July 21, 2022 • 38 mins
Join the breakroom as we talk about LIFE, GOALS, MANIFESTATION, AND BLOCKING BLESSINGS with podcast host KarynElle from the @sayitloud podcast. Grab your electronics and pull up a chair as we discuss life and goals.
More about Karyn Elle:
This Mama of three is an all-around mompreneur that brings all of her talents to the table, Child Actress, Media Account Executive, Special Educator, Small Business Owner, and Life Lover.
Karyn holds an Associates Degree in Media Communications, A Bachelor of Arts in Liberal Studies with a Concentration in Media Communication, and a Masters Of Science in Adolescent Special Education.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/joi-just-organize-it-with-qui-talks--2910746/support.
More about Karyn Elle:
This Mama of three is an all-around mompreneur that brings all of her talents to the table, Child Actress, Media Account Executive, Special Educator, Small Business Owner, and Life Lover.
Karyn holds an Associates Degree in Media Communications, A Bachelor of Arts in Liberal Studies with a Concentration in Media Communication, and a Masters Of Science in Adolescent Special Education.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/joi-just-organize-it-with-qui-talks--2910746/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:57):
Eight Talkers.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Welcome to a cute talk show.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
And as you guys all know, when you talk, everyone listens,
all right, So today we are having a conversation with
Karen Hell. So I'm really excited about this because we're
going to talk about life.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Goals, manifestation, and blocking blessings.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
And I know many of us are in that you know,
realm right now where we're all trying to manifest our goals.
We're all trying to manifest our dreams and aspirations everything
that comes with it.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
But there are a lot of blocking agents.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
As some of us who are religious know, we say
the blocking agents are the devil, and those of us
who are spiritual will say that the blocking agents are
more of the universe.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Right, So with us what I like to do?
Speaker 3 (01:57):
What actually what I'm going to do when she once
Karen gets here, I'm actually messaging her while I'm.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Talking to you guys at the same time. But okay,
so just my.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Te message her.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
But what we're gonna do, We're gonna get to know
a little bit more about Karen.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
And then I've been saying, Karen, so please forgive me.
It's Karen.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
Okay, Karen, We're gonna get to know a little bit
more about the wonderful Mama at three and also this
magnificent personality, her energy. You guys, I don't know if
you saw a last interview where actually I was featured
on her podcast Say It Loud Outcasts, But when I.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Was introduced to her, I thought I had a high
energy girl. She got me b but I was very excited.
That makes me way more.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Comfortable when it comes to interviews because you guys know
I bring the energy. So someone is reciprocating that, Oh,
it's about to be a good time. So I'm really
excited about this. I don't understand people are always leave
for lunch. Why are we waiting for lunch.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
This is the time that we're supposed to be on
time because you want the longest cunjury. But in the meantime,
let's just chat it up a little bit.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
So I do want to touch on some aspects in
terms of what the show is going to look like
today and what the future shows are going to look
like as well. So let's just do the rundown of today.
So today we're going to get to know Karen. Then
we are going to do the Q and A Park
(03:35):
as we all know, we're going to talk about life,
both manifestation and blocking blessings.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
And then we're gonna do a quiz with her.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
So I do not know if many of you guys
have seen I didn't post this up too many times,
but I created a self care quiz, right So if
you go on my website, you Talk stot Show, you
can click on this link that says take the self
care Quiz. So the self care quiz I decided because
(04:03):
I wanted to know if I am in the right
direction of taking care of myself the right way. So
the self care Quiz is basically, oh quiz that is
going to tell you if you're taking care of yourself
in the right direction or not. So I'm actually gonna
do this quiz with Karen, So I'm excited about that.
(04:24):
Additional to that future, can you talk season eight? Yes,
I know, we're like, wait, we're still season seven? How
are we already playing the season eight? So I'm thinking
about tapping back into what you talk first originally was
when we first started, and you know when he talks
(04:45):
without first QTV And for those who do know and
those who used to watch, then you all.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Know that I started out in the fashion industry.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
So with me starting out in the fashion industry, I
was a both to get the leg up as to
where I am right now. But the fashion industry is
you know, I consider that as the husband or the
boyfriend that I will never get rid of because I
was so engulfed in it, especially in high school and elementary.
(05:19):
I would say with elementary it was more like paper
knowledge kind of fashion. But as I got into high school,
I started taking pre college courses at fi T.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Then I started interning the youngest high school intern.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Yeah, I was interning with designers in high school, and
I was actually one of their youngest interns because who's
accepting high school kids to the interns. Well, now they're doing,
but back in the days, they're really do much of that.
So I was really in this industry. I was doing
all the fashion week shows, like Real New York Fashion
(05:51):
Week with Mercedes Bends, working with IMG and I really
have a deep down love for this those who follow
me you see, like my style has never left. But
I'm just really excited about season eight because I'm going
back to my roots. We're going to dive into the
fashion industry again, and I'm not sure what the show
(06:14):
is going to look like yet. I'm not sure which
direction I'm taking it yet. But in the meantime, season
eight is going to be all about fashion, and it's
going to be in the fall.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
We're going to start the show.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Season eight in the fall because summer season's coming to
an end soon. But I really want to be able
to I see that everybody.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Actually I should say this.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
I see that we are moving in a world of creativity.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
In the world of pop, in the world of like color, in.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
The world of people being their own. So I want
to be able to dive into that.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
But give me.
Speaker 4 (06:53):
When Okay, so I am back.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Yeah, So what happened? Karen was following me. She was
having technical difficulties. As we know, technology is not the
best thing. But in the meantime, as I was saying,
season eight is gonna be all about the fashion industry.
But we're gonna continue to finish season seven. I'm so
excited that Karen is coming in.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
We're so excited to have her.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
And when she pops in, her audio pops in, We're
gonna welcome.
Speaker 5 (09:11):
Hi, welcome, How are you?
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I'm weelling yourself. Finally you made it. Thank you for
having thank you for coming. Of course I wouldn't miss it.
I wouldn't miss it. We make it work.
Speaker 6 (09:28):
I have to be, you know, creative and how with things,
but we make it work.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Honestly, that's perfect that you said that, because I literally
was just saying about how work in a generation right
now where everybody only wants to be creative.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Everyone's so creative.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Everybody is just happened into what can I do to
make this work? Because back in the days it wasn't
that easy.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
But I do. I already told the audience the rundown
for today.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
We're gonna get to know a little bit more about you.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
Then we're also that I do a Q and A
with life Folds, math fest Stations and you know, block
and blessings. We're going to talk about all of that,
and then we're going to close the show with the
self care quiz that I have on my website. So
I'm gonna have you go to my selfware self Care
Quiz to see if.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
You are thinking you okay?
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Perfect? Perfect. So from my viewer is let them know
who were we talking to? Tell us a little bit
more about Karen. Please, Wow, I don't there's so much
and then there's so little. I'm Karl.
Speaker 6 (10:36):
I am the host and creator of staith Loud saith
Loud podcast.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Now I'm building it out into a brand, so we
have say it Sexy.
Speaker 6 (10:46):
So I have a podcast that I started about three
years ago because in my real life I'm a teacher.
My undergraduate and media communications. That has always been my
passion and what I love doing. And when I got
to I needed to get direct deposit every two weeks,
and so I was like, well, what can I do
(11:06):
that is going to allow me to be a mom
to my children?
Speaker 1 (11:09):
And so I went back and got my master's degree.
Speaker 6 (11:11):
In education, and then a couple of years into that,
I was like, this is all right.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
You know, I don't get to be the creator and
the comedy and that I naturally am, So what am
I going to do?
Speaker 6 (11:25):
And a few months after that, I launched Safeloud podcast
and I just talked my shit and people love it.
And then we've charted all over the world and then
we were like, well, let's add T shirts and merch
and then we did that, and then I did a
show call What's in your Whole Bag?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
And I was like, I'm gonna make a whole bag,
and then we launched.
Speaker 6 (11:46):
We launched the lingerie line a year later, because you
need things to go in the whole bag.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
And then people started coming to me and was like, well,
how do you do it?
Speaker 6 (11:57):
And then I was like, at first I was just
giving it away, like it's not hard and you can
do it. And then I was like, yeah, my student
loans say that y'all got to pay me for this.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
You can't just pick my brain for free. And so
now I coach other podcasters and.
Speaker 6 (12:14):
Other small businesses into growing and help create content and
kind of do.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Things on the back and uh there.
Speaker 6 (12:22):
So yeah, that's that's pretty much you know at all,
I was saying, pretty much, that's it.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Say it loud please wow.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
So, as I was telling the audience, I was like,
when I first met you, I thought I was the
one who bring the energy to the room, and I
found someone that matched my energy.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
So I was like, yo, I would think that is phenomenal.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
So I love this, this is amazing. Well, one person, I.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
Do want to give you your flowers for being a
parable black woman in this world and standing on your
own two feet and showing your kids what it's like
to be a strong black woman.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Congratulations, mama, thank you, thank you, thank you. Now let's
die in here. I appreciate that. Yeah, all right, let's go.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
So what right we know that you've been doing.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
You you had your highs, you had your lows, you
had all of that.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
How did you stay balanced, especially with the voice and
then having.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
To figure out how to pay bills and have kids
and also starting a podcast and working.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
How do you stay balanced?
Speaker 6 (13:26):
So the funny, the depth of that and the mean
of that is that I didn't learn to stay balanced
during those times.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
I didn't learn what balance was until I got to
the other end of the tunnel. You know.
Speaker 6 (13:41):
So while you are in the while you are in
the midst of divorce, or you're in the midst of chaos,
or you're in the midst of whatever you're feeling that
you feel like you don't have control over.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
You don't know.
Speaker 6 (13:55):
How to balance it, and no one teaches us really
how to do that, you know. So I can teach
someone else because of where I've been and what I've
gone through, But at the time, there wasn't.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Really anybody there, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6 (14:08):
And now that I look at hindsight, I'm like, damn,
life was you know, there was times where life was
kind of a mess. You know, I was a mom
at seventeen years old, so there was times where life
was a mess and I.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Couldn't balance, and I didn't know how unbalanced I was.
Speaker 6 (14:21):
I didn't know what that was doing to me internally
and physically, right, because people think it's just emotional, like, No,
your emotions be affecting how you feel physically, and when
you're sick, you're sick in more than one way.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
But that's a whole other show.
Speaker 6 (14:38):
And you know, a lot of people now are like, well,
how do you find the balance between the work and
the full time job having been divorced managing the kids.
I think now hindsight, being twenty twenty, is that I've
learned that I'm human, that it's okay to stop and
be like.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
You know what, this is overwhelming, it's too much. I
can't do this today. We have this.
Speaker 6 (15:00):
It's just just as much as we're powerful, strong black women,
we have this mentality that we got to always be powerful,
strong black women. And there's days where I'm not strong today.
I can't make a fist today, I'm tired, my emotions
are drained, I'm spent. I need to pour back into myself.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
And so now I know what that feels like.
Speaker 6 (15:25):
Now I know when, like I need to take a break.
I know when I need to replenish my soul. I
know when I need to sit still and to be
a creator and to be a comedian in some ways,
and to be my best self. I've had to learn
that in order to be that, I have to take
that time for myself.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Now I did have I wanted to piggyback off. Okay,
for you taking the time for yourself. Do you mind
telling everybody your age or what age brake at you for?
Speaker 6 (15:55):
No, I don't tell I tell everybody my age because
I feel like people are uncomfortable with their age when
they are not comfortable with themselves. When when you're comfortable
with yourself, you are comfortable with your age. I am
forty four years old. I'm forty three. I'll be forty
four in October. I am the mother of three and
the grandmother of two. And when you start a podcast
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or you have a life where people can look in
your little window, you have to be very comfortable with
who you are. And I'm very comfortable with who I'm
the coolest motherfucking grandmother is out there, you know what
I mean. I hang out with my kids like day,
my homies, I talk to them just like this I
talk to you, And so the idea of age doesn't
intimidate me because I'm sinking deeper into my skin.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
You know. I think people are comfortable because.
Speaker 6 (16:43):
They think they have to be something, or they have
to be somewhere, they have to have certain accomplishments.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
And my life's like pretty lit.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
You know.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
I look at my own page.
Speaker 6 (16:54):
I've been thinking I'm not doing enough, and then I
look at the pictures on my Facebook, on my Instagram,
and I'd be.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Like, Yo, this ship pretty cool.
Speaker 6 (17:01):
And then I don't feel that sense of like, nah,
I can't tell people.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
How old I am, cause you know, I'm.
Speaker 6 (17:08):
A cougar, you know, I tend to and I'm okay
with that, Like I know how old I am, I
know how old I don't act, and I'm.
Speaker 4 (17:16):
Alright with that.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
So the reason why I ask you for your ages
because I wanted to show that age wasn't really an issue.
Because one of the things that were realizing is the
cuss between the millennials, the gen ZS and gen wise
and so on, is because the source of information.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
I'm a millennial.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
I'm thirty two, So for me, I'm on the cuss
where I wasn't. I wasn't really raised with a cell phone,
but then I also was introduced to the cell phone.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
That it's infancy age.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Whereas someone underneath right me is you know, they were
raised with internet and all of that stuff. So one
thing that I do realize, especially with my mother, my
mother is in her fifties, she's fifty five. My mother,
she too is now becoming more of her own. She's
now understanding herself and now understanding when she needs to
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be when she needs some time for herself. She needs
some time for herself. But one of the things I
feel like the world of information has enlightened that for
every generation.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Because if it wasn't for that, we would.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
All be repeating these generational habits that Grandma did and
holding anger in and holding all of that.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
So I am.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Sure that I wanted to tax your age to show
everybody that it doesn't matter how old you are, you
really can rejuvenate your life and really realize, yo, I
can do this.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I don't have to.
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Sink into just because I had kids, grandkids and.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
All of that stuff.
Speaker 6 (18:39):
So I still no, I still live my best life.
Like I think people think like, oh, well you're grandma,
you can't date. I'm like, well I have to if
I want to get married again, you know. Or you
can't go out and or you can't go out and
be in the club because you got a babysit. And
I'd be telling my daughter like, well, I'm going out,
you know, so I can't have babysit tonight, Like it's okay,
(19:00):
I'll be around tomorrow night. Maybe, Oh you gotta book
me in advance, just like everybody else, you know, like
you know, but I feel like we can't. The generational
stuff is heavy for me. You know, it's really heavy
for me, especially the Caribbean parents and that generational stuff
and like you know, going through divorce having children young,
like I broke every single generational curse and real like
(19:21):
I've done, been divorced, I done, have kids in my teens.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
I done, you know what I mean, Like I've done.
I've went back to school and got degrees.
Speaker 6 (19:29):
Where there's certain cultures where it's like women are not
supposed to have big boisterous voices, and then there's.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
Me, and then there's me who comes out with it loud,
saying loud, yeah yeah, like and I'm you know, I don't.
Speaker 6 (19:44):
I don't live by the stereotypical, you know, storyline, and
I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
I don't. I don't want to.
Speaker 6 (19:52):
And that was a very hard mold to break too,
because it's like you're going against everything, you know.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
So with that being a hard mold to break, how
did you balance? Because me myself, I don't have as
much on my plate as you do.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
I don't have any kids.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
The only thing I would say would be my overwhelming
factor's work. All the different things I involved myself is
But as a parent and a grandmother, how did you
create those schedules to be able to allocate time for
yourself and your passions?
Speaker 1 (20:21):
What is it that you did? What were your sets? Really?
I plan a lot. I'm a planner junkie.
Speaker 6 (20:29):
I have a whole Instagram and YouTube dedicated just to
my planner life, and I had to do that. I
started planning when I was younger with my daughter. But
then I was like, got older and I went to
go school. I was like, wait a minute, I got
grad school, I got the remnants of this divorce, I
got the kids' schedules, I got my schedules, and I
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had to sit down and plan, like plan my life
and be intentional with what I was planning. And so
if you look at my plan and I carry it
with me because it's like my bible, Like.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Saturdays, for instance, I'm off, I'm off, there's no you.
That time is for life. You know, that time is
for chuck e cheese with my kid even though he
don't want to go to check. That time is family time.
Speaker 6 (21:14):
With the podcast, it got to the point where I
was recording every day. I literally had an interview set
up every day, and my poor son every day was like, Mom,
can we go today? And I'm like, no, not today, baby.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Can we go tomorrow? Mom? No, not tomorrow. So now
I was like, no, y'all. Got Tuesdays and Thursdays.
Speaker 6 (21:29):
Those are the days that I'm willing to sit down
and that I'm in my own personal studio recording anything
outside of that I book.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
So it's really being intentional with my time.
Speaker 6 (21:37):
I just got back from Disney World on Sunday thirteen.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
The whole entire time that I was there.
Speaker 6 (21:44):
I was like, I wasn't on my phone, I barely
took any pictures. I was like, I'm just gonna live
in this moment and take this moment in and enjoy
this moment with my with my daughter and my son,
because that's where I needed to be and my soul
needed that.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
That trip us for.
Speaker 6 (22:00):
Him, but my soul needed replenished. I needed to feel
some joy. And so I was like, I'm gonna step
away from the social media. I'm gonna step away from
the phone this weekend.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Unless it's an emergency.
Speaker 6 (22:08):
I'm not talking to nobody and really just carving out time.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
You know.
Speaker 6 (22:14):
Also, like you said, you're a millennial with the cell phone,
just like we're out of this constant satisfy, satisfaction of.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Being able to speak to people, being able to.
Speaker 6 (22:23):
Reach out, of being engaged in, you know, something that's
not in front of us really in real life and
being accessible. And I had recently I was just like, no,
I'm not answering. Like I will straight be in the
house and be like, I'm not answering the phone. Yeah,
and my kids, my kids will be like, mom, the
phone's ring, and I'd be like.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I hear it. I don't want to talk to nobody
right now. Yes, and I don't talk to nobody.
Speaker 6 (22:49):
Good now for those who are looking to get to
that level.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
If the phone's ringing, I don't want to speak to anybody.
What does a planner look like to you? What is
it that you're at Are you planning every hour of
your day? What is the are you taking time out
for working out? What does your day to day planner
look like?
Speaker 6 (23:06):
So my day to day planner blocks out all the
big things I need to do for the day, So
like I was at work today, so that's blocked out,
and then the things I need to do at work
are listed there. My gym time is blocked out so
that I make that time for myself. So the next
thing is I was scheduling all of work like podcasts, interviews,
photo shoots, you.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Know, emails.
Speaker 6 (23:27):
I'm scheduling a lot of work because people like to
look busy. But and I you know, I'm a black
woman that goes to therapy. FYI.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
My therapist was.
Speaker 6 (23:37):
Like, but you don't got nothing in there for yourself, Like, yes,
you got Saturday with your son, but you don't have
anything there for yourself. I'm gonna need you to block
out that gym time and not just go because you can,
but set your intention. And so really, when I think
about life and I think about where I am and
how I could sink into my skin, I think about
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setting into like more than planning, you have to set
your intentions.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
What do you want out of your life? What do
you want out of your weekend? What do you want
out of your day? Right? And set your intention?
Speaker 6 (24:10):
And so every day, Yes, I could just write the
things I need to do, but more importantly is what
is my intention for today and how I want to
feel and what I want to accomplish.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
How does this get me closer to my goals?
Speaker 6 (24:23):
Because you could just get a planner and write down appointments, Like,
that's not I'm not planning appointments. I'm planning life. I'm
planning vacations. I'm planning trips. I'm planning five years, ten years.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
I'm planning a.
Speaker 6 (24:35):
Rich husband so that I could retire and run my business. Like,
I'm not just planning how to get through the week
with what I have to do. I'm intentional in what
I want to do.
Speaker 3 (24:46):
Ay Man, I love that, especially being intentional on what
you want to do. So I'm kind of happy that
you brought up the whole therapy thing because I too.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Am in therapy and one of the things that my
therapist had me do was write out the list. And
she said, you were given all.
Speaker 3 (25:01):
The money in the world, anything you could. They gave
you the entire planet on a platter. What would you
do with it? And I was just like, Oh, I'll
travel here, I'll do this, by house here, do that
and this to that.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
And she's like, I need.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
You to look at your list, like you didn't put family, husband,
anything that had to do You don't even put a dog,
Like you didn't put anything I had to do with
being a companion. Then she's like, you have to sit
down and really evaluate do you want to be rich
and lonely?
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Do you want to be rich in alone?
Speaker 3 (25:30):
Like you have to like what you're a therapist said,
but you have to put the time out for yourself.
And those are the things that especially with millennials are
learning now in terms of being intentional manifestations.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
How are you intentional? Because a lot of people are
there trying.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I feel like this is the year of intention for
many people, including myself. Now I know how to be
intentional because I'm just moving towards. But there are times
where you know, those block those blessing blockers that will
come in and like literally knock you off your pedestal
and make you not really get makes you feel like
the goal that you're trying to get to.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Is prebent than where it really is.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
So how do you stay intentional and throughout all of
the chaos.
Speaker 6 (26:14):
The first thing I will tell you is that setting
a goal is not about so here we're going to
get into my hole.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Like I believe in the universe, I believe in energies.
I believe that you can set a goal.
Speaker 6 (26:28):
But sometimes we worry too much on how we're going
to get there, right, and not so much on what
the goal is. And sometimes the job isn't for you
to worry about how you're going to get to the goal.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
It's for you to come up with the goal.
Speaker 6 (26:41):
And sometimes people are so caught up and well that
could never happen.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Well, if you say it's never going to happen, then
it's never going to happen, right, And so you have
to set your intention.
Speaker 6 (26:51):
And sometimes you just got to set it and leave it,
and then other times you got to say, okay, well,
what can I do today? What's this small step that
I could do today to get me close to my goal?
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Right, if it's in roll in school, if it's.
Speaker 6 (27:04):
Talk to my partner, if it's kissed my kids, like,
what are the small things that I can do? But
sometimes we be talking ourselves out of things because we
just think it's impossible.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
And it's not impossible.
Speaker 6 (27:14):
You gotta make that goal there, and you gotta set
that intention big, and.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Then every day you're gonna do one tiny little thing.
Speaker 6 (27:20):
And some days that tiny little thing might just be
getting up out of bed and that's okay.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
And then tomorrow it might be, you know, I'm gonna
make a phone call.
Speaker 6 (27:28):
And the next day it might be I'm gonna write,
And the next day it might be, you know what,
I'm gonna do something I've never done before. I'm gonna
come up with a writer's retreat. I'm gonna go visit
my great grandma, listen to her story.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
Whatever it is. But developing yourself is just as much
important as the goal. You gotta be ready to get
there too.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Yes, I love that. Now, getting ready to get there.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
We have the devil, the negative side of the un right.
So when the kits think it's down at you, how
do you stay all honestly?
Speaker 6 (28:03):
Honestly, I I burned my stage. I burned my I
burned my stage. I be saving myself like it ain't funny.
You would think it was bugspray.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
One second, Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 6 (28:20):
I carry crystals in my and I reflect a lot.
I reflect a lot, like did I handle this the
best way I could have?
Speaker 1 (28:29):
How did I contribute to this situation?
Speaker 6 (28:32):
I checked myself before I check anybody else, because if
I'm out.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Of pocket, I have to understand what happened to.
Speaker 6 (28:39):
Me that got me out of pocket and why I
let somebody get me like this. So that's where I'm
at in my life. A lot of people walk around
angry and they want to curse the next person out.
I've been looking at myself like why you let this
person get you this mad?
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Why are you this upset? Is it gonna matter tomorrow?
Can I can I silence the phone call? Can I
stop the text me? Can I step away from this?
Speaker 6 (28:59):
Because the reality is as much as you mad at
that next person is, do you need to engage in this?
Speaker 1 (29:06):
And I'm a.
Speaker 6 (29:06):
Point in my life where nine times out of ten.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
I pay my own goddamn bills. I don't need engage
in this. I need for my mama house. Assuming she
starts to piss.
Speaker 6 (29:16):
Me off, I'd be like, all right, this time ago,
I gotta go mama, and I don't engage.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
I'll see you tomorrow. We could start again fresh. You know.
I treat them like I treat the kids at school
every day and new day.
Speaker 6 (29:27):
And sometimes you have to learn to walk away because
you could be mad all you want.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
But why are you internalizing that? Why are you feeling that?
Speaker 6 (29:35):
Why are you allowing I told somebody I know this guy,
it's my ex hustice, and.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
He always like, this is always drama my life. The
devil is always looking for me.
Speaker 6 (29:47):
And now in my heart, I'm like my man's if
you always in the tornado, and you always in the drama,
it's not everybody.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Else, it's you, you the tornado. And so I used
to say advice to myself.
Speaker 6 (30:01):
If I'm always around drama, perhaps I'm the drama. So
now they ain't no drama in my life. It's a
nice eighty two degrees. And Sonny, where I lives and
where I lives is in this bubble.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
I love it. You want to know why I'm so
happy because I feel like.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
I sing and I sing and dances theme preaching song
and dance everything.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
I'm mixing up.
Speaker 3 (30:21):
The words, but in general, I'm always the one that
is saying the same thing. So just hear it being
reciprocated back to me, it makes me feel.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
Like, Okay, you're not crazy, You're not really, You're not.
Always tell my mom.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
I'm like, Okay, I need a break, And I'm like,
am I crazy for needing a break?
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Okay, that's kind of great to note that.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
Wow, okay, this is amazing. So for those because now
I need to get into where can we find parents
like I just need to know. For those who are
interested in wanting to know, or taking your courses or
just learning more about having to balance themselves and block
out those blocking blessers or any of those things, the
blessing blockers.
Speaker 6 (31:01):
Actually say, yeah, yeah, we are. We are our own
worst enemies. With are blocking our blessings. We are our
own worst Like speak, don't speak negativity into your own blessings,
don't put doubt into your own lessons, don't put negative energy.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Into your own blessings. Like you gotta believe it for
it to be here, for it to manifest. If you
don't believe it, ain't nobody else gonna believe it, you know, man.
So we got to get out.
Speaker 6 (31:25):
Of our own way sometimes, you know, Well, how is
that gonna happen? Don't worry about the house.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
Just do it. Just do it and put one foot
in front of you and just keep going like we can't.
We can't sit and.
Speaker 6 (31:34):
Just think if we thought about all the negative things
that could happen when we leave the house, we won't
leave the.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
House, oh for sure. For sure. So now where can
you find me?
Speaker 3 (31:46):
I was just gonna say, now we need to know
where to find you.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
Well, I have a.
Speaker 6 (31:52):
Website, so you can go to www dot say it
loud sa y I t H.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
It's saith in the third person because I'm in list
teacher loud dot com, So you can check that out.
You can also check us out on our podcast. Every Friday, we.
Speaker 6 (32:07):
Are streaming on all major platforms, So any of your
heavy hitters were on there, I Heeart, Odyssey, Apple, Spotify,
you name it. We're out there so you can get
a dose of your good energy every Friday with your
favorite Instagram. Yeah, I'm on Instagram, I'm on Twitter, you know, Facebook, all.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
Of that kind of stuff.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Yes, mama, Now we're now we got to get into
the you know, self care place to see if you're
really doing a good job.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Let's see my spe shares. Let's see if it does it.
Speaker 3 (32:42):
I got my screen I can okay, well, okay, shows
on my website as well. Okay, great, So on my website,
you just go there, scroll down and then you go
to the take the self care quits.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
So we are going to take that with you to see.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
If you're a good job. Are you getting of yourself?
Speaker 4 (33:05):
All right?
Speaker 1 (33:06):
So do you eat regularly?
Speaker 3 (33:08):
I love eating? Or hardly eat either I'm not hungry
or I'm too busy.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
I love eating, y'all. Can't you tell I don't get
all this weight. I love eating. I love eating. I
love the camaraderie of eating.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
Camaraderie.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
I love that. Yes, I love to eat, like I'll
go out and pick nice restaurants. I don't even be
that hungry. I just like to get dressed up and
go out to eat.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
That's what I'm talking about. You don't need to be
all right.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Next question, I take time to slow down and take
care of myself when I'm sick always or I don't
have time for that always?
Speaker 2 (33:47):
No, I always yeah, okay, good job? All right?
Speaker 3 (33:52):
I get enough sleep sleep? Do you mean a nap
I'm always working? Or I love my sleep. I need
it always. I love my sleep.
Speaker 1 (34:02):
I love my bed.
Speaker 6 (34:03):
I love the bed sheets, the pillow, the way they blanket.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
I love it all.
Speaker 3 (34:09):
Oh I got you sound like half of my friends
and my mother like oh my bed text me and
said it's time to come home.
Speaker 1 (34:15):
A safe space. Yes, it is all right.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
Next question, I love myself and give myself positive affirmation.
Not really, I'm always repeated repeating positive affirmations.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Yes, I'm always repeating positive affirmations. Awesome.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
Next lose lose yourself in internet browsing for a long
period of time.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Nope, I only.
Speaker 1 (34:39):
Use my phone to make calls or.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
I'm guilty I get lost in it.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
I'm gonna say I don't. Really, I only use my
phone calls. I don't really.
Speaker 6 (34:50):
I get bored with social media after while, so I'm
not really on it as much as I should be.
Speaker 4 (34:56):
All right.
Speaker 3 (34:57):
Next one, I allow myself to show me absolutely not.
I do not cry or absolutely, crying is healthy.
Speaker 6 (35:08):
I don't really know how to answer this question, because
I like I allow myself to feel emotions. I allow
myself to show emotions. I just don't show them to anyone.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
How does that work? Because if I'm.
Speaker 6 (35:19):
Gonna cry, I'm gonna cry in my car by myself.
I don't be crying with people, but you cry. I
do cry, I just don't cry with other people.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Cuche. What's his sign?
Speaker 6 (35:32):
Scorpio scorpioll no wonder, we're so similar one to your
birthday October twenty sixth, November fourth, Oh my god, that's
what it is, scorpios. I'm I have lots of emotions.
I just don't always show them to everybody.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
Oh yes, honey, this is why there was a I
got it now, all right. I take time to chat
and get to know others. No new friends.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
I'm okay with the friends I currently have. Or I
love meeting new people. I love meeting new people.
Speaker 6 (36:09):
And my kids think I'm crazy because I talk to strangers.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
So does my family. So we're even all right.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Anybody, that's it?
Speaker 2 (36:18):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (36:18):
Self care, You're doing great.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
It sounds like you know all about your self care
and are excellent. Taking those few moments to focus on
yourself keep it up. Self care can be really positive
thing for anyone, especially for people who have experienced some
form of trauma. Self care is important for your emotional, mental,
and physical well being. If you're used to doing the
same techniques or methods, maybe try something new.
Speaker 1 (36:42):
If you're absolutely if.
Speaker 3 (36:43):
You're usually journaling your feelings, try your hands on art.
Speaker 2 (36:47):
If you're always going for a run, do a different.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Type of physical activity. Try some meditation or deep breeding
exercises too. New experiences can be fun as well. So
you were doing that well, all right? So I was like,
we made this interview very quick and short. I do
just reiterate one more time for those who want to
follow you, because I think you are amazing and I
think my fallowers are going to love you as well,
(37:11):
So please thank you one more time. Where to find
miss Karen el I.
Speaker 6 (37:16):
Am on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, I Am Karen l I
Am k A r y n E l l E,
podcast s A y I t h l o U
D are all major platforms. And then if you want
to find all of that stuff, you can head over
to my website www dot s A y I t
(37:37):
h l o u D dot com.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
Saillo.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
There you guys have it.
Speaker 3 (37:43):
I thank you for being yuess on our Field Today talkers,
as you guys at least know, tune in every Tuesday
or every other Tuesday as we're here with the new
episode and season eight is going to start in September
and it's going to be about that, so.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
So later everybody. Oh,
Eight Talkers.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Welcome to a cute talk show.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
And as you guys all know, when you talk, everyone listens,
all right, So today we are having a conversation with
Karen Hell. So I'm really excited about this because we're
going to talk about life.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Goals, manifestation, and blocking blessings.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
And I know many of us are in that you know,
realm right now where we're all trying to manifest our goals.
We're all trying to manifest our dreams and aspirations everything
that comes with it.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
But there are a lot of blocking agents.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
As some of us who are religious know, we say
the blocking agents are the devil, and those of us
who are spiritual will say that the blocking agents are
more of the universe.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Right, So with us what I like to do?
Speaker 3 (01:57):
What actually what I'm going to do when she once
Karen gets here, I'm actually messaging her while I'm.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Talking to you guys at the same time. But okay,
so just my.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Te message her.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
But what we're gonna do, We're gonna get to know
a little bit more about Karen.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
And then I've been saying, Karen, so please forgive me.
It's Karen.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
Okay, Karen, We're gonna get to know a little bit
more about the wonderful Mama at three and also this
magnificent personality, her energy. You guys, I don't know if
you saw a last interview where actually I was featured
on her podcast Say It Loud Outcasts, But when I.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Was introduced to her, I thought I had a high
energy girl. She got me b but I was very excited.
That makes me way more.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Comfortable when it comes to interviews because you guys know
I bring the energy. So someone is reciprocating that, Oh,
it's about to be a good time. So I'm really
excited about this. I don't understand people are always leave
for lunch. Why are we waiting for lunch.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
This is the time that we're supposed to be on
time because you want the longest cunjury. But in the meantime,
let's just chat it up a little bit.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
So I do want to touch on some aspects in
terms of what the show is going to look like
today and what the future shows are going to look
like as well. So let's just do the rundown of today.
So today we're going to get to know Karen. Then
we are going to do the Q and A Park
(03:35):
as we all know, we're going to talk about life,
both manifestation and blocking blessings.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
And then we're gonna do a quiz with her.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
So I do not know if many of you guys
have seen I didn't post this up too many times,
but I created a self care quiz, right So if
you go on my website, you Talk stot Show, you
can click on this link that says take the self
care Quiz. So the self care quiz I decided because
(04:03):
I wanted to know if I am in the right
direction of taking care of myself the right way. So
the self care Quiz is basically, oh quiz that is
going to tell you if you're taking care of yourself
in the right direction or not. So I'm actually gonna
do this quiz with Karen, So I'm excited about that.
(04:24):
Additional to that future, can you talk season eight? Yes,
I know, we're like, wait, we're still season seven? How
are we already playing the season eight? So I'm thinking
about tapping back into what you talk first originally was
when we first started, and you know when he talks
(04:45):
without first QTV And for those who do know and
those who used to watch, then you all.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Know that I started out in the fashion industry.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
So with me starting out in the fashion industry, I
was a both to get the leg up as to
where I am right now. But the fashion industry is
you know, I consider that as the husband or the
boyfriend that I will never get rid of because I
was so engulfed in it, especially in high school and elementary.
(05:19):
I would say with elementary it was more like paper
knowledge kind of fashion. But as I got into high school,
I started taking pre college courses at fi T.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Then I started interning the youngest high school intern.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Yeah, I was interning with designers in high school, and
I was actually one of their youngest interns because who's
accepting high school kids to the interns. Well, now they're doing,
but back in the days, they're really do much of that.
So I was really in this industry. I was doing
all the fashion week shows, like Real New York Fashion
(05:51):
Week with Mercedes Bends, working with IMG and I really
have a deep down love for this those who follow
me you see, like my style has never left. But
I'm just really excited about season eight because I'm going
back to my roots. We're going to dive into the
fashion industry again, and I'm not sure what the show
(06:14):
is going to look like yet. I'm not sure which
direction I'm taking it yet. But in the meantime, season
eight is going to be all about fashion, and it's
going to be in the fall.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
We're going to start the show.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
Season eight in the fall because summer season's coming to
an end soon. But I really want to be able
to I see that everybody.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Actually I should say this.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
I see that we are moving in a world of creativity.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
In the world of pop, in the world of like color, in.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
The world of people being their own. So I want
to be able to dive into that.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
But give me.
Speaker 4 (06:53):
When Okay, so I am back.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Yeah, So what happened? Karen was following me. She was
having technical difficulties. As we know, technology is not the
best thing. But in the meantime, as I was saying,
season eight is gonna be all about the fashion industry.
But we're gonna continue to finish season seven. I'm so
excited that Karen is coming in.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
We're so excited to have her.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
And when she pops in, her audio pops in, We're
gonna welcome.
Speaker 5 (09:11):
Hi, welcome, How are you?
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I'm weelling yourself. Finally you made it. Thank you for
having thank you for coming. Of course I wouldn't miss it.
I wouldn't miss it. We make it work.
Speaker 6 (09:28):
I have to be, you know, creative and how with things,
but we make it work.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Honestly, that's perfect that you said that, because I literally
was just saying about how work in a generation right
now where everybody only wants to be creative.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Everyone's so creative.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Everybody is just happened into what can I do to
make this work? Because back in the days it wasn't
that easy.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
But I do. I already told the audience the rundown
for today.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
We're gonna get to know a little bit more about you.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
Then we're also that I do a Q and A
with life Folds, math fest Stations and you know, block
and blessings. We're going to talk about all of that,
and then we're going to close the show with the
self care quiz that I have on my website. So
I'm gonna have you go to my selfware self Care
Quiz to see if.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
You are thinking you okay?
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Perfect? Perfect. So from my viewer is let them know
who were we talking to? Tell us a little bit
more about Karen. Please, Wow, I don't there's so much
and then there's so little. I'm Karl.
Speaker 6 (10:36):
I am the host and creator of staith Loud saith
Loud podcast.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Now I'm building it out into a brand, so we
have say it Sexy.
Speaker 6 (10:46):
So I have a podcast that I started about three
years ago because in my real life I'm a teacher.
My undergraduate and media communications. That has always been my
passion and what I love doing. And when I got
to I needed to get direct deposit every two weeks,
and so I was like, well, what can I do
(11:06):
that is going to allow me to be a mom
to my children?
Speaker 1 (11:09):
And so I went back and got my master's degree.
Speaker 6 (11:11):
In education, and then a couple of years into that,
I was like, this is all right.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
You know, I don't get to be the creator and
the comedy and that I naturally am, So what am
I going to do?
Speaker 6 (11:25):
And a few months after that, I launched Safeloud podcast
and I just talked my shit and people love it.
And then we've charted all over the world and then
we were like, well, let's add T shirts and merch
and then we did that, and then I did a
show call What's in your Whole Bag?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
And I was like, I'm gonna make a whole bag,
and then we launched.
Speaker 6 (11:46):
We launched the lingerie line a year later, because you
need things to go in the whole bag.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
And then people started coming to me and was like, well,
how do you do it?
Speaker 6 (11:57):
And then I was like, at first I was just
giving it away, like it's not hard and you can
do it. And then I was like, yeah, my student
loans say that y'all got to pay me for this.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
You can't just pick my brain for free. And so
now I coach other podcasters and.
Speaker 6 (12:14):
Other small businesses into growing and help create content and
kind of do.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Things on the back and uh there.
Speaker 6 (12:22):
So yeah, that's that's pretty much you know at all,
I was saying, pretty much, that's it.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Say it loud please wow.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
So, as I was telling the audience, I was like,
when I first met you, I thought I was the
one who bring the energy to the room, and I
found someone that matched my energy.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
So I was like, yo, I would think that is phenomenal.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
So I love this, this is amazing. Well, one person, I.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
Do want to give you your flowers for being a
parable black woman in this world and standing on your
own two feet and showing your kids what it's like
to be a strong black woman.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Congratulations, mama, thank you, thank you, thank you. Now let's
die in here. I appreciate that. Yeah, all right, let's go.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
So what right we know that you've been doing.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
You you had your highs, you had your lows, you
had all of that.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
How did you stay balanced, especially with the voice and
then having.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
To figure out how to pay bills and have kids
and also starting a podcast and working.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
How do you stay balanced?
Speaker 6 (13:26):
So the funny, the depth of that and the mean
of that is that I didn't learn to stay balanced
during those times.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
I didn't learn what balance was until I got to
the other end of the tunnel. You know.
Speaker 6 (13:41):
So while you are in the while you are in
the midst of divorce, or you're in the midst of chaos,
or you're in the midst of whatever you're feeling that
you feel like you don't have control over.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
You don't know.
Speaker 6 (13:55):
How to balance it, and no one teaches us really
how to do that, you know. So I can teach
someone else because of where I've been and what I've
gone through, But at the time, there wasn't.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Really anybody there, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6 (14:08):
And now that I look at hindsight, I'm like, damn,
life was you know, there was times where life was
kind of a mess. You know, I was a mom
at seventeen years old, so there was times where life
was a mess and I.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Couldn't balance, and I didn't know how unbalanced I was.
Speaker 6 (14:21):
I didn't know what that was doing to me internally
and physically, right, because people think it's just emotional, like, No,
your emotions be affecting how you feel physically, and when
you're sick, you're sick in more than one way.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
But that's a whole other show.
Speaker 6 (14:38):
And you know, a lot of people now are like, well,
how do you find the balance between the work and
the full time job having been divorced managing the kids.
I think now hindsight, being twenty twenty, is that I've
learned that I'm human, that it's okay to stop and
be like.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
You know what, this is overwhelming, it's too much. I
can't do this today. We have this.
Speaker 6 (15:00):
It's just just as much as we're powerful, strong black women,
we have this mentality that we got to always be powerful,
strong black women. And there's days where I'm not strong today.
I can't make a fist today, I'm tired, my emotions
are drained, I'm spent. I need to pour back into myself.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
And so now I know what that feels like.
Speaker 6 (15:25):
Now I know when, like I need to take a break.
I know when I need to replenish my soul. I
know when I need to sit still and to be
a creator and to be a comedian in some ways,
and to be my best self. I've had to learn
that in order to be that, I have to take
that time for myself.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Now I did have I wanted to piggyback off. Okay,
for you taking the time for yourself. Do you mind
telling everybody your age or what age brake at you for?
Speaker 6 (15:55):
No, I don't tell I tell everybody my age because
I feel like people are uncomfortable with their age when
they are not comfortable with themselves. When when you're comfortable
with yourself, you are comfortable with your age. I am
forty four years old. I'm forty three. I'll be forty
four in October. I am the mother of three and
the grandmother of two. And when you start a podcast
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or you have a life where people can look in
your little window, you have to be very comfortable with
who you are. And I'm very comfortable with who I'm
the coolest motherfucking grandmother is out there, you know what
I mean. I hang out with my kids like day,
my homies, I talk to them just like this I
talk to you, And so the idea of age doesn't
intimidate me because I'm sinking deeper into my skin.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
You know. I think people are comfortable because.
Speaker 6 (16:43):
They think they have to be something, or they have
to be somewhere, they have to have certain accomplishments.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
And my life's like pretty lit.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
You know.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
I look at my own page.
Speaker 6 (16:54):
I've been thinking I'm not doing enough, and then I
look at the pictures on my Facebook, on my Instagram,
and I'd be.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Like, Yo, this ship pretty cool.
Speaker 6 (17:01):
And then I don't feel that sense of like, nah,
I can't tell people.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
How old I am, cause you know, I'm.
Speaker 6 (17:08):
A cougar, you know, I tend to and I'm okay
with that, Like I know how old I am, I
know how old I don't act, and I'm.
Speaker 4 (17:16):
Alright with that.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
So the reason why I ask you for your ages
because I wanted to show that age wasn't really an issue.
Because one of the things that were realizing is the
cuss between the millennials, the gen ZS and gen wise
and so on, is because the source of information.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
I'm a millennial.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
I'm thirty two, So for me, I'm on the cuss
where I wasn't. I wasn't really raised with a cell phone,
but then I also was introduced to the cell phone.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
That it's infancy age.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Whereas someone underneath right me is you know, they were
raised with internet and all of that stuff. So one
thing that I do realize, especially with my mother, my
mother is in her fifties, she's fifty five. My mother,
she too is now becoming more of her own. She's
now understanding herself and now understanding when she needs to
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be when she needs some time for herself. She needs
some time for herself. But one of the things I
feel like the world of information has enlightened that for
every generation.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Because if it wasn't for that, we would.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
All be repeating these generational habits that Grandma did and
holding anger in and holding all of that.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
So I am.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Sure that I wanted to tax your age to show
everybody that it doesn't matter how old you are, you
really can rejuvenate your life and really realize, yo, I
can do this.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I don't have to.
Speaker 3 (18:35):
Sink into just because I had kids, grandkids and.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
All of that stuff.
Speaker 6 (18:39):
So I still no, I still live my best life.
Like I think people think like, oh, well you're grandma,
you can't date. I'm like, well I have to if
I want to get married again, you know. Or you
can't go out and or you can't go out and
be in the club because you got a babysit. And
I'd be telling my daughter like, well, I'm going out,
you know, so I can't have babysit tonight, Like it's okay,
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I'll be around tomorrow night. Maybe, Oh you gotta book
me in advance, just like everybody else, you know, like
you know, but I feel like we can't. The generational
stuff is heavy for me. You know, it's really heavy
for me, especially the Caribbean parents and that generational stuff
and like you know, going through divorce having children young,
like I broke every single generational curse and real like
(19:21):
I've done, been divorced, I done, have kids in my teens.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
I done, you know what I mean, Like I've done.
I've went back to school and got degrees.
Speaker 6 (19:29):
Where there's certain cultures where it's like women are not
supposed to have big boisterous voices, and then there's.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
Me, and then there's me who comes out with it loud,
saying loud, yeah yeah, like and I'm you know, I don't.
Speaker 6 (19:44):
I don't live by the stereotypical, you know, storyline, and
I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
I don't. I don't want to.
Speaker 6 (19:52):
And that was a very hard mold to break too,
because it's like you're going against everything, you know.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
So with that being a hard mold to break, how
did you balance? Because me myself, I don't have as
much on my plate as you do.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
I don't have any kids.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
The only thing I would say would be my overwhelming
factor's work. All the different things I involved myself is
But as a parent and a grandmother, how did you
create those schedules to be able to allocate time for
yourself and your passions?
Speaker 1 (20:21):
What is it that you did? What were your sets? Really?
I plan a lot. I'm a planner junkie.
Speaker 6 (20:29):
I have a whole Instagram and YouTube dedicated just to
my planner life, and I had to do that. I
started planning when I was younger with my daughter. But
then I was like, got older and I went to
go school. I was like, wait a minute, I got
grad school, I got the remnants of this divorce, I
got the kids' schedules, I got my schedules, and I
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had to sit down and plan, like plan my life
and be intentional with what I was planning. And so
if you look at my plan and I carry it
with me because it's like my bible, Like.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Saturdays, for instance, I'm off, I'm off, there's no you.
That time is for life. You know, that time is
for chuck e cheese with my kid even though he
don't want to go to check. That time is family time.
Speaker 6 (21:14):
With the podcast, it got to the point where I
was recording every day. I literally had an interview set
up every day, and my poor son every day was like, Mom,
can we go today? And I'm like, no, not today, baby.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Can we go tomorrow? Mom? No, not tomorrow. So now
I was like, no, y'all. Got Tuesdays and Thursdays.
Speaker 6 (21:29):
Those are the days that I'm willing to sit down
and that I'm in my own personal studio recording anything
outside of that I book.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
So it's really being intentional with my time.
Speaker 6 (21:37):
I just got back from Disney World on Sunday thirteen.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
The whole entire time that I was there.
Speaker 6 (21:44):
I was like, I wasn't on my phone, I barely
took any pictures. I was like, I'm just gonna live
in this moment and take this moment in and enjoy
this moment with my with my daughter and my son,
because that's where I needed to be and my soul
needed that.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
That trip us for.
Speaker 6 (22:00):
Him, but my soul needed replenished. I needed to feel
some joy. And so I was like, I'm gonna step
away from the social media. I'm gonna step away from
the phone this weekend.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Unless it's an emergency.
Speaker 6 (22:08):
I'm not talking to nobody and really just carving out time.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
You know.
Speaker 6 (22:14):
Also, like you said, you're a millennial with the cell phone,
just like we're out of this constant satisfy, satisfaction of.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Being able to speak to people, being able to.
Speaker 6 (22:23):
Reach out, of being engaged in, you know, something that's
not in front of us really in real life and
being accessible. And I had recently I was just like, no,
I'm not answering. Like I will straight be in the
house and be like, I'm not answering the phone. Yeah,
and my kids, my kids will be like, mom, the
phone's ring, and I'd be like.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I hear it. I don't want to talk to nobody
right now. Yes, and I don't talk to nobody.
Speaker 6 (22:49):
Good now for those who are looking to get to
that level.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
If the phone's ringing, I don't want to speak to anybody.
What does a planner look like to you? What is
it that you're at Are you planning every hour of
your day? What is the are you taking time out
for working out? What does your day to day planner
look like?
Speaker 6 (23:06):
So my day to day planner blocks out all the
big things I need to do for the day, So
like I was at work today, so that's blocked out,
and then the things I need to do at work
are listed there. My gym time is blocked out so
that I make that time for myself. So the next
thing is I was scheduling all of work like podcasts, interviews,
photo shoots, you.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Know, emails.
Speaker 6 (23:27):
I'm scheduling a lot of work because people like to
look busy. But and I you know, I'm a black
woman that goes to therapy. FYI.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
My therapist was.
Speaker 6 (23:37):
Like, but you don't got nothing in there for yourself, Like, yes,
you got Saturday with your son, but you don't have
anything there for yourself. I'm gonna need you to block
out that gym time and not just go because you can,
but set your intention. And so really, when I think
about life and I think about where I am and
how I could sink into my skin, I think about
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setting into like more than planning, you have to set
your intentions.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
What do you want out of your life? What do
you want out of your weekend? What do you want
out of your day? Right? And set your intention?
Speaker 6 (24:10):
And so every day, Yes, I could just write the
things I need to do, but more importantly is what
is my intention for today and how I want to
feel and what I want to accomplish.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
How does this get me closer to my goals?
Speaker 6 (24:23):
Because you could just get a planner and write down appointments, Like,
that's not I'm not planning appointments. I'm planning life. I'm
planning vacations. I'm planning trips. I'm planning five years, ten years.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
I'm planning a.
Speaker 6 (24:35):
Rich husband so that I could retire and run my business. Like,
I'm not just planning how to get through the week
with what I have to do. I'm intentional in what
I want to do.
Speaker 3 (24:46):
Ay Man, I love that, especially being intentional on what
you want to do. So I'm kind of happy that
you brought up the whole therapy thing because I too.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Am in therapy and one of the things that my
therapist had me do was write out the list. And
she said, you were given all.
Speaker 3 (25:01):
The money in the world, anything you could. They gave
you the entire planet on a platter. What would you
do with it? And I was just like, Oh, I'll
travel here, I'll do this, by house here, do that
and this to that.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
And she's like, I need.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
You to look at your list, like you didn't put family, husband,
anything that had to do You don't even put a dog,
Like you didn't put anything I had to do with
being a companion. Then she's like, you have to sit
down and really evaluate do you want to be rich
and lonely?
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Do you want to be rich in alone?
Speaker 3 (25:30):
Like you have to like what you're a therapist said,
but you have to put the time out for yourself.
And those are the things that especially with millennials are
learning now in terms of being intentional manifestations.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
How are you intentional? Because a lot of people are
there trying.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I feel like this is the year of intention for
many people, including myself. Now I know how to be
intentional because I'm just moving towards. But there are times
where you know, those block those blessing blockers that will
come in and like literally knock you off your pedestal
and make you not really get makes you feel like
the goal that you're trying to get to.
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Is prebent than where it really is.
Speaker 3 (26:08):
So how do you stay intentional and throughout all of
the chaos.
Speaker 6 (26:14):
The first thing I will tell you is that setting
a goal is not about so here we're going to
get into my hole.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Like I believe in the universe, I believe in energies.
I believe that you can set a goal.
Speaker 6 (26:28):
But sometimes we worry too much on how we're going
to get there, right, and not so much on what
the goal is. And sometimes the job isn't for you
to worry about how you're going to get to the goal.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
It's for you to come up with the goal.
Speaker 6 (26:41):
And sometimes people are so caught up and well that
could never happen.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Well, if you say it's never going to happen, then
it's never going to happen, right, And so you have
to set your intention.
Speaker 6 (26:51):
And sometimes you just got to set it and leave it,
and then other times you got to say, okay, well,
what can I do today? What's this small step that
I could do today to get me close to my goal?
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Right, if it's in roll in school, if it's.
Speaker 6 (27:04):
Talk to my partner, if it's kissed my kids, like,
what are the small things that I can do? But
sometimes we be talking ourselves out of things because we
just think it's impossible.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
And it's not impossible.
Speaker 6 (27:14):
You gotta make that goal there, and you gotta set
that intention big, and.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
Then every day you're gonna do one tiny little thing.
Speaker 6 (27:20):
And some days that tiny little thing might just be
getting up out of bed and that's okay.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
And then tomorrow it might be, you know, I'm gonna
make a phone call.
Speaker 6 (27:28):
And the next day it might be I'm gonna write,
And the next day it might be, you know what,
I'm gonna do something I've never done before. I'm gonna
come up with a writer's retreat. I'm gonna go visit
my great grandma, listen to her story.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
Whatever it is. But developing yourself is just as much
important as the goal. You gotta be ready to get
there too.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Yes, I love that. Now, getting ready to get there.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
We have the devil, the negative side of the un right.
So when the kits think it's down at you, how
do you stay all honestly?
Speaker 6 (28:03):
Honestly, I I burned my stage. I burned my I
burned my stage. I be saving myself like it ain't funny.
You would think it was bugspray.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
One second, Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 6 (28:20):
I carry crystals in my and I reflect a lot.
I reflect a lot, like did I handle this the
best way I could have?
Speaker 1 (28:29):
How did I contribute to this situation?
Speaker 6 (28:32):
I checked myself before I check anybody else, because if
I'm out.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Of pocket, I have to understand what happened to.
Speaker 6 (28:39):
Me that got me out of pocket and why I
let somebody get me like this. So that's where I'm
at in my life. A lot of people walk around
angry and they want to curse the next person out.
I've been looking at myself like why you let this
person get you this mad?
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Why are you this upset? Is it gonna matter tomorrow?
Can I can I silence the phone call? Can I
stop the text me? Can I step away from this?
Speaker 6 (28:59):
Because the reality is as much as you mad at
that next person is, do you need to engage in this?
Speaker 1 (29:06):
And I'm a.
Speaker 6 (29:06):
Point in my life where nine times out of ten.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
I pay my own goddamn bills. I don't need engage
in this. I need for my mama house. Assuming she
starts to piss.
Speaker 6 (29:16):
Me off, I'd be like, all right, this time ago,
I gotta go mama, and I don't engage.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
I'll see you tomorrow. We could start again fresh. You know.
I treat them like I treat the kids at school
every day and new day.
Speaker 6 (29:27):
And sometimes you have to learn to walk away because
you could be mad all you want.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
But why are you internalizing that? Why are you feeling that?
Speaker 6 (29:35):
Why are you allowing I told somebody I know this guy,
it's my ex hustice, and.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
He always like, this is always drama my life. The
devil is always looking for me.
Speaker 6 (29:47):
And now in my heart, I'm like my man's if
you always in the tornado, and you always in the drama,
it's not everybody.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Else, it's you, you the tornado. And so I used
to say advice to myself.
Speaker 6 (30:01):
If I'm always around drama, perhaps I'm the drama. So
now they ain't no drama in my life. It's a
nice eighty two degrees. And Sonny, where I lives and
where I lives is in this bubble.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
I love it. You want to know why I'm so
happy because I feel like.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
I sing and I sing and dances theme preaching song
and dance everything.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
I'm mixing up.
Speaker 3 (30:21):
The words, but in general, I'm always the one that
is saying the same thing. So just hear it being
reciprocated back to me, it makes me feel.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
Like, Okay, you're not crazy, You're not really, You're not.
Always tell my mom.
Speaker 3 (30:35):
I'm like, Okay, I need a break, And I'm like,
am I crazy for needing a break?
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Okay, that's kind of great to note that.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
Wow, okay, this is amazing. So for those because now
I need to get into where can we find parents
like I just need to know. For those who are
interested in wanting to know, or taking your courses or
just learning more about having to balance themselves and block
out those blocking blessers or any of those things, the
blessing blockers.
Speaker 6 (31:01):
Actually say, yeah, yeah, we are. We are our own
worst enemies. With are blocking our blessings. We are our
own worst Like speak, don't speak negativity into your own blessings,
don't put doubt into your own lessons, don't put negative energy.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Into your own blessings. Like you gotta believe it for
it to be here, for it to manifest. If you
don't believe it, ain't nobody else gonna believe it, you know, man.
So we got to get out.
Speaker 6 (31:25):
Of our own way sometimes, you know, Well, how is
that gonna happen? Don't worry about the house.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
Just do it. Just do it and put one foot
in front of you and just keep going like we can't.
We can't sit and.
Speaker 6 (31:34):
Just think if we thought about all the negative things
that could happen when we leave the house, we won't
leave the.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
House, oh for sure. For sure. So now where can
you find me?
Speaker 3 (31:46):
I was just gonna say, now we need to know
where to find you.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
Well, I have a.
Speaker 6 (31:52):
Website, so you can go to www dot say it
loud sa y I t H.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
It's saith in the third person because I'm in list
teacher loud dot com, So you can check that out.
You can also check us out on our podcast. Every Friday, we.
Speaker 6 (32:07):
Are streaming on all major platforms, So any of your
heavy hitters were on there, I Heeart, Odyssey, Apple, Spotify,
you name it. We're out there so you can get
a dose of your good energy every Friday with your
favorite Instagram. Yeah, I'm on Instagram, I'm on Twitter, you know, Facebook, all.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
Of that kind of stuff.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Yes, mama, Now we're now we got to get into
the you know, self care place to see if you're
really doing a good job.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Let's see my spe shares. Let's see if it does it.
Speaker 3 (32:42):
I got my screen I can okay, well, okay, shows
on my website as well. Okay, great, So on my website,
you just go there, scroll down and then you go
to the take the self care quits.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
So we are going to take that with you to see.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
If you're a good job. Are you getting of yourself?
Speaker 4 (33:05):
All right?
Speaker 1 (33:06):
So do you eat regularly?
Speaker 3 (33:08):
I love eating? Or hardly eat either I'm not hungry
or I'm too busy.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
I love eating, y'all. Can't you tell I don't get
all this weight. I love eating. I love eating. I
love the camaraderie of eating.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
Camaraderie.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
I love that. Yes, I love to eat, like I'll
go out and pick nice restaurants. I don't even be
that hungry. I just like to get dressed up and
go out to eat.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
That's what I'm talking about. You don't need to be
all right.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Next question, I take time to slow down and take
care of myself when I'm sick always or I don't
have time for that always?
Speaker 2 (33:47):
No, I always yeah, okay, good job? All right?
Speaker 3 (33:52):
I get enough sleep sleep? Do you mean a nap
I'm always working? Or I love my sleep. I need
it always. I love my sleep.
Speaker 1 (34:02):
I love my bed.
Speaker 6 (34:03):
I love the bed sheets, the pillow, the way they blanket.
Speaker 1 (34:07):
I love it all.
Speaker 3 (34:09):
Oh I got you sound like half of my friends
and my mother like oh my bed text me and
said it's time to come home.
Speaker 1 (34:15):
A safe space. Yes, it is all right.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
Next question, I love myself and give myself positive affirmation.
Not really, I'm always repeated repeating positive affirmations.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Yes, I'm always repeating positive affirmations. Awesome.
Speaker 3 (34:32):
Next lose lose yourself in internet browsing for a long
period of time.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Nope, I only.
Speaker 1 (34:39):
Use my phone to make calls or.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
I'm guilty I get lost in it.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
I'm gonna say I don't. Really, I only use my
phone calls. I don't really.
Speaker 6 (34:50):
I get bored with social media after while, so I'm
not really on it as much as I should be.
Speaker 4 (34:56):
All right.
Speaker 3 (34:57):
Next one, I allow myself to show me absolutely not.
I do not cry or absolutely, crying is healthy.
Speaker 6 (35:08):
I don't really know how to answer this question, because
I like I allow myself to feel emotions. I allow
myself to show emotions. I just don't show them to anyone.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
How does that work? Because if I'm.
Speaker 6 (35:19):
Gonna cry, I'm gonna cry in my car by myself.
I don't be crying with people, but you cry. I
do cry, I just don't cry with other people.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Cuche. What's his sign?
Speaker 6 (35:32):
Scorpio scorpioll no wonder, we're so similar one to your
birthday October twenty sixth, November fourth, Oh my god, that's
what it is, scorpios. I'm I have lots of emotions.
I just don't always show them to everybody.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
Oh yes, honey, this is why there was a I
got it now, all right. I take time to chat
and get to know others. No new friends.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
I'm okay with the friends I currently have. Or I
love meeting new people. I love meeting new people.
Speaker 6 (36:09):
And my kids think I'm crazy because I talk to strangers.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
So does my family. So we're even all right.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Anybody, that's it?
Speaker 2 (36:18):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (36:18):
Self care, You're doing great.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
It sounds like you know all about your self care
and are excellent. Taking those few moments to focus on
yourself keep it up. Self care can be really positive
thing for anyone, especially for people who have experienced some
form of trauma. Self care is important for your emotional, mental,
and physical well being. If you're used to doing the
same techniques or methods, maybe try something new.
Speaker 1 (36:42):
If you're absolutely if.
Speaker 3 (36:43):
You're usually journaling your feelings, try your hands on art.
Speaker 2 (36:47):
If you're always going for a run, do a different.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Type of physical activity. Try some meditation or deep breeding
exercises too. New experiences can be fun as well. So
you were doing that well, all right? So I was like,
we made this interview very quick and short. I do
just reiterate one more time for those who want to
follow you, because I think you are amazing and I
think my fallowers are going to love you as well,
(37:11):
So please thank you one more time. Where to find
miss Karen el I.
Speaker 6 (37:16):
Am on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, I Am Karen l I
Am k A r y n E l l E,
podcast s A y I t h l o U
D are all major platforms. And then if you want
to find all of that stuff, you can head over
to my website www dot s A y I t
(37:37):
h l o u D dot com.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
Saillo.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
There you guys have it.
Speaker 3 (37:43):
I thank you for being yuess on our Field Today talkers,
as you guys at least know, tune in every Tuesday
or every other Tuesday as we're here with the new
episode and season eight is going to start in September
and it's going to be about that, so.
Speaker 1 (37:57):
So later everybody. Oh,
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