replaced which is which?
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Absolutely? And your question was just so right on, because
it's just so so very important, Kathy, to really address
that issue. So my advice is, let's educate our kids
just like, hey, this reality. We know it's not going away.
We know you're not we're not going to unplug you completely,
but let's all come together and decide, Okay, here are
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the times and that that we can't do it, that
then that it's really important that we go you know,
we go for a walk together and we don't look
at it on our phone.
Speaker 4 (32:03):
Nice, right, Nice?
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Yep. Cindy, welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a
little bit about yourself. Do you use a question for MARYL?
Speaker 3 (32:12):
Hi Per?
Speaker 5 (32:13):
Can you Hi?
Speaker 8 (32:15):
I am retired airline employee for twenty five years and
I come with a fifteen year old boy.
Speaker 5 (32:23):
Yeah, and very proud mom.
Speaker 8 (32:25):
And my question, firstly, thank you so much for sharing
your story with us today.
Speaker 5 (32:33):
I too have mental health in my background.
Speaker 8 (32:37):
My mom was manic, depressive, bipolar, and so growing up
with the ups and downs and the ebbs and flows and.
Speaker 5 (32:45):
Not really understanding what it meant.
Speaker 8 (32:48):
I'll be fifty five this year, so I didn't understand
what that meant when I was eight and nine years old,
working through treatments and whatnot. So thank you for giving
mental health a voice. And my question today would be,
it's taken you a while to get to the place
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you're at today. In the moments that you wake up
and you're not feeling great, what is something you go
to that helps you get back into that good.
Speaker 5 (33:24):
Thinking that positive as positive thoughts? What do you lean on?
Speaker 4 (33:30):
Good question?
Speaker 3 (33:32):
Thank you? Thank you for that question because it's it's
so important and it's actually super easy. One of the
greatest things that you can do if you're not feeling right,
or you wake up and it's just or things aren't
working you're you know, you're sitting in front of your
computer and just things aren't working out, I go for
a walk, and if I come back and I'm still
(33:55):
feeling that way, I go for another walk. Always, so
what we have to done stand about anxiety, depression and
all that stuff. It always changes. Always, Everything always shifts
because energy changes. Energy is always in movement, it's always
in motion, it's always changing. So to literally physically move
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your body will help you to get out of that state.
I also, I'm very conscious of my mornings and how
I spend them. So how I wake up really will
define the kind of day that I will have. So
one of the big things that I try to do
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when I wake up is to take a few moments,
you know, or a few minutes to be grateful. To
just think of all that I'm grateful for. You know,
my good health, I live in this beautiful place, my husband,
my you know, the really good friends of my life,
and just really say, I'll kind of whisper out loud,
(35:04):
what you're grateful for, your kids, you know, all of it,
and then really kind of try to be present throughout
the morning and visualize the day before you get up
out of bed. Visualize the day you want to have, right.
I call it kind of a the perfect day meditation.
(35:25):
So you're lying there and you just like all of
a sudden, you start thinking of just this really great day. Right,
I see myself, there's a lighting there this morning. I'm
gonna have a really good podcast with me, my new friends.
You know, I'm going to meet these lovely women. It's
all gonna be, you know, like an all, it's all
(35:46):
gonna manifest into this day. And ninety percent of the time,
And I also do that the night before, the night
before before I go to sleep, I try to digitalize.
You know, I'm not always successful. I'm not a perfectly
but I try to imagine the day that I want
to have the next day. And I'm telling you it
is the most effective thing I've ever done in my life.
(36:09):
If I have speaking engagements and I visualize it or whatever,
it's like the day just unfolds the way I Now.
Does it happen in a specific way, No, But the
day like I feel the way that I wanted to feel, right,
And that's we are. I feel like we're computers and
(36:30):
I think we can program ourselves, but I think we
forget that we have a lot of power that we
don't acknowledge in ourselves. So again it gets back back
to energy and frequency. Are we are electrical beings. That's
why I talk about groundings because when you put your
feet on the ground, there's an electrical impulse that comes
(36:51):
from the earth into your feet, and our feet have
thousands of pores, so you take in that energy. That's
what gets rid of the influence. But it's all of
those They sound like kooky things, but they're not. They
really really work and they really help with any kind
of issues that come up.
Speaker 1 (37:12):
I love I I really do, so I really believe that. Angel.
Welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a little bit
about yourself, and do you have a question?
Speaker 6 (37:22):
Yes, I'm actually at My background is radio and television,
and Cindy had the exact same question I have. But
you just said something that gave me another question. You
were talking about us being grounded, and it made me
think about the medical community itself. Do you think that
the medical community and being on medications and whatnot, has
(37:46):
made us adverse to holistic approaches to our health.
Speaker 3 (37:51):
That's a really good question, and I want to be
very very careful in how I answered, because well, you know,
everybody has their stance on how we heal and how
we go about our lives.
Speaker 6 (38:05):
Right.
Speaker 3 (38:06):
So I am not a big medication fanatic at all.
I don't take anything. But that doesn't mean that I
think that everybody doesn't need some help or whatever, you know.
And when it comes to emergency medical care, there's nothing
better than the United States. But I do think that
(38:28):
our right I think especially when it comes to mental health,
because that's what I'm more of an expert at. I
think that medication can be a good break for somebody
who's having an issue, but it's not a solution. It's
a band aid. It gives us space to figure out
(38:49):
what we need to do. Right, We need to tell
our story, we need to whatever it is. But to
use medication as like a way to say, oh, I
don't need to address this, right, you know, because usually
our mental health problems come from some sort of trauma
that we buried inside, right, some story that we're not
(39:09):
willing to tell. So I do think that we kind
of overuse medication in this country, especially, we sort of
like i'd write, you know, we want to go to
a doctor and have him give us a pill and
you know we're going to lose weight and you know,
like instead of like, but I got to work out
and I got to eat properly, you know what I mean.
(39:31):
So there's like there's a balance, right, And I'm not
being judgmental when I say that for me, you know,
medication is is just not a solution for me. But
but I and I believe that these natural ways, like
the seven doctors I talked about, are really amazing ways
(39:54):
to find your solution, right, to find what works for you,
to to address that inner that inner voice, that intuition, intuition.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
Yeah, taking a pill doesn't mean that you don't get
to do the work exactly exactly.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
That's yeah, yeah, well said.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
Well yeah, and in this country, we do have this
idea that you just take a pill and it's all
even when you're scientifically I know, during the pandemic, everybody said,
well just give me an antibiotic. Well it's a virus.
It's hard to explain to people that's not going to
cure you. But yeah, so we kind of over medicate
ourselves to Jan, Welcome to the Mom's club. Tell us
a little bit about yourself and being.
Speaker 2 (40:33):
A question I real, Jan, everybody knows me about three
little letters. That my last name is Corkanus. We have
encountered each other several times in our lifetime at limousine
service for thirty years here in Dallas, Texas. I also,
(40:57):
you remember, uh, you said don't make the paper to
Laurie Muslow, and I you said, if you don't make
the paper, you're not getting paid. You opened up a
room here at the Crescent Hotel Bams.
Speaker 3 (41:15):
Yeah, my gosh, I did well. Yes, the kid crad
as true. You remember a while ago, yeah, a while ago.
Speaker 4 (41:26):
It was in the eighties.
Speaker 2 (41:27):
I want to say, you.
Speaker 5 (41:29):
Know, so we go back.
Speaker 3 (41:31):
I was pregnant with my first daughter, so yes, I'm sorry.
Oh that's great.
Speaker 2 (41:37):
And then now I have an autistic grown child at home.
It's a godson, and I didn't really have much on
his background. I got him about five years ago. And
it is true what you're saying. They just give you
the medication and and they just asked you a few
(41:58):
questions and that's about it. I got thrown into this
situation and I really didn't know how to navigate through it.
So now I definitely want to know how I can
help with your Texas Foundation.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
Oh that's sweet.
Speaker 3 (42:14):
Well it's a it's a hopefully a worldwide foundation. But wow,
well we'll talk later.
Speaker 4 (42:24):
I can.
Speaker 3 (42:25):
But I just want to say bravo for for taking
on a very that's it's not easy, I know, because
autism is a challenge at best, but there are we've
seen some really amazing results for autism through frequency, you know,
(42:48):
through frequency healing. And that's kind of a deeper conversation
on how that works, but there's, uh, there's a lot
of ways to kind of because I I think, in
my genius, not being a doctor, way that that that
there are it's like a neural pathway thing that happens
(43:12):
in the brain that needs to be disrupted, interrupted and shifted.
So I think that that's why frequency has been very
successful and kind of helping get people with autism to
a place where they're very high functioning. And and that's awesome.
But God probably to you for taking that on.
Speaker 5 (43:37):
Nice to see you.
Speaker 3 (43:38):
That's well, we don't like the paper, we won't get paid.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
That's okay. I am going to remember that the paper, Well,
and you and you mentioned being pregnant with your your
first daughter, so your your children are grown now, right, there.
Speaker 4 (43:54):
Are grown up.
Speaker 3 (43:56):
I have my oldest is thirty there, she'll be thirty
eight in December, and she has a daughter who is
nineteen months old. So I am a grandmother. And then
my youngest is thirty five.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Oh wow. So what's that like being the mother of
adults with their own children. I mean, do you feel
like you've how much input do you have?
Speaker 4 (44:20):
And yeah, you took the question right out of mind.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
Well, I mean maybe some mothers are different, but I
feel like I'm perfectly happy not to have much input.
I'm just perfectly happy to show up and have the
best time ever with my grandchild. Because you and you
will know this when it happens to you, it is.
(44:46):
It's just a different situation. You don't have the same responsibility.
You don't have the anxiety, but you know, you didn't
not sleep. You know, you get to have them, you're
fully rested. You know, you have a lot of fun
with them. It's just a different thing. I mean there's
certain things I go, hell, they're you know, the baby's
still sleeping with them. Okay, you know, like I I
(45:08):
just keep my moud. It's like, it's not my journey,
right and and by the way, she my granddaughter, is amazing,
so it must be working. Yeah. I've never been one
to think that I needed to control their journey or
their situation. So I'm I just love. Being a grandmother
(45:30):
is really kind of extraordinary. And it also shifts your
relationship with your child, you know, like my daughters and
I being you know, having two adults as as children.
It's what happens is there's this shift into you're always mom,
but you're also a friend. And that's kind of beautiful.
(45:53):
And and I didn't realize how profound that would be
because I lost my mother when I was much younger
and we hadn't gotten to that place and she was
sick and you know all of that. So it's it's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (46:08):
Well, that's very that's awesome. Actually, I can't wait to
be a grandmother myself because I'm just that fun. I
was always I like to have fun with the kids.
Speaker 4 (46:16):
Yeah, you would be there, want to shower them with
and come back as your grand they wouldn't be Yeah, So.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
I'm looking forward to that when I have none of
the other responsibilities like I'll just let it their parents
deal with the fallout of they're very spoiled because their
grandmother spoils them. Well, thank you so much, Merriel. I
can't believe the time has passed. Where do we find
your podcast and what's your project? What we look forward
to it.
Speaker 4 (46:41):
It's called it's.
Speaker 3 (46:42):
Called Outcomes the Sun and it's on you know, YouTube
and Spotify and Apple and whatever wherever you find your podcast.
And then I also have the foundation, which is maryel
Hemingway Foundation dot orgy and that's coming away with one
M M A R I E. L. Just you know,
in case you're not familiar with my grandfather's work. And
(47:06):
then I am producing. I've got two television shows kind
of based on my family history and legacy. It's they're
not documentaries. They're based on my grandfather in the twenties
in Paris and then then he's in Cuba. And then
there's a part of the part of the show which
(47:27):
will be about me and my sisters in the sixties,
seventies and eighties. But the through line is mental health
kind of that's the unspoken through line of that project.
And yeah, I've just got a lot going on. My
husband created a chamber that pressurizes you at different altitudes.
(47:48):
So we've got a health and wellness facility here in
southern California on Pacific Coast Highway which we're about to
open in another month, and that'll have hot plunges and
cold plunge and saunas and all kinds of different things.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
That's very exciting.
Speaker 3 (48:05):
You can see me on social media because we know
we're all going to do it. Mary El Hemingway, it's
pretty easy.
Speaker 4 (48:14):
Yeah, well that's great.
Speaker 1 (48:15):
Well, there's so much going on. I can't wait all
the documentary. I can't wait wait to watch that.
Speaker 4 (48:21):
And we have to go to this punge.
Speaker 1 (48:24):
For sure, we're going to plunge a lot. I think
we're really going to enjoy that.
Speaker 4 (48:27):
Well, I think my hips would like that would too.
Speaker 1 (48:30):
Well, thank you so much Mariel for joining us, and.
Speaker 3 (48:33):
We thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
It was so much fud.
Speaker 3 (48:36):
Thank you and thank you ladies for your lovely questions.
Speaker 1 (48:39):
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Look at social media. Let's read a lot and follow
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can meet other moms and get to know other moms
and share your stories, experiences and support one another, which
is what our show is all about. That's right, Well,
thank you so much for joining us. We'll be back
(49:45):
next time with celebrities and extraordinary moms just like you.
We know your me time is precious and valuable. We're
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