February 6, 2025 • 42 mins
Eps. 103 Welcome Debbie Renee Howard, Brilliance Coach, Guest with Kim Evans, Host of Inspired Conversations
Topic: “Faith, Leadership, and Transformation: Renewing Your Mind for Personal and Professional Growth”
About Debbie Renee Howard:
Debbie Renee Howard is a brilliance lifestyle influencer, dynamic coach, consultant, and strategist dedicated to empowering women leaders to step boldly into their brilliance. As the founder of Dezigned for Greatness Coaching, Consulting, and Strategy, Debbie’s mission is to help women gain clarity, build courageous confidence, and transform their lives by renewing their minds and aligning with their purpose.
Debbie’s mantra, “Own Your Brilliance,” reflects her belief that everyone has a unique purpose waiting to shine. Guided by her company’s pillars of clarity, courageous confidence, authenticity, and transformation, she empowers her clients to break through limiting beliefs, refine their goals, and take bold, meaningful action.
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Topic: “Faith, Leadership, and Transformation: Renewing Your Mind for Personal and Professional Growth”
About Debbie Renee Howard:
Debbie Renee Howard is a brilliance lifestyle influencer, dynamic coach, consultant, and strategist dedicated to empowering women leaders to step boldly into their brilliance. As the founder of Dezigned for Greatness Coaching, Consulting, and Strategy, Debbie’s mission is to help women gain clarity, build courageous confidence, and transform their lives by renewing their minds and aligning with their purpose.
Debbie’s mantra, “Own Your Brilliance,” reflects her belief that everyone has a unique purpose waiting to shine. Guided by her company’s pillars of clarity, courageous confidence, authenticity, and transformation, she empowers her clients to break through limiting beliefs, refine their goals, and take bold, meaningful action.
Follow Debbie Renee Howard
FB: https://www.facebook.com/debbi...
Web: https://www.debbiereneehoward....
IG: https://www.instagram.com/debb...
Let’s connect for a Brilliance Discovery Call
https://www.honeybook.com/widg... Mastermind- Special ----------------------------------------------------------------
About Kim Evans & KME COACHING
http://www.kimgems.com
Book Complementary Game Plan Call with Kim Evans
http://Calendly.com/KMECoachin...
Join our New Monthly Business Coaching Online School of Beauty & Business.
View more information here:https://kimevansbeauty.lpages.co/schoolofbusiness/
We help women entrepreneurs who are struggling to define their brand identity, enhance their online presence, and establish themselves as industry experts to overcome the pain of feeling overwhelmed and stuck in the grind.
Our Coaching program provides a comprehensive, actionable strategy to elevate your business, build a strong online presence, and develop a range of digital products that increase your income and impact.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Well, welcome everybody. This is Kim Evans and this is
Inspired Conversations. I am so excited today, y'all. I'm so
excited because I have a very lovely guest here with
Debbie Britane Howard. Hey. Hey, Debbie, Hey.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Kim Hey.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
I am so excited.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
This is really wonderful because me and Debbie in the
same space. We do similar things and we couldn't have
even decided to do it better. Time celebrating Black History months,
Black excellence, and it's just been it's just been really
really nice. So Debbie, thank you so much. So I'm
(00:45):
gonna go ahead on and just talk about what you
do and we're gonna get We're gonna get on into
the show. Is that okay?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
That sounds amazing. Thank you so much for this amazing
opportunity to have this conversation with Kim. It is my
honor to be with you today. So I'm looking forward
to sharing with you and your audience. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
So, ladies and ladypreneurs, lopreneurs, so get ready to take
your notes, because we are actually going to be shared
some wonderful Kim Jim thoughts. Okay, So Debbie Renee Howard
is a brilliance lifestyle, influencer, coach, consultant and strategies dedicated
to empowering women leaders and we love that as the
(01:30):
founder of design and the way she speils it is
de e zigned for Greatness Coaching. That's the name of
her business as she helps women gain clarity, build confidence,
and transform their lives by renewing their minds and aligning
with their purpose. And we're going to add in their brilliance.
(01:50):
So with decades of experience in healthcare and leadership, Debbi
guides corporate leaders, entrepreneurs, ministry driven individuals and overcoming the imposterson.
And we're going to talk about that a little bit too,
refining their goals, taking bold, meaningful action. Her mantra, I
love her mantra, y'all. Her mantra is off the shame.
(02:10):
Her mattres is really y'all. Taking note to the mantra. Now,
the mantra is on your brilliance. See simple is great.
See simple is great. You see how simple that is.
Own your brilliance. Just just owned your brilliance. God says,
to be courageous, be bold, own your brilliance, reflects her
belief that everyone has a unique purpose, waiting to shine.
(02:31):
A devoted wife for thirty three years, and I'm gonna
touch on one or two questions about that. She's a grandmother,
devoted community leader. Debbie Ingrate's faith. I love that because
I'm telling my telling my clients that we need to
come on invite God back into our businesses. He's the
pillar man, He's the pillar authenticity transformation into her work,
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inspiring others to lead, confident into create elasting impact. Daddy
who to us five conversations? Girl?
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Wow? Thank you? How exciting? What an introduction.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
So Debby start would share a little bit about your journey.
What led you to becoming a brilliant lifestyle influencer and coach?
Because you come from corporate background, you still would have
made your corporation and you also expanding and designing your
brilliance and your coach. Come on, so what led you
to this journey? Right here? Tell us? How did you
(03:37):
get from Highway five to one on one the scene?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Tell us God, listen, it's through my own journey and experience.
I didn't want to contain it all on my own.
It was becoming that woman who is confident courageously confident
of authentic owning all of who I am. And I said,
(04:04):
you know what, I can't keep this to myself, right,
I've got to share this. I've got to share this
with others because what I know for sure that there
are women just like me who need what I have.
And so I got there. Look, not all at once
(04:24):
in a journey, right, it's not a sprint, it's a marathon.
So I took really all of my life's experience coupled
with my professional experience, my faith background, and I said,
I can package this. Actually, I can actually create something
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that will provide women with tangible tools to get their
dreams from the dream space to reality, Like create a
legacy that lives beyond us, serving right, serving and doing
(05:09):
what we love. I think that journey has happened over
time in such magnificent ways. Did I know all the
answers when I started? Absolutely not. Do I know all
the answers today? Absolutely? But what I do know is
that you don't have to start. You can begin, That's right,
That's right. Kim Kim shared with me in a pre conversation.
(05:32):
She was like, you know you can, you can get that.
You don't need all of the you can get that,
just keep it simple, right, And so I have learned
that you don't have to have all the answers, and
that's what I share with those who I work with.
You don't have to have all the answers. We get
stuck in that place of uncertainty. And that's the bottleneck, right,
(05:52):
the uncertainty.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Don't have to be perfect. It's like, we don't have.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
To be perfect, because that's part of that imposter syndrome, right,
It's the part that keeps us removing forward.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
So so let me ask you this, what was one
of your deciding factors? Uh, let's say, let me just
answer asking a different question. What was one of your
pivotal moments that occurred in your life that said, you
know what, I could do this coach, I could be
this coach, I can help other women. What was that?
(06:24):
Where was that point in your life that you said,
you know what, I'm gonna do this? What was that
pivotal moment? There were a couple, but the one, I
think the one the one that just was going, one
that was.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Earth shattering, I would say, unearthing, breakthrough moment. It was
the moment a leader that I trusted and was supposed
to be someone who was showing me the way, said
I came. So those were words set a fuel and
(07:02):
a fire under me to say, you know what I
can and I will watch me. So when someone that
you trust and suppose and is supposed to be showing
you the way, leaders lead through example. And so that
(07:24):
to me was the moment where I was like, oh, yeah,
I can't do this. I will do this, and watch
me do this. Ask me where she at right now?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
But okay, But the interesting thing is that they're not
perfect and they're human. They're human beings. So once you
had that pivotal epiphoty, when did you go out to
get the first client? And how feeling? How was that
feeling when you got your first coaching client? Tell us
about that experience.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
It was liberating. And I'll tell you why because so
many times we think, you know, who wants to listen
to me? Right? Do I have what it takes to
do this thing? And I didn't start in an individual client.
I started my practice in a group coaching practice. And
(08:16):
my very first group coaching class was like eleven, twelve,
fifteen people something like that, and it was like, oh
my goodness, they came and they came for what I had,
and some of those women have transformed their lives. Some
of them are getting awarded on great stages. I mean,
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that moment for me was it was the seal. It
was the seal that you can do this.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I mean, that's admirable. I mean for you to actually
start with group coaching, because most of the time when
you start as a coach, they say start individual lead
until you get your clients. You know, once you start
and you get the evidence of you know, keeping it
your next one in, your next one, perpetual, your consistency,
and then you go into group. But you started group,
which is a little bit more challenging. So that was
(09:13):
even ten times confidence in confirmation right there. That is good, beautiful.
Now let me ask you, do you still coach on
that particular program or have you elevated from that one
program where you first started with eleven women.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Oh my gosh, yeah, it's an evolution. Okay, yes, I
have evolved from that particular program. I still offer that course,
but now I do group coaching still and I do
one on one in my coaching practice. And you know what,
(09:47):
it has evolved tremendously as I continue to refine the
message and moving forward. Right, that's what we do. We
refine the message and then we build a program based
on what once we identify who is our ideal partner
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or client or however you want to refer to her.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Well, the interesting thing about that is a journey. So
as our lives continue to deepen and widen the capacity
that God has for us, then also your practice is
going to widen and deepen and it's going to you know,
be able to attract that particular client. So it is
an evolving thing. So you focus on helping women step
into their brilliance by overcoming, limiting, overcoming limited beliefs. Let's
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talk about that for one quick second. So what are
some of the biggest mental road blocks that you see
pull women back?
Speaker 2 (10:46):
One is how they see themselves? Right, how do you
what is the how do you see yourself? And what
are you saying to yourself? Like, how do we relate
to ourselves before we can relate to anyone else, How
will we relate to ourselves? What things are we saying
to ourselves? How do we see ourselves? Do we see
ourselves the same way that God sees us. Who what
(11:09):
are those messages that we have to tear down and dismantle, right,
that are keeping us from now I'm going to tell
you some of these women are already on platforms like yeah,
in corporate right, they are already in corporate spaces running business.
But they're still that that comes up, right, it sticks
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his head up every now and then. And so how
do we keep the voice from being loud about who
we aren't to be even louder about who we are?
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Well, you know what, that is a very good a point.
And the limited belief in the mindsets. I know I
spend a lot of time with that with coaching with
my clients as well. But what I to realize and
what God has inspired within my heart is that those
things don't totally go away. So what happens is the
voice becomes smaller. But the voice becomes smaller, and as
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God grows you taller than it has no hour over
take you. That's changing the name of the game. That's
right there. It's not like it's gonna go away.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
It's not gonna totally go but you don't.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Have no power. Let me keep on going because I'm
about to do this, Ted talk, right, now this leader
over here that's holding this group, So it's not gonna.
I got a plane in my jet to catch over here.
Like the voice becomes smaller. It's not totally eliminated, but
it has no power or has no have to get
your lady yes.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
And we can't. We can't negate the fact that the
voice is gonna. Those voices are still going to ring,
but they don't have power. That's what's so powerful, right,
That is what is so powerful is the voice no
longer holds me captive.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
I love it, and that is so important to this
next step where we talk about faith leadership and transformation,
because ultimately that is where we're trying to get to.
So the topic of the day, ladies, we do have
a topic, which is faith leadership and transformational renewing your
mind for personal and professional growth. So, Dabby, let me
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ask you, how has faith played a role in your
leadership journey?
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Oh, my goodness, so pivotal in my life, my faith
and even in not only my entrepreneurial journey, but even
in my corporate journey. Like, my faith has been so
loud in my life. I have had folks say, well
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how do you do it? And I've had to come
back and say, you know what, it's not me. It
is my faith that sustains me. And what in particular
is being transformed by the renewing of my mind? Right,
just really shifting from you know, the doubt and fear
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and you know, all the things took a place of
real confidence and clarity. And that is not strictly in
my abilities, but in the ability of my creator, who
I call God.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
Love it and I call it in him realities.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Our reality.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
In that way when you cross in reality. Oh my
goodness is beautiful. Oh my god, this is so good.
So you talk about renewing your mind, what does that
process look like and why is it essential for personal
and professional development? Deby, We must renew our minds and
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it got to be it has to.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Be part of the coaching process.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
It has to be part of the coaching process.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Has to be I think it is. Where Why is
it important? Because that being transformed by the renewing of
our mind it really allows us to identify those limiting beliefs, right,
and then replace them with faith filled affirmations.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Oh, way, say that one more time. He said, what
what what it is?
Speaker 2 (15:24):
It's the these practical strategies. It is being transformed by
the renewing of the mind. It helps us to want
identify those limiting beliefs and replace them with faith filled affirmations.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
I look forward to your faith Field Affirmation book.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Oh, I love that.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
And culture, right, I look forward to that. And on
that note, give us a few practical strategies that women
could use to build the courageousness and the confidence and
they step into their leadership roles.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
So's yeah, I think you know a pivotal strategy to
cultivate that really courageous confidence. It's by taking action. We've
said it here earlier. It's even in uncertainty. Yeah, if
you don't start and you just begin, that helps us
(16:25):
to cultivate that courageous confidence. And even when we're building
support systems in our mentors and our coaches and like
minded individuals, this supports our journey. Absolutely. Action is one
and what's one more? Yeah, building that support system. The
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support system it is getting with those individuals that can
support you along your journey. Right. We don't have to
do it alone.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
I don't know who told.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Who told us we had to do it by ourselves.
We don't. We there are folks who have the expertise.
You got your coach Kim here, you got folks who
have the expertise. You don't have to do it on
your own. And if you are willing to partner, and
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you're willing to invest, and your willing to bet on
yourself with in partnership with God, then you will get
the help that you need.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Baith fed, baith led servant leaders. I've come out the
closet with back one in my coach. I'm gonna add
one more. So you said take action. Take action. That's beautiful.
That's taking a step to do it. And then building
a support and ladies, let's just also add building a
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fortress of people higher than yourself, the same higher than
yourself that you see them, that they're already there or going,
that they've already climbed Mounteverest, because then they're going to
help you to collapse time. And then I would also
piggyback and just say just execution of it function texts
(18:14):
the action. But there's one thing, Hey, let's execute this
total plan. Now you've got a plan, got to execute fact.
So that's one the phone. So as we move into
the imposter syndrome, navigating, navigating challenges. So many high achieving
women struggle because your avatar women that you that you
coach are high achieving women. Many high achieving women struggle
(18:37):
with imposters centric. I think for twenty twenty five we
need to burn that at the state. It just needs
not to be anywhere in the vocabulary. But how do
you coach your clients through self doubt and fear so
they can step into their greatness and their brilliance?
Speaker 2 (18:57):
Yeah, we really start out with visualization, right. One of
the activities that I do is visualization. How do you
see and we walk through this beautiful exercise together where
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they can see themselves through this exercise in a more
positive way. That is the first step, right. And then
after we come out of that activity and exercise, and
depending on where they land right depends on where the
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where the person lands is, then we go through what's
the what's the root cause of where you are? Right
of where those negative thoughts generated, what specific specific thoughts
makes you feel that you're not enough? Where did that
(19:59):
believe originally? And then what's the evidence that even that
contradicts this doubt? Right? And then reframing those negative thoughts
that's the next teaching the cognitive reframing instead of I'm
not good enough. I'm growing and learning every day, right,
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and then encouraging those small courageous actions gave me.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
That is so good. That's worth the whole price of
your whole culture program. Break. You see what you did.
You didn't took cognitive cognitive dissonance. Boom, that's that cognitive dissonance.
And we can't have that. No, no, no, no it
it we can't have it. And I love what you
just said. The visualization is so so powerful for me
as a massage therapersent, and I take my clients to
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do that journey whole time when they come into me.
That visualization is so powerful you could use in all
elements of your life. But more importantly than that, I
love the fact that you said, nope, we have to
go back and less disempower the root cause of the belief.
So times if you don't know what the root cause
of it will come back and show you it's coming back.
It's gonna come back. You know. This is why this
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is so Ladies, are you listening? Are you? Are you
picking up what we're throwing down? This is why it's
so good to have a cult. So that they can
help you to break you free so that you don't
have the power of this syndrome, imposture syndrome, so that
you can live a life of freedom and fulfillment and joy.
Because so many women get so wrapped up in their
(21:28):
traumas and they don't know why they's so traumatized. But
you just said something so powerful right there, Damn you
gotta say it. You help to identify and so they
can dis empower the belief that keeps them shock.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Yes, I mean really, it's helping them separate the facts
from the feelings. Right, just because they feel unqualified doesn't
mean they are right. It's because somebody said a thing
doesn't mean that they are. And then you know, how
do you get from that to this brilliance space? Right?
(22:03):
Really developing a brilliance journal where they can document their wins,
their strengths, their affirmations, regularly, track their compliments and testimonials
from other people, normalize their experiences, right, and have an
accountability plan.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
And embody the experience. I mean, embody what they're going through.
And you become the brilliant star. You become the gym.
Your evidence is how you are shining where you're growing
where you're up leveling too. So that's the evidence, not
one the false story that you tell yourself, but who
you really are in God, a superior being.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Yes, anchoring their identity and faith right not fear. We
got to remind them that their value is not tied
to performance and absolutely not or who you know. Honey,
it's not You're already worthy called I love it.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
I love it. Oh man, this is really wonderful. Can
you share just real briefly a powerful transformation, maybe a
story that you helped one of your clients as you
were applying some of these principles to where they were
in the beginning, and then how your beautiful brilliance you know,
(23:25):
from from here to there? Can can Can you share
one of your client testimonial stories.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
Yeah, so let's meet Yeah, let's meet Carol. I think
Carol she was I mean, she has an amazing story.
She was really one who started off as kind of
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not clear about where is it that she wanted to
be uh serving, She's a community leader, faith based leader,
but she still had some hang ups around where is
it that she wanted to really be clear about where
she's serving? And so through our work together we took
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that you know, space of overwhelm and poor time management,
and she saw herself pretty well in terms of her confidence.
That really wasn't her area, but it was having a
plan of action that allowed her to execute the vision
in excellence. And so Carol is now, you know, during
(24:40):
our journey through the intensive because that's the program that
we worked together on, she embraced you know, bold strategies,
refined her goals, cultivated a clear vision for her business,
and she's unstoppable love and she continues to break barriers
(25:01):
and uplift others and create a lasting change. So Caroly
and I are still connected. She's still part of the
Brilliance community.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
And you said, the Brilliant community. We're gonna we're gonna
land on, We're gonna end that with the Brilliance community.
Y'all to be a part of the Brilliance community. And
then y'all go over to be a part of the
Brilliant community. Come on over to she and powers because
that's my community. And then be like, oh my god,
(25:30):
unstoppable for the that is beautiful. And I love the
fact that Carol is still working with you. I love
the fact that she's a part of the brilliant communities.
And that makes it all the better. When you can
help transform someone's lives so they can transcend, so they
can eluvate, so expand and be better mind, body, soul,
(25:54):
and spirit, then you know that you've really done when
we are supposed to be new. So let me ask
this as we shift a little bit and almost land
as plane is leading into purpose and influence, what advice
do you give women looking to integrate faith and leadership
and business and staying true to your values, be.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Authentic, just state, just don't apologize about your faith. And
I know sometimes we're nervous about incorporating our faith and
our businesses. But really, when you maintain true to your values,
your core values, how you function innately? Right, this is
(26:33):
how you move about life. For me, it's faith, family connection, faith,
family connection. Those are my top three. Like that's how
I show up every day. And so if you hold
true to your core values, not being apologetic about why
(26:55):
it is you do what you do, and maintaining this
level of grace, watch how your business transcends. As you
put your this. Uh, somebody said they put your love
on top. You put your faith on tip. Right, you
put your faith on chip.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
Yes, you put your faith on top. That's the main piller,
that that actually is the foundation to everything that is
so perfect. Now, you know, I can't leave this podcast
without without tiptoeing on this. We got to talk about this.
Someone who's been married for thirty three years? Can you
say three decades? Y'all? Come on? You said, she she tried,
and she tried not to talk about it, but it's brilliant.
(27:37):
Someone who's been married for thirty three decades. I wasn't
going to leave without bridgeting did deeply involved in leadership
and culture. How do you balance that? How do you
bandage this beautiful, magnificent, magnetic marriage of three decades and
personal and now your professional growth because you are the
brilliant star you know w the North started. You can
(28:00):
have it all. Oh my goodness, you're.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Gonna have it all, not all at once, but you
can have it all, right, both men. Three decades plus
a marriage. And I'll tell you I about a few
years ago, right after being married thirty three years, three
years about a few years ago, God gave me this
amazing framework for that really debunked this balance thing, right,
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and so I shifted from a place of balance to rhythm.
I lived my life in a flow and the rhythm
of grace from my life. So it really is about,
you know, where is the season? So how do I
how do I navigate and occupy these multiple spaces and
still maintain a healthy, happy relationship that doesn't feel like
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thirty three. I'm like, still look at my husband, and
I'm like, we're teenagers. I'm like, gosh, do you believe
we like have gone through the decades together.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And you've gone through the worst part? You really do.
I tell people that I was married for ten years before.
I tell people all the time, ten years ain't nothing fifteen,
But when you get to twenty twenty five, God, is
that Okay? Now you're about to get some benefits. The benefits,
I tell everybody. The benefits starts at two decades, ladies
and gentlemen. If that's when I started seven and ten,
that's the warm up. You just y'all just getting used
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to each other's fruit and foods and things like that.
When you be gone to the deeps of the debt. Okay,
I know that's not what this podcast is, but you know,
I love what you said. Living balance to a life
of rhythm. Oh my god, See that said that answers
the question right there. That's how she did it, from
living from being balanced to living a lifestyle of rhythm. Okay,
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all right, So as we end this plane and wrap up,
what is the one thing you and your husband love
to do together?
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Movies? We've have since we've been married. We're movie buffs.
We love going to the movies and we love to travel.
So movies. We like action movies. We like movies. Movies
just but now since the pandemic, movie scenes changed, right
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and for the first time in a very long time,
two weekends ago, we went to the drive in together.
That was so romantico, just the two of us.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
Did you bring your own popcorn too?
Speaker 2 (30:31):
I didn't. I went to the concession stand because it
was on National Rockcorn Day, so they were giving discounts
for cord.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
You don't have drive ins. They didn't blought them back.
What yaguy?
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Walnut Creek or Conquered Pleasant Hill. But we went in Sacramento.
We were in Sacramento, so we went in Sacramento.
Speaker 1 (30:52):
Ye is so fabulous. I love it. So before we
wrap up, Debby, what are some final words of pouragement?
Do you want to leave the listeners and ladies with
and then also I want to you know, share with
how they can connect with your brilliant discovery call and
to join your brilliant mastermind. So what kinds of thoughts
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or anything that you would like to last minute?
Speaker 2 (31:20):
Oh yeah, I want to leave all. Yeah, I want
to just say that you know, this leadership journey it's
continuous refinement. It requires clarity, confidence and resilience, and being
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authentic is the foundation. It is the foundation in addition
to your faith. So don't stop, don't allow anyone to
tell you what you can't do. Embrace your faith fully
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and allow the woman that you are to shine brightly
and brilliantly, owning all of who you are, all of
your prowess, all of your ingenuity, everything that is on
the inside of you, and allow it to shine brightly
and own your brains it.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
Oh my god, I could just ask ten more questions
on that one. So, Debbie, your Facebook page? How do
people get in contact with you on Facebook?
Speaker 2 (32:34):
Debbie Renee Howard, I'm Debbie Renee Howard across all platforms,
Debbie Renee Howard. It's my ample Facebook, it's my website. Okay,
it's my LinkedIn, it's IgG.
Speaker 1 (32:48):
Okay, And so how do people connect with you for
your brilliant discovery call?
Speaker 2 (32:54):
They just go to my website, okay, and there is
a place there with it you click on for to
connect with me for a discovery callers, you know, a
few questions to answer and then we'll connect for a
brilliance connect call. I call it, but she calls it
a brilliance. Now, how brilliant is that a connect call?
Speaker 1 (33:18):
So on that note, you have a program, you have
a beautiful offer that you would like to share. Tell
us about the brilliance mastermind special offer.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
So who's it for? Let me tell you who it
is for. She is, I'll tell you about her. She's
a faith driven leader who's ready to grow professionally and personally.
She's aspiring to or an established leader, even in corporate
or entrepreneurship. She struggles with self doubt, impostor syndrome, uncertainty.
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She desires confidence, clarity. She's already in these spaces, but
she still desires this clarity and accountability to step into
her purpose. She wants to enhance her public speaking, even
leadership or business presence, but she needs some guidance.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
I love it. So we know who she is and
so now what is the package did you offer to
deliver to her to help her?
Speaker 2 (34:20):
Yeah, she's going to be able to take those dreams
from reality and get get in an environment where you
can connect your visions to a strategy that then you
can execute. You can move it from the clouds of
a dream to something that's real and tangible and we
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can work through like setting those milestones. You know, sometimes
we get stuck in the who can help me? And
we'll we'll work the framework that then takes gives you
something tangible When you leave that ninety minute session, you
can have some being tangible to then move it from
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implementation to execution.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
He's an implementation and execution. I love that. So, Debby,
let me ask you this is it a how long
is that session? And how much is it?
Speaker 2 (35:14):
Yes, it's a ninety minutes. Can you believe you'll get
out that in ninety minutes? That's right? Ninety minutes. And
it is a low cost investment. It's valued at two
hundred and fifty dollars and you can get it for
ninety nine dollars. It's happening Saturday. You want to jump in.
It's happening Saturday.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
And is it a one on one or is it
a group?
Speaker 2 (35:38):
It's a group. It is a group. Coaching one on
one is much more intensive because you're getting that guidance
one on one.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
So this is group So just one is a group
coaching is clear. So this is group coaching. And if
someone wants it, I'm going to put the information in
show notes. They can go to your Facebook page or
they can.
Speaker 2 (36:00):
To the website.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
Now let me ask you this. You're offering this this Saturday.
So this Saturday is the sixth, I believe, or the seventh,
the eighth. It's the eighth. So what happens after if
they want to take advantage of this? Will you be
offering it again? Is it every Saturday or only that
one Saturday?
Speaker 2 (36:18):
No, so it will be offered again. I do that
offering every other month, So we won't do that again
until April. So we'll do it that. We do it
the second Saturday every other month, so February April, oh.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Oh my gosh. And then and then and then lastly,
because I know people are going to say the transparency,
the safeness, how do you ensure that people the ladies
that come so that they can share and be transparent
and that it maintains a safe space as they're sharing
these things.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
Yeah, so we do. We do start off with our
look I call a non disclosure agreement, but our policy
around this sharing. What's it's like Vegas, right, what you
share in the space stays in this space. And I've
had you know, women who are divorce attorneys turned coaches,
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executive leaders. Really the community of women that come into
these spaces already understand the etiquette of coming into a
group coaching space. They may not have participated in that,
but because in other areas of their business or in
their profession, they know how to maintain anonymity. I love
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it's important.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
I love to watch so many it's not recorded, So.
Speaker 2 (37:50):
That's not recorded because it has been.
Speaker 1 (37:53):
So good, ladies, this has been so wonderful. You guys,
let's give a round of applause to Debbie ren Howard,
Brilliance Coach, Transformation Brilliance coach. You will be able to
find all her information in the show notes, as she
said that you can find her on all social media
by going to Debbie Renee Howard. So we look, so
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we look, so forward to the things that she'll be
doing in twenty twenty five is she shares and connects
her brilliant So, Debbie, thank you so much for being
on the show. I want to ask you two last questions.
Where on the Earth are you going to be traveling next?
If you could spend the bottle to go to any
place on the earth, where would your next you and
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your husband travel to?
Speaker 2 (38:38):
Oh goodness, well, so it's not on my tenerary for
this year, but Europe that would be our next place.
Not this year, but we have it on our travel itinerary.
That is where I'm going next. Europe. We've gone to,
you know, the Caribbeans, We've traveled, Exicos, We've traveled you
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know here there we love to travel. But I'd say
that would be the one place that I want to
go with him.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
Yeah, that's so wonderful. And do you see, I don't
know what is this came up? So I got to
ask before I close off the show, when will you
be see I'm already I'm already calling it. I'm already
bringing forth for when are you going to start your mastermind?
To where you would have your mastermind of women? That
will be traveling with you in your brilliant bridness? When
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is that?
Speaker 2 (39:32):
That's so good? So, you know, I thought a little
bit about this some when I was planning this European
vacation for twenty twenty six. Is that's my sixtieth year
of life, y'all. But I was actually thinking about expanding
that because I do. I do curate experiences for women, right,
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and I've been doing the Brilliant sixp Sperience for two years.
I'm twenty three and twenty four, and folks are like,
what are we doing next? And they're hankering for something.
Not sure what I'm doing in twenty twenty five yet,
but maybe twenty twenty six actually thought of it.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
What's wrong with you doing the Brilliant experience once a year?
What's wrong?
Speaker 2 (40:20):
Well, I'll tell you I'm not into doing it for
annual doing things sake, right, I'm just not. It has
to and what from what I'm hearing folks are saying,
it adds value. It takes a lot to produce live
experiences and they're not events because I've got people who
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attended in twenty twenty three still telling me about the
transformation they're experience and still.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
So that's real talk.
Speaker 2 (40:51):
That's real talk, right, It's about the experience and a connection,
and so that's I don't know. I don't know. There's
nothing wrong with doing it every year, and I'm not
into just doing it out of mimetics.
Speaker 1 (41:06):
Okay, I get it, I get it. I get it. Deffie,
thank you so much again. Her mantra is on your
own brilliance. Debbie Rene Howard, thank you so much for
being on the show. And as I love to always
close out my show, I hope that you could receive
a nugget or a gym or a gift, and I
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just want to send a blessing out as far as
the east, as far as the west, as far as
the north, as far as the south, that you guys,
ladies' men too, that you're able to walk away with
a gym or two. May that be transforming into your
life or motivational and we look so forward to you
being on the next Inspired Conversations with Kim Evans. Thank
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you very much. Y'all know who I am. I'm a
beauty and business coach and this is twenty twenty five
and I am so excited to bring to you y'all
inspire conversations on this new Oh my god. Yeah, I'm
so excited as we cross over to our one hundred
show and we're gonna make to two hundred and twenty
twenty five, and I'm excited and de thank you very
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much for being a guest on my show this evening.
Bye friend,
Well, welcome everybody. This is Kim Evans and this is
Inspired Conversations. I am so excited today, y'all. I'm so
excited because I have a very lovely guest here with
Debbie Britane Howard. Hey. Hey, Debbie, Hey.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Kim Hey.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
I am so excited.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
This is really wonderful because me and Debbie in the
same space. We do similar things and we couldn't have
even decided to do it better. Time celebrating Black History months,
Black excellence, and it's just been it's just been really
really nice. So Debbie, thank you so much. So I'm
(00:45):
gonna go ahead on and just talk about what you
do and we're gonna get We're gonna get on into
the show. Is that okay?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
That sounds amazing. Thank you so much for this amazing
opportunity to have this conversation with Kim. It is my
honor to be with you today. So I'm looking forward
to sharing with you and your audience. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
So, ladies and ladypreneurs, lopreneurs, so get ready to take
your notes, because we are actually going to be shared
some wonderful Kim Jim thoughts. Okay, So Debbie Renee Howard
is a brilliance lifestyle, influencer, coach, consultant and strategies dedicated
to empowering women leaders and we love that as the
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founder of design and the way she speils it is
de e zigned for Greatness Coaching. That's the name of
her business as she helps women gain clarity, build confidence,
and transform their lives by renewing their minds and aligning
with their purpose. And we're going to add in their brilliance.
(01:50):
So with decades of experience in healthcare and leadership, Debbi
guides corporate leaders, entrepreneurs, ministry driven individuals and overcoming the imposterson.
And we're going to talk about that a little bit too,
refining their goals, taking bold, meaningful action. Her mantra, I
love her mantra, y'all. Her mantra is off the shame.
(02:10):
Her mattres is really y'all. Taking note to the mantra. Now,
the mantra is on your brilliance. See simple is great.
See simple is great. You see how simple that is.
Own your brilliance. Just just owned your brilliance. God says,
to be courageous, be bold, own your brilliance, reflects her
belief that everyone has a unique purpose, waiting to shine.
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A devoted wife for thirty three years, and I'm gonna
touch on one or two questions about that. She's a grandmother,
devoted community leader. Debbie Ingrate's faith. I love that because
I'm telling my telling my clients that we need to
come on invite God back into our businesses. He's the
pillar man, He's the pillar authenticity transformation into her work,
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inspiring others to lead, confident into create elasting impact. Daddy
who to us five conversations? Girl?
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Wow? Thank you? How exciting? What an introduction.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
So Debby start would share a little bit about your journey.
What led you to becoming a brilliant lifestyle influencer and coach?
Because you come from corporate background, you still would have
made your corporation and you also expanding and designing your
brilliance and your coach. Come on, so what led you
to this journey? Right here? Tell us? How did you
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get from Highway five to one on one the scene?
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Tell us God, listen, it's through my own journey and experience.
I didn't want to contain it all on my own.
It was becoming that woman who is confident courageously confident
of authentic owning all of who I am. And I said,
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you know what, I can't keep this to myself, right,
I've got to share this. I've got to share this
with others because what I know for sure that there
are women just like me who need what I have.
And so I got there. Look, not all at once
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in a journey, right, it's not a sprint, it's a marathon.
So I took really all of my life's experience coupled
with my professional experience, my faith background, and I said,
I can package this. Actually, I can actually create something
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that will provide women with tangible tools to get their
dreams from the dream space to reality, Like create a
legacy that lives beyond us, serving right, serving and doing
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what we love. I think that journey has happened over
time in such magnificent ways. Did I know all the
answers when I started? Absolutely not. Do I know all
the answers today? Absolutely? But what I do know is
that you don't have to start. You can begin, That's right,
That's right. Kim Kim shared with me in a pre conversation.
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She was like, you know you can, you can get that.
You don't need all of the you can get that,
just keep it simple, right, And so I have learned
that you don't have to have all the answers, and
that's what I share with those who I work with.
You don't have to have all the answers. We get
stuck in that place of uncertainty. And that's the bottleneck, right,
(05:52):
the uncertainty.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Don't have to be perfect. It's like, we don't have.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
To be perfect, because that's part of that imposter syndrome, right,
It's the part that keeps us removing forward.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
So so let me ask you this, what was one
of your deciding factors? Uh, let's say, let me just
answer asking a different question. What was one of your
pivotal moments that occurred in your life that said, you
know what, I could do this coach, I could be
this coach, I can help other women. What was that?
(06:24):
Where was that point in your life that you said,
you know what, I'm gonna do this? What was that
pivotal moment? There were a couple, but the one, I
think the one the one that just was going, one
that was.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Earth shattering, I would say, unearthing, breakthrough moment. It was
the moment a leader that I trusted and was supposed
to be someone who was showing me the way, said
I came. So those were words set a fuel and
(07:02):
a fire under me to say, you know what I
can and I will watch me. So when someone that
you trust and suppose and is supposed to be showing
you the way, leaders lead through example. And so that
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to me was the moment where I was like, oh, yeah,
I can't do this. I will do this, and watch
me do this. Ask me where she at right now?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
But okay, But the interesting thing is that they're not
perfect and they're human. They're human beings. So once you
had that pivotal epiphoty, when did you go out to
get the first client? And how feeling? How was that
feeling when you got your first coaching client? Tell us
about that experience.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
It was liberating. And I'll tell you why because so
many times we think, you know, who wants to listen
to me? Right? Do I have what it takes to
do this thing? And I didn't start in an individual client.
I started my practice in a group coaching practice. And
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my very first group coaching class was like eleven, twelve,
fifteen people something like that, and it was like, oh
my goodness, they came and they came for what I had,
and some of those women have transformed their lives. Some
of them are getting awarded on great stages. I mean,
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that moment for me was it was the seal. It
was the seal that you can do this.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I mean, that's admirable. I mean for you to actually
start with group coaching, because most of the time when
you start as a coach, they say start individual lead
until you get your clients. You know, once you start
and you get the evidence of you know, keeping it
your next one in, your next one, perpetual, your consistency,
and then you go into group. But you started group,
which is a little bit more challenging. So that was
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even ten times confidence in confirmation right there. That is good, beautiful.
Now let me ask you, do you still coach on
that particular program or have you elevated from that one
program where you first started with eleven women.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Oh my gosh, yeah, it's an evolution. Okay, yes, I
have evolved from that particular program. I still offer that course,
but now I do group coaching still and I do
one on one in my coaching practice. And you know what,
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it has evolved tremendously as I continue to refine the
message and moving forward. Right, that's what we do. We
refine the message and then we build a program based
on what once we identify who is our ideal partner
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or client or however you want to refer to her.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Well, the interesting thing about that is a journey. So
as our lives continue to deepen and widen the capacity
that God has for us, then also your practice is
going to widen and deepen and it's going to you know,
be able to attract that particular client. So it is
an evolving thing. So you focus on helping women step
into their brilliance by overcoming, limiting, overcoming limited beliefs. Let's
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talk about that for one quick second. So what are
some of the biggest mental road blocks that you see
pull women back?
Speaker 2 (10:46):
One is how they see themselves? Right, how do you
what is the how do you see yourself? And what
are you saying to yourself? Like, how do we relate
to ourselves before we can relate to anyone else, How
will we relate to ourselves? What things are we saying
to ourselves? How do we see ourselves? Do we see
ourselves the same way that God sees us. Who what
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are those messages that we have to tear down and dismantle, right,
that are keeping us from now I'm going to tell
you some of these women are already on platforms like yeah,
in corporate right, they are already in corporate spaces running business.
But they're still that that comes up, right, it sticks
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his head up every now and then. And so how
do we keep the voice from being loud about who
we aren't to be even louder about who we are?
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Well, you know what, that is a very good a point.
And the limited belief in the mindsets. I know I
spend a lot of time with that with coaching with
my clients as well. But what I to realize and
what God has inspired within my heart is that those
things don't totally go away. So what happens is the
voice becomes smaller. But the voice becomes smaller, and as
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God grows you taller than it has no hour over
take you. That's changing the name of the game. That's
right there. It's not like it's gonna go away.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
It's not gonna totally go but you don't.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Have no power. Let me keep on going because I'm
about to do this, Ted talk, right, now this leader
over here that's holding this group, So it's not gonna.
I got a plane in my jet to catch over here.
Like the voice becomes smaller. It's not totally eliminated, but
it has no power or has no have to get
your lady yes.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
And we can't. We can't negate the fact that the
voice is gonna. Those voices are still going to ring,
but they don't have power. That's what's so powerful, right,
That is what is so powerful is the voice no
longer holds me captive.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
I love it, and that is so important to this
next step where we talk about faith leadership and transformation,
because ultimately that is where we're trying to get to.
So the topic of the day, ladies, we do have
a topic, which is faith leadership and transformational renewing your
mind for personal and professional growth. So, Dabby, let me
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ask you, how has faith played a role in your
leadership journey?
Speaker 2 (13:30):
Oh, my goodness, so pivotal in my life, my faith
and even in not only my entrepreneurial journey, but even
in my corporate journey. Like, my faith has been so
loud in my life. I have had folks say, well
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how do you do it? And I've had to come
back and say, you know what, it's not me. It
is my faith that sustains me. And what in particular
is being transformed by the renewing of my mind? Right,
just really shifting from you know, the doubt and fear
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and you know, all the things took a place of
real confidence and clarity. And that is not strictly in
my abilities, but in the ability of my creator, who
I call God.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
Love it and I call it in him realities.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Our reality.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
In that way when you cross in reality. Oh my
goodness is beautiful. Oh my god, this is so good.
So you talk about renewing your mind, what does that
process look like and why is it essential for personal
and professional development? Deby, We must renew our minds and
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it got to be it has to.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Be part of the coaching process.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
It has to be part of the coaching process.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Has to be I think it is. Where Why is
it important? Because that being transformed by the renewing of
our mind it really allows us to identify those limiting beliefs, right,
and then replace them with faith filled affirmations.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Oh, way, say that one more time. He said, what
what what it is?
Speaker 2 (15:24):
It's the these practical strategies. It is being transformed by
the renewing of the mind. It helps us to want
identify those limiting beliefs and replace them with faith filled affirmations.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
I look forward to your faith Field Affirmation book.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Oh, I love that.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
And culture, right, I look forward to that. And on
that note, give us a few practical strategies that women
could use to build the courageousness and the confidence and
they step into their leadership roles.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
So's yeah, I think you know a pivotal strategy to
cultivate that really courageous confidence. It's by taking action. We've
said it here earlier. It's even in uncertainty. Yeah, if
you don't start and you just begin, that helps us
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to cultivate that courageous confidence. And even when we're building
support systems in our mentors and our coaches and like
minded individuals, this supports our journey. Absolutely. Action is one
and what's one more? Yeah, building that support system. The
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support system it is getting with those individuals that can
support you along your journey. Right. We don't have to
do it alone.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
I don't know who told.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
Who told us we had to do it by ourselves.
We don't. We there are folks who have the expertise.
You got your coach Kim here, you got folks who
have the expertise. You don't have to do it on
your own. And if you are willing to partner, and
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you're willing to invest, and your willing to bet on
yourself with in partnership with God, then you will get
the help that you need.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Baith fed, baith led servant leaders. I've come out the
closet with back one in my coach. I'm gonna add
one more. So you said take action. Take action. That's beautiful.
That's taking a step to do it. And then building
a support and ladies, let's just also add building a
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fortress of people higher than yourself, the same higher than
yourself that you see them, that they're already there or going,
that they've already climbed Mounteverest, because then they're going to
help you to collapse time. And then I would also
piggyback and just say just execution of it function texts
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the action. But there's one thing, Hey, let's execute this
total plan. Now you've got a plan, got to execute fact.
So that's one the phone. So as we move into
the imposter syndrome, navigating, navigating challenges. So many high achieving
women struggle because your avatar women that you that you
coach are high achieving women. Many high achieving women struggle
(18:37):
with imposters centric. I think for twenty twenty five we
need to burn that at the state. It just needs
not to be anywhere in the vocabulary. But how do
you coach your clients through self doubt and fear so
they can step into their greatness and their brilliance?
Speaker 2 (18:57):
Yeah, we really start out with visualization, right. One of
the activities that I do is visualization. How do you
see and we walk through this beautiful exercise together where
(19:17):
they can see themselves through this exercise in a more
positive way. That is the first step, right. And then
after we come out of that activity and exercise, and
depending on where they land right depends on where the
(19:38):
where the person lands is, then we go through what's
the what's the root cause of where you are? Right
of where those negative thoughts generated, what specific specific thoughts
makes you feel that you're not enough? Where did that
(19:59):
believe originally? And then what's the evidence that even that
contradicts this doubt? Right? And then reframing those negative thoughts
that's the next teaching the cognitive reframing instead of I'm
not good enough. I'm growing and learning every day, right,
(20:19):
and then encouraging those small courageous actions gave me.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
That is so good. That's worth the whole price of
your whole culture program. Break. You see what you did.
You didn't took cognitive cognitive dissonance. Boom, that's that cognitive dissonance.
And we can't have that. No, no, no, no it
it we can't have it. And I love what you
just said. The visualization is so so powerful for me
as a massage therapersent, and I take my clients to
(20:45):
do that journey whole time when they come into me.
That visualization is so powerful you could use in all
elements of your life. But more importantly than that, I
love the fact that you said, nope, we have to
go back and less disempower the root cause of the belief.
So times if you don't know what the root cause
of it will come back and show you it's coming back.
It's gonna come back. You know. This is why this
(21:08):
is so Ladies, are you listening? Are you? Are you
picking up what we're throwing down? This is why it's
so good to have a cult. So that they can
help you to break you free so that you don't
have the power of this syndrome, imposture syndrome, so that
you can live a life of freedom and fulfillment and joy.
Because so many women get so wrapped up in their
(21:28):
traumas and they don't know why they's so traumatized. But
you just said something so powerful right there, Damn you
gotta say it. You help to identify and so they
can dis empower the belief that keeps them shock.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Yes, I mean really, it's helping them separate the facts
from the feelings. Right, just because they feel unqualified doesn't
mean they are right. It's because somebody said a thing
doesn't mean that they are. And then you know, how
do you get from that to this brilliance space? Right?
(22:03):
Really developing a brilliance journal where they can document their wins,
their strengths, their affirmations, regularly, track their compliments and testimonials
from other people, normalize their experiences, right, and have an
accountability plan.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
And embody the experience. I mean, embody what they're going through.
And you become the brilliant star. You become the gym.
Your evidence is how you are shining where you're growing
where you're up leveling too. So that's the evidence, not
one the false story that you tell yourself, but who
you really are in God, a superior being.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Yes, anchoring their identity and faith right not fear. We
got to remind them that their value is not tied
to performance and absolutely not or who you know. Honey,
it's not You're already worthy called I love it.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
I love it. Oh man, this is really wonderful. Can
you share just real briefly a powerful transformation, maybe a
story that you helped one of your clients as you
were applying some of these principles to where they were
in the beginning, and then how your beautiful brilliance you know,
(23:25):
from from here to there? Can can Can you share
one of your client testimonial stories.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
Yeah, so let's meet Yeah, let's meet Carol. I think
Carol she was I mean, she has an amazing story.
She was really one who started off as kind of
(23:52):
not clear about where is it that she wanted to
be uh serving, She's a community leader, faith based leader,
but she still had some hang ups around where is
it that she wanted to really be clear about where
she's serving? And so through our work together we took
(24:15):
that you know, space of overwhelm and poor time management,
and she saw herself pretty well in terms of her confidence.
That really wasn't her area, but it was having a
plan of action that allowed her to execute the vision
in excellence. And so Carol is now, you know, during
(24:40):
our journey through the intensive because that's the program that
we worked together on, she embraced you know, bold strategies,
refined her goals, cultivated a clear vision for her business,
and she's unstoppable love and she continues to break barriers
(25:01):
and uplift others and create a lasting change. So Caroly
and I are still connected. She's still part of the
Brilliance community.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
And you said, the Brilliant community. We're gonna we're gonna
land on, We're gonna end that with the Brilliance community.
Y'all to be a part of the Brilliance community. And
then y'all go over to be a part of the
Brilliant community. Come on over to she and powers because
that's my community. And then be like, oh my god,
(25:30):
unstoppable for the that is beautiful. And I love the
fact that Carol is still working with you. I love
the fact that she's a part of the brilliant communities.
And that makes it all the better. When you can
help transform someone's lives so they can transcend, so they
can eluvate, so expand and be better mind, body, soul,
(25:54):
and spirit, then you know that you've really done when
we are supposed to be new. So let me ask
this as we shift a little bit and almost land
as plane is leading into purpose and influence, what advice
do you give women looking to integrate faith and leadership
and business and staying true to your values, be.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
Authentic, just state, just don't apologize about your faith. And
I know sometimes we're nervous about incorporating our faith and
our businesses. But really, when you maintain true to your values,
your core values, how you function innately? Right, this is
(26:33):
how you move about life. For me, it's faith, family connection, faith,
family connection. Those are my top three. Like that's how
I show up every day. And so if you hold
true to your core values, not being apologetic about why
(26:55):
it is you do what you do, and maintaining this
level of grace, watch how your business transcends. As you
put your this. Uh, somebody said they put your love
on top. You put your faith on tip. Right, you
put your faith on chip.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
Yes, you put your faith on top. That's the main piller,
that that actually is the foundation to everything that is
so perfect. Now, you know, I can't leave this podcast
without without tiptoeing on this. We got to talk about this.
Someone who's been married for thirty three years? Can you
say three decades? Y'all? Come on? You said, she she tried,
and she tried not to talk about it, but it's brilliant.
(27:37):
Someone who's been married for thirty three decades. I wasn't
going to leave without bridgeting did deeply involved in leadership
and culture. How do you balance that? How do you
bandage this beautiful, magnificent, magnetic marriage of three decades and
personal and now your professional growth because you are the
brilliant star you know w the North started. You can
(28:00):
have it all. Oh my goodness, you're.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Gonna have it all, not all at once, but you
can have it all, right, both men. Three decades plus
a marriage. And I'll tell you I about a few
years ago, right after being married thirty three years, three
years about a few years ago, God gave me this
amazing framework for that really debunked this balance thing, right,
(28:29):
and so I shifted from a place of balance to rhythm.
I lived my life in a flow and the rhythm
of grace from my life. So it really is about,
you know, where is the season? So how do I
how do I navigate and occupy these multiple spaces and
still maintain a healthy, happy relationship that doesn't feel like
(28:54):
thirty three. I'm like, still look at my husband, and
I'm like, we're teenagers. I'm like, gosh, do you believe
we like have gone through the decades together.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And you've gone through the worst part? You really do.
I tell people that I was married for ten years before.
I tell people all the time, ten years ain't nothing fifteen,
But when you get to twenty twenty five, God, is
that Okay? Now you're about to get some benefits. The benefits,
I tell everybody. The benefits starts at two decades, ladies
and gentlemen. If that's when I started seven and ten,
that's the warm up. You just y'all just getting used
(29:25):
to each other's fruit and foods and things like that.
When you be gone to the deeps of the debt. Okay,
I know that's not what this podcast is, but you know,
I love what you said. Living balance to a life
of rhythm. Oh my god, See that said that answers
the question right there. That's how she did it, from
living from being balanced to living a lifestyle of rhythm. Okay,
(29:47):
all right, So as we end this plane and wrap up,
what is the one thing you and your husband love
to do together?
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Movies? We've have since we've been married. We're movie buffs.
We love going to the movies and we love to travel.
So movies. We like action movies. We like movies. Movies
just but now since the pandemic, movie scenes changed, right
(30:18):
and for the first time in a very long time,
two weekends ago, we went to the drive in together.
That was so romantico, just the two of us.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
Did you bring your own popcorn too?
Speaker 2 (30:31):
I didn't. I went to the concession stand because it
was on National Rockcorn Day, so they were giving discounts
for cord.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
You don't have drive ins. They didn't blought them back.
What yaguy?
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Walnut Creek or Conquered Pleasant Hill. But we went in Sacramento.
We were in Sacramento, so we went in Sacramento.
Speaker 1 (30:52):
Ye is so fabulous. I love it. So before we
wrap up, Debby, what are some final words of pouragement?
Do you want to leave the listeners and ladies with
and then also I want to you know, share with
how they can connect with your brilliant discovery call and
to join your brilliant mastermind. So what kinds of thoughts
(31:16):
or anything that you would like to last minute?
Speaker 2 (31:20):
Oh yeah, I want to leave all. Yeah, I want
to just say that you know, this leadership journey it's
continuous refinement. It requires clarity, confidence and resilience, and being
(31:43):
authentic is the foundation. It is the foundation in addition
to your faith. So don't stop, don't allow anyone to
tell you what you can't do. Embrace your faith fully
(32:04):
and allow the woman that you are to shine brightly
and brilliantly, owning all of who you are, all of
your prowess, all of your ingenuity, everything that is on
the inside of you, and allow it to shine brightly
and own your brains it.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
Oh my god, I could just ask ten more questions
on that one. So, Debbie, your Facebook page? How do
people get in contact with you on Facebook?
Speaker 2 (32:34):
Debbie Renee Howard, I'm Debbie Renee Howard across all platforms,
Debbie Renee Howard. It's my ample Facebook, it's my website. Okay,
it's my LinkedIn, it's IgG.
Speaker 1 (32:48):
Okay, And so how do people connect with you for
your brilliant discovery call?
Speaker 2 (32:54):
They just go to my website, okay, and there is
a place there with it you click on for to
connect with me for a discovery callers, you know, a
few questions to answer and then we'll connect for a
brilliance connect call. I call it, but she calls it
a brilliance. Now, how brilliant is that a connect call?
Speaker 1 (33:18):
So on that note, you have a program, you have
a beautiful offer that you would like to share. Tell
us about the brilliance mastermind special offer.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
So who's it for? Let me tell you who it
is for. She is, I'll tell you about her. She's
a faith driven leader who's ready to grow professionally and personally.
She's aspiring to or an established leader, even in corporate
or entrepreneurship. She struggles with self doubt, impostor syndrome, uncertainty.
(33:52):
She desires confidence, clarity. She's already in these spaces, but
she still desires this clarity and accountability to step into
her purpose. She wants to enhance her public speaking, even
leadership or business presence, but she needs some guidance.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
I love it. So we know who she is and
so now what is the package did you offer to
deliver to her to help her?
Speaker 2 (34:20):
Yeah, she's going to be able to take those dreams
from reality and get get in an environment where you
can connect your visions to a strategy that then you
can execute. You can move it from the clouds of
a dream to something that's real and tangible and we
(34:42):
can work through like setting those milestones. You know, sometimes
we get stuck in the who can help me? And
we'll we'll work the framework that then takes gives you
something tangible When you leave that ninety minute session, you
can have some being tangible to then move it from
(35:03):
implementation to execution.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
He's an implementation and execution. I love that. So, Debby,
let me ask you this is it a how long
is that session? And how much is it?
Speaker 2 (35:14):
Yes, it's a ninety minutes. Can you believe you'll get
out that in ninety minutes? That's right? Ninety minutes. And
it is a low cost investment. It's valued at two
hundred and fifty dollars and you can get it for
ninety nine dollars. It's happening Saturday. You want to jump in.
It's happening Saturday.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
And is it a one on one or is it
a group?
Speaker 2 (35:38):
It's a group. It is a group. Coaching one on
one is much more intensive because you're getting that guidance
one on one.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
So this is group So just one is a group
coaching is clear. So this is group coaching. And if
someone wants it, I'm going to put the information in
show notes. They can go to your Facebook page or
they can.
Speaker 2 (36:00):
To the website.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
Now let me ask you this. You're offering this this Saturday.
So this Saturday is the sixth, I believe, or the seventh,
the eighth. It's the eighth. So what happens after if
they want to take advantage of this? Will you be
offering it again? Is it every Saturday or only that
one Saturday?
Speaker 2 (36:18):
No, so it will be offered again. I do that
offering every other month, So we won't do that again
until April. So we'll do it that. We do it
the second Saturday every other month, so February April, oh.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
Oh my gosh. And then and then and then lastly,
because I know people are going to say the transparency,
the safeness, how do you ensure that people the ladies
that come so that they can share and be transparent
and that it maintains a safe space as they're sharing
these things.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
Yeah, so we do. We do start off with our
look I call a non disclosure agreement, but our policy
around this sharing. What's it's like Vegas, right, what you
share in the space stays in this space. And I've
had you know, women who are divorce attorneys turned coaches,
(37:19):
executive leaders. Really the community of women that come into
these spaces already understand the etiquette of coming into a
group coaching space. They may not have participated in that,
but because in other areas of their business or in
their profession, they know how to maintain anonymity. I love
(37:46):
it's important.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
I love to watch so many it's not recorded, So.
Speaker 2 (37:50):
That's not recorded because it has been.
Speaker 1 (37:53):
So good, ladies, this has been so wonderful. You guys,
let's give a round of applause to Debbie ren Howard,
Brilliance Coach, Transformation Brilliance coach. You will be able to
find all her information in the show notes, as she
said that you can find her on all social media
by going to Debbie Renee Howard. So we look, so
(38:15):
we look, so forward to the things that she'll be
doing in twenty twenty five is she shares and connects
her brilliant So, Debbie, thank you so much for being
on the show. I want to ask you two last questions.
Where on the Earth are you going to be traveling next?
If you could spend the bottle to go to any
place on the earth, where would your next you and
(38:35):
your husband travel to?
Speaker 2 (38:38):
Oh goodness, well, so it's not on my tenerary for
this year, but Europe that would be our next place.
Not this year, but we have it on our travel itinerary.
That is where I'm going next. Europe. We've gone to,
you know, the Caribbeans, We've traveled, Exicos, We've traveled you
(39:01):
know here there we love to travel. But I'd say
that would be the one place that I want to
go with him.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
Yeah, that's so wonderful. And do you see, I don't
know what is this came up? So I got to
ask before I close off the show, when will you
be see I'm already I'm already calling it. I'm already
bringing forth for when are you going to start your mastermind?
To where you would have your mastermind of women? That
will be traveling with you in your brilliant bridness? When
(39:29):
is that?
Speaker 2 (39:32):
That's so good? So, you know, I thought a little
bit about this some when I was planning this European
vacation for twenty twenty six. Is that's my sixtieth year
of life, y'all. But I was actually thinking about expanding
that because I do. I do curate experiences for women, right,
(39:57):
and I've been doing the Brilliant sixp Sperience for two years.
I'm twenty three and twenty four, and folks are like,
what are we doing next? And they're hankering for something.
Not sure what I'm doing in twenty twenty five yet,
but maybe twenty twenty six actually thought of it.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
What's wrong with you doing the Brilliant experience once a year?
What's wrong?
Speaker 2 (40:20):
Well, I'll tell you I'm not into doing it for
annual doing things sake, right, I'm just not. It has
to and what from what I'm hearing folks are saying,
it adds value. It takes a lot to produce live
experiences and they're not events because I've got people who
(40:42):
attended in twenty twenty three still telling me about the
transformation they're experience and still.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
So that's real talk.
Speaker 2 (40:51):
That's real talk, right, It's about the experience and a connection,
and so that's I don't know. I don't know. There's
nothing wrong with doing it every year, and I'm not
into just doing it out of mimetics.
Speaker 1 (41:06):
Okay, I get it, I get it. I get it. Deffie,
thank you so much again. Her mantra is on your
own brilliance. Debbie Rene Howard, thank you so much for
being on the show. And as I love to always
close out my show, I hope that you could receive
a nugget or a gym or a gift, and I
(41:27):
just want to send a blessing out as far as
the east, as far as the west, as far as
the north, as far as the south, that you guys,
ladies' men too, that you're able to walk away with
a gym or two. May that be transforming into your
life or motivational and we look so forward to you
being on the next Inspired Conversations with Kim Evans. Thank
(41:49):
you very much. Y'all know who I am. I'm a
beauty and business coach and this is twenty twenty five
and I am so excited to bring to you y'all
inspire conversations on this new Oh my god. Yeah, I'm
so excited as we cross over to our one hundred
show and we're gonna make to two hundred and twenty
twenty five, and I'm excited and de thank you very
(42:10):
much for being a guest on my show this evening.
Bye friend,
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