September 10, 2025 • 22 mins
This week on Inspire Change, Gunter continues his discussion on philosophy but this week makes it a real personal on how philosophy can contribute to your life. What can philosophy offer for ethical daily living? We are told philosophy is useless, in actuality it is the foundation of any practical endeavor we choose. Gunter will provide a bit of a tool kit. Philosphy at its best is not armchair theory. It is actually how to live.
Today he will offer 5 lenses you can actually use, then a simple method and a 7 day experiment.
These 5 lenses are and Gunter will deep dive on the podcast of each lense:
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This week's gratitude, we will take a look at both the USA and around the globe. For the US, we would like to express our gratitude to those of you listening in Connecticut, particularly our listeners in Wallingford for keeping your state at #10, for positive social change.
Next we Take a look at the top 20 on our "Global Listener's List" and we want to thank our listeners in Peru for listening & supporting Global Positive Social Change and a special thanks to our listeners in Lima for bringing your country to #15 globally. Your dedication, which we deeply appreciate, pushed your country to #15, CONGRATULATIONS !!!!! We thank all our listeners for tuning in and promoting positive social change. This makes you a part of Gunter’s efforts in transforming not only men's lives but lives in general and we are grateful you have joined us. I, DeVonna Prinzi the Co-Exec Producer and our Showrunner Miranda Spigener-Sapon sincerely thank you and ask that you please take the time to like, follow, subscribe, and share as your efforts make a difference to everyone here at Inspire Change with Gunter. Please remember If you want to share your story of social change, feel free to reach out to the show directly. Please see the show-notes for our contact information, but most importantly keep Inspiring positive social change.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/inspire-change-with-gunter--3633478/support.
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Today he will offer 5 lenses you can actually use, then a simple method and a 7 day experiment.
These 5 lenses are and Gunter will deep dive on the podcast of each lense:
- Virtue Ethics
- Stoicism
- Existential Responsibility
- Care & Relational Ethics
- Embodiment & Life World
#InspireChange #Philosophy #Science #Reflection #Contemplation #SelfDevelopment #Masculinity #MakingGoodMenGreat
This week's gratitude, we will take a look at both the USA and around the globe. For the US, we would like to express our gratitude to those of you listening in Connecticut, particularly our listeners in Wallingford for keeping your state at #10, for positive social change.
Next we Take a look at the top 20 on our "Global Listener's List" and we want to thank our listeners in Peru for listening & supporting Global Positive Social Change and a special thanks to our listeners in Lima for bringing your country to #15 globally. Your dedication, which we deeply appreciate, pushed your country to #15, CONGRATULATIONS !!!!! We thank all our listeners for tuning in and promoting positive social change. This makes you a part of Gunter’s efforts in transforming not only men's lives but lives in general and we are grateful you have joined us. I, DeVonna Prinzi the Co-Exec Producer and our Showrunner Miranda Spigener-Sapon sincerely thank you and ask that you please take the time to like, follow, subscribe, and share as your efforts make a difference to everyone here at Inspire Change with Gunter. Please remember If you want to share your story of social change, feel free to reach out to the show directly. Please see the show-notes for our contact information, but most importantly keep Inspiring positive social change.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/inspire-change-with-gunter--3633478/support.
Gunter Swoboda and Lorin Josephson's neo-noir/supernatural thriller novel Amulets of Power, Book I A Brian Poole Mystery is officially ON SALE EVERYWHERE you like to get book, but if you want a discount please consider ording direct. ANY LISTENER who order's direct will get a surprise gift. https://shop.ingramspark.com/b/084?params=3RoOA6kVQ7ZgmqSK9LdnvNyDAZZFsg9IMaLUaprPgXK
Make sure you LIKE SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW our new Official YouTube Channel of Video Shorts series: https://www.youtube.com/@InspireChangewithGunterSwoboda/videos where we will be adding new videos and content every week from Gunter and our guests. https://www.youtube.com/@InspireChangewithGunterSwoboda/videos
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, listeners, it's good to siboa here with some exciting news.
We're on the lookout for sponsors to join us on
our incredible journey with Inspired Change with Conta. If your
organization cares deeply about meaningful conversations around masculinity, self development,
and mental health, we'd love to partner with you. Our
(00:24):
podcast has a wonderful, dedicated audience committed to personal growth
and positive social change. By sponsoring Inspired Change with Conta,
your brand will connect with listeners who truly value thoughtful
discussion and support initiatives that promote real transformation. We're incredibly
(00:47):
proud to be ranked number one in Australia and number
five in the USA on feed spots top men's mental
health Podcasts. For more information on how to become sponsor,
please reach out to Miranda Spegner sap On, our showrunner
and executive producer. We'd love to explore how we can
(01:09):
work together to inspire change. Now. Thank you for your
continued support, and let's keep inspiring change together.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
You're listening to Inspire Change, the broadcast that strives to educate, motivate,
and empower men to challenge traditions of masculinity to guide
us through the intricacies and intersections of emotions, relationships, and
male identity is renownced psychologists, author and speaker Gunter Swubota.
This is Inspire Change.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Before I begin the actual podcast, I would like to
respectfully acknowledge the gategor people of the Order Nation, who
are the traditional custodians of the lane on which I work.
I would also like to pay my respects to their
elders past and Presentlcome everybody to another episode of Inspire
(02:02):
Change with Gunta. I'm your host. Welcome everybody to Inspire Change.
This is episode two hundred and ninety nine of season seven,
so we're close to three hundred and I'm playing around
with what sort of content I'm going to provide for
(02:23):
that particular episode. Now. Today I want to pick up
from where I've been in the last two episodes, which
is about philosophy, philosophy of science, philosophy and politics. But
today I'm going to make it real personal, and that
is how can philosophy contribute to your life? So let's
(02:49):
make this a very practical question and put it to work.
In other words, what can philosophy actually offer for ethical
daily living? The reason why I want to do. This
is because we constantly told that philosophy is pretty well useless.
Now I think I've demonstrated very clearly that philosophy is
(03:12):
the foundation of any practical endeavor that we choose. Okay,
whether that be sides politics, and today it's going to
be about daily living. And no, this is not going
to be like a university lecture. What I'm looking to
do is actually give you a bit of a tool, kid,
(03:34):
for how you speak to your partner, handle money, show
up for work, and treat strangers. If ethics only lives
in books, it won't help you when your teenager rolls
their eyes or when you're about to post something snarky online.
So let's bring it home. I really want to stress
(03:59):
that philosophy at its best isn't armchair theory. It's actually
about how to live. The ancients really understood this. Wisdom
was a craft you practiced that, like music or carpentry,
you build character through repeated action. So today I'll offer
(04:23):
five lenses you can actually use. Then i'll give you
a simple method and a seven day experiment. The point
is not to win arguments, it's to live well with others.
So let's talk about the first lens, and this is
(04:43):
virtue ethics. Who you become by what you repeat. Aristotle
argued that we become just by doing just acts, courageous
by doing courageous acts. That is moralism. It's neurobiology with
a philosophy. Accent Repetition lays down pathways. You're always rehearsing something,
(05:10):
so ask what am I rehearsing today? Impatience, generosity, avoidance, procrastination.
Now here's a practical move. Pick one virtue for the week.
Let's say it's steadiness. You practice it in traffic, in
(05:32):
a meeting with your kids, and small acts do count.
You're voting for a future self. So the second lens
is stoicism. Control what you can and respond to what
you can't. That's the second lens. So there's no mystery here.
(05:56):
Separate what's up to you from what isn't. Your judgments,
your choices, your efforts are yours. Other people's reactions, the weather, algorithms,
the economy not yours. So what's the practical move in this?
The two column note left column within my control, right
(06:17):
column not within my control. When spread stress spikes, glance
at it. Put your energy in the left column and
let go of the right. So lens three, and that
is the existential responsibility freedom with consequences, existential to say
(06:41):
that you're free, and that freedom is heavy. Every choice
sketches the kind of person you are and signals to
others what's acceptable. As a therapist, I see this in
the room, the moment you refuse to joke at someone's expense,
you read a fine the space. So the practical move
(07:04):
in this ask before you act. If everyone did this,
we would start to live in a much better world.
And it's not abstract. It changes how you send emails
and how you talk when you're angry. Let us fall
care and relational ethics. Morality starts in attention. We're not
(07:31):
solow units that sort of float around. We're in a
web of relationship. Connection of care ethics lives in a
tone of voice, response time, and whether you notice the
person who cleans your office, who serves you at the
grocery store. Care ethics says the smallest unit of morality
(07:57):
is the relationship. So practical move practice the ethics of attention.
When someone speaks, strip away your agenda for sixty seconds. Listen,
needs not just claims, reflect back one thing you heard
before you responded. Try this very much with your partner
(08:24):
in life len Us five embodiment and life world. The
body is part of the decision. Phenomenology teaches that we
meet the world through our bodies. Your jaw titans before
your opinion forms, you shoulder slump before you decide your powerless.
(08:49):
If you ignore the body, you miss the first draft
of your ethics. So what's your practical move here? Well,
they're called somatic checkins. Three breaths. Scan your jaw, your chest,
your belly, your hands. Name what's there? Tight, hot, collapse, steady,
(09:10):
Then choose your response. This short circus stops many avoidable harms. Now,
if you're one of my making goodman great listeners, you'll
notice how these lenses line up with the work, habit, responsibility, relationship,
(09:30):
and the body. Men often get told to be better
in abstract terms. Now, interestingly, philosophy gives you structure. It says,
here's the practice, here's the lens I tried today. So
(09:52):
here's a simple method you can use anywhere. And let's
make this really, really portable. I tend to practice these
days unconsciously a five step blop and it's easy to remember.
It's called clear C is for center, one breath, feel
(10:16):
your feed, name your state, l Look what's the context?
Who's affected? Now? And then later E examine which lens
applies virtue, stoke, control, responsibility, care or embodiment a act.
(10:36):
Choose the smallest next ethical move, keep it specific and doable,
and r is review later that day. Ask yourself, did
that move a line with who I'm becoming? What will
I adjust next time? So let's run that through a
(11:00):
bit of a filter. I imagine that you're writing an
email and it's a bit sharp, and you want to
fire off a really clever put down. It's a center.
Your shoulders are tense, you breathe, Your breath is shallow.
Look the recipient is a junior staff member and you've
(11:23):
BC leaders and the tone could humiliate. Examine virtue, steadiness, care, power, dynamic,
existential responsibility. What culture am I setting? Act? Write the issue,
cut the sting off for a path forward? Review? Did
(11:48):
I protect dignity and still hold the line? Second scenario,
your partner's exhausted. You're tired too. What's the center? Name
your own depletion without using it as a weapon. Look
(12:09):
your partners, week, kids, their needs, your bandwidth. Put it
all together. Now, in that context, examine the care ethic
and the stoic control. You are able to control your
effort and tone. So what is the action? How do
(12:33):
you act? Do one concrete task unprompted and say, for example,
I've got dinner, then the review? How did that change
the evening? So let's check in with this with boys
(12:57):
and men. So what are the every day ethics for
men and boys? As you all know, I work a
lot with men and boys, and there are four practices
that shift relationships fast. So the first one, and this
might sound a bit strange, but strength, see it, the steadiness.
(13:22):
Strength isn't dominance. It's the capacity to stay present when
you want to bolt, or attack or just do anything. Now,
practice a steady breath and a steady voice under pressure. That,
for example, is one of the things that builds trust
(13:42):
repair quickly. All of us mess up. Ethical living isn't
harm free, it's harm repaired. So one of the things
that I often say is I'm sorry for interrupting you.
I didn't listen. I want to hear the rest. No,
but learn to repair small and repair fast. The next
(14:10):
one is keep one small promise every day it's not
a grand declaration, a text you said you'd send, a
chore you said you'd do. It's integrity that grows in centimeters.
And the last one in this section is expand your
(14:31):
circle of concern. Ask who's not in the room when
this decision is made. Adjust your actions accordingly. Ethics matures
as your circle grows wider. Now this is where I'm
going to give you a seven day experiment. If you
(14:52):
want philosophy to stick, not just as a way of thinking,
but as a practice, as habits actions, try this one
week plan. It's short, it's doable. It builds muscle, not
just ideas. So the daily fraying is in the morning.
It's two minutes. Name your virtue of the day and
(15:15):
one likely test example patience, test, school, drop off, traffic midday,
one minute clear on one live situation. Evening it might
take about three minutes review what did I rehearse today?
(15:36):
On what will I do differently tomorrow? So Day one
might be attention. Practice the ethics of attention with one person,
listen for forty seconds without fixing or planning solutions or
an outcome. Reflect back what you heard. Okay, this is
what really matters. It's the reflection back. Why does it matter?
(16:01):
Because care begins in listening. People come down when they
feel seen and heard. Day two Speech, use three gates
before you speak or post. Is it true? Is it necessary?
Is it kind? If not, don't say it or if
you need to rework it? Now? Why does that matter? Most?
(16:24):
Daily harm happens through words and our both internet and
just day to day living is full of Day three
Money make one values aligned, money choice, pan, over due,
invoice early, tip well, choose a local business. Now why
(16:47):
does that matter? Ethics is real when it costs you something.
Day four Power Notice one power difference and adjust, give
credit publicly invite the quiet person in share information that
levels the field. Now? Why is this important? Because responsibility
(17:11):
includes how you use power? Day five Repair Find one
small rupture and repair it. A text you ignore a
curt reply, name the impact, and then apologize. Repair keeps
relationships alive. Day six. Boundaries say a clean no where
(17:40):
you usually people please, or say a clean yes where
you usually avoid. No drama, just clarity. Again. Why does
this matter? Because boundaries are ethical because they prevent resentment
and hidden debts. Day seven Gratitude and legacy. Tell someone
(18:07):
specifically how their action help you. Then ask yourself, if
my week or a message to my kids or mentees
about how I live, what did it say to them?
Because remember we teach by example, even when no one's looking,
(18:29):
we're becoming someone. Now by the end of the seven days,
you'll have a map of your habits and a few
new groups might have started coming out of that. So
what do I want to say in closing? Well, so
(18:50):
what can philosophy offer? Well, it's a way to practice
the person you intend to become. Virtue ethics helps you
rehearse Stoicism gives you focus, Existentialism puts weight on your choices.
Care ethics tunes your attention to relationships, and phenomenology reminds
(19:13):
you the body speaks first. Practice, clear, center, look, examine,
act and review. Keep your promises small and consistent, so underpromise,
over deliver, repair quickly, expand your circle of concern. So
(19:38):
that brings me the little clothes. And I want you
to reflect that. If this episode's helped, share it with
someone who is trying to live with more intention. And
if you run the seven day experiment, let me know
how you went. I do read the messages. So this
is me gone to signing off from inspired change and
(20:04):
just take care of yourselves and each other until next on.
This is me.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Starting off, Hello and welcome to all our listeners. Again.
This week, we'll take a look at both the USA
and around the globe. For the US, we'd like to
express our gratitude to those of you listening in Connecticut,
particularly our listeners in Wallingford for keeping your state at
number ten for positive social change. Next, we take a
(20:31):
look at the top twenty on our global listeners list,
and we want to thank our listeners in Peru for
listening and supporting global positive social change. A special thanks
to our listeners and Lima for bringing your country to
number fifteen globally. Your dedication, which we deeply appreciate, pushed
your country to number fifteen. Congratualations. We thank all of
(20:54):
our listeners for tuning in and promoting positive social change.
This makes you a part of Hunter's efforts and transforming
not only men's lives, but lives in general, and we
are grateful you've joined us. I Devana Prinzy, the co
executive producer and our showrunner Miranda Spigner Sapone sincerely thank
(21:15):
you and ask that you please take time to like, follow, subscribe,
and share as your efforts make a difference to everyone
here at Inspire Change with Gunter. Please remember if you
want to share your story of social change, feel free
to reach out to the show directly. Please see the
show notes for our contact information, but most importantly, keep
(21:36):
inspiring positive social change.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
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check out my work on www Dot Guntsboda dot com
or www Dot gutman Grete dot com.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
Thank you for listening to Inspire Change A broadcasts for said, educate, motivate,
and empower men to challenge traditions of masculinity.
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Hello, listeners, it's good to siboa here with some exciting news.
We're on the lookout for sponsors to join us on
our incredible journey with Inspired Change with Conta. If your
organization cares deeply about meaningful conversations around masculinity, self development,
and mental health, we'd love to partner with you. Our
(00:24):
podcast has a wonderful, dedicated audience committed to personal growth
and positive social change. By sponsoring Inspired Change with Conta,
your brand will connect with listeners who truly value thoughtful
discussion and support initiatives that promote real transformation. We're incredibly
(00:47):
proud to be ranked number one in Australia and number
five in the USA on feed spots top men's mental
health Podcasts. For more information on how to become sponsor,
please reach out to Miranda Spegner sap On, our showrunner
and executive producer. We'd love to explore how we can
(01:09):
work together to inspire change. Now. Thank you for your
continued support, and let's keep inspiring change together.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
You're listening to Inspire Change, the broadcast that strives to educate, motivate,
and empower men to challenge traditions of masculinity to guide
us through the intricacies and intersections of emotions, relationships, and
male identity is renownced psychologists, author and speaker Gunter Swubota.
This is Inspire Change.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Before I begin the actual podcast, I would like to
respectfully acknowledge the gategor people of the Order Nation, who
are the traditional custodians of the lane on which I work.
I would also like to pay my respects to their
elders past and Presentlcome everybody to another episode of Inspire
(02:02):
Change with Gunta. I'm your host. Welcome everybody to Inspire Change.
This is episode two hundred and ninety nine of season seven,
so we're close to three hundred and I'm playing around
with what sort of content I'm going to provide for
(02:23):
that particular episode. Now. Today I want to pick up
from where I've been in the last two episodes, which
is about philosophy, philosophy of science, philosophy and politics. But
today I'm going to make it real personal, and that
is how can philosophy contribute to your life? So let's
(02:49):
make this a very practical question and put it to work.
In other words, what can philosophy actually offer for ethical
daily living? The reason why I want to do. This
is because we constantly told that philosophy is pretty well useless.
Now I think I've demonstrated very clearly that philosophy is
(03:12):
the foundation of any practical endeavor that we choose. Okay,
whether that be sides politics, and today it's going to
be about daily living. And no, this is not going
to be like a university lecture. What I'm looking to
do is actually give you a bit of a tool, kid,
(03:34):
for how you speak to your partner, handle money, show
up for work, and treat strangers. If ethics only lives
in books, it won't help you when your teenager rolls
their eyes or when you're about to post something snarky online.
So let's bring it home. I really want to stress
(03:59):
that philosophy at its best isn't armchair theory. It's actually
about how to live. The ancients really understood this. Wisdom
was a craft you practiced that, like music or carpentry,
you build character through repeated action. So today I'll offer
(04:23):
five lenses you can actually use. Then i'll give you
a simple method and a seven day experiment. The point
is not to win arguments, it's to live well with others.
So let's talk about the first lens, and this is
(04:43):
virtue ethics. Who you become by what you repeat. Aristotle
argued that we become just by doing just acts, courageous
by doing courageous acts. That is moralism. It's neurobiology with
a philosophy. Accent Repetition lays down pathways. You're always rehearsing something,
(05:10):
so ask what am I rehearsing today? Impatience, generosity, avoidance, procrastination.
Now here's a practical move. Pick one virtue for the week.
Let's say it's steadiness. You practice it in traffic, in
(05:32):
a meeting with your kids, and small acts do count.
You're voting for a future self. So the second lens
is stoicism. Control what you can and respond to what
you can't. That's the second lens. So there's no mystery here.
(05:56):
Separate what's up to you from what isn't. Your judgments,
your choices, your efforts are yours. Other people's reactions, the weather, algorithms,
the economy not yours. So what's the practical move in this?
The two column note left column within my control, right
(06:17):
column not within my control. When spread stress spikes, glance
at it. Put your energy in the left column and
let go of the right. So lens three, and that
is the existential responsibility freedom with consequences, existential to say
(06:41):
that you're free, and that freedom is heavy. Every choice
sketches the kind of person you are and signals to
others what's acceptable. As a therapist, I see this in
the room, the moment you refuse to joke at someone's expense,
you read a fine the space. So the practical move
(07:04):
in this ask before you act. If everyone did this,
we would start to live in a much better world.
And it's not abstract. It changes how you send emails
and how you talk when you're angry. Let us fall
care and relational ethics. Morality starts in attention. We're not
(07:31):
solow units that sort of float around. We're in a
web of relationship. Connection of care ethics lives in a
tone of voice, response time, and whether you notice the
person who cleans your office, who serves you at the
grocery store. Care ethics says the smallest unit of morality
(07:57):
is the relationship. So practical move practice the ethics of attention.
When someone speaks, strip away your agenda for sixty seconds. Listen,
needs not just claims, reflect back one thing you heard
before you responded. Try this very much with your partner
(08:24):
in life len Us five embodiment and life world. The
body is part of the decision. Phenomenology teaches that we
meet the world through our bodies. Your jaw titans before
your opinion forms, you shoulder slump before you decide your powerless.
(08:49):
If you ignore the body, you miss the first draft
of your ethics. So what's your practical move here? Well,
they're called somatic checkins. Three breaths. Scan your jaw, your chest,
your belly, your hands. Name what's there? Tight, hot, collapse, steady,
(09:10):
Then choose your response. This short circus stops many avoidable harms. Now,
if you're one of my making goodman great listeners, you'll
notice how these lenses line up with the work, habit, responsibility, relationship,
(09:30):
and the body. Men often get told to be better
in abstract terms. Now, interestingly, philosophy gives you structure. It says,
here's the practice, here's the lens I tried today. So
(09:52):
here's a simple method you can use anywhere. And let's
make this really, really portable. I tend to practice these
days unconsciously a five step blop and it's easy to remember.
It's called clear C is for center, one breath, feel
(10:16):
your feed, name your state, l Look what's the context?
Who's affected? Now? And then later E examine which lens
applies virtue, stoke, control, responsibility, care or embodiment a act.
(10:36):
Choose the smallest next ethical move, keep it specific and doable,
and r is review later that day. Ask yourself, did
that move a line with who I'm becoming? What will
I adjust next time? So let's run that through a
(11:00):
bit of a filter. I imagine that you're writing an
email and it's a bit sharp, and you want to
fire off a really clever put down. It's a center.
Your shoulders are tense, you breathe, Your breath is shallow.
Look the recipient is a junior staff member and you've
(11:23):
BC leaders and the tone could humiliate. Examine virtue, steadiness, care, power, dynamic,
existential responsibility. What culture am I setting? Act? Write the issue,
cut the sting off for a path forward? Review? Did
(11:48):
I protect dignity and still hold the line? Second scenario,
your partner's exhausted. You're tired too. What's the center? Name
your own depletion without using it as a weapon. Look
(12:09):
your partners, week, kids, their needs, your bandwidth. Put it
all together. Now, in that context, examine the care ethic
and the stoic control. You are able to control your
effort and tone. So what is the action? How do
(12:33):
you act? Do one concrete task unprompted and say, for example,
I've got dinner, then the review? How did that change
the evening? So let's check in with this with boys
(12:57):
and men. So what are the every day ethics for
men and boys? As you all know, I work a
lot with men and boys, and there are four practices
that shift relationships fast. So the first one, and this
might sound a bit strange, but strength, see it, the steadiness.
(13:22):
Strength isn't dominance. It's the capacity to stay present when
you want to bolt, or attack or just do anything. Now,
practice a steady breath and a steady voice under pressure. That,
for example, is one of the things that builds trust
(13:42):
repair quickly. All of us mess up. Ethical living isn't
harm free, it's harm repaired. So one of the things
that I often say is I'm sorry for interrupting you.
I didn't listen. I want to hear the rest. No,
but learn to repair small and repair fast. The next
(14:10):
one is keep one small promise every day it's not
a grand declaration, a text you said you'd send, a
chore you said you'd do. It's integrity that grows in centimeters.
And the last one in this section is expand your
(14:31):
circle of concern. Ask who's not in the room when
this decision is made. Adjust your actions accordingly. Ethics matures
as your circle grows wider. Now this is where I'm
going to give you a seven day experiment. If you
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want philosophy to stick, not just as a way of thinking,
but as a practice, as habits actions, try this one
week plan. It's short, it's doable. It builds muscle, not
just ideas. So the daily fraying is in the morning.
It's two minutes. Name your virtue of the day and
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one likely test example patience, test, school, drop off, traffic midday,
one minute clear on one live situation. Evening it might
take about three minutes review what did I rehearse today?
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On what will I do differently tomorrow? So Day one
might be attention. Practice the ethics of attention with one person,
listen for forty seconds without fixing or planning solutions or
an outcome. Reflect back what you heard. Okay, this is
what really matters. It's the reflection back. Why does it matter?
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Because care begins in listening. People come down when they
feel seen and heard. Day two Speech, use three gates
before you speak or post. Is it true? Is it necessary?
Is it kind? If not, don't say it or if
you need to rework it? Now? Why does that matter? Most?
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Daily harm happens through words and our both internet and
just day to day living is full of Day three
Money make one values aligned, money choice, pan, over due,
invoice early, tip well, choose a local business. Now why
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does that matter? Ethics is real when it costs you something.
Day four Power Notice one power difference and adjust, give
credit publicly invite the quiet person in share information that
levels the field. Now? Why is this important? Because responsibility
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includes how you use power? Day five Repair Find one
small rupture and repair it. A text you ignore a
curt reply, name the impact, and then apologize. Repair keeps
relationships alive. Day six. Boundaries say a clean no where
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you usually people please, or say a clean yes where
you usually avoid. No drama, just clarity. Again. Why does
this matter? Because boundaries are ethical because they prevent resentment
and hidden debts. Day seven Gratitude and legacy. Tell someone
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specifically how their action help you. Then ask yourself, if
my week or a message to my kids or mentees
about how I live, what did it say to them?
Because remember we teach by example, even when no one's looking,
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we're becoming someone. Now by the end of the seven days,
you'll have a map of your habits and a few
new groups might have started coming out of that. So
what do I want to say in closing? Well, so
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what can philosophy offer? Well, it's a way to practice
the person you intend to become. Virtue ethics helps you
rehearse Stoicism gives you focus, Existentialism puts weight on your choices.
Care ethics tunes your attention to relationships, and phenomenology reminds
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you the body speaks first. Practice, clear, center, look, examine,
act and review. Keep your promises small and consistent, so underpromise,
over deliver, repair quickly, expand your circle of concern. So
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that brings me the little clothes. And I want you
to reflect that. If this episode's helped, share it with
someone who is trying to live with more intention. And
if you run the seven day experiment, let me know
how you went. I do read the messages. So this
is me gone to signing off from inspired change and
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just take care of yourselves and each other until next on.
This is me.
Speaker 3 (20:10):
Starting off, Hello and welcome to all our listeners. Again.
This week, we'll take a look at both the USA
and around the globe. For the US, we'd like to
express our gratitude to those of you listening in Connecticut,
particularly our listeners in Wallingford for keeping your state at
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and we want to thank our listeners in Peru for
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to our listeners and Lima for bringing your country to
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your country to number fifteen. Congratualations. We thank all of
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This makes you a part of Hunter's efforts and transforming
not only men's lives, but lives in general, and we
are grateful you've joined us. I Devana Prinzy, the co
executive producer and our showrunner Miranda Spigner Sapone sincerely thank
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