Inspire Change SEASON 7-305 Towards the End of This Year

This week on Inspire Change...Gunter is ad-libbing as we wrap up the year.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, listeners, it's good to siboa here with some exciting news.
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work together to inspire change. Now. Thank you for your
continued support, and let's keep inspiring change together.

Speaker 2 (01:18):
You're listening to Inspire Change, the broadcast that strives to educate, motivate,
and empower men to challenge traditions of masculinity to guide
us through the intricacies and intersections of emotions, relationships, and
male identity is renownced psychologists, author and speaker Gunter Swubota.

Speaker 3 (01:36):
This is Inspire Change.

Speaker 1 (01:40):
Before I begin the actual podcast, I would like to
respectfully acknowledge the gategor people of the Order Nation, who
are the traditional custodians of the lane on which I work.
I would also like to pay my respects to their elders,
past and present. Welcome everybody to another episode of Inspire

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Change with Gunter. I'm your host. Welcome everybody to another
episode of Inspire Change with Gunter. I'm your host, Sperboda.
I am a psychologist or a psychotherapist, a researcher, author, So
I've got a few strings to my bow, and I

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actually have no intention of slaying any of that down.
So today is going to be a bit of an
ad lib because I was looking at the calendar and
I realized that we're heading towards the end of the year.
Shock horror, another year is going into decline. And you know,

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in a way, the question is what are we done
with this period of time? Have we weathered crises, trauma,
have we achieved things, have we repaired some of our
own emotional states and relationships. So where are we at

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actually with all of this?

Speaker 4 (03:10):
And so part of this reflection then came down to
the question of, well, where's the podcasts gone? And it's
really interesting because in many respects, despite the fact that
I thought I was being quite structured, there was a
bunch of stuff that came up that I actually needed to.

Speaker 1 (03:29):
Wanted to pull together so that it makes a deeper
sense for people. In case that's needed, obviously you need
to be judge of that. I'm essentially here giving you
my version of the story. So one of the things
that's come up is that at times an entire season

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can point to one very clear truth, and in this case,
one of them is that men change when they have
a framework, when they have a community and a reason
that matters. So today I want to gather all we've
learned across the recent episodes and possibly turn it into

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maybe a bit of a plan you can live with
this week, not a slogan, but a practice. So again,
welcome to inspired change with me, because, like you, I
always look at how it is that I can change,
especially for the better. Whilst we're on that, one of

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my challenges is that fundamentally, I'm a bit of a
hedonist and so I like finding the path of resistance.
Yet at the same time, I can be extremely disciplined,
practiced in getting stuff done. So let me bring this

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back again to the whole point. So what have we
gotten out of this season so far? While we've explored purpose,
we've explored relationships, and to some degree with explored leadership.
As you know, I treat selfhood as something you make,

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not something you just stumble across or pay thousands of
dollars for in a weekend workshop. I've also looked at
how repair builds trust faster than any performance. Now, when
I talk about repair, as you clicked from the beginning,
I'm talking about emotional repair and I'm talking about relational repair.

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So where are the ruptures in my life that I
need to include in a process of repair? Now this
applies to our relationship with my partner, my family, my kids,
and the teams that work. And it's that which makes
it fundamentally reasonable to assume that when we have a goal,

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then that goal is about purpose and not status. So
let's stitch those threads together, and I want to give
you something you can carry out the door when this
episode ends. So let's start with a spine of work.
Identity is built, okay, so you know the self that

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you perceive is what you put together, and it takes
shape in daily choices, not in one single revelation or
insight that may happen in therapy or in your life
in general. When where as men accept that, they stop

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policing themselves with old rules and start shaping habits that
match their values. Part of my research is looking at
how traditional masculine values or norms have an unconscious and
subconscious impact on how we are and what we do

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with that. So the other part of it is that
growth doesn't happen in isolation either. It happens in the
heat of relationships. So in the way that you listen, interrupt, apologize,
and make amends. Remember, rupture and repair these things are

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not nothing bad. I often interrupt my wife and she
gets shitty with me when I do it, and I
back off, I apologize and I make amends, and beneath
all of that sits purpose. What we need to recognize

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is that performance shouts and fades. Purpose is steady and quiet,
and when purpose sets the metric, you stop chasing applause
and status and start delivering what matters. There's too much performance,

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There's there's too much noise. We need to dial it down.
Look at the global stage. You know, we can't shut
Trump up. It just keeps going and it just gets
from bad to worse. But there are other politicians, other
leaders who commit the same errors in life. So how

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does that look like in real life? For your So
picture a week On Monday morning, you feel the usual
rush starting in your chest. Instead of pushing through, you
take sixty seconds. You slow the exhale, you uncleanch your jaw,

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name what is present, and then speak, good morning, how
are you? It is simple, and it's not easy, but
that one minute changes the quality of the next hour. Midweek,
a conversation goes sideways with your partner, your colleague. You

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notice your speed picking up and your voice getting tight.
You pause and say the real thing. I can feel
myself wanting to fix this fast. You ask for a reset,
You state the shared task. The two of you agree
on the next small step. You didn't win, it's something

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better you repaired, and that is how trust grows. By
Sunday evening, you sit down for a brief purpose check
ten minutes. What did I do that served my purpose?
Where did I drift into ego or avoidance? What one

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repair or one hard ask will I make this week?
You did not make a self. You choose a single action,
and you book it in the week that follows already
feels different, not because you solved everything, but because you

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gave yourself a path. There is another move that turned
up again and again in your messages in our interviews.
I call it the and also move. You hold two
truths without fighting for a winner. I am firm on
the boundary and I am listening. I have standards, and

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I am flexible on the method. Men who practice this
report end up blocking fewer busts, fewer ruptures, and they
move to trust, both at home and at work. It
does feel awkward at first, but then it becomes the

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way that you speak in therapy rooms and in teams.
The same patterns showed up when leaders and clinicians named
the pressure points. In the moment the work improved, I
noticed that I'm speeding up to fix this my internal

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dialogue as a therapist, I slow things down. The room
room slows, people begin to think together. That brittle neutrality,
that sitting beyond the boundary that we often use in

(12:15):
difficult situations, begins to soften, I begin to let my
shield down, my miysing drops away, and the real conversation begins.
Small embodied shifts made the biggest difference. A steadier cadence

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when tension rises, a reset before you dig in, an
apology that doesn't carry a lecture. Inside organizations, purpose led
leadership at performed dominance theater teamabilized when expectations were clear

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and the cadence was humane. When status games were named
and retired, performance improved because people could focus on the task.
The same logic applies at home. Children and partners respond
to clarity and steadiness more than volume. If you were

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to distill this episode to a single page and pin
it on your fridge, it would read like this. Each day,
take one minute to regulate before a hard conversation. Then
take one purposeful action each week. Run the short order,
and choose one repair or one heart ask each month.

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Through review where you managed to hold both firmness and
openness and where you collapsed into either or each quarter,
upgrade one life system, movement, money or time, so will
pell becomes less necessary. That is the work it's not heroic,

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it's consistent.

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Speaker 1 (15:08):
So, as we close this arc, I want a story
from you. Tell me what you tried, where it broke,
and how you're repaired so we can utilize that. Share
it with me now before we finish. A quick way
to support this work and go deeper is to read now.

(15:30):
There will be a second edition of Making Good Men
great surfing New Masculinity coming out, so that might be
a good place to start for many of you, especially
the men in my audience. But for some lighthearted entertainment,
maybe not so light pilot for some. My wife's and

(15:54):
my book, Ambulance of Power Brian Paul Mystery is now
out and you can purchase it through all the major
outlets on the internet now. The story is character driven,
but it's also about memory power and the cost of conviction.
It is the clash of cultural domains. Now, if you

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enjoy a mystery with moral stakes and real atmosphere, this
book should be on your nightstand. So until next time,
this is me signing off bit of an ad lib,
but some deep food for thought and for action, less
noise and more doing So, until next time, this is

(16:40):
me signing off.

Speaker 6 (16:41):
Hello to all our listeners. We thank you for tuning
in and promoting positive social change. This makes you a
part of Gunter's efforts in transforming not only men's lives,
but lives in general, and we are grateful you have
joined us. This week, we're taking a look at the
USA's top ten listeners life and would like to share
our gratitude with our listeners.

Speaker 1 (17:03):
In Atlanta for.

Speaker 6 (17:04):
Bringing Georgia all the way to the top at number one.
As you've been steadily climbing the chart in your efforts
of supporting positive social change. Congraduations you made it to
number one. I Devona Prenzy, the co executive producer and
our showrunner Miranda Spigner's oppone, along with Gunter, sincerely thank

(17:28):
you and ask that you please take the time to like, follow, subscribe,
and share as your efforts make a difference to everyone
here at Inspire Change with Gunter. Please remember if you
want to share your story of social change, feel free
to reach out to the show directly. Please see the
show notes for our contact information. As always, thank you

(17:49):
to each and every one of our listeners and most importantly,
keep inspiring positive social change.

Speaker 1 (17:56):
Love to hear from you, and if you're sted, please
check out my work on www. Dot Gonta Sloboda dot
com or www Dot Goodman Grade dot com.

Speaker 3 (18:13):
Thank you for listening to Inspire Change, a broadcast this
rights to educate, motivate, and empower men to challenge traditions
of masculinity. For more information on the Making good Men
Great movement, or for individual or group coaching, centships with Gunter.
Visit Goodman Grade dot com.