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Now this is the FCB Podcast Network. This is the Jeff Glory in Nick
Show. Welcome to the Jeff Lauriand Nick Show. And we are an
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informative show that's dedicated to providing positiveinformation to help folks and help our communities
and cities become stronger, better placesto live. Today, we have a
wonderful guest, none other than RepresentativeMaryland John who is who represents the district
in Richland County, Maryland. Couldyou tell us a little bit about yourself
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and your district and welcome to ourshows. Well, thank you so much
for having me, and I wouldlove to share more about my district.
I live in the city of Shelby, which is in the northern part of
Richland County. My district is oneof the districts in the state and one
of the house districts in the statethat is an entire county and just an
entire just one county, so RichlandCounty. The county seat is Mansfield.
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We are halfway between Columbus and Cleveland, right in the center of the state,
and so we have a lot ofresidents from the surrounding area that come
here for business, medical appointment,shopping. Those types of things. So
there's a lot going on in RichlandCounty. We're moving in a great direction.
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As far as a little bit aboutme, I started my political career
as the mayor of the City ofShelby, and then I became a county
commissioner for Richland County before moving onto becoming the state rep and heading off
to Columbus. So that's a littlebit about me and my district. And
your district number is House District seventysix. Seventy six, Yes, yepl
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to seventy six. We'd like totalk about one of the bills that you've
sponsored, and that's House Bill fourteen. House Bill fourteen that deals with parenting
of children. Could you tell usa little bit about that, what precipitated
you to introduce this bill, andtell us a little bit about the bill
itself. So I want to givefull credit to the original sponsor of the
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bill, Representative Rodney Creach. RepresentativeCreach is down around the Dayton area.
He's out in the rural part ofthe area. But Rodney and I knew
each other as county commissioners, andI've always thought highly of Rodney and gotten
along really well with him. Wecame in as freshman legislators together now three
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years ago, and Rodney was reallygoing from a life experience when he wrote
this legislation. And he is ahe is divorced from his first wife.
He's remarried and is doing great,but he was divorced from his first wife,
had two children, and spent alot of money trying to get to
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see his kids because of things thathad happened in the courts, not because
he's a bad parent, not becauseof anything any legal problems that he had,
but just because a judge who didn'tknow him made a decision that his
children should spend the majority of thetime with their mom versus him as a
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dad. So when I was talkingwith Rodney three years ago and he told
me he was dropping this bill,I had several ideas about what I would
also like to see. And thenthis General Assembly, the person that had
sponsored the bill with him initially wasnot coming back to the General Assembly,
and so I called him up andI said, will you please let me
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join this bill with you. Ilove the concept. I think that fathers
are incredibly important to children, andthat we are doing a disservice to our
young people. By taking the fathers, taking them away from their fathers and
not allowing their dads to have moreimpact on their life. So I joined
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the bill. I think that's great. What is the name of the bill
and we know it's House Bill fourteen, that's the number. What is the
actual title. The title of thebill is the Equal Parenting Bill. And
what the bill would do is soright now, each county handles handles it
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somewhat differently when it comes to decidingcustody for children. Not all counties,
believe it or not, are arethe same, Not all judges to make
the decision the same. And sowhat the Equal Parenting Bill would do is
it would it would be a startingpoint for all counties. It would require
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judges to begin at an equal parentingpoint. So when a couple decides that
they want to separate or divorce,the children would would they would be equally
responsible for the children and in decisionmaking and time as close to substantially equal
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as they can be unless there isa reason, if there is, for
instance, domestic violence that has beeninvolved, then that would be a situation
where the judge could make a differentdecision. But if you have two parents
involved, in the family that aregood parents who just no longer want to
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be together or married, they stillhave the same responsibility and role in the
children's life as substantially equal as itcan be. I think it's so important
to pass this bill. There's somany men and I'm sure in some cases
women. We actually just witnessed anincident just a few days ago, within
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the last week, where there wasa there were two parents that have a
child, and I guess one ofthe in this particular case, the mom
should stay away from the child.And I think the mother actually wanted to.
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She kind of forced away on seeingthe child, and that was it
became a terrible incident. So itgoes kind of both ways. But in
a lot of cases that father isreally needed, right, and we know
that statistics show that nine times outof ten it's the mom who has the
most time with the child. Yeah, fathers are needed. Father's matter,
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and I think in a lot ofcommunities, you know, fathers just don't
feel that they have the tools andthe power and the voice. So could
you kind of speak to that.Absolutely one of the reasons I jumped on
so a little bit more about myself. I have been married to my husband
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for twenty eight years. We havetwo children together. I have not gone
through a divorce. My parents werenot divorced. However, I lost my
mom when I was nineteen. Shepassed away. She had been ill for
a few years and passed away,and so at the age of nineteen,
I still needed my dad, AndI've put myself in a situation and to
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think about what would it have beenlike at nineteen if I had not had
an established relationship with my father asa child growing up, and then suddenly
my mom is gone. I'm veryblessed both of my parents growing up.
So even though I lost my momat a fairly young age, I still
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had a strong relationship with my dadbecause it had been established my whole life.
And when I think about other childrenwho have not been given the opportunity
to have that established relationship, itreally makes you look at the problems that
we're having in society, and Ithink a lot of that can go back
to they have not been able toestablish a relationship with their father. What
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my husband gives to our children isdifferent in many ways than what I give
to our kids. God makes menand women different, and what moms do
is a little bit different than whatdads do. I can't replace what my
husband does, and he can't replacewhat I do. So we need to
both be involved. Our children areadults now, we are just as active
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in their lives. Maybe not ona day to day basis. Parenting changes,
but if they need certain things,they call him. If they need
something else, they call me.And I think it's so important that fathers
and mothers both, if they aregood quality parents, that they be given
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an opportunity to be as significantly equalas possible in their children's lives. I
think there are a lot of fathersthat are listening right now, even mothers
that would like to see their fathersmore involved. And some of that fighting
and so forth, and disagreements andsome of that stuff kind of pushed to
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the side for the benefit of thechild. And I'm sure that's what House
Bill fourteen is all about. Whatkind of changes does House Bill fourteen make?
I mean, what can you tellthose folks that are dealing with that
right now, those fathers that say, look, I wish I was there
with my child. I know mychild needs me. So first of all,
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it would recommend require the judge tobetter explain. I think what we
are hearing from parents is, youknow, when you go into a situation
like that, many people have neverbeen in a court, They don't know
what all of the paperwork is,and it's such an emotional time that it's
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difficult for them to really comprehend andunderstand everything and every decision that they're getting
ready to make. They're also veryangry at each other, and for the
most part, you know, that'swhy they're deciding to not be together as
a couple any longer. So havingthe judges required to say to the parents,
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you need to sit down and comeup with a plan, a plan
of as close to equal parenting aspossible first off, and then if they
can't do that because of whatever reasonemotionally they can't come pull it together,
then the judge should start at equalparenting. That's the starting point. It
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may not be where they end upbecause of circumstances, may be related to
a job. Maybe one of theparents drives truck and is not home where
the parenting can't be equal. Maybeone of the parents does have some mental
illness or some legal issues where theycan't they shouldn't be have equal access to
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the children. That's still up tothe judge to decide, but many there
are many counties in the state ofOhio unfortunately that start off with two out
of fourteen days, so and inand a significant portion of those cases the
mom has the child for twelve orfourteen days and the dad gets them every
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other weekend. That's not a significantamount of time to be able to impact
your child's life two out of fourteendays. I also want to point out
that a lot again, in alot of these situations, you now have
single moms raising kids who have themajority of the responsibility to look at child
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care. And so these moms aredo not have the opportunity to further their
education, to maybe begin a careeror further their career because now the majority
of the responsibility for caring for theirchildren falls to them. And so I
think that it's a for single momsout there who need an opportunity to be
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able to provide for their families tofurther their education. This would also open
up more opportunities for them in ifthis bill becomes law, well, so
House Bill fourteen. It's a profamily bill. It strengthens the relationship between
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the child and both sides of thefamily, the family of the mother and
the father, And there's a greatbenefit to empowering that child, make self
esteem and so much other things,and just the child will feel more love,
more value, and just a greaterconnection to again both the mother's family,
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father's family, and their friends andcommunities. So I think it's so
important and this bill would go along way to those who believe who are
profan family, and who believe thatchildren should have their fathers in their lives.
So what can individuals do? Whatcan pastors and other leaders do to
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support this bill and support you?Always feel free to reach out to my
office again. You can email meat REPS seven six at Ohio house dot
gov. You can also go onto the legislature's website. You can look
up House Bill fourteen and look tosee it. We have who has testified
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in favor of the bill. Whoare the groups and individuals that are opposed
to the bill. You can readtheir testimony. Reach out to our offices
and let us know how you feelabout it if there are if you have
stories to share, We've had somany people across the state share the story,
their story about how maybe they've beenkept from their children. We've had
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you. You bring up a reallyimportant point. You know, my children
are very close to their grandparents,and in situations where maybe they have been
they're kept from one of their parentsexcept for two days a month. Not
only do they not get to seetheir parent, but they also don't get
to see those grandparents or those auntsand uncles, or those cousins or those
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family friends. Suddenly they're taken fromall of those people who may or may
not be, but more than likelyare important in their lives. And so
it's really about bringing balance back.It's about taking the children away from being
the football back and forth between twopeople who don't get along, and no
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longer being used as a weapon againstone against the other, but being allowed
to be children who feel loved,accepted, and wanted by both of their
parents. Thank you, Marilyn John. We're gonna we're gonna support this us
again. It's House Bill fourteen,Equal parent It's the equal Parenting Bill.
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Where is it right now? Becausewe want to get behind this. We'd
like the legislature to pass this bill, support it. Is there a testimony
that's needed on this? So rightnow we have had three hearings. So
how the process works is we introducea bill, it gets sent to a
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committee, it gets referred to acommittee. So it has been referred to
the Families and Aging Committee. Thechairperson of the committee, Chair Schmidt,
has worked very well with Rep.Creach and I on the bill trying to
work through it. We've been meetingwith the opponents of the legislation also to
see if we can come up withcompromises to get them on board with it.
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So we've had three hearings. We'vehad again people come in who are
a supportive of the bill, peoplewho are opposed to the bill. We're
still working through to try to getthe opponents on board to see if there's
things that need to be changed.So the most important thing is if people
have stories, please reach out tomy office. I'll make sure to share
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that all of this information with Rep. Creach's office and pass along information to
Chairman Schmidt's office to make sure thatthey know and we will just continue to
push to get this legislature legislation tobecome law. If people do have stories
and they'd like to get behind thisand be supportive, is there a phone
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number that they can call? Yes, My office number is Airy code six
one four four six six five eightzero two. And again, any information
that I receive in my office,I will make sure to pass along to
Representative Creach. This was his originalbill, and I want to make sure
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that he has he gets all thecredit. He has fought for this for
three years and has done an amazingjob of representing this bill. I'm so
proud to be on it with him. So any information that's sent to my
office, you can google Representative RodneyCreech and get the same information on him.
Contact information on him, and wewould love to hear from people.
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Representative Marilynd John, we just thankyou so much. This is just great.
It's so empowering for our young people, for families to take the load
off moms and help dads to getmore involved. And I think it's just
a win win win situation for allof us, for our communities to get
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to remove some of the anger andput more love into our communities and into
our people. So again, wethank you so much. Representative Maryland John
from Ohio's seventy sixth district having meon today. We're gonna stay in touch
with you. We're gonna have youback and again, thank you so much
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to our audience for staying with us. And let's remember to keep fighting a
good fight. We can all dobetter. Keep doing your part to make
our communities better, which makes ourstate better and our nation better. God
bless you all. This has beena presentation of the FCB podcast Network,
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